WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.080 --> 00:00:04.280 I know him, I know this person. They get closer, 2 00:00:04.280 --> 00:00:07.200 but at the same time I'm gasping for that. I'm like, 3 00:00:08.839 --> 00:00:12.640 I'm dying. I'm literally dying on the spot. They get closer, 4 00:00:13.119 --> 00:00:16.760 they see me, takes me into his arms. Paramedics come, 5 00:00:16.879 --> 00:00:20.120 and you need to know that. When the paramedics left 6 00:00:20.160 --> 00:00:23.199 the spot, and again I'm this fast forward. 7 00:00:23.280 --> 00:00:25.879 When they left the spot, he asked them, and. 8 00:00:25.839 --> 00:00:28.199 This is a movie kind of thing, like they're they're 9 00:00:28.440 --> 00:00:30.440 in the back of the ambulance. 10 00:00:30.600 --> 00:00:33.880 They look back. He asked them, like this guy is 11 00:00:33.920 --> 00:00:34.520 gonna make it. 12 00:00:35.000 --> 00:00:41.399 They're like, no, No, at that moment, I was already 13 00:00:41.439 --> 00:00:42.240 supposed to die. 14 00:00:42.799 --> 00:00:45.320 Yes, were you conscious at that time? 15 00:00:45.520 --> 00:00:48.359 This is Wake Up with Marcy, a space for honest 16 00:00:48.359 --> 00:00:53.719 conversations about healing, recovery, and women's wellness. I'm Marcy Hopkins. 17 00:00:53.960 --> 00:00:55.679 Take a breath, You're safe here. 18 00:00:56.039 --> 00:00:56.640 Let's begin. 19 00:01:00.799 --> 00:01:03.600 What if everything you believed about your life changed in 20 00:01:03.640 --> 00:01:07.400 a single moment. One day you're making plans, you're building 21 00:01:07.439 --> 00:01:12.640 your future, living life at full speed, and the next you. 22 00:01:12.560 --> 00:01:13.840 Are fighting to survive. 23 00:01:14.840 --> 00:01:17.920 What do you do when you're told there's almost no 24 00:01:18.159 --> 00:01:21.599 chance that you'll make it. Do you give up? Or 25 00:01:21.640 --> 00:01:29.359 do you rebuild. Today's conversation is about rebuilding. About my guest, Vincent, 26 00:01:29.840 --> 00:01:33.599 being told he only had a one percent chance to live, 27 00:01:34.319 --> 00:01:38.400 and he chose to live and to rebuild. So today 28 00:01:38.439 --> 00:01:41.239 we're going to learn about that resilience and that purpose 29 00:01:41.319 --> 00:01:46.040 and discovering that sometimes the life that you've never planned 30 00:01:46.079 --> 00:01:49.519 becomes the one you're most grateful to live. So if 31 00:01:49.560 --> 00:01:52.719 you've ever felt like you've been knocked down, if you've 32 00:01:52.760 --> 00:01:56.120 ever wondered if it's too late to start over, then 33 00:01:56.159 --> 00:01:57.879 this episode is for you. 34 00:01:59.400 --> 00:02:01.239 Welcome all to wake up with Marcy. 35 00:02:01.359 --> 00:02:03.359 I'm so grateful you are back, and if you are 36 00:02:03.400 --> 00:02:08.039 new here, welcome. I am always so appreciative to all 37 00:02:08.080 --> 00:02:10.240 of you that are listening or watching. 38 00:02:10.639 --> 00:02:12.520 I'm Marcy Hopkins. I'm your host. 39 00:02:13.039 --> 00:02:18.159 I am an author, TV host, motivational speaker, mental health advocate, and. 40 00:02:18.080 --> 00:02:20.639 I am also in long term recovery. 41 00:02:21.319 --> 00:02:26.400 On this show, we have honest, raw conversations about mental health, healing, 42 00:02:27.120 --> 00:02:30.879 self discovery, and what it really takes to rebuild your life. 43 00:02:31.400 --> 00:02:35.439 And today's guest reminds us that life can change in 44 00:02:35.479 --> 00:02:39.759 an instant. The question isn't whether we'll face adversity, The 45 00:02:39.879 --> 00:02:44.400 question is who do we become because of it. Today 46 00:02:44.439 --> 00:02:48.960 we will meet Vincent van Denbrook. Vincent is an entrepreneur, 47 00:02:49.120 --> 00:02:53.319 founder of the Uid Club, podcast host, and the author 48 00:02:53.360 --> 00:02:58.479 of the upcoming book Everything Feels Impossible until It's Done. 49 00:02:58.560 --> 00:03:01.960 After surviving a near fatal accident that left him with 50 00:03:02.159 --> 00:03:06.639 just one percent chance of survival, Vincent faced the unimaginable 51 00:03:06.719 --> 00:03:11.400 challenge of rebuilding not only his body but his entire life. Today, 52 00:03:11.439 --> 00:03:15.280 he's helping people to stop living on autopilot and start 53 00:03:15.360 --> 00:03:21.879 intentionally designing lives built on purpose, resilience, health, meaningful relationships, 54 00:03:21.960 --> 00:03:26.439 and financial freedom. Now, let's welcome Vincent to the show 55 00:03:26.719 --> 00:03:28.479 and welcome to Wake Up with Marci. 56 00:03:29.639 --> 00:03:31.000 Thank you for having me for real. 57 00:03:31.960 --> 00:03:35.400 I'm grateful that you were here and you had a 58 00:03:35.439 --> 00:03:41.840 life changing experience on October eleventh, twenty twenty four. Everything 59 00:03:42.199 --> 00:03:47.199 changed for you. So what do you remember about that day? 60 00:03:47.280 --> 00:03:48.639 What happened. 61 00:03:50.639 --> 00:03:52.400 About that day? Everything? 62 00:03:53.159 --> 00:03:57.680 But the most important thing I remember in the morning, 63 00:03:57.719 --> 00:04:01.080 getting back to from my wife working during the day, 64 00:04:01.520 --> 00:04:03.479 being at a carring event that we did with the 65 00:04:03.520 --> 00:04:08.479 business with my wife, leaving from that event to go 66 00:04:08.560 --> 00:04:12.840 finish an important file, and that's it, and that's it, 67 00:04:12.919 --> 00:04:16.480 and then afterwards it on my way to the place 68 00:04:16.600 --> 00:04:19.399 I was gonna send the file. 69 00:04:19.720 --> 00:04:20.680 I got her bike. 70 00:04:20.439 --> 00:04:24.319 Car and d is that correct? 71 00:04:24.920 --> 00:04:29.240 An eascouter and like the you know a school thing, Yeah, 72 00:04:29.360 --> 00:04:32.480 scool thing, not like it's not a scooter. Like it's 73 00:04:32.639 --> 00:04:36.079 like an e school you know, the thing that you 74 00:04:36.319 --> 00:04:39.000 like you push with your feet and then you go 75 00:04:39.360 --> 00:04:43.360 and like how do you say it in English? I 76 00:04:43.360 --> 00:04:44.399 think it's an eacuder. 77 00:04:45.399 --> 00:04:49.040 You're not sitting down, you're standing up, okay. 78 00:04:48.720 --> 00:04:51.040 Yeah, and then the thing moves forward. 79 00:04:51.680 --> 00:04:56.560 Okay, I might something that that's called an EA scooter 80 00:04:56.759 --> 00:04:57.199 by the way. 81 00:04:57.920 --> 00:05:04.120 Okay, So but what happened? So you were traveling and 82 00:05:04.519 --> 00:05:10.240 someone hit you with their car? What happened they from behind? 83 00:05:10.439 --> 00:05:13.439 And what happened? Like what was the next thing you remember? 84 00:05:15.720 --> 00:05:16.480 So you have to know. 85 00:05:16.600 --> 00:05:21.160 So in Brussels we have shared EA scudas which he 86 00:05:21.240 --> 00:05:25.040 can only stop at certain spots in the city. In 87 00:05:25.160 --> 00:05:28.160 front of the Hucks and the hotel I was going 88 00:05:28.199 --> 00:05:31.199 to is when you look at the hotel, it's on 89 00:05:31.199 --> 00:05:34.600 the right side. So I was driving on the right side. 90 00:05:35.199 --> 00:05:39.040 I crossed the street this way and what happened is 91 00:05:39.319 --> 00:05:43.879 a car came driving by from the other way and 92 00:05:43.920 --> 00:05:48.160 so I was supposed to give priority to the car. 93 00:05:48.519 --> 00:05:53.399 But what I learned afterwards is the car hit me 94 00:05:53.480 --> 00:05:56.199 with a breaking speed of fifty five kilometers an hour 95 00:05:56.360 --> 00:06:01.120 in a thirty zone, which means that he was probably 96 00:06:01.439 --> 00:06:07.759 driving at ninety one hundred, which is pretty fast. And 97 00:06:07.800 --> 00:06:13.480 also because when I was already conscious and pretty awake, 98 00:06:13.720 --> 00:06:18.120 like getting more and more to being me, I was 99 00:06:18.160 --> 00:06:22.800 like thinking, impossible that I see a car coming to 100 00:06:22.879 --> 00:06:25.439 me at a certain speed and I just stay. 101 00:06:27.720 --> 00:06:29.240 Yeah, and I and. 102 00:06:29.199 --> 00:06:32.839 I just freeze, and possibly because I've always had good reflexes. 103 00:06:33.279 --> 00:06:36.199 Yeah, and then also. 104 00:06:36.040 --> 00:06:39.160 The danger coming to you, and that's one of the 105 00:06:39.199 --> 00:06:40.000 things that we do. 106 00:06:40.319 --> 00:06:41.319 We can freeze. 107 00:06:42.160 --> 00:06:44.639 No no, no, wait, no no. That was the thing I 108 00:06:44.680 --> 00:06:45.519 was asking myself. 109 00:06:46.120 --> 00:06:50.199 I do not have any memories of seeing him come 110 00:06:50.279 --> 00:06:50.920 in my way. 111 00:06:52.519 --> 00:06:53.399 And then also the. 112 00:06:53.319 --> 00:06:59.000 Expert wrote down in her report that the accident was inevitable, 113 00:06:59.600 --> 00:07:05.959 he came driving so fast. And then another fun fact 114 00:07:06.079 --> 00:07:09.480 is the driver in itself at the moment then I 115 00:07:09.519 --> 00:07:12.879 have his driver's license, it already had been taken away 116 00:07:12.920 --> 00:07:16.240 from him. So the moment that he so, the moment 117 00:07:16.240 --> 00:07:19.279 that it hit me driving way too fast, it did 118 00:07:19.319 --> 00:07:22.639 not even have his driver's license, and so that's where 119 00:07:22.680 --> 00:07:23.839 it gets disgusting. 120 00:07:23.959 --> 00:07:26.120 So what happens is I fall. 121 00:07:26.000 --> 00:07:30.480 On the front window on the roof, and then the 122 00:07:30.519 --> 00:07:33.079 person that found me, which is another long story, found 123 00:07:33.120 --> 00:07:35.639 me eleven meters further than a car eleven. 124 00:07:35.279 --> 00:07:39.319 Meters, so you had been thrown. I had thrown and 125 00:07:39.360 --> 00:07:41.079 the things. I wasn't wearing any helmets. 126 00:07:41.759 --> 00:07:47.560 And what happened is I fell on my head first thing, oh, 127 00:07:48.639 --> 00:07:54.040 skull open, suffocating on the spot. Yeah, it was, if 128 00:07:54.079 --> 00:07:57.920 I have to believe again, people that found me, it 129 00:07:58.000 --> 00:07:59.319 was disgusting to see. 130 00:08:00.439 --> 00:08:03.199 Oh my god, what a blessing they found you? And 131 00:08:03.240 --> 00:08:05.600 were you Were you in a ditch? Were you hidden? 132 00:08:05.920 --> 00:08:07.399 Is that why it was difficult to find me? 133 00:08:09.240 --> 00:08:13.680 Oh no, no at all. That's that's another funny, crazy story. 134 00:08:13.759 --> 00:08:19.879 So you need to know that my accountant since a 135 00:08:19.920 --> 00:08:23.560 couple of years already. So he's on his way to 136 00:08:23.920 --> 00:08:27.120 his aunt who lives in the center of Brussels, and 137 00:08:27.160 --> 00:08:31.319 he takes a route that he never takes usually mm hmmm, 138 00:08:32.679 --> 00:08:37.000 from Afar so and at the same time, his cousin 139 00:08:37.039 --> 00:08:40.240 who worked with us as a student back then, was 140 00:08:40.279 --> 00:08:43.039 sitting next to him, and from Afar he sees a 141 00:08:43.080 --> 00:08:46.480 couple of Cosmede two cars. I think making new terms, 142 00:08:46.960 --> 00:08:53.279 few terms. He gets closer, he sees a person laying 143 00:08:53.320 --> 00:08:57.399 on the floor on on the on the street, and 144 00:08:57.480 --> 00:09:02.399 he's like he's he's looking at like, how come there's 145 00:09:02.440 --> 00:09:05.320 a person in danger and these guys are making YouTube. 146 00:09:05.360 --> 00:09:06.240 So they stop the car. 147 00:09:07.320 --> 00:09:09.000 They get out of the car, and you need to 148 00:09:09.080 --> 00:09:14.879 know that since my sixteen years old, I've been wearing 149 00:09:15.399 --> 00:09:19.559 Nike Air Forces white every single day, like I have 150 00:09:19.879 --> 00:09:21.080 hairs of them at home. 151 00:09:22.159 --> 00:09:23.720 They get out of the car. 152 00:09:23.600 --> 00:09:26.799 They walk closer to the person laying on the floor, 153 00:09:26.879 --> 00:09:30.919 and they see the person is wearing Nike air Force White, 154 00:09:31.240 --> 00:09:35.679 and so my kind of has like this feel like 155 00:09:36.679 --> 00:09:40.879 I know him, I know this person. They get closer, 156 00:09:40.879 --> 00:09:43.399 but at the same time I'm gasping for that. 157 00:09:43.519 --> 00:09:46.000 I'm like I'm dying. 158 00:09:46.039 --> 00:09:49.879 I'm literally dying on the spot. They get closer, they 159 00:09:49.919 --> 00:09:53.679 see spin. He takes me, he takes me into his arms. 160 00:09:54.320 --> 00:09:57.440 Paramedics come, and you need to know that when the 161 00:09:57.480 --> 00:10:02.399 paramedics left the spot, and again, uh this fast forward. 162 00:10:02.399 --> 00:10:05.960 When they left the spot, he asked them and this 163 00:10:06.039 --> 00:10:08.679 is a movie kind of thing, like they're there in 164 00:10:08.720 --> 00:10:11.480 the back of the the ambulance. 165 00:10:11.639 --> 00:10:14.879 They look back. He asked them, like, is this guy's 166 00:10:14.919 --> 00:10:15.480 gonna make it? 167 00:10:16.799 --> 00:10:23.320 Like no, no, so at that at that moment, I 168 00:10:23.360 --> 00:10:24.600 was already supposed to die. 169 00:10:25.159 --> 00:10:28.440 Yes, were you conscious at that time? Or this is 170 00:10:28.440 --> 00:10:30.559 something they shared with you? 171 00:10:30.559 --> 00:10:32.440 Now they all shared, They all shared this. 172 00:10:32.559 --> 00:10:37.279 For me, I think it's incredible, your accountant, it must 173 00:10:37.320 --> 00:10:40.600 be pretty interesting to hear the story of why he 174 00:10:40.679 --> 00:10:44.799 went that way, right, because I believe in the higher power, 175 00:10:44.840 --> 00:10:47.080 and there's no mistakes that he was sent there to 176 00:10:47.200 --> 00:10:53.360 save you. But what's so incredible is that you were 177 00:10:53.399 --> 00:10:56.080 given a one percent chance to live? 178 00:10:58.360 --> 00:10:59.000 Is that correct? 179 00:10:59.039 --> 00:11:03.480 To at least live the way I'm talking to right now? 180 00:11:04.200 --> 00:11:08.399 Like the the percentages were like one of one out 181 00:11:08.440 --> 00:11:14.440 of a ten survives these kind of accidents, and then 182 00:11:14.679 --> 00:11:17.399 of that one out of a ten, only one out 183 00:11:17.399 --> 00:11:21.519 of a ten survives the way I did without any 184 00:11:21.519 --> 00:11:22.559 I major damages. 185 00:11:22.639 --> 00:11:25.360 Like yeah, if you look at me. 186 00:11:26.840 --> 00:11:30.919 Put open and you But were you in a coma 187 00:11:31.080 --> 00:11:32.120 for any amount of time? 188 00:11:32.840 --> 00:11:33.480 Three weeks? 189 00:11:34.000 --> 00:11:34.840 Three weeks? 190 00:11:35.120 --> 00:11:39.519 So you wake up and what happens, like what happened 191 00:11:39.519 --> 00:11:42.519 when you came to and do you remember anything when 192 00:11:42.559 --> 00:11:44.480 you were in the coma? 193 00:11:44.840 --> 00:11:45.200 Nothing? 194 00:11:45.679 --> 00:11:50.639 Nothing, Unfortunately, apparently that's the thing too, but unfortunately I 195 00:11:50.679 --> 00:11:52.039 did not have that opportunity. 196 00:11:52.200 --> 00:11:53.759 I was just sleeping for three weeks. 197 00:11:54.080 --> 00:11:58.960 You out, yeah, yeah, you you were recovering right, your 198 00:11:59.000 --> 00:12:01.039 brain with your brain, your body were healing. 199 00:12:01.840 --> 00:12:06.679 So what happened? You awoke and was your wife next 200 00:12:06.720 --> 00:12:07.679 to you? What happened? 201 00:12:08.600 --> 00:12:12.200 The things what I tell people a lot is the 202 00:12:12.360 --> 00:12:15.840 coma in itself took three weeks, but it was like 203 00:12:16.399 --> 00:12:19.000 five weeks were taken away from you because those first 204 00:12:19.080 --> 00:12:21.679 two weeks after me waking up, I was in a 205 00:12:21.840 --> 00:12:28.000 bad place, very few memories. I hallucinated a couple of times, 206 00:12:28.240 --> 00:12:31.080 and then there was also this This is also a 207 00:12:31.120 --> 00:12:34.480 funny story, So you need to know that the day 208 00:12:34.600 --> 00:12:38.840 of the accident itself, was supposed to call my best friend, 209 00:12:38.879 --> 00:12:41.799 who was back then living in New York about the 210 00:12:41.840 --> 00:12:45.279 business I had to call him, which of course then 211 00:12:45.360 --> 00:12:49.399 didn't happen. In that first week, when after I woke up, 212 00:12:49.440 --> 00:12:52.559 my wife called him on FaceTime. I completely forgot this. 213 00:12:53.639 --> 00:12:59.120 He reminded me of it months after. We're already in 214 00:12:59.159 --> 00:13:01.679 twenty twenty five, so last year he reminded me of 215 00:13:01.720 --> 00:13:05.360 this story, and so when we were calling I looked 216 00:13:05.360 --> 00:13:07.480 at him and said, oh, bro, I'm so sorry I 217 00:13:07.519 --> 00:13:10.679 didn't call you. But I was a bit busy, so 218 00:13:10.759 --> 00:13:14.200 I never realized how bad this situation for me. There 219 00:13:14.279 --> 00:13:17.120 was a couple of days that passed while it was 220 00:13:17.200 --> 00:13:20.639 three weeks. There's this crazy thing about how the brain 221 00:13:20.759 --> 00:13:22.600 works and what the brain. 222 00:13:22.360 --> 00:13:25.200 Is capable of, and I think that's also what. 223 00:13:25.399 --> 00:13:29.879 Made me, what made me recover the way I recovered, 224 00:13:30.000 --> 00:13:35.159 like the delusional part of not being conscious about how 225 00:13:35.480 --> 00:13:39.279 serious this situation because need to know, like after me 226 00:13:39.440 --> 00:13:44.720 waking up, I wasn't able to talk, I wasn't able 227 00:13:44.759 --> 00:13:48.360 to walk by myself. I wasn't able my wife had 228 00:13:48.399 --> 00:13:52.360 to wash me. My wife, I wasn't able to eat. 229 00:13:53.000 --> 00:13:54.320 So everything I had. 230 00:13:54.159 --> 00:13:55.080 To relearn again. 231 00:13:55.120 --> 00:13:58.759 But for me, it was like, come in a bad place, 232 00:13:58.840 --> 00:13:59.799 but let's do this. 233 00:14:00.919 --> 00:14:03.600 What was it like depending on somebody else for everything? 234 00:14:04.200 --> 00:14:05.639 The worst that was. 235 00:14:07.360 --> 00:14:14.720 Now, literally, Marci, literally the worst for someone that has 236 00:14:15.039 --> 00:14:20.399 always been not only the fact about being independent, but 237 00:14:20.559 --> 00:14:24.320 just being proud of being independent. 238 00:14:24.440 --> 00:14:24.679 Death. 239 00:14:26.279 --> 00:14:29.679 I cannot even I could not even go back to 240 00:14:30.399 --> 00:14:32.840 the way I was feeling. But I was in a 241 00:14:33.240 --> 00:14:38.759 bad place. I was complaining all the time. Everything was 242 00:14:38.840 --> 00:14:39.919 too much. I was so. 243 00:14:41.360 --> 00:14:47.120 Not patient. I was, I was delusional, I was. 244 00:14:47.120 --> 00:14:53.120 Using excuses and and at the same time, there was 245 00:14:53.240 --> 00:14:57.120 super funny situations and we even talked about it, my 246 00:14:57.159 --> 00:14:59.639 wife and I a couple of days ago, like when 247 00:14:59.639 --> 00:15:02.159 she was washing in the world, a couple of funny 248 00:15:02.159 --> 00:15:03.120 things that happened. 249 00:15:03.159 --> 00:15:05.919 But I can tell you, when you're thirty two years 250 00:15:06.120 --> 00:15:11.720 young and your own wife needs to literally with a 251 00:15:11.840 --> 00:15:18.120 forcare for shooting your mouth, tying your laces, putting on 252 00:15:18.240 --> 00:15:24.879 your shirt, while you have literally built your whole personality. 253 00:15:24.200 --> 00:15:26.279 On being. 254 00:15:27.559 --> 00:15:31.679 This, being the guy who is there who takes care 255 00:15:31.720 --> 00:15:34.639 of stuff, oh my god, it was. And it took, 256 00:15:34.679 --> 00:15:38.120 by the way, a very very long time, because even 257 00:15:38.200 --> 00:15:40.919 when I was already in rehab, I was telling my 258 00:15:40.960 --> 00:15:43.279 wife all the time, oh my god, I feel so shitty, 259 00:15:43.759 --> 00:15:49.720 like I cannot help you. I'm just far away from everything. 260 00:15:51.320 --> 00:15:54.720 And I think, as a man, right, you are raised 261 00:15:54.720 --> 00:15:57.000 and you feel that you have to be the caretaker 262 00:15:57.080 --> 00:16:00.360 and to have somebody else caring for you. I'm sure 263 00:16:00.399 --> 00:16:04.200 that was difficult, and obviously it was very difficult, and 264 00:16:04.399 --> 00:16:07.919 I can only imagine I've never gone through anything like that. 265 00:16:08.399 --> 00:16:12.440 Did you or your wife have any support during that time? 266 00:16:13.080 --> 00:16:18.679 Like maybe someone outside of the two of you that 267 00:16:18.720 --> 00:16:22.679 could help you physically, or did you have any mental support? 268 00:16:24.600 --> 00:16:27.519 All the time, you cannot do it. And then that's 269 00:16:27.519 --> 00:16:30.639 why I never talk about my This has never been 270 00:16:31.399 --> 00:16:32.120 my victory. 271 00:16:32.600 --> 00:16:38.480 This has always been our victory. You cannot do, by 272 00:16:38.519 --> 00:16:42.360 the way, this thing called life, especially when you're going 273 00:16:42.440 --> 00:16:45.879 through difficult situations. But this thing called life, we're not 274 00:16:45.960 --> 00:16:51.519 supposed to do this alone. It's very cliche, like show 275 00:16:51.600 --> 00:16:55.200 me your best friends, I'll tell you who you are. 276 00:16:55.240 --> 00:16:57.879 But it's a real thing, like when you have people 277 00:16:58.080 --> 00:17:02.720 around you that complain all the time, that always see 278 00:17:02.759 --> 00:17:09.000 the worst in situations, that never dream, Yeah, you're probably 279 00:17:09.039 --> 00:17:09.960 gonna find a way. 280 00:17:10.279 --> 00:17:12.119 And I always tell this like. 281 00:17:13.720 --> 00:17:17.599 I was lucky enough that I was already thirty two, 282 00:17:18.640 --> 00:17:21.160 and so I had already built life experience. 283 00:17:21.279 --> 00:17:23.759 I already built a support system around me. 284 00:17:24.000 --> 00:17:28.039 I was lucky with with the medical self and all that, 285 00:17:28.359 --> 00:17:34.200 but I had people around me that even when I 286 00:17:34.279 --> 00:17:37.599 was at my lowest, and Mary, I can tell you 287 00:17:37.759 --> 00:17:40.960 I was complaining all the time. And I'm, by the way, 288 00:17:41.599 --> 00:17:45.559 someone that never complains. I never do that. I'm the 289 00:17:45.599 --> 00:17:49.599 most high energy, the most optimistic person. And you can 290 00:17:49.680 --> 00:17:53.359 ask around. How will they will tell you? And I 291 00:17:53.400 --> 00:17:56.920 was just so bad and they will never And I 292 00:17:56.960 --> 00:17:58.799 was and I was missing a part of my skull, 293 00:17:59.160 --> 00:18:01.160 like the top of that, I was missing a part 294 00:18:01.160 --> 00:18:01.640 of my skull. 295 00:18:01.799 --> 00:18:03.960 My cervicles were fractured. 296 00:18:04.039 --> 00:18:06.680 I was in the hospital and I got people around 297 00:18:06.720 --> 00:18:09.680 me that weren't afraid to tell me, Hey, this and 298 00:18:09.799 --> 00:18:10.480 this isn't you. 299 00:18:11.960 --> 00:18:16.000 Are you going to keep on complaining? Are you ready 300 00:18:16.039 --> 00:18:17.319 to become better? 301 00:18:17.640 --> 00:18:21.920 Because you need to know that even walking ten meters 302 00:18:22.680 --> 00:18:27.119 physically felt like running American? Yeah, and they told me, 303 00:18:27.200 --> 00:18:32.279 like ten meters, pleas the twelve, that's the fifteen. No, 304 00:18:32.359 --> 00:18:35.039 but now that what I want to So you want 305 00:18:35.079 --> 00:18:38.680 to stay here? This is wake up a bit, please 306 00:18:39.319 --> 00:18:39.960 on touragi. 307 00:18:41.359 --> 00:18:47.640 It's everything create change is very hard work, right of course. Yeah, 308 00:18:48.799 --> 00:18:53.039 So what did this teach you about humility and trust 309 00:18:53.279 --> 00:18:54.279 and receiving help? 310 00:18:56.039 --> 00:18:57.279 That is a strength. 311 00:18:58.920 --> 00:19:05.920 Being ask just asking for help, especially as men, because 312 00:19:05.960 --> 00:19:12.559 we've been thought social media the past movies that asking 313 00:19:12.599 --> 00:19:15.559 for help is the week. Now it's a strength, or 314 00:19:15.599 --> 00:19:21.480 at least being open to it. Not necessarily asking. 315 00:19:21.119 --> 00:19:22.200 For me, but just. 316 00:19:23.880 --> 00:19:24.680 Be open to it. 317 00:19:25.400 --> 00:19:30.680 Yeah, accept it, accept it. That's a great way to put. 318 00:19:30.519 --> 00:19:32.680 It right, Yeah, just accept it. 319 00:19:35.440 --> 00:19:39.359 Well, from this, you have written a book called Everything 320 00:19:39.519 --> 00:19:44.559 Feels Impossible Until It's done. Yes, tell us about tell 321 00:19:44.640 --> 00:19:48.200 us about your book. What was that like writing your book? 322 00:19:50.319 --> 00:19:51.920 Oh, I've learned so much by the way. 323 00:19:51.960 --> 00:19:54.799 I told so many people, like, one thing I would 324 00:19:55.000 --> 00:19:58.519 suggest you to do is write a book about your story, 325 00:19:58.880 --> 00:20:02.759 not to necessarily publish it, but you'll learn so many things. 326 00:20:03.240 --> 00:20:06.319 And for me, it was like when I was in 327 00:20:06.640 --> 00:20:10.480 coma still, so many people told my wife, if there's 328 00:20:10.599 --> 00:20:15.839 someone that is going to survive this, it's Vincent. And 329 00:20:15.880 --> 00:20:18.759 then after me waking up, there were so many people 330 00:20:18.799 --> 00:20:22.279 telling me like medical staff, friends, stranger that told me 331 00:20:22.359 --> 00:20:24.839 like there but your mindset made the whole difference. 332 00:20:24.880 --> 00:20:29.440 And I was like, where do these two things come from? 333 00:20:29.839 --> 00:20:32.480 And then there was a second thing where my Auntie, 334 00:20:32.480 --> 00:20:34.400 when I was still in rehab, she told me so 335 00:20:34.440 --> 00:20:36.359 many times, you should write a book on all the 336 00:20:37.759 --> 00:20:41.200 It was the most difficult period of my whole life, 337 00:20:41.480 --> 00:20:44.440 but not the worst. We left so much and she 338 00:20:44.559 --> 00:20:46.279 told me so many times like you should write a 339 00:20:46.279 --> 00:20:48.960 book about all this. And then it was a thirteen 340 00:20:49.680 --> 00:20:58.200 way twenty nineteen. So until twenty nineteen, it was considered 341 00:20:58.720 --> 00:21:04.240 physically in power to run a marathon under two hours. 342 00:21:04.359 --> 00:21:05.240 A human body. 343 00:21:05.279 --> 00:21:08.799 A human body is not able to run a marathon 344 00:21:08.920 --> 00:21:13.920 under two hours. Elliott Kipchoggi comes around, he's already rund 345 00:21:13.960 --> 00:21:18.200 comes around and decides to run a marathon. This is 346 00:21:18.200 --> 00:21:21.039 not an official a marathon, so it never got registered, 347 00:21:21.039 --> 00:21:24.440 but you can look it up. By the way, runs 348 00:21:24.480 --> 00:21:30.440 a marathon in one hour fifteen nine minutes. Wow, okay, 349 00:21:30.640 --> 00:21:34.480 fifteen nine minutes forty seconds. 350 00:21:35.319 --> 00:21:36.279 Twenty nineteen. 351 00:21:36.960 --> 00:21:40.079 A couple of months ago, we're twenty twenty six, a 352 00:21:40.119 --> 00:21:44.400 couple of months ago. There's a London marathon. Two marathon 353 00:21:44.519 --> 00:21:50.559 runners in the same marathon run the marathon under two hours. 354 00:21:50.079 --> 00:21:56.960 It always And so this all came together in because 355 00:21:57.240 --> 00:22:03.000 the present, the DS were there. I was not supposed 356 00:22:03.000 --> 00:22:05.119 to talk to have this conversation with you right now. 357 00:22:05.599 --> 00:22:08.519 They were telling my wife, like, start preparing the funeral 358 00:22:08.559 --> 00:22:14.400 because your husband it's not gonna make it. Every like, 359 00:22:15.119 --> 00:22:21.160 when you're going through something difficult, it always seems it 360 00:22:21.200 --> 00:22:23.359 is always the worst. 361 00:22:23.039 --> 00:22:27.160 Thing in the whole world for you, which is okay, 362 00:22:27.960 --> 00:22:28.319 And it. 363 00:22:28.559 --> 00:22:36.720 Always seems feels impossible to go through and it could 364 00:22:36.759 --> 00:22:39.240 be whatever, Okay, I got hit by a car. 365 00:22:40.359 --> 00:22:43.039 It could be running a marathon under two hours. 366 00:22:43.519 --> 00:22:48.000 You just went through a divorce, you feel an exam, 367 00:22:48.319 --> 00:22:52.920 you try to lose weight, you try to do you 368 00:22:52.960 --> 00:22:54.079 try to. 369 00:22:53.720 --> 00:22:59.599 Earn more money. It always feels im possible until do it. 370 00:23:00.400 --> 00:23:05.000 And so the book is for kee. It's just like 371 00:23:05.319 --> 00:23:08.799 a means to an end for people to ask themselves 372 00:23:08.799 --> 00:23:12.880 the question why not mean? And set up why I mean? 373 00:23:13.480 --> 00:23:15.480 Because unfortunately for twenty six we. 374 00:23:15.480 --> 00:23:21.759 Got so good at victimizing, and it's always something or 375 00:23:22.000 --> 00:23:26.640 someone else, and then it's a society, and then it's government, 376 00:23:26.839 --> 00:23:31.279 and then it's our friends, our family, our husband, wife. 377 00:23:32.279 --> 00:23:33.920 Not writing your book. 378 00:23:34.160 --> 00:23:36.039 So one of the things I was thinking of what 379 00:23:36.680 --> 00:23:41.039 thinking it was impossible. I'm almost eleven years sober, and 380 00:23:41.119 --> 00:23:44.599 I thought I would never live life without alcohol. I mean, 381 00:23:44.640 --> 00:23:48.319 it was what I knew. And then I wrote my 382 00:23:48.440 --> 00:23:51.880 memoir and it's so true, Like writing your book, it 383 00:23:51.960 --> 00:23:54.839 was one of the most cathartic things for me to 384 00:23:54.920 --> 00:23:59.720 ever do, like going back and reliving the story over 385 00:23:59.759 --> 00:24:03.839 and over, but in a different way. Uh, the abuse 386 00:24:03.960 --> 00:24:09.640 and such that that formed me and you know, took 387 00:24:09.720 --> 00:24:10.799 me to coping with. 388 00:24:10.799 --> 00:24:11.839 Alcohol, right, But. 389 00:24:13.279 --> 00:24:17.440 It's it's so healing if you approach it in the 390 00:24:17.519 --> 00:24:21.519 right way right and then you then you find from 391 00:24:21.599 --> 00:24:25.279 that the miracles throughout it, and then how you can 392 00:24:25.319 --> 00:24:27.240 turn that around and then help other people. 393 00:24:28.039 --> 00:24:30.279 Always always bottle. 394 00:24:30.000 --> 00:24:35.799 Once mm hmm. Yeah. So how are you helping people today? 395 00:24:36.799 --> 00:24:40.759 Not only today? The only thing I did reacting, I 396 00:24:40.880 --> 00:24:42.039 just filter everything. 397 00:24:42.559 --> 00:24:45.720 I've been helping people since as long as I can remember, 398 00:24:46.759 --> 00:24:49.279 which was again, by the way, proven when I was 399 00:24:49.319 --> 00:24:49.759 in Coma. 400 00:24:49.839 --> 00:24:53.200 You, Marcy, you need to know there was crazy things and. 401 00:24:54.599 --> 00:24:59.200