Speaker 1: Hi everyone, and welcome back to the podcast episode. My
Speaker 1: name is Lisha Gogain, the host of the Globe Secrets podcast.
Speaker 1: Why I help you expand your mind and become more
Speaker 1: self awares that you can glow up into the best
Speaker 1: version of yourself. Hello, Happy Sunday. If you're listening to
Speaker 1: this on a Sunday, I hope everyone is well. I
Speaker 1: just want to quickly shout out to the fact that
Speaker 1: this is my two hundredth episode of the podcast. And
Speaker 1: if you watch on YouTube, just know that my podcast
Speaker 1: is available on Spotify, Apple like wherever you listen to
Speaker 1: your audio podcasts. And there's about fifty ish to sixty
Speaker 1: episodes that are not on YouTube because I originally started
Speaker 1: my podcast not on YouTube, just in case you want
Speaker 1: more content Healing, Inner child Work, shadow Work. They're old episodes. Okay,
Speaker 1: we have evolved. It's been a few years since I
Speaker 1: started my podcast, but they're there. But I do want
Speaker 1: to say thank you guys so much for being along
Speaker 1: on this ride with me. Whether you've been here from
Speaker 1: the beginning or you just joined the community. I'm so
Speaker 1: excited to be glowing up and healing with you guys.
Speaker 1: And with that said, I've really been trying to lean
Speaker 1: into the community tab here on YouTube and posting quotes
Speaker 1: and just reminders to you guys anytime that I feel
Speaker 1: like I want to share something, share a message and
Speaker 1: really just pour into you guys, because I think it's
Speaker 1: important and it really motivates me. And I want to
Speaker 1: read to you a quote that I posted the other
Speaker 1: day and a little message that I said which really
Speaker 1: inspired me to talk about setting yourself free from your
Speaker 1: generational trauma, the things that were handed to you in
Speaker 1: your past, so that you can live a better, more
Speaker 1: free life, because I just believe that unfortunately, sometimes we
Speaker 1: get handed a deck of cards that might not have
Speaker 1: served us, might have really set us back in a
Speaker 1: lot of ways, but it doesn't mean that we can't
Speaker 1: transform these cards and up level them and change our
Speaker 1: lives and really let go of the things that don't
Speaker 1: need to be ours to hold on to. And if
Speaker 1: you are new here, I have been through a lot
Speaker 1: in my life when it comes to trauma and my upbringing.
Speaker 1: I had parents who were addicts. They both passed away.
Speaker 1: And when you come from an upbringing where parents were
Speaker 1: addicts or they were struggling, like financially we didn't come
Speaker 1: from money or anything like that as well. Unfortunately, there
Speaker 1: is other things that will affect you as a child developing,
Speaker 1: you know, not having consistency when it comes to parenting,
Speaker 1: or you know, emotional on availability when it comes to
Speaker 1: a certain parent, financial instability, and then chronic illness that
Speaker 1: can come as a result of living in fight or
Speaker 1: flight for so many years. There's so many things that
Speaker 1: I have been through, and I'm not even saying this
Speaker 1: to get any sort of pity, and I actually do
Speaker 1: believe that there are many people who have it ten
Speaker 1: times the worse. I see some of your guys's comments,
Speaker 1: and you know, you guys have really been through it
Speaker 1: as well. But I say all that to say, like,
Speaker 1: I have gone through so much in my life, and
Speaker 1: it was because there's been so much generational trauma in
Speaker 1: my family line, both sides. You know, my parents' upbringings
Speaker 1: were very difficult, and there was a lot of addiction
Speaker 1: and abuse and you know, just shitty circumstances like a
Speaker 1: lot of us. And I could have really fallen victim
Speaker 1: to that lifestyle that I was living, and I was
Speaker 1: able to prevail and I was able to change how
Speaker 1: I experienced my life, and there was a lot of
Speaker 1: trials and tribulations and a lot of lessons that I
Speaker 1: had to learn, but I got out of it and
Speaker 1: I'm still working through these things. I do think my
Speaker 1: twenties was really all about unlearning all of the shit
Speaker 1: that was put on me and all the things that
Speaker 1: I had to go through, and I'm still healing from
Speaker 1: a lot of these things. But I really just want
Speaker 1: to share with you guys some of the mindset shifts
Speaker 1: and some of the things that have helped me when
Speaker 1: it comes to breaking free from this. And I say
Speaker 1: all this because I do see a lot of people hurting.
Speaker 1: I see a lot of people talking about the struggles
Speaker 1: that they are currently living in or they have been
Speaker 1: because of their upbringing, because of generational trauma. At the
Speaker 1: end of the day, like you didn't just come out
Speaker 1: of the womb like wanting to be in fight or flight,
Speaker 1: or there might have been traumatic things that have happened
Speaker 1: to you. But in my personal opinion, I think that
Speaker 1: we can take a lot of agency over our lives.
Speaker 1: But I do think it does take other people speaking
Speaker 1: about these topics to show you that it is possible.
Speaker 1: So again that's going to be what the episode is about.
Speaker 1: But I do want to read this quote that I
Speaker 1: shared with you guys on the community tab, and it says,
Speaker 1: I hope you will walk on this journey knowing that
Speaker 1: you belong. I hope even if things sometimes don't go
Speaker 1: your way, you will not stop trying. You will not
Speaker 1: give up on yourself, and on your toughest days, I
Speaker 1: hope you will keep reminding yourself of this. You are
Speaker 1: loved and you are worthy, even when it doesn't feel
Speaker 1: that way. And I believe I resonated with this quote
Speaker 1: a lot, because when you come from generational trauma, when
Speaker 1: you come from shitty upbringings, when you come from lack
Speaker 1: of love and consistency, whatever it is, you have this
Speaker 1: sense of believing that good things don't get to happen
Speaker 1: to you, or good things haven't happened to you, So
Speaker 1: why would you believe that? Or you aren't lovable, or
Speaker 1: everyone else gets love or financial stability but you don't,
Speaker 1: And everything needs to be a struggle, and it's really
Speaker 1: hard sometimes to believe when good things come into your
Speaker 1: life that you belong, or you are deserving, or you
Speaker 1: are loved. But on that same coin, we are constantly
Speaker 1: striving for that we want that, we deeply want love
Speaker 1: and connection and abundance and safety. That's what we're constantly
Speaker 1: trying to seek, even if we've told ourselves we don't
Speaker 1: deserve it. We're constantly on that pursuit. And what I
Speaker 1: wrote on the community tab was I think many of
Speaker 1: us struggle with feeling like we belong and are worthy
Speaker 1: of good things when coming from many years of living
Speaker 1: and experiencing the opposite. But please try to remember that
Speaker 1: you no longer need to hold onto your past conditioning.
Speaker 1: You are allowed to believe and claim a life filled
Speaker 1: with happiness, belonging, and real love, even if it feels
Speaker 1: like imposterish. It's okay if it feels like that at first.
Speaker 1: Let it be that until it isn't. And I think
Speaker 1: the first step of really breaking free from the old
Speaker 1: life that is really keeping you stuck is understanding that
Speaker 1: you still are living out these beliefs and this trauma, essentially,
Speaker 1: whether it's constantly expecting struggle or believing that life has
Speaker 1: to be really hard, or believing that you're unworthy of
Speaker 1: love or relationships friendships, believing that you can't you're not
Speaker 1: good enough, you don't know how to sabotaging the good
Speaker 1: things that do come into your life, or second guessing
Speaker 1: it or waiting for that ball to drop and just
Speaker 1: not actually believing that this could be your life, or
Speaker 1: even settling for less. I think we do that a
Speaker 1: lot in life because we weren't handed a lot, so
Speaker 1: we're just going to kind of take what we get,
Speaker 1: whether that's relationships or money, opportunities, careers, friendships, even treatment
Speaker 1: from other people, just everything. And if you feel like
Speaker 1: your life is kind of lackluster, if you feel like
Speaker 1: you don't have good friendships or relationships, or you feel
Speaker 1: like you're stuck in your life, it is important to
Speaker 1: see how you're probably playing out certain patterns or playing
Speaker 1: out beliefs that you have kept all of your life
Speaker 1: based off of your past, which is bleeding into your future,
Speaker 1: which is bleeding into your current life circumstance. And it's
Speaker 1: not your fault that these things happen, but it is
Speaker 1: to see how when you believe that you only deserve
Speaker 1: half assed love, you're only going to ever see that,
Speaker 1: recognize that, and accept that. And for instance, with me,
Speaker 1: I took a different path than both of my parents
Speaker 1: when I saw what I saw in my childhood even
Speaker 1: into my teenage years, I basically did the opposite. I
Speaker 1: became very hyper responsible. I had to be. There was
Speaker 1: many things that my parents weren't doing or showing up for,
Speaker 1: and of course they were also just doing the best
Speaker 1: that they could. There were many things that my parents
Speaker 1: did that were great, especially my mother, like she was
Speaker 1: such a loving mother. But at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: I saw that there was many things that I just
Speaker 1: didn't want to do or be and I made the
Speaker 1: best decisions that I could as I was growing up,
Speaker 1: even into my twenties, but that didn't take away the
Speaker 1: fact that I was still living out trauma that was
Speaker 1: basically from their decisions, and you know, down the line
Speaker 1: of my family when my parents weren't showing up, I
Speaker 1: went into hyper responsibility, hyper independent, but so much so
Speaker 1: that I isolated myself. I didn't rely on people. I
Speaker 1: didn't build real community or friendship, which is what I
Speaker 1: deserved and which is what I needed. Anyways, you can't
Speaker 1: do everything alone. I moved super heavily into fight or
Speaker 1: flight that I ended up getting a lot of chronic illness.
Speaker 1: I was always worrying about things. I was always stressed
Speaker 1: about things, and that was taking a toll on my body,
Speaker 1: my nervous system, my mindset, the decisions that I was
Speaker 1: making in my life, and what really allowed me to
Speaker 1: move out of this generational trauma, these generational shitty circumstances,
Speaker 1: was to take a deep look at all the things
Speaker 1: that I have been through in my life and release
Speaker 1: it and let it go. And I had to do
Speaker 1: this over and over again every season of my life.
Speaker 1: Every time that I saw that I was going into
Speaker 1: a new habit self sabotaging in some sort of way
Speaker 1: or accepting the bare minimum, I had to track it
Speaker 1: back to the things that I was given in childhood,
Speaker 1: and most of the time it was my past and
Speaker 1: the things that I was grown up around and the
Speaker 1: limited perspective that I had just based off of how
Speaker 1: I grew up. But the thing is with letting go
Speaker 1: of your past, not only are you going to have
Speaker 1: to do that over and over again. It's not just
Speaker 1: like one day you just let go of everything, like
Speaker 1: things can come up again. But letting go also does
Speaker 1: mean accepting and acknowledging that you were handed shitty cards,
Speaker 1: which can hurt and can create a lot of feelings
Speaker 1: of you know, just sadness to begin with. But it
Speaker 1: also means that you might have to do some forgiveness
Speaker 1: when it comes to parents or people or situations that
Speaker 1: were in your past. And I think that many people
Speaker 1: don't want to do that because it's like, why why
Speaker 1: I forgive people who hurt me or put me through
Speaker 1: really hard things? And obviously, to each their own right,
Speaker 1: everyone's experience is different. But what I learned about letting
Speaker 1: go and you know, moving on, it was energetic release
Speaker 1: and it was giving myself permission to live a better
Speaker 1: life and to understand that I am not condoning and
Speaker 1: saying that what my parents did was right or what
Speaker 1: these circumstances were were things that can just like go unscathe.
Speaker 1: It's not even that, but it's just to see how
Speaker 1: I am no longer going to keep myself locked in
Speaker 1: this jail cell of someone else's decisions. And yes, have
Speaker 1: I made decisions in my life that were basically like
Speaker 1: my own. I'm not ever going to always like blame
Speaker 1: my parents or blame society whatever. We have to take
Speaker 1: ownership of some of the things that we have decided
Speaker 1: to do or be your act in our lives. But
Speaker 1: at the end of the day, it's like, I'm not
Speaker 1: going to I don't deserve and you guys don't deserve
Speaker 1: to keep holding trauma, keep holding the darkness that is
Speaker 1: not yours. And I think about this when it comes
Speaker 1: to my mom. A lot of you guys know, maybe
Speaker 1: some of you guys don't. She passed away in December
Speaker 1: of last year, so it hasn't been that many months.
Speaker 1: And I just know deep down that my mom would
Speaker 1: not be at peace right now in heaven knowing that
Speaker 1: I'm still down here carrying the weight of her mistakes,
Speaker 1: her decisions, her trauma. She would not want that. And
Speaker 1: I think sometimes it can be hard to think that
Speaker 1: your parents actually wouldn't want that for you, if they're
Speaker 1: still here and they're still hurting you, or you know,
Speaker 1: they have gone through things in their lives with you
Speaker 1: and maybe they haven't even apologized. You know, everyone's situations
Speaker 1: are different, But I genuinely think at the end of
Speaker 1: the day, on a soul level, we aren't here to
Speaker 1: hurt each other. And so if you can just understand
Speaker 1: that hurt people do hurt people. And I think about
Speaker 1: this when it comes to my dad. He was so
Speaker 1: emotionally unavailable and he honestly, like, let's just call a
Speaker 1: spadas baby fuck me up a lot, okay. And I
Speaker 1: know he knew that as well before he passed, and
Speaker 1: I just know that he also wouldn't be at peace
Speaker 1: knowing that I'm carrying this, And unfortunately, it's gonna be
Speaker 1: up to me to put in that work and put
Speaker 1: in those reps of healing, of doing certain things that
Speaker 1: will allow me to heal and let these things go.
Speaker 1: It's not going to be an easy process and it's
Speaker 1: not fair. But what I'm not going to do is
Speaker 1: live the rest of my life believing that I'm not enough,
Speaker 1: living out these traumas, self sabotaging, doing shitty behaviors, all
Speaker 1: because I am coping with shit that was never even
Speaker 1: mine to carry in the first place. Now, there's many
Speaker 1: ways that you can let go and release and move on.
Speaker 1: Like I said, there's many seasons of life where you're
Speaker 1: going to need to do that. And one of the
Speaker 1: things that I have always done is done a journal
Speaker 1: practice where I just call it emotional releasing, right, really
Speaker 1: just writing out the anger, the frustration, the sadness, the
Speaker 1: disappointment that you might have towards parents or caregivers, whoever right,
Speaker 1: or people that hurt you in your past, whether it
Speaker 1: was lovers or things in school systems, or just writing
Speaker 1: out how things aren't fair in life in general. You know,
Speaker 1: I'm not saying that we have to pretend that things
Speaker 1: are not it's shitty in life, but to really let
Speaker 1: those feelings out can be therapeutic, of course, and can
Speaker 1: really allow you to not keep holding on to these
Speaker 1: beliefs and these thoughts and this anger, this frustration to
Speaker 1: the point where that could even be held in your body.
Speaker 1: And a lot of our pain that we physically feel
Speaker 1: in our body is tends to have an emotional connection,
Speaker 1: and a lot of that is resentment and anger and
Speaker 1: frustration and sadness and really not allowing ourselves to have
Speaker 1: a voice. But at the end of the day, if
Speaker 1: you want to set yourself free, you're going to have
Speaker 1: to allow yourself to let go of the past and
Speaker 1: understand that that does not need to be yours anymore.
Speaker 1: That deck of cards, it doesn't need to be yours anymore. Now,
Speaker 1: this leads me in to the third thing that I
Speaker 1: always think about, and I really switched out of this
Speaker 1: mindset very young. I did this mainly because this mindset
Speaker 1: wasn't going to keep me alive. It wasn't it wasn't
Speaker 1: going to help me progress in life. I just realize
Speaker 1: that very early on, and that is the mentality. And
Speaker 1: I think a lot of people get up in arms
Speaker 1: about this because people argue, well, maybe I was a victim,
Speaker 1: and who is to say that? You know, I'm not
Speaker 1: allowed to say that I am a victim. And this
Speaker 1: is what I think about the victim mentality. You're allowed
Speaker 1: to be the victim, and everyone is a victim and
Speaker 1: in some sense, and you know, it doesn't mean that
Speaker 1: you haven't been hurt in your past and all these things,
Speaker 1: but you don't need to be the victim anymore moving forward.
Speaker 1: And if you are constantly going to be in the
Speaker 1: identity of I'm a victim and the world is against me,
Speaker 1: or people did this on purpose, even if they did,
Speaker 1: it's not going to allow you to live a free life.
Speaker 1: So instead of thinking why me, start thinking about what now?
Speaker 1: What can I do moving forward in my future life?
Speaker 1: Like how do I want to live my life? How
Speaker 1: do I want to give myself permission to want more
Speaker 1: from life and take back my power? Your power might
Speaker 1: have been taken away in many aspects. My power was
Speaker 1: taken away in so many ways in my life life,
Speaker 1: and it wasn't fair. But I am not going to
Speaker 1: continue to live my life being that victim. Now, I
Speaker 1: want to read a few quotes that I found on
Speaker 1: pinterest in regards to the victim mentality. One says self
Speaker 1: pity is a psychological state of mind of an individual
Speaker 1: and perceived adverse situation who has not yet accepted the
Speaker 1: situation and does not have the confidence nor the ability
Speaker 1: to cope with it. It is characterized by a person's
Speaker 1: belief that they are the victims of events and is
Speaker 1: therefore deserving of condolence. And this is what I'll say
Speaker 1: about self pity. I know it gets a bad rap,
Speaker 1: and even the victim mentality, it's a sensitive topic, and
Speaker 1: for sure, everyone has their own situations and circumstances, so
Speaker 1: I'm not speaking on everyone's circumstance. But what I have
Speaker 1: found is when I learned to find ways to accept
Speaker 1: the circumstances for what they are, I can better move
Speaker 1: out of them and I can actually allow myself to
Speaker 1: be free and live a more enjoyable life. I had
Speaker 1: to accept the fact that I had the parents that
Speaker 1: I had. I had to accept the fact that I
Speaker 1: didn't come money. I had to accept the fact that
Speaker 1: I had chronic illness, that I needed to look inwards
Speaker 1: in and really go on a deep healing journey on
Speaker 1: in order to get out of these things. And I
Speaker 1: found many other times where I was that victim, and
Speaker 1: that's okay. You go through those seasons of life, for sure,
Speaker 1: it's normal. I actually do think it's normal to let
Speaker 1: yourself kind of be in that, you know, whether you
Speaker 1: want to call it self pity or whatever you want
Speaker 1: to call it. But I found the way that I
Speaker 1: ended up getting out of all these crappy circumstances was
Speaker 1: accepting what my life was and being like, Okay, you
Speaker 1: know what, this is really crappy, but I'm going to
Speaker 1: take control over my life now because other people had
Speaker 1: control over it and they didn't do the best job.
Speaker 1: And also, are there lessons or is there wisdom in
Speaker 1: some of these stories that I have lived out that
Speaker 1: can help me on my journey of life and expand
Speaker 1: And sometimes there's not a reason. There's not a lesson
Speaker 1: if you don't want any wisdom out of these shitty circumstances.
Speaker 1: And you don't need to. It doesn't always need to
Speaker 1: be that, but that's kind of how I look at
Speaker 1: some of the things that I have been through in
Speaker 1: my life. I also found another one that says, my
Speaker 1: season to be the victim is over. I did my time.
Speaker 1: I've put myself through enough pain. I've woken up countless
Speaker 1: times in this victim mindset, relinquishing my peace and my
Speaker 1: power day after day after day. I'm done. I've graduated.
Speaker 1: Nothing have to do now but to be the victor.
Speaker 1: And I just love the end of that quote, like,
Speaker 1: Becolm the victor. Okay, Becolm the person who takes agency
Speaker 1: over your life now. And what you will realize in
Speaker 1: this life is that's the only other option that you
Speaker 1: really have, so you might as well do it as
Speaker 1: quickly as you can. And what I mean quickly, I
Speaker 1: mean obviously you don't rush the healing process. But the
Speaker 1: quicker that you can accept these things, the quicker you
Speaker 1: can have a better life, which leads me into life
Speaker 1: after realizing you no longer want to live out generational trauma,
Speaker 1: you see the things that you have gone through and
Speaker 1: you're ready to move in a different way, and that
Speaker 1: really comes down to a lot of reparenting and thinking
Speaker 1: about the life that you want to give yourself and
Speaker 1: building on that and working to that. And I think
Speaker 1: that this is what this podcast is about, what my
Speaker 1: YouTube channel is about. You know, like, of course, yes,
Speaker 1: we're doing the healing work when we get triggered and
Speaker 1: things come up, there's always gonna be that. But then
Speaker 1: there's this opposite side where it's like, how do I
Speaker 1: want to create my dream life? What do I want
Speaker 1: for myself? What I want for myself in my twenties
Speaker 1: and my thirties. You know, who I want to be dating,
Speaker 1: what type of love do I want? What do I
Speaker 1: want for my career? How much money do I want
Speaker 1: to make? How do I want to change my beliefs
Speaker 1: about what I can make when it comes to money,
Speaker 1: or what I can have in love or friendships, all
Speaker 1: of these things, Like you should be getting excited for
Speaker 1: this new life because it is yours now. I found
Speaker 1: another quote on Pitches that I liked, and it says,
Speaker 1: a good sign that you're healing is when you recognize
Speaker 1: dysfunctional behavior and realize it is not your job to
Speaker 1: fix it, explain it, or even entertain it. And I
Speaker 1: think that this can be subject to every circumstance in
Speaker 1: your life. Right when you realize, you know what, I'm
Speaker 1: not going to respond to this. Actually, you know what,
Speaker 1: I'm not going to take the bare minium anymore. Actually,
Speaker 1: you know what. I have these limiting beliefs, and I
Speaker 1: know they're limiting. So I'm gonna work on this. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna do a general practice, I'm gonna go to therapy.
Speaker 1: I'm going to work on myself because I know that
Speaker 1: this is the old version of me. These are beliefs
Speaker 1: and patterns and habits and life that was placed onto
Speaker 1: me that I no longer want to take ownership of.
Speaker 1: And that is when you know you are moving out
Speaker 1: of that generational trauma. And that leads me into understanding
Speaker 1: that there will always be work to be done on
Speaker 1: yourself when it comes to healing. And don't even be
Speaker 1: afraid of that, because everyone needs to do it, even
Speaker 1: people who aren't doing healing work. Or you think that
Speaker 1: they might have not come from a hard life the
Speaker 1: way that you have. Maybe that's true, but at the
Speaker 1: end of the day, there are many people who go
Speaker 1: throughout this world who struggle because they do not show
Speaker 1: up for themselves and they do not do this work,
Speaker 1: and deep down they internally do struggle. And so the
Speaker 1: reason why I'm saying that is because I feel like
Speaker 1: sometimes it feels like I don't want to do healing
Speaker 1: work and I don't want to work on myself. But
Speaker 1: it's just a part of the process, and you don't
Speaker 1: always need to be working on yourself, but you are
Speaker 1: going to be a better person for it, and you
Speaker 1: are going to allow yourself so much more abundance and
Speaker 1: just a beautiful life if you continue to show up,
Speaker 1: whether you're going to therapy, whether you're creating better communities,
Speaker 1: you're creating better friendships, you're doing that inner child work,
Speaker 1: you're regulating your nervous system, you're reading books, you're listening
Speaker 1: to podcasts, whatever it is. Just go on this journey.
Speaker 1: Understand it's a part of life, and always remind yourself
Speaker 1: that you can have more, and you are taking the
Speaker 1: steps to have more. And healing is an evolution, it's
Speaker 1: an unfolding. Don't wait for the day that you're perfectly
Speaker 1: healed or you're perfect or whatever. There's a lot that
Speaker 1: you can decide to have right now in terms of
Speaker 1: happiness and gratitude and appreciation for life. And I know
Speaker 1: it can be hard, but I think about the hardest
Speaker 1: times that I have been through when I was actively
Speaker 1: getting traumatized, seriously actively getting traumatized in my life and
Speaker 1: I still and this wasn't even coping. Well maybe it
Speaker 1: technically was, but it was like I was not aware
Speaker 1: of what was happening, but I was actively being appreciative
Speaker 1: with life, you know, being grateful for the things that
Speaker 1: I did have. I knew that there was a lot
Speaker 1: of things in my life that were not good and
Speaker 1: I didn't want in my life, but I was still
Speaker 1: focusing on the things that were going well, and I
Speaker 1: was taking those steps to heal and to work on
Speaker 1: myself and to see, you know what, I see what's
Speaker 1: going on over here when it comes to my family
Speaker 1: situation or the things that I was grown up in,
Speaker 1: or what's around my environment or these people, places and things,
Speaker 1: and I'm not really interested in that. So I'm going
Speaker 1: to go on this journey of glowing up and working
Speaker 1: on myself and giving myself a better life than that.
Speaker 1: And this is where I am at today. And that
Speaker 1: is all because I made those decisions and I decided
Speaker 1: to get out of that victim mentality, understand that this
Speaker 1: is a part of life, unfortunately, and a part of
Speaker 1: my life journey is going through these hard times and
Speaker 1: using these hard times and alchemizing it and allowing it
Speaker 1: to drive me forward and align me to where I'm
Speaker 1: supposed to be. And I don't exactly know where I'm
Speaker 1: supposed to be, but I know I'm supposed to be
Speaker 1: right here on the podcast. And I wouldn't be here
Speaker 1: on the podcast if it wasn't for me going through
Speaker 1: the things that I am going through. And anytime I
Speaker 1: have hard days, anytime that I feel myself going back into,
Speaker 1: you know, those traum responses and this that I just
Speaker 1: remind myself that this is just a response based off
Speaker 1: of my past. This is not who I came here
Speaker 1: to be, and this is not who I am. Even
Speaker 1: if I do respond sometimes out of like fight or flight,
Speaker 1: or I am controlling, or i am worried or I'm stressed,
Speaker 1: I pull on those things that ground me, whether it
Speaker 1: is going to therapy regularly, getting out in nature, journaling,
Speaker 1: getting my mind right with podcasts, letting myself cry, release,
Speaker 1: letting myself have those bad days, speaking to myself as
Speaker 1: nicely and as kindly as I possibly can, and just
Speaker 1: going on with my days, with my weeks, and focusing
Speaker 1: on the things that I do want to create in
Speaker 1: my life, and having goals and having a vision for
Speaker 1: my life. And just understand that you did not come
Speaker 1: out of the womb with limiting beliefs, with self hate,
Speaker 1: with trauma. You didn't. Unfortunately these things happened. But just
Speaker 1: try your best to remind yourself that you are worthy
Speaker 1: of a better life. You are worthy of so many
Speaker 1: more things. And anytime you doubt that, just understand it
Speaker 1: is the old version of you. It is what you
Speaker 1: were taught, that you aren't good enough, that you can't
Speaker 1: have this, that everyone here, this is just how life is.
Speaker 1: It's not. It is not, but it's going to be
Speaker 1: up to you for you to show yourself it's possible
Speaker 1: to have a new life by listening to people who
Speaker 1: are speaking positively in your ears. For you to get
Speaker 1: up and work even if you don't want to work,
Speaker 1: you know, paying off your bills and getting yourself out
Speaker 1: of debt, and you know, surrounding yourself with good people,
Speaker 1: places and things, working through yourself sabotage and getting out
Speaker 1: of those bad habits that you know do not serve you,
Speaker 1: and those are the things that are just keeping you
Speaker 1: stuck in the old version of you. Okay, sorry, guys,
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure my microphone just completely turned off, so
Speaker 1: I don't even know if this is recording on the microphone,
Speaker 1: so it might just be a YouTube sound today, So
Speaker 1: sorry about that. And I also don't really remember what
Speaker 1: I was saying, but I hope this episode helped in
Speaker 1: some sort of way. I just think that it is
Speaker 1: time that we really work on setting ourselves free, and
Speaker 1: you do that over and over again by reminding yourself
Speaker 1: that this is not meant for you, This life is
Speaker 1: not meant for you. You're meant to do so much more,
Speaker 1: and you can do more. And if you are here
Speaker 1: right now, then you have made it this far and
Speaker 1: give yourself permission to claim a better life, claim a
Speaker 1: life of abundance and love and support. But is again
Speaker 1: going to be up to you to take those steps
Speaker 1: and change your mindset around these things. So please let
Speaker 1: me know if you want me to expand on anything
Speaker 1: that I've talked about in this episode. I do have
Speaker 1: my one on one coaching if you're interested, I'll have
Speaker 1: it in the description down below. I also have my
Speaker 1: Inner Child Discovery General prompt guides that are digital, same
Speaker 1: with heel To Manifest Abundance Mindset, all that good stuff.
Speaker 1: I'll be linked down below, same with my book which
Speaker 1: is on my shelf here at the Ultimate Globe Guide.
Speaker 1: So everything that you need will be down below, And
Speaker 1: of course I'll be here a week after week showing
Speaker 1: up and helping you on your healing journey. So with
Speaker 1: that said, I hope you guys enjoyed and I'll see
Speaker 1: you in the next one. Bye.