Speaker 1: Made a decision.
Speaker 2: Pace Sunny Sound on Ahead Vision.
Speaker 1: It's nice.
Speaker 3: Let's up everybody, It's a fun Friday day for us.
We're gonna have fun, fun, show, fun, fun. It's all
gonna be fun. And because we have our pal Julie
Casem Yes.
Speaker 1: So excited.
Speaker 2: Thanks for thanks for coming back three shows, guys, Thank you.
Speaker 3: We love it fun. It makes the time go bye
so fast with our hair.
Speaker 2: I know, hello, you guys have a tough job, truly
to come up with things to talk about for two
and a half hours every week.
Speaker 1: That are you know?
Speaker 2: I mean obviously we can sit down with our girlfriends
and chit chit chat chit chat for hours, but you
can't say everything you want to say on the air.
Speaker 1: You got to pick and choose. And so yeah, that
sounds like tough. So you know what makes me.
Speaker 4: So mad is when people when we do a Patreon
and people go for a or whatever that wasn't That
wasn't a great Patreon.
Speaker 1: It's like, what do you guys say, I think we're leaving?
Speaker 4: Like do you think we're getting arrested every rdy?
Speaker 1: What?
Speaker 4: How juicy? And I think it's the lives of women
in their fifties with kids who are like, you know,
working on college. Uplint, like, are tie? Are we spilling
our best?
Speaker 1: Literally?
Speaker 2: I feel for you guys too, because I exactly like
from week to week, you know, thank god there's nothing
that juicy going on, and like, you don't want that, right,
you want your.
Speaker 1: Life to be chill without a lot of drama.
Speaker 4: I guess if you have a part.
Speaker 1: But then also.
Speaker 4: I can't win because if my life, if there is
something like if I get in an argument with people,
people are like, oh there's Stephanie always arguing with people
or whatever, you can't It's my favorite.
Speaker 1: Part of our show. Literally, I love it, so fuck that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, well, maybe I'll have stuff to talk about because
my nephew Anthony just texted me and he's like, do
you think we can go to Kimmel's show tomorrow night?
Speaker 1: Oh? Whish?
Speaker 3: Today's Friday, So tomorrow night is Tuesday for us, which
means we could be there.
Speaker 1: And he's like, and then he can meet my kids
and stuff.
Speaker 3: So I was just text him back, I think that's
a great idea, So we'll see.
Speaker 1: Cute we go. Yeah, yeah, it'd be a good idea. Yeah,
be fun. I love.
Speaker 4: Okay, well, then we'll have a story for next week,
hopefully it won't be Patreon. Now, guys, tell us, like,
you know what you would talk about if you were
doing a patriot Yeah, they eat our audience right really,
like they're in on the Facebook page publicly? What stories,
what personal stories you would share if you were like
living our life, knowing by the way that whatever you share,
just be prepared for a lot of backlash literally for
people to go, I don't care about your opinion.
Speaker 1: Be prepared for that.
Speaker 3: By the way, you can turn it off if you
don't care. The fuck literally wrong with everybody.
Speaker 1: Remember years ago?
Speaker 4: Okay, this was I'm gonna harken us back to like
twenty sixteen's, but remember when, uh, I mean this was
probably even because the election was twenties, it was November.
Speaker 1: Can I talk really quickly, I'm totally gonna interrupt. Yeah.
Speaker 2: I listened to all these you know, SmartLess armchair experts.
I listened to all these podcasts. I'm sorry, but you
guys have been on the air so much longer than
all of these podcasts, and it's like.
Speaker 1: Oh, well, you know they really set the stage.
Speaker 2: And that they started the podcasting and obviously I love
all those podcasts and they're great, but no, you guys
have been doing it so much longer fifteen years, all
of them besides maybe Mark Marin, but you were there
before any of these podcasts rally, and they do all
talk about how they were on the forefront of podcasting,
and I'm.
Speaker 1: Like, no, dude, that's me.
Speaker 2: So when you're like, yeah, back in twenty sixteen, I'm like, exactly,
You've been.
Speaker 1: Doing it for so freaking long. So you guys deserve
a lot of credit. That was nine years ago, Thank you, Julie.
Speaker 4: I do remember getting upset about uh Trump back then
and saying something and I was like, yeah, blah blah blah,
Donald Trump, and uh people lost their ever loving minds.
They were like, how we don't want to hear you.
Speaker 1: Talk about politics as if.
Speaker 4: It's like a suddenly became like a political show. He said,
I didn't like him, and it was so funny to
me that I was I don't think we had a
Facebook group, Yeah, I don't think, so, it was just
on the page.
Speaker 1: Singly.
Speaker 4: People were like direct messaging me. They were so mad.
Speaker 1: And a lot of.
Speaker 4: That obviously does have to do with the fact that
you were married to Adam. Then Adam had a much
more conservative political bent, and I think a lot of
people were like, I want to hear like Lynette, I
want to hear life with Adam from Lynette. I don't
want to hear this cunt and her shitty leftist view.
But I was very surprised.
Speaker 3: I remember being very But then I think our audience
evolved into more mature people and they like, you know,
like us both. Now there's some people that don't even
know Adam, the don't even listen to Adam that are
on her Facebook page.
Speaker 4: Yeah, which is fine with me. That is totally true.
I think also our show has evolved, but there have
been years of like not mentioning politics at all.
Speaker 1: But if you.
Speaker 4: Say anything that even has the slightest sniff of political people.
Speaker 1: Really do like go crazy. Right, You're like, oh, there
they are, there's our listeners.
Speaker 4: But the thing that I think is funny is just
going back to what you said. What I was going
to say is when I said because I got mad
way back then, right, and I was like, fuck that,
I'm going to say what I want. It's my pod,
because if you don't like it, don't listen. Oh god,
you talk about people cancel culture they all do you
remember when people tried to.
Speaker 1: Tell on me to Adam? Oh god, they went on
Adam's page and tried to go like I think you should.
Speaker 3: Know as if Adam is going to go to the
next studio B and be like, hey, Stephanie, pack.
Speaker 1: Your bags literally Okay, Yeah, Adam did not carey cared
about the money coming in and very barely like he
knew that you even had a podcast and something you
didn't even acknowledge it. Now. It's just so funny though,
that he would be.
Speaker 4: That mad right, Also, that Adam was free to talk
his political views. I don't know that Adam ever would
have been like, how dare you say something against from
care It was really funny that people thought I was
going to get they were going to bust me right right,
because somehow does anybody think like honestly that we have
a boss who's telling us what.
Speaker 1: We can Well that's the other thing. Yeah, that's the thing.
Speaker 3: People are like, you know, you should you know, be
careful what you talk about and stuff on the podcast.
Speaker 1: I'm like, be careful from who, Like, where are our bosses?
Speaker 3: If you don't like the podcast, don't listen and you
say what you want online, go ahead, you have your
right of free speech, but we don't give a shit
because we're just sixty. You think after fifteen sixteen years,
we're going to be like, who's gonna.
Speaker 1: Camp at this point?
Speaker 2: Right?
Speaker 1: Right? That's the beauty of podcasting.
Speaker 4: Literally, I just remember too like a long time ago,
but this still this still comes up sometimes where people
were just like, oh my god, poor Lynette. She doesn't
agree with any of Stephanie's views, but she has to
put up with it for the money. Okay, I cannot
tell you how many things are wrong with that statement.
First of all, dumb guys, Line does not need the
money that.
Speaker 1: Comes from this podcast.
Speaker 4: Trust me when I tell you that we are not
getting rich from crying out laws.
Speaker 1: It was the.
Speaker 4: Fifth step child of the Adam Krolla show. Right, nobody
was getting rich.
Speaker 1: Right.
Speaker 4: I had to get a better deal on my car
so that I'm not paying as much as I was
paying for a Tigue one. Okay, So I don't think
Lynnete's hanging out for like the brother care the cash
that are ating dropped at her door every month. Second
of all, like imagine imagine doing a podcast for fifteen
years where you you're so diametrically opposed. Can you imagine, Oh,
Stephanie's personality is too strong. Right, I'm just gonna I'm
gonna take it because I really need them to say.
But I'm not going to speak up because that would
be wo.
Speaker 1: I know, right, I agree like that.
Speaker 3: It's you know, we just we've been doing it for
so long, and you know, we don't talk about politics.
Speaker 1: We try to keep it light or whatever, and it's
like going to escape for us. It is, yes, what
we're doing escape for you guys, it's escape for the listeners.
Like the listeners just want to hear, right, fun funny stories.
Speaker 4: I just know that if Lynnette wanted to, she told
Susanne Brisk to shut the fuck up.
Speaker 1: That's true, I say, early on on air, not off
air on air.
Speaker 4: If she ever was upset with me. Do I sometimes
talk way too much?
Speaker 1: Yes? Do? Do I appreciate it? Yes?
Speaker 3: I do.
Speaker 1: You don't hear when Lynette comes in and goes, please,
I hope you have a lot to talk.
Speaker 4: About because I got nothing, you know, and what that
has a story?
Speaker 1: Trust me?
Speaker 4: I sit back and listen but also I do something
that's called active listening where I get excited and aged
and want to ask more.
Speaker 1: It just makes you a good podcast. That's the point
of podcasting, hope. So I do get a little add
and excited and do interact and I work on it.
Speaker 4: I am, I hear you guys anyway, So do you
have a story for us?
Speaker 1: Well, it's not really a story as much as a
little complaint.
Speaker 4: I was just getting I was getting a little triggered
by politics. No, I'm just kidding bye our local by
nothing group. So here's what happened.
Speaker 1: Happened. The best is you seem to be on this
quite a bit.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I really wasn't for a long time.
Speaker 1: And then like what are you looking for? Like stuff
for LB and that kind of thing? Or no, no
for a fight? Is that? What's okay?
Speaker 4: I almost here's the thing. Do you guys remember a
long time ago I told a story about winning a
toaster oven and then it ended up being like the
worst win in my life. So I'm always very careful.
I wait, if I see something on buy Nothing, I
always go like, is it going to be worth the struggle?
Speaker 3: Like, you know, didn't you buy a couch on buy nothing,
no no where was this.
Speaker 4: All buy nothing? You don't buy anything. It's every free
your neighbors giving stuff away. Remember a while ago, I
told a story about one of my neighbors. Let's call
him Rob because that's his name, but anyway, who was
like giving away, Like would find a nail on the street,
tell each of it and go, hey, heads up. He
loves to curb alerts, which is just like you see
something in front of a neighbor's house and you go like, hey,
this looks like it's in pretty good condition.
Speaker 1: It's a dining room, it's.
Speaker 4: A chair with three legs and like a table. First
come first. Yeah, we know it's outside and in front
of someone's house. We know we can have it if
we want. But also his thing was neighbors would like
he'd get something from a garage sale that his neighbor
was having, buy it, bring it.
Speaker 1: Home, and then be like, flash give.
Speaker 4: You know everybody's on buy nothing knows that Okay, So
there's a flash give, which means you need this out
of your house immediately, right, You're gonna give it to
the first person new comments, or you need that person
to pick it up that day. So he would do
that all the time, and for god knows why, Like
you went and found this item from someone else's house,
brought it to your house, and now you're like, I
got to get this thing out of here immediately. I mean,
maybe he needs some super bored right, okay, but the
thing is to remember a long time ago. He got
mad at me because I said that I would get
I He was like doing something where he had like
ten pairs of sweats that his wife got. They were new,
and I said that I would take a pair. You
had to like go to the individual picture you wanted
and register for which one, like put in stop now
you needn't.
Speaker 1: Put your name and what my god?
Speaker 4: So that I got one. But then he gave me
his address and it was like super far, even though
it's in and SEENO Popper, but it was like really far.
So I ended up telling him like, hey, I'm not
going to come after it, because he wanted it like
right away.
Speaker 1: He wanted you to.
Speaker 4: Come, and I was like, it's like pretty kind of far,
and I don't know how much time I have today,
so I said never mind, and he got mad, Oh
my gosh, okay, but now egg on my face because
I just got irritated. Okay, so I put, oh, okay,
so I have Elbe's mattress topper, okay from when she
So she's, wait, why.
Speaker 1: Don't you keep it for Xander and Sandy. They're going
to need it for their dorm room. You know what,
I will get who knows? Who knows?
Speaker 4: And that's a little bit far away. And also we
just don't have room. And it was sitting like in
a corner of my house, and I was like, I
need somebody who has a kid in college who needs
to their dorm room right now. I don't know what's
going to happen with you know, maybe maybe e Xander's
gonna go outside of California and we'll just go get him.
Speaker 1: Want to send it? I don't know what's going to happen,
but I wanted it out of my house.
Speaker 4: So I posted it on Buy Nothing, and then so
two people said they were interested, so I rob one
of them was Rob one of them? No, Rob was
not one of them. Okay, So I write to the
person right away. I was like, great, I'm going to
give this to you. And I didn't like let it
simmer they call it, but I was like Hey, this
person's interested.
Speaker 1: I'm going to give it to him.
Speaker 4: Oh and they wrote like as soon as I posted it,
they wrote on there like a couple of minutes later.
So I wrote back right away. I was like, great,
you can have it. Proceed to like never hear from
them the whole day.
Speaker 1: So then I.
Speaker 4: Direct message them and I'm like, hey, you said you
wanted this, Like do you want it? Never hear back
from them. So then I go to the one other
person that said they were interested. So I go to
that person. I message them. I'm like, hey, are you
interested in this? And the woman goes yeah. So I
go okay, like, so here's my address. She goes okay,
Like I don't really exactly remember how this went down,
but suffice it to say that like she didn't. She
never came either. Then I so I write back to her.
She's like, oh, can I get it in the afternoon?
So I write back and I go, yeah, like around
what time, you know, like around two? I go okay, great,
no problem. So I put I put it in a
plastic bag over it. I put it outside on my porch.
She goes, can you make sure it's a porch porch?
Speaker 1: Pickup? It's like, yeah, bitch, I don't want you coming
in my house. Like I'm all about this. I'll leave
it in my backyard. Yeah yeah exactly.
Speaker 4: So anyway, she doesn't come. It's getting to be like
it's like five o'clock now, so I just send her
a message and I'm like, hey, are you.
Speaker 1: Are you coming?
Speaker 4: And she goes, I'm at work.
Speaker 1: So it's like, what, I'm at work? What am I
bugging you to?
Speaker 2: Like?
Speaker 1: You?
Speaker 4: This thing was like one hundred and fifty bucks.
Speaker 2: And you said two o'clock, so like she said that right,
so she said too, right right, and so whatever it was.
Speaker 4: Maybe it was now like six o'clock. It's like starting
to get dark and I'm deciding whether to bring it in,
and she goes, I'm at work. So I write back
like question mark, like what does that mean? They're not coming?
Doesn't write, doesn't ever write me back, So I'm like, really,
so I a deal in the house.
Speaker 1: People are weird.
Speaker 4: Then I delete the post and I posted again and
I go now I'm mad, and I'm like, hey, I've
got this item, please only respond if you're interested in it.
Speaker 1: So then another bit.
Speaker 4: Oh, So then a woman says that she wants it,
so I write her back and I go, great, you
can have it. Never hear from her. I direct message her.
She doesn't respond. Meanwhile, the first person that I was
going to give it to, who had never responded to
me that the earlier post, said was like, oh my gosh,
I'm sorry I didn't see I didn't see your message,
but like, I'm still interested, and I was like, okay,
Unfortunately I promised it to somebody else. This is when
it was on the plane to the other woman. Now
I got high right back to this woman, and now
I'm like, okay, you can first of all, listen the
whole thing. I cannot explain to you how much energy
it took to do this. And I was like, what
am I doing? Are you doing here.
Speaker 3: Trying to get rid of something that somebody else could use,
and it's like you're dealing with all these But I
guess some people because I don't really check my direct
messages on Facebook that often, so maybe some people. Okay,
but if you but if you are you want something, you.
Speaker 4: All you have to see is the notification. I just
direct message him. I said a thing on the and
they commented on I was like, you got it. You
one messaged me for the item.
Speaker 1: Nothing.
Speaker 3: They just like close out and they don't go back
and check and listen.
Speaker 1: I grant you. It's kind of annoying when you win
something and then you're like, oh, I gotta go pick
it out.
Speaker 2: But a mattress is such a unique thing. You either
want it or you don't. You're either moving into college
and you don't have one and you could use it,
or you don't. It's not like a poster where maybe yeah,
I don't know, it's just kind of a random So then.
Speaker 4: I had also written back to remember I said there
were two people on the first post that said they
wanted it. So I went to the other one and
I was like, hey, are you still interested? I never
heard from the other person, and then she doesn't see
that until the next day, and then she writes, well,
I didn't see this, but I'm rescinding my interest sending
interest you people have way too much time in your
hands and I don't have this much time. And now
I'm sorry for the whole thing.
Speaker 1: Stuck with it.
Speaker 2: Nobody wanted it, no.
Speaker 4: I so so the very first woman that I was
going to give it to you that hadn't seen it,
wrote me back, was like, absolutely still want it. This
was at night when I pulled it back in my
house after I'd said question mark to the other woman
and she just never wrote.
Speaker 1: She blew me off. So then I pulled it back
in the house.
Speaker 4: I texted, I messaged that woman who had originally said
she wanted it that. I was like, I'm so sorry
I offered it to someone else. Went back to her.
She was like, yes, I totally want it. I was like,
can you come by tomorrow? She was like, I can
come by first thing in the morning. I was like, great,
put it out on the porch.
Speaker 1: It's gone. Now.
Speaker 4: Fucking question Mark lady up in my DMS going like hey,
oh oh, and I said to her, I said, hey,
it didn't work out. I brought it back in the house.
So now she's in my DMS right now going like, hey,
I want the mattress topper.
Speaker 1: And I just didn't respond. You did it. You showed her.
It's so stupid that I was like, yeah, I take it.
Speaker 3: Do you think these some of these people just do
this all the time. They just go on buy and
then go I'll take it, I'll take it. I'll take it,
and then just.
Speaker 4: I don't like the fun of it, but I okay.
So then like just the other day, I and I
never do this because I always regret when I say
I want something and I win it. But this woman
had these really cool hair tools, like one of those brush,
like a heated brush.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I love their hairs.
Speaker 4: That I've seen on Facebook, and I kind of low
key want to see it on my hair and like
a curling iron kind of thing. And I was like,
I don't need like more stuff in my house, but
I do want my hair to look less frizzy. So,
by the way, I haven't used it yet, so what
you're seeing is not the it's not the effect.
Speaker 1: But anyway, I won it. And yeah, it ended up
being like a huge pain in the ask to.
Speaker 4: Go get it because it was like a porch up
but in a gated community, so I had to have
a code and it had to be at a time
that she could like let me in, you know what
I mean. Like, I'm kind of sorry that I that
i'd take it. So then show up, No I don't,
you did.
Speaker 1: You did show up?
Speaker 4: I showed up even though I didn't want to. I
tried to get Sadie to go with me, and she
was like, nah, dude.
Speaker 1: My name is Paul.
Speaker 2: Y'all.
Speaker 4: I was like, I know, but I just need somebody
to get out of the car and do the gatecoade.
Speaker 1: I want to be bothered. It's just like, neither do I.
But I did it.
Speaker 4: I parked the car, I went up to the gate.
I even have like a little nervous anxious feeling because
I was like, it's like, is she gonna be watching
me like a camera like coming here? And then it's
like then you have that feeling too. I'm doing all
this for like a a heated hair tool.
Speaker 1: Did you try it yet? Not yet? What's the brand name?
I can't remember you No, no, I can't remember. Why
have you tried one of those?
Speaker 3: I've tried a bunch of them. Some of them are good,
some of them are kind of junkie, like have you waked?
It was like, I know, they makes it look like
like your hair is going to turn out just perfect.
Speaker 1: Like you've got a Brazilians. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Like Sophie came home from New York and she's like
I used my friends and you know, in the dorm
and it was amazing. So we I mean, we didn't
buy an expensive one with like a Revlon one or something.
Speaker 1: It's not circular.
Speaker 2: It's the one that's like a brush on one side
and like a heating thing, like it heats up and
then you just it's almost like a straightening arm with
a brush on one side.
Speaker 1: Are we talking about kind of No, this one.
Speaker 4: Is like just like Rush but it's but it's hot.
Speaker 3: So I'll tell you the best one to get and
I use it on my hair because I got thick,
frizzy hair is the Revlon Round brush one.
Speaker 1: Yes, that's what I use, and it's you get it
at the drug store. It's easy sixty bucks. It's hot
as hell.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it gets hot when you do it when your
hair is wet or if you know, wet your hair
a little bit after it's dry, Like, it comes out
really nice.
Speaker 1: I totally agree.
Speaker 2: Like when I go to my friend to do my roots,
because she does it out of her house, She's.
Speaker 1: Like, do you want me to blow dry it?
Speaker 2: I'm like, no, I go home and do my Revlon
and it comes out better than anybody can blow dry it.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it makes it. It's just like two days ago. Julie,
you always look good. Thanks girl.
Speaker 4: So my kids have the have those. They have a Revlon.
But then I bought them both member for Christmas. Christmas,
there was one of these expensive dice do Yeah, but
the dice and dupe.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you got the real dyce In.
Speaker 2: We returned it like the next day. This is like
a few years ago. The kids wanted it for Christmas.
That was like a big gift for them.
Speaker 1: It doesn't Yeah, it wasn't like great. Yeah, I don't
like any of theirs. They're dupe.
Speaker 4: Okay, good, it was still not cheap. I got it
at Costco.
Speaker 2: Yeah. We returned it to Nordstrom way back when. But then, okay,
so there's another dyce In that Sophie used in New York,
her friend's Dyceon. I'm like, well, I'm not buying you
that because we tried that before and it didn't work,
So I'll buy you the dupe but for Revlin and
it didn't work. So whatever that dyce In was worked
well for her. Well, I don't know what, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 3: I hope people are listening to us for their hair
style tips.
Speaker 2: I know, literally, but we both have like this thick
You gotta tell y I at least, I mean, it's
not so thick anymore, but it's still hard to blow
drive and that Revlin.
Speaker 1: I give it thumbs up, thumbs up. I should try.
Speaker 4: I should do like a thing where I just try
all the hair tools that are in our house. There
you go, Yeah, you should do a lot, the one,
the dice and dupe one. Though I feel like you
need to watch like YouTube videos to learn how to
do it. I'm like, I can't learn new stuff. Yeah,
you know, there's like a way you hold it, and
there's all these different attachments, like I just need like
one you can.
Speaker 1: Do hard things. Oh my god, Oh my god, this
is so funny.
Speaker 2: So when I was working at the school, there was
someone they're still doing it, but there was some one
that would always put like a like an affirmation in
the bathroom every morning, so when you walk in, and
so one one morning they put on the mirror you
can do hard things. And then I took a sticky
and I put next to it or hard.
Speaker 1: Things can do you isses. That's great. But then I
was like, I don't want to get fired. So I
took it and I showed my boss. I showed Hillary,
who's that's funny. I was like, can I keep this up?
Speaker 2: She's like, no, you can't because I'm like, stop with
the affirmations.
Speaker 1: Just stop. I can't. It's so funny. They write it
like on a sticky on the mirror.
Speaker 2: Every morning, and it's like, look, look, of course that's
sweet and it's a nice way to start your day.
Speaker 3: But it's like, you know, sometimes I have friends that
like will text me for me, like like a meme
or a post and like, you know, like yeah, I'm
just like, okay, what do I thumbs up.
Speaker 1: It right right? Yes, you got to heart it, and
just like yes, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2: I'm trying to get into this Mel Robins vibe and
I just can't.
Speaker 1: I feel like she just talks at you the whole time.
Speaker 2: It's like you're not doing this, you're not doing that,
but do it my way and it's the right way.
Speaker 1: I don't know, have you guys gotten into that? No?
I just don't agree with the whole let them they
let them theory?
Speaker 4: What like, isn't that just like, well, so explain what
Mel Robin's I.
Speaker 2: To be honest, I don't know enough about her. I
just listened to one episode of one of her podcasts,
and I was like, oh, this is a lot because
I had heard her on what on SmartLess? I think, hmm,
and listen, I think which has to say makes a
lot of sense.
Speaker 1: But it's her delivery. I think. I'm annoyed it, but
very self help.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's self help.
Speaker 2: The the let them theory is like, you know, there's
gonna be people around you that.
Speaker 1: I don't even know, like that.
Speaker 2: That do things that you may not like, and you
want to always try and change them or make it
better or fix it.
Speaker 1: And her whole point is just let them, let them
and let you.
Speaker 2: So let them do the thing, and you do you
stop trying to fix everybody, stop trying to like help
a situation you can't help. Just let them, let them
be assholes, right, and then you do you And.
Speaker 1: I think that's what I do all the time. But yeah,
well exactly, it's pretty obvious.
Speaker 2: But it blew up and it's there's a book They'll
let them and this and that, but apparently.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know, there's a whole poem.
Speaker 2: Someone wrote a poem called let Them and it was
all about them, okay, and so or you could have boundaries, right, Yeah,
let people walk them over you too. I think her
point is like, you can't change people, so just let
them be. But you don't have to. It's how you
respond to that. So let you let them and let
you let you respond to that in your own way
like you do you and just let them be them.
Speaker 4: Just it's just a very oversimplified, like therapy speak thing
that like why is she Why are the people going
like that's oh my god, thank you for saying something
that I've never heard before, right, like, oh you do
you what?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah are I think that's like what a lot
of self help really is. And I think, you know,
some people just need to hear it again, you know
what I mean. It just sometimes it resonates with people
in a way that it's delivered by Mel Robbins versus
a friend who tells you the exact same thing, like
freaking forget it, You're never gonna change them, let it go,
you just do you, right, that's so obvious. But when
it's told to you by someone in a position of authority,
it's like, yeah.
Speaker 1: What a great idea. I don't know, it just like
sticks in a different way.
Speaker 2: I will say, way back when I went to an
Anthony Robbins Weekend sevenar my dad's sent me, my brother,
my sister when we were like late teens.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, Tony Robbins. What Robins? Yeah, yeah, yeah,
I don't know that. A lot of people call him Anthony.
Did I say Anthony Robins?
Speaker 2: Yeah, and my buddy aunt, I knew you were talking
about Tony Robbins, who at the time was a huge
I will tell you after three days, I was so inspired.
Speaker 1: Oh my god. I feel like it was like cultish
in a way.
Speaker 2: You know, you're there in this huge stadium and everybody's
like cheering.
Speaker 3: And you're just like, yes, I don't know, I've heard
that before. If you like, if you're there for the
three days.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it kind of changes you, it was. Does it
change it forever? Yeah.
Speaker 2: There was one thing that he did when we were
in the audience. He's like, I want you guys to
just get really happy and excited and just like just
be so happy and like yelling go yes yet. And
I swear that whole room those vibrations were crazy, and
I was just.
Speaker 1: Like, yeah, it's because just one lottery and there was
nothing I was excited about. But I didn't and to
this day. I swear.
Speaker 2: I'm like, it's a really great feeling. You just sit
in that room and just cheer and be be so
happy for no reason.
Speaker 1: And then I walked on hot coals. Damn it. Well listen.
Speaker 3: I mean, if it's making people happy, that's great. Did
you walk on the hot coals?
Speaker 1: I walked on the hot coals. That was legit.
Speaker 2: I saw them shoveling the coals into like this long walkway,
and then you were supposed to say, cool moss. You go,
cool moss, cool moss, Cool moss, cool moss, and you
just walk across it really fast. But this is after
a whole night of him just amping you up, so
your endorphins are like flying. You might as well have
been on coke or something. And then you're just walking
across these hot coals and it's like nothing wow on
your feet, not at all.
Speaker 1: It was a trus amazing. It was pretty cool. I
will say I may maybe I'll do it for the show.
Do it for the show, Yes, I'll do a plot.
Do it for the plot.
Speaker 4: The thing is like a lot of these things can
border on that, you know, like manifest like manifesting ag
where you're manifesting stuff, and it's really all about like
getting material stuff. So yeah, really about self help or
like feeling better from the inside. It's about like I'm
going to do this thing and I'm going to focus
on like, you know shit, and then I'm gonna have
like a lot of money. It's the think and grow rich.
Speaker 1: It's the there are those.
Speaker 2: Melt Robbins is not that Tony Robbins was not that right,
but yes, there are definitely.
Speaker 4: All that that's not abundance like that you're not just
trying to like get shit, because now this is very.
Speaker 2: Much about learning how to get out of a rut
you're in. Like I literally listened to one podcasto Ers
and then obviously not want I didn't even listen to
the whole podcast. It was like eight things you should
say to yourself when you wake up in the morning,
and I got to number four and I listened to
but it was more about like you're gonna wake up
and you're going to say make I'm going to make
it a great day. Then the second thing you're gonna
say is something cool is going to happen today or
I'm gonna do something cool today. And the third thing
was like I can handle what comes my way, and
the I literally the idea is it's just positive self talk,
so that when you get out of bed, instead of
feeling anxious and scared and anticipating all the shit that's
going to go wrong, you're literally programming your brain. And
there's like science behind it that you're programming your brain.
You're saying these things, so your brain is now looking
for those positive things. Oh what's the cool thing that's
going to happen to me today? Oh yeah, I can
totally handle this today. You know, it's all in theory. Yeah,
but she does quote science behind it, right, and she
has a lot of like science behind it. So as
much as I'm shitting on her, it does kind of expense.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Not a scientist. Well, you know, she's an nayer.
She was a nyah.
Speaker 3: My kids when they went to starting in kindergarten, their school,
they had the principal every day would go good morning, cougars,
give an announcement, and then at the end of the announcement,
he go, make it a great day or not. The
choice is yours. And I would say that to them
when they got out of the car.
Speaker 1: Have a great day, make it a great day or not.
Speaker 3: The choice All the way through high school when I
would drop them off and they'd be like, oh my.
Speaker 1: God, shut up, I shut up. The fuck does that
even mean? But I bet you.
Speaker 2: Anything, as they become adults and they're facing something challenging,
they can go okay. I can either be in a
bad mood about it, or I can just make it
a good day. The choice is my Like everything my
dad taught me when I was younger, I swear like
all those things, as you get older, like it.
Speaker 1: Does and then you start using it, Yeah, I would.
Speaker 4: I get more anxious the older I get, And even
though my default is positivity and optimism, but the older
I get, the more I get anxiety about stuff that
can cloud it. But I've been really trying to be
a little bit more aware of it. Like yesterday our
ice maker wasn't working and in our fridge, and my
first I was, of course, like.
Speaker 1: I don't think the ice is working. Then I went
into a little denial and I was like, well, maybe
it is.
Speaker 4: It's just like just running really low for so maybe
the kids just used a bunch of ice. And I noticed,
and then I I was like, no, there's no ice
in here, like it's not working anyway. Then I knew
that John had just changed the filter on the water thing,
and I was like.
Speaker 1: Oh, so John broke the ice maker.
Speaker 4: It probably broke it, and I was having negative thoughts.
I was like negative, like now I'm going to have
to call our applian Sky and it's going to cost money,
and he's going to say and that we're going to
need a new refrigerator. And then I was like, you
know what I'm going to think of the like who
I was like, these are first world problems, like our
icemaker's broken. Yeah, Like we'll get it fixed. It'll be fine.
And then swear to God. Next thing that happened because
after I was like, I'm gonna just let this go
for right this minute. Doesn't need to be my top
thing that I need to take care of.
Speaker 1: And then John had gone and like looked up like
chat gpt'd what to do when your ice creamer isn't working,
and he unplugged it.
Speaker 4: He found out you have to unplug it for like
seven minutes and then plug it back in and it
could restart the cycle. And he was like, oh, I'm
just gonna unplug the fridge because I looked it up
on chat GPT and I was like, oh, okay, cool,
and then I forgot about it, and then this morning
a whole thing full of ice.
Speaker 5: And because you had that positive thought, I just didn't
allow myself to go like, oh another thing, right, Yeah,
I mean I did it for a minute, and then
I was like, this is what I do lately.
Speaker 1: I let myself be dragged down by way.
Speaker 4: I catastrophize for no real reason, like who cares?
Speaker 3: So you're more aware? Yeah, yeah, Julie. Do you want
to talk about your hat?
Speaker 1: Oh? Yes, okay.
Speaker 2: So I'm wearing a hat that says live like brawn
and this is.
Speaker 3: We should take a picture and put it on our Facebook. Yeah, okay,
take a picture of her. She looks cute right now.
Speaker 2: And I'll think from very good friends of ours unfortunately
lost their son to a drunk driver. He was crossing
the street at night in Manhattan Beach and a woman
who was driving on a suspended license for already driving
under the influence, hit him. And he was eighteen years
old about to graduate high school. And you know, I
mean just an amazing kid all around. I mean, he
did a ton of philanthropy. He was an amazing student,
he was an amazing friend. He lived life to the fullest.
His name was Braun and bron Levy. So this is
to Live Like Braun Foundation LLB. And basically his mom
and dad are doing the best they can in Adele,
his sister Adele, to honor their son, who's an amazing kid.
And they started a foundation. And the idea with living
like Braun is just to live with, you know, positivity,
with a sense of adventure, with a sense of kindness
and giving back and just living life the fullest.
Speaker 1: And so the.
Speaker 2: Foundation is, you know, I'm not exactly sure what they're
doing with the money. I do know they're going to
try and start scholarships and things like that. And he
was a nationally ranked tennis player, like fifty in the country,
and so he was supposed to start college this fall
like everybody else. And it's just tragic. And so Jen,
his mom is been lobbying in Washington to try and
get stricter laws in California, you know, and on a
federal level for driving under the influence and get more
checkpoints and all of those things. So what happened with
the lady, I don't know. She was arrestless time she
was arrested. Yeah, but she's out now and I don't
know where that all is, to be honest.
Speaker 3: And this happened in Manhattan Beach because they had to
move to Manhattan Beach.
Speaker 1: It's so awful. Dan, yeah, Dan and Jen.
Speaker 2: They Dan works with Jamil, but they lost their house
in the fires. And not only did they lose their
house in the fires, they moved to Hermosa Beach, but
which is right next to Manhattan Beach. And then Braun
took it upon himself to start like some organization to
get supplies and you know, help the people that have
lost their homes get supplies and help them transition to
their new living situation. Like that was just who he was,
you know.
Speaker 1: And so.
Speaker 2: It's it's kind of a movement where a lot of
people are now wearing these live like Braun hats, live
like Brounz sweatshirts. A lot of colleges, a lot of
all of his friends that are going to college now
have lived like Braun banners. They're putting up in their
dorm rooms just to remind everybody to like live each
day to the fullest and be your best self.
Speaker 1: So if you want to donate.
Speaker 2: You can go to the Live Like braun br au
N Foundation and you can read up on his story
and see his pictures and just this kid was just
full of light so well, and it's.
Speaker 1: All the and they sell all them. I'm going to go, yeah,
I want that hat. Yeah you yeah, totally.
Speaker 3: Well, my kids were friends with him. Yeah, and my
daughter was was really close. He had a friend that
was close to him, and she was close to that kid.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: She said she's met him many many times and he
was just the best kid, so friendly, so easy to
get along with, like just full of life, of life,
and such a great athlete. She was so impressed with
tennis playing and just to be a senior, right, you know,
don't get to go off to college and to have
that happen, and I just can't imagine.
Speaker 1: It's like truly your worst nightmare. Yeah yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2: And after losing your house in the fire, right, Like
you know, what I think is like they lost all
of his memories. You know, It's like I was thinking
about that, like those were all of his memories and
then they lose their son, and it's like what you know,
obviously they have memories and photos, but like his tangible items,
you know, lost. It's awful, but they really are turning
this tragedy into into hope and doing the best they
can to get through it.
Speaker 1: So I'll live life Braun. Yeah seriously, Yeah yeah, I
wear it to be honest.
Speaker 2: So Braun is the kid that decided one day he
was going to run the La marathon and just ran it.
Speaker 1: You didn't train for it, not like this is who
this kid is. I'm not kidding.
Speaker 2: So like, I'll wear his hat to the gym, or
I'll wear his shirt to the gym. And I'm like,
if Braun can run a marathon, I can run taking
thirty minutes on the treadmill, like and I really try.
And I think a lot of people like really feel
inspired by that movement and are like, yeah, let's we
can do this, you know.
Speaker 3: Yeah, oh yeah, wow. Well we've had a very uplifting show.
Speaker 4: Yeah I'll tell you this before to you know, close
us out on a happier note. What I do at
the gym besides live like Braun is I watch. I've
been watching Love Is Blind from different countries. So my
latest one is Love is Blood Blind Sweden. You're on
the Sweden line. You already finished.
Speaker 1: Wow, you're you're around the world. You're going international.
Speaker 4: Man, I'm my brain from like politics right now?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, so and fear. So I'm like, let me
let me watch some Love is Blind.
Speaker 4: So I asked Reddit which Love is Blind I should watch,
and people told me Sweden. So I've just finished, uh,
season two and now moving on to season one.
Speaker 1: Yeah wow, so mid Love is Blind France.
Speaker 4: That so we're recording on a Monday and that's going
to finish out the episodes on Wednesday. And Love is
Blind Brazil with the older people. Was I telling you
about that last Yeah? Yeah, yeah, it was Blind Brazil.
There's older people on it.
Speaker 1: There's people over fifty. Yeah, oh there is you to
tell us that. Yeah, I know you can do about that.
Speaker 4: It's the latest season is all over fifty people. And
these people are so goddamn ridiculous. I mean, these guys
are like, first of all, we all know that men
are not are never interested in like age appropriate women,
and this there's no exception here. The guys are older
and like even the woman who's fifty, they're like she's
like the hottest.
Speaker 1: One to them, you know. But the women who are
like close to their age.
Speaker 4: They're just like, the guys are ridiculous, and I don't
think any of these people are getting married on that one.
Speaker 1: The Sweden season two was so.
Speaker 4: Good, really, yes, it was really good, and there's some like,
oh good love stories on there, and it's very surprising.
Speaker 1: This is the thing with love is Blind.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I loved it, but I just feel like the
when they're in the Pods, it just goes on too long,
and I just like I start fast forwarding to like,
is it gonna happen?
Speaker 1: Right?
Speaker 3: And I know, I know, I fast forward the Pods,
Yeah it could, just then I feel like if I do,
fat what if I fast forward an apartment I know,
or where he's talking about losing his or something, you know,
right right right? I know, but yeah I do. It's like,
come on, let's get to the vacation exactly, the honeymoon.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, you don't feel that way starts.
Speaker 4: There's sometimes why you need to watch the Pods is
because some drama can happen where there's like a couple
of people interested in the same person and then that
person either lies to one of them or breaks up,
and you need that because then later whenever when they
bring everybody back the barbecuers, well Patrick, and they do
they do the one event where all the old cano
didn't end up in a cup Patrick and didn't call
them the barbecuers.
Speaker 1: I think that's because they show up at the Yeah,
I totally do. That's what they did last season on
the US one.
Speaker 2: That's exactly what happened, right, Yeah, there was a guy
that like was kind of bissing two different girls.
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, and he his name.
Speaker 4: Sometimes they don't like the one that they meet that
they've chosen, right, and then the other they.
Speaker 1: See the other one and she's like hi, yeah, yeah, and.
Speaker 4: It creates a problem. Well that was on the last
I think that was the last season. The guy picked
the girl and they weren't really getting along that well,
and then he started dating the other girl, like cheating, right,
and then she showed up at the barbecue or whatever,
and they ended up like going off on a jet
ski together.
Speaker 1: Remember that. Yeah, that guy was just a doue. Yes,
it was. The Sweden one is really good. The problem
is you're gonna want to like find out what happened
to these people afterwards, and it's hard to get good
info because I don't think as many people care so
they don't have they not get I want to know.
Speaker 4: There's a couple that did get married. I won't say who,
which couple, but a couple got married, and then the
woman they taught, like vague, spoke about how she had
gone through a bunch of stuff in her personal life
and that's why they weren't living together. But everything's fine,
they're totally in love, but blah blah blah, we can't
live together because of my personal life.
Speaker 1: And I was like, what the fuck happened in her
personal life? And no way after the fact, So I'm
googling it to death. I cannot find anything. See that's
the art that sucks. Yeah.
Speaker 2: The best was when the first season of Love Is
blind Us came on. I think it was the first season,
maybe the second, I don't know where. It was that
shorter guy that had dark hair and the blonde girl,
and when she saw him in real life, she was
not into it, and so she's like, let's recreate the pods.
Speaker 4: Like the drunkie Jessica Jessica, yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, that's right. So she was like, basically, she
was like, get away from me. I can't with you.
So just go around that wall and then let's tell
my god, terrible yeah.
Speaker 2: Mark, Yes, and so when he was older right then, yes, yes,
and I was like, oh this is awful.
Speaker 1: It was cringe. Yeah, oh my god.
Speaker 2: This poor guy like he has no idea how she
is so not into him. Y.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's good. That's good. That's a good show.
Speaker 4: And I want to say too, like last season on
the US one, remember there was the guy. She felt
the guy was too short, but also and then she
tried to say, well, also.
Speaker 1: I think you've met me before.
Speaker 4: I think you just yeah, yes, you snuck in.
Speaker 1: You were in my day.
Speaker 4: But then they ended up falling in love and they're
like happy and they got married.
Speaker 1: That's amazing. So it does produce couples.
Speaker 4: She really into it first, and then sometimes the attraction.
Sometimes they're not into it right away, but then because
of the experiment that like.
Speaker 1: Falling in love. I love that.
Speaker 4: All right, Well, let us say hi to our people.
We don't have a ton of the business shoutouts this time,
but we've got Dick Frolicker and Nikki call your Girl,
and Elizabeth Williamson has too many kids, and Rita's trying
to help out with the bass yet, but you know, Holly,
we live your pancakes. And Valerie hits it out of
the park and Katerina check your moller. And Gabby Missy
come on, get your shit together onpe but so cute.
Speaker 1: Kelly Brandt, you know she'll help you out.
Speaker 4: Alicia Escalante from the city of El Monte and Leslie
with the coughing because of COVID. Aaron's a dirty Sanchez, Jennifer,
get up, Sandra, it's not easy being green.
Speaker 1: Athena. We love your dancing and just your vibe, your
overall vibe. Let them, you know.
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just doing your own thing.
Speaker 1: Let them, you know exactly.
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You know they smell great. Light a candle.
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Speaker 1: You can get hold of them.
Speaker 3: Julie, my goodness, this was so fun.
Speaker 1: We love you, thanks for having me. This was amazing,
loved it. Yeah, thank you for coming and we'll see
you soon. Yes, absolutely, and then you're a parent now,
don't f it up. Let angle