Speaker 1: Made destange.
Speaker 2: Pace Sunny Sun on I hadturdasion.
Speaker 3: Night.
Speaker 2: Hey everybody, what's up for crying out loud? I'm your host, Stephanie.
Speaker 4: Oh my god? Are we going to just phone it in?
We we had such a great interview. We have an
interview coming up.
Speaker 1: Yes with Stacy Garcia.
Speaker 4: Yes, I have.
Speaker 1: I missed a Monday podcast.
Speaker 4: We did our Patreon if you want to go back
and listen to it and catch up on everything that
happened with Peopo's dental work. Peopo, check your molar. We
did check her molar and it was things went sideways. Yeah,
things went sideways. That's our Patreon And then we already
did our first episode, so this is just like honestly,
we're on bonus time right right. Yeah, but on Tuesday
we were talking about college stuff, yes, and how much
how my kids are under pressure right now because they're juniors.
This is where they start. Just like, listen, I went
through this already with LB two years in a row.
You went through it with You're twins. Like enough already,
I would like to skip the whole Like, look, next
year a year.
Speaker 1: I need a year off, you need a gap year.
Speaker 4: I don't have to do the We don't have to
do the applications. We didn't have to do applications. But
they are really like on them about and also, and
this is going to lead us into the Kailin story,
but the kids are supposed to be knowing like what
they want in a college. And as you remember too,
like when you're a junior, you don't know what the
fuck you want in a college? Like how are you
supposed to know? First of all, they have to be
making decisions. Do you want to bake school? Do you
want a small school?
Speaker 1: What do you want to study?
Speaker 4: Wants?
Speaker 1: She want trees? That's the one she knew that LB wanted.
Speaker 4: Well, Lbie wanted to stay fairly close to home. Yeah,
she wanted to keep the weather. I don't think she
wanted to be I think a lot of her friends
were looking at UC's and I don't think she was
interested in going off to a different coast, right, Yeah,
And we were happy with her trying to get into
a UC because for the price, you know, as far
as she wanted to go to a big school. So
even though if you go to a smaller like Liberal
Arts school, they're more apt to give you scholarships. And
give you a discount, but she didn't. But those are
usually smaller schools, not like big universities, so she knew
she didn't want that. So that kind of narrowed our
focus to like, Okay, we could go see some schools,
but Sadie and Xander is like open to whatever, and
I'm like, I'm not gonna do. We can't afford to
go do a big East coast to go to a
bunch of schools that you may or not not get into, right,
So I'm just like, let's just wait. And but the
schools all on them, like look up schools, look at
They want them to.
Speaker 1: They want them to start looking at going on tours.
Speaker 4: Going on tours. They want them to really like start
researching colleges to see what they're interested in. My kids,
Xander doesn't have any idea what he wants to do.
He loves music, he likes theater. He's like, I don't
know what to major and I have a lot of interests.
Speaker 2: A lot of kids don't at that age. They don't
know what the what they want to do.
Speaker 4: But they really want kids to pick their major now
before they start school. I feel like when I was younger,
you could just apply for like Liberal arts. Yeah, but Kaylin,
you had you they made you go on tours. We
were talking about this on Tuesday.
Speaker 3: They didn't make me go on tours. My school was
very heavy into college prep, and like I was saying
on Tuesday episode, every one of my school's very smart. Everyone.
I had like one kid in my grade of seventy
five got a perfect score on his SAT. Two other
ones got essentially one wrong, so it was out of
twenty four hundred back then, so like they were getting
I was seeing kids get a twenty four hundred perfect
score on their SATs, and then I was coming back
with like a fourteen twenty like okay, right, uh oh
so yeah, they prepped a super heavy. Like junior year
is crazy.
Speaker 1: Because you went to a private high school. Yeah yeah, right,
you went.
Speaker 4: To Oakwood, which is like VERYI bougie.
Speaker 3: Yeah, boujie artsy though it's not like you know, we
could wear whatever clothes we wanted. We call it teach
by our first name. It's like bujie but artsy.
Speaker 4: It's the it's the valley's answer to crossroads, which was
you must have known about crossroads.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it sounds familiar. So they had done a an
East Coast college tour and a lot of the kids
went on it. They all talked about out going to
all these thing together. They went to all these colleges
together on the East Coast, and it sounded like fun,
you know. They were talking about it afterwards and they're like, okay,
now here's the program for the West Coast tour.
Speaker 4: But you didn't want to go on the East Coast one.
Speaker 3: I didn't want to go on the East Coast one.
I didn't even really want to go on the West
Coast one either. But my mom was like, eh, well
we should tell you up. I was like, okay, well
I'll just hang out with my friends and tour up
and down California. Like that's fine, because that's all it was.
It was just California on a bus.
Speaker 4: I remember this story so well, and it's such a
good story.
Speaker 3: I'm exciting now, so and just to put a little
perspective in it, like I was, and I am introverted,
kind of anxious person. I'm not very outgoing. I was like,
all right, I'll go on this West Coast tour. I'll
see some friends that will be hanging out. So I
drive down there, and I get there, it's.
Speaker 4: That wait, wait but wait, you didn't have those specific
friends that were going.
Speaker 3: Right, No, but again, since my grade was so small,
we were all kind of friends with every like we
all knew everybody, right, you're none of my good friends
were going, and like that was fine, I can hang out.
Speaker 4: Why weren't they going?
Speaker 3: Because we were Me and my friends were all the
dumb ones, right, you know, I don't know. For whatever reason,
none of my friends were.
Speaker 1: Maybe they went on the East Coast one.
Speaker 3: I don't I don't remember. I think a couple of
them might have. I'm not sure. I don't really remember.
Speaker 4: All right, but you're like, cool, cool, it'll be fine.
I'll see.
Speaker 3: It's like a week long, right, and it goes all
up California and or the other way around, down to
California and back up. And so I get there on
the Monday morning or whatever, and it's all we all
pick up at Laurel Hall, which is kind of another
like private or is it Campbell Hole, It's one of
those two. It's another one of those kind of private.
And I get there and like all the people are
arriving to go on the tour, and there's nobody from
my school showing up. I was like, uh oh, and
we're all like, all right, let's get on the bus. Now.
Not one person from my school signed up for the best,
so now I want to by myself. I know nobody
and everybody else as friends that they you know, so
they're all like I was like, oh great, this is
this is gonna suck. I have to spend a week
with these people I don't even know, and they're all
like in their friend groups. So yeah, I got on
the bus.
Speaker 4: Wouldn't have gotten on the bus, I know, I would
have been calling my mom. But you know, they didn't
have cell phones.
Speaker 3: Right, Well, here's the thing. We had cell phones, but
because I was gonna say, like in terms of like
entertaining myself, like these days you could just sit there
on your phone for a whole week and just do
what every social media wasn't.
Speaker 1: Like that back then, and they didn't have Wi Fi.
As you're on the bus.
Speaker 3: I had. It was like first generation iPhone had like
just come out. We had Facebook, but it still wasn't
even like a huge thing. So I didn't have a
phone with my apps and everything to keep me busy.
So like I had like a book and like music,
and that was it. And so yeah, we all got
on the bus and we drove down to San Diego
to tour you see San Diego and by the way too,
like I'm super heavy into college trap and it's like okay,
like I knew I was going to community college. Like
it was pretty sure at that point that I was
I was not getting into any of these you see
San Diego, stan for you see San Francisco's like, I'm
not fucking going to any of these schools.
Speaker 4: That's hilarious, it.
Speaker 3: Seemed, I think it was by the end of that
trip that's solidified, like yeah, okay, we're doing We're doing
san Monic Community College. Yeah we're hitting.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's the most tropical you're going to get.
Speaker 5: At least.
Speaker 3: I was like, there was like four other community college closer,
but I was like, I want to go to the
nice community college, and it is. Samon Community was very
nice and I liked it a lot, but I spent
the extra time to drive there. But yeah, we started
in San Diego. We went all the way up to
San Francisco.
Speaker 4: So wait, style don't skip over the juicy parts. No,
but wait, so do you start making any friends who.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 3: I just told you I'm a loner, introvert, and they
are already friends with each other.
Speaker 4: So like nobody reached who are you?
Speaker 3: What are you gonna say? By like, I don't know,
By day like four, I had made like a couple.
Speaker 1: Did you have to share a room with another kid?
Speaker 3: Yeah, like I think two or three other kids?
Speaker 1: So did were you become friends with them?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 3: We talked a little bit, but it was and so yeah,
by like day three or four, I had like made
a couple kind of friends. But yeah, there's a lot
of days there I was just sitting by myself going
like that.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and you're just at these schools, probably feel like
you're crawling out of your skin, Like I don't care
about this tour, youuring boring tour shit.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I kind of liked touring some of
the schools because it was still in the back of
mind like, Okay, I'm not getting into Stanford, but this
is what the experience is like, so I can find
another one that's kind of close to this. Chapman was
the one that I was going to apply to. Chapman
and Loyola Marymount or the two, which I think we
saw Loyola on the tour, but those were the two.
But it was it was kind of nice going around
the call just so you could like see what it
would be like to go to college, right, But I
knew I wasn't going to any of these schools, and
so yeah, it was okay for the first few days,
but then once we started getting up to like UC Berkeley,
I was like, Okay, this fucking get me home already.
I have like four more days till I can get
back in my bed. This sucks.
Speaker 4: Oh my god.
Speaker 2: Oh man, that's the most depressing, saddest thing. I can't
And you're such a good kid. I would have called
my mom and said, fucking come pick me up.
Speaker 3: Like, yeah, I was hoping, because we started in San Francisco.
I was hoping that we could just swing through LA
and I could just stop off and be like, I'm
not going on the rest of this spy and then
go away. But my mom was like, no, I fucking
paid for you to fucking drive all the way to
San francisc You're not doing that.
Speaker 2: I mean, all my kids would have said, like, there's
nobody I know on this thing. Nobody showed up. I'd
been like, Okay, where are you, I'll come pick you up.
Speaker 4: I know that's how we would have been. Yeah, yeah,
But I feel bad because even like those little trips
that you take, I'm sure you did this too, see
me the one that they go to, what's the place
that you take a little a ferry boat. You've gone
their ziplining, Oh, Catalina, see me. It's called see me cim.
It's like something institute of whatever. It's like a science trip.
And all the kids went in. I believe it's sixth grade.
Speaker 1: My kids never got to go to Kingam maybe.
Speaker 4: Fifth grade, fifth grade. They go there, and then there's
an astro camp that your school has never did that, No,
not there. There were like three different trips and Albie
went and had a great time because she's outgoing and
fun and likes everything. And then Xander had like an
okay time, and Sadie cried the whole time, like got sick,
she threw up, like she wanted to come home so bad,
Like she's my anxious introvert. You know.
Speaker 1: It's like I'm sure she probably threw because didn't they.
Speaker 4: Like, oh it'll be fine, like just go on the
trip and it'll be fine, like and she was like
traumatized by the time she got home for no reason.
But she didn't want to do any of the activities.
She didn't really have friends, and she was miserable the
whole time. And I'm like, I wish I mean, would
I have gone to get her. I don't know. Probably
not in Catalina.
Speaker 2: And Catalina because then you because you have to get
on a faerry, you got to book the fairy get there.
Speaker 4: So she had to tough it out. But I felt
so bad.
Speaker 2: She probably got sick going on that fairy because that
fairy makes everybody sick.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, everybody gets everybody's puking. I know of of it.
Speaker 3: I know we did that that trip at my school
and I loved it. It was great. That's where I
first went scuba diving, which I later.
Speaker 4: H everybody goes scuba diving, so you know you went there,
you did that. I I was with.
Speaker 3: My I was with my school, so that was cool.
Speaker 4: I was with my friends, right, the whole school goes. Yeah,
the whole grade goes, and like I said, and had fun.
You know, Actually Xander didn't have fun or not have fun,
but there were lots of pictures of him with friends
and like smiling and like it was fine. Yeah, Lbie
had a blast because that's who she is. But LB
will have a blast going to CVS, yes, right right,
She'll come home going best ive ever. God, I got
some new makeup, like you know whereas he goes city?
Do you want to go to CVS? I don't know.
Are you getting me some new mycellar water? Sure? Okay,
I guess I don't know. Could you just go and
bring me some back? Like you know, right, LB's go
drive somewhere for five minutes. I'm in what time you
want to go? Right now? Let me just get my shoes.
But so it's like two opposite ends of the spectrum.
Speaker 5: My kids.
Speaker 2: Wait, they did the Pennsylvania trip. They went to Pennsylvania,
right right?
Speaker 1: Did that?
Speaker 2: They went to see Amish country and then they went
to all the landmarks in the city.
Speaker 4: And you didn't you go as a chaperone? No oh wait,
but they were trying to get you to go as
a shaper.
Speaker 2: Maybe probably, but I was like no, no, no, oh,
Like yeah, like Sonny's best friend's dad was their chaperone? Yes, yeah, yeah,
he had the boys and then Natalia was like one
of her friends is mom. And then like I think,
like Natalia got on the early flight, but Sonny's flight
was delayed and they were at the airport for a
long time something like that, something happened.
Speaker 1: But but then, you know, they.
Speaker 2: Do the thing where you can get online every day
and like look at the pictures, like here's the pictures
posting right, and I'm always trying to look for my kids, like, well, oh,
I can see Sonny's ear in this picture. I never
saw my kids like barely ever, Like where at my kids?
Should I be worried because you can't talk to them.
You can't like you know, they're not riding home. It's
a quick tri it's not that long. They're gone for
like a four days or something. But then like you
go online, you want to see pictures of them, and
they were never in any of the pictures.
Speaker 4: It's so funny because LB with her cam mm hmmm.
So starting at whatever she was eleven with the first
time she went to sleep away camp, I was desperate.
I was like an addict, like just looking for a
little crumb of cocaine. With those pictures, every day they
would release the pictures, and I'd all day long, you know,
because it would be like in little patches and I
would be like, oh my god, a picture of a
picture of her. Oh my god, I could see elbe
she looks like does she look like she does having fun?
I like year eight of camp, I was like missing.
I was like, oh, my friends would be like, oh
the pictures. There's a bunch of pictures. I saw some
of Lbie. I'd be like, oh cool. You just completely
lose interest. I'm like, yeah, she's there having fun. I
know what she looks like. Yeah, But those first couple
of years, like, oh my god, she's been gone for
three days. I haven't see her.
Speaker 2: Face because, like they would get it was their first
time on an airplane without me, yes, and it was
the first time that they went away because my kids
never had camp where they were so it was the
first time they were on a trip and I could
not talk to them. But you get the updates from school,
like we've landed, we're here, everybody's fine, Like, but how
do you know my kids in the group, How do
you know my kid didn't get wandered off and is
in the bathroom at the airport, like probably Sonny would
be the stomach ache. Right, it could be in the
bathroom while you guys are on halfway to your place
you're staying. Yeah, you know, but so yeah, I remember
being like that, going like I want to see pictures
of my kids.
Speaker 4: I feel like that's why parents that are sending their
kids off to college for the first time, like you
sending Sonny. You know, I'm kind of glad I just
didn't have to go through that yet. Yeah, listen, it
might happen, you know, Xander might. I don't think Sadie
will happen with Sadie, but Xander might go away to
school and then that's going to be pretty devastating. But
I didn't have ever have to have that happen with LB, right.
I know she thankful.
Speaker 3: I know.
Speaker 4: I don't miss her. Yeah, it sounds so weird to say,
but I'm happy for her when she's like at school
and if I haven't talked to her in a couple
of days, like I'll text her and just go like
how are you. And the other day I had this
just I just was missing her and I was having
a weird sense about her. So I called her and
she was like, hi, Mama, and I was like, oh no,
what's wrong? And then something was wrong, like she was
having a hard time. And then I felt like, oh,
I have like a little bit of esp with her,
because then she was like can I come home? And
I was like, hell, yeah, I'm on my way. I'll
come get you right now. And she was like thank you,
and then she spent one night at home and then
she went back the next night. So but I was
I was so grateful to be able to like and
you could do that with Natalia even though she's likers
but if she was really having a hard time, she
would just be like I need to come home for
a couple of days.
Speaker 1: Yeah, for sure.
Speaker 4: Yeah, So I feel bad for people who's I know,
although it's right of passages. What all kids? Probably should you?
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like, I mean, you know, Sunny's out of state,
but I don't really worry too much about him. I
talked to him frequently on the phone. I can see
where he is, yeah, always on my.
Speaker 4: App Life three sixty. What a blessing, I know, you
know what else is a blessing? And then let's let's
take a break for our ad and then we're gonna
greet our guest who's gonna come on and you guys
are gonna love this interview. She's really awesome and inspiring
and has.
Speaker 1: A very good Yes. First, let's talk about quint.
Speaker 2: We love Quints, We love Quin's. We talk about Quint's
all the time. Kaylin's always dressed from head to toe
with Quinn's.
Speaker 3: It's gotten, It's seeped into my family at this point.
Now my family is exchanging Quinn's gifts at holidays and stuff.
Oh wow, I bought Amy a sweater that iewear now too.
Speaker 1: All that shot.
Speaker 2: See, the thing that we love about Quins' is it's
our go to for luxury, essential and affordable prices items
like the Mongolian cashmir sweaters and the Washables silk tops
and dresses and jewelry. They have fourteen care gold.
Speaker 4: Jewelry, bags and purses.
Speaker 2: Purses and bags and household items items. And the thing
we love about quins is we can they partner directly
with top factories, so Quins cuts out the cost of
the middleman and passes the savings onto us. So give
yourself the luxury you deserve with Quints. Go to quints
dot com slash f col for free shipping on your
order and three hundred and sixty five day returns. That's
qu i n ce dot com slash f cl to
get free shipping and three hundred and sixty five day returns.
That's quints dot com slash f col's Stephanie.
Speaker 4: Hi, I'm sitting right next to you right now.
Speaker 2: We're sitting next to the we are because it's freezing
and you're keeping me warm.
Speaker 4: What if I just start holding hands with you, like
Arianna and Cynthia, like Drew barrymore with everybody right right,
just gonna like as you talk, stare deeply in your eyes.
Speaker 2: We have a guest in studio. Special guest in studio,
Stacy Garcia. You have a podcast with our producer Kaylin. Uh,
never miss a Monday podcast, that's right, Yes, and uh,
you guys just started doing this right yes.
Speaker 5: Uh, my sixth episode was just released today.
Speaker 4: Oh yes, excited, very exciting. Thank you.
Speaker 1: Yes. And some of the tell some of the topics
that you that you cover.
Speaker 5: Yeah, so this season tends to be really focused on
survivor mindset. So I was diagnosed with breast cancer last May,
and I had already I was already planning the podcast
with my non negotiables. I'm a health coach, I'm a
reiki practitioner, I lovewal and wellness. And then when I
was diagnosed, I was like, Okay, like let's pivot and
let's take all of these amazing non negotiables that I
incorporate into my daily life and let's just share this
with the world, Like thank God for these because I
had like best case scenario and I leaned onto all this.
So all of the guests that come on have all
been survivors. So today it's Laura Cathcart Robins, who I
think is a survivor. I'm on Survivors with Addiction and
Rehab and Divorce.
Speaker 4: She's been on our podcast's amazing Stash Stash.
Speaker 1: She's a great best book.
Speaker 5: Have you guys read it? It's a phenomenal Oh.
Speaker 4: She's a really good friend of mine.
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, yeah, she's She's amazing. And then I had
patient zero, Greg Garfield of COVID Days. He was the
first patient in Los Angeles.
Speaker 1: Are you wow?
Speaker 5: So we thank him for bringing COVID.
Speaker 4: To LA Right, thank you Greg? Really?
Speaker 5: Yeah. So it's just in. My best friend was on
last week and she has a couple of kids that
she's had to advocate for with special needs, and she
had a father that passed away from brain cancer. And
so it's just really you know how to care for
yourself while you're going through something, or you know someone
that's going through something. So it's turned into a season
of like survivorship really, so it's been amazing.
Speaker 4: So tell us, like, Okay, so you were doing all
this stuff. I would love to hear just what happened.
I know, you know, we have primarily female listeners. No
offense to our male listeners, but a lot I think
a lot of our listeners have been through that have
been through a breast cancer diagnosis, and what was your
story with that.
Speaker 5: It's a strange story how we found it, to be honest. So,
I don't tend to remember my dreams all too often.
And I had a nightmare that shook me to my
core where I literally jumped out of bed and like screamed,
and my husband grabbed my chest and he was like
putting me down to bed. He's like, you're okay, you
just had a nightmare, and he felt my lamp. Really yes,
So I immediately called got a mammogram for the following day.
It came back clear. They're like, you don't have breast cancer.
And if I hadn't talked to other women that had
I wouldn't have known. Oh you got to advocate for
an ultrasound, right, And so I advocated ultrasound came back. Yes,
there's something that they were worried about, but it was
like a small chance of it being malignant. And then
I had a couple on the right too. They're like, oh,
those are totally benign. And with getting tested and then
the biopsyne coming back, they're like, oh, you have cancer.
And then things moved so quickly, like.
Speaker 2: So you went and had a mammogram and it was
like they said.
Speaker 1: You're fine.
Speaker 4: YEP, I would have never that extra Did you pay
for that extra special mammogram?
Speaker 5: No, there's like the three D or the four.
Speaker 4: D or something. I just had a I literally just
had a mammogram and got the results yesterday, and they
were like, do you want to pay forty dollars because
it's not covered by insurance to get this. AI looks
at it. It's a more effect. I don't know.
Speaker 5: I was like that, I'm gonna have to learn more
about that style. No, this was just a regular mammogram,
but I had ultra dense breast tissue. You do too, Okay,
so what does it say? It says at the very
bottom now because now there's there's been a lot that's
past that says. Then you know, what does it say?
Do you remember what it said when you got your results?
Speaker 4: It said that you have a higher chance of getting
breast cancer if you have dense breasts, and you may
need a better, better testing, like an ultrasound.
Speaker 5: Well that's amazing. Mine didn't say that, Okay, so that's
what it should say. Then you should go and like
get an ultrasound and get because there's no perfect imaging, right,
So mammograms usually can't pick up ultra dense breast tissue,
any moli, nancy, any lumps. Okay, they just can't. So
that's why ultrasounds are great. And now they're coming out
with radiation free testing because when you go for a mammogram,
you're getting a doseer radiation, so it's like counterproductive, you know.
But yeah, mammogram did not pick up my lump at all.
Speaker 4: Wow, Okay, so then what happened?
Speaker 1: So then you had to get an ultrasound.
Speaker 5: So I got the ultrasound and that's when they saw it.
And they saw two on the right, and then they
did a biopsy on the one and they were like, Okay,
you have cancer. I found out a week later, the
day after I already had an appointment with my surgeon.
My sister took me, and she knows me so well.
As soon as I got into her car, she put
on a meditation. I closed my eyes and then we
got to the surgeons. I was so centered. Without that,
I think I would have been tail spinning. I even
asked my surgeon, can I like record this so I
can go home and listen to it. And I'm sure
i'man to miss stuff and he wasn't comfortable with that.
But I had my sister, and you have to bring
someone with you as a second set of ears. And
I knew then and there in that office I was
having a bilateral mistectomy. I was like, it's time to remove.
I've been blessed with having two children. I got to
nurse them. I want to be around for them. I
want to be around for me, And so I decided
to be really aggressive because they kind of give you,
they lay out your choices. You can have a lump
back to me but then you're gona have to have radiation.
And my lump was right over my heart. And I've
known too many people that have had radiation on their
chest that now have heart issues for the rest of
your life. So it's talking to the right people and
kind of doing your own research. And I'm like, I
just want to remove and that's what I did. And
it was the hardest surgery to recover from, but I'm
so glad that I did, and then I'd have a
second one for my reconstruction. Like four months ago, I'm
still recovering from. I'm inpt. It's like it's such a
long process, but thank god.
Speaker 4: So because you did that, did that mean you didn't
have to have chemo or radiation?
Speaker 5: So this is another advancement in breast cancer, which is amazing.
They can test your tumor to see what the reoccurrence
rate will be. So my reoccurrence rate was so low
that I did not need chemotherapy would have done more
harm than good, which was like, oh my god. Ten
years ago women would just have to have it no
matter what. So that to me was everything to know
I wasn't going to lose, you know, my quality of
life going through this and then they kind of are like, oh,
but you're gonna be on this chemo pill for five years.
To Moxifin, it's no big deal type of a thing.
It kicked my ass, like it was so horrendous. I
lasted four months. I was having vertigo, nausea. Do you
remember like the extreme COVID fatigue, like you can't get
out of bed? I had that every single day.
Speaker 4: Were you having to take the pill every day?
Speaker 5: Pill every day?
Speaker 1: Wow?
Speaker 4: So you would have had to feel like that for
five years? There's no getting used to it.
Speaker 5: Yes, and get this. This is when I finally went
back to my in collegist. I'm like, I can't do this,
Like this is literally killing me. It puts you at
higher risk for blood clot stroke and other cancers. And
I was like, if this is if I'm if it's
not coming back, why am I doing this to myself?
And who's funding this study? Like what if I decide
not to does my four percent go to five percent
or does it go to fifteen percent?
Speaker 4: I don't know.
Speaker 5: Timoxafin funds it, so it's big farm of funding all
of this. And I asked him, I'm like, in your opinion.
You've been on call just for twenty years. When do
you see my type of cancer hormone positive come back
if it does, He's like, ten to twenty years. I said, oh,
so five years of taking this struggle will do nothing
for me. He's like, you're right. So I am now
with a homeopathic doctor on natural remedies, and I couldn't.
I literally feel better than I did pre cancer diagnosis.
Speaker 1: So when were you diagnosed?
Speaker 5: The mayor of twenty twenty four. May six of twenty twenty, Wow,
that not long, not a year ago. And then June sixth,
exactly a month later, I had a mistectomy.
Speaker 1: Wow.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so tell us about like how I mean, you
knew right away though that this was curable, Yes, right,
thank god? But you still had to tell your kids?
Speaker 5: Oh my god. Yes, of course that was the hardest
part because I'm so close to my children. I wanted
to tell them immediately. And my husband was the exact opposite,
because my husband, unfortunately grew up with a sick parent,
and he's like, we don't need to tell them because
we don't know. We don't know my stage, we don't
know my treatment plan, we don't know. And so I
ended up talking to a social worker and she just
gave me lots of videos of like how do you
tell your kids? I had a really good friend that
recently went through it gave me a lot of books
and I was trying to figure out the best way,
and I decided I need something. I just need to
tell them what they need to know, Like I don't
need to go a major detail, and I want to
present something really fun to do afterwards. So we went
we were gonna go to the Hollywood Bowl that night
to see the Lion King the like anniversary. So I
sat them down with my husband and I said, hey, kids,
mommy has something called breast cancer. Doctors say, I'm going
to be totally fine. I'm just gonna have surgery, and
you know, I'm gonna need your help around the house.
And I made it, you know, as fun and upbeat
as possible, because that's the truth. I didn't know what
was exactly going to happen. I didn't know on my stage.
But the doctors are like, you are going to be okay.
You know you got this early, like thank god, and
they were like okay. Like after a few days, they
absolutely started asking more questions and strangely enough, the second surgery,
the reconstruction, my baby, my eight year old, was having
a really hard time crying all the time. I want
normal mommy back because he couldn't cuddle me, he couldn't
be so close to me, and that killed him. But
with my first surgery, I was like, Okay, let me
dig into my support system. Let me find friends that
are willing to take the kids every single day, because
they my surgery was their second to last day of
school for the summer. Oh so then timing couldn't have
been better. And they had camp like a week and
a half later. But I had to fill those times and.
Speaker 4: Say, that sounds like bad timing because like then they're
home all day hanging out.
Speaker 5: I had a friend pick them up every single day
and take them and they did something different with different
friends every day. They had a support system, which was nice.
Speaker 1: She keeps their mind off of things. And how old
are your kids?
Speaker 5: My son is eight, my daughter's eleven. Okay, yeah, so
fifth grade and second grade and they were a year
younger when all this happened. So and I asked them
today like the silver linings as we talk about that,
and they're like the community the friends. They were just
felt so supported by their friends and their friend's parents
and everything. It was so amazing.
Speaker 2: You're eleven year old is on your Instagram and interviewing
her and she's so cute.
Speaker 1: Like, what have you learned since mommy is? You know?
Had is that? I don't know how you said it.
She's like, I learned how to do the laundry.
Speaker 4: That's right. God. Yeah.
Speaker 5: And now she's still Tuesday nights she makes smash burger.
She makes like burger buls for us. She now knows
how to cook.
Speaker 1: That's amazing.
Speaker 5: So like, hello, it's amazing silver light. Yeah right, yeah,
she's so proud of herself for it. She still does
it every week.
Speaker 1: That's so cute, so sweet, it's amazing.
Speaker 4: Recently I do Hello fresh okay sometimes And recently I
asked my daughter who's seventeen, Hey, I have to teach
Mommy has to teach class.
Speaker 3: Why.
Speaker 4: I didn't say it like that because she's seventeen, but
I said, I have to teach class. How about like
you've just follow the recipe and like make dinner. And
she was like, no, thanks, no stepping up in my house.
She was like, I'm really tired. And have homework, and
I was like, okay, nevermind, do it as soon as
I'm unfinished. So you're lucky.
Speaker 5: I'm so lucky and I know that for sure.
Speaker 1: They both, Yeah, you what do you do for a living?
Is is your holistic coach?
Speaker 5: Yes?
Speaker 1: And you do a lot of meditating.
Speaker 2: You're doing, you know, the reiky thing, and that's what
you were doing.
Speaker 5: I actually was a personal trainer for fifteen years. My
husband owned a gym and so I worked there for
fifteen years. We ended up closing a week before my
surgery completely like it just wasn't like coincidental, it just
was time to do that. So thankfully I didn't have
to rush to get back to work and I got
to really heal, which was an amazing gift to have.
Not everyone has that. And then during my recovery, my
sister gifted me two reiki sessions and I started going,
like two weeks into my recovery, I'm like, what is this?
This is like amazing. I've never felt so calm. I've
been a meditator my whole life, but this is like
just a different level.
Speaker 2: It is the reki because they don't they don't touch
you right like they don't put their hands.
Speaker 5: On and some is light touch, some is like covering. Yeah,
but it's like life force energy, and it's something we
all have. I've just been learned. I've just been taught
how to utilize it. I'm like a vessel giving someone
energy and then they kind of give it back. It's
like this full circle. So I feel invigorated, but I
could kind of feel like in the chakras where energy
is really you know, tight, if there's even an injury,
a physical injury, it can help that, or just you
could feel really relaxed. I give reykey to my family
all the time.
Speaker 1: Wow, that's zah.
Speaker 4: And what did your husband so you close the gym
before your surgery and then was he doing something else?
Speaker 5: Yes, So, strangely enough, a couple of years before that,
he got into dog training as well, and so he
went training humans to training dogs overnight. And he's been
able to do that out of the house. So luckily
he was home with me. So there was a lot
of weird silver linings at the timing of all of
it too.
Speaker 4: So he was trying to build a new business.
Speaker 5: Yes, he was wearing a lot of hats, caring for
the kids, the business me. I had caregivers like family
and friends coming in and out because I couldn't even
feed myself for a very long time. I had no
use of my arms.
Speaker 4: Oh really, Oh it was awful. Yeah, because of this,
because of the pain.
Speaker 5: So when you realize just lifting a fork you're using
chest muscles, I was raw. It was so incredibly painful.
So people needed to come and help me, like live.
Speaker 2: Much yeah real, Yeah, that's amazing. But the show started
about friendships and how well, I mean, that's the first
thing you rely on when you get a diagnosis like
this is to you have to have your support team,
especially in your kids, for your kids, for you, you know,
So how how was that?
Speaker 1: What was that? Like? That was?
Speaker 5: You know, it's interesting because certain people you feel like
are going to be the first ones there were not.
And then I had other friends that I didn't expect
to step up, such as Laura Cathcott Robin. She's a
very dear friend. But the way she stepped up was
like unreal to me, just out of you know, out
of the box, stepping up for me checking Oh my god,
your meal trained someone forgot this day. I'm bringing you
food this day, Like it was just so unbelievable. So
it was massively disappointing with the friendships that didn't follow through.
And I not only was grieving losing body parts, but
I was losing friends at the same time. It was
a lot of grief and the reiki therapy, friends, family
really helped me through it. But I tried hard to
focus on those that were really surprising me and really
like stood up. And I had mom friends that kind
of all together like came to my home and like
they gave me like five hundred bucks, like here, have
a housekeeper come and help you out for as long
as you need. Like it was just like, oh my god,
that one. No, but like it definitely it definitely helped
come twice, right, But it definitely was something you know,
just thinking of, like what can we do for Stacy
without her asking?
Speaker 3: You know.
Speaker 5: It was so incredibly kind and sweet.
Speaker 4: But so somebody that you were very close to though
didn't show up. Like I want to hear about that
because I had a friendship breakup and you're like, yeah,
not friends with somebody, and you called it something I
thought it was so interesting.
Speaker 5: Well for me, it's called cancer ghosting because that's what
I had I was like, why is this happening? Does
this happen to other people during like a big life
altering event? And so and I even talked about it
with Laura and on the podcast that came out today.
With Laura, I was like, God, when you're going through recovery,
are you losing friends? Like maybe these were friends used
to drink with all of a sudden, you're not drinking.
Are they not asking you, you know, hang out anymore?
She was like, no, but it was really with divorce.
She lost a lot of friends, And so I think
it's any kind of life experience. For me, it was
cancer and I didn't know if it was triggering. I
didn't know. I think some people don't know how to
be there, and I think some people get really scared
for whatever reason and just kind of are not available
to Like they were too busy, they were doing other
things with their family and they and I just felt
like I wasn't a priority in the time I needed
them the most. And it was a killer.
Speaker 4: Did you have like, but there was one specific friend
right that you were like really close with? Yeah, did
you ever tell that person like, day, this sucks? What happened?
Speaker 5: I finally woke up one day and I was like,
I just need like I had said in text messages,
like I need you can we please get together? And
it like it was just ghosting until finally I had
to pick up the phone and be like, I am
so hurt, like so hurt. What is going on? Could
it be excellent? And I just didn't get the answers
I want. I just got I'm just too busy. And
that just killed me. It just absolutely killed me.
Speaker 1: That's insane.
Speaker 4: And so what did you do? Did you just go Okay, well,
I'm gonna need to take a step back.
Speaker 5: That's exactly what I said. I said I need time
because the conversation was just going in circles and I
wasn't getting what I needed. All I needed to hear
was I messed up. I'm sorry, like I'll be there
for you because I was still recovering. This wasn't like
I had cancer years ago. You know, it just and
by the way, after you have cancer, it's like you're
always doing what you can so it doesn't come back.
It's always in the back of your mind.
Speaker 1: You know.
Speaker 5: It's not like you go back to normal, you go
to your new normal. But this was like three months
after my double mastectomy, and I just said, ah, yeah,
I need a step back. And I said, I hope
one day you can, you know, put yourself in my position.
I can heal a little bit and we can have
a great conversation and move forward. And that never happened.
She never reached out to me again ever.
Speaker 4: Again.
Speaker 5: It was little text here and there, but not like
to heal anything. And now I don't hear from her
at all.
Speaker 1: Wow.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, I had I wonder when at if. I mean,
I feel like we've talked about this a lot. I
had a friend, because you were saying before we started
recording that this was a friend of like thirty years,
and I had a friend of thirty years. It was
a little different because she has mental health issues, but
it was a lot of me kind of taking care
of her and being like and no, not that I
needed the reciprocity, but it was more like at a
certain point, you just feel like you're kind of being abused,
you know, and you're like, I can't just base this
relationship on legacy, you know, there has to be some
sort of like I can't be the only one that
is seen, like you don't get to just be an
asshole and go, well, I have this mental illness. It's like, oh,
absolutely not okay, but I allow for so much and
put up with so much, and then I would get like,
I'm so I would get a sorry, but after the
fact there'd be like an episode and then really a
lot of abuse, and then I would get like sorry
about that. I was like in an episode and I'd
be like, oh, okay, And at a certain point I
was like, yeah, I'm so sorry. I can't, like, you
can't just do this and be abusive and tell people
your friends that I'm evil or like, and then later
go like yeah, I was really out of my mind.
Well sorry, like, and it just came a point where
it wasn't like a a big fight or anything, but
I was like, I can't. I can't keep doing this cycle.
I'm so sorry.
Speaker 5: But like, have you read The Let Them Theory by
Mel Robbins. No, it's a must read, Okay, So I
read that that came out I think it was Christmas
Eve this last year, and I read it right away
and that helped so much with taking the guilt out.
So it's pretty much the book about you've got to
let people do what they're going to do. But the
let it's let them and let me, and it's how
you're going to react and how you're going to set
your boundaries is really the most important, right And one
quote there was like that really took the guilt out
of really the personal attack was people can only meet
you as far as they've met themselves. Like, sit on
that for a second. Yeah, so why are you expecting
someone to meet you where they haven't done the personal work, right?
And so that was kind of like, oh, I'm never
going to get what I want, so I need to
do the let me and I need to take a
step back to protect. So it's kind of going through
a healing journey where it's like a lot of women
do that where they over extend, over extend, and if
you just pull away and you realize that person's not
meeting you, oh man, that wasn't a real friendship, was it?
Speaker 3: Well?
Speaker 4: You know what I think a lot of women do.
A lot of us have people pleasing tendencies, right, yes,
and then we people please and people please, and we're
scared of people being mad at us. But then resentment
builds because we're like, why am I doing all this?
Stuff for other people and worried about their feelings so
much and they're not worried about mine. That's right, right,
And then you start getting pissed, right, and then all
of a sudden you're mad and they're like, whoa, you're crazy,
Like I never signed up for that, or you know.
I was noticing that in My daughter, who's in college,
was recognizing that in herself because she was getting upset
with a person that I was like, but you never
told you never made those boundaries. You allowed and allowed
and allowed this behavior, and now you're really mad and
it built up and then you yelled, which is very
unlike her. And she's like, I'm so scared of people
being mad at me. I have to stop being scared.
I not everyone needs to like me. And I was like, yes,
you're allowed to be an asshole. Sometimes you're allowed to
say what you need.
Speaker 1: Absolutely, but it's hard if it goes against your nature.
Speaker 5: Yes, your nature is.
Speaker 1: To like kind of just be the.
Speaker 2: People pleaser, I guess, or like just kind of like
you know, there's always one there. Like I had a
friend in my life that she went through a bad
divorce way before I went through my divorce, and she
I tried to be there for her, and a bunch
of other friends were trying to be there for her,
but she kept pushing us away because she really wanted to.
Speaker 1: She felt.
Speaker 2: So she was so bitter, she did not want the
divorce and that we all continued on with our friends
with her ex husband stuff like that.
Speaker 1: So she was she got.
Speaker 2: Really but then she got remarried and then she was fine.
But then as soon as she and but I didn't
hear for her for years, but as soon as she
heard I was getting a divorce, it was like misery
loves company and she wanted to reach out to me.
And then like like, ah, doesn't divorce suck? And it's like, well,
I mean my divorce wasn't like your divorce. It's actually
nothing is this like we're not we don't have anything
in common with our divorces the different reasons.
Speaker 5: But yeah, as soon as it's just.
Speaker 2: Like one of those people that like misery loves company
kind of thing. Yes, I don't know if you've experienced that,
like if you have other people I don't know, having
cancer diagnosis, maybe like feeling like they do, you know,
didn't want to reach out or didn't want you know,
to be a burden or something, but then came back
later when they found out you had cancer.
Speaker 5: I didn't have too much of that.
Speaker 4: You know what you're gonna have though, tell me you're
gonna have the ones that really weren't there for you.
But then later they're gonna get diagnosed with breast cancer
and they're gonna be like, hey, sorry, I really wasn't
there for you. I didn't get it, but like now
I have, like you, what should I do? What did
you eat? What doctors did you go to? What treat there?
All of a sudden gonna be super interested, right, I.
Speaker 5: Mean, it's gonna happen. It's like when in every seven
or eight women get diagnosed with breast can and men too.
The men listening, like it can happen to men too.
It's rare, but it happens, you know, and it's happening
so frequently, so I don't doubt that possibly happening at
some point.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and then you're gonna be like mad, but you're
gonna go like, oh, I get it. You're gonna have empathy.
I will.
Speaker 1: Should we take a quick break? All right, we're back.
Speaker 4: Yeah, It's it is so interesting, like when you go
through an experience, it probably for you too, you know,
when you're facing like even though you weren't told you're
not going to survive, but I'm sure there it's just
a scary, like, right, you don't know one hundred percent,
you don't know, especially when you don't know how involved
it is. What you know, like, that's something that's really profound,
I'm sure for you, and changes you're thinking about things
and changes what like what's important.
Speaker 5: Absolutely that was huge. So the day I was diagnosed,
I was like, oh my god, it's like you completely changed.
When I went to go see Wicked in the theaters
and the last song to find Gravity when Cinthia Reva
comes out and she talks about something has changed within me,
it was like water works, like immediately, and I was like,
I feel that so hard. It's like I immediately changed
the month from diagnosis to surgery. I'd not know what
stage I was. That was scary as all hell. And
then I had to wait like five days for the
lab results to come back, like the pathology of like okay,
you're officially stage one, thank god. Then a few days
later like I don't think you're gonna need chemo your reoccurrence.
I was like, thank God. So I remember just like
sitting on the couch waiting for these calls and just
celebrating these wins. And so my birthday was a month later,
and I was like I need to have a party,
like I need to like thank God on cancer free party.
And those friends like that didn't show up to that
in certain things, and it was just like, how do
you not show up to something like that? Like it
was you know, And I did change because I was like,
don't don't ever sweat the small stuff, but also create
those boundaries so that big stuff does not come in
and eat you up. Because any woman you talk to
that has been diagnosed, they'll tell you the year before
their diagnosis was probably the most stressful year of their life.
I thought I was doing everything right. I was like,
how am I three and have breast cancer? I am vegetarian.
I'm pretty much vegan. I just eat pasture raised eggs,
I exercise every day, I meditate. I'm like, what am
I doing wrong? Is the way I was handling my stress.
I'm almost positive over that, And that's where the reiki
like really helped. But yeah, you can go crazy like
Oh my god, I'm doing all these things. I'm so healthy.
How does this happen? So it does make you definitely
shift your mindset.
Speaker 4: Well, how do you think you were handling your stress badly?
Speaker 5: I think it was internalized, Like I think I would
meditate in the morning and go about my day not
realizing maybe I was holding my breath a lot. What
I you know, like the thoughts coming through all the time.
It just nowadays I'm more mindful about how I am
throughout the entire day. If I start feeling getting worked up,
I stop and I just like breathe for a few minutes.
I wasn't doing that before. I self heal. I can
do self healing on myself with raiki every single day too,
So I'm very conscious. I now probably meditate around a
half an hour a day as opposed to maybe used
to be ten minutes and like throughout the day. But
it has it has definitely changed. I mean even exercise.
I now like forest bathe, I go hike as much
as I can, and I'm out in nature as opposed
to hitting the gym. You know, it's lowthier.
Speaker 2: So if it's still crazy to me that the way
you the way you found out it isn't it wild? Yeah,
so you didn't have any there's no symptom.
Speaker 4: That's basically your husband just felt you up.
Speaker 5: It's exactly what happened, and I'm forever grateful for.
Speaker 1: That is What did the doctor say, what if that
didn't have? Like did you have the.
Speaker 5: Scary part about breast cancer? So if you're not doing
self exams, I wasn't. It wasn't on my radar. I
go in for my mammogram once a year, but it
never would have got it. So then it was like,
oh my god, could you imagine that's that's the scary
part of breast cancer when it's advanced so dramatically. I
was so lucky that it was caught so early. So
it's like women like feel yourself up in the shower,
like you got to see if there's any kind of
changes happening, because I could feel it with my hand.
That's the best way to know if there's anything. There
is no pain or anything, no pain, nothing.
Speaker 4: It's so weird you could feel it with your hand,
and yet the mammogram didn't. How could a marmigram not
see something that you can actually feel.
Speaker 5: Because a mammogram it's like everything is like white.
Speaker 1: It's dense.
Speaker 5: It's dense, and if you have dense breast issue, nothing
is going to show through that like your breast, their
denseness is going to hide your lumps. So that's why
they now, thank god, there's a law pass saying, like,
you have this dense breast issue, you need to go
find other modalities of finding out. Ultrasounds are great and
there's sound waves, there's no radiation, but they're not going
to be covered, you know, like mammograms are. But spend
the extra whatever it is, seventy five bucks and get
the ultrasounds too. And some some people even do that
and they switch off every year. Mammogram ultrasound.
Speaker 2: Interesting the ultrasound your obg y n No, it was
like a radiologist, okay, yeah, but it was so concerning
when I found two on the right, when they said
they're benign, and then when the pathology results came back,
my doctors like, thank god, you listen to your body
and remove both because they were already almost pre cancerous.
Like I was going to have to do it all again,
and I did not want to deal with that.
Speaker 4: You know what's interesting, since we're ostensibly a parenting podcasting
or not anymore. But the amount of care and prevention
and that we will do for our kids, yes, right,
that we don't do for ourselves. Like I rarely go
to the dentist enough, and yet I complain about my teeth,
but like I don't go for regular check ups, but
my kids like luck work. Yeah, you know, my kids
get physicals every year. My kids get like all the
things I do. Go get my pap smear and get
my mammogram every year. Okay, but just because I get
minded about it and because it's once a year, but
imagine all the things my kids with their therapy. But
we come last on our list as we should.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I haven't had a mammogram in a while, okay, God.
Speaker 5: But I do have to as here, I do have.
Speaker 2: I do have one on the book scheduled in like
three weeks from now. Okay, So but now I'm like,
should I have the ultrasound? Should schedule I would ask
for it?
Speaker 4: Yeah?
Speaker 5: Absolutely, I think you could see you could find things
a lot easier through that. But do you know if
you have done breast tissue? I do, yeah, and most
women do. That's the crazy thing. It's like, why are
we so outdated this mammogram? And I do know there's
this integrative oncologists in the East Coast where she's developed
a radiation free like mammogram. It's like a really great imaging,
but it's only in two of the states right now,
so it's like everyone needs to catch up and get
on board and have like safer, healthier ways of.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I just hate putting my boob in that machineful.
It's all the worst feeling.
Speaker 5: And I'll never have to do it again.
Speaker 2: I know, I'm always afraid an earthquake is gonna happen
my boob is stuck in the machine.
Speaker 4: That is a weird fear, it is.
Speaker 5: I like, it's very.
Speaker 2: Random, like hold your breath. I'm like, okay, what if
there's an earthquake then.
Speaker 5: They probably just have to retake it. But yeah, I
know you think about those things when you're.
Speaker 1: Like the power shuts down.
Speaker 5: Oh, that would be even worse. Yeah, like getting stuck
in an elevator, getting stuck in a mammogram machine.
Speaker 1: Yah, imagine my worst nightmare.
Speaker 4: These mammogram texts too, can be so grouchy. They can
they're nice, but sometimes they're just like they don't want
to be there right, and then they're like okay. They
act like you don't know what you're doing when you're like, yeah,
I don't know what i'm doing. I do this once
a year. I'm sorry. I forgot in between their like
stand no to the side, to the more to the side,
face me, put your arm here on this handle, and
you're like hold your bread right, And then I get
really tense about having to hold my brea for sure.
I'm like I started like higher ventilating a little bit
and then they're like okay, and hold it, and I'm
like I didn't get a good breathen and then you
get worried you're gonna have to hold it for too long.
And then they're like okay, breathe and you're.
Speaker 1: Like very it is very, very racking.
Speaker 5: Absolutely.
Speaker 4: So I just had a mammogram, like I was telling you,
just literally like a week ago. And so they it's
like a cattle call, right. There's like a bunch of
you and you're sitting there right, and then they go
go in this room and you're gonna put on a gown,
but they give it the instructions like super fast. They
go go in the room, put on the gown. Then
you're gonna go into this You're gonna lock your valuables
in this thing. And then the instructions are really crazy,
and the last one I was like, you know what,
I'm not doing that. I'm just gonna take my purse
with me for you who go check me boo, come
for me. I don't care. I'm keeping my purse with me.
I'm not No, the man is not going to keep
me down. And sure enough there were other people that
we like, wait, my stuff got locked in the thing
and I don't remember what my combination was and the
woman goes, yeah, that happens all the time. Nobody said
anything to me. I just sat there with my clothes
on my lap, my shirt and my bra and my
purse and nobody is like, we told you to put
your stuff in the banker. It was all I was
all scared, right yeah, well yeah, but it was yeah, because.
Speaker 2: They give you the directions on how to lock you know,
push this button twice, then hit the key button, then
hit the thing, then turn around and yeah, and you're
like wait, what say it again?
Speaker 4: Like this is you know, ants than the mammogram technology
with the locker.
Speaker 5: Yes, I have a lot of memories staying in that room.
It's so uncomfortable. But I started seeing women bringing their
stuff into and it's not an MRI room. It's not
like if you have some metal it's going to like attach.
So it's like, yeah, bring your bag. Yeah, that's not
so stressful.
Speaker 4: Yeah exactly. Oh my gosh, So tell us about Okay,
so you have this podcast now and it's called what
about Months?
Speaker 5: Never miss a Monday, Never.
Speaker 4: Miss a Monday. What is the meaning of the title
of the show.
Speaker 5: So when I owned my gym with my husband, I
would tell every client on Monday, never miss a Monday workout,
because it'll set up your whole week. If you miss Monday,
you're probably going to miss Tuesday. They're probably going to
miss Wednesday. And that goes with anything. So that's why
that that's how it came to be, is like I
never miss a Monday with working out. I never miss
a Monday meditation and you know, and it's so it's
just with my experience of just never missing these days
and it could be any day of the week, right,
but Monday really sets our week up for success.
Speaker 1: It makes sense.
Speaker 4: Yeah, look at us, we record every Monday. I never
miss a Monday.
Speaker 1: Never miss Monday.
Speaker 5: It's amazing. See there you.
Speaker 4: Go, except every once in a while when we have
to reschedule for Tuesday. But we don't miss our Tuesday night.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's our Tuesday.
Speaker 5: Yeah.
Speaker 1: We always start it at the beginning of the week. Yeah. Yeah.
And what so you just started doing it recently?
Speaker 5: Yes?
Speaker 1: And was it because you were diagnosed or would you
you were just going to do it.
Speaker 5: I was already going to do it. I ended up
taking a course by Laura a year ago, a podcasting
like one oh one, and I was like, oh, this
is really neat. So before I was a gym owner,
I was a dancer. I'm third generation in my family
and my mom was a professional dancer, my grandmother and
I just loved the creative aspect of it, and so
I was like, I definitely knew I wanted to do something.
We had the title. It was going to be based
on my life as a health coach and as a trainer,
and then the diagnosis and then it was a pivot,
and it was I brought on a lot of people
that helped me, a lot of specialists, other women with
breast cancer going through their journeys, and so it turned
into this cool, new, awesome season that I just really
loved recording. It was amazing.
Speaker 4: So you're recording it by season, like you're mass recording
a bunch of them, and then you're gonna, yes, release
some week by week. So how many are available right now?
Speaker 5: So there's six available.
Speaker 4: Right now available? Okay, but you've recorded more.
Speaker 5: We've recorded more, so we have two more. There's eight
for the first season and it'll have like a three
week hiatus and then go right into season two.
Speaker 4: Okay, interesting.
Speaker 1: Nice. Yeah.
Speaker 4: How'd you find Kaylin? Oh? Through Laura?
Speaker 5: Yeah, through Lauren Scott.
Speaker 4: Yes, when you took the podcasting class, because I taught
one with Laura. Oh, I think, but it was just her.
It was just okay, Okay, Laura and I've done some
workshops together for other stuff, for like pitching agents and
for getting published in like like on websites and magazines. Yeah,
that's awesome. I know, I've known Laura for a long time.
Speaker 5: Laura's amazing.
Speaker 4: Through sobriety, she's my Yeah, that's how you guys met. Yeah.
Speaker 5: Oh, that's amazing.
Speaker 4: Many years ago, almost sixteen years ago.
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, wow, because I got.
Speaker 4: Sober sixteen years. Yeah. So I got sober May of
two thousand and nine, and I met her right away,
like a very early sobriety, and she was like, yeah,
not that far ahead of me. So yeah, Like I
helped her celebrate her first birthday that sobriety. Yeah, and
then we've been friends ever since.
Speaker 5: That's so neat.
Speaker 4: Yeah yeah yeah yeah. And I did her podcast when
she first started it. I was like one of her
early guests the first season, yeah, of the only one
in the room. Yeah yeah, which she just discontinued.
Speaker 3: We're taking a little break right now, you're taking a.
Speaker 4: Break, taking a little break. Yeah yeah. Yeah. So I've
known her for a long time. Yeah, I love that.
Speaker 2: Well, well, you wish you all the best of luck.
Appreciate it having me on, Yeah, of course. And and which.
Speaker 4: Day does the episode drop?
Speaker 5: Monday?
Speaker 1: Monday?
Speaker 5: Monday?
Speaker 4: Yes, awesome. Okay, anyway, do you have a like Instagram?
Speaker 5: I do any Instagram? Self care with Stacy hyphens in
between each and never miss a Monday podcast.
Speaker 4: Okay, awesome, thank you, Yeah, Okay, hopefully we'll talk to
you soon. Sounds good. Okay, Well that was so fun
having Stacy.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that was really her. Yeah, that was she was
really sweet.
Speaker 4: Yes, but before we go, let's we haven't said hello
to our friends yet. We have Dick.
Speaker 5: Frolicker and Kelly Lady dog.
Speaker 4: Katie's rolling Une or pot. I don't know what she's
up to. Nikki call your girl. And Elizabeth Williamson has
a lot of kids. And Rita's just jamming out like
rocking them in and Polly, we love your pancakes. Valerie
hits it out of the park. Katerina please get yeah,
you know self carey check, Yeah, Missy and Gabby come on,
girls together.
Speaker 5: So cute.
Speaker 4: Kelly Brandt, Yeah, she'll take you to go, mamg Alicia
Escalante from the City of all Monte Leslie with the
coughing still Aaron's a dirty Sanchez. Jennifer, get up, Sandra,
it's not easy being green. Athena. We love your dancing.
Stephanie is a stinger drinker. Also, our last business shout
outs that we didn't get to on Tuesday, Sergio is
highlighting the ASPCA. Please give them money. They do so
much good work with our pets, our dogs or cats.
I don't know if they do bunnies, but you know,
give them some money. Also The Get Up Show. It's
a podcast for kids. It's a morning variety show podcast
that gets them from snooze to shoes. They incorporate yoga
and music and jokes and learning and lots of fun.
The Get Up Show, Give it to your kids. And
Adams got a car. He will get you a car.
He's helped Kaylin. Yeah, he's helped me. He got me
my tig one. He's helped countless people. He helped Robin, Robin.
Speaker 3: Uh.
Speaker 4: And he will save you a lot of money. Also,
our friend Laura Wingfield is promoting qy RC Vancouver wa
dot org. That's the Queer Youth Resource in Vancouver, Washington.
It's really important research resource for queer kids of all stripes.
And please please help give them money because with this
current administration they've had their funding cut. Also, Ferncandle, it's our.
Speaker 1: Girl, Kelsey my Ferncandle.
Speaker 4: Yeah, she runs this business out of her home and
makes delicious smelling candles like tobacco, sage and lavender sandalwood.
And find her on Instagram at Ferncandle or her website
ferncandle dot com. And yeah, that's it.
Speaker 1: That's it, all right, Thanks everybody, you're a parent now,
don't have it up
Speaker 3: Manning