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Speaker 1: Consistency is the biggest thing for a man to do.

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Most men cannot hold it. Most men interests will fade

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when you say, what are we? Y'all are? As much

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as he communicates with you, what are we? He's not

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checking in as much as he used to. Y'all are whatever?

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However he communicates with you, he's telling you right off

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a rip, what y'all are. He's telling you exactly what

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you all are here a point in the blank. Hey, y'all,

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welcome back to dear to see him. It is April.

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I E my birthday month. I E the best month

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to ever be born. So happy birthday, Happy birthday month

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to the illustrious April babies. Now my birthday is April twenty,

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which means I am the first day of the tours aries.

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I'm gonna let y'all rock out, but just know the

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tours touruses on, y'all, lass, I'm the first day, the first,

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very first day.

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Speaker 2: Okay.

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Speaker 1: Now, happy Spring, Happy April, Happy birthday month. You know,

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my birthstone for all of you April babies, is a diamond.

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Who else could say that shine breadth like a diamond.

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Who else can say that your birthstone is a diamond.

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I mean, I just don't know what's better. I am

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the first day of toys, that I'm the leader of

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the pack, and my birthstone is a diamond, So that

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means that no man could ever play with me. Baby,

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How could you ever put a small ring on my

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finger when my birthstone is a diamond. Please don't play

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on my name, dear husband, don't play with me anyways.

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thank you, thank you, thank you. Claps claps, claps, were

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these these platforms they being playing with you. You look

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up and overnight you lost five thousand followers. So I'm

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trying to wait untime and to say so before I

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really start. Okay, but uh, thank y'all, thank you so much. Okay,

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there to see a voicemail number one. Let's see what

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our goods is talking about. One day, I think some

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men gonna call in. One day, I think men are

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gonna call in. But let's see what our good Sis said.

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Speaker 4: Hi to see you. I'm reaching out to you because

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I have a problem with my child's father. Long story short.

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We just met each other about almost two years ago,

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but now we have an almost one year old and

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we lived together. But at the very beginning of our relationship,

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he did let me know that he wasn't ready for

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a relationship, but we were still having sexual relations and

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I ended up pregnant. He moved me into his house,

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treated me as if we were in a relationship. I

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guess because of the child and now we have he

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has a bonus child because I already have one child

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that I had before him. We just recently got a

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new apartment together and I'm just wondering why am I

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still here? Like the inconsistency with the emotional side of

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things and the still having sexual relations but he doesn't

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call himself in a relationship with me, the texting andn't

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liking and following other girls. I just don't know how

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to move forward emotionally with being in the same home

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as him. If you can help me out, it would

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be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

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Speaker 1: Hey girl, Hey, hold on, y'all, we got sirens outside.

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This is real life recording. Okay, real life recording. We

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got some sirens outside. That's trying to mess up my video?

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What is going on? Also, so I know why this firefighter,

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this fire truck is going by, y'all tell me why.

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I ain't got no water in my apartment right now,

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literally no water. Have no water coming out of my fasset,

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no water coming out the tub or the shower, and

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no water coming out of my toilet, which means that

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I can't blush. I'm over it. I'm going through it. Okay.

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Now that the fire truck is gone, gone back to

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our good old sis. Now it is time for us

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to use our free will. It's time for us to

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use our free will. You had a bonus child. He

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has a bonus child, which means you had a child

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before you met him. Y'all been together for about a

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couple of years. You said he moved you into his house,

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but then you said, now y'all have a new apartment together.

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I don't know what the situation is for a girl.

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All it takes for you to pack your stuff up

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and get on out of there. It was a bad deal.

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You know, players mess up too, and sometimes as women

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we have to take the complete l You moved into

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an apartment, got knocked up by a man who told

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you off rip that he didn't want a relationship, and

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now you're acting like you don't know why he's acting

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like he doesn't want to be in a relationship. You

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moved in the house with a man who told you

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from the beginning and not just told you. His be

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behavior showed that he did not want to be in

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a relationship, and now you're wondering why he's not acting

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like he's in a relationship. But hey, I'm not here

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to scold you, I'm not here to lecture you. I'm

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henna tell you, pat yosh up and get up out

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of there. You want to know why. Because you had

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a child before you may have which means that you

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were you knew how to sit on your own two feet.

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You're not being hell captive. Get out of there. Use

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your free will. I love free will. Today, while using

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my free wheel, it's only April and it's probably about

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seventy five degrees, I decided to go upstairs on my

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rooftop and get the last of my rents worth and

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I grilled salmon, Italian sausages, corn, all types of stuff

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on my grill because I was using my free wheel.

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use your free will. Nobody's locking you down. You're being

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emotionally starved out. I feel like this man may be

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a little bit older than you, but I'm not sure,

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and you're letting him have the upper hand. Pat your

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stuff up and your two kids and get out of there.

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I'm not sure what you were doing when he moved

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you into your house. If y'all splitting the bills or

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whatever the case may be, you didn't say you were

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to stay at home, mom. I think you're working.

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Speaker 4: Get out that.

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Speaker 1: House, apartment at that get out of there, get out, simple, simple,

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if you were looking for something so deep, simple get

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out of there. And then once you get out of there,

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we need to figure out why you accepted this. Did

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you think that he was going to change? Did you

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think that maybe things were going to be different the child.

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I'm not sure what kind of father he is, but

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what was it. Did you feel like this man was

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going to be different? I don't know. That's a difference

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between me and y'all. Y'all, I really be listening to people, y'all,

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don't be scared of that type of stuff. I be

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listening to people. When people tell me they're not ready

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for a relationship, When they tell me that even that

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they don't know if they want kids or not. If

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it's not an absolute complete yes, I'm cool off you.

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If you're not like, yes, I want children, I'm cool

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off you. Even if you got kids and you talk

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about something you don't know, if you want more, I'm

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cool off of you. Listen to what these people say.

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I'm so scared to make the wrong decision with these

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men and end up a baby mama and a joke

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and this mean embarrassing me in public. Y'all have to

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have fear of embarrassment by these men. If you don't

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pack your stuff up, you and your child and get

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out of there, there's no benefit there. And additionally, if

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you these he's not gonna ever respect you the same.

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He has your child, he has a child with you,

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you've moved into his house. He probably don't think you

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going anywhere or that you can send on your own

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two feet. You gotta get out of their system. You

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gotta get out of there. There's absolutely no benefit. Like

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you said, like another girl's pictures on, he just has

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no clue, no class. And that child you got with him,

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and this fool gazy, fake faux fur relationship that you

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got with this man, it's just not gonna materialize into anything.

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I hope that that landed with love, okay, because I

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truly do meaning with love. But we have to stop

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letting these relationships take us out. We have to stop

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dragging things out, even our healing process. It doesn't take

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that long to heal. Move out like think fast, like

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rapid fire. What should you do? Get out of there,

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break up with him, move get that is gonna be

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We need to stop meditating and marinating on this stuff

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so long. The answer is simple. You gotta get out

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of there, and you gotta go heal and figure out

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why you accept this such a low standard period. It's

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time to get out of there. It don't take no talking,

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no healing. Please don't go to therapy with this man. Okay,

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we're seen a lot of that. A lot of girls

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are in therapy with their boyfriend now, which is really

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kind of crazy to me. Okay, a man hain't even

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thought about marrying them. It's time for you to get

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Speaker 2: You fed up.

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Speaker 1: You made a mistake. You thought things was gonna change

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and they didn't. Now it's no time to dwell in

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what you did. That's what I see this a lot

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from women. You mess up, and you make a mistake

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and you realize that the person that you thought is

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not actually a whatever kind of way, and then you

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spend another six eight months, one year unraveling your mess up. Girl,

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Get out of there, learn how to fire fast. It's

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around you messed up. You got this man, child, it

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ain't gonna be a relationship. Get out of there. Ain't

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no time talking, ain't no closure, ain't no none of that.

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You can help to communicate to him that you don't

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think that this relationship is progressing forward. You feel a

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lack of respect and it's been long enough for him

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to show you and you don't see alignment here, and

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it's time to move forward.

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Speaker 2: Okay.

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Speaker 1: I really hope that Landa would love. I hope that

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helped you, and I pray that you make a move now,

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like pray. God will hear your prayers, but you have

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to move your feet, move your feet and pray about

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the rest. Okay, you got it, wonderful. Okay, let's see

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dear to see. Oh, I didn't tell y'all what that

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was entitled, hold on, let me back. I didn't even

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tell y'all what the voicemail due to your voiceman or

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one was entitled. It was entitled we lived together, but

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he says we're not in a relationship. You know what? Yeah,

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I got back that up. We live together, but he

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says we not in a relationship. Baby, all the things

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that I said saying. But y'all gotta stop letting these

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men have the audacity. I don't understand what has happened

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in this environment. What has happened in this climate that

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men can just do anything? What I feel like our

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aunties weren't being treated like this. We lived together, but

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he says we're not in a relationship. Nobody held Uh,

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try saying it out here, nobody held you house. That

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should go in and move in with this man? You

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even accepting that, y'all be letting these men say anything.

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I wish a nigga would tell me we're not in

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a relationship after having a kid with me, getting me pregnant,

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moving me into his house, blah blah blah blah. Make

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these men tell you verbally before you do anything with them.

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Speaker 3: Girl.

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Speaker 1: Anyways, So yes, friends, that was the time with a voicemail,

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we lived together, but he says, we're not in a relationship.

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Now you're to see a voicemail number two nine months later?

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What are we Let's see what she said nine months later?

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What are we?

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Speaker 4: There?

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Speaker 2: Just here? I met a nice man about nine months ago,

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and we are just friends. And I mean we do

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we flirt with each other, we we kiss, but nothing

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more than that. Nine months, nothing's happened, and it's not

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that anything has to happen. He did say, like, I'm

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taking my time with you, but I'm like, are where

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is the relationship going? I think that we're just friends

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and I do call him my friend, but I'm ready

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for more. We've talked about it. We're we're not young,

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young young. We both still want to get married. We've

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talked about that over the course of the nine months.

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But something it's just we're just not talking as much

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as we normally do. He does have multiple jobs. We're

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not hanging out as much as we do he used to,

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and we only hang out once a week, like on

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a Friday or a Saturday, which isn't a problem. We're

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both busy and we don't really text all. I mean,

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we have jobs, so we're not texting during the day,

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but we're just not checking in with each other like

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we like we were at one point, I would say,

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and he always texts me, he always calls me, he

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always initiates with me, like spending time together, but like

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we're not dating now. We I don't want to say

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it's we're in a situationship because there is no situation.

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We did spend Valentine's Day together the whole throughout the

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weekend actually, so it wasn't just like a one day thing.

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He say future things that he wants to do or

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we're planning to do, but we haven't really talked about

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where this is going. I have said a few things before.

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A few weeks ago, I gave him my little Dear

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John letter and I said take care, and he called

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me the next day like nothing happened. So I don't

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know if I just need to be patient and let

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it kind of go with the flow, which I'm gonna

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go with the flow, girl, or if I need to

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just let it go. And I've tried already, so I

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don't know what else to do.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So you need to leave him exactly where he stands.

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This man, the way that he responded to you is

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so indicative of a man that wants to get you

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on his program. And I've talked about this before a

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lot of time men can silently groom you, and it's

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so quick and you don't even know when it's happening.

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When you said you've mentioned some things before, did he

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say he said nothing? It was silent, which means he's

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ignoring your requests and your desires. When you confronted him

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and talk to him about where y'all were going, what

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y'all were going to do this Dear John message that

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you wrote him, he called you back like nothing happened.

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This is dangerous behavior. Okay, all of that he's avoiding,

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he's avoiding, he's avoiding. Yes, a part of that could

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be that he maybe is avoiding. But this man is

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actually starving you out, which this is a This is

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smoke to the fire. This is smoke to the fire

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of actually very dangerous abusive behavior. Okay. If you wrote

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a Dear John letter, I'm not sure what you wrote

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in the letter and this man called you like nothing happened. Also,

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the him not reaching out to you, him not consistency

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is the biggest thing for a man to do. Most

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men cannot hold it. Most men interests will fade when

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you say, what are we?

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Speaker 4: Y'all are?

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Speaker 1: As much as he communicates with you, what are we?

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He's not checking in as much as he used to.

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Y'all are whatever. However he communicates with you, he's telling

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you right off a rip, what y'all are. He's telling

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you exactly what you all are, period, point in the blank.

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I think that you're a little emotionally invested in it.

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You say, y'all haven't done anything, but it's the kissing,

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it's all that stuff y'all spend. Valentine's day together. Please

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start start gatekeeping your hearts? Ladies, Why are you doing

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all of these things with someone who hasn't made a

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commitment and cannot communicate to you where he wants to go?

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Talking about he taking it slow with you? If he's

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taking its slow with you, okay, because if you was

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his dream girl, he wouldn't be taking its slow. If

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he was taking its slow with you, which is what

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he said he's doing, you need to take it slow

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with him. I literally don't know any other way to

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say this. If a man claims that he is taking

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its slow with you, your tempo also needs to be slow.

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You don't need to be in bed with him. You

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don't need to be doing taking Valentine's Day trips with him,

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spending Valentine's Day together. He's taking it slow, So why

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does he get the benefits of a glimpse of a

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girlfriend if he's taking it slow. Y'all have to learn

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how to match these men's tempo. He's taking his slow,

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but he gets to have all the other things I'm

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one with. You want, however slow, you gonna take it

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this however slow. This is why women that are abstinence

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or are celibate Okay, they get to that alter much

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much quicker, much quicker, because men want what they want.

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A man ain't gonna meet you, and you be his

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dream girl and a woman of his dreams, and he's

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taking it slow. And you said, y'all are older. You said,

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y'all are older. This man knows already he's taking this

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slow with you. But y'all spending Valentine's here together and

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all this kind of stuff. No, ma'am, y'all roll into

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a situation. Ship you talk about it. You don't know

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if it's a situation ship because there's no situation. It

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is a situation. You're wondering, what are y'all? It is

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a situation. No, you ain't got a lot of meat, Craig,

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you ain't got a lot to kick it, baby, It

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is a situation. If you're writing a dear line, dear John,

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let her, baby, it's a situation. You gotta be real

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with yourself. This man has some reservation. It's not your

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job to ask him about him. It's not your job

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to try to see and investigate what it is he's

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telling you off rip exactly what it is. He's losing interest.

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It's a hard peal to swallow. I never met a

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man so consistent with a woman fall off and then

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come back and as he was before. He's never learn

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to return back to the man that you first had.

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If he did, you should be skeptical. He's taking it slow.

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Why are you sending dear John letters? Why do you

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want to know? What are we He's taking it slow, right,

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you want to know why you're asking that? Because your

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tempo was much further. Your heart led you to places

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your eyes havn't seen. And we all know who listen

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to this podcast. That's a no no. Never let your

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heart lead you to a place your eyes haven't seen.

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Speaker 3: You.

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Speaker 1: In the third fourth chapter of the book, he in

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the introduction he can table of contents. If a man

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tells you that he's taking it slow with you, you,

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your feelings, your emotions need to match his tempo. Because

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a man that really wants you, he's not gonna move

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that slow. Trust me, trust me, he ain't gonna take

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his time. He's not gonna take his time. Now. I'm

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not saying you should just rush into something or that

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you shouldn't vet properly vet someone and just take the

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first man that come your way, but there should be

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some type of urgency behind your name. Simple man. Anyways, anyways,

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he's taking it slow till you slow down to I

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don't think you want to get him back to that

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same place, and I don't think he's sure about you.

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Simple okay, y'all. Voicemail number three dear to see you.

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Let's see what it's entitled. Dear to see a. Voicemail

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Number three is entitled he keeps cheating and I keep

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trying to fix it.

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Speaker 2: Girl.

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Speaker 1: I'm annoyed already. I'm annoyed already.

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Speaker 3: Dear to Ziam. I've been dating this guy for two

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years and a half. We met at my job and

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we started getting to know each other going on dates.

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We started talking for ten months, but before he had

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asked me out to be his girlfriend. But during the

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talking stage, I found out he had cheated on me

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within four to five months with this girl that they

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had gotten trick la and talked in his car. I

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have done stuff too as myg get back after I've

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had found out about that girl, which I shouldn't have,

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but it hurt me to know what he had done.

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But I just found out that he was texting other

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females too. I got cheated on with He was texting

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every female on his social media and never let and

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would never let me check his phone. He would get

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mad and turn it back on me and would ask

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to see my phone, which I would let him check.

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And I keep trying to fix things between us, and

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now I just feel like I'm the only one putting

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effort into the relationship, especially because he's always working and

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the only time we get to talk is that night.

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But even then he says he's tired and is going

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to sleep. But that's when I ended up catching him

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texting someone or just being on social media not talking

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to me.

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Speaker 1: He doesn't want to be with you. He doesn't like you.

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I love you, sis, he doesn't want to be with you.

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He doesn't like you. You have to let people stay

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where they want to be. Where he wants to be

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is out on the street frolicking with women, uh, getting

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chook fil a with them, texting other women from social media.

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That's what you gotta. Let a dog be a dog,

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Let a dog be a dog. Matter of fact, let

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a wolf be a wolf. Y'all be trying to make

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y'all be trying to domesticate a wolf and turn them

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into a dog. Now we all know the uh that

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that that a dog uh stems from a wolf, domesticated wolf.

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Why are y'all trying to make a wolf a house dog?

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The man is telling you a million times, where is

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y'all ego? Y'all never look up and be like, I'm

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not gonna let this man treat me like this? Who

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the heck do he think he is? You can't fix

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that because he he's a dog. Seriously, he wants to

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be out in the street. He wants to run up

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and down the alleys, and he wants to run through

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the neighborhood and go and pee on trees. That's what

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he wants to do. Why are you trying to domesticate

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this man? Get you a backbone, get you some self confidence,

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get you and additionally, he is not working all this time.

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He's annoyed with you, he's uninterested. He doesn't want to

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be with you, simple math. It's no other theory. He

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does not want to be with you, sis, and you

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need to go find out. Why is it that somebody

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can reject you and treat you that poorly and you're

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trying to fix it? Is it your father's abandonment? Wund

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that you're trying to fix. Is it an orphan won

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is it being a middle child? Is it not being

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seen or heard or protected growing up? Is it a

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lack of nurturing? Is it always being the ugly duckling

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or the eyeball out? What is it you need to

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find out?

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Speaker 4: Why?

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Speaker 1: Man? I can tell you I don't like you, I

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don't like you, I don't like you, I don't like you,

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and you can say black. I keep trying to fix it.

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He wants to be a dog running around in the streets. Please, y'all, ladies,

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please go here before you go and date these men.

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How many times will he have to tell you that

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he doesn't like you? He told you when you found

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out about the Chick fil A girl, He told you

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that he didn't like you. When you see him on

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Instagram during the one little time that she got to

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spend with you. He's on social media DM and girls

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and girls' comments when he gets home from work, and

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the only time y'all get to talk, he's saying, and

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he's going to bed, he's not interested in you and

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it's never gonna change. You cannot pick up and make

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him more interested in you again. Let him be a

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stray dog on the street, running around looking for food.

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00:29:03,319 --> 00:29:08,400
That's how he told you so many times. We have

472
00:29:08,519 --> 00:29:10,880
to get a backbone. You have to get some ribs,

473
00:29:10,960 --> 00:29:13,559
some structure. Okay, you gotta learn how to stand on

474
00:29:13,599 --> 00:29:16,319
your two feet. You gotta learn and see, why are

475
00:29:16,359 --> 00:29:19,720
you accepting such a low treatment? Why don't you have

476
00:29:19,920 --> 00:29:22,599
enough ego? Why don't you feel good enough about yourself?

477
00:29:22,599 --> 00:29:22,759
Speaker 4: Well?

478
00:29:22,759 --> 00:29:24,920
Speaker 1: You like, I'm not about to deal with this from

479
00:29:24,960 --> 00:29:29,920
this man, y'all. Don't care about being rejected over and

480
00:29:29,960 --> 00:29:32,960
over and over again. Where's the humility? Where's the ego?

481
00:29:34,440 --> 00:29:36,680
Ain't no way a man treated me like that? And

482
00:29:36,759 --> 00:29:38,559
I'm out here to talk about some I keep trying

483
00:29:38,599 --> 00:29:41,799
to fix it. No, he doesn't want it. Is that

484
00:29:41,920 --> 00:29:44,960
the thing? He doesn't want to be with you? He

485
00:29:44,960 --> 00:29:46,240
doesn't want to be I think that was the thing

486
00:29:46,319 --> 00:29:48,319
for all three of the voicemails. The girl that was

487
00:29:48,319 --> 00:29:51,359
in the house with the man that was that uh

488
00:29:51,839 --> 00:29:53,880
lives together, but he's not in a relationship. He doesn't

489
00:29:53,920 --> 00:29:55,960
like you, he doesn't want to be with you. He

490
00:29:56,519 --> 00:30:02,240
was cheating and lying too. Who was our second voicemail? Oh,

491
00:30:02,319 --> 00:30:04,720
the young lady who said, what are we nine months

492
00:30:04,720 --> 00:30:07,000
and what are we He doesn't like you. You're nothing.

493
00:30:07,079 --> 00:30:11,960
He doesn't like you, and it's being here with you, sweetheart.

494
00:30:12,640 --> 00:30:14,839
He's all in people's dm he's all in your comments,

495
00:30:14,880 --> 00:30:17,599
he's texting other girls. He doesn't speak to you and

496
00:30:17,680 --> 00:30:19,519
talk to you throughout the day. He's working so much,

497
00:30:19,519 --> 00:30:21,240
and when he does get to talk to you, he's

498
00:30:21,240 --> 00:30:23,599
barely awake. He doesn't like you. That's the theme.

499
00:30:23,640 --> 00:30:23,799
Speaker 4: Mother.

500
00:30:23,920 --> 00:30:26,359
Speaker 1: Let's look, that's the theme of the other day. He

501
00:30:26,400 --> 00:30:30,559
doesn't like you. He doesn't like you. And I'm sorry

502
00:30:30,559 --> 00:30:32,720
that y'all are going through this, but it's twenty twenty six.

503
00:30:32,759 --> 00:30:33,160
Speaker 4: It's time.

504
00:30:33,640 --> 00:30:37,440
Speaker 1: It's time to put your foot down. It's too much information,

505
00:30:37,559 --> 00:30:40,920
too much platforms. Invest in yourself, level up, work on

506
00:30:40,960 --> 00:30:44,519
your interpersonal skills, go to therapy, pay the lady, stay

507
00:30:44,559 --> 00:30:47,599
watching this podcast, Go to my social media so that

508
00:30:47,640 --> 00:30:52,240
you would never be in ty predicament ever again. Okay, ever, ever,

509
00:30:52,319 --> 00:30:58,559
ever again. Now for our fragrance segment to see if

510
00:30:58,599 --> 00:31:04,039
you smell good drum robe, please now the last one

511
00:31:04,079 --> 00:31:05,799
I told you, I want to try to do our

512
00:31:05,960 --> 00:31:11,519
last fragrance and then talk about that one. So the

513
00:31:11,640 --> 00:31:16,839
last fragrance I believe I did our Contrario by Titiciana Torenzi.

514
00:31:20,960 --> 00:31:25,640
I didn't get an applause for this. I didn't get nobody,

515
00:31:27,000 --> 00:31:29,599
nobody said anything. What I will say is that I

516
00:31:29,599 --> 00:31:31,880
didn't do my normal routine. I didn't do my shower

517
00:31:31,920 --> 00:31:34,599
routine and my body lotion, my oils and all that

518
00:31:34,720 --> 00:31:37,920
kind of stuff. So this new run of fragrances, I

519
00:31:37,960 --> 00:31:39,920
have to give it the same love. So can we

520
00:31:40,039 --> 00:31:42,400
do it? To be continued on this one? I want

521
00:31:42,400 --> 00:31:44,920
to give it another go. I want to give this

522
00:31:45,000 --> 00:31:49,319
baby another go. But as for now, it wasn't a showstopper.

523
00:31:50,720 --> 00:31:54,000
That's an honest review. But I'm not done with her yet.

524
00:31:54,319 --> 00:31:58,440
I won't give up on Gotta see. Now for our

525
00:31:58,720 --> 00:32:06,480
new fragrance of the week, we have BDK Impatia, Empadia.

526
00:32:06,640 --> 00:32:11,720
I think it's impatia impadia, sound like impanada. This is

527
00:32:11,839 --> 00:32:16,799
BDK and Patia. Okay, and let's see what the notes

528
00:32:16,880 --> 00:32:30,440
are of this fragrance. Okay, give me one second, ladies. Okay,

529
00:32:30,680 --> 00:32:35,359
so y'all y'all know him on my phone, y'all know

530
00:32:35,440 --> 00:32:37,720
I'm on one woman show. Now give me a second,

531
00:32:38,359 --> 00:32:41,480
give me a second. Okay, we have BDK and padia.

532
00:32:41,960 --> 00:32:45,839
It opens with top notes of Italian Bergermont Mandarin and

533
00:32:45,920 --> 00:32:50,640
pair a heart of Bulgarian rose, Turkish rolls and orange blossom,

534
00:32:50,839 --> 00:32:56,559
and a base of aki aki gollawood. Pronunciation police will

535
00:32:56,599 --> 00:33:02,799
be blocked, Aki, galoo wood, vanilla absolute, and sandal wood.

536
00:33:03,039 --> 00:33:05,640
The top notes Italian burg of my Mandarin, pair of

537
00:33:05,640 --> 00:33:09,440
hart notes are Bulgarian rose, Turkish rolls, orange and blossom.

538
00:33:09,720 --> 00:33:15,160
Bass notes are acca, gallo wood, vanilla absolute, sandal wood,

539
00:33:15,599 --> 00:33:25,079
Vanilla absolute, sandal wood, and then twisted lily. Okay ya,

540
00:33:25,079 --> 00:33:30,799
all ready, let's see. Let's spread a little bit over here. First.

541
00:33:33,119 --> 00:33:39,279
Hmmm hm, I'm immediately getting the vanilla absolute and the

542
00:33:39,279 --> 00:33:52,400
Turkish rows actually like Turkish rolls. I like this. I

543
00:33:52,599 --> 00:33:59,799
like this. I smell very grown, very feminine, delicate, that vanilla.

544
00:34:00,519 --> 00:34:03,920
I don't know if that's like concentrated vanilla vanilla absolute.

545
00:34:07,680 --> 00:34:08,000
Speaker 2: Mmm.

546
00:34:10,000 --> 00:34:15,199
Speaker 1: I like this, y'all. I like this. I smell the

547
00:34:15,199 --> 00:34:20,119
Turkish rose. I smell the vanilla absolute. Oh, the Bulgarian

548
00:34:20,199 --> 00:34:23,159
roh yeah, Bulgarian and Turkish rolls definitely smell the rose,

549
00:34:23,360 --> 00:34:28,320
the vanilla absolutely. I'm not sure if I'm getting sandal wood.

550
00:34:29,199 --> 00:34:36,039
I like this. I like this, It's like delicate, dainty, grown, sophisticated.

551
00:34:36,039 --> 00:34:41,840
It's a beautiful blend. I don't think well, I think

552
00:34:41,840 --> 00:34:46,079
that vanilla is overpowering a lot of it. So even

553
00:34:46,119 --> 00:34:50,239
though you get the rose, it's it bears kind of

554
00:34:50,280 --> 00:34:59,400
this sweet gormandi. This is beautiful. Anyways, I don't have

555
00:34:59,519 --> 00:35:01,519
much to say it. I love it. I think the

556
00:35:01,599 --> 00:35:05,199
vanilla definitely is strong, which I do love vanilla. I'm

557
00:35:05,239 --> 00:35:09,880
smelling a lot of the Bulgarian rose and the Turkish rolls.

558
00:35:10,119 --> 00:35:12,760
Oh the orange blossom. The orange blossom is there as well,

559
00:35:12,880 --> 00:35:20,960
But I don't think I'm smelling a Bergamont. Bergamont can

560
00:35:21,000 --> 00:35:27,639
be a little spicy, and there is a faint spicy

561
00:35:27,719 --> 00:35:33,920
note in there. It's very faint. Though I like this.

562
00:35:34,480 --> 00:35:35,320
Speaker 4: I like this one.

563
00:35:35,400 --> 00:35:37,239
Speaker 1: I ain't even gonna hold them put over here. I

564
00:35:37,400 --> 00:35:41,039
like that one. Real cute, real cute. And I will

565
00:35:41,320 --> 00:35:44,199
be reporting back, Okay, I'm gonna report back and let

566
00:35:44,320 --> 00:35:48,639
y'all know what it gave. If somebody complimenting me on it,

567
00:35:51,039 --> 00:35:57,840
I'm gonna let you know. Okay, our red flag report.

568
00:35:58,360 --> 00:36:03,280
Ori Linux on toxic versus sweet Men. Recently, Ari Linux

569
00:36:03,320 --> 00:36:07,559
sparked conversation online after reflecting on her past dating choices,

570
00:36:07,639 --> 00:36:12,079
I saw this interview, admitting she often chose toxic energy

571
00:36:12,159 --> 00:36:17,199
over stable partners. In a recent interview covered by Yahoo

572
00:36:17,320 --> 00:36:22,119
March eleven, twenty twenty six, she shared that while those

573
00:36:22,159 --> 00:36:26,360
relationships felt exciting at first, they ultimately lacked the security

574
00:36:26,519 --> 00:36:31,400
she now realizes she needed. Linux acknowledged that she overlooked

575
00:36:31,519 --> 00:36:36,599
sweet men who offered stability, and she and now sees

576
00:36:36,719 --> 00:36:41,920
many of them building families and healthy lives. She also

577
00:36:42,039 --> 00:36:45,480
questioned whether was she once labeled as boring was actually

578
00:36:45,519 --> 00:36:49,920
emotional peace and consistency. The conversation has gone viral, with

579
00:36:50,079 --> 00:36:54,599
many people debating whether excitement is being confused with dysfunction

580
00:36:54,960 --> 00:37:00,800
and whether people recognize healthy love too late. If you

581
00:37:00,880 --> 00:37:06,840
knowingly choose toxic partners over stable ones because they feel

582
00:37:06,880 --> 00:37:10,480
more exciting, is the real issue the dating pool or

583
00:37:10,519 --> 00:37:12,920
your attraction to chaos. I don't think we're giving her

584
00:37:13,000 --> 00:37:17,400
enough credit. We're not giving her enough credit. The girls

585
00:37:17,519 --> 00:37:21,000
realized too late that the man that was exciting and

586
00:37:21,119 --> 00:37:25,679
all that chemistry the butterflies was really anxiety, chaos, toxicity,

587
00:37:25,960 --> 00:37:31,840
and drama. Can we give the girls some credit? She's

588
00:37:31,920 --> 00:37:38,960
acknowledging that her nervous system was not regulated with people

589
00:37:39,320 --> 00:37:43,639
that she once found to be exciting. She also acknowledged

590
00:37:43,679 --> 00:37:47,239
that now she sees those sweet men that she overlooks

591
00:37:47,440 --> 00:37:51,400
building families and living healthy lives. Can we have a

592
00:37:51,480 --> 00:38:01,639
round of applause for ri Linux she's ignowed and I

593
00:38:01,679 --> 00:38:04,159
think a lot of us have now. I never hit

594
00:38:04,199 --> 00:38:07,440
the bad boy face. I never dated the ones that's

595
00:38:07,519 --> 00:38:09,480
like just took me through the take me through, the

596
00:38:09,480 --> 00:38:13,679
take me do that and played around. Okay, that was

597
00:38:13,760 --> 00:38:15,800
never exciting to me. If you didn't treat me, well

598
00:38:15,880 --> 00:38:17,679
I don't I'm not interested.

599
00:38:18,480 --> 00:38:18,800
Speaker 2: Okay.

600
00:38:20,000 --> 00:38:26,400
Speaker 1: However, I have encountered men that were just a little

601
00:38:26,400 --> 00:38:29,000
bit more buttoned up, a little bit more kind of

602
00:38:29,119 --> 00:38:31,679
you know, just like the l seven just kind of square,

603
00:38:31,840 --> 00:38:35,440
kind of lame, kind of nerdy. I love a nerd, okay,

604
00:38:36,119 --> 00:38:40,480
And it just didn't seem like the best spit. That

605
00:38:40,599 --> 00:38:43,960
wasn't mean I was running to the pookies and ray rays, okay,

606
00:38:44,039 --> 00:38:50,800
in them, whyians, I wasn't running to them. However, I

607
00:38:50,960 --> 00:38:57,079
would like a healthy middle ground. My ideal man he's,

608
00:38:57,519 --> 00:38:59,800
of course, y'all know, he's a man of God. But

609
00:38:59,840 --> 00:39:04,320
he's very very very smart, very more towards on the

610
00:39:04,360 --> 00:39:08,719
nerd side. Okay, he's very smart, he's witty, he's the

611
00:39:08,760 --> 00:39:12,639
head of the class, he's a leader. But he got

612
00:39:12,639 --> 00:39:15,480
that grid on him. He got a little grit on him.

613
00:39:15,599 --> 00:39:19,519
I need a little grit. I'm not asking for him

614
00:39:19,559 --> 00:39:27,320
to be hood and a drug dealer, Okay, I'm not

615
00:39:27,519 --> 00:39:31,840
asking for him to be that, but I am asking

616
00:39:31,880 --> 00:39:35,960
for him to be street smart as well. You want

617
00:39:36,000 --> 00:39:38,440
to feel protective, you want a little riz on you.

618
00:39:38,440 --> 00:39:44,079
You know, I will marry the nerd, absolutely positively. I

619
00:39:44,119 --> 00:39:46,599
will marry the nerd, but I need you to know

620
00:39:46,639 --> 00:39:48,039
how to get it out the mud. And when I

621
00:39:48,079 --> 00:39:52,280
say streets smart, that doesn't mean just somebody who know

622
00:39:52,440 --> 00:39:54,519
about the streets and grew up in the hood. I'm

623
00:39:54,559 --> 00:39:59,840
talking about somebody who just has a great grasp on life,

624
00:40:00,119 --> 00:40:03,639
knows how to overcome obstacles and knows how to pull

625
00:40:03,719 --> 00:40:07,199
themselves out of a hole, and knows how to overcome adversity.

626
00:40:07,280 --> 00:40:09,320
That type of man, right, got a little grid on him.

627
00:40:09,480 --> 00:40:14,039
He's a fighter. Okay, that type of man I need.

628
00:40:14,239 --> 00:40:16,760
So I'm with Ari, I understand, I get it. I

629
00:40:16,760 --> 00:40:19,280
think a lot of us, to the question have learned

630
00:40:19,280 --> 00:40:21,760
a little bit too late that he.

631
00:40:21,719 --> 00:40:23,159
Speaker 4: Was a good man.

632
00:40:24,159 --> 00:40:27,159
Speaker 1: He's a good man. A lot of us realize too late.

633
00:40:27,239 --> 00:40:30,400
Now these men married, and I can skip Now. I

634
00:40:30,400 --> 00:40:32,559
believe my person is my person, So I don't believe

635
00:40:32,559 --> 00:40:36,159
that I missed my chance with somebody. But you know,

636
00:40:36,320 --> 00:40:38,559
men start looking real different to you when they got

637
00:40:38,559 --> 00:40:45,559
a wife. You'll be like, oh, somebody liked you. Maybe

638
00:40:45,679 --> 00:40:50,320
maybe maybe you ain't half bad. Somebody marries you, you'll

639
00:40:50,360 --> 00:40:53,280
be like, somebody marries you. Maybe, what did what did

640
00:40:53,280 --> 00:40:55,639
I not? What did what did I miss? What didn't

641
00:40:55,679 --> 00:41:03,000
I see? Huh Ari, We stay with you, girl. Some

642
00:41:03,159 --> 00:41:05,199
most of the girls were too late to the party.

643
00:41:05,760 --> 00:41:08,119
And I'm just proud of I'm proud of her transparency.

644
00:41:08,400 --> 00:41:11,119
I'm proud of her growth. It seems like she now

645
00:41:11,199 --> 00:41:13,960
is very cognizant of the mistakes that she made and

646
00:41:14,039 --> 00:41:16,159
also the place that she was in when she was

647
00:41:16,239 --> 00:41:21,719
making those mistakes. Kudos to you, Ari, Kudos to you.

648
00:41:22,519 --> 00:41:26,760
We're all in there with you anyways, y'all. Thank you

649
00:41:26,840 --> 00:41:30,000
for tuning in too there to see you, and I

650
00:41:30,079 --> 00:41:32,280
will see y'all next time. By now,