WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.320 --> 00:00:06.480 It is nine thirty ish on a Friday. The regular 2 00:00:06.559 --> 00:00:10.759 crowd shuffles in to paraflate to paraphrase the philosopher William Joel, 3 00:00:11.359 --> 00:00:12.919 and that means we get to welcome in one of 4 00:00:12.919 --> 00:00:19.800 our friends, Michael Parkhurst. How are you, sir? 5 00:00:22.000 --> 00:00:25.440 Good morning and happy New Year, John. 6 00:00:26.199 --> 00:00:32.320 I am good. So we are apparently facing snowmageddon here 7 00:00:32.359 --> 00:00:36.159 in Atlanta. Uh oh, I heard two three four inches 8 00:00:36.200 --> 00:00:38.759 of snow. Everybody had better have run to the store 9 00:00:38.799 --> 00:00:41.280 and gotten their their run on milk, bread and water, 10 00:00:41.399 --> 00:00:45.280 and the shelves. The shelves are empty, and people are frolicking, 11 00:00:45.359 --> 00:00:48.159 and animals are sitting there and going bruh, I ain't 12 00:00:48.200 --> 00:00:52.520 going out and all that stuff. Uh. You look outside, 13 00:00:52.600 --> 00:00:55.679 people are putting covers on cars and things like that. So, 14 00:00:56.200 --> 00:00:58.880 uh is it just cold, nasty and freezing where you 15 00:00:58.920 --> 00:01:00.679 are and you're laughing at the rest of us here 16 00:01:00.679 --> 00:01:03.119 on the planet. Is that how this works? Oh? 17 00:01:03.200 --> 00:01:06.719 No, I'm not laughing. I'm I mean, yeah, I'm laughing 18 00:01:06.760 --> 00:01:07.200 a little bit. 19 00:01:07.519 --> 00:01:11.959 Yeah, I remember how it is. I mean, that's great 20 00:01:11.959 --> 00:01:13.480 for the kids to enjoy a little bit of snow 21 00:01:13.519 --> 00:01:17.599 down there. Yeah, we had a we didn't have much 22 00:01:17.640 --> 00:01:21.519 snow up until, of course, the day before the kids 23 00:01:21.519 --> 00:01:24.840 were finally supposed to go back to school. They had 24 00:01:24.879 --> 00:01:26.879 been out for what felt like a month. I mean, 25 00:01:26.920 --> 00:01:29.319 it was a great two weeks around the holidays, but 26 00:01:30.280 --> 00:01:33.040 a full two weeks out honestly felt like a month. 27 00:01:33.280 --> 00:01:38.439 And so first day back, five forty five am, the 28 00:01:38.480 --> 00:01:41.599 phone call comes in, school is canceled. 29 00:01:44.640 --> 00:01:46.640 So the kids enjoyed a snow day. So we've had 30 00:01:46.640 --> 00:01:47.400 snow on the ground. 31 00:01:47.519 --> 00:01:47.760 We have. 32 00:01:48.280 --> 00:01:50.959 I don't think we're gonna get rid of it anytime soon. 33 00:01:51.000 --> 00:01:54.359 We're not gonna get above freezing for a while. So yeah, 34 00:01:54.359 --> 00:01:56.760 we've still got probably h four inches on the on 35 00:01:56.799 --> 00:01:57.200 the ground. 36 00:01:58.560 --> 00:02:01.799 So do you do you still have your moments where 37 00:02:02.000 --> 00:02:03.799 yet you act like a teenager and you want to 38 00:02:03.799 --> 00:02:06.040 go outside, you want to throw snowballs in general and 39 00:02:06.120 --> 00:02:08.120 just like throw them at you know, buzz them right 40 00:02:08.159 --> 00:02:10.879 past your kids' heads or or the boss or anything 41 00:02:10.879 --> 00:02:12.319 like that. Do you still have those moments that you 42 00:02:12.439 --> 00:02:16.639 just sit there? So now that's for the young of them, Yes. 43 00:02:16.520 --> 00:02:21.199 I do, brought on by the kids and the dog, right, 44 00:02:21.240 --> 00:02:24.759 the dog loves the snow, so she loves being back 45 00:02:24.840 --> 00:02:28.199 out there and she loves chasing snowballs and then eating them. 46 00:02:28.400 --> 00:02:30.360 And I mean the. 47 00:02:30.319 --> 00:02:32.439 Kids are at a good age to you know, throw 48 00:02:32.479 --> 00:02:35.240 it right back. So yeah, I enjoy a nice little 49 00:02:35.240 --> 00:02:35.719 snow day. 50 00:02:36.000 --> 00:02:40.000 Okay, do the kids eat snow themselves or just the dog? 51 00:02:41.800 --> 00:02:43.120 Newly fresh snow? 52 00:02:43.360 --> 00:02:48.560 Sure snow that's been down now for you know, almost 53 00:02:48.599 --> 00:02:49.080 a week. 54 00:02:49.360 --> 00:02:49.439 You. 55 00:02:50.280 --> 00:02:51.479 I hope I've taught them better. 56 00:02:52.080 --> 00:02:58.280 You just ew ick by the way, new year, I. 57 00:02:58.199 --> 00:03:02.840 Mean, new platform, new background. 58 00:03:02.240 --> 00:03:05.360 Here that I'm looking at, a fancy schmancy here, John, 59 00:03:05.520 --> 00:03:07.159 I mean, I expect nothing less. 60 00:03:06.960 --> 00:03:10.479 But well blame Longshore. He's the one who's the one 61 00:03:10.520 --> 00:03:13.319 who decided to get everything all gussied up in fancy. 62 00:03:13.960 --> 00:03:16.360 If you want me to do it, I'll screw it up. 63 00:03:16.840 --> 00:03:19.400 I'll play things out of order. It'll be like music 64 00:03:19.520 --> 00:03:22.039 sounders and it's like literally somebody with the hot keys 65 00:03:22.120 --> 00:03:24.599 kind of going like this and just mashing things out 66 00:03:24.599 --> 00:03:26.759 of order. That's me so far, trying to learn all 67 00:03:26.759 --> 00:03:32.520 this technology looks great. So what I wanted to do, 68 00:03:32.879 --> 00:03:36.759 and thank you for dropping by this morning, I wanted 69 00:03:36.759 --> 00:03:39.360 to kind of look back at twenty twenty four for 70 00:03:39.479 --> 00:03:44.719 beyond goals and look at now. I don't know, do you? 71 00:03:44.759 --> 00:03:49.280 And Greg and everybody at BGM set New Year's resolutions 72 00:03:49.400 --> 00:03:52.919 or do you have goals aspirations, a to do list? 73 00:03:53.120 --> 00:03:56.800 How do you guys tackle how you want to grow 74 00:03:56.840 --> 00:03:59.360 into a year? Did you guys have a list of 75 00:03:59.400 --> 00:04:01.560 things you want to accomplish in twenty four? How did 76 00:04:01.599 --> 00:04:03.719 you attack this? Yeah? 77 00:04:03.719 --> 00:04:07.800 I think actually the marketing folks that we've been working 78 00:04:07.840 --> 00:04:13.080 with the last probably four or five months have really 79 00:04:13.080 --> 00:04:15.120 helped us in that regard, because when we started, it 80 00:04:15.159 --> 00:04:17.079 was kind of just like, well, we'll see where it 81 00:04:17.120 --> 00:04:20.399 goes and you know, growed as much as we can, 82 00:04:20.439 --> 00:04:23.160 and we didn't really have any goals because you know, 83 00:04:23.240 --> 00:04:24.920 it's just kind of like, yeah, we're just going to 84 00:04:24.920 --> 00:04:26.879 grow it as much as we can. So they've kind 85 00:04:26.879 --> 00:04:31.160 of helped us in that regard of setting some goals 86 00:04:31.279 --> 00:04:34.279 and you know, both for the year and then we 87 00:04:34.360 --> 00:04:37.040 do it by the quarter and saying, okay, hey, what 88 00:04:37.079 --> 00:04:38.639 do we want where do we want to get accomplished 89 00:04:38.639 --> 00:04:40.680 this quarter? Where can we go? What do we want 90 00:04:40.720 --> 00:04:43.680 to do, what do we want to implement? So in 91 00:04:43.720 --> 00:04:45.959 that regard, it's been really good and it kind of 92 00:04:46.000 --> 00:04:48.160 just helps Greg and I kind of set the tone 93 00:04:49.079 --> 00:04:51.040 going into the year and where we need to be 94 00:04:51.079 --> 00:04:54.040 and what we want to do. And again we're not 95 00:04:54.160 --> 00:04:56.439 answering to anybody, so it's kind of like if we 96 00:04:56.480 --> 00:05:01.199 don't hit a goal, you know, we just adjust things 97 00:05:01.199 --> 00:05:04.720 and move on and you know, why didn't we and 98 00:05:04.759 --> 00:05:05.680 how can we get better? 99 00:05:05.720 --> 00:05:06.160 Type thing? 100 00:05:06.199 --> 00:05:08.959 And you know, same thing that we encourage our mentees 101 00:05:09.000 --> 00:05:10.800 to do really well. 102 00:05:11.040 --> 00:05:13.680 And you know the reason I ask is because I 103 00:05:13.759 --> 00:05:18.040 know that when when we all dive into this idea 104 00:05:18.279 --> 00:05:20.480 of Okay, I want to I want to start this, 105 00:05:20.519 --> 00:05:21.879 I want to do this, I want to do this 106 00:05:21.920 --> 00:05:24.120 as a business, you know, I want to I want 107 00:05:24.120 --> 00:05:27.279 to make sure that this is the next stage of 108 00:05:27.319 --> 00:05:32.000 my career that you want to hop in and as 109 00:05:32.079 --> 00:05:34.240 driven as we all are, it's like, yeah, I want 110 00:05:34.240 --> 00:05:35.560 to do it right, I want to do it well. 111 00:05:35.600 --> 00:05:37.480 I want to do it this way, this way, this way, 112 00:05:37.519 --> 00:05:42.079 this way and this way. How do you not get 113 00:05:43.120 --> 00:05:46.399 bogged down if you don't accomplish something? How do you 114 00:05:46.680 --> 00:05:48.920 how how easy is it to just kind of sit 115 00:05:48.959 --> 00:05:51.639 there and say, Okay, well, we'll work just as hard 116 00:05:51.680 --> 00:05:55.920 to continue to get there and not get mad about 117 00:05:56.480 --> 00:05:59.000 not accomplishing something that you had on a list. 118 00:05:59.079 --> 00:06:03.639 I guess with something, Yeah, that's challenging, and I think, 119 00:06:03.680 --> 00:06:07.199 you know, that's why we encourage to have these smaller 120 00:06:07.240 --> 00:06:12.199 steps on the way, because you know, if we're accomplishing 121 00:06:12.240 --> 00:06:14.720 what we want to get done on a weekly basis 122 00:06:14.839 --> 00:06:17.759 or a monthly basis, and then at the quarter we 123 00:06:17.839 --> 00:06:20.519 don't hit our quarter goal, you know, we look back 124 00:06:20.560 --> 00:06:22.240 and say, you know, what we did what we could, 125 00:06:23.399 --> 00:06:25.759 it just didn't follow our way this quarter, so hopefully 126 00:06:25.800 --> 00:06:28.439 we'll make up for it next quarter type thing. 127 00:06:28.600 --> 00:06:32.160 And so, you know, really our goals we try not 128 00:06:32.240 --> 00:06:36.639 to make financial goals because we're like, you know, our 129 00:06:36.680 --> 00:06:38.920 services are there and we try and grow it and 130 00:06:39.160 --> 00:06:41.240 it is what it is. If people want to sign up, 131 00:06:41.240 --> 00:06:44.800 great and if they don't, great, So you know, a 132 00:06:44.800 --> 00:06:46.439 lot of our goals are kind of like what can 133 00:06:46.480 --> 00:06:48.879 we do to put ourselves in a position to grow 134 00:06:48.920 --> 00:06:52.040 the business and then just seeing. 135 00:06:51.959 --> 00:06:56.839 Did that help? Was that successful? And adjusting things from there. 136 00:06:57.879 --> 00:07:03.040 What was the most surprising thing that you learned beyond 137 00:07:03.120 --> 00:07:04.480 goals in twenty twenty four. 138 00:07:07.240 --> 00:07:10.399 I think the potential for growth. I think the. 139 00:07:12.079 --> 00:07:18.439 Looking outside of the box and thinking what more can 140 00:07:18.480 --> 00:07:23.199 we provide? What else could this become? And just knowing 141 00:07:23.279 --> 00:07:27.000 that the getting the feedback that we did from players 142 00:07:27.000 --> 00:07:33.160 and families just re emphasize like Okay, we've got something 143 00:07:33.199 --> 00:07:34.959 here and we can do something. 144 00:07:35.519 --> 00:07:36.000 And so. 145 00:07:37.439 --> 00:07:39.759 I think that was the best thing that came out 146 00:07:39.759 --> 00:07:42.319 of twenty four And then working with this this group, 147 00:07:42.360 --> 00:07:45.800 I think is going to really help us, you know, 148 00:07:45.920 --> 00:07:49.519 just on social media, get more organized, help us with 149 00:07:49.560 --> 00:07:50.439 goals and things. 150 00:07:50.839 --> 00:07:51.480 So it was. 151 00:07:53.040 --> 00:07:55.480 A good year in that regard, and we grew the 152 00:07:55.519 --> 00:08:01.079 business healthily, which was which is awesome. Know Greg works 153 00:08:01.439 --> 00:08:06.079 extremely hard in that regard, and yeah, he crushed it. 154 00:08:07.199 --> 00:08:09.600 What did you learn from Greg? And what do you 155 00:08:09.639 --> 00:08:10.879 think Greg learned from you? 156 00:08:13.720 --> 00:08:16.199 I think I can learn a lot from Greg's work 157 00:08:16.360 --> 00:08:21.360 work ethic, Like he grinds hard, and you know, I 158 00:08:21.399 --> 00:08:24.279 think that you need that in any startup business and 159 00:08:24.439 --> 00:08:27.360 young business. We're trying to grow it and do things, 160 00:08:27.519 --> 00:08:30.920 and I think that we just we understand each other's 161 00:08:31.040 --> 00:08:35.720 role within the business really well. Greg grinds and gets 162 00:08:35.799 --> 00:08:41.080 the customers and is so good with customer relations and 163 00:08:41.360 --> 00:08:46.080 connecting with people and talking to them about why. And 164 00:08:46.639 --> 00:08:49.679 I'm just trying to come up with new things and 165 00:08:50.600 --> 00:08:53.919 new projects and new partnerships and Okay, where can we 166 00:08:53.960 --> 00:08:56.440 go and what can we do? And Okay, how can 167 00:08:56.480 --> 00:09:00.840 we hire somebody new? And you know, I think that 168 00:09:00.879 --> 00:09:03.639 we just we work well together. So I definitely learned 169 00:09:03.639 --> 00:09:08.440 from Greg, both in the hustle side of things, but 170 00:09:08.559 --> 00:09:13.679 also mentoring wise and how he works with some of 171 00:09:13.720 --> 00:09:16.519 his younger players and what he talks about. And we 172 00:09:16.600 --> 00:09:19.960 share ideas and we're continuing to grow obviously, and we 173 00:09:21.240 --> 00:09:24.200 encourage each other to grow and read and get better 174 00:09:24.360 --> 00:09:28.879 and improve things. And just seeing kind of where he 175 00:09:29.000 --> 00:09:34.399 talks to kids about and how he approaches sessions. Sometimes 176 00:09:34.480 --> 00:09:35.480 it's just different than. 177 00:09:35.399 --> 00:09:35.879 How I do. 178 00:09:36.000 --> 00:09:38.759 So it's nice for each for both of us, I 179 00:09:38.759 --> 00:09:40.279 think to see the other person in action. 180 00:09:40.960 --> 00:09:42.519 What's the last book you read? 181 00:09:43.759 --> 00:09:47.080 That's John It's number one on my list right now 182 00:09:47.159 --> 00:09:49.200 of I need to do better in twenty five. 183 00:09:49.320 --> 00:09:51.480 Oh wow, okay, because I think. 184 00:09:51.320 --> 00:09:54.000 I started off well in twenty twenty four and I 185 00:09:54.120 --> 00:09:58.039 probably have not read a book in like four months. 186 00:09:59.279 --> 00:09:59.960 So that's not good. 187 00:10:00.080 --> 00:10:00.200 It. 188 00:10:02.159 --> 00:10:04.360 So the last book I read. 189 00:10:09.200 --> 00:10:10.919 Where is it? Where'd you hide it? 190 00:10:11.039 --> 00:10:13.759 I think it's still hidden potential to be fair. 191 00:10:14.240 --> 00:10:20.399 I did reread this one because it was so good. Yeah, 192 00:10:20.480 --> 00:10:22.039 but yeah, that's the last book I read. 193 00:10:22.360 --> 00:10:26.559 So when you when you read a book. Do you 194 00:10:27.440 --> 00:10:31.240 high do you take a highlighter and and destroy the 195 00:10:31.279 --> 00:10:34.039 inside of it and then end up getting another copy later? 196 00:10:34.200 --> 00:10:36.679 How do you when you take notes from other people 197 00:10:37.279 --> 00:10:39.639 to apply to what you want to do it beyond goals? 198 00:10:39.679 --> 00:10:42.519 How do you learn? How? What's the best way for 199 00:10:42.639 --> 00:10:45.679 you to learn from, like, say, a reading situation. Do 200 00:10:45.720 --> 00:10:48.639 you do you highlight? Do you write something down separate? 201 00:10:48.720 --> 00:10:50.559 How do you how do you learn? When you read? 202 00:10:52.159 --> 00:10:56.679 I take a picture of whatever paragraph or sentence or whatever, 203 00:10:57.759 --> 00:10:59.639 So I've got just a bunch of pictures when I'm 204 00:10:59.639 --> 00:11:04.399 done or halfway through or something, and then I'll go 205 00:11:04.480 --> 00:11:08.639 write notes in a Google doc and so that I 206 00:11:08.639 --> 00:11:12.120 can keep it organized of like, Okay, why did I 207 00:11:12.120 --> 00:11:12.919 take a picture of this? 208 00:11:13.080 --> 00:11:15.519 What does it have to do with whatever? 209 00:11:15.639 --> 00:11:18.639 That way I can kind of organize it into where 210 00:11:18.639 --> 00:11:21.320 it would be helpful, because some of these notes go 211 00:11:21.399 --> 00:11:25.679 into like more broad topics, and some of them are like, Okay, 212 00:11:25.679 --> 00:11:27.919 this would be really useful when I'm talking to a 213 00:11:28.000 --> 00:11:31.679 kid about X, and so I want this information or 214 00:11:31.679 --> 00:11:36.200 this idea in this little area of notes that we have, 215 00:11:36.600 --> 00:11:39.320 you know, for ideas for when we're talking to a 216 00:11:39.399 --> 00:11:42.159 kid about that subject. So that's how I do it 217 00:11:42.200 --> 00:11:43.720 take a picture and then go back to it and 218 00:11:43.720 --> 00:11:44.080 write it. 219 00:11:44.399 --> 00:11:51.480 Okay, when it comes to twenty twenty five and getting 220 00:11:51.879 --> 00:11:59.440 getting your your mentees to learn, do you encourage resolutions? 221 00:11:59.720 --> 00:12:02.759 Do you? And it might just be goals and aspirations 222 00:12:02.799 --> 00:12:05.039 instead of resolutions, because when you think of a new 223 00:12:05.080 --> 00:12:08.039 year's resolution, the first thing you think of sometimes is like, yeah, 224 00:12:08.159 --> 00:12:10.559 I'll give me like three weeks and I'll break it, 225 00:12:10.600 --> 00:12:12.519 you know, like working out. I'll set a new year's 226 00:12:12.559 --> 00:12:14.639 resolution to lose ten pounds and then three weeks and 227 00:12:14.720 --> 00:12:16.720 you sit there and go, man, this is this not happening. 228 00:12:17.200 --> 00:12:21.759 Do you encourage goals and aspirations at the beginning of 229 00:12:21.799 --> 00:12:24.759 a calendar year? Do you just sit there and have 230 00:12:24.879 --> 00:12:27.639 that as something as a part of a continual conversation. 231 00:12:27.799 --> 00:12:30.559 How do you bring in a new year with someone 232 00:12:30.600 --> 00:12:33.720 that you're that you're having to, that you're working with 233 00:12:33.799 --> 00:12:37.039 as a mentor how do you break down outlook, I 234 00:12:37.039 --> 00:12:38.679 guess is probably the best way to phrase it. 235 00:12:40.000 --> 00:12:43.600 Yeah, it's a great question, and it depends on who 236 00:12:43.600 --> 00:12:45.840 we're working with and if we've worked with them before, 237 00:12:45.919 --> 00:12:50.000 because I think that, you know, with soccer being not 238 00:12:50.200 --> 00:12:54.639 a calendar year, sport. It kind of gets a little confusing, 239 00:12:54.720 --> 00:12:56.399 right do you make your goals at the beginning of 240 00:12:56.399 --> 00:13:00.879 the season for the soccer season or do you make 241 00:13:00.919 --> 00:13:03.639 it at the beginning of the calendar year for the year, 242 00:13:04.320 --> 00:13:06.080 And so it just depends on you know, if this 243 00:13:06.399 --> 00:13:08.919 if the player is playing year round, or if they're 244 00:13:08.960 --> 00:13:13.480 playing multiple sports, or or when we started working with them. 245 00:13:13.840 --> 00:13:16.159 So a lot of them we do, right. I think 246 00:13:16.159 --> 00:13:20.559 it's it's great to have calendar year goals where you 247 00:13:20.639 --> 00:13:23.840 want to be this time next year, and then we 248 00:13:23.960 --> 00:13:27.000 work backwards, right, we always are working backwards. Okay, we've 249 00:13:27.000 --> 00:13:29.399 got this big goal here, or a couple of big 250 00:13:29.440 --> 00:13:33.080 goals that where we want to be. Okay, how are 251 00:13:33.159 --> 00:13:35.759 we going to get there? And then what are we 252 00:13:35.799 --> 00:13:39.120 going to work on to get there? And ideally we're 253 00:13:39.120 --> 00:13:44.440 coming back to like a weekly or bi weekly checklist 254 00:13:44.600 --> 00:13:48.240 of Okay, have I hit these small little steps in 255 00:13:48.360 --> 00:13:49.840 order to get to my goal at the end of 256 00:13:49.879 --> 00:13:52.360 the year, because like I said earlier, John, we could 257 00:13:52.399 --> 00:13:53.240 hit all these steps. 258 00:13:53.320 --> 00:13:53.440 Right. 259 00:13:53.559 --> 00:13:54.279 I've got a kid. 260 00:13:54.679 --> 00:13:56.639 He wants to get back with the national team, right, 261 00:13:56.639 --> 00:13:58.639 he's been with the youth national team before. He wants 262 00:13:58.720 --> 00:14:00.519 to get back for the Youth National and that's his 263 00:14:00.600 --> 00:14:03.799 goal for twenty five. I said, that's an awesome goal. Now, 264 00:14:03.799 --> 00:14:04.519 how do we do it? 265 00:14:05.159 --> 00:14:05.399 Right? 266 00:14:05.480 --> 00:14:08.000 Okay, we need to be playing consistently. Okay, we need 267 00:14:08.039 --> 00:14:11.240 to be healthy right, Okay, great, what are the steps 268 00:14:11.279 --> 00:14:11.559 to that? 269 00:14:12.120 --> 00:14:12.320 Right? 270 00:14:12.399 --> 00:14:14.080 How are we going to take care of our body 271 00:14:14.080 --> 00:14:16.159 on a daily and weekly basis so that we are 272 00:14:16.200 --> 00:14:19.159 healthy enough? And you know, so you just small little 273 00:14:19.519 --> 00:14:21.399 challenges and goals along the way. 274 00:14:22.080 --> 00:14:24.320 But at the same time, I think that when you 275 00:14:24.440 --> 00:14:28.279 mentioned these these small goals, these incremental steps, I think 276 00:14:28.279 --> 00:14:32.159 that a lot of times we have a tendency to 277 00:14:32.320 --> 00:14:36.559 either take those small steps for granted and just it's like, yeah, 278 00:14:36.919 --> 00:14:39.279 you know, I'll skip this chapter because I know that 279 00:14:39.399 --> 00:14:41.720 I do that, when in fact, you might be found 280 00:14:41.759 --> 00:14:45.480 out that you don't, or you sit there and it's 281 00:14:45.519 --> 00:14:49.480 just like, oh I did. It didn't quite register to 282 00:14:49.519 --> 00:14:52.559 me that I need to have that small of a 283 00:14:52.799 --> 00:14:56.159 step because it is one of those building blocks. I 284 00:14:56.159 --> 00:14:58.000 thought that that was interesting that you just mentioned that, 285 00:14:58.120 --> 00:15:00.720 because a lot of time, as we sit there and 286 00:15:00.720 --> 00:15:03.879 we'll take those small steps for granted, thinking that, yeah, 287 00:15:03.879 --> 00:15:06.600 they're already a part of the process, when they may 288 00:15:06.639 --> 00:15:08.440 not be. I thought that was really interesting that you 289 00:15:08.480 --> 00:15:09.080 brought that up. 290 00:15:09.840 --> 00:15:12.519 Yeah, it's a it's a crucial, crucial aspect and that's 291 00:15:13.559 --> 00:15:15.960 where a lot of people go wrong and why a 292 00:15:15.960 --> 00:15:18.200 lot of resolutions fall right. 293 00:15:18.320 --> 00:15:19.879 The goal is just too far away. 294 00:15:20.240 --> 00:15:23.279 It's it's a big aspiration, a big goal, like it's 295 00:15:23.320 --> 00:15:26.600 a yearly thing or it's a huge thing that's going 296 00:15:26.679 --> 00:15:31.720 to take months and months. That's just tough for mentally, 297 00:15:32.080 --> 00:15:36.879 right where you're not accomplishing something, you know, especially if 298 00:15:36.919 --> 00:15:39.840 it's not a number or something where you can really 299 00:15:40.320 --> 00:15:43.039 you know, if it's just to look better or thin 300 00:15:43.200 --> 00:15:47.600 down or whatever, that's just tough over time. So yeah, 301 00:15:47.600 --> 00:15:50.240 we highly encourage it. I saw this video the other day. 302 00:15:50.360 --> 00:15:52.080 It was really really good. I think it was a 303 00:15:52.799 --> 00:15:56.159 was a school teacher trying to teach his kids about 304 00:15:56.200 --> 00:15:59.519 this concept. And he had this kid who needed to 305 00:15:59.519 --> 00:16:01.480 get from one side of the room to the other 306 00:16:01.519 --> 00:16:03.639 side of the room, and he had pieces of paper 307 00:16:03.960 --> 00:16:06.080 that the kid could step on, and so the kid 308 00:16:06.080 --> 00:16:07.720 stepped on the pieces of paper to get to the 309 00:16:07.720 --> 00:16:09.720 other side and said, okay, now go back, and then 310 00:16:09.759 --> 00:16:12.039 he took away a few pieces of the paper and 311 00:16:12.080 --> 00:16:14.120 it was really more difficult. And then he took away 312 00:16:14.159 --> 00:16:16.240 all the pieces of paper, and he said, if you 313 00:16:16.279 --> 00:16:19.240 don't have these steps along the way to get to 314 00:16:19.279 --> 00:16:21.120 your goal, it's impossible to get there. 315 00:16:21.960 --> 00:16:25.360 I see now, I had I like the idea of 316 00:16:25.399 --> 00:16:28.759 pulling all of the pieces of paper off of the floor. 317 00:16:29.360 --> 00:16:31.480 And it's like, okay, so now what are you gonna do. 318 00:16:32.200 --> 00:16:34.200 And if you don't have the if you don't have 319 00:16:34.279 --> 00:16:38.159 those pieces laid in place, then you're gonna miss them 320 00:16:38.159 --> 00:16:41.000 coming back. You're not gonna have them coming back, or 321 00:16:41.559 --> 00:16:44.399 you're just gonna walk on the desks to get from 322 00:16:45.000 --> 00:16:47.320 one desk to the other and just do it up above. 323 00:16:47.480 --> 00:16:50.159 I mean, there's gotta be always a way. And like 324 00:16:50.240 --> 00:16:52.919 in Star Trek with the Kobe Yashimaru and James T. 325 00:16:53.080 --> 00:16:56.679 Kirk when he when he went around and broke the 326 00:16:56.720 --> 00:16:59.600 machine and just kind of refixed the machine to his 327 00:16:59.600 --> 00:17:01.159 own bends. 328 00:17:01.000 --> 00:17:01.720 That is true. 329 00:17:01.840 --> 00:17:05.400 I got to find alternative ways sometimes. 330 00:17:05.079 --> 00:17:09.400 Yeah excuses, Yeah exactly, Michael Parker. Yes, it's all about 331 00:17:09.440 --> 00:17:12.759 finding different ways and that the and then your instructor goes, man, 332 00:17:12.759 --> 00:17:13.759 I wish I'd thought of that. 333 00:17:13.960 --> 00:17:18.759 But speaking of yeah, New Years and like h goals 334 00:17:18.759 --> 00:17:21.400 and things and have you heard of the uh the 335 00:17:21.559 --> 00:17:24.480 viral like a hard seventy five challenge. 336 00:17:24.720 --> 00:17:25.599 Uh no, what's this? 337 00:17:25.720 --> 00:17:28.599 Okay, Well you look it up, John, it's uh it's 338 00:17:28.799 --> 00:17:31.039 I think it's a little older, but it became viral again. 339 00:17:31.119 --> 00:17:34.640 And basically there's like five or six things and you're 340 00:17:34.680 --> 00:17:37.160 supposed to do it every day for seventy five days. 341 00:17:37.200 --> 00:17:39.400 If you mess up or miss one day, you start over. 342 00:17:39.799 --> 00:17:43.119 And it's really intense. That's why it's called hard seventy five. Okay, 343 00:17:43.480 --> 00:17:45.759 But it's basically it's like drink a gallon of water 344 00:17:45.839 --> 00:17:49.279 a day, read x pages a day, exercise twice a day, 345 00:17:50.880 --> 00:17:54.640 take a picture of yourself once a day, and there's 346 00:17:54.640 --> 00:17:57.440 a couple other things. I think so, I think Greg 347 00:17:57.480 --> 00:17:59.839 and I are going to implement a modified version for 348 00:18:00.119 --> 00:18:02.200 any mentees that want to do like a thirty day 349 00:18:02.240 --> 00:18:05.480 thing with us, where you know, you read a few 350 00:18:05.480 --> 00:18:08.720 pages a day, you get x amount of sleep per day. 351 00:18:09.359 --> 00:18:11.839 We're not taking photos of ourselves. That's not the goal here, 352 00:18:13.440 --> 00:18:15.960 you know. But exercise could be something as small as 353 00:18:16.000 --> 00:18:18.720 stretching or getting core work in right, And it's just 354 00:18:18.799 --> 00:18:22.039 kind of like a more of a mentality and a 355 00:18:22.079 --> 00:18:24.559 discipline thing than it is, Like we're not trying to 356 00:18:24.599 --> 00:18:26.960 lose weight or do it for any specific reason. It's 357 00:18:26.960 --> 00:18:29.759 more like, hey, can we do something. Can we accomplish 358 00:18:29.839 --> 00:18:32.400 it for thirty days and stay dedicated to it and 359 00:18:33.880 --> 00:18:36.799 you know, get them thinking about and learning by reading, 360 00:18:37.519 --> 00:18:39.839 focusing on their sleep, getting certain amount of sleep. So 361 00:18:40.039 --> 00:18:41.960 we're tossing around the idea of, hey, should we start 362 00:18:41.960 --> 00:18:44.000 this for kind of the end of January and February 363 00:18:44.039 --> 00:18:47.319 type thing based off of this viral thing that's going 364 00:18:47.359 --> 00:18:48.720 around Andy Forsella. 365 00:18:48.960 --> 00:18:51.640 Think of this as an iron man for your brain. 366 00:18:52.319 --> 00:18:54.640 How to take complete control of your life and only 367 00:18:54.720 --> 00:18:58.559 seventy five days. Yeah, voting for Sella. There's nothing worse 368 00:18:58.599 --> 00:19:00.599 than rolling through life in the past in your seat. 369 00:19:00.599 --> 00:19:02.400 You wake up, go to work, and drift through each 370 00:19:02.480 --> 00:19:05.880 day with no direction or driving force. Then you drive home, 371 00:19:05.920 --> 00:19:08.079 flip through your favorite TV shows, go to bed, repeat 372 00:19:08.119 --> 00:19:10.519 that same cycle the next day. Weekdays all run together. 373 00:19:10.920 --> 00:19:13.079 You find yourself trying to pass the time until the 374 00:19:13.119 --> 00:19:16.160 weekend so you can relax, unwind, and finally enjoy yourself. 375 00:19:16.359 --> 00:19:19.640 You start doubting yourself. I'm skipping forward, and so he said, 376 00:19:19.680 --> 00:19:21.960 this is why I believe in the seventy five hard program. 377 00:19:21.960 --> 00:19:23.960 I know exactly how you feel. I've been there myself 378 00:19:24.200 --> 00:19:27.559 spent years feeling like I was nothing, floating through the 379 00:19:27.640 --> 00:19:30.680 days with no game plan and no results, letting myself 380 00:19:30.720 --> 00:19:34.119 go mentally and physically, trying program after a program to 381 00:19:34.119 --> 00:19:35.839 try to get back on track, only to fall off 382 00:19:35.920 --> 00:19:38.200 right after I completed it. I knew I wasn't the 383 00:19:38.240 --> 00:19:41.039 only one going through this, realize the root cause of 384 00:19:41.079 --> 00:19:44.119 all of my problems was not addressed by any existing program. 385 00:19:44.160 --> 00:19:47.720 And so Andy Frasella is the guy that did seventy 386 00:19:47.720 --> 00:19:49.400 five hards. So you want to spin off and do 387 00:19:50.279 --> 00:19:53.359 well ninety hard because there's ninety minutes in a match, mane. 388 00:19:54.000 --> 00:19:56.680 Well, maybe maybe we'll get to that. But you know, 389 00:19:56.720 --> 00:19:59.160 I think you know as far as smaller steps, I mean. 390 00:19:59.240 --> 00:20:02.400 Forty five, give me forty five, Parkhurst, Can you start 391 00:20:02.440 --> 00:20:04.359 and give me forty five? Then you can start it 392 00:20:04.400 --> 00:20:04.680 for me. 393 00:20:04.960 --> 00:20:07.400 Yeah, we might even do thirty just a thirty day thing. 394 00:20:07.519 --> 00:20:10.519 See how we can do it, see what the response 395 00:20:10.599 --> 00:20:12.599 is like, and then we'll take it from there. If 396 00:20:12.640 --> 00:20:14.519 it was fun and everybody enjoyed it, maybe would do 397 00:20:14.519 --> 00:20:15.119 another one. 398 00:20:16.279 --> 00:20:18.279 There are other things that you guys did in twenty 399 00:20:18.319 --> 00:20:21.079 four that I thought were really cool like BGTV. What's 400 00:20:21.119 --> 00:20:25.799 it like for you doing the television thing where you 401 00:20:25.920 --> 00:20:28.799