Speaker 1: There is a truth most people never face until their
Speaker 1: heart ruins them for the last time. The person you
Speaker 1: desire the most is usually the person who touches your
Speaker 1: deepest wound, not your deepest love. Desire is not affection,
Speaker 1: It is not connection, It is not compatibility. Desire is
Speaker 1: a force that pulls you toward the person who mirrors
Speaker 1: your unresolved pain, your unmet needs, your forgotten childhood hunger,
Speaker 1: and you mistake that pull for destiny. I have seen
Speaker 1: this in every soul that walked into my study. They
Speaker 1: all described the same experience in different words. I know
Speaker 1: they're not good for me, but I can't stop wanting them.
Speaker 1: They believed their desire was proof of love. They believed
Speaker 1: the intensity was purity. They believed the longing was real.
Speaker 1: But intensity does not make something true, and longing does
Speaker 1: not make something love. Desire is a wound calling out
Speaker 1: to itself. The reason you want them so strongly is
Speaker 1: not because they complete you. It is because they injure
Speaker 1: you in the way you're already injured. They trigger the
Speaker 1: spot you have never healed. They revive the part of
Speaker 1: you you've tried to bury for decades. They activate the
Speaker 1: bruise inside your soul that you've been carrying since childhood,
Speaker 1: the bruise that says I'm not enough, I'm not wanted,
Speaker 1: I'm not chosen, I'm not worthy, I'm not safe. And
Speaker 1: the moment someone touches that bruise, your brain mistakes the
Speaker 1: pain for passion. Because the psyche does not chase comfort.
Speaker 1: The psyche chases familiarity. You don't fall for people who
Speaker 1: are good for you. You fall for people who match
Speaker 1: your brokenness. You fall for the emotional pattern you grew
Speaker 1: up inside. If your childhood taught you that love means chasing,
Speaker 1: you desire the one who runs. If your childhood taught
Speaker 1: you that love means anxiety, you desire the one who
Speaker 1: destabilizes you. If your childhood taught you that love means
Speaker 1: proving yourself, you desire the one who never acknowledges your worth.
Speaker 1: This is why people stay addicted to the wrong person,
Speaker 1: because the wrong person feels like home, not the home
Speaker 1: you deserved, the home you survived. You confuse intensity with
Speaker 1: love because you never experienced peace long enough to recognize it.
Speaker 1: You confuse chaos with connection because you were trained to
Speaker 1: earn affection, not receive it. You confuse longing with romance
Speaker 1: because you learned early that love is something you must
Speaker 1: reach for but never quite hold. The wound chooses the
Speaker 1: person the desire disguises the wound, and most people spend
Speaker 1: their entire lives loving the wrong way because their desire
Speaker 1: is not coming from their DeHeart. It's coming from their trauma.
Speaker 1: If you've ever wondered why you feel desperate for someone
Speaker 1: who gives you nothing thing, why you stay loyal to
Speaker 1: someone who is inconsistent, why you wait for someone who
Speaker 1: confuses you, the answer is brutally simple. They fit the pattern.
Speaker 1: They hurt you in the way you're used to being hurt,
Speaker 1: and that kind of familiarity feels like love to a
Speaker 1: wounded psyche. But the truth is this, Real love does
Speaker 1: not cause anxiety. Real love does not confuse you. Real
Speaker 1: love does not destabilize you. Real love does not make
Speaker 1: you beg for clarity. Real love is calm, and that
Speaker 1: calmness terrifies the wounded, because calmness feels foreign. Calmness feels suspicious.
Speaker 1: Calmness feels like something is missing, not because something is wrong,
Speaker 1: but because nothing is hurting. You've lived so long inside
Speaker 1: your wound that peace feels like emptiness. This is why
Speaker 1: you chase the person who doesn't want you while ignoring
Speaker 1: the one who could heal you. You're not chasing the person,
Speaker 1: you're chasing the emotional injury they activate in you. They
Speaker 1: make your wound feel alive, and you mistake that sensation
Speaker 1: for love. Desire is not love. It's an alarm. Every
Speaker 1: time you feel intense longing, it is not your soul
Speaker 1: saying this is the one, It is your wound saying
Speaker 1: this feels familiar, and the familiarity blinds you. You start
Speaker 1: building fantasies around the person, imagining futures that will never exist,
Speaker 1: holding on to potential instead of reality. You love the
Speaker 1: possibility of them, not the truth of them. You love
Speaker 1: the moments they give you hope, not the consistency they
Speaker 1: never provide. You love the idea of who they could become,
Speaker 1: not the evidence of who they are. This is not love.
Speaker 1: This is the wound dreaming. And the most dangerous illusion
Speaker 1: is believing that desire makes you alive. It does not.
Speaker 1: It makes you dependent. It keeps you in a cycle
Speaker 1: of emotional abandonment, psychological craving, and spiritual starvation. You call
Speaker 1: it a soul connection, but it's an unconscious creation of
Speaker 1: your deepest pain. If you pay attention, you will notice
Speaker 1: the same pattern. Your desire is strongest for the person
Speaker 1: you can't have. Your quietest love is for the person
Speaker 1: who stays. Your greatest longing is for the person who withholds.
Speaker 1: Your deepest obsession is for the person who wounds. Because
Speaker 1: the wound inside you is attracted to the person who
Speaker 1: resembles the original source of your hurt. You believe you
Speaker 1: are trying to love them, but you are trying to
Speaker 1: heal yourself through them. You want them to choose you
Speaker 1: because the one who wounded you didn't. You want them
Speaker 1: to see you, because the one who raised you didn't.
Speaker 1: You want them to stay because someone before them didn't.
Speaker 1: You don't want them. You want the wound to close,
Speaker 1: But a wound cannot be healed by the hands that
Speaker 1: reopen it. This is the cruel truth desire hides from you.
Speaker 1: The person who triggers your wound cannot be the person
Speaker 1: who heals it. The same emotional pattern that created the
Speaker 1: longing will recreate the pain. The person you desire the
Speaker 1: most is often the person who will hurt you exactly
Speaker 1: how you fear, Because that is the role they play
Speaker 1: in your psyche. Not lover but mirror. Desire is the
Speaker 1: psyche's attempt to rewrite its own story, but it rewrites nothing,
Speaker 1: It repeats everything. You think you are chasing love, but
Speaker 1: your chasing closure. You think your longing for a person,
Speaker 1: but your longing for yourself. You think you're losing them,
Speaker 1: but you're losing your illusions. You think they're special, but
Speaker 1: they're familiar, and familiarity is the most seductive poison of all.
Speaker 1: If you truly want to understand your desire, don't ask
Speaker 1: why do I want them? Ask what wound in me
Speaker 1: wakes up when they appear? Because the moment you answer
Speaker 1: that question, the spell breaks, The desire weakens, the illusion fades,
Speaker 1: the wound begins to speak, and you finally hear the
Speaker 1: truth that was always underneath the longing. You do not
Speaker 1: want them. You want to stop hurting, and that healing
Speaker 1: can only begin when you see desire for what it
Speaker 1: really is. Not love but the wound calling itself home
Speaker 1: one last time. If you sit quietly and observe your past,
Speaker 1: you will notice something strange. The people you fell the
Speaker 1: hardest for were not the ones who loved you clearly,
Speaker 1: they were the ones who awakened a storm inside you.
Speaker 1: They shook something in you that had been sleeping since childhood.
Speaker 1: They made you feel alive because they made you feel anxious.
Speaker 1: They made you feel connected because they made you feel
Speaker 1: afraid of losing them. They made you feel seen because
Speaker 1: they mirrored your biggest insecurity, and you confused that emotional
Speaker 1: chaos with chemistry. This is the wound at work. The
Speaker 1: wound does not want love. The wound wants intensity, and
Speaker 1: intensity is the closest thing it knows to feeling alive.
Speaker 1: Every person you've ever wanted desperately shares one thing in common.
Speaker 1: They triggered your oldest emotional memory, the one you never healed,
Speaker 1: the one you buried so deep you thought it was gone,
Speaker 1: The one you pretended didn't hurt anymore, the one you
Speaker 1: tried to grow out of, distract from outrun. But the
Speaker 1: wound always remembers, and it chooses with precision. The psyche
Speaker 1: is not random in its attractions. It is painfully strategic.
Speaker 1: It chooses people not for how they treat you, but
Speaker 1: for what they represent inside you. The unavailable one, the
Speaker 1: emotionally cold one, the inconsistent one, the charming one, the
Speaker 1: withholding one, the confusing one, the distant one, the unstable one.
Speaker 1: These are not people you coincidentally desire. They are echoes
Speaker 1: of your earliest emotional blueprint. When someone matches your wound,
Speaker 1: they activate you. They awaken a forgotten version of yourself.
Speaker 1: Suddenly you don't feel numb anymore, you don't feel empty,
Speaker 1: you don't feel alone. You feel pulled toward them with
Speaker 1: a force that feels cosmic, spiritual, destined. But tany has
Speaker 1: nothing to do with it. It is the unconscious seeking completion,
Speaker 1: and the unconscious seeks completion through repetition, not healing. It
Speaker 1: repeats what it remembers, not what it needs. You think
Speaker 1: you found someone special, but you found someone familiar, and
Speaker 1: that familiarity is dangerous because familiarity binds you to the past.
Speaker 1: That is why you're drawn to the one who doesn't commit,
Speaker 1: the one who pushes and pulls, the one who keeps
Speaker 1: you guessing, the one who gives you just enough to
Speaker 1: stay but never enough to feel safe. You believe your
Speaker 1: heart is choosing them, but your wound is choosing itself.
Speaker 1: You desire them because they recreate the emotional environment you
Speaker 1: were shaped inside. If you grew up needing to earn love,
Speaker 1: you desire the person you can't earn. If you grew
Speaker 1: up feeling invisible, you desire the person who barely notices.
Speaker 1: If you grew up feeling unstable, you desire the person
Speaker 1: whose affection is unpredictable. If you grew up feeling abandoned,
Speaker 1: you desire the one who leaves. The psyche chooses the
Speaker 1: pain that feels like home. This is why desire destroys
Speaker 1: so many people, because they believe the intensity is love,
Speaker 1: and they follow it blindly until they break. You never
Speaker 1: chase the person. You chase the feeling, a feeling that
Speaker 1: was made long before they came into your life. You
Speaker 1: are not trying to love them. You are trying to
Speaker 1: rewrite your past using their hands. You want them to
Speaker 1: repair a story they didn't create, and they can't. Even
Speaker 1: if they tried. They can't reach the place the wound lives.
Speaker 1: The wound is deeper than the relationship. The wound is
Speaker 1: older than the person. The wound is you. And once
Speaker 1: you understand this, everything changes. You will finally see why
Speaker 1: your greatest desires are also your greatest heart breaks. You
Speaker 1: will see why the one you want the most is
Speaker 1: the one who gives you the least. You will see
Speaker 1: why attraction feels like suffering. You will see why you
Speaker 1: stay when you should leave. You will see why you
Speaker 1: hold on to people who don't hold on to you.
Speaker 1: You will see why your heart chooses pain over peace.
Speaker 1: Your heart is not choosing. Your wound is, but the
Speaker 1: wound is not trying to hurt you. The wound is
Speaker 1: trying to close. That is why you keep going back
Speaker 1: to the same kind of person, Why you repeat the
Speaker 1: same pattern, Why every relationship feels like deja vu? Why
Speaker 1: you say, why do I always end up here? Because
Speaker 1: you're not ending up anywhere? Your returning, returning to the
Speaker 1: place you got emotionally stuck, returning to the moment you
Speaker 1: became disconnected from yourself. Desire always pulls you backward. Love
Speaker 1: moves you forward. This is the difference Young tried to explain.
Speaker 1: Desire is regression. Love is evolution. Desire is the past
Speaker 1: calling you back. Love is the present, calling you home.
Speaker 1: Desire is the nervous system reacting. Love is the soul recognizing.
Speaker 1: Desire is chaotic, unstable, overwhelming. Love is calm, clear, grounding.
Speaker 1: Desire burns, Love breathes Desire collapses you inward, making you
Speaker 1: question your worth. Love expands you outward, making you feel whole.
Speaker 1: Desire makes you chase, Love makes you choose. Desire is
Speaker 1: the wound screaming. Love is the wound healed. And when
Speaker 1: you begin healing, truly healing, you will notice something. Your
Speaker 1: old desires start to die. They disappear quietly. People you
Speaker 1: once longed for no longer move you. The ones who
Speaker 1: made your chest titan no longer excite you. The ones
Speaker 1: who activated your trauma no longer attract you. The spark
Speaker 1: that once felt irresistible now feels like a warning. You
Speaker 1: don't crave intensity anymore. You crave clarity. You crave safety,
Speaker 1: You crave truth, You crave consistency, you crave peace. Your
Speaker 1: nervous system will start rejecting what it used to chase,
Speaker 1: because healing changes your appetite. Healing rewrites your emotional chemistry.
Speaker 1: Healing ends the addiction to longing. Healing breaks the cycle
Speaker 1: your childhood built. Healing finally gives you access to love
Speaker 1: without losing yourself inside it. And this is the moment
Speaker 1: people mistake for losing passion. But it isn't a loss.
Speaker 1: It's evolution. Passion built on pain is not passion. It's
Speaker 1: trauma bonding. When that bond dissolves, the desire that felt
Speaker 1: like oxygen suddenly feels like poison. You won't desire people
Speaker 1: who wound you. You won't tolerate crumbs. You won't chase anyone.
Speaker 1: You won't beg for attention. You won't settle for uncertainty.
Speaker 1: You won't confuse chaos with chemistry. Because the wound that
Speaker 1: made you desire the wrong people is no longer in control.
Speaker 1: Your heart finally gets to choose without interference, and the
Speaker 1: choices will shock you because the people who feel like
Speaker 1: home now will not hurt you. The people who feel
Speaker 1: safe will not bore you. The people who stay will
Speaker 1: not scare you. The people who love you clearly will
Speaker 1: not trigger you. You will realize the person you're meant
Speaker 1: for doesn't activate the wound. They heal it just by existing.
Speaker 1: But desire is not done with you yet. It will
Speaker 1: try one more time to pull you backward, to test,
Speaker 1: to tempt you, to see if the wound still has power,