1 00:00:00,280 --> 00:00:03,600 Speaker 1: Creativity is an addiction, unplugged because we will always say 2 00:00:03,720 --> 00:00:07,559 yes to creativity, totally uncut because we all make mistakes, 3 00:00:07,759 --> 00:00:10,640 so turn it into a tool. This is arrow unplugged. 4 00:00:10,839 --> 00:00:12,839 We have become this generation where the beginning of a 5 00:00:12,839 --> 00:00:15,759 new week can actually be somebody's into the week. Your 6 00:00:15,800 --> 00:00:20,079 Monday is my Saturday? What triggers you might have no 7 00:00:20,199 --> 00:00:23,760 reaction to my emotions. This is why it is so 8 00:00:23,920 --> 00:00:28,039 important to break out in physical, face to face conversation 9 00:00:28,280 --> 00:00:31,679 versus Oh, let's just send me a text. Tapping words 10 00:00:31,719 --> 00:00:34,840 onto that tiny screen actually started in the late nineteen eighties. 11 00:00:35,439 --> 00:00:38,759 It's good and bad, especially when it comes to dealing 12 00:00:38,759 --> 00:00:40,960 with subjects that we don't really want to talk about. 13 00:00:41,679 --> 00:00:45,280 Research continues to show that we talk more today because 14 00:00:45,280 --> 00:00:48,320 of texting and because of video conferencing than any other 15 00:00:48,399 --> 00:00:51,759 time in history. Yet we barely know each other or 16 00:00:51,799 --> 00:00:55,359 anything about each other. That's one of my triggers. Seeing 17 00:00:55,399 --> 00:00:57,840 you on a Thursday isn't a brand new beginning, but 18 00:00:58,039 --> 00:01:01,079 it's a blank. You have to fill it in, and 19 00:01:01,079 --> 00:01:04,560 that's where the emotional connection takes place or totally disappears. 20 00:01:05,519 --> 00:01:07,799 It's as if the days of the week are less 21 00:01:07,840 --> 00:01:11,879 important because how we communicate, which is anytime, any place 22 00:01:12,680 --> 00:01:16,879 is barely even there, but we make it there because 23 00:01:16,879 --> 00:01:20,280 it's so easy to just send a text or jump 24 00:01:20,319 --> 00:01:24,319 on Facebook and have some face to face time. Hey, Sarah, 25 00:01:24,439 --> 00:01:26,319 this is the daily mess, a chronological walk through in 26 00:01:26,359 --> 00:01:29,640 everyday world. I am a daily writer, the silent wolf. 27 00:01:29,879 --> 00:01:34,319 I watch and I observe everything because life is worth studying. 28 00:01:34,799 --> 00:01:38,159 I said it last week. You aren't living life unless 29 00:01:38,159 --> 00:01:42,040 you're understanding your life, taking the time to get to 30 00:01:42,079 --> 00:01:47,400 know you more than just showing up being there. This 31 00:01:47,599 --> 00:01:54,079 is the daily mess. Staying visible inside an invisible universe impossible, right, 32 00:01:54,400 --> 00:02:00,400 Staying visible inside an invisible universe, being pressed in a 33 00:02:00,400 --> 00:02:03,400 moment of now can be the only thing that we 34 00:02:03,599 --> 00:02:06,519 get for the entire day because so much of what 35 00:02:06,599 --> 00:02:09,599 we do changes on the fly, only to hear. But 36 00:02:10,120 --> 00:02:15,199 we were going to do this, yeah, right, change of plans, 37 00:02:15,400 --> 00:02:18,879 new direction now. This is not a complaint, but rather 38 00:02:18,919 --> 00:02:24,479 an observation. No two business leaders are the same. Expectation 39 00:02:25,000 --> 00:02:29,199 consistently changes at the chime of the time clock. No 40 00:02:29,319 --> 00:02:32,199 wonder the blank stare has become the new pin up poster. 41 00:02:32,800 --> 00:02:35,360 It's all we've got when face to face with a 42 00:02:35,599 --> 00:02:39,800 but you said, trouble begins when the reply is it 43 00:02:39,840 --> 00:02:44,240 wasn't me. Whoa a brain stumble? Was it a dream? 44 00:02:44,759 --> 00:02:47,199 Did it happen in just a thought? Did it even 45 00:02:47,280 --> 00:02:50,479 happen at all? Why would we want to be visible 46 00:02:51,080 --> 00:02:55,680 inside an invisible universe? Nobody wants to be at the 47 00:02:55,719 --> 00:02:59,199 tip of the finger being pointed. Should we forget that 48 00:02:59,240 --> 00:03:03,800 we even had this kind of conversation staying visible inside 49 00:03:03,879 --> 00:03:08,520 an invisible universe? How often have you found yourself at 50 00:03:08,560 --> 00:03:12,759 a mall, a restaurant, or even at home. Things happen, 51 00:03:13,240 --> 00:03:16,120 somebody brings it up, and you're going, I was sitting 52 00:03:16,199 --> 00:03:20,000 right here, I didn't see anything. I didn't even hear it. 53 00:03:21,159 --> 00:03:23,719 You're right there in a world that is taking place, 54 00:03:24,639 --> 00:03:29,599 yet all of these invisible things are taking place. How 55 00:03:29,639 --> 00:03:32,360 do we deal with those moments when you are confronted 56 00:03:32,400 --> 00:03:36,319 by decision makers and other coworkers and even friends, They say, 57 00:03:36,599 --> 00:03:41,120 I didn't say that. I said this, but what you 58 00:03:41,360 --> 00:03:45,280 heard was totally different. That's one of the reasons why 59 00:03:45,319 --> 00:03:47,800 I carry a digital device with me where I can 60 00:03:47,840 --> 00:03:51,120 record messages on the spot, the reason being it's not 61 00:03:51,159 --> 00:03:53,080 that I want to get somebody in trouble. I want 62 00:03:53,080 --> 00:03:55,159 to be able to say, but this is what you 63 00:03:55,360 --> 00:03:59,479 physically said, because I've got it, this is how you 64 00:03:59,560 --> 00:04:02,560 did say it, because I've got it. I don't want 65 00:04:02,560 --> 00:04:04,280 to put anybody on the spot. I just want to 66 00:04:04,319 --> 00:04:06,919 make sure that I am receiving it. I want to 67 00:04:06,960 --> 00:04:12,479 be visible inside this invisible universe because we are saying things, 68 00:04:12,520 --> 00:04:15,400 we are doing things, and then when we get to 69 00:04:15,479 --> 00:04:18,639 a different part of the plan, things have changed. And 70 00:04:18,680 --> 00:04:21,839 then we come back and say, hey, it wasn't me. No, No, 71 00:04:21,879 --> 00:04:26,040 we're not going that direction because things have changed, and 72 00:04:26,319 --> 00:04:31,160 that in itself changes the emotional roller coaster. Get used 73 00:04:31,160 --> 00:04:35,720 to taking notes. If you need to grab a digital device, 74 00:04:35,759 --> 00:04:37,920 I go to Speaker. Speaker has a recorder that you 75 00:04:37,920 --> 00:04:39,639 can put in your smartphone, and all you have to 76 00:04:39,680 --> 00:04:42,319 do is you say, can you please say that right here? 77 00:04:42,759 --> 00:04:46,680 I want to have a documentation of how you put 78 00:04:46,720 --> 00:04:49,920 yourself in the moment of now. Listen, this isn't being 79 00:04:50,000 --> 00:04:52,720 a snoop or somebody who doesn't believe in things that 80 00:04:52,759 --> 00:04:57,000 do or don't take place. It's making yourself available to 81 00:04:57,079 --> 00:05:00,800 keep the calm in order. Because when people do have 82 00:05:00,879 --> 00:05:04,759 those sudden changes, oh we're going a different direction. That 83 00:05:04,839 --> 00:05:08,360 affects you emotionally, and the person that has made that 84 00:05:08,519 --> 00:05:12,560 change really doesn't care about how you're going to change 85 00:05:12,600 --> 00:05:14,879 yourself and what you're going to do when you get 86 00:05:14,879 --> 00:05:16,360 home or when you're going to sit in that car, 87 00:05:16,800 --> 00:05:20,279 because they're at the helm. Their rule is their rule. 88 00:05:20,879 --> 00:05:23,319 Get it on your recorder so that you have something 89 00:05:23,519 --> 00:05:26,319 that will stand right there with you. I'm Eryl, and 90 00:05:26,360 --> 00:05:27,519 that's the daily mess.