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<v Speaker 1>Hey, hey, hey, I'm back with something for you to

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<v Speaker 1>think about. I definitely wanted to talk about this episode

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<v Speaker 1>for a minute. When the chord isn't cut. Now, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>just gonna be blunt with you. Some of you parents

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<v Speaker 1>out there, shame shame, shame, shame on you. Some of

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<v Speaker 1>you parents out there, you think you're helping your children.

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<v Speaker 1>You think you're doing it the right way. You think

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<v Speaker 1>it's a way to nurture your child. But all you're

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<v Speaker 1>doing is hurting your child. When you don't cut that cord,

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<v Speaker 1>all you're doing is hurting your child. Now, let me

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<v Speaker 1>say this. Some of you cut the cord out the wound.

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<v Speaker 1>Shame on you too. Some of you cut the card

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<v Speaker 1>the cord when the kids are.

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<v Speaker 2>Toddlers. Shame on you.

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<v Speaker 1>That's not what I'm talking about, but it does definitely happen.

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<v Speaker 1>You cut the cord when they're teenagers. You cut the

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<v Speaker 1>cord way too soon. You say you're a man, you're

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<v Speaker 1>a woman. Some of you tell your children this. Some

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<v Speaker 1>of your children are acting in the roles as the parents.

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<v Speaker 1>It's reversed. That's not who I'm talking about in this episode.

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<v Speaker 1>I have talked a little bit about that in other episodes.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about parents

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<v Speaker 1>who don't cut the cord. They have adult children who

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<v Speaker 1>have no responsibility or accountability because the parents haven't cut

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<v Speaker 1>the court.

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<v Speaker 2>That's who I'm talking about.

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<v Speaker 1>You make your children unfit to be husband, wives, girlfriends,

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<v Speaker 1>and boyfriends. You make them unfit to be leaders, unfit

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<v Speaker 1>in all areas of their lives because you didn't cut

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<v Speaker 1>the court. You think it don't affect your child. It

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<v Speaker 1>affects them greatly. It's the most pitiful thing you've ever seen.

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<v Speaker 1>When you have an adult who court isn't cut.

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<v Speaker 2>It's pitiful.

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<v Speaker 1>These types of individuals ruin their relationships. They ruin their marriages,

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<v Speaker 1>They ruin their relationships between them and their children, their

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<v Speaker 1>family members, their friends. Because some parents just want to

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<v Speaker 1>rule their lives.

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<v Speaker 2>Matter of fact, they rule.

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<v Speaker 1>Their lives, but they don't know how much they are

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<v Speaker 1>ruining their lives.

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<v Speaker 2>Both are at fault, the adult child and the parents.

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<v Speaker 2>Some dads, oh, my son or my daughter, they.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't never have to leave home, and the mom's the

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<v Speaker 1>same way. The moms want their daughters sometimes to.

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<v Speaker 2>Stay home and they let them bring in their men.

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<v Speaker 1>And they do the same with some of the some

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<v Speaker 1>of the sons, they let them bring in their women.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, it's crazy. No respect, none, no respect. You

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<v Speaker 2>teach your your children the men.

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<v Speaker 1>You teach them to go through life depending and mooching

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<v Speaker 1>off of women and vice versa. When you're at the

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<v Speaker 1>rescue of every single thing your child does, you don't

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<v Speaker 1>teach them. When you feel your child can do no wrong,

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<v Speaker 1>when half the time that's all they do, you.

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<v Speaker 2>Inhibit their growth. You teach them the wrong things.

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<v Speaker 1>And let me tell you this, Loving your child is

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<v Speaker 1>what you're supposed to do, but you have to know

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<v Speaker 1>when to cut that cord.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm not saying kick them out and don't help them.

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<v Speaker 1>But you're the one supposed to instill into them.

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<v Speaker 2>How to maneuver through life.

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<v Speaker 1>You're the one supposed to instill them in them how

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<v Speaker 1>to dream and want goals and ambition. But they never

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<v Speaker 1>ever can reach that level. When you do every single

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<v Speaker 1>thing for them. Many of them get in trouble and

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<v Speaker 1>you come rite and rescue them when they should have

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<v Speaker 1>learned a lesson and getting in trouble, but no, you

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<v Speaker 1>come right to their rescue. They learn nothing. Some of

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<v Speaker 1>them won't work, don't want to work because you're always

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<v Speaker 1>coming to the rescue.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, I can give it my baby whatever they want.

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<v Speaker 1>Your baby is thirty five years old, ma'am, or sir,

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<v Speaker 1>your baby is thirty five years old, your baby is fifty.

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<v Speaker 1>It ruins your children's lives. It causes them to be

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<v Speaker 1>dysfunction dysfunctional. And I'm telling you what I know. I've

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<v Speaker 1>seen it more times than I can count on my

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<v Speaker 1>fingers and my toes. I've seen the problems it causes.

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<v Speaker 1>I've seen it.

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<v Speaker 2>I've heard it.

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<v Speaker 1>When you don't cut that cord, it causes dysfunction. And

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<v Speaker 1>the reason you don't cut that cord because of who

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<v Speaker 1>you are, unhealed heart and mind. These parents are co dependent.

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<v Speaker 1>They must have their children under their wing. These people

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<v Speaker 1>are adults. You live vicariously through them. You are co

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<v Speaker 1>dependent on them, not that they are giving you anything,

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<v Speaker 1>but you're codependent because you're dependent on.

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<v Speaker 2>Them to be happy, for you to be happy. It

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<v Speaker 2>is ridiculous, it really is.

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<v Speaker 1>And if you've never experienced it in your own life,

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<v Speaker 1>meaning you you got involved with someone that you thought

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<v Speaker 1>was you know, all of this and all of that, only.

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<v Speaker 2>To find out that the.

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<v Speaker 1>Court was never cut oh man, not a good situation

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<v Speaker 1>to be in. So I want parents to understand you

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<v Speaker 1>are to love your child unconditionally, but you also must

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<v Speaker 1>allow your child to grow, and when they become an adult,

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<v Speaker 1>you're supposed to cut that cord. Some of you, your

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<v Speaker 1>children never left home, still live in your house, good

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<v Speaker 1>and grown. Some of them drinking drug and got their

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<v Speaker 1>significant others in there, just everything under your roof.

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<v Speaker 2>It's terrible to me.

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<v Speaker 1>That is not a proper way to parents, and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>telling you it causes dysfunction in these adults lives. Everything

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<v Speaker 1>Mom or Dad, I need?

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<v Speaker 2>Can I have? Will you? And you're right there?

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<v Speaker 1>Boom boom boom boom boom. No matter what, you're right there.

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<v Speaker 1>They never learn anything, they never grow, They're still immature

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<v Speaker 1>because if you because of what you taught, shame on you.

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<v Speaker 1>And I mean it, I absolutely mean it, because the

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<v Speaker 1>results are lasting, lasting effects, which leads to dysfunction. I've

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<v Speaker 1>seen men who have never had the chords cut. It's ridiculous.

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<v Speaker 1>They want the women in their lives to do everything

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<v Speaker 1>for them, and some.

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<v Speaker 2>Of these women do.

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<v Speaker 1>Because of the unhealed part of who.

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<v Speaker 2>They are, because of their mindsets. It's just a mess.

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<v Speaker 1>All they do is bigger and fight, chaos and drama,

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<v Speaker 1>self inflicted pain because that cord was never cut.

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<v Speaker 2>They never learn to stand on their own.

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<v Speaker 1>Some of these people have their own places, but they

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<v Speaker 1>don't pay anything because a lot of them don't even

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<v Speaker 1>have jobs. The parents take care of everything. Grown parents

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<v Speaker 1>taking care of their I.

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<v Speaker 2>Mean grown children.

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<v Speaker 1>Parents are taking care of their car payments, their insurance,

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<v Speaker 1>their mortgages.

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<v Speaker 2>Their rent.

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<v Speaker 1>Come on, now, what is that teaching your child? They

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<v Speaker 1>know you love them, but they're using you. They're taking

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<v Speaker 1>you for granted as their parents. But many parents don't

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<v Speaker 1>care because of the mindsets that they have. It's terrible.

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<v Speaker 1>It really is inconceivable. What people don't get it. Mothers

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<v Speaker 1>and fathers think they're doing the best thing for their child.

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<v Speaker 1>They think they're doing the best thing. Oh, I'm taking

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<v Speaker 1>care of my baby, But you're not. You're not giving

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<v Speaker 1>them what they need. You're not telling them what they

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<v Speaker 1>need to hear. They're not learning, they're not growing because

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<v Speaker 1>you don't give them room to do so. And some

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<v Speaker 1>don't even know how because you've never taught them.

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<v Speaker 2>The only thing they know is to be dependent on you.

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<v Speaker 2>And guess what.

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<v Speaker 1>Some of them end up with children who they do

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<v Speaker 1>the same thing with same behaviors. The cycle continues. Horrible.

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<v Speaker 1>They have children, they don't even take care of the children.

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<v Speaker 1>The parents take care of the children because the love.

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<v Speaker 2>That that grandparents.

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<v Speaker 1>Have for their children is different from the love that

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<v Speaker 1>they have for their children. So now the parents taking

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<v Speaker 1>care of the child, the adult child and the grands.

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<v Speaker 2>Ludicrous.

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<v Speaker 1>It's crazy. Those are them mama boys and them daddy girls.

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<v Speaker 2>Tough relationships to be in. Tough, tough, tough.

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<v Speaker 1>Because some of them parents, they will go to the

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<v Speaker 1>death with you for them adult children. And nothing is

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<v Speaker 1>wrong with being there for your child at all, but

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<v Speaker 1>you have to cut that cord. It's necessary to cut

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<v Speaker 1>that cord. You cannot be at the rescue of every

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<v Speaker 1>single situation. They have to learn how to maneuver through.

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<v Speaker 2>Life on their own.

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<v Speaker 1>Adults are supposed to adult, but adult children can never

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<v Speaker 1>get to that point when their.

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<v Speaker 2>Parents have them under their wings and.

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<v Speaker 1>Still have the chords attached. I just wanted to talk

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<v Speaker 1>about it. This episode is not too long, but it's

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<v Speaker 1>a necessary topic because I see it way, way, way,

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<v Speaker 1>way too much and I think it's very pitiful. I really,

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<v Speaker 1>really do to see grown adult children who still acting

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<v Speaker 1>like children because they never had their chords cut. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't care if you're from a wealthy family or not.

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<v Speaker 2>It does not matter.

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<v Speaker 1>I've seen it in all situations. Parents who do it,

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<v Speaker 1>you cause dysfunction in your children's life.

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<v Speaker 2>That is fact.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm leaving it right there. I'm not saying anymore. I

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<v Speaker 1>hope you understand. Please share. I end all my episodes

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<v Speaker 1>the same, and I.

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<v Speaker 2>Pray you do it. Thank on it