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Speaker 1: I made a decision pace sunny sound on ahead of vision.

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It's nice.

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Speaker 2: Hey all you fox sticks. We love you guys, Welcome

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to our show.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes I feel like we're stealing a little bit from

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Mark Maren, you know, who used to always hey, fuck

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tears or whatever. Fuckers. But hey, he's not doing his

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show anymore. So someone's gotta.

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Speaker 2: When we've been, you know, saying it for a long time,

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we really have. We've been abusing our audience for a

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while now.

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Speaker 1: Is it possible that Mark stole it from us? I mean,

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who knows. I'm not saying, look right, could be, could be?

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Could be? Yeah, we got we have an embarrassment of

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riches today. Yeah, we got lots to talk about, a

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lot to talk about. It is crazy, how I'm you

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know what, I'm gonna group you in here at our ages.

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Lots of stuff still happens, you know, when you think

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it's slowing down. Yeah, I was just.

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Speaker 2: Gonna say, even when you think not much is happening,

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stuff goes down out of the blue.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: And also, you know, me living without the kids in

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the house, you know, I think, oh, it's gonna be

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a boring week, but then you get a phone call

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from one of your kids crying, Hey, mom, can you.

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Speaker 1: Come down to Santa Barbara. I really need my mom

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and bring Phil. She said, bring Phil. Yeah, she wants

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me to bring Phil. She loves Phil.

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Speaker 2: Now now that she's had space, they've had time apart,

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she really appreciates him.

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Speaker 1: M hmm.

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Speaker 2: Like sometimes she gets upset if he doesn't go and

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greet her, like he's like, she's like when my chop

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liver because when I come home, he runs. When Sunny

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comes home, he runs. When she walks in, he lays

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on the floor.

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Speaker 1: And he just thumbumbumb. He gives her like a couple thumps,

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like hi with the tail. Well, maybe Natalia needs to

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sit down with Phil and like make some amends for

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yes early days and like treating you know, worrying too

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much about Phil smell right and and you know, yeah,

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and they need to like rebuild some trust.

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Speaker 2: I think, Yeah, I think they're they're on the right path,

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especially after last night. Yeah, So I get this phone

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call from Natalia. I kind of already knew, so she's

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been Natalia has not had a boyfriend really since high school,

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like a serious boyfriend. But there's this group of people

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that she's been hanging out with, and one of them

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is the guy friend. They were all really she was

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good friends with him last year, but apparently over the

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last few months, especially during the Christmas break, they got

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really close and they started dating and she was really

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like like, you know, liking him, and he said, you know,

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let's be exclusive and she's like yeah. And so that's

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only been a few months now that they've been exclusive.

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So she calls me the other day and she said

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she had a you know, a great night with him.

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Speaker 1: He took her out to dinner.

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Speaker 2: He was saying how much like he loves her and

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how happy he is, and they're both and she's like same,

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you know.

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Speaker 1: And they had a really nice night.

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Speaker 2: And then the next night they all go out as

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a group like you do in school, and they went

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to some like some party, and she caught him, like

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he was really pretty drunk, and she caught him, uh

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like talking really close to a girl and like touching

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her and stuff, like a little too close for comfort.

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And she walked up to him and she's like, let's going,

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you know, hey, hello, and he turns to her and

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he goes, We're done.

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Speaker 1: I can't do this anymore. You deserve better. I gotta

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let you go. We're done in front of a girl, Yeah, yeah,

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oh hell no.

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Speaker 2: And that's what Natalia said. And she's so strong. She's

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not how I was at that age. I would have

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been a heap of tears crying we're done. Yeah, out

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of nowhere, out of nowhere. I don't want to do

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this anymore. We're done. You deserve better something like that.

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Speaker 1: What is always up with the you deserve better? Right now?

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I mean, like it's the last thing. Obviously I do

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deserve that, But like that doesn't let you off. You

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don't get to act like a shithole right because you

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said you deserve just it's just me, it's just my

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bad personality. Act. Give me a break. Fuckhead.

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Speaker 2: Anyway, So she was really sad and upset, and I've

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never really seen Natalia sad over a guy.

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Speaker 1: Let me ask you this. Yeah, and well, I'm referring

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to a patreon, But part of the patreon was that

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she was feeling very emotional. Do you think there was

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some side Do you think that she fell something was off?

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She said she was blindsided. This was out of the blue.

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Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, and her roommates were there last night when

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we were talking about it, so I'll tell you what happened.

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So so, so she was really sad and upset, and

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you know, I said, well, you know, call me anytime,

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blah blah blah. And then the day went by. Then

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Sunday came and she called me like noon on Sunday, uh,

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crying and like I'm you know, I want I was,

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I wish I could come home, but I can. I'm

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school in the morning, but can you come up. It's Sunday.

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We always make Sunday dinner. Can you come up and

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make dinner? Everybody make dinner for everybody. But basically she's like, well,

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because also it was so late in the day by

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the time I was going to get there, it was

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going to be close to dinner time anyway.

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Speaker 1: And she's like, you.

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Speaker 2: Know, she missed Phil. She wanted me to bring Phil.

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And so I was like, okay, sure, you know, so

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I drive up there. Phil in the back, you know,

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hanging out and you do.

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Speaker 1: On long car rides. He's totally fine.

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Speaker 2: He takes up the whole back seat and just snores

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all way, like he doesn't I forget he's back there sometimes. Yeah,

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So we drove up and it's Sunday, not bad traffic.

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My car was charged to one hundred percent, which I

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didn't think it charged that high, but I it was

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at one hundred percent.

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Speaker 1: The thing about these cars is they don't like you

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to charge to one hundred percent. They're like, can you

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please not right? You just do eighty yeah, And you're like,

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well what if we just do eighty five? And the

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cars like, I mean, okay this time, but like in

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the future, just go to eighty. And then you're like, well,

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I'm sorry, but this one time, I am going to

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one hundred. And they're like, oh, that's not Yeah, you're

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gonna get punish later. You'll see. You'll see we have

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a surprise for you, right right, go ahead, no right,

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charge charge two hundred. Yeah. Yeah, we'll see you as

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the upper hand exactly. I'll tell you about that.

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Speaker 2: So anyway, so I get up there and we talk

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a little bit more about it, and so.

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Speaker 1: You bring Phil in?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I bring phill in and I drop Phil off.

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So I go to the grocery store because I'm going

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to make lamb chops. Is the quickest, fastest thing to

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make and the easiest. So and now she's got like

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eight people coming for dinner.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, oh my god, suddenly you're a caterer. I know.

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Speaker 2: So now all of a sudden, she's like, besides, did

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you choose? So I just went and I got like

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pre made mashed potatoes and stuff like that perfect. Huh

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made the salad, well, she made the salad, got some

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like cheese and crackers and stuff, and so the lamb

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chops super easy, and so I dropped.

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Speaker 1: So they take Phil for a walk while I go.

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Speaker 2: To this store, which was nice, and then we watched

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the Grammys and it was a really nice night. And

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then you know, we're talking for a long time with

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her roommates, hanging out, and then you know, of course

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doing the dishes, she helped me.

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Speaker 1: They all helped me clean up. But by the time

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I left, it was probably like ten Okay, well wait,

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you skipped over the part about this shithole guy.

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Speaker 2: Oh she when I by the time I got there,

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we talked a little bit about it, and then she

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said the next day he was fucked up. He was

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like calling her off the hook when he actually went

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to her house to see her, and all of her

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friends were there and like told him, like, now she

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doesn't want to see you.

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Speaker 1: I mean, the first thing I thought was like, he's

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going to sober up and yeah, be like and that's

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what happened. Yeah, probably said he didn't remember.

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Speaker 2: I don't know about he said he fucked up, he

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was drunk, he didn't mean it. He wants to talk

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to her, and she's at this point has blocked him

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and doesn't want to talk to him. And I'm like,

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are you You're not going to get back together, are you?

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Because this is a dick move. If this guy can

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do this, just you know, I told her, you know,

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when they show you who they are, believe it. If

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he does that, if he did this one time, you know,

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he could do it again. So don't I just don't

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like that. And I just fuck that And she said no,

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I'm I don't. I don't want to, And her roommates

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are like she already has other guys, like like, well,

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if you don't, you fucked up, dude, I'm going after her.

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But she's like, I don't want to. I don't not

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seeing anybody. I'm not interested in that. But she's like,

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I don't. I definitely don't want to talk to him.

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is at nineteen, you know, you say that and you

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think you're strong, and then you get a text or whatever.

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Speaker 1: A big problem though, is that he did that because

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he was talking to another girl. It would be one

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thing if he was having some if he was feeling

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scared or like scared of commitment, or it was getting

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too much, or he'd you know, a bit off more

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than he could chew and had whatever. It could be

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if you got scared. But you don't do that because

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you're just flirting. You just want to get with another girl,

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right exactly. I mean that I don't care if you're

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drunk speaking as a drunk, Yeah, when drunk talking about

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another drunk like that behavior is not coming from fear.

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It's just coming from like you're an asshole. It's part

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of your personality that's in there, yes, exactly.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, and you know, and so she's she's just

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she didn't really want to talk that much about it

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because she was enjoying the night. But that's pretty much

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all I got from it. And so we'll see, we'll

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see if she stays strong. But she seems pretty strong.

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She's not like how I was at all at her

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age when I was her age, I would have been

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a heap of tears, like, oh, okay, he wants to talk

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to me, let him come in, you know her She's

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just like, fuck, you hit the bricks.

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Speaker 1: So so you get So the important part of this story, though,

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is you get to Santa Barbara. Now what percent are

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you at?

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Speaker 2: So okay, So I get to Santa Barbara and I'm

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at fifty percent. Oh, because by the time I go

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the grocery store and come back and.

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Speaker 1: Stuff, it's about fifty percent. Still, that means you're going

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to drive home on fifty percent. See, here's the thing.

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Speaker 2: I am traumatized because when I very first got the

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Tesla years and years ago, like in the first few months,

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I didn't understand really, like what does that mean?

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Speaker 1: Thirty percent left and stuff.

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Speaker 2: I was on my way home at night on the

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two ten freeway in the dark, and the thing just

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turned into a phone just went blank and I just

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cruised to the side of the road and I had

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to get it towed.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Right, that sucked.

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Speaker 2: So I'm like, I don't want to do and fills

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in the car, you know. So I leave at like

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ten ten thirty and now okay, So instead of the percentage.

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I'm looking and it says it kept it fluctuated, but

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basically what it kept saying is, I have, you know,

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one hundred miles to go, but you have about nine

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percent of miles in the in the car. So it

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says minimum maximum miles, and it was always ten. It

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was pretty much consistent with it being ten miles extra.

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me one hundred percent, is now that I'm in the

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electric game, yeah, all in the problem is that when

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you go below fifty percent, suddenly they're big liars and

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they'll go like, oh, you have one hundred and ten

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miles to go, and you'll drive one mile and they'll

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be like, you've got ninety miles to go, and you're like,

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what happened? I know, I know, I just drove one mile.

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I know for a fact. Yeah, and they're like, I

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don't know, Yes, I don't know, but you still have ninety, right,

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you have fifty miles to go, and you're like, oh

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my god, I'm gonna run out again. I'm run out

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on my way home, break into my house.

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Speaker 2: And also the percentage kept going down quicker, right, and

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it was like, now I'm at thirty percent and.

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Speaker 1: I'm still I'm still a like forty five hour away.

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Speaker 2: Then it was like, now you're at twenty percent, twenty

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five percent, and I'm like, oh my god, what is happening?

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Speaker 1: Call Mike Kirstein like I did last time. You've been

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driving an electric car longer than almost anybody. I know.

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That's hilarious that you call somebody else. Cause my with

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the Tesla was easy because I know where I can go.

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Speaker 2: With the Tesla, it shows you. This car doesn't show

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you where the closest charging station is. Plus, I know

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I have a thing a connector that I could use

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a Tesla charging station. However, I've tried that before. Remember

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it didn't work. So now I'm like, oh, so Mike knows.

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Speaker 1: Where I can.

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Speaker 2: He can see where I am, so he can find

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He's on my find my friends.

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Speaker 1: We long time ago, and he's still there, so he

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sees where I am.

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Speaker 2: Mike knows Los Angeles County better, like like it's the

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back of his hand, right, He's like, I know exactly

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where you are. He's like, okay, he's like, there's a

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charging station. First of all, he's telling me you can

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make it. You're gonna make it. You know it's it's

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what is it saying? I tell him what it's. He's like,

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you're gonna be fine. I go, no, I don't think so.

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Then I go, okay, Okay, I'm gonna go for it.

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Call him back like half hour later.

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Speaker 1: No, I'm scared. I don't think I'm gonna mater do

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it now. Oh Jesus Christ.

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Speaker 2: So, like I'm getting into the San Fernando Valley, He's like, okay,

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get off at Resida, tells me there's a charging station.

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It takes me into the like hospital, into like a

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hospital parking lot.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, where's the chart. He goes, it's right there.

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He goes, turn around. I go.

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Speaker 2: If I turn around, I'm going to run my car

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into the lobby of the emergency room.

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Speaker 1: The problem, too, is that if you go to like okay,

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because now you're near the Ralphs where I used to

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go charge, Yes, but that Ralph's always it's always like

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eight deep the line, so you're gonna run out of

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went into that yes, there's only like four them, right, yes, yeah.

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So I went to the hospital, couldn't find it, and

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I go, I'm getting out of here, and he goes, okay,

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there's more. There's more, go go, go, get get to

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the routs. So I get to Raufs. That's that's your rouse.

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So there was like you right now, okay, it was

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eleven o'clock at night. By the time I got to

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that Ralphs, all of them are are full. Always what

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the fuck? That's why, honest, Sunday night, we have to

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get a charger at our house. This is ridiculous. It's

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like in and out, but for electric cars. Yes, it's

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there's in and out. Was a line, there was a lot.

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There's always a line. It doesn't matter what time it is.

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There's like people wanting to charge their cars.

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Speaker 2: Yes, I don't get it. It's it's Sunday night at eleven, like,

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come on people. And there was a guy in front

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of me waiting. So then he goes, okay, he goes,

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there's another gas station where there's one charging station.

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I don't think so, and then he goes, well, I

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really do think you have enough to get home? I

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go okay, and I read them what it said again

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and I was like, I'm going for it, and I

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went for it. And it's going down ten percent, nine percent,

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eight percent. And it's like now it's down to four

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percent and I'm right on the two ten right where

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my car died last time.

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Speaker 1: Is it flashing at you? Is the oh yeah, it's

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going it's charge up yet it's saying you're on reserve,

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go charge your car, right, And I'm like, yeah, I know, motherfucker,

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I'm trying. No, reserve should be like below zero, it

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should go to zero and then go okay, okay.

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Speaker 2: So you're gonna give you yeah, now's have the talk.

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I will not be ignored.

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Speaker 1: Right. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: So and it's like it's down, it's going down. Now

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I'm getting close to home and it's like at two percent.

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I pull into the driveway. Wow, yeah made it two percent?

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Speaker 1: I know? Crazy? Yeah, how's that? That is scary?

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Speaker 2: I know people are like, what's with Lyne in this

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fucking electric car?

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Speaker 1: Does seem crazy though? Okay, because next week we're going

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to record on a different day. Guys, might you guys

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might get your show. Maybe we'll record on Sunday. And

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then I can get a free done super Bowl. Oh

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you're right, yeah, but we could record in the morn

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now because they're going to probably have a party here.

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Oh yeah, Well then we're gonna have to the show

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is gonna have to be late. We're gonna have to

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record on a Tuesday, and that posted late. But anyway,

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that's neither here nor there. The point is I'm driving

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to San Diego and I need to drive the electric car. Okay,

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I would drive the Prius because it does great on

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gas and it would save me the headache. But that's

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the car that Sadie drives, So then she'll be without

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a car. She won't be able to drive herself to school, right,

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I mean she she could. Did she take your car?

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I mean she's just not used to it. And I

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want you to take the electric car. I want to.

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Speaker 2: I want to know how you do. By the way,

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there's probably charging stations at the universe.

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Speaker 1: Well that's the thing. I'm going to go to a hotel,

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so I probably just go there and then just I'm

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sure there's a charger out there is but I've never

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even used the charger that comes with the car. Do

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you know what I mean? Like, I, oh, no, you would,

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just I would have an attachment.

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Speaker 2: Probably, Well they if you go to the right chargings,

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like the EV charging stations.

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Speaker 1: Right, you don't need an attachment, Oh you don't. No,

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you just plug it into your car and it should

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be fine.

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Speaker 2: M but bring the attachments just in case. But yeah,

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they're in the car if I needed it.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, okay, so I'll drive there and then I'll

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just be able to charge. But I'm already thinking, like,

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I'll charge up two one hundred and then I'll drive

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there and then I yeah, I'm sure I'll just charge

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up because San Diego, I believe, is further than Santa Barbara.

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Yeah it is. Yeah, it's like a four hour drive.

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Well it's it should be like a two hour drive

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two and a half. But with there's always going to

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be Jolly's draft. Yeah, but that's interesting. Okay. You know

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home but you were glad you went? Yes, glad I went.

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Speaker 2: Everything was fine, but yeah, got to bed really late

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by the time I got home. Feed Phil, take him

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out for a little walk, stretch his legs after being

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in the car. Yeah, it was a long night.

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Speaker 1: I know, with his arthritis, it's probably a little bit

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hard to be in a car that long.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, he's a good passenger though he really doesn't talk much,

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just kind of keeps to himself in the back.

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Speaker 1: You don't feel like you have to just listen to

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a podcast to like tune him out. Sorry, I got something,

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I'm listening to something. Yeah, No, No, he does his

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own thing in the back seat. Yeah, he's good. You

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don't have to go. I want to hear this story,

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but let.

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Speaker 2: Me just let me just finish this podcast. And he's

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not like a back seat driver, you know, he doesn't

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go slow down.

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Speaker 1: Like me.

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Speaker 2: Speaking of slowing down too though, when you're trying to

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reserve your back Uh. For me, it's so hard because

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it's like Mike's like, just go like fifty five sixty,

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you know, don't try not to go over sixty. I

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might as well get out and walk. Like anybody with

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an electric car knows. I feel that feels really slow,

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right right, yeah, just especially on these highways, these long

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stretch Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So anyway, I made it. My car's all charged up.

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Now you're bonded with your girl. Yes, you did the

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right thing. Yeah, she was really really happy. They were

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all so happy. I came. They're really cute for friends.

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It's nice when you feel like, you know, I don't know.

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It sounds like Natalia is strong, and it's nice when

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you feel like you can see the resilience. I love

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that about her, Yeah, I really do. I mean, I

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don't know if I'll ever get over Elbie's breakup. That

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was like I literally have some PTSD from that. Yeah,

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from her laying on the floor scream crying, going why

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why I don't understand? Was like, I don't know if

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I'll ever get that image. I mean, I'm sure Elb's like,

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oh what what breakup? Yeah, I'm like, you don't remember. Yeah.

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I felt it's traumatizing for us as moms.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you don't want them to feel that heartbreak. And

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for me, I've never heard an Italian be so upset

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over a guy.

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Speaker 1: You know. She was like.

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Speaker 2: Everything was going great. I don't understand what happened, So

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it's really it's tough.

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Speaker 1: God. I mean, I'm trying to think. I'm trying to

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think if I've ever been completely blindsided the guy that

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I was living with, that the only other real true

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relationship I had besides John. I wasn't blind side. I

466
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already felt like he was being distant and I was

467
00:23:50,920 --> 00:23:55,519
suspecting possible cheating. But remember that story about how the

468
00:23:55,559 --> 00:23:57,759
phone rang at like six in the morning and I

469
00:23:57,839 --> 00:24:01,480
answered it and the woman was like, can I speak

470
00:24:01,519 --> 00:24:04,880
to Brad? And I was like, what the fuck? And

471
00:24:04,920 --> 00:24:07,440
then I was like, oh my god, I've just caught

472
00:24:07,440 --> 00:24:11,200
this motherfucker cheating and I remember how it felt to

473
00:24:11,279 --> 00:24:15,400
this day, like I remember how hot my face felt

474
00:24:15,440 --> 00:24:19,000
and how angry I was, and I was like, it's

475
00:24:19,119 --> 00:24:21,839
for you, you know. And then I just sat there

476
00:24:21,920 --> 00:24:25,119
and listened, like, really, mother, you better have the best

477
00:24:25,160 --> 00:24:29,440
explanation for this. And then his explanation was horrible, because no,

478
00:24:29,519 --> 00:24:32,400
he wasn't cheating, but he was planning, had been plotting

479
00:24:32,400 --> 00:24:35,720
a move, remember because it was a job, saying that

480
00:24:35,960 --> 00:24:39,720
he I think they were hiring him. I don't know.

481
00:24:41,240 --> 00:24:42,759
But when he got off the phone and I was

482
00:24:42,799 --> 00:24:45,880
like I was, I was like, oh the fuck was

483
00:24:46,640 --> 00:24:48,319
and he was like it's not what you think. It

484
00:24:48,400 --> 00:24:50,839
was like out of a movie and he was like, uh,

485
00:24:50,880 --> 00:24:53,920
I sent him this application to this job in Italy.

486
00:24:54,279 --> 00:24:57,559
That's right, that guy. That guy, yeah, the guy who

487
00:24:57,640 --> 00:24:59,880
Then I started his car up for him once wee

488
00:25:00,160 --> 00:25:04,319
I know, that's the best. He left his car there

489
00:25:04,319 --> 00:25:06,200
and he asked you to start it up once a week.

490
00:25:06,640 --> 00:25:10,480
I went into some serious denial. I was just like, Okay,

491
00:25:10,640 --> 00:25:13,160
we're young. He just wants to have adventures. It's like

492
00:25:13,319 --> 00:25:16,079
freakin' Mormons would have been married and like had kids

493
00:25:16,079 --> 00:25:18,559
by that time. Like he wasn't that young. Yeah, he

494
00:25:18,640 --> 00:25:22,000
was twenty six and I was twenty seven. Right, you're

495
00:25:22,000 --> 00:25:25,240
not a baby. Ye're not nineteen, like out of high school,

496
00:25:25,279 --> 00:25:27,599
Like you've lived some life already. You know, you wouldn't

497
00:25:27,599 --> 00:25:29,279
know if you want to be with me. But he

498
00:25:29,440 --> 00:25:32,960
was very like, no, no, no, I love you. In

499
00:25:33,000 --> 00:25:36,039
his defense, he did not say like I want to

500
00:25:36,039 --> 00:25:38,920
be engaged to you. He was like, I just don't know.

501
00:25:39,119 --> 00:25:41,079
I don't know how I feel, but I need to go,

502
00:25:41,880 --> 00:25:47,000
and still being sided. I was blindsided by that. And

503
00:25:47,079 --> 00:25:50,160
then he acted super loving. He'd already been acting very

504
00:25:50,200 --> 00:25:54,039
weird and distant. Then he acted very loving for the

505
00:25:54,079 --> 00:25:57,119
next couple months. He first he pretended it wasn't a

506
00:25:57,160 --> 00:26:01,680
done deal, and I was like, I let myself believe that, like,

507
00:26:01,759 --> 00:26:04,079
I don't know, maybe this will happen, but probably not.

508
00:26:04,240 --> 00:26:05,759
I mean, what are the chances he's going to move

509
00:26:05,799 --> 00:26:08,480
to Italy? Well, the chances were about one hundred percent

510
00:26:08,720 --> 00:26:13,640
I think about a full car battery percent. Yes, because

511
00:26:13,680 --> 00:26:16,559
he'd already been planning it. He did that phone call

512
00:26:16,640 --> 00:26:20,359
I believe was like confirming things, not like I don't know.

513
00:26:21,000 --> 00:26:23,319
So it turned out that he was absolutely going. He'd

514
00:26:23,359 --> 00:26:26,400
already gone to get a passport. Remember that story. Oh yeah,

515
00:26:26,519 --> 00:26:30,319
he got to get a passport with Brooke Shields's now husband.

516
00:26:30,759 --> 00:26:33,759
Oh he's guy Chris Hensche who was Brad's best friend

517
00:26:33,799 --> 00:26:36,680
at the time. Oh wow. And then he claimed I

518
00:26:36,720 --> 00:26:39,880
saw the passport come in the mail before this phone

519
00:26:39,880 --> 00:26:42,119
call happened. Uh huh. I was like, why did you

520
00:26:42,119 --> 00:26:43,839
get it? You went and got a passport and I

521
00:26:43,839 --> 00:26:46,000
didn't know about this. And he was like, oh my god,

522
00:26:46,279 --> 00:26:48,079
Chris was going to get a passport and I just

523
00:26:48,119 --> 00:26:49,240
decided to drive along.

524
00:26:49,480 --> 00:26:55,240
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, Oh yes, he's Ane's gonna go get a passport.

525
00:26:55,279 --> 00:26:57,680
Speaker 1: Hey, can I go with you? Yes? And nothingnounced to

526
00:26:57,720 --> 00:27:00,960
do you know, Yeah, you somehow got together all those

527
00:27:01,000 --> 00:27:04,400
important documents about any kind of like just for fun,

528
00:27:04,559 --> 00:27:08,839
why not? Yeah, go wait in line. So I was like,

529
00:27:09,240 --> 00:27:12,200
but of course I let myself believe it because I

530
00:27:12,359 --> 00:27:15,400
was madly in love. I thought I was going to

531
00:27:15,440 --> 00:27:18,839
marry this guy. So I was like, I mean, I

532
00:27:18,839 --> 00:27:21,039
guess he's going to get about, you know, doing a

533
00:27:21,119 --> 00:27:24,400
ride along with his friend. Okay, Then the phone call

534
00:27:24,480 --> 00:27:28,759
thing happened. Then I was still like believing what he said.

535
00:27:29,279 --> 00:27:33,240
Then he acted super loving and like went back to

536
00:27:33,319 --> 00:27:35,559
being how he was at the beginning of the relationship.

537
00:27:36,200 --> 00:27:38,400
For the next two months, he was like waking up

538
00:27:38,440 --> 00:27:41,039
every morning going, oh my god, I love you so much,

539
00:27:41,160 --> 00:27:46,240
like so sweet, having great sex, you know. Right then

540
00:27:46,279 --> 00:27:50,400
he left for the airport. Cried at the airport. We

541
00:27:50,599 --> 00:27:52,880
talked about him coming back and three he was going

542
00:27:52,960 --> 00:27:55,359
to go for six months. We talked about him coming

543
00:27:55,359 --> 00:27:57,559
back in three months or me going there in three

544
00:27:57,559 --> 00:28:01,400
months to visit. Uh huh. Then I promptly like just

545
00:28:01,440 --> 00:28:05,759
never heard from him again, remember, and I was freaking out,

546
00:28:05,920 --> 00:28:09,680
Oh my god, did something happen to him? I guess

547
00:28:09,799 --> 00:28:12,599
this was before this was before cell phones. Yeah, that's

548
00:28:12,599 --> 00:28:14,799
not long ago. Oh yeah, there are no cell phones.

549
00:28:15,079 --> 00:28:17,240
So I had to wait for him. But I was like,

550
00:28:17,359 --> 00:28:21,160
surely he'll call me from a payphone or his well, no,

551
00:28:21,240 --> 00:28:26,000
he was starting the job there, He'll call me from work, right, No. Nothing.

552
00:28:26,920 --> 00:28:30,119
Then he finally called me, and then of course I'm crying. Immediately,

553
00:28:30,240 --> 00:28:32,279
I'm like what happened? Like where have you been? And

554
00:28:32,319 --> 00:28:35,880
he was immediately annoyed and like, oh my god, like

555
00:28:36,079 --> 00:28:40,440
I just got to my job, like relax right put

556
00:28:40,480 --> 00:28:43,720
out that. Then I was like, I have to be

557
00:28:43,720 --> 00:28:45,400
able to hear from you, and he's like, well, I

558
00:28:45,440 --> 00:28:46,759
don't have a phone. I don't know if I'm going

559
00:28:46,799 --> 00:28:49,240
to be able to call you from my office. He

560
00:28:49,400 --> 00:28:52,480
was living at an apartment though with another guy who

561
00:28:52,960 --> 00:28:55,559
had a phone, but I think it was he was like,

562
00:28:55,640 --> 00:28:58,920
I can't really use his phone to call international, Okay,

563
00:28:59,039 --> 00:29:01,240
So I sort of bought you know what I mean.

564
00:29:01,319 --> 00:29:03,319
It was like, yeah, those things where I kept being like,

565
00:29:03,799 --> 00:29:08,359
then finally it finally, like a month into it, I

566
00:29:08,400 --> 00:29:12,759
was like, this guy does not love me. It took

567
00:29:12,839 --> 00:29:15,640
a while, maybe like a couple of weeks, but I

568
00:29:15,680 --> 00:29:19,400
was like, he doesn't call me right, he doesn't sound

569
00:29:19,440 --> 00:29:21,680
interested in talking to me when we're on the phone.

570
00:29:21,960 --> 00:29:26,640
But there was a disconnect between how he'd acted. I

571
00:29:26,680 --> 00:29:29,839
had a vision of him crying at the airport that

572
00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:33,559
to this was like these two things are not Matt. Yeah,

573
00:29:33,640 --> 00:29:35,880
so I guess you could say I was kind of blindsided.

574
00:29:35,920 --> 00:29:40,400
And then I said I don't feel like you love me,

575
00:29:40,680 --> 00:29:43,079
Like can you say that you love me? Can you

576
00:29:43,119 --> 00:29:44,720
do you miss me? Do you feel like you can't

577
00:29:44,720 --> 00:29:45,359
live without me?

578
00:29:45,680 --> 00:29:51,640
Speaker 2: And then there was silence, but can you start my car?

579
00:29:52,480 --> 00:29:56,400
Speaker 1: Oh my god? And can you send me. He started

580
00:29:56,400 --> 00:29:59,240
asking me to slowly like send him things. That's right,

581
00:30:00,079 --> 00:30:03,319
I want to say that the band there was a CD.

582
00:30:03,680 --> 00:30:05,319
He was going to say, what news.

583
00:30:05,240 --> 00:30:08,920
Speaker 2: Or something that like was CDs or something like albums

584
00:30:09,039 --> 00:30:09,519
or whatever.

585
00:30:09,640 --> 00:30:12,279
Speaker 1: Yes, he wanted me to pack up some CDs for him.

586
00:30:12,559 --> 00:30:15,640
They did, of course he did. I dutifully started his

587
00:30:15,720 --> 00:30:18,000
car frohim and sent him CDs. But we were broken up.

588
00:30:19,160 --> 00:30:22,720
Whatever happened to his car because remember I said, well

589
00:30:22,960 --> 00:30:25,119
I think we should break up. Then, like if you

590
00:30:25,160 --> 00:30:27,559
can't even say that you miss me, yeah, and he

591
00:30:27,680 --> 00:30:29,799
was like I don't really want to break up and

592
00:30:29,839 --> 00:30:33,480
I was like, well we are. We're breaking up. And

593
00:30:33,519 --> 00:30:36,000
he did not argue my car. And then a week

594
00:30:36,119 --> 00:30:37,960
later he called me and he was like, you know,

595
00:30:38,279 --> 00:30:41,160
I really I'm so glad that you said it because

596
00:30:41,160 --> 00:30:43,119
I think it's for the best, and like can you

597
00:30:43,200 --> 00:30:45,480
still start my car though? And I was like okay,

598
00:30:46,400 --> 00:30:49,880
and then like I did it for years? Wow, for

599
00:30:50,000 --> 00:30:51,160
years I started his car.

600
00:30:51,519 --> 00:30:54,519
Speaker 2: Oh my god. And he's like, can you send me

601
00:30:54,559 --> 00:30:55,759
my Rush CDs?

602
00:30:55,839 --> 00:30:58,640
Speaker 1: Because I think I lived in that apartment yeah until

603
00:30:58,680 --> 00:31:04,440
I moved in with John. Oh wow, wow, it's possible

604
00:31:04,519 --> 00:31:07,000
that he came home and got his car. I don't

605
00:31:07,039 --> 00:31:12,519
really remember now like that interesting, but that was the

606
00:31:12,640 --> 00:31:15,319
saddest I've ever been. Yeah, I was like, I was

607
00:31:15,359 --> 00:31:19,480
like lbie. Yeah, I was like crying in my apartment.

608
00:31:19,680 --> 00:31:24,480
I remember just going like I will never feel better again.

609
00:31:24,559 --> 00:31:25,759
I'll never get over this.

610
00:31:25,960 --> 00:31:29,519
Speaker 2: Everybody, a women, especially have gone through that, Like I

611
00:31:29,599 --> 00:31:33,920
remember with Adam. With Adam when he blindsided me, you know,

612
00:31:33,960 --> 00:31:36,480
and then I stayed at Jimmy and Gina's house.

613
00:31:36,319 --> 00:31:39,480
Speaker 1: So you thought, yeah, I mean we were gay about

614
00:31:39,519 --> 00:31:41,359
this many times when he broke.

615
00:31:41,160 --> 00:31:44,160
Speaker 2: Up with you the first we were living together and engaged. Yeah,

616
00:31:44,200 --> 00:31:45,920
And I came home from work and I was in

617
00:31:45,920 --> 00:31:49,279
a great mood. I opened the door and I went

618
00:31:49,319 --> 00:31:51,039
to put my key in the door, and he opened

619
00:31:51,039 --> 00:31:54,759
the door for me, and he was crying, Oh no,

620
00:31:54,799 --> 00:31:57,559
And I'm like, what's going on? And he just blurted

621
00:31:57,599 --> 00:31:59,720
out like I just I don't think I can get married,

622
00:32:00,119 --> 00:32:01,160
ready to get married.

623
00:32:01,079 --> 00:32:04,160
Speaker 1: And you deserve better. And I was like what.

624
00:32:04,440 --> 00:32:08,359
Speaker 2: And I'm like on the ground crying and I'm gonna

625
00:32:08,359 --> 00:32:09,359
throw up, like.

626
00:32:09,759 --> 00:32:12,279
Speaker 1: So upset, I can't stay here, I gotta leave.

627
00:32:12,920 --> 00:32:15,359
Speaker 2: Went over to Jimmy and Gina's for two weeks on

628
00:32:15,440 --> 00:32:19,039
their couch and Jimmy going ah, comes home one night,

629
00:32:19,079 --> 00:32:19,920
I'm still crying.

630
00:32:20,000 --> 00:32:20,680
Speaker 1: Remember what he said?

631
00:32:20,720 --> 00:32:24,079
Speaker 2: He goes, oh with the crying, you're still crying. He's

632
00:32:24,119 --> 00:32:26,759
like enough enough already. He's like he's not that great,

633
00:32:29,119 --> 00:32:31,839
and I remember thinking, wow, he is kind of right.

634
00:32:32,039 --> 00:32:35,799
Speaker 1: He isn't that great. But when okay, so when he's like,

635
00:32:35,839 --> 00:32:38,359
I can't do this anymore. And did he say at

636
00:32:38,359 --> 00:32:39,920
that point like I just I think I need to

637
00:32:40,000 --> 00:32:42,720
date other people or was he just like I'm not ready?

638
00:32:42,759 --> 00:32:45,279
He didn't. Yeah, he just said I'm not ready and

639
00:32:45,319 --> 00:32:48,319
we have to break up. But then afterwards, like the

640
00:32:48,359 --> 00:32:51,599
next day, did he try to call and make it better. No,

641
00:32:52,039 --> 00:32:54,559
he stuck to it. He's stuck to his guns. So

642
00:32:54,640 --> 00:32:56,279
you don't even get this set. You didn't even get

643
00:32:56,279 --> 00:32:59,119
the satisfaction, no of getting to be like, no, you

644
00:32:59,160 --> 00:32:59,880
said you wanted to.

645
00:32:59,799 --> 00:33:04,000
Speaker 2: Break up right now, I didn't get to do that. Yeah, no,

646
00:33:04,440 --> 00:33:08,359
it was uh. And then it was like nine months until.

647
00:33:08,039 --> 00:33:11,000
Speaker 1: He well, like the whole time during those nine months,

648
00:33:11,039 --> 00:33:12,880
he wasn't like, let's get let can we go have

649
00:33:12,920 --> 00:33:16,720
coffee so we can talk or no, he was basically

650
00:33:17,319 --> 00:33:17,880
he wouldn't.

651
00:33:18,119 --> 00:33:21,519
Speaker 2: He didn't talk to me for a long time, but

652
00:33:21,759 --> 00:33:24,039
then I eventually he was.

653
00:33:24,079 --> 00:33:26,119
Speaker 1: Lire like, can't sleep, can't eat.

654
00:33:26,359 --> 00:33:28,799
Speaker 2: No, I couldn't sleep, can eat, lost a lot of weight.

655
00:33:29,119 --> 00:33:32,039
I would go into my office at ABC. Sorry, I'm

656
00:33:32,039 --> 00:33:35,039
trying to turn the air on. There we go get

657
00:33:35,039 --> 00:33:38,359
a kick on. Yeah, I don't hear it, so.

658
00:33:39,160 --> 00:33:42,640
Speaker 1: It's just on quiet. It's okay, okay. I would go

659
00:33:42,680 --> 00:33:43,960
into my by the way too.

660
00:33:44,000 --> 00:33:45,759
Speaker 2: I was working at ABC, and I'd go into my

661
00:33:45,799 --> 00:33:49,240
boss's office and Wendell Foster, God bless him, and he

662
00:33:49,279 --> 00:33:50,119
would he.

663
00:33:50,079 --> 00:33:51,559
Speaker 1: Wouldn't even look. He wouldn't even look.

664
00:33:51,559 --> 00:33:53,880
Speaker 2: He'd be looking at his computer, and I'd walk in crying,

665
00:33:54,119 --> 00:33:57,279
and he'd take his clean Xbox and just chuck it

666
00:33:57,319 --> 00:33:57,559
at me.

667
00:33:57,920 --> 00:33:59,960
Speaker 1: And I'd just sit on his couch crying and cry.

668
00:34:00,400 --> 00:34:02,720
And he always had the TV on, and he always

669
00:34:02,759 --> 00:34:05,279
had it on Comedy Central, and it was like, I'm

670
00:34:05,319 --> 00:34:08,599
in there crying. It's like Man Show Wednesdays at eight. Oh,

671
00:34:08,760 --> 00:34:11,519
my fucking come in and he's like, oh, like grabs

672
00:34:11,519 --> 00:34:14,360
the remote. Yeah. I was miserable.

673
00:34:14,440 --> 00:34:19,920
Speaker 2: Finally, towards the end of those like nine months, he well,

674
00:34:19,960 --> 00:34:22,480
he did help. He did come over and build out

675
00:34:22,519 --> 00:34:25,960
a like closet in my condo when I bought my condo.

676
00:34:26,440 --> 00:34:28,880
So he did do that. Oh, so he came over,

677
00:34:30,000 --> 00:34:32,599
but then he didn't want to give me. He didn't

678
00:34:32,639 --> 00:34:34,840
want to give me any riot mode. He didn't want

679
00:34:34,840 --> 00:34:39,440
to give me any false you know, prace. Yeah, So

680
00:34:40,159 --> 00:34:43,800
he did come over a few times, and then I

681
00:34:43,840 --> 00:34:46,400
went I remember I went to Mike Gerstein's wedding in

682
00:34:46,440 --> 00:34:51,679
Idaho and I was in the wedding party and I

683
00:34:51,800 --> 00:34:54,159
just got back and he out of the blue called

684
00:34:54,199 --> 00:34:58,119
me and I told him I was at another wedding

685
00:34:58,119 --> 00:34:58,639
out of town.

686
00:34:59,039 --> 00:35:01,360
Speaker 1: And then he was like, well, what are you doing

687
00:35:01,400 --> 00:35:02,039
on Friday?

688
00:35:02,119 --> 00:35:05,679
Speaker 2: Maybe we can have I can pick up some Thai

689
00:35:05,800 --> 00:35:08,800
food and come over and we can watch Boy Meets World,

690
00:35:10,119 --> 00:35:12,159
which is what we used to like watch the ABC

691
00:35:12,320 --> 00:35:13,360
Friday night lineup.

692
00:35:13,639 --> 00:35:17,559
Speaker 1: Were you like, what does this mean? Is he like

693
00:35:17,719 --> 00:35:20,880
did you call your friends or did you know? Oh?

694
00:35:21,199 --> 00:35:23,880
Speaker 2: I had a feeling that he wanted to have one

695
00:35:24,360 --> 00:35:27,159
foot in the door a little bit, but not because

696
00:35:27,159 --> 00:35:29,360
he came to my house. If he really wanted to

697
00:35:29,400 --> 00:35:31,000
like get back to I would have gone to his

698
00:35:31,079 --> 00:35:33,360
house and probably spent the night. But he so he

699
00:35:33,400 --> 00:35:35,199
came to my house so he could leave, not give

700
00:35:35,239 --> 00:35:38,800
me any false hopes. But it just but it Eventually.

701
00:35:38,920 --> 00:35:41,360
I didn't even bring it up after that. Then he

702
00:35:41,440 --> 00:35:43,679
started coming over and we were starting to date again,

703
00:35:43,719 --> 00:35:46,440
but I never said, are you gonna want to get married?

704
00:35:46,719 --> 00:35:49,079
Eventually I did, but not right away. I just let

705
00:35:49,119 --> 00:35:49,639
it breathe.

706
00:35:50,280 --> 00:35:53,000
Speaker 1: I was like, Okay, I'm gonna take this day by day,

707
00:35:53,800 --> 00:35:57,159
step bade, how did you do that? It was hard?

708
00:35:57,320 --> 00:35:59,760
Did you guys sleep together again? Like? Yeah, first the

709
00:36:00,039 --> 00:36:03,320
first night he came over the world, No, no, did

710
00:36:03,320 --> 00:36:08,519
he try? No? I don't think so. No, God, how confused.

711
00:36:08,639 --> 00:36:11,119
It was confusing. But I was like, okay, okay.

712
00:36:11,239 --> 00:36:13,400
Speaker 2: If he went from not wanting to talk, you know,

713
00:36:13,559 --> 00:36:18,880
giving me my space to you know, coming like around

714
00:36:18,920 --> 00:36:21,440
a little bit, and I was like okay, okay, because

715
00:36:21,519 --> 00:36:23,159
you know, I was still in love.

716
00:36:23,880 --> 00:36:26,039
Speaker 1: And I was like, did it become a regular thing

717
00:36:26,159 --> 00:36:28,719
really quickly? Or was it was it like once a

718
00:36:28,800 --> 00:36:31,000
week or did he calling you every day?

719
00:36:31,079 --> 00:36:33,239
Speaker 2: Then it became yeah, he was calling me every day,

720
00:36:33,519 --> 00:36:35,400
and then it was like on the weekends we saw

721
00:36:35,440 --> 00:36:38,239
each other and I was we were sleeping together, and

722
00:36:38,280 --> 00:36:39,039
then that one.

723
00:36:38,920 --> 00:36:40,960
Speaker 1: Do you have to just train your brain? Did you

724
00:36:41,000 --> 00:36:43,320
have to just go? I had a good therapist pssure him.

725
00:36:43,400 --> 00:36:45,760
Speaker 2: Oh really and really because I had to get one

726
00:36:45,960 --> 00:36:46,960
because that breakup.

727
00:36:47,000 --> 00:36:48,320
Speaker 1: I was like I need a therapist.

728
00:36:48,440 --> 00:36:48,559
Speaker 2: You know.

729
00:36:48,639 --> 00:36:50,800
Speaker 1: That's when I had that really great therapist. Was your

730
00:36:50,880 --> 00:36:53,199
therapist like girl dangerous?

731
00:36:53,320 --> 00:36:55,800
Speaker 2: She was like she's the one, and was like take

732
00:36:55,840 --> 00:36:58,079
everything step by, you know, just let let it breathe

733
00:36:58,119 --> 00:37:00,320
and see what happens. And then yeah, and then he

734
00:37:00,360 --> 00:37:03,239
started coming over more and more, and then we got

735
00:37:03,280 --> 00:37:07,440
back together and then I think it was months months later,

736
00:37:07,519 --> 00:37:08,280
going like, oh, do.

737
00:37:08,320 --> 00:37:10,679
Speaker 1: You still want to get married? He said that With that,

738
00:37:11,000 --> 00:37:13,440
I said, I asked him, but do you still want

739
00:37:13,440 --> 00:37:16,239
to get married? Like and he was like yeah, he goes,

740
00:37:16,599 --> 00:37:19,800
I think after when the Man Show is done, then

741
00:37:19,800 --> 00:37:23,840
we can plan a wedding, which was another year or something. Oh.

742
00:37:24,360 --> 00:37:29,119
I was like, oh okay, So he didn't officially propose again. No,

743
00:37:29,679 --> 00:37:34,159
that was that. Yeah, you know, something should have been

744
00:37:34,280 --> 00:37:37,280
signs right right?

745
00:37:37,639 --> 00:37:42,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, when it's convenient for me, then we'll get married.

746
00:37:42,559 --> 00:37:45,360
Speaker 1: Yeah. So then after a year, did you have to

747
00:37:45,400 --> 00:37:48,760
go so the Man Show's over? No?

748
00:37:48,960 --> 00:37:51,000
Speaker 2: Because then he was all in, like he was like,

749
00:37:51,039 --> 00:37:52,679
all right, we start playing in a wedding.

750
00:37:52,960 --> 00:38:03,000
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, yeah, fucking men, I know, I know, but yeah,

751
00:38:03,119 --> 00:38:05,800
I mean, like I said, I feel like everybody's had

752
00:38:05,840 --> 00:38:10,199
their hearp. I remember when Jimmy blindsided Gina wasn't really

753
00:38:10,239 --> 00:38:14,199
a blind side. They weren't happy, but she was miserable

754
00:38:14,280 --> 00:38:17,519
and crying all the time and upset all the time,

755
00:38:17,639 --> 00:38:18,559
lost a ton of weight.

756
00:38:19,280 --> 00:38:22,239
Speaker 2: So you know, I've had girlfriends have gone through it.

757
00:38:23,320 --> 00:38:24,679
Everybody's had their heartbreak.

758
00:38:25,480 --> 00:38:29,719
Speaker 1: I know. I worry about LB though, because the first

759
00:38:29,800 --> 00:38:32,880
one is can be. I mean, that's just feels brutal

760
00:38:33,400 --> 00:38:36,519
and now like she's not so much as dated somebody

761
00:38:36,800 --> 00:38:40,880
since high school. Now, yeah, maybe because she's so picky,

762
00:38:40,960 --> 00:38:44,039
but I think she's also now scared of not wanting

763
00:38:44,079 --> 00:38:46,199
to have that feel about feeling again. Yeah, so she

764
00:38:46,199 --> 00:38:51,360
doesn't let herself even really like anybody. Right, Honestly, I

765
00:38:51,360 --> 00:38:54,400
feel like all my kids are like that. Yeah, they

766
00:38:54,400 --> 00:38:56,760
don't want to. I don't know what where they get

767
00:38:56,760 --> 00:38:59,199
that from. I mean, I guess I was kind of

768
00:38:59,280 --> 00:39:02,159
like that too. I mean I didn't have my first

769
00:39:02,239 --> 00:39:06,440
real boyfriend until I was twenty six. Yeah, twenty six

770
00:39:06,480 --> 00:39:10,320
to twenty seven was before that. I never had an

771
00:39:10,360 --> 00:39:13,719
actual somebody that I would consider a real boyfriendly friend.

772
00:39:14,559 --> 00:39:17,360
I have like little mini relationships. I'd be dating people,

773
00:39:18,000 --> 00:39:21,559
but I was always either finding something wrong with them

774
00:39:21,840 --> 00:39:24,559
or pining for a guy that wasn't that into me. Yes,

775
00:39:24,920 --> 00:39:28,280
I was doing the same thing. So I'd be dating them,

776
00:39:28,360 --> 00:39:31,000
but I would feel insecure because I'd feel like we

777
00:39:31,000 --> 00:39:34,280
weren't really like what is this? You know what I mean? Yeah,

778
00:39:34,320 --> 00:39:38,599
And then as soon as they'd be I mean, yeah, yeah,

779
00:39:38,679 --> 00:39:42,719
because I had a few boyfriends in between that guy

780
00:39:42,840 --> 00:39:47,719
Brad and John. But like net, I would get I

781
00:39:47,719 --> 00:39:50,119
would get the ick. Even once we were like, okay,

782
00:39:50,159 --> 00:39:53,519
this is my boyfriend, if I felt like it was

783
00:39:53,599 --> 00:39:55,960
too much, or I'd find that there was something wrong

784
00:39:56,079 --> 00:39:58,239
that made me think like I'm never going to marry

785
00:39:58,239 --> 00:40:01,079
this person, then I've had to break it off like immediately. Yeah.

786
00:40:01,239 --> 00:40:04,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, So you didn't not, in like high school, have

787
00:40:04,199 --> 00:40:06,119
like a boyfriend boyfriend.

788
00:40:06,400 --> 00:40:11,920
Speaker 1: No, I had really painful crushes. Yes, I did too.

789
00:40:13,039 --> 00:40:17,800
I had a boyfriend. Okay when I moved from La.

790
00:40:18,039 --> 00:40:21,079
Oh my god, this is really just such a quick interjection.

791
00:40:21,159 --> 00:40:22,679
I was listening to a podcast to the other I

792
00:40:22,719 --> 00:40:26,000
was listening to like Dateline, and it took place in Chickapee,

793
00:40:26,000 --> 00:40:28,000
mass And I thought of you because I was like,

794
00:40:28,079 --> 00:40:30,480
did you hear that one I watched it? Yeah, okay,

795
00:40:30,480 --> 00:40:33,559
And I was like, okay, talk about your own backyard,

796
00:40:33,800 --> 00:40:36,360
because when I lived in Springfield and you heard they

797
00:40:36,400 --> 00:40:39,280
talked about like the trial was in Springfield, Chickapee was

798
00:40:39,320 --> 00:40:42,360
basically a neighborhood. There were a bunch of little neighbor

799
00:40:42,480 --> 00:40:45,840
like Springfield, nobody lived in Springfield. They lived in neighborhoods.

800
00:40:45,920 --> 00:40:50,599
Yet right, Chickapea was like one an area that was

801
00:40:50,760 --> 00:40:54,400
really like ten minutes where I lived. Really, So it

802
00:40:54,440 --> 00:40:56,000
was so funny because I was listening to and I

803
00:40:56,039 --> 00:40:58,920
was like, oh, I'm all yours tell me Chickapee. Of

804
00:40:59,000 --> 00:41:01,960
course I only lived there for a couple of years, but.

805
00:41:02,119 --> 00:41:04,559
Speaker 2: That's so funny because I remember thinking, I like that

806
00:41:04,679 --> 00:41:05,400
named Chickapee.

807
00:41:05,400 --> 00:41:07,800
Speaker 1: That's a cute name for a little town. When I

808
00:41:07,840 --> 00:41:11,119
was watching it. It's funny because in Granada Hills, like

809
00:41:11,239 --> 00:41:15,960
near where Robin lives, Robin, there's streets are named the

810
00:41:16,039 --> 00:41:20,519
same as that neighborhood, Chickapee. There's a street Chickapee. Oh

811
00:41:20,599 --> 00:41:23,840
it's interesting. Yeah, that's isn't it?

812
00:41:23,880 --> 00:41:27,960
Speaker 2: Great when they're right in your backyard, like the other documentary.

813
00:41:28,199 --> 00:41:31,440
She lived at Sherman Way and Canoga Park. Yes, I

814
00:41:31,480 --> 00:41:35,719
was like okay. And then there was the one you'll

815
00:41:35,760 --> 00:41:37,840
remember this. We're going off topic here, but there was

816
00:41:37,920 --> 00:41:41,320
the woman. She was a police officer and she got

817
00:41:41,400 --> 00:41:44,639
killed by her like police officer boyfriend. And it happened

818
00:41:44,679 --> 00:41:47,559
like literally in Lake Balboa. It happened right by where

819
00:41:47,599 --> 00:41:50,719
you went to high school and where I live.

820
00:41:50,880 --> 00:41:54,360
Speaker 1: Yeah. Wow, that one was an apartment there. That was

821
00:41:54,360 --> 00:41:56,599
one of the first times we started talking about how

822
00:41:56,719 --> 00:41:59,239
now this is a podcast, Like, yeah, I drive by

823
00:41:59,280 --> 00:42:03,000
that street every day exactly what they're talking about. Yes, yes, yeah,

824
00:42:03,039 --> 00:42:05,119
I like the true crime. So when I first moved

825
00:42:05,119 --> 00:42:08,119
to Springfield, I was in eleventh grade and then I

826
00:42:08,239 --> 00:42:13,480
got a boyfriend. But right away I was like, oh no,

827
00:42:13,800 --> 00:42:16,639
like he wants to watch he would this is how

828
00:42:16,719 --> 00:42:19,559
guys did it in those days. It was like you meet.

829
00:42:19,719 --> 00:42:22,880
I had a horrible, horrible crush on him. He had

830
00:42:22,920 --> 00:42:25,960
a girlfriend, but I wasn't like the kind of I

831
00:42:26,000 --> 00:42:28,800
wasn't trying to steal anybody's boyfriend. I literally was like,

832
00:42:28,880 --> 00:42:31,119
oh my god, he's the most beautiful man. He's so cute,

833
00:42:31,239 --> 00:42:34,280
so popular, like he'd never like me, but we had

834
00:42:35,039 --> 00:42:38,599
talked in a bar in the summer, and then I

835
00:42:38,639 --> 00:42:40,280
started going to school with him, and then I would

836
00:42:40,320 --> 00:42:43,800
see him in the hall and be like his name

837
00:42:43,840 --> 00:42:46,159
was Mike Saraanaki. I'd be like, oh my god, it

838
00:42:46,199 --> 00:42:50,639
is Mike Sara Naki and could breathe. So then one time,

839
00:42:50,679 --> 00:42:52,679
I think I told you this story. He looked into

840
00:42:53,199 --> 00:42:56,960
the classroom and he waved to me, but I thought

841
00:42:57,000 --> 00:43:01,960
he was waving to another guy, so I was just like,

842
00:43:02,119 --> 00:43:04,280
looked at him or whatever. And then I came out

843
00:43:04,280 --> 00:43:06,360
of class and he was waiting for me and he

844
00:43:06,400 --> 00:43:08,119
was like, did you see me wave two or whatever?

845
00:43:08,199 --> 00:43:11,559
And I was like, you're waving at me. He was

846
00:43:11,599 --> 00:43:15,519
like yeah, and then he asked me out and I

847
00:43:15,559 --> 00:43:20,079
was like, but but you're dating a Oh my god,

848
00:43:20,119 --> 00:43:23,760
I feel bad saying Liz wrong, Collie R. You're dating

849
00:43:23,760 --> 00:43:25,639
Lizron And he was like, no, we just broke up,

850
00:43:26,000 --> 00:43:29,559
and I was like, you did, okay. So then I

851
00:43:29,599 --> 00:43:32,239
went to a keg party with him, like god night,

852
00:43:32,920 --> 00:43:35,440
and then we made out and then like the next

853
00:43:35,559 --> 00:43:37,320
day he came and met me in front of all

854
00:43:37,320 --> 00:43:39,480
my classes and wanted to like hold hands and walk

855
00:43:39,480 --> 00:43:43,199
me to class. So then we the next weekend, we

856
00:43:43,239 --> 00:43:46,239
went to a party and suddenly I was super popular

857
00:43:46,400 --> 00:43:48,000
all of a sudden. It was like a movie. I've

858
00:43:48,000 --> 00:43:51,920
told you this story. Then all of his friends, all

859
00:43:51,960 --> 00:43:55,719
of Liz ron Colly's best friends, totally ditched her, and

860
00:43:55,800 --> 00:43:57,800
we're like, okay, I guess you're our best friend. Now.

861
00:43:58,159 --> 00:44:00,159
I think he was on the football team had to

862
00:44:00,199 --> 00:44:02,599
a bin. So they all were like, we're all going

863
00:44:02,639 --> 00:44:05,119
to the football game. We all went to the football game.

864
00:44:06,320 --> 00:44:10,000
Then like the next thing was like a Valentine's Day

865
00:44:10,079 --> 00:44:12,960
or something, and maybe he gave me like flowers, and

866
00:44:13,000 --> 00:44:15,519
I was like, oh no, like I don't like you,

867
00:44:15,679 --> 00:44:20,079
Like this is way too much. Oh really, I was like, well,

868
00:44:20,119 --> 00:44:23,920
I never had a boyfriend before. Yeah, I only like

869
00:44:24,000 --> 00:44:25,920
just would get drunk and make out with guys, right,

870
00:44:26,199 --> 00:44:27,840
and now suddenly I had a boy I just didn't

871
00:44:27,840 --> 00:44:29,559
know what to do with it. I did not I

872
00:44:29,639 --> 00:44:33,280
lost feelings right away. I did not have the pining feeling.

873
00:44:33,400 --> 00:44:37,719
I was like, oh no, I felt really stuff like pressured.

874
00:44:38,679 --> 00:44:41,079
So I broke up with him. And then literally the

875
00:44:41,119 --> 00:44:44,159
next day, none of those I've never talked to any

876
00:44:44,199 --> 00:44:45,039
of those girls again.

877
00:44:45,360 --> 00:44:49,320
Speaker 2: Wow, that's insane to his mistake. His fatal mistake was

878
00:44:49,400 --> 00:44:50,400
getting you flowers.

879
00:44:52,079 --> 00:44:55,400
Speaker 1: His fatal mistake was like trying to hold my hand

880
00:44:55,400 --> 00:44:56,519
between every class.

881
00:44:57,119 --> 00:45:02,760
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's too much. Yeah, Cels women are too you know.

882
00:45:02,840 --> 00:45:04,800
You just make a wrong move and then all of

883
00:45:04,840 --> 00:45:07,159
a sudden you get the ack and you're out.

884
00:45:07,280 --> 00:45:09,800
Speaker 1: But like, why couldn't I handle just having a boyfriend?

885
00:45:09,960 --> 00:45:13,719
I know, Well, I think my home life was like

886
00:45:14,079 --> 00:45:17,480
very Chao guarded. I think I think I was too.

887
00:45:17,519 --> 00:45:21,000
Maybe that's why your kids are like that. Yeah, but

888
00:45:21,039 --> 00:45:24,639
I'm not mean to my kids. No, but I mean, like,

889
00:45:24,920 --> 00:45:28,639
you know, with having their guard up. I don't know.

890
00:45:29,199 --> 00:45:31,920
Oh my god. Okay, now I just thought of another. Okay,

891
00:45:32,079 --> 00:45:34,880
so I've got a I don't want to brag, but

892
00:45:34,920 --> 00:45:37,960
I have a pretty killer Patreon. I can't wait. It's

893
00:45:38,280 --> 00:45:44,360
kind of old school to like there's there's there's a

894
00:45:44,400 --> 00:45:46,960
lot to it. It happened. It's a story that happened

895
00:45:46,960 --> 00:45:50,239
at Xander's speech competition. So I just went to a

896
00:45:50,280 --> 00:45:55,719
speech competition. I got to judge first of all. Okay,

897
00:45:55,760 --> 00:45:59,079
so Xander, you know how he was doing his original

898
00:45:59,119 --> 00:46:02,000
oratory last year and he had the whole speech at

899
00:46:02,000 --> 00:46:05,639
about like toxic masculinity. So this time he did not

900
00:46:05,719 --> 00:46:07,719
have time to write a speech because he's doing eight

901
00:46:07,800 --> 00:46:10,719
hundred million other things. But you have to go to

902
00:46:10,760 --> 00:46:15,400
at least one tournament before the state qualifiers, but you

903
00:46:15,519 --> 00:46:19,840
can compete in any event. So he competed in improv

904
00:46:19,960 --> 00:46:23,920
duos where you have a partner, and then they gave

905
00:46:23,960 --> 00:46:27,599
it a situation. Yes, and guess what, he and his

906
00:46:27,639 --> 00:46:30,880
partner came in first place. Wow, I sent you, I

907
00:46:30,880 --> 00:46:35,880
sent you the news. Yeah. Yeah, yes, he looked so cute.

908
00:46:36,360 --> 00:46:41,920
It looks so handsome. It's getting tall too, yeah it was.

909
00:46:42,440 --> 00:46:44,840
I was so proud he didn't come in first place

910
00:46:44,840 --> 00:46:48,360
and anything all last year he came in second two times. Yeah.

911
00:46:48,480 --> 00:46:51,880
So here's how it went. End of the day, we're

912
00:46:51,920 --> 00:46:56,199
sitting in the like the auditorium basically, and they bring

913
00:46:56,360 --> 00:47:00,280
up the different events group by group. So for his event,

914
00:47:00,320 --> 00:47:05,280
there were like fourteen, there were seve. Okay, it started

915
00:47:05,320 --> 00:47:08,159
with fourteen, and then the finals went to seven of

916
00:47:08,199 --> 00:47:10,800
them did the finals, and then they what they do

917
00:47:11,119 --> 00:47:16,079
is places seven through four get a medal, and then

918
00:47:16,239 --> 00:47:19,400
three through one get a trophy. So everybody gets like

919
00:47:19,519 --> 00:47:23,039
one clap when there's seven Okay, in seventh place? Is

920
00:47:23,079 --> 00:47:26,119
this duo? In sixth place? Is this duo? But when

921
00:47:26,119 --> 00:47:29,639
I had talked to Xander after the finals, I was like,

922
00:47:29,719 --> 00:47:34,159
how did it go? And he's like, honestly, I wouldn't

923
00:47:34,199 --> 00:47:37,039
be surprised if, like we're in last place, which for

924
00:47:37,119 --> 00:47:38,800
him would still be good. It would still have been

925
00:47:38,840 --> 00:47:41,639
seventh place, you know. But he was like, I wouldn't

926
00:47:41,679 --> 00:47:44,280
be surprised if we came in last, But then I

927
00:47:44,280 --> 00:47:46,800
don't know. I wouldn't be surprised if we didn't, So

928
00:47:46,920 --> 00:47:50,159
I don't know. Yeah, I went with no expectations. So

929
00:47:50,239 --> 00:47:52,559
they go seventh place, and they always say the high

930
00:47:52,559 --> 00:47:56,000
school first from blank blank High School, and then they

931
00:47:56,000 --> 00:47:59,440
say the name, and so seventh place comes, it's not him.

932
00:47:59,480 --> 00:48:01,199
So I'm like, well, he's not last, so he'll be

933
00:48:01,239 --> 00:48:04,760
happy about that. Yeah. Then sixth comes, he's not in sixth.

934
00:48:05,119 --> 00:48:07,920
Then fifth comes, he's not in fifth. Then fourth comes,

935
00:48:07,920 --> 00:48:10,599
he's not in fourth, And then I was like, holy shit,

936
00:48:10,719 --> 00:48:16,159
he's got a trophy, Like yeah, first speech tournament out right,

937
00:48:16,519 --> 00:48:23,880
he's trophying third place. Not him? Wow, second place they

938
00:48:23,920 --> 00:48:27,159
go from blank high school and it's his high school.

939
00:48:27,639 --> 00:48:30,920
So I'm like, okay, well he got second place, Like

940
00:48:31,079 --> 00:48:35,199
that's amazing, it's not him. Oh I didn't recognize that

941
00:48:35,320 --> 00:48:38,400
the team that came in second was also went to

942
00:48:38,440 --> 00:48:41,320
their high school, but it wasn't them. So that was

943
00:48:41,360 --> 00:48:45,880
a double happiness because they say it the duo that

944
00:48:45,960 --> 00:48:48,159
walks up is not them, and I got confused for

945
00:48:48,199 --> 00:48:50,400
a minute, and then I was like, oh my god,

946
00:48:51,079 --> 00:48:54,679
oh my god, he's the first place. And then wow,

947
00:48:54,800 --> 00:48:57,559
he's very popular at these events. So people were already

948
00:48:57,599 --> 00:49:01,800
like cheering and they said them, and then people went crazy.

949
00:49:01,840 --> 00:49:04,079
I have a video of it. It was so cute.

950
00:49:04,360 --> 00:49:05,880
Everybody lost their minds.

951
00:49:06,159 --> 00:49:10,519
Speaker 2: Oh isn't that the greatest feeling? I freaking miss that.

952
00:49:10,519 --> 00:49:12,119
That's awesome, so fun.

953
00:49:12,199 --> 00:49:14,880
Speaker 1: It really really fills you up in the way that

954
00:49:15,039 --> 00:49:19,440
it's so only watching your kids do something cool does

955
00:49:19,679 --> 00:49:25,079
it's so cute. And then okay, so part of this

956
00:49:25,239 --> 00:49:30,239
story involves it's going to involve another a dad in

957
00:49:30,320 --> 00:49:35,199
the patriot on the Patreon part of this story. It's

958
00:49:35,199 --> 00:49:38,440
a crazy story. I can't wait, and there's a dad involved,

959
00:49:39,280 --> 00:49:41,840
but there's a suffice it to say there's a dad

960
00:49:41,920 --> 00:49:44,960
involved who was really nice, who ended up telling me,

961
00:49:45,039 --> 00:49:48,320
like giving telling me. He judged Xander and he was like,

962
00:49:48,360 --> 00:49:53,000
oh my god, he was so funny. This guy's he

963
00:49:53,159 --> 00:49:56,800
teaches drama at a high school. Ally he's the drama coach.

964
00:49:56,880 --> 00:50:00,199
So he was he was like, he was so funny.

965
00:50:01,320 --> 00:50:03,719
He's like the only problem was they went over time.

966
00:50:04,079 --> 00:50:06,880
But I still but I gave them first place. That's great.

967
00:50:06,880 --> 00:50:09,360
And I was like, oh my god, and he was like, honestly,

968
00:50:09,679 --> 00:50:11,559
the thing they were doing, he was like, I could

969
00:50:11,559 --> 00:50:14,000
totally see that being like a segment, being a recurring

970
00:50:14,079 --> 00:50:17,760
characters on SNL. Really he should be really proud. So

971
00:50:17,800 --> 00:50:20,000
it was like, oh my god, what was it? Would

972
00:50:20,079 --> 00:50:22,599
you know what they did? What was there? So they

973
00:50:22,679 --> 00:50:28,400
played German tour guides giving a tour of Disneyland in Germany,

974
00:50:29,159 --> 00:50:34,440
but they were so specific because Xander's thing was trying

975
00:50:34,480 --> 00:50:39,360
to like defend against his partner was being like really

976
00:50:39,400 --> 00:50:44,599
doing propaganda like pro Germany propaganda to the tourists, right,

977
00:50:44,639 --> 00:50:47,679
and he was trying to tone down the propaganda. But

978
00:50:47,840 --> 00:50:49,480
it was the way they were describing it to me

979
00:50:49,599 --> 00:50:51,440
was so funny. It is, but they did full on

980
00:50:51,519 --> 00:50:55,679
German accents. That's I was just gonna say, that's insane. Yeah,

981
00:50:55,800 --> 00:50:59,880
they played like floxa and so and so and then

982
00:51:00,519 --> 00:51:03,760
and then this is so funny to me too. He

983
00:51:03,880 --> 00:51:05,679
said that they had so much fun. They were making

984
00:51:05,679 --> 00:51:08,199
each other laugh, which is so how I was in

985
00:51:08,239 --> 00:51:10,719
high school with my friends. He said they were walking

986
00:51:10,760 --> 00:51:15,159
around the competition to people pretending they were German exchange students,

987
00:51:15,159 --> 00:51:19,960
to people that didn't know them. Really, he was like, mom,

988
00:51:20,000 --> 00:51:23,039
it was so dumb. It is so Hillearian, and people

989
00:51:23,039 --> 00:51:26,400
believing that we were from Germany really were from Germany.

990
00:51:26,519 --> 00:51:31,199
And this girl that he was with is so fucking hilarious.

991
00:51:31,719 --> 00:51:33,760
When he told me he was partnering with her, I

992
00:51:33,840 --> 00:51:35,800
was like, oh my god, you guys are going to

993
00:51:35,920 --> 00:51:38,400
do so well. She makes me laugh really hard. I've

994
00:51:38,400 --> 00:51:41,000
seen her in plays and stuff, and he's like, she

995
00:51:41,079 --> 00:51:43,800
does really good accents. So we just chose accents for

996
00:51:43,880 --> 00:51:47,039
each one. Like one of them she was Irish, and

997
00:51:47,079 --> 00:51:49,760
he was like, he goes, she does stuff, and I

998
00:51:49,800 --> 00:51:51,760
feel like I just go along with it.

999
00:51:52,760 --> 00:51:55,960
Speaker 2: I mean, German accent is hard. I know, how the

1000
00:51:56,039 --> 00:51:58,800
fuck do you even know how to how the accents go.

1001
00:51:59,000 --> 00:52:01,400
Speaker 1: I do not know or understand how you could do it.

1002
00:52:01,480 --> 00:52:05,400
That's insane. It's really great. So let's see, I have

1003
00:52:05,440 --> 00:52:09,239
one more little story. It's really fun doing it in

1004
00:52:09,320 --> 00:52:12,000
the senior year because I don't give a fuck. Yeah,

1005
00:52:12,039 --> 00:52:16,679
so I had this I was doing I was judging

1006
00:52:16,760 --> 00:52:23,119
this event. It doesn't really matter what it is. So

1007
00:52:23,199 --> 00:52:26,280
you get like six kids. It's when you're judging, it's

1008
00:52:26,440 --> 00:52:29,440
you plus just the kids, and there's nobody else usually

1009
00:52:29,480 --> 00:52:31,320
in the room with you. Oh, it's just you the

1010
00:52:31,440 --> 00:52:35,440
final round. So what happens is they have like a

1011
00:52:35,440 --> 00:52:37,760
first round, of second round, a third round, and then

1012
00:52:37,800 --> 00:52:40,840
if they break, remember that that means that they made

1013
00:52:40,840 --> 00:52:42,719
it to the finals. They scored high enough to go

1014
00:52:42,760 --> 00:52:46,519
to the finals. And then when you when you judge finals,

1015
00:52:46,559 --> 00:52:49,440
there's three judges in the room. I see okay, okay,

1016
00:52:49,599 --> 00:52:52,880
So then that's kind of fun because then you can

1017
00:52:52,920 --> 00:52:55,360
do your you have to rank them in order, and

1018
00:52:55,400 --> 00:52:57,639
then afterwards you can ask the other judges like would

1019
00:52:57,639 --> 00:52:59,960
you guys think you can discuss Yeah, but when it's

1020
00:53:00,400 --> 00:53:03,480
all the first rounds, preliminary rounds, it's just you and

1021
00:53:03,519 --> 00:53:08,360
the kids, So people get freaked out. Judges like, oh

1022
00:53:08,360 --> 00:53:11,599
my god, I've never done this before. But I'm feeling

1023
00:53:11,599 --> 00:53:14,679
a little bit more like, yeah, I've been in this

1024
00:53:14,880 --> 00:53:18,719
humane judging game a minute. Yeah, you remember my first

1025
00:53:18,760 --> 00:53:21,840
time and how I was so nervous. I didn't know

1026
00:53:21,840 --> 00:53:24,159
what to do. I'd only brought my phone, like I

1027
00:53:24,199 --> 00:53:25,639
didn't know. I remember that computer.

1028
00:53:26,000 --> 00:53:29,639
Speaker 2: Yeah, Because these are just volunteers, right, just parents volunteering

1029
00:53:29,719 --> 00:53:30,519
to judge.

1030
00:53:31,199 --> 00:53:33,760
Speaker 1: But some of these judges, and I know this just

1031
00:53:33,800 --> 00:53:37,280
from hearing it from the kids, take it way too serious.

1032
00:53:37,360 --> 00:53:40,559
I could see that they're very into like there's they

1033
00:53:40,599 --> 00:53:44,280
make rules. Usually these people are teachers. It's usually not

1034
00:53:44,440 --> 00:53:48,360
parents that are assholes to the kids. But these kids

1035
00:53:48,400 --> 00:53:52,480
can get like real nervous, right, and you know, they

1036
00:53:52,519 --> 00:53:54,599
really want to please the judges, and you know a

1037
00:53:54,639 --> 00:53:57,559
lot is writing on like your score of them. So

1038
00:53:57,599 --> 00:54:01,519
I got this group of kids and and it's this

1039
00:54:02,519 --> 00:54:05,320
it's this round where they're supposed to be very funny,

1040
00:54:05,679 --> 00:54:08,559
and it's usually done in a kind of a frenetic pace,

1041
00:54:09,119 --> 00:54:11,639
and they have to talk for ten minutes, and they're

1042
00:54:11,679 --> 00:54:14,840
doing different characters, and they're doing like sometimes a little

1043
00:54:14,920 --> 00:54:18,480
irritating noise in between when they're switching characters, and it's

1044
00:54:19,000 --> 00:54:20,840
it's a lot. It's like if you were just watching

1045
00:54:20,960 --> 00:54:24,559
Robin Williams, like in your face for ten minutes. It's

1046
00:54:24,599 --> 00:54:27,880
not really my thing, but you know, and you try

1047
00:54:27,920 --> 00:54:32,440
to like look supportive and you try to laugh, but

1048
00:54:32,480 --> 00:54:34,000
it's usually not funny.

1049
00:54:34,719 --> 00:54:37,159
Speaker 2: It's not going to be our seems like like watching

1050
00:54:37,199 --> 00:54:39,719
young kids on TikTok, you know, and they're like humor

1051
00:54:39,760 --> 00:54:41,239
and jokes, and oh.

1052
00:54:41,119 --> 00:54:43,599
Speaker 1: My god, it's ten times worse, you know what it's

1053
00:54:43,719 --> 00:54:48,199
like if it's not good. It's like watching little kids

1054
00:54:48,360 --> 00:54:52,880
putting on a show and you're like, I don't know

1055
00:54:52,920 --> 00:54:55,559
where to laugh, and this is endless. It's never going

1056
00:54:55,639 --> 00:54:58,159
to stop. But luckily you have your stop watch, so

1057
00:54:58,199 --> 00:55:03,480
you see it will it's it will end. That's hard.

1058
00:55:03,840 --> 00:55:09,400
So okay, so a couple kids go like three or four,

1059
00:55:09,960 --> 00:55:13,559
because there were six, So like the this kid goes

1060
00:55:13,679 --> 00:55:21,760
up and he starts his thing, and he seems, how

1061
00:55:21,760 --> 00:55:25,639
do I put this in a way that's he has

1062
00:55:25,679 --> 00:55:28,679
a couple of things maybe working against him, like in

1063
00:55:28,719 --> 00:55:32,199
the way that would make you feel accepted in high school,

1064
00:55:32,440 --> 00:55:37,000
you know. And he seemed very sweet, you know, and

1065
00:55:37,039 --> 00:55:39,280
he's doing his thing and he's got a lot of energy,

1066
00:55:39,519 --> 00:55:44,880
and like a few minutes into it, he freezes. Oh no,

1067
00:55:45,280 --> 00:55:47,639
and he and you're the only judge and I'm the

1068
00:55:47,679 --> 00:55:51,039
only judge in the room, so I'm sitting like he's

1069
00:55:51,079 --> 00:55:53,400
in front of me, and then kind of to his

1070
00:55:54,239 --> 00:55:56,880
right in chairs, there's all the rest of the kids.

1071
00:55:59,000 --> 00:56:01,079
Nobody really knows what to do, and he and then

1072
00:56:01,119 --> 00:56:05,519
he starts just going like I'm sorry, I'm sorry. Oh

1073
00:56:05,599 --> 00:56:08,679
my gosh, I'm sorry. I can't think. I can't think

1074
00:56:08,679 --> 00:56:10,880
of my next line. And I was like, it's okay,

1075
00:56:11,760 --> 00:56:15,320
you got it, you know, And then he goes, I'm sorry.

1076
00:56:15,480 --> 00:56:18,760
And then he walks off in the middle and he

1077
00:56:18,840 --> 00:56:23,079
goes in the like stand like I don't eat. Does

1078
00:56:23,119 --> 00:56:26,559
he sit down? And I was like, oh god, it

1079
00:56:26,599 --> 00:56:29,360
could be so proud of me. Though, I was like, okay,

1080
00:56:29,960 --> 00:56:33,000
I go, hold on, this is not over. I go,

1081
00:56:33,119 --> 00:56:36,679
I'm pausing the time. I go, I need just gather

1082
00:56:36,800 --> 00:56:40,440
your thoughts. I was like, guys, we're in high school.

1083
00:56:40,440 --> 00:56:43,559
This is high school. I go, this is not that serious.

1084
00:56:44,159 --> 00:56:46,719
This is not the Olympics of speech. I was like,

1085
00:56:47,320 --> 00:56:49,880
we're here to have fun and get experience, and I

1086
00:56:49,920 --> 00:56:52,400
don't want this to be a bad experience for anybody.

1087
00:56:52,519 --> 00:56:55,000
I go, it's not a big deal. I go take

1088
00:56:55,039 --> 00:56:59,360
a second, reset, breathe, reset, and go back up there

1089
00:56:59,480 --> 00:57:01,840
and he was like really, and I was like, yeah,

1090
00:57:02,559 --> 00:57:05,519
who cares. I go, guys, are we in the We're

1091
00:57:05,559 --> 00:57:09,000
here to have fun, right, and they're like yeah. So

1092
00:57:09,039 --> 00:57:11,719
he goes back up and I was like, I'm starting

1093
00:57:11,760 --> 00:57:14,320
the time I start, the time he goes back into it,

1094
00:57:14,320 --> 00:57:18,400
it's flawless, Like he finishes. Oh my gosh, Now did

1095
00:57:18,440 --> 00:57:21,679
I give him first place? No? And not just because

1096
00:57:21,719 --> 00:57:23,599
of that, but like it wouldn't be fair to the

1097
00:57:23,639 --> 00:57:27,840
other people that like didn't stop in the middle, but

1098
00:57:27,920 --> 00:57:30,000
he wasn't in the last place. I'm gonna tell you

1099
00:57:30,039 --> 00:57:33,320
that really were somebody who was clearly not as good

1100
00:57:33,320 --> 00:57:35,719
as he was. And then you can see how the

1101
00:57:35,800 --> 00:57:40,320
judges judged later and he didn't do badly, like he

1102
00:57:40,719 --> 00:57:43,840
didn't know he just had a bad get to the finals.

1103
00:57:43,880 --> 00:57:46,559
But he was like fine, And I felt really good

1104
00:57:46,599 --> 00:57:49,800
about myself because I was like, you know what, I

1105
00:57:49,840 --> 00:57:52,400
don't like, I'm not going to be a party to

1106
00:57:52,480 --> 00:57:57,519
a kid feeling having this be a standout bad experience

1107
00:57:57,559 --> 00:57:58,239
of high school.

1108
00:57:58,480 --> 00:58:01,480
Speaker 2: Absolutely, And by the way, you know, he went home

1109
00:58:01,519 --> 00:58:04,719
and told his parents like this judge was awesome, like

1110
00:58:04,800 --> 00:58:05,679
she get.

1111
00:58:05,519 --> 00:58:07,800
Speaker 1: You know, let me have a second chance. And probably

1112
00:58:07,800 --> 00:58:08,679
the other kids.

1113
00:58:08,400 --> 00:58:11,079
Speaker 2: Too, like, ew, this judge was really cool, like let

1114
00:58:11,159 --> 00:58:13,440
him do it again. That's really nice.

1115
00:58:13,519 --> 00:58:16,559
Speaker 1: So I go back into the judges room and I'm

1116
00:58:16,599 --> 00:58:18,559
talking to this other mom who's like sitting at a

1117
00:58:18,599 --> 00:58:21,400
table with us, and she goes. I told her the

1118
00:58:21,440 --> 00:58:23,880
story and she's like, oh my god, I kind of

1119
00:58:23,920 --> 00:58:27,719
had that happen. I had this girl say like five

1120
00:58:27,760 --> 00:58:30,639
minutes in go I concede my time, and she said

1121
00:58:30,679 --> 00:58:33,039
and I was like, what, like, what do you say?

1122
00:58:33,159 --> 00:58:33,280
Speaker 2: Like?

1123
00:58:33,360 --> 00:58:35,199
Speaker 1: She goes. At first I thought she said, can I

1124
00:58:35,320 --> 00:58:39,559
check my time? She goes, which is still odd because

1125
00:58:39,599 --> 00:58:41,920
even though we're keeping time, like they should kind of

1126
00:58:41,920 --> 00:58:43,760
know where they are. You're going to give him a

1127
00:58:43,800 --> 00:58:46,360
signal when they get to like eight minutes. She goes.

1128
00:58:46,360 --> 00:58:48,800
So I was like, wait what she goes. The girl

1129
00:58:48,880 --> 00:58:51,639
just goes, I can see my time. I'm done, like

1130
00:58:51,679 --> 00:58:54,599
I can't remember, and left and she goes, do you

1131
00:58:54,599 --> 00:58:58,679
think I should have like let her go? I go No.

1132
00:58:59,519 --> 00:59:01,840
I think it's it's not all of us and not

1133
00:59:01,960 --> 00:59:04,039
all of us can be me. I was like, I

1134
00:59:04,039 --> 00:59:07,440
don't think so, because she was basically she'd she'd owned

1135
00:59:08,039 --> 00:59:11,280
the decision and said I can't do it, and and

1136
00:59:11,400 --> 00:59:13,760
left it's not up to you. You're not her mom.

1137
00:59:13,800 --> 00:59:16,199
It's not up to you to go honey, No, you

1138
00:59:16,280 --> 00:59:18,719
can do it. I go. This was different because this

1139
00:59:18,800 --> 00:59:23,960
kid was clearly like spiraling and having some panic, and

1140
00:59:24,039 --> 00:59:25,920
I felt like he was going to be able to

1141
00:59:26,000 --> 00:59:29,119
do it if. Like I just I felt like this

1142
00:59:29,320 --> 00:59:32,079
was going to be very negative for him. Sounds like

1143
00:59:32,119 --> 00:59:34,480
that girl was like, fuck it, Well I know what

1144
00:59:34,519 --> 00:59:40,760
I'm doing. I'm done. Yeah. So anyway, that's happened. That's amazing.

1145
00:59:40,800 --> 00:59:43,599
That's this experience. This story is kind of crazy. I

1146
00:59:43,639 --> 00:59:47,559
can't wait. Yeah, Okay, so before we go, let's say

1147
00:59:47,599 --> 00:59:51,880
hi to our friends. Kelsey fern is on the friends

1148
00:59:51,960 --> 00:59:53,960
list now and christ To get the strap. So what

1149
00:59:53,960 --> 00:59:57,280
are we going to say about Kelsey. She's a Kelsey,

1150
00:59:57,639 --> 01:00:00,880
She's a between Kelsey, between two Ferns. There you go,

1151
01:00:02,239 --> 01:00:06,960
Christy gets strap. Stephanie's a stinker, skate rinker. Sandra, it's

1152
01:00:07,000 --> 01:00:09,280
not easy being green, but you do it, do it

1153
01:00:09,320 --> 01:00:13,800
really well? Aarren, he's dirty. Sanchez, Leslie, please stop with

1154
01:00:13,880 --> 01:00:18,760
the coughing, Alicia Escalante. Kelly, she's your brand. Take you

1155
01:00:18,800 --> 01:00:23,159
them where you gotta go. We're back on cues. Oh

1156
01:00:23,280 --> 01:00:26,559
hot Gabby and Missy get out of here. There are

1157
01:00:26,599 --> 01:00:30,880
feet seat fillers that they at the Great Grammys, which

1158
01:00:30,920 --> 01:00:35,159
we haven't talked about. Oh my god, I have another

1159
01:00:35,679 --> 01:00:38,079
I've been Oh my god, Friday is going to be

1160
01:00:38,079 --> 01:00:41,239
great too. I have a funny thing. I have a

1161
01:00:41,280 --> 01:00:46,519
couple more Yelp reviews for you. Oh about something else? Okay, Katerina,

1162
01:00:47,039 --> 01:00:50,199
check that Moler Grollery, Bubba Fenwick gets out of the park, Polly,

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we love your pancakes. Rita rocking that BASSI yet with

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Elizabeth Williamson's kids. Did you call your girl? And Dick

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is frolicking still? And then we have a new one

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which is unique Apparel and cozy home goods. I like

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custom tumblers, thoughtful keepsakes. And this is our friends at

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Custom every Day Shop at Etsy. I'm going to Custom

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every Day Shop Nice check them out. That is a

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friend of the show who's doing this for her friend.

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Oh that's always really sweet. She wants to help her

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friend's business get off the ground. Custom every Day Shop

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at Etsy. Also check out Medium my friend at Unbecoming

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Stories check that out. Check out willman Fred to go

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to Palm Springs or Palm Desert and eat some salmon.

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Family Skeptical. That's our favorite podcast about being a total heathen. Right.

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Kayleie Pettis is our insurance. She's our therapist in Washington State,

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but in Seattle you can see her in person. I'm

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sure a lot of our listeners in Seattle. If you're

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anywhere else in Washington, she uh can help you. Emerald

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Bloomtherapy dot com. Also our friend Basic Becky just Basicbecky

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dot com or basic Becky on Facebook. She says that

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from now until the end of time FCOL use the

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code FCL She'll give you a discount. Oh Becky. Yeah,

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and she's got really fun T shirt.

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Speaker 2: He does need to go on her I got to

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get some shirts and yeah.

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Speaker 1: And then Sugar Skull on the island of Kawai. If

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you want to get some like yummy desserts or get

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a wedding cake or just some gifts, go to Sugar

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Skull and you can follow their Instagram page at sugar

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Skull eight O eight. Also, if you want to get

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to Hawaii, why not use Waves in Wonder Travel travel

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with Christine B on Instagram or Christine Concierge Travel Planner

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on Facebook. And then Aclu we need the ACL you know,

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more than ever to help what's going on in Minneapolis,

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which we are please please, thank you. Jacob so heartbroken

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and mad and me trying not to make our show

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about it, but like, if you help with the A

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C L you yet Yeah, And then, as always every episode,

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Adam Lerner can help you get a car. It doesn't

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have to be electric like us got the car dot com.

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All right, Thanks everybody, see you for Patreon or on Friday.

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You're a parent now, don't fuck it up.