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Speaker 1: I've always believed in one mantra, share your story or

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someone will write it for you. And as we continue

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to grow inside this podcast world, there's a lot of

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stories we haven't dug into yet. Aro dot net, A R.

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R Oe dot Net. Thank you so much for supporting

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the vision as well as the path. Hi, Kevin, how

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are you doing today?

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Speaker 2: I'm good? How you doing?

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Speaker 1: Absolutely fantastic and very excited to share a conversation with

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you because in my heart I look to you as

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being a hero because there's a lot of men in

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this country that have been to hell and they didn't

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drop their goals and their ambitions of keeping family together

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as one. And my friend Nathan would be applauding you

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like you would not believe because he has lived this

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path and in reading your book, you made me cry

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because it's his story.

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Speaker 2: Sir. Wow, that's that's pretty amazing man. Thank you so much.

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Speaker 1: Well, we are in a generation where the men are

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stepping up. I wish my dad would have stepped up.

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He did not, so I'm jealous of having you. Have

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you be the father of other children. I want you

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to be my dad.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, man, I really appreciate that, you know, and

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I owe a lot of that to my family as well, right,

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because that I was raised where all all of my

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parents actually stepped up and I feel very fortunate and

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I'm very lucky for that.

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Speaker 1: Well, I want to know how you're able to be

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that DJ and that entertainer and you can turn it

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on turn it off, because I can't turn it off,

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and Kevin, I mean you have to deal with that,

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and it's like I need that flow of information so

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that I can learn how to be strong in the

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everyday world as well.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, well, I mean it's I don't know that that's

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always kind of been me, right, I've always I love

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the simple, normal life more actually than I do the

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entertainer life. So it's very easy to revert back to,

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you know, being that and not just keep going in

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the I've been lost in it before or when I

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was younger, obviously, but but I am able to turn

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it on and turn it off as just something that

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I've always had.

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Speaker 1: Don't you love that though? As you get older, because

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when we do speak about being younger, it's not that

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we were naive, It's just that we were kind of uneducated,

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like Yoda, we wanted some of that Yoda attention. But

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the thing is, though, as you get older, Kevin, don't

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you feel how wisdom is setting in and that you're

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able to have answers without sitting there and just harping

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on it for weeks.

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Speaker 2: One per man percent. I do think it's crazy, right.

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Speaker 3: It's like you have to live through it to be

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able to gain the knowledge to understand it.

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Speaker 2: And when we're.

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Speaker 3: Young, you know everything can't happen fast enough. But when

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you're older and you've already been through all of these things,

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it really sets in and you really start to understand it.

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Speaker 1: I got to ask you, though I've been a daily

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writer since July of nineteen ninety four, I've got some

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junk in my closet. Dude, I do not know how

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you stepped into this, because in my daily writing there

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are boundaries that say, do not ever return to this

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area of this journal ever. Again, how did you do it?

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How did you do it?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 3: It was not easy, I'll say that, that's for sure.

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I mean there are moments where you know, going back

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and having to write about some of these things is

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very difficult. Reliving some of these things was very difficult.

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Speaker 2: But like I promised, my.

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Speaker 3: Publisher whenever we were doing this that I would be

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completely transparent, right because I felt like it was absolutely needed, especially,

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you know, living a life that I felt everybody else

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was telling my story for so long.

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Speaker 2: I had to go back and do it, do it

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the right way.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, you're speaking my If you look anything

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up with my name on it, it will say share your

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story or someone will write it for you. And I'll

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bet you that's why I love this book, because you

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decided I'm going to share my story.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, man, I you know, it's something that I thought

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about for years, and I talk about that in the

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beginning of my book, being up up and down, up

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and down about it, you know, and honestly like, if

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it wasn't for my kids telling me, Okay, I want

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you to do this, I think the world needs to

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know this, I probably wouldn't have done it, you know.

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Speaker 2: So, I mean.

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Speaker 3: It really lies in there with the family. It was like,

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I really want to do this. I need to tell

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people who I am because everybody else has done it

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for me.

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Speaker 1: Having the rock star look. Is it is it Kevin

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Federline or is it you saying I've got long hair?

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I'm going to hide behind it. I've got this beard,

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I'm going to hide behind it because that's how I

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am as a creative person. Can I what can I

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use as a tool to hide behind because I just

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don't want to be me today?

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Speaker 2: Now, you know, Like my hair, I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I just I shaved my hair right when COVID hit

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right and then I've been growing it out ever since.

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Speaker 2: And I mean I always, you know, on the cover,

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on the cover.

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Speaker 3: My publisher me into doing some shots with my hair

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down because you know me, if you know me, then

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I'm always a hat guy. I always wear my hat.

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I always have my hair pulled back. I mean, the

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beard has been there from day one. So it was

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so funny because when I started looking through the pictures,

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I'm looking at all the pictures.

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Speaker 2: I did tons of them with my hat on, and

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then we had.

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Speaker 3: This set with my hair out, and I was like, man,

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this is the one that looks like a book cover.

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Speaker 2: So you know, publisher was right. I have to give

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them kudos for that. Well.

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Speaker 1: I still think that's where rock music needs to be going.

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And so when we see pictures of Ace Freeley with

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his hair down, and I see your picture with your

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hair down. I'm going, yes, don't ever cut their stuff. Man,

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it's all about the attitude.

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Speaker 2: That's right, that's right.

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Speaker 1: But one thing that you really hit on that really

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and I don't know how many people have had fathers

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who did this. My dad would not let me wear

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a hat. He says, you'll be bald by the time

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you're thirty five. And so I have to ask you,

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did you not hear that same lesson in life? Do

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not wear a hat?

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Speaker 2: I did? I did.

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Speaker 3: Actually, I heard that all throughout my life. There were

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times where I did it. But I mean even back

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then when I was younger. I've had a buzz cut

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for the longest time anyway, so I didn't care.

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Speaker 1: Please do not move. There's more with Kevin Fetterline coming

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up next. His book is chitled You Thought You Knew.

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We're back with Kevin Fetterline. So did you hear any

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music inside your soul when you were writing this? Because

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I'm going through these pages, dude, You've got a lot

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of music that's sitting here begging to be turned into songs.

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Speaker 2: No, you know what, it's so funny.

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Speaker 3: I mean, as much as I do love music, and

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I've thought about I've thought about old songs that I've

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made that I have never put out. You know, I

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have a song called Daddy's Home that actually talks about

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and I did that in two thousand and eight, so

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it was right in the midst of everything that was

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going on, and it's a very you know, something that's

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close to me, and I did that played.

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Speaker 2: Out a couple of times. But other than that, like I.

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Speaker 3: Really was just focusing on getting my messaging right and

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trying to really perfect everything that was written in this

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book word for word.

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Speaker 1: So now is Chloris Leachman Wright? Is life a series

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of chapters? And now that you've given us these chapters,

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what's your next?

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Speaker 3: I think one hundred percent Life is definitely a series

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of chapters.

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Speaker 2: You know, I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I'm working on a few things, but I'm really I'm

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still enjoying. I got still two kids at home that

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are middle school high school age. My daughters are into

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all kinds of sports, and you know, I'm really focused

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in it on that because like, out of all of this,

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like the one thing that I am so happy that

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I was able to have is I was able to

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be a part of my kids' lives every single day.

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You know what I mean for a long time, and

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even more so than parents that are really involved, right,

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I have been able to share so much time.

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Speaker 2: With my kids.

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Speaker 3: It's something that is like absolutely like one of the

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most precious things to me.

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Speaker 1: You're gonna think I'm a freak, Kevin, is that I

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gotta say this and that is Wait till you start

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having grand babies. It is so more powerful and you're

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you're not going to be able to leave that house

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because you want those grand babies in your arms at

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all times.

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Speaker 2: I know. So unfortunately I do.

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Speaker 3: Actually, it's not unfortunate that I have a grand baby.

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It's unfortunate that I am twenty five hundred miles away

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from my Grandoh. And yeah, man, so I've only seen

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him once and he's almost two years old. So I'm trying.

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I'm trying to get him out here for the holidays

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right now. Actually, oh god, because I know any any

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parent knows like you blink and it's gone right like

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it's it happens so fast, like they're gone, And.

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Speaker 2: So I am.

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Speaker 3: I'm really trying to get that connection built up here

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very very soon.

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Speaker 1: Well, don't stop your writing, Okay, if you have to

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write novels about stories that really don't exist, but they

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give you that emotion. Do not stop writing because you've

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got the gift to write.

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Speaker 2: Sir man, Thank you, I really appreciate that.

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Speaker 1: Well, you got to come back to this show anytime

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in the future.

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Speaker 2: All right, I got you, man.

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Speaker 1: Will you be brilliant today? Kevin