Speaker 1: Hey, hey, hey, I'm back with something for you to
Speaker 1: think about.
Speaker 2: I've kind of talked about this topic before a while back,
Speaker 2: but people still are not learning from their lessons. They're
Speaker 2: not learning from the lessons of others. You can learn
Speaker 2: from the experiences of others as well, but a lot
Speaker 2: of people just because of unhealed hearts and minds. People
Speaker 2: want what they want, despite the risk, despite it's not
Speaker 2: good for them, despite they already know half of the
Speaker 2: time the outcome, despite many negative things.
Speaker 1: People want what they want, and I think that is sad.
Speaker 2: When you know someone is not good for you and
Speaker 2: you still want that person, something is wrong with you.
Speaker 2: Many people in this world create relationships in their heads.
Speaker 2: That's awful. You saw a person and you were attracted.
Speaker 2: They didn't show you any indication they wanted to be
Speaker 2: with you, but you want to be with them, and
Speaker 2: you pursue them. They continually show you they're not interested,
Speaker 2: but you still pursue them. Now you form a relationship
Speaker 2: with that person in your head.
Speaker 1: Some of you.
Speaker 2: Fall for individuals you follow on social media. You don't
Speaker 2: know them people, but you're forming this deep sense of
Speaker 2: what you perceive as love for this person. You don't
Speaker 2: even know the person, and some of you become stalkers
Speaker 2: because you allow your mind to go there. Some of
Speaker 2: you have these crazy obsessions with your bosses. You have
Speaker 2: allowed your thoughts to take control, and now you cannot
Speaker 2: stop thinking about being with your boss, or maybe a
Speaker 2: coworker or your professor, or someone you know is already
Speaker 2: in a relationship. I mean, the scenarios can go on
Speaker 2: and on. The bottom line is what I'm talking about
Speaker 2: is people creating relationships in their heads. Some of you
Speaker 2: have people who you've known for years, you consider your friend,
Speaker 2: and you have this secret obsession with them. You want
Speaker 2: that person so bad you've created relationship in your head.
Speaker 2: Some of you do foolish things because you feel like
Speaker 2: that person is yours. Well, first of all, a person
Speaker 2: don't belong to no one else an individual. Just because
Speaker 2: you're in a relationship or you're married or whatever, that
Speaker 2: person don't belong to you.
Speaker 1: So some of you think, well, I want him or her,
Speaker 1: so their mind that is inmature.
Speaker 2: That is the mindset of a person who has unresolved issues.
Speaker 2: Many people you're angry, you're mad at other people because
Speaker 2: you think they're moving in on your person. Whom you
Speaker 2: think is your territory, and you're upset with that individual
Speaker 2: because you think they want who you want. So you're
Speaker 2: doing foolish things. You're trying to sabotage things. It's ignorance
Speaker 2: and it's clear indication that you have unresolved issues.
Speaker 1: Some people have gone to the point of trying to
Speaker 1: hurt or harm others.
Speaker 2: Or even the individual him or herself, because again, you've
Speaker 2: created in your head that that person is supposed to
Speaker 2: be with you.
Speaker 1: That's why I tell people, and I've.
Speaker 2: Said it for years and years, it's a beautiful thing
Speaker 2: to be in love. Beautiful, but don't be in what
Speaker 2: you proposed to be love.
Speaker 1: All by yourself.
Speaker 2: And sadly a lot of people are in this situation.
Speaker 2: You're in love all by yourself. It's bad enough. Most
Speaker 2: relationships in this world. Yeah, I stand on that most
Speaker 2: relationships in this world are one sided because people settle,
Speaker 2: so most relationships are already one sided. But it's even
Speaker 2: worse when an individual think there is a relationship when
Speaker 2: there's never been conversation about a relationship, there's never been
Speaker 2: any type of behaviors from the individuals you want to
Speaker 2: be with, indicating that you're in a relationship.
Speaker 1: But many people have.
Speaker 2: Created the relationship in the head and you cannot them
Speaker 2: out of it.
Speaker 1: They believe they're in a relationship.
Speaker 2: Another piece of this puzzle is there are individuals who
Speaker 2: know that they are playing with the emotions of the
Speaker 2: other person when no one else is around. I'm not
Speaker 2: talking about that. That's a different story. People do it.
Speaker 2: They'll play with the emotions of the person when no
Speaker 2: one else is around to see, giving the person the
Speaker 2: mindset to believe they're in a relationship.
Speaker 1: That's wrong.
Speaker 2: But I'm not talking about that situation. I'm talking about
Speaker 2: individuals who create relationships in their heads, and I mean
Speaker 2: you cannot tell them any difference. When you create a
Speaker 2: relationship that's none existence, all you do is cause problems
Speaker 2: in your life. You cause yourself unnecessary, self inflicted pain.
Speaker 1: Because you want this person.
Speaker 2: And then you give power to those thoughts of that
Speaker 2: individual until you're overcome by emotions and feelings, and.
Speaker 1: Then you act out. Some of you become angry with
Speaker 1: long time friends.
Speaker 2: Because you think they want who you want and they don't,
Speaker 2: but they cannot tell you they don't because you just
Speaker 2: believe it in your head and just causing yourself stress,
Speaker 2: causing yourself un necessary pain and suffering. Some of you
Speaker 2: listening to me right now, you may not believe this happens,
Speaker 2: but I promise you it happens. Some people are so
Speaker 2: far gone that you just can't tell them. They don't
Speaker 2: want to listen because they have created that relationship in
Speaker 2: their head. They want that person so badly. Something is
Speaker 2: wrong internally. Yet this is the life for a lot
Speaker 2: of people. When you're in a relationship, it takes two
Speaker 2: you and the other person, not a figment of your imagination,
Speaker 2: not your imaginary you know, made up.
Speaker 1: Beliefs.
Speaker 2: It takes two actual people both agreeing on the relationship.
Speaker 2: But a lot of times people just go with what
Speaker 2: they want. That is why so many people in this
Speaker 2: world are in unhealthy and unhappy relationships.
Speaker 1: Because one person just go with what they want.
Speaker 2: You're not looking at the true essence of the relationship
Speaker 2: as a whole. You're just looking at what you want.
Speaker 2: You're just going by with how you feel when it's
Speaker 2: not even real and truly, it is why so many
Speaker 2: people are in unhealthy relationships. One side of relationships because
Speaker 2: one person wanted so badly they'll do any and everything
Speaker 2: to be in that relationship with that individual, accepting and
Speaker 2: allowing things that they shouldn't. That's why it's important to
Speaker 2: know and love your self.
Speaker 1: You must.
Speaker 2: Love yourself to not care enough to not care if
Speaker 2: a person don't want to be with you, or if
Speaker 2: you're not receiving what you deserve from someone else, love
Speaker 2: yourself enough to not care and move on. Because people
Speaker 2: treat you how you have taught them to treat you.
Speaker 1: They treat you how you have allowed them to treat you,
Speaker 1: and you have to look at yourself.
Speaker 3: Many of you get very angry, very angry at the
Speaker 3: situation when you should be angry with yourself because you.
Speaker 1: Are moving on unhealed feelings, unhealed issues, which is causing
Speaker 1: those feelings and emotions. Your mindset is not healthy because
Speaker 1: you're not healthy.
Speaker 2: I've said many times also that our mindsets, how.
Speaker 1: We think, is formed out of.
Speaker 2: Experiences, and people gravitate towards the negativity, and that negativity
Speaker 2: forms the mindsets that we have. If you hold on
Speaker 2: to the negativity, it's going to affect your life. It's
Speaker 2: going to affect your beliefs, it's gonna to affect how
Speaker 2: you think and how you feel and how you act.
Speaker 2: It's going to cause insecurities in your life. It's going
Speaker 2: to cause you to believe things that are not true.
Speaker 2: It's going to cause you, you know, to have ill
Speaker 2: feelings about yourself. It's going to cause self doubting and
Speaker 2: self love. You're not gonna have those things. You're gonna
Speaker 2: lack those things because you're unhealed. You have those unhealed
Speaker 2: issues inside of you, that unresolved that affects your relationships
Speaker 2: and your friendships.
Speaker 1: Many people in the world are this way, and that
Speaker 1: is the very reason and why people create these relationships.
Speaker 1: They're yearning for love.
Speaker 2: Despite the fact that you've created in your head. You
Speaker 2: just want desperately what you want. You want it so desperately,
Speaker 2: even though it's you wanting it, not the other person.
Speaker 1: The other person does not want it.
Speaker 2: And most times sometimes sometimes people don't even know that
Speaker 2: you're feeling the way you're feeling.
Speaker 1: And other times they don't want you and they've shown.
Speaker 4: You they don't want you, but you're still persistent, you're
Speaker 4: still pursuing.
Speaker 1: I challenge you to look at yourself, look.
Speaker 2: At yourself, look at what you're causing in your own life,
Speaker 2: look at the pain you're embracing in your own life.
Speaker 1: Look at the pain you've created in your own life.
Speaker 1: The only way any of us become better individuals with
Speaker 1: healthy mindsets is change. You have to make a change.
Speaker 2: You cannot remain the same and think you're gonna become better.
Speaker 2: Change must occur. Chasing after people who's not chasing after you,
Speaker 2: they're running the other way, or chasing after people who
Speaker 2: don't even know you exist. It's foolishness, self inflicted pain.
Speaker 2: So when you're angry and you want to point the finger,
Speaker 2: look at those many that's pointing back at you. We
Speaker 2: have more fingers pointing back at us for a reason.
Speaker 2: When you don't choose to heal from your past pains,
Speaker 2: to help make your life better, to give you a
Speaker 2: better and more healthy way of thinking, it's total total
Speaker 2: neglect to yourself for your own life.
Speaker 1: People go through life ninety nine percent of the time.
Speaker 2: Looking at other people for things they should already possess
Speaker 2: inside self. Love, peace, courage, validation, many things people seek
Speaker 2: others to provide for them. That's why it never works.
Speaker 2: That's why so many people are in unhealthy relationships, bickering
Speaker 2: and arguing every day over something foolish because you're with
Speaker 2: the wrong person. And this happens a lot of times
Speaker 2: because you created the relationship, you pursue the relationship, and
Speaker 2: sometime the other person just gets sick and tired of
Speaker 2: you and they.
Speaker 1: Give in just to shut you up.
Speaker 2: People marry just to shut the other person when they
Speaker 2: know they didn't want to marry, they didn't feel the
Speaker 2: way the other person felt, but to shut them up
Speaker 2: and shut other people up, like family, friends, parents.
Speaker 1: They'll go ahead and do something they know they did
Speaker 1: not want to do. I heard someone recently say true love.
Speaker 2: In order to to experience true love, you must It's
Speaker 2: gonna come with a lot of pain.
Speaker 1: That's the dumbest thing I ever heard. It really is.
Speaker 2: To experience true love, real true love, you gotta know
Speaker 2: yourself and you must love yourself. But most people really don't.
Speaker 2: They just think they do. They just think it.
Speaker 1: To love yourself, you will know how. You will know by.
Speaker 2: How you allow others to treat you, what you allow
Speaker 2: and accepting your life, your choices and decisions. All of
Speaker 2: that is a way of you knowing how you feel
Speaker 2: about yourself. Chasing people and making up relationships in your
Speaker 2: head that just leads you into a dark place. The
Speaker 2: only person can make your life better is you thinking
Speaker 2: other people are gonna make your life better. You're wrong
Speaker 2: and you will find out just how wrong you are.
Speaker 1: When you have any kinds of plices of ye. Yeah,
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