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<v Speaker 1>This is Later with Lee Matthews, The Lee Matthews Podcast

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<v Speaker 1>more what You Hear weekday afternoons on the Drive.

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<v Speaker 2>Deborah Graham, for more than thirty years, has been predicting

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<v Speaker 2>the innermost thoughts and dreams of people looking for answers.

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<v Speaker 2>She's a professional spiritualist, advisor, psychic matchmaker and been connected

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<v Speaker 2>with people of all levels. She's also the star of

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<v Speaker 2>the TLC series The Psychic Matchmaker. Her newest book is out.

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<v Speaker 2>It's called Deborah Graham's Guide to Attracting and Keeping your

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<v Speaker 2>True Love Matchmaker, Matchmaker, make me a match Deborah.

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<v Speaker 3>Wooh, what's up and stuff? How you doing?

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<v Speaker 2>I bet you get a lot of that, don't you? That? Matchmaker? Matchmaker?

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<v Speaker 3>I love it. I love it.

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<v Speaker 2>I love it. Winter chicken Dinner, Yes, Deborah Graham. I

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<v Speaker 2>can tell you from my personal experience in my relationship

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<v Speaker 2>with my lovely wife. It started out as I can't

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<v Speaker 2>read your mind, and now here we are thirty two

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<v Speaker 2>years later, I know what you're thinking.

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<v Speaker 3>Hmm, there you go. That's animal instincts. The energy is

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<v Speaker 3>connected and by the way you are with your twin

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<v Speaker 3>flame soulmates, let's give that around the pot.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, thank you.

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<v Speaker 3>You definite found that person and you almost have to

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<v Speaker 3>get hit over the head in order to see the

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<v Speaker 3>light at the end of the tunnel. And you know what,

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<v Speaker 3>the grass ain't green on the other side. And you

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<v Speaker 3>gotta be a yeszer kind of guy, because if you

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<v Speaker 3>know what it is, her way or the highway, would

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<v Speaker 3>you agree?

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<v Speaker 2>I would agree on some aspects. There are some more

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<v Speaker 2>shall we say, masculine aspects, like what's the best way

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<v Speaker 2>to fix the privacy fence? That she would defer to me.

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<v Speaker 3>Of course, we need the labor, so that's why we

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<v Speaker 3>have the guys. Get those muscles out, get her done.

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<v Speaker 3>But she definitely has that strong, spicy energy. But she

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<v Speaker 3>is your twin flame. So you got your you got

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<v Speaker 3>your soulmate, and right there, you just won the lottery.

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<v Speaker 3>Because most people they could own countries, they could have planes, trains,

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<v Speaker 3>and automobiles, and the one thing that's usually missing is love.

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<v Speaker 3>So right there, you got her done well.

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<v Speaker 2>And for me, it personally wasn't. I don't know that

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<v Speaker 2>it was something that I knew about right away. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know that it was love at first sight. It

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<v Speaker 2>was an interest that grew into a friendship that grew

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<v Speaker 2>into a relationship, and little by little by little, that

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<v Speaker 2>soul matism seemed to seem to grow, which is what

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<v Speaker 2>surprised me most about the relationship and marriage. And that's

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<v Speaker 2>the advice I give people who ask me. I said,

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<v Speaker 2>it's something you have to nurture each and every day,

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<v Speaker 2>like gardening exactly.

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<v Speaker 3>It's giving up fifty percent of your time and energy.

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<v Speaker 3>And that's exactly how all relationships work. You got to

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<v Speaker 3>make the time to take the time because sometimes when

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<v Speaker 3>you meet somebody, you're like, I don't know if this

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<v Speaker 3>person's right for me. I don't know if I'm filling

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<v Speaker 3>the vibe with him. I don't know if I'm vill

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<v Speaker 3>in the vibe or her energy or whatever the case

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<v Speaker 3>may be. But sometimes you have to go out. I

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<v Speaker 3>always say three days within three months and stay monogamous

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<v Speaker 3>for three months, not having intercourse. That means you get

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<v Speaker 3>a hug it, touch it, love it, don't put the

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<v Speaker 3>lizard in the lily patter for three months. That makes

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<v Speaker 3>a real strong psychic match, believe it or not.

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<v Speaker 2>What is it about that you think that makes that

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<v Speaker 2>more of a match than just play in the field.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, because some people just are looking for what they

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<v Speaker 3>call the wham bam, thank you maam, get or done,

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<v Speaker 3>and other people are wanting that true match. It's kind

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<v Speaker 3>of like having a piece of chocolate cake and if

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<v Speaker 3>you just dig into it, it's like, oh, one and done.

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<v Speaker 3>But if you wait and you indulge it, you really

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<v Speaker 3>get into it and you actually take time to really

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<v Speaker 3>savor it. That's how our relationships grows, just like it

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<v Speaker 3>has between you and your wife. It's like you've got

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<v Speaker 3>to put the time, you got to plant the seeds,

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<v Speaker 3>you got to put the energy. But you got to

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<v Speaker 3>know when you're being with a psychic connection or is

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<v Speaker 3>it a energy vanpire, And there's a lot of them

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<v Speaker 3>out there, and sometimes those people could even be friends, family,

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<v Speaker 3>they could even be co workers, they could be people

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<v Speaker 3>that are in your energy fields. So you got to

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<v Speaker 3>really pay attention to the sign, especially when you're feeling

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<v Speaker 3>like somebody is actually raining your energy. That's usually when

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<v Speaker 3>I say, run, well, you still got your head attached

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<v Speaker 3>to your body.

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<v Speaker 2>Czychic. Deborah Graham's with us Her guide to Attracting and

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<v Speaker 2>Keeping your True Love is out now, and I hate,

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<v Speaker 2>I hate to keep bringing it back to my own relationship, Deborah,

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<v Speaker 2>but One of the things I also was surprised about

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<v Speaker 2>was early in the relationship, when we did come across conflict,

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<v Speaker 2>there was always a cooling off period of twenty four

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<v Speaker 2>to forty eight hours where I think that both of

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<v Speaker 2>us would lean back and think, Okay, here's this conflict.

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<v Speaker 2>Is it worth resolving or is this where I bail out?

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<v Speaker 2>And each and every time it was worth resolving.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow, that's great, But you guys actually take forty hours

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<v Speaker 3>to not communicate, Is that what you're saying?

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes sometimes it was voluntary. Sometimes it was well, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>just gonna let him or her stew in their own

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<v Speaker 2>juices for a while, and then it turned into gosh,

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<v Speaker 2>I really want to talk this out. I'm gonna call

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<v Speaker 2>and so, you know, it would be earlier than the

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<v Speaker 2>twenty four or forty eight hours, but there was always

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<v Speaker 2>this cooling off peer after a conflict.

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<v Speaker 3>Interesting. Usually I say, try to give it one to

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<v Speaker 3>two hours. Forty eight hours is a bit much, But

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<v Speaker 3>you know what, both of you guys got that hot ass. Ever,

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<v Speaker 3>what I say is that you were able to resolve

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<v Speaker 3>the situation and make it happen, and you realize that,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, what is it really that bad. Is it

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<v Speaker 3>really worth you know, thinking about is this not going

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<v Speaker 3>to work? But the truth is everybody goes through uptown.

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<v Speaker 3>That's part of the I mean, hell, I've been married

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<v Speaker 3>to the same man almost forty years here. So the

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<v Speaker 3>reality is love is love. When you connect with somebody,

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<v Speaker 3>you're gonna have a good day and a bad day.

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<v Speaker 3>But the best thing to do is to communicate working

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<v Speaker 3>it out. And the best thing to do is take

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<v Speaker 3>a few deep breaths in by inhale and exhaling. And

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<v Speaker 3>of course, you know, I tell people this all the time,

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<v Speaker 3>even if they're calling into the psychic you know, connection

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<v Speaker 3>with Deborahgram on my podcast. It doesn't matter whether they're

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<v Speaker 3>talking to me on the phone in person. We're doing

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<v Speaker 3>a one on one rereading. It's all about communicating with yourself,

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<v Speaker 3>your guide, your spirit. And that's where I kind of

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<v Speaker 3>give them that Deborah Graham enema and help them clear

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<v Speaker 3>out the old and worn out and get ready to

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<v Speaker 3>find their twin flames, soul made or just for now,

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<v Speaker 3>or somebody to connect with them that they could communicate with.

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<v Speaker 2>The psychic matchmaker is with us Deborah Graham and her

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<v Speaker 2>Psychic's Guide to Attracting and keeping your true love, which

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<v Speaker 2>is out now you know her from the TLC series

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<v Speaker 2>The Psychic Matchmaker. The other thing that I have noticed

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<v Speaker 2>that some people when they're entering into a relationship, either

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<v Speaker 2>they just it doesn't occur to them or they refuse

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<v Speaker 2>to accept it. You have to want more than the

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<v Speaker 2>feelings that person gives you. You have to understand the

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<v Speaker 2>life that person is going to give you, and you

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<v Speaker 2>have to want that life.

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<v Speaker 3>Absolutely, and you have to want to be ready and open.

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<v Speaker 3>And that's where I kind of press them in the

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<v Speaker 3>beginning to help them heal eternally, mentally, emotionally. It could

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<v Speaker 3>be that they lost somebody, It could be that they

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<v Speaker 3>got abandonment issues. It could be that they've been adopted,

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<v Speaker 3>or they never found love as a child. So it's

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<v Speaker 3>kind of like going back to their own eternal maternal

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<v Speaker 3>energy and awakening up to really be ready to put

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<v Speaker 3>the fire in the fuel. Because I always say when

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<v Speaker 3>they go out within those first three dates, always have

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<v Speaker 3>a direct eye contact. The window to anybody's soul is

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<v Speaker 3>all through your eyes. So that's why Zee iburb a

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<v Speaker 3>lot of that most So that's affirmation because the energy

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<v Speaker 3>is awakening through your eyes and I feel like people

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<v Speaker 3>should be communicating more in person. And of course, you

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<v Speaker 3>know what's out there in the world of all these apps.

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<v Speaker 3>We swipe left, we swipe right, we do that, we

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<v Speaker 3>do that. But I say, within about a week to

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<v Speaker 3>two weeks at the absolute longest, you need to either

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<v Speaker 3>show up meet that person, or you know, go on

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<v Speaker 3>a zoom or go on a face you know whatever

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<v Speaker 3>that is on your phone, like you know, audio, FaceTime,

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<v Speaker 3>whatever that may be, to see that person. And you'll

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<v Speaker 3>know if that person is worth your time and worth

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<v Speaker 3>your effort. And if they are avoiding you, guess what,

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<v Speaker 3>they're just not so into you. That's what you call

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<v Speaker 3>a waste of time. Move on and keep on keeping on.

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<v Speaker 2>Deborah Graham, Psychic to Psychic Matchmaker and her Debora Graham's

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<v Speaker 2>Guide to Attracting and Keeping your True Love. That was

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<v Speaker 2>dovetailing on my next question, Deborah, Dating in this twenty

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<v Speaker 2>first century, I can't imagine. I mean, I was buying

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<v Speaker 2>a car the other day, and even though the sales

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<v Speaker 2>manager was in just the other room, he insisted upon

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<v Speaker 2>texting me. I finally marched into his office and said,

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<v Speaker 2>we're going to talk about this in person. I can't

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<v Speaker 2>imagine the same thing happening in the dating world.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, no, it's true. It's difficult. The world that we

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<v Speaker 3>live in is absolutely different than the way you brought

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<v Speaker 3>up and I was brought up. Things are absolutely different,

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<v Speaker 3>and people just don't know how to communicate. I think

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<v Speaker 3>everybody's got add We're running and catching up and we're

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<v Speaker 3>just not paying attention, you know. And I think if

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<v Speaker 3>you could just slow down, hug a tree, walk outside

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<v Speaker 3>for a few minutes, literally without your shoes on, and

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<v Speaker 3>I think, just feel the Earth's energy, it'll actually ground you,

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<v Speaker 3>believe it or not. I have a lot of my

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<v Speaker 3>clients and myself, I do a lot of meditation, and

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<v Speaker 3>meditation is not about listening to some olms and some

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<v Speaker 3>chimes that it could be. Like, man, when you're even

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<v Speaker 3>in your shower, even if you're in the toilet, just

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<v Speaker 3>close your eyes and just let go and feel that love,

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<v Speaker 3>build that energy and that inner child wound healing. That'll

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<v Speaker 3>bring you to where you need to be, so you

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<v Speaker 3>could slow down and really take connection to find that partner.

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<v Speaker 2>Psychic Deborah Graham's Guide to Attracting and Keeping your True

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<v Speaker 2>Love It is out everywhere. A great summer read. There's

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<v Speaker 2>so much more we could talk about, but I thank

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<v Speaker 2>you for giving me the time you have Deborah Graham,

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<v Speaker 2>and for joining us.

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you. And if anybody wants to get their own

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<v Speaker 3>one on one psychic reading or be a live guest

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<v Speaker 3>and get a free reading live on the Psychic Connection podcast,

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<v Speaker 3>go to Psychic Deborah Graham dot com, that psychicedepogram dot

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<v Speaker 3>com and anybody who mentions that they heard me live

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<v Speaker 3>on your show, they will receive seventy five percent off

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<v Speaker 3>that's right of their own one on one psychic rereading. God,

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<v Speaker 3>bless you, God, Love up, peace out, Thank you.

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