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Speaker 1: Let me ask you a tough question. Tough one. How

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much money do you actually need in retirement to be happy? Happy?

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Not rich, not famous, but happy, just happy. It's a

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question that so many people ask themselves over and over,

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especially the closer they get to retirement. And for years

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we've heard numbers thrown around. You need a million dollars

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to retire. No, now you need two because of inflation.

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I've heard you should have ten times your salary saved.

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Oh my goodness. But for many people those numbers really

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can feel overwhelming because what happens if you don't reach them?

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Does that mean you can't have a happy retirement? So

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today I want to explore something a little bit deeper,

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because after talking with retirees, traveling and meeting people from

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all over the world, I've noticed something interesting. Happiness and

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retirement often has very little to do with the exact

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number in a bank account and everything to do with

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how you design your life. I'm Marien Debranski. This is

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Life Starts at Retirement. I produce a retirement lifestyle video

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once a week. Please join our Facebook group. It's massive now,

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slash life starts at retirement. I please consider subscribing. Okay,

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So for decades the retirement conversation has been dominated by numbers,

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at least in my life. I used to go into

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my spreadsheets, I check in my my savings account and

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see what was in there. For years, I had these targets,

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I had investment returns, I had withdrawal rates, and honestly,

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these things are certainly important, but they certainly don't tell

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the whole entire story. Because happiness doesn't come from a

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specific dollar amount. It comes from something far more personal.

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It comes from your lifestyle, from your expectations, from your relationships,

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and how you choose to spend both your time and

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your money. You know, because two retirees can have the

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exact same savings, they could experience completely different levels of happiness.

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One might feel secure, grateful, and excited about life. The

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other can be anxious, restricted, and worried about the future.

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The difference isn't always the money. Often it's a mindset. Now,

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if you've watched any of my videos, you'll know I'm

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a guest lecturer on cruise ships and I'm so fortunate.

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But one of the things that I've been fortunate I

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guess to experience is meeting retirees from many, many, many

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different countries, and it's fascinating to see how different, how

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differently I guess, people live. Some retirees travel the world,

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Others stay close to home and enjoy their local community

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somewhat large houses. Others downsize into smaller spaces and feel

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completely content. But something I've noticed again and again is

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that many of the happiest retirees aren't necessarily the wealthiest ones.

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They are the ones that have figured out what really

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matters to them. They understand their priorities, they've built their

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retirement around those priorities, and they don't care so much

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what other people's idea of retirement looks like. Now. I've

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also noticed that one of the biggest obstacles to happiness

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in retirement, sadly, is comparison. It's easy for us to

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look around and to think, oh, they travel more than

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we do. Oh they have a nicer car than we do.

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Oh their house is bigger, they have way more money

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than we do. But comparison comparing yourself to anyone can

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really quietly steal the satisfaction from your own life. Retirement

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isn't a competition, there's no scoreboard. The goal isn't to

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outspend your neighbor. The goal is to create a life

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that is remarkable in your situation. Sometimes happiness comes from

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the simple little things, a morning walk, coffee with friends,

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time with your grandchildren, learning something new. Those things often

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cost very little, but they bring enormous joy. Now. I

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read a study recently about happiness and something that surprised

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me that appeared over and over and over again. It

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was that beyond a certain level of financial security. So

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when you can sleep nights and you have that basics

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mat the financial basics mat more, money doesn't dramatically increase

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your happiness. What does increase your happiness are things like

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strong relationships, meaningful activities, good health, a sense of purpose,

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and connected to others. So money can help support those things,

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but it certainly can't replace those things.

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Speaker 2: You can have a huge, huge.

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Speaker 1: Bank account and still feel lonely. You can have expensive

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things all around you and still feel unfulfilled. Happiness and

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retirement comes from how we use our resources, not simply

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how much we have in the bank. Now, let's be honest,

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that doesn't mean money isn't important. It absolutely is. Financial

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security provides something very valuable, peace of mind. But once

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you have your basic needs covered, your housing, your food,

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your healthcare, maybe your transportation, the foundations. Once those are met,

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then go enjoy your retirement. You have the freedom. If

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you have a little bit of money, you can travel,

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you can pursue hobbies. If you don't stay home and garden,

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meet friends for a walk every single day. Whatever it

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is in your situation that you love to do, do it,

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support your happiness, have a purpose, volunteer, whatever it is.

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Because many, many, many people spend years chasing what they

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believe to be that magic retirement number. Oh, I'll be

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happy when I reach this amount. But the problem is,

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if they weren't happy before, if they weren't positive before,

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chances are they're not going to be happy now. And

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they're not going to be happy. They're not going to

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be positive now because retirement is one of the few

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stages of your life where we really have the opportunity

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to redesign our daily routines. We're no longer tied to

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a career schedule. We have the ability to choose how

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we spend our time. Some retirees discover new passions, some

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invest more time with families, some volunteer others, travel or learners.

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The possibilities are endless, and yes, money can help with

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some of these, but it's not the be all and

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the end all. In fact, I have a video or two,

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maybe even on inexpensive things to do in your retirement.

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I'll click them and I'll put them in in the

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comments so you can check those out. Happiness comes when

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your choices align with what truly matters to you, not

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what it looks like to impress others, not what your

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social media suggests. Although I love looking at that, your

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version of happiness will also look different from anyone else's

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version of their happiness, and that is perfectly okay. In fact,

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more than okay, it's exactly the way it should be.

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So how much money do you actually need to be

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happy in retirement? Well, I think the honest answer is

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enough to feel secure. Anything over and above that is

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a bonus, and you can live your entire life life

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and do whatever you want. Happiness comes from how you live.

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It comes from your relationships, It comes from your experiences.

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It comes from purpose, It comes from gratitude and the

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ability to enjoy the time you have. Retirement isn't about

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reaching that perfect financial number. It's about building a life

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that feels remarkable in all the ways that truly matter.

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And sometimes the happiest retirees aren't the ones with the

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biggest bank accounts. They're the ones that understand that happiness

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was never just about money in the first place. I'm

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Marian Dbranski. This is Life Starts at Retirement. I do

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produce that retirement lifestyle video once a week and again.

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Speaker 2: See you in the next one.

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Speaker 1: Be