Speaker 1: This is Later with Lee Matthews, The Lee Matthews Podcast
Speaker 1: more what You Hear weekday afternoons on the Drive.
Speaker 2: Deborah Graham, for more than thirty years, has been predicting
Speaker 2: the innermost thoughts and dreams of people looking for answers.
Speaker 2: She's a professional spiritualist, advisor, psychic matchmaker and been connected
Speaker 2: with people of all levels. She's also the star of
Speaker 2: the TLC series The Psychic Matchmaker. Her newest book is out.
Speaker 2: It's called Deborah Graham's Guide to Attracting and Keeping your
Speaker 2: True Love Matchmaker, Matchmaker, make me a match Deborah.
Speaker 3: Wooh, what's up and stuff? How you doing?
Speaker 2: I bet you get a lot of that, don't you? That? Matchmaker? Matchmaker?
Speaker 3: I love it. I love it.
Speaker 2: I love it. Winter chicken Dinner, Yes, Deborah Graham. I
Speaker 2: can tell you from my personal experience in my relationship
Speaker 2: with my lovely wife. It started out as I can't
Speaker 2: read your mind, and now here we are thirty two
Speaker 2: years later, I know what you're thinking.
Speaker 3: Hmm, there you go. That's animal instincts. The energy is
Speaker 3: connected and by the way you are with your twin
Speaker 3: flame soulmates, let's give that around the pot.
Speaker 2: Well, thank you.
Speaker 3: You definite found that person and you almost have to
Speaker 3: get hit over the head in order to see the
Speaker 3: light at the end of the tunnel. And you know what,
Speaker 3: the grass ain't green on the other side. And you
Speaker 3: gotta be a yeszer kind of guy, because if you
Speaker 3: know what it is, her way or the highway, would
Speaker 3: you agree?
Speaker 2: I would agree on some aspects. There are some more
Speaker 2: shall we say, masculine aspects, like what's the best way
Speaker 2: to fix the privacy fence? That she would defer to me.
Speaker 3: Of course, we need the labor, so that's why we
Speaker 3: have the guys. Get those muscles out, get her done.
Speaker 3: But she definitely has that strong, spicy energy. But she
Speaker 3: is your twin flame. So you got your you got
Speaker 3: your soulmate, and right there, you just won the lottery.
Speaker 3: Because most people they could own countries, they could have planes, trains,
Speaker 3: and automobiles, and the one thing that's usually missing is love.
Speaker 3: So right there, you got her done well.
Speaker 2: And for me, it personally wasn't. I don't know that
Speaker 2: it was something that I knew about right away. I
Speaker 2: don't know that it was love at first sight. It
Speaker 2: was an interest that grew into a friendship that grew
Speaker 2: into a relationship, and little by little by little, that
Speaker 2: soul matism seemed to seem to grow, which is what
Speaker 2: surprised me most about the relationship and marriage. And that's
Speaker 2: the advice I give people who ask me. I said,
Speaker 2: it's something you have to nurture each and every day,
Speaker 2: like gardening exactly.
Speaker 3: It's giving up fifty percent of your time and energy.
Speaker 3: And that's exactly how all relationships work. You got to
Speaker 3: make the time to take the time because sometimes when
Speaker 3: you meet somebody, you're like, I don't know if this
Speaker 3: person's right for me. I don't know if I'm filling
Speaker 3: the vibe with him. I don't know if I'm vill
Speaker 3: in the vibe or her energy or whatever the case
Speaker 3: may be. But sometimes you have to go out. I
Speaker 3: always say three days within three months and stay monogamous
Speaker 3: for three months, not having intercourse. That means you get
Speaker 3: a hug it, touch it, love it, don't put the
Speaker 3: lizard in the lily patter for three months. That makes
Speaker 3: a real strong psychic match, believe it or not.
Speaker 2: What is it about that you think that makes that
Speaker 2: more of a match than just play in the field.
Speaker 3: Well, because some people just are looking for what they
Speaker 3: call the wham bam, thank you maam, get or done,
Speaker 3: and other people are wanting that true match. It's kind
Speaker 3: of like having a piece of chocolate cake and if
Speaker 3: you just dig into it, it's like, oh, one and done.
Speaker 3: But if you wait and you indulge it, you really
Speaker 3: get into it and you actually take time to really
Speaker 3: savor it. That's how our relationships grows, just like it
Speaker 3: has between you and your wife. It's like you've got
Speaker 3: to put the time, you got to plant the seeds,
Speaker 3: you got to put the energy. But you got to
Speaker 3: know when you're being with a psychic connection or is
Speaker 3: it a energy vanpire, And there's a lot of them
Speaker 3: out there, and sometimes those people could even be friends, family,
Speaker 3: they could even be co workers, they could be people
Speaker 3: that are in your energy fields. So you got to
Speaker 3: really pay attention to the sign, especially when you're feeling
Speaker 3: like somebody is actually raining your energy. That's usually when
Speaker 3: I say, run, well, you still got your head attached
Speaker 3: to your body.
Speaker 2: Czychic. Deborah Graham's with us Her guide to Attracting and
Speaker 2: Keeping your True Love is out now, and I hate,
Speaker 2: I hate to keep bringing it back to my own relationship, Deborah,
Speaker 2: but One of the things I also was surprised about
Speaker 2: was early in the relationship, when we did come across conflict,
Speaker 2: there was always a cooling off period of twenty four
Speaker 2: to forty eight hours where I think that both of
Speaker 2: us would lean back and think, Okay, here's this conflict.
Speaker 2: Is it worth resolving or is this where I bail out?
Speaker 2: And each and every time it was worth resolving.
Speaker 3: Wow, that's great, But you guys actually take forty hours
Speaker 3: to not communicate, Is that what you're saying?
Speaker 2: Sometimes sometimes it was voluntary. Sometimes it was well, I'm
Speaker 2: just gonna let him or her stew in their own
Speaker 2: juices for a while, and then it turned into gosh,
Speaker 2: I really want to talk this out. I'm gonna call
Speaker 2: and so, you know, it would be earlier than the
Speaker 2: twenty four or forty eight hours, but there was always
Speaker 2: this cooling off peer after a conflict.
Speaker 3: Interesting. Usually I say, try to give it one to
Speaker 3: two hours. Forty eight hours is a bit much, But
Speaker 3: you know what, both of you guys got that hot ass. Ever,
Speaker 3: what I say is that you were able to resolve
Speaker 3: the situation and make it happen, and you realize that,
Speaker 3: you know, what is it really that bad. Is it
Speaker 3: really worth you know, thinking about is this not going
Speaker 3: to work? But the truth is everybody goes through uptown.
Speaker 3: That's part of the I mean, hell, I've been married
Speaker 3: to the same man almost forty years here. So the
Speaker 3: reality is love is love. When you connect with somebody,
Speaker 3: you're gonna have a good day and a bad day.
Speaker 3: But the best thing to do is to communicate working
Speaker 3: it out. And the best thing to do is take
Speaker 3: a few deep breaths in by inhale and exhaling. And
Speaker 3: of course, you know, I tell people this all the time,
Speaker 3: even if they're calling into the psychic you know, connection
Speaker 3: with Deborahgram on my podcast. It doesn't matter whether they're
Speaker 3: talking to me on the phone in person. We're doing
Speaker 3: a one on one rereading. It's all about communicating with yourself,
Speaker 3: your guide, your spirit. And that's where I kind of
Speaker 3: give them that Deborah Graham enema and help them clear
Speaker 3: out the old and worn out and get ready to
Speaker 3: find their twin flames, soul made or just for now,
Speaker 3: or somebody to connect with them that they could communicate with.
Speaker 2: The psychic matchmaker is with us Deborah Graham and her
Speaker 2: Psychic's Guide to Attracting and keeping your true love, which
Speaker 2: is out now you know her from the TLC series
Speaker 2: The Psychic Matchmaker. The other thing that I have noticed
Speaker 2: that some people when they're entering into a relationship, either
Speaker 2: they just it doesn't occur to them or they refuse
Speaker 2: to accept it. You have to want more than the
Speaker 2: feelings that person gives you. You have to understand the
Speaker 2: life that person is going to give you, and you
Speaker 2: have to want that life.
Speaker 3: Absolutely, and you have to want to be ready and open.
Speaker 3: And that's where I kind of press them in the
Speaker 3: beginning to help them heal eternally, mentally, emotionally. It could
Speaker 3: be that they lost somebody, It could be that they
Speaker 3: got abandonment issues. It could be that they've been adopted,
Speaker 3: or they never found love as a child. So it's
Speaker 3: kind of like going back to their own eternal maternal
Speaker 3: energy and awakening up to really be ready to put
Speaker 3: the fire in the fuel. Because I always say when
Speaker 3: they go out within those first three dates, always have
Speaker 3: a direct eye contact. The window to anybody's soul is
Speaker 3: all through your eyes. So that's why Zee iburb a
Speaker 3: lot of that most So that's affirmation because the energy
Speaker 3: is awakening through your eyes and I feel like people
Speaker 3: should be communicating more in person. And of course, you
Speaker 3: know what's out there in the world of all these apps.
Speaker 3: We swipe left, we swipe right, we do that, we
Speaker 3: do that. But I say, within about a week to
Speaker 3: two weeks at the absolute longest, you need to either
Speaker 3: show up meet that person, or you know, go on
Speaker 3: a zoom or go on a face you know whatever
Speaker 3: that is on your phone, like you know, audio, FaceTime,
Speaker 3: whatever that may be, to see that person. And you'll
Speaker 3: know if that person is worth your time and worth
Speaker 3: your effort. And if they are avoiding you, guess what,
Speaker 3: they're just not so into you. That's what you call
Speaker 3: a waste of time. Move on and keep on keeping on.
Speaker 2: Deborah Graham, Psychic to Psychic Matchmaker and her Debora Graham's
Speaker 2: Guide to Attracting and Keeping your True Love. That was
Speaker 2: dovetailing on my next question, Deborah, Dating in this twenty
Speaker 2: first century, I can't imagine. I mean, I was buying
Speaker 2: a car the other day, and even though the sales
Speaker 2: manager was in just the other room, he insisted upon
Speaker 2: texting me. I finally marched into his office and said,
Speaker 2: we're going to talk about this in person. I can't
Speaker 2: imagine the same thing happening in the dating world.
Speaker 3: Yeah, no, it's true. It's difficult. The world that we
Speaker 3: live in is absolutely different than the way you brought
Speaker 3: up and I was brought up. Things are absolutely different,
Speaker 3: and people just don't know how to communicate. I think
Speaker 3: everybody's got add We're running and catching up and we're
Speaker 3: just not paying attention, you know. And I think if
Speaker 3: you could just slow down, hug a tree, walk outside
Speaker 3: for a few minutes, literally without your shoes on, and
Speaker 3: I think, just feel the Earth's energy, it'll actually ground you,
Speaker 3: believe it or not. I have a lot of my
Speaker 3: clients and myself, I do a lot of meditation, and
Speaker 3: meditation is not about listening to some olms and some
Speaker 3: chimes that it could be. Like, man, when you're even
Speaker 3: in your shower, even if you're in the toilet, just
Speaker 3: close your eyes and just let go and feel that love,
Speaker 3: build that energy and that inner child wound healing. That'll
Speaker 3: bring you to where you need to be, so you
Speaker 3: could slow down and really take connection to find that partner.
Speaker 2: Psychic Deborah Graham's Guide to Attracting and Keeping your True
Speaker 2: Love It is out everywhere. A great summer read. There's
Speaker 2: so much more we could talk about, but I thank
Speaker 2: you for giving me the time you have Deborah Graham,
Speaker 2: and for joining us.
Speaker 3: Thank you. And if anybody wants to get their own
Speaker 3: one on one psychic reading or be a live guest
Speaker 3: and get a free reading live on the Psychic Connection podcast,
Speaker 3: go to Psychic Deborah Graham dot com, that psychicedepogram dot
Speaker 3: com and anybody who mentions that they heard me live
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Speaker 3: that's right of their own one on one psychic rereading. God,
Speaker 3: bless you, God, Love up, peace out, Thank you.
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