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<v Speaker 1>Hey, hey, hey, I'm back with something for you to

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<v Speaker 1>think about.

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<v Speaker 2>I've kind of talked about this topic before a while back,

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<v Speaker 2>but people still are not learning from their lessons. They're

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<v Speaker 2>not learning from the lessons of others. You can learn

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<v Speaker 2>from the experiences of others as well, but a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of people just because of unhealed hearts and minds. People

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<v Speaker 2>want what they want, despite the risk, despite it's not

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<v Speaker 2>good for them, despite they already know half of the

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<v Speaker 2>time the outcome, despite many negative things.

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<v Speaker 1>People want what they want, and I think that is sad.

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<v Speaker 2>When you know someone is not good for you and

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<v Speaker 2>you still want that person, something is wrong with you.

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<v Speaker 2>Many people in this world create relationships in their heads.

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<v Speaker 2>That's awful. You saw a person and you were attracted.

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<v Speaker 2>They didn't show you any indication they wanted to be

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<v Speaker 2>with you, but you want to be with them, and

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<v Speaker 2>you pursue them. They continually show you they're not interested,

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<v Speaker 2>but you still pursue them. Now you form a relationship

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<v Speaker 2>with that person in your head.

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<v Speaker 1>Some of you.

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<v Speaker 2>Fall for individuals you follow on social media. You don't

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<v Speaker 2>know them people, but you're forming this deep sense of

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<v Speaker 2>what you perceive as love for this person. You don't

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<v Speaker 2>even know the person, and some of you become stalkers

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<v Speaker 2>because you allow your mind to go there. Some of

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<v Speaker 2>you have these crazy obsessions with your bosses. You have

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<v Speaker 2>allowed your thoughts to take control, and now you cannot

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<v Speaker 2>stop thinking about being with your boss, or maybe a

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<v Speaker 2>coworker or your professor, or someone you know is already

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<v Speaker 2>in a relationship. I mean, the scenarios can go on

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<v Speaker 2>and on. The bottom line is what I'm talking about

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<v Speaker 2>is people creating relationships in their heads. Some of you

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<v Speaker 2>have people who you've known for years, you consider your friend,

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<v Speaker 2>and you have this secret obsession with them. You want

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<v Speaker 2>that person so bad you've created relationship in your head.

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<v Speaker 2>Some of you do foolish things because you feel like

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<v Speaker 2>that person is yours. Well, first of all, a person

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<v Speaker 2>don't belong to no one else an individual. Just because

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<v Speaker 2>you're in a relationship or you're married or whatever, that

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<v Speaker 2>person don't belong to you.

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<v Speaker 1>So some of you think, well, I want him or her,

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<v Speaker 1>so their mind that is inmature.

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<v Speaker 2>That is the mindset of a person who has unresolved issues.

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<v Speaker 2>Many people you're angry, you're mad at other people because

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<v Speaker 2>you think they're moving in on your person. Whom you

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<v Speaker 2>think is your territory, and you're upset with that individual

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<v Speaker 2>because you think they want who you want. So you're

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<v Speaker 2>doing foolish things. You're trying to sabotage things. It's ignorance

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<v Speaker 2>and it's clear indication that you have unresolved issues.

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<v Speaker 1>Some people have gone to the point of trying to

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<v Speaker 1>hurt or harm others.

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<v Speaker 2>Or even the individual him or herself, because again, you've

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<v Speaker 2>created in your head that that person is supposed to

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<v Speaker 2>be with you.

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<v Speaker 1>That's why I tell people, and I've.

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<v Speaker 2>Said it for years and years, it's a beautiful thing

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<v Speaker 2>to be in love. Beautiful, but don't be in what

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<v Speaker 2>you proposed to be love.

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<v Speaker 1>All by yourself.

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<v Speaker 2>And sadly a lot of people are in this situation.

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<v Speaker 2>You're in love all by yourself. It's bad enough. Most

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<v Speaker 2>relationships in this world. Yeah, I stand on that most

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<v Speaker 2>relationships in this world are one sided because people settle,

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<v Speaker 2>so most relationships are already one sided. But it's even

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<v Speaker 2>worse when an individual think there is a relationship when

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<v Speaker 2>there's never been conversation about a relationship, there's never been

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<v Speaker 2>any type of behaviors from the individuals you want to

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<v Speaker 2>be with, indicating that you're in a relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>But many people have.

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<v Speaker 2>Created the relationship in the head and you cannot them

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<v Speaker 2>out of it.

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<v Speaker 1>They believe they're in a relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>Another piece of this puzzle is there are individuals who

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<v Speaker 2>know that they are playing with the emotions of the

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<v Speaker 2>other person when no one else is around. I'm not

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<v Speaker 2>talking about that. That's a different story. People do it.

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<v Speaker 2>They'll play with the emotions of the person when no

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<v Speaker 2>one else is around to see, giving the person the

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<v Speaker 2>mindset to believe they're in a relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>That's wrong.

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<v Speaker 2>But I'm not talking about that situation. I'm talking about

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<v Speaker 2>individuals who create relationships in their heads, and I mean

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<v Speaker 2>you cannot tell them any difference. When you create a

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<v Speaker 2>relationship that's none existence, all you do is cause problems

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<v Speaker 2>in your life. You cause yourself unnecessary, self inflicted pain.

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<v Speaker 1>Because you want this person.

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<v Speaker 2>And then you give power to those thoughts of that

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<v Speaker 2>individual until you're overcome by emotions and feelings, and.

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<v Speaker 1>Then you act out. Some of you become angry with

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<v Speaker 1>long time friends.

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<v Speaker 2>Because you think they want who you want and they don't,

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<v Speaker 2>but they cannot tell you they don't because you just

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<v Speaker 2>believe it in your head and just causing yourself stress,

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<v Speaker 2>causing yourself un necessary pain and suffering. Some of you

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<v Speaker 2>listening to me right now, you may not believe this happens,

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<v Speaker 2>but I promise you it happens. Some people are so

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<v Speaker 2>far gone that you just can't tell them. They don't

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<v Speaker 2>want to listen because they have created that relationship in

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<v Speaker 2>their head. They want that person so badly. Something is

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<v Speaker 2>wrong internally. Yet this is the life for a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of people. When you're in a relationship, it takes two

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<v Speaker 2>you and the other person, not a figment of your imagination,

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<v Speaker 2>not your imaginary you know, made up.

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<v Speaker 1>Beliefs.

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<v Speaker 2>It takes two actual people both agreeing on the relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>But a lot of times people just go with what

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<v Speaker 2>they want. That is why so many people in this

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<v Speaker 2>world are in unhealthy and unhappy relationships.

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<v Speaker 1>Because one person just go with what they want.

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<v Speaker 2>You're not looking at the true essence of the relationship

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<v Speaker 2>as a whole. You're just looking at what you want.

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<v Speaker 2>You're just going by with how you feel when it's

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<v Speaker 2>not even real and truly, it is why so many

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<v Speaker 2>people are in unhealthy relationships. One side of relationships because

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<v Speaker 2>one person wanted so badly they'll do any and everything

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<v Speaker 2>to be in that relationship with that individual, accepting and

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<v Speaker 2>allowing things that they shouldn't. That's why it's important to

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<v Speaker 2>know and love your self.

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<v Speaker 1>You must.

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<v Speaker 2>Love yourself to not care enough to not care if

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<v Speaker 2>a person don't want to be with you, or if

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<v Speaker 2>you're not receiving what you deserve from someone else, love

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<v Speaker 2>yourself enough to not care and move on. Because people

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<v Speaker 2>treat you how you have taught them to treat you.

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<v Speaker 1>They treat you how you have allowed them to treat you,

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<v Speaker 1>and you have to look at yourself.

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<v Speaker 3>Many of you get very angry, very angry at the

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<v Speaker 3>situation when you should be angry with yourself because you.

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<v Speaker 1>Are moving on unhealed feelings, unhealed issues, which is causing

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<v Speaker 1>those feelings and emotions. Your mindset is not healthy because

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<v Speaker 1>you're not healthy.

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<v Speaker 2>I've said many times also that our mindsets, how.

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<v Speaker 1>We think, is formed out of.

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<v Speaker 2>Experiences, and people gravitate towards the negativity, and that negativity

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<v Speaker 2>forms the mindsets that we have. If you hold on

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<v Speaker 2>to the negativity, it's going to affect your life. It's

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<v Speaker 2>going to affect your beliefs, it's gonna to affect how

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<v Speaker 2>you think and how you feel and how you act.

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<v Speaker 2>It's going to cause insecurities in your life. It's going

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<v Speaker 2>to cause you to believe things that are not true.

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<v Speaker 2>It's going to cause you, you know, to have ill

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<v Speaker 2>feelings about yourself. It's going to cause self doubting and

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<v Speaker 2>self love. You're not gonna have those things. You're gonna

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<v Speaker 2>lack those things because you're unhealed. You have those unhealed

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<v Speaker 2>issues inside of you, that unresolved that affects your relationships

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<v Speaker 2>and your friendships.

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<v Speaker 1>Many people in the world are this way, and that

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<v Speaker 1>is the very reason and why people create these relationships.

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<v Speaker 1>They're yearning for love.

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<v Speaker 2>Despite the fact that you've created in your head. You

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<v Speaker 2>just want desperately what you want. You want it so desperately,

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<v Speaker 2>even though it's you wanting it, not the other person.

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<v Speaker 1>The other person does not want it.

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<v Speaker 2>And most times sometimes sometimes people don't even know that

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<v Speaker 2>you're feeling the way you're feeling.

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<v Speaker 1>And other times they don't want you and they've shown.

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<v Speaker 4>You they don't want you, but you're still persistent, you're

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<v Speaker 4>still pursuing.

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<v Speaker 1>I challenge you to look at yourself, look.

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<v Speaker 2>At yourself, look at what you're causing in your own life,

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<v Speaker 2>look at the pain you're embracing in your own life.

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<v Speaker 1>Look at the pain you've created in your own life.

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<v Speaker 1>The only way any of us become better individuals with

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<v Speaker 1>healthy mindsets is change. You have to make a change.

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<v Speaker 2>You cannot remain the same and think you're gonna become better.

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<v Speaker 2>Change must occur. Chasing after people who's not chasing after you,

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<v Speaker 2>they're running the other way, or chasing after people who

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<v Speaker 2>don't even know you exist. It's foolishness, self inflicted pain.

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<v Speaker 2>So when you're angry and you want to point the finger,

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<v Speaker 2>look at those many that's pointing back at you. We

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<v Speaker 2>have more fingers pointing back at us for a reason.

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<v Speaker 2>When you don't choose to heal from your past pains,

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<v Speaker 2>to help make your life better, to give you a

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<v Speaker 2>better and more healthy way of thinking, it's total total

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<v Speaker 2>neglect to yourself for your own life.

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<v Speaker 1>People go through life ninety nine percent of the time.

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<v Speaker 2>Looking at other people for things they should already possess

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<v Speaker 2>inside self. Love, peace, courage, validation, many things people seek

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<v Speaker 2>others to provide for them. That's why it never works.

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<v Speaker 2>That's why so many people are in unhealthy relationships, bickering

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<v Speaker 2>and arguing every day over something foolish because you're with

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<v Speaker 2>the wrong person. And this happens a lot of times

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<v Speaker 2>because you created the relationship, you pursue the relationship, and

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<v Speaker 2>sometime the other person just gets sick and tired of

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<v Speaker 2>you and they.

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<v Speaker 1>Give in just to shut you up.

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<v Speaker 2>People marry just to shut the other person when they

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<v Speaker 2>know they didn't want to marry, they didn't feel the

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<v Speaker 2>way the other person felt, but to shut them up

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<v Speaker 2>and shut other people up, like family, friends, parents.

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<v Speaker 1>They'll go ahead and do something they know they did

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<v Speaker 1>not want to do. I heard someone recently say true love.

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<v Speaker 2>In order to to experience true love, you must It's

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<v Speaker 2>gonna come with a lot of pain.

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<v Speaker 1>That's the dumbest thing I ever heard. It really is.

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<v Speaker 2>To experience true love, real true love, you gotta know

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<v Speaker 2>yourself and you must love yourself. But most people really don't.

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<v Speaker 2>They just think they do. They just think it.

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<v Speaker 1>To love yourself, you will know how. You will know by.

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<v Speaker 2>How you allow others to treat you, what you allow

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<v Speaker 2>and accepting your life, your choices and decisions. All of

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<v Speaker 2>that is a way of you knowing how you feel

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<v Speaker 2>about yourself. Chasing people and making up relationships in your

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<v Speaker 2>head that just leads you into a dark place. The

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<v Speaker 2>only person can make your life better is you thinking

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<v Speaker 2>other people are gonna make your life better. You're wrong

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<v Speaker 2>and you will find out just how wrong you are.

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<v Speaker 1>When you have any kinds of plices of ye. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>as a