WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.080 --> 00:00:03.480 Episode with two stories. First part, I hope you enjoy 2 00:00:03.560 --> 00:00:08.240 this story. Partner betrayed my trust because I was unable 3 00:00:08.279 --> 00:00:11.160 to purchase a three thousand dollars luxury handbag for her. 4 00:00:11.480 --> 00:00:16.000 So here's my response. That's correct. My significant other cheated 5 00:00:16.039 --> 00:00:19.879 on me because I couldn't meet her materialistic desires. I 6 00:00:19.920 --> 00:00:23.839 couldn't buy her a three thousand dollars bag. I twenty 7 00:00:23.839 --> 00:00:26.719 seven M was in a relationship with a woman I'll 8 00:00:26.760 --> 00:00:30.359 call her Luna twenty six F. We dated for more 9 00:00:30.359 --> 00:00:33.280 than two years when one day I found her making 10 00:00:33.280 --> 00:00:36.960 out in a Mercedes Benz cabriolet. This happened a week 11 00:00:37.000 --> 00:00:39.159 ago when I went to an office party. A few 12 00:00:39.200 --> 00:00:42.000 drinks later, my colleague and I went outside to get 13 00:00:42.039 --> 00:00:45.880 some fresh air and something caught our attention, a shiny 14 00:00:45.960 --> 00:00:49.759 blue Mercedes Benz cabriolet. It was parked two buildings away 15 00:00:49.799 --> 00:00:52.679 in front of a hotel. We thought it was just 16 00:00:52.759 --> 00:00:55.079 parked and no one was in there, so we casually 17 00:00:55.159 --> 00:00:58.640 went towards it to admire its beauty closely. As we 18 00:00:58.719 --> 00:01:01.479 moved closer to the car to admire her beauty, we 19 00:01:01.600 --> 00:01:04.640 noticed some one was in there. The car was shaking weirdly. 20 00:01:05.640 --> 00:01:08.480 Then we realized that a couple was making out inside it. 21 00:01:09.480 --> 00:01:11.640 My colleague and I stopped there and burst out in 22 00:01:11.719 --> 00:01:13.879 laughter that we were about to disturb someone in their 23 00:01:13.879 --> 00:01:17.840 private moment. We stood there for a smoke, and next 24 00:01:18.079 --> 00:01:21.719 what I saw gave me chills. A woman came outside 25 00:01:21.760 --> 00:01:24.400 of that car, fixing her hair while teasing the man 26 00:01:24.439 --> 00:01:27.200 with her, and they both headed inside the hotel while 27 00:01:27.200 --> 00:01:30.560 handing over the keys to the valet. That woman was 28 00:01:30.640 --> 00:01:33.159 my girl friend, Luna, who was making out with the 29 00:01:33.200 --> 00:01:37.920 guy in the Bends. My amusement turned into agony. My 30 00:01:38.079 --> 00:01:40.719 colleague knew Luna and was surprised to see her walking 31 00:01:40.760 --> 00:01:44.319 inside a hotel hand in hand with a man. I 32 00:01:44.359 --> 00:01:47.879 didn't know that guy. I had never seen him. I 33 00:01:47.920 --> 00:01:50.519 know I have suddenly jumped into the topic without giving 34 00:01:50.560 --> 00:01:54.439 any context. I'm a sales executive in an M and C. 35 00:01:55.680 --> 00:01:57.840 Luna and I were colleagues when I was working as 36 00:01:57.879 --> 00:02:01.439 a part time cashier at a supermarket. Luna was the 37 00:02:01.480 --> 00:02:05.920 store assistant. We became friends, but nothing panned out. At 38 00:02:05.920 --> 00:02:09.120 that time, I was in college and was too busy 39 00:02:09.159 --> 00:02:13.080 to get into a relationship. Luna also never showed any 40 00:02:13.080 --> 00:02:15.960 interest in me. Luna dropped out of college to support 41 00:02:15.960 --> 00:02:19.439 her family. She has been working two jobs since the 42 00:02:19.479 --> 00:02:23.879 age of nineteen, and I respect her dedication. A year ago, 43 00:02:24.159 --> 00:02:26.560 I bumped into her at the same supermarket where we 44 00:02:26.680 --> 00:02:31.319 used to work. She was promoted to floor supervisor. By then. 45 00:02:31.599 --> 00:02:34.159 We had met after five years, and like old friends, 46 00:02:34.199 --> 00:02:37.080 we went for a coffee. I asked her if she 47 00:02:37.120 --> 00:02:40.840 was dating someone, and she said no. She gestured at 48 00:02:40.919 --> 00:02:43.719 me as if I was asking her out. I was 49 00:02:43.759 --> 00:02:46.960 single and said I didn't mind taking her out. We 50 00:02:47.120 --> 00:02:50.360 exchanged our numbers and the following weekend we went for 51 00:02:50.400 --> 00:02:54.319 a drink. Gradually we started dating and it's been more 52 00:02:54.360 --> 00:02:58.240 than two years since we have been together. During our relationship, 53 00:02:58.439 --> 00:03:01.479 I used to suggest she completely college because the absence 54 00:03:01.520 --> 00:03:04.960 of one was blocking her career from growing. She said 55 00:03:04.960 --> 00:03:07.520 she could not afford a college education since she had 56 00:03:07.520 --> 00:03:11.639 to look after her parents. Initially, I sympathized with her 57 00:03:11.719 --> 00:03:14.280 because she was sacrificing her career to take care of 58 00:03:14.280 --> 00:03:17.520 her family, but eventually I discovered that she was sending 59 00:03:17.560 --> 00:03:20.520 only twenty five percent of her income to her parents. 60 00:03:21.080 --> 00:03:24.759 Besides her job at the supermarket, which was stable and consistent, 61 00:03:25.120 --> 00:03:28.719 she used to struggle for her evening jobs. She hoped 62 00:03:28.719 --> 00:03:32.479 from one to another, from being a waitress to a bartender. 63 00:03:32.680 --> 00:03:36.240 She tried it all. Since she was working two jobs, 64 00:03:36.479 --> 00:03:39.240 I suggested she quit one job and join the college 65 00:03:39.240 --> 00:03:41.520 while the salary from one job could take care of 66 00:03:41.520 --> 00:03:45.199 her needs and her families. She kicked against the idea 67 00:03:45.280 --> 00:03:48.960 of rejoining the college. She said her income from one 68 00:03:49.080 --> 00:03:52.680 job was not enough for her to survive. I respected 69 00:03:52.680 --> 00:03:55.960 her choice and did not push her further. The thing 70 00:03:56.120 --> 00:03:58.719 is I wanted her to complete her college and settle 71 00:03:58.759 --> 00:04:02.000 for a stable day job. I was looking forward to 72 00:04:02.039 --> 00:04:04.840 proposing to her after a few months, and her schedule 73 00:04:04.919 --> 00:04:07.240 was the biggest hindrance for me to settle down with her. 74 00:04:08.240 --> 00:04:11.599 I loved her and was serious about her. I tried 75 00:04:11.639 --> 00:04:13.840 to confront her about my feelings that I wanted to 76 00:04:13.879 --> 00:04:16.600 marry and settle down with her within a year. Hence, 77 00:04:16.839 --> 00:04:20.079 I wanted her to sort out her career first. She 78 00:04:20.199 --> 00:04:22.759 shrugged off by saying that marriage and career are two 79 00:04:22.839 --> 00:04:25.040 different things. She also wanted to marry me in a 80 00:04:25.079 --> 00:04:28.639 year or so, but she liked her hustling career. She 81 00:04:28.759 --> 00:04:31.360 said she could not sign up for a monotonous day job. 82 00:04:32.399 --> 00:04:36.160 She considered that to be boring. For some reason, her 83 00:04:36.240 --> 00:04:39.720 job hopping stuff brought a thrill to her life. I 84 00:04:39.759 --> 00:04:41.680 don't know if that was a red flag or not, 85 00:04:41.959 --> 00:04:45.839 but I clearly missed reading that signal. Luna didn't believe 86 00:04:45.839 --> 00:04:48.480 in saving, so she used to spend all her income 87 00:04:48.519 --> 00:04:52.040 on her lifestyle. Like any other woman, she had a 88 00:04:52.120 --> 00:04:57.079 keen interest in branded clothes, bags, and sandals. For someone 89 00:04:57.079 --> 00:05:00.399 who doesn't know Luna's profession or background, they would assume 90 00:05:00.439 --> 00:05:02.399 her to be of a wealthy background because of the 91 00:05:02.439 --> 00:05:05.879 way she carried herself. I don't know how people would 92 00:05:05.879 --> 00:05:09.600 take it, but I never considered it a problem. Initially, 93 00:05:09.800 --> 00:05:12.079 I did try to advise her to save up, but 94 00:05:12.160 --> 00:05:14.759 she said she was working so hard, hence she deserved 95 00:05:14.800 --> 00:05:18.600 to own those stuff. Besides, she was using her own 96 00:05:18.600 --> 00:05:22.879 money to fulfill her expensive choices. A year ago, she 97 00:05:23.000 --> 00:05:25.839 asked me if she could move in with me. She 98 00:05:25.959 --> 00:05:27.879 was living with her friend who was moving out to 99 00:05:27.920 --> 00:05:31.519 a different city. Luna could not bear the expenses of 100 00:05:31.519 --> 00:05:34.319 the apartment alone, hence asked me if we could stay together. 101 00:05:35.360 --> 00:05:38.079 I was happy she was leveling up our relationship because 102 00:05:38.120 --> 00:05:41.319 I was also serious about her. I told her she 103 00:05:41.360 --> 00:05:43.800 did need not to contribute since I was already bearing 104 00:05:43.839 --> 00:05:47.720 the rent and other house bills alone. Instead, she can 105 00:05:47.759 --> 00:05:51.199 save up that money for herself. I didn't think about 106 00:05:51.240 --> 00:05:55.399 money a lot. Apart from the food expenses. Nothing shot 107 00:05:55.480 --> 00:05:57.680 up due to her moving in, so I didn't mind 108 00:05:57.720 --> 00:06:01.759 bearing it. Six months ago, I got a promotion at work. 109 00:06:02.759 --> 00:06:05.079 It was a very proud moment for me. I had 110 00:06:05.079 --> 00:06:09.000 worked really hard for it. To celebrate my achievement, I 111 00:06:09.040 --> 00:06:12.199 took Luna out for a candlelight dinner at a fancy restaurant. 112 00:06:13.199 --> 00:06:15.519 She was really happy to enjoy the service at a 113 00:06:15.560 --> 00:06:18.000 premium place where she was usually at the other end 114 00:06:18.360 --> 00:06:22.040 service provider as waitress or bartender. She was so pleased 115 00:06:22.040 --> 00:06:25.360 that she kept telling me I was raising her expectations. 116 00:06:25.800 --> 00:06:28.120 I wanted her to pamper her like any man does 117 00:06:28.120 --> 00:06:31.439 for his GF slash wife. Little did I know that 118 00:06:31.480 --> 00:06:35.319 I was digging my own grave. After that dinner, Luna 119 00:06:35.360 --> 00:06:38.000 started subtly suggesting that I'd take her out every now 120 00:06:38.040 --> 00:06:42.199 and then, which basically meant every weekend. Her demand was 121 00:06:42.240 --> 00:06:45.959 not for a regular subway, mc Donald's, or any regular eatery. 122 00:06:47.000 --> 00:06:51.040 She suggested a fancier place every weekend. For the past 123 00:06:51.079 --> 00:06:53.519 few months, I had put up with her, thinking that 124 00:06:53.600 --> 00:06:56.720 she would soon get over it. While her eating out 125 00:06:56.720 --> 00:06:59.680 habit didn't subside, a new habit of hers popped up, 126 00:06:59.839 --> 00:07:03.720 and it was for gifts. She started demanding gifts from me. 127 00:07:04.759 --> 00:07:07.720 Her request was not for any occasion, but just random 128 00:07:07.759 --> 00:07:12.079 and that too expensive ones. Sometimes it was for a 129 00:07:12.079 --> 00:07:16.519 tzar address, the latest iPhones and what not. It was 130 00:07:16.600 --> 00:07:19.399 her birthday last month and I casually asked her what 131 00:07:19.480 --> 00:07:23.560 she needed for her birthday gift. Her wishless almost choked me. 132 00:07:24.560 --> 00:07:28.160 It was a Chanel bag of three thousand dollars. I 133 00:07:28.279 --> 00:07:30.800 cracked up, taking it to be a joke, but she 134 00:07:30.879 --> 00:07:34.079 got offended. She said that I was judging her on 135 00:07:34.160 --> 00:07:37.680 her choice. I told her I wasn't judging her at all, 136 00:07:37.920 --> 00:07:41.399 but I seriously took it as a joke. Three thousand 137 00:07:41.480 --> 00:07:44.120 dollars for a bag is seriously something that I cannot 138 00:07:44.120 --> 00:07:48.560 wrap my head around. Instead of acknowledging her unreasonable demand, 139 00:07:48.839 --> 00:07:52.040 she justified it. She said that since I got a 140 00:07:52.079 --> 00:07:54.839 hefty raise after my promotion, I should be treating her 141 00:07:54.879 --> 00:07:59.160 with something fancy. Besides, I have not gifted her anything 142 00:07:59.240 --> 00:08:01.800 significant for them the last two years of dating each other. 143 00:08:02.800 --> 00:08:05.839 I was shocked when she said that I know I 144 00:08:05.839 --> 00:08:08.639 didn't gift her anything expensive, but I have been bearing 145 00:08:08.720 --> 00:08:12.360 all the household expenses for the last one year before 146 00:08:12.399 --> 00:08:14.639 she moved in. I was bearing all the bills for 147 00:08:14.720 --> 00:08:18.439 lunch and dinner whenever we went out. I deliberately didn't 148 00:08:18.480 --> 00:08:21.800 let her pay because she was earning less. She didn't 149 00:08:21.800 --> 00:08:24.759 fight with me over this, but she gaslight the situation 150 00:08:24.920 --> 00:08:26.920 to the extent that it made me feel guilty for 151 00:08:27.000 --> 00:08:29.560 not providing her with what she needed. She said that 152 00:08:29.639 --> 00:08:32.519 three thousand dollars was just a ten day salary for me. 153 00:08:33.519 --> 00:08:38.080 People spend their entire month's salary on their girlfriend. See. 154 00:08:38.120 --> 00:08:40.559 I know three K would be a ten day salary, 155 00:08:40.759 --> 00:08:43.000 but I believe spending that much money on a bag 156 00:08:43.080 --> 00:08:46.279 is worthless. I know there are a bunch of people 157 00:08:46.320 --> 00:08:48.559 out there who go crazy over these over the top 158 00:08:48.600 --> 00:08:53.600 brands fifty K Nike shoes or ten K Gucci belts. 159 00:08:54.080 --> 00:08:56.440 I'm sorry, but I don't find it worth spending a 160 00:08:56.480 --> 00:09:00.279 dime on such short term clothing items. I told her 161 00:09:00.320 --> 00:09:02.519 that if she wanted, I could give her that money 162 00:09:02.759 --> 00:09:05.120 and she would get some vocational skills to help her 163 00:09:05.120 --> 00:09:08.799 improve on her work. I know I sounded boring, but 164 00:09:08.879 --> 00:09:12.240 I couldn't think of anything better to spend three thousand dollars. 165 00:09:12.840 --> 00:09:16.320 She rolled her eyes and called me stingy. She was 166 00:09:16.399 --> 00:09:20.559 clearly angry with me, but didn't say anything. Her attitude 167 00:09:20.559 --> 00:09:24.159 had definitely changed after that. I thought she was just 168 00:09:24.279 --> 00:09:26.960 upset because of the bag episode and would get over it. 169 00:09:27.879 --> 00:09:30.600 On her birthday Eve, I came home early to plan 170 00:09:30.679 --> 00:09:33.720 a surprise for her. I took a half day at 171 00:09:33.759 --> 00:09:36.919 work to buy flowers, candles, cakes, and a couple of 172 00:09:37.000 --> 00:09:39.919 dresses from Zara, which she had been eyeing for some time. 173 00:09:40.919 --> 00:09:44.840 I kept waiting for her until midnight. She usually used 174 00:09:44.840 --> 00:09:47.879 to return by midnight, but after that fight, she was 175 00:09:47.879 --> 00:09:51.399 coming late. I called her to check when she would return, 176 00:09:51.639 --> 00:09:55.120 but she didn't answer the call. After an hour or so, 177 00:09:55.600 --> 00:09:58.159 she messaged me that her colleagues had planned a surprise 178 00:09:58.240 --> 00:10:01.159 party for her birthday and she be spending the night there. 179 00:10:02.120 --> 00:10:04.879 I was utterly disappointed because I had also planned for 180 00:10:04.919 --> 00:10:09.200 the surprise and spent the entire evening preparing for it. However, 181 00:10:09.399 --> 00:10:12.039 I couldn't blame her because she didn't know about my plan. 182 00:10:12.399 --> 00:10:14.799 But somehow I didn't like that she spent her birthday 183 00:10:14.879 --> 00:10:18.360 night with her friends. I mean She could have invited 184 00:10:18.399 --> 00:10:21.600 me to that party, but she didn't. I was so 185 00:10:21.759 --> 00:10:24.200 upset and tired that I dozed off on the couch. 186 00:10:25.240 --> 00:10:27.639 I woke up in the morning when Luna arrived drunk 187 00:10:27.679 --> 00:10:30.559 from her party. She was happy to see that I 188 00:10:30.600 --> 00:10:34.120 had also planned something in the house. She cuddled me 189 00:10:34.200 --> 00:10:37.039 and apologized for ditching me all night. I told her 190 00:10:37.039 --> 00:10:38.879 that I had taken an off on her birthday so 191 00:10:38.960 --> 00:10:42.240 that we could enjoy the day together. She didn't really 192 00:10:42.360 --> 00:10:45.039 like the plan. She said she had to go to 193 00:10:45.120 --> 00:10:48.080 work as she had not taken a leave. I told 194 00:10:48.080 --> 00:10:50.559 her to call in sick at work, but she denied it. 195 00:10:51.559 --> 00:10:53.919 I really got upset at this because I had planned 196 00:10:53.960 --> 00:10:56.559 so much and was so excited to spend quality time 197 00:10:56.600 --> 00:10:59.799 with her. She ignored my request and went ahead with 198 00:10:59.840 --> 00:11:03.519 her schedule of showering, getting dressed up, and leaving for work. 199 00:11:04.519 --> 00:11:06.799 I couldn't fight with her because it was her birthday, 200 00:11:07.080 --> 00:11:09.960 so I let her be. I hugged her while she 201 00:11:10.080 --> 00:11:12.120 was leaving and asked her if she could stay back, 202 00:11:12.440 --> 00:11:14.360 but she said she was not in for a boring 203 00:11:14.440 --> 00:11:17.919 day on her birthday. I got confused and asked her 204 00:11:17.919 --> 00:11:20.879 what she meant. She said that she doesn't want to 205 00:11:20.879 --> 00:11:24.399 spend her birthday sitting at home and drinking wine. She 206 00:11:24.559 --> 00:11:26.720 is an outgoing person and would like to spend her 207 00:11:26.720 --> 00:11:30.279 birthday outside. I suggested that we go out to a 208 00:11:30.320 --> 00:11:34.200 resort or for a day trip near by. Her response was, 209 00:11:34.480 --> 00:11:38.080 my work day sounds cooler than your plan. I lost 210 00:11:38.080 --> 00:11:41.120 my patience by this and let her go. I was 211 00:11:41.200 --> 00:11:45.120 utterly frustrated by her attitude, but let it pass. I 212 00:11:45.159 --> 00:11:47.799 took it upon myself that I should have planned something better, 213 00:11:48.039 --> 00:11:51.840 knowing that Luna was an extrovert party person. Instead of 214 00:11:51.960 --> 00:11:54.240 just planning something for the two of us, I should 215 00:11:54.240 --> 00:11:57.559 have planned for a birthday bash or something. The next 216 00:11:57.639 --> 00:12:00.000 few days, I tried to cheer her up by primer 217 00:12:00.000 --> 00:12:02.519 promising that on her next birthday, I would really do 218 00:12:02.679 --> 00:12:06.000 something that would delight her. She said her standard of 219 00:12:06.000 --> 00:12:09.600 delight is nothing less than a Hawaii trip. I didn't 220 00:12:09.600 --> 00:12:14.519 say anything, just curled my lips and smiled. For someone 221 00:12:14.559 --> 00:12:16.759 who has never been outside the state to speak of 222 00:12:16.799 --> 00:12:19.679 such a standard, it is actually a red flag, and 223 00:12:19.759 --> 00:12:22.919 this time I read it. I started noticing her closely 224 00:12:22.960 --> 00:12:26.840 and realized that something was definitely off. While all these 225 00:12:26.879 --> 00:12:30.519 were going on coincidentally, last week I saw her making 226 00:12:30.559 --> 00:12:33.080 out in that luxurious car and then entering a five 227 00:12:33.120 --> 00:12:36.360 star hotel with a man. Seeing them going inside, I 228 00:12:36.480 --> 00:12:39.399 just couldn't help but rush inside the hotel to follow them. 229 00:12:40.360 --> 00:12:43.080 My colleague stopped me, saying that I would be thrown 230 00:12:43.120 --> 00:12:45.480 out of the lobby if I did something shady like this. 231 00:12:46.720 --> 00:12:49.559 I have to be careful and alert. My colleague requested 232 00:12:49.559 --> 00:12:51.679 that we go back to our office party, but I 233 00:12:51.759 --> 00:12:53.399 was not in the mood to go to the party. 234 00:12:54.399 --> 00:12:56.759 I just stood in front of the hotel waiting for 235 00:12:56.840 --> 00:13:00.039 them to come out. After a while, my friend and 236 00:13:00.159 --> 00:13:02.559 insisted that we leave because it could be possible that 237 00:13:02.600 --> 00:13:04.840 they were spending the night together and we could not 238 00:13:04.960 --> 00:13:08.519 stand there for the whole night, so he drove me 239 00:13:08.600 --> 00:13:11.679 back home. I was so distraught that I was not 240 00:13:11.799 --> 00:13:15.159 able to breathe. I packed all her stuff and dumped 241 00:13:15.200 --> 00:13:18.679 it outside the apartment. I don't know when did I sleep. 242 00:13:19.639 --> 00:13:22.000 I woke up to a loud, shrieking voice of Luna 243 00:13:22.080 --> 00:13:25.440 asking me about her packed stuff. I told her that 244 00:13:25.519 --> 00:13:27.639 she could go back to her rich boyfriend with whom 245 00:13:27.639 --> 00:13:31.759 she was effching around last night. Her response was, oh, 246 00:13:31.919 --> 00:13:36.600 so you know it great. It drove me insane. I 247 00:13:36.679 --> 00:13:38.840 yelled at her and asked when all these were going on. 248 00:13:40.000 --> 00:13:42.320 She said that there was no point in being dramatic. 249 00:13:43.360 --> 00:13:45.519 She had to hunt for these rich men because I 250 00:13:45.600 --> 00:13:47.559 was a miser and could not afford to buy her 251 00:13:47.559 --> 00:13:52.480 a Chanel bag. Her eyes were cold and unremorseful. She 252 00:13:52.600 --> 00:13:56.679 took her stuff and left. It's so shallow and unbelievable 253 00:13:56.679 --> 00:13:59.080 that people can stoop so low just for the sake 254 00:13:59.120 --> 00:14:02.000 of money. I don't know what I'm going to do now, 255 00:14:02.080 --> 00:14:05.759 but surely I won't let that woman walk over me. Update. 256 00:14:06.799 --> 00:14:09.279 Hi all, it's been more than six months since my 257 00:14:09.360 --> 00:14:13.240 original post. I didn't make an update earlier because there 258 00:14:13.279 --> 00:14:16.960 was nothing worth updating. I know. I closed my last 259 00:14:17.000 --> 00:14:19.840 post saying that I would definitely avenge the cheating, but 260 00:14:19.919 --> 00:14:23.080 life got the better of me. A few weeks after 261 00:14:23.120 --> 00:14:26.200 my break up. Coincidentally, I was sent to Seattle for 262 00:14:26.279 --> 00:14:29.000 a month long project by my company, and that helped 263 00:14:29.000 --> 00:14:32.240 a lot. The change in scenery helped me move on 264 00:14:32.360 --> 00:14:35.879 quite fast. After a month, when I was back from 265 00:14:35.879 --> 00:14:38.960 my work trip, I won't say I had completely forgotten her, 266 00:14:39.000 --> 00:14:41.720 but yes, I had moved on a lot. I blocked 267 00:14:41.759 --> 00:14:44.200 her from all social media platforms, so there was no 268 00:14:44.320 --> 00:14:47.200 way I could see her or know about her. A 269 00:14:47.240 --> 00:14:51.639 week ago, Luna showed up at my house. She looked miserable. 270 00:14:51.799 --> 00:14:54.200 I was no longer angry with her, so I let 271 00:14:54.240 --> 00:14:57.279 her in. I asked her the reason for the visit. 272 00:14:57.519 --> 00:15:01.440 She broke down, apologizing to me. She said she was 273 00:15:01.480 --> 00:15:05.000 sorry to ruin our relationship for some short term gifts. 274 00:15:05.440 --> 00:15:07.440 I asked her to move on because I had come 275 00:15:07.440 --> 00:15:10.600 ahead from my past. She told me that I was 276 00:15:10.639 --> 00:15:13.000 the only person who ever loved her, while every one 277 00:15:13.000 --> 00:15:16.240 else was just using her body. I told her that 278 00:15:16.320 --> 00:15:18.600 she could not label others to be users because she 279 00:15:18.679 --> 00:15:22.360 got those expensive gifts in return. She said that she 280 00:15:22.399 --> 00:15:25.159 doesn't need those fancy items, but a permanent partner to 281 00:15:25.159 --> 00:15:27.399 settle with because she has been hustling for the last 282 00:15:27.399 --> 00:15:30.919 ten years. I wished her good luck finding her man 283 00:15:30.960 --> 00:15:34.240 because I was no longer her man. She pleaded with 284 00:15:34.320 --> 00:15:37.519 me to give her another chance. She told me that 285 00:15:37.639 --> 00:15:39.600 she was broke and had been living on a friend's 286 00:15:39.600 --> 00:15:42.080 couch because she could not afford a place for herself. 287 00:15:43.120 --> 00:15:45.360 I told her that she had two jobs, which should 288 00:15:45.360 --> 00:15:48.679 be sufficient to provide her with a basic life. She 289 00:15:48.840 --> 00:15:51.840 started crying again and said that she never had two jobs. 290 00:15:52.120 --> 00:15:55.480 She had only won at the supermarket. I was shocked 291 00:15:55.519 --> 00:15:58.320 at the revelation because for the two years we dated, 292 00:15:58.600 --> 00:16:00.600 she told me that she was going out for work. 293 00:16:00.919 --> 00:16:02.600 She said that she used to go out with her 294 00:16:02.600 --> 00:16:05.279 friends every evening, hit on men at the bar, and 295 00:16:05.320 --> 00:16:07.639 make out with them in exchange for gifts and money. 296 00:16:07.879 --> 00:16:09.559 I don't want to spell it out, but that's what 297 00:16:09.639 --> 00:16:12.840 she meant. I was so shocked that I could barely 298 00:16:12.879 --> 00:16:15.960 speak a word. She added that she was about to 299 00:16:16.000 --> 00:16:18.600 hit her thirties, hence she is unable to juggle her 300 00:16:18.679 --> 00:16:22.000 day job and the night's work. She wants to settle 301 00:16:22.039 --> 00:16:25.360 down and lead a normal life. She pleaded with me 302 00:16:25.440 --> 00:16:28.879 not to judge her and take her back. She promised 303 00:16:28.879 --> 00:16:31.679 that she would prove to be a good wife. I 304 00:16:31.720 --> 00:16:33.960 assured her that I wasn't judging her at all, but 305 00:16:34.000 --> 00:16:36.120 it was unfair that she kept me in dark for 306 00:16:36.200 --> 00:16:38.919 two years. She lied to me, and she cheated on me, 307 00:16:39.000 --> 00:16:42.279 and I can't forget that she held my hand and 308 00:16:42.320 --> 00:16:45.600 cried that she was broke and needed help. I told 309 00:16:45.639 --> 00:16:47.639 her clearly that I could not be back with her 310 00:16:47.720 --> 00:16:51.279 and she should leave me alone. Her confession swirled my 311 00:16:51.399 --> 00:16:53.519 mind that I was dating someone who was seeing other 312 00:16:53.600 --> 00:16:55.720 men every other day, and I was such a fool 313 00:16:55.759 --> 00:16:58.759 to love her all those years. I spoke to my 314 00:16:58.840 --> 00:17:01.080 friend about this, the one who was with me when 315 00:17:01.080 --> 00:17:03.399 I saw Luna making out in that car, and he 316 00:17:03.480 --> 00:17:06.039 suggested that I take a STD test. Because I was 317 00:17:06.079 --> 00:17:08.200 with that woman for so many years while she was 318 00:17:08.240 --> 00:17:11.720 efching around with others, chances are there that I might 319 00:17:11.759 --> 00:17:15.319 have get infected. I resisted the test because I had 320 00:17:15.359 --> 00:17:18.319 no such symptoms, but my friend said that sometimes the 321 00:17:18.359 --> 00:17:21.279 symptoms take years to appear, so it's better to be safe. 322 00:17:22.319 --> 00:17:24.759 I have booked for the test tomorrow, hoping to come 323 00:17:24.799 --> 00:17:29.799 out clean. Update to Hello people. My STD reports came clean, 324 00:17:30.079 --> 00:17:33.839 thank god. To day, I was passing by that supermarket 325 00:17:33.839 --> 00:17:37.559 where I met Luna, or where she worked. Something inside 326 00:17:37.559 --> 00:17:41.000 me urged me to go inside. I went inside and 327 00:17:41.119 --> 00:17:42.880 was lurking in the food aisle when one of the 328 00:17:42.880 --> 00:17:45.359 tenured employees, who happened to be my colleague when I 329 00:17:45.440 --> 00:17:48.559 used to work there, spotted me. He came and spoke 330 00:17:48.599 --> 00:17:51.119 to me. He knew that I dated Luna, so I 331 00:17:51.160 --> 00:17:52.920 asked him if she was still working there, as I 332 00:17:52.960 --> 00:17:56.400 couldn't spot her. He said that Luna was fired from 333 00:17:56.400 --> 00:17:59.759 the job three months ago. I asked him the reason, 334 00:17:59.799 --> 00:18:02.759 but he said he doesn't know. I told him about 335 00:18:02.759 --> 00:18:06.200 my break up with Luna. Then he revealed the truth. 336 00:18:07.200 --> 00:18:09.519 He said that of late Luna was caught on camera 337 00:18:09.599 --> 00:18:12.680 trying to make advances towards male customers who looked wealthy. 338 00:18:13.640 --> 00:18:15.759 The security was keeping an eye on her for a 339 00:18:15.799 --> 00:18:18.440 long time, but since nothing was captured on the camera, 340 00:18:18.720 --> 00:18:22.519 they couldn't take any action. She was usually seen leaving 341 00:18:22.559 --> 00:18:26.279 the supermarket in their car after the shift, but three 342 00:18:26.359 --> 00:18:29.119 months back, she was caught making out with a customer 343 00:18:29.119 --> 00:18:32.400 in the secluded corner of the store. She was given 344 00:18:32.440 --> 00:18:34.880 a warning because she was one of the tenured employees. 345 00:18:35.160 --> 00:18:37.839 But a few days later, the same customer turned up 346 00:18:37.839 --> 00:18:40.200 at the store and created a huge scene that Luna 347 00:18:40.240 --> 00:18:42.359 had slipped out money from his wallet when she went 348 00:18:42.400 --> 00:18:45.359 to his house for the night. The management had to 349 00:18:45.359 --> 00:18:48.839 take action and this time she was fired. I asked 350 00:18:48.920 --> 00:18:51.319 him since he was working with her for so many years, 351 00:18:51.519 --> 00:18:54.440 did he find her shady? He said that he was 352 00:18:54.480 --> 00:18:56.960 shocked to know about her truth because she was very 353 00:18:57.000 --> 00:19:00.480 normal with her coworkers and friends. No no one knew 354 00:19:00.480 --> 00:19:04.480 about her dark reality. He said that Luna's reputation had 355 00:19:04.480 --> 00:19:07.000 gotten so bad in their working community that no one 356 00:19:07.039 --> 00:19:09.519 wanted to refer her or hire her. She was just 357 00:19:09.680 --> 00:19:13.319 using men to fund her lifestyle. I'm sharing this here 358 00:19:13.400 --> 00:19:15.559 so that others can be careful about the person they 359 00:19:15.599 --> 00:19:18.599 are dating. I feel lucky that it was just for 360 00:19:18.640 --> 00:19:22.279 two years. I read so many stories where the partner 361 00:19:22.359 --> 00:19:26.319 hid their true identity for many years, even after my marriage. 362 00:19:26.640 --> 00:19:29.079 Thank god I was out of it before things got 363 00:19:29.119 --> 00:19:33.519 too serious. Please run a background check before marrying any one, 364 00:19:33.680 --> 00:19:36.440 or at least spend enough time with them, meet their parents, 365 00:19:36.640 --> 00:19:39.319 and meet their friends before even getting serious with them. 366 00:19:40.279 --> 00:19:42.559 Thanks for hearing me out. That's the end of the 367 00:19:42.599 --> 00:19:46.319 first story. Let's begin the second one. I hope you 368 00:19:46.440 --> 00:19:51.279 enjoy this story. Spouse of half a dozen years requires 369 00:19:51.279 --> 00:19:54.160 a kidney, so I underwent testing and discovered she is 370 00:19:54.160 --> 00:19:57.920 my sibling. I opted to undergo testing to determine if 371 00:19:57.920 --> 00:20:02.160 I could offer my kidney to her wife of six years. 372 00:20:02.599 --> 00:20:06.480 We have two kids together for f two m My 373 00:20:06.599 --> 00:20:09.160 wife got sick just after our son was born and 374 00:20:09.240 --> 00:20:12.640 now is in need of a kidney transplant. We checked 375 00:20:12.640 --> 00:20:14.839 with her relatives and none were a match or a 376 00:20:14.920 --> 00:20:19.480 viable donor. Last week I got tested. I knew it 377 00:20:19.519 --> 00:20:21.599 would be a long shot, so I decided to get 378 00:20:21.599 --> 00:20:24.480 tested to see if I could donate. I got a 379 00:20:24.480 --> 00:20:26.559 call the other day saying that I was a match. 380 00:20:27.559 --> 00:20:30.319 The doctor then said something about wanting to do additional 381 00:20:30.319 --> 00:20:32.519 testing due to some information from the h l A 382 00:20:32.640 --> 00:20:36.480 tissue test results. I didn't think much of it and agreed. 383 00:20:37.519 --> 00:20:40.200 Then the results came in. I was shocked and confused. 384 00:20:41.240 --> 00:20:44.319 He explained that because of how DNA information is passed 385 00:20:44.319 --> 00:20:46.880 down through generations, apparent to a child could have at 386 00:20:46.960 --> 00:20:50.759 least a fifty percent match. Siblings could have a zero 387 00:20:50.799 --> 00:20:54.039 to one hundred percent match. It was rare to have 388 00:20:54.079 --> 00:20:56.599 a high match as husband and wife. I asked, what 389 00:20:56.640 --> 00:20:59.519 does that mean? He said that my wife and I 390 00:20:59.559 --> 00:21:03.759 have an apple normally high match percentage. Long stories short 391 00:21:03.759 --> 00:21:07.279 were related. No, I'm not kidding. I was put up 392 00:21:07.279 --> 00:21:10.119 for adoption before I was born, placed into a family 393 00:21:10.160 --> 00:21:13.759 that moved across the country. I knew I was adopted, 394 00:21:13.759 --> 00:21:16.599 but we didn't have any information about my bio family. 395 00:21:17.599 --> 00:21:20.880 It was a closed adoption. I met my wife by 396 00:21:20.960 --> 00:21:24.000 chance eight years ago. I was on a trip from 397 00:21:24.000 --> 00:21:26.039 work and she was working at the site I went to. 398 00:21:27.039 --> 00:21:30.960 We worked together for a week, We exchanged numbers, kept 399 00:21:30.960 --> 00:21:34.440 in touch. I was sent back there three more times 400 00:21:34.440 --> 00:21:36.960 that year, and each time we became closer, I was 401 00:21:37.000 --> 00:21:39.480