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<v Speaker 1>Hey, hey, hey, I'm bad with something for you.

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<v Speaker 2>To think about.

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<v Speaker 1>When couples fake love and happiness. Let me say it again,

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<v Speaker 1>when couples fake love and happiness, the truth always comes

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<v Speaker 1>out in the wash, so to speak.

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<v Speaker 2>I've always told you faking and pretending.

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<v Speaker 1>Gets you nowhere but right in the place you've always been,

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<v Speaker 1>in that negative state of mind. You know, some people

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<v Speaker 1>fake it. You hear them say fake it till you

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<v Speaker 1>make it. You never make it when you fake it.

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<v Speaker 1>That's the point I'm trying to make. You never make it.

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<v Speaker 1>You never are able to take it when you fake it.

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<v Speaker 2>Because faking helps a person to get through.

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<v Speaker 1>Day to day, but it don't change their situation, meaning

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<v Speaker 1>it does not change what's going on inside.

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<v Speaker 2>So you can fake all you want.

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<v Speaker 1>The benefit for your growth is none.

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<v Speaker 2>It's none.

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<v Speaker 1>So a lot of people are in relationships, married and

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<v Speaker 1>just in relationships who supposedly are so very much in love.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm sure there is some degree of caring, there

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<v Speaker 1>a high level degree of caring. But saying you're in

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<v Speaker 1>love with someone and being in love with them, saying

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<v Speaker 1>you love someone and really loving them, those are different.

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<v Speaker 1>Loving someone and being in love with them is something else,

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<v Speaker 1>but both are required and necessary for a healthy, happy relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>The biggest problem for most people is they seek happiness

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<v Speaker 1>and love in a significant other.

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<v Speaker 2>But I want you to think about something.

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<v Speaker 1>How can a significant other give you that when they

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<v Speaker 1>don't have it for themselves, When they don't have that

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<v Speaker 1>love for themselves, how.

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<v Speaker 2>Are they going to give it to you?

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<v Speaker 1>And for you to be a person who's seeking love

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<v Speaker 1>and happiness and a significant other tells.

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<v Speaker 2>Me you don't have it in you. That's where a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of people fail themselves. They look at.

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<v Speaker 1>Individuals and thinking that they're gonna make them happy and

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<v Speaker 1>they're gonna change them, things are gonna be better.

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<v Speaker 2>They look at individuals for resolved resolution.

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<v Speaker 1>A difference. But you have to be what you're looking for.

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<v Speaker 1>You have to be what you're looking for. If you're not,

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<v Speaker 1>you will, without a shadow of a doubt, get involved

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<v Speaker 1>with someone who is.

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<v Speaker 2>Like minded or worse.

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<v Speaker 1>Guarantee you're going to get with someone who's light minded,

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<v Speaker 1>are worse an individual who's mature, who have mentally grown

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<v Speaker 1>and mature.

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<v Speaker 2>Let me tell you they will not risk be on

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<v Speaker 2>someone who's not.

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<v Speaker 1>Because it's just too much work. It's too much drama

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<v Speaker 1>and chaos. It's too much friction. People who have gone

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<v Speaker 1>through learn from their experiences. You know that, I'm saying,

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<v Speaker 1>been there, done that. They're not trying to do that.

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<v Speaker 1>But people who don't understand love, because they don't love

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<v Speaker 1>themselves and they have not mentally grown to that level

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<v Speaker 1>of understanding, they won't see anything that they need to see.

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<v Speaker 2>So people get together. First of all, they get together

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<v Speaker 2>in the wrong ways.

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<v Speaker 1>They get together for the wrong reasons, and they get

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<v Speaker 1>together with the wrong people. So people get in relationships

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<v Speaker 1>and they go deeper into these relationships knowing they have problems,

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<v Speaker 1>but they think, oh, well, we get married or we

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<v Speaker 1>you know, send this relationship on another level. Things are

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<v Speaker 1>gonna get better. Things are gonna get better. He's gonna

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<v Speaker 1>change or she's gonna change. It don't work like that.

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<v Speaker 1>So a lot of people get together and they be

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<v Speaker 1>together for a while, and they fake and they pretend

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<v Speaker 1>love and happiness.

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<v Speaker 2>But what happens when people do.

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<v Speaker 1>This is resentment and anger builds up. And no matter

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<v Speaker 1>how much people smile and pretend everything is good inside,

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<v Speaker 1>they're dying inside. They're angry, they're resentful, they're regretful because

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<v Speaker 1>now They have to keep up this facade because they

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<v Speaker 1>feel they have an image to protect and portray. But

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<v Speaker 1>it is something that is crippling people. People are so

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<v Speaker 1>much more worried about their image that they don't look

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<v Speaker 1>at how it's affecting them. When I hear of couples,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, murder suicide, because rarely.

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<v Speaker 2>It's people bring to both die, you know, to commit suicide.

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<v Speaker 2>Rarely is that. Most times it's murder suicide.

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<v Speaker 1>When I hear murder suicide and people say, oh, it's

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<v Speaker 1>such a shock, I just can't believe it.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, I never saw the signs they were so

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<v Speaker 2>in love.

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<v Speaker 1>See, people can make anything look like what they wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to look like. It's just like all the negativity when

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<v Speaker 1>it comes to statistics about black people. You hear all

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<v Speaker 1>of these negativities, all of these negative statistics. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>care what it is about black people. It's negative statistically.

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<v Speaker 1>But that's because people can make numbers be what they

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<v Speaker 1>want them to be. Period I learned this through statistics

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<v Speaker 1>and doing research. You can manipulate numbers to make them

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<v Speaker 1>be whatever you want them to be, and even more

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<v Speaker 1>so depending on the agency or organization that's doing the stats.

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<v Speaker 2>So you can.

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<v Speaker 1>Make anyone believe anything that you want them to believe

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<v Speaker 1>according to what you present to the world.

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<v Speaker 2>Some people outright show who they are.

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<v Speaker 1>They show their negativity, they show chaos and drama because

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<v Speaker 1>they're constantly bickering and fighting in the public's eye. But

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<v Speaker 1>when you have people who are of some type of status,

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<v Speaker 1>some level of status, they're not gonna carry on like

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<v Speaker 1>that in public. They're gonna fake and protect. They're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>get on social media and smile and act as if

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<v Speaker 1>everything is okay, that they're so happy.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's not the truth. Just because you didn't see a.

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<v Speaker 1>Couple argue, you didn't hear a couple argue, you never

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<v Speaker 1>saw them fight, or anything like that, it does not

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<v Speaker 1>mean that they were happy. People of some form of

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<v Speaker 1>status on social media, they're going to portray themselves as

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<v Speaker 1>something they are not. They're gonna put on smiles that

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<v Speaker 1>look real, they're gonna act in ways that looks real,

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<v Speaker 1>and they do that because, like I said, they have

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<v Speaker 1>an image to uphold. You know, they worked hard to

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<v Speaker 1>get to where they are, so they have an image

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<v Speaker 1>to uphold. So they go on to carry on as

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<v Speaker 1>if everything is well, all is well. Everything is good.

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<v Speaker 1>But just because they do that doesn't mean it is so.

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<v Speaker 1>So people miss the signs. But there are always signs

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<v Speaker 1>and red flags, always without fail but people fail to

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<v Speaker 1>see them because they only see what their minds are

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<v Speaker 1>capable of sining. People miss the truth because, like I said,

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<v Speaker 1>they can only see what their eyes are capable of

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<v Speaker 1>seining because of the mindsets that they have.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's a fact. And then when people end up.

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<v Speaker 3>Murdered or maimed, really really really really hurt physically hurt,

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<v Speaker 3>then people say, I never saw this coming.

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<v Speaker 2>I never saw it coming.

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<v Speaker 1>And then some people will say, well, I saw the signs,

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<v Speaker 1>because you know.

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<v Speaker 2>I saw this. I saw that. You know, a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of people.

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<v Speaker 1>See the signs, but they reject them, they deny what

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<v Speaker 1>they see, and only until something tragic happens, some people say.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, yeah, you know, well she told me this, so

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<v Speaker 2>he told me that.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, you can't fix other people, but sometimes you

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<v Speaker 1>can help save a person from death, possibly possibly.

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<v Speaker 2>By saying something.

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<v Speaker 1>You never know, you could possibly save a person from

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<v Speaker 1>death by saying something.

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<v Speaker 2>It's very very very unfortunate.

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<v Speaker 1>It's very very very unfortunate that people spend so many

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<v Speaker 1>years together and then commit murder suicide. It's horrible. But

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<v Speaker 1>let me tell you, no one, no one, and I

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<v Speaker 1>do mean no one wakes up and say, I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>kill my spouse, I'm gonna kill my girlfriend, I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>kill my boyfriend.

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<v Speaker 2>No things lead up to that period. Things lead up

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<v Speaker 2>to it.

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<v Speaker 1>Now, people have committed murder because they lost their minds.

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<v Speaker 1>One day, I'll tell you this story, but one that's true.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not talking about that. I'm not talking about those

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<v Speaker 1>kind of people who literally lost their minds because of

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<v Speaker 1>things they got into. I'm not talking about those people.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm talking about couples who fake and pretend, who fake

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<v Speaker 1>love and happiness because they feel they have a status

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<v Speaker 1>that they have to uphold. They have an image that

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<v Speaker 1>they can't taint. But see, when they get to that

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<v Speaker 1>point of no return, they don't care about their image

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<v Speaker 1>anymore because in their minds, they are going to be

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<v Speaker 1>gone anyway.

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<v Speaker 2>So they don't care about the image anymore.

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<v Speaker 1>Their focus is on doing what they have been pondering

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<v Speaker 1>over doing.

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<v Speaker 4>See, it's easy, I mean extremely easy to fool the masses.

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<v Speaker 4>Because of the mindset that people have, It's easy to

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<v Speaker 4>manipulate and deceive the masses because people.

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<v Speaker 2>They only see according to their mindsets. They cannot see

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<v Speaker 2>beyond what they're able to comprehend.

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<v Speaker 1>So people miss the signs, or they see the signs

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<v Speaker 1>and reject them because it just can't be, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>it just can't be. They are happy until something tragic

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<v Speaker 1>happened and everybody is shocked and blown away, which is

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<v Speaker 1>a normal reaction to be shocked and blown away, even

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<v Speaker 1>if something tragic happens, but there's a difference when you

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<v Speaker 1>have seen things to lead up to that. But a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of people don't because if I'm rich and my husband.

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<v Speaker 2>Is rich, and we have.

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<v Speaker 1>Status and all of this, we are going to do

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<v Speaker 1>what everybody else do, pretend everything is good. But then

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<v Speaker 1>behind closed doors, we can't stand each other. That's what

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<v Speaker 1>people do. That's the way it works. You don't get

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<v Speaker 1>along behind closed doors. There's no connectiveness behind closed doors.

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<v Speaker 1>There's always arguments behind closed doors. You're tired because you're

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<v Speaker 1>tired of faking and pretending. You're exhaust stick from faking

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<v Speaker 1>and pretending. Put it on facides. It's exhausting. So it

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<v Speaker 1>drives people deeper and deeper into darkness because they are

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<v Speaker 1>mentally and physically exhausted from faking and pretending because their

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<v Speaker 1>image is more important to them.

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<v Speaker 2>Than their peace.

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<v Speaker 1>See that's when you get above yourself, when you think

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<v Speaker 1>your image and your status and your title and money

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<v Speaker 1>and things.

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<v Speaker 2>Are more important than your peace. So a lot of people.

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<v Speaker 1>Miss the signs. And those in the relationships. The women

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<v Speaker 1>who have been murdered, they know they knew what was

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<v Speaker 1>going on, but.

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<v Speaker 2>They never made reports. They never told anyone.

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<v Speaker 1>And I truly can say I get that because when

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<v Speaker 1>I was in an abusive relationship, I told no one.

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<v Speaker 1>I never told a soul. He was in the military,

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<v Speaker 1>I never told a soul. But I got smart, I

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<v Speaker 1>out smart at him, and I got out way away,

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<v Speaker 1>literally to save my life, to save my children's life.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I did endure for a while, but the

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<v Speaker 1>whole time I was scheming and planning until I could

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<v Speaker 1>do what I needed to do to get out of there.

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<v Speaker 1>Some people never do that because they think, oh, it's

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<v Speaker 1>gonna get better, or he will never do.

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<v Speaker 2>This to me, or she will never do this to me.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, they think that their significant other will never

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<v Speaker 1>go to that extreme. Never say never when you're dealing

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<v Speaker 2>When you see the signs of.

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<v Speaker 1>A person who is unstable, believe it, believe it. Status, money, possessions, titles, possessions,

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<v Speaker 1>None of that matters. Your life is more important. And

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<v Speaker 1>this goes for the person who is thinking of doing

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<v Speaker 2>Your life. If it's more important, your piece is more important.

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<v Speaker 1>If it's not working, then you have to do something else,

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<v Speaker 1>something positive for you. Because everybody is together, everybody together

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<v Speaker 1>is not meant to be together. I don't care if

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<v Speaker 1>you've been together thirty forty fifty years. People just go

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<v Speaker 1>through life on autopilot. It does not mean they were

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<v Speaker 2>To be together. People just trying to make it work.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm telling you, when people are so bogged down

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<v Speaker 1>to that point of no return. Faking and pretending it

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<v Speaker 1>is unnecessary. If you're with someone and it's not working,

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<v Speaker 1>life is not over. If they walk away or if

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<v Speaker 1>you walk away, that's the best thing for a peace.

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<v Speaker 1>But some people would rather take out their significant other

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<v Speaker 1>and take themselves out then for that, you know, for

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<v Speaker 1>that person to walk away, They rather kill that person

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<v Speaker 1>before they let that person walk away even though they're tired,

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<v Speaker 1>even though their tank is on full. They feel like

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<v Speaker 1>they've invested too much. That means nothing.

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<v Speaker 2>To me. It means nothing over my peace.

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<v Speaker 1>Nothing. But some people don't look at it that way.

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<v Speaker 1>They feel like they've invested too much. They put too

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<v Speaker 1>much in it to just walk away. Well, if you

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<v Speaker 1>kill yourself, you won't enjoy it anyways. If you kill

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<v Speaker 1>the other person, they won't enjoyed either. No one has

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<v Speaker 1>to get to that point, No one on the face

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<v Speaker 1>of the earth has to get to that point. That's

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<v Speaker 1>why you have to love yourself enough to maintain your

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<v Speaker 1>peace and not let anyone come along and affect your peace.

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<v Speaker 1>That's why you have to be in the right mindset already.

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<v Speaker 1>You can't go into a relationship looking for somebody to

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<v Speaker 1>complete you. You gotta behold going into it. You must

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<v Speaker 1>behold going into it. So many people miss the signs

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<v Speaker 1>in the red flags, They ignore their intuitions, and many

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<v Speaker 1>people are in their graves right now because of it.

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<v Speaker 1>It hit me heavy and I just want to talk

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<v Speaker 1>about it because lately, I know in the last month

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<v Speaker 1>there's been about six couples that I have heard of

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<v Speaker 1>with murdered suicide just in a month that I heard of.

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<v Speaker 1>Just imagine the ones that I haven't heard of. And

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<v Speaker 1>I'm talking local, you know, vicinity, meaning between where I

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<v Speaker 1>am and the state i'm in, maybe a couple more

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<v Speaker 1>states over in the state I'm in, and a couple

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<v Speaker 1>of states over, so that's close proximity. People ignore too much,

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<v Speaker 1>People give too many chances, People let too much slide.

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<v Speaker 2>Image is not worth it. It's not.

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<v Speaker 1>If you're in pain mentally and you're trying desperately to

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<v Speaker 1>hold on to your image and all that, it's not

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<v Speaker 1>worth it. It's not worth it. You have to love

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<v Speaker 1>yourself enough to move on because anybody who commits suicide,

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<v Speaker 1>they're going to hell. And you murder someone, I'm telling

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<v Speaker 1>you it's not worth it, because what you chose over

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<v Speaker 1>here is you're going when you leave this world, you're

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<v Speaker 1>going somewhere to a place that's not good, and that's

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<v Speaker 1>where you'll be for eternity. There are no doovers over there.

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<v Speaker 1>There's no doovers over here. Who wants you exit this body.

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<v Speaker 1>People just need to think about what they're doing. They

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<v Speaker 1>need to think about the choices that they're making. They

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<v Speaker 1>need to think about how they're getting in relationships with

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<v Speaker 1>whom they're getting in relationships.

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<v Speaker 2>With everything glitters is my goal.

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<v Speaker 1>Beauty fades, money gets funny. You're gonna age. And one

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<v Speaker 1>thing is for certain. Age does not necessarily necessarily come

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<v Speaker 1>with maturity does not necessarily come with age.

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<v Speaker 2>I had to get it together there. It does not.

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<v Speaker 1>Now your body's going a mature period because we age.

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<v Speaker 1>But mental maturity does not necessarily come with age. And

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<v Speaker 1>most people will never reach it because they never choose

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<v Speaker 1>to change. They never choose to become better. They just

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<v Speaker 1>take all of their mess into their relationships, on their jobs, everywhere,

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<v Speaker 1>they go everywhere, but no change ever occurs because they're

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<v Speaker 1>mentally still the same. And that's why I say these couples,

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<v Speaker 1>some of them, they get successful together, but mentally they're

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<v Speaker 1>going deeper and deeper in a hole. So I'm talking

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<v Speaker 1>about couples, but it could be an individual because technically,

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<v Speaker 1>in a relationship, you are a couple, but you're still

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<v Speaker 1>too individuals too. People get together on trauma, they can

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<v Speaker 1>relate on e bad experiences. People get into relationships because

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<v Speaker 1>of looks. Some people just want to be in relationships

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<v Speaker 1>with the wrong people, meaning people that they know that's

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<v Speaker 1>already married or already in relationships.

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<v Speaker 2>They prefer those kind of relationships. Something is wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>So basically what I'm saying, people get into relationships for

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<v Speaker 1>all the wrong reasons with the wrong people, and they

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<v Speaker 1>still move forward in those things, and many end tragically

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<v Speaker 1>because people refuse to adhere to the signs, the red flags.

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<v Speaker 1>And although it's so shocking and unbelievable to people, the

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<v Speaker 1>size of red flags were there.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't care what no one says. They were there.

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<v Speaker 2>They were just missed.

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<v Speaker 1>Because when people are on a certain level, they have

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<v Speaker 1>a certain status and they're throwing parties and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>doing things for the community and for people, people miss

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<v Speaker 1>everything because they're looking at the good good that they're receiving.

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<v Speaker 1>They enjoying the benefits, so they're not really paying attention

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<v Speaker 1>to the things that they should see because they are

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<v Speaker 1>enjoying the benefits of the labor of those people.

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<v Speaker 2>So I just want you to just.

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<v Speaker 1>Let this sit with you for a while. I'm leaving

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<v Speaker 1>it right here right there. Thank you for listening. Much

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<v Speaker 1>much much love. Also check out From the Heart to

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<v Speaker 1>Share this episode much love, please please please.

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<v Speaker 2>Protect your peace.

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<v Speaker 1>I end every episode the same, and I hope and

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<v Speaker 1>I pray in Jesus' name.

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<v Speaker 2>That you do it. Thank on it