Speaker 1: Welcome to the Becoming You Show, where limits get torched
Speaker 1: and possibility takes the mic. I'm Leah Rowing, human in
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Speaker 1: stop waiting. Every week, we rewire brain patterns, smash hand
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Speaker 1: Most people got ready to turn potential into proof. Grab
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Speaker 1: Welcome back to the Becoming You Show. I am your host,
Speaker 1: Leah Rolling. I'm really glad you're here. Generally, I mean,
Speaker 1: you could be doing anything one hundred and one things
Speaker 1: right now, and yet you're choosing this thirty minutes, twenty
Speaker 1: eight minutes, fourteen minutes. If you listen to me on
Speaker 1: one and a half two times, learning how to be
Speaker 1: the very best version of you, that it's not a
Speaker 1: small thing. Honestly, I think it's the whole thing. It's
Speaker 1: the whole thing. When seven percent of the world choose
Speaker 1: themselves to invest in that's no little thing. So welcome, Welcome.
Speaker 1: This is a new month, and so all four episodes
Speaker 1: in August are going to go together. And you know
Speaker 1: I love to theme a month, right, We've done it before,
Speaker 1: We've done it with Courage and Relationships, and this one
Speaker 1: might be one of my favorites yet because we're going
Speaker 1: to do one word each week, and the words build
Speaker 1: into a framework that I've been used with my clients,
Speaker 1: and honestly, it's some of the most useful work that
Speaker 1: I'm doing right now with him. And yes, I could
Speaker 1: just hand you the whole framework today, but I'm not
Speaker 1: going to because I think there's something really special about
Speaker 1: this one, in particular about slowing it down and letting
Speaker 1: each piece gets its own week. So that's what we're doing.
Speaker 1: Four words, four weeks, and by the end of the month,
Speaker 1: you'll have the whole thing. You'll have the whole framework.
Speaker 1: So I want to I want to say why we're
Speaker 1: going to do it this way, because I know some
Speaker 1: of you, like I want the whole picture up front.
Speaker 1: You're like, Leah, just give me the framework. Just let
Speaker 1: me get to work, let me get to work on
Speaker 1: using these tools and these frameworks. And I hear that,
Speaker 1: and you know, I'm like that with a lot of things.
Speaker 1: I don't know if I've ever teased out a framework
Speaker 1: like this, but this one, the work that we're going
Speaker 1: to do this month. It doesn't actually land when you're
Speaker 1: exposed to it in the way that I would normally
Speaker 1: expose it to you. It lands when you sit with
Speaker 1: one word, one piece at a time and let it
Speaker 1: work on you, and let it work on you. So
Speaker 1: that's what we're doing. Okay, one word a week. And
Speaker 1: this first one, the one that we're talking about today,
Speaker 1: it's where the rest of them start, because if you
Speaker 1: can't do this one, honestly, the other three don't have
Speaker 1: anywhere to go. So week one, we're starting with the question,
Speaker 1: and I really want you to answer it, Okay, not
Speaker 1: for me, but for you right maybe while you're driving,
Speaker 1: folding laundry, wandering about wherever you are. Okay, And here's
Speaker 1: the question. When when you tell the story of the
Speaker 1: hardest thing that ever happened to you, I want me
Speaker 1: to think about it right now, please, the hardest thing
Speaker 1: that's ever happened to you? When you tell it, when
Speaker 1: you share it with somebody, is it a release? Meaning
Speaker 1: do you feel something let go? Like? Do you feel lighter?
Speaker 1: In that conversation? Exchange or is it a rerun on
Speaker 1: pilot reinforcing being right? And I just want you to
Speaker 1: sit with that for a second, because those are really
Speaker 1: different things, and they don't think most of us ever
Speaker 1: have asked ourselves which one we're doing right a release.
Speaker 1: A release is when the truth actually leaves your body
Speaker 1: you feel lighter. A rerun is when you've told the
Speaker 1: story so many times that you kind of know it
Speaker 1: by heart, you know where the pauses go, you know
Speaker 1: which part gets the reaction. One of those is for
Speaker 1: healing and the other one is just a script. And
Speaker 1: you can spend years telling a script and calling a healing. Now.
Speaker 1: I know it. I've done it, trust me, I've done
Speaker 1: it a lot. I've watched clients do it. I've watched
Speaker 1: the people that I love do it. It's not because
Speaker 1: we're broken, it's because at some point we stopped noticing
Speaker 1: which one we were doing. So I want to start
Speaker 1: this one outside of that question. So kind of have
Speaker 1: that question in mind, like what how do you tell
Speaker 1: your story? Your painful story, right, the one that you
Speaker 1: may be allowed to define you and yet haven't healed from.
Speaker 1: So I'm going to tell you a study because this
Speaker 1: really changed how I think, how I think about judgment,
Speaker 1: how I think about suffering, how I think about pain.
Speaker 1: So in nineteen eighty Dartmouth researchers they brought people into
Speaker 1: a lap and makeup artists gave each person a scar,
Speaker 1: a fake one, but really realistic, like right on this cheek, big,
Speaker 1: totally visible, right, the kind of thing that you would
Speaker 1: notice on a stranger immediately. And then they showed each
Speaker 1: person the scar in the mirror. Right, so now you've
Speaker 1: seen your face, you know exactly what you're walking into.
Speaker 1: And then right before they send you in, the makeup
Speaker 1: artist says, hang on, hang on, let me just put
Speaker 1: a little cream on here. So it sets lasts through
Speaker 1: the conversations that you're going to have when you be
Speaker 1: released into this networking thing. Okay, it makes sense. See
Speaker 1: you want it to hold. So they said, they send
Speaker 1: these participants in and they have these what might be
Speaker 1: considered a normal conversation with strangers. It's small talk, nothing,
Speaker 1: nothing weird about it. And the whole time they're thinking
Speaker 1: they see it. They see my scar, every glance, every pause,
Speaker 1: every time that this person looks away, it's about the scar.
Speaker 1: And afterward the researchers pull them all aside and they
Speaker 1: ask how to go, How did they treat you? How
Speaker 1: did the conversations go? And these people described it in detail, friends,
Speaker 1: right in detail, the stranger staring, like, how uncomfortable they got,
Speaker 1: how how they were treated differently, discriminated against, right, how
Speaker 1: people were very short with them. And it wasn't vague.
Speaker 1: They could point to specific moments in the conversation. In
Speaker 1: the conversation, every single one of them had a story,
Speaker 1: real discrimination, real awkwardness, real tension, real judgment. They weren't exaggerating,
Speaker 1: they weren't making it up. They lived it. And then
Speaker 1: the researchers handed them a mirror. No scar, no scar,
Speaker 1: you guys. The cream that was applied right before they
Speaker 1: let them go out wasn't setting anything. The cream was
Speaker 1: removing it. It came off before they ever walked into
Speaker 1: that room. Every conversation they just described, every stare, every
Speaker 1: uncomfortable pause, all of it happened to a person with
Speaker 1: a completely normal face. No scar, no scar. The thing
Speaker 1: they felt judged for, beautiful friends was not on their face,
Speaker 1: but the feeling of being judged totally real, totally real.
Speaker 1: Their brain actually gave them that experience. That's the part
Speaker 1: that gets me every single time. Their brain manufactured the
Speaker 1: evidence for something that was never happening, because the scar
Speaker 1: wasn't on their face. The scar was in their thinking.
Speaker 1: They walked in believing something about how they'd be seen,
Speaker 1: and their brain took every normal little thing in that conversation,
Speaker 1: the glance, the pause, the look away, the shifting in
Speaker 1: the chair, and turned it all into proof, all into
Speaker 1: evidence of judgment. That's what the brain does. It finds
Speaker 1: proof of whatever you walked in believing. It doesn't check
Speaker 1: whether it's fair, whether it's honest, whether it's accurate, just
Speaker 1: finds the proof the judgment. The only judgment in that room.
Speaker 1: You guys of their own making. It was their own
Speaker 1: So with a lot of the research, I like to
Speaker 1: think about it and be like, WHOA, how do we
Speaker 1: make this personal? How does this relate to you and me?
Speaker 1: Because how many of us are walking around right now
Speaker 1: with a scar that isn't there anymore? Right? The divorce
Speaker 1: it was eight years ago, the business that failed, the bankruptcy,
Speaker 1: the thing somebody said to you when you were thirteen,
Speaker 1: and I'm not kidding about that one. I've coached very
Speaker 1: very successful adults are still carrying one sentence from a
Speaker 1: hallway in middle school. The childhood you had, the parents
Speaker 1: that didn't love you, the dad that left you, the
Speaker 1: mom that wasn't present, the betrayal, the season in your
Speaker 1: life that maybe you're not proud of the version of
Speaker 1: yourself that you used to be, that you're afraid. People
Speaker 1: can still see and hear me. I know it happened,
Speaker 1: and me too. I'm not saying it didn't happen. It
Speaker 1: happened for sure. It hurt, it did it matter. It
Speaker 1: shaped you, And it's an and statement here, friends, Is
Speaker 1: it on your face today or is it in your thinking?
Speaker 1: Because your brain can't tell the difference. It will walk
Speaker 1: into that networking event, it will walk into that family dinner,
Speaker 1: It will walk into that new relationship, it will walk
Speaker 1: into that new opportunity, and it will find the staring.
Speaker 1: It will it will find the judgment, whether it is
Speaker 1: there or not, and it will feel real, just just
Speaker 1: like it did for those people in the study. I
Speaker 1: know some of you might be asking right now, Lee,
Speaker 1: are you telling me my pain doesn't matter? Are you
Speaker 1: telling me that it wasn't real? Or are you telling
Speaker 1: me that I should just no, no, I am telling
Speaker 1: you it matters so much that I refuse to let
Speaker 1: you waste it on a story with no potential. There
Speaker 1: is zero potential in the past. Zero. That's the whole
Speaker 1: episode right there. So I want to slow this down
Speaker 1: because this is the part that I really want you
Speaker 1: to get. There are two things that you can do
Speaker 1: with pain. You can release it, or you can rehearse it.
Speaker 1: And what makes this really tricky is that from the
Speaker 1: outside they look the same. Both of them involve talking
Speaker 1: about it. Both of them might even involve crying about it.
Speaker 1: You can rehearse it in a therapist's office, you can
Speaker 1: rehearse it on a girl's trip. You can rehearse it
Speaker 1: in a journal. The difference is it where you do it,
Speaker 1: or what it looks like when you do it, or
Speaker 1: with whom you're doing it with. The difference is what
Speaker 1: happens inside you, what happens after when you release pain.
Speaker 1: It's messy. It does not come out in nice sentences.
Speaker 1: It jumps around, it surprises you. You say things that
Speaker 1: you didn't even know we're in there. Some of it's
Speaker 1: not flattering, none of it is filtered. It doesn't even
Speaker 1: it doesn't even make sense, okay, and it just asked
Speaker 1: me how I know this is true? But when it's done,
Speaker 1: you feel lighter, not fixed, right, not done, not healed,
Speaker 1: just lighter, like something left. When you rehearse pain, it
Speaker 1: comes out smooth, like you're fluent in it. I'm fluent
Speaker 1: in it. Same phrases every time, same order, same beats,
Speaker 1: like you know what I'm talking about, right saying, wait
Speaker 1: for dramatic effects. And when you're done telling it, just
Speaker 1: don't notice. Just notice. You probably don't feel lighter, You
Speaker 1: feel more right, you feel more justified. The story got
Speaker 1: a little stronger, and so did its hold on you.
Speaker 1: So I want to give you a real example because
Speaker 1: I'm going to keep it really general so nobody feels
Speaker 1: called out. But I'm guessing you found yourself in this place, right.
Speaker 1: I had an exact, this exact conversation more times than
Speaker 1: I can count. A client. She'd be telling the same
Speaker 1: story about something that happened to her years ago, years ago,
Speaker 1: and she could tell it, like really tell it. You know.
Speaker 1: She had her audience, she had her friends who nodded
Speaker 1: in the right places, and then she came to me
Speaker 1: and she said, I've done lea I've done so much
Speaker 1: work around this. I've done so much work. I do
Speaker 1: not know why it still runs my life. And I said,
Speaker 1: tell me about it, right, and she did. She told
Speaker 1: me this story beautifully, honestly. And when she was done,
Speaker 1: and I said, do you feel lighter? And they never do.
Speaker 1: They never do. They just feel more entitled to their
Speaker 1: story being right. But being right doesn't set you free.
Speaker 1: There is no freedom in the need to be right. Right.
Speaker 1: When we tell our story, not to release it, but
Speaker 1: to keep the case open. Nothing releases, nothing releases. We
Speaker 1: hold on to our stories because they somehow can inform
Speaker 1: who we are. We want it to be gone. We
Speaker 1: don't want the stories of our past to continue to
Speaker 1: haunt us. But they do, but they do because there's
Speaker 1: a part of us. There is a payof to holding
Speaker 1: strong to the righteousness of the story that has kept
Speaker 1: us safe to date. Because when you release it, when
Speaker 1: you release it, you want it to be over. But
Speaker 1: think about this, when you release it, it's over and
Speaker 1: people aren't ready for it to be over. That's not weakness,
Speaker 1: that's not being dramatic. That's the story doing the job
Speaker 1: that the story does right. The story always is protecting
Speaker 1: us from something. But she, this person, in this moment
Speaker 1: in time, was done. It was done. She's done with it.
Speaker 1: So here's how you can tell which one you're doing. Fluency.
Speaker 1: If you can tell the story of your pain and
Speaker 1: complete sentences with the same morning every time, that's not processing.
Speaker 1: That's practice. That's fluency. Nobody's fluent in something that they
Speaker 1: haven't repeated one hundred times. You don't accidentally memorize something. Okay.
Speaker 1: So so I wanna make a caveat here, like I
Speaker 1: feel like I do have to do sometimes, Okay. Grief
Speaker 1: is not rehearsal. Okay, if you've lost someone, if something
Speaker 1: devastating happened and the waves van they just they just
Speaker 1: keep coming, that's not rehearsing. That's grieving. And grief takes
Speaker 1: what it takes, and the way through it is through it.
Speaker 1: Feel it, allow it, let it move. Okay, I'm not
Speaker 1: talking about grief today. I'm talking about the story that
Speaker 1: forms around the pain of the past and then just
Speaker 1: moves it. It just kind of sets up shop. The
Speaker 1: difference is that grief changes over time, however slowly. It
Speaker 1: changes your ability to tell it, your ability to share
Speaker 1: parts of it without losing yourself. It changes even slowly.
Speaker 1: Our rehearse story sounds the exact same in year nine
Speaker 1: as it did in year two. Grief moves, rehearsal loops,
Speaker 1: So why why do we rehearse? And again, want to
Speaker 1: be compassionate here. Okay, I had to be compassionate with
Speaker 1: myself when this was a reality that I navigated because
Speaker 1: what I realized is I was rehearsing the story about
Speaker 1: my dad leaving. That's rehearsal. That's not processed. So why
Speaker 1: do we do it? Right? As I mentioned before, we
Speaker 1: rehearsed the story because at some point that story helped us.
Speaker 1: It explained something that didn't make sense. When something happens
Speaker 1: that you can't fit anywhere, the story becomes the fit.
Speaker 1: It gives your brain something to hold it. It allows
Speaker 1: you to put it in a box. And of course
Speaker 1: you kept telling it because it worked. Right. Maybe it
Speaker 1: kept us out of a risk that genuinely felt like
Speaker 1: too much at the time. Right, it said don't go
Speaker 1: there again. Right, Remember remember what happened last time? Right?
Speaker 1: That was your system taking care of you. Remember the
Speaker 1: story has a job to do, and it's job honestly,
Speaker 1: you can think it. It got you here. But here's
Speaker 1: the question that I asked myself and my clients, and
Speaker 1: now I'm asking you. Is the story helping you? Or
Speaker 1: has it just been there so long you stopped checking.
Speaker 1: Because a lot of us are still being protected from
Speaker 1: something that isn't a real threat anymore, and that protection
Speaker 1: is costing us. It's costing you, it's costing me. It's
Speaker 1: costing us real things, real opportunities, real relationships, real chances
Speaker 1: to feel like ourselves. So let's talk about the costs,
Speaker 1: because I don't think we count this honestly. When your
Speaker 1: pain becomes your identity, everything new in your life has
Speaker 1: to get past that old story. First, you meet somebody new,
Speaker 1: and before you've even decided whether you like them, the
Speaker 1: story is already deciding whether they're safe. An opportunity shows up,
Speaker 1: the story looks it over. You start to want something
Speaker 1: bigger for yourself. When the story goes hmmm, you know
Speaker 1: what we know the how this ends. People like us
Speaker 1: don't get that. And here's what makes it so convincing, guys,
Speaker 1: so convinto the story has evidence, real evidence, like from
Speaker 1: your real life. It's not even about somebody else's life,
Speaker 1: it's your real life. It's not lying about the past.
Speaker 1: The past happened. What it's lying about is the future.
Speaker 1: It happened. That part's true. What's not true is that
Speaker 1: it will always happen. That part is made up. And
Speaker 1: the story says both of those, huh and the same voice. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so we believe both. It's everywhere right now, it's everywhere right.
Speaker 1: We've learned to put a wellness language on this rehearsal,
Speaker 1: on this storytelling of sorts. We call it honoring our journey. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we call it owning our story. Sounds nice, sure does.
Speaker 1: But if honoring your journey means telling the same wound
Speaker 1: the same way for the tenth year in a row
Speaker 1: and nothing in your life is actually moving, it's not honoring.
Speaker 1: That's not honoring anything. That's soft sabotage. It's keeping you
Speaker 1: comfortable and keeping you stuck at the same time, which
Speaker 1: is what sabotage always does. It never looks like sabotage.
Speaker 1: That's the whole trick of it. It looks like taking
Speaker 1: care of yourself. It looks like love. It looks it
Speaker 1: looks and it is sold as healing. Here's the check.
Speaker 1: Here's the check. If you're courageous enough to run on yourself.
Speaker 1: Nobody's grading this. Just be honest with you. When somebody's
Speaker 1: getting to know you, how early does your pain show up? Like,
Speaker 1: how early in the getting to know you process does
Speaker 1: the hard story come out? No judgment, no judgment? Friends?
Speaker 1: Is it in the first conversation? Is it kind of
Speaker 1: the headline? Right? For so many us, the wound became
Speaker 1: the introduction. It's the first thing we hand people. And
Speaker 1: I get why. It's the part of us that feels
Speaker 1: the most explained. It's the part of us that we
Speaker 1: have felt like we've really navigated and we really have
Speaker 1: some understanding on who we are and why we're the
Speaker 1: way that we are. But think about what that means.
Speaker 1: If the story does all the talking, the story picks
Speaker 1: who stays, and the story tends to pick people who
Speaker 1: are drawn to the story, not people who are drawn
Speaker 1: to you, and you are not the story. That's a cost.
Speaker 1: That's the friendships that you have, that's the partners that
Speaker 1: you attract, that's the opportunities that you energetically pull from. Right,
Speaker 1: that's the whole shape of who you spend your life with,
Speaker 1: not because you did anything wrong, but because the story
Speaker 1: was doing the picking and you didn't know. And I'm
Speaker 1: not telling you to hide anything. I am not please
Speaker 1: hear that. I'm not saying keep it secret. I'm not
Speaker 1: saying pretend it didn't happen. I'm not asking you to
Speaker 1: wait until year two or three before you share something real.
Speaker 1: I'm saying, the story is not the introduction you are.
Speaker 1: And there's a difference between letting people know you and
Speaker 1: leading with the wound. One invites connection on who you are,
Speaker 1: and the other one prescripts it, pre writes it. So
Speaker 1: that's the work that we're doing this week. This week's
Speaker 1: word is raw. One word. Write it down somewhere, put
Speaker 1: it on your mirror, whatever you do right. Raw doesn't
Speaker 1: mean loud, it doesn't mean falling apart. Raw means unedited.
Speaker 1: It's the version of the truth that that did not
Speaker 1: get cleaned up before it left your mouth. The version
Speaker 1: that isn't smooth because it's never been said before. It
Speaker 1: has no webs, it has no pre planning for the
Speaker 1: pause effect, it's not memorized. And I've watched over and
Speaker 1: over and over in my coaching, and I mean over
Speaker 1: and over and over in my coaching, the raw version
Speaker 1: said once all the way to empty. No filter, no filter,
Speaker 1: just raw does more than the polished version said a
Speaker 1: thousand times once, all the way to empty. I want
Speaker 1: you to consider that your feelings in this never the problem.
Speaker 1: The retelling was the problem, because the retelling made you
Speaker 1: feel like this false release when it wasn't releasing anything.
Speaker 1: It was just more convicted on you being right about
Speaker 1: the pain and the suffering. So here's what I want
Speaker 1: you to take home, right this one thing, tell the
Speaker 1: raw version of the one hard thing. You've got three
Speaker 1: ways to do it. Three one alone out loud, in
Speaker 1: your car, in your closet, on a walk, out loud.
Speaker 1: Matters here right, thinking it doesn't count. Something different happens
Speaker 1: when it hits the air. Okay, Your body hears it differently,
Speaker 1: your brain files it differently. It becomes the thing that
Speaker 1: happened out here, not just the thing that's still happening
Speaker 1: up here in your brain. That's one out loud. If
Speaker 1: you if as you're beginning to share your pain to
Speaker 1: the air of your walk and it sounds very familiar,
Speaker 1: just find yourself on editing that and starting again. I
Speaker 1: don't want this to be polished. I don't want this
Speaker 1: to be the same iteration that you've told year after
Speaker 1: year after year. Can you find something different? Can you
Speaker 1: find something unique about it? Can you find a different
Speaker 1: level for yourself. I'm not saying this is easy work, friends,
Speaker 1: I'm just saying it's required. It's required if you no
Speaker 1: longer want to continue to soft sabotage your future, because
Speaker 1: you will if you bring that same rehearse story in.
Speaker 1: It's no different than those people that went into that
Speaker 1: room thinking they had a scar on their face that
Speaker 1: they did it. Our scars are for our healing. Our
Speaker 1: scars are for our processing and are accepting and our understanding.
Speaker 1: And this R is the cream. It's the cream that
Speaker 1: takes off that scar. But none of the other letters
Speaker 1: matter if you don't do this first, allow yourself to
Speaker 1: be the cream that removes the scar that's no longer
Speaker 1: serving the future of you. So out loud. One two,
Speaker 1: Write it out, Write on paper that no one will
Speaker 1: ever read. You can burn it if you want. Some
Speaker 1: of my clients love love the burning of it. Even
Speaker 1: if you don't burn it. The point is the paper
Speaker 1: is temporary. You're not saving it for later, you're not
Speaker 1: archiving it. You're getting it out again. If you start
Speaker 1: writing it as if you were saying it for the
Speaker 1: tenth time. Find another layer. What else is true? What
Speaker 1: else are you feeling love? What else is possible for
Speaker 1: you to just let out? I think sometimes all of
Speaker 1: the coaching and and the yoga and the metaphysical aspects
Speaker 1: of the world that we live in say, you gotta
Speaker 1: let it out, you gotta let it go, you gotta
Speaker 1: let it go. I'm telling you you can't let something
Speaker 1: go that you haven't let in. Let this be, You're
Speaker 1: let in. Let this be the time that you don't
Speaker 1: have a curated script for your pain. You just let
Speaker 1: it be what it is. Three, find a safe person.
Speaker 1: Tell them ahead of time that what their job is,
Speaker 1: because they're gonna want to fix it. They're gonna want
Speaker 1: to relate to it. They're gonna want to tell you
Speaker 1: their version, and that's not what this is. Right, You
Speaker 1: can just say I don't need advice right now. I
Speaker 1: just need space. I just need you to hear this. Okay.
Speaker 1: Most people are actually relieved that they don't have to
Speaker 1: fix anything. But whatever you pick, it has to be
Speaker 1: the unedded version, not the one that's practiced with pauses, right,
Speaker 1: the one underneath that right. And like I said, if
Speaker 1: you continue to think that you're saying the same thing
Speaker 1: over and over again, there's always something underneath it, right,
Speaker 1: And there's probably something underneath that keep going down until
Speaker 1: you find the thing that you've never said out loud.
Speaker 1: That's that's the raw version. Then I want you to
Speaker 1: do one check, one check for me, one check, and
Speaker 1: that is do I feel lighter? That's the question. That
Speaker 1: is the litmus test. When it's released, you will feel lighter.
Speaker 1: When it's resisted, when it's rehearsed, you will feel right.
Speaker 1: You will feel more right. You've just got more evidence
Speaker 1: of a story that you're trying to protect. Lighter means
Speaker 1: something released, more right means the script just ran again. Okay,
Speaker 1: go a layer, trust yourself, Trust yourself. So before I
Speaker 1: let you go today, one more thing about this assignment,
Speaker 1: because here is what I know. Understanding what raw means.
Speaker 1: That took us about twenty minutes right, actually doing it
Speaker 1: and doing it again next month and the month after that.
Speaker 1: That's the practice, and a practice needs a place. It's
Speaker 1: really really hard to do this work alone. Trust me,
Speaker 1: I tried, right, Not because you're not capable, right, but
Speaker 1: because you can't what do they say. You can't read
Speaker 1: the label from the inside of the jar. You can't.
Speaker 1: It's called a blind spot for a reason. You're supposed
Speaker 1: to be blind to it. Your brain wants you blind
Speaker 1: to it because this takes courage, and your brain likes
Speaker 1: ease and comfort. Does not want you to be courageous.
Speaker 1: It does not want you to change. It does not
Speaker 1: want your future to look much different than your past.
Speaker 1: So we hold onto the stories of the past to
Speaker 1: ensure the same future, the same inevitable future. You deserve extraordinary,
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