Speaker 1: What's up, gentlemen. I am Johnny Depth, author of one
thousand first dates Portrait of a Palm Beach Player, and
today we're going to rip the band aid off. One
of the most uncomfortable truths in the dating world. Women
hate weakness in a man. If that triggered you, good,
because it's time to end your weakness. Let's be real.
You can bench three hundred pounds, you can drive a Porsche,
but if you show up to your woman week insecure, needy, indecisive,
you might as well be rolling up in a clown car. Why.
Because women are wired for strength. They always have been.
Thousands of years ago. If a man couldn't fight off
a predator or protect the tribe, he wasn't just undesirable,
he was dangerous to her survival. Fast forward to today,
that ancient instinct is still alive, and well, she might
not know why she lost interest. She'll just say you changed,
or the spark's gone. Nah, my friend. What's gone is
her respect for you. And once that respect is gone,
it's over. Maybe not immediately, but definitely inevitably. Here's where
most guys mess up. They confuse vulnerability with weakness. Vulnerability
says I'm dealing with something, but I've got this weakness,
says I can't handle this. Can you fix it for me?
And when you show up week, especially in how you
deal with her, she doesn't feel safe, protected, or desire.
She feels like she's now the one in charge. And
here's the punchline. She doesn't want to be in charge,
even if she says she does, even if she thinks
she does, because when she starts leading and you start following,
the dynamic dies, The polarity collapses, the attraction fades, and
soon you're just roommates or worse, emotional support animals. And listen,
I've been that guy. I've played the white knight. I've
bent over backward. I've tried to talk it out, I've
tried to prove I'm a good man. But what I
learned after a thousand first dates and honestly more than
a few hard lessons, is that trying to prove yourself
is weakness disguised as effort. The moment you stop leading,
the moment you defer, apologize for being masculine, or tiptoe
to avoid drama, you lose the frame. And when you
lose the frame, she loses attraction and contempt creeps in
that sarcastic laugh, the eye roll, that passive, aggressive silence,
And here's a psychological bombshell. According to Dr John Gotman,
the number one predictor of divorce contempt, and the most
obvious sign of contempt the eye roll. The moment she
starts looking at you like you're beneath her. That's the
moment she starts emotionally detaching, and it's just a countdown
from there. But here's the twist. Sometimes a man has
been weak his entire life or his entire relationship, and
one day she crosses a line so hard it wakes
him up. She cheats, she mocks, she disrespects him in
a way that cuts to the boat, and in that moment,
sees himself and hates what he's become, and everything changes.
He stops chasing, stops justifying, stops asking for permission to
be a man, and suddenly she doesn't recognize him. He's
got a backbone, now, a voice, a boundary, and for
the first time he's not scared to lose her. And
when that happens, either she transforms out of respect or
he walks. Either way, he's free. So let me ask you,
are you living weak? Apologizing for wanting what you want,
letting her set the tone, letting your emotions get hijacked,
begging for peace while handing over your power. Because if
you are, you're not in a relationship. You're in a
slow motion collapse. It's time to end your weakness, step
into your frame, lead with clarity, stop trying to prove,
and start being This isn't about domination. It's about sovereignty,
about becoming the kind of man she wants to follow,
not because she has to, but because she can't help herself.
I'm Johnny Depth, and this is the truth. Most men
never hear until it's too late, but you you're hearing
it now. To order a copy of my book one
thousand first Dates Portrait of a Palm Beach Player and
unlock your inner strength, click the link in the description.
Your next chapter starts when you decide to stop being
weak and start being dangerous in the right way. Happy Dating,