WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.160 --> 00:00:03.720 This is Pod Popular Podcast for the People. 2 00:00:08.439 --> 00:00:13.480 The Great Love Debate. It's a Great Love Debate, The 3 00:00:13.599 --> 00:00:14.919 Great Love Debate. 4 00:00:15.839 --> 00:00:17.399 It's a Great Love Debate. 5 00:00:17.679 --> 00:00:21.480 Hi Enner Munch, Brian Howie, Welcome to Great Love Debate, 6 00:00:21.519 --> 00:00:24.800 the world's number one dating and relationship podcast. Its twenty fifteen. 7 00:00:24.920 --> 00:00:28.440 I'm here in the very fine studios of Pod Popular 8 00:00:28.559 --> 00:00:30.640 Podcasts for the People. I am at the one in 9 00:00:30.719 --> 00:00:34.799 bolk Raton, Florida. I'm in a in a studio within 10 00:00:34.840 --> 00:00:36.840 the studio called the Pop Pod. And the thing about 11 00:00:36.840 --> 00:00:40.439 this studio is it has three very very fancy cameras. 12 00:00:40.520 --> 00:00:44.119 I don't use. You got a lot of guys right like, 13 00:00:44.159 --> 00:00:44.799 why is there no. 14 00:00:44.799 --> 00:00:47.799 Video on this podcast? It's twenty twenty five, blah blah blah. Well, 15 00:00:48.119 --> 00:00:49.880 I have been recording for a long long time. This 16 00:00:49.920 --> 00:00:53.640 is episode four ninety nine, so we're almost there, and 17 00:00:53.679 --> 00:00:55.439 you guys are gonna like the five hundredth episode. By 18 00:00:55.479 --> 00:00:59.640 the way, when I started podcasting back in the day, 19 00:00:59.840 --> 00:01:02.679 the way that you could get people to appear on 20 00:01:02.719 --> 00:01:05.799 your podcast, especially women, especially famous women that I had 21 00:01:05.799 --> 00:01:09.319 a lot of back in my Beverly Hills podcast studio days, 22 00:01:09.959 --> 00:01:12.599 was they would be like, no cameras right, No cameras right, Like, 23 00:01:12.640 --> 00:01:14.920 that was a really big thing and I kind of 24 00:01:14.959 --> 00:01:15.560 got used to it. 25 00:01:15.640 --> 00:01:17.319 I like sort of the theater of the mind. I 26 00:01:17.439 --> 00:01:18.760 like all of that kind of stuff. 27 00:01:19.280 --> 00:01:21.400 Now it's swung the other way that most of our 28 00:01:21.439 --> 00:01:24.560 guests want cameras and people want video and whatever. And 29 00:01:24.599 --> 00:01:26.680 it's kind of unfortunate because a lot of women have 30 00:01:26.719 --> 00:01:28.799 been scared out of the podcast game because they don't 31 00:01:28.799 --> 00:01:29.560 want to play that game. 32 00:01:29.599 --> 00:01:31.079 They don't want to be do hair and makeup, and 33 00:01:31.079 --> 00:01:32.879 they don't want to have to look good and so 34 00:01:33.359 --> 00:01:34.159 two sides of the coin. 35 00:01:34.200 --> 00:01:36.400 So the reason I'm bringing this up is probably because 36 00:01:36.439 --> 00:01:39.200 there's some fancy neck new technology that's gonna like me 37 00:01:39.319 --> 00:01:39.920 really well. 38 00:01:40.040 --> 00:01:42.519 I'm still very cute, but maybe I'm not as cute 39 00:01:42.519 --> 00:01:45.000 as four hundred and nine nine episodes ago. Good lighting 40 00:01:45.040 --> 00:01:45.519 will help that. 41 00:01:45.560 --> 00:01:49.879 So there's gonna be some video element coming soon, at 42 00:01:49.959 --> 00:01:51.599 least for the socials. You're never gonna be able to 43 00:01:51.599 --> 00:01:53.480 watch the whole thing on YouTube, so sorry, you have 44 00:01:53.519 --> 00:01:57.000 to hit Spotify or Apple. Second thing somebody mentioned the 45 00:01:57.079 --> 00:02:01.439 other day, They said that you always describe every single 46 00:02:02.159 --> 00:02:06.239 female guest that you have on your podcast as lovely 47 00:02:06.959 --> 00:02:09.080 and they go, that's such an interesting why do you 48 00:02:09.159 --> 00:02:11.800 use that word. There's a reason why I use that word. 49 00:02:13.159 --> 00:02:15.199 I used to watch Letterman all the time, like my 50 00:02:15.360 --> 00:02:18.680 generation did. Letterman was like a god to us, and 51 00:02:18.719 --> 00:02:22.960 I noticed that every woman guest that he had on, 52 00:02:23.240 --> 00:02:25.919 he'd be like ladies and gentlemen, the lovely Julie Roberts, 53 00:02:25.960 --> 00:02:28.400 the lovely Sandra Bullock. And I thought it was such 54 00:02:28.439 --> 00:02:33.719 a complimentary but disarming adjective to describe. Who wouldn't want 55 00:02:33.719 --> 00:02:35.520 to be called lovely? I think there's personality and who'd 56 00:02:35.599 --> 00:02:37.080 use it every single time? And I always like the 57 00:02:37.080 --> 00:02:39.840 sound of it, so I always use it. You don't 58 00:02:39.879 --> 00:02:42.719 want to say, you know, the smoking hot you know, 59 00:02:42.840 --> 00:02:44.680 Drew Barrymore's here, like, you don't want to say that. 60 00:02:45.039 --> 00:02:47.199 The reason I'm bringing this up is because we have 61 00:02:47.319 --> 00:02:51.439 lost the ability to compliment, especially the women these days. 62 00:02:51.479 --> 00:02:54.280 I think it is sad. I think it is unfortunate. 63 00:02:54.639 --> 00:02:56.520 I think that we have to get out of thesaurus 64 00:02:56.560 --> 00:02:58.680 and find other words for lovely that are disarming. So 65 00:02:59.000 --> 00:03:01.360 I brought a couple of lovely chicks in here, and 66 00:03:01.400 --> 00:03:03.360 now they're going to be like, oh my god, he 67 00:03:03.360 --> 00:03:05.759 says that to everyone so now any guests gonna be any? 68 00:03:05.800 --> 00:03:06.400 Says to everyone. 69 00:03:07.000 --> 00:03:09.599 They both look like they're auditioning for the Wednesday Adams 70 00:03:09.599 --> 00:03:12.000 Hair Club. They're very jet black hair. They've been on 71 00:03:12.120 --> 00:03:14.680 this before, maybe once or twice each. It's sad that 72 00:03:14.719 --> 00:03:16.520 I don't know, but I don't think they don't know. 73 00:03:16.599 --> 00:03:20.960 I dragged back Julie and Jeanine. Jannine, how many times 74 00:03:20.960 --> 00:03:21.840 have you been on this podcast? 75 00:03:22.159 --> 00:03:24.199 This is episode number two for me. 76 00:03:24.479 --> 00:03:25.680 Oh so you've only been here once? 77 00:03:25.840 --> 00:03:29.039 Yeah, Julie, I believe there was one with just me 78 00:03:29.280 --> 00:03:31.360 and another one with me and someone else. But let 79 00:03:31.400 --> 00:03:34.080 me just say, I want to be introduced as smoking hot. 80 00:03:34.120 --> 00:03:34.439 I don't know. 81 00:03:34.439 --> 00:03:34.840 Oh you do. 82 00:03:35.759 --> 00:03:38.599 Well, that's why you need to put that in your 83 00:03:38.599 --> 00:03:42.039 bio or something. And that's a really good point. I've 84 00:03:42.039 --> 00:03:43.840 said this on the podcast before. I stand by this 85 00:03:44.439 --> 00:03:48.120 one of I think the Again, if this offends you, 86 00:03:48.159 --> 00:03:51.599 this is probably not the podcast for you. Unfortunate trends 87 00:03:51.680 --> 00:03:56.639 in recent society is that people put their preferred pronouns 88 00:03:56.680 --> 00:03:58.879 in their work signature line. 89 00:04:00.120 --> 00:04:01.879 Fine, if that's what you want to be called. Fine. 90 00:04:02.199 --> 00:04:07.960 I think we are better off societally, especially romantically, if 91 00:04:08.000 --> 00:04:12.479 you put your preferred compliments in your signature life. If 92 00:04:12.479 --> 00:04:16.639 you put in there like pretty, beautiful, cute underneath your 93 00:04:16.720 --> 00:04:19.759 name in there, I will know more about how. 94 00:04:19.600 --> 00:04:21.160 To deal with you than I will. Do you do 95 00:04:21.199 --> 00:04:24.000 if it's she her or them or them? 96 00:04:24.199 --> 00:04:26.399 I can't If you tell me she her, all I 97 00:04:26.439 --> 00:04:30.879 know is you're probably a worm, well probably, But if 98 00:04:30.879 --> 00:04:36.279 you put in like cute, sexy, vivacious, I know more 99 00:04:36.319 --> 00:04:38.160 about you, and I know more how to deal with you, 100 00:04:38.199 --> 00:04:39.720 and we're all better off with that. 101 00:04:39.959 --> 00:04:40.160 Right. 102 00:04:40.839 --> 00:04:43.120 Yeah, I'm going to update my LinkedIn profile right now. 103 00:04:43.360 --> 00:04:45.560 Put it on there because if people say, oh, you 104 00:04:45.560 --> 00:04:47.360 can tell everybody because I bring this up at my 105 00:04:47.360 --> 00:04:50.519 live shows. Yet every woman wants to be told she's pretty. No, 106 00:04:50.639 --> 00:04:52.480 they do not. Not only do some not want to 107 00:04:52.480 --> 00:04:54.839 be looked at physically, the ones who do don't like 108 00:04:54.839 --> 00:04:56.160 pretty because they think it's boring. 109 00:04:56.319 --> 00:04:59.560 They're like pret people identify as they No, I think a. 110 00:04:59.519 --> 00:05:01.720 Lot of women like pretty is lunch with your mother. 111 00:05:02.560 --> 00:05:06.079 Pretty is not sexy, Pretty is not They don't necessarily 112 00:05:06.120 --> 00:05:08.759 want that. Does that make sense? If somebody want you 113 00:05:08.759 --> 00:05:10.480 want to be called beautiful, pretty or. 114 00:05:10.439 --> 00:05:13.600 Hot, I don't care as long as you call me, oh. 115 00:05:14.920 --> 00:05:16.600 That makes it hard for the guy I mean, right, 116 00:05:16.639 --> 00:05:19.079 but he doesn't know that either. Love I mean the 117 00:05:19.160 --> 00:05:21.560 only one that i've I've sort of has unanimous approval 118 00:05:21.560 --> 00:05:23.879 across the board. I've never never met a woman who 119 00:05:23.920 --> 00:05:25.759 doesn't want to be called a stone cold fox. 120 00:05:26.399 --> 00:05:28.600 Okay, yeah, everybody wants to be a fucking guy. 121 00:05:29.240 --> 00:05:31.839 Lovely is like a ninety eight year old grandmother, which 122 00:05:31.839 --> 00:05:32.680 is exactly. 123 00:05:32.879 --> 00:05:35.279 It's complimentary, but it's not sexual. 124 00:05:35.439 --> 00:05:35.879 Correct. 125 00:05:36.120 --> 00:05:39.560 If somebody goes, here's my girlfriend, Julie, she's lovely, probably 126 00:05:39.560 --> 00:05:40.120 wouldn't like it. 127 00:05:40.199 --> 00:05:41.720 Probably not going to sleep with them that night. 128 00:05:41.800 --> 00:05:47.120 Correct, right, So it's a non sexual compliment, more about 129 00:05:47.160 --> 00:05:50.439 their like presence and their personality. You can't go into 130 00:05:50.480 --> 00:05:53.759 a workplace anymore in America and your colleague be like, 131 00:05:53.839 --> 00:05:56.199 oh my god, your hair, you look amazing. You can't 132 00:05:56.240 --> 00:05:58.480 even say amazing to somebody at your colleague. 133 00:05:58.519 --> 00:05:59.560 That's an hr violation. 134 00:05:59.839 --> 00:06:02.560 That's try for men, that is very true. 135 00:06:02.639 --> 00:06:03.759 So they say nothing. 136 00:06:04.079 --> 00:06:06.160 And most of what we're used to to talking about, 137 00:06:06.199 --> 00:06:08.399 at least early on, is we just want to flatter 138 00:06:08.519 --> 00:06:10.800 you and compliment you until you're smoking fucking hot. 139 00:06:10.879 --> 00:06:13.000 Think I'll be working for you, because otherwise it'd be. 140 00:06:13.639 --> 00:06:15.959 Drinking at eleven o'clock in the mouth. 141 00:06:17.800 --> 00:06:19.920 They are drinking, drinking. 142 00:06:19.680 --> 00:06:20.120 And ye. 143 00:06:21.959 --> 00:06:24.800 Right, you know, I think you should go to be 144 00:06:24.879 --> 00:06:27.439 able to you know, the only ones who really mind 145 00:06:28.720 --> 00:06:30.000 are the hot ones. 146 00:06:30.279 --> 00:06:32.600 Generally, because they're most insecure. 147 00:06:32.199 --> 00:06:34.519 No kidding, and they're like, I know I'm hot, tell 148 00:06:34.560 --> 00:06:36.000 me I'm smart, tell me I'm funny. 149 00:06:36.199 --> 00:06:36.439 You know. 150 00:06:38.439 --> 00:06:42.000 Krista Allen. Yeah, google Christa Allen. When I first met 151 00:06:42.079 --> 00:06:45.199 Krista Allen was probably twenty years ago. She was dating 152 00:06:45.240 --> 00:06:48.600 George Clooney. She might have been. She was as as 153 00:06:48.800 --> 00:06:51.120 as they say about Tiger Woods. She was playing in 154 00:06:51.160 --> 00:06:53.160 a game that we are not familiar with. That like, 155 00:06:53.240 --> 00:06:56.839 I'd never seen anybody's who looked like that in real life. 156 00:06:56.920 --> 00:06:57.399 I need to. 157 00:06:58.519 --> 00:07:02.519 Google her, okay, and uh and probably do her. 158 00:07:02.879 --> 00:07:04.600 But I said to her, I asked her, I go, 159 00:07:04.800 --> 00:07:08.120 are you able to be complimented like or is it 160 00:07:08.199 --> 00:07:10.519 just like no shit? Because even if she didn't think 161 00:07:10.560 --> 00:07:12.240 she's hot, she's hears it every single day of her 162 00:07:12.240 --> 00:07:15.439 life for our ex single person and she goes, I 163 00:07:15.600 --> 00:07:21.160 like something specific, your hair, your smile, your clothes, something 164 00:07:21.160 --> 00:07:24.480 that shows a little bit more than I hits. Yeah, 165 00:07:24.720 --> 00:07:27.040 maybe that's a good point though, Yeah, she brought up. 166 00:07:27.120 --> 00:07:29.399 She goes, I need to see you looking at me 167 00:07:29.800 --> 00:07:30.480 then more than. 168 00:07:30.399 --> 00:07:33.160 A painting, more than a picture, more than I wanted 169 00:07:33.160 --> 00:07:34.439 to be the three D in a two D. And 170 00:07:34.480 --> 00:07:36.519 I always kind of remembered that if you tell me 171 00:07:36.519 --> 00:07:39.079 about oh my god, you look radiant or luminous, I said, 172 00:07:39.120 --> 00:07:41.399 get off thesaurus, it's gonna go a long time than 173 00:07:41.399 --> 00:07:42.920 oh my god, you're fucking hot. 174 00:07:43.279 --> 00:07:44.000 It's a really good. 175 00:07:44.000 --> 00:07:47.399 But I do think beautiful when said in the right setting, 176 00:07:47.480 --> 00:07:50.680 like if we're like about to whatever and you were 177 00:07:50.720 --> 00:07:52.160 like sitting on the couch and he's like, you are. 178 00:07:52.360 --> 00:07:53.600 I don't know, I don't even know who. I don't 179 00:07:53.639 --> 00:07:54.439 know who I'm talking about. 180 00:07:54.439 --> 00:07:56.480 But if they're like, you're so beautiful, like if they 181 00:07:56.480 --> 00:07:59.160 say it sincerely, it's it's it's then you feel it 182 00:07:59.199 --> 00:07:59.759 in the heart. 183 00:08:00.160 --> 00:08:02.800 That are related. Beautiful and gorgeous are similar. 184 00:08:03.079 --> 00:08:09.600 Gorgeous is physical, Yeah, yeah, correct, right, Yeah. 185 00:08:08.600 --> 00:08:13.199 You rarely anybody not anybody, You rarely hear the word gorgeous. 186 00:08:13.600 --> 00:08:16.120 That is the highest level of compliment. I think it 187 00:08:16.199 --> 00:08:16.720 is right. 188 00:08:17.000 --> 00:08:20.560 You might say somebody beautiful one hundred times in a year. Yeah, 189 00:08:21.040 --> 00:08:23.600 gorgeous is reserved. For the very best, right. 190 00:08:23.639 --> 00:08:25.319 I think I've ever been referred to as. 191 00:08:25.240 --> 00:08:27.920 Gorge maybe not to your face, because people aren't allowed 192 00:08:27.920 --> 00:08:28.800 to say it to you anymore. 193 00:08:29.040 --> 00:08:30.680 I want them to say it to me. 194 00:08:31.360 --> 00:08:32.679 Have you ever said it? You've seen a woman like, 195 00:08:32.679 --> 00:08:33.919 oh my god, they're gorgeous. Yeah? 196 00:08:34.360 --> 00:08:36.960 Right, And that is that is a compliment that is 197 00:08:37.320 --> 00:08:40.120 higher up. I don't think anybody wouldn't want to hear that. 198 00:08:40.120 --> 00:08:42.039 That is the ultimately, if someone is like, oh my god, 199 00:08:42.120 --> 00:08:45.240 you look gorgeous. Yeah, women can say that to other women. 200 00:08:45.279 --> 00:08:46.840 And I think a man could say that, because that's 201 00:08:46.919 --> 00:08:48.960 kind of word that usually a gay man would say. 202 00:08:49.320 --> 00:08:52.120 And it's disarming. It's such a high compliment that it's 203 00:08:52.159 --> 00:08:52.679 not sexual. 204 00:08:52.720 --> 00:08:55.759 Fabulous I think that's or stunning. 205 00:08:55.879 --> 00:08:57.480 I say fantastical, and I'm like, oh my god, you 206 00:08:57.519 --> 00:08:58.279 look fantastic. 207 00:08:58.440 --> 00:09:00.200 Stunning. You use stunning. I love the words. 208 00:09:01.440 --> 00:09:02.360 Stunning is a good word. 209 00:09:02.679 --> 00:09:04.960 That's why, you know, kind of you have to think 210 00:09:04.960 --> 00:09:05.799 about what you're saying. 211 00:09:05.799 --> 00:09:07.440 But it sucks that we can't just. 212 00:09:07.399 --> 00:09:11.759 Spend like like the old fashion, we have nothing to say, 213 00:09:11.799 --> 00:09:13.519 and we're just going to tell you that we think 214 00:09:13.559 --> 00:09:16.960 you're so hot. I think that's fine, and the reason 215 00:09:17.000 --> 00:09:19.240 why those I'm a man and we don't hear it. 216 00:09:19.559 --> 00:09:21.720 Yeah, that's an ick. If someone said, oh, you're hot, 217 00:09:21.799 --> 00:09:23.879 I'd be like, you're not. Goodbye, right. 218 00:09:24.200 --> 00:09:27.799 But if I asked one hundred women, thirty would like hot, 219 00:09:28.000 --> 00:09:29.039 thirty would want pretty. 220 00:09:29.279 --> 00:09:30.600 And that's why it's hard for the guys. 221 00:09:30.759 --> 00:09:33.279 Unless you put it in your signature line, we don't 222 00:09:33.360 --> 00:09:37.200 know how to even approach you. Must let's compliment you. 223 00:09:37.840 --> 00:09:39.639 And if you came out to if I picked you 224 00:09:39.720 --> 00:09:41.559 up to go out to dinner and he's like, oh 225 00:09:41.600 --> 00:09:44.360 my god, you look so hot. He's rolling the dice 226 00:09:44.399 --> 00:09:46.080 that you like that. If he said it to Julie, 227 00:09:46.120 --> 00:09:46.759 you would like it. 228 00:09:46.919 --> 00:09:47.200 Yeah. 229 00:09:47.440 --> 00:09:48.639 See, we don't know. 230 00:09:48.799 --> 00:09:50.000 It depends, though it depends. 231 00:09:50.039 --> 00:09:51.919 But I also think that so what the different creepy 232 00:09:51.919 --> 00:09:53.039 to compliment is who's given it. 233 00:09:53.879 --> 00:09:56.000 That's a good quote, that's a good quote. 234 00:09:56.200 --> 00:09:57.840 It's truck quote. No but. 235 00:09:59.320 --> 00:10:02.120 Hot, And he said I look hot, I'd be like, yeah. 236 00:10:02.039 --> 00:10:06.120 If Tatum sells you're hot, he says hi to me, 237 00:10:06.200 --> 00:10:07.679 I'll do what everyone. 238 00:10:07.440 --> 00:10:10.600 But the guy doesn't know how you perceive him. 239 00:10:10.879 --> 00:10:13.240 But then once the guy says, I think that talks 240 00:10:13.240 --> 00:10:15.559 to compatibility. Once the guy says it. And if you 241 00:10:15.639 --> 00:10:17.120 are like, oh god, I'm offended by hot ter, I'm 242 00:10:17.120 --> 00:10:19.519 offended by stunning room, offended by whatever, that might not 243 00:10:19.559 --> 00:10:20.960 be the guy for you, and that might not be 244 00:10:20.960 --> 00:10:21.759 the girl for you if. 245 00:10:21.639 --> 00:10:22.360 You can't handle that. 246 00:10:22.519 --> 00:10:25.000 I would want a guy to think I'm hot. I 247 00:10:25.080 --> 00:10:26.960 just would, and I want him to say it. But 248 00:10:27.039 --> 00:10:30.600 I'm a guy, and even though I'm still probably in 249 00:10:30.639 --> 00:10:33.679 the you know, thirty percent good look, and still because 250 00:10:33.679 --> 00:10:35.720 I have a full head of air, Yeah you really do, 251 00:10:37.600 --> 00:10:39.759 I don't hear it ten times in a year. 252 00:10:40.440 --> 00:10:41.919 I might not hear it a hundred times in. 253 00:10:41.879 --> 00:10:46.000 My life because a man is not as defined necessarily, 254 00:10:46.120 --> 00:10:49.480 unfortunately by his appearance. You go out with a guy 255 00:10:49.519 --> 00:10:51.519 and your friend say, what does he do? I go 256 00:10:51.559 --> 00:10:53.799 out with a girl, And are you still dating that blonde? 257 00:10:53.840 --> 00:10:55.960 Are you still dating that attorney? It's just the way 258 00:10:56.000 --> 00:10:58.519 it is. You might qualify it. Oh my god, he's 259 00:10:58.559 --> 00:11:01.840 dating some doctor and she's smoking hot. Yeah he's he's 260 00:11:01.879 --> 00:11:04.559 stating a really cute guy and he's a financial analyst. 261 00:11:04.639 --> 00:11:05.559 Like it's second. 262 00:11:06.559 --> 00:11:10.200 It's true. However, I'm a total sapio sexual. So for me, 263 00:11:10.879 --> 00:11:14.120 I love the person I want to be wowed by 264 00:11:14.159 --> 00:11:16.639 the beauty of the inner, of the inner self. 265 00:11:16.480 --> 00:11:17.919 And that absolutely not. 266 00:11:18.080 --> 00:11:19.840 I hear that all the time, Like I'm turned on 267 00:11:19.879 --> 00:11:22.159 by the mind if the guy's gross the guys I'm. 268 00:11:22.039 --> 00:11:24.120 Telling you, I if you look at the lineup of 269 00:11:24.159 --> 00:11:26.240 the men I've dated in my lifetime, You're like, there's 270 00:11:26.279 --> 00:11:33.879 no fucking stated or they like hot and depends. Yeah, 271 00:11:33.960 --> 00:11:39.919 So what I'm saying is physically they might just be 272 00:11:40.720 --> 00:11:44.600 absolutely appalling to you, but mentally they're right. 273 00:11:45.240 --> 00:11:46.080 Here's the issue. 274 00:11:46.480 --> 00:11:49.519 You won't know them well enough for them to get 275 00:11:49.519 --> 00:11:51.639 a chance. So there's a lot of guys that you 276 00:11:51.720 --> 00:11:54.679 If you're saying looks don't matter, then you're saying every 277 00:11:54.720 --> 00:11:57.080 guy has a chance with you if they can connect 278 00:11:57.120 --> 00:11:59.960 with you intellectually. That means you have to give every 279 00:12:00.200 --> 00:12:01.919 guy a chance to have that, and that might take 280 00:12:01.960 --> 00:12:02.440 some time. 281 00:12:02.879 --> 00:12:04.120 So how do you weed that out? 282 00:12:04.200 --> 00:12:05.039 You know or you don't. 283 00:12:05.279 --> 00:12:08.200 How do you know somebody's intellectually stimulating to you in 284 00:12:08.279 --> 00:12:08.960 thirty seconds? 285 00:12:08.960 --> 00:12:11.000 Haven't you met? Because haven't you met? You've wrote a 286 00:12:11.039 --> 00:12:11.840 book on how. 287 00:12:11.759 --> 00:12:14.639 To find love in sixty seconds? That is difference. 288 00:12:14.679 --> 00:12:17.559 That is about a spark and a moment might not 289 00:12:17.639 --> 00:12:20.080 be because somebody could be intellectually stimulating. You might not 290 00:12:20.080 --> 00:12:22.320 find that out to the third date because they're nervous. 291 00:12:22.759 --> 00:12:24.720 You might not know that right away. I'm saying, if 292 00:12:24.720 --> 00:12:26.960 you're saying that matters to you the most, if you've 293 00:12:27.000 --> 00:12:33.720 got to that's not sabio sexual, sabiosexual or sapio sexual Tomato. 294 00:12:33.799 --> 00:12:37.600 Tomato is about I am turned on by their intelligence, 295 00:12:37.639 --> 00:12:38.440 by their intellect. 296 00:12:38.519 --> 00:12:40.399 Find that out in the first date with someone. If 297 00:12:40.399 --> 00:12:42.039 you're turned on by their intelligo. 298 00:12:41.799 --> 00:12:44.559 Because I think they're nerving, nervous and they're sucking down 299 00:12:44.600 --> 00:12:46.039 artichoke dip like I don't know. 300 00:12:45.960 --> 00:12:46.639 If you can, but. 301 00:12:48.600 --> 00:12:51.320 I agree like for me, like honestly, like four places 302 00:12:51.320 --> 00:12:54.240 sometimes is a deep conversation round I'm like, oh my god, Yeah, the. 303 00:12:54.200 --> 00:12:57.799 Smartest person I know, the smartest girl I know. She 304 00:12:58.000 --> 00:13:02.480 is a big boob California blonde. And I had no 305 00:13:02.559 --> 00:13:04.519 idea she was smart because she. 306 00:13:04.519 --> 00:13:06.480 Was a big boobyed Calibornia blonde. 307 00:13:06.519 --> 00:13:09.039 So that was enough. She can go a long way 308 00:13:09.080 --> 00:13:11.600 with that. And the fact that she was is that 309 00:13:11.639 --> 00:13:12.320 offensive to you? 310 00:13:12.360 --> 00:13:16.080 If somebody's like, you're a big boobyed California. 311 00:13:15.000 --> 00:13:15.519 It's a fact. 312 00:13:15.720 --> 00:13:17.279 Yes, California is descriptive. 313 00:13:17.320 --> 00:13:17.679 I don't know. 314 00:13:19.240 --> 00:13:21.240 None of those can be denied if it's someone right now. 315 00:13:21.240 --> 00:13:24.720 I mean you introduced this as Alvira and Wednsday Adams 316 00:13:25.120 --> 00:13:25.840 say Elvira. 317 00:13:26.120 --> 00:13:32.360 You brought up elvira, You said thea orticia whatever, that's descriptive. 318 00:13:32.399 --> 00:13:35.120 It's a hair collor true different. 319 00:13:35.440 --> 00:13:39.679 Well, no, we could be like Latina and be spicy 320 00:13:39.720 --> 00:13:40.159 in tan. 321 00:13:40.320 --> 00:13:43.399 But I know you're Jewish and Italian. 322 00:13:43.919 --> 00:13:47.039 So we are both fair skinned and dark haired. 323 00:13:46.960 --> 00:13:50.000 And drinking at eleven o'clock in the morning. I'm here 324 00:13:50.039 --> 00:13:52.080 with Jeanie and Julie. We're trying to figure out what 325 00:13:52.360 --> 00:13:53.840 we can say to compliment each other. 326 00:13:54.200 --> 00:13:54.320 Uh. 327 00:13:54.399 --> 00:13:55.919 I gotta take a quick break because we have to 328 00:13:55.919 --> 00:13:57.919 pay for wine at eleven o'clock in the morning and 329 00:13:57.960 --> 00:14:04.320 we will be back right after this. And we are 330 00:14:04.320 --> 00:14:07.879 back when you compliment, And so I brought up the 331 00:14:07.919 --> 00:14:08.360 guy thing. 332 00:14:09.120 --> 00:14:11.879 You know that you don't compliment men. You might say 333 00:14:11.919 --> 00:14:12.519 you look. 334 00:14:12.399 --> 00:14:14.559 Great, but you're not going to be like I think 335 00:14:14.639 --> 00:14:17.399 you're like, you don't say. 336 00:14:16.279 --> 00:14:18.960 Oh, except sometimes they want it, like not to we 337 00:14:19.039 --> 00:14:21.440 always want it get in bed, They're like, tell me 338 00:14:21.879 --> 00:14:22.320 this is that? 339 00:14:22.480 --> 00:14:24.679 And I'm like, oh, well what about before you get there? 340 00:14:24.679 --> 00:14:26.919 Like you You might go a year without telling a guy, 341 00:14:27.039 --> 00:14:29.440 a man, to his face, that you find him attractive. 342 00:14:29.480 --> 00:14:30.759 Do you know why I don't. Who does that? 343 00:14:31.080 --> 00:14:32.440 Yeah? Nobody? That's my point. 344 00:14:32.879 --> 00:14:36.480 Why wouldn't Why wouldn't you tell the person you're No, 345 00:14:36.720 --> 00:14:38.519 I'm not talking about the person in your relationship with. 346 00:14:38.879 --> 00:14:40.759 I'm talking a random like I might meet some of 347 00:14:40.759 --> 00:14:43.320 the office and say, like, you know, you're beautiful, you're amazing. 348 00:14:43.519 --> 00:14:45.559 Somebody might come in this podcast studio, Oh my god, 349 00:14:45.799 --> 00:14:46.600 you tell men that. 350 00:14:46.759 --> 00:14:48.559 What do you say? What is the adjective you use? 351 00:14:48.679 --> 00:14:49.639 Your beautiful soul? 352 00:14:49.960 --> 00:14:50.360 That is? 353 00:14:50.480 --> 00:14:52.879 I would be so insulted at that. That would be 354 00:14:52.879 --> 00:14:54.720 like saying you have a great personality. 355 00:14:54.879 --> 00:14:56.000 Yeah, you're saying they're nice. 356 00:14:56.440 --> 00:14:57.200 I don't want to hear that. 357 00:14:57.360 --> 00:14:59.639 Give me a physic You ever give a physical compliment 358 00:14:59.679 --> 00:15:00.000 to a man? 359 00:15:00.320 --> 00:15:03.080 No, because I'm in a relationship and it's completely That 360 00:15:03.200 --> 00:15:06.919 is different appropriate to do that, is it? What? 361 00:15:07.480 --> 00:15:07.679 Why? 362 00:15:08.279 --> 00:15:08.480 Yeah? 363 00:15:08.720 --> 00:15:11.039 Hey, I just think you're super handsome. You can't say 364 00:15:11.039 --> 00:15:11.879 that to somebody. 365 00:15:12.080 --> 00:15:13.759 No, no, no, But. 366 00:15:13.759 --> 00:15:16.080 I could tell a woman, I think relationship or not, 367 00:15:16.360 --> 00:15:20.000 I could be like, you, you look fantastic, you look amazing. 368 00:15:20.519 --> 00:15:23.799 I think you can without hitting on her like. 369 00:15:23.840 --> 00:15:26.000 That doesn't nessary if you're not in a relationship, But 370 00:15:26.039 --> 00:15:27.960 if you're in a relationship with someone and you say 371 00:15:28.000 --> 00:15:31.120 that to another woman, your woman is going to feel complete. 372 00:15:31.200 --> 00:15:33.840 I think it depends on the woman's secure though, because 373 00:15:33.840 --> 00:15:36.200 that woman that I'm in a relationship with, she's going 374 00:15:36.240 --> 00:15:38.120 to hear it every day of her life. 375 00:15:38.639 --> 00:15:41.360 And so if you're letting her know that, you're a problem. 376 00:15:41.399 --> 00:15:43.519 If you tell a woman every day of her life 377 00:15:43.519 --> 00:15:45.720 and then you sell another woman, you're not telling you 378 00:15:45.799 --> 00:15:47.399 that one is going to cheapen. 379 00:15:47.159 --> 00:15:48.960 The I think it's got to be a different compliment. 380 00:15:49.039 --> 00:15:50.559 Just like now anyone who comes on here is going 381 00:15:50.600 --> 00:15:51.320 to hear the love lady. 382 00:15:51.360 --> 00:15:53.679 I mean, now you're just I ruined it. I want 383 00:15:53.720 --> 00:15:55.480 to know. I like the word like oh, that means 384 00:15:55.480 --> 00:15:56.639 you think of a good personality. 385 00:15:56.679 --> 00:15:58.840 But I also think I don't necessarily compliment men, at 386 00:15:58.879 --> 00:16:00.639 least not early on, because I don't want to inflate 387 00:16:00.639 --> 00:16:02.120 theor ego. I don't want them to leave me for 388 00:16:02.200 --> 00:16:04.799 someone hotter because I just now said, God, you're so hot, 389 00:16:04.799 --> 00:16:05.519 are you have this or that? 390 00:16:05.639 --> 00:16:07.960 Whatever? Like I've clearly insecurity issue. 391 00:16:08.000 --> 00:16:12.039 There's a lot of women. The thing they do not 392 00:16:12.120 --> 00:16:15.159 want to hear. They do not want to hear cute. 393 00:16:15.200 --> 00:16:16.039 They don't like cute. 394 00:16:16.320 --> 00:16:18.519 I was cute when I was fifty pounds heavier. Then 395 00:16:18.559 --> 00:16:22.120 I was cute and bubbly, and h is cute. 396 00:16:22.159 --> 00:16:26.759 Is cute is more personality driven. Cute is almost a 397 00:16:27.120 --> 00:16:31.320 consolation prize. Yeah, there's an old casting. 398 00:16:31.080 --> 00:16:33.960 My vagina would totally dry up if you called me cute. 399 00:16:34.000 --> 00:16:35.279 It would just be done. 400 00:16:35.440 --> 00:16:38.200 There's an old a casting director. One time. 401 00:16:39.759 --> 00:16:41.879 She used to say she was looking for a blue lobster. 402 00:16:42.000 --> 00:16:43.840 You know what a blue lobster. There's one out of 403 00:16:44.000 --> 00:16:44.480 every million. 404 00:16:44.679 --> 00:16:45.960 But I know what a blue waffle is, and you 405 00:16:46.000 --> 00:16:47.240 do not want to look that up right now. 406 00:16:47.279 --> 00:16:52.120 While here, okay, there's a blue lobster. So one out 407 00:16:52.120 --> 00:16:54.919 of every million lobsters is born blue. It's like a 408 00:16:54.960 --> 00:16:59.080 genetic freak lobster. In the in Hollywood, in the casting world, 409 00:16:59.320 --> 00:17:01.639 a blue lobstre meant that, depending on either what she 410 00:17:01.720 --> 00:17:03.960 was going for or depending on perceiving she could be 411 00:17:03.960 --> 00:17:09.359 looked at, is cute, pretty, or hot, And almost no 412 00:17:09.480 --> 00:17:11.599 woman is all three. They're usually two out of three. 413 00:17:12.640 --> 00:17:16.319 The rare one is somebody like Peak Britney. Oh God, 414 00:17:16.400 --> 00:17:18.480 she's all three, yeah, or. 415 00:17:18.559 --> 00:17:19.440 Two out of three. 416 00:17:19.599 --> 00:17:22.680 You know, maybe Jennifer Aniston is all three, but give 417 00:17:22.720 --> 00:17:25.440 me like Angelina and Joelee, there's no cute and Angelina 418 00:17:25.640 --> 00:17:28.279 she's hot and she's pretty not cute. 419 00:17:28.000 --> 00:17:30.200 Right, I'm very turned off by Angelina. 420 00:17:30.640 --> 00:17:31.119 I get that. 421 00:17:31.119 --> 00:17:35.000 That's a different conversation, but very rare. And if you're 422 00:17:35.079 --> 00:17:36.839 one out of three, you're doing pretty good. Two out 423 00:17:36.880 --> 00:17:38.559 of three is great. But it's such a rare thing 424 00:17:38.599 --> 00:17:41.759 to find somebody who has all three. Wow, And that's 425 00:17:41.759 --> 00:17:44.400 not a good personality thing because Britney's a lunatic, so 426 00:17:44.440 --> 00:17:45.279 we're not judging on it. 427 00:17:45.279 --> 00:17:49.000 It's just her looks. It's cute, it's pretty. There's not 428 00:17:49.119 --> 00:17:49.720 that many. 429 00:17:50.240 --> 00:17:51.880 I don't the thing I cute I agree with. 430 00:17:51.920 --> 00:17:53.839 I don't mind if I'm like, just had woken up 431 00:17:53.839 --> 00:17:55.440 and I'm kind of like, you know, BedHead and whatever, 432 00:17:55.440 --> 00:17:57.279 and if they say, like I look adorable at that moment, 433 00:17:57.279 --> 00:17:57.680 I don't mind. 434 00:17:57.720 --> 00:18:02.079 Adorable If adorable is great too. Sweet Taylor Swift cute 435 00:18:02.079 --> 00:18:03.240 and pretty not hot. 436 00:18:03.759 --> 00:18:06.200 I don't even not hot. He's a poster in a 437 00:18:06.240 --> 00:18:08.000 dorm room of Taylor Swift. 438 00:18:08.160 --> 00:18:10.599 No adorable, No, I adore you. 439 00:18:11.400 --> 00:18:14.400 That mean that's all different. That is not a compliment. 440 00:18:14.440 --> 00:18:16.960 That is my physical We're into the physical compliments here. 441 00:18:17.680 --> 00:18:19.960 So I adore you is a feeling. 442 00:18:20.480 --> 00:18:23.000 This is about the I'm a sapeo sexual, so that's 443 00:18:23.200 --> 00:18:24.759 why I like the feeling. 444 00:18:24.880 --> 00:18:27.000 Brian, How what if he said, I adore you? Are 445 00:18:27.039 --> 00:18:29.920 you look adorable? Not interested? Do you dry up? 446 00:18:31.319 --> 00:18:33.480 I mean, it depends on if I'm again, it depends 447 00:18:33.480 --> 00:18:35.240 on if I'm in a relationship with them or if 448 00:18:35.279 --> 00:18:38.319 they just see me in the You're. 449 00:18:37.319 --> 00:18:40.559 Adorable because you hear these things as women a lot. 450 00:18:40.680 --> 00:18:42.720 As a man, many don't say that to me. 451 00:18:42.839 --> 00:18:44.240 I never get you're pretty, you're. 452 00:18:44.079 --> 00:18:45.480 Hot, You're get it from your man. 453 00:18:45.680 --> 00:18:48.319 I do because I'm in a relationship. But but he 454 00:18:48.400 --> 00:18:53.519 had to say it before. He says it every day. 455 00:18:53.039 --> 00:18:55.359 As a man, like I hear I'm smart a lot, 456 00:18:55.480 --> 00:18:56.839 I hear I'm an asshole a lot. 457 00:18:56.920 --> 00:18:58.160 I hearny a lot. 458 00:18:58.720 --> 00:19:00.319 Well, you're kind of an asshole, but I love you. 459 00:19:00.480 --> 00:19:03.200 I don't hear you're a good looking man like you 460 00:19:03.240 --> 00:19:03.680 know you're. 461 00:19:03.680 --> 00:19:06.680 Because I tell myself that. No, I'm aware that, but 462 00:19:06.759 --> 00:19:08.480 you don't hear it. You're not gonna hear it. You 463 00:19:08.480 --> 00:19:11.119 can wow somebody a long long time, and you just don't. 464 00:19:11.119 --> 00:19:13.559 It's just not something that men get. So maybe we 465 00:19:14.079 --> 00:19:17.440 think because we need the commodity. You know, I say 466 00:19:17.480 --> 00:19:19.160 I love you a lot quicker because I didn't hear 467 00:19:19.200 --> 00:19:21.400 I love you very quick in my life there same thing. 468 00:19:21.480 --> 00:19:23.759 Maybe the men give the compliments because we want to 469 00:19:23.799 --> 00:19:25.279 get this out in the open and hope we get 470 00:19:25.519 --> 00:19:26.680 the ball hit back to us. 471 00:19:27.039 --> 00:19:30.480 I don't know, I'm sincere. Listen, if you're in love 472 00:19:30.559 --> 00:19:33.559 with someone, they're going to shower you in their own way, 473 00:19:33.720 --> 00:19:36.079 not necessarily in the hold on, in their own way, 474 00:19:36.200 --> 00:19:39.960 their acts of service gives, whatever their love languages, they're 475 00:19:40.000 --> 00:19:41.720 they're going to do it. But for me, it's words 476 00:19:41.720 --> 00:19:43.279 of affirmation one hundred percent. 477 00:19:43.440 --> 00:19:45.680 But a lot of women do what I call fishing 478 00:19:45.759 --> 00:19:48.559 for insults, which means you'd be like, oh my god, 479 00:19:48.599 --> 00:19:50.160 you're so hot. No, I'm not usual to see my sister. 480 00:19:50.480 --> 00:19:51.799 Oh I don't look good today. I just have my 481 00:19:51.839 --> 00:19:52.319 hair done. 482 00:19:52.359 --> 00:19:54.599 That that we're we isn't got to turn off like 483 00:19:54.640 --> 00:19:55.279 that's gross. 484 00:19:55.279 --> 00:19:57.039 If I were a dude, it would be like, I'm 485 00:19:57.079 --> 00:19:58.880 not saying it's not I'm saying they do do that, 486 00:19:59.359 --> 00:20:00.839 and so that's it's going to be like, listen, no 487 00:20:00.880 --> 00:20:02.359 matter what I say, And you can be in a 488 00:20:02.400 --> 00:20:04.839 relationship and say that, oh, don't even look at me 489 00:20:04.920 --> 00:20:07.799 right now, like we yea. It's not always received with 490 00:20:07.880 --> 00:20:12.359 open arms. Relationship or not workplace or not stranger or not. 491 00:20:12.839 --> 00:20:14.599 I think that I should be able to go up 492 00:20:14.599 --> 00:20:18.400 to a woman in Whole Foods and say you have 493 00:20:18.480 --> 00:20:22.000 the most beautiful smile, not you're the most beautiful woman, 494 00:20:22.039 --> 00:20:23.759 like something specific, something specific. 495 00:20:23.920 --> 00:20:26.599 Yeah, your eyes are such a pretty color. 496 00:20:26.839 --> 00:20:27.960 Yeah, you won't get punched. 497 00:20:28.000 --> 00:20:31.160 You won't get punched. If I just said you're really hot. Yeah, no, 498 00:20:31.640 --> 00:20:33.200 it's not going to work out, but I would love 499 00:20:33.200 --> 00:20:35.119 to hear it. As a man, it can come. 500 00:20:35.279 --> 00:20:37.000 I will tell you this is a true story. 501 00:20:37.039 --> 00:20:39.480 And I don't take compliments while and I'm not trying 502 00:20:39.480 --> 00:20:41.039 to be I was in seven eleven. That's where I 503 00:20:41.039 --> 00:20:43.240 get my die cookes these days, because they're cheaper than McDonald's. 504 00:20:43.240 --> 00:20:43.480 Anyway. 505 00:20:43.480 --> 00:20:46.200 I have a die cooked day. Fact. Yeah nine, me too. 506 00:20:46.279 --> 00:20:48.799 Oh my god, I love every day multiple anyway. 507 00:20:48.799 --> 00:20:50.680 So I'm in seven eleven and this man who like 508 00:20:50.880 --> 00:20:53.480 not to he looked a little like, oh my god, 509 00:20:53.599 --> 00:20:55.160 is a homeless man coming up to minory. He was like, 510 00:20:55.400 --> 00:20:57.319 I just want to tell you, like you you look 511 00:20:57.440 --> 00:20:59.880 really really like happy and pretty see like comin things. 512 00:21:00.119 --> 00:21:01.400 I don't know if it's my eyes or whatever. And 513 00:21:01.440 --> 00:21:03.960 I'm like at first, I'm like, you're so fucking creepy, 514 00:21:03.960 --> 00:21:06.400 and then I'm like that was that made my day? 515 00:21:06.799 --> 00:21:10.559 This random man who literally was like you, there's something 516 00:21:10.559 --> 00:21:12.640 about you and whatever, and he was like more specific 517 00:21:12.720 --> 00:21:14.640 than that, I'm like, thank you so much. 518 00:21:14.759 --> 00:21:16.880 And sometimes you just need to hear it. Oh, we 519 00:21:17.000 --> 00:21:19.519 don't know. You need to hear it. You should wear 520 00:21:19.519 --> 00:21:21.119 a little stick compliment. 521 00:21:21.359 --> 00:21:25.680 Yeah, wear a little button complimently the eye voteen Devil's Advocate. 522 00:21:25.880 --> 00:21:30.240 There are times, even in sixteen years of being in 523 00:21:30.279 --> 00:21:34.559 a relationship with the same person on and off. That 524 00:21:35.440 --> 00:21:40.119 was the first podcast one, So there are times when 525 00:21:40.119 --> 00:21:42.960 I'm like, I need to hear I need to be cuddled, 526 00:21:43.000 --> 00:21:44.920 I need it, But I have to communicate that I 527 00:21:45.000 --> 00:21:47.359 need to I need you to shower me with compliments 528 00:21:47.400 --> 00:21:48.640 right now, because there's. 529 00:21:48.480 --> 00:21:50.319 Too many times when you don't need it or you're 530 00:21:50.359 --> 00:21:53.079 not receiving it. So he doesn't know when you need it. 531 00:21:53.000 --> 00:21:56.799 Correct, But I'm vocal about it. That's called community. Like 532 00:21:57.039 --> 00:22:00.279 if you're if you're in a I need compliments? What 533 00:22:00.359 --> 00:22:01.319 in my signature line? 534 00:22:01.480 --> 00:22:05.240 I like compliments. I like hugs. I'm like you. It's 535 00:22:05.319 --> 00:22:07.680 always a weird interaction when they're like, are you a hugger? 536 00:22:08.079 --> 00:22:10.279 It's so weird, like I think you. 537 00:22:10.640 --> 00:22:12.359 Wasn't it a thing that people were putting their love 538 00:22:12.440 --> 00:22:15.079 language as in their in their dating profiles, like I 539 00:22:15.200 --> 00:22:16.920 like of affirmation. 540 00:22:17.599 --> 00:22:19.759 Well, the problem with that, and I've talked about this 541 00:22:19.799 --> 00:22:22.359 on the podcast before. Eighty five percent of men have 542 00:22:22.400 --> 00:22:24.599 the same love language, and it's words of affirmation. 543 00:22:24.640 --> 00:22:25.759 I don't say physical touch. 544 00:22:25.839 --> 00:22:28.200 That's what all women think. They're wrong. They need the 545 00:22:28.240 --> 00:22:30.640 touch because they're not getting the words. If we got 546 00:22:30.640 --> 00:22:32.920 the words, we wouldn't need as much touch. Touch is 547 00:22:32.960 --> 00:22:35.640 the words for us. Oh she's touching me, she must 548 00:22:35.680 --> 00:22:38.799 like me. Almost all men it's words across. 549 00:22:38.599 --> 00:22:43.039 Like I want to feel like they're appreciated. Thank you, honey, dishes, 550 00:22:43.079 --> 00:22:44.880 thank you honey for doing the laundry. 551 00:22:44.920 --> 00:22:45.279 I like it. 552 00:22:45.359 --> 00:22:47.720 You can you know we take you out, we compliment. 553 00:22:47.720 --> 00:22:50.160 We know all we get back is thank you for dinner. 554 00:22:50.200 --> 00:22:51.720 Physical touch men are like men are. 555 00:22:52.640 --> 00:22:55.519 If we got the words, we would need far less 556 00:22:55.519 --> 00:22:58.720 physical touch. The touch are the words, the touches. How 557 00:22:59.039 --> 00:23:02.319 you communicating us? If we can't touch you, it says ick, 558 00:23:02.839 --> 00:23:05.960 that's a bad word. So the men are wildly insecure 559 00:23:06.000 --> 00:23:07.759 because we don't we need the words because we don't 560 00:23:07.759 --> 00:23:10.440 get them. We don't get the compliments. We don't we 561 00:23:10.480 --> 00:23:12.440 pick you up for a date. Oh my god, you 562 00:23:12.480 --> 00:23:14.799 look amazing, Oh my god, this blah blah blah. We 563 00:23:14.880 --> 00:23:16.960 might hear back like cool, what do you do? 564 00:23:17.079 --> 00:23:18.480 Thanks? Like all that. 565 00:23:19.160 --> 00:23:21.640 So we need the words. And so the women always think, well, 566 00:23:21.640 --> 00:23:24.039 the touch is the thing. You can do a lot 567 00:23:24.119 --> 00:23:24.960 less touch, and if you. 568 00:23:24.920 --> 00:23:27.720 Gave the words, touching is fun too. I agree with you. 569 00:23:27.759 --> 00:23:30.799 Women are more likely to say physical touch than men are. See. 570 00:23:30.839 --> 00:23:33.160 I love giving the physical touch because I know if 571 00:23:33.200 --> 00:23:33.759 I give that. 572 00:23:33.839 --> 00:23:35.000 Up, you're gonna get it. 573 00:23:35.119 --> 00:23:36.279 I get everything. 574 00:23:37.119 --> 00:23:39.000 I agree with you, you might get it if you 575 00:23:39.000 --> 00:23:39.200 gave it. 576 00:23:39.440 --> 00:23:42.799 Got litter yep, absolutely got the try. Absolutely, But if 577 00:23:42.839 --> 00:23:43.480 you said. 578 00:23:43.279 --> 00:23:46.079 The words, you might not have to touch. 579 00:23:46.200 --> 00:23:47.440 But what if you want to touch. 580 00:23:47.440 --> 00:23:48.480 Again, that's a different thing. 581 00:23:48.599 --> 00:23:50.839 But the women are like, he needs I have to 582 00:23:50.839 --> 00:23:53.000 touch him to show him that I like him. Yeah, 583 00:23:53.480 --> 00:23:56.440 the words are harder. It's easier to touch because it's 584 00:23:56.440 --> 00:23:58.319 harder to know the words. That's kind of what I'm 585 00:23:58.359 --> 00:24:01.279 getting at. It's harder to know that I find you 586 00:24:01.839 --> 00:24:04.960 physically attractive, desirable, or I just think you're good to 587 00:24:05.000 --> 00:24:05.359 look at. 588 00:24:05.720 --> 00:24:08.599 You know you're intellectually stimulating. A lot of men are not. 589 00:24:09.039 --> 00:24:12.119 And it's me, Dick, you Jene cave men mentality where 590 00:24:12.119 --> 00:24:14.000 it's like, hey, tild down the pants. 591 00:24:14.039 --> 00:24:17.279 I mean they're not intellectually. I think they've not been 592 00:24:18.720 --> 00:24:20.680 trained properly by the women. I think the men are 593 00:24:20.680 --> 00:24:23.039 capable of more. All we know is what the last 594 00:24:23.039 --> 00:24:24.720 girl like, and we probably found that out too late. 595 00:24:25.000 --> 00:24:28.839 You need to train us in what you need, like want. 596 00:24:29.119 --> 00:24:32.240 We have no idea. You're all different snowflakes. The men 597 00:24:32.279 --> 00:24:35.359 are essentially the same. But if you don't, if we don't, 598 00:24:35.440 --> 00:24:37.039 if we and a lot of times the challenge for 599 00:24:37.039 --> 00:24:39.599 the woman is you don't know what makes you happy. 600 00:24:39.720 --> 00:24:41.519 You know what makes you unhappy because you spend a 601 00:24:41.559 --> 00:24:44.079 lot more time thinking about it. And so you've expressed 602 00:24:44.119 --> 00:24:46.160 that I don't like this, I don't want that. Don't 603 00:24:46.200 --> 00:24:46.799 do that act of. 604 00:24:46.839 --> 00:24:48.880 Self awareness, and you should go to therapy. 605 00:24:49.000 --> 00:24:51.519 We all have I get that, but a small percentage 606 00:24:51.559 --> 00:24:53.839 of people goes to therapy, because therapy is fucking expensive. 607 00:24:54.119 --> 00:24:56.359 People are willing to put botox in their face for 608 00:24:56.359 --> 00:24:58.160 four hundred dollars a pop, but they can't go to 609 00:24:58.160 --> 00:25:00.000 a shrink and their issue. 610 00:25:00.000 --> 00:25:00.880 I don't do it every week. 611 00:25:01.319 --> 00:25:03.160 How much of Starbucks? That's a that's a. 612 00:25:03.240 --> 00:25:05.519 Car payment priority. I agree to you. 613 00:25:05.799 --> 00:25:08.720 Do you remember getting a physical compliment one time either, 614 00:25:08.880 --> 00:25:11.000 except for the seven eleven incident, like from a man 615 00:25:11.039 --> 00:25:12.880 that was like, they said that to me in a 616 00:25:12.920 --> 00:25:15.720 way that I'd never heard before, and I loved it. 617 00:25:15.759 --> 00:25:19.440 Is there something specific that you'd heard, like, oh my god, 618 00:25:19.440 --> 00:25:21.119 I just want to jump your bones right now, Like, 619 00:25:21.200 --> 00:25:23.559 is there something that you've remembered somebody saying that You're like, 620 00:25:23.759 --> 00:25:26.359 that's an interesting way to put it. I told a 621 00:25:26.400 --> 00:25:33.119 woman once that I thought her face was exquisite. Most 622 00:25:33.160 --> 00:25:35.519 people would like that. She said, what am I fine? 623 00:25:35.599 --> 00:25:38.720 China? She just shot it down. She didn't like it. 624 00:25:39.039 --> 00:25:42.680 I put my fasaurus away, like I never said it before. 625 00:25:42.839 --> 00:25:45.960 Most but some don't. That's my point. We are throwing 626 00:25:45.960 --> 00:25:47.319 shit at the wall. You know what that means? You 627 00:25:47.400 --> 00:25:47.920 have no idea. 628 00:25:48.000 --> 00:25:52.400 She's not cultured and she's intellectually dumb. Because any woman, 629 00:25:52.880 --> 00:25:55.640 most yeah, any woman in the right mind would be like, 630 00:25:55.880 --> 00:25:58.720 that is an amazing That is the nicest thing anyone's 631 00:25:58.720 --> 00:25:59.400 ever said to me. 632 00:26:00.200 --> 00:26:02.119 Picked the wrong and I never said it again, Picked 633 00:26:02.119 --> 00:26:04.839 the wrong girl, pick the wrong person to say it 634 00:26:04.839 --> 00:26:05.880 to people. 635 00:26:06.000 --> 00:26:07.359 Aren's drop. 636 00:26:07.519 --> 00:26:09.880 So I will, I will, I will tell her because 637 00:26:09.880 --> 00:26:11.200 she put it in her book. I think she's been 638 00:26:11.200 --> 00:26:15.480 on the podcast for it. So Brandy, Brandy Glanville, sheusewives. 639 00:26:15.640 --> 00:26:18.240 Yeah, she she's on the Great Love Debate too. 640 00:26:18.400 --> 00:26:20.039 That's why I said, she's done the show a million times. 641 00:26:21.599 --> 00:26:24.079 She told me, and I think she said in her books. 642 00:26:24.119 --> 00:26:25.640 I think it's a public story that she went into 643 00:26:25.680 --> 00:26:28.720 a modeling agency one time and they told her that 644 00:26:28.759 --> 00:26:29.720 she was a body girl. 645 00:26:29.799 --> 00:26:31.200 Her face was never get good enough. 646 00:26:31.279 --> 00:26:33.559 So by any reasonable standard, for most of her life, 647 00:26:33.559 --> 00:26:36.319 Brandy Glables had a beautiful face. When you talk to her, 648 00:26:36.599 --> 00:26:38.640 she will cover her face, she will pick it her 649 00:26:38.640 --> 00:26:43.519 face plastic surgery. I know that's different, and no offense 650 00:26:43.559 --> 00:26:46.359 to Brandy I'm talking about. You know, most of her 651 00:26:46.440 --> 00:26:49.200 life her face has been as pretty as anybody. But 652 00:26:49.240 --> 00:26:52.279 because one person said the wrong thing at the wrong time, 653 00:26:52.640 --> 00:26:55.720 it changed it forever. A compliment should work the same 654 00:26:55.759 --> 00:26:59.599 way one person in a moment, when you're feeling a 655 00:26:59.599 --> 00:27:02.480 certain way, tell you that, my god, you are gorgeous. 656 00:27:03.400 --> 00:27:06.279 It can change everything. Why can't we say it more? 657 00:27:06.599 --> 00:27:10.480 It's more like I agree, like let's bring more gorgeous back, 658 00:27:10.559 --> 00:27:11.960 let's bring more radio. 659 00:27:12.039 --> 00:27:14.359 But I question the motive are you? Are you saying 660 00:27:14.400 --> 00:27:15.960 that I'm gorgeous because you want to get in my 661 00:27:16.000 --> 00:27:16.720 pass a ship? 662 00:27:17.039 --> 00:27:19.680 Don't question the motive I do. That's the problem. 663 00:27:19.759 --> 00:27:21.000 It's insincerity. 664 00:27:21.079 --> 00:27:23.720 Who cares? But what if he's your gorgeous pancial? 665 00:27:23.799 --> 00:27:25.720 Things are fucking ugly? What if I have some random 666 00:27:25.759 --> 00:27:29.000 homeless person walk up to you are gorgeous, I'm supposed. 667 00:27:28.720 --> 00:27:32.319 To do nothing. Thank you? Thank you should be the response. 668 00:27:32.640 --> 00:27:33.200 Insincere? 669 00:27:33.319 --> 00:27:34.920 Who gives a shit with their motives? Are lots of 670 00:27:34.960 --> 00:27:36.599 people say lots of shit? You don't know their motives? 671 00:27:36.640 --> 00:27:37.680 What is that shirt? I don't know? 672 00:27:37.680 --> 00:27:40.680 Why should I appreciate that? If you're a random homeless person, 673 00:27:40.720 --> 00:27:43.759 he's probably on talking tell me that I'm gorgeous. 674 00:27:43.240 --> 00:27:44.960 If he thinks you're If he's telling you're gorgeous because 675 00:27:44.960 --> 00:27:46.680 he wants to have sex with you, he probably thinks 676 00:27:46.720 --> 00:27:49.240 you're gorgeous, or he wouldn't want to have sex with you. 677 00:27:49.359 --> 00:27:50.079 Or he's high. 678 00:27:51.079 --> 00:27:52.519 Okay, well, the high. 679 00:27:52.440 --> 00:27:55.759 Version of him thinks you're gorgeous showered, the unshowered version 680 00:27:55.799 --> 00:27:59.359 of him like you. Again, you're judging the messenger. Why 681 00:27:59.359 --> 00:28:02.400 can't we folks on the message somebody in a vacuum. 682 00:28:02.559 --> 00:28:06.359 Pretend that same person was a podcaster and the voice 683 00:28:06.400 --> 00:28:08.519 in your head said, I would love to hear this. 684 00:28:08.599 --> 00:28:11.200 You're taking it. You're like, what is their intent? Why 685 00:28:11.240 --> 00:28:12.640 are they saying it? This is why we. 686 00:28:12.599 --> 00:28:15.440 Can't do this anymore. This is why we can't give compliments. 687 00:28:15.559 --> 00:28:16.319 This is a problem. 688 00:28:16.440 --> 00:28:17.119 Who gives a shit? 689 00:28:17.200 --> 00:28:19.519 Why if somebody tells me I'm cute and they just 690 00:28:19.519 --> 00:28:20.880 because I went through this, I was in Hollywood, I 691 00:28:20.880 --> 00:28:22.960 was a director. I know people would kiss my ass 692 00:28:22.960 --> 00:28:25.440 because they wanted to work with me. Still felt good, 693 00:28:25.960 --> 00:28:26.640 still liked it. 694 00:28:26.880 --> 00:28:28.039 Of course, it gives you a boot. 695 00:28:28.079 --> 00:28:30.079 I didn't give a shit if they want if they 696 00:28:30.119 --> 00:28:32.279 think that, you know, I'm not. You know, I'm sure 697 00:28:32.279 --> 00:28:34.440 some girl told Harvey Weinstein he was gorgeous at some 698 00:28:34.480 --> 00:28:36.880 point because they wanted to part was ever no, but 699 00:28:36.920 --> 00:28:38.440 I'm sure they wanted something out of him. 700 00:28:38.720 --> 00:28:41.000 I don't care to me, Why why do you think 701 00:28:41.000 --> 00:28:43.519 the twenty two year old is dating Bill Belichick or 702 00:28:43.559 --> 00:28:45.599 whatever whoever is that is, and she's beautiful. 703 00:28:45.960 --> 00:28:48.920 She is because she's probably has some issues. But I 704 00:28:48.960 --> 00:28:51.640 guarantee you the fact that you know, I would never 705 00:28:51.759 --> 00:28:53.440 date a twenty two year old because I wouldn't want 706 00:28:53.480 --> 00:28:56.079 her or her friends to be like ew. Once you 707 00:28:56.119 --> 00:28:58.480 hear you and George Clooney hears ew like, you don't 708 00:28:58.480 --> 00:28:59.000 want to hear it. 709 00:28:59.119 --> 00:29:00.720 Yeah, you know it's gross to me. I have a 710 00:29:00.759 --> 00:29:02.079 step so on that's in a story. 711 00:29:02.480 --> 00:29:03.640 Okay, but that's their thing. 712 00:29:03.720 --> 00:29:07.519 But he he definitely we know why he's with her. 713 00:29:07.720 --> 00:29:09.680 I guarantee you he tells her she's pretty. 714 00:29:09.440 --> 00:29:12.279 And she likes it. And you think they have sex. 715 00:29:13.079 --> 00:29:15.359 I know they have sex. I'm sure they're also in 716 00:29:15.359 --> 00:29:17.279 his trust fund and yours. 717 00:29:17.519 --> 00:29:20.279 You know, I mean if she you know, I know 718 00:29:20.359 --> 00:29:23.279 a lot of the girls who had sex with Half 719 00:29:23.359 --> 00:29:26.039 in the later later days, they're like, I bounced on 720 00:29:26.079 --> 00:29:28.359 it for ten grand a month four times, and a 721 00:29:28.400 --> 00:29:30.240 lot of women be like, I'd probably do that too. 722 00:29:30.640 --> 00:29:33.279 We've all done that. My point, my point, I. 723 00:29:33.240 --> 00:29:34.640 Have not done that. 724 00:29:35.400 --> 00:29:39.119 The opportunity I would bounce on Half for ten thousand 725 00:29:39.119 --> 00:29:43.160 a month, but my point, you're like, see you judge, 726 00:29:43.200 --> 00:29:47.880 So you think that the homeless man compliment has less 727 00:29:48.000 --> 00:29:48.720 value to you? 728 00:29:49.119 --> 00:29:51.039 Most of the time they're in psychosis. 729 00:29:51.119 --> 00:29:54.079 So what we're all in psychosis? You're drinking wine at 730 00:29:54.119 --> 00:29:55.440 eleven am Like. 731 00:29:55.480 --> 00:29:58.319 Seriously, I am in We need some more work, okay, seriously? 732 00:29:58.400 --> 00:30:00.920 Like like, who cares why they say it? 733 00:30:01.039 --> 00:30:05.359 That's why if somebody tells you you're physically attractive to them, 734 00:30:05.759 --> 00:30:07.839 I get as a woman, it could come off it's threatening. 735 00:30:07.839 --> 00:30:09.559 It could and you're trying to be taken seriously in 736 00:30:09.599 --> 00:30:12.279 a business meeting. I get there's a lot of qualifiers. 737 00:30:12.519 --> 00:30:14.559 I get that some women would be like I only 738 00:30:14.599 --> 00:30:15.279 want to be saying this. 739 00:30:15.279 --> 00:30:16.759 So you're looking at the compliment. 740 00:30:16.799 --> 00:30:18.680 What if someone randomly walked up to you and said, 741 00:30:18.680 --> 00:30:20.279 Brian Howard, you're a fucking asshole. 742 00:30:20.400 --> 00:30:23.720 Oh what, I guess you? I guess my reputation proceeded. 743 00:30:23.759 --> 00:30:26.319 The point is are you supposed to react or are 744 00:30:26.319 --> 00:30:26.960 you supposed to go? 745 00:30:27.039 --> 00:30:27.279 Oh? 746 00:30:27.359 --> 00:30:30.240 I mean no, that's. 747 00:30:29.240 --> 00:30:30.960 To the positive rather than the negative. 748 00:30:31.200 --> 00:30:32.920 I didn't say you wouldn't react. I would react to 749 00:30:32.920 --> 00:30:34.400 the negative. I'd be like, what are you talking about? 750 00:30:34.440 --> 00:30:35.519 I would react to both. 751 00:30:35.799 --> 00:30:39.119 But that's but that's what I'm saying. If why do 752 00:30:39.200 --> 00:30:42.039 I have to react to anything that I don't feel 753 00:30:42.079 --> 00:30:43.200 as sincere. 754 00:30:43.000 --> 00:30:47.839 Is my You're guessing the sincerity and that's a dangerous 755 00:30:47.880 --> 00:30:49.119 game you're. 756 00:30:49.119 --> 00:30:52.799 I asked him, Oh, jul are you sincere about your compliment? 757 00:30:53.079 --> 00:30:54.759 Yeah? Why do that? Why do not you say thank you? 758 00:30:55.079 --> 00:30:55.680 I will tell you. 759 00:30:55.720 --> 00:30:57.599 And the odds of it being sincere, don't you think 760 00:30:57.640 --> 00:31:01.599 are much higher than the some people that's I don't know, But. 761 00:31:03.240 --> 00:31:05.119 Times I do not know if I send that, And 762 00:31:05.160 --> 00:31:06.880 I think that's part of the problem that, like we 763 00:31:07.000 --> 00:31:09.839 all have had our shit to like, it becomes a 764 00:31:09.839 --> 00:31:11.839 problem in the next relationship and whatever. I don't think 765 00:31:11.839 --> 00:31:13.480 the seven to eleven man was homeless. He might have 766 00:31:13.480 --> 00:31:14.279 been partially homeless. 767 00:31:14.319 --> 00:31:14.640 I don't know. 768 00:31:14.839 --> 00:31:16.559 It did feel good, though, I will say I told, 769 00:31:16.559 --> 00:31:18.000 like all my friends at TIM like this was a 770 00:31:18.039 --> 00:31:19.200 really special moment. 771 00:31:19.000 --> 00:31:22.079 In a moment when you need it at your worst 772 00:31:22.200 --> 00:31:24.559 and you want to and you're crying and your hair 773 00:31:24.599 --> 00:31:29.200 is a mess, and somebody thinks that. 774 00:31:27.839 --> 00:31:30.599 That's such a pretty smile. It will change your fucking day. 775 00:31:30.680 --> 00:31:32.440 I mean, if I wake up no makeup, hair a mess, 776 00:31:32.440 --> 00:31:33.279 and someone's like the. 777 00:31:33.359 --> 00:31:38.200 Most yeah, time that a woman is at her most radiant, 778 00:31:38.319 --> 00:31:41.400 which is another good word, is in that sleepy half 779 00:31:41.519 --> 00:31:44.200 light of the morning, with her face a mess and 780 00:31:44.240 --> 00:31:45.480 her hair all over the place. 781 00:31:45.640 --> 00:31:47.839 We love that, do they? Yes? 782 00:31:48.000 --> 00:31:48.039 You? 783 00:31:48.599 --> 00:31:52.559 Is her at her best? The makeup on the pillar 784 00:31:52.599 --> 00:31:54.200 that we love that. 785 00:31:53.880 --> 00:31:56.960 That's a sincere compliment. Not a homeless guy going. 786 00:31:57.599 --> 00:31:59.279 Well, he would give you that if he was in 787 00:31:59.319 --> 00:31:59.799 the bed with you. 788 00:32:00.559 --> 00:32:02.079 Anything to get a warm meal. 789 00:32:02.599 --> 00:32:07.680 Again, this is why, this is why society's breaking down. 790 00:32:07.079 --> 00:32:13.279 But I think that, look, the most beautiful thing I've 791 00:32:13.319 --> 00:32:16.680 ever seen is that six forty am did alarm go off? 792 00:32:16.720 --> 00:32:19.519 I agree, but most men think I'm not the only 793 00:32:19.599 --> 00:32:21.880 man who thinks this way. We love that you can 794 00:32:21.960 --> 00:32:24.319 look all dolled up for ball and you're going to 795 00:32:24.359 --> 00:32:26.680 look one kind of beautiful. But this is like you 796 00:32:26.799 --> 00:32:29.359 as you and that sun kind of coming in and 797 00:32:29.400 --> 00:32:32.680 we see that at least me again, And I'm no dummy. 798 00:32:33.160 --> 00:32:35.160 I look at that as the painting r. 799 00:32:37.000 --> 00:32:39.160 Are you well, I'm just saying that men are not 800 00:32:39.279 --> 00:32:42.400 encouraged to express that because you're most likely to hear like, 801 00:32:42.440 --> 00:32:44.039 oh my god, don't look at it, don't look at me. 802 00:32:44.079 --> 00:32:44.960 I'm ugly. No I'm not. 803 00:32:45.039 --> 00:32:46.599 You just want to sex with me again, So why 804 00:32:46.599 --> 00:32:49.880 would you want to date someone of that caliber when 805 00:32:49.920 --> 00:32:51.880 you're intellectually intelligent? 806 00:32:52.000 --> 00:32:54.599 Whati what caliber are we talking about? The ability to 807 00:32:54.599 --> 00:32:56.960 give a compliment should be from any We're all the same. 808 00:32:57.799 --> 00:33:00.240 But it's insincere if you don't. I would never if 809 00:33:00.279 --> 00:33:03.799 a man looked gorgeous to me, if he looked dropped 810 00:33:03.799 --> 00:33:06.920 dead gorgeous, I still wouldn't give him a compliment because 811 00:33:06.960 --> 00:33:09.000 I don't know who he is on the inside, And 812 00:33:09.079 --> 00:33:12.279 for me to give someone a compliment for me, I 813 00:33:12.359 --> 00:33:15.119 have to know who they are on the inside until 814 00:33:15.160 --> 00:33:16.359 actually right, Like. 815 00:33:17.079 --> 00:33:19.920 That's fine, Yeah, I mean I hand him out. 816 00:33:19.759 --> 00:33:22.079 Like I feel it's a sincere if they say it 817 00:33:22.079 --> 00:33:23.359 to me because they don't know me. 818 00:33:23.599 --> 00:33:25.559 No, I know, I would rather say it than not. 819 00:33:25.640 --> 00:33:28.279 I'd rather err on the side. I think what you 820 00:33:28.359 --> 00:33:30.079 don't want to be is the only one in the 821 00:33:30.160 --> 00:33:31.559 room not complimented. 822 00:33:32.200 --> 00:33:34.079 That would suck. Oh my god, you look amazing around 823 00:33:34.359 --> 00:33:38.559 high that you gotta be careful about that too. Yeah, 824 00:33:38.680 --> 00:33:39.839 I'm I'm but. 825 00:33:39.799 --> 00:33:41.079 I wouldn't say it if you didn't mean it, Like 826 00:33:41.119 --> 00:33:42.039 if you give him all like ticks ex. 827 00:33:42.640 --> 00:33:45.079 If you find a different compliment of somebody who you 828 00:33:45.079 --> 00:33:47.359 don't normally find attractive look good in a particular moment 829 00:33:47.440 --> 00:33:47.960 or day. 830 00:33:48.160 --> 00:33:50.160 You have to say, oh my god, you look great today. 831 00:33:50.480 --> 00:33:52.799 Is there anything wrong with that? You look great today? No? 832 00:33:52.880 --> 00:33:53.400 Well today? 833 00:33:54.039 --> 00:33:54.640 Right? Okay? 834 00:33:55.119 --> 00:33:56.039 Great today? 835 00:33:56.119 --> 00:33:58.759 Is like that means she doesn't look good normally. 836 00:33:59.160 --> 00:34:02.000 It is mine from That's what I'm That's what I'm saying. 837 00:34:02.039 --> 00:34:05.160 Who is it coming from the homeless dude or. 838 00:34:05.640 --> 00:34:08.320 You're a coworker or ship. I don't care. 839 00:34:08.519 --> 00:34:09.199 I give a ship. 840 00:34:09.280 --> 00:34:10.920 Well, that happened to me the other day, and you're right, 841 00:34:11.000 --> 00:34:13.360 I rarely had accomplished and somebody goes, your hair looks good, 842 00:34:13.400 --> 00:34:14.679 and I go, doesn't it always. 843 00:34:14.400 --> 00:34:16.320 Like I shot it down. I did the exact same thing. 844 00:34:16.400 --> 00:34:17.880 That was not the way to respect because it was 845 00:34:17.920 --> 00:34:19.000 insincere and your o. 846 00:34:19.440 --> 00:34:20.360 It was sincere. 847 00:34:20.840 --> 00:34:23.159 I was not prepared to accept it, so I went 848 00:34:23.199 --> 00:34:26.000 to an insecure place the other The only choices for 849 00:34:26.039 --> 00:34:27.440 me were to shoot it down or say no. 850 00:34:27.559 --> 00:34:29.480 Shit, those are my choices. 851 00:34:29.519 --> 00:34:29.960 Thank you. 852 00:34:30.039 --> 00:34:31.920 I wouldn't say thank you because I'm an asshole, but 853 00:34:32.000 --> 00:34:33.559 I would have been like, no fucking shit, I have 854 00:34:33.559 --> 00:34:33.960 great hair. 855 00:34:33.960 --> 00:34:35.039 I think you're an asshole. Anymore. 856 00:34:35.199 --> 00:34:36.159 Okay, right, Okay, we. 857 00:34:36.159 --> 00:34:42.000 Evolve, but anyway, so we agree though that the highest compliment. 858 00:34:41.599 --> 00:34:45.559 For a woman is gorgeous and stunning. Stunning is good too. 859 00:34:45.800 --> 00:34:46.840 There's something that's stunning you. 860 00:34:46.920 --> 00:34:48.559 Let would you take either one of those from your 861 00:34:48.559 --> 00:34:49.519 man and be happy? 862 00:34:49.760 --> 00:34:51.519 Stunning? Beautiful, radiant? 863 00:34:51.599 --> 00:34:52.480 Beautiful is okay? 864 00:34:52.599 --> 00:34:54.360 And it's your man loves you? 865 00:34:54.440 --> 00:34:58.360 Yeah, goddamn Fox, Oh. 866 00:34:57.599 --> 00:35:01.199 I would never. That's where that's a little range. 867 00:35:01.800 --> 00:35:04.360 I'd fucking love that, Fox. Fox. 868 00:35:04.559 --> 00:35:06.199 That's because you were born in the sixties. 869 00:35:06.320 --> 00:35:06.880 Yes, I was. 870 00:35:07.000 --> 00:35:10.159 Okay, Well, maybe that was an term of endearment back 871 00:35:10.159 --> 00:35:12.960 in the seventies or something. 872 00:35:14.480 --> 00:35:16.079 I think it's I think it's timeless. 873 00:35:16.280 --> 00:35:20.599 Bottom line, like compliments, if they're sincere, I love them. 874 00:35:20.639 --> 00:35:21.960 Tell me every day that. 875 00:35:22.000 --> 00:35:24.440 She's a babe. Is that okay? You're such a babe? 876 00:35:24.480 --> 00:35:25.000 Is that okay? 877 00:35:26.559 --> 00:35:29.960 I don't know what it mean. Are you twenty two? 878 00:35:30.519 --> 00:35:30.960 Maybe? 879 00:35:31.119 --> 00:35:33.239 What if a twenty two is a compliment different from 880 00:35:33.239 --> 00:35:34.800 a twenty two year old than a sixty two year old? 881 00:35:34.840 --> 00:35:35.599 I think it does. 882 00:35:35.840 --> 00:35:37.760 You're not quite on the contract. 883 00:35:37.920 --> 00:35:40.519 If I'm a If I'm in a relationship and my 884 00:35:40.639 --> 00:35:44.039 other partner says to me, after you know I want 885 00:35:44.039 --> 00:35:46.000 you to be my little whore today in the bedroom, 886 00:35:46.000 --> 00:35:47.360 I'd be like fuck yeah. 887 00:35:47.280 --> 00:35:49.400 Or is about action not appearance? 888 00:35:50.119 --> 00:35:52.000 Yeah, but whore in the streets is like very I 889 00:35:52.000 --> 00:35:53.960 do not call me in the bedroom like yes. 890 00:35:53.800 --> 00:35:55.519 Like okay, but nobody's gonna walk up and call you 891 00:35:55.559 --> 00:35:59.519 a whore in the streets. Maybe the homeless guy, maybe 892 00:35:59.519 --> 00:36:04.000 seven eleve. What do you want a compliment? I said 893 00:36:04.000 --> 00:36:05.960 this on a podcast recently, that a compliment from a 894 00:36:06.239 --> 00:36:08.320 from a gay man meant more to me. I said 895 00:36:08.320 --> 00:36:11.400 that a compliment, Yeah, I said that. So would a 896 00:36:11.440 --> 00:36:14.239 compliment for your thirty nine? Would a compliment from a 897 00:36:14.280 --> 00:36:15.599 twenty five year old mean more to. 898 00:36:15.599 --> 00:36:19.440 You than a fifty five year old? Yes? 899 00:36:19.760 --> 00:36:23.920 Yeah, matters Sorry, like I still got it boys exactly 900 00:36:24.079 --> 00:36:26.639 me too? Yes, yeah, me too, Because I think if 901 00:36:26.639 --> 00:36:28.679 you still a good to twenty six year old, eyes right, 902 00:36:30.320 --> 00:36:32.920 and you're not looked through that Barbara Walters filter, Like 903 00:36:32.960 --> 00:36:33.880 it's the same thing. 904 00:36:34.000 --> 00:36:36.039 Walters was like seventy like really. 905 00:36:35.880 --> 00:36:40.039 You know secret, she's fucking hot, hot body, Barbara Walters, 906 00:36:40.119 --> 00:36:43.719 the underrated older woman hots that I've been around. 907 00:36:43.800 --> 00:36:50.280 Joan Rivers. Yeah, Barbara Walters, Yeah. 908 00:36:49.039 --> 00:36:51.599 And this is gonna be a weird one to break 909 00:36:51.599 --> 00:36:55.519 out Princess Grace and she died a long time ago. 910 00:36:56.280 --> 00:36:57.559 You even knew Princess Grace. 911 00:36:57.840 --> 00:36:59.800 I used to go to church with Princess Grace and 912 00:37:00.079 --> 00:37:01.760 Harris and Jewish. 913 00:37:02.159 --> 00:37:05.679 You are, oh, I. 914 00:37:05.639 --> 00:37:08.679 Should qualify that I have a Jewish grandmother, So I 915 00:37:08.719 --> 00:37:10.360 guess that's like being a little and he gets along 916 00:37:10.360 --> 00:37:10.599 with you. 917 00:37:10.960 --> 00:37:12.760 I'm very neurotic. I speak the language. 918 00:37:12.840 --> 00:37:15.239 And when he's in Boca, do you identify with my 919 00:37:15.280 --> 00:37:16.360 crucifix around my now? 920 00:37:16.519 --> 00:37:19.639 No, I identify as agnostic, which we all are anyway. 921 00:37:20.480 --> 00:37:22.320 And that's another podcast, another podcast. 922 00:37:22.360 --> 00:37:24.639 I've said that before, I pissed people off, and agnostic 923 00:37:24.679 --> 00:37:27.039 means I'm not sure, that's fine, fair enough. 924 00:37:27.239 --> 00:37:30.639 I don't like atheists. They're too sure that there's nothing. 925 00:37:30.840 --> 00:37:32.360 No atheists is like no atheists. 926 00:37:32.679 --> 00:37:33.639 I know there's nothing. 927 00:37:34.519 --> 00:37:36.239 We're all agnostics. We just don't like to admit it. 928 00:37:38.199 --> 00:37:41.039 That's another podcast. That's the only that's the third rail 929 00:37:41.079 --> 00:37:44.440 around here, the the the really religious people get mad 930 00:37:44.480 --> 00:37:46.679 when I say that that we're all the same. If 931 00:37:46.719 --> 00:37:48.239 you laid out, if you didn't know anything about any 932 00:37:48.280 --> 00:37:50.239 religions and you landed here and you read the Book 933 00:37:50.280 --> 00:37:52.440 of Mormon, you read the Church of Scientology, and you 934 00:37:52.480 --> 00:37:53.599 read the Bible. 935 00:37:53.880 --> 00:37:55.480 They all seem equally insane. 936 00:37:55.920 --> 00:37:58.079 Probably. I mean, I'm not that religious, so I can't. 937 00:37:58.440 --> 00:38:00.639 But you're all kind of the same moments, but they're 938 00:38:00.639 --> 00:38:01.039 all kind of. 939 00:38:01.039 --> 00:38:04.119 It means like I have comments. So we'll wait last night. 940 00:38:04.239 --> 00:38:06.840 Tell everybody if you want them to where they can 941 00:38:06.880 --> 00:38:10.119 find you and tell you're pretty. 942 00:38:11.159 --> 00:38:14.280 You can find me at Jane and Stella on Instagram 943 00:38:14.280 --> 00:38:16.440 and Dan tell me tell me I'm pretty, And I 944 00:38:16.519 --> 00:38:17.239 promise I will. 945 00:38:17.320 --> 00:38:18.760 You'll take the DM compliment. 946 00:38:18.840 --> 00:38:20.199 I will promise to to. 947 00:38:22.239 --> 00:38:23.400 Is it dick pick a compliment? 948 00:38:24.320 --> 00:38:25.320 It is atrocious? 949 00:38:25.639 --> 00:38:28.199 Yeah, I will say that's that should be a podcast 950 00:38:28.280 --> 00:38:30.079 for you because that is something else. 951 00:38:30.800 --> 00:38:31.920 You think we have done that podcast? 952 00:38:32.760 --> 00:38:36.320 All right, Julie, I'm everywhere by Julie Lauren. I would 953 00:38:36.400 --> 00:38:39.400 absolutely appreciate a sincere compliment in my DMS any day 954 00:38:39.400 --> 00:38:41.199 of the week. I do a podcast Life Unscripted, but 955 00:38:41.199 --> 00:38:42.559 I haven't done it in a while. It used to 956 00:38:42.599 --> 00:38:43.480 be hashtag noo filter. 957 00:38:43.639 --> 00:38:46.920 That's all that sucks. We're back to podcast. I know. 958 00:38:46.960 --> 00:38:49.119 I know it's been a hot I've been going through shit, all. 959 00:38:49.119 --> 00:38:52.880 Right, Okay, that's when you should podcast as far as 960 00:38:53.039 --> 00:38:56.440 us like, share, follow, Please review this podcast after four 961 00:38:56.760 --> 00:39:01.719 hundred and ninety nine episodes. By the way, yes podcast, 962 00:39:01.880 --> 00:39:03.960 your reviews still mean a lot on the podcasting ecosystem. 963 00:39:04.039 --> 00:39:06.519 Is a defensive that you were four ninety hundred. 964 00:39:10.320 --> 00:39:14.679 Or are you like, oh, I'm close enough to greatness? 965 00:39:14.039 --> 00:39:16.559 Why why didn't we make the cut for five hundred? 966 00:39:16.679 --> 00:39:17.239 You'll have to listen? 967 00:39:18.639 --> 00:39:19.320 That's bullshit. 968 00:39:20.000 --> 00:39:22.199 Shoot us an email Great Loved Debate at gmail dot com. 969 00:39:22.239 --> 00:39:24.800 If you want a compliment for me, send us your pictures. 970 00:39:24.840 --> 00:39:25.679 We'll compliment you. 971 00:39:25.800 --> 00:39:28.199 Or if you have questions, comments, or you think Fox 972 00:39:28.280 --> 00:39:31.719 is the greatest compliment ever because as always at the 973 00:39:31.760 --> 00:39:34.880 Great Love Debate, we never stopped making love. 974 00:39:34.920 --> 00:39:43.760 See next time the Great Love Debate. It's the Great 975 00:39:44.079 --> 00:39:46.199 Love Debate, degree 976 00:39:46.599 --> 00:39:49.760 Love debate, It's agreed love Debate.