Speaker 1: I've always believed in one mantra, share your story or
someone will write it for you. And as we continue
to grow inside this podcast world, there's a lot of
stories we haven't dug into yet. Aro dot net, A R.
R Oe dot Net. Thank you so much for supporting
the vision as well as the path. Hi, Kevin, how
are you doing today?
Speaker 2: I'm good? How you doing?
Speaker 1: Absolutely fantastic and very excited to share a conversation with
you because in my heart I look to you as
being a hero because there's a lot of men in
this country that have been to hell and they didn't
drop their goals and their ambitions of keeping family together
as one. And my friend Nathan would be applauding you
like you would not believe because he has lived this
path and in reading your book, you made me cry
because it's his story.
Speaker 2: Sir. Wow, that's that's pretty amazing man. Thank you so much.
Speaker 1: Well, we are in a generation where the men are
stepping up. I wish my dad would have stepped up.
He did not, so I'm jealous of having you. Have
you be the father of other children. I want you
to be my dad.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, man, I really appreciate that, you know, and
I owe a lot of that to my family as well, right,
because that I was raised where all all of my
parents actually stepped up and I feel very fortunate and
I'm very lucky for that.
Speaker 1: Well, I want to know how you're able to be
that DJ and that entertainer and you can turn it
on turn it off, because I can't turn it off,
and Kevin, I mean you have to deal with that,
and it's like I need that flow of information so
that I can learn how to be strong in the
everyday world as well.
Speaker 3: Yeah, well, I mean it's I don't know that that's
always kind of been me, right, I've always I love
the simple, normal life more actually than I do the
entertainer life. So it's very easy to revert back to,
you know, being that and not just keep going in
the I've been lost in it before or when I
was younger, obviously, but but I am able to turn
it on and turn it off as just something that
I've always had.
Speaker 1: Don't you love that though? As you get older, because
when we do speak about being younger, it's not that
we were naive, It's just that we were kind of uneducated,
like Yoda, we wanted some of that Yoda attention. But
the thing is, though, as you get older, Kevin, don't
you feel how wisdom is setting in and that you're
able to have answers without sitting there and just harping
on it for weeks.
Speaker 2: One per man percent. I do think it's crazy, right.
Speaker 3: It's like you have to live through it to be
able to gain the knowledge to understand it.
Speaker 2: And when we're.
Speaker 3: Young, you know everything can't happen fast enough. But when
you're older and you've already been through all of these things,
it really sets in and you really start to understand it.
Speaker 1: I got to ask you, though I've been a daily
writer since July of nineteen ninety four, I've got some
junk in my closet. Dude, I do not know how
you stepped into this, because in my daily writing there
are boundaries that say, do not ever return to this
area of this journal ever. Again, how did you do it?
How did you do it?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 3: It was not easy, I'll say that, that's for sure.
I mean there are moments where you know, going back
and having to write about some of these things is
very difficult. Reliving some of these things was very difficult.
Speaker 2: But like I promised, my.
Speaker 3: Publisher whenever we were doing this that I would be
completely transparent, right because I felt like it was absolutely needed, especially,
you know, living a life that I felt everybody else
was telling my story for so long.
Speaker 2: I had to go back and do it, do it
the right way.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, you're speaking my If you look anything
up with my name on it, it will say share your
story or someone will write it for you. And I'll
bet you that's why I love this book, because you
decided I'm going to share my story.
Speaker 3: Yeah, man, I you know, it's something that I thought
about for years, and I talk about that in the
beginning of my book, being up up and down, up
and down about it, you know, and honestly like, if
it wasn't for my kids telling me, Okay, I want
you to do this, I think the world needs to
know this, I probably wouldn't have done it, you know.
Speaker 2: So, I mean.
Speaker 3: It really lies in there with the family. It was like,
I really want to do this. I need to tell
people who I am because everybody else has done it
for me.
Speaker 1: Having the rock star look. Is it is it Kevin
Federline or is it you saying I've got long hair?
I'm going to hide behind it. I've got this beard,
I'm going to hide behind it because that's how I
am as a creative person. Can I what can I
use as a tool to hide behind because I just
don't want to be me today?
Speaker 2: Now, you know, Like my hair, I don't know.
Speaker 3: I just I shaved my hair right when COVID hit
right and then I've been growing it out ever since.
Speaker 2: And I mean I always, you know, on the cover,
on the cover.
Speaker 3: My publisher me into doing some shots with my hair
down because you know me, if you know me, then
I'm always a hat guy. I always wear my hat.
I always have my hair pulled back. I mean, the
beard has been there from day one. So it was
so funny because when I started looking through the pictures,
I'm looking at all the pictures.
Speaker 2: I did tons of them with my hat on, and
then we had.
Speaker 3: This set with my hair out, and I was like, man,
this is the one that looks like a book cover.
Speaker 2: So you know, publisher was right. I have to give
them kudos for that. Well.
Speaker 1: I still think that's where rock music needs to be going.
And so when we see pictures of Ace Freeley with
his hair down, and I see your picture with your
hair down. I'm going, yes, don't ever cut their stuff. Man,
it's all about the attitude.
Speaker 2: That's right, that's right.
Speaker 1: But one thing that you really hit on that really
and I don't know how many people have had fathers
who did this. My dad would not let me wear
a hat. He says, you'll be bald by the time
you're thirty five. And so I have to ask you,
did you not hear that same lesson in life? Do
not wear a hat?
Speaker 2: I did? I did.
Speaker 3: Actually, I heard that all throughout my life. There were
times where I did it. But I mean even back
then when I was younger. I've had a buzz cut
for the longest time anyway, so I didn't care.
Speaker 1: Please do not move. There's more with Kevin Fetterline coming
up next. His book is chitled You Thought You Knew.
We're back with Kevin Fetterline. So did you hear any
music inside your soul when you were writing this? Because
I'm going through these pages, dude, You've got a lot
of music that's sitting here begging to be turned into songs.
Speaker 2: No, you know what, it's so funny.
Speaker 3: I mean, as much as I do love music, and
I've thought about I've thought about old songs that I've
made that I have never put out. You know, I
have a song called Daddy's Home that actually talks about
and I did that in two thousand and eight, so
it was right in the midst of everything that was
going on, and it's a very you know, something that's
close to me, and I did that played.
Speaker 2: Out a couple of times. But other than that, like I.
Speaker 3: Really was just focusing on getting my messaging right and
trying to really perfect everything that was written in this
book word for word.
Speaker 1: So now is Chloris Leachman Wright? Is life a series
of chapters? And now that you've given us these chapters,
what's your next?
Speaker 3: I think one hundred percent Life is definitely a series
of chapters.
Speaker 2: You know, I don't know.
Speaker 3: I'm working on a few things, but I'm really I'm
still enjoying. I got still two kids at home that
are middle school high school age. My daughters are into
all kinds of sports, and you know, I'm really focused
in it on that because like, out of all of this,
like the one thing that I am so happy that
I was able to have is I was able to
be a part of my kids' lives every single day.
You know what I mean for a long time, and
even more so than parents that are really involved, right,
I have been able to share so much time.
Speaker 2: With my kids.
Speaker 3: It's something that is like absolutely like one of the
most precious things to me.
Speaker 1: You're gonna think I'm a freak, Kevin, is that I
gotta say this and that is Wait till you start
having grand babies. It is so more powerful and you're
you're not going to be able to leave that house
because you want those grand babies in your arms at
all times.
Speaker 2: I know. So unfortunately I do.
Speaker 3: Actually, it's not unfortunate that I have a grand baby.
It's unfortunate that I am twenty five hundred miles away
from my Grandoh. And yeah, man, so I've only seen
him once and he's almost two years old. So I'm trying.
I'm trying to get him out here for the holidays
right now. Actually, oh god, because I know any any
parent knows like you blink and it's gone right like
it's it happens so fast, like they're gone, And.
Speaker 2: So I am.
Speaker 3: I'm really trying to get that connection built up here
very very soon.
Speaker 1: Well, don't stop your writing, Okay, if you have to
write novels about stories that really don't exist, but they
give you that emotion. Do not stop writing because you've
got the gift to write.
Speaker 2: Sir man, Thank you, I really appreciate that.
Speaker 1: Well, you got to come back to this show anytime
in the future.
Speaker 2: All right, I got you, man.
Speaker 1: Will you be brilliant today? Kevin