Speaker 1: Welcome to men, sex and tantra.
Speaker 2: Discover where your parents, porn and religion never taught you
Speaker 2: about being a man and having extraordinary sex. Get ready
Speaker 2: to have your mind blown and your world rocked. All right,
Speaker 2: all right, we are back. And of course, you know,
Speaker 2: why do is it that I always pick really handsome
Speaker 2: men to interview you guys? I got an email from
Speaker 2: one of you all that basically said, I'm objectifying. Oh
Speaker 2: let's see what else have I been told I'm objectifying.
Speaker 2: I'm doing lots of bad PC moves when I say this,
Speaker 2: But I think what I'm really mean by it is
Speaker 2: that there's so many times I hear women other people
Speaker 2: saying that handsome men or good looking men are somehow
Speaker 2: assholes and players and out to do horrific things to
Speaker 2: all of us, narcissists blah blah blah. And so really
Speaker 2: I think I'm dispelling that whole thing because the maturity
Speaker 2: of men that I have on here, yeah, absolutely are
Speaker 2: so conscious, kind and really looking to benefit the world,
Speaker 2: and especially like becoming more becoming more considerate, becoming more kind,
Speaker 2: becoming more awakened. So I'm just dispelling that myth. And yes, okay, yes,
Speaker 2: potentially I am objectifying, all right, So anyway, with that
Speaker 2: all said, today I've got j Matthias Bennett, because there
Speaker 2: is only one Jay Matthias Bennett, so let's be clear
Speaker 2: about that as my guest. And we met a cliche.
Speaker 2: We met on a Facebook but interestingly enough, the only
Speaker 2: person who ever noticed that I had Sanskrit written on
Speaker 2: the tattooed on the outside of my hands and actually
Speaker 2: read one of them. So it's a kind of a
Speaker 2: unique interesting experience. So, hey, Matthias, what do you want
Speaker 2: to tell about? What do you want to tell the
Speaker 2: audience about who you are, what you do?
Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you, it's a pleasure to be here speaking
Speaker 1: with you today. And yeah, I love to support visionaries,
Speaker 1: which is something that I've done for boy, it seems
Speaker 1: like going on fifteen years now, in the last five
Speaker 1: years that's been specifically around in and around the regenerative spaces,
Speaker 1: and I seem to attract those kinds of visionaries and
Speaker 1: entrepreneurs that don't just have one project, but who seem
Speaker 1: to be stewarding let's put it in air quotes, ecosystems
Speaker 1: worth of projects, so number of different projects that are
Speaker 1: independent but also work together and I think that, at
Speaker 1: least for me, that reflects an overall trend and shift
Speaker 1: from creating let's just call it very hierarchical organizations, two
Speaker 1: more community based, and let's just say, you know, network
Speaker 1: style organizations. But yeah, that's uh, that's that's kind of me.
Speaker 1: I'm I'm you could say I'm a little bit of
Speaker 1: the intersection between tech, between spirituality, regeneration, and leadership.
Speaker 2: Awesome. And for people who might be confused about the
Speaker 2: idea of regeneration regenerative, how do you nutshell.
Speaker 1: At yep, nutshell, We all know about sustainability. It's basically
Speaker 1: just doing less bad. Okay, so but the idea of regeneration,
Speaker 1: and you know, there's some regenerative practitioners who think that
Speaker 1: that term has already jumped the shark. But but regeneration
Speaker 1: is essentially working with nature to be able to support
Speaker 1: nature in doing what it's already doing. So we don't
Speaker 1: just do less bad. We actually help regenerate the planet
Speaker 1: and help regreen ecosystems, supporting biodiversity, rewilding, and on the
Speaker 1: way there, we support human health and vitality and thriving.
Speaker 2: All right, I love that absolutely, because yeah, do less bad.
Speaker 2: You know, there's a lot of interpretation that can be
Speaker 2: made with that, but actually landing the plane on that. Yeah,
Speaker 2: And so some people might wonder, wow, okay, this sounds
Speaker 2: like an interesting guest, and wonder what they're going to
Speaker 2: talk about, and how will this all end up being
Speaker 2: about sex, men and tantra well as any of you know,
Speaker 2: if you've listened to my show at all, there is
Speaker 2: nothing that can be talked about. And I don't like
Speaker 2: the word nothing because it doesn't actually exist. That's a segue.
Speaker 2: Everything can be turned into sex. Absolutely one of the
Speaker 2: core premises of why we're alive. I can take a
Speaker 2: golf a client who teaches golf and turn it into sex.
Speaker 2: So metaphorically all right, So what we want to jump
Speaker 2: into is one of your One of the We've had
Speaker 2: this conversation a little bit and everybody, I swear it's
Speaker 2: probably the most talked about thing ever. Is this idea
Speaker 2: of life purpose, Like, what the hell is my life purpose?
Speaker 2: And when it comes to men, most of us are told,
Speaker 2: and I've experienced this that if a man doesn't actually
Speaker 2: have a purpose and pursue his purpose, he actually will tank.
Speaker 2: Relationships cannot sustain relationships long term in a healthy way
Speaker 2: if he doesn't feel like he has or his own purpose,
Speaker 2: because it actually ends up meaning more than love, sex
Speaker 2: and other things. So what's your take on that?
Speaker 1: I agree, I think that's that's right on for me.
Speaker 1: It's been interesting because, you know, speaking about sex and contra,
Speaker 1: I actually had like lifetimes of lifetime's worth of information
Speaker 1: being downloaded into my consciousness over three years, part of
Speaker 1: which actually had to do with like sex and relationships
Speaker 1: and consciousness and and and TNTRA. And then basically shortly
Speaker 1: after that, I was basically clear that I needed to
Speaker 1: devote my life's purpose to the divine and to be
Speaker 1: in service to what God was calling me calling me into.
Speaker 1: And that also and what I cannot often share around
Speaker 1: leading from courageous vulnerability. So I mean some additional color
Speaker 1: is in twenty eleven and I asked myself, what do
Speaker 1: I truly need to be a happy human? And then
Speaker 1: I moved to a friend's land on an island and
Speaker 1: slept in a tent for a year. We did work
Speaker 1: trade and I received these principles of leading from courageous vulnerability.
Speaker 1: And then I had an opportunity to share those throughout
Speaker 1: various ways around the world. Most notably, I was three
Speaker 1: years in Morocco and helped start an organization, two organizations
Speaker 1: that to date have served fifty seven thousand young entrepreneurs there.
Speaker 1: So I've always been, at least especially since since then,
Speaker 1: really been focused on that purpose, which I'm you know,
Speaker 1: which wish I could could share if you'd like, but
Speaker 1: having that that goal to kind of help orient for
Speaker 1: myself to determine, Okay, well, what's in alignment with this
Speaker 1: and what's not? What are the actions that are in alignment,
Speaker 1: what are the people that are in alignment, and what's not.
Speaker 1: It's like trying to navigate without a compass or even
Speaker 1: without a direction, right, even if you don't have a compass,
Speaker 1: if you've got a direction, you can even if it's
Speaker 1: not a particular destination. Even if you have a direction,
Speaker 1: then you can start walking in a way that's not
Speaker 1: walk any in circles.
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, so we can just like make it be
Speaker 2: the absolute premise that men need a purpose. We'll just
Speaker 2: like say that as a carte blanche kind of statement there,
Speaker 2: And then why do you think it's so difficult for
Speaker 2: most men to understand what a purpose is because I mean,
Speaker 2: like that word overused a lot of the time, so
Speaker 2: much confusion around it. So you just said something about
Speaker 2: you know doesn't line up in the direction, does it not?
Speaker 2: And so you parse your relationships, everything, everything you do
Speaker 2: that seems to be their guiding principle. Does it align
Speaker 2: with this purpose which is like opposite of what most
Speaker 2: people do. You know, there's a lot of opposite and
Speaker 2: I know you you know for for a while now
Speaker 2: to see that in action. So let's explain a little
Speaker 2: bit about that. Because there's finding your purpose, but then
Speaker 2: there's aligning and living in that purpose and making decisions
Speaker 2: from that purpose. So one could know their purpose, oh
Speaker 2: I want to be I want to say I want
Speaker 2: to cure cancer, and then you could like make all
Speaker 2: these decisions that have nothing to do with anything related
Speaker 2: to that. So how did you find your purpose or
Speaker 2: or that? And then how do you stay in alignment
Speaker 2: with that purpose? Well? How do you make the decision
Speaker 2: to stay in that alignment?
Speaker 1: Mmmmm great, great question. Well, in a certain in a
Speaker 1: certain way, it's it's been in a it's been and
Speaker 1: continues to be an evolving process. Although in terms of
Speaker 1: how did I I find it. I guess it's maybe
Speaker 1: less about finding, maybe than revealing and uncovering.
Speaker 2: I like that.
Speaker 1: So I read an article. This is actually back in
Speaker 1: two thousand and seven. I was working at Yale University,
Speaker 1: really before I was doing like film production. This was
Speaker 1: before I learned how to read the Akashak records in
Speaker 1: two thousand and nine and really was committed on this
Speaker 1: path of being in service to leaders in this way.
Speaker 1: And he had and still has. I'm sure you can
Speaker 1: find it an article called how to write your Life's
Speaker 1: Purpose in about twenty minutes.
Speaker 2: So this time it's that easy, I know. Oh my god.
Speaker 1: Yeah. So I was like, oh my gosh, I read
Speaker 1: this is what I need. So I did, and basically
Speaker 1: it is at least you know, what I came up
Speaker 1: with was my life's purpose is to support people to
Speaker 1: discover and strengthen their connectedness with themselves, others in the
Speaker 1: universe through my presence creative works of all kinds, and
Speaker 1: to contribute strategically to organizations working towards the above in
Speaker 1: alignment with the highest good of all.
Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, and that sounds poetically beautiful. And so then
Speaker 2: let's make it tangible, like when you're in this idea
Speaker 2: of like, okay, now you have that your purpose, there's
Speaker 2: all sorts of things coming at you. Well, let's regard
Speaker 2: relationships since this is kind of that topic, like these
Speaker 2: things that can like pull you off, that take you
Speaker 2: away from that. So how do you stay on the
Speaker 2: course with flexibility? That's like we can't just be so
Speaker 2: tense about that either discipline? Y asked devotion. I think
Speaker 2: of devotion. I devote to my life for sure. How
Speaker 2: do you how do you then decide, oh, in relationship,
Speaker 2: in friendships, romance, all of that, how do you keep
Speaker 2: on track? Then? How do you parse that out?
Speaker 1: How do you make It's a it's a great, great,
Speaker 1: great question, and and in a certain things like like life,
Speaker 1: uh you know one of one of uh you know,
Speaker 1: the answers that is a favorite of lawyers. It depends.
Speaker 2: Right and talking about right.
Speaker 1: I think it's it's interesting and maybe some additional context.
Speaker 1: I think also part of part of answering that question
Speaker 1: is determining of being able to under stell understand yourself
Speaker 1: and how you work. And so for me, I act,
Speaker 1: I find that I even you know, am in a
Speaker 1: male body, and I can be I can do things
Speaker 1: in a male in a direct to male way. I
Speaker 1: actually find that I operate in let's just call it
Speaker 1: more of a female or a mystical way where I'm
Speaker 1: tuning in to things. I'm listening to the field about
Speaker 1: where I need to go and what I need to do. Uh,
Speaker 1: And I'm listening and if I if I get the
Speaker 1: intuitive clarity that I need to do something, I will
Speaker 1: basically do that thing, or at least do that to
Speaker 1: the best of my ability. You know, sometimes I might
Speaker 1: hear something and I'll be like so many times in
Speaker 1: the past and be like, oh my god, you gotta
Speaker 1: be eff and kidding me. I mean like, is this
Speaker 1: da da da da da? And I'll check do a
Speaker 1: confirmation question, and then I'll be like, you know, I
Speaker 1: hear yes, da da da da da. I'm like, okay,
Speaker 1: all right, And then I'll end up doing it. I
Speaker 1: might grumble and complain, but I invariably will do the thing.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah. And in terms of a practical well, I guess
Speaker 1: I can I can give give a way. I would
Speaker 1: say that I'm in a I'm in a spot where
Speaker 1: I'm I'm becoming more embodied in terms of how my
Speaker 1: intuition works although I could share a way that I
Speaker 1: can get clarity, I don't know if it would be
Speaker 1: as helpful for everyone that I could could. I can't
Speaker 1: share that for me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean yeah, practically because if not everybody on
Speaker 2: this call obviously is going to be like, oh, understand
Speaker 2: what you know embodied at this point, they may if
Speaker 2: they've been listening for a while. I mean, it's like
Speaker 2: that is literally being in your body, not just your head.
Speaker 2: It's literally listening to the body wisdom you have throughout.
Speaker 2: So there's your gut and your heart and your crutch
Speaker 2: and you know, but everything in there has wisdom, your
Speaker 2: head being the least important of all of them, though,
Speaker 2: this is the one we tend to give credence to.
Speaker 2: So if you find your purpose, and if you're lining
Speaker 2: up with your purpose, then you're asking you'll get like
Speaker 2: hits to say, oh, maybe you move here, maybe you
Speaker 2: do that, or maybe you do this, and you're checking
Speaker 2: in through your body and your intuition into that which
Speaker 2: is you said is kind of the female flow mode.
Speaker 2: So purpose being a masculine thing, maybe the journey to
Speaker 2: the purpose has more of a feminine flow to it.
Speaker 2: And then there are tangibles. And what I'm what I'm
Speaker 2: really wanting to get to is you almost like Alex.
Speaker 2: People have heard of Alex Ramosi right out in the world,
Speaker 2: and he's talked about how in relationship, whether it's friends
Speaker 2: or romance, he does not get involved with anybody that
Speaker 2: isn't in alignment with purpose.
Speaker 1: Sure, sure, yeah, yeah, it makes sense. And actually I've
Speaker 1: gotten perhaps a little bit more like a better way
Speaker 1: or a more specific way of reframing in terms of
Speaker 1: determining things. I think so many people we think that
Speaker 1: it's like our journey is either created by our mind
Speaker 1: projecting things, but in so in the way the reality
Speaker 1: actually really works is that all of the universe is
Speaker 1: conspiring for our good and is giving us opportunities every
Speaker 1: freaking day to be on the path, either to continue
Speaker 1: to be on the path, to maybe do some opportunity
Speaker 1: from such a self nurture, self growth, and so the
Speaker 1: universe is is always giving I would say any one
Speaker 1: of us, every one of us, these things. And so
Speaker 1: I would say that the differences or the distinction between
Speaker 1: let's say one person or another person is how sensitive
Speaker 1: are we to what we're actual what is actually going
Speaker 1: on in our environment and what the messages that are
Speaker 1: being sent to us already are, because I guarantee you
Speaker 1: they're already happening. Whether it's even something as small as, hey,
Speaker 1: you know, I really need to like call this person.
Speaker 1: They've come up into my mind twenty times and I
Speaker 1: just need to give them a call. Or it's maybe
Speaker 1: it's like you know, the room or the junk drawer
Speaker 1: that you have been in the back of your mind
Speaker 1: that you need to like clean out and clear out
Speaker 1: and sort.
Speaker 3: Right.
Speaker 1: So if it's if it's not like an actual, a
Speaker 1: long term of like hey, you need to go to
Speaker 1: this city and go to this event, that's like a
Speaker 1: clear that's kind of a reach, right. But then sometimes
Speaker 1: it's not that. It's hey, you need to get your
Speaker 1: ducks in a row so that you can be ready
Speaker 1: to hear that that big call and then be able
Speaker 1: to actually action on it. And I think what comes
Speaker 1: to mind is that quote, and if you remember who
Speaker 1: comes for it is like luck is opportunity plus preparedness.
Speaker 2: Oh I like that luck is opportunity plus preparedness.
Speaker 1: I think I'm paraphrasing that and whoever the original person is,
Speaker 1: so basically the opportunities often are are happening, They're in
Speaker 1: they're already happening, but either we can't see them, or
Speaker 1: even if we can, we maybe aren't aligned in ourself
Speaker 1: and ready to actually make the step.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so that would tell me preparedness or this idea
Speaker 2: that always always being ready for the shift is how
Speaker 2: then I think about that, like, I agree, And opportunities
Speaker 2: aren't always like I probably have so I have my purpose.
Speaker 2: I probably have at thirty to forty opportunities a month
Speaker 2: drop into my sphere, whether that's people opportunities, so relationship opportunities,
Speaker 2: work opportunities, fun opportunities, you know, any amount of opportunities.
Speaker 2: They seem to be like dropping like manner from the heaven,
Speaker 2: especially when I'm really aligned, when I'm really living in
Speaker 2: the line. And so then it becomes the not every
Speaker 2: opportunity should you take? So that's where the decision true
Speaker 2: comes in, like does this person pull me off or
Speaker 2: elevate and support does this little side project like recently,
Speaker 2: you know, I've been writing for those of you who
Speaker 2: have not been on my Facebook. Well, I don't like
Speaker 2: where you've been, but you need to go there because
Speaker 2: it'll be like, wow, what's going on? Here, start back
Speaker 2: in a pril somewhere and work your way up. But recently,
Speaker 2: because of how I've been writing and things I've been doing,
Speaker 2: I had a very famous documentarian drop in and say, hey,
Speaker 2: do you write for TV or documentaries? And I'm like,
Speaker 2: I do you think I could? And he goes absolutely
Speaker 2: dropped me his latest documentary. He said, watch that, tell
Speaker 2: me what's wrong with it? I watched it. Should have
Speaker 2: charged him a thousand bucks to tell him what was
Speaker 2: wrong with it, but I didn't. I just like, it
Speaker 2: took me only about five minutes. And I said, here's
Speaker 2: the problem. You're talking about an intimate kind of emotional
Speaker 2: topic and you're just sciencing the shit out of it.
Speaker 2: This is what it needs. It needs a storyline throughout it.
Speaker 2: In every section that has somebody telling a story in
Speaker 2: the very beginning, and you're following that with the different
Speaker 2: parts through it. I said, the reader, the listener is
Speaker 2: going to be captivated by the story, wanting to know
Speaker 2: what's next, get the science, their logic, and then back
Speaker 2: into their emotion. I said, that's how you flow that.
Speaker 2: And he was like, wow, now he could potentially drop
Speaker 2: in and say will you do that? So cool? Are
Speaker 2: you kidding? Lind my name up ego lining my name
Speaker 2: up with a famous All the people that are on
Speaker 2: there are like everybody would know their names. Yeah, does
Speaker 2: it pull me off my purpose? That's like a super
Speaker 2: fun oh my god, fun one at lifetime, one of
Speaker 2: a lifetime projects. Hmmm. I probably will say no because
Speaker 2: I have my own stuff to write. I have my
Speaker 2: own right. So people float in and out of your life,
Speaker 2: that's men. Like my writing has all of a sudden
Speaker 2: dropped men out of the woodwork. That's usualr raining men.
Speaker 2: And I'm like, oh, parsing out, Nope, nope any time, Nope, nope, nope,
Speaker 2: and from what not? Because how they look? Not because
Speaker 2: of what they do, but literally do they enhance the
Speaker 2: energy in my life? Or do they take up space
Speaker 2: that doesn't elevate it? And that's the thing that I
Speaker 2: noticed that you do.
Speaker 1: As well, right, yes, yes, absolutely, yeah.
Speaker 2: You're watching that. You guys can't see the big smile
Speaker 2: on his face over here, but he's sitting there looking
Speaker 2: very I don't like the big smile on his face,
Speaker 2: but that is like, so I think that piece is
Speaker 2: people can have their purpose, but I don't know that
Speaker 2: they always make the decisions from that purpose. I think
Speaker 2: they make decisions based on other things loneliness, sexual need,
Speaker 2: Oh my god, that person's hot, oh my god, whatever
Speaker 2: the hell it is. That's an easy way to pull
Speaker 2: you away from something. That's then people are bummed out.
Speaker 2: You're not on your purpose anymore, and they don't find
Speaker 2: you the same way they found you when you were
Speaker 2: on your purpose. What happened whatever, that's kind of gone
Speaker 2: because we're lighting up about who that person is when
Speaker 2: they drop into our sphere and when they change because
Speaker 2: of the relationship, especially women lose respect for men. So
Speaker 2: from a woman's perspective, if a woman can totally pull
Speaker 2: a guy off his purpose, suddenly she doesn't find him
Speaker 2: as appealing or as so well.
Speaker 1: Right, and you do you touch on something that.
Speaker 3: I I don't personally resonate with, but it seems like
Speaker 3: I've seen a bunch of in just out there is
Speaker 3: you know, this idea of the idea of being a
Speaker 3: nice guy. And if you are able to let's say,
Speaker 3: provide or to you know, if you have some money
Speaker 3: and you're kind of you know, can can support.
Speaker 1: On materially for a woman in a relationship. And you're
Speaker 1: like oh, yes, of course I'll do that, honey. Then
Speaker 1: it kind of like seems like it turns into how
Speaker 1: to how to say yeah, it's it's it seems like
Speaker 1: it's relationship dynamic. That is, that is something other than
Speaker 1: being in the highest good and highest alignment where I,
Speaker 1: at least in my consciousness, the reason for relationships is
Speaker 1: actually to support both people on their path and purpose.
Speaker 1: That's the reason. And and you know, maybe to say,
Speaker 1: to say it another slightly different way is relationship is
Speaker 1: there to like help both people grow absolutely, and and
Speaker 1: so if there's anything other than that in terms of
Speaker 1: either comfort or so on and so forth, then I
Speaker 1: that is something I would definitely look at in terms of, okay, well,
Speaker 1: what are the underlying motivations both for myself and the
Speaker 1: underlying motivations for another person. And you know what can
Speaker 1: can be difficult and really hard to let's say, if
Speaker 1: you're in a relationship and you really kind of deep
Speaker 1: down know, gosh, you know this is not not in
Speaker 1: my highest good to have the courage to just to say,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm going to make. I'm going to
Speaker 1: make a different choice that even if I know it's
Speaker 1: hard and painful, it actually is in alignment with my
Speaker 1: deepest truth and my greatest potential.
Speaker 2: Yeah, in which case it would be for the other
Speaker 2: person as well. They just may not realize it as
Speaker 2: it happens.
Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly, exactly.
Speaker 2: Exactly exactly. We try to hang on. Well, that's the
Speaker 2: one thing that most people don't course correct on. It's
Speaker 2: like in business, I hear the number one money or
Speaker 2: the number one costly mistake every business owner makes is
Speaker 2: not firing somebody soon enough. That is the number one,
Speaker 2: hands down entrepreneur business owner mistake, not firing somebody soon enough.
Speaker 2: And in relationship that is also the case when you
Speaker 2: get you know, you know it's doing that all right.
Speaker 2: So life purpose, the things we've talked about, what would
Speaker 2: a tangible, easy, like simple step that anybody could do
Speaker 2: that's listening to this that would either a help them
Speaker 2: determine what their life purpose is if they're confused or
Speaker 2: and or be stay the course. I'll maintaining that flexibility
Speaker 2: and I'm happy to go first if you want some
Speaker 2: time to think about yours.
Speaker 1: I've got some thoughts, but go ahead.
Speaker 2: And yeah, so yeah, so for me, this is going
Speaker 2: to be like all of you guys are going to
Speaker 2: be let fill that down on this one. But to me,
Speaker 2: life purpose really, if you want to find your life purpose,
Speaker 2: you should self resource and self manage. So the first
Speaker 2: life purpose and foundation of anything is getting your shit together,
Speaker 2: is the simple way to say that. Because without being
Speaker 2: having your self management, like you're taking care of your finances,
Speaker 2: your health, your spirituality, you're taking care of your shit,
Speaker 2: you're managing your stuff everything else. Without having that solid foundation,
Speaker 2: you're going to go up and down and crash and burn.
Speaker 2: It's never going to be a sustainable long term. So
Speaker 2: look at your life and where your ceilings, Like your
Speaker 2: relationships are always great, but your finances suck. Your finances
Speaker 2: are awesome, but your relationships suck. There's going to be
Speaker 2: something in your life in categories that you are not
Speaker 2: managing well, and that right there should be Your first
Speaker 2: life purpose is getting that dialed in, because you know,
Speaker 2: without that, all that lofty cool shit doesn't really matter
Speaker 2: because you'll never really have a stable platform to grow from.
Speaker 2: And if you know what I mean by that, it's
Speaker 2: literally called the four pillars of self love. It's the
Speaker 2: first thing you're doing is creating self commitment. If you
Speaker 2: cannot commit to your self. You lie to yourself all
Speaker 2: the time, which is we all do, and so it's
Speaker 2: hard to not do. But literally every tiny thing you
Speaker 2: say to yourself, I'm gonna get up at six am,
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna eat that pizza, whatever the hell, all
Speaker 2: those lies you tell yourself get clear, stop lying to
Speaker 2: yourself and literally commit to yourself. First. From that commitment
Speaker 2: grows self trust, self respect, self love. That's your first
Speaker 2: purpose in my book.
Speaker 1: Mm hmmm, that's that's great. I think there's a number
Speaker 1: of things that I could say, uh, and that that's just.
Speaker 3: That's just really really gold.
Speaker 1: Here's what's arising, Uh it immediately is is that that
Speaker 1: could be complementary to that in terms of what is that?
Speaker 1: What is that deep why? What is that that? If
Speaker 1: you don't already have clarity on what that deep why
Speaker 1: is about why you're here? I would I would check
Speaker 1: out that article. I'm sure if you if you google
Speaker 1: life Purpose how to write my Life's purpose in twenty
Speaker 1: minutes from Steve Pavlina, you could you could do that.
Speaker 1: I actually, I mean I wrote something that kind of
Speaker 1: fleshed that out, but that that that article is a
Speaker 1: great one. If if you have no, no idea. And
Speaker 1: then also for example as a as as in terms
Speaker 1: of building on what Tanya said in that particular idea,
Speaker 1: this is from a recent flow training as I was
Speaker 1: getting certified as a performance neuroscience coach. Is is this idea? Now,
Speaker 1: this is more This is not exactly scientific, but just
Speaker 1: take it with a with a grain of salt, but
Speaker 1: you'll get what I'm saying here is in order to
Speaker 1: get into a flow state one hundred and four percent
Speaker 1: of your capacity. From a number of people and some
Speaker 1: of the experts, that's kind of the sweet spot where
Speaker 1: you are pressing into your edges. You're not going so
Speaker 1: far that you just clamp down, but you just lean in.
Speaker 1: You lean into that discomfort. You lean into the discomfort
Speaker 1: of whatever those edges are that let's say, those areas
Speaker 1: of your life that you really know that you need
Speaker 1: to raise your ceiling and to get your shit together
Speaker 1: to just gently lean into those just do one hundred
Speaker 1: and four percent. You don't have to do one hundred
Speaker 1: and ten or you know, go go crazy as it were,
Speaker 1: but just just keep leaning in.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I like that. Yeah, So the yeah, pushing pushing
Speaker 2: a little bit. Most of us pushed too hard, But
Speaker 2: that's an entirely other episode. So all right, life Purpose,
Speaker 2: I think we kind of like wrapped it up as
Speaker 2: much as we can today in this kind of timeframe.
Speaker 2: And if you're out there listening and you just don't
Speaker 2: you know, you're like, I don't know life purpose whatever,
Speaker 2: blahlah blah blah blah blah blah. You are literally just
Speaker 2: flying around, or like I like to say, you're a
Speaker 2: leaf in a river and you can say, well, I'm
Speaker 2: just seeing what happens. Well, you know what happens to
Speaker 2: leaves that are just like randomly going down a river.
Speaker 2: They typically snag on a branch and get torn to
Speaker 2: bits and off they go, floating in a million bits.
Speaker 2: And that is not what you actually want to be.
Speaker 2: So you spiritual guys who are like flowing, just understand
Speaker 2: you need a direction to flow in or you're gonna
Speaker 2: get shredded. For you guys who are not into the spiritual,
Speaker 2: I don't don't know why you're listening, but let's say
Speaker 2: you're not so much, it's still you need. Everybody I
Speaker 2: think needs a direction. Even if we course corracked along
Speaker 2: the way, we need a direction. Otherwise we're just kind
Speaker 2: of free floating around, feeling purposeless or feeling like I
Speaker 2: don't know what's going and then we're like letting our
Speaker 2: external circumstances run everything we do. And that is probably
Speaker 2: a big part of most people's suffering. And certainly you
Speaker 2: take that in sects, relationships, anything, you want to take
Speaker 2: that in business, anything else. If you're just random, completely random,
Speaker 2: with zero clue, yeah, that's how that's going to feel.
Speaker 2: So all right, we're going to be back and you
Speaker 2: know next week. But for us, it's in just a moment.