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Speaker 1: And I always say this, if you with somebody and

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that friendship is so important where you're struggling and you

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can't stay off that person and you gotta come back

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and you want you still want to be friends. If

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you can't have blessed you someone to be friends, maybe

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you need to rethink that relationship that you in. Okay,

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either you need to be with a friend or you

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need to find you somebody who is okay with that

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type of friendship. Okay, because girl, get off of him.

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He need to get off of you and you need

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to get off of him. Hey, y'all, welcome back to

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dear to see yuah, y'all happy springs.

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Speaker 2: Don't know about the springs.

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Speaker 3: The springs a spring.

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Speaker 1: Baby, you know, the pink also have on like some

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pink purple eyeshadow of the match y'all. But if you

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watch it, if you watch on YouTube, look, y'all see

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my pinky shadow. Y'all don't know I am a spring baby. Okay,

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April twentieth, So March twentieth was the first day spring.

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It's the what's guys that I think it's the twenty

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first time like that. Look, okay, we're into spring now.

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It's also today is also National Flower Day. Until my

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sister bought me a very beautiful, very beautiful bouquet of flowers. Okay,

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so if you ain't got no man, just get a sister. O. God, Look,

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if you ain't got a man, get you a sister

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or a friend that you know that's just gonna love

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on you. So anyways, I feel good today because it's springtime.

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I feel springy. I'm in my pink, I love my makeup.

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You know that just makes a girl's day. So anyways,

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than we are the twenty. But hey, who's counting, right,

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I'm bouncing, I'm counting. Stop playing with me, Okay, stop

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playing with me. All right, when things kind of transition,

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of stuff. Now, I know that's that's what y'all here

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to see. Okay, that's what makes a podcast a podcast.

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I mean, I am main character material because y'all here

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to see me otis period. All right, Look, I am

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main character material. But I do know that y'all want to,

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you know, see some people from time to time, and

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that's what we're going to do. You know, we started

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off doing that. You know, I'm in DC. I'm gonna

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be making a transition to atl y'all pray for me

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because I'm going out there with a dollar a dream,

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a dollar a dream. But I do know that there

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are more people frolicking to be guests on my podcast

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in Atlanta than there would be in DC, even though

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I had a time in DC. Y'all will look, look,

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I'm getting carried away. We'll talk about that. We'll talk

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about that another time, Okay. One of my favorite segments

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are the reviews. I love reading the reviews. Okay, so

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our one says this is from I am Mariah. I

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am Mariah t Yes. I'm Mariah t Yes. I don't know.

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She said, Sis, you are universally loved. Listen, thank you,

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thank you, you are universally loved. Your vulnerability and unapologic,

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unapologetic storytelling and healing women around the world. We are

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making we are making wiser choices in dating, saving us

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from the shackles of unhealthy attachments. Okay, she said, thank you.

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My sister and I watch you on YouTube together. It's

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our ritual. Oh, she said, my sister and I watch

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you on YouTube together. It's our ritual. Thank you sisters. Okay. Ps,

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I think your collective Lady Squad should be named to

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see a Tea Party. You know what, Mariah, that ain't

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a half bad idea. I think your collective Lady Squad

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should be named to see a Tea party. Since we

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spill the tea and you pour back into I love this.

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I love this. Okay, welcome to to see a tea party. Okay,

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what do you think? It's beautiful? Give your take? Love

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you me, naed five you on ig. I know that's what.

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They gotta take a screenshot of this to see a

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tea party? Okay, it's given. Winnie Williams Hot topics, Wendy Yeah, God,

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bless Wendy. I hope, I hope she makes a comeback,

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and God bless all the people that are around her. Okay, listen,

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that's cute. I ain't gonna I ain't gonna hold you.

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Welcome to to see a tea party. Yeah, that could

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be cute. That's going to the top of the list. Mariah,

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come to the front. I love it, and thank you

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to you and your sister for watching and supporting. Okay,

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so we were jumping into our first voicemail, dear to

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see you. Okay, let's see what the girls are talking

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about today. Okay, let me Oh, first of all, let

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me slow down because I need to tell y'all what

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it's what it's entitled. Okay, so this one is entitled

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can you be friends with your ex when you're still family?

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Can you be friends with your ex when you're still family? Okay,

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let me say because maybe I'm confused already. I'm confused already.

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Speaker 2: Dear to see you my X of six years. We

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broke up last May. He got a new girlfriend pretty

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much immediately, and we tried to be friends after that. Unfortunately,

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as expected, his girlfriend wasn't okay with those with that

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they are a long distance. That added some extra pressure.

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end of January I did have to kind of cut

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him off, block him, remove myself from the situation. It

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really became too much. We went no contact for thirty days.

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talk and see if we can be friends. I'm very

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integrating to his family. I'm his niece's godmother. I'm really

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close with his mom, his sister, really everyone in their

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inner circle I'm very close with. I really don't want

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to have to give up being a godmother, but I

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also don't want to step on the toes. I want

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to be able to move on. I want us hopefully

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to be able to be friends. I just want to

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know how to navigate this, if this is even possible,

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and how you would handle it.

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Speaker 1: I don't know. Y'all may think I have a co

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hot gri It ain't yell family. It ain't your family.

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broke up and he got a girlfriend basically immediately okay,

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but you're close with all of his family. You're the

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god daughter to one of his nieces. You don't want

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to give up being a god daughter. But you are

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very close with his mama and all of them. Okay,

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let me tell you this. I think that the sometimes

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the relationship ends up being a casualty of war, right,

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it ends up just being something that's just lost in

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the sauce, because that's the risk that you take when

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you're dating someone. You don't get to inherit and keep

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their family. Most times, if I was the new girlfriend,

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I would feel like, what is this really about? Like

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I really wouldn't. So my thing is, you don't have

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to be around that man to be a godmother. What

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they got to do anything? If you are the godmother

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to his nieces and y'all have broken up, you can

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still be a god mama without being nowhere near that family.

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you can't go to the niece, right so she you

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can call her mother. You can link up with her,

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you can hang out with her, you can pick up

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that baby. You can be a very present godmother without

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having nothing to do with that man. Okay, him and

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you and his mother are very close. Okay, y'all were

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close when y'all had the relationship, and it's the family's

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lost in grief as well. But you just have to

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really move on. You're saying that y'all are in a

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place where y'all want to talk. Now, See, this is

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the thing. You are crossing the boundaries. You're crossing the lines.

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You said that y'all win no contact. You had to

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unfortunately let them go, and then this man moved on. Okay,

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so he he's moved on already. You talking about something now,

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y'all in a place where y'all want to talk. Why? Who? Why?

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Why you wanna talk to him? Why are you in

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a place where y'all want to talk? And my thing is,

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you're not connected with this man. And I didn't hear

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you say you had children with him, so I'm just

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gonna assume that you don't because you only mentioned that

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God baby, so you don't have any kids with this man.

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Why why do y'all Why y'all in a place now

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that y'all need to connect, which means that y'all being

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kind of connected prior to because how would you know

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that he wanted to connect? Huh, how do he know

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that you want to connect it? How do we know?

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How do you know that he wants to connect? Because

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y'all being kind of connected and talking. Girl, get out

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that man, Get off of him. Okay, you don't need

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to be friends with him. You don't need to connect.

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You don't need to get in a place where y'all

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need to do anything. Okay, the girlfriend wasn't comfortable with

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y'all being friends or whatever the case may be. And

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that's just what it is. He moved on. Let him

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have the day that he decided on. He decided to

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move on, and unfortunately you now couldn't be his friend.

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friendship is so important where you're struggling and you can't

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stay off that person and you gotta come back and

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you want you still want to be friends. If you

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can't have less, we still want to be friends, maybe

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you need to rethink that relationship that you in. Okay,

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Either you need to be with a friend or you

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need to find you somebody who is okay with that

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type of friendship. Okay, Because girl, get off of him.

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He need to get off of you, and you need

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to get off of him. The mama, you'll get over it.

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You can still be an active god parent, but the mama,

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you gonna get over that. Baby. You know, none of

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these people are making y'all that the sun rising said, baby,

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you you're gonna be just fine. You're gonna be just fine.

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And I'm saying this will love. It sounds like you're

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still a little caught up. You sound like you have

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a little bit of feelings still, and that's okay because

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sometimes that's just how it is. It sounds like you

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still have a little bit of feelings there. And this

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is not a good idea for you. This is not

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a good idea because you don't have children with this man.

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You have to release him, release him to that. No

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friendship is needed. No friend y'all be holding on by

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that pony's hill. No friendship is needed here. You don't

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need to still be close with the mama. Unfortunately, you

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don't need to still be a lot and y'all don't

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want to admit it, but a lot of y'all be

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using them families to still kind of have steak with

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them men and be around them. Let's talk about it,

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because look, we're spilling the tea. Okay, a lot of

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y'all be trying to use the family and y'all relationships

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that you got with the cousins, the mama, Tomam, I'm

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real close to the mama. How do I get over

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this when now I've been so infused in their family.

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Y'all be holding on to them family relationships so you

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can still be close to that man. That's what's really

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the tea. Because the man moved on and he kind

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of quite forgot about you, but you want to still

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be stuck to that family so you can still kind

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of be there and be around. Now. I'm not saying

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that's you or not. I cannot confirm or deny, but

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what I can say, Okay, what I can say is

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that is giving you holding on a little bit, tal

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my son. We we're to the point that we want

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to talk now why he's moved on. He's moved on.

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Let that man be with his new relationship and he's

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moved on. If the mama call you see this is

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the thing too, Why don't try a weigh the pros

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and the cons and the probability of things. I'm big

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on probability. If you have three hundred and sixty five

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days out the year, how many times would you have

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a holiday around that family? And how many times would

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that man mama's call you? How many many? How many

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times would that man mama call you? That should help

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you decide what you're gonna do. The probability that you're

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gonna have this flourishing relationship with his mama. Just because

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you close with his mama don't mean that the mama

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is still gonna want to try to keep the relationship.

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The mama could be talking to the new girl. The

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mama could A lot of this stuff is just because

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it's prison that way. A lot of times she's close

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to you because you're close to her son. Let's talk

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about it. Baby, If you went away, she may not

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be that connected. You was really close with his mama,

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then you was really close with those cousins and aunties

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and baby baby. Then people forget about people every day.

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And I know, I really know that detaching and that

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it can feel hurtful because sometimes these people really do

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become a part of a part of your family. But

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when you break up with a person that you've been

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in a relationship with. You break up with the family too.

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You may keep a cousin or sister, but you break

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up with them too. You don't get to still be

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cool with the mama. That's just the Hey, that's just

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the truth about it. You don't get to still be

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cool with the mama. It's inappropriate. You gotta move on.

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You don't get to still be cool with they kids

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that you raised from three, four, five years old. That's

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why I be telling y'all, the people you choose to

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love will change your trajectory, will change the trajectory of

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your life. This is why I always say that the

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people you choose to love will change the trajectory of

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your life. And so with that, everybody want to be

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in a relationship. Nobody want to break up. It's all bad.

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So you gotta really take your time. Because this man

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didn't waste no time, you said, almost immediately he got

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into a new relationship. You gotta take that l. Siys,

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nobody's willing to take the l. And also think about yourself.

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Why would you want to still put yourself in a

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predicament where you're not really healed. You still fate got

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emotions for this man. You you kind of still connected

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with the family. It's just it's not a good idea,

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you know. And twenty twenty six, let's just go with

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it's just not a good idea. Everybody want to get

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so deep and we've lost track of like baseline logica.

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It's just not a good idea, simple, simple man, it's

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just baby. You can talk about the family, the heartbreak,

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being close to them, how can you how can you

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coexist with the At the end of the day, it's

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just not a good idea that will save us so

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much time that we just roll with. It's just not

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a good idea.

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Speaker 3: It ain't a good idea.

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Speaker 1: Sis, don't be friends with this man. Don't try to

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now we're in a place where we need to talk.

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Don't baby lead it all alone. Let it go by

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the wayside. And it's also gonna help you when you

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move on with your with your new man. It's just

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not worth its sweetheart, those are my thoughts. Take what

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I said with a grain of salt. But at the

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end of the day, it's just not a good idea.

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And that's all you need. See, everybody wanna go deep,

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That's all you need is that that's probably not a

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good idea. Why why volunteer for suffering? Heartbreak? Potential, feelings

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getting mixed, potential you y'all getting back together, potential the

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girlfriend over there on Thanksgiving, Now you gotta meet her. Maybe,

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go get a life, Go get a life, go do

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something with yourself. You gotta let let the family go.

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I'm sorry, but it is what it is. It was

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what it was. When you are with a man and

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you are dating him and y'all have built a life

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together and are having a great relationship, and that relationship

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comes to an end, you're breaking up with the mama,

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the sister, the kids, the cousins, the nephews, Uncle Ray, Ray,

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the neighbor, all of them, the dog, everybody. It is

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what it is. It was what it was. And if

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that person moves on, who are you to try to

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still have a relationship with them? Talk about something. I'm

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real close with the mama, who mama, not my mans.

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I'm sorry, it is what it is. Who mama you're

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still close with? Not my mans. It's time to move on.

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Everybody body releasing one, two, three, release some baby. Everybody

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gotta move on. And I don't care. I don't care.

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You ain't got no kids with my men. You gone, baby.

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I'm sorry, friend, I'm sorry if you don't have children

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with my men. And y'all were once together, and y'all

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break up. You not cool with his mama, his sister,

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his cousin. You not coming to no cookouts. You're not

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coming to a barbecue, a baby shower, his mama's sixty

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fifth birthday party. You not my man. You don't have

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children with him. It's done, it's over. Move on, and

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I'm sorry. See that's the problem, everybody mixing up too much.

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If y'all are over, it's over. If y'all are over,

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it's over, simple man, cause you because it ting. I'm

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close to his mama. Who's mama? Not my man's mama, huh,

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not my man's. It is what it is, It was

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what it was. Look sorry for your loss. What's going

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on with my shirt? All right? Y'all was hanging out

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a little bit? Look not my man. It's over. When

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it's over, I hope you find another another man's family,

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but she ain't gonna be a part of mine. You're

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not gonna be coming to the cookout. You ain't got

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no kids with him. Please? Anyways, I'm off that soapbox.

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Let's see here. Let's see here. Call it what it

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is not, my man, life is hard enough. Why did

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think I wanna put put bring that to the doorstep?

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Life is hard enough, baby, And you think you about

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to be friends and COVID I don't have it. It's

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already bad enough that these negroes are divorced, that these

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negroes got kids and ex wives. And you call yourself

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being a girlfriends to my man and you think you

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still about to be cool with his family after I please, please,

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please buy bye? Anyways? Okay, Voicemail number two dear to

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see it? Okay, wait a minute, I'm gonna tell y'all

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what it's entitled. Y'all know I'll be more moving too quick.

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Y'all know him on my phone. I ain't got my

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little setup how I used to. So let's see. Voicemail

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number two is entitled dear to see him? How do

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I move on? When he lives right next door? We

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must be in the same family to that we're in

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the same family. Everybody wanted nepotism, Okay, everybody want to

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what's called ancest All right, girl, let's hear it, let's

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hear it.

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Speaker 2: Hi to see it.

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Speaker 4: I'm twenty eight years old and I'm calling about a

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relationship that just ended with the man who was thirty seven.

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He's a really hard working man, and that's something I've

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always admired about him. But no matter how much cared

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about each other, we just couldn't seem to get it right.

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We were constantly arguing. I got sick recently, and he

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stayed away from me for about three weeks until I

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was completely sentim free. During that time, he did show

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up for me in his own way. He wants to

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se the story for me and got whatever I needed,

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But emotionally I still felt alone.

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Speaker 1: I wanted more.

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Speaker 5: I wanted more.

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Speaker 4: Attention, more reassurance. And I think that's where things just

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started to shift when he finally came back around or

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I realized that I was holding on to resentment because

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I would have been there for him a little bit

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more differently.

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Speaker 5: You know.

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Speaker 4: Well, that resentment turned into more attention, more pushback between us,

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and eventually he sat me down and told me he

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couldn't be with me anymore. He said I was too

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disrespectful and ungrateful. This happened just a week before our

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one year anniversary. What makes this harder is that this

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breakup wasn't explosive. It was calm, even laid with me

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for about an hour and told me how perfect I was,

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but that I was just too much drama. Then he

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left and we haven't spoken since.

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Speaker 2: The hardest part.

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Speaker 4: Girl were neighbors, So moving on doesn't feel easy. So

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I guess my question is how do I truly let

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go and move forward when he's still so physically close.

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Thank you so much, and thank you for all that

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you do.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for writing me in darling. Okay, so there

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are so many layers, so many layers come in. Let

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me tell you this. Let's start off with first things first.

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First things first is that you said you were sick

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for three weeks and this man stayed away from you

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until the symptoms died down. That ain't your man. Let

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me tell you this. If my man, if I was

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sick for three weeks and my I had a man

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that I was sleeping and opening my legs too. Okay,

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I had a man out here that called that said

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that he was in a relationship with me, Guess who

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ain't staying away from you for three weeks. I don't

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care if you get sick or not, y'all have the

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low this is what love sister, y'all got the lowest

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standing in the or you know how she said that

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when he's whinning she recovered. That's when he started going

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to the store and getting her all the things that

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he needed. She needed, and he was thought from da

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la dah dah, please please. When Covid was here, one

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of the family was separated one house, the other one

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was up till one was down, and one had the

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mask going to please men out here risk getting Covid

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to be with they girl, what you mean he stayed

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away from you for three wee please cec CC. This

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is stuff. This is stuff right here. So it is

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I'm not surprised to hear that the relationship broke down

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because Babby was broke anyway, How on God's green earth

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that this man what was he doing texting you talk

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about some how are you feeling? And you saying he's

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a neighbor. We ain't got to that part, and you

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saying he's a neighbor. Sometimes he stayed away from you

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for three weeks, but then when you did went went

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Why did he stay away from you? Because he couldn't

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benefit from you because you were sick. Always watch how

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a man treats you when he has nothing to benefit

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from you. When you're sick. You're weak. When you're sick,

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you're contagious. When you're sick, he's the one pouring into you,

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and there's nothing that you really can do. When you're sick.

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You can't hump and pump on him. Okay, when you're sick,

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the badroom is normally closed. So watch how he treats

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you when he has nothing to benefit from You're down,

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you're not bubbly, you don't have a lot of personality, right,

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you have a low energy. You're not the one feeding

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the relationship. You're not catering to him, and he disappeared

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for three weeks. Always watch how a man treats you

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when you have Always watch how a man treats you

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when he has nothing to benefit from you. Okay, at

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this very moment, you were very sick. You said, for

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three weeks, I'm assuming you were very sick. Could have

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been a summa virus, could have been a flood, could

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have been oh okay, it could have been something. All right,

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three weeks you were down sick, and you said, this

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man started coming around after giving you food, bringing you food,

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asking how with you? No, ma'am, and this man lived

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next door, please please please, he lives next door. Always, ladies,

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always watch how a man treats you when he has

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nothing to gain from you. Okay, this isn't about intimacy.

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This isn't about how what you can do for him,

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how you treat him, how you pour into him, how

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you affirm him, how you boost his ego, how you

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take care of him. It's not about you being nurturing

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anything like that. At this point, you're sick, you're down

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and out and you have nothing. He has nothing to

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benefit from. And you try and tell me that this

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man didn't come see you for three weeks and y'all

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are neighbors. Please please no way, Jose, No way, Jose.

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Moving right along? Okay, moving right along. How do you

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fully move on when he's your neighbor? He was your

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neighbor and he went three weeks without you? You you

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you've got a good start, baby, You got the head start.

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You talking about something? How do I fully move on

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when he's your neighbor? When that, Lisa, take the complete

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il Okay, roll out your lease, all right, do whatever

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you have left on at least, and it's time to

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slide one or the other. He gonna move or you

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gonna move. Take the complete ill. Additionally, you gotta head

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start because you've been three weeks without them. Also, let's

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talk about him laying next to you for an hour

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talking about some of you perfect, but you perfect, but

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you too much drama. A man that's telling you that

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you too much drama is a man that is probably

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avoidant and really does not have the capacity or the

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desire to take on your problems. Okay, you're discontent. A

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lot of times a man will tell you that you

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00:25:58,400 --> 00:26:01,119
too much drama because they they don't actually want to

469
00:26:02,200 --> 00:26:06,240
level up and they don't actually want to do better. Okay,

470
00:26:06,960 --> 00:26:09,400
A lot of times a man will tell you that

471
00:26:09,519 --> 00:26:12,279
you're the drama and that you're too much drama and

472
00:26:12,279 --> 00:26:14,799
you're the problem. And he's try to arguing and fighting

473
00:26:15,000 --> 00:26:17,680
because he actually doesn't want to evolve and he doesn't

474
00:26:17,680 --> 00:26:21,799
want to step into a different level of maturity. So

475
00:26:21,880 --> 00:26:26,400
instead of actually learning how to tend to your needs,

476
00:26:26,680 --> 00:26:31,359
to stop being avoiding, to learn how to compromise, okay,

477
00:26:31,559 --> 00:26:34,720
to learn how to concede even when he know he

478
00:26:34,839 --> 00:26:37,240
may be right to learn how to let you have

479
00:26:37,359 --> 00:26:41,880
a lesson to learn how to politely, teach you how

480
00:26:43,640 --> 00:26:48,160
to exist in conflict. He'd rather tell you that he's

481
00:26:48,200 --> 00:26:53,160
too much. Baby, you dodge the bullet, especially with year

482
00:26:53,440 --> 00:26:56,720
with y'all one year anniversary coming up, please please it

483
00:26:56,799 --> 00:27:01,640
honestly gave low impact, low impact. He laid for you

484
00:27:01,680 --> 00:27:05,200
for for an hour. Let me tell you this. If

485
00:27:05,240 --> 00:27:07,839
this man tells you that you're perfect but you just

486
00:27:07,880 --> 00:27:10,559
not the one for him, please let that man leave

487
00:27:10,680 --> 00:27:13,680
and stand on corporation and show him just how perfect

488
00:27:13,680 --> 00:27:17,839
you are. Baby, level all the way up. If a

489
00:27:17,920 --> 00:27:21,160
man tells you that you know you're just so perfect

490
00:27:21,480 --> 00:27:24,799
and it's not you, it's me. You know you just

491
00:27:24,839 --> 00:27:28,079
a little too much drama for me. You're perfect, but

492
00:27:28,119 --> 00:27:35,160
you're too much drama. Show him that you're perfect. Show

493
00:27:35,240 --> 00:27:40,039
him that you're perfect. Stand on corporation. Do not respond

494
00:27:40,119 --> 00:27:42,799
to any text messages to any just checking on you,

495
00:27:42,839 --> 00:27:45,160
to any Hey, how you doing? To any Hey? I

496
00:27:45,200 --> 00:27:47,519
saw your mama in the store, I saw your mama

497
00:27:47,559 --> 00:27:50,680
at church to day tell your mama. I said, Hi, Hey,

498
00:27:50,759 --> 00:27:53,400
what was that restaurant that had the good Brussels sprouts

499
00:27:53,440 --> 00:27:59,240
and broccolini? That we went to on Valentine's Day. You

500
00:27:59,279 --> 00:28:02,720
stand on corporate and you don't respond and engage and

501
00:28:02,759 --> 00:28:05,200
interact with any of that, and you show him just

502
00:28:05,279 --> 00:28:12,039
how perfect you are. Okay, huh, session is over. Classes over, baby,

503
00:28:12,160 --> 00:28:15,680
Please please girl, Please, You ain't got much to get over.

504
00:28:15,680 --> 00:28:17,359
You've already been over a low you got already got

505
00:28:17,359 --> 00:28:20,200
over a low impact man. He was low impacts, didn't

506
00:28:20,240 --> 00:28:23,599
do nothing for you, didn't do anything for it. You're

507
00:28:23,599 --> 00:28:30,319
gonna be just fine. Please. Anyways, moving right along, moving

508
00:28:30,400 --> 00:28:35,240
right along. Our third Dear to See You is entitled

509
00:28:35,400 --> 00:28:39,240
Let's see, Let's see dear to see you? Are we

510
00:28:39,440 --> 00:28:44,519
dating or just pen pals? Hmm? If you're asking that,

511
00:28:44,599 --> 00:28:45,720
you're probably a pin pal.

512
00:28:45,839 --> 00:28:50,119
Speaker 3: Let's see dear to see You. I am thirty years old,

513
00:28:50,400 --> 00:28:54,039
and I've been talking to this guy and it's been

514
00:28:54,079 --> 00:28:57,680
going well. But for a while, the messages that would take,

515
00:28:57,960 --> 00:29:00,519
you know, like several hours or a day or two

516
00:29:00,880 --> 00:29:03,359
for each of us to respond because I think maybe

517
00:29:03,400 --> 00:29:06,519
we weren't one hundred percent interested or something. And then

518
00:29:06,920 --> 00:29:09,440
we finally went on a first date after like a

519
00:29:09,519 --> 00:29:13,200
month of sending messages. And then after the first date,

520
00:29:13,319 --> 00:29:16,640
I really enjoyed it, and so I was responding to

521
00:29:16,680 --> 00:29:19,680
his messages a little bit sooner than I previously had,

522
00:29:19,720 --> 00:29:24,759
but he maintained a similar like tempo of message responses

523
00:29:24,839 --> 00:29:27,559
taking like you know, like I would only get like

524
00:29:27,599 --> 00:29:30,000
one or two messages from him a day, or not

525
00:29:30,119 --> 00:29:32,039
even in a day, it might be like the next

526
00:29:32,119 --> 00:29:35,920
day or something. And then he wasn't asking me out

527
00:29:36,400 --> 00:29:39,680
and again, and so I wasn't sure, like is he

528
00:29:39,759 --> 00:29:42,359
not interested? And I just don't know, like how long

529
00:29:42,400 --> 00:29:44,960
do I let the texting go on because I don't

530
00:29:45,000 --> 00:29:46,920
want to feel like I'm just a penpal.

531
00:29:47,240 --> 00:29:49,519
Speaker 5: But then I don't necessarily want to ask him out

532
00:29:49,559 --> 00:29:51,720
on a second date. I mean, maybe I just should,

533
00:29:51,839 --> 00:29:55,279
But how long do you let someone like just keep

534
00:29:55,319 --> 00:29:58,240
texting you after a first date before you call it off?

535
00:29:59,440 --> 00:30:01,680
Speaker 1: Okay, Oh, this is with all the love I have

536
00:30:01,839 --> 00:30:03,720
in my heart, girl, if you don't pick your damn

537
00:30:03,759 --> 00:30:07,400
head up and get some self esteem, grow you vibrating solo?

538
00:30:07,880 --> 00:30:11,640
Please please, I am telling you if you don't, and

539
00:30:11,680 --> 00:30:14,160
I mean this with all the love in my heart,

540
00:30:14,519 --> 00:30:18,160
you're the type of woman that is so kidnappable. All

541
00:30:18,200 --> 00:30:21,480
it take is a man to show you halfway a

542
00:30:21,519 --> 00:30:25,960
little bit of attention, sweetheart, get into my secret girl's chack. Okay,

543
00:30:27,079 --> 00:30:32,880
get into my secret girl's chat because you need a

544
00:30:33,000 --> 00:30:36,880
boost of confidence and self esteem. You are very well

545
00:30:36,920 --> 00:30:40,319
a penpal, my love this. You picked up the tempo

546
00:30:40,480 --> 00:30:42,640
because you got eager because he took you out on

547
00:30:42,680 --> 00:30:45,240
the first day, and then you start picking up the tempo.

548
00:30:45,480 --> 00:30:55,440
And this nigga never picked up this man. She didn't

549
00:30:55,480 --> 00:30:59,920
sound like a sister. This man never picked up the ten,

550
00:31:00,400 --> 00:31:02,920
So why did you pick it up? You always let

551
00:31:02,920 --> 00:31:06,319
the man lead the tempo. Baby, you want what he on?

552
00:31:10,400 --> 00:31:14,519
If he going left, live left right, you go and left,

553
00:31:14,759 --> 00:31:21,079
live left right. If that man is going left right,

554
00:31:22,720 --> 00:31:29,720
left right, why you live live, live right? Why you

555
00:31:29,759 --> 00:31:37,000
want his tempo? I'm on whatever you want, please, no, ma'am, no, no, no, no.

556
00:31:37,880 --> 00:31:40,559
You went on one date and you were like, oh,

557
00:31:40,640 --> 00:31:48,839
I really enjoyed it. Crumbs, bread crumbs, and you even said,

558
00:31:49,519 --> 00:31:51,000
I mean, I don't know if I should just ask

559
00:31:51,079 --> 00:31:53,960
him out on the other on another date. Girl. Let

560
00:31:54,039 --> 00:31:58,000
me tell you this. I can take one unsubscriber. I

561
00:31:58,039 --> 00:32:00,680
can take one person to unsubscribe. At this point, if

562
00:32:00,720 --> 00:32:05,599
you ask that man on a date, unsubscribe, because I'm

563
00:32:05,640 --> 00:32:08,279
out here I'm out here doing the Lord's work for nothing.

564
00:32:11,440 --> 00:32:19,759
Please please don't write this man. How long should you

565
00:32:20,160 --> 00:32:22,920
As long as he takes and when he comes back around,

566
00:32:22,920 --> 00:32:29,400
you should be unavailable. Please, no way, no way, Jose,

567
00:32:31,039 --> 00:32:36,880
you are saying that this man has been a pimpal

568
00:32:37,240 --> 00:32:39,880
After all the messages, you finally went on the first

569
00:32:39,960 --> 00:32:41,960
date with him, and you enjoyed it so much. Did

570
00:32:42,000 --> 00:32:43,799
he enjoy it? Doesn't matter if you enjoyed it. Did

571
00:32:43,839 --> 00:32:46,119
he enjoy it? Not enough to text you back in

572
00:32:46,160 --> 00:32:50,079
the timely manner? Also texting as an adult, you said

573
00:32:50,079 --> 00:32:51,839
you were thirty years old. I have a very good memory.

574
00:32:51,880 --> 00:32:53,920
You said you were thirty years old. Baby. That man

575
00:32:54,000 --> 00:32:56,200
need to pick up the phone. You can't get to

576
00:32:56,240 --> 00:32:58,680
know somebody over text messaging. He needs to get picked

577
00:32:58,720 --> 00:33:03,599
up the phone. He's not in youry, he's not interested.

578
00:33:05,720 --> 00:33:08,599
Last week on our Zoom office hours again, come and

579
00:33:08,720 --> 00:33:11,599
joined so that you can get into my secret girls chat,

580
00:33:11,680 --> 00:33:13,599
so that you can get access to my zoom calls.

581
00:33:13,839 --> 00:33:17,000
Last week we had a zoom call with my good

582
00:33:17,039 --> 00:33:23,279
brethren Trey Tyrel eight on social media, and he said

583
00:33:23,359 --> 00:33:24,920
that if a man, and he said he was a

584
00:33:25,000 --> 00:33:33,279
reformed f boy six foot five educated handsome man said

585
00:33:33,279 --> 00:33:36,480
that he was a reformed D one athlete and f boy,

586
00:33:38,759 --> 00:33:41,079
and said that if a man is not calling you,

587
00:33:42,240 --> 00:33:44,799
if a man is not reaching out to you, he

588
00:33:44,839 --> 00:33:47,400
doesn't like you. He doesn't want you, he's not interested.

589
00:33:50,279 --> 00:33:54,720
Why did your tempo pick up? You text me? I'll

590
00:33:54,720 --> 00:33:58,200
text you. You don't text me. Maybe I will text,

591
00:33:58,200 --> 00:33:59,960
maybe I won't. It depends on how I feel. Ya,

592
00:34:00,039 --> 00:34:03,559
I gotta get some ego. Girl, you're vibrating too low speek.

593
00:34:03,599 --> 00:34:06,880
Are you accepting crumbs? Why are you that stimulated by

594
00:34:07,079 --> 00:34:10,760
such a low impact energy. He's done nothing, He's barely

595
00:34:10,800 --> 00:34:12,840
reaching out to you. He took you on one date.

596
00:34:16,360 --> 00:34:18,719
You better not ask this man out? Why are you

597
00:34:18,840 --> 00:34:23,760
so enthralled with him? Women? Please, I think we don't

598
00:34:23,960 --> 00:34:26,840
have to. I have to make space for this, this

599
00:34:27,320 --> 00:34:32,440
this rhetoric here, Okay, I really want to make space

600
00:34:32,840 --> 00:34:36,280
and take a pause to really talk about this. Ladies.

601
00:34:37,159 --> 00:34:41,920
Your mind is a portal, Okay. Your body is a portal.

602
00:34:43,360 --> 00:34:46,440
Your ears are the ones that we forget about. Your

603
00:34:46,519 --> 00:34:50,239
ears is a portal. When you let a man call

604
00:34:50,360 --> 00:34:53,159
you and talk to you and tell you all these

605
00:34:53,199 --> 00:34:56,440
sweet nothings and have conversations with you and talk to

606
00:34:56,480 --> 00:34:58,880
you day to day and fall asleep on the phone

607
00:34:58,880 --> 00:35:01,199
with him and call you you go to work and call.

608
00:35:01,440 --> 00:35:04,360
Your ears are a portal that go to your mind

609
00:35:04,480 --> 00:35:10,119
and to your hearts. Your ears are also a portal.

610
00:35:10,360 --> 00:35:14,480
So while it feels like it's just harmless, it's not.

611
00:35:15,159 --> 00:35:20,000
Get these niggas off your phone. The more you listen

612
00:35:20,320 --> 00:35:23,360
and the more you let them pour into your ears, okay,

613
00:35:24,519 --> 00:35:27,199
the more you become soft, the more you become you,

614
00:35:27,199 --> 00:35:30,119
you lose discernment because it just feels so good to

615
00:35:30,159 --> 00:35:34,599
hear about their day. And let make sure you are

616
00:35:35,079 --> 00:35:40,639
using tsa security okay, to the portals of the men

617
00:35:40,679 --> 00:35:45,320
that's outside that gate of listening of your ears, okay,

618
00:35:47,199 --> 00:35:52,639
matter of fact, make it global entry. Make sure scan

619
00:35:52,760 --> 00:35:56,800
them eyeballs, okay, read them fingerprints. Stop letting these men

620
00:35:57,000 --> 00:36:01,280
cross the portal threshold to your ears. What you listen

621
00:36:01,360 --> 00:36:05,679
to really really matters, and it includes men that you

622
00:36:05,840 --> 00:36:11,159
have in your ear. Get them off your phone. The

623
00:36:11,239 --> 00:36:15,079
portals of the ears go to the mind and the heart. Period.

624
00:36:16,760 --> 00:36:19,440
A man can talk you out of your pennies and

625
00:36:19,480 --> 00:36:25,519
your sanity. A man can talk you out of your

626
00:36:25,599 --> 00:36:28,840
pennies and your sanity. This is why you have to

627
00:36:28,920 --> 00:36:32,719
be You have to have more security. Okay, you gotta

628
00:36:32,800 --> 00:36:37,840
have a red rope around who is able to the

629
00:36:37,920 --> 00:36:39,639
reason why you're like, oh my god, I had such

630
00:36:39,639 --> 00:36:41,920
a great time on the first day. Maybe I'll should

631
00:36:41,920 --> 00:36:43,480
ask them for a second one. Because you let that

632
00:36:43,559 --> 00:36:48,079
man in your ear. And if you don't have tsa security,

633
00:36:48,119 --> 00:36:50,679
a global entry, or who you let in your ear,

634
00:36:51,159 --> 00:36:54,079
you will go and say, I'm telling you I've seen

635
00:36:54,079 --> 00:36:58,840
it with my own two eyes. Stop letting these negroes

636
00:36:58,880 --> 00:37:07,679
talk to you. Words are powerful, You vibrating low friend,

637
00:37:07,840 --> 00:37:10,320
and our meaningess with so much love. This is not

638
00:37:10,440 --> 00:37:12,840
to troll you, or to embarrass you or humiliate you.

639
00:37:13,079 --> 00:37:15,320
This is so that you can wake up. You need

640
00:37:15,360 --> 00:37:17,079
to get this man off of your phone, and you

641
00:37:17,119 --> 00:37:19,119
need to get into My Secret Girl Chat so that

642
00:37:19,159 --> 00:37:23,559
you can make sure that you I also got to

643
00:37:23,599 --> 00:37:27,280
e an ebook. It's called From Situationship to It Girl.

644
00:37:28,639 --> 00:37:31,440
If you download the book, it'll let you into four

645
00:37:31,559 --> 00:37:34,119
free weeks of My Secret Girls Shadow. Okay, it's called

646
00:37:34,119 --> 00:37:38,559
from Situationship to It Girl. Okay, it's gonna teach you

647
00:37:38,800 --> 00:37:43,159
how to completely level up in thirty days. From Situationship

648
00:37:43,199 --> 00:37:46,000
to It Girl, How to level up and change who

649
00:37:46,039 --> 00:37:48,400
you all tract in thirty days. That's a complete title

650
00:37:48,440 --> 00:37:52,199
of the book, baby, And when you buy the book, okay, Dre,

651
00:37:52,320 --> 00:37:54,079
maybe we can put the link in there. I'll put

652
00:37:54,119 --> 00:37:57,360
in a caption. When you buy the book, it's going

653
00:37:57,440 --> 00:38:01,039
to give you four three weeks access to me, okay,

654
00:38:01,719 --> 00:38:03,760
four three weeks to all of my zoom calls with

655
00:38:03,880 --> 00:38:08,239
special guests. Last week we had Trey Tyrrell. The week

656
00:38:08,280 --> 00:38:12,400
before that we had Braylen aka b Simone. Prior to

657
00:38:12,440 --> 00:38:14,719
that we had from Nate with Love. We have special

658
00:38:14,719 --> 00:38:18,360
guests on there every single week. All right, get your

659
00:38:18,480 --> 00:38:21,760
tael into the girl's chat. If you never if you

660
00:38:21,920 --> 00:38:24,840
never thought about it before, this is the time, all right.

661
00:38:24,960 --> 00:38:29,360
You you you you too far from from the cross, baby,

662
00:38:29,519 --> 00:38:33,159
You lost your way and it's okay, it's okay, but

663
00:38:33,199 --> 00:38:35,679
you're too eager for this man and my and my

664
00:38:35,800 --> 00:38:40,599
thing is gonna be what where's your compass and your baseline?

665
00:38:40,840 --> 00:38:43,320
I just talked about this. A lot of us are

666
00:38:43,400 --> 00:38:49,239
so emotionally fragile that all it takes is this and

667
00:38:49,280 --> 00:38:51,119
you go and fill off the floor. All it takes

668
00:38:51,159 --> 00:38:59,760
is a and you then fell out. Anyways, come on,

669
00:39:00,440 --> 00:39:03,599
I'm rooting for you. I'm rooting for you, all right,

670
00:39:04,079 --> 00:39:06,519
all right. Dear to see you, dear to see a

671
00:39:06,639 --> 00:39:09,360
voicemail number three? Where are you girl? Okay? Dear to

672
00:39:09,400 --> 00:39:15,960
see a Voicemail number three is entitled oh oh, here

673
00:39:16,000 --> 00:39:19,719
it is. Voicemail number three is entitled dear to see

674
00:39:19,760 --> 00:39:22,119
a Are we dating? Or just? Oh?

675
00:39:22,159 --> 00:39:22,280
Speaker 5: Am?

676
00:39:22,360 --> 00:39:23,280
Speaker 1: I a voice number three?

677
00:39:23,360 --> 00:39:23,480
Speaker 5: Or no?

678
00:39:23,519 --> 00:39:26,679
Speaker 1: I skip number two, I skip number two, Hold one,

679
00:39:30,199 --> 00:39:35,239
Oh I think I'm done. Okay, wait a minute. Voicemail

680
00:39:35,280 --> 00:39:37,679
number one was homegirl with the AX and the family.

681
00:39:37,960 --> 00:39:40,360
Voicemail number two was our good sister that lived next

682
00:39:40,400 --> 00:39:41,920
door to the AX and didn't come check on her

683
00:39:41,920 --> 00:39:45,199
for three weeks. And Voicemail number three, look out, look,

684
00:39:46,039 --> 00:39:49,760
I was gonna go. I had that gas in my tank.

685
00:39:50,159 --> 00:39:52,400
I was ready to go on to the look Voicemail three,

686
00:39:52,480 --> 00:39:55,039
four and five. Now y'all wrote me before and telling

687
00:39:55,039 --> 00:39:58,840
me y'all need more than three voicemails. Huh, I was babby.

688
00:39:59,039 --> 00:40:04,239
I was ready to go. Oh, I was trucking, trucking, trucking,

689
00:40:04,760 --> 00:40:09,920
all right, we are the voice notes. Huh, I must

690
00:40:09,960 --> 00:40:16,440
be charged up today because it's spring anyways. Anyways, look,

691
00:40:17,199 --> 00:40:20,760
I lost track of time because to see it was

692
00:40:20,800 --> 00:40:25,719
spilling the tea. Welcome to to see its tea time. Okay, listen, listen,

693
00:40:25,960 --> 00:40:30,480
I was, I was, I was TTG ready to go.

694
00:40:30,760 --> 00:40:35,679
Okay okay, now for our fragrance segment to see if

695
00:40:35,719 --> 00:40:41,079
you smell good? Okay, okay, okay, okay, okay. So today,

696
00:40:41,559 --> 00:40:48,519
my dear friends, we are talking about this is Rule

697
00:40:48,599 --> 00:40:51,920
Broke US League Premiere. Can y'all see pen y'all see,

698
00:40:52,400 --> 00:40:57,480
get into it, get into it. This is League Premiere

699
00:40:58,239 --> 00:41:02,840
by Rule Broker, Yeah, by Rue Broker. I ain't know

700
00:41:02,880 --> 00:41:04,920
if it was l Lead Premiere was the brand or

701
00:41:05,000 --> 00:41:08,119
was Rue Broker the brand? Okay, I think Rubroker is

702
00:41:08,159 --> 00:41:12,639
the brand and the scent is called League Premiere. I

703
00:41:12,679 --> 00:41:17,880
want to show y'all the top and how cute that is. Okay.

704
00:41:19,119 --> 00:41:22,719
Also to the to the girls that are watching on YouTube,

705
00:41:23,079 --> 00:41:26,559
if we having some lighting issues, look it's actually back

706
00:41:26,599 --> 00:41:28,920
now for like today is too bright? The first episode

707
00:41:28,960 --> 00:41:30,199
I filmed in the house, I felt like it was

708
00:41:30,280 --> 00:41:31,800
the light was too low. Now I feel like it's

709
00:41:31,800 --> 00:41:36,400
sue bright. Can we see can we see? Anyways? Okay,

710
00:41:36,639 --> 00:41:41,840
we have Ruebroker Leak's Premiere. League Premiere by Rue broker,

711
00:41:42,199 --> 00:41:45,280
and y'all can see this little top. It is so cute.

712
00:41:45,400 --> 00:41:48,360
I just think it's like kind of snazzy, you know.

713
00:41:48,599 --> 00:41:51,880
All right, let's talk about the notes. Let's talk about

714
00:41:51,880 --> 00:41:56,280
the notes. The notes are okay, So let's say, Rue Broker,

715
00:41:56,679 --> 00:42:04,119
let's say let's see h I love my life, y'all. Okay, So,

716
00:42:05,079 --> 00:42:11,960
League Premier is an amber floral unisex sent from uh

717
00:42:12,320 --> 00:42:16,440
u a E. That's like, yeah, u a y'all know

718
00:42:16,440 --> 00:42:20,719
what I'm talking about. It's widely recognized as an affordable

719
00:42:20,800 --> 00:42:30,480
alternative to the Mason Cravelli Hibiscus mahaja mahaja. Hibiscus mahaj.

720
00:42:30,800 --> 00:42:33,599
Y'all know what I'm talking about. That is the infamous

721
00:42:33,800 --> 00:42:37,239
fragrance that's going all around the arenet. Now this listen,

722
00:42:37,320 --> 00:42:42,360
pronunciation police will be blocked. Okay, but we all know

723
00:42:42,360 --> 00:42:45,880
the fragrance that we talked about by Mason Craveli. Okay,

724
00:42:46,159 --> 00:42:51,239
I think it's called Hibiscus mahaj. Anyways, this is supposed

725
00:42:51,239 --> 00:42:57,280
to be uh uh friendly, budget friendly version to it.

726
00:42:57,320 --> 00:42:59,679
I'm gonna tell you this baby was nothing but budget

727
00:42:59,679 --> 00:43:03,159
friendly about it. What was budget friendly about it?

728
00:43:03,440 --> 00:43:04,000
Speaker 5: Huh?

729
00:43:04,039 --> 00:43:08,039
Speaker 1: Well? Maybe I mean this was like two three hundred dollars. Hello, Hello,

730
00:43:08,239 --> 00:43:12,840
what's going on here? Okay? Anyways, it is characterized by

731
00:43:13,000 --> 00:43:17,960
prominent hibiscus and rose opening a heart of leather and vanilla. Y'all,

732
00:43:18,039 --> 00:43:23,599
I love leather and a unique peppermint, cinnamon and musk bass.

733
00:43:25,559 --> 00:43:29,199
I haven't heard peppermint and cinnamon in a fragrance in

734
00:43:29,280 --> 00:43:33,480
a very long time, if at all? Hmm? Okay. The

735
00:43:33,519 --> 00:43:38,599
top notes are hibiscus and rose. The hard notes are leather, casses,

736
00:43:38,920 --> 00:43:42,679
black currants. I actually love black currants, and vanilla. And

737
00:43:42,679 --> 00:43:47,960
then our bass notes are peppermint, cinnamon, and musk. It's

738
00:43:48,000 --> 00:43:53,559
in the amber floral oriental floral family, and it opens

739
00:43:53,719 --> 00:43:57,800
up with a vibrant, slightly tarred and tea like floral

740
00:43:57,840 --> 00:44:02,079
blast of hibiscus and rows, before suddenly into a warm,

741
00:44:02,239 --> 00:44:08,000
slightly animal animal lick leather and creamy vanilla core. The

742
00:44:08,079 --> 00:44:11,800
base adds a refreshing, cooling hint of mint mixed with

743
00:44:11,960 --> 00:44:14,840
warms hands. I am curious, I am curious. Let me

744
00:44:14,880 --> 00:44:18,320
put this down, baby, I am curious. I am curious.

745
00:44:18,440 --> 00:44:21,599
Let's see. Let's see if it if it, if it

746
00:44:21,679 --> 00:44:26,039
smells like it? Like it' red? Okay, let's see. Let

747
00:44:26,039 --> 00:44:27,719
me do a little Let me do a little some

748
00:44:27,920 --> 00:44:35,760
in the air first, can be mean, let's see, ah,

749
00:44:37,239 --> 00:44:41,199
will y'all kneels be blocking y'all spray m let me

750
00:44:41,239 --> 00:44:54,480
see something, let me see something. Ha. So I'm going

751
00:44:54,559 --> 00:44:59,039
to lunch right after this, y'all. F y, I I

752
00:44:59,079 --> 00:45:02,559
feel like sometimes so sidey. No, I'm deterring here, I'm

753
00:45:02,599 --> 00:45:06,519
deterring here, detouring here. Why can't I talk to that

754
00:45:06,599 --> 00:45:09,239
detoorn here? But I feel like a lot of times

755
00:45:09,519 --> 00:45:12,400
everything on the internet could just hold space, and I

756
00:45:12,440 --> 00:45:14,960
just feel like sometimes time relevance just matter. It's like

757
00:45:15,000 --> 00:45:16,599
I won't try to feel like y'all here with me

758
00:45:16,639 --> 00:45:19,199
and y'all living with me anyway. Today it's a Saturday,

759
00:45:19,599 --> 00:45:23,920
I am. It is two point fifteen pm that I'm

760
00:45:23,960 --> 00:45:27,639
filming right now, and we are. I'm going to lunch

761
00:45:27,679 --> 00:45:30,079
with a friend right after this, so I'm gonna spray

762
00:45:30,119 --> 00:45:32,920
she's also my fragrance friend. I'm going to spray it

763
00:45:33,199 --> 00:45:37,039
and see if she says something, okay, my friend Mouman. Y'all,

764
00:45:38,079 --> 00:45:40,840
y'all seen her on the podcast before. She's an incredible singer,

765
00:45:40,880 --> 00:45:47,239
she's an artist, she's a voice over artist. She's very stylish.

766
00:45:47,599 --> 00:45:54,880
She's a woman of God. Okay, you huh. So I

767
00:45:54,960 --> 00:45:58,920
smell the peppermint, which I'm shook it. Smell the peppermint.

768
00:46:00,440 --> 00:46:20,440
I don't know about cinnamon now. Hmm. Okay, this is

769
00:46:20,440 --> 00:46:27,039
my last pray. Oh. I said that I was gonna. Oh, okay, okay, okay,

770
00:46:27,039 --> 00:46:35,679
I gotta I gotta upgrade an update. You know, this

771
00:46:35,760 --> 00:46:42,519
could be this could give a cough serp mentholly sent

772
00:46:43,320 --> 00:47:01,719
but it's not. Huh Okay, okay, I'm okay with this.

773
00:47:02,360 --> 00:47:06,519
I like the hibiscuits, I like the rose. I want

774
00:47:06,559 --> 00:47:09,480
to wear it a little more. But I remember from

775
00:47:09,559 --> 00:47:11,639
last week, y'all remember this, when I told y'all that

776
00:47:11,719 --> 00:47:14,480
I was going to try to give a update on

777
00:47:14,559 --> 00:47:19,679
the last fragrance that I wore. I didn't forget. I

778
00:47:19,760 --> 00:47:23,719
believe now. If I'm wrong on the fragrance, don't, don't

779
00:47:23,719 --> 00:47:29,119
crucify me. I believe last week was Gritty's Duceesa in

780
00:47:29,159 --> 00:47:32,519
the velvet. Let me let me just get it said,

781
00:47:32,880 --> 00:47:34,559
hold on, this is my shit. I could do this,

782
00:47:34,679 --> 00:47:40,840
hold on cause it wasn't far. Okay, So last week

783
00:47:41,119 --> 00:47:45,519
was gritty Duceesa. Okay, last week was du gritty Duchessa,

784
00:47:45,559 --> 00:47:48,519
which I'm holding right now. It's very velvety and just

785
00:47:48,559 --> 00:47:50,079
has a lot of weight on it. I told y'all

786
00:47:50,159 --> 00:47:53,719
that last week, are right gritty Duchessa. I wore it out.

787
00:47:53,800 --> 00:47:57,199
We went to Eddie Vee's for a happy hour. The

788
00:47:57,239 --> 00:48:02,599
girl said I smelled divine. So I'm gonna report back

789
00:48:02,719 --> 00:48:09,280
on Rude Broker. Rube Broker's League premiere next week because

790
00:48:09,280 --> 00:48:11,920
I'm going somewhere today and let's see if the girls

791
00:48:11,920 --> 00:48:17,800
say something. Okay, deal, deal, Anyways, it's wearing on me.

792
00:48:17,880 --> 00:48:20,119
It's wearing on me. Let me see what the people say. Okay,

793
00:48:20,159 --> 00:48:22,480
we'll see what the people say. Okay, We're once to

794
00:48:22,559 --> 00:48:27,239
our Red Flag report. Onto our red Flag report, y'all.

795
00:48:27,239 --> 00:48:31,039
My heart almost dropped because I had to check to

796
00:48:31,039 --> 00:48:34,960
see if the camera was on. I hope this mic

797
00:48:35,079 --> 00:48:39,280
is on. I My heart just dropped because I, you know,

798
00:48:39,320 --> 00:48:41,360
the ADHD and me I knew I had clicked that

799
00:48:41,400 --> 00:48:46,440
camera on. But the light is red, so hopefully all

800
00:48:46,519 --> 00:48:52,039
is well. Hopefully all is well. Okay, now, red Flag Report,

801
00:48:52,880 --> 00:48:59,840
our standards high are am I dyslexic? Dyslexic? This is

802
00:49:00,239 --> 00:49:02,880
actually not upon you know, I think we're all trying

803
00:49:02,880 --> 00:49:04,920
to start to figure out that some people are a

804
00:49:04,920 --> 00:49:10,159
little bit ner divergence aka on the spectrum and autistic. Baby.

805
00:49:10,199 --> 00:49:11,920
The way that I be skipping over words and reading

806
00:49:11,920 --> 00:49:16,360
stuff backwards needs to be studied. Okay, red flag report?

807
00:49:16,559 --> 00:49:20,199
Are high standards a problem or are people just triggered?

808
00:49:21,639 --> 00:49:25,760
A new debate is going viral after an article from

809
00:49:25,920 --> 00:49:31,639
Essence highlighted backlash towards Young Miami and her dating preferences.

810
00:49:32,960 --> 00:49:35,639
During a recent interview, she shared that she wants a

811
00:49:35,679 --> 00:49:39,199
man who is a provider god Field, fearing someone who

812
00:49:39,280 --> 00:49:43,639
leads in, someone who at least and someone with at

813
00:49:43,719 --> 00:49:49,000
least one hundred million. That's when the Internet reacted heavily

814
00:49:49,119 --> 00:49:53,320
when many people criticizing her standards as unrealistic or out

815
00:49:53,360 --> 00:49:56,679
of touch. Young Miami responded by questioning why people were

816
00:49:56,679 --> 00:49:59,880
so upset about what she wants for her own life.

817
00:50:00,039 --> 00:50:03,159
And that's where the red flag conversation begins, because this

818
00:50:03,400 --> 00:50:07,119
isn't just about money. It's about how people respond when someone,

819
00:50:07,239 --> 00:50:10,559
especially a woman, says a high standard, Hello, he lives.

820
00:50:11,000 --> 00:50:13,800
We live in a culture where women are told to

821
00:50:13,880 --> 00:50:18,960
raise their standards when they accept less, but when they

822
00:50:19,039 --> 00:50:21,960
do raise them, they're told they're asking for too much.

823
00:50:22,360 --> 00:50:25,400
So the question is if someone's dating a If someone's

824
00:50:25,480 --> 00:50:28,679
dating standards triggers a strong reaction from others, is the

825
00:50:28,760 --> 00:50:32,000
red flag the standard itself or is it a sign

826
00:50:32,079 --> 00:50:34,840
that people are uncomfortable with someone asking for what they

827
00:50:34,880 --> 00:50:38,199
truly want. And on the flip side, when standards are

828
00:50:38,280 --> 00:50:41,960
rooted heavily in money and status, is that empowerment or

829
00:50:42,000 --> 00:50:45,440
could that be dependency in disguise? Let me say this,

830
00:50:47,519 --> 00:50:51,480
you can't talk giraffe to a turtle. You can't talk

831
00:50:51,559 --> 00:50:54,360
giraft to a turtle. Anybody that have an issue with

832
00:50:54,440 --> 00:50:56,480
Young Miami talking about something she want a man with

833
00:50:56,519 --> 00:51:00,159
one hundred meal for a woman that's also a high earner.

834
00:51:01,559 --> 00:51:04,440
You see, this is actually good because the people that

835
00:51:04,519 --> 00:51:08,119
have a problem with it, y'all just move out the way.

836
00:51:08,599 --> 00:51:12,760
Little bank, move out the way, little bank. Let big

837
00:51:12,800 --> 00:51:15,519
bank take a little bank, move out the way. You

838
00:51:15,559 --> 00:51:17,119
ain't got it, You ain't got a big dog, No

839
00:51:17,719 --> 00:51:20,760
no reason to be mad. You ain't got it. You

840
00:51:20,800 --> 00:51:24,440
ain't got it. How y'all asking them? How y'all mad

841
00:51:24,480 --> 00:51:28,400
at a woman with money that want a man with money?

842
00:51:28,599 --> 00:51:35,119
Maybe she got a hundred meal? Also, why is it

843
00:51:35,239 --> 00:51:38,960
that we keep forgetting that. Men that have one hundred

844
00:51:38,960 --> 00:51:41,960
meal are men that are disciplined. Our men that are

845
00:51:42,000 --> 00:51:44,760
successful are men that know an ROI are men that

846
00:51:44,880 --> 00:51:46,840
know how to invest. Our men that know how to

847
00:51:46,880 --> 00:51:49,119
flip something. Our men that know how to turn. Baby,

848
00:51:49,960 --> 00:51:55,599
make a dollar out of fifteen cent? What you're mad for?

849
00:51:57,159 --> 00:51:59,599
And also if you ain't got it, if you ain't

850
00:51:59,639 --> 00:52:03,800
in your no, no, no reason to puff your chest out. Baby,

851
00:52:04,039 --> 00:52:09,519
You can't talk draft to a turtle. If I want

852
00:52:09,519 --> 00:52:12,079
a man that's making six figures and you ain't got it,

853
00:52:12,639 --> 00:52:17,039
no problem. But why are you mad at me? I

854
00:52:17,159 --> 00:52:21,360
never understood that. I'm never It's always the ones that

855
00:52:21,480 --> 00:52:24,639
don't have that's mad at the ones that's asking. Okay,

856
00:52:25,239 --> 00:52:27,239
do you know how many men that I've met that

857
00:52:27,360 --> 00:52:30,199
said that they don't like women that wear long nails,

858
00:52:30,639 --> 00:52:33,239
They don't like women that wear makeup and that wear

859
00:52:33,320 --> 00:52:37,280
wigs and weaves, they don't like women that are kurby

860
00:52:37,440 --> 00:52:40,119
like me. They don't I've met. I've met a lot

861
00:52:40,119 --> 00:52:43,719
of men that say a lot of things. Baby, Why

862
00:52:43,719 --> 00:52:46,559
would I be mad at you for what you want?

863
00:52:47,360 --> 00:52:48,239
Speaker 5: Say less?

864
00:52:49,519 --> 00:52:56,280
Speaker 1: I'm somebody's favorite, babe, I'm somebody's complete type. A man

865
00:52:56,440 --> 00:53:02,400
just told me that the other day. Okay, if he

866
00:53:02,440 --> 00:53:04,159
had to write out his type, it would say to

867
00:53:04,199 --> 00:53:10,960
see a sierra of a race. I fo why I'm

868
00:53:11,000 --> 00:53:14,440
mad at you? If she want a man that make

869
00:53:14,480 --> 00:53:18,360
a hundred meal, that got a hundred meal? What you

870
00:53:18,519 --> 00:53:22,800
mad for? Go make some money, baby, little bank?

871
00:53:23,480 --> 00:53:24,239
Speaker 3: Why y'all mad?

872
00:53:24,639 --> 00:53:28,519
Speaker 1: Never understood it? Never understood it. Now the question was,

873
00:53:31,559 --> 00:53:34,679
is that more an issue of her standard? I don't

874
00:53:34,679 --> 00:53:37,239
think that that's an issue of her standard. Is that

875
00:53:37,320 --> 00:53:40,000
the issue of the standard or the people? It's absolutely

876
00:53:40,039 --> 00:53:46,800
the people, because a woman that has it should absolutely

877
00:53:46,800 --> 00:53:50,519
require that somebody else has it. And I'm gonna tell

878
00:53:50,519 --> 00:53:53,280
you this, and y'all can say what y'all want. The women,

879
00:53:53,800 --> 00:53:55,559
I gotta watch my mouth cause y'all be putting these

880
00:53:55,559 --> 00:53:57,960
clips about me online and then I go viral and

881
00:53:57,960 --> 00:54:01,920
then it be a whole thing. Okay, However, this my shit,

882
00:54:02,320 --> 00:54:07,199
I can say what I want, right. The women that

883
00:54:07,360 --> 00:54:12,119
don't require the men to have what they have. Oh,

884
00:54:12,280 --> 00:54:14,000
this is gonna sound so bad. I don't know if

885
00:54:14,000 --> 00:54:18,039
I should say this. Okay, the women that don't require

886
00:54:18,880 --> 00:54:22,079
for men to have the money that they have. You

887
00:54:22,159 --> 00:54:30,159
oftentimes see these men and very servant like positions. You

888
00:54:30,239 --> 00:54:34,000
see them being house husbands, you see them doing a

889
00:54:34,039 --> 00:54:37,079
lot of the cooking, you see them taking care of

890
00:54:37,079 --> 00:54:42,480
them kids. You see them being in a very servants

891
00:54:42,639 --> 00:54:46,159
kind of role. No'w before y'all get y'all pennies in

892
00:54:46,239 --> 00:54:51,639
a bunch. I absolutely believe a man should serve his woman.

893
00:54:51,960 --> 00:54:55,480
I absolutely believe a man should be submissive to his woman.

894
00:54:55,719 --> 00:55:00,119
I absolutely believe a man should cook and clean. Okay,

895
00:55:00,599 --> 00:55:05,239
I absolutely believe it. But it is a big thing

896
00:55:05,679 --> 00:55:08,800
when a man is not a high earner and he's

897
00:55:08,960 --> 00:55:12,519
not the same kind of earner that the woman is.

898
00:55:12,639 --> 00:55:16,119
Particularly when a woman is a very high earner and

899
00:55:16,239 --> 00:55:19,280
she dates a man that is not a high earner,

900
00:55:19,719 --> 00:55:23,960
you oftentimes find that these men make up for it

901
00:55:24,159 --> 00:55:29,079
in just being super sweet, playing date nights, being thoughtful,

902
00:55:29,199 --> 00:55:32,840
running a bath, you know, taking care of the kids,

903
00:55:32,960 --> 00:55:37,559
cooking for them, all those kind of things, because they

904
00:55:37,599 --> 00:55:43,559
gotta make up the difference. I said what I said,

905
00:55:44,280 --> 00:55:46,920
I know what I know, and that's all I know. Okay,

906
00:55:47,440 --> 00:55:51,639
that really be it. A lot of women that are

907
00:55:51,840 --> 00:55:55,280
high earners, which I actually get it, because they don't

908
00:55:55,400 --> 00:56:00,000
need the They don't need the money, so they want

909
00:56:00,280 --> 00:56:05,400
to be loved properly. And there's this myth that if

910
00:56:05,440 --> 00:56:10,400
a man is a high earner, he's going to lack

911
00:56:10,440 --> 00:56:13,079
the capacity to want to love you. And I'm here

912
00:56:13,119 --> 00:56:15,000
to tell you that you can get both. So here's

913
00:56:15,039 --> 00:56:19,480
the thing. Women that earn higher and they don't require

914
00:56:19,599 --> 00:56:23,039
that a man be also a high earner. These men

915
00:56:23,239 --> 00:56:29,639
end up slipping into servants, submissive submissive positions to make

916
00:56:29,760 --> 00:56:32,519
up the difference in the income. And then the women

917
00:56:32,880 --> 00:56:35,800
don't really mind because they're making the money and they

918
00:56:35,800 --> 00:56:39,400
would rather be They would rather be treated properly than

919
00:56:39,440 --> 00:56:41,800
go date a man that has the money that's gonna

920
00:56:41,800 --> 00:56:43,719
treat them poorly. And I'm here to tell you that

921
00:56:44,039 --> 00:56:47,360
I've getting both. I've gotten both, and both is out there.

922
00:56:48,320 --> 00:56:50,000
You can get a man that is a high earner

923
00:56:50,119 --> 00:56:51,639
and it's gonna treat you well. And I don't care

924
00:56:51,679 --> 00:56:57,519
what nobody say. It's true. I've lived it. I've lived it.

925
00:56:57,920 --> 00:57:00,280
I've only dated men that are higher earner and they

926
00:57:00,480 --> 00:57:03,519
all treated me well. I wasn't getting dogged out, I

927
00:57:03,679 --> 00:57:10,199
wasn't getting smacked around. Talk too crazy, please, So that

928
00:57:10,360 --> 00:57:12,039
is just a myth, and I get it like you

929
00:57:12,119 --> 00:57:15,360
got these rappers and athletes and celebrities and stuff like

930
00:57:15,400 --> 00:57:17,760
that that's in the media for having all these moneys

931
00:57:17,760 --> 00:57:21,840
and being dog dogging these girls out. But I'm gonna

932
00:57:21,840 --> 00:57:25,159
tell you this, I've dated very wealthy men that I

933
00:57:25,239 --> 00:57:31,119
was the apple of their eye, complete adoration, loving, patient, kind, compromising, giving,

934
00:57:31,239 --> 00:57:36,199
generous empathy, sympathy, okay, please treating me very well and

935
00:57:36,239 --> 00:57:38,679
we're high earners. I don't know where y'all got that from,

936
00:57:38,760 --> 00:57:40,400
but take your time and you can get both. And

937
00:57:40,400 --> 00:57:43,239
that's all I'm gonna say on that. All right, all right,

938
00:57:43,360 --> 00:57:47,840
let the church say amen, baby got it. Anyways, y'all,

939
00:57:48,280 --> 00:57:50,760
that was it for today. I'm on my way to lunch,

940
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lunch and brunch my friend probably in the lobby way

941
00:57:53,440 --> 00:57:56,519
on me. Anyways, y'all, this was so good. Thank y'all

942
00:57:56,519 --> 00:57:58,880
for joining another episode of Dear to See It. Don't

943
00:57:58,920 --> 00:58:01,880
forget to hit that notification, but then don't forget to

944
00:58:02,400 --> 00:58:04,679
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945
00:58:04,719 --> 00:58:07,480
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946
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you are and I'll see you next time. By now,