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Speaker 1: of Pastor Rick Warren. Today we continue in a series
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Speaker 1: here's Pastor Rick Warren with part two of a message
Speaker 1: called how to Deal with how You Feel.
Speaker 2: Satan's favorite tool. Listen to this. Satan's favorite tool in
Speaker 2: your life is negative emotions. It's his favorite tool. He
Speaker 2: will use fear to whip you around. He will use
Speaker 2: resentment and jealousy and envy to whip you around. He'll
Speaker 2: use bitterness and worry and anxiety. He'll use shame to
Speaker 2: beat you up. Satan's favorite tool is to whip you
Speaker 2: around with negative emotions. If you don't know how to
Speaker 2: manage your emotions, you are helpless against Satan. You don't
Speaker 2: want to be manipulated, so you want to learn the
Speaker 2: skill we're going to look at this weekend, because he
Speaker 2: wrecks so much havoc in our lives emotionally. First Peter
Speaker 2: five eight says this, be self controlled and alert. Be
Speaker 2: self controlled and alert your enemy. The devil prows around
Speaker 2: like a roaring lione looking for someone to vour. If
Speaker 2: you don't have self control, he will eat your lunch.
Speaker 2: So what he's saying, okay, number three, I need to
Speaker 2: manage my emotions because I want to please God. I
Speaker 2: don't want to just know that my feelings are unreliable,
Speaker 2: and I know that I don't want to be manipulated
Speaker 2: by other people, or by my old nature, or by
Speaker 2: the devil. But I also want to please God. And
Speaker 2: God cannot be God in my life if emotions are
Speaker 2: God in my life. God can't rule my life if
Speaker 2: my emotions rule my life, Jesus can't be lord of
Speaker 2: my life if my emotions are my lord of my life.
Speaker 2: If I make all my decisions simply based on how
Speaker 2: I feel, then I've made my feelings God, and then
Speaker 2: God can't be God. The Bible says in Romans eight
Speaker 2: six to eight to be control controlled by human nature
Speaker 2: results in death, but to be controlled by the spirit
Speaker 2: results in life and peace. And those who obey their
Speaker 2: old human nature cannot please God. Circle that so you
Speaker 2: can't please God if your emotions dominate your life and
Speaker 2: they are running your life, and your decisions are made
Speaker 2: based on how do I feel rather than what does
Speaker 2: God say. Finally, number four, the fourth reason I must
Speaker 2: manage my emotion is because I want to succeed in life.
Speaker 2: This is one of the number one predictors of success
Speaker 2: or failure in your life. Do you know how to
Speaker 2: manage your moods? Do you know how to deal with
Speaker 2: how you feel? Do you know how to control your emotions?
Speaker 2: If you don't learn how to do this, you will
Speaker 2: never be the success in life that God wants you
Speaker 2: to be or that you want to be. Study after
Speaker 2: study after study has shown that your emotional quotient is
Speaker 2: far more important than you're in intelligence quotient. Your IQ
Speaker 2: isn't nearly a lot of people don't have a high
Speaker 2: IQ very successful in life, but they've got good smarts
Speaker 2: in dealing with their emotions. They've got good smarts in
Speaker 2: dealing with how they feel, and as a result, they're
Speaker 2: people people. They know how to get along with others.
Speaker 2: We've all known people who live by their emotions and
Speaker 2: waste their life. They get on the MARSI, what do
Speaker 2: I feel like doing today? Well? Not much, so they
Speaker 2: don't do it much. And if you deal don't. If
Speaker 2: you only deal with how you feel and you just
Speaker 2: go based on what you're feeling, you're not going to
Speaker 2: succeed in life. You're not going to make much of
Speaker 2: your life. The Bible says in Proverbs Fight twenty three
Speaker 2: people get lost. You're talking about in life? People get
Speaker 2: lost and they die because of their foolishness and their
Speaker 2: lack of self control. How many people do you know
Speaker 2: who ruin the reputation because of their lack of self control?
Speaker 2: How many people do you know who ruined a job
Speaker 2: of opportunity because of something that happened on a stupid
Speaker 2: one night party and foolishness and party, and then all
Speaker 2: of a sudden boom. There you know, everything happened, from
Speaker 2: an unwanted pregnancy to all kinds of different things. People
Speaker 2: get lost, people die, that's the opposite of living because
Speaker 2: of their foolishness and lack of self control. Now, when
Speaker 2: you give your heart to Jesus, that includes your emotions.
Speaker 2: So when you say I gave my heart to Jesus,
Speaker 2: you gave your emotions to him to be managed by him.
Speaker 2: Because the heart is the seat of your emotions. And
Speaker 2: Jesus wants to be a lord of how you feel,
Speaker 2: not just what you think and what you do. He
Speaker 2: wants to be lord of your emotions. In fact, the
Speaker 2: Bible says this to believers verse Peter four to two.
Speaker 2: From now on, you must live the rest of your lives,
Speaker 2: the rest of your earthly lives, controlled by God's way will,
Speaker 2: not by human desires. What are human desires. It's your emotions,
Speaker 2: it's your fections, it's your the way you feel, he says,
Speaker 2: for the rest of your life. Now that you're a believer,
Speaker 2: your life is to be controlled by God's will, not
Speaker 2: by how you feel. So then how do I do that? Well?
Speaker 2: This is what I want to spend most of the
Speaker 2: time on this weekend. How do I manage an unmanageable
Speaker 2: or an unwieldy or an unwanted feeling? Well, you do
Speaker 2: three things and let's get right into it. Number one.
Speaker 2: The first thing you got to do in dealing with
Speaker 2: an emotion is you must name it. You must name it.
Speaker 2: What does that mean? I've got to identify it. I've
Speaker 2: got to be specific. I've got to pinpoint exactly what
Speaker 2: it is. You can't manage a vague feeling. You can
Speaker 2: only change control manage something that you have identified. And
Speaker 2: if you don't know but the problem is in your life,
Speaker 2: then you certainly can't work on it.
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Speaker 2: Now, you are not as good in touch with your
Speaker 2: motions at being in touch with your emotions as you
Speaker 2: think you are. We all think we're very very much
Speaker 2: in touch with our emotions. No, we're not. Really. You
Speaker 2: may even be very emotional and still not in touch
Speaker 2: with your true emotions and why you feel the way
Speaker 2: you feel. I got a friend who's a pastor, and
Speaker 2: he and his wife having a little bit of marriage problem.
Speaker 2: They went to counseling, which is a great thing, and
Speaker 2: there's nothing wrong with that. That's a good thing to do.
Speaker 2: And he was going to count sing and he said.
Speaker 2: The counselor one of the questions asked us, so, how
Speaker 2: in touch are you with your feelings? How do you
Speaker 2: think you are? And this guy said, well, oh, I
Speaker 2: think I'm very much in touch. I'm what you call
Speaker 2: a sensitive guy, a sensitive man. And the counselor said, well,
Speaker 2: then great, tell me some of the emotions that you
Speaker 2: felt this last week. Well, you know, he couldn't name anything.
Speaker 2: He said, I couldn't come up and I was just
Speaker 2: drawing a blank when I was asked, what emotion did
Speaker 2: you feel this last week? And he said finally, I
Speaker 2: said I was tired. I was hungry, And the counselor
Speaker 2: immediately shot back, those aren't emotions, and they're not they're drives,
Speaker 2: they're not emotions, okay, and so you know he thought
Speaker 2: he was really in touch, but he really wasn't. Now
Speaker 2: we laugh at that, but I have to admit I'm
Speaker 2: often confused about my emotions. I'm often confused about how
Speaker 2: I feel. Sometimes I can't define it. I couldn't tell
Speaker 2: you the number of times I've been sitting talking to
Speaker 2: my wife and Kate will say, so, what are you
Speaker 2: feeling right now? And I go, I don't know. I
Speaker 2: don't know. You know, I don't know what. I know.
Speaker 2: I'm feeling something, but I can't put a name on it.
Speaker 2: I can't I can't identify it. I can't name it.
Speaker 2: Any of you ever feel like this? You know what
Speaker 2: I'm talking about.
Speaker 3: It is.
Speaker 2: I know I'm feeling something, but I don't know what
Speaker 2: I'm feeling, Yogi, you know. And so if you can't
Speaker 2: name it, you can't change it. You gotta name it first.
Speaker 2: Sometimes I feel like David. So I'm fifty five too.
Speaker 2: Look here on the screen, he says, my thoughts are
Speaker 2: restless and I'm confused. Well, that's the way we are
Speaker 2: a lot of times about our feelings. We're confused, and
Speaker 2: so you want to ask a couple questions. Write these
Speaker 2: two questions down. This is the first step to managing
Speaker 2: your emotions, to becoming an emotionally strong man, to become
Speaker 2: an emotionally strong woman. Ask these two questions. First, you
Speaker 2: ask what am I really feeling? That's the first question,
Speaker 2: What am I really feeling? And what I mean by
Speaker 2: that is you need to scratch beneath the serves because
Speaker 2: what you think you're feeling is often not the real feeling.
Speaker 2: Sometimes you think I'm seeing I'm feeling a little down today,
Speaker 2: I'm feeling a little discouraged, I've got the blues, I'm
Speaker 2: a little depressed, and you think that the problem is depression. No,
Speaker 2: that's not the problem. You need to ask what's making
Speaker 2: me depressed? And then you look a little bit deeper,
Speaker 2: and it was I got criticized at work and I
Speaker 2: didn't like that, or I just got laid off, or
Speaker 2: an expectation didn't happen the way I expected it to happen.
Speaker 2: And you need to look and find the disappointment or
Speaker 2: find the worry. Sometimes it's fear. Sometimes it's repressed or
Speaker 2: put down or covered up anger. So a lot of
Speaker 2: times what you think you're feeling isn't really it? You
Speaker 2: say what am I really feeling? Here? And if you'll
Speaker 2: stop and peel the onion of you go, you know, really,
Speaker 2: my irritation isn't with you, honey. My irritation was what
Speaker 2: somebody said to me right before I left work and
Speaker 2: came home. And now I'm taking it out on you.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm talking about. It's a transference there,
Speaker 2: So you say what am I really feeling? And then
Speaker 2: the other question you want to ask is what are
Speaker 2: my triggers? What triggered this? That's a good thing to say. Now,
Speaker 2: if I were to ask you to name the emotion
Speaker 2: that gives you the most trouble in your life, would
Speaker 2: you be able to meet say, oh, I know what
Speaker 2: it is. If you don't, you're not as in touch
Speaker 2: with yourself as you think you are, because you have
Speaker 2: certain emotions that trigger responses, and you have certain triggers
Speaker 2: that trigger emotions. Now, if you can't talk about it, listen,
Speaker 2: it's already out of control. If you have a fear
Speaker 2: and you're afraid to talk about it, guess what, it's
Speaker 2: already out of control. And it is actually in talking
Speaker 2: about it that you gain control and If you don't
Speaker 2: talk it out, you're going to take it out on
Speaker 2: your body. You've heard me say this before. When you
Speaker 2: swallow your emotions, your stomach keeps score. Emotions weren't meant
Speaker 2: to be swallowed. They were meant to be shared. They
Speaker 2: were meant to be shared. So you ask yourself what's
Speaker 2: the trigger and what triggered is Sometimes a trigger can
Speaker 2: be sight, In other words, I visited a particular place
Speaker 2: and I saw that, and all of a sudden, I
Speaker 2: feel very moody or very angry, or it brings up
Speaker 2: something in the past. Sometimes a smell can trigger an emotion,
Speaker 2: isn't that true? You smell something that it can make
Speaker 2: you feel warm and comfortable, or it can make you
Speaker 2: feel afraid and angry. Okay. A trigger might be something
Speaker 2: you hear, the sound of somebody's voice or a certain noise.
Speaker 2: Touch and the way someone touches you could trigger an
Speaker 2: emotional response. You need to know these things. You can't
Speaker 2: manage what you don't know. Taste. You can taste certain
Speaker 2: things and it'll send you back the childhood and you
Speaker 2: have all kinds of experiences on that. So you say,
Speaker 2: what am I What am I really feeling? And what
Speaker 2: triggered this? Now, write this down. I can't tame it
Speaker 2: until I name it. I can't tame it until I
Speaker 2: name it. I can't solve a problem that I can't identify.
Speaker 2: So as you start by naming the emotion that you're feeling,
Speaker 2: the negative emotion that you're feeling. The second thing you
Speaker 2: do that the Bible tells us do is this Challenge it?
Speaker 2: Challenge it. You challenge what you're feeling. You don't just
Speaker 2: automatically accept what you're feeling. You don't automatically assume that
Speaker 2: it's accurate. You don't automatically assume that what you feel
Speaker 2: is the truth, correct or even reality. You challenge it,
Speaker 2: is what I'm feeling? Do I really? Are things really
Speaker 2: as bad as I feel they are? Probably not? Or
Speaker 2: are things as really as good as I feel they are?
Speaker 2: Probably not? So you need to ask yourself, is you
Speaker 2: know some questions? You challenge it? Now? David, who wrote
Speaker 2: many of the psalms, often ask God to challenge his emotions.
Speaker 3: Now.
Speaker 2: That's pretty smart, since God understands you better than you do.
Speaker 2: God knows what you're feeling even when you don't know it,
Speaker 2: And God knows what triggered it, even when you don't
Speaker 2: know what triggered that emotion. And so if you say, God,
Speaker 2: I don't know what I'm feeling, I don't know where
Speaker 2: it came from, but I need your help, that's a
Speaker 2: good thing to do. David often asked God to evaluate
Speaker 2: his feelings. And since God is impartial, God can help
Speaker 2: you out. Look at this verse on the screen. The
Speaker 2: Bible says, and so I'm twenty six' to, Two Lord,
Speaker 2: cross examine. Me test my motives and my. Affections what
Speaker 2: are your? Affections there are your. Emotions test my motives
Speaker 2: and my. Feelings WHAT i? Feel what my? Affectations my?
Speaker 2: Emotions so you Ask god to help you evaluate. It
Speaker 2: but let me give you another one that's even more.
Speaker 2: Personal get a friend to help, You and that is
Speaker 2: sometimes it's best to have a friend who can challenge
Speaker 2: what you're. Feeling now you've got a pretty close friend
Speaker 2: to do. That have you given anybody in your life
Speaker 2: the permission to challenge your feelings or does everybody just
Speaker 2: have to be a yes man or yes woman to
Speaker 2: you that if you feel a certain, way there's no
Speaker 2: room For are you? Sure are you? Sure are you?
Speaker 2: Sure that's a correct. UNDERSTANDING a true friend is somebody
Speaker 2: you give permission to say are you sure about? That
Speaker 2: you give them the ability to challenge your emotion and,
Speaker 2: say you, Know, RICK i don't THINK i don't think
Speaker 2: you're thinking correctly right. NOW i don't think what you're
Speaker 2: feeling is actually. True job had a friend like. That
Speaker 2: his name Was, elfhaz and In job, fifteen verse, Twelve
Speaker 2: elifaz Asked, job why has your heart carried you? Away
Speaker 2: and why do your eyes? Flash? Now that's a poetic
Speaker 2: way of, saying how come you've run off the deep?
Speaker 2: End and why do you get so? Angry do you
Speaker 2: have anybody who can ask you that question and you
Speaker 2: wouldn't get mad at them that you know they're doing
Speaker 2: it out of. Love you need partners in your. Life
Speaker 2: you need not only a small group that's a good
Speaker 2: place to find, them but you need a spiritual, partner
Speaker 2: not a, lot just one person who you've given the
Speaker 2: right to challenge what you're feeling and, saying you know,
Speaker 2: WHAT i don't think you're thinking, correctly that's not. Right
Speaker 2: why are you going off the deep end on? This
Speaker 2: and why are you getting so angry about? It give
Speaker 2: somebody that. Permission, now let me give you three questions
Speaker 2: to ask about your own emotions when you're trying to
Speaker 2: figure out how to deal with HOW i. Feel, okay
Speaker 2: so let's say you're going let's say you're, angry or you're,
Speaker 2: upset or you're, irritated or you're, frustrated or you're depressed or.
Speaker 2: Whatever you ask three street. Questions number, one what's the real,
Speaker 2: reason the real reason That i'm feeling? This and that
Speaker 2: goes back to what we were talking. Earlier you, know
Speaker 2: maybe it's, Fear maybe it's. Worry maybe it's hooked into
Speaker 2: something that your dad said to you years and years
Speaker 2: and years, ago and when your husband said it to,
Speaker 2: you all of a, sudden, boy he gets all the
Speaker 2: wrath that you'd pent up against your dad or vice.
Speaker 2: Versa what's the real Reason i'm feeling? This second, question ask,
Speaker 2: yourself is it? True it's What i'm feeling right? Now.
Speaker 2: True there's a point Where elijah in The bible gets so, down, discouraged,
Speaker 2: depressed and he comes crying To god and he's. Complaining he, Says,
Speaker 2: God i'm beyond only one in the entire nation Of
Speaker 2: israel left serving you And god challenges. Us are you kidding?
Speaker 2: ME i got all these people who still serving. Me
Speaker 2: why are you asking acting like? That you're acting like
Speaker 2: you're the only one trying to do the right thing
Speaker 2: in the whole. World, no that's not. True so what's
Speaker 2: the real REASON i feel this? Way and in that,
Speaker 2: case he was? Tired and is it? True in that
Speaker 2: case it wasn't. True then the third, question this is really,
Speaker 2: important is What i'm feeling helping me or hurting? Me
Speaker 2: sometimes this is the simplest thing to changing an emotion
Speaker 2: by simply, saying is What i'm feeling right now going
Speaker 2: to help me get WHAT i want to? Get or
Speaker 2: is it actually going to hinder me getting for WHAT i?
Speaker 2: Get in other, words WELL i get WHAT i want
Speaker 2: by continuing to feel this. WAY a lot of feelings
Speaker 2: that we have feel, natural but they're actually they're actually self.
Speaker 2: Defeating for, instance let's say you go in and you
Speaker 2: sit down at a restaurant and the service is, slow
Speaker 2: AND i mean it's, slow and you're waiting and you're,
Speaker 2: waiting and you're waiting and waiting to be, served and
Speaker 2: then a couple comes in like fifteen minutes after you
Speaker 2: and sits down and then they get their meal before you,
Speaker 2: do and you look at your, Wife you're, going are
Speaker 2: you seeing? This you watching this? Here and you're starting
Speaker 2: to get a little, irritated and all of a sudden
Speaker 2: you feel an emotion welling up inside of. You now you,
Speaker 2: go what's the real Reason i'm feeling? This i'm? Hungry, okay,
Speaker 2: okay is it? True, yeah it's. True i'm frustrated because
Speaker 2: the service is slow, Here so that one is particularly.
Speaker 2: True but then is it helping or is it? Hurting? Okay?
Speaker 2: Question do you get better service by getting angry at a? Waitress?
Speaker 2: No this Is Pastor Rick's Daily.
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