WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.520 --> 00:00:01.320 It's nice eyes. 2 00:00:01.600 --> 00:00:06.919 Dan Ray for the Untellings, Boston's News Radio. 3 00:00:07.679 --> 00:00:13.759 All right, we are talking about your family Thanksgiving dinner. Now, 4 00:00:13.759 --> 00:00:18.879 I'm hoping that all of you have some group of 5 00:00:18.920 --> 00:00:22.640 people that you will spend part of Thanksgiving with, And 6 00:00:22.679 --> 00:00:26.640 in most cases it's going to be family members. Sometimes 7 00:00:26.640 --> 00:00:29.480 they're family members who you're not especially close to, but 8 00:00:29.519 --> 00:00:34.399 they're family members. Involves cousins and involves in laws, and 9 00:00:34.439 --> 00:00:37.640 you may see them just a handful of times a year. 10 00:00:38.159 --> 00:00:42.359 But I gotta tell you, it's an important day. And 11 00:00:42.399 --> 00:00:45.600 of course it gets complicated because people have strong feelings 12 00:00:45.600 --> 00:00:48.600 about the election that has just passed. It's not as 13 00:00:48.679 --> 00:00:50.640 bad as I thought it was going to be. It 14 00:00:50.679 --> 00:00:54.039 really wasn't. I mean, I was afraid that we would 15 00:00:54.039 --> 00:00:58.000 have a really close election with electoral votes would be 16 00:00:58.600 --> 00:01:01.759 you know, two seven three to I don't know two 17 00:01:01.880 --> 00:01:04.439 sixty five or whatever that would be. And I was thinking, 18 00:01:04.439 --> 00:01:09.760 oh my god, can you imagine. But it wasn't that close. Uh, 19 00:01:09.920 --> 00:01:12.680 And it doesn't matter at this point. I think everybody 20 00:01:12.879 --> 00:01:17.040 has well they haven't accepted, but they certainly understand that 21 00:01:17.079 --> 00:01:20.239 there's nothing much that can be done to challenge the 22 00:01:20.280 --> 00:01:24.280 results of a decisive election. So my question is how 23 00:01:24.319 --> 00:01:26.560 are you going to handle it? I you know, in 24 00:01:26.719 --> 00:01:30.519 years past people have said, well, you just don't talk politics. 25 00:01:30.599 --> 00:01:34.280 Don't talk politics the elephant in the room. You know, 26 00:01:34.439 --> 00:01:36.159 what are you going to talk about the red Sox? 27 00:01:36.799 --> 00:01:39.840 I mean, I guess you could, but that's not going 28 00:01:39.920 --> 00:01:44.599 to be particularly uplifting. Talk about the patriots, I don't 29 00:01:44.599 --> 00:01:47.040 think so. I mean, talk about Drake May and say 30 00:01:47.120 --> 00:01:49.599 hey we've got a quarterback of the future, but emphasis 31 00:01:49.719 --> 00:01:52.200 is on future. Talk about the Bruins. How they doing? 32 00:01:53.200 --> 00:01:55.519 You talk about the celfic. Sure, but you know what 33 00:01:55.560 --> 00:01:58.040 I'm saying is that it will come up. It will 34 00:01:58.079 --> 00:02:00.480 come up. How are you going to handle it? I'm 35 00:02:00.519 --> 00:02:05.120 suggesting you handle it politely and you say either you say, gee, 36 00:02:05.159 --> 00:02:07.079 I got to be honest with you. I prefer not 37 00:02:07.159 --> 00:02:09.840 to say who I voted for, which is your right, 38 00:02:09.919 --> 00:02:12.879 you're progative. Or you could say I voted for Harris 39 00:02:12.960 --> 00:02:14.400 or I voted for Trump. Who have you voted for? 40 00:02:14.439 --> 00:02:18.120 I voted for the libertaire whomever, And people need to 41 00:02:18.159 --> 00:02:21.800 respect you for that. What whether you vote a Democrat 42 00:02:21.879 --> 00:02:25.800 or Republican. The people in the room might disagree with you, 43 00:02:26.280 --> 00:02:29.240 but they have to respect you, and I think this 44 00:02:29.280 --> 00:02:32.360 would be really a place to get that conversation started. 45 00:02:32.439 --> 00:02:35.560 Now we'll continue, let's keep going here. I'm going to 46 00:02:35.599 --> 00:02:40.280 go to Florence, Florence. How will you celebrate Thanksgiving? And 47 00:02:40.319 --> 00:02:42.639 what do you think do you think politics will come up? 48 00:02:43.759 --> 00:02:53.360 Well, first of all, all, yeah, we don't talk politics 49 00:02:54.000 --> 00:02:54.479 at all. 50 00:02:54.919 --> 00:02:56.960 Okay, Well that's one way to approach it. 51 00:02:57.159 --> 00:03:03.479 Yeah, we talk about a myth of all different things, okay, 52 00:03:04.719 --> 00:03:07.319 and we never talk politics. 53 00:03:07.759 --> 00:03:12.560 Well, then you're lucky. How big a gathering does your 54 00:03:12.599 --> 00:03:13.599 family generally have? 55 00:03:15.360 --> 00:03:16.439 Ten to fourteen? 56 00:03:17.159 --> 00:03:22.000 Ten to fourteen, that's pretty regular normal size. Are these 57 00:03:22.439 --> 00:03:25.319 Are you the host this year? Or does it rotate 58 00:03:25.439 --> 00:03:26.199 or what? 59 00:03:26.639 --> 00:03:26.759 No? 60 00:03:26.919 --> 00:03:27.520 My son? 61 00:03:28.599 --> 00:03:29.000 Oh good? 62 00:03:29.080 --> 00:03:34.879 Okay, all right, And I just wanted to say I 63 00:03:34.919 --> 00:03:40.879 think a lot of people out there are ridiculous to 64 00:03:41.039 --> 00:03:47.479 let their political feelings interfere with their relationship. 65 00:03:48.199 --> 00:03:53.960 Yeah, these are biological relationships. You can pick your friends, 66 00:03:53.960 --> 00:03:55.759 but you can't pick your relatives. 67 00:03:55.319 --> 00:04:02.400 Right, And I seem to be hearing that over the years, 68 00:04:03.240 --> 00:04:08.719 you know, especially this year, it gets you know, from 69 00:04:09.240 --> 00:04:10.439 other people. 70 00:04:10.560 --> 00:04:13.960 In general, and I think I think it could it 71 00:04:14.000 --> 00:04:17.399 could have been worse this year, for in my opinion. 72 00:04:17.600 --> 00:04:24.439 A total catastrophe, but it didn't quite get that far. 73 00:04:25.600 --> 00:04:26.759 Yeah, which is great. 74 00:04:28.199 --> 00:04:36.839 Yeah yeah, but yeah, so I may think it's boring, 75 00:04:38.240 --> 00:04:43.600 but it isn't. It's good to stay away from politics. 76 00:04:44.079 --> 00:04:48.839 My father told me years ago when I was a teenager, 77 00:04:49.720 --> 00:04:54.160 that we don't talk politics or religion. And I'm not 78 00:04:54.279 --> 00:04:56.199 sure you've you've heard that. 79 00:04:56.519 --> 00:04:59.040 Oh, I think I think everyone has heard that. And 80 00:04:59.079 --> 00:05:02.079 I think the the religion is even worse than the politics, 81 00:05:02.160 --> 00:05:05.439 because you're you're you're diving deep into somebody's you know, 82 00:05:06.040 --> 00:05:09.199 belief system and their soul, and uh, you know, at 83 00:05:09.279 --> 00:05:12.439 least politics people can share. People change politics all the time. 84 00:05:12.480 --> 00:05:14.439 You know, someone will say, well, I voted for Biden, 85 00:05:14.480 --> 00:05:16.439 but now I'm going to above for Trump, or or 86 00:05:16.519 --> 00:05:18.240 I voted for Trump the first time, but I'm not 87 00:05:18.319 --> 00:05:21.199 voting for the second time. People change politics all the time. 88 00:05:21.560 --> 00:05:25.120 Very rarely do people change religions. I mean, I think 89 00:05:25.160 --> 00:05:27.959 that religions sort of get instilled in you when you 90 00:05:27.959 --> 00:05:31.680 were in young People might become atheists or agnostics and 91 00:05:31.720 --> 00:05:35.680 realize they don't have a religious belief. But very rarely 92 00:05:35.720 --> 00:05:37.600 do you all of a sudden find out that someone 93 00:05:37.680 --> 00:05:40.920 went from being this to that so I think it's 94 00:05:40.920 --> 00:05:43.319 a good I think it's a solid plan that you 95 00:05:43.600 --> 00:05:46.079 and your family have. But you know, if it does 96 00:05:46.120 --> 00:05:48.879 come up, hey, whoever you voted for it, I'm never 97 00:05:48.920 --> 00:05:50.759 going to ask you. I could care less. You're my 98 00:05:50.839 --> 00:05:53.720 friend either way, and I think that you should treat 99 00:05:53.839 --> 00:05:57.120 your other family members as well. Thanks. Thanks so much, Florence. 100 00:05:57.199 --> 00:05:58.959 We'll talk soon. Thanks. If I don't talk to you, 101 00:05:59.000 --> 00:06:00.480 haven't that great Thanksgiving? Okay? 102 00:06:00.839 --> 00:06:02.519 You just saying thank you? 103 00:06:02.639 --> 00:06:04.839 I will thank you. I will. All right, We'll take 104 00:06:04.879 --> 00:06:07.639 a quick break here six one seven one line six 105 00:06:07.720 --> 00:06:10.319 one seven, two five, four, ten thirty coming right back 106 00:06:10.360 --> 00:06:11.160 on Nightside. 107 00:06:12.160 --> 00:06:15.160 Now, back to Dan ray Line from the Window World 108 00:06:15.279 --> 00:06:19.720 Nightside Studios on w b Z the news radio. 109 00:06:19.800 --> 00:06:22.319 Back we go. Let's go to Suzanne. Suzanne, you were 110 00:06:22.399 --> 00:06:23.720 up late tonight. What's going on? 111 00:06:23.800 --> 00:06:24.199 So say? 112 00:06:24.240 --> 00:06:28.120 I love l Dan, Thanks for taking like all. I 113 00:06:28.160 --> 00:06:32.240 have much to be thankful for this ice skiving. I 114 00:06:32.399 --> 00:06:36.680 will have here in my apartment, a car, the light 115 00:06:36.959 --> 00:06:42.800 nun and my friend Meredith Sylvaine who is singing turkey 116 00:06:42.879 --> 00:06:49.360 pot pies. I have all good fowers and it's fit 117 00:06:49.680 --> 00:06:54.199 Ray so will be lovely if it does that, and 118 00:06:54.920 --> 00:06:57.279 we will Paula takes off the menu. 119 00:06:57.399 --> 00:07:00.759 Susanne, that's what we're talking about. Love. I'm delighted. 120 00:07:00.920 --> 00:07:07.959 How I hear a certain age, but either rire sad 121 00:07:08.040 --> 00:07:10.959 the catboy be able to get out off the dead 122 00:07:11.040 --> 00:07:12.160 without breaking your help. 123 00:07:13.000 --> 00:07:15.240 Well that's good news too, Susanne. Thanks very much for 124 00:07:15.279 --> 00:07:18.000 the call. As always, I appreciate all the information. Thank 125 00:07:18.040 --> 00:07:21.040 you very much. Let me come next to Eileen and 126 00:07:21.120 --> 00:07:22.639 how I Leen? How are you? 127 00:07:23.879 --> 00:07:33.240 Oh? Well, I'm fine and I am just uh. I 128 00:07:33.319 --> 00:07:39.879 wanted to say that, Well, the last few years, I 129 00:07:40.079 --> 00:07:43.079 have a son who I've gone to the to what's 130 00:07:43.120 --> 00:07:50.279 called the National Day of Mourning down in Plymouth, and uh, 131 00:07:50.879 --> 00:08:00.399 that's because of the dispute over the pilgrim's treatment of 132 00:08:00.519 --> 00:08:05.639 Native Americans. Yes, and last yeah, last year I went 133 00:08:06.000 --> 00:08:17.279 with my son and the whole demonstration involved Palestinian protesters. 134 00:08:17.680 --> 00:08:21.800 What was that about? Is that was that the problems 135 00:08:21.839 --> 00:08:22.639 in Israel? 136 00:08:23.759 --> 00:08:25.600 I guess absolutely? 137 00:08:25.639 --> 00:08:30.360 All right, Well, this year I'm just glad that I'm 138 00:08:30.360 --> 00:08:35.600 not going to be alone on Thanksgiving and. 139 00:08:35.360 --> 00:08:39.200 I'm going to try something to be thankful for. Obviously 140 00:08:39.240 --> 00:08:42.279 there will be people, sadly who will be alone. There'll 141 00:08:42.320 --> 00:08:45.960 be there are people who have serious mental health issues 142 00:08:46.000 --> 00:08:50.559 who by by choice, decide to live outside, you know, 143 00:08:50.840 --> 00:08:53.679 every day of the year, and they may be alone 144 00:08:53.720 --> 00:08:57.120 as well. But I was encouraging people that if you 145 00:08:57.200 --> 00:09:01.240 had a neighbor who was alone, incorporate them into what 146 00:09:01.279 --> 00:09:03.360 you're doing, even if you just invite them over to 147 00:09:03.399 --> 00:09:06.799 have a drink or come over and and have have 148 00:09:06.919 --> 00:09:10.399 the meal, you know, the Thanksgiving meal that's that would be. 149 00:09:10.480 --> 00:09:13.080 And you know whether and who cares what their politics are, 150 00:09:13.159 --> 00:09:15.320 who cares what their religion is. They're a human being 151 00:09:15.399 --> 00:09:18.440 and they're an American. They should not be alone. 152 00:09:18.519 --> 00:09:27.399 So right, well, I'm I'm very grateful that. Well, my 153 00:09:27.519 --> 00:09:30.000 son is in school, so he's got a lot of 154 00:09:30.000 --> 00:09:34.080 homework to do, and I haven't heard anything from him 155 00:09:34.159 --> 00:09:37.039 about Thanksgiving or either. 156 00:09:36.840 --> 00:09:37.159 Of my. 157 00:09:38.840 --> 00:09:40.279 None of my three sons. 158 00:09:41.720 --> 00:09:44.200 Well, I'm sure that they they're going to get around 159 00:09:44.240 --> 00:09:47.720 to it. It's still still got nine days, I lean, 160 00:09:48.600 --> 00:09:50.519 I'm sure you'll have a good time. 161 00:09:51.600 --> 00:09:54.240 Yeah, and most of all, it's going to try to 162 00:09:54.320 --> 00:09:55.720 keep my big mouth shut. 163 00:09:58.159 --> 00:10:00.879 All right, All right, that's not bad advice either, But 164 00:10:00.960 --> 00:10:04.080 don't hesitate to tell people what you think if if 165 00:10:04.159 --> 00:10:06.799 you're so inclined. I'm not telling people what to do. 166 00:10:06.840 --> 00:10:09.960 I'm just saying, don't be don't be ashamed. And you 167 00:10:10.000 --> 00:10:11.960 don't have to say who you voted for. And you 168 00:10:11.960 --> 00:10:13.840 you you can. You can choose to say who you 169 00:10:13.960 --> 00:10:16.919 voted for. It's your choice, it's your prerogative. We still 170 00:10:16.960 --> 00:10:18.919 live in a free country. Don't let anyone take that 171 00:10:19.000 --> 00:10:22.159 away from you. And don't be right. Don't don't let 172 00:10:22.240 --> 00:10:24.960 anybody try to embarrass you or put you on the spot. 173 00:10:25.120 --> 00:10:31.639 Simple as that. Stand your ground exactly. Yeah, good night, 174 00:10:31.799 --> 00:10:33.360 you for calling. Good night. Let me go to war 175 00:10:33.440 --> 00:10:35.679 and Warren you're next time. Next, I go ahead, Warren. 176 00:10:36.240 --> 00:10:40.360 Hey, Dan As you know, like I'm in media just 177 00:10:40.440 --> 00:10:43.000 like me, just like you're just different. You know where 178 00:10:43.000 --> 00:10:45.799 I ran my music pages and all stuff like that. Sure, 179 00:10:45.919 --> 00:10:50.080 I've lost I've lost, you know, friends on both sides 180 00:10:50.120 --> 00:10:53.879 of the aisle, you know, from being you know, from 181 00:10:53.919 --> 00:10:58.000 being really extremists, you know, and like you know these people, 182 00:10:58.159 --> 00:11:02.360 and I think it all comes down to you, you know, 183 00:11:02.600 --> 00:11:04.960 like if you're going to be pompous and you're going 184 00:11:05.039 --> 00:11:08.200 to be like you know, stick your finger at them 185 00:11:08.240 --> 00:11:11.399 and wave your finger and it'say, oh yeah, my guy one, 186 00:11:11.519 --> 00:11:16.840 and all stuff like that. You know, yeah, then maybe 187 00:11:17.000 --> 00:11:21.480 you know, you know, maybe don't go to Thanksgiving dinner 188 00:11:21.639 --> 00:11:25.759 if you're going to do that, you know, because that's antagonizing. 189 00:11:25.879 --> 00:11:30.720 If you know, people antagonized. I mean maybe just you know, 190 00:11:32.360 --> 00:11:37.519 don't be you know, and antagonistic during the meal. Yeah, 191 00:11:37.559 --> 00:11:39.399 you can get me. I don't. I think I think 192 00:11:39.600 --> 00:11:43.600 politics is inevitable, you know, I think you know, you 193 00:11:43.679 --> 00:11:46.519 talk about the economy and how expensive things are, and 194 00:11:46.759 --> 00:11:51.759 you know you talk about education, I mean, politics, encumfadences, 195 00:11:53.080 --> 00:11:58.159 so so many things. And yeah, they really can't avoid 196 00:11:58.200 --> 00:11:58.879 it at the table. 197 00:11:59.759 --> 00:12:03.120 Yeah, but at the same time, everybody could could could 198 00:12:03.200 --> 00:12:09.039 keep calm. Uh, they don't have a decent conversation, and 199 00:12:09.039 --> 00:12:12.559 and whether no one should laud it over and the 200 00:12:12.600 --> 00:12:15.320 Trump people should not be lauding high we want the 201 00:12:15.679 --> 00:12:19.399 Harris people should be uh, you know, confident enough to say, hey, 202 00:12:19.440 --> 00:12:22.200 we we didn't win, but we had we thought we 203 00:12:22.240 --> 00:12:25.039 had the better candidate or what if you can you can. 204 00:12:24.960 --> 00:12:28.600 Handle it in a you can handle it, you can 205 00:12:28.639 --> 00:12:34.600 handle it respectfully with with calm. Debates can agree with 206 00:12:34.639 --> 00:12:37.799 you more could agree And I mean like like like 207 00:12:38.399 --> 00:12:41.879 my gathering is going to be like ten people and 208 00:12:42.200 --> 00:12:45.360 four of them are are liberals, and six of us 209 00:12:45.399 --> 00:12:50.360 are conservatives. So I'm just afraid that my brother in 210 00:12:50.440 --> 00:12:53.919 law is going to be like one of those boisterous people. 211 00:12:54.000 --> 00:12:55.960 And you know, say you got to you know, making 212 00:12:56.000 --> 00:12:58.720 the other, you know, making the four liberals feel bad. 213 00:12:59.519 --> 00:13:02.080 You know, you take them, take them ahead of time 214 00:13:02.080 --> 00:13:04.639 and just say, hey, look, you know, the only thing 215 00:13:04.720 --> 00:13:08.480 worse than a sore loser is a is a sore 216 00:13:08.559 --> 00:13:09.600 winner or a bad. 217 00:13:09.399 --> 00:13:12.679 Winner exactly exactly fixed and uh. 218 00:13:12.440 --> 00:13:14.879 And and feel you know, put yourself in their position. 219 00:13:14.960 --> 00:13:18.240 How would you feel if if you're your person get lost. 220 00:13:18.279 --> 00:13:21.080 That's all have a little a little empathy and we'll 221 00:13:21.120 --> 00:13:23.919 all get through the day. But I think again, the idea, 222 00:13:24.480 --> 00:13:26.360 you know, if you walk into home, well there's gonna 223 00:13:26.360 --> 00:13:29.120 be no politics here. You know, we're gonna we're. 224 00:13:28.960 --> 00:13:31.559 Gonna dig out again. I think, I think, I think 225 00:13:31.600 --> 00:13:34.399 you can't avoid it because it because it didn't involved 226 00:13:34.799 --> 00:13:38.279 pretty much everything everything that that we have to deal 227 00:13:38.360 --> 00:13:42.279 with in life. So it's like, that's why that's why 228 00:13:42.799 --> 00:13:44.639 elections are important. You know. 229 00:13:45.120 --> 00:13:48.639 Sounds good one. I'm with you. I appreciate it, Thank 230 00:13:48.679 --> 00:13:49.000 you much. 231 00:13:49.159 --> 00:13:51.519 Talk soon, okay, okay, I'll talk Happy. 232 00:13:51.279 --> 00:13:53.279 Thanksgiving If I don't talk to you. I'm sure I will, 233 00:13:53.320 --> 00:13:58.000 but yeah, thank let's keep rolling. He're gonna get at 234 00:13:58.120 --> 00:13:59.919 least one more in before the break. Gonna go to 235 00:14:00.000 --> 00:14:02.639 Alan Saugus l welcome next time. I say, I'll go right. 236 00:14:02.600 --> 00:14:07.039 Ahead, Dan. I agree with that gentleman, that politics is 237 00:14:07.080 --> 00:14:10.279 really pervasive at our whole society. It deals with how 238 00:14:10.480 --> 00:14:12.960 how society runs there and it is hard, but I 239 00:14:13.000 --> 00:14:16.840 am I've been told no politics, and I'll abide by that. 240 00:14:17.200 --> 00:14:24.480 But it's hard when the media has called one side Hitler, racist, rapist, misogynist. 241 00:14:24.960 --> 00:14:27.600 It's hard to come back from that where they just 242 00:14:28.120 --> 00:14:31.440 they just dumped on Trump so much. You know that 243 00:14:31.720 --> 00:14:34.840 some of these people that are against him find it 244 00:14:34.879 --> 00:14:39.000 hard to accept us that supported Trump. You know, it 245 00:14:39.120 --> 00:14:42.320 seems to be way one sided. We might not have 246 00:14:42.440 --> 00:14:45.559 liked Harris, thought she was vapid, an empty suit or something, 247 00:14:45.600 --> 00:14:48.039 but then it went on to you know, some of 248 00:14:48.080 --> 00:14:51.159 this stuff was crazy how they threw it at Trump. 249 00:14:51.360 --> 00:14:54.360 But anyways, I have a brother that we've fought a 250 00:14:54.399 --> 00:14:57.159 lot about politics back and forth, and I just saw 251 00:14:57.240 --> 00:14:59.159 him today and I have no trouble when I see 252 00:14:59.200 --> 00:15:01.600 him in person. When you're in a car, you could 253 00:15:01.639 --> 00:15:03.600 give the finger and yell at someone, but you wouldn't 254 00:15:03.639 --> 00:15:07.200 do that face to face. And when you're texting, you know, 255 00:15:07.440 --> 00:15:10.559 it's so distant in a way, but it's not what 256 00:15:10.600 --> 00:15:12.799 you would do in person. And I think the thing 257 00:15:12.840 --> 00:15:15.200 you should talk about at Thanksgiving is the memories of 258 00:15:15.200 --> 00:15:18.399 your loved ones, all the fun and child. Yeah, you 259 00:15:18.399 --> 00:15:20.679 don't get to choose your friends, so but these are 260 00:15:20.720 --> 00:15:22.720 the people who have the most memories in those first 261 00:15:22.799 --> 00:15:25.519 twelve to fourteen years of your life, the formative years, 262 00:15:25.759 --> 00:15:29.039 and that's what's fun to reminisce about about the people 263 00:15:29.039 --> 00:15:32.200 who passed on how funny things happened. I think that's 264 00:15:32.240 --> 00:15:34.799 the thing we did one day at a little impromptu 265 00:15:35.240 --> 00:15:37.399 birthday party for a little five year old one day, 266 00:15:37.679 --> 00:15:39.639 and we were all there telling stories that we didn't 267 00:15:39.639 --> 00:15:42.360 know about things that we did, different things that happened 268 00:15:42.360 --> 00:15:44.639 in our lives, and you know, trying out for a 269 00:15:44.720 --> 00:15:48.519 hockey team and fallen down and different funny stories just 270 00:15:48.720 --> 00:15:51.840 organically that And you don't have to talk about you. 271 00:15:51.840 --> 00:15:54.120 You're not going to talk about your mortgage, you know, 272 00:15:54.159 --> 00:15:56.080 so while you're not going to talk about God, you 273 00:15:56.679 --> 00:16:00.080 have your own beliefs that you've over your adult years, 274 00:16:00.120 --> 00:16:03.919 you have managed and made your decisions. But you know, 275 00:16:04.039 --> 00:16:06.559 I sometimes come on as a town cryer, trying to 276 00:16:06.600 --> 00:16:08.480 show them, don't you see this, don't you see that? 277 00:16:08.799 --> 00:16:11.960 And it doesn't work because they're adults, and they'll they'll 278 00:16:12.000 --> 00:16:15.000 take from the table of the media and establishment that 279 00:16:15.120 --> 00:16:18.440 they want. And if they decide to accept the lies 280 00:16:18.559 --> 00:16:21.120 that I think are lies about someone, that I just 281 00:16:21.120 --> 00:16:23.480 feel bad. I almost feel bad, like you know that 282 00:16:23.639 --> 00:16:27.200 you know where TDS is right, Trump Trump's arrangement syndrome. 283 00:16:27.320 --> 00:16:29.000 I actually feel a little bad for some of these 284 00:16:29.000 --> 00:16:31.240 people that they can't look at it with a sober 285 00:16:31.320 --> 00:16:35.639 mind and realize they've been they've been hoodwinked a little bit, 286 00:16:35.720 --> 00:16:37.159 you know, and bought into it too much. 287 00:16:37.200 --> 00:16:39.039 So I have to just tell, you know, maybe they'll 288 00:16:39.039 --> 00:16:39.480 come around. 289 00:16:39.840 --> 00:16:43.960 I just you know, just approach it with the attitude 290 00:16:44.000 --> 00:16:48.120 of hey, it's yeah, how many more thanksgivings do you 291 00:16:48.200 --> 00:16:50.720 have with those people? I mean, I don't know how 292 00:16:51.360 --> 00:16:54.960 old or young the group is, but you know, a 293 00:16:55.039 --> 00:16:57.399 year from now, it could be that the same group 294 00:16:57.440 --> 00:17:01.279 doesn't gather. So I mean, just enjoy it, you know, 295 00:17:02.039 --> 00:17:05.519 and enjoy it for the day it is. And I 296 00:17:05.559 --> 00:17:09.799 don't think you have to bear your soul, and I 297 00:17:10.160 --> 00:17:13.400 certainly you know, you know, you can talk about how 298 00:17:13.400 --> 00:17:17.079 it turned out, and you can talk about, hey, there's 299 00:17:17.119 --> 00:17:20.000 some positives. I mean, four years ago we were still 300 00:17:20.079 --> 00:17:24.119 battling over the votes and all that. Thank goodness that 301 00:17:24.559 --> 00:17:27.559 is that's not happening this time. So we had an 302 00:17:27.599 --> 00:17:33.759 election which was more decisive. You know, they the people 303 00:17:33.839 --> 00:17:36.720 who you agree with, you know, don't rub it in 304 00:17:36.720 --> 00:17:41.440 people's faces. And the people who disagree with you, you know, 305 00:17:41.720 --> 00:17:44.319 they should not be looking down at you that somehow 306 00:17:44.319 --> 00:17:50.200 they're smarter because they didn't vote for Trump. That's quick thing. 307 00:17:50.279 --> 00:17:53.119 Yeah, the most precious thing we have is time. Like 308 00:17:53.160 --> 00:17:55.480 you said, who's going to be here next year? And 309 00:17:55.519 --> 00:17:57.720 that's why I think talking about the past is fun. 310 00:17:57.759 --> 00:18:00.599 It's a reminiscent time and you can folks us on that, 311 00:18:00.759 --> 00:18:03.039 like about her, Remember they did this, when we did that, 312 00:18:03.160 --> 00:18:05.240 and that has nothing to do with you know, the 313 00:18:05.279 --> 00:18:06.960 here and now survival of you. 314 00:18:06.960 --> 00:18:08.680 You know, I mean, if you want to do that, 315 00:18:08.759 --> 00:18:11.519 if everyone wants to do that, that's fine. Look remember 316 00:18:11.680 --> 00:18:15.799 at some point they'll be talking about you. Remember Alf 317 00:18:15.839 --> 00:18:19.079 from Saugust, Oh, he used to make just make phone 318 00:18:19.079 --> 00:18:24.160 calls to those crazy talk shows. I mean, all right, 319 00:18:24.279 --> 00:18:27.519 well go to Dan right back at You're gonna talk 320 00:18:27.559 --> 00:18:30.359 to you soon, all right. You got a couple of 321 00:18:30.480 --> 00:18:33.440 open lines one at six one, seven, two four, ten thirty, 322 00:18:33.480 --> 00:18:35.599 and I got a couple at six one, seven, nine three, 323 00:18:35.839 --> 00:18:38.880 ten thirty. What I'm trying to do is basically give 324 00:18:38.960 --> 00:18:43.960 you a strategy how to deal with whatever you're going 325 00:18:44.039 --> 00:18:46.240 to deal with on Thanksgiving. Don't let it ruin the day. 326 00:18:46.400 --> 00:18:48.640 I mean, the last thing you want is somebody to 327 00:18:48.720 --> 00:18:52.880 throw a scene at a Thanksgiving dinner and either criticize, 328 00:18:52.920 --> 00:18:57.799 attack with such vituperation that it becomes uncomfortable. And one 329 00:18:57.839 --> 00:18:59.680 of the ways you can defend against that is laugh 330 00:18:59.720 --> 00:19:03.920 at people. Laugh at them. Say the election's over. Okay, 331 00:19:04.119 --> 00:19:08.680 you know, we can talk about, you know, what mistakes 332 00:19:08.680 --> 00:19:12.880 were made, but it's over. It's like the World Series 333 00:19:12.960 --> 00:19:15.559 is over. The Dodgers beat the Yankees. You could be 334 00:19:15.599 --> 00:19:17.960 the biggest Yankee fan in the world. You can't change 335 00:19:18.440 --> 00:19:21.240 the results of the twenty twenty four World Series. The 336 00:19:21.319 --> 00:19:24.640 other side can't change the results. Again, you know, don't 337 00:19:24.720 --> 00:19:28.359 rub it in their face, don't don't allow people to 338 00:19:28.400 --> 00:19:37.720 dictate to you, or conversely, you know, the Harris supporters. 339 00:19:38.319 --> 00:19:43.200 You know, she ran under difficult circumstances. I think take 340 00:19:43.279 --> 00:19:46.960 some consolation in that, and that there's always next year 341 00:19:47.279 --> 00:19:50.440 in sports, and there's always four years down the line. 342 00:19:50.519 --> 00:19:53.839 And Donald Trump made it hard on himself by doing 343 00:19:53.880 --> 00:19:56.079 some of the crazy stuff he did in January twenty 344 00:19:56.079 --> 00:19:59.640 twenty one. And I still think it's amazing that we 345 00:19:59.720 --> 00:20:04.960 have a historical event in America that did not happen 346 00:20:05.000 --> 00:20:08.039 in the twentieth century. One time before it happened that 347 00:20:08.119 --> 00:20:11.640 a president was elected to a second term non consecutively, 348 00:20:12.440 --> 00:20:21.000 and Grover Cleveland was the president that had that happened. 349 00:20:21.240 --> 00:20:24.039 That's the only other time. I mean, it's a long time. 350 00:20:24.079 --> 00:20:27.960 We've been a country, quote a quarter of a millennium, 351 00:20:28.279 --> 00:20:30.720 two hundred and fifty years. This is only the second 352 00:20:30.720 --> 00:20:36.200 time you witnessed it. Whether you're just repelled by it 353 00:20:39.079 --> 00:20:42.240 or or you delight in it, we all experienced a 354 00:20:42.319 --> 00:20:48.240 historical event. Let's hope. Let's hope that we can look 355 00:20:48.279 --> 00:20:50.960 back a year from now and say, hey, no, he 356 00:20:51.000 --> 00:20:53.680 did some good things, he did some goofy things, but 357 00:20:53.880 --> 00:21:00.640 he's going to be president unless something extraordinary intervenes. Beginning 358 00:21:00.640 --> 00:21:05.759 on January twentieth, so having said that, I would like 359 00:21:05.839 --> 00:21:09.960 to continue to talk about this until midnight. And because 360 00:21:10.920 --> 00:21:14.119 maybe if you want to talk about any other subject, 361 00:21:14.240 --> 00:21:16.720 if you want to throw a subject the idea at me, 362 00:21:16.839 --> 00:21:19.759 I'll give you a incorporate, will incorporate a little open 363 00:21:19.799 --> 00:21:25.839 lines here. I'm trying to basically help you get through Thanksgiving. 364 00:21:26.440 --> 00:21:29.440 I'm not a psychiatrist, but I'm a better psychiatrist, in 365 00:21:29.519 --> 00:21:33.519 my opinion than the psychiatrist that we had quoted who 366 00:21:33.559 --> 00:21:37.920 was on MSNBC, who essentially took the position takes the 367 00:21:38.000 --> 00:21:45.559 position that somehow, some way she's superior to people. Let's 368 00:21:45.599 --> 00:21:48.000 let's play one one bite out here so people know 369 00:21:48.079 --> 00:21:50.559 what kicked what got me going on this? This is 370 00:21:50.640 --> 00:21:53.359 this has cut eight C rob eight C. 371 00:21:54.920 --> 00:21:58.160 And I actually talked to you know, adults as well 372 00:21:58.200 --> 00:22:02.720 as parents for children. I mean, I think, you know, 373 00:22:02.960 --> 00:22:05.039 I don't think that you should force children. I don't 374 00:22:05.039 --> 00:22:07.319 think you should have forced adults to be around people 375 00:22:07.400 --> 00:22:09.559 just because they're your family. I think there is a 376 00:22:09.640 --> 00:22:13.519 level you know, need to establish boundaries. And if you 377 00:22:13.640 --> 00:22:16.680 feel like you need to establish boundaries with people, whether 378 00:22:16.680 --> 00:22:19.440 they're your family or not, I think you should very 379 00:22:19.480 --> 00:22:21.400 much be entitled to do so, and I think it 380 00:22:21.400 --> 00:22:23.640 may be essential for your mental health. 381 00:22:24.839 --> 00:22:28.000 This is a psychiatrist from Yale who obviously is upset 382 00:22:28.039 --> 00:22:32.319 with the result of the election on MSNBC talking to 383 00:22:32.400 --> 00:22:36.720 Joy Reid that that's what they're teaching at Yale. Right there, 384 00:22:37.240 --> 00:22:40.079 no wonder, we're in trouble as a country. Back on nights, 385 00:22:40.119 --> 00:22:41.960 I get some open lines. Give us a call back. 386 00:22:42.119 --> 00:22:48.039 Right after this, you're on Night Side with Dan Ray 387 00:22:48.440 --> 00:22:51.079 on WBZ, Boston's news radio. 388 00:22:52.519 --> 00:22:55.720 Let's go to lauro In. Lynn Laurel, welcome back. How 389 00:22:55.759 --> 00:22:56.160 are you sir? 390 00:22:57.160 --> 00:23:00.839 Oh yes, sir, long time no here. Thank you for 391 00:23:00.960 --> 00:23:05.039 loving me join your show. I wish happiness for all 392 00:23:05.079 --> 00:23:09.079 of your listeners, Glenn and Brighton and Aliston and Maine 393 00:23:09.240 --> 00:23:12.799 to the name a few. Thank you so much for 394 00:23:13.119 --> 00:23:19.240 allowing me to join you on this conversation. So excuse 395 00:23:19.279 --> 00:23:23.960 me if I get a little emotional this year Thanksgiving. 396 00:23:24.160 --> 00:23:27.000 If you all you and your listeners and keep me 397 00:23:27.240 --> 00:23:30.559 and your thoughts and prayers, because I just lost my 398 00:23:30.640 --> 00:23:36.319 mom forty nine years old, had her for forty nine years. 399 00:23:37.720 --> 00:23:41.160 Two years ago. She got diagnosed. Last year, she got 400 00:23:41.160 --> 00:23:45.880 diagnosed with dementia. We saw symptoms like years a couple 401 00:23:45.920 --> 00:23:48.599