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Speaker 7: It is that time again. Matt Connorton unleashed and we
are live from the studios of wm NH ninety five
point three FM and Glorious Manchester, New Hampshire. If you
are listening live on Saturday morning, today is May third,
two thy twenty five and I am not alone.
Speaker 6: Jod morning sunshine.
Speaker 7: Yes, Jenny is here of course at the news table
President on account of pH and very very nice day
outside is eighty today.
Speaker 6: Yeah, windows open listening berties.
Speaker 7: I noticed the sun came out after we arrived. So
we have an exciting show for you today for a
couple of reasons. One is, you know, we've got some
great guests lined up. In just a few minutes, we're
gonna be talking with our old friend Charles Richardson, host
of The Charles Richardson Show, and haven't had Charles on
in a long time, so that'll be a while. That'll
be fun. And then in the second hour, we have
the band Able Blood joining us. Able Blood we've had
on several times. This might be their fourth time.
Speaker 6: I think they're almost in the five timers club.
Speaker 7: Almost, yeah, I think this. I think this is going
to be their fourth time today. But such a great band,
and we love featuring Abel Blood on the show. And
then in the third hour today we have Etch in
the Youngs and they're gonna be coming in and they're
gonna play live for us in studio. We also have
a couple of great studio tracks to feature from from
Etch and the Youngs, but looking forward to that as
well now. But circling back to as I mentioned, in
just a couple of minutes, we're gonna be talking to
our friend Charles Richardson. But we're making radio history today today,
today is a significant moment in the history of Matt
Connorton Unleash Why because this morning, your hat is straight,
my hat is, Uh.
Speaker 5: I don't I'm not worried.
Speaker 7: About my happings straight right now. I just don't like
when my hat's crooked in pictures. When my hat's crowing
in pictures, it really bothers me. I like a nice, straight,
perfectly centered hat. But no, we're making radio history on
the program because for the first time, for the first
time ever on Matt Connor Toon Unleashed, this we're going
to be using WhatsApp to speak with a guest. Yes,
and I'm glad it's someone we know, our friend Charles,
because and I had known this. I knew this in
the back of my mind, but I had I'd forgotten.
Speaker 5: Uh.
Speaker 7: Skype is gone. There is no more Skype. We have
traditionally used Skype on the program. Now there are other options,
of course, for going all the way back to the
beginning of our tenure here at WM and H, we've
always used Skype, you know, especially it's a It's been
especially handy for guests who are on other continents who
you know, it's going to cost them money to call
us on the phone. So we've we've used Skype, but
Skype has gone away. So but uh, everyone's using WhatsApp
these days anyway. So we're going to attempt in just
a moment. I am going to because you know, WhatsApp
is really for your phone, but you can use it
on a desktop computer. So I'm going to attempt in
just a moment to call Charles. Because Charles is in Florida,
he's not here with us in studio. Obviously, I'm going
to attempt to call Charles via WhatsApp on this computer,
the same computer on which we used to use Skype,
and hopefully it works. We did test it, you and
I tested it before the show and it seemed to
work okay. But we will we will we will test it, yes,
off air, but we will test this. We will test
it with Charles.
Speaker 6: It will either be gloriously great or.
Speaker 7: It could it could be calamitous. And and if it is,
if it is calamitous, that means that means we'll have
to go back to the drawing board and figure something
out for the future. Right now, and of course, in
that case too. Charles can always just call on his
cell phone. But but it's good to have an option
where people don't have.
Speaker 1: To use.
Speaker 7: Yes, yeah, it would be expensive. From the other side, right, exactly,
it won't cost him anything to just call on a
cell phone. But but if we can talk to him
on a computer, calls probably be bad quality. I'm sure
there will be. I'm sure there will be, so I
think we should just go ahead. Hopefully he's ready. I've
got his full disclosure. I've not used WhatsApp on a desktop,
so hopefully it works.
Speaker 6: Oh, this is true when you did Now when we
tested it, did you try it on the desktop or
did you try it on your phone.
Speaker 7: On the desktop? But I have to call Charles because
what we could not figure out. And I'll look at
it later and try to figure this out. But when
you called me using WhatsApp, it showed up on my
phone but not on the desktop, so I could not
answer your call on WhatsApp on the desktop. I could
only do it on my phone. But I'm calling Charles
from the desktop as I called you from the desktop,
and that worked, so that should work. Oh, by the way,
I want to say too, hello to our friend Jay Bellow,
of course, from the great band Chasing the Devil. We
ran into Jay on Wednesday at Market Basket in Bedford.
We were doing our grocery shopping and.
Speaker 6: Happening more frequently that we run into people grocery shopping.
Speaker 7: Yes, yes, it's fun. Yes, that is that that has
become a common occurrence.
Speaker 6: We saw him there tissues.
Speaker 7: Okay, yeah, oh that's right, because I knocked over a
bunch of tissues because I I I'm a klutz and
I knock things over and I drop things, and I
still think leads the world.
Speaker 6: And what your nose leads the world?
Speaker 7: My nose leads the world, well your world anyway, Well
that's true. I use a lot of tissues because of
my allergies. Yes, I had quite the sneezing fit just
right before we went on the air, actually, but it
was But it was wonderful to run into our friend Jay.
And of course please check out Chasing the Devil. If
you have not listened to Chasing the Devil, you must
hear them. We always do a world radio premiere here
on the program every time they have a new single,
and so that was really nice to run into Jay.
And I think right, So again, we're about to make
radio history for the first time ever. I'm going to
go ahead. I'm going to initiate the call via WhatsApp
with our friend Charles Richardson, and hopefully this goes well.
Hopefully the sound quality is good. We've never done this
live on the air, So here we go.
Speaker 6: I feel like we need a drum roll now.
Speaker 7: And I, by the way, so I have two options.
I can click video or voice. I'm going to click
voice because we have no way of bringing the video
of Charles into the show. So because it is a
radio show after all, I mean, we are on the
air of the mind. We are on video, and we
stream to Facebook and YouTube and everything, but it is Yes,
radio radio is theater of the mine first and foremost.
So I'm going to click voice and let's oh wait, first,
I better bring the volume up though on the uh.
Speaker 6: You might on that computer, the mental telepathy will work
well for the audience.
Speaker 7: Yes, otherwise we won't hear anything, so oh you never know.
On the board, it is still labeled Skype because I'm
still using that Uh.
Speaker 6: Well that's because it changed this morning.
Speaker 7: I'm still using that computer. Yeah, we just realized this
morning that we can't use Skype anymore. Okay, so Skype
is gone. No one can use Skype, al ip Skype. Okay,
here we go. I'm going to click voice as we
sail into history, as Sean Connery says in The Hunt
for Red October. Okay, let's see what happens. Oh oh,
that's a good sign. I hear ringing. I hear it
in my headphone, so I was, so. I assume it's
going out over the air too.
Speaker 6: You are a moment early.
Speaker 7: Oh it it works, Hello, Charles, can you can you
hear us?
Speaker 5: I can hear you. It didn't work on my lap
on my computer. I wanted to use my studio microphone headphones,
but it's like, not forget it ain't gonna work. That's
all right.
Speaker 6: Interesting.
Speaker 7: See that is interesting because we had the same I
gotta figure out. I gotta figure that out because we
have the same issue when when we tested it before
the show, when Jenny called me, I could only answer
it on my phone. I could not answer it on
the computer. That's interesting. Okay, that's something we're going to
have to figure out. Well, at least we got to
talk and you sound great.
Speaker 5: Well, thank you. I appreciate you. You sound wonderful as well.
Speaker 7: Thank you. Well, we strive for that here on the program. So,
of course, Charles Richardson, host of The Charles Richardson Show,
which has returned. Right, you're on what are you on now?
Actually you might be changing your schedule, right, Yeah you
heard huh.
Speaker 5: So normally it was well, originally when we were starting
to go on, it was Monday, Wednesday, Friday. I decided
to take a mental break sort of speak for a while,
and then we came back to just doing Monday and
Wednesdays because Friday was like an ify day anyway, we
like to go to Disney and have the weekend, so
Friday night usually didn't work for us. Well, now I'm
having the problem with Monday because Monday just kicks my patuity.
I have to use that work, I guess.
Speaker 7: Yeah, socc regulations. In fact, they prefer it that you
use opportunity. It's the preferred Yes, thank you, thank you.
Speaker 5: So Monday was was was kicking it really good. And
plus also Raw is on and yes show during Raw,
and and how interesting it's going on right now? This
is great. So with all those two factors playing in,
we're trying to think of another two nights that we
can do this that won't affect our schedules. And with
thinking the Tuesday and Thursday rendition of the Charles Richardson Show. Okay,
has not been made official yet, and I will go
on record and saying this is not an official announcement.
Speaker 8: This is a preliminary announcement.
Speaker 5: It will be ratified by a unanimous vote here in
the household.
Speaker 7: I see, are all votes unanimous? Or is it ever contentious?
Speaker 5: Oh? We don't have any rules here.
Speaker 7: I understand. I understand is.
Speaker 5: Mine And even if, even if, even if the vote
doesn't go my way and I even vote against my
own stuff, I can rather fight and just make it approve.
Speaker 7: Anyway, right, I see, Yes, I see.
Speaker 6: Can you hear me?
Speaker 7: Okay, Charles? I feel like we had a problem with
this microphone last night during Paul's show. Are you hearing me? Okay?
Speaker 5: No? Yeah, you're fine. You're coming to it good, Okay.
Speaker 7: I just I just had to turn the volume way
up on this Mike, Jenny, are you hearing me?
Speaker 4: Okay?
Speaker 6: Not when you turn your head.
Speaker 7: Yeah, it sounds a little. It sounds a little funny,
doesn't it get rid of the well, I don't think
I don't think that's the Uh well, that might help
a little bit. It helps a little bit, yeah, getting
rid of the filter. But yeah, we we we've been
having a problem with this microphone and and Peter was
in early this morning to fix it. But I think
it's still uh, it's still causing an issue.
Speaker 5: Come on, Peter, get with it here. Let's go ahead
and update that mic.
Speaker 7: Well the dough Yeah, well it's not it's not the mic.
It's it's the processor apparently. But uh no, he came in,
he came in early this morning to make sure that
it was that it was working. But it's it's been
a little bit. Uh, it's been a little bit funky.
I might I'm gonna switch to a different mic. Actually,
why don't why don't you guys can Jenny, why don't
you and Charles talk for a couple of minutes. I'm
just gonna switch this really really quickly. I know that Charles,
you wanted to talk a bit about mental health this morning, right, Well,
it was one of.
Speaker 5: The subjects that I would uh, I wouldn't mind talking
about because I deal with it on a daily basis.
I mean, it's yeah, it's really it's it's really tough
to the point where Number one and I don't want
to get too personal, but the home life isn't exactly
peaches and cream. Uh, it's it's not as vanilla as
people would think. Oh, they must love to be so beautifully. No,
it's not. And it's not just you know me, me
and the the significant other, my wife. It's uh, it's
our son who's grown up and is getting more and
more edgy, more and more obnoxious, really, if you want
to be honest, So it is tough as a parent
number one to deal with the with the kid already
with ADHD and some uh uh and and some behaviors.
I feel, what was this odd? Or OHDC or something
like that occ you know me, But it's like a defiance.
It's defiance is what is uh the diagnosis that he's got.
And he's defiant to mom but to me, Oh, he
doesn't dare cross me. I don't know if it's just
because of my nature, if I'm speaking too deep, I
speak too deep, he may listen to me more like
Darth Vader or something like that. I mean, but when
you're in the household like that, where there is constant arguing.
And I'm not talking about domestic issues like you know,
if I'm yelling at the wife or my wife's yelling
at me. Now, this is just trying to control the situation.
And it does get out of handle a lot of times.
And I honestly, I have no room to run. I
have to get out of the house. I have to
get out breathed and take a back because I would
go nuts, I would hurt people, and I'd probably end
up in jail if I stayed in the house. It's
just it comes really bad.
Speaker 7: That does sound very challenging. I'm a I'm on a
different mic now and it sounds a lot better in
my headphones. Yeah, yeah, much much better. Yeah, that that
does sound challenging, Charles. You know, as as I think.
You know, I don't have any children. Jenny and I
have two cats, and that's as close to actual fatherhood
as I've ever wanted to get. Well, there is there is,
of course, DJ Rackless, who I suppose, I suppose that
there are some paternal feeling there, but uh, but you know,
but he's all grown up now too, so.
Speaker 5: But that's the thing. When they're growing up and out
of the house, or even if they're in the house
and growing up, it's like, listen, we don't have to
stay here. You can leave and hopefully hopefully they'll be
he'll be obliged to leave if that's the case. Not
I did. I'm not to say that this is always
that way. There is times where it's great. There's times
when we have a lot of fun and we there's
good times there. But it's just the point of saying
no to him, which I'm sorry, we're we're gonna say no.
Speaker 8: There's nothing to it.
Speaker 5: If there's something that he did not deserve, did not earn,
or or something that it's too late it's time for bed. No,
he's gonna throw a fa he's gonna throw a temper tantrum,
start kicking things and occasionally throwing things. Although that's that's
become less of a headache, but it's it's still it's
still challenging to deal with. Listen, dude, it's bedtime. You know,
it's bedtime. It's been bedtime for like this for seven years.
Get used to it's done, go to bed. But no,
but he's he's doing he's doing this, uh that seven
year tantrum that if it's bedtime. Oh oh, we're not
doing this. And you know, I don't know how my
parents did it when I was growing up. Maybe because
I was just a good child. I was. I was
a sweet little angel.
Speaker 7: Well that's the thing, you know, I was. I was
a perfect angel as well growing up.
Speaker 5: And uh yeah here Jenny laugh.
Speaker 8: And I don't think that's true.
Speaker 6: Actually, I've heard stories he was actually the good kid
I was.
Speaker 2: I was.
Speaker 7: I was a good kider.
Speaker 6: Like hearing his mom says something that he did that
was wrong was like in my world. Really, that's it.
That's just that's that's it.
Speaker 7: Huh.
Speaker 6: You might have said I don't like you.
Speaker 5: Yeah, My my word is if our son says I
hate this day or I don't like you or something
like that, Oh it's time out. Can you imagine what
I would I would have to deal with if I
told my mother I don't like you, go away leave
me alone?
Speaker 1: Right.
Speaker 5: No, No, it would not be tolerated, and my bottom
would hurt for a while, maybe even other parts of
my body. But you know what, nothing was ever like. Oh, well,
it's illegal to spank your children and it's illegal to
talk bad to your children. But I'm so over this.
I mean, yes, I get abusing kids is one thing,
but discipline is another. I'm fully behind the corporal punishment
for discipline.
Speaker 7: I've always and again, I'm not a parent, so I
always feel a little weird about not having an opinion.
That's not the right way to put it. But but
I you know, I don't, I don't, uh, I don't
make too many judgments about it. I think generally, I
think it's probably something to avoid actual corporal punishment, because
I think that, you know, some child psychologists and sociologists
would argue that you kind of teach you run the
risk of teaching your child that that the way to
resolve conflict is through some form of violence. Having said that,
I also do understand. I've heard parents explain and I
have my own term for it. I call it the
hot stove argument, where if your child is repeatedly trying
to touch a hot stove and you have to tell
them repeatedly to not do that, and you're not doing
that to punish them or anything, you know, You're just
you're doing that because you don't want them to harm themselves,
because it's going to potentially burn them if they touch
that hot stove. And they keep trying to do it,
and so the only way to finally get them to
stop is maybe a little pat on the bottom or
a slap on the hand or whatever it is. I
get that, and that is for their own goods. So
I think it's my from my perspective again as a
non parent, so I'm kind of talking out of my
backside a little bit, but I think it's probably something
to avoid. But I also I do understand a situation
may arise where that's your best option because you're trying
to keep them safe, and maybe that's the only way
you can you can do it.
Speaker 8: It's not the only way to us. We go through
different steps.
Speaker 5: I mean, my my wife is an ABA therapy, so
she has all the knowledge in the world. We're dealing
with kids that have autism and stuff like that with
the same with the same respect as what my son
is dealing with. Even though he's not on that spectrum yet,
he's very close. He was tested, he was tested early,
so we're probably thinking the test him again. It's been recommended.
But she has all these techniques. We have, you know,
rewards charts, we have this and that. But yet to
your point where we're explaining ourselves over and over again,
and we're trying to explain Listen, you know it's this
is not a punishment, this is just time. This is
it's not in the cards today. Uh. And he goes
off the chain like that.
Speaker 8: And and this is not just him saying I don't
like this. This is him screaming.
Speaker 5: This is him yelling, throwing, kicking stuff, kicking a dog sometimes.
I mean, that's that's extreme. But you know our dogs
are small. I mean they can get her easily. Sure,
it's a lot of big behavior issues from a little
kid who's not even like fifty inches tall yet at
nine years old. So he's a little guy. And I
know he's probably had some issues with that too. He
doesn't like being the little guy, and I understand that.
But I also told him, listen, when you get into football,
nobody's gonna touch you. You're so fast, you just go ahead,
just go around them that they're not gonna be able
to mess with you. You're so tiny, you just go
underneath their legs. Yeah, it's it's it's cool. So it's
but when when I say corporle punchs, but I'm not
talking about taking them out to the back and hanging
him or anything like that. That's not what I'm talking
about talking about.
Speaker 6: That would be murdered.
Speaker 5: Yeah, and well some people can take that to another
degree that that's saying I'm not talking about that. I'm
not even talking about taking a spatchelor or wooden spoon
and spanking. I'm not talking about that is a tap
to the butt. It just you need to stop. Yeah, Okay,
we tried the talking, we tried the time out. They
ain't working.
Speaker 8: You will get a spanking.
Speaker 5: And I'm sorry for people and parents that feel that way.
But when it comes to difficult times, come to difficult decisions,
and that's a difficult decision. My wife doesn't agree with that,
and and really bless her. I respect her opinion on that. Yeah,
I respect her opinion on not spanking, but there's times
that she's had to because all else has failed.
Speaker 7: Has has I gotten better as he's gotten older, or
or has it gotten worse or what's what's kind of
the situation there? You said he's nine years old, now.
Speaker 5: Yeah, so when we got the one, he was two.
She already had some some issues with the people that
he was staying with. We're trying to get that out,
but it's been you know, the memories on him. Are
you sput this way when when when we first got him,
I was putting on my belt to go to work
on my jeans. Dad, you don't hit me?
Speaker 8: Oh, so we know it was abuse going on, Yeah,
you know, and it's.
Speaker 5: Like, no, I'll never do that. No, No, I gotten
hit with the belt before too. It's like, we're not
doing this. There's other ways to handle this. I'm not
doing this. And it's never come to that. It's never
come to the wooden spoon or anything like that. So
that's that's at least a good thing. Yeah, But from
the time we got into now it's actually it's gotten
a little bit worse because he just has that much
energy in him to the point where he can't tone down,
he can't down shift. It's it's, uh, how Jacob Fatu
put it now, all gas, no brakes, that's him, that's him. Wow.
Speaker 7: No, that's that's challenging. Yeah, that is that is very challenging.
Are you and Alyssa generally on the same page in
terms of how to deal with him? I mean, I
know that with the spanking you've got some disagreement there,
but what what about? What about? More just more broadly,
are you or do you? Have to have a lot
of discussions about how do we handle this?
Speaker 5: A lot of its discussions because I don't understand. See,
my way of being brought up was you do not
disrespect your parents one bit, and if you do, there
is consequences, and some of those consequences can be severe.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 5: Now with that being said, I understand that this is
a new day and age where we have to be
we have to adjust to not offend anybody and stuff
like that. So so the discussion is I'm grateful to
have a wife that is actually in the field that
she's in, so we do have discussions. She's trying to
explain to me why this is going on and that's
going on. So in a way, I'm actually being taught
by my wife in regards to this type of behavior management. Well,
also the fact my wife does deal with this eight
hours a day and she comes home and she has
to do it again. She's already exhausted. So sometimes it
doesn't get followed that much. So the argument doesn't comes.
And I wouldn't say argument, I would just say, listen,
you want me to follow the plan? How about you
follow it too, because right now you're telling me to
do one thing and do to do another thing. And
I understand you're frustrated.
Speaker 8: We're all frustrated.
Speaker 5: And I understand you're tired and you just have a
long day and you don't want to deal with it anymore.
But this is our job, right, this is our unpaid job.
We need to go ahead and do this. Yeah, and
you're talking about me being on the same page, which
she constantly says, I'm not talking about me being on
the same page. You gotta be on the same page too.
It is a constant struggle, man, It's a constant struggle.
And yes, there's times I'm stepping in my car and
I'm thinking I can't do this because if I do,
I'm gonna do something that's way wrong. I need to go.
I need to have a drink. And I'm not talking
about club soda.
Speaker 7: I'm talking about Yeah.
Speaker 5: So it's a struggle though.
Speaker 7: Yeah, Yeah, I've seen you know obviously over the years,
I've seen some videos that you've posted where you've talked about, uh,
you know how how challenging it all is. And uh no,
I feel for you, man, Like I said, as someone
who's not not a parent. I can only imagine how
challenging that is. And you know, it's one of the reasons.
There's a there's a number of different reasons why I
was never interested in having children of my own, and
and one of them is how do you deal with
challenges like that?
Speaker 5: You know?
Speaker 7: Another one is I don't know how anybody affords it.
There's all kinds of reasons why I am happily childless.
But uh, but but no, so I feel for you.
Speaker 5: Yeah, And we've wanted to have kids, and I've come
to question my own insanity over the years, like why
did I want this? But I also understand that, listen,
he does have something developmental issues, he does have some
behavioral issues, And you know, that's kind of the thing nowadays,
like isn't it like now that we're more aware of
these mental challenges, that we're starting to see it and
starting to The one thing I don't get is pilling
up my kid.
Speaker 8: Do you realize he's already on six medications.
Speaker 5: He's on the same type of medications, not the same type,
the same number of medications that I am on. And
I have diabetes in the high blood pressure. Yeah, and
I'm on those. I combined the two and basically that
the same the same number of medications is what my
mom used to take.
Speaker 8: And that scares the frightened crop.
Speaker 5: Out of me.
Speaker 7: Really does has has he always? Has? He always been
on that many or is that more of a recent development.
Speaker 5: So he started off on the one where he takes
in the morning and that usually got him through the day.
And this is going through the testing experimental five year old,
six year old stage when he's just started school. Then
they said, no, maybe he needs a midday bumper, you know,
so they give him another one there for the midday.
Then we find out he's not going to sleep, so
they have a quantity that's on there and we take
that with melatonin and it kind of, you know, it
kind of mellows him out, but not really. He's becoming
immune to it. And there's a couple of other ones
there that I don't really understand. My wife would understand
more than that. But it's all been by doctors that
have seen him, that know his diagnosis, that knows what
he's going through. And we're telling him that this is working,
this is not working. Stuff like that, I mean, and
don't get me wrong. He's not like this twenty four seven.
Like right now, he's in his room. He's doing quiet time,
which is part of his routine. That's one thing with
kids with ADHD is we have to have a routine
and make sure he sticks with it. Yeah, so he
had breakfast right before we got on the show, and
once he's done with his breakfast, he goes in this room.
Speaker 8: Now, you can have TV on some type of mild thing.
That's the other thing.
Speaker 5: We got to make sure what he wants watches is
something crazy. I mean, he's already addicted to miles around
Spider Man for definite reasons, but he is addicted to
Spider Man. Loves spider I think he's been Spider Man
three times during Halloween and I'm seven years so almost
half the time he's Spider Man. Wow. So I'm trying
to find out who is Was there any big guy
in the Marvel universe that actually? I mean, I guess
I could be the Hulk. You know my body. I mean,
I'd be the out of shape Hulk. Beat him. Uh.
We're turning into a Marvel family really, And of course
we're Disney fans, so that kind of goes along with it.
Speaker 8: But what was I talking about?
Speaker 5: Medication? Yeah, I'm going all over the place. Man, I'm sorry.
Speaker 7: That's quite all right, that's quite all right. We haven't
talked for a while, so this is uh, this is good.
You're allowed to go all over the place. But so
I'm curious, So what what do you do? And by
the way, so other people who might be in a
situation similar to you, who have kids that are challenging,
might be really interested in this too. What do you
do for you You know, we talked about you know
his you know, the different meds and everything, and how
you try to manage him. But but what what do
you do for yourself to give yourself some relief, to
make yourself feel better, to cope with it all? What
are some I mean, do you have some I assume
over the years you've developed and probably ALYSSA too, You've
you've probably both developed some some coping mechanisms to to
kind of help you with this, uh, this challenge of
raising your child. So I'm curious about some of that.
Speaker 5: Well, a lot of it is trying to take yourself
out of the situation. So obviously, did come to a
point where you have to deal with the situation, so
that you know that that's understandable, that we all know
that the dealing of the situation. But once you've dealt
with a situation and it is still ongoing, like when
we put him in time out, we put him in
time out into an area where there's doors, there's class closets,
wooden closets, and we hear him against the door. I
want out, I want out, I want out. Like honestly,
if people, if we lived in an apartment complex, we'd
have the cops called twenty four to seven because he
wants out. They go, oh my god, he wants out.
He's being trappist.
Speaker 8: He's not being trapped.
Speaker 5: He's in time out, right, So a lot of times,
you know, the best way is to ignore the situation
because he's trying to get attention. Yeah, and that comes
into other factors too, with going to bed, and again
this brings me back to the point, I don't understand
how my parents did it. Because we actually have a
camera in his room so we can monitor what he's doing. Uh,
we're obsessed with the camera, unfortunately, I mean, but that's uh,
but that's the way we can kind of see what
he's doing. And he too, on his blanket, he choos
on his pillow case. He goes in and picks his
hair and twists his hair. If you took a look
a close.
Speaker 8: Look at him, maybe even a far close, a far.
Speaker 5: Look at him, you see that there's like areas of
spots of hair that are missing because he keeps picking
his hair. He cracks him out, He cracks his knuckles,
choose his fingernails. And I know it's an anxiety thing.
You know that I've confirmed with my wife, like yeah, this,
this is this is an anxiety thing. So he's just
doing it because he's nervous or anxious or just you know,
he doesn't want to be in that situation or he's not,
but he does not. And this is the problem though,
which right to break him out of him? He does
not tell us what's going on, what's wrong, nothing, what's
w and the problem And I think the thing is
too when I get frustrated, I don't want to talk
about it, I do the same thing. So I think
I'm fearful that he's actually taken that from me, and
that that that stinks, and I'm sorry that I brought
that upon him. But that's my ment. That's my mental
languish too, is I just don't want to talk about
because if I talk about, it's going to be any
more mad.
Speaker 8: And I don't want to yell my wife. I don't
want to yell and scream and.
Speaker 5: Go into it.
Speaker 8: It's like, I know what the problem is. There's nothing
you can do.
Speaker 2: I know.
Speaker 5: And my wife, I love her so much, she is
so nice and understanding. She wants to help in any
way possible. I just tell her the truth is this point,
this problem problem X. So whatever the problem is at
that time.
Speaker 8: There's nothing you can do to help me.
Speaker 5: There's nothing you can do. And I appreciate your help,
but there's nothing. And of course she feels emotional with
that because she feels helpless, and it's like, I'm sorry,
there's nothing you didn't do anything wrong. This is something
I have to deal with. And unfortunately, I think that's
what my son picks it up from. But when we
go ahead and put him in time out, and we
tried to go ahead and calm him down when he
is told no, or he's told something he doesn't like,
let's put it that way. Just over all that we
need to go ahead, he's he's going to explode. He's
gonna blow up, and he's going to go ahead and
say things and do things, and that obviously isn't what
we are teaching him. We don't want him to do that. Yeah,
So when he goes into his timeout area, he starts
banging on the walls and screaming. We immediately either we
leave this, leave the area. We still have a camera
in the living room too, so we can see so
that way we know he's not harming himself, but we
leave the area just so he knows that.
Speaker 8: Hey, nobody's listening to me.
Speaker 5: And usually that works because usually it's all for attention.
Speaker 7: Right, and that makes sense.
Speaker 5: Yeah, that works. Now we feel like, well, we should
be out there attending to him, but we we're kind
of We kind of are because we do have a
camera that's in the living room that does watch over
the whole house plus his timeout area, so we see
what he's doing and if if there is anything that
is harmful to him. We're not too far away. We
don't in a big house. We're not too far away.
So we'll go out there and take care of the
situation if it warn't that. But it doesn't, it hasn't,
thank god. It hasn't gotten to that far yet.
Speaker 7: Yeah, Jenny had something.
Speaker 6: I'm assuming that he probably has a diagnosis of CPTSD
as well with the abuse.
Speaker 5: Oh he doesn't. I don't know if you just have
never been tested for it, but maybe that's something that
we could test him on. But no, he's never been
tested for that.
Speaker 6: I feel for him a great deal and something I
don't talk about very often as I was raised in
significant abuse and I have CPTSD and it actually causes
kiddos to live in fight flight fear every moment of
every day. And it's literally a brain injury that causes
the brain to develop differently than it would in a
child who hasn't been abused. So I can only imagine
when he's pent up like that, when he's when that's
coming out all that, where it's coming from. And how
I commend you in that this is a very difficult
thing to try and overcome. And thankfully he's at a
young age that you're doing this. And yes, of course
I know he has a therapist. I know you guys
do all of that, And how hard that is as
a parent to look at a child and realize, you know,
this is coming from an honest and genuine place. He
didn't ask for what happened, But now he's stuck in
that fight flight fear to try and help him overcome that.
I mean, I know it's years. I know that you
guys have. It's been a long trip to get to
this point, and it's amazing what you've been able to
accomplish with him and to be able to help him
through those difficult times when you know that switch is
not shutting off, it's it's just it's stuck and he
has nowhere to put that energy or or where to
where to go with it, and it's just it's it's
coming out and in the ways that it is that
are unfortunately sometimes destructive, but you're able to help minimize
and keep him safe at the same time.
Speaker 5: The one the one thing that we always do and
and thank you, Jenny, but the one thing that we
we always try to do, regardless of the situations. We're
always there to say, listen, we're here to help. We
want you to listen. We are ready to listen to
you when you need something, you need help, you tell us.
Speaker 8: What's going on.
Speaker 5: It's even come to the point now where we're kind
of putting we're kind of putting our foot down when
he is visible, visibly upset, crossing his arms, grunting man,
and we're telling what's wrong, nothing, No, we're we We
used to take that and it's like, well, listen, we're
here to talk if you want to talk, but he
never did. So now it's to the point where, no,
you're going to tell us what's wrong because we need
to know what's wrong so we can help you. You
need help, even though you want to be strong and stubborn,
but you need help. Daddy needs help, mommy needs help.
We all need help. So there's no shame in asking
for help, right, Yes, such one. I appreciate that, thank you,
but sometimes that doesn't work. More often than it has,
he has started to come around to understand that I
don't know or nothing is not an appropriate answer anymore,
because you do know, you do know, and you you
need to tell us what you're feeling. And he needs
to learn how to express his feelings, and we're trying
to teach him that it's okay to have feelings. Dude,
I underst saying you're in school and you got peer pressure,
and you got people that just act like animals. We know,
we've heard, we've talked to teachers and you and you
have this just this instinct on well, if they're doing
it and they're getting all this attention, I'm gonna do it.
He's taking it. But it's also that.
Speaker 6: Front, right, it's also that front right where he's that's
his defense mechanism fight fight. Fear is kicking in, and
that defense mechanism comes up and goes, oh, I'm gonna
shield myself. Nobody's gonna hurt me because I'm not letting
him get close enough.
Speaker 5: You know.
Speaker 6: It's you know, he doesn't know that he's doing that,
but that's his own mind's way of trying to self protect,
to try and anticipate that something might hurt me, so
this might go wrong, and you're trying to help him
overcome what has become a natural reaction for him, for
his mind or his body, because that's safety, that's protect
self protection.
Speaker 5: Right.
Speaker 6: It's not the way you want him to go, but
you're trying to teach him. And that's why I have
a lot of hope for him, and that he is young,
and you guys have been able to You're been working
these many years, and he has so many more years
to come with having two parents that are really putting
in the work and willing to have that difficult conversation. Right,
That's the hardest thing is to say it's okay to
say you don't feel okay, It's okay to tell me
something's not right, it's okay to tell me a negative thing.
And that's like such a huge thing to give them
permission to share that most vulnerable thing, that that thing
that's making them terrified. Essentially, like, I don't want you
to know this because I believe you're gonna get angry
with me, but you're not. You're you're trying to tell him. Nah, dude,
you can tell me anything, and I'm going to be
right here to hear it. I'm not gonna get mad
at you. I'm gonna help you deal with it. But
that that isn't that the lesson you're working on right
now as he matures to learn that it's okay and
it's safe to come to mom and dad say this
is bothering me, you know right, you know.
Speaker 5: We're here behind closed doors. You don't have to be
tough to in front of your friends. Because there was
even he had a test, a big test to graduate
third grade.
Speaker 8: Yes, he's a year behind, but that was a choice that.
Speaker 5: We made because he wasn't grasping everything was so far behind.
But he had a big test to graduate third grade,
and he was I saw Hughes asly nervous. Mom already
had to talk with him while I was getting ready
for work. I didn't know that, so I had to
talk with him in the car as I was dropping
him off to school that I could hear a say, yeah, Mom,
he already told me. He said, all right, well, listen,
anything that's happened around your kid, around school, ignore these
people that are trying to make jokes. Don't focus on
anything but that you answered the question. Don't guess because
he has a tendency just to guess and everything.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 5: So, but I knew he was nervous, and you know,
he was influenced later that day to say that be
calling somebody the B word, which we don't use in
the house. And uh, it's.
Speaker 6: That these kids are exposed to. It's way different than
what we were kids.
Speaker 5: Way yeah, yeah, it's it's it's we're trying to teach
him that it's it's okay. And by the way, Mike Gonzalez.
Speaker 8: Thank you very much for them for that.
Speaker 5: Uh for acknowledging me with that. Oh yeah, Isaac, Isaac,
wait till after my segment to do some promotion.
Speaker 7: We should we should read Uh we haven't heard from
Gonzo in a long time. By the way, I want
to read this comment our our friend dot Gonzo. He says,
courageous topic matter. I appreciate your transparency, Charles, because nobody
has the guts to talk about being a father in
the struggles. It comes with the fear of judgment. But
it's good to hear.
Speaker 6: So yeah, said miss YouTube absolutely well said I'm a
daddy's girl. I always raised by my dad.
Speaker 5: But I'll be honest with you, it's not a fear
of judgment or what the public would view me. As
you but you both know this, I really could care
less of any outside criticism. If I'm not breaking the law,
then I don't think you should have to criticize me
or anything like that.
Speaker 8: I mean, if you want to judgement judgment, that's fine.
Speaker 5: You can take your judgment and bring it to your
own court, because that's all it's going to get any
any validation to me, it's not going to have any
effect on my life. You know, I feel what I'm
doing is right. I feel what I'm doing is improvement.
And you know, I'm not perfect, and neither is any
parent out there. Every parent thinks that there's a rule
book that you can just go to on any normal situations,
saying acting crazy because he's told no, we need to
if ABC and the Okay, Hi, honey, go ahead and
get the juice. No, it's it's there's no rule book
into this. Nobody's perfect. And I'm gonna say the same thing.
As egotistical as I am, I'm not perfect, and I'm
trying to learn everything I can to try to be better,
not only for my son, but for myself as well.
Tried to learn to take more because honestly, I don't
want to be this dad that just goes away for
ice cream and never comes back. Yeah, and I'm afraid
that one of these days that I go out for
a drink, I may never come back. And that's my fear.
But I don't want to do that. I don't want
to do that, and I want to have a way
of you know what, maybe I don't go out, but
there's a way that I can call myself to make
and do a better decision than just leaving it up
to mom.
Speaker 7: Right, yeah, well, you know again as as someone who
does not have children, I I uh, you know, I
feel for you and I respect how you're you're able to.
Speaker 5: Uh, we can spy him up that you guys can
watch him over the summer if you while. I mean,
that's fine, that's.
Speaker 4: You know, that's okay.
Speaker 7: I think he'd probably uh you know, well actually he
might like New Hampshire in the summer. But no, that's okay.
We don't think my.
Speaker 6: Intro back into kiddos is going to be a smaller
sized one eventually, not not not yet, but maybe a
nana in my future.
Speaker 5: I remember, he's a little bit he's a little bit
bigger than your cat. I mean not that much bigger.
So maybe he came like a cat.
Speaker 7: He could probably bunk with DJ Reckless, right, you know,
there we go. I remember years ago, we were we
were gonna have easy g move in with us and
bunk with Reckless. Yeah, they were gonna have bunk beds.
It was gonna be a lot of fun. But it
never never never happened. Yeah yeah, well, you know, sometimes uh,
sometimes he's don't work out by the way, Charles. So
we only have a little bit of time left before
we get to the top of the hour. But how
are you How are you enjoying Raw on Netflix?
Speaker 5: Well, when it actually works, it's fine. I'm loving the
I'm loving the buffering and the delays that issue.
Speaker 7: Yeah, you've had trouble with the Well maybe it's your
service left.
Speaker 5: Yeah, we left though. Even though I have a gig
gig bit processor, I still have problems getting Netflix. Oh
no kidding, it could be. It could be the road Coop.
I'll be honest. We don't have the high tech rod
coup or Apple TV or anything like that.
Speaker 6: Maybe that's what it is our internet, So now we're
not having any.
Speaker 5: Leg there you go. But no, I do. I am
liking Raw. I mean, I understand this. It's gonna get Curtis.
All the haters are gonna hate no matter what. But
I actually do enjoy the storyline. I'm very sad to
see brone strum and leave again. I know there was
no storyline there, but I always like when he comes
into the ring and kicks people's you know, bottoms and
son like I feel such like at let go.
Speaker 7: Yeah, it just happened last night. A whole bunch of
NXT people are gone, Oh my god. It happens every
year after WrestleMania. They go through and they release a
bunch of people and you know, make room for new people.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 6: No, I'm sad.
Speaker 5: It's evolution. It's an evolution. Bron didn't really have a storyline.
He just came in there to kick a couple of
people around and that's now. Yeah, they do, but they
had no creative direction for him, and that's the thing.
He hasn't had creative direction since the wyots.
Speaker 7: Yeah. I do feel like they kind of they've kind
of done everything they could with him. He'll probably end
up in a w and he'll have a fresh go
to paint and.
Speaker 8: You know, and then come back. It's just like crusive.
Speaker 7: Yeah yeah, but did you want I assume you watched WrestleMania.
Speaker 5: Of course, I actually was was live with the Josh
Zodiac podcast and they streamed. We were streaming it live
as it was going on, obviously not video but audio only. Yeah,
but yeah, yeah, we were calling shots. We predicted night
one there was gonna be so much interference, and there
end up being zero interference. So it's like we felt
like absolute idiots. We did. I did call Paul Haman
his turn. I called it right down the middle. I
think the short description I put on my Facebook when
I was predicting, when I was predicting the night one
was Paul Hayman is now in between two his he's
a best friend, he's a wise man. Who does he
you know? Who does he do? Over? Yes? And he
ends up being a.
Speaker 6: I didn't see that. I did not see that coming
at I saw it.
Speaker 5: I saw it.
Speaker 6: I did not see him a set.
Speaker 5: Look at my look at my Facebook and the crime stamp.
I called it right down the middle.
Speaker 6: They totally got me on that one. I had no
I did not see that coming. And wow.
Speaker 7: Now also, and I'm sure Eric, I know well, I
know Eric has talked to you about coming on Tough
Bumps with Us, our new wrestling podcast that Eric and
I are doing. But I'm really curious. The biggest disagreement
that we had on episode one, and we're actually recording
episode two today, but the biggest disagreement we had on
episode one was the John Cena versus Cody Rhodes match.
I actually liked it, but I feel like everyone and Jenny,
you liked it, right, you didn't have any problem with it.
From what I recall, you liked the match.
Speaker 5: I didn't have.
Speaker 6: Any problem with it. It just wasn't as energetic as others.
Speaker 7: Yeah, the the you know, the general consensus online seems
to be a lot of people hated it. Eric didn't
like it. I'm curious what you thought, Charles.
Speaker 6: I didn't.
Speaker 5: Yeah, here's here's what I said. And and you have
to be objectively a person that knows the wrestling, the wrestlers,
what match you're gonna do. Cody and John Cena are
not top flight people that you're not going to see
him do acrobatic moves all over the place. They are grinders,
they are they are basically Matt junkies. They are gonna
They're gonna go ahead and they're gonna grind these things out.
Speaker 8: You're not gonna see a bunch of high flying.
Speaker 5: So the matches that you see with the Lugidors is
going to be well more entertaining than anything you're gonna
see with with John and Cody. Sure, I felt that
this I felt this match delivered on everything that these
two wrestlers could do. And the Travis Scott, even though
a lot of people were bummed at the Rock didn't
make an appearance.
Speaker 8: I could have told you he ain't gonna be there, and.
Speaker 5: I'm okay with that, But the Travis Scott appearance and
the way John Cena won was justified. He is a superhel.
This is a John Ceny heel that should define healism,
if that's even a word. Really, yes, this is a
this is a John Ceny heel that I think it
ended the way the character is portrayed, and that's by
doing what he's doing. The Eddie Guerrero lied cheating and
stealing anything he can get his hands on to win
the match, and that's what he did.
Speaker 7: So it sounds like you're you're in line with what
I said basically, so you enjoyed the match, and it
sounds like you really enjoy John Cena working as a heel,
and that to me, that was my argument to Eric.
It was like, yeah, the match was slow. He's forty
seven years old, but at his work rate was never
that great to begin with. But we're seeing we're well,
well no, it's it's true, but we're seeing we're seeing
heel John Cena. And they had to let that breathe.
The match had to be kind of slow to let
that breathe and let us sort of take that in
what heel John Cena is like and I'm really enjoying it.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I do like the character.
Speaker 8: And again, I think a lot of people like the character.
Speaker 5: That's why he's getting mixed reactions instead of just straight
up booze. Yeah, regardless of maybe the booth could be
filtered in because there's so much positivity.
Speaker 7: Going on with the character now, I don't know, because
we find we finally got what we wanted. Yes, we finally, we.
Speaker 5: Finally when when when he kicked Cody right there in
between in the private area, Uh, during that during that
elimination chamber, Uh, there was such a pop. And I'm
not talking about bad pop. It's like yeah, yeah, yeah,
did you get him a booth? Yeah? I mean it
was just it was great. I mean, and and I
think that's why I truly believe back in creative and
again this is just a theory. I truly believe they
were going to come out with a whole new entrance,
with a whole new gimmick, with a whole new dress,
and just because that's what people wanted the No.
Speaker 7: Yeah, that was the other thing I liked at WrestleMania.
I liked the minimalism of seeing his entrance with just
you know, his name in white on a black background.
I thought that was I thought that was perfectly done
and uh and and really set the tone. I thought
that was excellent.
Speaker 5: Yep, I'm liking everything they're doing.
Speaker 8: Really.
Speaker 5: I mean, there's not a whole lot that I'm not liking.
I don't like the Mister America re themed.
Speaker 7: Oh, I like it.
Speaker 5: I like it.
Speaker 7: I think I.
Speaker 5: Love it.
Speaker 6: I like it.
Speaker 7: I think it's I think it's fun.
Speaker 6: It's totally fun. And I get my back.
Speaker 5: Yeah, the whole mister America thing, it's not No, it's
not it is.
Speaker 6: It's his thank you character repackaged.
Speaker 7: Yeah, I think it's I think it's fun. I'my. I
love Charles. Charles. We are right up against the top
of the hour, so we're gonna have to move on
in a moment. But this has been wonderful. We must
do this more often. And I'm sure I'm going to
see you on the Tough Bumps podcast too. I know
you and Eric have been talking about that. But also,
please give your show a plug.
Speaker 5: Yeah, so right now it is basically how do we say,
it's whenever we go on, we go on. Usually it's
Monday and Wednesdays that we have right now. That could change.
But going to my Facebook, it's actually posted there on
the comments Facebook dot com FoST as the Charles Richardson Show.
That's my page. You can subscribe to my YouTube channel
also titled The Charles Richardson Show, and our affiliate station,
which is my own station for eighties and nineties dance
music Power one Radio. We're also aired there live and
that's on the Live three sixty five app as well.
Speaker 7: Outstanding outstanding, well, Charles, always wonderful to speak with you,
my friend. Like I said, we must do this more often.
And my best to everyone there, and I am sure
we will talk to you soon. And by the way,
thanks for being the guinea pig with us using WhatsApp.
We've made radio history for the first time on Matt
Connorton Unleashed, we have used WhatsApp for this purpose. Now
that now that Skype is now that Skype is deceased,
r I P Skype.
Speaker 8: Why do you guys call me a pig?
Speaker 5: I mean I'm already fat enough as it is. Yes, yeah, yeah, yes,
I love you guys. You take care all.
Speaker 7: Right, you too, Charles take care bye bye, all right,
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