WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.080 --> 00:00:03.120 I heard the magic noise. And so as we're going 2 00:00:03.120 --> 00:00:06.400 through everything opening kickoff, we can, you know, we can 3 00:00:06.440 --> 00:00:09.599 continue opening kickoff by talking to our resident mogul and 4 00:00:09.679 --> 00:00:12.359 training because it is year two, not year one, but 5 00:00:12.400 --> 00:00:15.439 your two of the expedition known as Rhode Island FC, 6 00:00:15.800 --> 00:00:17.640 and so this is where we bring in Michael Parkhurst 7 00:00:18.120 --> 00:00:21.000 and our friends of Beyond Goals Entering's up. 8 00:00:20.920 --> 00:00:23.760 Dude, good morning John. 9 00:00:25.719 --> 00:00:29.280 You're I am in a hotel room and making Georgia, Sir. 10 00:00:29.399 --> 00:00:32.679 I am doing the the high school basketball Championships. And 11 00:00:32.719 --> 00:00:34.439 so what I do is I start my day doing 12 00:00:34.520 --> 00:00:37.439 SDH and then at like eleven oh five, slam the 13 00:00:37.439 --> 00:00:40.600 computer shut, throw on the dress clothes, and drive to 14 00:00:40.840 --> 00:00:42.920 the arena and I'm there for like the next ten 15 00:00:43.000 --> 00:00:47.159 or eleven hours. So yeah, so it's running around, babe, 16 00:00:47.159 --> 00:00:49.320 that's a I'm not as busy as you by any 17 00:00:49.359 --> 00:00:52.520 stretch of the imagination, but nevertheless running around so as 18 00:00:52.520 --> 00:00:56.479 you can see the palatial the imitation, palatial upbringing and 19 00:00:56.640 --> 00:01:00.399 background that we have here in the hotel here making joy. Yes, 20 00:01:00.520 --> 00:01:05.120 absolutely true. You're you're sporting your Demon Deacons gear as 21 00:01:05.159 --> 00:01:09.920 I see this morning, and uh, you know you're getting 22 00:01:09.959 --> 00:01:12.359 ready for the weekend. But this is also a very 23 00:01:12.519 --> 00:01:16.480 very busy slash important, oh my god important weekend for 24 00:01:16.560 --> 00:01:19.760 you as a resident mogul and training. It is season 25 00:01:19.879 --> 00:01:22.599 two of Rhode Island FC. 26 00:01:25.239 --> 00:01:31.599 Yes, well it's season two of our USL go round. 27 00:01:31.719 --> 00:01:36.719 But we've got a week one bye, so are our 28 00:01:36.760 --> 00:01:38.640 season doesn't get kicked up till next week? 29 00:01:38.920 --> 00:01:41.519 Rat farts, I was gonna we'll then find we'll discuss 30 00:01:41.560 --> 00:01:43.920 it a week early, since the next time I see 31 00:01:43.959 --> 00:01:45.959 you the season will have already begun. So actually there's 32 00:01:46.040 --> 00:01:50.040 Kismut and Karmi here with this discussion. So as as 33 00:01:50.079 --> 00:01:53.079 things have gone on, how many folks have wandered up 34 00:01:53.120 --> 00:01:56.439 to you who are our I f C faithful and 35 00:01:56.560 --> 00:01:59.319 have grabbed you by those demon deacons lapels there on 36 00:01:59.319 --> 00:02:01.000 that warm up Jack and said, hey, what are you 37 00:02:01.000 --> 00:02:02.959 going to do for an on core man? And that 38 00:02:03.000 --> 00:02:05.879 reminds me. I need to get my Eastern Conference championship year. 39 00:02:05.920 --> 00:02:07.280 That reminds me, So what do you gotta do for 40 00:02:07.319 --> 00:02:08.039 an on core man? 41 00:02:09.759 --> 00:02:14.360 Good question, TVD. We'll see. Hopefully we can have a 42 00:02:14.360 --> 00:02:17.400 better start to the season. We'll start there, you know, 43 00:02:17.479 --> 00:02:21.000 because everybody remembers the run that we made. But you know, 44 00:02:21.039 --> 00:02:23.120 the first half of the season, we had about thirty 45 00:02:23.159 --> 00:02:28.159 five ties in our first ten games, correct, set that 46 00:02:28.199 --> 00:02:32.479 record in USL. I'm going to try not to repeat that, 47 00:02:33.719 --> 00:02:39.479 but we do start off with the first eight weeks 48 00:02:39.479 --> 00:02:42.000 of the season. We've got two buys and six away 49 00:02:42.080 --> 00:02:45.599 games as we wait for our stadium to be complete. 50 00:02:45.639 --> 00:02:49.039 So it's not going to be the easiest of starts, 51 00:02:49.240 --> 00:02:51.639 that's for sure. But so we proved last year we 52 00:02:51.639 --> 00:02:54.719 can win on the road. So you know, we'll see 53 00:02:54.919 --> 00:02:58.319 there's some teams in the East that got better. I mean, shoot, 54 00:02:58.360 --> 00:03:00.599 every team tries to get better, right, but to like 55 00:03:00.680 --> 00:03:05.240 Birmingham for sure down there got a lot better. They 56 00:03:05.360 --> 00:03:10.840 signed two top players for the USL championship anyway, So yeah, 57 00:03:11.000 --> 00:03:12.879 it's it's you know, we'll have our work cutoff for 58 00:03:12.879 --> 00:03:13.199 for sure. 59 00:03:13.520 --> 00:03:13.800 Well. 60 00:03:13.840 --> 00:03:16.159 And at the same time, I mean, you guys didn't 61 00:03:16.159 --> 00:03:18.199 sit on your laurels. I mean it was it was 62 00:03:18.319 --> 00:03:20.360 funny the way that it kind of worked its way 63 00:03:20.400 --> 00:03:25.479 out in the media where it had been long discussed 64 00:03:25.520 --> 00:03:29.199 that Maxi Rodriguez, what was you know, heading your heading 65 00:03:29.240 --> 00:03:31.280 your way and I mean you're in the collective Rhode 66 00:03:31.280 --> 00:03:34.039 Island FC and it's like, yeah, he's heading over there, 67 00:03:34.080 --> 00:03:36.199 but it's like he's still in the roster for Detroit City. 68 00:03:36.280 --> 00:03:37.840 It's like, well, wait a minute, how is this possible? 69 00:03:37.879 --> 00:03:39.680 He's still in the roster for Detroit City. And then 70 00:03:39.719 --> 00:03:44.240 literally the simultaneous news releases come out Maxi Rodriguez and 71 00:03:44.360 --> 00:03:45.520 Detroit City part ways. 72 00:03:45.560 --> 00:03:48.080 Maxi Rodriguez signs with Rhode Island f C. How does 73 00:03:48.120 --> 00:03:51.479 this happen? How does this How is this simultaneous news 74 00:03:51.479 --> 00:03:52.360 releasing happening? 75 00:03:53.080 --> 00:03:55.319 Yeah? I mean we had signed him before the season 76 00:03:55.479 --> 00:03:58.520 was over, right, because you know, free agents can sign 77 00:03:59.520 --> 00:04:02.759 you know, six months prior, as most of us know, 78 00:04:02.879 --> 00:04:05.240 and so we had signed them and so yeah, it 79 00:04:05.319 --> 00:04:07.879 just becomes like the league optics, So the league kind 80 00:04:07.919 --> 00:04:10.400 of controls a here's signing day. 81 00:04:10.879 --> 00:04:11.080 Uh. 82 00:04:11.159 --> 00:04:14.199 And obviously you usually try and let the other teams 83 00:04:14.240 --> 00:04:18.199 say goodbye first before you announce, you know, just try 84 00:04:18.199 --> 00:04:19.480 and be nice about things. 85 00:04:20.240 --> 00:04:22.160 So there it is. 86 00:04:22.680 --> 00:04:25.480 Oh, yeah, there's there. 87 00:04:25.560 --> 00:04:26.079 It is. 88 00:04:26.839 --> 00:04:28.800 What's it been like, what's it been like to see 89 00:04:28.839 --> 00:04:31.120 all of this come together there at Tidewater Land. 90 00:04:31.680 --> 00:04:35.360 Yeah, it's been pretty crazy. Uh, pretty crazy just to 91 00:04:35.399 --> 00:04:40.519 see from when did I start with this project four 92 00:04:40.600 --> 00:04:46.680 years ago? Wow, yeah, four years ago just to I mean, 93 00:04:46.720 --> 00:04:54.600 there's just been endless speed bumps and headaches and naysayers 94 00:04:54.720 --> 00:04:59.639 and just doubts and things, and there was a million 95 00:04:59.720 --> 00:05:05.839 reason is why this couldn't, wouldn't shouldn't happen. And yet 96 00:05:06.680 --> 00:05:10.040 the stadium is up, the guys are training in it. 97 00:05:10.040 --> 00:05:14.879 It's not fully open yet, but yeah, we are on 98 00:05:15.000 --> 00:05:18.560 target here for our opener, and yeah, it's going to 99 00:05:18.600 --> 00:05:22.360 be pretty crazy. We expect obviously a full house on 100 00:05:22.439 --> 00:05:25.600 May third, and yeah, it'll be a pretty sweet day, 101 00:05:25.680 --> 00:05:28.199 that's for sure, because I know how much work a 102 00:05:28.199 --> 00:05:32.519 lot of people have put into making this day come about. 103 00:05:32.600 --> 00:05:35.800 And I think that we've got still a lot of 104 00:05:36.120 --> 00:05:38.959 people to convince up in Rhode Island that this is 105 00:05:39.000 --> 00:05:40.879 going to be the place to be, and you know, 106 00:05:40.920 --> 00:05:44.199 it's going to be a really welcoming place and a 107 00:05:44.199 --> 00:05:46.839 place that a lot of kids growing up in island 108 00:05:46.879 --> 00:05:48.959 are going to make a lot of good memories over 109 00:05:49.000 --> 00:05:52.920 their childhood. And so we're excited for that. 110 00:05:53.399 --> 00:05:55.879 Does it seem like it's been four years ago when 111 00:05:55.920 --> 00:05:58.040 you started with all this stuff to today? Does it 112 00:05:58.079 --> 00:05:59.879 seem like it's been that long or does it seem 113 00:05:59.879 --> 00:06:01.199 like it's been a snap of the finger. 114 00:06:02.839 --> 00:06:09.439 In general, time is flying by, it's crazy. But when 115 00:06:09.439 --> 00:06:15.360 I think about this project in particular there, yes, it's 116 00:06:15.639 --> 00:06:23.199 it's felt like four years just because of so many hoops, 117 00:06:23.240 --> 00:06:28.680 so much drama, so much political red tape and headaches 118 00:06:28.800 --> 00:06:33.439 and yeah this I think a lot of people on 119 00:06:33.519 --> 00:06:36.600 this project have aged more than four years in these 120 00:06:40.240 --> 00:06:43.560 so in life in general has flown by. I can't 121 00:06:43.600 --> 00:06:47.319 believe it's been five seasons since I've retired, but yes, 122 00:06:48.279 --> 00:06:50.199 four years on this project seems about right. 123 00:06:51.199 --> 00:06:54.800 I'm going to reserve the question about being five years 124 00:06:54.800 --> 00:06:57.639 since you've retired and whether or not you feel like 125 00:06:57.680 --> 00:06:59.680 you still have some minutes in you If somebody ever 126 00:06:59.680 --> 00:07:03.639 gave you call and you sit there your heads back, 127 00:07:03.800 --> 00:07:07.519 you're cackling. You're like, no way, bro, that is not happening. 128 00:07:08.040 --> 00:07:11.360 No way, no way. 129 00:07:11.879 --> 00:07:12.000 Uh. 130 00:07:12.879 --> 00:07:14.560 You mentioned and so this is where I want to 131 00:07:14.560 --> 00:07:17.360 get in to start discussing things about mentoring with you. 132 00:07:17.399 --> 00:07:20.240 This morning, you mentioned that it's been four years that 133 00:07:20.279 --> 00:07:23.360 you've been engaged in the process there at Rhode Island. 134 00:07:23.519 --> 00:07:28.399 So how much growth do you get to experience on 135 00:07:28.480 --> 00:07:31.639 a yearly basis with your mentees? I mean, do you 136 00:07:31.720 --> 00:07:33.759 have mentees that have been with you and Greg since 137 00:07:33.839 --> 00:07:37.160 day one, that you've been able to mentor all the 138 00:07:37.199 --> 00:07:40.000 way through a process and have been with them for 139 00:07:40.480 --> 00:07:43.399 you know, six months, a year longer or is it 140 00:07:43.480 --> 00:07:46.120 more just kind of like one season for a mentee 141 00:07:46.160 --> 00:07:47.879 and then they kind of go their own way. Do 142 00:07:48.000 --> 00:07:52.680 you get the chance to mentor someone continually through their process. 143 00:07:52.720 --> 00:07:55.839 Some of them? Yeah, I just had one not too 144 00:07:55.879 --> 00:07:57.519 long ago where it was the first time I had 145 00:07:57.519 --> 00:08:00.560 connected with them, and probably like sixty eight months or so. 146 00:08:00.800 --> 00:08:03.920 But we I mean, I've worked with him a lot 147 00:08:04.040 --> 00:08:07.399 in the past and probably since he was about twelve, 148 00:08:07.519 --> 00:08:12.120 and now he's about to start as freshman season, and 149 00:08:12.199 --> 00:08:14.680 I was like, oh, my gosh, I can't believe you're 150 00:08:14.720 --> 00:08:20.439 in high school. This is crazy. Yes, and to Abby's question, yes, 151 00:08:20.639 --> 00:08:24.959 my oldest is in high school as well, and yeah, 152 00:08:24.959 --> 00:08:28.560 she's a freshman. So yeah, it's it's unbelievable, but that 153 00:08:28.639 --> 00:08:30.839 is It is really cool sometimes to see the growth 154 00:08:30.879 --> 00:08:34.399 of players over a longer period of time and see 155 00:08:34.440 --> 00:08:38.639 where their journey has led them. So there is definitely 156 00:08:39.919 --> 00:08:44.159 a bunch that we've mentored from over the course of 157 00:08:44.200 --> 00:08:48.879 like three years or so, you know, and obviously a 158 00:08:48.919 --> 00:08:49.440 bunch of new. 159 00:08:49.320 --> 00:08:56.039 Ones when you mentor over time is it you know, okay, 160 00:08:56.159 --> 00:08:58.960 well we have our baseline of stuff that we need 161 00:08:59.000 --> 00:09:01.159 to discuss, whether it's on the field, off for both, 162 00:09:01.799 --> 00:09:05.320 and then as it goes is it fine tuning? Is 163 00:09:05.360 --> 00:09:09.480 it finding other things to mentor them over what's the 164 00:09:09.679 --> 00:09:11.639 is it you got you go down a road and 165 00:09:11.679 --> 00:09:14.360 then over time are there more? You know, are there 166 00:09:14.360 --> 00:09:16.440 stop signs and off roads and things like that, or 167 00:09:16.559 --> 00:09:18.519 is it just kind of tweaking and fine tuning that 168 00:09:18.600 --> 00:09:19.960 individual on the field and all? 169 00:09:20.960 --> 00:09:24.559 Yeah, I think the fine tuning and I think that reminders, right, 170 00:09:24.679 --> 00:09:28.200 and no matter what level we get to, right, some 171 00:09:28.279 --> 00:09:31.320 of the things are still the same. Just reminders of 172 00:09:31.399 --> 00:09:33.519 like what we can control and what we can't, and 173 00:09:34.679 --> 00:09:37.600 you know, what's important and what's not and how do 174 00:09:37.639 --> 00:09:40.159 we come over and how do we view things that 175 00:09:40.200 --> 00:09:44.679 are coming up? Right, like a freshman going into high 176 00:09:44.720 --> 00:09:47.679 school right now, all of a sudden, you might not 177 00:09:47.720 --> 00:09:50.080 be a starter. You're planning against kids that are four 178 00:09:50.120 --> 00:09:52.200 years older than you. Right, how do you approach these 179 00:09:52.240 --> 00:09:55.080 types of things? How do you have conversations with seniors 180 00:09:55.120 --> 00:09:58.120 on your team? You know, how do you act in 181 00:09:58.159 --> 00:10:01.759 the locker room? Like all these little things that's new. 182 00:10:02.600 --> 00:10:05.720 So I think there's always new obstacles and new things 183 00:10:05.720 --> 00:10:08.279 that will be occurring, and it's just kind of reminders 184 00:10:08.320 --> 00:10:09.840 of how to get through those, how to deal with 185 00:10:09.840 --> 00:10:12.639 those things, and how to put your best foot forward. 186 00:10:13.039 --> 00:10:15.639 How much of a reminder is it for you and 187 00:10:15.799 --> 00:10:21.399 Greg about how to handle growth processes for young athletes, 188 00:10:21.480 --> 00:10:24.720 because it seems like it's at one point it seems 189 00:10:24.720 --> 00:10:27.600 like it could be a refresher course for you about 190 00:10:27.600 --> 00:10:31.480 how to reset with these individuals. But at the same 191 00:10:31.519 --> 00:10:35.360 time it opens those other windows about Okay, they're giving 192 00:10:35.399 --> 00:10:37.559 me this issue that I get to tackle for the 193 00:10:37.559 --> 00:10:39.600 first time, or this issue. So how much of it, 194 00:10:39.919 --> 00:10:42.360 you know, is a learning experience for you and for 195 00:10:42.480 --> 00:10:45.720 Greg about handling other mentees that may not necessarily be 196 00:10:45.759 --> 00:10:46.559 the one you're talking to. 197 00:10:47.200 --> 00:10:50.279 Yeah, it's it's always growth. I mean, I spoke to 198 00:10:50.320 --> 00:10:54.559 a family yesterday whose daughter is involved with these national 199 00:10:54.600 --> 00:10:59.519 team stuff and not quite getting the level of training 200 00:10:59.600 --> 00:11:01.799 she needs at her club team, you know, because she's 201 00:11:01.840 --> 00:11:04.639 in a small town and and just that dynamic, Right, 202 00:11:04.679 --> 00:11:07.840 what do you do when you know you've got an 203 00:11:07.840 --> 00:11:13.639 elite athlete yet they're not on an elite team and 204 00:11:13.679 --> 00:11:16.320 you want them to continue, right, you know. So it's 205 00:11:16.440 --> 00:11:19.679 just there's so many different journeys. There's so many different 206 00:11:19.720 --> 00:11:23.200 aspects to it. And yeah, it's cool for me to 207 00:11:23.320 --> 00:11:26.039 hear about everybody's journey because you know, it's one of 208 00:11:26.080 --> 00:11:28.559 the things we talk about, how everyone's journey is different. 209 00:11:29.360 --> 00:11:33.799 But when I get to like hear how these journeys start, right, 210 00:11:33.840 --> 00:11:35.919 because we just hear usually at the end, like oh, 211 00:11:35.960 --> 00:11:38.200 what was your journey to become a professional, right, But 212 00:11:38.279 --> 00:11:41.320 I'm hearing all these journeys as they're going through it 213 00:11:41.480 --> 00:11:43.679 here at at a young age, and of course you 214 00:11:43.720 --> 00:11:46.360 don't know who's going to go on to play even 215 00:11:46.399 --> 00:11:49.559 in college, but you never know. So yeah, it's it's 216 00:11:49.679 --> 00:11:53.399 super interesting and it allows me to grow too and 217 00:11:53.519 --> 00:11:58.080 open my knowledge as well. Like we all know, youth 218 00:11:58.120 --> 00:12:00.480 soccer is just ever changing in the land scape and 219 00:12:00.519 --> 00:12:02.639 what's going on. But it's good for me to stay 220 00:12:02.720 --> 00:12:04.399 up to date as well, like some of these times 221 00:12:04.440 --> 00:12:07.480 these parents are teaching me about what they're going through 222 00:12:07.559 --> 00:12:11.120 in these leagues and who's who and what goes on, 223 00:12:11.279 --> 00:12:14.320 and you know, so it's just ever learning for. 224 00:12:14.279 --> 00:12:17.519 Sure, and I want to at a future time, I 225 00:12:17.559 --> 00:12:20.159 want to bookmark the whole thing about parents teaching you 226 00:12:20.240 --> 00:12:22.759 about these things. But you mentioned something that I thought 227 00:12:22.799 --> 00:12:29.200 was really interesting. Where you have mentees in smaller towns 228 00:12:29.200 --> 00:12:32.919 that are that aren't near you know, the big metropolitan areas, 229 00:12:33.039 --> 00:12:37.120 I guess by comparison, and the troubles I would imagine 230 00:12:37.200 --> 00:12:40.919 for them are geographical in addition to all of the 231 00:12:41.000 --> 00:12:44.639 other issues that they're facing, because if they are a 232 00:12:44.679 --> 00:12:48.559 fantastic student athlete in a town that is detached away 233 00:12:48.600 --> 00:12:52.240 from larger operational bases, like you can't just you know, 234 00:12:52.320 --> 00:12:54.799 turn a corner and go to a you can't you 235 00:12:54.799 --> 00:12:56.240 can't go to like top Hat, you can't go to 236 00:12:56.279 --> 00:12:58.960 e CNL, you can't go to someplace right around the corner. 237 00:12:58.960 --> 00:13:01.480 For those in big cities, I would imagine that the 238 00:13:01.600 --> 00:13:04.639 issues and the conversations might be a little different because 239 00:13:04.679 --> 00:13:07.519 someone's in a smaller town that's detached from all of that, 240 00:13:07.559 --> 00:13:10.279 where they have to travel, you know, ninety minutes to 241 00:13:10.480 --> 00:13:12.960 do something one way. I mean that seems like it's 242 00:13:12.960 --> 00:13:14.919 a different conversation entirely at times. 243 00:13:15.000 --> 00:13:19.320 Oh totally. And this family travels three hours one way 244 00:13:19.759 --> 00:13:23.279 for training and they only go once a week because 245 00:13:23.279 --> 00:13:27.639 of the distance. But yeah, that's that's crazy. As a 246 00:13:27.720 --> 00:13:32.679 parent of youth athletes, that's insane, right, I'm like, oh god, 247 00:13:32.759 --> 00:13:34.559 this game is an hour away or this game is 248 00:13:34.600 --> 00:13:37.600 forty minutes away on a weekday, you know, and yeah, 249 00:13:37.759 --> 00:13:41.279 some families are making that type of dedication, and so yeah, 250 00:13:41.320 --> 00:13:44.440 how do you how do you continue to grow? Because 251 00:13:44.440 --> 00:13:47.080 what they realized was when they went to this national 252 00:13:47.080 --> 00:13:49.519 team camp was, you know, the level at the camp 253 00:13:49.559 --> 00:13:52.919 obviously was high, and the coaching was really good, and 254 00:13:52.919 --> 00:13:55.360 and then it makes you like look at what your 255 00:13:55.399 --> 00:13:59.000 own situation is and like, shoot, I'm not getting anywhere 256 00:13:59.039 --> 00:14:02.279 near that here. And I always say like, well, the 257 00:14:02.279 --> 00:14:06.159 bright side is you're at that level without the coaching 258 00:14:06.240 --> 00:14:11.200 right now, without the environment. So that's amazing, right, So 259 00:14:11.440 --> 00:14:14.320 you know, we just just just just we just discuss 260 00:14:15.200 --> 00:14:19.600 different options, right, Can you train up with other female teams? 261 00:14:19.600 --> 00:14:22.320 Can you train with boys and you know, go through 262 00:14:22.360 --> 00:14:26.000 that dynamic of playing, you know, with players that are 263 00:14:26.600 --> 00:14:30.480 typically faster and stronger than you. So different options. And 264 00:14:31.039 --> 00:14:33.679 then one of the things I learned was about guest 265 00:14:33.720 --> 00:14:35.840 playing and tournaments and I need to find out more 266 00:14:36.679 --> 00:14:39.960 about that, but that is allowed in e CNL as 267 00:14:39.960 --> 00:14:45.399 far as guests playing with a team in showcases and things, 268 00:14:45.799 --> 00:14:47.000 so there's different options. 269 00:14:47.159 --> 00:14:50.600 Well, and that was since you mentioned these different options, 270 00:14:50.639 --> 00:14:53.360 I was going to ask how you close the distance 271 00:14:53.639 --> 00:14:56.039 of that three hours and I didn't know that the 272 00:14:56.159 --> 00:14:59.720 idea of you know, playing up makes sense and something 273 00:14:59.759 --> 00:15:01.960 like that, but also crossing over and if you're if 274 00:15:02.000 --> 00:15:04.159 you're a female playing with you know, if you're a female, 275 00:15:04.200 --> 00:15:06.000 you're playing you can play with males. You play with 276 00:15:06.039 --> 00:15:07.720 the boy athletes that are out there if you're on 277 00:15:07.759 --> 00:15:10.360 the girls side of things. So I guess part of 278 00:15:10.399 --> 00:15:14.120 the mentoring in that aspect is trying to you're troubleshooting 279 00:15:14.120 --> 00:15:15.879 in a way, but it's a different kind of trouble 280 00:15:15.879 --> 00:15:19.799 shooting where it's an off the field trouble shooting trying 281 00:15:19.840 --> 00:15:24.000 to help so the on the field troubleshooting can get advanced, 282 00:15:24.000 --> 00:15:26.480 So you're you're having to do things a little differently 283 00:15:26.720 --> 00:15:28.600 and you're having to go on the field and off 284 00:15:28.639 --> 00:15:29.799 when it comes to these things. 285 00:15:30.120 --> 00:15:32.399 No, yeah, for sure, And that's what mentorship's about, right, 286 00:15:32.440 --> 00:15:35.960 It's it's holistically and so many of these things off 287 00:15:36.000 --> 00:15:39.720 the field affect on the field performance, So yeah, for sure, 288 00:15:39.799 --> 00:15:41.519 And you know, and that's the way we enjoy it 289 00:15:41.559 --> 00:15:45.159 and that's what keeps it always fresh. And you know, 290 00:15:45.159 --> 00:15:48.759 of course, on the field, stuff is is more straightforward 291 00:15:48.759 --> 00:15:53.159 for us. It's it's easier because you know, game is 292 00:15:53.240 --> 00:15:57.000 game basically, it's just different levels to it. But off 293 00:15:57.000 --> 00:16:00.840 the field, everything's so different and to each person and 294 00:16:00.879 --> 00:16:03.159 to each family. So that's it's interesting. 295 00:16:03.559 --> 00:16:05.840 Friday free kick with our buddy Michael Parkhurst here at 296 00:16:05.879 --> 00:16:09.279 Beyond Goals Mentoring at MF Parkhurst on the two hundred 297 00:16:09.279 --> 00:16:12.279 and eighty character app at BG Mentoring on the two 298 00:16:12.360 --> 00:16:15.360 hundred and eighty character app at Beyond Goalsmenoring dot com. 299 00:16:16.200 --> 00:16:20.039 How are you getting adjusted to doing the video analysis 300 00:16:20.200 --> 00:16:23.759 and just talking into a camera and doing the self 301 00:16:24.320 --> 00:16:26.759 the self reporting and the self discussion. How are you 302 00:16:26.799 --> 00:16:29.000 at talking as the only person in the room. How 303 00:16:29.080 --> 00:16:30.039 is that evolving for you? 304 00:16:31.200 --> 00:16:32.039 Pretty good? 305 00:16:32.519 --> 00:16:33.000 That there. 306 00:16:33.120 --> 00:16:37.600 It does happen frequently that I will go to record 307 00:16:37.679 --> 00:16:40.279 things and my dog will think that, oh, now is 308 00:16:40.320 --> 00:16:43.360 a great time to get up from her bed where 309 00:16:43.399 --> 00:16:47.279 she usually is right here next to me, all see 310 00:16:47.320 --> 00:16:50.960 and get up and PLoP down onto the hardwood right 311 00:16:51.039 --> 00:16:53.879 next to me. So there's just a massive thud right 312 00:16:53.960 --> 00:16:57.679 in the middle of my best continue on for now. 313 00:16:57.720 --> 00:16:59.080 I think people just need to know. 314 00:17:00.320 --> 00:17:04.319 I see no issue with a thud and okay, so please, 315 00:17:04.359 --> 00:17:06.480 if you would, sir, please return the camera to your 316 00:17:06.519 --> 00:17:09.440 copilot's position and explain who your co pilot is. 317 00:17:10.039 --> 00:17:15.599 This is Deacon obviously, no, yes, and she's our almost 318 00:17:15.799 --> 00:17:19.039 five year old COVID pup. You still call her a 319 00:17:19.079 --> 00:17:24.160 puppy even though she's five almost five, Golden Retriever, sweetest 320 00:17:24.160 --> 00:17:26.920 little girl out. 321 00:17:27.680 --> 00:17:29.960 Yes, see, I imagine. 322 00:17:30.039 --> 00:17:32.279 So let me see, let me see if I can, 323 00:17:32.599 --> 00:17:37.839 if I can gauge the morning for Deacon. So one 324 00:17:38.000 --> 00:17:42.039 or both of you, as the leaders in the Parkhurst household, 325 00:17:42.200 --> 00:17:44.200 you get up earlier than the other. One gets up 326 00:17:44.200 --> 00:17:47.480 earlier than the other. Deacon sees that as a sign 327 00:17:48.119 --> 00:17:53.039 to hey, it's time to go outside. Depending on the temperature, 328 00:17:53.640 --> 00:17:55.920 Deacon will do either one or two things. Deacon will 329 00:17:55.920 --> 00:17:58.119 want to go out on the long walk of the morning, 330 00:17:58.359 --> 00:18:01.440 or sit there and go h door gets open, front door, 331 00:18:01.480 --> 00:18:04.240 back door, whatever Deacon goes. It's too blank and cold 332 00:18:04.240 --> 00:18:06.440 out here. I'm gonna do my thing, and I'm hopping 333 00:18:06.480 --> 00:18:08.359 back inside and I'm going back to bed now that 334 00:18:08.400 --> 00:18:11.240 I've awakened. To the rest of you, I'm going back 335 00:18:11.279 --> 00:18:12.279 to bed, Am I close? 336 00:18:14.039 --> 00:18:20.240 You're not too far off. She always starts in bed 337 00:18:20.279 --> 00:18:23.200 with my son, and always in the middle of the 338 00:18:23.279 --> 00:18:25.480 night will come wake me up and I put her 339 00:18:25.519 --> 00:18:28.799 in the crate. This is a routine. She finds comfort 340 00:18:28.880 --> 00:18:31.559 in her crate. She won't put herself in the crate, 341 00:18:31.640 --> 00:18:33.960 but she will wake me up and she will go 342 00:18:34.039 --> 00:18:35.759 over to the crate and I have to lock the crate. 343 00:18:36.119 --> 00:18:36.400 Huh. 344 00:18:37.200 --> 00:18:40.480 So I have now started waking up in the morning, John, 345 00:18:40.519 --> 00:18:42.240 I used to sleep in a little bit, but now 346 00:18:42.319 --> 00:18:45.079 I wake up at six with the rest of with 347 00:18:45.119 --> 00:18:47.920 my wife and my daughter, and I go work out, 348 00:18:48.440 --> 00:18:50.480 and then I get her out of the crate at 349 00:18:50.480 --> 00:18:54.880 like six thirty six forty. And she always wants to 350 00:18:54.880 --> 00:18:57.400 go outside. It doesn't matter the temperature. The colder the better, 351 00:18:57.920 --> 00:19:02.519 unfortunately for me. Yeah, and then of course then she'll 352 00:19:02.559 --> 00:19:05.079 sleep for you know, thanks three hours. 353 00:19:05.160 --> 00:19:07.440 The rest of the day, it's like, oh, it's lunchtime. 354 00:19:07.480 --> 00:19:09.039 It's time for me to get up and get lunch. 355 00:19:09.039 --> 00:19:12.000 Sure lives a very very nice life, we tell her 356 00:19:12.039 --> 00:19:13.839 all the time. She's very lucky. 357 00:19:13.920 --> 00:19:14.079 Oh. 358 00:19:14.079 --> 00:19:16.759 Absolutely, the same way as well, Hey, the same way 359 00:19:16.799 --> 00:19:18.599 it is with the rowdy man in our place. I 360 00:19:18.640 --> 00:19:21.799 know I'm third in that house. It is the boss, 361 00:19:21.839 --> 00:19:23.599 it is the rowdy man, it is me. I know 362 00:19:23.759 --> 00:19:26.359 I'm third. I knew that going into the equation. So 363 00:19:26.400 --> 00:19:31.119 that's an easy one for me. So you mentioned changing 364 00:19:31.200 --> 00:19:34.240 routines with you getting up in the morning with the 365 00:19:34.720 --> 00:19:39.000 deacon sitting there and it's like bruh, time to go out. Yeah, 366 00:19:39.039 --> 00:19:44.119 when it comes to talking to your your mentees about okay, 367 00:19:44.240 --> 00:19:46.359 what is your standard day, like you know, and then 368 00:19:46.359 --> 00:19:49.039 they may they may walk you through their day and 369 00:19:49.119 --> 00:19:53.160 you may sit there and say, okay, stop, you need 370 00:19:53.200 --> 00:19:56.160 to change this behavior. You may be successful, you may 371 00:19:56.200 --> 00:19:58.480 be your game may be great, you might be improving, 372 00:19:58.480 --> 00:20:01.119 you might be on a path. But when they walk 373 00:20:01.160 --> 00:20:05.799 you through your their day, how much adjusting to maximize 374 00:20:05.839 --> 00:20:08.119 their potential do you go through in these kinds of 375 00:20:08.119 --> 00:20:11.200 situations where it's like, Okay, I see something that can 376 00:20:11.240 --> 00:20:13.400 be fixed here that can make you even better. How 377 00:20:13.480 --> 00:20:17.880 much day adjustment and lifestyle adjustments do you guys do 378 00:20:18.000 --> 00:20:20.000 off the field when you're talking with the mentees. 379 00:20:20.480 --> 00:20:25.160 Yeah, not a whole lot, because we want them to 380 00:20:25.240 --> 00:20:27.960 want to make the adjustment right. We don't want to say, hey, 381 00:20:28.160 --> 00:20:32.319 you do this, right, But we more talk about, Okay, 382 00:20:32.680 --> 00:20:36.480 what routines and habits can you create? Right if you 383 00:20:36.880 --> 00:20:41.720 are struggling to sleep, or you're struggling to wake up 384 00:20:41.759 --> 00:20:45.839 in the morning, or you're eating habits aren't good, right, Okay, 385 00:20:46.359 --> 00:20:49.559 what could be some possibilities And we try and say, hey, 386 00:20:49.599 --> 00:20:54.440 everyone's different. There's no set routine for that's going to 387 00:20:54.480 --> 00:20:57.640 fit everyone the same, right, but okay, can you do 388 00:20:58.079 --> 00:21:01.240 X y Z, you know after before bedtime? Can you 389 00:21:01.279 --> 00:21:03.720 do this in the morning? Can you you know, getting 390 00:21:03.720 --> 00:21:05.640 a routine of this or that? And we're just trying 391 00:21:05.640 --> 00:21:08.160 to give them options and ideas of like, hey, find 392 00:21:08.160 --> 00:21:12.160 a routine, like these things help. Doing these things over 393 00:21:12.200 --> 00:21:15.440 and over again, your body just gets used to it 394 00:21:15.519 --> 00:21:18.599 and it can be so helpful. So we really try 395 00:21:18.640 --> 00:21:21.720 not to say, hey, you need to be doing this 396 00:21:22.279 --> 00:21:25.559 versus hey, think about these different options and what they 397 00:21:25.599 --> 00:21:26.319 could do for you. 398 00:21:27.799 --> 00:21:33.000 How well does today's men tea take care of themselves? 399 00:21:33.079 --> 00:21:36.799 Because I know that when in the days of black 400 00:21:36.839 --> 00:21:39.960 and white television back in the late sixteen hundreds, when 401 00:21:39.960 --> 00:21:43.880