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<v Speaker 1>Helping leaders motivate their people to a higher level of

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<v Speaker 1>performance through strong human relations, team building, and goal achieving.

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<v Speaker 1>This is the seven Minute Leadership Podcast with your host

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<v Speaker 1>Paul Fellavaledo.

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<v Speaker 2>Hello everyone, and welcome to the seven Minute Leadership Podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>It's episode seven today. I want to talk about something

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<v Speaker 2>that I think gets completely misunderstood in leadership education. People

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<v Speaker 2>ask me all the time where I get my leadership

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<v Speaker 2>material from. They'll hear me use a cockpit analogy, a

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<v Speaker 2>scuba diving story and ems call, or something from everyday

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<v Speaker 2>life and they'll say that really made the point click

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<v Speaker 2>for me, And my answer is always the same. I

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<v Speaker 2>did not invent leadership. I use my life experiences to

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<v Speaker 2>tell stories. That's it. If I'm teaching emotional intelligence, I

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<v Speaker 2>may explain it through the lens of aviation. I may

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<v Speaker 2>talk about a pilot recognizing tension in the cockpit before

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<v Speaker 2>it becomes a safety issue. Somebody else might teach the

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<v Speaker 2>exact same topic using a Fortune five hundred boardroom example.

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<v Speaker 2>Another person may teach it through military combat. Another person

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<v Speaker 2>may explain it through marriage counseling or sports psychology. The

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<v Speaker 2>point is still emotional intelligence. The lesson is still the same,

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<v Speaker 2>the delivery vehicle changes, and I think that is one

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<v Speaker 2>of the biggest breakthroughs leaders need to understand. You do

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<v Speaker 2>not need to learn leadership from one specific type of person.

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<v Speaker 2>You need to learn leadership from the person who makes

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<v Speaker 2>the lesson finally makes sense to your brain. That matters

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<v Speaker 2>because leadership is not math. Leadership is translation. And I'll explain.

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<v Speaker 2>If you and I are both trying to explain gravity,

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<v Speaker 2>we can use different examples. One teacher drops a bowling ball,

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<v Speaker 2>another teacher talks about planets. Another teacher uses roller coasters,

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<v Speaker 2>another teacher explains turbulence on an airplane. Different stories, same gravity.

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<v Speaker 2>Leadership works the same way. I think sometimes people become

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<v Speaker 2>too loyal to the messenger instead of the message. They

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<v Speaker 2>start acting like leadership only exists in corporate America, or

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<v Speaker 2>only exists in the military, or only exists in sports,

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<v Speaker 2>or only exists in psychology. Leadership exists anywhere human beings exist.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why leadership lessons can come from restaurants, Disney vacations,

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<v Speaker 2>Navy seal teams, airline crashes, emergency rooms, politics, stand up comedians,

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<v Speaker 2>and coffee shops because humans are involved in all of it.

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<v Speaker 2>In where humans exists. Communication exists, pressure exists, conflict exists,

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<v Speaker 2>trust exists, fear exists, decision making exists. Leadership exists. One

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<v Speaker 2>of the reasons I think certain leadership speakers connect deeply

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<v Speaker 2>with certain audiences is because the audience sees themselves inside

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<v Speaker 2>the story. A CEO listening to Simon Sinek may relate

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<v Speaker 2>to boardrooms, vision statements in corporate structure. A police officer

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<v Speaker 2>or a military veteran may hear Jocko discuss discipline and

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<v Speaker 2>command responsibility and immediately connect to it. A parent listening

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<v Speaker 2>to Mel Robbins may hear lessons about relationships and emotional

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<v Speaker 2>behavior and think that's exactly what I deal with every day.

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<v Speaker 2>And then somebody listening to this podcast may hear stories

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<v Speaker 2>about ambulances, airplanes, disasters, and emergency management and think that

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<v Speaker 2>world makes sense to me too. Different roads, same destination.

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<v Speaker 2>This is also why leadership education should never become arrogant.

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<v Speaker 2>The second somebody starts acting like they own leadership knowledge,

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<v Speaker 2>they stop being a student of leadership, and leadership punishes

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<v Speaker 2>arrogance fast. I've learned incredible leadership lessons from paramedics, pilots,

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<v Speaker 2>scuba instructors, CEOs, waiters, dispatches, business owners, janitors, and flight instructors.

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<v Speaker 2>Because wisdom is not locked inside job titles, some of

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<v Speaker 2>the greatest leadership lessons in the world are hidden inside

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<v Speaker 2>ordinary moments that most people ignore. A customer service worker

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<v Speaker 2>handling an angry customer with calm professionalism is teaching emotional regulation.

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<v Speaker 2>A firefighter staying composed in chaos is teaching stress management.

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<v Speaker 2>A parent explaining consequences to a child is teaching accountability.

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<v Speaker 2>A pilot using a checklist is teaching discipline. A scuba

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<v Speaker 2>diver monitoring oxygen and depth is teaching situational awareness. A

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<v Speaker 2>restaurant manager handling a slam dinner rush is teaching operational leadership.

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<v Speaker 2>And once you start seeing leadership this way, the entire

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<v Speaker 2>world becomes a classroom. And honestly, I think this is

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<v Speaker 2>why some people struggle to grow as leaders. They only

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<v Speaker 2>allow themselves to learn from one category of person. They

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<v Speaker 2>create intellectual blinders. They say things like, well, that's military leadership,

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<v Speaker 2>or well that's corporate leadership, or that's sports leadership. No,

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<v Speaker 2>it's human leadership. The packaging changes, human behavior does not.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why I always tell leaders to become collectors of perspectives.

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<v Speaker 2>Learn from the pilot, learn from the nurse, learn from

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<v Speaker 2>the football coach, learn from the entrepreneur, learn from the

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<v Speaker 2>school teacher, the single parent working two jobs, the air

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<v Speaker 2>traffic controller, and the restaurant owner. Because every one of

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<v Speaker 2>those people has solved a human problem under pressure, and

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<v Speaker 2>that's leadership. One of the most dangerous things a leader

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<v Speaker 2>can say is that doesn't apply to my industry, and

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<v Speaker 2>that sentence shuts the brain off. Some of the best

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<v Speaker 2>ideas in business came from industries completely outside of the

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<v Speaker 2>business world. Airline safety transformed healthcare checklists. Disney transformed customer

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<v Speaker 2>experienced standards, Toyota transformed manufacturing systems, military debriefing methods transformed

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<v Speaker 2>crisis management. The leader who learns across industries becomes dangerous

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<v Speaker 2>in the best possible way, because they begin connecting dots

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<v Speaker 2>other people cannot see yet. I think this is also

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<v Speaker 2>why storytelling matters so much in leadership education. Facts inform people,

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<v Speaker 2>stories transport peoples, and stories create emotional memory. You may

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<v Speaker 2>forget a textbook definition of emotional intelligence by tomorrow morning,

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<v Speaker 2>you probably will not forget a story about a pilot

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<v Speaker 2>making a terrible cockpit decision. Because their ego took over

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<v Speaker 2>that sticks. The story becomes the delivery system for the lesson,

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<v Speaker 2>and every leader listening today should understand something important. Your

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<v Speaker 2>story matters too. You do not need to become Simon

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<v Speaker 2>Sinek or Jocko. You don't need to become mel Robbins.

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<v Speaker 2>You need to become the clearest version of yourself, because

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<v Speaker 2>somebody out there understands leadership through your lens. Your life

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<v Speaker 2>experiences may become the exact translation somebody else needs. Maybe

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<v Speaker 2>your lesson comes from construction sites, Maybe it comes from

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<v Speaker 2>teaching kin. Maybe it comes from farming or dispatching ambulances

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<v Speaker 2>or recovering from a failure. Maybe it comes from surviving hardship.

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<v Speaker 2>Your story may become the bridge that helps another human

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<v Speaker 2>being finally understand leadership. And that's the beauty of this

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<v Speaker 2>entire field. Leadership is not owned, It is shared. So

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<v Speaker 2>here's my challenge for you today. Stop looking for leadership

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<v Speaker 2>lessons only in places that look official. Leadership is happening

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<v Speaker 2>all around you, every single day, at work, at home,

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<v Speaker 2>at the airport, inside restaurants, inside friendships, inside failures, and

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<v Speaker 2>inside pressure. The smartest leaders in the world become students

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<v Speaker 2>of human behavior everywhere they go because the lessons may

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<v Speaker 2>change outfits, but leadership itself stays the same. This has

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<v Speaker 2>been the seven minute Leadership Podcast and I thank you

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<v Speaker 2>for listening.

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<v Speaker 1>For more Paul Fell of Alito Podcasts, visit paulfellowalito dot com.