WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.400 --> 00:00:03.120 Welcome to men, sex and tantra. 2 00:00:03.680 --> 00:00:06.719 Discover where your parents, porn and religion never taught you 3 00:00:06.799 --> 00:00:10.439 about being a man and having extraordinary sex. Get ready 4 00:00:10.439 --> 00:00:15.839 to have your mind blown and your world rocked. All right, 5 00:00:15.880 --> 00:00:18.960 all right, we are back. And of course, you know, 6 00:00:19.039 --> 00:00:21.879 why do is it that I always pick really handsome 7 00:00:21.920 --> 00:00:26.399 men to interview you guys? I got an email from 8 00:00:26.480 --> 00:00:32.240 one of you all that basically said, I'm objectifying. Oh 9 00:00:32.399 --> 00:00:34.759 let's see what else have I been told I'm objectifying. 10 00:00:36.640 --> 00:00:40.640 I'm doing lots of bad PC moves when I say this, 11 00:00:40.799 --> 00:00:43.520 But I think what I'm really mean by it is 12 00:00:43.560 --> 00:00:46.600 that there's so many times I hear women other people 13 00:00:46.679 --> 00:00:50.159 saying that handsome men or good looking men are somehow 14 00:00:50.240 --> 00:00:54.520 assholes and players and out to do horrific things to 15 00:00:54.600 --> 00:00:57.840 all of us, narcissists blah blah blah. And so really 16 00:00:57.880 --> 00:01:01.280 I think I'm dispelling that whole thing because the maturity 17 00:01:01.280 --> 00:01:04.200 of men that I have on here, yeah, absolutely are 18 00:01:04.480 --> 00:01:09.079 so conscious, kind and really looking to benefit the world, 19 00:01:09.480 --> 00:01:14.439 and especially like becoming more becoming more considerate, becoming more kind, 20 00:01:14.480 --> 00:01:19.680 becoming more awakened. So I'm just dispelling that myth. And yes, okay, yes, 21 00:01:20.560 --> 00:01:26.560 potentially I am objectifying, all right, So anyway, with that 22 00:01:26.719 --> 00:01:30.799 all said, today I've got j Matthias Bennett, because there 23 00:01:30.840 --> 00:01:33.519 is only one Jay Matthias Bennett, so let's be clear 24 00:01:33.519 --> 00:01:38.879 about that as my guest. And we met a cliche. 25 00:01:38.920 --> 00:01:44.799 We met on a Facebook but interestingly enough, the only 26 00:01:44.879 --> 00:01:48.239 person who ever noticed that I had Sanskrit written on 27 00:01:48.280 --> 00:01:51.599 the tattooed on the outside of my hands and actually 28 00:01:51.680 --> 00:01:53.400 read one of them. So it's a kind of a 29 00:01:53.680 --> 00:01:58.000 unique interesting experience. So, hey, Matthias, what do you want 30 00:01:58.079 --> 00:02:00.920 to tell about? What do you want to tell the 31 00:02:00.959 --> 00:02:02.760 audience about who you are, what you do? 32 00:02:04.920 --> 00:02:09.439 Yeah, thank you, it's a pleasure to be here speaking 33 00:02:09.439 --> 00:02:17.000 with you today. And yeah, I love to support visionaries, 34 00:02:17.039 --> 00:02:20.919 which is something that I've done for boy, it seems 35 00:02:20.960 --> 00:02:24.319 like going on fifteen years now, in the last five 36 00:02:24.400 --> 00:02:29.240 years that's been specifically around in and around the regenerative spaces, 37 00:02:29.840 --> 00:02:32.840 and I seem to attract those kinds of visionaries and 38 00:02:32.960 --> 00:02:39.000 entrepreneurs that don't just have one project, but who seem 39 00:02:39.319 --> 00:02:43.759 to be stewarding let's put it in air quotes, ecosystems 40 00:02:43.840 --> 00:02:48.080 worth of projects, so number of different projects that are 41 00:02:48.120 --> 00:02:53.159 independent but also work together and I think that, at 42 00:02:53.240 --> 00:02:57.400 least for me, that reflects an overall trend and shift 43 00:02:58.080 --> 00:03:04.199 from creating let's just call it very hierarchical organizations, two 44 00:03:04.199 --> 00:03:09.759 more community based, and let's just say, you know, network 45 00:03:09.879 --> 00:03:14.319 style organizations. But yeah, that's uh, that's that's kind of me. 46 00:03:14.400 --> 00:03:16.319 I'm I'm you could say I'm a little bit of 47 00:03:16.360 --> 00:03:23.520 the intersection between tech, between spirituality, regeneration, and leadership. 48 00:03:24.400 --> 00:03:27.439 Awesome. And for people who might be confused about the 49 00:03:27.439 --> 00:03:32.360 idea of regeneration regenerative, how do you nutshell. 50 00:03:32.000 --> 00:03:37.599 At yep, nutshell, We all know about sustainability. It's basically 51 00:03:37.680 --> 00:03:43.680 just doing less bad. Okay, so but the idea of regeneration, 52 00:03:43.840 --> 00:03:46.560 and you know, there's some regenerative practitioners who think that 53 00:03:46.560 --> 00:03:52.280 that term has already jumped the shark. But but regeneration 54 00:03:52.719 --> 00:03:59.199 is essentially working with nature to be able to support 55 00:03:59.319 --> 00:04:02.240 nature in doing what it's already doing. So we don't 56 00:04:02.280 --> 00:04:08.680 just do less bad. We actually help regenerate the planet 57 00:04:08.800 --> 00:04:17.759 and help regreen ecosystems, supporting biodiversity, rewilding, and on the 58 00:04:17.800 --> 00:04:22.439 way there, we support human health and vitality and thriving. 59 00:04:22.800 --> 00:04:27.399 All right, I love that absolutely, because yeah, do less bad. 60 00:04:27.839 --> 00:04:30.079 You know, there's a lot of interpretation that can be 61 00:04:30.199 --> 00:04:35.000 made with that, but actually landing the plane on that. Yeah, 62 00:04:35.040 --> 00:04:37.759 And so some people might wonder, wow, okay, this sounds 63 00:04:37.800 --> 00:04:39.680 like an interesting guest, and wonder what they're going to 64 00:04:39.720 --> 00:04:41.480 talk about, and how will this all end up being 65 00:04:41.519 --> 00:04:44.360 about sex, men and tantra well as any of you know, 66 00:04:44.399 --> 00:04:46.319 if you've listened to my show at all, there is 67 00:04:46.519 --> 00:04:49.199 nothing that can be talked about. And I don't like 68 00:04:49.240 --> 00:04:52.759 the word nothing because it doesn't actually exist. That's a segue. 69 00:04:53.759 --> 00:04:57.959 Everything can be turned into sex. Absolutely one of the 70 00:04:57.959 --> 00:05:01.120 core premises of why we're alive. I can take a 71 00:05:01.199 --> 00:05:04.959 golf a client who teaches golf and turn it into sex. 72 00:05:05.040 --> 00:05:08.279 So metaphorically all right, So what we want to jump 73 00:05:08.319 --> 00:05:10.600 into is one of your One of the We've had 74 00:05:10.600 --> 00:05:13.839 this conversation a little bit and everybody, I swear it's 75 00:05:13.839 --> 00:05:18.000 probably the most talked about thing ever. Is this idea 76 00:05:18.000 --> 00:05:22.160 of life purpose, Like, what the hell is my life purpose? 77 00:05:22.480 --> 00:05:25.800 And when it comes to men, most of us are told, 78 00:05:26.480 --> 00:05:30.360 and I've experienced this that if a man doesn't actually 79 00:05:31.199 --> 00:05:36.040 have a purpose and pursue his purpose, he actually will tank. 80 00:05:36.199 --> 00:05:43.920 Relationships cannot sustain relationships long term in a healthy way 81 00:05:44.079 --> 00:05:46.879 if he doesn't feel like he has or his own purpose, 82 00:05:47.920 --> 00:05:50.519 because it actually ends up meaning more than love, sex 83 00:05:50.560 --> 00:05:54.120 and other things. So what's your take on that? 84 00:05:55.199 --> 00:05:58.879 I agree, I think that's that's right on for me. 85 00:05:59.000 --> 00:06:02.360 It's been interesting because, you know, speaking about sex and contra, 86 00:06:02.600 --> 00:06:10.480 I actually had like lifetimes of lifetime's worth of information 87 00:06:10.639 --> 00:06:14.000 being downloaded into my consciousness over three years, part of 88 00:06:14.000 --> 00:06:16.879 which actually had to do with like sex and relationships 89 00:06:16.879 --> 00:06:23.680 and consciousness and and and TNTRA. And then basically shortly 90 00:06:23.720 --> 00:06:29.480 after that, I was basically clear that I needed to 91 00:06:29.639 --> 00:06:33.480 devote my life's purpose to the divine and to be 92 00:06:33.639 --> 00:06:37.240 in service to what God was calling me calling me into. 93 00:06:37.560 --> 00:06:43.839 And that also and what I cannot often share around 94 00:06:44.160 --> 00:06:48.000 leading from courageous vulnerability. So I mean some additional color 95 00:06:48.120 --> 00:06:50.800 is in twenty eleven and I asked myself, what do 96 00:06:50.879 --> 00:06:54.319 I truly need to be a happy human? And then 97 00:06:54.399 --> 00:06:56.920 I moved to a friend's land on an island and 98 00:06:57.040 --> 00:06:59.399 slept in a tent for a year. We did work 99 00:06:59.439 --> 00:07:04.959 trade and I received these principles of leading from courageous vulnerability. 100 00:07:06.199 --> 00:07:12.560 And then I had an opportunity to share those throughout 101 00:07:14.160 --> 00:07:17.160 various ways around the world. Most notably, I was three 102 00:07:17.240 --> 00:07:22.079 years in Morocco and helped start an organization, two organizations 103 00:07:22.120 --> 00:07:26.000 that to date have served fifty seven thousand young entrepreneurs there. 104 00:07:27.120 --> 00:07:31.800 So I've always been, at least especially since since then, 105 00:07:32.199 --> 00:07:38.800 really been focused on that purpose, which I'm you know, 106 00:07:38.839 --> 00:07:40.680 which wish I could could share if you'd like, but 107 00:07:42.439 --> 00:07:48.600 having that that goal to kind of help orient for 108 00:07:48.720 --> 00:07:51.199 myself to determine, Okay, well, what's in alignment with this 109 00:07:51.879 --> 00:07:55.120 and what's not? What are the actions that are in alignment, 110 00:07:55.560 --> 00:07:59.199 what are the people that are in alignment, and what's not. 111 00:07:59.360 --> 00:08:03.680 It's like trying to navigate without a compass or even 112 00:08:03.720 --> 00:08:07.439 without a direction, right, even if you don't have a compass, 113 00:08:07.560 --> 00:08:11.920 if you've got a direction, you can even if it's 114 00:08:11.920 --> 00:08:14.360 not a particular destination. Even if you have a direction, 115 00:08:15.519 --> 00:08:17.800 then you can start walking in a way that's not 116 00:08:17.879 --> 00:08:19.639 walk any in circles. 117 00:08:19.959 --> 00:08:24.639 Yeah, okay, so we can just like make it be 118 00:08:24.959 --> 00:08:28.879 the absolute premise that men need a purpose. We'll just 119 00:08:28.920 --> 00:08:31.720 like say that as a carte blanche kind of statement there, 120 00:08:31.759 --> 00:08:34.440 And then why do you think it's so difficult for 121 00:08:34.480 --> 00:08:37.279 most men to understand what a purpose is because I mean, 122 00:08:37.440 --> 00:08:40.960 like that word overused a lot of the time, so 123 00:08:41.039 --> 00:08:44.360 much confusion around it. So you just said something about 124 00:08:44.799 --> 00:08:47.799 you know doesn't line up in the direction, does it not? 125 00:08:48.000 --> 00:08:51.720 And so you parse your relationships, everything, everything you do 126 00:08:52.360 --> 00:08:55.799 that seems to be their guiding principle. Does it align 127 00:08:55.879 --> 00:08:59.720 with this purpose which is like opposite of what most 128 00:08:59.720 --> 00:09:04.679 people do. You know, there's a lot of opposite and 129 00:09:04.720 --> 00:09:07.000 I know you you know for for a while now 130 00:09:07.240 --> 00:09:12.879 to see that in action. So let's explain a little 131 00:09:12.879 --> 00:09:15.600 bit about that. Because there's finding your purpose, but then 132 00:09:15.639 --> 00:09:18.799 there's aligning and living in that purpose and making decisions 133 00:09:18.799 --> 00:09:21.399 from that purpose. So one could know their purpose, oh 134 00:09:21.440 --> 00:09:23.200 I want to be I want to say I want 135 00:09:23.200 --> 00:09:25.519 to cure cancer, and then you could like make all 136 00:09:25.559 --> 00:09:28.120 these decisions that have nothing to do with anything related 137 00:09:28.120 --> 00:09:31.679 to that. So how did you find your purpose or 138 00:09:32.000 --> 00:09:36.120 or that? And then how do you stay in alignment 139 00:09:36.559 --> 00:09:39.039 with that purpose? Well? How do you make the decision 140 00:09:39.080 --> 00:09:40.000 to stay in that alignment? 141 00:09:40.480 --> 00:09:47.320 Mmmmm great, great question. Well, in a certain in a 142 00:09:47.399 --> 00:09:52.480 certain way, it's it's been in a it's been and 143 00:09:52.559 --> 00:09:56.559 continues to be an evolving process. Although in terms of 144 00:09:57.600 --> 00:10:00.440 how did I I find it. I guess it's maybe 145 00:10:00.559 --> 00:10:06.159 less about finding, maybe than revealing and uncovering. 146 00:10:06.159 --> 00:10:06.679 I like that. 147 00:10:07.200 --> 00:10:10.639 So I read an article. This is actually back in 148 00:10:10.679 --> 00:10:13.639 two thousand and seven. I was working at Yale University, 149 00:10:14.799 --> 00:10:17.759 really before I was doing like film production. This was 150 00:10:17.799 --> 00:10:20.360 before I learned how to read the Akashak records in 151 00:10:20.360 --> 00:10:24.279 two thousand and nine and really was committed on this 152 00:10:24.559 --> 00:10:27.960 path of being in service to leaders in this way. 153 00:10:28.639 --> 00:10:31.759 And he had and still has. I'm sure you can 154 00:10:31.799 --> 00:10:35.080 find it an article called how to write your Life's 155 00:10:35.120 --> 00:10:37.360 Purpose in about twenty minutes. 156 00:10:38.879 --> 00:10:42.480 So this time it's that easy, I know. Oh my god. 157 00:10:42.600 --> 00:10:45.919 Yeah. So I was like, oh my gosh, I read 158 00:10:46.080 --> 00:10:52.080 this is what I need. So I did, and basically 159 00:10:53.000 --> 00:10:55.759 it is at least you know, what I came up 160 00:10:55.799 --> 00:11:02.399 with was my life's purpose is to support people to 161 00:11:02.440 --> 00:11:11.320 discover and strengthen their connectedness with themselves, others in the 162 00:11:11.440 --> 00:11:18.480 universe through my presence creative works of all kinds, and 163 00:11:18.559 --> 00:11:26.120 to contribute strategically to organizations working towards the above in 164 00:11:26.240 --> 00:11:29.360 alignment with the highest good of all. 165 00:11:30.080 --> 00:11:35.320 Yeah, okay, and that sounds poetically beautiful. And so then 166 00:11:35.399 --> 00:11:39.200 let's make it tangible, like when you're in this idea 167 00:11:39.200 --> 00:11:42.919 of like, okay, now you have that your purpose, there's 168 00:11:42.960 --> 00:11:46.600 all sorts of things coming at you. Well, let's regard 169 00:11:46.639 --> 00:11:49.799 relationships since this is kind of that topic, like these 170 00:11:49.799 --> 00:11:52.000 things that can like pull you off, that take you 171 00:11:52.080 --> 00:11:55.559 away from that. So how do you stay on the 172 00:11:55.639 --> 00:12:00.639 course with flexibility? That's like we can't just be so 173 00:12:00.960 --> 00:12:05.480 tense about that either discipline? Y asked devotion. I think 174 00:12:05.480 --> 00:12:09.799 of devotion. I devote to my life for sure. How 175 00:12:09.840 --> 00:12:13.519 do you how do you then decide, oh, in relationship, 176 00:12:13.639 --> 00:12:16.159 in friendships, romance, all of that, how do you keep 177 00:12:16.200 --> 00:12:18.919 on track? Then? How do you parse that out? 178 00:12:19.000 --> 00:12:21.600 How do you make It's a it's a great, great, 179 00:12:21.679 --> 00:12:27.200 great question, and and in a certain things like like life, 180 00:12:27.799 --> 00:12:30.399 uh you know one of one of uh you know, 181 00:12:30.440 --> 00:12:34.960 the answers that is a favorite of lawyers. It depends. 182 00:12:36.639 --> 00:12:40.840 Right and talking about right. 183 00:12:42.159 --> 00:12:46.840 I think it's it's interesting and maybe some additional context. 184 00:12:46.960 --> 00:12:50.039 I think also part of part of answering that question 185 00:12:50.200 --> 00:12:55.840 is determining of being able to under stell understand yourself 186 00:12:56.159 --> 00:12:59.919 and how you work. And so for me, I act, 187 00:13:00.440 --> 00:13:04.000 I find that I even you know, am in a 188 00:13:04.080 --> 00:13:08.480 male body, and I can be I can do things 189 00:13:08.879 --> 00:13:12.039 in a male in a direct to male way. I 190 00:13:12.080 --> 00:13:15.240 actually find that I operate in let's just call it 191 00:13:15.279 --> 00:13:19.960 more of a female or a mystical way where I'm 192 00:13:20.080 --> 00:13:24.919 tuning in to things. I'm listening to the field about 193 00:13:25.279 --> 00:13:28.480 where I need to go and what I need to do. Uh, 194 00:13:28.519 --> 00:13:30.840 And I'm listening and if I if I get the 195 00:13:30.960 --> 00:13:37.120 intuitive clarity that I need to do something, I will 196 00:13:37.159 --> 00:13:39.799 basically do that thing, or at least do that to 197 00:13:39.840 --> 00:13:42.120 the best of my ability. You know, sometimes I might 198 00:13:42.159 --> 00:13:45.480 hear something and I'll be like so many times in 199 00:13:45.519 --> 00:13:47.759 the past and be like, oh my god, you gotta 200 00:13:47.759 --> 00:13:50.240 be eff and kidding me. I mean like, is this 201 00:13:50.320 --> 00:13:51.840 da da da da da? And I'll check do a 202 00:13:51.879 --> 00:13:54.399 confirmation question, and then I'll be like, you know, I 203 00:13:54.519 --> 00:13:58.519 hear yes, da da da da da. I'm like, okay, 204 00:13:58.679 --> 00:14:00.840 all right, And then I'll end up doing it. I 205 00:14:00.919 --> 00:14:08.080 might grumble and complain, but I invariably will do the thing. 206 00:14:10.639 --> 00:14:11.039 Yeah. 207 00:14:11.240 --> 00:14:16.679 Yeah. And in terms of a practical well, I guess 208 00:14:16.759 --> 00:14:20.600 I can I can give give a way. I would 209 00:14:20.639 --> 00:14:26.039 say that I'm in a I'm in a spot where 210 00:14:26.039 --> 00:14:28.879 I'm I'm becoming more embodied in terms of how my 211 00:14:28.960 --> 00:14:35.039 intuition works although I could share a way that I 212 00:14:35.320 --> 00:14:37.799 can get clarity, I don't know if it would be 213 00:14:38.000 --> 00:14:42.080 as helpful for everyone that I could could. I can't 214 00:14:42.080 --> 00:14:43.279 share that for me. 215 00:14:44.440 --> 00:14:47.360 Yeah, I mean yeah, practically because if not everybody on 216 00:14:47.360 --> 00:14:51.360 this call obviously is going to be like, oh, understand 217 00:14:51.440 --> 00:14:54.039 what you know embodied at this point, they may if 218 00:14:54.039 --> 00:14:55.720 they've been listening for a while. I mean, it's like 219 00:14:55.840 --> 00:14:59.240 that is literally being in your body, not just your head. 220 00:15:00.759 --> 00:15:04.360 It's literally listening to the body wisdom you have throughout. 221 00:15:04.759 --> 00:15:06.960 So there's your gut and your heart and your crutch 222 00:15:07.039 --> 00:15:09.080 and you know, but everything in there has wisdom, your 223 00:15:09.120 --> 00:15:11.320 head being the least important of all of them, though, 224 00:15:11.600 --> 00:15:14.240 this is the one we tend to give credence to. 225 00:15:14.960 --> 00:15:18.399 So if you find your purpose, and if you're lining 226 00:15:18.519 --> 00:15:23.080 up with your purpose, then you're asking you'll get like 227 00:15:23.200 --> 00:15:25.879 hits to say, oh, maybe you move here, maybe you 228 00:15:26.000 --> 00:15:28.440 do that, or maybe you do this, and you're checking 229 00:15:28.480 --> 00:15:31.440 in through your body and your intuition into that which 230 00:15:31.480 --> 00:15:35.120 is you said is kind of the female flow mode. 231 00:15:35.440 --> 00:15:39.080 So purpose being a masculine thing, maybe the journey to 232 00:15:39.360 --> 00:15:43.240 the purpose has more of a feminine flow to it. 233 00:15:45.000 --> 00:15:47.159 And then there are tangibles. And what I'm what I'm 234 00:15:47.200 --> 00:15:50.960 really wanting to get to is you almost like Alex. 235 00:15:51.200 --> 00:15:54.799 People have heard of Alex Ramosi right out in the world, 236 00:15:55.159 --> 00:16:00.440 and he's talked about how in relationship, whether it's friends 237 00:16:00.480 --> 00:16:05.759 or romance, he does not get involved with anybody that 238 00:16:06.000 --> 00:16:09.480 isn't in alignment with purpose. 239 00:16:10.120 --> 00:16:13.480 Sure, sure, yeah, yeah, it makes sense. And actually I've 240 00:16:13.480 --> 00:16:19.159 gotten perhaps a little bit more like a better way 241 00:16:19.240 --> 00:16:22.000 or a more specific way of reframing in terms of 242 00:16:22.480 --> 00:16:27.519 determining things. I think so many people we think that 243 00:16:28.799 --> 00:16:31.919 it's like our journey is either created by our mind 244 00:16:32.039 --> 00:16:36.720 projecting things, but in so in the way the reality 245 00:16:37.080 --> 00:16:41.000 actually really works is that all of the universe is 246 00:16:41.039 --> 00:16:46.200 conspiring for our good and is giving us opportunities every 247 00:16:47.080 --> 00:16:52.960 freaking day to be on the path, either to continue 248 00:16:53.000 --> 00:16:55.960 to be on the path, to maybe do some opportunity 249 00:16:56.000 --> 00:17:01.159 from such a self nurture, self growth, and so the 250 00:17:01.279 --> 00:17:06.279 universe is is always giving I would say any one 251 00:17:06.319 --> 00:17:09.759 of us, every one of us, these things. And so 252 00:17:12.960 --> 00:17:17.200 I would say that the differences or the distinction between 253 00:17:17.279 --> 00:17:21.480 let's say one person or another person is how sensitive 254 00:17:21.640 --> 00:17:26.039 are we to what we're actual what is actually going 255 00:17:26.079 --> 00:17:28.400 on in our environment and what the messages that are 256 00:17:28.400 --> 00:17:32.400 being sent to us already are, because I guarantee you 257 00:17:32.640 --> 00:17:36.400 they're already happening. Whether it's even something as small as, hey, 258 00:17:36.440 --> 00:17:39.079 you know, I really need to like call this person. 259 00:17:39.119 --> 00:17:41.640 They've come up into my mind twenty times and I 260 00:17:41.680 --> 00:17:43.799 just need to give them a call. Or it's maybe 261 00:17:43.839 --> 00:17:46.920 it's like you know, the room or the junk drawer 262 00:17:47.039 --> 00:17:49.039 that you have been in the back of your mind 263 00:17:49.079 --> 00:17:51.319 that you need to like clean out and clear out 264 00:17:51.319 --> 00:17:51.799 and sort. 265 00:17:52.039 --> 00:17:52.200 Right. 266 00:17:52.559 --> 00:17:56.160 So if it's if it's not like an actual, a 267 00:17:56.200 --> 00:17:58.400 long term of like hey, you need to go to 268 00:17:58.480 --> 00:18:01.039 this city and go to this event, that's like a 269 00:18:01.119 --> 00:18:03.880 clear that's kind of a reach, right. But then sometimes 270 00:18:03.920 --> 00:18:06.680 it's not that. It's hey, you need to get your 271 00:18:06.799 --> 00:18:11.200 ducks in a row so that you can be ready 272 00:18:11.359 --> 00:18:16.319 to hear that that big call and then be able 273 00:18:16.359 --> 00:18:19.240 to actually action on it. And I think what comes 274 00:18:19.240 --> 00:18:21.359 to mind is that quote, and if you remember who 275 00:18:21.440 --> 00:18:29.039 comes for it is like luck is opportunity plus preparedness. 276 00:18:29.359 --> 00:18:33.559 Oh I like that luck is opportunity plus preparedness. 277 00:18:33.920 --> 00:18:38.000 I think I'm paraphrasing that and whoever the original person is, 278 00:18:38.079 --> 00:18:42.480 so basically the opportunities often are are happening, They're in 279 00:18:43.160 --> 00:18:45.480 they're already happening, but either we can't see them, or 280 00:18:45.480 --> 00:18:49.960 even if we can, we maybe aren't aligned in ourself 281 00:18:50.279 --> 00:18:52.720 and ready to actually make the step. 282 00:18:53.039 --> 00:18:58.000 Yeah, so that would tell me preparedness or this idea 283 00:18:58.039 --> 00:19:03.200 that always always being ready for the shift is how 284 00:19:03.640 --> 00:19:07.960 then I think about that, like, I agree, And opportunities 285 00:19:08.000 --> 00:19:11.200 aren't always like I probably have so I have my purpose. 286 00:19:11.400 --> 00:19:16.519 I probably have at thirty to forty opportunities a month 287 00:19:17.200 --> 00:19:22.880 drop into my sphere, whether that's people opportunities, so relationship opportunities, 288 00:19:23.480 --> 00:19:29.279 work opportunities, fun opportunities, you know, any amount of opportunities. 289 00:19:29.319 --> 00:19:31.720 They seem to be like dropping like manner from the heaven, 290 00:19:31.839 --> 00:19:35.400 especially when I'm really aligned, when I'm really living in 291 00:19:35.440 --> 00:19:39.279 the line. And so then it becomes the not every 292 00:19:39.319 --> 00:19:42.319 opportunity should you take? So that's where the decision true 293 00:19:42.480 --> 00:19:47.079 comes in, like does this person pull me off or 294 00:19:47.440 --> 00:19:51.200 elevate and support does this little side project like recently, 295 00:19:51.480 --> 00:19:53.319 you know, I've been writing for those of you who 296 00:19:53.319 --> 00:19:55.319 have not been on my Facebook. Well, I don't like 297 00:19:55.319 --> 00:19:57.079 where you've been, but you need to go there because 298 00:19:57.119 --> 00:19:59.720 it'll be like, wow, what's going on? Here, start back 299 00:19:59.759 --> 00:20:03.119 in a pril somewhere and work your way up. But recently, 300 00:20:03.160 --> 00:20:05.119 because of how I've been writing and things I've been doing, 301 00:20:05.160 --> 00:20:08.200 I had a very famous documentarian drop in and say, hey, 302 00:20:08.240 --> 00:20:10.440 do you write for TV or documentaries? And I'm like, 303 00:20:10.640 --> 00:20:12.680 I do you think I could? And he goes absolutely 304 00:20:13.160 --> 00:20:15.759 dropped me his latest documentary. He said, watch that, tell 305 00:20:15.759 --> 00:20:18.519 me what's wrong with it? I watched it. Should have 306 00:20:18.599 --> 00:20:20.240 charged him a thousand bucks to tell him what was 307 00:20:20.279 --> 00:20:22.160 wrong with it, but I didn't. I just like, it 308 00:20:22.200 --> 00:20:24.960 took me only about five minutes. And I said, here's 309 00:20:24.960 --> 00:20:29.119 the problem. You're talking about an intimate kind of emotional 310 00:20:29.359 --> 00:20:31.880 topic and you're just sciencing the shit out of it. 311 00:20:32.359 --> 00:20:34.759 This is what it needs. It needs a storyline throughout it. 312 00:20:34.880 --> 00:20:38.279 In every section that has somebody telling a story in 313 00:20:38.319 --> 00:20:42.200 the very beginning, and you're following that with the different 314 00:20:42.200 --> 00:20:44.559 parts through it. I said, the reader, the listener is 315 00:20:44.599 --> 00:20:46.400 going to be captivated by the story, wanting to know 316 00:20:46.440 --> 00:20:49.079 what's next, get the science, their logic, and then back 317 00:20:49.079 --> 00:20:51.440 into their emotion. I said, that's how you flow that. 318 00:20:51.680 --> 00:20:55.279 And he was like, wow, now he could potentially drop 319 00:20:55.319 --> 00:20:59.200 in and say will you do that? So cool? Are 320 00:20:59.240 --> 00:21:03.000 you kidding? Lind my name up ego lining my name 321 00:21:03.119 --> 00:21:04.880 up with a famous All the people that are on 322 00:21:04.920 --> 00:21:09.839 there are like everybody would know their names. Yeah, does 323 00:21:09.880 --> 00:21:12.000 it pull me off my purpose? That's like a super 324 00:21:12.119 --> 00:21:14.759 fun oh my god, fun one at lifetime, one of 325 00:21:14.799 --> 00:21:21.079 a lifetime projects. Hmmm. I probably will say no because 326 00:21:21.079 --> 00:21:22.759 I have my own stuff to write. I have my 327 00:21:22.839 --> 00:21:28.519 own right. So people float in and out of your life, 328 00:21:28.559 --> 00:21:30.559 that's men. Like my writing has all of a sudden 329 00:21:30.599 --> 00:21:33.279 dropped men out of the woodwork. That's usualr raining men. 330 00:21:33.359 --> 00:21:38.279 And I'm like, oh, parsing out, Nope, nope any time, Nope, nope, nope, 331 00:21:39.119 --> 00:21:43.680 and from what not? Because how they look? Not because 332 00:21:43.720 --> 00:21:47.480 of what they do, but literally do they enhance the 333 00:21:47.720 --> 00:21:51.200 energy in my life? Or do they take up space 334 00:21:51.359 --> 00:21:54.319 that doesn't elevate it? And that's the thing that I 335 00:21:54.400 --> 00:21:55.400 noticed that you do. 336 00:21:55.920 --> 00:22:04.920 As well, right, yes, yes, absolutely, yeah. 337 00:22:05.359 --> 00:22:08.039 You're watching that. You guys can't see the big smile 338 00:22:08.119 --> 00:22:13.839 on his face over here, but he's sitting there looking 339 00:22:13.920 --> 00:22:15.880 very I don't like the big smile on his face, 340 00:22:16.200 --> 00:22:20.319 but that is like, so I think that piece is 341 00:22:20.480 --> 00:22:23.559 people can have their purpose, but I don't know that 342 00:22:23.599 --> 00:22:27.799 they always make the decisions from that purpose. I think 343 00:22:27.839 --> 00:22:31.440 they make decisions based on other things loneliness, sexual need, 344 00:22:32.000 --> 00:22:35.079 Oh my god, that person's hot, oh my god, whatever 345 00:22:35.119 --> 00:22:38.200 the hell it is. That's an easy way to pull 346 00:22:38.240 --> 00:22:43.200 you away from something. That's then people are bummed out. 347 00:22:43.200 --> 00:22:45.160 You're not on your purpose anymore, and they don't find 348 00:22:45.200 --> 00:22:47.119 you the same way they found you when you were 349 00:22:47.119 --> 00:22:52.279 on your purpose. What happened whatever, that's kind of gone 350 00:22:52.279 --> 00:22:55.279 because we're lighting up about who that person is when 351 00:22:55.319 --> 00:22:59.079 they drop into our sphere and when they change because 352 00:22:59.079 --> 00:23:04.640 of the relationship, especially women lose respect for men. So 353 00:23:04.720 --> 00:23:07.319 from a woman's perspective, if a woman can totally pull 354 00:23:07.359 --> 00:23:11.559 a guy off his purpose, suddenly she doesn't find him 355 00:23:11.880 --> 00:23:15.559 as appealing or as so well. 356 00:23:15.799 --> 00:23:17.799 Right, and you do you touch on something that. 357 00:23:17.839 --> 00:23:22.559 I I don't personally resonate with, but it seems like 358 00:23:22.599 --> 00:23:26.640 I've seen a bunch of in just out there is 359 00:23:27.400 --> 00:23:29.799 you know, this idea of the idea of being a 360 00:23:29.920 --> 00:23:34.480 nice guy. And if you are able to let's say, 361 00:23:34.519 --> 00:23:37.559 provide or to you know, if you have some money 362 00:23:37.559 --> 00:23:41.359 and you're kind of you know, can can support. 363 00:23:40.960 --> 00:23:45.160 On materially for a woman in a relationship. And you're 364 00:23:45.200 --> 00:23:48.240 like oh, yes, of course I'll do that, honey. Then 365 00:23:48.440 --> 00:23:55.559 it kind of like seems like it turns into how 366 00:23:55.599 --> 00:23:59.720 to how to say yeah, it's it's it seems like 367 00:23:59.759 --> 00:24:05.119 it's relationship dynamic. That is, that is something other than 368 00:24:06.119 --> 00:24:10.480 being in the highest good and highest alignment where I, 369 00:24:10.640 --> 00:24:16.039 at least in my consciousness, the reason for relationships is 370 00:24:16.160 --> 00:24:21.279 actually to support both people on their path and purpose. 371 00:24:21.759 --> 00:24:24.440 That's the reason. And and you know, maybe to say, 372 00:24:24.559 --> 00:24:27.720 to say it another slightly different way is relationship is 373 00:24:27.720 --> 00:24:32.759 there to like help both people grow absolutely, and and 374 00:24:32.839 --> 00:24:35.880 so if there's anything other than that in terms of 375 00:24:35.920 --> 00:24:39.519 either comfort or so on and so forth, then I 376 00:24:39.759 --> 00:24:43.279 that is something I would definitely look at in terms of, okay, well, 377 00:24:43.279 --> 00:24:47.599 what are the underlying motivations both for myself and the 378 00:24:47.680 --> 00:24:51.480 underlying motivations for another person. And you know what can 379 00:24:51.680 --> 00:24:54.519 can be difficult and really hard to let's say, if 380 00:24:54.559 --> 00:24:56.960 you're in a relationship and you really kind of deep 381 00:24:57.000 --> 00:25:00.839 down know, gosh, you know this is not not in 382 00:25:00.920 --> 00:25:04.720 my highest good to have the courage to just to say, 383 00:25:04.759 --> 00:25:07.559 you know what I'm going to make. I'm going to 384 00:25:07.599 --> 00:25:10.759 make a different choice that even if I know it's 385 00:25:11.039 --> 00:25:18.680 hard and painful, it actually is in alignment with my 386 00:25:18.880 --> 00:25:22.279 deepest truth and my greatest potential. 387 00:25:22.559 --> 00:25:24.720 Yeah, in which case it would be for the other 388 00:25:24.759 --> 00:25:27.039 person as well. They just may not realize it as 389 00:25:27.079 --> 00:25:27.920 it happens. 390 00:25:28.440 --> 00:25:31.279 Yeah, exactly, exactly. 391 00:25:31.240 --> 00:25:33.880 Exactly exactly. We try to hang on. Well, that's the 392 00:25:33.920 --> 00:25:36.279 one thing that most people don't course correct on. It's 393 00:25:36.319 --> 00:25:40.160 like in business, I hear the number one money or 394 00:25:40.200 --> 00:25:44.799 the number one costly mistake every business owner makes is 395 00:25:44.839 --> 00:25:50.000 not firing somebody soon enough. That is the number one, 396 00:25:50.079 --> 00:25:55.359 hands down entrepreneur business owner mistake, not firing somebody soon enough. 397 00:25:55.359 --> 00:25:59.559 And in relationship that is also the case when you 398 00:25:59.640 --> 00:26:03.400 get you know, you know it's doing that all right. 399 00:26:03.519 --> 00:26:07.920 So life purpose, the things we've talked about, what would 400 00:26:08.039 --> 00:26:13.839 a tangible, easy, like simple step that anybody could do 401 00:26:13.920 --> 00:26:17.960