Speaker 1: I know him, I know this person. They get closer,
Speaker 1: but at the same time I'm gasping for that. I'm like,
Speaker 1: I'm dying. I'm literally dying on the spot. They get closer,
Speaker 1: they see me, takes me into his arms. Paramedics come,
Speaker 1: and you need to know that. When the paramedics left
Speaker 1: the spot, and again I'm this fast forward.
Speaker 2: When they left the spot, he asked them, and.
Speaker 1: This is a movie kind of thing, like they're they're
Speaker 1: in the back of the ambulance.
Speaker 2: They look back. He asked them, like this guy is
Speaker 2: gonna make it.
Speaker 1: They're like, no, No, at that moment, I was already
Speaker 1: supposed to die.
Speaker 3: Yes, were you conscious at that time?
Speaker 4: This is Wake Up with Marcy, a space for honest
Speaker 4: conversations about healing, recovery, and women's wellness. I'm Marcy Hopkins.
Speaker 4: Take a breath, You're safe here.
Speaker 3: Let's begin.
Speaker 4: What if everything you believed about your life changed in
Speaker 4: a single moment. One day you're making plans, you're building
Speaker 4: your future, living life at full speed, and the next you.
Speaker 3: Are fighting to survive.
Speaker 4: What do you do when you're told there's almost no
Speaker 4: chance that you'll make it. Do you give up? Or
Speaker 4: do you rebuild. Today's conversation is about rebuilding. About my guest, Vincent,
Speaker 4: being told he only had a one percent chance to live,
Speaker 4: and he chose to live and to rebuild. So today
Speaker 4: we're going to learn about that resilience and that purpose
Speaker 4: and discovering that sometimes the life that you've never planned
Speaker 4: becomes the one you're most grateful to live. So if
Speaker 4: you've ever felt like you've been knocked down, if you've
Speaker 4: ever wondered if it's too late to start over, then
Speaker 4: this episode is for you.
Speaker 3: Welcome all to wake up with Marcy.
Speaker 4: I'm so grateful you are back, and if you are
Speaker 4: new here, welcome. I am always so appreciative to all
Speaker 4: of you that are listening or watching.
Speaker 3: I'm Marcy Hopkins. I'm your host.
Speaker 4: I am an author, TV host, motivational speaker, mental health advocate, and.
Speaker 3: I am also in long term recovery.
Speaker 4: On this show, we have honest, raw conversations about mental health, healing,
Speaker 4: self discovery, and what it really takes to rebuild your life.
Speaker 4: And today's guest reminds us that life can change in
Speaker 4: an instant. The question isn't whether we'll face adversity, The
Speaker 4: question is who do we become because of it. Today
Speaker 4: we will meet Vincent van Denbrook. Vincent is an entrepreneur,
Speaker 4: founder of the Uid Club, podcast host, and the author
Speaker 4: of the upcoming book Everything Feels Impossible until It's Done.
Speaker 4: After surviving a near fatal accident that left him with
Speaker 4: just one percent chance of survival, Vincent faced the unimaginable
Speaker 4: challenge of rebuilding not only his body but his entire life. Today,
Speaker 4: he's helping people to stop living on autopilot and start
Speaker 4: intentionally designing lives built on purpose, resilience, health, meaningful relationships,
Speaker 4: and financial freedom. Now, let's welcome Vincent to the show
Speaker 4: and welcome to Wake Up with Marci.
Speaker 2: Thank you for having me for real.
Speaker 4: I'm grateful that you were here and you had a
Speaker 4: life changing experience on October eleventh, twenty twenty four. Everything
Speaker 4: changed for you. So what do you remember about that day?
Speaker 4: What happened.
Speaker 2: About that day? Everything?
Speaker 1: But the most important thing I remember in the morning,
Speaker 1: getting back to from my wife working during the day,
Speaker 1: being at a carring event that we did with the
Speaker 1: business with my wife, leaving from that event to go
Speaker 1: finish an important file, and that's it, and that's it,
Speaker 1: and then afterwards it on my way to the place
Speaker 1: I was gonna send the file.
Speaker 2: I got her bike.
Speaker 3: Car and d is that correct?
Speaker 1: An eascouter and like the you know a school thing, Yeah,
Speaker 1: scool thing, not like it's not a scooter. Like it's
Speaker 1: like an e school you know, the thing that you
Speaker 1: like you push with your feet and then you go
Speaker 1: and like how do you say it in English? I
Speaker 1: think it's an eacuder.
Speaker 3: You're not sitting down, you're standing up, okay.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and then the thing moves forward.
Speaker 1: Okay, I might something that that's called an EA scooter
Speaker 1: by the way.
Speaker 4: Okay, So but what happened? So you were traveling and
Speaker 4: someone hit you with their car? What happened they from behind?
Speaker 4: And what happened? Like what was the next thing you remember?
Speaker 2: So you have to know.
Speaker 1: So in Brussels we have shared EA scudas which he
Speaker 1: can only stop at certain spots in the city. In
Speaker 1: front of the Hucks and the hotel I was going
Speaker 1: to is when you look at the hotel, it's on
Speaker 1: the right side. So I was driving on the right side.
Speaker 1: I crossed the street this way and what happened is
Speaker 1: a car came driving by from the other way and
Speaker 1: so I was supposed to give priority to the car.
Speaker 1: But what I learned afterwards is the car hit me
Speaker 1: with a breaking speed of fifty five kilometers an hour
Speaker 1: in a thirty zone, which means that he was probably
Speaker 1: driving at ninety one hundred, which is pretty fast. And
Speaker 1: also because when I was already conscious and pretty awake,
Speaker 1: like getting more and more to being me, I was
Speaker 1: like thinking, impossible that I see a car coming to
Speaker 1: me at a certain speed and I just stay.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and I and.
Speaker 1: I just freeze, and possibly because I've always had good reflexes.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and then also.
Speaker 4: The danger coming to you, and that's one of the
Speaker 4: things that we do.
Speaker 3: We can freeze.
Speaker 2: No no, no, wait, no no. That was the thing I
Speaker 2: was asking myself.
Speaker 1: I do not have any memories of seeing him come
Speaker 1: in my way.
Speaker 2: And then also the.
Speaker 1: Expert wrote down in her report that the accident was inevitable,
Speaker 1: he came driving so fast. And then another fun fact
Speaker 1: is the driver in itself at the moment then I
Speaker 1: have his driver's license, it already had been taken away
Speaker 1: from him. So the moment that he so, the moment
Speaker 1: that it hit me driving way too fast, it did
Speaker 1: not even have his driver's license, and so that's where
Speaker 1: it gets disgusting.
Speaker 2: So what happens is I fall.
Speaker 1: On the front window on the roof, and then the
Speaker 1: person that found me, which is another long story, found
Speaker 1: me eleven meters further than a car eleven.
Speaker 2: Meters, so you had been thrown. I had thrown and
Speaker 2: the things. I wasn't wearing any helmets.
Speaker 1: And what happened is I fell on my head first thing, oh,
Speaker 1: skull open, suffocating on the spot. Yeah, it was, if
Speaker 1: I have to believe again, people that found me, it
Speaker 1: was disgusting to see.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, what a blessing they found you? And
Speaker 3: were you Were you in a ditch? Were you hidden?
Speaker 3: Is that why it was difficult to find me?
Speaker 1: Oh no, no at all. That's that's another funny, crazy story.
Speaker 1: So you need to know that my accountant since a
Speaker 1: couple of years already. So he's on his way to
Speaker 1: his aunt who lives in the center of Brussels, and
Speaker 1: he takes a route that he never takes usually mm hmmm,
Speaker 1: from Afar so and at the same time, his cousin
Speaker 1: who worked with us as a student back then, was
Speaker 1: sitting next to him, and from Afar he sees a
Speaker 1: couple of Cosmede two cars. I think making new terms,
Speaker 1: few terms. He gets closer, he sees a person laying
Speaker 1: on the floor on on the on the street, and
Speaker 1: he's like he's he's looking at like, how come there's
Speaker 1: a person in danger and these guys are making YouTube.
Speaker 2: So they stop the car.
Speaker 1: They get out of the car, and you need to
Speaker 1: know that since my sixteen years old, I've been wearing
Speaker 1: Nike Air Forces white every single day, like I have
Speaker 1: hairs of them at home.
Speaker 2: They get out of the car.
Speaker 1: They walk closer to the person laying on the floor,
Speaker 1: and they see the person is wearing Nike air Force White,
Speaker 1: and so my kind of has like this feel like
Speaker 1: I know him, I know this person. They get closer,
Speaker 1: but at the same time I'm gasping for that.
Speaker 2: I'm like I'm dying.
Speaker 1: I'm literally dying on the spot. They get closer, they
Speaker 1: see spin. He takes me, he takes me into his arms.
Speaker 1: Paramedics come, and you need to know that when the
Speaker 1: paramedics left the spot, and again, uh this fast forward.
Speaker 1: When they left the spot, he asked them and this
Speaker 1: is a movie kind of thing, like they're there in
Speaker 1: the back of the the ambulance.
Speaker 2: They look back. He asked them, like, is this guy's
Speaker 2: gonna make it?
Speaker 1: Like no, no, so at that at that moment, I
Speaker 1: was already supposed to die.
Speaker 3: Yes, were you conscious at that time? Or this is
Speaker 3: something they shared with you?
Speaker 2: Now they all shared, They all shared this.
Speaker 4: For me, I think it's incredible, your accountant, it must
Speaker 4: be pretty interesting to hear the story of why he
Speaker 4: went that way, right, because I believe in the higher power,
Speaker 4: and there's no mistakes that he was sent there to
Speaker 4: save you. But what's so incredible is that you were
Speaker 4: given a one percent chance to live?
Speaker 3: Is that correct?
Speaker 2: To at least live the way I'm talking to right now?
Speaker 1: Like the the percentages were like one of one out
Speaker 1: of a ten survives these kind of accidents, and then
Speaker 1: of that one out of a ten, only one out
Speaker 1: of a ten survives the way I did without any
Speaker 1: I major damages.
Speaker 2: Like yeah, if you look at me.
Speaker 4: Put open and you But were you in a coma
Speaker 4: for any amount of time?
Speaker 2: Three weeks?
Speaker 3: Three weeks?
Speaker 4: So you wake up and what happens, like what happened
Speaker 4: when you came to and do you remember anything when
Speaker 4: you were in the coma?
Speaker 2: Nothing?
Speaker 1: Nothing, Unfortunately, apparently that's the thing too, but unfortunately I
Speaker 1: did not have that opportunity.
Speaker 2: I was just sleeping for three weeks.
Speaker 4: You out, yeah, yeah, you you were recovering right, your
Speaker 4: brain with your brain, your body were healing.
Speaker 3: So what happened? You awoke and was your wife next
Speaker 3: to you? What happened?
Speaker 1: The things what I tell people a lot is the
Speaker 1: coma in itself took three weeks, but it was like
Speaker 1: five weeks were taken away from you because those first
Speaker 1: two weeks after me waking up, I was in a
Speaker 1: bad place, very few memories. I hallucinated a couple of times,
Speaker 1: and then there was also this This is also a
Speaker 1: funny story, So you need to know that the day
Speaker 1: of the accident itself, was supposed to call my best friend,
Speaker 1: who was back then living in New York about the
Speaker 1: business I had to call him, which of course then
Speaker 1: didn't happen. In that first week, when after I woke up,
Speaker 1: my wife called him on FaceTime. I completely forgot this.
Speaker 1: He reminded me of it months after. We're already in
Speaker 1: twenty twenty five, so last year he reminded me of
Speaker 1: this story, and so when we were calling I looked
Speaker 1: at him and said, oh, bro, I'm so sorry I
Speaker 1: didn't call you. But I was a bit busy, so
Speaker 1: I never realized how bad this situation for me. There
Speaker 1: was a couple of days that passed while it was
Speaker 1: three weeks. There's this crazy thing about how the brain
Speaker 1: works and what the brain.
Speaker 2: Is capable of, and I think that's also what.
Speaker 1: Made me, what made me recover the way I recovered,
Speaker 1: like the delusional part of not being conscious about how
Speaker 1: serious this situation because need to know, like after me
Speaker 1: waking up, I wasn't able to talk, I wasn't able
Speaker 1: to walk by myself. I wasn't able my wife had
Speaker 1: to wash me. My wife, I wasn't able to eat.
Speaker 1: So everything I had.
Speaker 2: To relearn again.
Speaker 1: But for me, it was like, come in a bad place,
Speaker 1: but let's do this.
Speaker 3: What was it like depending on somebody else for everything?
Speaker 2: The worst that was.
Speaker 1: Now, literally, Marci, literally the worst for someone that has
Speaker 1: always been not only the fact about being independent, but
Speaker 1: just being proud of being independent.
Speaker 3: Death.
Speaker 1: I cannot even I could not even go back to
Speaker 1: the way I was feeling. But I was in a
Speaker 1: bad place. I was complaining all the time. Everything was
Speaker 1: too much. I was so.
Speaker 2: Not patient. I was, I was delusional, I was.
Speaker 5: Using excuses and and at the same time, there was
Speaker 5: super funny situations and we even talked about it, my
Speaker 5: wife and I a couple of days ago, like when
Speaker 5: she was washing in the world, a couple of funny
Speaker 5: things that happened.
Speaker 1: But I can tell you, when you're thirty two years
Speaker 1: young and your own wife needs to literally with a
Speaker 1: forcare for shooting your mouth, tying your laces, putting on
Speaker 1: your shirt, while you have literally built your whole personality.
Speaker 2: On being.
Speaker 1: This, being the guy who is there who takes care
Speaker 1: of stuff, oh my god, it was. And it took,
Speaker 1: by the way, a very very long time, because even
Speaker 1: when I was already in rehab, I was telling my
Speaker 1: wife all the time, oh my god, I feel so shitty,
Speaker 1: like I cannot help you. I'm just far away from everything.
Speaker 4: And I think, as a man, right, you are raised
Speaker 4: and you feel that you have to be the caretaker
Speaker 4: and to have somebody else caring for you. I'm sure
Speaker 4: that was difficult, and obviously it was very difficult, and
Speaker 4: I can only imagine I've never gone through anything like that.
Speaker 4: Did you or your wife have any support during that time?
Speaker 4: Like maybe someone outside of the two of you that
Speaker 4: could help you physically, or did you have any mental support?
Speaker 2: All the time, you cannot do it. And then that's
Speaker 2: why I never talk about my This has never been
Speaker 2: my victory.
Speaker 1: This has always been our victory. You cannot do, by
Speaker 1: the way, this thing called life, especially when you're going
Speaker 1: through difficult situations. But this thing called life, we're not
Speaker 1: supposed to do this alone. It's very cliche, like show
Speaker 1: me your best friends, I'll tell you who you are.
Speaker 1: But it's a real thing, like when you have people
Speaker 1: around you that complain all the time, that always see
Speaker 1: the worst in situations, that never dream, Yeah, you're probably
Speaker 1: gonna find a way.
Speaker 2: And I always tell this like.
Speaker 1: I was lucky enough that I was already thirty two,
Speaker 1: and so I had already built life experience.
Speaker 2: I already built a support system around me.
Speaker 1: I was lucky with with the medical self and all that,
Speaker 1: but I had people around me that even when I
Speaker 1: was at my lowest, and Mary, I can tell you
Speaker 1: I was complaining all the time. And I'm, by the way,
Speaker 1: someone that never complains. I never do that. I'm the
Speaker 1: most high energy, the most optimistic person. And you can
Speaker 1: ask around. How will they will tell you? And I
Speaker 1: was just so bad and they will never And I
Speaker 1: was and I was missing a part of my skull,
Speaker 1: like the top of that, I was missing a part
Speaker 1: of my skull.
Speaker 2: My cervicles were fractured.
Speaker 1: I was in the hospital and I got people around
Speaker 1: me that weren't afraid to tell me, Hey, this and
Speaker 1: this isn't you.
Speaker 2: Are you going to keep on complaining? Are you ready
Speaker 2: to become better?
Speaker 1: Because you need to know that even walking ten meters
Speaker 1: physically felt like running American? Yeah, and they told me,
Speaker 1: like ten meters, pleas the twelve, that's the fifteen. No,
Speaker 1: but now that what I want to So you want
Speaker 1: to stay here? This is wake up a bit, please
Speaker 1: on touragi.
Speaker 4: It's everything create change is very hard work, right of course. Yeah,
Speaker 4: So what did this teach you about humility and trust
Speaker 4: and receiving help?
Speaker 2: That is a strength.
Speaker 1: Being ask just asking for help, especially as men, because
Speaker 1: we've been thought social media the past movies that asking
Speaker 1: for help is the week. Now it's a strength, or
Speaker 1: at least being open to it. Not necessarily asking.
Speaker 4: For me, but just.
Speaker 2: Be open to it.
Speaker 4: Yeah, accept it, accept it. That's a great way to put.
Speaker 2: It right, Yeah, just accept it.
Speaker 4: Well, from this, you have written a book called Everything
Speaker 4: Feels Impossible Until It's done. Yes, tell us about tell
Speaker 4: us about your book. What was that like writing your book?
Speaker 2: Oh, I've learned so much by the way.
Speaker 1: I told so many people, like, one thing I would
Speaker 1: suggest you to do is write a book about your story,
Speaker 1: not to necessarily publish it, but you'll learn so many things.
Speaker 1: And for me, it was like when I was in
Speaker 1: coma still, so many people told my wife, if there's
Speaker 1: someone that is going to survive this, it's Vincent. And
Speaker 1: then after me waking up, there were so many people
Speaker 1: telling me like medical staff, friends, stranger that told me
Speaker 1: like there but your mindset made the whole difference.
Speaker 2: And I was like, where do these two things come from?
Speaker 1: And then there was a second thing where my Auntie,
Speaker 1: when I was still in rehab, she told me so
Speaker 1: many times, you should write a book on all the
Speaker 1: It was the most difficult period of my whole life,
Speaker 1: but not the worst. We left so much and she
Speaker 1: told me so many times like you should write a
Speaker 1: book about all this. And then it was a thirteen
Speaker 1: way twenty nineteen. So until twenty nineteen, it was considered
Speaker 1: physically in power to run a marathon under two hours.
Speaker 2: A human body.
Speaker 1: A human body is not able to run a marathon
Speaker 1: under two hours. Elliott Kipchoggi comes around, he's already rund
Speaker 1: comes around and decides to run a marathon. This is
Speaker 1: not an official a marathon, so it never got registered,
Speaker 1: but you can look it up. By the way, runs
Speaker 1: a marathon in one hour fifteen nine minutes. Wow, okay,
Speaker 1: fifteen nine minutes forty seconds.
Speaker 2: Twenty nineteen.
Speaker 1: A couple of months ago, we're twenty twenty six, a
Speaker 1: couple of months ago. There's a London marathon. Two marathon
Speaker 1: runners in the same marathon run the marathon under two hours.
Speaker 1: It always And so this all came together in because
Speaker 1: the present, the DS were there. I was not supposed
Speaker 1: to talk to have this conversation with you right now.
Speaker 1: They were telling my wife, like, start preparing the funeral
Speaker 1: because your husband it's not gonna make it. Every like,
Speaker 1: when you're going through something difficult, it always seems it
Speaker 1: is always the worst.
Speaker 2: Thing in the whole world for you, which is okay,
Speaker 2: And it.
Speaker 6: Always seems feels impossible to go through and it could
Speaker 6: be whatever, Okay, I got hit by a car.
Speaker 2: It could be running a marathon under two hours.
Speaker 1: You just went through a divorce, you feel an exam,
Speaker 1: you try to lose weight, you try to do you
Speaker 1: try to.
Speaker 2: Earn more money. It always feels im possible until do it.
Speaker 2: And so the book is for kee. It's just like
Speaker 2: a means to an end for people to ask themselves
Speaker 2: the question why not mean? And set up why I mean?
Speaker 2: Because unfortunately for twenty six we.
Speaker 7: Got so good at victimizing, and it's always something or
Speaker 7: someone else, and then it's a society, and then it's government,
Speaker 7: and then it's our friends, our family, our husband, wife.
Speaker 3: Not writing your book.
Speaker 4: So one of the things I was thinking of what
Speaker 4: thinking it was impossible. I'm almost eleven years sober, and
Speaker 4: I thought I would never live life without alcohol. I mean,
Speaker 4: it was what I knew. And then I wrote my
Speaker 4: memoir and it's so true, Like writing your book, it
Speaker 4: was one of the most cathartic things for me to
Speaker 4: ever do, like going back and reliving the story over
Speaker 4: and over, but in a different way. Uh, the abuse
Speaker 4: and such that that formed me and you know, took
Speaker 4: me to coping with.
Speaker 3: Alcohol, right, But.
Speaker 4: It's it's so healing if you approach it in the
Speaker 4: right way right and then you then you find from
Speaker 4: that the miracles throughout it, and then how you can
Speaker 4: turn that around and then help other people.
Speaker 2: Always always bottle.
Speaker 3: Once mm hmm. Yeah. So how are you helping people today?
Speaker 2: Not only today? The only thing I did reacting, I
Speaker 2: just filter everything.
Speaker 1: I've been helping people since as long as I can remember,
Speaker 1: which was again, by the way, proven when I was
Speaker 1: in Coma.
Speaker 2: You, Marcy, you need to know there was crazy things and.
Speaker 1: Unfortunately I wasn't able to live it because I was sleep.
Speaker 2: I was in came But you need to know.
Speaker 1: When I was in ICU, there were lines outside of ICU.
Speaker 1: Hundreds of people wanted to just visit. My wife had
Speaker 1: to put up a word document for people meant to register.
Speaker 2: Marcy. It was crazy. There were.
Speaker 1: From all over the world, all over Belgium, people that
Speaker 1: I did not even know that I just crossed ones
Speaker 1: wise three times. People from the businesses that we owned, friends, families, strangers,
Speaker 1: even clients from the business caving like big companies.
Speaker 2: All because you try to.
Speaker 1: Be someone to people around you and you hope that
Speaker 1: people see you in the same way. And then there's
Speaker 1: this one thing like what what would you like people
Speaker 1: to tell about you when you're not there anymore at
Speaker 1: your funeral? And and it even gives me goose first
Speaker 1: right now, like my family bought my family, my wife,
Speaker 1: they bought me books when I was telling coma black
Speaker 1: books where doctor's therapist, friends, family could write in it.
Speaker 1: And in the beginning it was sort of like a
Speaker 1: goodbye word because again the narrative was like, this guy
Speaker 1: is not going to survive. And the most amazing thing
Speaker 1: I was able to witness is reading all that while
Speaker 1: still being in life. These were things people were going
Speaker 1: to tell about me when I was dead, And I
Speaker 1: was able to read all that while still be until
Speaker 1: today and a couple of weeks ago i read it
Speaker 1: for the last for the last time.
Speaker 2: I still cry. You know what people tell about you?
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know what's beautiful things like? And again it
Speaker 1: all goes back to the and you can call it whatever.
Speaker 1: You can call it God, you can call it energy,
Speaker 1: you can call it luck, you could call it destiny.
Speaker 2: But there was never a plan.
Speaker 1: B Vincent was supposed to survive what was considered impossible.
Speaker 4: Well, that's what I wanted to ask you. What is you?
Speaker 4: What is your spiritual connection today?
Speaker 1: Oh my godness, that's an amazing question, because I had
Speaker 1: a tough time, because I'm somemo'st I'm super rational, Like
Speaker 1: I had such a hard time believing or being convinced
Speaker 1: that there's like a God somewhere out there looking down
Speaker 1: on October the eleventh and telling him some.
Speaker 2: Today, this guy's gonna say that I had a hard time.
Speaker 2: I couldn't.
Speaker 1: I could not wrap my head around it impossible. And
Speaker 1: then I was walking through Brussels. This is already more
Speaker 1: than a year ago. I was walking through Brussels and
Speaker 1: I was like, Hey, no, a lot but todd life. Hey,
Speaker 1: maybe God lives through.
Speaker 2: All of us.
Speaker 3: Thank you, that's what I believe.
Speaker 2: Yeah, he might lifts through Marcy lives to Vincent.
Speaker 1: And I'm having, by the way, a lot of this
Speaker 1: conversation with a lot of people nowadays, and I tell them,
Speaker 1: he already did his work in He already puts you
Speaker 1: on this earth. He already put thoughts in your head.
Speaker 1: Information is out there. We live in a society where
Speaker 1: life is by definition.
Speaker 2: Pretty easy for you.
Speaker 1: It must for you for me, it's pretty easy for
Speaker 1: a lot of us. It's a bit more difficult, but
Speaker 1: for us it's pretty easy. What what do you expect
Speaker 1: when you pray that he pays your rent, that he
Speaker 1: pays your salary, Like, come on, yeah, I know, come on,
Speaker 1: Like everything you need is out there. It's not supposed
Speaker 1: to be easy. It is going to be difficult, and
Speaker 1: we're going to make a lot of mistakes.
Speaker 2: But you complaining.
Speaker 1: About not getting whatever you want to get while not
Speaker 1: doing the work, it's gonna one day lead up to regret.
Speaker 1: Please stop it. He already did this work.
Speaker 4: So with that, what matters to you now that perhaps
Speaker 4: didn't matter to you before.
Speaker 1: I even posted on it a couple of months ago.
Speaker 1: It's funny how ambition can change from opening I've always
Speaker 1: been in hospitality, from opening more restaurants to just being helping.
Speaker 2: I can tell you right now what matters to me is.
Speaker 1: Living as long as I can in the best shape
Speaker 1: that I can.
Speaker 2: I'm going harder.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm not negotiable anymore, And unconsciously I was already
Speaker 1: before the accident. But I'm detailed and I went deep
Speaker 1: into the research on supplementing, on movement and nutrition, on
Speaker 1: chronic stress. All that I'm going hard I'm trying to
Speaker 1: prove everyone, first of all myself, but everyone around me.
Speaker 1: From afar and from very close, you can go a
Speaker 1: very long way while enjoying life to the fullest. By
Speaker 1: the way, and this is my ultimate goal, being able
Speaker 1: to tell myself and I encourage everyone to do. Everyone
Speaker 1: that is listening, by the way, right now, the last
Speaker 1: moment on this earth, you being able to stare yourself. Wow,
Speaker 1: what an amazing life that I have. I did everything
Speaker 1: I wanted to do, and I said everything I wanted
Speaker 1: to say. Whatever that looks like right now today, Marci,
Speaker 1: for you, as for me, might look different than five
Speaker 1: years ago, and will look different in five years or
Speaker 1: in ten years and fifteen years. And you just need
Speaker 1: to be all the time. And that's where it gets tricky,
Speaker 1: because you need to be honest towards yourself every single moment.
Speaker 1: And we got so good in twenty twenty six I
Speaker 1: lying to ourselves and prepening and stop all that, please.
Speaker 3: Yeah, one hundred percent. Hi.
Speaker 4: Let me tell you when I stopped lying to myself
Speaker 4: and lying to others, and life changed tremendously.
Speaker 3: And there's like this weight that just comes.
Speaker 2: Off your shoulders, right yep.
Speaker 4: So I'm going to take just a quick break and
Speaker 4: share about my new book, wake Up You're Not Broken.
Speaker 4: Are you in the first thirty days of sobriety or
Speaker 4: wondering if now is your time to start?
Speaker 3: Hi?
Speaker 4: I'm Marcy Hopkins and I wrote wake Up You're Not
Speaker 4: Broken just for you.
Speaker 3: It's a real.
Speaker 4: Raw guide to those first thirty days, what no one
Speaker 4: tells you, what you will feel, and how to keep going.
Speaker 4: This isn't about perfection, It's about progress. Or to your
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Speaker 4: You're waking up. Hello all, Welcome back, Vincent. It's just
Speaker 4: incredible that you are here with us today after what
Speaker 4: you went through, and you've shared some incredible insights and
Speaker 4: how things have changed for you. But as you've created
Speaker 4: these changes in your life, in your life, and one
Speaker 4: of the things that you've talked about is taking action, right,
Speaker 4: we have to take action to create the change. So
Speaker 4: what are some consistent actions that you've taken to help
Speaker 4: you daily habits that have helped you to change your
Speaker 4: outlook in life and the trajectory of your life.
Speaker 2: I hope you're ready, Marci.
Speaker 1: First of all, what you just said is literally the
Speaker 1: most important thing everyone could should realize and should accept.
Speaker 2: Big change is done in the big moments. It's always done.
Speaker 1: And the small daily habits and the small decisions, and
Speaker 1: it's oh there's a lot, Oh my god, there's a lot.
Speaker 1: First of all, keep word to yourself you were gonna
Speaker 1: wake up at seven or six or eight whatever. Second,
Speaker 1: follow your own happiness, not your parents, not your family,
Speaker 1: not your friends. And again it always goes back to
Speaker 1: the you know, let me make it easy. There's these
Speaker 1: three questions I encourage everyone to ask themselves at the
Speaker 1: end of every day, not just one, but every day.
Speaker 1: First did I do everything I had to do and
Speaker 1: wanted to do today?
Speaker 2: Yes? And no? And why? Two? Am I truly happy? Yes?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 2: And why? And three was that better today than I
Speaker 2: was yesterday? Yes?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 2: Why?
Speaker 1: If you're able to tell me, Because again, there are
Speaker 1: days life is life. There are days that you'll be
Speaker 1: less happy. There were days that you were not able
Speaker 1: to do everything. But if you're able to chase yes,
Speaker 1: to answer yes to those three questions as much as
Speaker 1: you can, for as long as you can, I can
Speaker 1: tell you, Marcy in your life is going to be
Speaker 1: pretty amazing. Yea, and whatever that, whatever that looks like
Speaker 1: for you, as for me today, as for everyone that
Speaker 1: is listening right now, will be different than.
Speaker 2: In five years, ten years.
Speaker 1: And you just need to be conscious about it, intentional
Speaker 1: about it.
Speaker 2: We need to be like we live.
Speaker 1: Life automatic pilot, every every single one of us. And
Speaker 1: ask everyone that already flew a plane automatic talot goes
Speaker 1: for so long you cannot land a planet plane on
Speaker 1: automatic talent?
Speaker 2: Yes, or we got so good like we Marcy, look
Speaker 2: at this, we wake up. By the way, Wait where
Speaker 2: do you live right now? Wait? Wait you are right now.
Speaker 3: I'm in New Jersey.
Speaker 2: New Jersey, of case of New York. Go to Central station.
Speaker 2: Go to Central Station at eight a m.
Speaker 1: In the morning, and look at people how they're walking around.
Speaker 3: Mm hmm yeah, aimlessly.
Speaker 2: Yeah, automatic talent.
Speaker 1: They woke up in the morning just because they have
Speaker 1: to do a job for a certain paycheck that is
Speaker 1: going to afford their lives, start hopefully mm.
Speaker 3: Hmmm, doing the same thing over and over again, right by.
Speaker 2: Which, by the way, is good, which, by the way,
Speaker 2: is good.
Speaker 1: But where it gets funny is you have a lot
Speaker 1: of people that do a job that they actually hate
Speaker 1: for a paycheck that doesn't afford the lifestyle they built
Speaker 1: for themselves, with colleagues.
Speaker 2: That they hate and management that they hate.
Speaker 1: To then complain about that same job too, friends that
Speaker 1: they do not really like neither, And then we all
Speaker 1: ask ourselves how come we're burned out in the depression?
Speaker 1: Come on, please, But when you wake up every single
Speaker 1: day excited about your day?
Speaker 2: Were you excited about when you woke up this morning?
Speaker 2: Where you're excited?
Speaker 3: I'm always excited about a new day.
Speaker 1: Yeah, of course, you know, you know, you see you
Speaker 1: seem like it, but like exactly that whatever it looks like. Again,
Speaker 1: it might be you going to your job because you
Speaker 1: really love it, or you're going on vacation and you
Speaker 1: have something to do, and you just when.
Speaker 2: You wake up every most of your.
Speaker 1: Days excited, and then you go at the end of
Speaker 1: the day too bad, feeling at peace, like.
Speaker 2: It was amazing.
Speaker 1: Imagine Wait and that, because a year is pretty long.
Speaker 1: A year is three hundred and sixty five days. Imagine
Speaker 1: let's let's let's say not every single day, but let's
Speaker 1: say you do at least three hundred days like this,
Speaker 1: life all of a sudden becomes.
Speaker 2: Exciting, easier, mm hmm. That's what's been even changed.
Speaker 1: And that is and that is one decision, that is
Speaker 1: you deciding like, hey, what does Martian like when you're
Speaker 1: able to look at yourself in a mirror, and you'd
Speaker 1: be like, what does Martian.
Speaker 2: Really like doing today?
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean listen, it's it's your mindset and how
Speaker 4: you think about things and the practices that you incorporate
Speaker 4: in your day make a huge, huge change in the
Speaker 4: way you live your life. I mean, I lived as
Speaker 4: a victim for so very long because of trauma of
Speaker 4: my childhood, and once I made that decision, it was
Speaker 4: a very difficult decision, but it was life changing.
Speaker 3: But it was a decision.
Speaker 4: I mean, we have choices every single day and they're
Speaker 4: not easy.
Speaker 3: These things are not.
Speaker 4: Easy, but there's so right, so rewarding, And that's one
Speaker 4: of the things that you do. You encourage people to
Speaker 4: build their lives around their health and their mindset and
Speaker 4: their relationships and their financial freedom. So if someone out
Speaker 4: there is feeling overwhelmed, right, we're talking about these things, but.
Speaker 3: Where can they begin? Where can they start with? Which
Speaker 3: is one small action today?
Speaker 1: I always like to use examples that are easier to understand.
Speaker 2: Look, the World Cup was literally two three months ago.
Speaker 1: Ask any athletes, literally, any athletes worldwide. It could be
Speaker 1: a football player, rugby player, or soccer player, potato potato athlete,
Speaker 1: hockey player, why.
Speaker 2: They do what they do? Why you do all this?
Speaker 1: They will all tell you, literally on the spot, what
Speaker 1: else would I do? I love this for them, It's
Speaker 1: obvious if you ask the same question to every day people,
Speaker 1: they will not even be able to start their second thing.
Speaker 1: And this is probably the most important thing for this question.
Speaker 1: There is not a single football okay, yeah, football player,
Speaker 1: a soccer player after the World Cup that got eliminated.
Speaker 1: World Cup was done for them, lost the final, go
Speaker 1: for it.
Speaker 4: There.
Speaker 1: You can ask any one of them if they're gonna
Speaker 1: quit their job, meaning stop playing football. Not a single
Speaker 1: player will tell you why. For them, if you're playing
Speaker 1: at that level, losing it's part of the game. But
Speaker 1: for us as regular human beings, losing, falling down is
Speaker 1: the word that can happen. And by the way, they
Speaker 1: hate it. That's why they're crying on the field. They
Speaker 1: hate it.
Speaker 2: But okay, losing is part of the game.
Speaker 1: Roger Federer, by the way, who's considered at least top
Speaker 1: three tennis player in the whole world. The stats were
Speaker 1: out a couple of months ago lost I think it
Speaker 1: was games of points fifty four percent while still being
Speaker 1: considered one of the best tennis players out there, Like,
Speaker 1: come on, please, why are we so obsessed or so
Speaker 1: focused on losing?
Speaker 3: So absolutely, losing is part of our learning.
Speaker 4: That's where we learn the most, and we don't even
Speaker 4: start in life a lot of times because we're so
Speaker 4: fearful of losing, of failing. That is where the most
Speaker 4: important lessons are learned. So Vincent, thank you so much
Speaker 4: for coming on wake up. If you can just tell
Speaker 4: us really quick where we can find your book and
Speaker 4: also your group ui D.
Speaker 1: It's on Amazon and ui D Club is a Dui
Speaker 1: D club dot com d h e ui D club
Speaker 1: dot com.
Speaker 4: Thank you all so much for joining today, And remember,
Speaker 4: if this conversation resonated with you, please like, comment, or
Speaker 4: share this episode with someone who may need to hear it,
Speaker 4: someone who is going through a really difficult time but
Speaker 4: needs to know that they can start over, that it
Speaker 4: is possible, because sometimes it just takes hearing one story
Speaker 4: or one conversation like we had today, which shares a
Speaker 4: message of hope to change the direction of someone's life.
Speaker 4: And if you are rebuilding your own life, I hope
Speaker 4: you will also check out my new book, wake Up
Speaker 4: You're Not Broken, which is available on Amazon. And remember,
Speaker 4: you don't have to have all the answers. Nobody does.
Speaker 4: You don't have to even feel ready. You just simply
Speaker 4: have to take the next step, because everything feels impossible
Speaker 4: until it's done.
Speaker 3: So thank you so much.
Speaker 4: It's time to wake up to who you are and
Speaker 4: know that you're not broken. You are just beginning. So
Speaker 4: this is wake Up with Marcy. Thank you again for
Speaker 4: being a part of today's show. I will see you
Speaker 4: next Thursday with an all new show of an incredible week.
Speaker 4: Bye bye,