Speaker 1: Hey, Hey, I'm bad with something for you to think about.
Speaker 1: Many of you, who's listening to me right now? A
Speaker 1: whole ting.
Speaker 2: You're in relationships with people you just knew you wanted
Speaker 2: to be with.
Speaker 1: You just knew you loved. No one could tell you
Speaker 1: anything different.
Speaker 2: You just thought you loved the person, and you gave
Speaker 2: up everything.
Speaker 1: Your family, your friends, your jobs, your careers. Many of you.
Speaker 2: Gave up everything for that person, only to end up
Speaker 2: with nothing. Yeah, I said exactly what I meant, to
Speaker 2: end up with nothing. Some of you have been bamboozled
Speaker 2: out of everything, to include your mind.
Speaker 1: You allowed the person to come into your life.
Speaker 2: It caused you nothing but stress, and instead of walking away,
Speaker 2: you tried to make them into who you wanted them
Speaker 2: to be.
Speaker 1: But you changed in the process for the worst.
Speaker 2: I did an episode years ago, trying to love the
Speaker 2: hell out of someone, only to find yourself in hell.
Speaker 1: That's many of you.
Speaker 2: Many of you. You gave up everything. You turned your
Speaker 2: back on your family, on your friends, on your children,
Speaker 2: to end up with nothing. A person who mistreats you,
Speaker 2: disrespect you, abuses you. And remember, abuse is not necessarily physical, emotional.
Speaker 1: And mentally and verbally is just as damaging.
Speaker 2: You've ostracized everyone to include yourself, and now you're in
Speaker 2: a nightmare.
Speaker 1: Living it with your eyes wide open because of the
Speaker 1: choices you made.
Speaker 2: People tried to tell you the signs and the red
Speaker 2: flags were there, but you chose to.
Speaker 1: Ignore them because.
Speaker 2: You just had to have your boom. And now all
Speaker 2: you find yourself doing.
Speaker 1: Is the boo boo owing because of your food.
Speaker 2: That's why I always say you must go into relationships
Speaker 2: with your eyes wide.
Speaker 1: Open, not wide shut.
Speaker 2: You have to go into relationships with healed hearts and minds,
Speaker 2: not unhealed, because when you have unhealed hearts and minds,
Speaker 2: your mind and your heart are not in sync, and
Speaker 2: therefore you're going to chase the wrong thing, the wrong people,
Speaker 2: for the wrong reasons, and end up with nothing. Some
Speaker 2: of you think, oh, they've gotten me this and that.
Speaker 1: You know, they bought me a house and anything I want,
Speaker 1: thing will give it to me.
Speaker 2: But you have no love, you have no respect, you
Speaker 2: have no integrity, you lack confidence, you have no peace.
Speaker 1: That means you have nothing.
Speaker 2: Some of you literally have nothing because they drain you
Speaker 2: up everything everything can you end up with nothing? Too
Speaker 2: many people and I mean.
Speaker 1: Too many people.
Speaker 2: Are putting themselves in these situations that they don't have
Speaker 2: to be in and they shouldn't be in because you
Speaker 2: thought it was love. And unfortunately many of you will
Speaker 2: stay because you have nothing to call your own. So
Speaker 2: you would rather stay and be degraded and be littled
Speaker 2: and everything else to keep a roof over your head,
Speaker 2: food on your table, clothes on your back, when all
Speaker 2: you need to.
Speaker 1: Do is get your own.
Speaker 2: People go through too much foolishness, allowing too much drama
Speaker 2: and chaos in their lives.
Speaker 1: Chase of love.
Speaker 2: When you shouldn't be looking anywhere but inward to heal
Speaker 2: yourself first, because if you are of the right mindset,
Speaker 2: you will never be in the situation you're in now.
Speaker 2: You would never be looking at someone else's security for
Speaker 2: your own, because like.
Speaker 1: I said, you can have it all.
Speaker 2: You can have everything you wish for it and be
Speaker 2: miserable and inhale on earth. Many people don't want to
Speaker 2: take ownership and responsibility.
Speaker 1: For what they have accepted, what they have allowed, what
Speaker 1: they have.
Speaker 2: Signed on to, because they say, oh, I didn't sign
Speaker 2: on for that. I'm you know, I didn't ask for abuse,
Speaker 2: I didn't ask for disrespect, you signed on for it.
Speaker 2: So if you signed on for it, that means you
Speaker 2: open yourself up to it. You allowed, you accepted, because
Speaker 2: a person.
Speaker 1: Don't just out of nowhere began to be cruel and.
Speaker 3: Mean and honery and disrespectful and all of those things
Speaker 3: who they show you who they are.
Speaker 1: But you miss it when your eyes are wide shut.
Speaker 2: I mean you have them open, but you can't see
Speaker 2: nothing because you're blind to your feelings, to your wants,
Speaker 2: to your desires, to your emotions.
Speaker 1: Everything is more important than.
Speaker 2: Reality until it slaps you straight in the face. And
Speaker 2: even for some people when it does, they still continue
Speaker 2: to settle because they have nothing to call their own.
Speaker 2: They lack confidence now, belief in self so full of
Speaker 2: negative talk, not only from that significant other, but the
Speaker 2: other people that have been in their lives before that,
Speaker 2: that have put negativity in their hands that they have
Speaker 2: chose to hold on to.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you hold on to it. Now. You feel so terrible.
Speaker 2: Because you feel so alone, because you've turned your back
Speaker 2: on your family and friends.
Speaker 1: Well, there are true friends and family who have love
Speaker 1: for you.
Speaker 2: They're gonna have love for you regardless, and they will
Speaker 2: welcome you back but some of you are so embarrassed
Speaker 2: because of your behaviors, because of how you treated them.
Speaker 2: You don't think that they're able to love you, and
Speaker 2: they do that.
Speaker 1: They don't have.
Speaker 2: Your mind making you think that want you separated from
Speaker 2: your loved ones, and many of you fall for it
Speaker 2: because you want set person so badly that you can't
Speaker 2: see that they're the wrong one for you. You can't
Speaker 2: see it until you're in such a dark place that
Speaker 2: you begin to see a kind glimpse of light, which
Speaker 2: is reality. But like I said, even then, some people
Speaker 2: still will remain there.
Speaker 1: You have nothing.
Speaker 2: Some of you are with individuals who do nothing for you.
Speaker 2: Your wives and husbands, but they do nothing for you.
Speaker 2: Everything you have you have to get on your own.
Speaker 2: They won't do anything for you. You think that's love.
Speaker 2: You think it's love for someone to talk down to
Speaker 2: you or treat you like you're a child. You think
Speaker 2: it's love for someone to physically, verbally, emotionally abuse you.
Speaker 1: That's not love. Many of you have nothing.
Speaker 2: When you have no peace, nothing else matters.
Speaker 1: Nothing else matters when you have no peace. I'm just
Speaker 1: telling you the truth.
Speaker 2: You can be the most beautiful or the most handsome,
Speaker 2: you can have the best looking body. None of that
Speaker 2: matters when you have no peace, Because when.
Speaker 1: You have no peace, things are just.
Speaker 2: Constantly constantly going on inside of you, your mind constantly, constantly, negativity, constantly.
Speaker 2: You have no peace. You're stressed out. But it is you,
Speaker 2: my sister, my brother, my friend, my relative.
Speaker 1: It is you, you who have opened yourself up to it,
Speaker 1: because I've told you so many times.
Speaker 2: You teach a person how to treat you, it does
Speaker 2: not matter who that person is. Can be your mother,
Speaker 2: your father, your sister, your brother, your kids, your significant other,
Speaker 2: your husband, your.
Speaker 1: Wife, your neighbor, your boss, your coworker, your pastor, it
Speaker 1: don't matter who it is.
Speaker 2: You teach that person how to treat you. And the
Speaker 2: people that will hurt you the most are the ones
Speaker 2: who say they love you.
Speaker 1: It's a fact. It's a fact.
Speaker 2: That's why it's very important to love yourself. Love your self,
Speaker 2: love your self. It's a game changer. I promise you
Speaker 2: it is a game changer. When you love yourself, you're
Speaker 2: not putting up with the shenanigans.
Speaker 1: You're not gonna allow anyone to just talk to you
Speaker 1: any kind of way or treat you any kind of way.
Speaker 2: You're not gonna be coheerting influence and persuaded into doing wrong,
Speaker 2: or manipulated by manipulative people.
Speaker 1: You're not because you're gonna have eyes to see.
Speaker 2: And besides of red flash that you missed, you will
Speaker 2: be able to see. You'll walk away with nothing because
Speaker 2: you came in with nothing.
Speaker 1: You will have no problem walking away with nothing.
Speaker 2: You'll have no problem with start to know, but if
Speaker 2: you need to, when you love yourself, because you'll know
Speaker 2: your words, you'll know your value, you'll know you deserve better.
Speaker 1: Bottom line.
Speaker 2: But the more power you give to a person, the
Speaker 2: more power that person will take.
Speaker 1: They will manipulate you.
Speaker 2: They will trick you, deceive you, and boozle you into
Speaker 2: staying in that relationship, as they say, by hook or
Speaker 2: by cook, And it's just manipulation.
Speaker 1: Some of you are in relationships where you're fearful. You
Speaker 1: just stay too long.
Speaker 2: Now you're fearful, you're afraid to stay, you're afraid to go,
Speaker 2: and you gave of everything to gain nothing. And I
Speaker 2: feel in my spirit that people are saying, well, how
Speaker 2: do you get out of these situations? The same way
Speaker 2: you went into them? You walked in it, right, you
Speaker 2: can walk out of it. It's better to walk out
Speaker 2: than to be carried out. It's better to walk out
Speaker 2: then to.
Speaker 1: Walk away.
Speaker 2: So broken, lost your mind because of stress, full of
Speaker 2: mental issues because of stress. But see, people have to
Speaker 2: wake up for themselves. You have to wake up for yourself.
Speaker 2: No one can do it for you. All I can
Speaker 2: tell you is it's not love. Anytime someone try to
Speaker 2: ostracize you from your family and friends, or you feel
Speaker 2: that you have to give this person every single part
Speaker 2: of you, every single.
Speaker 1: Part, something is wrong with the situation and with you.
Speaker 1: For sure.
Speaker 2: Any time you're with someone and they're trying to control you,
Speaker 2: or they're possessive and obsessive over you, you better run, run, run, run,
Speaker 2: because that's not love. That's a sign. That's a big
Speaker 2: red flag. Don't think it's cute all.
Speaker 1: It's a killed all. No, No, that is a sign.
Speaker 2: Just because you give it a relationship does not mean
Speaker 2: you have to turn your back on your friends and family,
Speaker 2: but so many people do because they think that is
Speaker 2: the proper way to love.
Speaker 1: Never give up your friends and family for no one.
Speaker 1: Listen to me.
Speaker 2: Now, I'm not saying let your friends and family, ruin
Speaker 2: and take over your relationship, you know, barging in and
Speaker 2: unannounced and staying and forever and moving it.
Speaker 1: I'm not saying that, but what I am saying is
Speaker 1: never allow a man or a woman to cause you.
Speaker 2: To block your relationship with your family and your friends.
Speaker 1: You have to have.
Speaker 2: Boundaries, for sure, you have to have boundaries, but to
Speaker 2: isolate yourself or ostracize yourself, you should never do it.
Speaker 2: And you should never, ever, ever, ever, under any circumstances.
Speaker 1: Give all of you to whoever.
Speaker 2: You're will you just give them ammunition to use you,
Speaker 2: to take advantage of you when you do that, because
Speaker 2: they know they can do anything, say anything, and you
Speaker 2: will take it because you show your vulnerability, you show
Speaker 2: them how they can just take advantage. Because when you
Speaker 2: do that, you relinquish your power. When you give your power,
Speaker 2: they're going to take it, trust and believe they are
Speaker 2: going to take it. And you should never give your
Speaker 2: power to no one. I don't care who they are,
Speaker 2: what they have, how they look, None of that matters
Speaker 2: because when you lose your power, you also lose control,
Speaker 2: and you should never put your power in control in
Speaker 2: the hands of another being. So like I said, many
Speaker 2: of you give up everything, everything, You give up your careers.
Speaker 1: Know you wanted to go to school and do this,
Speaker 1: and that you gave it up.
Speaker 2: You knew you wanted to take that job somewhere, you
Speaker 2: gave it up. You had dreams, you had hopes, you
Speaker 2: had goals. You gave them all up for the person
Speaker 2: you wanted to be with, built them up, and then
Speaker 2: they left you.
Speaker 1: You have nothing. Spend all your money on them. I mean,
Speaker 1: people do this.
Speaker 2: Foolishness every day to end up with nothing.
Speaker 1: If you're with someone who don't love you the way
Speaker 1: you love them.
Speaker 2: If they can't love you back, you have nothing. If
Speaker 2: it's one sided, which most relationships are, you have nothing.
Speaker 2: You think it's something just because you're under the same roof,
Speaker 2: but living separately, that's nothing. I mean, I could talk
Speaker 2: about it all day, obviously.
Speaker 1: But I won't wake up. You deserve better.
Speaker 2: No one on the face of the earth should never
Speaker 2: ever accept being in a relationship. Were you stressed out
Speaker 2: where you're wondering if the person loves you? When you're
Speaker 2: treated badly and disrespected.
Speaker 1: No one, no one, no one, no one.
Speaker 2: Wants so many except one side of relationships. What you
Speaker 2: get is what you open yourself up to.
Speaker 1: That's it.
Speaker 4: That's all I'm saying. I'm leaving it right there. Thank
Speaker 4: you for listening, Please share this episode. Much love to you, you,
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Speaker 1: I appreciate you much love. When you want.
Speaker 2: In every episode the same and I hope you do it.
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