Speaker 1: Hey, hey, hey, I'm back with something for you to
Speaker 1: think about. I definitely wanted to talk about this episode
Speaker 1: for a minute. When the chord isn't cut. Now, I'm
Speaker 1: just gonna be blunt with you. Some of you parents
Speaker 1: out there, shame shame, shame, shame on you. Some of
Speaker 1: you parents out there, you think you're helping your children.
Speaker 1: You think you're doing it the right way. You think
Speaker 1: it's a way to nurture your child. But all you're
Speaker 1: doing is hurting your child. When you don't cut that cord,
Speaker 1: all you're doing is hurting your child. Now, let me
Speaker 1: say this. Some of you cut the cord out the wound.
Speaker 1: Shame on you too. Some of you cut the card
Speaker 1: the cord when the kids are.
Speaker 2: Toddlers. Shame on you.
Speaker 1: That's not what I'm talking about, but it does definitely happen.
Speaker 1: You cut the cord when they're teenagers. You cut the
Speaker 1: cord way too soon. You say you're a man, you're
Speaker 1: a woman. Some of you tell your children this. Some
Speaker 1: of your children are acting in the roles as the parents.
Speaker 1: It's reversed. That's not who I'm talking about in this episode.
Speaker 1: I have talked a little bit about that in other episodes.
Speaker 1: But I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about parents
Speaker 1: who don't cut the cord. They have adult children who
Speaker 1: have no responsibility or accountability because the parents haven't cut
Speaker 1: the court.
Speaker 2: That's who I'm talking about.
Speaker 1: You make your children unfit to be husband, wives, girlfriends,
Speaker 1: and boyfriends. You make them unfit to be leaders, unfit
Speaker 1: in all areas of their lives because you didn't cut
Speaker 1: the court. You think it don't affect your child. It
Speaker 1: affects them greatly. It's the most pitiful thing you've ever seen.
Speaker 1: When you have an adult who court isn't cut.
Speaker 2: It's pitiful.
Speaker 1: These types of individuals ruin their relationships. They ruin their marriages,
Speaker 1: They ruin their relationships between them and their children, their
Speaker 1: family members, their friends. Because some parents just want to
Speaker 1: rule their lives.
Speaker 2: Matter of fact, they rule.
Speaker 1: Their lives, but they don't know how much they are
Speaker 1: ruining their lives.
Speaker 2: Both are at fault, the adult child and the parents.
Speaker 2: Some dads, oh, my son or my daughter, they.
Speaker 1: Don't never have to leave home, and the mom's the
Speaker 1: same way. The moms want their daughters sometimes to.
Speaker 2: Stay home and they let them bring in their men.
Speaker 1: And they do the same with some of the some
Speaker 1: of the sons, they let them bring in their women.
Speaker 2: I mean, it's crazy. No respect, none, no respect. You
Speaker 2: teach your your children the men.
Speaker 1: You teach them to go through life depending and mooching
Speaker 1: off of women and vice versa. When you're at the
Speaker 1: rescue of every single thing your child does, you don't
Speaker 1: teach them. When you feel your child can do no wrong,
Speaker 1: when half the time that's all they do, you.
Speaker 2: Inhibit their growth. You teach them the wrong things.
Speaker 1: And let me tell you this, Loving your child is
Speaker 1: what you're supposed to do, but you have to know
Speaker 1: when to cut that cord.
Speaker 2: And I'm not saying kick them out and don't help them.
Speaker 1: But you're the one supposed to instill into them.
Speaker 2: How to maneuver through life.
Speaker 1: You're the one supposed to instill them in them how
Speaker 1: to dream and want goals and ambition. But they never
Speaker 1: ever can reach that level. When you do every single
Speaker 1: thing for them. Many of them get in trouble and
Speaker 1: you come rite and rescue them when they should have
Speaker 1: learned a lesson and getting in trouble, but no, you
Speaker 1: come right to their rescue. They learn nothing. Some of
Speaker 1: them won't work, don't want to work because you're always
Speaker 1: coming to the rescue.
Speaker 2: Oh, I can give it my baby whatever they want.
Speaker 1: Your baby is thirty five years old, ma'am, or sir,
Speaker 1: your baby is thirty five years old, your baby is fifty.
Speaker 1: It ruins your children's lives. It causes them to be
Speaker 1: dysfunction dysfunctional. And I'm telling you what I know. I've
Speaker 1: seen it more times than I can count on my
Speaker 1: fingers and my toes. I've seen the problems it causes.
Speaker 1: I've seen it.
Speaker 2: I've heard it.
Speaker 1: When you don't cut that cord, it causes dysfunction. And
Speaker 1: the reason you don't cut that cord because of who
Speaker 1: you are, unhealed heart and mind. These parents are co dependent.
Speaker 1: They must have their children under their wing. These people
Speaker 1: are adults. You live vicariously through them. You are co
Speaker 1: dependent on them, not that they are giving you anything,
Speaker 1: but you're codependent because you're dependent on.
Speaker 2: Them to be happy, for you to be happy. It
Speaker 2: is ridiculous, it really is.
Speaker 1: And if you've never experienced it in your own life,
Speaker 1: meaning you you got involved with someone that you thought
Speaker 1: was you know, all of this and all of that, only.
Speaker 2: To find out that the.
Speaker 1: Court was never cut oh man, not a good situation
Speaker 1: to be in. So I want parents to understand you
Speaker 1: are to love your child unconditionally, but you also must
Speaker 1: allow your child to grow, and when they become an adult,
Speaker 1: you're supposed to cut that cord. Some of you, your
Speaker 1: children never left home, still live in your house, good
Speaker 1: and grown. Some of them drinking drug and got their
Speaker 1: significant others in there, just everything under your roof.
Speaker 2: It's terrible to me.
Speaker 1: That is not a proper way to parents, and I'm
Speaker 1: telling you it causes dysfunction in these adults lives. Everything
Speaker 1: Mom or Dad, I need?
Speaker 2: Can I have? Will you? And you're right there?
Speaker 1: Boom boom boom boom boom. No matter what, you're right there.
Speaker 1: They never learn anything, they never grow, They're still immature
Speaker 1: because if you because of what you taught, shame on you.
Speaker 1: And I mean it, I absolutely mean it, because the
Speaker 1: results are lasting, lasting effects, which leads to dysfunction. I've
Speaker 1: seen men who have never had the chords cut. It's ridiculous.
Speaker 1: They want the women in their lives to do everything
Speaker 1: for them, and some.
Speaker 2: Of these women do.
Speaker 1: Because of the unhealed part of who.
Speaker 2: They are, because of their mindsets. It's just a mess.
Speaker 1: All they do is bigger and fight, chaos and drama,
Speaker 1: self inflicted pain because that cord was never cut.
Speaker 2: They never learn to stand on their own.
Speaker 1: Some of these people have their own places, but they
Speaker 1: don't pay anything because a lot of them don't even
Speaker 1: have jobs. The parents take care of everything. Grown parents
Speaker 1: taking care of their I.
Speaker 2: Mean grown children.
Speaker 1: Parents are taking care of their car payments, their insurance,
Speaker 1: their mortgages.
Speaker 2: Their rent.
Speaker 1: Come on, now, what is that teaching your child? They
Speaker 1: know you love them, but they're using you. They're taking
Speaker 1: you for granted as their parents. But many parents don't
Speaker 1: care because of the mindsets that they have. It's terrible.
Speaker 1: It really is inconceivable. What people don't get it. Mothers
Speaker 1: and fathers think they're doing the best thing for their child.
Speaker 1: They think they're doing the best thing. Oh, I'm taking
Speaker 1: care of my baby, But you're not. You're not giving
Speaker 1: them what they need. You're not telling them what they
Speaker 1: need to hear. They're not learning, they're not growing because
Speaker 1: you don't give them room to do so. And some
Speaker 1: don't even know how because you've never taught them.
Speaker 2: The only thing they know is to be dependent on you.
Speaker 2: And guess what.
Speaker 1: Some of them end up with children who they do
Speaker 1: the same thing with same behaviors. The cycle continues. Horrible.
Speaker 1: They have children, they don't even take care of the children.
Speaker 1: The parents take care of the children because the love.
Speaker 2: That that grandparents.
Speaker 1: Have for their children is different from the love that
Speaker 1: they have for their children. So now the parents taking
Speaker 1: care of the child, the adult child and the grands.
Speaker 2: Ludicrous.
Speaker 1: It's crazy. Those are them mama boys and them daddy girls.
Speaker 2: Tough relationships to be in. Tough, tough, tough.
Speaker 1: Because some of them parents, they will go to the
Speaker 1: death with you for them adult children. And nothing is
Speaker 1: wrong with being there for your child at all, but
Speaker 1: you have to cut that cord. It's necessary to cut
Speaker 1: that cord. You cannot be at the rescue of every
Speaker 1: single situation. They have to learn how to maneuver through.
Speaker 2: Life on their own.
Speaker 1: Adults are supposed to adult, but adult children can never
Speaker 1: get to that point when their.
Speaker 2: Parents have them under their wings and.
Speaker 1: Still have the chords attached. I just wanted to talk
Speaker 1: about it. This episode is not too long, but it's
Speaker 1: a necessary topic because I see it way, way, way,
Speaker 1: way too much and I think it's very pitiful. I really,
Speaker 1: really do to see grown adult children who still acting
Speaker 1: like children because they never had their chords cut. I
Speaker 1: don't care if you're from a wealthy family or not.
Speaker 2: It does not matter.
Speaker 1: I've seen it in all situations. Parents who do it,
Speaker 1: you cause dysfunction in your children's life.
Speaker 2: That is fact.
Speaker 1: I'm leaving it right there. I'm not saying anymore. I
Speaker 1: hope you understand. Please share. I end all my episodes
Speaker 1: the same, and I.
Speaker 2: Pray you do it. Thank on it