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<v Speaker 1>This is Pastor Rick's Daily Hope, the Bible teaching ministry

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<v Speaker 1>of Pastor Rick Warren. Today we continue in a series

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<v Speaker 1>here's Pastor Rick Warren with part two of a message

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<v Speaker 1>called how to Deal with how You Feel.

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<v Speaker 2>Satan's favorite tool. Listen to this. Satan's favorite tool in

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<v Speaker 2>your life is negative emotions. It's his favorite tool. He

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<v Speaker 2>will use fear to whip you around. He will use

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<v Speaker 2>resentment and jealousy and envy to whip you around. He'll

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<v Speaker 2>use bitterness and worry and anxiety. He'll use shame to

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<v Speaker 2>beat you up. Satan's favorite tool is to whip you

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<v Speaker 2>around with negative emotions. If you don't know how to

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<v Speaker 2>manage your emotions, you are helpless against Satan. You don't

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<v Speaker 2>want to be manipulated, so you want to learn the

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<v Speaker 2>skill we're going to look at this weekend, because he

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<v Speaker 2>wrecks so much havoc in our lives emotionally. First Peter

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<v Speaker 2>five eight says this, be self controlled and alert. Be

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<v Speaker 2>self controlled and alert your enemy. The devil prows around

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<v Speaker 2>like a roaring lione looking for someone to vour. If

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<v Speaker 2>you don't have self control, he will eat your lunch.

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<v Speaker 2>So what he's saying, okay, number three, I need to

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<v Speaker 2>manage my emotions because I want to please God. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to just know that my feelings are unreliable,

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<v Speaker 2>and I know that I don't want to be manipulated

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<v Speaker 2>by other people, or by my old nature, or by

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<v Speaker 2>the devil. But I also want to please God. And

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<v Speaker 2>God cannot be God in my life if emotions are

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<v Speaker 2>God in my life. God can't rule my life if

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<v Speaker 2>my emotions rule my life, Jesus can't be lord of

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<v Speaker 2>my life if my emotions are my lord of my life.

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<v Speaker 2>If I make all my decisions simply based on how

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<v Speaker 2>I feel, then I've made my feelings God, and then

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<v Speaker 2>God can't be God. The Bible says in Romans eight

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<v Speaker 2>six to eight to be control controlled by human nature

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<v Speaker 2>results in death, but to be controlled by the spirit

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<v Speaker 2>results in life and peace. And those who obey their

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<v Speaker 2>old human nature cannot please God. Circle that so you

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<v Speaker 2>can't please God if your emotions dominate your life and

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<v Speaker 2>they are running your life, and your decisions are made

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<v Speaker 2>based on how do I feel rather than what does

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<v Speaker 2>God say. Finally, number four, the fourth reason I must

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<v Speaker 2>manage my emotion is because I want to succeed in life.

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<v Speaker 2>This is one of the number one predictors of success

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<v Speaker 2>or failure in your life. Do you know how to

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<v Speaker 2>manage your moods? Do you know how to deal with

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<v Speaker 2>how you feel? Do you know how to control your emotions?

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<v Speaker 2>If you don't learn how to do this, you will

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<v Speaker 2>never be the success in life that God wants you

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<v Speaker 2>to be or that you want to be. Study after

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<v Speaker 2>study after study has shown that your emotional quotient is

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<v Speaker 2>far more important than you're in intelligence quotient. Your IQ

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<v Speaker 2>isn't nearly a lot of people don't have a high

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<v Speaker 2>IQ very successful in life, but they've got good smarts

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<v Speaker 2>in dealing with their emotions. They've got good smarts in

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<v Speaker 2>dealing with how they feel, and as a result, they're

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<v Speaker 2>people people. They know how to get along with others.

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<v Speaker 2>We've all known people who live by their emotions and

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<v Speaker 2>waste their life. They get on the MARSI, what do

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like doing today? Well? Not much, so they

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<v Speaker 2>don't do it much. And if you deal don't. If

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<v Speaker 2>you only deal with how you feel and you just

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<v Speaker 2>go based on what you're feeling, you're not going to

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<v Speaker 2>succeed in life. You're not going to make much of

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<v Speaker 2>your life. The Bible says in Proverbs Fight twenty three

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<v Speaker 2>people get lost. You're talking about in life? People get

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<v Speaker 2>lost and they die because of their foolishness and their

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<v Speaker 2>lack of self control. How many people do you know

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<v Speaker 2>who ruin the reputation because of their lack of self control?

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<v Speaker 2>How many people do you know who ruined a job

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<v Speaker 2>of a sudden boom. There you know, everything happened, from

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<v Speaker 2>an unwanted pregnancy to all kinds of different things. People

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<v Speaker 2>get lost, people die, that's the opposite of living because

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<v Speaker 2>of their foolishness and lack of self control. Now, when

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<v Speaker 2>you give your heart to Jesus, that includes your emotions.

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<v Speaker 2>So when you say I gave my heart to Jesus,

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<v Speaker 2>you gave your emotions to him to be managed by him.

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<v Speaker 2>Because the heart is the seat of your emotions. And

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<v Speaker 2>Jesus wants to be a lord of how you feel,

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<v Speaker 2>not just what you think and what you do. He

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<v Speaker 2>wants to be lord of your emotions. In fact, the

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<v Speaker 2>Bible says this to believers verse Peter four to two.

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<v Speaker 2>From now on, you must live the rest of your lives,

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<v Speaker 2>the rest of your earthly lives, controlled by God's way will,

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<v Speaker 2>not by human desires. What are human desires. It's your emotions,

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<v Speaker 2>it's your fections, it's your the way you feel, he says,

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<v Speaker 2>for the rest of your life. Now that you're a believer,

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<v Speaker 2>your life is to be controlled by God's will, not

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<v Speaker 2>by how you feel. So then how do I do that? Well?

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<v Speaker 2>This is what I want to spend most of the

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<v Speaker 2>time on this weekend. How do I manage an unmanageable

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<v Speaker 2>or an unwieldy or an unwanted feeling? Well, you do

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<v Speaker 2>three things and let's get right into it. Number one.

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<v Speaker 2>The first thing you got to do in dealing with

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<v Speaker 2>an emotion is you must name it. You must name it.

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<v Speaker 2>What does that mean? I've got to identify it. I've

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<v Speaker 2>got to be specific. I've got to pinpoint exactly what

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<v Speaker 2>it is. You can't manage a vague feeling. You can

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<v Speaker 2>only change control manage something that you have identified. And

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<v Speaker 2>if you don't know but the problem is in your life,

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<v Speaker 2>then you certainly can't work on it.

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<v Speaker 2>Now, you are not as good in touch with your

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<v Speaker 2>motions at being in touch with your emotions as you

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<v Speaker 2>think you are. We all think we're very very much

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<v Speaker 2>in touch with our emotions. No, we're not. Really. You

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<v Speaker 2>may even be very emotional and still not in touch

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<v Speaker 2>with your true emotions and why you feel the way

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<v Speaker 2>you feel. I got a friend who's a pastor, and

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<v Speaker 2>he and his wife having a little bit of marriage problem.

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<v Speaker 2>They went to counseling, which is a great thing, and

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<v Speaker 2>there's nothing wrong with that. That's a good thing to do.

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<v Speaker 2>And he was going to count sing and he said.

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<v Speaker 2>The counselor one of the questions asked us, so, how

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<v Speaker 2>in touch are you with your feelings? How do you

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<v Speaker 2>think you are? And this guy said, well, oh, I

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<v Speaker 2>think I'm very much in touch. I'm what you call

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<v Speaker 2>a sensitive guy, a sensitive man. And the counselor said, well,

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<v Speaker 2>then great, tell me some of the emotions that you

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<v Speaker 2>felt this last week. Well, you know, he couldn't name anything.

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<v Speaker 2>He said, I couldn't come up and I was just

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<v Speaker 2>drawing a blank when I was asked, what emotion did

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<v Speaker 2>you feel this last week? And he said finally, I

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<v Speaker 2>said I was tired. I was hungry, And the counselor

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<v Speaker 2>immediately shot back, those aren't emotions, and they're not they're drives,

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<v Speaker 2>they're not emotions, okay, and so you know he thought

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<v Speaker 2>he was really in touch, but he really wasn't. Now

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<v Speaker 2>we laugh at that, but I have to admit I'm

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<v Speaker 2>often confused about my emotions. I'm often confused about how

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<v Speaker 2>I feel. Sometimes I can't define it. I couldn't tell

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<v Speaker 2>you the number of times I've been sitting talking to

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<v Speaker 2>my wife and Kate will say, so, what are you

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<v Speaker 2>feeling right now? And I go, I don't know. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know. You know, I don't know what. I know.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm feeling something, but I can't put a name on it.

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<v Speaker 2>I can't I can't identify it. I can't name it.

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<v Speaker 2>Any of you ever feel like this? You know what

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<v Speaker 2>I'm talking about.

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<v Speaker 2>I know I'm feeling something, but I don't know what

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<v Speaker 2>I'm feeling, Yogi, you know. And so if you can't

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<v Speaker 2>name it, you can't change it. You gotta name it first.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes I feel like David. So I'm fifty five too.

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<v Speaker 2>Look here on the screen, he says, my thoughts are

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<v Speaker 2>restless and I'm confused. Well, that's the way we are

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of times about our feelings. We're confused, and

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<v Speaker 2>so you want to ask a couple questions. Write these

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<v Speaker 2>two questions down. This is the first step to managing

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<v Speaker 2>your emotions, to becoming an emotionally strong man, to become

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<v Speaker 2>an emotionally strong woman. Ask these two questions. First, you

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<v Speaker 2>ask what am I really feeling? That's the first question,

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<v Speaker 2>What am I really feeling? And what I mean by

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<v Speaker 2>that is you need to scratch beneath the serves because

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<v Speaker 2>what you think you're feeling is often not the real feeling.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes you think I'm seeing I'm feeling a little down today,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm feeling a little discouraged, I've got the blues, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>a little depressed, and you think that the problem is depression. No,

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<v Speaker 2>that's not the problem. You need to ask what's making

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<v Speaker 2>me depressed? And then you look a little bit deeper,

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<v Speaker 2>and it was I got criticized at work and I

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<v Speaker 2>didn't like that, or I just got laid off, or

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<v Speaker 2>an expectation didn't happen the way I expected it to happen.

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<v Speaker 2>And you need to look and find the disappointment or

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<v Speaker 2>find the worry. Sometimes it's fear. Sometimes it's repressed or

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<v Speaker 2>put down or covered up anger. So a lot of

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<v Speaker 2>times what you think you're feeling isn't really it? You

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<v Speaker 2>say what am I really feeling? Here? And if you'll

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<v Speaker 2>stop and peel the onion of you go, you know, really,

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<v Speaker 2>You know what I'm talking about. It's a transference there,

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<v Speaker 2>it's already out of control. If you have a fear

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<v Speaker 2>your body. You've heard me say this before. When you

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<v Speaker 2>to be swallowed. They were meant to be shared. They

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<v Speaker 2>and I saw that, and all of a sudden, I

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<v Speaker 2>something in the past. Sometimes a smell can trigger an emotion,

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<v Speaker 2>you feel warm and comfortable, or it can make you

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<v Speaker 2>feel afraid and angry. Okay. A trigger might be something

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<v Speaker 2>emotional response. You need to know these things. You can't

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<v Speaker 2>manage what you don't know. Taste. You can taste certain

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<v Speaker 2>things and it'll send you back the childhood and you

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<v Speaker 2>have all kinds of experiences on that. So you say,

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<v Speaker 2>triggered this? Now, write this down. I can't tame it

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<v Speaker 2>until I name it. I can't tame it until I

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<v Speaker 2>name it. I can't solve a problem that I can't identify.

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<v Speaker 2>So as you start by naming the emotion that you're feeling,

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<v Speaker 2>the negative emotion that you're feeling. The second thing you

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<v Speaker 2>do that the Bible tells us do is this Challenge it?

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<v Speaker 2>Challenge it. You challenge what you're feeling. You don't just

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<v Speaker 2>it's accurate. You don't automatically assume that what you feel

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<v Speaker 2>is the truth, correct or even reality. You challenge it,

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<v Speaker 2>is what I'm feeling? Do I really? Are things really

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<v Speaker 2>as bad as I feel they are? Probably not? Or

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<v Speaker 2>are things as really as good as I feel they are?

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<v Speaker 2>Probably not? So you need to ask yourself, is you

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<v Speaker 2>know some questions? You challenge it? Now? David, who wrote

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<v Speaker 2>many of the psalms, often ask God to challenge his emotions.

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<v Speaker 3>Now.

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<v Speaker 2>That's pretty smart, since God understands you better than you do.

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<v Speaker 2>God knows what you're feeling even when you don't know it,

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<v Speaker 2>And God knows what triggered it, even when you don't

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<v Speaker 2>know what triggered that emotion. And so if you say, God,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know what I'm feeling, I don't know where

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<v Speaker 2>it came from, but I need your help, that's a

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<v Speaker 2>good thing to do. David often asked God to evaluate

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<v Speaker 2>his feelings. And since God is impartial, God can help

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<v Speaker 2>you out. Look at this verse on the screen. The

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<v Speaker 2>Bible says, and so I'm twenty six' to, Two Lord,

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<v Speaker 2>cross examine. Me test my motives and my. Affections what

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<v Speaker 2>are your? Affections there are your. Emotions test my motives

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<v Speaker 2>and my. Feelings WHAT i? Feel what my? Affectations my?

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<v Speaker 2>Emotions so you Ask god to help you evaluate. It

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<v Speaker 2>but let me give you another one that's even more.

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<v Speaker 2>Personal get a friend to help, You and that is

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<v Speaker 2>sometimes it's best to have a friend who can challenge

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<v Speaker 2>what you're. Feeling now you've got a pretty close friend

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<v Speaker 2>to do. That have you given anybody in your life

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<v Speaker 2>the permission to challenge your feelings or does everybody just

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<v Speaker 2>have to be a yes man or yes woman to

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<v Speaker 2>you that if you feel a certain, way there's no

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<v Speaker 2>room For are you? Sure are you? Sure are you?

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<v Speaker 2>Sure that's a correct. UNDERSTANDING a true friend is somebody

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<v Speaker 2>you give permission to say are you sure about? That

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<v Speaker 2>you give them the ability to challenge your emotion and,

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<v Speaker 2>say you, Know, RICK i don't THINK i don't think

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<v Speaker 2>you're thinking correctly right. NOW i don't think what you're

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<v Speaker 2>feeling is actually. True job had a friend like. That

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<v Speaker 2>his name Was, elfhaz and In job, fifteen verse, Twelve

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<v Speaker 2>elifaz Asked, job why has your heart carried you? Away

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<v Speaker 2>and why do your eyes? Flash? Now that's a poetic

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<v Speaker 2>way of, saying how come you've run off the deep?

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<v Speaker 2>End and why do you get so? Angry do you

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<v Speaker 2>have anybody who can ask you that question and you

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<v Speaker 2>wouldn't get mad at them that you know they're doing

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<v Speaker 2>it out of. Love you need partners in your. Life

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<v Speaker 2>you need not only a small group that's a good

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<v Speaker 2>place to find, them but you need a spiritual, partner

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<v Speaker 2>not a, lot just one person who you've given the

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<v Speaker 2>right to challenge what you're feeling and, saying you know,

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<v Speaker 2>WHAT i don't think you're thinking, correctly that's not. Right

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<v Speaker 2>why are you going off the deep end on? This

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<v Speaker 2>and why are you getting so angry about? It give

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<v Speaker 2>somebody that. Permission, now let me give you three questions

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<v Speaker 2>to ask about your own emotions when you're trying to

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<v Speaker 2>figure out how to deal with HOW i. Feel, okay

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<v Speaker 2>so let's say you're going let's say you're, angry or you're,

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<v Speaker 2>upset or you're, irritated or you're, frustrated or you're depressed or.

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<v Speaker 2>Whatever you ask three street. Questions number, one what's the real,

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<v Speaker 2>reason the real reason That i'm feeling? This and that

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<v Speaker 2>goes back to what we were talking. Earlier you, know

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<v Speaker 2>maybe it's, Fear maybe it's. Worry maybe it's hooked into

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<v Speaker 2>something that your dad said to you years and years

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<v Speaker 2>and years, ago and when your husband said it to,

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<v Speaker 2>you all of a, sudden, boy he gets all the

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<v Speaker 2>wrath that you'd pent up against your dad or vice.

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<v Speaker 2>Versa what's the real Reason i'm feeling? This second, question ask,

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<v Speaker 2>yourself is it? True it's What i'm feeling right? Now.

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<v Speaker 2>True there's a point Where elijah in The bible gets so, down, discouraged,

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<v Speaker 2>depressed and he comes crying To god and he's. Complaining he, Says,

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<v Speaker 2>God i'm beyond only one in the entire nation Of

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<v Speaker 2>israel left serving you And god challenges. Us are you kidding?

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<v Speaker 2>ME i got all these people who still serving. Me

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<v Speaker 2>why are you asking acting like? That you're acting like

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<v Speaker 2>you're the only one trying to do the right thing

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<v Speaker 2>in the whole. World, no that's not. True so what's

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<v Speaker 2>the real REASON i feel this? Way and in that,

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<v Speaker 2>case he was? Tired and is it? True in that

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<v Speaker 2>case it wasn't. True then the third, question this is really,

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<v Speaker 2>important is What i'm feeling helping me or hurting? Me

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<v Speaker 2>sometimes this is the simplest thing to changing an emotion

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<v Speaker 2>by simply, saying is What i'm feeling right now going

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<v Speaker 2>to help me get WHAT i want to? Get or

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<v Speaker 2>is it actually going to hinder me getting for WHAT i?

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<v Speaker 2>Get in other, words WELL i get WHAT i want

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<v Speaker 2>by continuing to feel this. WAY a lot of feelings

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<v Speaker 2>that we have feel, natural but they're actually they're actually self.

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<v Speaker 2>Defeating for, instance let's say you go in and you

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<v Speaker 2>sit down at a restaurant and the service is, slow

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<v Speaker 2>AND i mean it's, slow and you're waiting and you're,

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<v Speaker 2>waiting and you're waiting and waiting to be, served and

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<v Speaker 2>then a couple comes in like fifteen minutes after you

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<v Speaker 2>and sits down and then they get their meal before you,

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<v Speaker 2>do and you look at your, Wife you're, going are

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<v Speaker 2>you seeing? This you watching this? Here and you're starting

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<v Speaker 2>to get a little, irritated and all of a sudden

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<v Speaker 2>you feel an emotion welling up inside of. You now you,

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<v Speaker 2>go what's the real Reason i'm feeling? This i'm? Hungry, okay,

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<v Speaker 2>okay is it? True, yeah it's. True i'm frustrated because

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<v Speaker 2>the service is slow, Here so that one is particularly.

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<v Speaker 2>True but then is it helping or is it? Hurting? Okay?

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<v Speaker 2>Question do you get better service by getting angry at a? Waitress?

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