WEBVTT 1 00:00:04.480 --> 00:00:07.000 This is the other side of midnight. 2 00:00:07.000 --> 00:00:09.080 They're running a strange program, y'all. 3 00:00:09.000 --> 00:00:10.279 With Walter Sterling. 4 00:00:29.399 --> 00:00:32.439 Come in, listen to my story about a man named 5 00:00:32.560 --> 00:00:37.840 Walter Rady, old genius who would seldom falter, and then 6 00:00:37.920 --> 00:00:41.280 one day he was hanging around the STA when his 7 00:00:41.359 --> 00:00:43.479 bosses decided to unleash. 8 00:00:43.119 --> 00:00:46.920 Him on the Nation Corporate you know Brooks brother Suits, 9 00:00:46.960 --> 00:00:47.719 club ties. 10 00:00:50.159 --> 00:00:53.079 Next thing you know, young Walters Peep. 11 00:00:53.759 --> 00:00:58.159 They gave him an office in New York City, but 12 00:00:58.240 --> 00:01:02.240 things didn't turn out exactly quiet. Right now he's back 13 00:01:02.359 --> 00:01:07.760 on the other side of midnights weird Callers, Flying Saucers. 14 00:01:08.079 --> 00:01:09.120 Florida's story. 15 00:01:11.120 --> 00:01:13.280 So do you think sex is important to men in 16 00:01:13.319 --> 00:01:18.040 a marriage? Yes? Okay? What do women want out of 17 00:01:18.079 --> 00:01:18.560 a marriage? 18 00:01:18.640 --> 00:01:18.680 No? 19 00:01:19.120 --> 00:01:19.799 Instability? 20 00:01:20.200 --> 00:01:20.560 Okay? 21 00:01:20.760 --> 00:01:22.319 And would would you say that you get that through 22 00:01:22.319 --> 00:01:23.280 long term commitment? 23 00:01:23.640 --> 00:01:24.560 Right? 24 00:01:25.159 --> 00:01:27.519 So what if I told you one in four marriages 25 00:01:27.560 --> 00:01:29.359 were sexless one in four? 26 00:01:29.640 --> 00:01:32.680 I believe, so do you? Who is it harder for? 27 00:01:32.760 --> 00:01:32.959 Then? 28 00:01:33.359 --> 00:01:36.439 If we're getting the commitment from him but they're not 29 00:01:36.480 --> 00:01:37.680 getting the sex from us. 30 00:01:39.599 --> 00:01:42.760 Wow, there is a reason some husbands take longer bringing 31 00:01:42.799 --> 00:01:45.400 the trash cans back, and it has very. 32 00:01:45.239 --> 00:01:46.760 Little to do with trash. 33 00:01:46.920 --> 00:01:49.959 He rolls the bin outside, then stands there another minute, 34 00:01:50.359 --> 00:01:53.680 because for that moment, the house cannot ask anything from him. 35 00:01:53.959 --> 00:01:56.879 No argument happened, and nobody did anything wrong. And he 36 00:01:56.920 --> 00:02:00.000 may simply be taking sixty quiet seconds before walking back 37 00:02:00.079 --> 00:02:03.120 into responsibility. So the man standing beside a trash can 38 00:02:03.239 --> 00:02:06.159 may not be avoiding home. He may just be borrowing 39 00:02:06.239 --> 00:02:07.959 one minute of silence. 40 00:02:08.879 --> 00:02:15.560 And that's all we get. That's the negotiation. Man takes 41 00:02:15.599 --> 00:02:19.319 out the garbage, stands at the curb, stares across the street, 42 00:02:19.800 --> 00:02:22.479 wondering what's going on in that house over there? Why 43 00:02:22.520 --> 00:02:26.840 aren't there lights on? Thanks for forty five seconds, comes 44 00:02:26.840 --> 00:02:28.599 back into the house, and what is he asked? 45 00:02:28.919 --> 00:02:29.240 What is? 46 00:02:29.280 --> 00:02:32.360 He asked? Why did it take you so long to 47 00:02:32.400 --> 00:02:34.439 take out the trash? What were you doing out there? 48 00:02:34.520 --> 00:02:37.599 What was going on out there? Now he had stolen 49 00:02:37.680 --> 00:02:42.280 forty five seconds to get peace and quiet from the 50 00:02:42.319 --> 00:02:48.560 shrapnel of marriage, the shrapnel the suffering that married men 51 00:02:48.599 --> 00:02:53.280 go through, which is a progressive disease. It's a progressive 52 00:02:53.319 --> 00:02:56.639 disease because the longer of man is married in almost 53 00:02:56.759 --> 00:03:03.199 ninety percent of the situations, the criticism increases over time. 54 00:03:03.639 --> 00:03:08.599 It's a slow drip if marriage started the way it 55 00:03:08.639 --> 00:03:12.000 is at ten years, fifteen years, it wouldn't go past 56 00:03:12.039 --> 00:03:17.719 a year. But slowly, slowly, the wife asks more annoying questions, 57 00:03:18.319 --> 00:03:22.120 asks more, has more suggestions about how things are done. 58 00:03:22.919 --> 00:03:27.400 Why is that there? Consider this if when your wife 59 00:03:27.800 --> 00:03:34.639 starts the day, what she should be saying is good morning, 60 00:03:34.800 --> 00:03:37.479 how's everything going? Did you sleep well? What fun thing 61 00:03:37.520 --> 00:03:40.319 are we going to do today? That's how it should start, 62 00:03:41.199 --> 00:03:44.680 But instead it starts with oho, put this here. She 63 00:03:44.919 --> 00:03:47.840 comes downstairs, she looks at the room, she comes out 64 00:03:47.879 --> 00:03:50.840 of her bedroom, she looks at the dining room, the 65 00:03:50.919 --> 00:03:54.439 TV room, and she goes, who put this here? Why 66 00:03:54.680 --> 00:03:55.479 is this here? 67 00:03:56.639 --> 00:03:56.719 Not? 68 00:03:57.400 --> 00:03:59.719 How you doing? What fun thing we're going to do today? 69 00:04:00.280 --> 00:04:03.479 She starts to have a list of starting with suggestions 70 00:04:03.520 --> 00:04:06.879 and then going downhill from there, and then it goes 71 00:04:06.919 --> 00:04:11.479 to why is this a mess? Who's going to clean 72 00:04:11.520 --> 00:04:19.000 this up? It's all tactical, utilitarian demands, endless demands, and 73 00:04:19.040 --> 00:04:21.079 you don't even realize it. A husband, the kids, they 74 00:04:21.079 --> 00:04:24.959 don't even realize it at first, but slowly it grows 75 00:04:24.959 --> 00:04:27.959 and it grows. But then if you catch it and 76 00:04:28.000 --> 00:04:31.680 you say to her, listen, you realize it'd be good. 77 00:04:31.680 --> 00:04:34.160 If you've started the day by saying, good morning, how's 78 00:04:34.199 --> 00:04:36.800 everything going, that would be a much better way. Why 79 00:04:36.839 --> 00:04:39.720 are you talking about I always do that. It would 80 00:04:39.800 --> 00:04:42.759 never it would never stop. It's the same reason when 81 00:04:43.040 --> 00:04:46.680 I'm in a supermarket, I'm in a mall. Yes, I 82 00:04:46.759 --> 00:04:49.800 do go to malls, and I'll see a married couple 83 00:04:49.879 --> 00:04:53.360 walking through the aisles. And every time I pass a 84 00:04:53.360 --> 00:04:55.800 married couple walking through the aisles, I always whisper to 85 00:04:55.920 --> 00:04:59.560 the husband. I always say to him, always shop alone, 86 00:05:00.560 --> 00:05:03.800 and then I keep going. The guy hears it and 87 00:05:03.839 --> 00:05:06.160 he starts laughing. Every time I can make a guy 88 00:05:06.240 --> 00:05:10.160 laugh by going always shop alone, and he starts laughing. 89 00:05:10.439 --> 00:05:14.160 She goes, what did he say? What did he say? 90 00:05:14.600 --> 00:05:16.879 And he goes, nothing, He didn't say anything. He wasn't 91 00:05:16.920 --> 00:05:20.319 talking to me. But there it is. There it is. 92 00:05:20.759 --> 00:05:24.800 You're crazy if you're if you're married or you're living 93 00:05:24.839 --> 00:05:28.920 together and you go food shopping alone, you're nuts because 94 00:05:29.560 --> 00:05:33.920 it's an endless debate leading to an endless argument and 95 00:05:34.279 --> 00:05:38.120 endless resentments. One of the many good things about my 96 00:05:38.160 --> 00:05:41.199 marriage is my wife has no interest in going food shopping. 97 00:05:41.279 --> 00:05:44.519 I don't think I've ever seen her shop for food 98 00:05:44.680 --> 00:05:46.920 or prepare food. I don't think either of those things 99 00:05:46.920 --> 00:05:48.879 have happened. A part of that is self defense. I 100 00:05:48.920 --> 00:05:51.720 don't want her to prepare food. She's irish. There's no 101 00:05:51.800 --> 00:05:56.160 upside for me in her preparing food, but no fun 102 00:05:56.199 --> 00:05:58.360 to go to the supermarket with her. Then what I'll 103 00:05:58.360 --> 00:06:00.759 do is I'll risk my life and I'll take the 104 00:06:00.800 --> 00:06:03.439 fourteen year old. And what do fourteen year olds want? 105 00:06:03.759 --> 00:06:08.319 They want everything, especially if it's strange colors and heavily sugared. 106 00:06:08.720 --> 00:06:13.439 They want everything. They want the lucky charms, they want, 107 00:06:13.519 --> 00:06:17.879 the uh A cocoa paffas, all the terrible cereals. That's 108 00:06:17.879 --> 00:06:20.720 what they want. And then you have an endless fight 109 00:06:20.759 --> 00:06:24.959 with the fourteen year old about what we're gonna get. 110 00:06:25.439 --> 00:06:29.040 The pop tarts, many different flavors of pop tarts that 111 00:06:29.079 --> 00:06:32.240 they will never eat. There's the big challenge. You're going 112 00:06:32.279 --> 00:06:39.720 with a teenager to the supermarket. Huge challenge. But what 113 00:06:39.879 --> 00:06:43.560 happens in a marriage or a long term relationship is 114 00:06:43.839 --> 00:06:48.399 the default pleasantries I think start to disappear. They start 115 00:06:48.439 --> 00:06:51.439 to go away. And when I hear people who are 116 00:06:51.480 --> 00:06:54.399 getting a divorce, what do I hear when I talk 117 00:06:54.480 --> 00:06:56.240 to them about why are you getting a divorce. Why 118 00:06:56.240 --> 00:06:57.680 are you doing this? I thought you guys got a 119 00:06:57.720 --> 00:07:01.800 long rate. Well, the quote institution of marriage is a 120 00:07:01.920 --> 00:07:05.000 failure in our culture because half of the people get 121 00:07:05.040 --> 00:07:09.439 married and they get a divorce. Oh that's a bad percentage, 122 00:07:09.480 --> 00:07:12.519 that's a failure. You know which country has the lowest 123 00:07:12.519 --> 00:07:18.079 percent of divorces, the lowest percent India, only like five 124 00:07:18.120 --> 00:07:23.120 percent of marriages in India and in divorce. And that 125 00:07:23.279 --> 00:07:27.079 wonderful Indian comic, that woman whose name I can never 126 00:07:27.120 --> 00:07:32.000 get right, Zara, I never get it right. She says, 127 00:07:32.279 --> 00:07:34.839 we have a perfect marriage. We get along great because 128 00:07:34.879 --> 00:07:38.240 we don't communicate. We never communicate, we never talk to 129 00:07:38.279 --> 00:07:41.000 each other for any reason, and therefore our marriage is 130 00:07:41.079 --> 00:07:43.480 going great. We have nothing to argue about because we 131 00:07:43.480 --> 00:07:46.439 don't communicate at all. And I'm like, yes, that's the 132 00:07:46.519 --> 00:07:49.240 right way. And I think I have a good marriage 133 00:07:49.279 --> 00:07:51.720 because I'm not part of it. I have no involvement 134 00:07:51.759 --> 00:07:54.800 with my marriage. My marriage is a separate issue. Whatever 135 00:07:54.839 --> 00:07:58.839 she wants to do, that's just fine. She discusses her 136 00:07:58.959 --> 00:08:02.920 issues with her. My sister in law controls the marriage. 137 00:08:02.959 --> 00:08:06.160 I think your sister in law controls the marriage as well. 138 00:08:06.959 --> 00:08:10.079 In fact, I think it's safe to say that everybody's 139 00:08:10.199 --> 00:08:15.040 marriage is controlled by their sister in law. If your 140 00:08:15.040 --> 00:08:17.639 sister in law buys a piece of furniture, you will 141 00:08:17.639 --> 00:08:20.560 find that in your house six months later. I saw 142 00:08:20.600 --> 00:08:22.680 this at my sister's I really thought i'd buy one 143 00:08:22.720 --> 00:08:25.000 for us. Did you want to talk to me about that? 144 00:08:25.319 --> 00:08:25.519 No? 145 00:08:25.519 --> 00:08:29.519 No, I knew you'd like it. It's astonishing the number 146 00:08:29.560 --> 00:08:32.159 of things that I'm told I'm going to like long 147 00:08:32.240 --> 00:08:36.799 before it actually happens. But I believe that the reason 148 00:08:36.879 --> 00:08:40.919 that half the marriage is in America fail. It doesn't work. 149 00:08:40.960 --> 00:08:44.080 The institution doesn't work the way it is. I feel 150 00:08:44.120 --> 00:08:47.159 there are two big reasons. See what you think. Number One, 151 00:08:47.279 --> 00:08:52.679 people get married before they're ready. And there's a trick, 152 00:08:52.840 --> 00:08:56.240 which is that at some point you start you start 153 00:08:56.279 --> 00:08:59.200 to embrace the notion that there's the right age for 154 00:08:59.240 --> 00:09:01.879 you to get married. There is no right age. There 155 00:09:01.879 --> 00:09:04.360 are people who get married at eighteen and they stay 156 00:09:04.399 --> 00:09:07.240 married till they're seventy and it works. There are other 157 00:09:07.279 --> 00:09:09.279 people who don't get married till they're sixty and they 158 00:09:09.320 --> 00:09:12.840 divorced in a year because they weren't ready. I believe 159 00:09:12.840 --> 00:09:16.039 that each of us has a marriage clock and that 160 00:09:16.120 --> 00:09:19.600 marriage clock. If a person gets married before that marriage 161 00:09:19.639 --> 00:09:23.759 clock goes off, it won't work. Doesn't matter who it is, 162 00:09:23.879 --> 00:09:27.039 doesn't matter who they're marrying, it won't work. And then 163 00:09:27.679 --> 00:09:30.320 if they get married after the marriage clock goes off, 164 00:09:31.519 --> 00:09:33.879 it almost doesn't matter who they're married, it'll be fine. 165 00:09:34.240 --> 00:09:36.799 It'll work out because they were ready. But I think 166 00:09:36.840 --> 00:09:39.840 most people get married before they're ready, and therefore half 167 00:09:39.879 --> 00:09:41.240 the marriages fail. 168 00:09:41.320 --> 00:09:44.480 But then so I have decided to start the process 169 00:09:44.559 --> 00:09:46.399 of freezing my eggs. 170 00:09:46.440 --> 00:09:48.519 But if you talk to somebody who's about to get 171 00:09:48.519 --> 00:09:51.440 a divorce and you know that well enough, it's never 172 00:09:51.600 --> 00:09:55.320 that they stopped having sex. Sex is not the reason 173 00:09:55.320 --> 00:09:58.240 that marriages succeed or fail, Nor is it the reason 174 00:09:58.919 --> 00:10:03.120 that guy's cheat. Don't cheat for sex. Guys cheat for softness. 175 00:10:03.799 --> 00:10:07.879 Guys cheat for a soft landing. They cheat to be 176 00:10:07.960 --> 00:10:13.399 greeted during their day by a woman who answers them 177 00:10:13.480 --> 00:10:20.000 softly and sweetly and gently and respects, respects the decisions 178 00:10:20.039 --> 00:10:22.679 they made, respects the choices they made at work or 179 00:10:22.720 --> 00:10:27.080 at home, shows respect, absolute agreement on everything. No no, no, 180 00:10:27.080 --> 00:10:29.960 no no, But there are ways to say it that 181 00:10:30.200 --> 00:10:34.440 indicate everything's okay. I respect your decisions. I respect Why 182 00:10:34.480 --> 00:10:35.000 you did that? 183 00:10:35.320 --> 00:10:35.679 Got it? 184 00:10:36.360 --> 00:10:42.440 Partnership? Notice that usually the wife, well, we're partners, we're married, now, 185 00:10:42.480 --> 00:10:44.120 we have to be married, now, we have to be 186 00:10:44.159 --> 00:10:48.080 getting together. We have to make these decisions together, right, 187 00:10:48.240 --> 00:10:51.240 But she doesn't make decisions with the guy. That's the 188 00:10:51.279 --> 00:10:55.080 whole cycle, that's the whole challenge. What a guy wants 189 00:10:55.679 --> 00:10:58.799 in a marriage is softness. He wants to be greeted 190 00:10:58.840 --> 00:11:03.879 with kindness and softness. As strange as this may seem, 191 00:11:04.559 --> 00:11:14.639 let's see, Matt, would you play would you play sexless? 192 00:11:14.960 --> 00:11:17.000 And would you play hold on? 193 00:11:18.000 --> 00:11:18.159 Uh? 194 00:11:19.960 --> 00:11:22.720 Left out? Okay? Would you do that? Left out? Okay? 195 00:11:22.919 --> 00:11:27.120 And sexless? On the other side of midnight with Walter Sterling. 196 00:11:27.159 --> 00:11:28.879 It's about twenty past the hour, and you and I 197 00:11:28.919 --> 00:11:31.159 can talk at any time. Eight hundred eight four eight 198 00:11:31.639 --> 00:11:34.120 nine two two two eight hundred eight four eight nine 199 00:11:34.200 --> 00:11:35.720 two two two you got So? 200 00:11:36.080 --> 00:11:38.399 Do you think sex is important to men in a marriage? 201 00:11:39.799 --> 00:11:40.039 Yes? 202 00:11:40.480 --> 00:11:43.000 Okay? What do women want out of a marriage? 203 00:11:43.080 --> 00:11:43.159 No? 204 00:11:43.559 --> 00:11:46.519 Instability? Okay? And would would you say you get that 205 00:11:46.559 --> 00:11:47.720 through long term commitment? 206 00:11:48.080 --> 00:11:49.080 Right? 207 00:11:49.639 --> 00:11:49.720 So? 208 00:11:49.879 --> 00:11:53.240 What if I told you one in four marriages were sexless? 209 00:11:53.240 --> 00:11:56.399 One and four? I believe so do you, who is 210 00:11:56.440 --> 00:11:57.240 it harder for that? 211 00:11:57.759 --> 00:12:00.879 If we're getting the commitment from him, but they're not 212 00:12:00.919 --> 00:12:02.039 getting the sex from. 213 00:12:01.919 --> 00:12:06.200 Us, you can't really hurt a man who's already comfortable 214 00:12:06.200 --> 00:12:09.639 being left out. He's fine if he's not invited, not included, 215 00:12:10.039 --> 00:12:12.759 or even forgotten. Once a man learns to enjoy his 216 00:12:12.799 --> 00:12:16.399 own company, stops needing validation from others, there's very little 217 00:12:16.440 --> 00:12:20.120 anyone can take from him. That's real strength, being at peace, 218 00:12:20.279 --> 00:12:21.600 even when you're standing alone. 219 00:12:23.120 --> 00:12:26.320 Eight hundred eight four eight nine two Walter Sterling The 220 00:12:26.440 --> 00:12:28.480 Other Side of Midnight. 221 00:12:29.440 --> 00:12:45.120 The Other side of Midnight with Walter Sterling. It's the 222 00:12:45.279 --> 00:12:48.240 other side of Midnight with Welter Sterling. 223 00:12:49.279 --> 00:12:49.679 Midnight. 224 00:12:50.559 --> 00:12:52.279 I never play your radio. 225 00:12:52.159 --> 00:12:56.879 Needlessly, just when you must, and then make. 226 00:12:56.720 --> 00:13:00.840 Sure you listen to a show you know you interest. 227 00:13:02.039 --> 00:13:06.759 Listen confidently to the other side of Midnight. 228 00:13:07.360 --> 00:13:10.080 One of the great mysteries of our time is how 229 00:13:10.120 --> 00:13:15.679 to have a successful marriage? Problem Challenge number one, how 230 00:13:15.720 --> 00:13:19.279 to have a successful marriage. If you're married, you're looking 231 00:13:19.360 --> 00:13:22.159 at marriage, how to have a success because most of 232 00:13:22.159 --> 00:13:27.000 them fail. It's astonishing that Americans invest an average of 233 00:13:27.080 --> 00:13:30.440 thirty nine thousand dollars for a wedding thirty nine thousand 234 00:13:30.480 --> 00:13:33.120 dollars for a wedding, ten thousand dollars for a honeymoon, 235 00:13:33.879 --> 00:13:37.240 to invest in something that will probably fail. Rob on 236 00:13:37.320 --> 00:13:40.039 Long Island, Welcome to the other side of midnight at 237 00:13:40.080 --> 00:13:43.080 eight hundred eighty four eight nine two to two. Greetings Rob, 238 00:13:44.440 --> 00:13:46.399 hey Walter, how are you doing okay? Buddy? 239 00:13:46.600 --> 00:13:51.600 I have a theory beause marriage, to me is like sports. 240 00:13:52.000 --> 00:13:55.879 And sports when you play against the same guy and 241 00:13:55.919 --> 00:13:58.559 it's the same team in your division, they is a 242 00:13:58.679 --> 00:14:05.039 saying it's familiarity breeds contempt. Now that's why the rangers 243 00:14:05.039 --> 00:14:08.679 in the island is kill each other. The more you 244 00:14:08.720 --> 00:14:11.519 know about the person you marry, the more you start 245 00:14:11.559 --> 00:14:15.240 hating them. And that might be a right theory with 246 00:14:15.320 --> 00:14:17.879 the Indian people's, you know, they don't really talk too 247 00:14:17.960 --> 00:14:19.799 much and it lasts. 248 00:14:19.840 --> 00:14:23.279 Again, what do you think, how long were you married? 249 00:14:24.879 --> 00:14:26.720 I was married for seventeen years. 250 00:14:27.440 --> 00:14:29.480 And why would you say it stopped? 251 00:14:31.360 --> 00:14:33.399 Oh? Well, I knew it was over when she used 252 00:14:33.399 --> 00:14:35.559 to say to me, I hope it rains tomorrow when 253 00:14:35.559 --> 00:14:39.919 you're about to play golf. Yeah, that's yeah, So that's 254 00:14:40.240 --> 00:14:41.960 you know, you don't have to say much more than that. 255 00:14:42.159 --> 00:14:46.080 No, no, because I didn't understand the appeal of golf 256 00:14:46.159 --> 00:14:47.200 until I got married. 257 00:14:50.039 --> 00:14:52.799 I play a lot of golf, but and at the time, 258 00:14:52.840 --> 00:14:54.679 I was only playing once a week and it was 259 00:14:54.720 --> 00:14:59.039 on Sundays. Now I'm sixty one years old, I'm happily divorced. 260 00:15:00.159 --> 00:15:00.759 How old are you? 261 00:15:01.480 --> 00:15:03.240 How old are you? 262 00:15:03.240 --> 00:15:06.919 You're our youngest listener. I want to congratulate you on 263 00:15:07.120 --> 00:15:08.840 being our youngest listener today. 264 00:15:10.840 --> 00:15:12.279 I'm on my way home from work. 265 00:15:12.600 --> 00:15:14.639 Hey, that's good to know. Can I ask what sort 266 00:15:14.679 --> 00:15:15.399 of work you do? 267 00:15:16.840 --> 00:15:20.159 I'm a limo driver for some of the big shots 268 00:15:20.159 --> 00:15:20.960 in New York City. 269 00:15:21.240 --> 00:15:23.639 And is it a steady list of clients or do 270 00:15:23.679 --> 00:15:26.159 you just who comes over the transom there? 271 00:15:27.679 --> 00:15:28.159 No, it's a. 272 00:15:28.159 --> 00:15:32.279 Steady list of some people like to go out late 273 00:15:32.440 --> 00:15:37.039 to live in Manhattan and Manhattan and. 274 00:15:40.679 --> 00:15:41.039 Hampton. 275 00:15:41.960 --> 00:15:44.679 Oh so it's it's the Hampton people coming back. Now, 276 00:15:44.720 --> 00:15:47.519 what what's the right tip? How many if somebody takes 277 00:15:47.559 --> 00:15:50.279 you from the Hampton's to Manhattan, what's the right tip? 278 00:15:52.759 --> 00:15:55.840 Well, I've gotten a couple of hundred, then I've gotten nothing, so, uh, 279 00:15:56.240 --> 00:15:58.360 you know, I mean, I get a steady pay for 280 00:15:58.440 --> 00:16:03.559 doing that, but it's a mixed bag. Yeah, you know 281 00:16:04.200 --> 00:16:06.919 the people who talk about being the richest that don't. 282 00:16:06.759 --> 00:16:09.759 Want to give you the least an that's right. 283 00:16:09.799 --> 00:16:14.000 Anybody who delivers newspapers knows that that's exactly true. That 284 00:16:15.159 --> 00:16:18.120 at Christmas time the rich houses would give you a 285 00:16:18.159 --> 00:16:21.200 buck and the people who were on food stamps would 286 00:16:21.240 --> 00:16:26.679 give you fifty. And it's exactly right. Rob, Hey appreciate it, 287 00:16:26.720 --> 00:16:28.480 and I thank you for listening to the Other Side 288 00:16:28.480 --> 00:16:31.320 of Midnight with Walter Stirling eight hundred eight four eight 289 00:16:31.440 --> 00:16:33.159 nine two to two two. You and I are sharing 290 00:16:33.200 --> 00:16:39.279 about why marriages fail. Fifty percent of the marriages in 291 00:16:39.320 --> 00:16:42.960 America fail. Only five percent of the marriage is in 292 00:16:43.159 --> 00:16:46.559 India fail. The reason in India that they don't fail 293 00:16:46.639 --> 00:16:48.879 they don't talk to each other. Part of their culture 294 00:16:48.960 --> 00:16:51.600 is a husband and wife. They really don't communicate. That 295 00:16:51.639 --> 00:16:53.879 seems like a very good plan to me. I have 296 00:16:54.000 --> 00:16:56.759 lived my marriage on a need to know basis. I 297 00:16:56.840 --> 00:16:59.240 really there isn't much that I need to know at 298 00:16:59.279 --> 00:17:02.200 any given time. You know, talk to your sister. Don't 299 00:17:02.240 --> 00:17:04.720 don't bother me with this. I only want to have 300 00:17:05.279 --> 00:17:07.920 I want to have information on a need to know basis. 301 00:17:08.000 --> 00:17:10.880 Doesn't that make sense? Isn't that the practical way to 302 00:17:10.960 --> 00:17:14.799 approach this. Eight hundred is my phone number eight four 303 00:17:14.839 --> 00:17:17.319 eight nine two two two. Eight hundred eight four eight 304 00:17:17.400 --> 00:17:21.960 nine two two two. It's it's always been interesting to 305 00:17:22.000 --> 00:17:24.880 me to see the marriages at work and the ones 306 00:17:24.880 --> 00:17:30.119 that don't. And it's never I've never seen a pattern 307 00:17:30.240 --> 00:17:33.400 other than the fact it's never about sex. It's always 308 00:17:33.400 --> 00:17:37.480 about something else, something bigger, and often something that should 309 00:17:37.519 --> 00:17:40.599 have been discussed before you got married. Oh, you didn't 310 00:17:40.640 --> 00:17:43.279 know that that she didn't want kids. You didn't know 311 00:17:43.319 --> 00:17:45.480 he didn't want kids. Probably should have come up before. 312 00:17:46.440 --> 00:17:48.920 Probably should. And then they argue over money, which is 313 00:17:48.960 --> 00:17:51.359 particularly stupid because you know why, you know why it's 314 00:17:51.400 --> 00:17:55.880 stupid argue over money. It's just money. It's it's like, 315 00:17:56.480 --> 00:18:00.960 it's just money. Why would you argue over that. It's 316 00:18:01.000 --> 00:18:05.319 crazy talk marriage is failing eight hundred eight four eight 317 00:18:05.440 --> 00:18:10.400 nine two to two two. Then you know the most 318 00:18:10.440 --> 00:18:13.200 annoying group of people, and this could easily come up 319 00:18:13.200 --> 00:18:15.720 in a marriage. The most annoying group of people in 320 00:18:15.759 --> 00:18:20.720 the world are vegetarians. Vegetarians by default are annoying. Why 321 00:18:20.799 --> 00:18:26.279 because they think you should be a vegetarian. The guy 322 00:18:26.279 --> 00:18:29.200 who sells steaks never says you should eat more steak. 323 00:18:33.759 --> 00:18:36.599 The person who stays up really late never says, why 324 00:18:36.599 --> 00:18:39.960 don't you stay up later. The people who get up early, 325 00:18:40.000 --> 00:18:41.880 they're the ones who say you should, you should get 326 00:18:41.960 --> 00:18:43.680 up early, you should become a member of the five 327 00:18:43.720 --> 00:18:46.480 am club. Well, I'm a member of the five am club. 328 00:18:47.160 --> 00:18:49.680 That's at the end of my work day. Same thing 329 00:18:49.720 --> 00:18:52.519 with you. We're we're working at the right time because 330 00:18:52.559 --> 00:18:56.119 we're focused on the task and that's the job. The 331 00:18:56.240 --> 00:19:01.519 job is the job, not about filling out forms. But they, 332 00:19:01.759 --> 00:19:03.759 you know who they are, have done a big study 333 00:19:04.359 --> 00:19:07.640 about vegetarianism. What happens if you decide to be a 334 00:19:07.720 --> 00:19:12.960 vegetarian and what happens to your body, and this is terrifying. 335 00:19:13.799 --> 00:19:18.440 People who went vegan for four weeks saw shocking DNA 336 00:19:18.640 --> 00:19:23.920 changes linked to lower inflammation and slower aging compared to 337 00:19:23.960 --> 00:19:28.079 those who eat rich meat diets. Researchers wanted to see 338 00:19:28.160 --> 00:19:32.240 whether changing what people eat can quickly affect how their 339 00:19:32.240 --> 00:19:36.400 bodies work at the cellular level, finding that meatless eaters 340 00:19:36.799 --> 00:19:41.400 had biological markers linked to a less inflamed immune system. 341 00:19:41.920 --> 00:19:45.440 The vegan diet also appeared to reduce activity in genes 342 00:19:45.920 --> 00:19:51.240 involved in cancer related pathways and may help slow biological aging. 343 00:19:51.960 --> 00:19:55.079 The new findings show how quickly diet can affect the 344 00:19:55.160 --> 00:20:03.920 body cells and potentially impact long term health. Apparently, if 345 00:20:03.920 --> 00:20:06.519 I become a vegetarian within a week, everything will get 346 00:20:06.599 --> 00:20:10.160 dramatically better. And I don't know what that whole information thing. 347 00:20:10.240 --> 00:20:12.720 For twenty years now, I've read about this will be 348 00:20:12.759 --> 00:20:17.440 good for inflammation, this will be good for inflammation. I 349 00:20:17.759 --> 00:20:19.599 don't have any idea what that's about. 350 00:20:20.400 --> 00:20:20.680 Do you? 351 00:20:20.880 --> 00:20:23.759 I have no idea what that's about. Eight hundred eight 352 00:20:23.839 --> 00:20:26.720 four eight nine two two two. But this study worries 353 00:20:26.759 --> 00:20:30.119 me because it gives vegetarians more ammunition. I don't want 354 00:20:30.200 --> 00:20:33.039 vegetarians to have any more ammunition. I don't want to 355 00:20:33.079 --> 00:20:37.519 hear any more about vegetarianism, because whenever I've done like 356 00:20:37.559 --> 00:20:44.319 a week or two is a vegetarian. The the problem 357 00:20:44.359 --> 00:20:48.000 with being a vegetarian is that I get very hungry 358 00:20:48.039 --> 00:20:53.799 and very grumpy. I need the browns, I need brown rice, bread, 359 00:20:54.359 --> 00:20:58.440 brown bread, pedas, all of that stuff. I need the carbs, 360 00:20:58.680 --> 00:21:02.039 and then I'm happy. But if I'm just eating lima beans, 361 00:21:02.599 --> 00:21:07.000 string beans, broccoli, or God help us, beats, there's no 362 00:21:07.079 --> 00:21:11.680 happiness there it never gets better, and I'm always then 363 00:21:11.720 --> 00:21:15.119 surrounded by oh, are you still a vegetarian? Are you 364 00:21:15.160 --> 00:21:18.240 still a vegetarian? You know what they're asking right now 365 00:21:18.279 --> 00:21:23.279 in Chicago, they're saying, what radio station is carrying the 366 00:21:23.319 --> 00:21:25.000 other side of midnight in Chicago? 367 00:21:25.079 --> 00:21:29.000 It's WG And I've got some sad news for you 368 00:21:29.160 --> 00:21:31.599 about Rod Stewart. 369 00:21:31.160 --> 00:21:32.640 And his farewell tour. 370 00:21:33.599 --> 00:21:37.119 Yeah, the eighty one year old rock legend has canceled 371 00:21:37.119 --> 00:21:40.559 the remaining dates on his One Last Time Farewell tour 372 00:21:41.240 --> 00:21:44.000 after doctors advised him to take about four weeks to 373 00:21:44.079 --> 00:21:48.480 recover after he just underwent a stint procedure. 374 00:21:48.519 --> 00:21:51.440 He had a core Yeah, a coronary stint. 375 00:21:51.920 --> 00:21:55.799 So the good news is he's already on the end 376 00:21:55.920 --> 00:22:00.359 and back to his daily activities. However, doctors that you 377 00:22:00.400 --> 00:22:04.400 can't go right back to the stage. Yeah, So he 378 00:22:04.480 --> 00:22:08.400 had already postponed his Sunday show in Cincinnati, canceled Tuesday 379 00:22:08.480 --> 00:22:11.119 night's concert in Cleveland, and the tour was supposed to 380 00:22:11.160 --> 00:22:15.000 continue through September third, with a six night residency in 381 00:22:15.119 --> 00:22:20.319 Vegas and several dates in Mexico. Rod Stewart says he's 382 00:22:20.440 --> 00:22:23.400 very much on the mend and he's disappointed to miss 383 00:22:23.440 --> 00:22:27.160 out on these final shows, so we wish him the 384 00:22:27.200 --> 00:22:29.240 best in a continued speedy recovery. 385 00:22:29.599 --> 00:22:34.359 I want to know what you find like interesting or 386 00:22:34.880 --> 00:22:37.680 hard to reckon with in terms of aging, or like, 387 00:22:37.759 --> 00:22:40.599 what's what's good about getting older? What's less good? And 388 00:22:40.920 --> 00:22:43.119 I don't just mean like, I don't just mean physically, 389 00:22:43.119 --> 00:22:44.279 but metaphysically too. 390 00:22:45.079 --> 00:22:46.480 There's nothing good about it. 391 00:22:46.880 --> 00:22:49.960 Nothing wisdom, No, nothing. 392 00:22:49.640 --> 00:22:53.720 You don't get wisdom. We forget everything, forgot oh my wisdom. 393 00:22:55.440 --> 00:22:58.519 I might have had a coble of pearls drop, but 394 00:22:59.200 --> 00:23:03.000 I think you got what they are. So no, it's 395 00:23:03.000 --> 00:23:09.720 not it's not particularly pleasant. And of course you can't 396 00:23:09.759 --> 00:23:12.359 do things as quickly as you want to and all 397 00:23:12.400 --> 00:23:17.559 actually and physically physically, you can't do things that you 398 00:23:17.559 --> 00:23:18.359 would like to do. 399 00:23:19.119 --> 00:23:21.319 You've got to be you have to be more careful. 400 00:23:21.559 --> 00:23:24.160 You can still do them, you have to be more 401 00:23:24.200 --> 00:23:27.279