Speaker 1: Hey, hey, hey, I'm bad with something for you to
Speaker 1: think about.
Speaker 2: Happy New Year everyone, Today, I wanna talk about people
Speaker 2: who feel it's necessary to dumb themselves down.
Speaker 1: For other people.
Speaker 2: Individuals who feel it is necessary to dumb themselves down.
Speaker 1: For other people.
Speaker 2: You wanna dumb yourself down while you pump someone else up.
Speaker 2: It makes no sense. What that does is truly tell
Speaker 2: you what you think of yourself. But unfortunately, people don't
Speaker 2: have the mindset to graft step, especially in their relationships.
Speaker 2: They think that they're supposed to.
Speaker 1: Do all of these things.
Speaker 2: For the guy or the woman that they're with, to
Speaker 2: push them pump them up, but they get none of
Speaker 2: that in return.
Speaker 1: People think it's the proper way to love.
Speaker 2: People think the proper way to love is to let
Speaker 2: people be little and degrade them. It is not.
Speaker 1: Everything you do.
Speaker 2: That you shouldn't do, or that you should do and
Speaker 2: you don't tells you about yourself. It tells you what
Speaker 2: type of person you are, whether you believe it or not.
Speaker 2: It tells you so much important information about yourself.
Speaker 1: But most people do not understand it.
Speaker 2: They just think it's life, it's coincident, it's just the
Speaker 2: way it is. No everything you do or don't do,
Speaker 2: what you accept, what you allow, The choices and decisions
Speaker 2: you make tells you about who you are as a person.
Speaker 2: Whether you do it subtle you know subtle, whether you
Speaker 2: do it openly or whether you try to hide undercover
Speaker 2: and do it, it tells you about who you are.
Speaker 2: Millions of people could grow if they were in tune
Speaker 2: with self, if they had the mindset to be aware
Speaker 2: and mindful of how they think, how they feel, how
Speaker 2: they act. But most people just mosey through life on autopilot,
Speaker 2: not paying attention to the things that they do. They
Speaker 2: don't pay attention to when they go through something, how
Speaker 2: they do not allow themselves to learn from their experiences.
Speaker 2: That's why most people in the world continue to be broken.
Speaker 2: I know the truth hurts, but I don't know nothing
Speaker 2: else to give you other than the truth. It does
Speaker 2: not matter matter how bad the lives of people can be.
Speaker 2: Most people will not change because to most people, it's
Speaker 2: always the other person to blame. Always people are not
Speaker 2: being accountable and responsible for their own lives, so they
Speaker 2: go through life more concerned about the lives of other people,
Speaker 2: their significant others, and.
Speaker 1: Other people trying to please and appease.
Speaker 2: While their lives fall apart or while they remain stagnant.
Speaker 2: People get into relationships and they completely forget about self.
Speaker 1: They forget about their ambition, their.
Speaker 2: Goals, their dreams to try to push and pump up
Speaker 2: who they're with, only for there are a lot of
Speaker 2: people to end up being totally taken for granted, used, abused,
Speaker 2: and you name it because the other person gained what
Speaker 2: they're looking for and dump you to the curve or
Speaker 2: alienate you. But you wasted all the years, the time,
Speaker 2: the energy trying to pump up that individual or push
Speaker 2: that individual when they didn't really care about you the
Speaker 2: way you cared about them.
Speaker 1: You have to be.
Speaker 2: Cognizant of what you are doing, what you are allowing
Speaker 2: and accepting from other people. I don't care who they are.
Speaker 2: Any person will treat you exactly how you have taught
Speaker 2: them to treat you or a significant other. Whether it's
Speaker 2: your husband, your wife, your boyfriend, your girlfriend, your child,
Speaker 2: your parents, your siblings, other relatives, friends and other people,
Speaker 2: they will treat you.
Speaker 1: Exactly how you have taught them to treat you.
Speaker 2: They will play the role you have put them in.
Speaker 2: You have allowed them to be in It's just.
Speaker 1: Reality.
Speaker 2: Now. I know a lot of people's realities are distorted,
Speaker 2: but the truth is always the truth, no matter how
Speaker 2: you look at it, it's always the truth.
Speaker 1: Far too many people.
Speaker 2: Go through life just acting clueless, just because they want
Speaker 2: to be a part of something.
Speaker 1: And I think.
Speaker 2: About, well, a few years ago, I even told you
Speaker 2: about a story about myself where I used to sing
Speaker 2: in this gospel group and when I was leading a song,
Speaker 2: I never really put into it what.
Speaker 1: God gave me.
Speaker 2: Because I didn't want the other person to think I
Speaker 2: was trying to steal the spotlight because.
Speaker 1: The other person was the main leader, so.
Speaker 2: I didn't give it my all, which shame on me.
Speaker 1: For the other person.
Speaker 2: But after I realized what I was doing, I asked
Speaker 2: for a forgiveness from God, because God gave me the talent.
Speaker 1: And I should let my light shine like.
Speaker 2: Anyone and everyone else. But I was much much much
Speaker 2: younger than and I know better now, but I've never
Speaker 2: experienced that in a relationship with a significant other. But
Speaker 2: a lot of people do go through it. A lot
Speaker 2: of people go through it on their jobs, putting people
Speaker 2: up on pedestals who don't belong. They're number one and
Speaker 2: number two who have nothing good for you. All they
Speaker 2: want is to use you for what they can get next.
Speaker 1: You're their stepping stone.
Speaker 2: Until people mature and no self love self.
Speaker 1: They're gonna keep marching right into twenty twenty six.
Speaker 2: That is now here, the very same carrying the same baggage,
Speaker 2: unhealed hearts and minds, insecurities, depression, anxiety, all kinds of things.
Speaker 2: People don't realize that a lot of your mental conditions
Speaker 2: come from the lifestyles.
Speaker 1: That you lead.
Speaker 2: Because the majority of people, and I've said this before,
Speaker 2: the majority of people who have mental health issues was
Speaker 2: not born that way. They developed them out of some
Speaker 2: type of experience and because of the lifestyles that they leave.
Speaker 2: When you show your vulnerability to your significant others and
Speaker 2: other people, you fail yourself. Because one thing for sure is.
Speaker 1: People can see exactly for what you show them.
Speaker 2: You show your vulnerabilities by how you let people treat you.
Speaker 1: They know more about what you think of yourself than you.
Speaker 2: So let me go back to what I'm the title
Speaker 2: or the subject at hand. When you dumb yourself down
Speaker 2: to pump someone else up, to push someone or whatever
Speaker 2: it may be, while you stay stagnant and not appreciate
Speaker 2: it and take it for granted. It tells you who
Speaker 2: you are as a person. It tells you that you
Speaker 2: have work to do within yourself. And I get it
Speaker 2: because again, at one point in my life, I did it.
Speaker 2: But I've always told you I learned from every experience.
Speaker 2: And when I realized what I was doing, because I
Speaker 2: was looking at the way other people were receiving me
Speaker 2: and wanted me to be out front more, and I
Speaker 2: realized what I was doing to myself, and I stopped.
Speaker 2: I changed. I also left that group, but I've never
Speaker 2: allowed myself to be in that situation again. Because people
Speaker 2: will feed on your weaknesses period, because some individuals show
Speaker 2: how eager, willing.
Speaker 1: And desperate they are to please and appease.
Speaker 2: So when you do that, the people you're doing it
Speaker 2: for will feed off of you, zap your energy, your time,
Speaker 2: your resources.
Speaker 1: Yes, it's true, without blinking an eye.
Speaker 2: So the moral of this episode is you have to
Speaker 2: have faith in yourself. You must know yourself, you must
Speaker 2: love yourself, and you must be able to see when
Speaker 2: you are neglecting yourself for others.
Speaker 1: You know, I talk.
Speaker 2: About being selfish, being selfless, Well, when you neglect yourself.
Speaker 2: That's being selfish to yourself. When you are selfless to
Speaker 2: a point of distress, meaning you will do anything, in everything,
Speaker 2: you never say no, that's being selfish to yourself. Because
Speaker 2: when you don't know and love yourself and you don't
Speaker 2: take care of yourself, you.
Speaker 1: Are the one who hurt the most.
Speaker 2: You are the one who hurt the most, and some
Speaker 2: of you you become so angry, so mad, so sad,
Speaker 2: just full of hurt on top of the unresolved pain
Speaker 2: you already experienced. That's why people break down. When you
Speaker 2: feel that you gotta keep pumping someone else up. You
Speaker 2: gotta stop believing in yourself because you're exalting all of
Speaker 2: your energy, are exerting all of your energy into who
Speaker 2: you're with.
Speaker 1: You're your own problem.
Speaker 2: How many times have I told you that if a
Speaker 2: person and I don't care who the person is, if
Speaker 2: they don't enhance your life.
Speaker 1: You need to rethink it.
Speaker 2: Too many people get into relationships with individuals who do
Speaker 2: not enhance their lives. They do the complete opposite, and
Speaker 2: then you think the relationship is going to work when
Speaker 2: all you're doing.
Speaker 1: Is struggling.
Speaker 2: Every day, struggling, trying to maintain a relationship that has
Speaker 2: no foundation.
Speaker 1: Have you ever seen a house without a foundation.
Speaker 2: It's impossible, but many people are trying to make their
Speaker 2: relationships work with no foundation.
Speaker 1: If you have to give up yourself.
Speaker 2: To love, please, and appease someone else, baby, you've chosen wrong.
Speaker 1: They chose right when they picked you, but you chose
Speaker 1: wrong because the other person don't care.
Speaker 2: If they're out to get whatever they're trying to get,
Speaker 2: they don't care because they have a mission, they have
Speaker 2: an agenda. So when you dumb yourself down, or when
Speaker 2: you neglect yourself for who you're with, you're the one
Speaker 2: who's going to end up on the short end of
Speaker 2: the stick. Every single time. People will drain you completely dry.
Speaker 2: They will milk you completely dry if you allow it.
Speaker 2: I've talked to so many people when I was providing counsel,
Speaker 2: and I've talked to so many people who gave up
Speaker 2: so much of themselves, of their dreams and goals for
Speaker 2: who they were with, only to be.
Speaker 1: Treated like dogs.
Speaker 2: Who they were with became doctors, lawyers, all of these
Speaker 2: prominent people, only to leave them in the dust. They
Speaker 2: no longer mattered because they got from them what they wanted.
Speaker 1: I even know people who married.
Speaker 2: Individuals in the military to take advantage of the benefits.
Speaker 1: And once they obtained what they was trying to get,
Speaker 1: dump them.
Speaker 2: That's why you you you you. You must be aware
Speaker 2: of what's going on.
Speaker 1: In your relationships.
Speaker 2: You must be aware of what's going on around you,
Speaker 2: on your jobs, wherever you go, you must be aware
Speaker 2: of what's going on because when you act as if
Speaker 2: you don't know, people take advantage. People take advantage period
Speaker 2: People hold themselves back so much in order to push
Speaker 2: their significant others, and a lot of people never go back,
Speaker 2: never go back to complete their dreams and their goals
Speaker 2: and their ambitions.
Speaker 1: It's sad. It's very sad.
Speaker 2: Because if you're with someone, you shouldn't have to give
Speaker 2: up your dreams, your goals, your ambitions to support someone else.
Speaker 2: You can still support the other person and still maintain
Speaker 2: your own goals, dreams, and ambitions. If you don't know how,
Speaker 2: that tells you something about yourself. Some people get married
Speaker 2: and their spouses don't want them to work, and you
Speaker 2: just go along with it. Most times it's because people
Speaker 2: don't want to work anyways. But when you don't have
Speaker 2: your own when you're not making your own money, it
Speaker 2: becomes a problem for you eventually.
Speaker 1: When you don't have your own it means you are.
Speaker 2: Now an individual who have to depend on someone else.
Speaker 2: That's not good, especially when the person you're depending on
Speaker 2: is not a good person, have no good intentions. Really,
Speaker 2: it poses a problem in your life eventually.
Speaker 1: Some people have signs of red.
Speaker 2: Flags right away, but they ignore them because they want
Speaker 2: who they want.
Speaker 1: They allow their desires.
Speaker 2: Their wants, their emotions, their feelings, what their eyes see
Speaker 2: to trump what's right in their face. It's something that
Speaker 2: people really don't understand that's happening in their relationships or
Speaker 2: in their lives because they don't have eyes to see.
Speaker 2: That mindset has crippled and statnated many many.
Speaker 1: People around the globe. So it's a new day.
Speaker 2: New year, which means a new chance to become the
Speaker 2: best you possible for yourself, not for anyone else, for yourself.
Speaker 2: Because when you do, I promise you your eyes will open.
Speaker 2: You would think, feel and act differently. People around you
Speaker 2: may not like it, but they don't have to stop
Speaker 2: feeding into people who are not feeding into you, pouring
Speaker 2: into people who are not pouring into you. Breathing life
Speaker 2: into people who's suffocating you, straining the life out of you.
Speaker 2: It's time to wake up. You can't be the best
Speaker 2: that you can be by making everything and everyone else
Speaker 2: more important than yourself, because all that does is keep
Speaker 2: you where you've always been, stagnant and stuck.
Speaker 1: So going forth, it's time for healing.
Speaker 2: It's time for you to allow inner healing in your life.
Speaker 2: It's time to forgive and move on, because forgiveness is
Speaker 2: for you.
Speaker 1: It will take.
Speaker 2: Forgiveness for you to grow and to mature. I hope
Speaker 2: you get it. I hope you understand. I hope you
Speaker 2: receive it. I'm leaving it right there. Happy New Year,
Speaker 2: Thank you for listening.
Speaker 1: Much more.
Speaker 2: To each and every one of you. I pray you
Speaker 2: are prosperous, blessed.
Speaker 1: New Year.
Speaker 2: Change starts with only you. Please share this episode. I
Speaker 2: end all episodes the same, and I hope and I
Speaker 2: pray you do it.
Speaker 1: Think on it.