WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.320 --> 00:00:02.759 Blundlish Authenticity podcast. 2 00:00:04.200 --> 00:00:09.240 Okay, and we're live. Thanks for tuning into Boundless Authenticity Today. 3 00:00:09.279 --> 00:00:11.960 I have a special guest, Brown Neil Landrum, but I'm 4 00:00:11.960 --> 00:00:14.359 going to let her tell you exactly who she is 5 00:00:14.400 --> 00:00:15.160 and what she does. 6 00:00:17.120 --> 00:00:20.399 Okay, Well, you said my name, right, so thank you 7 00:00:20.480 --> 00:00:24.039 for that. Where do I start? Well, I'm an author, 8 00:00:24.480 --> 00:00:26.640 so I guess that's the first thing that people might 9 00:00:26.640 --> 00:00:29.800 want to know about. I like delving into what I 10 00:00:29.800 --> 00:00:33.679 call metaphysical mysteries in my writing. I have a new 11 00:00:33.719 --> 00:00:35.880 trilogy coming out in a few days, so I'm excited 12 00:00:35.920 --> 00:00:40.560 about that. That is Reincarnation, epic reincarnation mystery about a 13 00:00:40.560 --> 00:00:45.399 famous couple from history who's reincarnated today and they're here 14 00:00:45.439 --> 00:00:47.520 to fulfill a prophecy that'll change the world. So it's 15 00:00:47.560 --> 00:00:51.399 kind of Da Vinci Code meets Outlander with a reincarnation theme. 16 00:00:52.399 --> 00:00:53.799 Like writing those stories a lot. 17 00:00:53.880 --> 00:00:56.640 I even have a podcast called Life is a Trip 18 00:00:56.640 --> 00:01:01.119 Reincarnation in afterlife stories, and with that, it's not an 19 00:01:01.159 --> 00:01:04.879 interview podcast like this. It's basically people write and share 20 00:01:04.920 --> 00:01:07.040 stories and we record them and people can go to 21 00:01:07.079 --> 00:01:09.359 our podcasts and listen to them. 22 00:01:09.840 --> 00:01:11.040 I don't know what else do you want to know 23 00:01:11.040 --> 00:01:15.000 about me authenticity. 24 00:01:16.120 --> 00:01:19.400 The concept for your podcast is very interesting. I like 25 00:01:19.480 --> 00:01:19.959 that a lot. 26 00:01:20.239 --> 00:01:21.079 I like it, thank you. 27 00:01:22.200 --> 00:01:24.799 Yeah, yeah, I just you know, as somebody who writes 28 00:01:24.879 --> 00:01:26.959 these kinds of stories. I have also have a Facebook 29 00:01:26.959 --> 00:01:29.760 group called Life is a Trip a Reincarnation Story, so 30 00:01:29.840 --> 00:01:32.879 please join us on that. And as somebody writes a 31 00:01:32.879 --> 00:01:34.959 lot of these stories, I just think there need to 32 00:01:34.959 --> 00:01:36.599 be more stories like this out there. I mean, they 33 00:01:36.599 --> 00:01:39.760 can be fictional or factual, so we don't care. It's 34 00:01:39.760 --> 00:01:41.840 not like, oh it's got to fit this, you know, 35 00:01:42.000 --> 00:01:44.799 box or whatever. We've got a variety of different kinds 36 00:01:44.840 --> 00:01:47.400 of stories. Some are funny, some are fairly serious. The 37 00:01:47.439 --> 00:01:51.319 only thing we don't allow is horror. But we just 38 00:01:51.400 --> 00:01:53.000 I just want more stories out there in the world. 39 00:01:53.000 --> 00:01:54.640 So that's why I wanted to do it, is just 40 00:01:54.680 --> 00:01:55.560 get more of these stories. 41 00:01:55.560 --> 00:01:56.680 I don't want to be the only one. 42 00:01:56.680 --> 00:01:58.239 And I know I'm not the only one, but you know, 43 00:01:58.280 --> 00:02:01.840 it feels like I'm the only one writing this story. 44 00:02:02.599 --> 00:02:04.400 So what exactly inspires you. 45 00:02:07.359 --> 00:02:08.840 I want to change the world? Is that? 46 00:02:08.919 --> 00:02:12.319 Okay, No, it's not okay, can't do that. 47 00:02:14.759 --> 00:02:19.000 You want to be authentic, right, this is about authenticity? Yeah, 48 00:02:19.000 --> 00:02:19.400 I really. 49 00:02:19.479 --> 00:02:21.400 I mean, honestly, it sounds like kind of you know, 50 00:02:21.759 --> 00:02:24.520 convoluted or by pollutant or whatever the right word. But 51 00:02:24.719 --> 00:02:28.479 is you know when I think, like, personally, it doesn't 52 00:02:28.520 --> 00:02:31.039 matter to me if people believe in reincarnation, but I 53 00:02:31.080 --> 00:02:34.680 think when they start opening their minds to the possibility, 54 00:02:35.159 --> 00:02:37.159 then all of a sudden, like one thing that matters 55 00:02:37.199 --> 00:02:39.599 a lot to me is, you know, we can be 56 00:02:39.719 --> 00:02:43.759 any when you reincarnate. You can go through many, many lifetimes, 57 00:02:43.800 --> 00:02:49.159 and you probably have been multiple races, multiple nationalities, you know, 58 00:02:49.400 --> 00:02:52.960 both male and female and in between, you know, and 59 00:02:53.000 --> 00:02:55.120 so when you sit there and think, oh, well this 60 00:02:55.159 --> 00:02:57.319 group is bad or this kind of racism or this 61 00:02:57.400 --> 00:03:00.639 kind of classism or whatever like, it all kind of seems. 62 00:03:00.400 --> 00:03:03.400 Silly when you realize that you've probably been you know. 63 00:03:03.479 --> 00:03:07.280 In fact, I wrote a screenplay and I wrote a 64 00:03:07.319 --> 00:03:10.039 song for the screenplay, and one of the lyrics is, 65 00:03:10.080 --> 00:03:12.400 you know, the soul has no gender, no creed, and 66 00:03:12.479 --> 00:03:12.960 no race. 67 00:03:13.400 --> 00:03:14.960 Love can be found in any face. 68 00:03:15.400 --> 00:03:18.080 Right, So when you start realizing it, just it just 69 00:03:18.120 --> 00:03:20.759 thinks it opens up so many possibilities. And I think 70 00:03:20.759 --> 00:03:23.599 an open mind is you know, a really important thing 71 00:03:23.639 --> 00:03:24.240 for this world. 72 00:03:26.800 --> 00:03:34.120 I would agree with you. I think that in general, 73 00:03:35.599 --> 00:03:41.280 this world suffers from a disease called ignorance, and it's 74 00:03:41.360 --> 00:03:43.960 all about not seeing that people are dumb, but it's 75 00:03:44.000 --> 00:03:49.039 all about information that just is being ignored to preserve 76 00:03:49.199 --> 00:03:54.879 one way of thinking. It's kind of circular thinking, and 77 00:03:54.960 --> 00:03:56.960 I don't really think it's going to be a thing 78 00:03:57.000 --> 00:04:00.400 that humans figure out how to get rid of. I 79 00:04:00.439 --> 00:04:04.520 stopped thinking that a long time ago, but I realized 80 00:04:04.520 --> 00:04:09.280 that there are more people out there that deep down 81 00:04:09.400 --> 00:04:14.080 inside of them being known that things like reincarnation are real, 82 00:04:14.759 --> 00:04:17.079 but it's just really hard for them to admit. And 83 00:04:17.199 --> 00:04:19.680 I have not yet been able to figure out what's 84 00:04:19.720 --> 00:04:22.000 behind that fear. If you catch what I'm saying. 85 00:04:22.680 --> 00:04:25.279 Yeah, first of all, you just blew my mind. My 86 00:04:25.319 --> 00:04:28.680 mind's still reeling, you know, my whole life. I've never 87 00:04:28.680 --> 00:04:32.120 put the connection between ignorance and ignored, and so like 88 00:04:32.279 --> 00:04:34.759 my mind is like, wow, yes, I guess that is 89 00:04:34.839 --> 00:04:38.439 you're you know, that's in a way of deliberately ignoring 90 00:04:39.480 --> 00:04:42.560 what could be there, you know, like putting up blinders. 91 00:04:42.600 --> 00:04:45.079 I guess you know, to something that could be true. 92 00:04:45.240 --> 00:04:48.160 So thank you for that, I guess it. I love 93 00:04:48.319 --> 00:04:50.879 put an open mind, and you just just open mind, 94 00:04:51.639 --> 00:04:53.439 and I'm just I know I'm going to be I 95 00:04:53.519 --> 00:04:55.600 used to have a friend who tell me like, he's like, 96 00:04:55.720 --> 00:04:58.279 I tell you something, Brown Ellen, then weeks later you'd 97 00:04:58.279 --> 00:05:01.560 be still thinking about it. So I probably will still 98 00:05:01.600 --> 00:05:05.600 be thinking about that. And I think, yeah, I you know, 99 00:05:05.600 --> 00:05:08.920 as far as why are people afraid, you know, I 100 00:05:08.959 --> 00:05:11.480 think they do get caught up in their little boxes 101 00:05:11.680 --> 00:05:14.600 and oh well, this is not what I learned in church, 102 00:05:14.680 --> 00:05:16.319 or this is not what I heard from my parents, 103 00:05:16.959 --> 00:05:21.160 and and and they don't understand it. And I think, honestly, 104 00:05:21.600 --> 00:05:23.120 one of the things that's so important to me for 105 00:05:23.240 --> 00:05:25.399 my group, because we have a you know, the Facebook 106 00:05:25.439 --> 00:05:29.680 group as well as this podcast is again fictional or factual, so. 107 00:05:31.480 --> 00:05:34.040 We're not going to force somebody in our way of 108 00:05:34.040 --> 00:05:37.600 thinking either, right. We want to have a variety of kinds. 109 00:05:37.439 --> 00:05:40.160 Of stories that can make people look, oh, well, it 110 00:05:40.160 --> 00:05:43.199 could be this way or this way. And in fact, 111 00:05:43.279 --> 00:05:45.959 many years ago, I met a man one time and 112 00:05:46.000 --> 00:05:48.399 he said, he said to me something really profound that 113 00:05:48.439 --> 00:05:50.480 I still think about, you know, many many years later, 114 00:05:50.519 --> 00:05:52.319 and he said, he said, Brown Ally said, you're an 115 00:05:52.319 --> 00:05:55.800 explorer and you're always going to be an explorer, and 116 00:05:56.000 --> 00:05:58.680 what he meant by that is, you know, I'm never 117 00:05:58.759 --> 00:06:01.720 going to be completely sad with one answer. I'm going 118 00:06:01.800 --> 00:06:03.000 to keep looking. 119 00:06:03.120 --> 00:06:07.360 For more answers and more expansion, you know, to the story. 120 00:06:07.839 --> 00:06:10.079 And I think a lot of people are afraid of that. 121 00:06:10.319 --> 00:06:12.160 Like I was talking to a woman the other day, 122 00:06:12.839 --> 00:06:19.839 very very devout, far to the extreme Christian if you will, 123 00:06:19.879 --> 00:06:22.480 and I was like, well, you know, the whole foundation 124 00:06:22.560 --> 00:06:26.199 of Christianity is reincarnation, and she just got really freaked 125 00:06:26.199 --> 00:06:26.639 out for that. 126 00:06:27.800 --> 00:06:29.480 And I said, yeah, I mean it's all about Jesus 127 00:06:29.560 --> 00:06:32.319 coming back again, right, I mean, isn't that kind of 128 00:06:32.439 --> 00:06:36.759 like the big thing? And reincarnation was a known thing 129 00:06:36.959 --> 00:06:39.800 back in his day, right, so it wouldn't have been 130 00:06:39.800 --> 00:06:41.199 an odd thing. Now. 131 00:06:41.199 --> 00:06:43.639 Of course you probably know it's been edited out of 132 00:06:43.680 --> 00:06:44.920 the Bible and all these things. 133 00:06:45.279 --> 00:06:47.199 But she just couldn't get her head into it. 134 00:06:47.199 --> 00:06:48.720 I said, well, you don't think she's just going to 135 00:06:48.800 --> 00:06:51.199 manifest from dirt and just become a person again. 136 00:06:51.279 --> 00:06:52.800 She's like, oh, yeah, he can do anything. 137 00:06:53.759 --> 00:06:56.519 And I was like, okay, I mean like she was 138 00:06:56.639 --> 00:07:00.160 so caught in her box that and you know, she 139 00:07:00.160 --> 00:07:01.720 doesn't have to agree with me or anything, but she 140 00:07:01.800 --> 00:07:03.680 was so caught in a box she just couldn't understand 141 00:07:04.000 --> 00:07:05.480 that it didn't make sense. 142 00:07:06.959 --> 00:07:08.879 Just I mean, you know, yeah, there's one thing to 143 00:07:08.920 --> 00:07:10.680 have faith, and it's another thing to think it's going 144 00:07:10.759 --> 00:07:13.120 to be something. 145 00:07:13.120 --> 00:07:15.560 That far out there, you know, whereas and a lot 146 00:07:15.600 --> 00:07:17.519 easier to believe his soul can just come back in 147 00:07:17.560 --> 00:07:18.240 another body. 148 00:07:18.319 --> 00:07:20.240 Isn't that a little simpler? 149 00:07:22.040 --> 00:07:24.319 So I don't know, I don't know if I answered 150 00:07:24.319 --> 00:07:26.879 your question, but we did definitely went down that rabbit hole. 151 00:07:28.959 --> 00:07:31.519 Well, I mean, I believe it was with least Treeber 152 00:07:32.000 --> 00:07:37.519 that once said beliefs our walls and questions our doors. 153 00:07:38.120 --> 00:07:38.800 Oh I love. 154 00:07:42.680 --> 00:07:45.920 Yeah. I think that many people know how to very 155 00:07:45.959 --> 00:07:47.959 quickly build another wall in front of that door when 156 00:07:47.959 --> 00:07:53.240 you ask him a question. They are master contractors. They 157 00:07:53.279 --> 00:07:57.160 should probably make a business. 158 00:07:56.759 --> 00:08:00.480 Out of that, probably, well, you know, and Mark Manson 159 00:08:00.600 --> 00:08:07.079 says that, uh, answering questions is the key, or solving 160 00:08:07.120 --> 00:08:08.120 problems is the key. 161 00:08:08.480 --> 00:08:10.079 I think it is something some of the problems is 162 00:08:10.120 --> 00:08:13.439 the key to happiness. Yeah, that's what is happiness is 163 00:08:13.439 --> 00:08:14.279 solving problems. 164 00:08:15.720 --> 00:08:18.759 And I thought that's yeah. I think I always think 165 00:08:18.800 --> 00:08:21.279 that's so interesting is because your brain you get your 166 00:08:21.279 --> 00:08:22.639 brains so engaged. 167 00:08:22.240 --> 00:08:24.439 From looking for Like if I said, or, how do 168 00:08:24.480 --> 00:08:25.920 you think he's going to come back? You think he's 169 00:08:25.959 --> 00:08:28.120 really going to come out of dirt and ash and 170 00:08:28.639 --> 00:08:32.600 you know from thousands of years ago or proud or something, 171 00:08:32.720 --> 00:08:35.279 you know, and you wouldn't have had the answer, But 172 00:08:35.440 --> 00:08:39.919 I just would have said whatever she learned a group. Yeah, yeah, 173 00:08:40.240 --> 00:08:43.000 I like asking questions, but I like stories. You know, 174 00:08:43.120 --> 00:08:46.440 stories are so important, you know, they kind of help you, like, 175 00:08:47.120 --> 00:08:49.600 you know, that's what it's like, I said, fiction or factual, 176 00:08:49.679 --> 00:08:52.879 because I have noticed that there are people that will 177 00:08:52.879 --> 00:08:55.720 read my novels or listen to the stories on the 178 00:08:55.720 --> 00:08:59.840 podcast or whatever that wouldn't necessarily say they believe we're incarnation, 179 00:09:00.039 --> 00:09:03.799 and but they love the stories and then that opens 180 00:09:03.840 --> 00:09:07.240 their mind. So sometimes fiction, you know, you don't have 181 00:09:07.279 --> 00:09:09.679 to believe in time travel to enjoy back to the future. 182 00:09:09.799 --> 00:09:13.960 You know, you can open your mind to all kinds 183 00:09:14.000 --> 00:09:15.799 of possibilities. And then all of a sudden you're like, 184 00:09:15.919 --> 00:09:19.200 well that that kind of makes sense, doesn't it, you know, 185 00:09:20.200 --> 00:09:21.360 And it's just fiction that did it. 186 00:09:22.600 --> 00:09:26.720 Yeah, it's true. And through history, so many works of 187 00:09:26.799 --> 00:09:32.360 fiction have actually think containers for the truth and in. 188 00:09:32.399 --> 00:09:34.840 Fact, that's my tagline. Did you see that in my writing? 189 00:09:36.279 --> 00:09:37.120 I did not see that. 190 00:09:37.840 --> 00:09:40.919 My tagline for my writing is lose yourself in the fiction, 191 00:09:41.120 --> 00:09:42.320 find yourself in the truth. 192 00:09:43.879 --> 00:09:46.840 M very curious, indeed. 193 00:09:48.240 --> 00:09:49.320 Very curious. 194 00:09:50.679 --> 00:09:55.960 Yeah, you're right, and I wonder what are your other 195 00:09:56.039 --> 00:10:00.600 goals besides changing the world for this new book here 196 00:10:00.639 --> 00:10:01.440 you're releasing. 197 00:10:03.720 --> 00:10:07.279 Well, I'll circle back to that, but I want to 198 00:10:07.320 --> 00:10:08.919 kind of get back to what you were just saying, 199 00:10:08.960 --> 00:10:12.080 as far as you know where and how these things 200 00:10:12.080 --> 00:10:14.840 get written, because there's also a story that I wrote 201 00:10:14.840 --> 00:10:15.159 this year. 202 00:10:15.200 --> 00:10:16.320 I've been through quite a year. 203 00:10:17.000 --> 00:10:19.840 And when you're you know, again back to the topic 204 00:10:19.879 --> 00:10:23.919 of authenticity, I have been through like this huge year. 205 00:10:24.159 --> 00:10:26.440 I'm living a nomadic life. I don't know where I'm 206 00:10:26.440 --> 00:10:30.159 going to be next. I mean, like I'm really unsure, 207 00:10:30.240 --> 00:10:34.240 and I was, I say, kicked out of my apartment. 208 00:10:34.279 --> 00:10:37.159 But when my landlord raised the rent fifty percent last year, 209 00:10:37.200 --> 00:10:39.080 I was like, Okay, I've got to do something because 210 00:10:39.120 --> 00:10:42.039 I can't stay here. And so that led me to 211 00:10:42.120 --> 00:10:44.759 go to Italy, and then that led me to go 212 00:10:44.799 --> 00:10:47.039 to Tunisia because I couldn't stay in Italy because they 213 00:10:47.080 --> 00:10:50.759 weren't taking these applications and it just led one thing 214 00:10:50.799 --> 00:10:53.919 to another, and I decided to tell people, you know, 215 00:10:54.080 --> 00:10:56.639 in my in my social media, it's like, this is 216 00:10:56.679 --> 00:10:57.279 what I'm doing. 217 00:10:57.799 --> 00:11:00.639 I don't know what I'm doing. I'm going to these places. 218 00:11:01.320 --> 00:11:03.799 Some days I'm having a not so good day, you know, 219 00:11:03.919 --> 00:11:08.080 some days I'm having this fabulous day. And as I'm 220 00:11:08.279 --> 00:11:11.720 doing this, I realized people are really drawn to that authenticity. 221 00:11:11.759 --> 00:11:14.440 They want to know these stories, and I'm kind of like, 222 00:11:15.039 --> 00:11:17.519 I don't think it's that interesting. That sure, if you 223 00:11:17.600 --> 00:11:20.559 want to know, you know what I'm doing. 224 00:11:20.840 --> 00:11:24.360 And then I started writing another story, which is getting 225 00:11:24.399 --> 00:11:26.279 to the answer your question, like what more do I 226 00:11:26.320 --> 00:11:32.000 want to accomplish? And I got inspired to write another 227 00:11:32.080 --> 00:11:35.840 story that I'm offering to anybody listening to this for free, 228 00:11:35.960 --> 00:11:38.919 so I feel free to hit me up for a 229 00:11:38.960 --> 00:11:39.519 copy of it. 230 00:11:40.200 --> 00:11:42.720 I call it The End, a love story to the universe. 231 00:11:43.440 --> 00:11:46.399 And as I'm writing, I was inspired to write it 232 00:11:46.440 --> 00:11:49.159 because I met somebody when I was in Tunisia and 233 00:11:49.240 --> 00:11:54.039 I as I'm writing the story, I'm writing it from 234 00:11:54.039 --> 00:11:56.600 the perspective of what I call the upstairs, right, so 235 00:11:56.679 --> 00:11:59.960 there's whatever you want to call that, that world of thing. 236 00:12:01.039 --> 00:12:03.159 I specifically like to call it the Upstairs because I 237 00:12:03.200 --> 00:12:05.279 don't haven't ever heard anybody else call it that, and 238 00:12:05.320 --> 00:12:07.480 it's another way to just kind of like take away 239 00:12:07.480 --> 00:12:11.120 the walls. But I'm writing from and writing these kind 240 00:12:11.200 --> 00:12:15.000 of characters from the upstairs, and then all of a sudden, 241 00:12:15.440 --> 00:12:18.360 I realize they're real, Like they're telling me who they 242 00:12:18.399 --> 00:12:22.480 are as I'm writing it. It's becoming real as I'm 243 00:12:22.519 --> 00:12:27.919 writing it, and there's to see it manifest and see 244 00:12:27.919 --> 00:12:30.639 what they wanted to do. And I call it the 245 00:12:30.679 --> 00:12:31.559 traffic angels. 246 00:12:31.600 --> 00:12:33.840 If you've got this person here and this person here, 247 00:12:33.879 --> 00:12:35.039 how do you bring them together? 248 00:12:35.320 --> 00:12:38.639 And there's like they run the logistics upstairs and they're 249 00:12:38.639 --> 00:12:40.639 trying to get how do you get an American woman 250 00:12:40.759 --> 00:12:44.120 to meet a British man in Tunisia? Like they had 251 00:12:44.159 --> 00:12:47.679 to work really hard to make that happen, and it 252 00:12:47.840 --> 00:12:51.480 just like opened up so much for me to go, Wow, 253 00:12:51.720 --> 00:12:53.759 this this is I have to just do. 254 00:12:53.799 --> 00:12:54.840 Whatever they tell me to do. 255 00:12:54.879 --> 00:12:56.919 I'm just kind of like where they want me to 256 00:12:56.960 --> 00:12:59.000 go next is where they want me to go next. 257 00:12:59.200 --> 00:13:03.320 And it's it's been really really interesting. 258 00:13:03.399 --> 00:13:07.320 So you know, I would love more people to get 259 00:13:07.360 --> 00:13:10.000 into writing and to open up those portals and get 260 00:13:10.000 --> 00:13:13.320 that communication and find out, you know, who. 261 00:13:13.240 --> 00:13:15.600 Are your guides and what are they doing? 262 00:13:15.759 --> 00:13:18.799 And you know, we don't really realize I don't even 263 00:13:18.840 --> 00:13:20.559 think that we have a team, Like there's a team 264 00:13:20.639 --> 00:13:22.919 up there. This isn't just oh, we've got one guide 265 00:13:22.960 --> 00:13:24.639 who's look over and it's like no, they kind of 266 00:13:24.639 --> 00:13:28.159 work together, and they work together with other people like 267 00:13:28.320 --> 00:13:32.320 this man that I met, his guide is also up 268 00:13:32.320 --> 00:13:33.840 there and part of the team. 269 00:13:35.120 --> 00:13:37.759 So it just kind of changed a lot for me. 270 00:13:38.000 --> 00:13:42.200 So, you know, just sharing these stories being on your podcast, 271 00:13:42.240 --> 00:13:44.559 you know, whoever gets to hear and goes, wait a minute, 272 00:13:44.600 --> 00:13:47.679 this is interesting. Why don't I disrupt my own life 273 00:13:47.679 --> 00:13:49.639 and figure out where I'm going and let me see 274 00:13:49.639 --> 00:13:51.039 if I can maybe get some information. 275 00:13:51.519 --> 00:13:52.519 Because up until. 276 00:13:52.360 --> 00:13:55.320 Then I was like, oh, I have to go here, 277 00:13:55.360 --> 00:13:57.639 and have to go here and make these plans, and 278 00:13:57.679 --> 00:14:01.600 they all fell apart. I tried to direct, and so 279 00:14:01.840 --> 00:14:03.360 then I was like, Okay, what. 280 00:14:03.279 --> 00:14:03.840 Do you all want? 281 00:14:05.200 --> 00:14:08.000 They only tell me a little bit ahead of time. 282 00:14:09.279 --> 00:14:11.559 That's such an interesting thing that he said, when you 283 00:14:11.919 --> 00:14:14.559 said when you try to direct, Because I have found 284 00:14:15.360 --> 00:14:17.720 my own experience of life is whenever I've tried to 285 00:14:17.759 --> 00:14:21.320 take complete control over things. Life just says, no, you're 286 00:14:21.360 --> 00:14:24.399 not doing that. What do you think you're doing? That's 287 00:14:24.440 --> 00:14:28.000 my job. And it throws something out there that's completely 288 00:14:28.039 --> 00:14:30.440 off the wall, and you never know what direction it 289 00:14:30.480 --> 00:14:31.120 will lead you in. 290 00:14:32.279 --> 00:14:34.559 But exciting, isn't it? 291 00:14:34.639 --> 00:14:36.600 You know when you let that happen, when you go, 292 00:14:36.639 --> 00:14:39.320 wait a minute, you know I wouldn't have thought, you know, 293 00:14:39.559 --> 00:14:40.799 I thought I was going to go to Italy for 294 00:14:40.840 --> 00:14:44.759 a year. They're not taking visa applications. Now you could 295 00:14:44.759 --> 00:14:47.440 go and I'll get into it if you want. But 296 00:14:47.519 --> 00:14:49.720 I wrote a book called Five Reasons Why Bad Things Happen, 297 00:14:49.799 --> 00:14:52.240 So when people say everything happens for a reason, I 298 00:14:52.320 --> 00:14:56.960 literally wrote the book on it. Right, and yet watching 299 00:14:57.000 --> 00:15:00.480 this happen, realizing how much is orchestrated, how much we're 300 00:15:00.480 --> 00:15:04.279 being helped and we don't realize it, Like and I 301 00:15:04.320 --> 00:15:06.399 sometimes I look at them like border callis and we're 302 00:15:06.399 --> 00:15:08.240 going here, and they just go, no, we want you 303 00:15:08.320 --> 00:15:09.240 over here. 304 00:15:10.200 --> 00:15:12.720 You know, and they'll knock you, knock you a little 305 00:15:12.759 --> 00:15:14.919 bit around if you if you don't listen. 306 00:15:15.679 --> 00:15:21.039 So yeah, it's true that phrase how much we're being 307 00:15:21.080 --> 00:15:25.000 helped is very very critical for people to understand. It's 308 00:15:25.240 --> 00:15:29.039 really easy to go into victim mode if you think 309 00:15:29.039 --> 00:15:31.279 about it from under end. Yeah. 310 00:15:31.360 --> 00:15:33.840 Yeah, I was on a conversation with today with somebody 311 00:15:33.840 --> 00:15:37.559 who is seriously in victim mode and she and I 312 00:15:37.639 --> 00:15:39.799 and I have done some healing work, and if you 313 00:15:39.799 --> 00:15:41.679 read the story, you'll kind of get some hint of 314 00:15:41.840 --> 00:15:43.320 some of the healing stuff I was doing. 315 00:15:43.799 --> 00:15:46.320 And I did a buffo trip. Do you know what 316 00:15:46.360 --> 00:15:47.039 bufo is. 317 00:15:49.320 --> 00:15:54.960 It's a psychedelic it's amah. And I did that in legal, 318 00:15:55.240 --> 00:15:59.480 totally legal thing, medically supervised in Barcelona, So don't do 319 00:15:59.519 --> 00:16:03.120 it anywhere unless it's completely legal, safe and medically supervised, 320 00:16:03.120 --> 00:16:07.559 because it's pretty intense. But you know, in that I 321 00:16:07.600 --> 00:16:11.000 was kind of reminded in that in that experience I 322 00:16:11.080 --> 00:16:13.360 needed to do healing. So anyway, I told this woman, 323 00:16:13.399 --> 00:16:14.559 I said, you know, if you want me to try 324 00:16:14.600 --> 00:16:17.879 to do some healing stuff remotely for you, And she 325 00:16:18.080 --> 00:16:21.759 was just so entrenched in in what she was dealing 326 00:16:21.840 --> 00:16:23.840 with and how it was caused and how she's a 327 00:16:23.919 --> 00:16:26.240 victim and how this stuff and I told her, I said, 328 00:16:27.120 --> 00:16:30.000 I will tell you when I'm doing healing work that 329 00:16:31.240 --> 00:16:34.480 I'm getting messages and I don't filter it. Like I 330 00:16:34.519 --> 00:16:36.480 can be your friend and say, Okay, I'm really feeling 331 00:16:36.519 --> 00:16:37.120 sorry for you. 332 00:16:37.720 --> 00:16:39.720 But if I'm getting messages, I'm telling you what they're 333 00:16:39.720 --> 00:16:42.279 telling me, and I can't filter it, right. I just like, 334 00:16:42.360 --> 00:16:45.000 it's either it's either me being your friend or me 335 00:16:45.519 --> 00:16:45.759 you know. 336 00:16:46.559 --> 00:16:49.679 And I said to her, I said, you know, you're 337 00:16:49.720 --> 00:16:51.399 gonna have to get over the victim thing. 338 00:16:53.279 --> 00:16:59.360 And she couldn't. She couldn't. And I know I went 339 00:16:59.399 --> 00:17:00.480 through many men years ago. 340 00:17:00.519 --> 00:17:02.759 I went through a whole victim thing and wow, I 341 00:17:02.799 --> 00:17:04.039 mean that's powerful energy. 342 00:17:05.319 --> 00:17:08.880 Doesn't get you anywhere, but it's powerful energy, and you'll 343 00:17:08.880 --> 00:17:10.680 find plenty of people to back you up. 344 00:17:11.759 --> 00:17:15.160 Yeah, it's inductive and intoxicating and you can find evidence 345 00:17:15.200 --> 00:17:16.359 for it anywhere you look. 346 00:17:17.319 --> 00:17:22.640 Yes, and it doesn't help you, you know. And when 347 00:17:22.680 --> 00:17:24.759 I went through mine, I mean, it was pretty intense, 348 00:17:24.839 --> 00:17:26.319 and it was a you know, for a year or two. 349 00:17:27.079 --> 00:17:28.799 And I had a friend who's like, oh, yes and this, 350 00:17:28.960 --> 00:17:30.519 you know, he was so into the victim thing. 351 00:17:31.119 --> 00:17:33.960 And then all of a sudden, I realized, oh, you 352 00:17:34.000 --> 00:17:36.000 know what, I think I signed up to learn how 353 00:17:36.119 --> 00:17:38.319 what this victim stuff is like. 354 00:17:38.559 --> 00:17:40.200 It was one of my little class. 355 00:17:39.920 --> 00:17:43.759 Curriculum when I was deciding my lifetime and I thought, Okay, 356 00:17:43.799 --> 00:17:44.759 now I know that I can. 357 00:17:44.720 --> 00:17:46.240 Check that box and I don't need to do that 358 00:17:46.279 --> 00:17:48.920 any And it wasn't until years later that I was 359 00:17:48.960 --> 00:17:51.319 talking to him and he, you know, he's very much 360 00:17:51.319 --> 00:17:56.200 a Leo, so the Bravado thing is very important to him. 361 00:17:56.279 --> 00:17:58.279 And I was like, I got to tell you something, 362 00:17:58.319 --> 00:18:00.359 and it's not necessarily going to come off right, but 363 00:18:00.440 --> 00:18:02.960 we've got to talk about this whole victim thing. And 364 00:18:03.960 --> 00:18:06.000 it was just such a beautiful conversation because all of 365 00:18:06.000 --> 00:18:08.200 a sudden boom, he got it and it was solved, 366 00:18:09.359 --> 00:18:12.000 like he knew that that wasn't going to get him anywhere. 367 00:18:12.720 --> 00:18:16.039 And so, yeah, I don't know how we got off 368 00:18:16.079 --> 00:18:19.519 on that tangent, but yeah, this this woman, she doesn't 369 00:18:19.519 --> 00:18:21.960 want to give up the victim. 370 00:18:21.480 --> 00:18:24.319 You know. And she got really upset and was like, 371 00:18:25.000 --> 00:18:26.599 I can't calm down. I can't deal with this. 372 00:18:26.720 --> 00:18:29.759 I was like, yeah, because you walked to play instead 373 00:18:29.799 --> 00:18:32.680 of realizing it happened to you for a reason, whatever 374 00:18:32.720 --> 00:18:33.799 that reason is, that's what we. 375 00:18:33.759 --> 00:18:36.119 Have to get to why. 376 00:18:36.880 --> 00:18:40.559 Yeah, yeah, yeah, you have to take one hundred percent 377 00:18:40.640 --> 00:18:45.559 personal responsibility. It's really easy. I'm trying to discourage people 378 00:18:45.960 --> 00:18:50.920 from telling anybody that I'm so sorry to hear that, 379 00:18:51.319 --> 00:18:53.359 or I feel sorry for you, or anything like that. 380 00:18:53.599 --> 00:18:55.759 Sympathy and empathy are two different things. I don't think 381 00:18:55.799 --> 00:18:58.680 most people realize that. Sympathy is kind of like somebody 382 00:18:58.680 --> 00:19:01.640 fell in a hole and you decided to help them. 383 00:19:01.680 --> 00:19:03.119 You're gonna jump in the hole two and now both 384 00:19:03.119 --> 00:19:06.240 of you are stuff there. Doesn't help, doesn't help to 385 00:19:06.319 --> 00:19:10.640 these much different. It's like, okay, well I've done a letter, 386 00:19:11.359 --> 00:19:12.880 let me go get it and come back, you. 387 00:19:12.839 --> 00:19:15.240 Know, well, and I love that. 388 00:19:15.319 --> 00:19:17.640 And where this victim thing comes from. 389 00:19:17.720 --> 00:19:22.519 I mean, well, it's like I've got a friend of 390 00:19:22.519 --> 00:19:23.519 mine and she's got. 391 00:19:23.359 --> 00:19:24.960 One saying we all do it, and I've been there 392 00:19:25.000 --> 00:19:25.319 as well. 393 00:19:25.359 --> 00:19:28.920 But yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah No. 394 00:19:29.039 --> 00:19:30.240 I was just going to say, I have a friend 395 00:19:30.240 --> 00:19:33.559 of mine who's got one kind of element illness after another, 396 00:19:34.400 --> 00:19:36.400 and I you know, I had to kind of tell 397 00:19:36.440 --> 00:19:39.039 her and this might sound you know, I'm being authentic, right, 398 00:19:39.079 --> 00:19:41.079 so I'm telling you who I really am. But I 399 00:19:41.119 --> 00:19:43.279 said to herself, I'm not the one you come to 400 00:19:43.359 --> 00:19:45.920 if you want a pity party. I'm the one you 401 00:19:45.960 --> 00:19:49.519