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<v Speaker 1>Helping leaders motivate their people to a higher level of

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<v Speaker 1>performance through strong human relations, team building and GOLA GV.

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<v Speaker 1>This is the seven Minute Leadership Podcast with your host

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<v Speaker 1>Paul fella Aledo.

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<v Speaker 2>Hello everyone, and welcome to the seven Minute Leadership Podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>It's episode six point thirty. Today we're talking about something

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<v Speaker 2>that quietly destroys high performers. Self discipline. Not the motivational

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<v Speaker 2>poster version, not the four am cold plunge version, not

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<v Speaker 2>the grind yourself into the ground version. Real self discipline,

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<v Speaker 2>and more importantly, how to practice it without turning it

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<v Speaker 2>into self punishment. I see this in leaders all the time,

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<v Speaker 2>especially the driven ones, especially the ones who care, especially

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<v Speaker 2>the ones who built something from scratch. They believe discipline

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<v Speaker 2>means pressure. They believe discipline means no excuses. They believe

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<v Speaker 2>discipline means push harder, longer, faster, and over time, discipline

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<v Speaker 2>turns into something ugly. It turns into internal bullying. You

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<v Speaker 2>miss a workout, you trash yourself, you miss a goal,

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<v Speaker 2>you call yourself weak. You make a mistake in a

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<v Speaker 2>meeting and you replay it for three days. That's not discipline,

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<v Speaker 2>that's punishment, and punishment rarely builds sustainable leadership. I learned

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<v Speaker 2>this in aviation. When I returned to flight school after

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<v Speaker 2>twenty five years away, I was not a kid anymore.

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<v Speaker 2>I had a title, I had experience, I had built teams,

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<v Speaker 2>I had commanded incidents. Yet I was back in a

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<v Speaker 2>small single engine aircraft making rookie mistakes. One day I

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<v Speaker 2>botched a landing, not dangerous, but sloppy. I felt the

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<v Speaker 2>frustration rising. The internal voice was loud. You should know better.

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<v Speaker 2>You're better than this. Minds trant direct looked at me

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<v Speaker 2>calmly and said, good, now you know what the fix

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<v Speaker 2>that was? It No drama, no shame, no ego, just data.

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<v Speaker 2>That is discipline. Self discipline is not emotional violence against yourself.

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<v Speaker 2>It's calm correction. It's the ability to say that was

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<v Speaker 2>not my standard. Now I will adjust. In ems, if

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<v Speaker 2>we miss an IV, we do not throw the whole

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<v Speaker 2>medical way. We adjust technique, We reset, we try again.

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<v Speaker 2>If a team member makes a documentation error, we do

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<v Speaker 2>not question their identity. We coach the standard. Yet leaders

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<v Speaker 2>rarely give themselves that same professionalism. Here's the difference. Punishment

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<v Speaker 2>attacks identity. Discipline protects standards. Punishment says you're not good enough.

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<v Speaker 2>Discipline says your performance was not aligned with your standard.

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<v Speaker 2>That distinction matters. High performers confuse the two because they

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<v Speaker 2>believe intensity equals excellence. It does not. Clarity equals excellence.

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<v Speaker 2>If you want to practice self discipline without self punishment,

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<v Speaker 2>here are a few tactical shifts. First, define your standards clearly.

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<v Speaker 2>Most leaders punish themselves for violating vague expectations. I should

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<v Speaker 2>be better better at, what, better, how by when? In aviation,

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<v Speaker 2>we have checklists at altitude, air speed, heading specific numbers.

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<v Speaker 2>If you want discipline, define measurable standards for your day.

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<v Speaker 2>Calls returned within twenty four hours, work out three days

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<v Speaker 2>a week, read ten pages, leave work by a certain time. Concrete. Second,

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<v Speaker 2>separate the event from your identity. A bad meeting does

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<v Speaker 2>not make you a bad leader. A poor decision does

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<v Speaker 2>not erase a career of sound judgment. Red key moments

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<v Speaker 2>are about ownership, not self destruction. If you made the

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<v Speaker 2>wrong call, own it, fix it, learn from it, then

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<v Speaker 2>move forward. No dragging it around like a weight vest. Third,

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<v Speaker 2>build recovery into your discipline. This is where most leaders fail.

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<v Speaker 2>They schedule output. They do not schedule recovery. In scuba diving,

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<v Speaker 2>you respect surface intervals and flying. You respect rest requirements

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<v Speaker 2>and emergency management. You rotate crews during prolonged incidents. Why

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<v Speaker 2>do you think you are exempt? If you run yourself

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<v Speaker 2>into exhaustion and call it discipline, you're lying to yourself.

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<v Speaker 2>You are burning fuel without checking the gauges. Real discipline

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<v Speaker 2>includes sleep, It includes time off, It includes mental rest. Fourth,

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<v Speaker 2>watch your internal language. If you would not say it

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<v Speaker 2>to a team member, do not say it to yourself.

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<v Speaker 2>You would never look at a strong employee who had

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<v Speaker 2>one off week and say you are useless. You would say,

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<v Speaker 2>what happened? How do we fix it? Apply that same

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<v Speaker 2>leadership to the person in the mirror. Fifth track, progress

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<v Speaker 2>not perfection. This is seven minute leadership at its core.

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<v Speaker 2>Seven intentional minutes per day compounds. It's not about crushing

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<v Speaker 2>one day and collapsing the next. Small, consistent, disciplined actions

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<v Speaker 2>build identity over time. When you miss one, you reset

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<v Speaker 2>the next day. No theatrics. Let me give you a

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<v Speaker 2>reality check. If your self discipline leaves you chronically exhausted, resentful, irritable,

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<v Speaker 2>or disconnected from the people you lead, it is not discipline.

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<v Speaker 2>It is ego disguised as work ethic. The most dangerous

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<v Speaker 2>leaders are not the lazy ones. It's the ones who

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<v Speaker 2>punish themselves into emotional isolation. Because when you are hard

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<v Speaker 2>on yourself and the wrong way, you slowly become hard

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<v Speaker 2>on others hon titans, the patience shrinks, the margin for

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<v Speaker 2>error disappears, and culture follows that energy. Self discipline without

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<v Speaker 2>self punishment produces calm leaders. Calm leaders make better decisions.

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<v Speaker 2>Calm leaders recover faster. Calm leaders hold standards without creating fear.

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<v Speaker 2>You want to be elite, then master this set high standards,

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<v Speaker 2>hold yourself accountable, correct quickly, recover deliberately, and move forward

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<v Speaker 2>without drama. That's what professionals do. You don't need to

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<v Speaker 2>beat yourself into greatness. You need to coach yourself into consistency.

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<v Speaker 2>So if today's episode hit home, here's your challenge for

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<v Speaker 2>the next seven days. When you fall short of your standard,

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<v Speaker 2>pause before reacting. Replace criticism with correction, Replace shame with adjustment.

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<v Speaker 2>Treat yourself like a professional you are responsible for developing

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<v Speaker 2>that one shift alone can change how you lead, how

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<v Speaker 2>you think, and how you show up for the people

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<v Speaker 2>counting on you. This has been the Seven Minute Leadership Podcast,

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<v Speaker 2>and I thank you for listening.

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<v Speaker 1>For more Paul fell of Alito podcasts, visit paulfellowalito dot com.