Speaker 1: Hey, hey, hey, I'm bad with something for you.
Speaker 2: To think about.
Speaker 1: When couples fake love and happiness. Let me say it again,
Speaker 1: when couples fake love and happiness, the truth always comes
Speaker 1: out in the wash, so to speak.
Speaker 2: I've always told you faking and pretending.
Speaker 1: Gets you nowhere but right in the place you've always been,
Speaker 1: in that negative state of mind. You know, some people
Speaker 1: fake it. You hear them say fake it till you
Speaker 1: make it. You never make it when you fake it.
Speaker 1: That's the point I'm trying to make. You never make it.
Speaker 1: You never are able to take it when you fake it.
Speaker 2: Because faking helps a person to get through.
Speaker 1: Day to day, but it don't change their situation, meaning
Speaker 1: it does not change what's going on inside.
Speaker 2: So you can fake all you want.
Speaker 1: The benefit for your growth is none.
Speaker 2: It's none.
Speaker 1: So a lot of people are in relationships, married and
Speaker 1: just in relationships who supposedly are so very much in love.
Speaker 1: And I'm sure there is some degree of caring, there
Speaker 1: a high level degree of caring. But saying you're in
Speaker 1: love with someone and being in love with them, saying
Speaker 1: you love someone and really loving them, those are different.
Speaker 1: Loving someone and being in love with them is something else,
Speaker 1: but both are required and necessary for a healthy, happy relationship.
Speaker 1: The biggest problem for most people is they seek happiness
Speaker 1: and love in a significant other.
Speaker 2: But I want you to think about something.
Speaker 1: How can a significant other give you that when they
Speaker 1: don't have it for themselves, When they don't have that
Speaker 1: love for themselves, how.
Speaker 2: Are they going to give it to you?
Speaker 1: And for you to be a person who's seeking love
Speaker 1: and happiness and a significant other tells.
Speaker 2: Me you don't have it in you. That's where a
Speaker 2: lot of people fail themselves. They look at.
Speaker 1: Individuals and thinking that they're gonna make them happy and
Speaker 1: they're gonna change them, things are gonna be better.
Speaker 2: They look at individuals for resolved resolution.
Speaker 1: A difference. But you have to be what you're looking for.
Speaker 1: You have to be what you're looking for. If you're not,
Speaker 1: you will, without a shadow of a doubt, get involved
Speaker 1: with someone who is.
Speaker 2: Like minded or worse.
Speaker 1: Guarantee you're going to get with someone who's light minded,
Speaker 1: are worse an individual who's mature, who have mentally grown
Speaker 1: and mature.
Speaker 2: Let me tell you they will not risk be on
Speaker 2: someone who's not.
Speaker 1: Because it's just too much work. It's too much drama
Speaker 1: and chaos. It's too much friction. People who have gone
Speaker 1: through learn from their experiences. You know that, I'm saying,
Speaker 1: been there, done that. They're not trying to do that.
Speaker 1: But people who don't understand love, because they don't love
Speaker 1: themselves and they have not mentally grown to that level
Speaker 1: of understanding, they won't see anything that they need to see.
Speaker 2: So people get together. First of all, they get together
Speaker 2: in the wrong ways.
Speaker 1: They get together for the wrong reasons, and they get
Speaker 1: together with the wrong people. So people get in relationships
Speaker 1: and they go deeper into these relationships knowing they have problems,
Speaker 1: but they think, oh, well, we get married or we
Speaker 1: you know, send this relationship on another level. Things are
Speaker 1: gonna get better. Things are gonna get better. He's gonna
Speaker 1: change or she's gonna change. It don't work like that.
Speaker 1: So a lot of people get together and they be
Speaker 1: together for a while, and they fake and they pretend
Speaker 1: love and happiness.
Speaker 2: But what happens when people do.
Speaker 1: This is resentment and anger builds up. And no matter
Speaker 1: how much people smile and pretend everything is good inside,
Speaker 1: they're dying inside. They're angry, they're resentful, they're regretful because
Speaker 1: now They have to keep up this facade because they
Speaker 1: feel they have an image to protect and portray. But
Speaker 1: it is something that is crippling people. People are so
Speaker 1: much more worried about their image that they don't look
Speaker 1: at how it's affecting them. When I hear of couples,
Speaker 1: you know, murder suicide, because rarely.
Speaker 2: It's people bring to both die, you know, to commit suicide.
Speaker 2: Rarely is that. Most times it's murder suicide.
Speaker 1: When I hear murder suicide and people say, oh, it's
Speaker 1: such a shock, I just can't believe it.
Speaker 2: You know, I never saw the signs they were so
Speaker 2: in love.
Speaker 1: See, people can make anything look like what they wanted
Speaker 1: to look like. It's just like all the negativity when
Speaker 1: it comes to statistics about black people. You hear all
Speaker 1: of these negativities, all of these negative statistics. I don't
Speaker 1: care what it is about black people. It's negative statistically.
Speaker 1: But that's because people can make numbers be what they
Speaker 1: want them to be. Period I learned this through statistics
Speaker 1: and doing research. You can manipulate numbers to make them
Speaker 1: be whatever you want them to be, and even more
Speaker 1: so depending on the agency or organization that's doing the stats.
Speaker 2: So you can.
Speaker 1: Make anyone believe anything that you want them to believe
Speaker 1: according to what you present to the world.
Speaker 2: Some people outright show who they are.
Speaker 1: They show their negativity, they show chaos and drama because
Speaker 1: they're constantly bickering and fighting in the public's eye. But
Speaker 1: when you have people who are of some type of status,
Speaker 1: some level of status, they're not gonna carry on like
Speaker 1: that in public. They're gonna fake and protect. They're gonna
Speaker 1: get on social media and smile and act as if
Speaker 1: everything is okay, that they're so happy.
Speaker 2: But it's not the truth. Just because you didn't see a.
Speaker 1: Couple argue, you didn't hear a couple argue, you never
Speaker 1: saw them fight, or anything like that, it does not
Speaker 1: mean that they were happy. People of some form of
Speaker 1: status on social media, they're going to portray themselves as
Speaker 1: something they are not. They're gonna put on smiles that
Speaker 1: look real, they're gonna act in ways that looks real,
Speaker 1: and they do that because, like I said, they have
Speaker 1: an image to uphold. You know, they worked hard to
Speaker 1: get to where they are, so they have an image
Speaker 1: to uphold. So they go on to carry on as
Speaker 1: if everything is well, all is well. Everything is good.
Speaker 1: But just because they do that doesn't mean it is so.
Speaker 1: So people miss the signs. But there are always signs
Speaker 1: and red flags, always without fail but people fail to
Speaker 1: see them because they only see what their minds are
Speaker 1: capable of sining. People miss the truth because, like I said,
Speaker 1: they can only see what their eyes are capable of
Speaker 1: seining because of the mindsets that they have.
Speaker 2: And that's a fact. And then when people end up.
Speaker 3: Murdered or maimed, really really really really hurt physically hurt,
Speaker 3: then people say, I never saw this coming.
Speaker 2: I never saw it coming.
Speaker 1: And then some people will say, well, I saw the signs,
Speaker 1: because you know.
Speaker 2: I saw this. I saw that. You know, a lot
Speaker 2: of people.
Speaker 1: See the signs, but they reject them, they deny what
Speaker 1: they see, and only until something tragic happens, some people say.
Speaker 2: Well, yeah, you know, well she told me this, so
Speaker 2: he told me that.
Speaker 1: You know, you can't fix other people, but sometimes you
Speaker 1: can help save a person from death, possibly possibly.
Speaker 2: By saying something.
Speaker 1: You never know, you could possibly save a person from
Speaker 1: death by saying something.
Speaker 2: It's very very very unfortunate.
Speaker 1: It's very very very unfortunate that people spend so many
Speaker 1: years together and then commit murder suicide. It's horrible. But
Speaker 1: let me tell you, no one, no one, and I
Speaker 1: do mean no one wakes up and say, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: kill my spouse, I'm gonna kill my girlfriend, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: kill my boyfriend.
Speaker 2: No things lead up to that period. Things lead up
Speaker 2: to it.
Speaker 1: Now, people have committed murder because they lost their minds.
Speaker 1: One day, I'll tell you this story, but one that's true.
Speaker 1: I'm not talking about that. I'm not talking about those
Speaker 1: kind of people who literally lost their minds because of
Speaker 1: things they got into. I'm not talking about those people.
Speaker 1: I'm talking about couples who fake and pretend, who fake
Speaker 1: love and happiness because they feel they have a status
Speaker 1: that they have to uphold. They have an image that
Speaker 1: they can't taint. But see, when they get to that
Speaker 1: point of no return, they don't care about their image
Speaker 1: anymore because in their minds, they are going to be
Speaker 1: gone anyway.
Speaker 2: So they don't care about the image anymore.
Speaker 1: Their focus is on doing what they have been pondering
Speaker 1: over doing.
Speaker 4: See, it's easy, I mean extremely easy to fool the masses.
Speaker 4: Because of the mindset that people have, It's easy to
Speaker 4: manipulate and deceive the masses because people.
Speaker 2: They only see according to their mindsets. They cannot see
Speaker 2: beyond what they're able to comprehend.
Speaker 1: So people miss the signs, or they see the signs
Speaker 1: and reject them because it just can't be, you know,
Speaker 1: it just can't be. They are happy until something tragic
Speaker 1: happened and everybody is shocked and blown away, which is
Speaker 1: a normal reaction to be shocked and blown away, even
Speaker 1: if something tragic happens, but there's a difference when you
Speaker 1: have seen things to lead up to that. But a
Speaker 1: lot of people don't because if I'm rich and my husband.
Speaker 2: Is rich, and we have.
Speaker 1: Status and all of this, we are going to do
Speaker 1: what everybody else do, pretend everything is good. But then
Speaker 1: behind closed doors, we can't stand each other. That's what
Speaker 1: people do. That's the way it works. You don't get
Speaker 1: along behind closed doors. There's no connectiveness behind closed doors.
Speaker 1: There's always arguments behind closed doors. You're tired because you're
Speaker 1: tired of faking and pretending. You're exhaust stick from faking
Speaker 1: and pretending. Put it on facides. It's exhausting. So it
Speaker 1: drives people deeper and deeper into darkness because they are
Speaker 1: mentally and physically exhausted from faking and pretending because their
Speaker 1: image is more important to them.
Speaker 2: Than their peace.
Speaker 1: See that's when you get above yourself, when you think
Speaker 1: your image and your status and your title and money
Speaker 1: and things.
Speaker 2: Are more important than your peace. So a lot of people.
Speaker 1: Miss the signs. And those in the relationships. The women
Speaker 1: who have been murdered, they know they knew what was
Speaker 1: going on, but.
Speaker 2: They never made reports. They never told anyone.
Speaker 1: And I truly can say I get that because when
Speaker 1: I was in an abusive relationship, I told no one.
Speaker 1: I never told a soul. He was in the military,
Speaker 1: I never told a soul. But I got smart, I
Speaker 1: out smart at him, and I got out way away,
Speaker 1: literally to save my life, to save my children's life.
Speaker 1: You know, I did endure for a while, but the
Speaker 1: whole time I was scheming and planning until I could
Speaker 1: do what I needed to do to get out of there.
Speaker 1: Some people never do that because they think, oh, it's
Speaker 1: gonna get better, or he will never do.
Speaker 2: This to me, or she will never do this to me.
Speaker 1: You know, they think that their significant other will never
Speaker 1: go to that extreme. Never say never when you're dealing
Speaker 1: with a person who is unhinged.
Speaker 2: When you see the signs of.
Speaker 1: A person who is unstable, believe it, believe it. Status, money, possessions, titles, possessions,
Speaker 1: None of that matters. Your life is more important. And
Speaker 1: this goes for the person who is thinking of doing
Speaker 1: something tragic.
Speaker 2: Your life. If it's more important, your piece is more important.
Speaker 1: If it's not working, then you have to do something else,
Speaker 1: something positive for you. Because everybody is together, everybody together
Speaker 1: is not meant to be together. I don't care if
Speaker 1: you've been together thirty forty fifty years. People just go
Speaker 1: through life on autopilot. It does not mean they were
Speaker 1: ever meant.
Speaker 2: To be together. People just trying to make it work.
Speaker 1: And I'm telling you, when people are so bogged down
Speaker 1: and so tired mentally and physically of faking, they get
Speaker 1: to that point of no return. Faking and pretending it
Speaker 1: is unnecessary. If you're with someone and it's not working,
Speaker 1: life is not over. If they walk away or if
Speaker 1: you walk away, that's the best thing for a peace.
Speaker 1: But some people would rather take out their significant other
Speaker 1: and take themselves out then for that, you know, for
Speaker 1: that person to walk away, They rather kill that person
Speaker 1: before they let that person walk away even though they're tired,
Speaker 1: even though their tank is on full. They feel like
Speaker 1: they've invested too much. That means nothing.
Speaker 2: To me. It means nothing over my peace.
Speaker 1: Nothing. But some people don't look at it that way.
Speaker 1: They feel like they've invested too much. They put too
Speaker 1: much in it to just walk away. Well, if you
Speaker 1: kill yourself, you won't enjoy it anyways. If you kill
Speaker 1: the other person, they won't enjoyed either. No one has
Speaker 1: to get to that point, No one on the face
Speaker 1: of the earth has to get to that point. That's
Speaker 1: why you have to love yourself enough to maintain your
Speaker 1: peace and not let anyone come along and affect your peace.
Speaker 1: That's why you have to be in the right mindset already.
Speaker 1: You can't go into a relationship looking for somebody to
Speaker 1: complete you. You gotta behold going into it. You must
Speaker 1: behold going into it. So many people miss the signs
Speaker 1: in the red flags, They ignore their intuitions, and many
Speaker 1: people are in their graves right now because of it.
Speaker 1: It hit me heavy and I just want to talk
Speaker 1: about it because lately, I know in the last month
Speaker 1: there's been about six couples that I have heard of
Speaker 1: with murdered suicide just in a month that I heard of.
Speaker 1: Just imagine the ones that I haven't heard of. And
Speaker 1: I'm talking local, you know, vicinity, meaning between where I
Speaker 1: am and the state i'm in, maybe a couple more
Speaker 1: states over in the state I'm in, and a couple
Speaker 1: of states over, so that's close proximity. People ignore too much,
Speaker 1: People give too many chances, People let too much slide.
Speaker 2: Image is not worth it. It's not.
Speaker 1: If you're in pain mentally and you're trying desperately to
Speaker 1: hold on to your image and all that, it's not
Speaker 1: worth it. It's not worth it. You have to love
Speaker 1: yourself enough to move on because anybody who commits suicide,
Speaker 1: they're going to hell. And you murder someone, I'm telling
Speaker 1: you it's not worth it, because what you chose over
Speaker 1: here is you're going when you leave this world, you're
Speaker 1: going somewhere to a place that's not good, and that's
Speaker 1: where you'll be for eternity. There are no doovers over there.
Speaker 1: There's no doovers over here. Who wants you exit this body.
Speaker 1: People just need to think about what they're doing. They
Speaker 1: need to think about the choices that they're making. They
Speaker 1: need to think about how they're getting in relationships with
Speaker 1: whom they're getting in relationships.
Speaker 2: With everything glitters is my goal.
Speaker 1: Beauty fades, money gets funny. You're gonna age. And one
Speaker 1: thing is for certain. Age does not necessarily necessarily come
Speaker 1: with maturity does not necessarily come with age.
Speaker 2: I had to get it together there. It does not.
Speaker 1: Now your body's going a mature period because we age.
Speaker 1: But mental maturity does not necessarily come with age. And
Speaker 1: most people will never reach it because they never choose
Speaker 1: to change. They never choose to become better. They just
Speaker 1: take all of their mess into their relationships, on their jobs, everywhere,
Speaker 1: they go everywhere, but no change ever occurs because they're
Speaker 1: mentally still the same. And that's why I say these couples,
Speaker 1: some of them, they get successful together, but mentally they're
Speaker 1: going deeper and deeper in a hole. So I'm talking
Speaker 1: about couples, but it could be an individual because technically,
Speaker 1: in a relationship, you are a couple, but you're still
Speaker 1: too individuals too. People get together on trauma, they can
Speaker 1: relate on e bad experiences. People get into relationships because
Speaker 1: of looks. Some people just want to be in relationships
Speaker 1: with the wrong people, meaning people that they know that's
Speaker 1: already married or already in relationships.
Speaker 2: They prefer those kind of relationships. Something is wrong.
Speaker 1: So basically what I'm saying, people get into relationships for
Speaker 1: all the wrong reasons with the wrong people, and they
Speaker 1: still move forward in those things, and many end tragically
Speaker 1: because people refuse to adhere to the signs, the red flags.
Speaker 1: And although it's so shocking and unbelievable to people, the
Speaker 1: size of red flags were there.
Speaker 2: I don't care what no one says. They were there.
Speaker 2: They were just missed.
Speaker 1: Because when people are on a certain level, they have
Speaker 1: a certain status and they're throwing parties and you know,
Speaker 1: doing things for the community and for people, people miss
Speaker 1: everything because they're looking at the good good that they're receiving.
Speaker 1: They enjoying the benefits, so they're not really paying attention
Speaker 1: to the things that they should see because they are
Speaker 1: enjoying the benefits of the labor of those people.
Speaker 2: So I just want you to just.
Speaker 1: Let this sit with you for a while. I'm leaving
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Speaker 2: Protect your peace.
Speaker 1: I end every episode the same, and I hope and
Speaker 1: I pray in Jesus' name.
Speaker 2: That you do it. Thank on it