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Speaker 1: They always teach us in radio one thought per break.

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Why can't I have a podcast it does the same thing,

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or maybe several podcasts seventeen different subjects and walks of

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life Ero dot net A R. R Oe dot Net.

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Thank you so much for supporting me over the years. Jeremy,

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how are you doing today?

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Speaker 2: Good errow? How are you?

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Speaker 1: Absolutely fantastic and very excited to share a conversation with

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you because I in reading this book and experiencing this book.

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My God in heaven, why does an ESPN cover this

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while you're doing it? You know what I mean? Why

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do we always have to find out about how great

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you are and how you've made your way through storms?

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Why do we have to wait till the opposite end

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of the book?

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Speaker 3: A right, Yeah, it's kind of Those are the kind

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of things man that they fall through the cracks.

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Speaker 2: But you know, hey, man, set up man.

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Speaker 3: They're the scapego right, They're the ones that it's their

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fault if you lose, but if you end up winning

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the game, it's the starter and the closer that gets

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that deal that the middle of really guys, they man,

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it don't get a lot of publicity, so it's probably

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the same way in the situation, you.

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Speaker 1: Know, So where along that happens the line, though, did

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you pick up on the art of because because you

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know how it is that the more experience you get,

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the more that you know that the people will come in,

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your managers and stuff will see I need you to

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do this, and your comment is basically hmm, all right,

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I hear what you're saying. But then you know, deep inside,

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I don't know in all my years, there's no way

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this would work.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, you know.

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Speaker 3: It's it's like one of those things man, where you

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just kind of you got to learn one.

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Speaker 2: You gotta trust your manager. And so when he.

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Speaker 3: When he's what he's telling you to do certain things,

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and he's telling you to take on something, you don't

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trust him at first, you tow align with them a

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little bit. I did that with Bochi several times until

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Game six of the Phillies in twenty twelve, but are

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excuse me twenty ten game six and then I kind

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of trust him for the rest of my career after that.

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Speaker 2: So it was it's just something you do, man.

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Speaker 3: You guys got to trust them, and they think out

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a bunch of you thought outside the box quite a

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bit but uh, it was. It was definitely he put

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me in a lot of storms, I can tell you that,

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and I had to trust the fact that he believed

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in me, and he says you and he's the one

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that said, I think you're built for this storm. And

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when I put you in it, you're built for it.

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And that's kind of also part of how I see

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the book.

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Speaker 1: Well, see, this is the way that I look at it. Yeah,

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you went through the storms, and the thing is is

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that you learn from the storms, and now it's our

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turn to learn through you. So vicariously, we're learning through

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you personal experiences.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, And that's kind of how I see it in

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these situations. You know, I think that, you know, writing

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a book. You know, I've written one other book. I've

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written two other books. One never went to never never

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got to market because I wrote it during the storm

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that I went through in a divorce, and I was

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never allowed to put it to print, which is okay.

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But the first one was about my stuff with life

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justin Major League Baseball and how I got into the

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injustice movement of human trafficking and trying to help out

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with that and deal with the water well situation over

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in Africa.

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Speaker 2: That was a big part of my life early on.

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Speaker 3: But this book here, you wonder why you go through

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things in life right, and you wonder why baseball scenarios

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and why what I learned so much through baseball. And

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it wasn't just about succeeding. Yes, did we succeed a

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lot in the game. Yes we did. I will say

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I'm glad it worked out the way it worked out.

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Speaker 2: But I learned so much through my you know, you know,

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the storms.

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Speaker 3: That I took on, and I learned when it didn't

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work out, I taught so much, so much more. But

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what I did realize is no matter what storm in

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baseball I had to take on, whether through learning teachable

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moments of failure or successes, they all made me a

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better person. And I realized that I took them all

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on and I charged them. And I wanted to quit

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baseball so many times when I was in the major leagues,

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I just wanted to quit and go home, and I

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never did.

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Speaker 2: I kept pushing them through and kept dealing with it

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and kept learning.

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Speaker 3: It made me the better picture, and it made me

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a picture I was able to be in San Francisco.

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I lost that marriage after twenty two years, and then

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I had three sons. I had to weather that. And

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that's what this book is about. It's not about losing

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the marriage. It's not about divorce. This is a book

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that I want my sons to read, and I want

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them to read it with with pride. But it's about

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seeing that their family, the family that we were a

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part of for so long, that they were in for

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so long, fell apart, but it's been rebuilt because I

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chose to take that storm on.

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Speaker 2: I chose to run at that storm.

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Speaker 3: I chose to protect my sons from the situations, and

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the next thing I know, they're doing great. They're eighteen, fifteen,

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and thirteen. My eighteen year old lives with me full time.

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He's lived me full time for four years. The fifteen

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or fifteen and thirteen year old have a split time

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between their mother and I. And then I've been married

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for three years to a beautiful woman who, believe it

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or not, I call it the buffalo mentality. But she

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when I met her, she owned her to buffalo and

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so it was just it was just awesome. And she

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knows all about that mentality, and she understands them, and

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she's helped me take on so many of the storms,

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even these ones. But she's also got to hear the

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stories of the storms that took on in baseball, even

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to a point where an Indian chief came up to

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me and I talk about it in the book. Had

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an amazing encouragement for me, which made this book even

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that much more needing to be written. And I believe

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people can learn from and that's what I want. I

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don't want people to look at it as like, oh,

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he's doing you know, poor me. It's not a poor me. Actually,

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I'm happy I went through the storm. I absolutely am happy.

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I wouldn't wish it upon anybody, but I am not

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ever going to give it back. And I learned so

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much and I'm a better man because of it. I'm

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a better husband, I'm a better father, I'm a better human,

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and I've got a better view on life. And I'm

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hoping that's what this book does, is when you read it,

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become you have a courage to become something that you

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were always built for. And that was the take on storms.

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It's going to happen. It is going to happen. It's

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just how you handle them. And that's what I want

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this book to be an encouragement for.

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Speaker 1: All Right, you got my attention in so many different

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ways there, mister Jeremy, only because you said buffalo's you

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said Native American. Okay, this is what I study. I

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study animal total totemism. I study Native American spirituality. The

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buffalo means that you that you have to learn how

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to trust whatever you need and focus on appreciative and

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be grateful for all that you have and clear out

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your surplus goods and recycle those items. When I saw

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that buffalo on that front cover, my heart went it

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instantly went, oh, this is a man who has learned

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how to really incorporate winning, being a choice, move through

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it and be be a buffalo, be the animal totem

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and and I just I just love your honesty and

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transparency on this.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: That that's kind of what it was for me. You know,

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like when you look at a buffalo, they take on

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a lot of life and they handle everything they do.

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their their females. The males protect each other when they

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charge storms and they take them on, they plow through

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through snow. They I mean they are they're a lot

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buffalo and their faces covered in snow because they're always sitting,

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do they do do everything. But then not even that,

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but so much stuff that I learned about the buffalo

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and the way culture has won. I mean, we destroyed

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the buffalo, which is really really sad, but for me,

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the way they're originally for I mean, there was a

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reason why the Native Americans were literally thankful when they

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harvested it. They were thankful they did. It was a

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thankful thing because that animal provided so much life, whether

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like everything. They used every part of that animal to

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sustain their life. And for me, that's what it's all about.

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if I had to take on this storm to be

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able to send a message that would helps, that would

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help sustain other people's lives. I'm willing to do that,

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and especially my sons, and if it helps them in

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life to become the best men they can possibly come

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learned from my mistakes. That was not perfect. Divorces don't

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happen because one person's perfect and the other one it's not.

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I can promise you that. So you know, divorces happened

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because it's just not going to work out, and and

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people didn't do things right all along the way. And

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I was just able to kind of say, hey, man,

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I didn't do anything right. I didn't want it to happen,

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but it happened. And met but man, who I got

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to meet my wife now, she's amazing, And so I'm

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very thankful for that because that storm in one of

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my favorite storms or what excuse me, one of my

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favorite songs. My wife and I love this guy named

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Gary Allen. He writes a storm called a song called Storms,

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and in that he has a line that says, every

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storm runs out of rain. And to me, that's what

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take on. And I looked at I'm may looking at

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my wife now and I'm like that storm in the past,

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round out of rain. I got on the other side

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of it. I took it on. The sun came out.

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I I met my bride that I'm married to now

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for three years, and I'm like, look, I got to

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meet you. The boys got to meet you. We got

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to have you know. My boys are they're healthy, Our

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boys are strong. Our boys understand storms. They know the

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buffalo mentality. They're all about it. And I tell it,

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I'm willing to do that. And I think that's what

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buffalo mentality and buffaloes do and representing.

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Speaker 1: It well, please do not move. We'll be right back

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with Jeremy A Felt, the name of his book, Built

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for the Storm. We are back with three time world

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champion Jeremy a Felt. Well, you're coming out with this

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book at the right time. And because I don't know

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how much you get into the public eye or go

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to a grocery store, even a home deep or lows,

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a lot of men are with their boys as well

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as girls. And a book like this is when you

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sit down with your kids and say, you know what,

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we can get on with this buffalo mentality. We can

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really work together on this because I'm seeing more men

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in a leadership role today than I ever have because

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my dad never played that role. And so to hear

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you see it and to hear you talk about it,

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I'm so freaking jealous of you and your family because

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you're giving your son something I didn't get.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, and I'm sorry about that, But I

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can appreciate your message there because it is super important

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trying to you know, honestly, for me, I think we're

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trying to limit the male influence in a child's life

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or a leader. Let's just put a leader. There are

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women that can be unbelievable buffalos, like I mean, they're

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amazing buffalo. I mean, don't get me wrong on that

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at all. I just think that, you know, for all

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of us, we have to be able to lead our

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children really really well, not give in to what culture

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maybe would say is right or wrong. But it's like, hey,

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no want to. I want to make sure that when

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you leave my house, whether you're a single mother, single

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f married, you're a great team. It doesn't matter. When

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the children leave the house, are they prepared to take

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on the world storms Because there's a lot of them.

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Speaker 3: Are they prepared for it? And so I think for

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the last ten years, I don't know if we've prepared

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him very well. But you're starting to see a change.

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You are starting to see that change. You are correct.

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own a brewery here in Bernie, so I see a

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lot of it. I see a lot of We're a

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family friendly breweries, so we see a lot of kids

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with their families. But man, I'll go down. I got

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a buddy and we go down to the ranch. I

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do hunt, and I'm hunting on a ranch at least

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that we go down. We take care of the land

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down there and we help it out that one of

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the guys brings his son down. His son is nine

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years old. I believe you're ten years old. He already

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drives a truck and a trailer. This kid back, he'll

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go get it. And to me, it's like that's unbelievable

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because he takes He's like.

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for me, that's what it's all about.

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Speaker 3: And being able to be that leader where your kids,

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your sons or daughters can be like, I want to

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thank you how much to resist you. I've got teenage

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boys eighteen, fifteen, and thirteen. They might think I'm dumb.

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They'll roll their eyes, they're like, I'll tell you such

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a nag. Or my wife Candace the way, Candas, he's

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always nagging, as you can do that now, And that's fine.

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We're willing to take that on because when you're twenty five,

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I want you to look back at us and say

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Speaker 1: Yep.

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Speaker 3: And that's what I'll be more appreciative of is the

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fact that you say thank you for preparing me, not

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looking at me and say, Dad, why didn't you prepare us?

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to hear that. And that's what this book's kind of

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all about.

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Speaker 1: Are you teaching your kids to put pen to paper

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to write only, because if we don't document our path,

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we're going to forget about it and we're gonna make

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it up along the way. When they do turn twenty five,

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they're gonna say, I think this is what my dad

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was saying. No, go back to your books, go and

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you know and read what your dad did tell you

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physically in that moment.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, no, I'll be honest with you. I don't probably

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feel focus on the pen to paper as much. We're

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storytellers in this family. My dad so, my dad was

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a storyteller. He was awesome and he still is. He

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tells her he wrote a book himself and it was

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a story, and within the story, it's about a pirate.

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Within that story, he has the boy's names throughout the

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whether it be the name of a ship, or the

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name of a character or the name of the boy's

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names are in it. He loves telling story and he

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taught me how to speak. My dad's very good. He's

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a master's degree in communications. He taught me how to speak.

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And I use what he tells me. That what he's

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always trained me to do. I teach and talk through story.

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I don't use a lot of like notes. I use

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stories about things that have happened to me. And I

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have a lot of baseball stories, obviously, but I have

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a lot of these stories. And it's what this book's

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all about. It's about story, and it is not made up.

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It's about my story, but not to tell all. It's

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not a dig It's my story and what I want

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people to learn and be encouraged by because of the story.

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Speaker 2: And so I've told my sons. We tell a lot

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of stories.

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Speaker 3: And my oldest son is a very good communicator, and

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he's a businessman, and he can sell you a used toy,

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you know, from ten years ago, like it's new. He

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can sell anything to you, but he tells it true

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story and he enjoys telling stories.

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Speaker 2: So they're learning more that way, pen to paper.

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Speaker 3: Unfortunately, I wish we probably would do that a little

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bit more, but this world we live in keeps that

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from happening sometimes, so's you got to be a little

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more intentional.

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Speaker 2: But we do talk about stories a lot.

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Speaker 1: Well, see I love that and the reason by being

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And hopefully this doesn't cross the line. But you can

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go back to the greatest storytellers of all time. I

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do remember those preachers and disciples ever carrying a book

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with him. They were always telling stories. I mean, that's

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exactly what it's all about. It's about sharing that experience.

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Speaker 2: That's right. Parables.

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Speaker 3: Parables are a big thing, and that's all it was

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a telling parables and giving examples.

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Speaker 2: You know, A long time ago, I.

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Speaker 3: Learned from a man named Tim Elmore and he writes

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books called habitudes Attitudes of habit, and every single one

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of these attitudes of habit come with a word picture

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and talks about the It talks about the picture, talks about.

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Speaker 2: What it is.

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Speaker 3: And it's like, Okay, I talk to kids in schools.

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I do them all the time. He does one called

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the thermostat and the thermometer, and he's like, okay, what

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does it represent. Well, a thermostat, you know, what does

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that do? Sets the temperature in the room. What's the

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thermometer do reflects the temperature of the room?

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Speaker 2: Great, Well.

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Speaker 3: Leaders are thermostats, they set the temperature. Followers are thermometers,

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they reflect the temperature. And there will be leaders and

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there always will be followers. It's not necessarily a negative thing.

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Sometimes we make followers a negative thing. That's not necessarily true.

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People are some people are not meant to set the

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temperature of the room. Some people are to reflect the temperature.

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But you can lead through reflecting the temperature as well.

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And so for me, you know, I tell those things

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the kids because those are stories. Those are things they

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can look at and remember and learn and be a

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part of. And I'm all about it, and I think

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that's what you said like back in the day. Man,

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that's parables. Man, That's that's what they That's what they did.

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They told stories with a message behind them because people

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will remember that rather than just here's a bullet here's

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a bullet message here you know, you know, don't steal

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a car?

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Speaker 1: Yeah cool?

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Speaker 2: Why like tell them why you do? As well?

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Speaker 3: Let me tell you about something you know? You know

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all these things you know I I Warren Buffett. He

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puts out a funny one. He goes, you want to

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teach your kids about taxes, give him an ice cream

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comb and say hold on and eat a third of

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it in front of them, and they'll teach them about taxes.

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Like but that the kids will get it then, righty,

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Like what that's stinks? Well, it stinks, but it's life.

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So understand that, you know, and so those are kids,

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those are those are important things. Is story, and that's

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kind of what I did in this book. There's there's

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teachable there's teachable moments in this book, no doubt, but

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it comes through story. And that's what's super important.

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Speaker 1: I think one of the greatest allignes is the fact

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that you work with all people that are on that field.

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And what I mean by that is is that you

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know that poor person out there in right field. I

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mean it's like, man, the ball ever hardly ever goes

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out in your direction, but I still need you when

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it does. And it's like, how do you find that

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trust even in the shortstop, Because if that shortstop does

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not have a good relationship with that person on first base, ah, hell,

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it's not good. So therefore you've got to be able

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to be that leader on that mound going all right,

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we're all together here, right, all right, let's be buffalo people,

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and let's move through this snowbank.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what I mean.

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Speaker 3: A lot of you'll see a lot of good guys

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that like to play behind guys, and you'll see guys

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that don't like to play behind guys. They get flat footed,

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they don't make that extra step, and it's not because

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they're trying to sabotage them. It's because they're bored and

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they're like, man, this guy you know, or this guy,

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this guy's just gonna yell at me. But I've seen

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the good leaders that guys will lay out for even

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if they don't get it, they make sure that they

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get dirty for are the ones that when they don't

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do it, they look at them. You know, if you're

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shortstop boots of ball, right, it's the air boots the ball.

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You look at that short stop and I'm like, hey,

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I'm gonna get you another one because now you're going

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to turn a double play for me. So we're still

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going to get two outs, but I'm going to get

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you another ground ball, so be ready for it. And

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when he gets another ground ball, he does it. You

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freaking fist buff of them. As you've run off the field,

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you're all smiling. That guy will lay out for you.

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He will die for you. He will make unbelievable plays

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for you. He will find a way to get it

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done because of how you treat him and how you

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take care of them.

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Speaker 1: Are you going to do a podcast? Because I really

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in listening to your vocal tones and you're pitching your

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volume and everything. I just it's almost like, I want

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this book, but I also want the next level, either

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a podcast, something on video where you're sitting down with

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all these sports people and you're talking about exactly what

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we're talking about. This is real life. That's a game,

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which is real life, but this is real life.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you should pull it up. I've I have a

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podcast called Built for the Storm. Actually, and what I

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do is I do two of them. So one of

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them is I being affluential people on and I do

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not talk about your successes. I talk about what has

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happened in your life, what storms have happened in your

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life that allows you to be who you are today,

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or what has happened in your life that allows you

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to take on storms a certain way. I've had guys

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that one of my good friends is on there that's

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been was in the cat Bacteria of Columbine when the

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shooting happened. He was on the floor and he was

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he was he was trying to get out and he

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was a young life guy for that still students and

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was in the I've had a widow of her husband

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was one of the first guys up from the from

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the ten building, which is.

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Speaker 2: Right across from the towers. He went up, He went

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into work that day.

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Speaker 3: Just as like it took an extra shift, went up,

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never came back when the towers fell. I've had Buster

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on there talking about his stuff when he got hurt.

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I've had I've had so many great stories on there,

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and I with a brewery. Sometimes they get really busy,

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so it slowed up, and I'm gonna start doing them again.

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Speaker 2: I just revamped my entire podcast room.

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Speaker 3: We put cameras and all kinds of stuff, but I

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have I have quite a few podcasts on there now.

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And then the other one I do is I do baseball.

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I do sports per a conglomerate out of San Francisco.

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I do I do Built for the Storm, the sports,

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and I bring guys on or I talk about I

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go on rantsom how I've used certain scenarios that take place,

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But I do do a human inside and that's actually

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one of my favorite things to do.

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Speaker 1: God, twenty minutes with you is not enough, dude. You

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got to come back to this show so we can

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continue digging into the process of everything that becomes our

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moment of Now. Yeah, that's great, excellent, Well please come

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back anytime. Man. Will you be brilliant today?

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Speaker 2: Okay, thanks Eric, appreciate it, man,