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Speaker 1: Made a decision.

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Speaker 2: Pace sunny Sun yet on I had a vision.

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Speaker 3: It's nice.

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Speaker 1: What's up everybody, love you guys.

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Speaker 2: I was just writing my thank you cards, thank you emails,

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and I didn't send you one, Stephanie, because I send

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you a text.

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Speaker 3: No but not necessary girl.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, I was. I was like, I don't

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have to.

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Speaker 4: I thought, I I'm sorry, thank you of course anyway

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for the film memorial and I was just like, a

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lot of them are our listeners, and they are so

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sweet and so generous, and I love all you guys

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that donated.

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Speaker 1: We raised like close to three grand to.

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Speaker 2: Help these poor animals and these families that need help

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in a crisis.

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Speaker 1: So it all went to good you know, good good cause.

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So thank you guys.

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Speaker 3: You know it's amazing that having a pet costs so

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much money. And I was just thinking today because so

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and I'll explain more about this later, but suffice it

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to say that I had to go get my cartooned up.

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And it doesn't it wasn't even requiring a service, right,

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it was. I just I'm going to drive it to

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northern California this weekend. Here's why you know what this

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is a this is a topic I do want to

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get into. So I'm taking Xander to the state competition

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for speech and debate. As we remember Equalified. It's in

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Union City, which is near Berkeley, so it's pretty far.

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So it's five and a half hour, six hour drive,

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and it's this weekend, this weekend coming up, so when

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you're listening to the Friday Show this Friday, I will

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be in the car driving with Xander on the road.

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Speaker 1: Nice. So my one of my.

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Speaker 3: Thoughts though, and I literally was just talking to John

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about this today, was I'm a little bit scared to

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take the electric car because I just.

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Speaker 1: Think it's going to be patrinotized.

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Speaker 3: You it just seems like maybe the electric car is

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for local drives. And you know, the prius it doesn't

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look like much, but it gets great gas MILEGIC gets

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like fifty five miles per gallon, right because it's a hybrid.

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So I'm going to get to northern California on a

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tank of gas and get home on a tank of gas.

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well normally it's like thirty dollars. It seems it seems

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like it's probably worth it to take that car and

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not worry about where to find a plug in?

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Speaker 2: Right, well, knowing you and how you have your anxiety

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with where am I going? Where am I going to park?

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You know, you this one thing that you don't have

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to worry about. You don't want to be worrying about

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and thinking about Lynette nor Tesla and all those problems.

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Speaker 3: And well also with the Mercedes when you went to

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santamar Frey and you you were like okay, cause you

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couldn't get your turn at the thing, so you were like,

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fuck it, I'm just going to drive home. I probably

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have enough. But then it started running out, well what

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if that happens to me? And I'm on the five

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and I got Xander and I'm like all right, Well,

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so John is like, listen, there's a lot of plugins,

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and it's on the app. There's plenty of places and

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you can just plan ahead and go, I'm going to

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stop here. But you know, there's that part of my

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brain that's like, eh, but what if there's a people

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in line?

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Speaker 1: And it's like if that's what I had issue? Right?

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Speaker 2: I went to your Ralphs that one night and there

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was a line like eleven o'clock at night.

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Speaker 3: There's always lines yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: So then part of me is like, well, maybe because

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I'm not going to be in like the Ralphson Ensino.

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what if that's the one that I need because I'm

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starting to run out of charge and then there's a

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big long line and we're sitting there for forty five

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minutes and then it takes thirty five minutes to charge up.

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was like, why why don't I just take the PRIs Okay? Yeah,

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So I'm like, I'm gonna take the Prius, but I'm

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going to take it by my mechanic and make sure

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that you know, like the tire light's been on for

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a while, which we usually ignore because yes, the weather,

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the weather affects it. You know, there is okay, but

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and it doesn't even really need It's not even due

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for an oil change. But I was like, let me

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just have them check everything out because I'm going to

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be driving. Well guess what my guy calls me like

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after he's had the car for thirty minutes. Oh, first

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of all, too, this is kind of funny. So John

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tells me, here's the questions that my guy's name is

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a Ram. He's been nicest, he's like family guy, mechanic.

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He's super nice. So John's like, in the back seat,

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the latch does doesn't work in the back, Like, you

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can't get out of the car, but you can come

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around to the outside and you can let somebody out.

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the problem is? So I go, okay. Also, apparently the

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back latch doesn't work, and they think the automatic lot

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something's wrong with it. It doesn't open when you and

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he's like, okay, so show me. So we go to

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the car. I get in the car to test it out.

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I'm like, yep, sure enough, it won't open. So he

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opens it from the outside. Then, of course the childlock

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was switched, which anybody that's any of us moms would

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have known, like, did you check? I didn't think to

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I'm like, I'm dealing with an adult here. You'd think

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he would have checked the childlock. That would be the

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first thing you would check.

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Speaker 1: No nobody thought of that.

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Speaker 3: So my guy Arom just goes, oh, well, just flip

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this up now try it. Yeah, it was fine. So

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I'm like, okay, but no, Sadie did a little Sadie

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drives this car. This is the car drives everywhere. Now,

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of course there's a little accident in it. There. She

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got a little she did something which she claims she

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was not in the car when it happened, and she

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doesn't have any idea how it happened. But okay, something

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happened which is going to cost like seven hundred dollars

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to fix, okay, because we have to replace the outside

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bumper area. Okay. So I'm like good news, bad news

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when I get home. Good news is the latch works fine,

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it was the child. And then he's like, what's the

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bad news, And I'm like, well, it's not a minor repair.

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that's sticking out. It needs to be replaced. Okay. Right

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then I get a call from my mechanic like thirty

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minutes later, and he's like, here's the thing. Oh now,

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your two front tires are literally missing rubber. Like the

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way it's being driven, it's hitting curbs, it's like you're

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scraped rubber off of the tires. They have to be replaced.

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Speaker 2: So wow, Lenny's I mean I know this because my

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dad Will You used to always tell me accidents, most

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accidents happen because of tires low low pressure or the

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tread they're bald, That's how most accidents happen.

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Speaker 1: So you gotta get that fixed.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, So we had to replace the front tires, we

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had to do alignment, and he said that we didn't

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even need the oil changed.

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Speaker 1: He's like, you have enough.

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Speaker 3: You can go like another nine hundred miles easily on

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the oil you have, So do you want to not

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do that since you have to do this other stuff?

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Basically seven hundred dollars in car repairs for that, and

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we didn't do the body work of course not now

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right right, Listen, we saved money. I was like, you

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saved me money on the lock. So but this is

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what I was wondering, and this this is why I

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thought of it when you said about the the dog fund.

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You know, for people, it's it's always something right, and like, right,

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I'm so grateful that I can pay for that, and honestly,

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like we have to put it on our credit card.

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It's not like I just have so much liquid funds,

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but you know, what what do people do? And that's

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what that fund is for. But what do people do

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in their car when they're barely scraping by and they're

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they have to fix their car?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's it's good.

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Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, cars are expensive and you've got to like,

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you know, take that in consideration.

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Speaker 1: It's going to need upkeep and stuff like that.

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Speaker 2: But yeah, I mean there's no like fun to go

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help people that I don't know about that can help

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people that don't have the money to get their cars

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fixed to get to work so they can make the money.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a good valid question.

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Speaker 3: Like if you if you need dental work, there's this

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care thing, like there's a care credit card, which I

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believe I want to say, please don't quote me on

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this because I don't work for like a credit card company,

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but I feel like it's a no interest kind of thing.

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to get dental work done, you can chart. Like I

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don't know, I don't want to say the wrong thing,

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but there's stuff like that for dental work or and

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maybe like maybe that's for medical stuff too, but not

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for cars. You don't go in your mechanics office and

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there's like a little pamphlet going like, hey, you can't

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pay for your oil change.

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Speaker 2: Here's a credit line, right right, that's true, that's true,

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when maybe we should make line.

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Speaker 3: I know, because when I was young, I didn't get

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my car fixed.

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Speaker 1: I just didn't need me a noise.

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Speaker 3: I was like, oh, well.

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Speaker 1: It's still running. Yeah. I did the same thing. I

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had a back window.

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Speaker 2: That was out and I drove it around for I

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don't even think.

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Speaker 1: I don't know when I got it fixed.

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Speaker 2: I had so many issues with my car and I

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just kept if it kept going. I was like, all right,

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I'm good, you know, right, Yeah, I didn't have the

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money to get a car fixed.

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Speaker 1: I barely had money to get a car, I know.

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Speaker 3: And that's the thing, it's like, you you can barely

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pay for the car. I had car payments on my

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first car, my Mazda GLC banana yellow with the rust

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through the floor of the car. My mom was not

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going to help me at all. So that car had

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all kinds of problems. I mean, it couldn't go above

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like thirty miles per hour on the freeway, and I

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was like, what are you gonna do, Like, I gotta

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I gotta drive it. I don't have another car, Yeah,

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couldn't win one on a game show. Well it was

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a few years because I moved. It was at least

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three years before I won that car on the show.

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So I think I drove that car for at least

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two or three years. I bought it.

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Speaker 1: It already had almost one hundred thousand miles on.

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Speaker 2: It, right, Yeah, saying I had two shit cars in

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a row and never like, never took it in to

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get the oil changed or anything like that, you know,

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and I just kept driving it. Luckily, I had guy friends,

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I think, like maybe Mike and Glenn helped me when

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I needed shit, like if I'm tired, got was flat

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or something. That's That's about it. Like I didn't have much.

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on my own.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I know people who drove cars with no oil

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in it, you know, because we were all kind of

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in the same boat. When I moved here. My friends

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and I were all starving, eating ramen and you know,

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eating our dinner from seven to eleven. Had a jar

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of peanut butter in the house, a package of baloney,

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some wonderfuread. Yes, absolutely, and happy to have it, you know, right,

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and like, Okay, I'm really stoned, so I'm gonna have

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two pieces of baloney a splurge.

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Speaker 1: I got the MUNCHIESE really, hi, I had so that

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was my my thing. Oh my god.

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Speaker 3: Do you remember I used to take baloney and you'd

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put it in a frying pan and you cook it.

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Speaker 3: I had friends that did that, and then you'd put

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it it on toast with some mayo and it was

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just like really delicious.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god.

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Speaker 2: And I would have like cereal for dinner and like toast,

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you know, if I was hungry, that was my thing.

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Speaker 1: I would just have toast and cereal bowls and of cereal. Yeah.

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And not the healthy cereal either, like Captain Crunch.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, well what do you You're on your own. You're

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not going to be like buying yourself fiber one.

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Speaker 1: Right, No high fullom cereal for me back then. Yeah.

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fiber one and I was like, oh hell no, I'm

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an adult. I could choose my own cereal. And it's

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not that right.

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Speaker 2: I can't have cereal anymore because I'm like lactose intolerant. Really, yeah,

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I have to have like I have to take a

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lac date pill if I'm going to have ice cream

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or cereals. And now I don't really eat that anymore. Yeah,

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I can't have yogurt. I have yogurt, my stomach I

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get like in pain double over. Yeah, it's pretty bad.

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ten years. It's not like I've always had it. It's

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like that's what happens when you get old.

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Speaker 1: That's so interesting. I don't I don't think I have that. Not,

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I mean not a lot of people.

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Speaker 2: I talk to Wendy and she's eating a bowl of

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cereal and ice cream. She was looking for a Rocky

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Road ice cream. She's like, nobody has Rocky Road anymore.

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Like really, She's like, yeah, I think they're phasing that out,

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like it's old school. She couldn't find it. That's crazy.

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I feel like I've seen it kind of recently, but

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she could be right.

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Speaker 1: Maybe in her neighborhood. Eyed around.

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Speaker 3: You have like some different kind they have like moose tracks,

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which is like a lot of stuff mixed into you know,

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they'll just put other stuff in there now, Yeah, like

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you don't need marshmallows, don't worry about it, just like

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here's some fudge, here's a little chunk of brownie. Here's

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some Maraschino cherries for no reason.

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Speaker 2: Like and you're good steaking a Maraschino cherries. I've been

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craving those lately because I went. I told you when

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I went to Florida, I had a coke with grenadine

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basically as a roy Rogers, right, And now it's like, I,

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once in a while, I'm craving that to have a

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coke with grenadide, and I'm like, I need some cherries.

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Speaker 1: Like I gotta go buy some. It's funny you brought

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that up.

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Speaker 3: I do think they're supposed to be pretty bad for you,

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so are they?

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Speaker 1: I fine? Mashino cherries have like red dye number. I'm

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sure they do.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And I'm sure grenadide isn't great either, And truthfully,

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coke is not.

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Speaker 1: That great for you either.

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Speaker 2: But I do have it once in a while, a

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little craving because I don't drink coffee anymore and that

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gave me a stomach ache, so I have like tea

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or coke and the afternoon get perked up.

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Speaker 1: That's about it. That's it.

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Speaker 3: Did you ever used to drink coffee? I don't feel

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like I've ever known you to be a coffee person.

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Speaker 2: I used to always drink coffee. Yeah, when the kids

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were young, when they were growing up. Yeah, I had

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coffee every morning with my protein bar that I got

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in trouble with for eating. Remember Vinnie came to our

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house and was like, no more of these protein bars.

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Speaker 1: Why Vinnie, because of the sugar. Yeah, it's bad for you. No, no,

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you gotta have like protein in the morning.

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Speaker 2: You gotta have eggs. And She's kind of right, it

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sat as satiates you. But it's like, I'm not looking

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an egg for myself in the morning. And truly, eggs

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give me a stomache tool. Sometimes I've to have bread

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with it. I know some people that feel that way

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about eggs. See.

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Speaker 3: I can't imagine having Vinnie in my head, Like if

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I'd ever had a visit from him with his no sugar,

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no nothing, right, I would just hold it in my

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head all the time. No carbs, no, no carbs, no grains,

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no sugar.

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Speaker 2: No no, I know, right, I know, no bread like no,

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And then you had it.

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Speaker 3: Adam just buying into it like hook wine and sinker,

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like not even questioning it, just like nope. Then he

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said it so the kids, No, nobody.

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Speaker 2: Want the kids. Nobody's having it. Yeah, and that didn't

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last very long. Yeah, I mean maybe yeah. I don't

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want to get into it. We'll talk on Patreon.

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Speaker 3: But if you have to sneak to have a bagel though,

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you know, like.

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Speaker 1: Which is what the kid did, I know, but.

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Speaker 3: Like us Jews, you got to have a bagel. You know,

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that's crazy talk. I know, gotta have a bagel with

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a little shmear like I can't imagine just being like

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no bagels.

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Speaker 2: Ever, No, that's that's terrifying. I love bagels. I love

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where do you get your bagels?

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Speaker 3: Western? You know, it's I remember growing up. I know

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we talk about growing up a lot, but there were

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certain things that I associate with childhood with being special,

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even though we were pretty poor growing up, but there

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were certain things like to us, pizza. My kids are

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like pizza like eye roll, you know, but to us

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it was really special. That was like if we ordered

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a pizza because my mom cooked all the time and

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I didn't like most of the things that she made.

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They were kind of fancy for me, yea. And I've

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discussed the fact that my mom would make things like

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meat loaf or things with onion, knowing I hated onions,

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and it would just there would always be some kind

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of a casserole or something that was like just disgusting

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to me. So when we got pizza, we got pizza

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and soda, and that was like the best night of.

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Speaker 1: My life, you know. Yeah. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: And then every once in a while we got pastrami

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sandwiches or corn beef like cornbi for pastrami like Deli sandwiches,

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and that was like, oh my god, I love this

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is like my favorite thing ever. And now that I'm

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an adult, I mean not just being an adult, but

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like now that I'm older and trying to like watch

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what I eat and stuff, it's like, oh, like, first

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of all, it's red meat, which I try to stay

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away from. Yeah, you know.

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Speaker 1: Second of all, it's just so like greasy.

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Speaker 3: It's like not good for you.

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Speaker 1: Now you feel crappy. I agree. I used to love

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pastrami sandwiches when I was young.

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Speaker 2: Now it's like I never order it's too salty, and

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you're yeah, when you after you eat it, you feel

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like grease in your mouth and it's not not how

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it used to be, but.

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Speaker 3: Y, it still seems like such a treat to me,

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do you know what I mean? Like there's still foods

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that I want to eat because they remind me of like,

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oh my god, that was so special, right you have

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anything like that?

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Speaker 1: I did?

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Speaker 2: I remember when I when I was young, I would

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go with I was probably like ten or twelve. I

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would go with my dad and on Saturdays to run errands,

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and he would go to the grocery store and he'd go, Okay,

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what do you want We're going to watch the Love

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Boat together tonight. What do you want to snack on?

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And he would get any cheetos and orange soda and

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that was like a big deal. And then we go

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home and then he'd go swimming with me, and I

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would like be underwaters thinking about the love Boat and

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those cheetos even though he didn't eat it.

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Speaker 1: I would just you know, eating my cheetos. I love.

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But now it's like, look, I would never eat I don't.

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Speaker 2: I mean, once in a while, little bag of cheetos

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are fine, like at a picnic or something, but I

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don't buy it or orange soda. No way. But yeah,

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that was a big deal. And my mom did did cook,

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but she was not a very good cook. And her

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dishes always had a weird smell to it because she

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would wash them and she would never put him in

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the dishwasher, which is why I'm kind of traumatized. And

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you know, I have to have like the dishwasher at

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like steam and get every hot because my mom would

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just like rinse under the sink with cold water and

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a little soap and then she just pile them on

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the sink.

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Speaker 1: And it's just like I just never I wanted the

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paper plates. I never wanted. And she'd make spaghetti every Sunday, and.

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Speaker 2: Sometimes she would she would call it spaghetti a laach,

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which had anchilovies in the sauce, and.

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Speaker 1: When I was young, I was like, no sake.

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Speaker 2: Oh. And she would make meatballs, which I don't like

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ground meat. I don't know, maybe it's because of that.

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And I don't like spaghetti with marinara sauce. I like

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it with like butter or other sauce, like lemon whatever.

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And she would make yeah, and I for that night.

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I would never eat her food. I would just make

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myself a salami sandwich, call it a day, like gross.

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Speaker 3: I would make a hot dog. I'm trying to think

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the foods that yeah, that my mom would say, Okay,

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well good, make yourself something like a peanut butter and

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jelly sandwich or a hot dog.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yes, yeah, that's the way to go.

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Speaker 3: I did not like ground meat, although I did like

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raw hamburger meat, which back then my mom would let

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me have it. Really, I ate really weird stuff when

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I was a kid. Ough, I hate ground meat.

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Speaker 1: I don't.

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Speaker 2: That's why I don't like hamburgers. I mean, once in

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a while I have, like a gore mate. If somebody's

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barbecuing hamburgers, fine, but like in and out, no, thank you.

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Speaker 1: No Donald's hamburgers. No No, I like a filet of

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fish from McDonald.

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Speaker 3: I just trained myself to like certain things from a

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younger age, like because I stopped eating red meat a

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long time ago. And I'm not saying like I would

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never ever, it's not it's different. It's not like being

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a vegetarian. It's just that I don't eat red meat.

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Speaker 1: Okay.

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Speaker 3: But the point is, like, if if I ate a

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slice of pepperoni pizza, I wouldn't be like, oh my god,

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I've broken it. But I'm just saying I try to.

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So I make turkey burgers, and I really like I

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prefer the taste of a turkey burger so much more, yeah,

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than like a beef hamburger.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, any ground meat at all. Like, And also when

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I would go when I mean still day, sometimes I

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don't get chicken because it kind of chicken kind of

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sks me out sometimes. Really it's certain like if we go, yeah,

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like I don't like chicken tacos. I like steak carnitas tacos. Yeah,

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not ground beef tacos.

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Speaker 1: Interesting.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know why like chicken sks me out.

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Maybe because I.

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Speaker 1: Saw my mom make it all the time.

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Speaker 2: At the skin and she would never like clean it properly,

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so she'd cook it and you'd see like the hair

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sticking out of it.

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Speaker 1: It's the feathers.

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Speaker 3: Like I know, Mom traumatized me, and it's traumatizing.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Lennetta eat and she would barbecue the chicken sometimes

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and it would be raw on the inside and burnt

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to a crispbody outside.

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Speaker 1: She was not so yeah, he was like, you're not

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gonna eat the chicken. I'm barbecue for your birthday for

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your friends. Tell all the pamas.

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Speaker 3: She's chill, eat it, Give it the pam Like, now,

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I don't want barbecue chicken for my birthday. Well, let

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me ask you a question, you know what. Let's okay,

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you know if you see that also until we sent

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you Okay, here's what I wanted to ask you. Do

516
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you think it's possible that your mom was already suffering

517
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from mental health issues like way earlier but you only

518
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started recognizing it as what it was later, or do

519
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you think that it got worse later?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? I always, I was always.

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Speaker 2: My mom was very Yes, I think she did have

522
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mental illness early on, and we just chalked it up

523
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to she's just kookie and she's got a lot of

524
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energy because she taught karate, she taught self defense. She

525
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had a black belt and five martial arts. So I

526
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think that when she was older and she had my brothers,

527
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when she was young and then had me like ten,

528
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you know, eight years later, she started really she would

529
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have you know, she would embarrass me in front of

530
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my friends, and she would do all these quirky things

531
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like put my friends to work when they came over,

532
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you know for a party or something. And she would

533
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you know, go to the gym and just be like,

534
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I belong in this gym. I just to walk in

535
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and nobody stops me. I just to walk into the gym. Yeah,

536
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she would do that, and my friend Carlos worked at

537
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that gym, and he was like, she was.

538
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Speaker 1: Like, yeah, Carlos is my nephew. Like la la la la.

539
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Speaker 2: She just walks right in and nobody really like bothered her.

540
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And then she goes to movies and just walk right in.

541
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It's with the crowd. I don't know, like she's done

542
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it a couple of times. So yes, I think she.

543
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Speaker 1: Did have a lot of that.

544
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Speaker 2: And when my dad finally left, he stayed because I

545
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was young, and he stayed for me because she was

546
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very aggressive. She would grab them, pull my hair, she

547
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would squeeze her fingernails into my arms, and you know,

548
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she would you know, smack me around basically and so

549
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my dad was like my comfort and stayed even though

550
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they slept in different rooms, and they, you know, I

551
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hated each other and argue all the time.

552
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Speaker 1: And then when.

553
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Speaker 2: I was like working and was out of the house,

554
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they got divorced. And I think that after the divorce,

555
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she really declined. She she was she was living alone,

556
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and then she started talking to Jesus and seeing Jesus

557
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on the wall and then checking herself into a hotel

558
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and ordering dinner for two and the other dinner was

559
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for Jesus, Like that really happened.

560
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Speaker 1: So yeah, but it did.

561
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Speaker 2: That stuff like hallucinating and talking about Jesus didn't come

562
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till after the worce. And when I was in my

563
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early twenties is when that started. And that's when I

564
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would have to check on her all the time and

565
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blah blah blah. But yeah, I definitely think she had

566
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And that's when you like called the pet team. Yes, yeh,

567
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the psychiatric evaluation team would have to come out. And

568
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I did that like two or three times. It was

569
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so traumatizing. The first time I did it, and she

570
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fought with the police. They wouldn't she wouldn't go with them,

571
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so the police came and she's in the back bedroom

572
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screaming and yelling at them and like punching, like broke

573
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the cops watch, you know, like punching them. They had

574
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to restrain her. And then I was like, I can't

575
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do that again. And we had to do it again.

576
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I had my older brother Dean take care of but

577
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it was like I'm not I can't be a part

578
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of that again. And then she did put in a

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hospital for like a fourteen day hold, and then they'd

580
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give her medication and then she wouldn't take it. She

581
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just wouldn't take it. After she came home, like the

582
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medication helped. I think she needed to be on medication. Yeah,

583
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probably her whole life. And then it was like, oh, well,

584
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that's probably why my brother has schizophrenia. She probably has

585
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the gene, you know, which is scary because it's it's hereditary,

586
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you know, and I think about you know, I was

587
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thinking about my kids, and then I think about my

588
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nieces and nephews, like you just you never know. But yeah,

589
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it was That's that's basically how it went with her.

590
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She need medication early on, and I knew it. I

591
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knew she was nuts, kind of kooky And.

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Speaker 3: It's interesting though, because when you're younger, it's when you

593
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look back and you go at what age And I'm

594
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asking the question for myself too, like at what age

595
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did you go like, oh, this isn't The way I'm

596
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being raised is not normal because mine was always such

597
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a gray area too, Like my mom was, you know,

598
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very mean, and I would notice that other people's moms

599
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were not really like that, and that people's other people's

600
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moms seemed maybe more consistent or they weren't really scared

601
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of their moms. But you know, you just convince yourself like, well,

602
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I must just be difficult, and my mom would tell

603
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me I was difficult and too needy and too much

604
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I know. But when you're when you're young, you just

605
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go okay, I guess yees.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: You grow up with that and you think it's kind

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of normal until you start seeing other parents and like

609
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that's not you know. And i'd watch TV too, like

610
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I see like how moms are on TV, and I.

611
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Speaker 1: Mean I can't, I mean, I can.

612
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Speaker 2: As far back as I can remember, my friends were

613
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always afraid of my mom, and then as they got older,

614
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they would make, you know, not make fun of her,

615
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but like, you know, hey, Helen, Paradise, and she'd call

616
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and be like, let me talk up to Lynette.

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Speaker 1: Put Lynette on the phone.

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Speaker 2: And I was not the borner yesterday, but she'd always said,

619
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put the Lynette on the phone. You're like, okay, Helen,

620
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she's not here, you know. And so I had to

621
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deal with that, and you know, and then.

622
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Speaker 1: And then she just got worse and worse.

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Speaker 2: And then I finally had to get a nurse to

624
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come and like give her medication. She didn't want to

625
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do that, but I somehow talked her into it. And

626
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then she passed away in her seventies, laid down to

627
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take a nap on the way to the gym that

628
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she didn't belong to.

629
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Speaker 3: So she would still be going to the gym at

630
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the end. Yeah, and to the gym that she didn't

631
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have a membership too.

632
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Speaker 2: Well, it was jack O Laine Jim, Oh my gosh

633
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for that, Yeah, and she had a membership.

634
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Speaker 1: Then then it turned into twenty four hour Fitness.

635
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Speaker 2: And that's when my friend Carlos worked there, and he

636
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was like, yeah, yeah, she go Carlos is my nephew,

637
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and he'd go, yeah, she's my friend's mom. She's whatever,

638
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and they let her do it. But then I think

639
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eventually she couldn't. Maybe I bought her a membership so that,

640
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you know, she wouldn't get troubled when she they wouldn't

641
00:32:32,519 --> 00:32:33,079
hassle her.

642
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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, and then you know, it just got worse

644
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and worse, you know, and even she, I mean, she

645
00:32:41,359 --> 00:32:43,079
would kind of take when the nurse was there, she

646
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would take the medications, but then she'd argue with the

647
00:32:45,079 --> 00:32:47,519
nurse and the nurse would call me, I tried, she

648
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won't take it, blah blah blah. And you know, shortly

649
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after that she died.

650
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Speaker 3: Did your dad help it all with that? Or when

651
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he when they got divorced, did he like, was he

652
00:32:57,799 --> 00:32:58,960
like a dealer in Vegas?

653
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Speaker 1: Like I'm out.

654
00:33:00,319 --> 00:33:04,559
Speaker 2: Yeah, his name was Paul, and he's like that's between y'all. Yeah, yeah,

655
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he was like, I mean, he understood my you know,

656
00:33:08,920 --> 00:33:12,440
my uh trauma from her and like, you know, check

657
00:33:12,480 --> 00:33:14,720
in on me and stuff. But then I got older

658
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and I was out of the house, and I was

659
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just kind of taking care of her and giving her

660
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money and checking on her all the time. And then

661
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you know, and my dad was old too. My dad

662
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was like living alone and heart condition and stuff like that.

663
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So yeah, he didn't there was no help. Now, my

664
00:33:31,079 --> 00:33:34,279
brother kind of helped during those times, but no, he

665
00:33:34,319 --> 00:33:38,519
didn't pay for doctor's appointments or anything. I did all

666
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that when I was, you know, working at ABC or

667
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carc Warner one of those.

668
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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So I was like she was my burden and you know,

670
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and then you know, she died and it's like I

671
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miss her. But then it was like kind of a relief,

672
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you know, it was like she's not suffering anymore, because

673
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I felt she was suffer like she I told you

674
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the story which I found her. I was calling her

675
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and she wasn't answering, and I went over there and

676
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I found her on the floor in the bathroom. And

677
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to this day, I don't know what happened. She was

678
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on the floor and she was like Linette Delynette that

679
00:34:17,559 --> 00:34:18,480
she said she's been.

680
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Speaker 1: There for a few days. There was ants all over her.

681
00:34:21,559 --> 00:34:22,480
She couldn't get up.

682
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Speaker 2: Her arms were purple, black and blue, from her neck,

683
00:34:27,360 --> 00:34:31,480
from her shoulders she dislocated. One of the shoulders was dislocated.

684
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And I was like, what happened? And she was like

685
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there was a twister that she kept saying a twister, twister, twister,

686
00:34:38,000 --> 00:34:41,800
I'm like an earthquake. She'd no, no, I don't. She

687
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probably blacked out. I don't know how she got all

688
00:34:45,480 --> 00:34:47,800
those bruises on her arm. There was no sign of

689
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somebody entering the house at all. She just blacked out,

690
00:34:51,840 --> 00:34:54,519
I guess. And the doctor said that her sodium level,

691
00:34:55,199 --> 00:35:00,119
her sodium levels were very, very high, and that she

692
00:35:00,119 --> 00:35:02,559
could have blacked out. But again, like how does she

693
00:35:02,559 --> 00:35:05,559
get a dislocated shoulder? And why are both arms black

694
00:35:05,599 --> 00:35:08,400
and like purple? They were really bad. She was in

695
00:35:08,440 --> 00:35:11,679
the hospital for a couple of days. Yeah, was she

696
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in pain when you found her?

697
00:35:13,239 --> 00:35:14,880
Speaker 3: Was she she was?

698
00:35:15,480 --> 00:35:18,400
Speaker 1: She was not at you know, in pain.

699
00:35:18,519 --> 00:35:21,920
Speaker 2: She was just kind of like lifeless, a little bit

700
00:35:22,039 --> 00:35:25,760
like she like she was tired, Like she wasn't loud

701
00:35:25,920 --> 00:35:28,199
like her normal self. She was just kind of talking quietly.

702
00:35:28,559 --> 00:35:32,599
She's probably in a lot of pain. But immediately I

703
00:35:32,679 --> 00:35:35,280
had the ambulance come get her and take her and yeah,

704
00:35:35,320 --> 00:35:37,960
and they had to like fix her shoulder, They had

705
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to pop her so he shoulder back in and yeah,

706
00:35:40,719 --> 00:35:42,599
she had to wear a brace and stuff. Yeah, so

707
00:35:42,719 --> 00:35:45,000
I was taking care of her, like that's what I

708
00:35:45,079 --> 00:35:47,440
was dealing with And there were times where I would

709
00:35:47,440 --> 00:35:49,599
call and she doesn't answer, and call them she doesn't answer,

710
00:35:49,639 --> 00:35:52,400
and then she would then when she did answer, she

711
00:35:52,400 --> 00:35:55,280
would say all these weird things, like, you know, they're

712
00:35:55,280 --> 00:35:57,559
the people are after Dean, the people are going to

713
00:35:57,599 --> 00:36:00,079
get the Dean. And then we got to do something

714
00:36:00,119 --> 00:36:03,000
about it, and like, no, thing's fine, there's nothing wrong

715
00:36:03,159 --> 00:36:03,679
with Dean.

716
00:36:04,440 --> 00:36:04,679
Speaker 1: You know.

717
00:36:04,800 --> 00:36:08,400
Speaker 2: She just got really really started hallucinating and saying all

718
00:36:08,440 --> 00:36:10,880
these crazy things. But she wasn't like that when I

719
00:36:10,920 --> 00:36:14,519
was growing up. She was she had she was manic, definitely.

720
00:36:14,559 --> 00:36:19,679
She had some bipolar probably and she was manic hypomanic

721
00:36:19,719 --> 00:36:21,920
where she was up all the time and happy all

722
00:36:21,920 --> 00:36:24,559
the time. Like she wasn't a depressed person. She was

723
00:36:24,599 --> 00:36:27,800
always over the top, a lot of energy. I gotta

724
00:36:27,840 --> 00:36:29,199
go worked out, I gotta do that.

725
00:36:29,320 --> 00:36:29,559
Speaker 1: You know.

726
00:36:29,639 --> 00:36:33,480
Speaker 2: She was always on the go, driving her white Mercedes convertible,

727
00:36:34,679 --> 00:36:40,960
you know, in between two lanes, like straddling the lanes so.

728
00:36:40,960 --> 00:36:43,679
Speaker 3: You never saw her on the other side. And the crashes.

729
00:36:44,000 --> 00:36:49,320
She never was like depressed set No, I don't know,

730
00:36:49,800 --> 00:36:51,639
I don't remember. She would never be in her bed.

731
00:36:52,599 --> 00:36:55,320
She would exercise first thing in the morning, in the

732
00:36:55,360 --> 00:36:56,679
living room, put her music on.

733
00:36:57,079 --> 00:37:03,280
Speaker 1: Oh what's going on? Yeah?

734
00:37:03,320 --> 00:37:08,639
Speaker 3: Wow, it's funny because like my uh, I was gonna

735
00:37:08,639 --> 00:37:12,760
say my real father, my my bio dad, Stanley. You know,

736
00:37:12,840 --> 00:37:17,920
he was definitely manic depressive, but I don't remember mania

737
00:37:18,199 --> 00:37:23,360
from him. I remember he is also like fucked up

738
00:37:23,360 --> 00:37:26,280
on pills, but I mostly remember him being depressed.

739
00:37:27,400 --> 00:37:27,960
Speaker 1: Oh really.

740
00:37:28,039 --> 00:37:31,599
Speaker 3: And that was a burden too, because it was constantly

741
00:37:31,719 --> 00:37:36,039
just like, oh God, nothing's working out, like you know,

742
00:37:36,239 --> 00:37:39,440
everybody's against me, Like the business is so hard, all

743
00:37:39,480 --> 00:37:42,920
these people are trying to steal my money like everybody was.

744
00:37:43,320 --> 00:37:43,639
Speaker 2: He was.

745
00:37:44,280 --> 00:37:48,119
Speaker 3: And it wasn't even paranoia either. It was then my

746
00:37:48,239 --> 00:37:52,679
stepfather was paranoid. I mean it was. It was a lot. Yeah,

747
00:37:52,679 --> 00:37:56,840
my stepfather was very antisocial. I don't know if he

748
00:37:56,880 --> 00:38:01,119
had mental illness. He had like for some personality stuff

749
00:38:01,159 --> 00:38:04,559
going on though, right right right, And he was also

750
00:38:04,679 --> 00:38:08,840
all yeah, just very like thought a lot of people

751
00:38:08,840 --> 00:38:12,519
were against him. Was constantly taking people to court. He

752
00:38:12,639 --> 00:38:14,639
loved to take people to small claims court.

753
00:38:16,119 --> 00:38:16,639
Speaker 2: Wow.

754
00:38:16,840 --> 00:38:19,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, did he ever call you or ask you for things?

755
00:38:20,280 --> 00:38:24,639
Speaker 3: Your stepdad, my stepfather, No, he and my mom are

756
00:38:24,679 --> 00:38:28,639
still together, like right, he got everything. He needed from

757
00:38:28,679 --> 00:38:34,920
my mom. But my but Stanley was always calling me

758
00:38:35,000 --> 00:38:38,559
for stuff when we were speaking, and I only remember

759
00:38:38,639 --> 00:38:40,960
one time that my mom would help me, and it

760
00:38:41,039 --> 00:38:42,599
was when I was trying to find a place for

761
00:38:42,719 --> 00:38:46,760
him to go, because it was that time that I

762
00:38:46,800 --> 00:38:48,719
told you that was super traumatic, where I thought he

763
00:38:48,840 --> 00:38:53,760
was going to try to commit suicide and I I

764
00:38:53,920 --> 00:38:56,480
had a welfare check and I had the fire department

765
00:38:56,519 --> 00:38:58,159
came to his house and that whole story that I've

766
00:38:58,159 --> 00:39:02,039
told a million times. But after that, we had him

767
00:39:02,039 --> 00:39:04,639
put on a seventy two hour hold, and then I

768
00:39:04,679 --> 00:39:06,320
was going to try to find him somewhere to live

769
00:39:07,119 --> 00:39:08,960
because I was like, he can't take care of himself,

770
00:39:09,000 --> 00:39:11,239
he won't clean this place, he doesn't pay his rent,

771
00:39:11,559 --> 00:39:14,199
like you know, he needs to be somewhere. And then

772
00:39:14,239 --> 00:39:16,000
I was going to go looking at places and it

773
00:39:16,039 --> 00:39:18,880
was super depressing, and I do remember asking my mom

774
00:39:18,920 --> 00:39:22,880
for help because in my mind, I'm like, he was

775
00:39:22,960 --> 00:39:25,920
your husband, Like it's not my faulty, you know what

776
00:39:25,960 --> 00:39:28,639
I mean, Like it's it's unfair that she could like

777
00:39:28,840 --> 00:39:30,360
wash her hands of it, and that I was kind

778
00:39:30,360 --> 00:39:32,920
of stuck with this guy and nobody else in your

779
00:39:32,960 --> 00:39:37,960
family could help or any anybody. My immediate siblings, my

780
00:39:38,119 --> 00:39:40,840
brother and sister were not related to him, right, And

781
00:39:40,920 --> 00:39:43,360
he had kids from his other marriages who I didn't know,

782
00:39:44,119 --> 00:39:46,800
so wow, you know what. I he didn't talk to

783
00:39:46,880 --> 00:39:50,360
them or anything. He wasn't in touch with them. So

784
00:39:50,480 --> 00:39:53,480
the first one was a guy who was much older

785
00:39:53,480 --> 00:39:55,880
than me, because my mom was a wife number three,

786
00:39:56,159 --> 00:39:58,559
so his first wife, he married her when he was

787
00:39:58,599 --> 00:40:01,880
really young, and they had son. I've never met him,

788
00:40:02,719 --> 00:40:05,079
and he's much older, and he lived in New York

789
00:40:05,199 --> 00:40:09,079
and he was very broke all the time, like very complaining,

790
00:40:09,159 --> 00:40:11,000
like I don't have any money. A couple of times

791
00:40:11,000 --> 00:40:12,440
I talked to him on the phone and he was

792
00:40:12,679 --> 00:40:16,239
all like a total victim. Then he was married again

793
00:40:16,400 --> 00:40:19,880
and he had two boys, and one of them, remember

794
00:40:20,639 --> 00:40:24,159
ended up being the Blue Man of Portland. Oh remember

795
00:40:24,239 --> 00:40:27,239
that Patreon where I discovered that he was, like he

796
00:40:27,320 --> 00:40:31,440
was like a homeless, crazy guy living in Portland who

797
00:40:31,440 --> 00:40:33,199
would paint his whole body blue.

798
00:40:34,079 --> 00:40:35,320
Speaker 1: Right, okay for that.

799
00:40:35,400 --> 00:40:38,400
Speaker 3: And then the other brother is a little more together,

800
00:40:39,000 --> 00:40:41,679
and I have talked to him and he actually helped

801
00:40:41,719 --> 00:40:44,360
me a little bit when Stanley died. But I was

802
00:40:44,480 --> 00:40:47,400
not I didn't know them well at all, Like I

803
00:40:47,400 --> 00:40:50,440
couldn't ask them for help, and they never checked in

804
00:40:50,679 --> 00:40:51,719
or did anything for him.

805
00:40:51,760 --> 00:40:53,960
Speaker 1: As far as I know, that's great.

806
00:40:53,920 --> 00:40:58,079
Speaker 3: And the last kid that came after me was sixteen

807
00:40:58,159 --> 00:41:03,760
years younger than me, and he's he was not helpful.

808
00:41:03,880 --> 00:41:07,039
Let's just say that he was not in any position

809
00:41:07,159 --> 00:41:09,119
to help me, right.

810
00:41:09,480 --> 00:41:12,559
Speaker 1: Wow, out of all those kids, right, So I was

811
00:41:12,599 --> 00:41:14,559
on my own. I asked my mom.

812
00:41:14,679 --> 00:41:17,400
Speaker 3: My mom was like, I don't really want to have

813
00:41:17,440 --> 00:41:19,840
anything to do with this, but I'll spend one day

814
00:41:19,880 --> 00:41:23,199
going with you to some places. It was hard for her.

815
00:41:23,480 --> 00:41:26,760
And then basically I went and picked him up from

816
00:41:26,760 --> 00:41:29,119
the hospital. I was going to try to take him

817
00:41:29,119 --> 00:41:31,000
to a and I did get him into a place.

818
00:41:31,079 --> 00:41:34,280
My mom did not help me after that got him

819
00:41:34,280 --> 00:41:35,920
into the place, and then my mom was like, I'm

820
00:41:35,960 --> 00:41:39,440
out of this is I'm not helping any like, who

821
00:41:39,599 --> 00:41:42,840
does he have insurance? Or how did they let him

822
00:41:43,000 --> 00:41:46,800
help place on his SSI? You know what, I just

823
00:41:46,880 --> 00:41:50,199
remembered something. I don't want to be unfair. My stepfather

824
00:41:50,320 --> 00:41:53,840
did try to My stepfather went and visited him. This

825
00:41:53,920 --> 00:41:56,920
is I have a vague recollection of this happening. I

826
00:41:56,960 --> 00:42:01,000
think my stepfather went to see him. Could it have

827
00:42:01,039 --> 00:42:05,360
been in the hospital. I don't really remember, but because okay,

828
00:42:05,599 --> 00:42:08,480
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867
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Speaker 3: I was going to tell you, Oh my god, what

868
00:44:28,519 --> 00:44:32,719
was I going to tell you? Your stepfather, Yes, went

869
00:44:32,800 --> 00:44:38,239
to my stepfather, yes, he Oh my god, what was

870
00:44:38,239 --> 00:44:39,719
I going to tell you? It's about It was.

871
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Speaker 1: About your young assembly. The younger one.

872
00:44:43,639 --> 00:44:45,800
Speaker 3: No, it wasn't about him. It was it was about

873
00:44:45,840 --> 00:44:52,239
my stepfather. I am literally the worst. It was about

874
00:44:52,400 --> 00:44:57,880
him being trying to help out my father. Oh, you

875
00:44:58,000 --> 00:45:00,639
found a place for him. I found the for him.

876
00:45:00,719 --> 00:45:01,639
Speaker 1: Yeah. And then.

877
00:45:03,119 --> 00:45:08,000
Speaker 3: I just remember, oh, well I was I went to

878
00:45:08,039 --> 00:45:10,320
take him home from the hospital. I think I was

879
00:45:10,360 --> 00:45:11,880
going to tell you this and I was going to

880
00:45:11,880 --> 00:45:14,400
bring him to his place, but he had and I've

881
00:45:14,440 --> 00:45:16,320
told you this too before that he had met a

882
00:45:16,360 --> 00:45:19,679
guy at the mental hospital and he was like, this

883
00:45:19,719 --> 00:45:21,960
guy Tony and I are going to be roommates. He's

884
00:45:21,960 --> 00:45:23,840
going to sleep on my couch. I got it all

885
00:45:23,880 --> 00:45:26,559
worked out. It's a genius plant stuff. Wait to get

886
00:45:26,599 --> 00:45:29,159
a load of this. This guy Tony, he's great guy.

887
00:45:29,960 --> 00:45:31,760
He's going to sleep on my couch. He's going to

888
00:45:31,840 --> 00:45:35,039
pay the rent or split the rent with me. No, no,

889
00:45:35,559 --> 00:45:38,159
Tony's going to sleep in my bed and I'm going

890
00:45:38,159 --> 00:45:40,039
to sleep on my couch and he's going to pay

891
00:45:40,199 --> 00:45:42,199
more of the rent. And I was like, yeah, that's

892
00:45:42,239 --> 00:45:44,079
not a good idea.

893
00:45:44,320 --> 00:45:45,119
Speaker 1: This is a guy you.

894
00:45:45,119 --> 00:45:47,480
Speaker 3: Just met at a fucking mental hospital.

895
00:45:47,440 --> 00:45:51,599
Speaker 1: Right, Oh my god, No, Like, how do you talk

896
00:45:51,639 --> 00:45:52,199
him at him?

897
00:45:52,199 --> 00:45:53,960
Speaker 2: Did you were you able to talk him out of it,

898
00:45:54,440 --> 00:45:56,039
or just didn't work out.

899
00:45:56,800 --> 00:45:59,239
Speaker 3: I think the guy flaked on him or something. I

900
00:45:59,280 --> 00:46:01,599
think I was just like, I don't know, like you're

901
00:46:01,599 --> 00:46:05,119
gonna have to, I guess figure it out. But somehow,

902
00:46:05,159 --> 00:46:07,239
my step Oh, I know what I was going to

903
00:46:07,280 --> 00:46:11,840
tell you, the lore. The lore is it. And I

904
00:46:11,920 --> 00:46:14,760
told you this before too, But my stepfather and my

905
00:46:14,960 --> 00:46:18,000
biological father were best friends, BFFs.

906
00:46:19,159 --> 00:46:19,360
Speaker 4: Right.

907
00:46:19,840 --> 00:46:24,000
Speaker 3: Uh then my I guess my father no, because my

908
00:46:24,039 --> 00:46:25,199
mom was already married.

909
00:46:25,239 --> 00:46:28,679
Speaker 1: So those two were best friends. And then, uh, you know.

910
00:46:29,039 --> 00:46:31,719
Speaker 3: He was a friend of the family, my stepfather, and

911
00:46:31,760 --> 00:46:34,079
he lived in our back house. And I told you

912
00:46:34,119 --> 00:46:38,039
all that. So when my mom when they got divorced,

913
00:46:38,039 --> 00:46:40,639
and then my mom hooked up with you know, the friend,

914
00:46:41,079 --> 00:46:45,159
the best friend, those two were like enemies for a

915
00:46:45,239 --> 00:46:50,360
long time because Stan was like, you fucked my wife,

916
00:46:50,719 --> 00:46:53,239
Like you know what I mean, Like that's like even

917
00:46:53,280 --> 00:46:55,760
though those two were in love and are like still

918
00:46:55,800 --> 00:47:00,159
together whatever, you know, seventy years later, fine, it all

919
00:47:00,159 --> 00:47:03,320
worked out for them. But for Stan, I mean many

920
00:47:03,400 --> 00:47:05,679
many years later. I'm talking about when I was a

921
00:47:05,719 --> 00:47:08,519
full adult. He every time I was with him, he'd

922
00:47:08,519 --> 00:47:13,360
still complain. Oh, ah, that guy you know came in there,

923
00:47:13,519 --> 00:47:16,440
and oh my god, he would just complain about my mom.

924
00:47:16,679 --> 00:47:19,239
And so neither of those two wanted to help me

925
00:47:19,320 --> 00:47:22,639
out much, is what I'm saying, right right, right, gil

926
00:47:22,880 --> 00:47:24,960
My stepfather did not want to have much to do

927
00:47:25,159 --> 00:47:29,280
with Stan, but he did. I do remember that he did,

928
00:47:30,000 --> 00:47:33,000
like go see him, and I kind of think in

929
00:47:33,039 --> 00:47:35,719
a way, maybe for himself, but I felt at the

930
00:47:35,760 --> 00:47:39,039
time like it was to help me too, you take

931
00:47:39,079 --> 00:47:40,119
some of the pressure off.

932
00:47:40,840 --> 00:47:44,039
Speaker 1: But it didn't work. It didn't work. No, you don't

933
00:47:44,119 --> 00:47:45,400
talk to them at all.

934
00:47:45,719 --> 00:47:46,000
Speaker 3: Uh huh.

935
00:47:46,440 --> 00:47:52,559
Speaker 2: Your your mom and your stepdad and they live close by.

936
00:47:53,960 --> 00:47:54,760
Speaker 1: That's insane.

937
00:47:55,119 --> 00:47:58,079
Speaker 3: Not since Elbie was two. I think it was right

938
00:47:58,119 --> 00:48:01,559
around the time that she turned two, because the year

939
00:48:01,679 --> 00:48:05,159
she turned one was when I got into the fight

940
00:48:05,199 --> 00:48:07,000
with them over Thanksgiving.

941
00:48:06,960 --> 00:48:07,559
Speaker 1: Remember that.

942
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Speaker 3: And then I made up, like I apologized, even though

943
00:48:11,639 --> 00:48:14,760
I didn't owe anybody in apology, just to keep the peace,

944
00:48:14,960 --> 00:48:17,119
and then we tried to have a relationship. And I

945
00:48:17,159 --> 00:48:20,679
do remember that when Elbie turned two, my mom had

946
00:48:20,719 --> 00:48:25,239
bought me, bought her something like a little bike or

947
00:48:25,239 --> 00:48:28,840
something like a little like a like a tricycle kind

948
00:48:28,840 --> 00:48:32,159
of thing, and I'm pretty sure that was like the

949
00:48:32,239 --> 00:48:35,159
last time I saw her, because then they were you

950
00:48:35,199 --> 00:48:38,159
know this, they were like messing with my brother and

951
00:48:38,199 --> 00:48:39,920
we just got into this thing where I was like,

952
00:48:39,960 --> 00:48:44,559
I cannot have this in my life. And my mom

953
00:48:44,679 --> 00:48:46,840
was basically like, well, this is just how it's going

954
00:48:46,920 --> 00:48:50,360
to be. So I don't know what to tell you.

955
00:48:50,800 --> 00:48:54,400
And I literally haven't talked to them since. And she's

956
00:48:54,519 --> 00:48:57,039
crazy twenty one.

957
00:48:57,320 --> 00:49:02,079
Speaker 2: It's crazy. She has grand children, like doesn't even want

958
00:49:02,119 --> 00:49:04,639
to like see them or anything. That's insane to me.

959
00:49:05,360 --> 00:49:06,480
That's really sad.

960
00:49:06,719 --> 00:49:10,679
Speaker 1: She's never met my brother's kids either. That is incredible.

961
00:49:10,679 --> 00:49:15,679
That's like hacking. Wow, it says a lot about her. Yeah, terrible.

962
00:49:15,960 --> 00:49:22,639
Speaker 3: My nephew, Beckett, is fifteen and his younger sister is

963
00:49:23,199 --> 00:49:29,280
you know, four years younger than that, Like she's twelve, yeah,

964
00:49:29,880 --> 00:49:37,519
I mean or turning twelve? Actually who today? O happy birthday? Yeah,

965
00:49:37,559 --> 00:49:39,079
So I mean a little crazy.

966
00:49:39,639 --> 00:49:42,719
Speaker 2: Well let me ask you, do you This is like

967
00:49:43,039 --> 00:49:46,159
something that I've been thinking about lately, and I actually

968
00:49:46,239 --> 00:49:48,000
was talking to my friend Melyssa about it. But like

969
00:49:49,320 --> 00:49:52,760
she's going my friend is going through this, you know,

970
00:49:52,960 --> 00:49:55,280
taking care of her father in law who's in and

971
00:49:55,320 --> 00:49:58,000
out of the hospital because everybody else is working and

972
00:49:58,159 --> 00:49:59,480
she's got the time to do it.

973
00:49:59,559 --> 00:50:01,480
Speaker 1: She's, you know, stay home mom.

974
00:50:02,480 --> 00:50:06,000
Speaker 3: And you know, we were talking like what what.

975
00:50:06,159 --> 00:50:08,840
Speaker 2: I don't want my kids to have to worry about

976
00:50:09,400 --> 00:50:12,800
me when I'm old or they have to check on

977
00:50:12,920 --> 00:50:16,079
me or whatever. It's like, you know, I want to

978
00:50:16,159 --> 00:50:18,880
like make sure, you know what I mean, Like how

979
00:50:18,920 --> 00:50:21,440
do you you got a plan for it? Like, I

980
00:50:21,440 --> 00:50:23,639
don't want the burden to be on them like it

981
00:50:23,719 --> 00:50:26,400
was on me. You know, it's tough, and I know

982
00:50:26,639 --> 00:50:29,440
it's part of life. You know, your parents get older

983
00:50:29,480 --> 00:50:32,000
and you have to deal with it. But as far

984
00:50:32,039 --> 00:50:35,079
as like getting me to a hospital or checking on

985
00:50:35,199 --> 00:50:37,719
me or you know what I mean or whatever, I don't.

986
00:50:37,760 --> 00:50:40,920
Hopefully I'm fine and I'm moving around, but you know,

987
00:50:41,079 --> 00:50:41,480
never know.

988
00:50:41,639 --> 00:50:43,239
Speaker 3: You know, well, you're going to be in the over

989
00:50:43,360 --> 00:50:47,880
fifty five community. Yeah Suzanne, Wait, no, not with su

990
00:50:48,679 --> 00:50:52,440
with who wants you to live there? Oh no, what's

991
00:50:52,440 --> 00:50:52,800
her name?

992
00:50:52,920 --> 00:50:54,960
Speaker 1: Oh yeah?

993
00:50:55,039 --> 00:50:55,880
Speaker 3: Sorry? I was like.

994
00:50:57,719 --> 00:50:59,639
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yes, yes, totally.

995
00:50:59,679 --> 00:51:01,960
Speaker 2: She she wants me to move to Palm Springs in

996
00:51:02,039 --> 00:51:05,840
the retirement community where she lives. And she's constantly setting

997
00:51:05,920 --> 00:51:07,679
me like houses and stuff like.

998
00:51:08,079 --> 00:51:10,519
Speaker 1: No, I am not moving to Palm Springs.

999
00:51:11,039 --> 00:51:13,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, and then she's like just complaining this weekend about

1000
00:51:14,000 --> 00:51:15,760
all the coach. I'm going to see her on Sunday

1001
00:51:15,800 --> 00:51:19,840
we have a brunch together a couple other girls. But yeah,

1002
00:51:19,880 --> 00:51:22,000
I ain't moving to Palm Springs.

1003
00:51:22,119 --> 00:51:22,840
Speaker 1: No, thank you.

1004
00:51:23,280 --> 00:51:25,159
Speaker 2: But yeah, I mean I do think, like, you know,

1005
00:51:25,400 --> 00:51:28,920
got a plan for the future. And uh, it's because

1006
00:51:28,960 --> 00:51:32,559
it's tough, you know, when you know, I'm glad that

1007
00:51:32,599 --> 00:51:35,960
they have each other to lean on, but you know,

1008
00:51:36,280 --> 00:51:39,760
I think about that. I've been looking at houses by

1009
00:51:39,840 --> 00:51:43,199
the way, and oh and I went and stopped Bruce.

1010
00:51:43,639 --> 00:51:46,119
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, say ye for Friday. Should I talk

1011
00:51:46,119 --> 00:51:46,679
about it now?

1012
00:51:47,400 --> 00:51:50,159
Speaker 3: Uh? I pick one of those and tell us about it?

1013
00:51:50,239 --> 00:51:53,360
I think, all right, I'll save Bruce for Friday.

1014
00:51:54,360 --> 00:51:54,639
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1015
00:51:54,679 --> 00:51:58,679
Speaker 2: So went out looking and you know, I get listings

1016
00:51:58,719 --> 00:52:02,920
like twice a week of it's very slim chickens right

1017
00:52:02,960 --> 00:52:05,599
now because of the war and everything, I think, and

1018
00:52:05,679 --> 00:52:10,480
nobody wants to sell or you know, it's just there's

1019
00:52:10,519 --> 00:52:14,239
just not much inventory in an area that I'm looking,

1020
00:52:14,960 --> 00:52:18,400
so I don't know. And then Suzanne bought a house

1021
00:52:18,440 --> 00:52:22,320
in Santa Clarita and my girlfriend, Yeah, she's moving in May.

1022
00:52:22,920 --> 00:52:23,880
Speaker 1: She's moving out there.

1023
00:52:23,960 --> 00:52:28,880
Speaker 2: Wow, And yeah, yeah, it's like a it's a two

1024
00:52:28,920 --> 00:52:33,760
bedroom and her boyfriend has like four kids. They're all adults,

1025
00:52:34,079 --> 00:52:36,280
but they all are living there, all working and living

1026
00:52:36,280 --> 00:52:38,440
in their own places. But they lived close by where

1027
00:52:38,480 --> 00:52:40,800
they are now, and they would come over for dinners

1028
00:52:40,920 --> 00:52:41,960
a bunch of nights a week.

1029
00:52:42,079 --> 00:52:43,719
Speaker 1: And now they're probably not going to go all the

1030
00:52:43,760 --> 00:52:44,239
way out.

1031
00:52:44,239 --> 00:52:47,480
Speaker 2: To Santa Clarita because for those of you that don't know,

1032
00:52:47,559 --> 00:52:48,440
it's pretty far.

1033
00:52:48,639 --> 00:52:49,400
Speaker 3: Well I never do.

1034
00:52:49,639 --> 00:52:52,440
Speaker 1: And that's where my brother and sister in law live. Right,

1035
00:52:52,679 --> 00:52:57,159
it's like a forty five minute drive. Thanks scaling traffic, Yeah, exactly.

1036
00:52:57,400 --> 00:53:00,920
Speaker 2: Well Thanksgiving there's like hole, not much traffic, but like

1037
00:53:01,039 --> 00:53:03,239
during the week. Then I'm mutch in the valley the

1038
00:53:03,280 --> 00:53:06,079
other night and they're talking to about she she lives

1039
00:53:06,239 --> 00:53:08,639
in they bought a house in Santa Clarita.

1040
00:53:08,760 --> 00:53:11,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, Nia, Well I know that's all they talked about

1041
00:53:11,519 --> 00:53:13,920
the first season, Nia and Daniel Dan.

1042
00:53:13,960 --> 00:53:16,320
Speaker 2: Yes, and she's like, she mentioned it took her two

1043
00:53:16,320 --> 00:53:19,400
hours to get home, Like, oh great, I don't know.

1044
00:53:19,440 --> 00:53:21,960
I don't know, but there's a lot of more inventory

1045
00:53:22,039 --> 00:53:23,360
out there, so.

1046
00:53:24,119 --> 00:53:24,480
Speaker 1: I don't know.

1047
00:53:24,599 --> 00:53:25,760
Speaker 3: So are you considering that.

1048
00:53:27,199 --> 00:53:31,199
Speaker 1: I get a little bit. What about like just renting

1049
00:53:31,280 --> 00:53:34,320
again until like the prices go back down to the boat.

1050
00:53:37,119 --> 00:53:40,159
Speaker 2: No, I think I think that the plan is to

1051
00:53:40,199 --> 00:53:44,360
buy something. And luckily, I mean, I can keep renting here.

1052
00:53:44,400 --> 00:53:46,599
I don't have to move. They said, I can stay

1053
00:53:46,960 --> 00:53:49,360
as long as I need to. Yeah, okay, I don't

1054
00:53:49,400 --> 00:53:52,920
have to. Yeah, I didn't sign another lease. I told

1055
00:53:52,960 --> 00:53:55,199
them I was looking for houses. So they're like, stay

1056
00:53:55,199 --> 00:53:57,599
as long as you want, you know, let us know.

1057
00:53:58,199 --> 00:54:01,639
So that's good, so I can take my time. But yeah,

1058
00:54:01,760 --> 00:54:05,599
when on Friday, looked at like four houses on Saturday

1059
00:54:06,400 --> 00:54:11,440
and no, nothing, like two of them are right by

1060
00:54:11,440 --> 00:54:13,880
a free like right up against the freeway, like you

1061
00:54:13,960 --> 00:54:15,960
hear the freeway in the bedroom.

1062
00:54:16,280 --> 00:54:19,480
Speaker 3: Oh no, and that's also just not good for your lungs.

1063
00:54:20,519 --> 00:54:23,760
Speaker 1: No, no, no, but I don't know.

1064
00:54:23,800 --> 00:54:27,760
Speaker 2: We're going to keep looking, keep checking, and it's kind

1065
00:54:27,760 --> 00:54:29,840
of fun. It's kind of you know, I'm sending Wendy

1066
00:54:29,880 --> 00:54:32,920
listings and then she's sending me stuff back, and we're looking.

1067
00:54:33,000 --> 00:54:35,079
But it's like, you know, it doesn't have some of

1068
00:54:35,119 --> 00:54:37,320
them don't have the enough bedrooms that I need. It's

1069
00:54:37,360 --> 00:54:39,760
just it's kind of tough. Yeah, right now, And my

1070
00:54:39,880 --> 00:54:43,320
realtor said, yeah, it's not. Not a lot is happening

1071
00:54:43,440 --> 00:54:46,400
right now in the market, but he's hoping it's going

1072
00:54:46,480 --> 00:54:50,320
to pick up soon. So we'll keep you posted on that.

1073
00:54:50,480 --> 00:54:55,280
Speaker 3: All right, Well, Friday, i'll tell you about Xander's accepted

1074
00:54:55,360 --> 00:54:58,119
students stay at Chapman, and you can tell me about Bruce,

1075
00:54:59,119 --> 00:55:00,360
and then we'll talk about some.

1076
00:55:00,280 --> 00:55:02,480
Speaker 1: Stuff like what we're watching, et cetera.

1077
00:55:02,800 --> 00:55:07,159
Speaker 2: Oh, yeah, people should watch Yeah and The False Prophet

1078
00:55:07,360 --> 00:55:09,800
on Netflix because we're going to talk about it on Friday.

1079
00:55:09,920 --> 00:55:12,800
Speaker 3: Yes, and if you watched I don't know, did you

1080
00:55:12,880 --> 00:55:16,159
watch Love on the Spectrum because I watched.

1081
00:55:15,880 --> 00:55:18,519
Speaker 1: All of that, watch the shit out of it. We

1082
00:55:18,519 --> 00:55:19,280
can love.

1083
00:55:19,960 --> 00:55:21,679
Speaker 3: Yeah, we can talk a little bit about that, and

1084
00:55:21,800 --> 00:55:25,400
also just for anybody that wants like a full discussion

1085
00:55:25,440 --> 00:55:27,679
of it, Cecily and I did that on Rose Pricks

1086
00:55:27,840 --> 00:55:33,800
and that's coming out today, No tomorrow, the day you're

1087
00:55:33,840 --> 00:55:35,960
listening to this, and then the next day is like

1088
00:55:36,000 --> 00:55:36,440
part two.

1089
00:55:36,639 --> 00:55:38,559
Speaker 1: But we can talk about it too. Yeah.

1090
00:55:38,639 --> 00:55:41,400
Speaker 3: Okay, Well, let's say hello to all of our friends,

1091
00:55:41,440 --> 00:55:44,800
like Katie's rolling on E and Christi gets the Strap

1092
00:55:44,840 --> 00:55:47,599
and Stephanie's a stinker Rinker and Sandra it's not easy

1093
00:55:47,679 --> 00:55:51,639
being green and Aaron who it is? No, dirty Sanchez,

1094
00:55:51,920 --> 00:55:56,199
dirty Sanchez. Oh Leslie with the coughing.

1095
00:55:56,840 --> 00:55:59,159
Speaker 1: I know. We need Aaron Landis to come back so

1096
00:55:59,199 --> 00:56:01,000
we can so we can say who it is.

1097
00:56:01,119 --> 00:56:06,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, and Alicia the City They Yeah, Mon and Kelly,

1098
00:56:08,840 --> 00:56:17,400
Geez your aunt yep? And and Pey what and Gabby

1099
00:56:17,400 --> 00:56:19,239
and Missy did you see them at Bruce?

1100
00:56:20,079 --> 00:56:22,800
Speaker 2: I did, but they were scalping tickets for some other

1101
00:56:22,920 --> 00:56:25,800
show the night.

1102
00:56:25,920 --> 00:56:29,000
Speaker 1: That sounds like scalping tickets to some other concert. Yeah.

1103
00:56:29,039 --> 00:56:31,639
Speaker 3: And Katerina check your moller and Valerie hits it out

1104
00:56:31,639 --> 00:56:33,760
of the park and Polly, we love your pancakes. Rita

1105
00:56:34,239 --> 00:56:38,119
rocks the Bassiette with Elizabeth Williamson's kids, Nikki call your girls,

1106
00:56:38,119 --> 00:56:41,400
and Dick is follicking and uh, we got a couple

1107
00:56:41,440 --> 00:56:44,280
of new business shout outs. Well, we have Jen and

1108
00:56:44,320 --> 00:56:49,559
Ari with their podcast Three Gray Three Gray Cubes. It's

1109
00:56:49,599 --> 00:56:55,800
about aging, estrogen, rage, all the stuff. It's funny. They're

1110
00:56:56,119 --> 00:57:00,400
very edgy and cool and it's radical honesty. Check check

1111
00:57:00,400 --> 00:57:06,639
them out. Three Gray Pubes. Also, I forgot who this is,

1112
00:57:06,800 --> 00:57:11,360
but it doesn't matter. Her business is Spoonful. Oh, her

1113
00:57:11,400 --> 00:57:15,519
name's Natasha. She's our listener and her business is Spoonful

1114
00:57:15,639 --> 00:57:20,039
of Memories dot life. This seems really cool. This is

1115
00:57:20,119 --> 00:57:24,400
a website that turns your family recipes into a printed cookbook.

1116
00:57:24,960 --> 00:57:27,679
So it's a great gift for anyone that loves to cook.

1117
00:57:27,960 --> 00:57:30,519
Think about it, guys, Mother's days coming up. Spoonful of

1118
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Memories dot life.

1119
00:57:31,639 --> 00:57:33,119
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's awesome. I know.

1120
00:57:33,360 --> 00:57:38,199
Speaker 3: Also, our girl, Kayleie Pettis, she's the therapist located in Seattle,

1121
00:57:38,280 --> 00:57:41,320
but she can see you anywhere in Washington State. Go

1122
00:57:41,440 --> 00:57:47,159
check out Emerald Bloomtherapy dot com. Our friend who has

1123
00:57:47,199 --> 00:57:52,559
a column on Medium dot com is Unbecoming Stories. Go

1124
00:57:52,599 --> 00:57:54,480
to Medium and just check out. Can you guys just

1125
00:57:54,519 --> 00:57:58,400
trust me on this please? Family Skeptical. It's a podcast

1126
00:57:58,400 --> 00:58:02,480
about raising kids without religeing. So if you want to

1127
00:58:02,559 --> 00:58:05,920
do stuff when not like be dogmatic, check out a

1128
00:58:05,960 --> 00:58:08,559
podcast to help support you. Also, if you're in Palm

1129
00:58:08,559 --> 00:58:10,920
Springs or Palm Desert and you you know before you're

1130
00:58:10,960 --> 00:58:14,960
going to visit Lynette at her over fifty five retirement place,

1131
00:58:15,679 --> 00:58:20,039
check out Willman Freedom Palm Springs, Warm Palm Desert. Also

1132
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Basic Becky just Basicbecky dot com. Go check out her website,

1133
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check out all the fun designs and use the code

1134
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1135
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Speaker 1: I love Becky.

1136
00:58:29,239 --> 00:58:33,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, and uh, Adam Lerner. Adam's got a car. He

1137
00:58:33,000 --> 00:58:35,440
can get you any kind of car. He can help

1138
00:58:35,480 --> 00:58:37,679
you figure out what the best deal is. If you

1139
00:58:37,679 --> 00:58:40,000
already know the car you want, he'll help you find

1140
00:58:40,000 --> 00:58:43,239
the best deal on it. Whatever. Just text him. Just

1141
00:58:43,280 --> 00:58:45,760
go to Adam's got a Car and check him out. Yeah,

1142
00:58:46,360 --> 00:58:50,760
all right, nice. We love you guys so much. You're

1143
00:58:50,760 --> 00:58:53,159
a parent, now, don't f it up.

1144
00:58:59,559 --> 00:59:00,400
Speaker 1: May Ingle