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Speaker 1: Creativity is an addiction unplugged because we will always say

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yes to creativity, totally uncut because we all make mistakes.

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So turn it into a tool. This is arrow unplugged,

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hey Zarow, And this is vocal D frag. Asking the

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questions and then questioning the answers. We usually do the

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vocal D frag while I'm on a transition walk. A

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transition walk is taking for me.

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Speaker 2: It's taking a walk through this beautiful forest, and I

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wish you could hear the beautiful music. Even though the

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temperature is barely forty three degrees. It's been raining all night.

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It's even raining even as we speak. But you still

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can't stop yourself from doing the transition walk. Because it

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is my mission, it is my goal, it is my

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calling to understand the transitions, to study the transitions, to

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know how it moves through each and every one of us.

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And so when we do a vocal D frag, we're

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breaking down everything that is taking place. Ask the questions,

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question the answers. Heavy subject today, the subject as we

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walk through this day before Easter, the storms that we

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move through in order to get to the storms that

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we move through, in order to get to there's not

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a soul on this planet that doesn't move through mental storms.

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Everybody goes through them. We all just digest them differently,

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and we seek a lot of professional help in order

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to understand what that storm was about.

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Speaker 3: Some people use those.

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Speaker 2: Storms as keys to awareness and or to rebuilding or

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replenishing their personal lives. But we all go through storms.

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You can do everything you can to push it away,

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it'll keep coming back. It just does that because storms

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have a mind of their own, and storms have the

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strength to turn everything that you own into something that's

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being washed away by a creek on a rainy day

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the day before Easter. But the storms that we move

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through in order to get to my question to you

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would be where are you trying to grow? Where is

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that destination that you're trying to reach, and what are

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the storms that are standing in the way. Not walls,

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not mountains, storms. We can walk through storms. I'm living

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proof of that right now because I'm walking through a

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rainstorm right now, and I know that my destination is

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to take this transition walk. But in your own personal life,

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the question is where are you trying to get to?

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That's like asking somebody, so, what's your favorite song, who's

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your favorite artist? And if you only knew how many

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people look at me and they go, I don't know,

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I don't know. I guess I'm old because I grew

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up in the tail end of the Beatles becoming solo performers.

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Speaker 3: The rolling Stones are still around. I went through the Beg's.

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Speaker 2: I've been surrounded by the most incredible music. And if

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somebody were to say, what is your favorite song? I

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could answer that question. But it seems like people today

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can't answer that question, which takes me right back to

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where are you trying to what is the destination that

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you would like to see yourself in? And I think

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sometimes the reason why we don't answer is because we're

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all rolling the dice. We want to see if we

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can get the lucky seven, we want to make sure

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that we get the snake eyes.

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Speaker 3: We're rolling the dice.

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Speaker 2: I have a very good friend who became a manager

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at the essential job that I show up for, and

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his roll of the dice was he was leaving the

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food industry to take up a job at a grocery store.

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He had no clue was a roll of the dice,

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And to this day, even though the two of us

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have worked together in the store for a couple of

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years now. He still says, I don't know if this

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was the right decision, But he's not making the move,

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he's not making the choices to find that place. So

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the storms that we move through to get to what

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is your two And the question would be how are

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you going to get there? How are you going to

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move through the storm? And what happens if the storm intensifies.

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It reminds me of a story about a martial artist

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who is stand on the top of his house every

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time the wind would blow in these storms. And the

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reason why is because he solely believed in what's called

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the front stance, and he wanted to make sure that

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his front stance was unbelievably strong, so he would stand

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on his roof during a windstorm to test his strength.

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What sort of tools do you use to test your

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personal strength? What is that one part of your mind, body,

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and soul that you go to when the storms get

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a little bit too much to handle? Do you retreat?

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Do you race to get home? I fall into a

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gigantic notebook full of writing. I have so many frickin'

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journals because I'm asking the questions, and I'm questioning the answers.

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I do have a lot of storms, and I openly

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admit that I'm willing to listen to your storm. The

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storm doesn't have to last the entire time.

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Speaker 3: Time.

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Speaker 2: You are in the power of choice, and the question

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is what is your choice of recovery? If we're gonna

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move through the storm to get to what is your

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choice of recovery?

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Speaker 3: What are you trying to improve?

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Speaker 2: I get it. I might as well be asking you

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what is your favorite song? Because I'm still getting to

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glossy eyed?

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Speaker 3: Look?

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Speaker 2: What are you trying to do? How are you trying

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to heal? What is the recovery time? Is it worth replenishing?

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The questions are there? Are you asking yourself those questions?

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Speaker 3: You know? Some people would.

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Speaker 2: Say, well, you're just setting yourself up for something bad

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to happen. Not true at all, Not true at all.

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I was doing some research today on the fear of

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being fearful.

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Speaker 3: Have you ever heard of that? It's called phobia phobia,

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the fear of fearing.

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Speaker 2: So a lot of people don't make changes in their

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life for the positive or even for the for the bad,

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because you have to have bad choices in order to

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measure out to what your good choices are. But the

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fear of being fearful is very real, and you have

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to understand that fear is an instinct. You need fear

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in life when it comes to being aware of what

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could bring harm or some sort of pain to your life.

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It's okay to have fear. But the thing is, though,

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and I've heard this from so many people and you

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may have said it too, I've become numb to oh

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the word numb. Oh yeah, man, that everything is happening

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in the headlines, I'm just numb.

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Speaker 3: Now.

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Speaker 2: I'm thinking we should do everything we can to get

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back into a level of fear so that we can

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be aware of what really does bother us, because if

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we're going to be numb, then what is the reaction

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and are we bringing injury to ourselves.

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Speaker 3: Now I'm not a professional here.

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Speaker 2: I only study so that I can learn about and

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when you learn about, you're moving toward moving through the

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storms to get too answering the question, questioning the answers.

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I'll tell you one of the things that I fear,

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and I'm just being open and transparent with you. I

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fear being spotted at a grocery store. What Oh yeah,

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forty three years of broadcasting on terrestrial radio. I host

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these amazing podcasts, and I fear someone's going to come

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in and go, hey, aren't you What are you doing

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at a grocery store. I have an answer, and I

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do fear that answer being received because the answer that

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I have is I've never been in front of real

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people before. Sure, when I'm out doing promotions for the

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radio station. Sure, when I'm out there, you know, wearing

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the mask of an on air radio talent, Yeah, I'm

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that guy. I can handle people. But when you're yourself

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and you're there to study the habits of yourself with

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other people, there's a lot of fear. It's the fear

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of being accepted, the fear of being enjoyed because you

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try to share stories, you try to make a connection,

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you know. Being in radio, we envision people being the listeners.

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We envision they're not there with us. We envision it.

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But at a grocery store, you're right there in front

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of me, and we have conversations, sometimes too deep, sometimes

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not deep enough. A man was standing next to me

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yesterday and he was telling me that his business failed

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and that he was in really deep pain. He explained

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that the reason why his pain was so strong was

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because he invested so much of his personal money in

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this business and there was no way for there to

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be a recovery. The reason why is because the competition

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became too strong. He looked at me as if he

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trusted me in radio, I wouldn't have had that opportunity.

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I would have feared such a conversation without seeing some

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eyes or like I said on my podcast yesterday, zoom

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is a great tool, but it's not the texture of

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the conversation, as foolish as it may sound. Moving through

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the storm, my mental storm, I don't want to be here.

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Oh my god, you mean I like being comfortable inside

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my studio. The sound is perfect. I get to talk

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with people who are very creative, and now you want

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to put me at a grocery store? Why do I

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doing this to myself?

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Speaker 3: See? Moving through the mental storm.

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Speaker 2: To get to okay last night, I had to get

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to that man who was filled with so much fear,

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and you could feel that he wasn't happy with the

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decisions that he had made about his business because he

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had no idea what his future was going to handle.

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to do, so he was feeling a lot of fear

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on Facebook, Instagram as well as Twitter. I read a

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lot of your stories about what's going on at your

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place of business. I see the mental storms right there

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on the page, and as positive as you would like

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to try to do, or maybe you're just trying to

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relieve yourself from the pain that you're feeling. I have

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to go back to the original question, what is your

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two I see your storm, you're moving through it, but.

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Speaker 3: Where are you moving to? In other words, what is

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the solution?

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Speaker 2: What is the goal, the ambition, the dream? What is

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it that you think you're missing in life that you

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think that you've got to have when in reality I

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read about this today doing my studies. The reason why

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so many people live in their past because they think

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their past is greater than where they are right now. No,

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that is not true. You are certain that it happened

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because you have a better understanding of why things happen.

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But the reason why you don't like being in your

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moment of now is because it's uncertain, it's undisciplined. It

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creates that fear, and it creates moments in your heart,

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where you're going.

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Speaker 3: I don't know what to do.

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Speaker 2: I can't plan this out, whereas when you live in

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your past, Oh, it's already been written. It's like reading

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a book. Can you hear the rain? It's raining hard

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in this forest, this storm I'm moving through while walking

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up Heartbreak Hill, I'm trying to get too two. And

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I challenge you to locate your two, moving through the storms,

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to get to ask the questions, question the answers. I

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marrow and that's vocal D frag