Speaker 1: Hey, it's Bill.
Speaker 2: I wanted to jump in here before we started tell
you a little bit about the episode. We recorded this
on Kevin's birthday. Kevin been here since the beginning, married guy,
three boys, hockey dad. I'm pretty sure it means he
spent most of his adult life cold, tired, emotionally negotiating,
and honestly, every guy does this pretending he knows what
he's doing right. And here's the thing nobody really tells
you about. As you get older.
Speaker 1: At some point you just kind of figure this out.
You're no longer in control, not of your kids, not
of your body, and not of the outcomes you'll work
really hard to plan for. You're just involved. You watch
your kids get good at something, maybe great, and suddenly
it's not about teaching anymore. It's about stepping back and
not fucking it all up.
Speaker 2: Your marriage that shifts goes from passion to partnership. You
kind of need each other to balance it all out.
Your body sends little notifications you didn't sign up for.
We as humans love control, we worship it, and then
life quietly.
Speaker 1: Digs it away.
Speaker 2: So this episode isn't really about hockey or football, or
bad calls or snowstorms. It's about what happens when that
illusion breaks, and how you play the next part without panicking,
without disappearing, without pretending you're fine. Kevin s here, it's
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Speaker 4: Podcast, well hello and.
Speaker 2: Welcome thanks for getting your pot. On thank you for
telling a. Friend that's how we spread the word about
the pirate. Ship slowly growing like my god after the,
storm like moles up your. Back, yeah slowly growing like
the voles the way. BACK i just went for a skit.
Check how dare? You how dare?
Speaker 1: You all the? Way? Yeah oh, yeah, yeah yeah. Yeah
this lady's a little nicer. Lady yeah it going with
like a half. To so you don't like embarrass? Her uh,
NO i have WELL i have a fluffer embarrass. Her
HOW i gonna embarrass? Her going? Flimp she might be,
like oh hot?
Speaker 2: Anymore, no no, hot no. CHILLED i think younger than.
ME i think this one's younger than. Me the other,
one the other one was. Older uh. No and and
this one doesn't like the other one would do like
a blue light. Around this one just lifts my underwear
and looks.
Speaker 1: The blue light like you're checking out for coming. OUT
i don't, know. Hotel that's read pretty, MUCH i, think, yeah,
PROBABLY i don't. KNOW i don't know what that. Is, which,
lady you have been asked, This, oh you know what today?
Is kevin's? Birthday, married three, sons hockey, dad, alcoholic no, drunk, yeah,
alcoholics going to. MEETINGS i was thinking about. This you
have been, cold, tired and emotionally confused pretty much for
the last fifteen twenty. Years how long have you been? Married twenty?
Two all, right so twenty.
Speaker 2: Years i'll say you might have been not emotionally confused
the first, two but then the kids come along and.
Speaker 1: That you.
Speaker 2: KNOW i was thinking about this, too because it Was kevin's.
Birthday thank GOD i put in my fucking calendar this
year because there would have been.
Speaker 1: Nothing, OH i also do you also asked me like
two weeks, ago you guessed like four, days And i'm,
Like i've just tell you what it. Is, yeah, yeah,
YEAH i put it in my. CALENDAR i just A
facebook remind me when it's your. Birthday, yeah that's. FINE
i MEAN i usually shop ahead SO i don't have
to worry about. It, right that's a calendar pub up that.
Day so that's WHY i did the. Thing BUT i
was thinking about it BECAUSE i, go you, know for,
BIRTHDAYS i don't even know how old you. Are forty, seven,
no forty, five no, three you're going the wrong. Way
oh you're forty. Eight, nope you're not, Fifty nope you're forty.
Nine there you, go closest to the. Pits.
Speaker 2: Christ it's, like, mean, YEAH i, mean it's like the
hardest part isn't the kids and the. Diapers it's watching
them not need you, anymore you. KNOW i, mean that
really IS i, think honest To. God AND i know
it sounds a little strange from guys to be talking about,
that but it's like watching your kids become people that
no longer ask your. Permission it's kind of been you
don't really need.
Speaker 1: To it's kind of been the ongoing team of the
group chat that it was in over the weekend Because
sam's In. Vegas yeah, yeah, yeah yeah, Yeah and then
couldn't come. Back they got their flight delayed because of the. Storm,
RIGHT i think it Was. Thursday, yeah they had already
canceled it because of the, storm which really wasn't that
big of a storm to be honest with, YOU i didn't. Think,
yeah but he got they got. Stuck so they're coming
back tomorrow at some. Point, okay so he got an
extra two days In. Vegas that's what we're saying. THERE
i guess there could be worse places to be. Straight oh, yeah,
yeah we getting out. THERE i guess it was a
night where they went From. Chicago they were supposed To
chicago To. Vegas they went To chicago To denver To.
Vegas WHY i don't. KNOW i didn't.
Speaker 2: Ask, oh maybe maybe that was the original flight for
that plane and they had to cancel. It it makes
no sense to, Me BUT i, don't you know WHAT i.
Speaker 1: Mean it's, LIKE i don't. Know so what does it
feel like for you forty nine years old when you
realize that your kids are closer to leaving than they are.
Coming you know What i'm? Saying like the same thing for.
Speaker 2: Me both my older guys are, gone and It jamison
will be gone in two.
Speaker 1: Years there's many days Where i'm, like get the fuck, out,
GO i got plans for your, Room, GO i got
plays for your. Room but, yeah but it is, like,
okay all, RIGHT i Think dad's probably have a better
easier time than that with that than Mom's oh, Yeah
bob's going through because his oldest just. THERE i think
he's twenty. Four, yeah they just he just moved out
with his, girlfriend, okay and they were going through all
the getting the place and getting everything. RARE i think
they spent two days over there getting everything put together
and everything put up and put.
Speaker 2: Away and then your, Son, tyler who's still in high,
school and then you Have sam who's In vegas now coming.
Back But, tyler still in high, school has got like
a really promising future in.
Speaker 1: Hockey first stating.
Speaker 2: Hopefully, okay, Yeah so, like at what point as a
parent does it become from supporting to supporting means getting
out of the, way letting him listen to other. People
you know What i'm, saying BECAUSE i always, worry like
you'll hear about and a lot of them are turned. Out,
Okay but you don't want to Be Todd meredovich's. Dad
you're not and that's not you at. All but you played.
Hockey you understand the. Game you have a passion for.
It it's, like BUT I i, MEAN i think it's
fair to say your kid's better at it than.
Speaker 1: You. Tyler i'm not trying to be. Mean i'm Just
i'm just SAYING i think he's one of the best
in the. Area, yeah, yeah, definitely, YES i JUST i
still give him my two, cents LIKE i, say, hey
you know you did this, well this, well this, well
this is something where maybe it was not your best.
Option BUT i will always remind him when he comes
home and tells me that one of his high school
coaches or his travel coach says the exact same THING i,
said like three weeks, ago, yeah, like, oh, oh well
look at, this look at, This oh dad knows. All
or WHEN i told them over the, SUMMER i, go you,
know you probably need to put on about ten to
fifteen pounds of. Muscle, yeah it'll make, you it'll take
your game to the next. Level and they got train
wrecked a couple weeks. Ago, man that kid just fucking murdered. Me,
yeah maybe if you put that muscle on us and
eat McDonald's, there fat bitchy the. Kid the kid is he's,
wiring he's put on. Muscle, yeah he's got a little.
Bit he could definitely stand to fifteen. More, okay, Uh
because that's the thing, is LIKE i never. Knew my
dad was not a sports, guy so he didn't understand.
Speaker 2: Anything he was doing crossrod puzzles WHILE i was on
the field playing. Games and that's the, thing is, like
how do you know when pushing? Helps and and SOMETIMES
i think it's about our own, Anxiety like for some,
parents you don't want to see the kid like do.
Anything BUT i don't get really that vibe with.
Speaker 1: You he got messed up a little bit against he
got his head his bell rung Against, quaid and he
was definitely not feeling. Great and we went To Lake.
Placid he definitely played Like ship because he was, sick
sick with HE i think he was still feeling some
of the effects of getting his bell. Rung, yeah he
didn't have a, concussion but he definitely was. Not but
he was also he had a nasty head, cold so
he just he played. Awful he had no points in two,
games which is not like. Him, yeah and does that
what does that? Do what does that do for? You
does that make you like a little just makes? Me?
NO i JUST i just let him do.
Speaker 4: It.
Speaker 1: YEAH i thought about this a lot BECAUSE i after
The Bills ship that went on and then you go
on social, media and they'll see all kinds of people
putting up this was considered a. Cuts this was not
considered the. Cuts AND i GET i can't don't let
your don't let your season come down to one. Play,
well here's here's WHAT i was.
Speaker 2: WATCHING i, thought you, know there were people Saying Drake
may didn't play well in the. Playoffs he hasn't and
he didn't really play well yet done, enough but he
played well.
Speaker 1: Enough he's done. Enough BUT i, thought, boy because they
are Not they're not The, bills they're Not Josh allen,
driven their team driven.
Speaker 2: Well and they seem to be fundamentals over flash, yep
you know WHAT i. Mean fundamentals over. Flash and it
was like remembering who you, know you're one to eleventh
of this, team and it's.
Speaker 1: Just why miss at thirteen yards when you can hit it? Four? Yeah?
Right three fours is still twelve. Yep and it's still
a first? Down yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah and it's like they also did something. Else they
have adaptability and in a real sense of control of
situations that they don't necessarily have control.
Speaker 1: Of and What i'm referring.
Speaker 2: To is The Jared stindham flagged play that they went
under review and then it wasn't a it was down
where The patriot guy got it because it was a,
fumble not a forward pass or lateral or whatever it.
Speaker 1: Was and then maybe that was a bad. Call, well
they Blew they blew the when the ball hit the,
ground they blew the play. Dead, yes that's why they
give them the.
Speaker 2: Ball, that, yes BUT i think it was kind of
a blown, call like they they should have probably got
the touchdown The patriots for, that so instead of allowing
that chaos to you, know, oh they're fucking us that
kind of, thing WHICH i think in certain situations some people.
Could it was a close game and they. Didn't they
went in and they scored and they did what they
had to. Do and it's one of these things where.
Speaker 1: It's the veteran. STAFF i, mean you've Got Josh, pretenden
who's been a head coach to an offensive. Coordinator you
Got vrabel who's been a head coach for a, while
he's been a defensive. Coordinator, right they're just wired differently
than Say Johnny Joe, brady WHO'S i don't want to
Say Joe brady's not wired correctly because that's not the
right way to say, it but he doesn't have that
situational stuff that He's he's just not as. Tenured he
doesn't have the, time and he doesn't have the experience
That josh McDaniels would. Have, Yeah, NO i sometimes that
plays into. It sometimes that plays great for, you huge because.
Speaker 2: You've seen a lot of, stuff, right and experience is
our greatest, teacher, right you, know words don't, teach that's the.
Speaker 1: Thing but he, sometimes being the new, guy you can be,
like you know, what fuck, it let's. Go but they
didn't argue the.
Speaker 2: CHAOS i didn't see ANY i didn't see any argument
on the k AND i, thought, wow they just adjusted to.
It and then they went forward and he goes to,
me it's like how much success is, talent but also
how you respond to the.
Speaker 1: Situation, well they talked about it on the. Broadcast Tony
romo was talking about it because they kept showing late
in the fourth quarter when it was blizzarding and nobody
could move the. Ball at one, Point New england had
a third and like ten, yeah and basically did just
snapped it and threw it, away knowing they were gonna
punt and just move the. Ball but they were showing
McDaniels And rabel talking back and, forth constantly talking back and,
forth trying to figure out what's our best play? Here,
yeah do we try to move the? Ball do we just?
YEAH i mean with the lead and let our defense.
Speaker 2: Win it's a chess, game, right and you're trying you're
trying to. SEE i don't, know BECAUSE i. Was it
even reminded me WHEN i was thinking about all this,
stuff AND i, go you, know it's how you respond
to a.
Speaker 1: SITUATION i got a, call, uh earlier in the week
from my kids'.
Speaker 2: School something had, happened and what he said to them
and they wanted me to know was.
Speaker 1: My knee.
Speaker 2: Jerk my dad always, says my knee jerk response is
usually the wrong response to, have and they, said we
wanted you to know he said, that AND i, said, well,
yeah usually our first, response knee jerk is hard to.
Control it's knee, jerk, Right it's knee. Jerk it's like
it's it's it's, instinct it's it's what you've been trained to.
Do but if you can get, that just that moment that,
beat train yourself to do.
Speaker 1: That it's.
Speaker 2: Better because most, PEOPLE i, think in anything they're. Doing
and you look at The, patriots they lose momentum because
something was. Unfair they just lose momentum and then they
wind up stop playing the, game stop doing them. Whatever
hey fuck, this this guy hurt my, feeling you know
WHAT i? Mean, Right AND i really. DO i think
in life you can look at, that LIKE i, thought
that's a great. THING i hope some football, COACH i
hope some teacher takes That patriot thing right, there that
play and.
Speaker 1: Go they didn't overreact to. It they stayed. Composed AND i, mean,
look The broncos had a chance to keep them. Out
they weren't. In they didn't get the. Touchdown you got
a chance to rest your offense a little. Bit and
many teams have we, watched you, know many teams do.
That SO i DON'T i don't. Know it's kind of like.
Speaker 2: Life doesn't reward people who are, right even though we
want to tell our kids that all the.
Speaker 1: Time look who's. Right it rewards who keeps playing the,
game who keeps. Going this individual did not lose momentum
because something was kind of. Unfair he was In New.
York That's Sam.
Speaker 2: Donald he was in the same draft class As baker
may And Josh. Allen he was picked, Third josh was picked.
SEVENTH i think whatever what's his name was picked. Sixteenth Lamar,
yeah And Josh rosen, too And Josh rosen, Right Josh.
ROSEN i don't think who ever saw the. FIELD i
don't even know if he's.
Speaker 1: Still, YEAH i don't, know but it's like you watch
What Sam donald. Did. Right he goes From New york
to The, panthers and then The panthers go and Get Baker,
mayfield so they're both on the, team and he's out
To San francisco BECAUSE i think he reminded a reporter
While i've won A Super bowl, before Or i've been
on the you, Know i've been in a Super bowl.
Before he didn't, play but he was on the.
Speaker 2: Sideline then he goes from there To, minnesota has a
pretty solid, season everything's, okay maybe you, know he found his,
home and then the next thing you, know he's off
To seattle with a new head. Coach, LIKE i, think
is this a rookie head. COACH i don't know how
long he's been in, there BECAUSE i might think they
Fired carol two years. Ago, okay so it was the
second season but still AND i, go he was great.
Yesterday he was THROWING i, mean he looked, really really.
Speaker 1: Sharp it just shows what a shit show The jets
are and what a shit show they are at developing. Players.
Speaker 2: Right but think about the number of. GUYS i, MEAN
i think a lot of people wrote him off as
a as a bust or. Whatever he was seeing. Ghosts
that becomes a like a quote that was played all the,
Time AND i, go that guy never fucking bought into
anybody else's.
Speaker 1: Bullshit he just he knew what he had and he you,
know his grandfather was the marble. Man, uh he just kept.
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Speaker 1: Series it sounds Like Eddie. Fetter it's not. Ed but
is this collective? Salt it is not BUS i know
all the, words you know the? Song, yeah BUT i
don't know The cranberries. Cover oh linger, Zombie oh. Zombie
but who's singing the Bad? Wolves? OH i don't know
The Bad. WOLVES i JUST i really love this, song
And i've probably got seven different versions of the. Song oh, yeah, yeah,
Yeah i've got one Of Miley cyrus doing. It, Okay oh,
GOD i wouldn't even have put the cranberries because it's
AND i knew all the, words And i'm, going, why, why,
Why i'm having this weird getting? Old that is WHAT
i have to look forward. To it four, Years yeah a.
Man next year's the big, One, buddy strippers and. BLOW
i think will be okay with? That or will you moving? Again?
OH i don't. Know we'll probably have to move after.
That i'm not really. Sure max, here it's okay If max, here, yeah, True,
yeah he doesn't have a problem. Here he can don the. Party,
YEAH i, said if he, blows if he blows a
line off of strippers, ass that's gonna wait a. Second
he would never ever do. That he would never do.
That he blows a line off your ass to the,
party you get a little hair up there, too it'd be.
Terrible oh my, god, yeah it'd be. Gross the uh
we had that big.
Speaker 2: STORM i don't, know like what has happened to, me
BUT i wanted to for a. While i've been wanting
to try to make different. Things SO i made a
meat loaf And i've never made a meat loaf in my.
Speaker 1: Life so you tried to make comedy On instagram And.
FACEBOOK i tried to make a little. COMEDY i tried
to do a little little funny weather guy outside and
some of it, got you, know, people some people REALLY
i don't know if they liked it or. Not it
was just quick.
Speaker 2: STUFF i did read this article on one of the news.
Sites local news sites.
Speaker 1: Basically, said don't pretend you're twenty five with a shovel out.
There people have hearted To but it was the, light fluffy.
Stuff it wasn't the heavy. Stuff, yeah, yeah who, knows,
BUDDY i can't. Tell it's fucking, cold AND i always, go,
Yeah but everybody goes out and they start to, shovel
and you start to sweat because you're all bundled, up
and now your body's heating them because you're basically doing cardiovascular.
Work and then you, know you're huffing and, puffing and somebody,
goes are you, Okay i'm, Fine i'm, Fine AND i don't.
KNOW i, mean LIKE i, think to be a, man by,
definition in a, way you got to push through the,
pain got to ignore. It. Right we talked all about
it with the football.
Speaker 2: Players SO i, GO i can totally see how a
heart attack can fucking.
Speaker 1: Happen with SOMEBODY i got out there and did. It
you didn't have your kids do. It they. Would it's
like your, Kid i'm playing a video games like you.
CAN'T i can't get LIKE i gets annoyed at me
the other day BECAUSE i, go, BUDDY i asked you
to take out the garbage and do it. NOW i
bet you ten dollars and said you wanted to go
To chipotle instead of that game would have been turned
off for about six. Seconds it is, weird, Man it's
it's so.
Speaker 2: Weird BUT i because, like think of the things we
tell our, kids, right especially when they're out speak. Up
we're all hearing, now AND i think it's a you're
starting to see like PSAs and things for, uh speaking
up if we see something that isn't, Right and we
kind of tell our kids to speak. Up but then as,
DUDES i always figure we don't really model that because
when it comes to our health and, shit we're fucking.
Silent i'll be, Fine i'll be, fine you, Know and
and we treat like maintenance like it's it's it's weakness or.
Something AND i, go that's not exactly healthy or smart.
Speaker 1: EITHER i should speak. Up you should stop, drinking Boll
i've cut way, back ALTHOUGH i did finish throughout the. Day,
YESTERDAY i did finish off a bottle of. Wine, well
it's a. Storm you had to prepare.
Speaker 2: Her it was all all. Day it was just like
throughout the. Day, NOW i can't say throughout the. DAY
i think IF i had a poured the first wine at.
Speaker 1: Like three, thirty were you drigging out of a glass
or just stright out of.
Speaker 2: The bottle out of a glass by all class over,
here out of a wine, glass stemless short wine. Glass
AND i have stemmed as, Well BUT i have not
had a. Step maybe, today maybe TODAY i have a.
STEP i don't expect, anything, RIGHT i. DON'T i don't expect.
Anything But i'm also not even really in a. Relationship
you're at.
Speaker 1: Like, seven you're in a relationship With, guinness your relationship With,
josh your relationship With, jamison not your. SON i am
not that's Not this is So, god that sounds so.
BAD i uh, no But i'm not. Well last year
for my.
Speaker 2: BIRTHDAY i did get a nice gift from, somebody AND
i need to uh it was their. Birthday Recently i've
been trying to, reconnect.
Speaker 1: BUT i fucked. It. Up that's WHAT i. Do wait
to be mental. Health, well it was you do as
you say you. Do i'll tell you honestly that that's
where the whole alcohol podcast came. From AND i got
a nasty note from somebody On facebook, saying, Uh they're,
like now the group texts can go. Off how do
you silence your? iPad? Uh turn the volume? Down, Okay
Well i'll have to figure that. Out volume button right
on the top. There, yeah let's turn it.
Speaker 2: Up let me go this, way, Okay because now my
mother's bragging because she got the.
Speaker 1: Most amount of snow out of, anybody twenty two, inches
and she's setting pictures to. Everybody my sister's, responding oh my,
god you know your brother's mom got twenty two. Inches.
Why but here's here's The Peter north Came here's the.
Bad here's the bad. Part it's like everybody can relate
to that because everybody gets on these family group texts
AND i don't KNOW i must. HAVE i don't BECAUSE
i tell my, wife do not put me in group.
Speaker 2: CHECKS i will not, well, right and and you have
you and the kids and, STUFF i will not respond
AND i will throw shit at. You, Well i'm in
the family group text so it's my, kids my niece
is in, there my, brother his, wife my sister her.
HUSBAND i don't know that my sister's kids are in,
there and my dad was in. THERE i think my
dad's still on.
Speaker 1: THERE i don't.
Speaker 2: Know And, march so is he still judging To So
jordan's on, there you, know so every way she probably.
Is so everybody will send these things and then, sometimes
LIKE i.
Speaker 1: Gotta be, honest If kevin just turned his phone out
and started typing your dad's responses to, Ship i'd be.
HILARIOUS i think he has his phone. Too that would
be if he just there just wait wait wait wait
wait what your? Dad what you? Say wait wait wait
wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait
wait wait.
Speaker 2: Wait So i'm pretty sure he had it turned. Off
but when my dad died was it an?
Speaker 1: iPhone, yeah he could STILL i. MESSAGE i think the
number and everything was given. BACK i don't need a
number FOR i. Message that's. Apple oh, well so we
don't have a conversation with your. Brother so my brother
were leaving AND i had like because he Grabbed dad's
phone or, whatever and he's, like, uh and we had
talked to my mom and told her and all we
were all in there laughing and stuff like. That but the.
Speaker 2: He as we're driving, somewhere he sends a message to
my mom from my dad's, phone knowing that she's. Dead
AND i think it was something like he would say.
Speaker 1: To, her hot down. Here he didn't say.
Speaker 2: That it was something that he would say TO i
don't even. Remember and then we called her and she's,
like oh my. God she, goes you're such an ass
because he had sent the. Thing but it would freak you.
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Speaker 2: Burnout AND i certainly think that one of the worst
things we can say to somebody is you got to think?
Speaker 1: Positively, okay, GREAT i, YES i just said that today
to my. Aunt what did you, say think? Positively? Yeah,
WELL i mean, yeah BUT i always think positive thoughts
tend to bring positive energy in my MIND a. Hundred
negative thoughts a hundred are absolutely.
Speaker 2: You couldn't be more. CORRECT i just think when someone's
down a negative. Road one of the THINGS i and
it's only Because i'm old And i've seen, it IS
i don't want to say things like, relax think. POSITIVELY
i just want To it's almost at that POINT i, go,
YEAH i get, IT i get. IT i hear, you,
man And i'll tell you what you're.
Speaker 1: Down maybe make any when you've got it and start stacking.
It take, yeah go to bed and start. Market if
you get up in the, morning count that as your first.
Win one hundred started backing. It where does who's this
guy that's talking over? Here where did this come? From?
Yeah but usually you become a bigger. Dick that's not
the case that's going on with. You there's. Wiser, OKAY
i GOT i got, IT i see. It it's uh.
Speaker 2: No you're you're absolutely. Right but the thing With stephanie's
like that's her. Mentality And stephanie was also has worked very.
Hard she sold a five point two million dollar home
On Canadigua. Lake now this happened a while, ago and
she was afraid to say anything because she didn't want
to turn into like one of the. People But i'm
just gonna SAY I i'm terrible at, math, terrible BUT
i think three percent is usually what real estate agents.
Get i'm gonna say that's about one hundred and fifty,
six one hundred and fifty five thousand. Dollars, like, now
don't forget you're gonna get. That so But i'm just
saying that three percent is? That so there are people
who just do one or two of those a year
and they call it a. Year stephanie's a. Hustler she's
out there trying to build an. Empire she wants to
be the, best and she's willing to take the. Risks
and even with, this she was, LIKE i didn't want
to say anything about. IT i recently put it on
My facebook page THAT i sold this house BECAUSE i
want people to know it doesn't matter if your house
is one hundred and seventy five thousand dollars or your
house is five point two million. Dollars i'm going to
give you my best no matter. What AND i CAN
i can attest to that because she. Did she sold
my mother's.
Speaker 1: House, yeah and my mother's house is far from five
point two, million but she put in just as much
work on my mother's house as she does on any other. House, Yeap,
YEAH i mean that's just who she's a little said
THAT i didn't get a video because that when she
was first starting to do the, VIDEOS i wanted something,
sweet but something, sweet like what anything? Done she's, Creative
she's very very. CREATIVE i stand by that she like you,
said she will take, chances mm, hmm BUT i think
she also creates her own.
Speaker 2: Wins we can be back the, yeah because you're doing,
that and that's a really smart way to look at. It, yeah,
Yeah i'll take the, chance But i'm Gonna i'm gonna
win taking the, Chance i'm not gonna, lose.
Speaker 1: Right and that that's more of a mental. ATTITUDE i
know somebody who used to have that mental. Attitude YOU
i still. Do i'm fucking taking chances all the time
Now i'm with the net whin a rubber is not a.
Chance i'm trying to start to take a more positive
look and things Because i've always been a negative person me,
too almost my Natural english, well because everything was always my.
Upbringing it was we don't talk about, this we don't
talk about, this. Right i've been talking about my aunt
with my aunt about, it And i'm, Like i'm not
sure my mother and father even liked. Me are they? Did? Yes,
yes there's things that in the Past i'm, like fucking
does that, Right and it's just.
Speaker 2: Like it's it's, weird but at the time it felt
very normal and it's like the same.
Speaker 1: Thing But i've seen over the last few years myself
going down that same. Role it's how you were, conditioned,
Right that's how you're, conditioned And i'm trying to do things. Differently,
yeah it's not always. Positive it doesn't always work. Out
i'm not stacking all the, winds, no but a little
bit is a lot more than you, have, right you know.
That that's?
Speaker 2: Boy that's interesting BECAUSE i always say, too like we
are so. Conditioned my old man was always like a discreet.
Speaker 1: Sense of paranoia goes a long, way so you're always
like looking, around like who's gonna who's gonna knife me
in the? Back so to, speak, right you, know figuratively,
speaking and then you start to, go, well why why
AM i? What that's? Insane but at the time it
was that was.
Speaker 2: It OR i remember my friend fucking burst, out laughing
in my, face like just lost it BECAUSE i said to,
Him he's, like, hey, man we get together come over
my house this.
Speaker 1: Weekend And i'm, LIKE i. Can't and my father had
been yelling at me THAT i can't academically afford to
do anything other than my schoolwork.
Speaker 2: Or something like, that and SO i said that my
friend just lost. It but you took these things as,
gospel at LEAST i. Did when my old man, SPOKE
i took it as. Gospel and then when WHEN i look,
BACK i, go what was going on with him that
he was? Like you, know a discreet sense of paranoia
goes a long. Way trust no. One you, know why.
Speaker 1: Is it so drastically changed in Your for, ME i
know why in? Mine but for? You why do you
treat your children differently than?
Speaker 2: That BECAUSE i hated it, exactly, YEAH i MEAN i hated,
it AND i also see where it didn't. Work it didn't,
work and it was also one of these things, where you,
know we hear a lot about the gentle, parenting, right
people say the gentle, parenting it doesn't work with jenntleparent,
Right but does screaming in your kid's, face slamming the
door asking them should they should you send them to
have their head?
Speaker 1: Examined is that is that? Working does that fucking? WORK i.
DON'T i. Don't that to me doesn't. Work.
Speaker 2: NOW i don't know the results necessarily of the other,
side BUT i would think that you're better off trying
To i'm not saying be your kid's. FRIEND i always
say to my, boys you, Know i'm not your, buddy your,
dad but it is different with. You and you, know
because you have three, sons you're gonna be joking around
with them and stuff as they get. Older it just
is what. Happens but at the same, time you gotta
have those. Boundaries but you, KNOW i always used to
say that there's a difference between kind and. Nice in my,
opinion nice gets walked. On kind can draw boundaries and,
GO i don't need to tell you what an ASSHOLE
i think you. ARE i just need To i'm just
not gonna chime in or, whatever. Right AND i think
that that's the thing with the kids and, It and
it's hard to do sometimes, because like, YOU i have
been conditioned to where you would get yelled at or
you would kind of like my parents would even needle,
me or the passive aggressive ship AND i have.
Speaker 3: To go that.
Speaker 1: WAY i could be the most passive aggressive AND i
AND i see, it AND i had somebody once call
me on it AND i, went, oh, YEAH i don't
want to be that, way AND i try really hard not.
Speaker 2: To it was like it was AFTER i was, married
And i'm, like you, know these are the things like
we can all go when when when a breakup. Happens,
uh when you hear the People i'm in, campsone so
On i'm in camp. Zone so, uh it's two. People
they both brought their own ship to. It and you,
know the more you're carrying something, around the more weight it.
Carries and when it when it gets pushed or, TRIGGERED
i think is the WORD i think that you have To,
UH i just got to think saying productions Dot COM
i Forgot, Really, YEAH i think that's when it comes.
Out it comes out with such. Force sometimes the person
in front of you isn't necessarily the reason. Why but
all that weight you're caring for so, long it, comes it's,
heavier and it comes.
Speaker 1: Fast that's WHAT i hate, doing IS i HATE i
always would build, it build, it build, it build, it build,
it and then somebody would trigger and it would just
get fucking eight months and just regurgitated. Ship, YEAH i
did the same. THING i thought a fuck a billion
bucks better After, yeah and then do you ever do?
This did you ever walk around after you did something like?
That and what's your?
Speaker 4: Problem?
Speaker 1: Why? Why why are you all? Quiet? No i'm not
that big of a, Day, like what's what's going ON
i was just blowing off. Steam what do you want
me to? Do i've learned. It drinking is the.
Speaker 2: Way, yeah but even that would like sometimes bring out
the worst in, me because here's.
Speaker 1: Why and and this was thank. You you brought me
back to you've got to drink that you pass out
so you don't have the. Worst you brought me back
to a.
Speaker 2: POINT i want to see what the NAME i had
for the alcohol Episode escaping my fat head right, Now
but somebody wrote kind of a nasty comment On facebook to,
it BUT i think.
Speaker 1: It was it was an. Episode it was when that's the,
buffalo when alcohol becomes, Permission when alcohol becomes.
Speaker 2: Permission and somebody, SAID i listened to, that and it
sounds like he's just blaming all his stuff on, That
AND i was, going that wasn't the point of the.
Speaker 1: Episode the point of the.
Speaker 2: Episode was to, go alcohol does not make you behave.
Badly alcohol just takes your break system away you're in,
Ambitions and it also Doesn't it also isn't a truth.
Speaker 1: Serum maybe people.
Speaker 2: Are a little more, HONEST i, guess but when they're really,
hammered they're not even.
Speaker 1: Aware AND i don't think. That But you can't use
that as an, excuse was my.
Speaker 2: Point you can't because a lot of times what's happening
and what's making you react emotionally is not the person
in front of. You it's the ship from the past
that you've been carrying, around and it just comes harder and.
Faster it's like a river that's just picked up steam, steam,
steam and now we're over the edge and It's Niagara
falls and it's, powerful AND i you know, SO i,
NO i don't think.
Speaker 1: Drinking is a is an. EXCUSE i don't think any
kind of alter says. Excuse you've got to own your.
Shit you got to own. It here's the thing THAT
i think you should remember your. Birthday it's.
Speaker 2: Not about losing strength as we get. Older it's about
learning where to apply that. Strength like just what you said,
earlier like all that, shit learning where.
Speaker 1: To apply that? Knowledge not too, MUCH i black thought.
Earlier what DID i? Say All, right we're gonna we're
gonna close. Out we'll have to catch up With greg another.
Time my chili's almost. Done it's been about a million hours, Now.
Speaker 2: So, uh happy, birthday thank. You, yeah stretch before your.
Shovel that's ALL i would, say and in that in that. Arena,
uh For Kevin muyork celebrating his forty nine next year
is going to be.
Speaker 1: Big oh you got it right this, Time i'll tell
you one, shot we do he GET i. DID i
really didn't think you were that. Old i'm not that that's,
old but Because i'm my, younger but fifty still sounds
old to me And i'm way past. That BUT i, just,
YEAH i don't see you that. Way if you TELL
i thought maybe BECAUSE i always Think danny's older than
me WHEN i don't think he. Is he's. NOT i
think he's like four or five years. Younger he, is
he looks like he's seven years. Old, well, look everybody's
body is. Different But i'll tell you what that. Is
that is carried around a lot of. Baggage that's carried
around a lot of. Bags, no it's carrying the. Cross
no it's. Not i'm storrying the cross For Kevin muyor
and his. Birthday I'm Bill. Moran will see you, tomorrow
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