WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.480 --> 00:00:08.240 Sure, what's up, beautiful people. It is your baby mama, 2 00:00:08.320 --> 00:00:11.199 favorite baby Mama story. Repeat and this is another episode 3 00:00:11.240 --> 00:00:14.919 of Chocolate Chip and Zip the modern day female perspective. 4 00:00:15.039 --> 00:00:18.600 Damn Son back at it again. By the time this drops, 5 00:00:18.640 --> 00:00:22.039 it will be post Thanksgiving. Hopefully your belly and heart 6 00:00:22.120 --> 00:00:25.399 are full. Okay, Hopefully your bougie and't auntie ain't ex 7 00:00:25.480 --> 00:00:28.280 you those same corny ask questions when you're gonna get 8 00:00:28.280 --> 00:00:32.359 in a relationship, when you gonna have another baby, bitch, 9 00:00:32.520 --> 00:00:35.399 worry about yourself? Okay, I hope you did not have 10 00:00:35.479 --> 00:00:39.280 to endure any of that torture this year. Listen, because 11 00:00:39.320 --> 00:00:41.359 that's what it is, all right, shout with your mic. 12 00:00:41.359 --> 00:00:45.920 You ain't even on the mic, thank you. So all 13 00:00:45.960 --> 00:00:51.600 that aside. Uh, your girl has been working on herself, okay, 14 00:00:52.079 --> 00:00:55.039 and not like my usual work on myself where I 15 00:00:55.039 --> 00:00:57.600 go to therapy once a week and I forget everything 16 00:00:57.759 --> 00:01:00.759 my therapist say when I leave. Okay, I mean like 17 00:01:00.960 --> 00:01:06.640 actually working on herself, setting better boundaries, Okay, coming to 18 00:01:06.719 --> 00:01:13.079 new realizations, y'all. I started manifesting, eh, jeez, toxic. I 19 00:01:13.159 --> 00:01:21.400 started manifesting. I started this new workbook called Manifesting your Husband. Okay, 20 00:01:21.799 --> 00:01:25.760 but to be clear, I am aware that Massion Pajamas 21 00:01:25.799 --> 00:01:28.000 ain't looking too good this year. But that's okay. That's 22 00:01:28.040 --> 00:01:30.760 okay because if I have to wait to be in 23 00:01:30.799 --> 00:01:34.920 Masson pajamas with my forever person and just have to 24 00:01:34.959 --> 00:01:39.519 skip another season, then that's okay. That's okay. Can't nobody 25 00:01:39.519 --> 00:01:45.280 hear you? Shot? Thank you? So with all that being said, 26 00:01:45.359 --> 00:01:48.519 I've come to a few realizations, a few questions that 27 00:01:48.560 --> 00:01:50.879 I've had to ask myself. I wanted short input on 28 00:01:51.079 --> 00:01:55.680 as well, because I'm thinking I almost got this shit 29 00:01:55.719 --> 00:01:59.480 figured out, y'all. Almost not quite, not all of it, 30 00:01:59.840 --> 00:02:04.239 but I almost got the shit figure out. And one 31 00:02:04.239 --> 00:02:06.799 of the first things that I really had to ask 32 00:02:06.879 --> 00:02:13.120 myself was does the dating pool half piss in it? 33 00:02:14.159 --> 00:02:17.120 Or is it entitlement? And I'm gonna say that again. 34 00:02:17.919 --> 00:02:19.960 Like I said, I think I got this shit figured out, y'all, 35 00:02:20.120 --> 00:02:23.280 because I was thinking, what's one thing that everybody is 36 00:02:23.319 --> 00:02:26.599 complaining about, whether you're male or female. It seems like 37 00:02:26.639 --> 00:02:29.719 it always comes down to the same thing. Does the 38 00:02:29.840 --> 00:02:34.479 dating pool really half piss in it? Or is it entitlement? Right? 39 00:02:34.719 --> 00:02:37.960 And the reason I say that is because we're not 40 00:02:38.000 --> 00:02:40.319 talking about individuals I ain't talking about you and the 41 00:02:40.319 --> 00:02:42.199 people you go to church with. I ain't talking about 42 00:02:42.199 --> 00:02:44.000 you and the guys you were in balld with. Okay, 43 00:02:44.120 --> 00:02:45.680 I ain't talking about you and the girls your group chat. 44 00:02:45.680 --> 00:02:47.439 I'm not talking about that. I'm not talking about you 45 00:02:47.599 --> 00:02:50.159 individually as a person. I'm talking about as a whole. Right, 46 00:02:50.520 --> 00:02:54.000 what do we hear people mostly complaining about the guys 47 00:02:54.039 --> 00:02:56.240 are going to be saying? Oh, well, you know, she 48 00:02:56.439 --> 00:02:59.879 wanted me to pay her rent after three weeks. She 49 00:03:00.240 --> 00:03:05.800 wanted me to buy her bag after two text messages. Okay, entitlement, 50 00:03:06.199 --> 00:03:09.919 she feels entitled to his money. Right, ladies, what are 51 00:03:09.919 --> 00:03:13.719 you saying all the time? Oh well, he wanted to 52 00:03:14.080 --> 00:03:17.439 come over and catch your VAUNI after one date. He 53 00:03:17.479 --> 00:03:21.759 wanted me to send him beauty cheeks after three good 54 00:03:21.800 --> 00:03:26.400 morning texts. Right, entitlement. You feel entitled to some ass 55 00:03:26.400 --> 00:03:29.439 because you took me on a date. Okay, So hear 56 00:03:29.479 --> 00:03:32.919 me out. Does the dating pool half piss in it? 57 00:03:33.879 --> 00:03:38.599 Or is it entitlement? I think that if we really 58 00:03:38.840 --> 00:03:42.599 locked in and got these two things squared away, Like, yo, 59 00:03:44.919 --> 00:03:47.479 it doesn't matter what you buy for a woman. You 60 00:03:47.520 --> 00:03:51.039 are not entitled to Cucci ladies, I don't care how 61 00:03:51.120 --> 00:03:54.000 nice that man is. If your rent is doing the first, 62 00:03:54.039 --> 00:03:55.759 it's gonna be doing the first with or without him. 63 00:03:55.759 --> 00:03:57.840 Don't tell him you need to borrow something. Don't do that. 64 00:03:58.120 --> 00:04:02.360 Don't do that. So I'm just asking, is it piss 65 00:04:02.439 --> 00:04:05.680 in the dating pool or is it entitlement? Right now? 66 00:04:05.719 --> 00:04:08.159 If you heard all of that and you still standing 67 00:04:08.240 --> 00:04:10.680 ten toes down on nod storming, the dating pool got 68 00:04:10.680 --> 00:04:14.039 pissing it. These niggas ain't shit, these bitches, ain't that 69 00:04:14.560 --> 00:04:18.720 a da da da. I feel like we talked about 70 00:04:18.720 --> 00:04:24.160 this a few episodes ago, right, And if you still 71 00:04:24.199 --> 00:04:25.839 heard all that and you feel like the dating pool 72 00:04:25.920 --> 00:04:33.000 still got pissing it, stop going the community pools. Okay, 73 00:04:33.439 --> 00:04:36.519 we talked about this. If you think the dating pool 74 00:04:36.600 --> 00:04:40.680 has pissed in it, stop going to community pools. Okay, 75 00:04:41.000 --> 00:04:44.360 there's there's there's there's nothing. Really, It's not really a 76 00:04:44.360 --> 00:04:46.199 lot of conversation we need to have on that, right 77 00:04:46.319 --> 00:04:49.560 And you know, you you know the community pools. I'm 78 00:04:49.600 --> 00:04:52.680 talking about the ones that let everybody in the guys 79 00:04:52.720 --> 00:04:55.360 being there with socks on in the pool, you know, 80 00:04:55.839 --> 00:04:59.480 you know, Okay, the lady behead ladies, ladies be having 81 00:04:59.519 --> 00:05:02.199 tracks band aids floating all over the place. It's gross. 82 00:05:03.240 --> 00:05:08.240 It's fucking gross. All right, stop going to community pools, people. 83 00:05:08.759 --> 00:05:12.439 You need to start going to those gated pools. Okay, 84 00:05:12.639 --> 00:05:15.920 the ones you need a wristband to get into. Okay, yeah, 85 00:05:16.199 --> 00:05:18.920 the wristband. They got different color wristbands still, all right, 86 00:05:19.160 --> 00:05:23.439 they got a red the red wristband. That mean you 87 00:05:23.519 --> 00:05:26.439 got a primary care physician. Okay, you got a mind 88 00:05:26.519 --> 00:05:31.160 chart on standby, ready to show if need be. Okay, yes, yes, 89 00:05:31.480 --> 00:05:33.040 those are the ones you want to look for your 90 00:05:33.079 --> 00:05:36.160 spouse in, look for your serious relationships, and those are 91 00:05:36.160 --> 00:05:38.480 the ones that are gonna have the good quality people 92 00:05:38.519 --> 00:05:41.639 in it. All right. They got a yellow ristpan, yellow 93 00:05:41.759 --> 00:05:45.000 ristpand okay, those are the ones that come with a therapists. 94 00:05:45.920 --> 00:05:50.079 I require a yellow ristpan. Okay, we need all of that. Okay, 95 00:05:50.319 --> 00:05:56.680 Blue wristbands. Emotional intelligence very important, very important, very fucking important. 96 00:05:56.879 --> 00:06:02.120 Green wrist bands. Okay, that means finances, right, Okay, you 97 00:06:02.199 --> 00:06:05.639 got disposable income. All right, these are the restipands that 98 00:06:05.680 --> 00:06:08.959 we need. People. Okay, stop going to them community pools. 99 00:06:09.240 --> 00:06:11.839 We need to be at the ones that have a 100 00:06:11.879 --> 00:06:15.800 few more guidelines, a few more guidelines, okay, Because you 101 00:06:15.959 --> 00:06:17.680 keep going to the pool in the middle of the 102 00:06:17.680 --> 00:06:19.879 hood and don't understand why you keep leaving a little 103 00:06:19.879 --> 00:06:24.800 bit of hepatitis every time you go. That's why, that's why, 104 00:06:25.519 --> 00:06:27.319 that's why every time you go to that pool you 105 00:06:27.399 --> 00:06:35.160 leave a little bit of pink eye. It's because it's trash, trash, trash. Okay. 106 00:06:35.600 --> 00:06:39.040 And once we decide that we're going to start visiting 107 00:06:39.040 --> 00:06:42.360 better pools, we will have better outcomes. Now. Am I 108 00:06:42.399 --> 00:06:45.040 promising you're gonna automatically find your person when you start 109 00:06:45.079 --> 00:06:49.040 having better boundaries and going to different pools. No, but 110 00:06:49.040 --> 00:06:52.199 at least you'll have more fun swimming. I mean shit, 111 00:06:52.759 --> 00:06:56.759 And that's the least, the least we can ask for. Okay, 112 00:06:57.000 --> 00:07:02.360 the least. But I really wanted to get back into 113 00:07:02.439 --> 00:07:07.560 this whole entitlement thing, right because I really do feel 114 00:07:07.600 --> 00:07:11.639 like that's a large part of what's really messing with 115 00:07:12.519 --> 00:07:17.439 the dating pool right now, right And it's like, I 116 00:07:17.480 --> 00:07:21.120 think it's two sides of it, right, So like it 117 00:07:21.160 --> 00:07:24.800 don't you can you can say and do all the 118 00:07:24.920 --> 00:07:29.600 right things, and that person could still not like you. Okay. 119 00:07:29.920 --> 00:07:31.439 I feel like a lot of times we had these 120 00:07:31.480 --> 00:07:35.040 conversations of oh but I showed up with flowers, I 121 00:07:35.120 --> 00:07:37.480 treated her like a gentleman. Yeah, and she still just 122 00:07:37.480 --> 00:07:41.000 don't fucking like you. Bro, It's okay, it's okay, ladies. 123 00:07:41.360 --> 00:07:44.399 Oh when I gave him kilchie, Oh but I sucked 124 00:07:44.399 --> 00:07:46.600 the deck and he still don't like you. That's your fault. 125 00:07:47.279 --> 00:07:51.600 That's your fault. Like, Bro, nobody is entitled to give 126 00:07:51.639 --> 00:07:58.240 you anything for anything like are you dumb? Are you okay? 127 00:07:59.040 --> 00:08:03.199 Are you okay? Like? There is no rule bit, no 128 00:08:03.319 --> 00:08:06.319 rule book or set of plays that you can say 129 00:08:06.720 --> 00:08:10.360 and do and guarantee defining your person like, we also 130 00:08:10.399 --> 00:08:15.879 have to factor in chemistry, We have to factor in attraction, 131 00:08:16.480 --> 00:08:22.040 We have to factor in I just don't fucking like you, right, 132 00:08:22.720 --> 00:08:25.639 And I feel like, for whatever reason, people be trying 133 00:08:25.680 --> 00:08:29.759 to shame folks for having their own preferences. Right. I 134 00:08:29.800 --> 00:08:34.240 didn't say prejudice. I said preferences, Okay, because there's a difference, 135 00:08:34.279 --> 00:08:36.559 all right, some of y'all be trying to pass all 136 00:08:36.600 --> 00:08:40.720 prejudices preferences, and I don't like that. I don't fucking 137 00:08:40.879 --> 00:08:44.519 like that. Okay, you No, I'm not even gonna go 138 00:08:44.519 --> 00:08:47.399 down the rabbit hole. Okay, you know who you are. 139 00:08:48.320 --> 00:08:50.600 I ain't even gonna go down there with y'all, but yeah, man, 140 00:08:51.039 --> 00:08:52.480 I just think that these are things that we need 141 00:08:52.480 --> 00:08:57.799 to pay attention to. And once we start saying and 142 00:08:57.840 --> 00:09:02.000 standing on these things, what have better outcomes? And all 143 00:09:02.039 --> 00:09:05.879 that aside. Even though you're lonely, even though you may 144 00:09:05.879 --> 00:09:09.360 be bored, though you're six sitting in the house, want 145 00:09:09.399 --> 00:09:13.440 to try these new restaurants, just want some companionship. You 146 00:09:13.559 --> 00:09:19.440 still gotta date people you like. I know, I know, yeah, 147 00:09:19.440 --> 00:09:21.440 we still got to date people we like. I know. 148 00:09:21.879 --> 00:09:27.159 The holiday season is coming up, Auntie hat thanksgiving God 149 00:09:27.159 --> 00:09:29.480 to you, didn't she? I know? I know you sort 150 00:09:29.480 --> 00:09:31.759 of mentioning pajama picks on black Love Feed and it 151 00:09:31.799 --> 00:09:35.080 got to you, didn't it. I know? I know, I know. 152 00:09:35.919 --> 00:09:40.480 But I feel like we still have to have these 153 00:09:40.519 --> 00:09:44.399 boundaries of dating, entertaining and giving our time to people 154 00:09:44.399 --> 00:09:48.360 that we actually like, because when we don't, we end 155 00:09:48.440 --> 00:09:52.960 up hurting people that have done nothing wrong and who 156 00:09:53.320 --> 00:09:57.519 are genuinely good people. This is actually how villains stories 157 00:09:57.559 --> 00:10:00.879 are made, Okay, Like when you continually entertain people you 158 00:10:00.960 --> 00:10:03.840 don't like and they don't understand why they're doing the 159 00:10:03.919 --> 00:10:07.120 right things and just getting these harsh outcomes. This is 160 00:10:07.159 --> 00:10:10.720 how you create the fuck boys. This is how you 161 00:10:10.759 --> 00:10:15.240 cannot tell me any different. Every fuck boy is actually 162 00:10:15.279 --> 00:10:19.279 a hurt boy. Okay, every whole ass fuck girl is 163 00:10:19.320 --> 00:10:22.080 actually a hurt girl. Okay. So I feel like we 164 00:10:22.159 --> 00:10:28.639 just need to pay attention to those things. M hold on, wait, 165 00:10:28.679 --> 00:10:30.559 let me scroll back up, scroll back up, Hold on, 166 00:10:30.559 --> 00:10:36.399 one second, one second, one second? Who's that? Workman? Nine 167 00:10:36.480 --> 00:10:40.720 zero one zero says, yup, uh, deuce clubs and not 168 00:10:40.799 --> 00:10:45.440 a little bit of hepatitis. Mayam Bird seventeen on one says, hey, Stormy, 169 00:10:45.440 --> 00:10:47.919 are you gonna see Wicked? I did today. It was phenomenal. 170 00:10:48.240 --> 00:10:51.519 I heard amazing things about Wicked. I did not go 171 00:10:51.600 --> 00:10:56.320 see it. I did not have an interesting one to 172 00:10:56.360 --> 00:10:58.080 go see it. I know, I know, I know, I know, 173 00:10:59.200 --> 00:11:02.159 Miss musical thearter girl doesn't want to see Wicked. No, 174 00:11:02.519 --> 00:11:04.679 and I'm probably gonna see it, yeah, but maybe when 175 00:11:04.720 --> 00:11:06.879 it like, come on Disney Plus, ain't that a the 176 00:11:06.919 --> 00:11:12.200 C movie? Yes? Okay, well I'll see it, but yeah, 177 00:11:12.320 --> 00:11:14.960 that's it. Were you saying ten minutes left or we're 178 00:11:14.960 --> 00:11:26.200 ten minutes in? No, it's not so we recorded ten minutes. 179 00:11:26.440 --> 00:11:30.039 Oh but I didn't know should I get some money 180 00:11:30.039 --> 00:11:37.919 in nurse because you don't never do ten minutes, you 181 00:11:37.960 --> 00:11:46.200 don't never do timiduts. Okay, okay, scrap the film. Grow says, 182 00:11:46.360 --> 00:11:49.240 I really agree with your fuck boy and girl analogy. 183 00:11:49.519 --> 00:11:53.679 They are hurt and unhealed. Hay relationship talk with G's 184 00:11:54.360 --> 00:11:57.480 MK Designs one hundred. I love your videos. Thank you 185 00:11:57.519 --> 00:11:59.840 so much. I really just be on here saying that 186 00:12:00.200 --> 00:12:06.840 my head, but thank you. I appreciate it. But yeah, 187 00:12:06.879 --> 00:12:10.320 a lot of times people be moving in like these 188 00:12:10.919 --> 00:12:15.120 asso bitch and top tier nigga energies, but a lot 189 00:12:15.120 --> 00:12:17.720 of it really be hurt. A lot of hurt. You 190 00:12:17.759 --> 00:12:20.519 can always tell because something just peeks through and just 191 00:12:20.879 --> 00:12:27.879 like like, okay, who hurts? You don't start shot said 192 00:12:28.200 --> 00:12:31.240 like the white baby mama, And I'm not gonna get 193 00:12:31.279 --> 00:12:35.360 into it. Okay, hear me when I say fuck it. Yeah, 194 00:12:35.360 --> 00:12:41.600 I'm just gonna say that's one thing. I just say 195 00:12:41.679 --> 00:12:50.559 it's one thing, and that's it right now, shout out, 196 00:12:50.559 --> 00:12:54.279 want to fucking grab his mic. I'm just gonna say 197 00:12:54.279 --> 00:12:59.360 this one thing and that's it. Just do your research 198 00:12:59.440 --> 00:13:03.720 on people, okay, I always say, coming from someone who 199 00:13:03.919 --> 00:13:09.399 is actively giving relationship advice on the internet. Don't listen 200 00:13:09.440 --> 00:13:13.759 to everyone who gives relationship advice. That's all I'm gonna say. 201 00:13:14.080 --> 00:13:16.759 Like me personally, I come on here and we had 202 00:13:16.799 --> 00:13:19.360 these conversations. I say, Yo, this is what talking to 203 00:13:19.399 --> 00:13:21.799 the lady taught me. Okay, this is what I've reflected 204 00:13:21.840 --> 00:13:24.279 about this week. This is what I've worked on myself on. 205 00:13:24.639 --> 00:13:28.000 This is what I've experienced. Right when you start listening 206 00:13:28.000 --> 00:13:32.279 to people who don't have that precursor in their message 207 00:13:32.720 --> 00:13:35.600 and their hell bent on putting a certain type of 208 00:13:35.720 --> 00:13:41.480 man or female down, nine times out of ten they're 209 00:13:41.480 --> 00:13:45.600 full of shit. Okay, s I said, nine times out 210 00:13:45.600 --> 00:13:47.240 of ten, they got white baby moms. I'm not gonna 211 00:13:47.240 --> 00:13:50.039 do that. I'm not gonna do that. I'm not gonna 212 00:13:50.039 --> 00:13:53.120 do that. All I'm gonna say is sometimes shit be 213 00:13:53.159 --> 00:14:00.480 a little food gayzy. That's saying. That's all saying. That's all. 214 00:14:00.480 --> 00:14:05.200 That's all I'm gonna say. I don't know that, man, Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, 215 00:14:05.200 --> 00:14:07.960 No shade to people with white baby moms who are 216 00:14:08.000 --> 00:14:10.519 a little food gayzy. All I'm gonna say is, you know, 217 00:14:11.879 --> 00:14:15.039 listen with a grain of salt. Yeah. If it don't apply, 218 00:14:15.080 --> 00:14:17.840 I let a fly. But when you hear these people 219 00:14:18.080 --> 00:14:20.080 and they do not give the precursor of hey, this 220 00:14:20.159 --> 00:14:22.399 is what I worked on myself on, or hey this 221 00:14:22.480 --> 00:14:24.600 is what I've talked to my therapist about, or this 222 00:14:24.679 --> 00:14:27.159 is what I've learned through my life coach. And they're 223 00:14:27.240 --> 00:14:30.320 just actively spewing, spewing, spewing, hating on a certain type 224 00:14:30.320 --> 00:14:38.360 of person. Ticket stop shot Shot. They can't hear you. 225 00:14:39.799 --> 00:14:44.039 So yeah, that's that's all I'm gonna say. I hate shot. 226 00:14:44.440 --> 00:14:46.720 Blird seventeen on one says, do you think it's too 227 00:14:46.799 --> 00:14:48.840 much when you are on a date and someone asks 228 00:14:48.879 --> 00:14:50.919 you what are you looking for and you honestly say 229 00:14:50.960 --> 00:14:53.519 you are intentionally dating? Because I've gotten pushback on that. 230 00:14:54.000 --> 00:15:00.120 Oh my fucking god. Yes, Okay, hold on this. This 231 00:15:00.159 --> 00:15:05.360 is a very important thing, right, and I get this 232 00:15:05.679 --> 00:15:09.639 so much it frustrates me. Okay, when I say I 233 00:15:09.679 --> 00:15:12.720 am intentionally dating, it does not mean I want to 234 00:15:12.759 --> 00:15:16.600 get married tomorrow. Men, why do y'all think that when 235 00:15:16.639 --> 00:15:19.879 women say we are intentionally dating, it's like, yo, bro, 236 00:15:20.960 --> 00:15:25.559 jot the fuck up, shut up? Okay, why do y'all 237 00:15:25.600 --> 00:15:28.279 think when women say we are intentionally dating, we have 238 00:15:28.360 --> 00:15:31.080 already put a deposit down on a wedding dress. Okay, 239 00:15:31.360 --> 00:15:34.200 tomorrow we have an appointment at the courthouse. That's not 240 00:15:34.360 --> 00:15:38.960 what that means. Intentionally dating means that I'm only giving 241 00:15:39.120 --> 00:15:44.360 and partaking in activities, events peoples who align with my 242 00:15:44.480 --> 00:15:46.519 goal and are going to get me closer to my goal. 243 00:15:46.720 --> 00:15:48.480 So at the end of the day, no, I don't 244 00:15:48.480 --> 00:15:50.240 want to come to your house at three am and 245 00:15:50.279 --> 00:15:52.960 catch a vibe. Why because I know where that leads 246 00:15:53.320 --> 00:15:57.639 pound down. Okay, I'm trying to go to matching pajama 247 00:15:57.720 --> 00:16:01.679 season and wedding menus in town doesn't interest me. So 248 00:16:01.759 --> 00:16:05.799 when I say I'm intentionally dating and you're actively giving 249 00:16:05.879 --> 00:16:09.440 up events, ideas, dates that show me that you're not 250 00:16:09.600 --> 00:16:15.559 really interested in a relationship marriage forever, I'm not interested. Okay, 251 00:16:15.960 --> 00:16:19.639 And I don't know why. Y'all really love to spin 252 00:16:19.759 --> 00:16:22.519 it like, well, how can we get there if we 253 00:16:22.559 --> 00:16:25.600 don't get to know each other. I know that, I 254 00:16:25.679 --> 00:16:29.799 fucking know that. Okay, I understand that. But what I'm 255 00:16:29.840 --> 00:16:33.240 saying is, I'm only interested in getting to know people 256 00:16:33.639 --> 00:16:36.159 who are going to get me closer to my goal. 257 00:16:36.519 --> 00:16:39.519 So if you tell me, I'm saying like I'm just 258 00:16:39.559 --> 00:16:43.000 trying to see like, would it be like we can 259 00:16:43.039 --> 00:16:45.960 catch Bob, we can hang out for real, for real. 260 00:16:46.279 --> 00:16:48.679 I ain't really trying and get too serious, cause you know, 261 00:16:48.840 --> 00:16:53.960 like it be sticky out here boy, fuck you, Okay, 262 00:16:54.320 --> 00:16:56.240 fuck you. It could be sticky out here for you, 263 00:16:56.440 --> 00:16:58.840 But what I'm saying is it's not sticky for me. Right. 264 00:16:59.519 --> 00:17:03.679 The next a woman tells you she is intentionally dating, 265 00:17:04.680 --> 00:17:09.000 understand that she's only partiking in people, events, places, and 266 00:17:09.079 --> 00:17:12.200 things that get her closer to her goal. Ain't nobody 267 00:17:12.200 --> 00:17:16.319 trying to get married tomorrow? Shut up? Shut the fuck up? Okay? 268 00:17:19.039 --> 00:17:22.359 Third seventeen on one says yes, stormy scrap the film 269 00:17:22.400 --> 00:17:25.920 Groove says, because there is a new catchphrase every month, 270 00:17:26.160 --> 00:17:28.559 so we confuse the spuck on the churney phrases of 271 00:17:28.559 --> 00:17:31.599 the month. Listen, if intentionally dating is one of them, 272 00:17:31.920 --> 00:17:34.240 don't look at it as a catchy phrase. Look at 273 00:17:34.279 --> 00:17:38.240 it as women are actually starting to have better standards 274 00:17:38.279 --> 00:17:41.319 and make better decisions. And if that makes it a 275 00:17:41.359 --> 00:17:44.559 catchy phrase, good, This is the catchy phrase we need, 276 00:17:44.640 --> 00:17:49.440 my guy. Okay, hold on, wait, I'm scrolling, y'all scrolling. 277 00:17:49.480 --> 00:17:53.279 Hold on. Studying Improvement eight says, what's your ring? Side. 278 00:17:53.279 --> 00:17:56.000 I'm trying to see something. It's a size eight, okay, 279 00:17:56.759 --> 00:18:01.640 preferably princess cut invisible setting a double halo. I'm also 280 00:18:01.680 --> 00:18:03.599 open to like a pair of shape if that's cool 281 00:18:03.640 --> 00:18:06.319 with you. But yeah, that's it, thank you. In case 282 00:18:06.319 --> 00:18:11.480 a marriage minded nigga, I wanted to know, like, shut up, 283 00:18:13.559 --> 00:18:17.119 hold on, yo, I'm trying to scroll back down. Wait 284 00:18:17.119 --> 00:18:21.920 a second, Wait a second, wait a second. Apollo ten 285 00:18:22.160 --> 00:18:25.880 seventeen says, what's your goal story? I'm somebody, fine ass, 286 00:18:25.920 --> 00:18:28.799 fit ass wife, Okay, I just ain't found them yet. 287 00:18:28.920 --> 00:18:31.799 So like, if it's not getting me closer to that, 288 00:18:32.279 --> 00:18:34.880 it's probably not for me. And I'm okay with that. 289 00:18:35.160 --> 00:18:38.240 Like that's another thing you have to accept when you're 290 00:18:38.880 --> 00:18:42.319 intentionally dating. Everybody isn't going to be for you, and 291 00:18:42.400 --> 00:18:45.160 you have to really be okay with that. Like, yo, 292 00:18:45.880 --> 00:18:49.960 I understand the goals and the aspirations we have for 293 00:18:50.079 --> 00:18:52.359 our life right now might not fit. That doesn't mean 294 00:18:52.440 --> 00:18:54.480 you're a bad person, doesn't mean I'm a bad person. 295 00:18:54.559 --> 00:18:56.440 It just means we're not a good fit for one another. 296 00:18:56.839 --> 00:18:58.839 And I don't even trip on it no more because 297 00:18:59.200 --> 00:19:02.599 I don't expect people to understand my vision if God 298 00:19:02.599 --> 00:19:06.119 didn't give it to him. Okay, So it's like, if 299 00:19:06.119 --> 00:19:07.720 we aren't meant to be, we aren't meant to be. 300 00:19:08.039 --> 00:19:09.720 You're just not where I am right now, and I'm 301 00:19:09.720 --> 00:19:12.079 fine with that. Like I've made peace with that for real, 302 00:19:12.119 --> 00:19:17.880 real m. Thank you, Gordon H two two bord to bed, 303 00:19:18.680 --> 00:19:23.000 Thank you, Happy Thanksgiving, Gordon H. Deuce club says sound good, 304 00:19:23.000 --> 00:19:25.519 but women also misconstrue what that means. If I'm on 305 00:19:25.640 --> 00:19:27.880 a date with you, that is my intention to get 306 00:19:27.880 --> 00:19:34.759 to know you and identify more. Okay, So two things 307 00:19:34.759 --> 00:19:37.480 can be true, right, So a man can say, yeah, 308 00:19:37.640 --> 00:19:39.720 if I'm on a date with you, my intention is 309 00:19:39.759 --> 00:19:42.759 to get to know you. Cool, But what's your intention 310 00:19:42.920 --> 00:19:45.200 after we get to know each other? Right, Because my 311 00:19:45.319 --> 00:19:48.240 intention after we get to know each other is to 312 00:19:48.279 --> 00:19:49.519 see if we're a good fit to be in a 313 00:19:49.559 --> 00:19:52.519 relationship and eventually get married. If your intention is just 314 00:19:52.559 --> 00:19:54.920 to get to know me to see what I look 315 00:19:54.960 --> 00:19:57.680 like when the lights go off, okay, and honestly, I've 316 00:19:57.720 --> 00:19:59.000 been in the gym, so when the lights is on 317 00:19:59.079 --> 00:20:03.160 for real, for real, right, Like, if your intentions are 318 00:20:03.200 --> 00:20:06.799 not for a forever, we're still not a good fit, respectfully, 319 00:20:06.920 --> 00:20:08.880 Like I'm just not that's not my goal, you know 320 00:20:08.920 --> 00:20:12.559 what I'm saying. So it's like two things can be true. 321 00:20:12.640 --> 00:20:15.279 Like I said, your intention can be to get to 322 00:20:15.319 --> 00:20:18.240 know me, But what happens, what's the intention after we 323 00:20:18.279 --> 00:20:21.279 get to know each other. That's what has to align, honestly, 324 00:20:22.599 --> 00:20:25.359 Mister Ready said, go bord a badge, Thank you so much, baby, 325 00:20:25.359 --> 00:20:27.079 thank you, thank you, thank you, go hand two one 326 00:20:27.160 --> 00:20:30.880 two six, or a badge? Thank you, freckles. Deuce club said, 327 00:20:30.920 --> 00:20:33.680 have you on the fine and fit go hand brought 328 00:20:33.720 --> 00:20:38.079 another badge? Thank you, freckles. My future wife right here? Well, 329 00:20:38.079 --> 00:20:40.079 thank you? Which choice? Thank you? Thank you, thank you. 330 00:20:40.480 --> 00:20:45.119 So yeah, those are things that, uh, we need to 331 00:20:45.160 --> 00:20:49.640 get to a better understanding about. Right, So all that aside, 332 00:20:51.440 --> 00:20:53.960 how do we get here? How do we make sure 333 00:20:54.200 --> 00:20:58.519 we're pouring into and our intentions are aligning with the 334 00:20:58.599 --> 00:21:05.799 right person? Right? I think that every person in this 335 00:21:05.839 --> 00:21:10.160 world has a good understanding and knows how to display discernment. 336 00:21:11.119 --> 00:21:13.759 But we like to act like we don't. We like 337 00:21:13.799 --> 00:21:16.480 to act like we don't. Every person on the world 338 00:21:16.599 --> 00:21:20.119 has a great understanding of discernment. We just like to 339 00:21:20.119 --> 00:21:22.519 pretend we don't. And it's fine, but I want you 340 00:21:22.599 --> 00:21:24.319 to be real with me, and I'm gonna be real 341 00:21:24.359 --> 00:21:26.119 with you when I say, yo, sometimes we like to 342 00:21:26.160 --> 00:21:30.720 play stupid. We do. Sometimes we just like to play stupid, right. 343 00:21:31.079 --> 00:21:33.839 And the reason I say that is because the same 344 00:21:33.880 --> 00:21:37.839 way you can't eat at everybody's house is the same 345 00:21:37.880 --> 00:21:41.000 way you can't date and give your time and attention 346 00:21:41.039 --> 00:21:43.559 to everybody. Okay, now, now hear me out when I 347 00:21:43.640 --> 00:21:47.799 say this, the same way you don't eat at everybody's 348 00:21:47.799 --> 00:21:51.240 house is the same way you can't give your time 349 00:21:51.279 --> 00:21:56.480 and attention to everybody. Okay, you understand, and you have discernment. 350 00:21:56.960 --> 00:21:58.920 You just becking jews when you want to use it, 351 00:21:58.960 --> 00:22:01.599 and it's the same space. So it's cool. I'm guilty 352 00:22:01.640 --> 00:22:03.759 of it. You guilty of it. We all knowhing before. 353 00:22:03.839 --> 00:22:07.119 It's fine, it's fine, it's a safe space. We're gonna 354 00:22:07.119 --> 00:22:09.480 be cool here. We're gonna be honest. We want to 355 00:22:09.480 --> 00:22:12.640 tap in and say yeah, sometimes we like to play stupid, right. 356 00:22:12.880 --> 00:22:14.960 And the reason I say that is because you know, 357 00:22:15.039 --> 00:22:19.039 you can't eat at everybody's house. Okay. Some people be 358 00:22:19.480 --> 00:22:23.519 letting a cat on the kitchen counter, Okay, some people 359 00:22:23.599 --> 00:22:27.400 watch their greens in the bathtub, Okay, some people got 360 00:22:27.480 --> 00:22:36.559 roaches rowchuys. Okay, you already know you can't eat at 361 00:22:36.680 --> 00:22:41.279 everybody's house, So stop acting like you can date everybody. 362 00:22:41.640 --> 00:22:44.440 Stop acting like everybody you run into is gonna be 363 00:22:44.480 --> 00:22:49.319 the person for you. You have discernment, Stop acting like 364 00:22:49.359 --> 00:22:53.079 you don't. Okay, you know how to make good choices. 365 00:22:53.519 --> 00:22:56.599 I know you know how to make good choices. Honestly, 366 00:22:56.640 --> 00:22:59.319 when y'all have a pot luck at work, you already 367 00:22:59.400 --> 00:23:02.480 know you ain't He and Susan food anybody that got 368 00:23:02.559 --> 00:23:05.640 up my kids have palls or any type of shit 369 00:23:05.799 --> 00:23:09.079 like that, or they work station cubicle. I'm not eating 370 00:23:09.079 --> 00:23:14.799 from your house. I'm not I'm not eating from your house, okay, 371 00:23:15.119 --> 00:23:20.039 because I already know you let your kids in the kitchen. Okay, 372 00:23:20.359 --> 00:23:23.440 I can't eat that. I don't want that. I don't 373 00:23:23.440 --> 00:23:27.200 want that. I don't want that and don't Okay, So 374 00:23:27.839 --> 00:23:31.640 I feel like the ac likeness says greens in the 375 00:23:31.680 --> 00:23:35.359 bathtub is crazy. And you know what, in the year 376 00:23:35.440 --> 00:23:37.720 twenty twenty four of our Love, in the year twenty 377 00:23:37.759 --> 00:23:40.759 twenty four of our Lord, some people are still washing 378 00:23:40.759 --> 00:23:47.359 their greens in the bathtub. Okay, slavery is over. Okay, 379 00:23:48.519 --> 00:23:52.759 you have to realize you can't wash all the greens 380 00:23:52.799 --> 00:23:56.160 at once. Okay, break them apart, and you better have 381 00:23:56.200 --> 00:23:58.160 a separate tub in that sink. Don't just wash them 382 00:23:58.160 --> 00:24:01.880 in the sink either, Okay, working apart, wash them separately. 383 00:24:02.119 --> 00:24:04.160 And if you don't have the patience to do that, 384 00:24:04.680 --> 00:24:06.359 I don't have the patiences to eat at your house. 385 00:24:07.079 --> 00:24:11.079 That's it. That's it, that's it. Deuce clubs say, ain't 386 00:24:11.119 --> 00:24:13.240 no way I need to see pictures of food being prepared. 387 00:24:13.480 --> 00:24:15.920 Ain't nobody's stopping to take pictures of their food. Okay, 388 00:24:16.200 --> 00:24:21.920 you just know some people got it and some people don't. Okay, 389 00:24:22.200 --> 00:24:24.640 my bugs Men five says, if you're the one with 390 00:24:24.799 --> 00:24:28.279 roaches or the bathtubs, then you can eat at everybody's house. 391 00:24:28.799 --> 00:24:33.599 Oh shit, hold on, hold on. You might be onto something. 392 00:24:34.279 --> 00:24:37.240 You might be onto something. If you're comfortable eating at 393 00:24:37.240 --> 00:24:40.839 everybody's house, you probably have roaches. Or you wash greens 394 00:24:40.839 --> 00:24:43.440 in the bathtub, or you let your cat on the counter, 395 00:24:43.920 --> 00:24:46.559 you let your dog in the kitchen getting up on 396 00:24:46.599 --> 00:24:51.079 the countertops. You do you do? That makes sense? That 397 00:24:51.119 --> 00:24:53.640 would make sense. Why you're okay with it? You might 398 00:24:53.680 --> 00:24:59.640 be on something. Hold on, hold on, Rolling Saint Clauds said, 399 00:24:59.640 --> 00:25:01.519 my kid, have pause. You know what I'm talking about. 400 00:25:02.119 --> 00:25:04.960 The ac lightness, says Greens in the bathtub is crazy, 401 00:25:05.440 --> 00:25:12.000