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<v Speaker 1>So I'm here in San Francisco with one of my

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<v Speaker 1>best friends of thirty years, and we were having we've

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<v Speaker 1>been having all these discussions about life, catching up on

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<v Speaker 1>our lives, talking about the world and stuff, and I

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<v Speaker 1>was I was having this thought, and I wanna share

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<v Speaker 1>it with you all, because that's why I have the

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<v Speaker 1>show fifty plus to share with you kind of the

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<v Speaker 1>thoughts that go through my head and sometimes you too

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<v Speaker 1>when you're fifty plus. My friend sixty five just turned

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<v Speaker 1>sixty five. I asked him, how's it feeling, And it's funny.

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<v Speaker 1>We a the thing we came to we both agree on.

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<v Speaker 1>People say age is nothing but a number, and that

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<v Speaker 1>is true, maybe not for how people think when they

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<v Speaker 1>say it, but it's here, and here's my thought on that.

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<v Speaker 1>It's you're right, M. When you turn twenty one, there

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<v Speaker 1>is no specific feeling for twenty one. We assign thoughts

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<v Speaker 1>about turning twenty one. We assign a M. It's a

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<v Speaker 1>milestone marker. So there's no official If it makes this

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<v Speaker 1>make sense, there's no official feeling when you're when you

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<v Speaker 1>turn twenty one, a certain feeling doesn't happen or not

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<v Speaker 1>happen all of a sudden, cause it's it's literally up

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<v Speaker 1>to you how you feel in twenty one, it's brought off.

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<v Speaker 1>The feelings are brought on by you. So fifty sixty

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<v Speaker 1>or I was saying a think life, it's the same thing.

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<v Speaker 1>But I was saying for me, this is the first

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<v Speaker 1>year twenty twenty four that I feel this age group

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<v Speaker 1>and that is the fifty five and up crowd. I

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<v Speaker 1>actually kind of feel it. There was no clique. Like

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<v Speaker 1>I said on my birthday on May tenth, I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>just suddenly feel a certain way that was a sign

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<v Speaker 1>to that age fifty five. But I am feeling the

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<v Speaker 1>generalness of what this age can feel. I can bring.

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<v Speaker 1>We're talking about our parents or aging parents, who's left,

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<v Speaker 1>who's older than us, the younger generation, they what they're

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<v Speaker 1>saying and doing. You We're talking about all kinds of stuff,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's what's really interest seem to me. It's like, Wow,

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<v Speaker 1>this is the first year I'm really feeling older. I

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<v Speaker 1>was I trained the other day and a guy was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>about the same age. Now, I'm thinking he was actually younger.

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<v Speaker 1>I looked at him and I thought he thought he

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<v Speaker 1>was thirties and forties. He goes, well, I'm fifty. He

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<v Speaker 1>looked good for his age. I was like, so I

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<v Speaker 1>do look fifty to him. It was the first time

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<v Speaker 1>someone said I looked like I was in my fifties.

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<v Speaker 1>Be those were said in my forties. I even got

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<v Speaker 1>thirty eight, thirty nine, but I just get forties. I'm like, well,

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<v Speaker 1>I almost look First, I was like, I must look tired. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I mostly tired. That's crazy. No, But it was like,

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<v Speaker 1>now look in the mirror, and I'm like, okay, look

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<v Speaker 1>at my hands, look a little older. Why I take

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<v Speaker 1>care of my skin and stuff my face. It was

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<v Speaker 1>like looking looking a little older and still take care

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<v Speaker 1>of myself. But it's like, wow, I'm not ashamed of

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<v Speaker 1>it or like I wasn't hurt by it, but just

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<v Speaker 1>like it just kind of caught me off guard. Like

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<v Speaker 1>I to some folks, I'm probably an old man. That's

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<v Speaker 1>how I'm viewed. And but I'm also feeling the weight

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<v Speaker 1>of the grown children, the grandchildren, the aging parents, that

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<v Speaker 1>whole they're so sandwich direction thing I've talked about before.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm feeling it this year and also in my work.

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<v Speaker 1>My age has come in handy and it's been a

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<v Speaker 1>benefit to me getting some of these gigs, to me

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<v Speaker 1>getting some of the clients, and for me to come

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<v Speaker 1>across as credible. It's given me gravitas. I do have

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<v Speaker 1>letters after my name. I do have experiences, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>And my friend and I am going back toys talking

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<v Speaker 1>about life. We're able to share experiences because he's well traveled.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm well traveled. He's well read. I'm well read. He's

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<v Speaker 1>just he's lived sixty five years. I lived thirty five years.

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<v Speaker 1>That's why I appreciate is that we can talk and

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<v Speaker 1>have conversations about long ranging topics and it's just, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>it's okay. And I think that's what's really important. I

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<v Speaker 1>think people almost forget that we can do that and

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<v Speaker 1>it's okay. But age brings that. But in everyday life,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't always feel any age, right. I just feel

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<v Speaker 1>like James. I don't know that. I don't know what

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<v Speaker 1>that means, but I just feel like I'm meet But

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<v Speaker 1>there's no particular age. There are times when I feel

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<v Speaker 1>very youthful, and there are times I feel like I

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<v Speaker 1>like I should be. I'm one foot in the grave

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<v Speaker 1>the money, know how I am. I'm also at that

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<v Speaker 1>age and many of you guys wanna relate to this

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<v Speaker 1>where I am, where I have a pain or an

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<v Speaker 1>ache somewhere in my body, somewhere even you know. We

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<v Speaker 1>were talking last night for a last night about getting dinner,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was like, I don't wanna walk three blocks

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<v Speaker 1>up and down these secle streets to go over to

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<v Speaker 1>that place. So I the old days I've been screaming

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<v Speaker 1>and run down the street, but those days are over.

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<v Speaker 1>My friend Michelle, I'm talking to her and she's just like,

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<v Speaker 1>we're all we're all this around the same age and

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<v Speaker 1>we all have the same I have younger friends, and

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<v Speaker 1>I watched them navigate stuff, and I'm like, that's how

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<v Speaker 1>I used to be. I get it. So when they

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<v Speaker 1>view they look at me, and they view me sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just an old guid to them. I mean it's

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<v Speaker 1>well meaning or not or happiest or whatever, but it's

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<v Speaker 1>kind of like I say something they're like, oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>that's such a one of my friends coming up Boomer

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<v Speaker 1>the other day and I'm like, oh my god, I

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<v Speaker 1>heard I the way I said. I said, Yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>can see why it sounds that way, and I stand

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<v Speaker 1>by what I said, Like I'm not apologizing I did

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<v Speaker 1>say that, I mentioned it, and that's life, Like, oh

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<v Speaker 1>my god, it's crazy. So yeah, it's it's it's a trip,

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<v Speaker 1>say least those are thoughts. Well, I'm here in San Francisco,

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<v Speaker 1>here for work, and I'm also a house and cats sitting,

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<v Speaker 1>and he's talking to a good friend and brings all

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<v Speaker 1>reflection a little bit. Now he's he's left to go

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<v Speaker 1>on a trip. When I watched his house, I'll see

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<v Speaker 1>when he gets back. But I was like, yeah, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>and actually what's funny is and they don't listen to

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<v Speaker 1>my shows anyway, but I'm going to They don't let

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<v Speaker 1>my kids will Grantkis will know this. I'm gonna go

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<v Speaker 1>see them after I leave. I'm gonna stop by their

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<v Speaker 1>place my way home and surprise them. I love surprising them.

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<v Speaker 1>I love just gonna show him going Hi. I love

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<v Speaker 1>to reading that, so I'm gonna do that. I'm my bike.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm James On Junior. This is fifty plus. I'd love

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<v Speaker 1>to hear from you also, and if you have any

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<v Speaker 1>thoughts of your own about this and stuff, please where

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<v Speaker 1>we find this on the audio sphere comments. I like

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<v Speaker 1>to read your comments, like subscribing and rate. This is

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<v Speaker 1>the other episodes you know I'm talking about. I'm talking

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<v Speaker 1>about fifty plus in real time and in real ways.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll talk to you next time.