Speaker 1: Sure, what's up, beautiful people. It is your baby mama,
Speaker 1: favorite baby Mama story. Repeat and this is another episode
Speaker 1: of Chocolate Chip and Zip the modern day female perspective.
Speaker 1: Damn Son back at it again. By the time this drops,
Speaker 1: it will be post Thanksgiving. Hopefully your belly and heart
Speaker 1: are full. Okay, Hopefully your bougie and't auntie ain't ex
Speaker 1: you those same corny ask questions when you're gonna get
Speaker 1: in a relationship, when you gonna have another baby, bitch,
Speaker 1: worry about yourself? Okay, I hope you did not have
Speaker 1: to endure any of that torture this year. Listen, because
Speaker 1: that's what it is, all right, shout with your mic.
Speaker 1: You ain't even on the mic, thank you. So all
Speaker 1: that aside. Uh, your girl has been working on herself, okay,
Speaker 1: and not like my usual work on myself where I
Speaker 1: go to therapy once a week and I forget everything
Speaker 1: my therapist say when I leave. Okay, I mean like
Speaker 1: actually working on herself, setting better boundaries, Okay, coming to
Speaker 1: new realizations, y'all. I started manifesting, eh, jeez, toxic. I
Speaker 1: started manifesting. I started this new workbook called Manifesting your Husband. Okay,
Speaker 1: but to be clear, I am aware that Massion Pajamas
Speaker 1: ain't looking too good this year. But that's okay. That's
Speaker 1: okay because if I have to wait to be in
Speaker 1: Masson pajamas with my forever person and just have to
Speaker 1: skip another season, then that's okay. That's okay. Can't nobody
Speaker 1: hear you? Shot? Thank you? So with all that being said,
Speaker 1: I've come to a few realizations, a few questions that
Speaker 1: I've had to ask myself. I wanted short input on
Speaker 1: as well, because I'm thinking I almost got this shit
Speaker 1: figured out, y'all. Almost not quite, not all of it,
Speaker 1: but I almost got the shit figure out. And one
Speaker 1: of the first things that I really had to ask
Speaker 1: myself was does the dating pool half piss in it?
Speaker 1: Or is it entitlement? And I'm gonna say that again.
Speaker 1: Like I said, I think I got this shit figured out, y'all,
Speaker 1: because I was thinking, what's one thing that everybody is
Speaker 1: complaining about, whether you're male or female. It seems like
Speaker 1: it always comes down to the same thing. Does the
Speaker 1: dating pool really half piss in it? Or is it entitlement? Right?
Speaker 1: And the reason I say that is because we're not
Speaker 1: talking about individuals I ain't talking about you and the
Speaker 1: people you go to church with. I ain't talking about
Speaker 1: you and the guys you were in balld with. Okay,
Speaker 1: I ain't talking about you and the girls your group chat.
Speaker 1: I'm not talking about that. I'm not talking about you
Speaker 1: individually as a person. I'm talking about as a whole. Right,
Speaker 1: what do we hear people mostly complaining about the guys
Speaker 1: are going to be saying? Oh, well, you know, she
Speaker 1: wanted me to pay her rent after three weeks. She
Speaker 1: wanted me to buy her bag after two text messages. Okay, entitlement,
Speaker 1: she feels entitled to his money. Right, ladies, what are
Speaker 1: you saying all the time? Oh well, he wanted to
Speaker 1: come over and catch your VAUNI after one date. He
Speaker 1: wanted me to send him beauty cheeks after three good
Speaker 1: morning texts. Right, entitlement. You feel entitled to some ass
Speaker 1: because you took me on a date. Okay, So hear
Speaker 1: me out. Does the dating pool half piss in it?
Speaker 1: Or is it entitlement? I think that if we really
Speaker 1: locked in and got these two things squared away, Like, yo,
Speaker 1: it doesn't matter what you buy for a woman. You
Speaker 1: are not entitled to Cucci ladies, I don't care how
Speaker 1: nice that man is. If your rent is doing the first,
Speaker 1: it's gonna be doing the first with or without him.
Speaker 1: Don't tell him you need to borrow something. Don't do that.
Speaker 1: Don't do that. So I'm just asking, is it piss
Speaker 1: in the dating pool or is it entitlement? Right now?
Speaker 1: If you heard all of that and you still standing
Speaker 1: ten toes down on nod storming, the dating pool got
Speaker 1: pissing it. These niggas ain't shit, these bitches, ain't that
Speaker 1: a da da da. I feel like we talked about
Speaker 1: this a few episodes ago, right, And if you still
Speaker 1: heard all that and you feel like the dating pool
Speaker 1: still got pissing it, stop going the community pools. Okay,
Speaker 1: we talked about this. If you think the dating pool
Speaker 1: has pissed in it, stop going to community pools. Okay,
Speaker 1: there's there's there's there's nothing. Really, It's not really a
Speaker 1: lot of conversation we need to have on that, right
Speaker 1: And you know, you you know the community pools. I'm
Speaker 1: talking about the ones that let everybody in the guys
Speaker 1: being there with socks on in the pool, you know,
Speaker 1: you know, Okay, the lady behead ladies, ladies be having
Speaker 1: tracks band aids floating all over the place. It's gross.
Speaker 1: It's fucking gross. All right, stop going to community pools, people.
Speaker 1: You need to start going to those gated pools. Okay,
Speaker 1: the ones you need a wristband to get into. Okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: the wristband. They got different color wristbands still, all right,
Speaker 1: they got a red the red wristband. That mean you
Speaker 1: got a primary care physician. Okay, you got a mind
Speaker 1: chart on standby, ready to show if need be. Okay, yes, yes,
Speaker 1: those are the ones you want to look for your
Speaker 1: spouse in, look for your serious relationships, and those are
Speaker 1: the ones that are gonna have the good quality people
Speaker 1: in it. All right. They got a yellow ristpan, yellow
Speaker 1: ristpand okay, those are the ones that come with a therapists.
Speaker 1: I require a yellow ristpan. Okay, we need all of that. Okay,
Speaker 1: Blue wristbands. Emotional intelligence very important, very important, very fucking important.
Speaker 1: Green wrist bands. Okay, that means finances, right, Okay, you
Speaker 1: got disposable income. All right, these are the restipands that
Speaker 1: we need. People. Okay, stop going to them community pools.
Speaker 1: We need to be at the ones that have a
Speaker 1: few more guidelines, a few more guidelines, okay, Because you
Speaker 1: keep going to the pool in the middle of the
Speaker 1: hood and don't understand why you keep leaving a little
Speaker 1: bit of hepatitis every time you go. That's why, that's why,
Speaker 1: that's why every time you go to that pool you
Speaker 1: leave a little bit of pink eye. It's because it's trash, trash, trash. Okay.
Speaker 1: And once we decide that we're going to start visiting
Speaker 1: better pools, we will have better outcomes. Now. Am I
Speaker 1: promising you're gonna automatically find your person when you start
Speaker 1: having better boundaries and going to different pools. No, but
Speaker 1: at least you'll have more fun swimming. I mean shit,
Speaker 1: And that's the least, the least we can ask for. Okay,
Speaker 1: the least. But I really wanted to get back into
Speaker 1: this whole entitlement thing, right because I really do feel
Speaker 1: like that's a large part of what's really messing with
Speaker 1: the dating pool right now, right And it's like, I
Speaker 1: think it's two sides of it, right, So like it
Speaker 1: don't you can you can say and do all the
Speaker 1: right things, and that person could still not like you. Okay.
Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of times we had these
Speaker 1: conversations of oh but I showed up with flowers, I
Speaker 1: treated her like a gentleman. Yeah, and she still just
Speaker 1: don't fucking like you. Bro, It's okay, it's okay, ladies.
Speaker 1: Oh when I gave him kilchie, Oh but I sucked
Speaker 1: the deck and he still don't like you. That's your fault.
Speaker 1: That's your fault. Like, Bro, nobody is entitled to give
Speaker 1: you anything for anything like are you dumb? Are you okay?
Speaker 1: Are you okay? Like? There is no rule bit, no
Speaker 1: rule book or set of plays that you can say
Speaker 1: and do and guarantee defining your person like, we also
Speaker 1: have to factor in chemistry, We have to factor in attraction,
Speaker 1: We have to factor in I just don't fucking like you, right,
Speaker 1: And I feel like, for whatever reason, people be trying
Speaker 1: to shame folks for having their own preferences. Right. I
Speaker 1: didn't say prejudice. I said preferences, Okay, because there's a difference,
Speaker 1: all right, some of y'all be trying to pass all
Speaker 1: prejudices preferences, and I don't like that. I don't fucking
Speaker 1: like that. Okay, you No, I'm not even gonna go
Speaker 1: down the rabbit hole. Okay, you know who you are.
Speaker 1: I ain't even gonna go down there with y'all, but yeah, man,
Speaker 1: I just think that these are things that we need
Speaker 1: to pay attention to. And once we start saying and
Speaker 1: standing on these things, what have better outcomes? And all
Speaker 1: that aside. Even though you're lonely, even though you may
Speaker 1: be bored, though you're six sitting in the house, want
Speaker 1: to try these new restaurants, just want some companionship. You
Speaker 1: still gotta date people you like. I know, I know, yeah,
Speaker 1: we still got to date people we like. I know.
Speaker 1: The holiday season is coming up, Auntie hat thanksgiving God
Speaker 1: to you, didn't she? I know? I know you sort
Speaker 1: of mentioning pajama picks on black Love Feed and it
Speaker 1: got to you, didn't it. I know? I know, I know.
Speaker 1: But I feel like we still have to have these
Speaker 1: boundaries of dating, entertaining and giving our time to people
Speaker 1: that we actually like, because when we don't, we end
Speaker 1: up hurting people that have done nothing wrong and who
Speaker 1: are genuinely good people. This is actually how villains stories
Speaker 1: are made, Okay, Like when you continually entertain people you
Speaker 1: don't like and they don't understand why they're doing the
Speaker 1: right things and just getting these harsh outcomes. This is
Speaker 1: how you create the fuck boys. This is how you
Speaker 1: cannot tell me any different. Every fuck boy is actually
Speaker 1: a hurt boy. Okay, every whole ass fuck girl is
Speaker 1: actually a hurt girl. Okay. So I feel like we
Speaker 1: just need to pay attention to those things. M hold on, wait,
Speaker 1: let me scroll back up, scroll back up, Hold on,
Speaker 1: one second, one second, one second? Who's that? Workman? Nine
Speaker 1: zero one zero says, yup, uh, deuce clubs and not
Speaker 1: a little bit of hepatitis. Mayam Bird seventeen on one says, hey, Stormy,
Speaker 1: are you gonna see Wicked? I did today. It was phenomenal.
Speaker 1: I heard amazing things about Wicked. I did not go
Speaker 1: see it. I did not have an interesting one to
Speaker 1: go see it. I know, I know, I know, I know,
Speaker 1: Miss musical thearter girl doesn't want to see Wicked. No,
Speaker 1: and I'm probably gonna see it, yeah, but maybe when
Speaker 1: it like, come on Disney Plus, ain't that a the
Speaker 1: C movie? Yes? Okay, well I'll see it, but yeah,
Speaker 1: that's it. Were you saying ten minutes left or we're
Speaker 1: ten minutes in? No, it's not so we recorded ten minutes.
Speaker 1: Oh but I didn't know should I get some money
Speaker 1: in nurse because you don't never do ten minutes, you
Speaker 1: don't never do timiduts. Okay, okay, scrap the film. Grow says,
Speaker 1: I really agree with your fuck boy and girl analogy.
Speaker 1: They are hurt and unhealed. Hay relationship talk with G's
Speaker 1: MK Designs one hundred. I love your videos. Thank you
Speaker 1: so much. I really just be on here saying that
Speaker 1: my head, but thank you. I appreciate it. But yeah,
Speaker 1: a lot of times people be moving in like these
Speaker 1: asso bitch and top tier nigga energies, but a lot
Speaker 1: of it really be hurt. A lot of hurt. You
Speaker 1: can always tell because something just peeks through and just
Speaker 1: like like, okay, who hurts? You don't start shot said
Speaker 1: like the white baby mama, And I'm not gonna get
Speaker 1: into it. Okay, hear me when I say fuck it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna say that's one thing. I just say
Speaker 1: it's one thing, and that's it right now, shout out,
Speaker 1: want to fucking grab his mic. I'm just gonna say
Speaker 1: this one thing and that's it. Just do your research
Speaker 1: on people, okay, I always say, coming from someone who
Speaker 1: is actively giving relationship advice on the internet. Don't listen
Speaker 1: to everyone who gives relationship advice. That's all I'm gonna say.
Speaker 1: Like me personally, I come on here and we had
Speaker 1: these conversations. I say, Yo, this is what talking to
Speaker 1: the lady taught me. Okay, this is what I've reflected
Speaker 1: about this week. This is what I've worked on myself on.
Speaker 1: This is what I've experienced. Right when you start listening
Speaker 1: to people who don't have that precursor in their message
Speaker 1: and their hell bent on putting a certain type of
Speaker 1: man or female down, nine times out of ten they're
Speaker 1: full of shit. Okay, s I said, nine times out
Speaker 1: of ten, they got white baby moms. I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: do that. I'm not gonna do that. I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: do that. All I'm gonna say is sometimes shit be
Speaker 1: a little food gayzy. That's saying. That's all saying. That's all.
Speaker 1: That's all I'm gonna say. I don't know that, man, Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: No shade to people with white baby moms who are
Speaker 1: a little food gayzy. All I'm gonna say is, you know,
Speaker 1: listen with a grain of salt. Yeah. If it don't apply,
Speaker 1: I let a fly. But when you hear these people
Speaker 1: and they do not give the precursor of hey, this
Speaker 1: is what I worked on myself on, or hey this
Speaker 1: is what I've talked to my therapist about, or this
Speaker 1: is what I've learned through my life coach. And they're
Speaker 1: just actively spewing, spewing, spewing, hating on a certain type
Speaker 1: of person. Ticket stop shot Shot. They can't hear you.
Speaker 1: So yeah, that's that's all I'm gonna say. I hate shot.
Speaker 1: Blird seventeen on one says, do you think it's too
Speaker 1: much when you are on a date and someone asks
Speaker 1: you what are you looking for and you honestly say
Speaker 1: you are intentionally dating? Because I've gotten pushback on that.
Speaker 1: Oh my fucking god. Yes, Okay, hold on this. This
Speaker 1: is a very important thing, right, and I get this
Speaker 1: so much it frustrates me. Okay, when I say I
Speaker 1: am intentionally dating, it does not mean I want to
Speaker 1: get married tomorrow. Men, why do y'all think that when
Speaker 1: women say we are intentionally dating, it's like, yo, bro,
Speaker 1: jot the fuck up, shut up? Okay, why do y'all
Speaker 1: think when women say we are intentionally dating, we have
Speaker 1: already put a deposit down on a wedding dress. Okay,
Speaker 1: tomorrow we have an appointment at the courthouse. That's not
Speaker 1: what that means. Intentionally dating means that I'm only giving
Speaker 1: and partaking in activities, events peoples who align with my
Speaker 1: goal and are going to get me closer to my goal.
Speaker 1: So at the end of the day, no, I don't
Speaker 1: want to come to your house at three am and
Speaker 1: catch a vibe. Why because I know where that leads
Speaker 1: pound down. Okay, I'm trying to go to matching pajama
Speaker 1: season and wedding menus in town doesn't interest me. So
Speaker 1: when I say I'm intentionally dating and you're actively giving
Speaker 1: up events, ideas, dates that show me that you're not
Speaker 1: really interested in a relationship marriage forever, I'm not interested. Okay,
Speaker 1: And I don't know why. Y'all really love to spin
Speaker 1: it like, well, how can we get there if we
Speaker 1: don't get to know each other. I know that, I
Speaker 1: fucking know that. Okay, I understand that. But what I'm
Speaker 1: saying is, I'm only interested in getting to know people
Speaker 1: who are going to get me closer to my goal.
Speaker 1: So if you tell me, I'm saying like I'm just
Speaker 1: trying to see like, would it be like we can
Speaker 1: catch Bob, we can hang out for real, for real.
Speaker 1: I ain't really trying and get too serious, cause you know,
Speaker 1: like it be sticky out here boy, fuck you, Okay,
Speaker 1: fuck you. It could be sticky out here for you,
Speaker 1: But what I'm saying is it's not sticky for me. Right.
Speaker 1: The next a woman tells you she is intentionally dating,
Speaker 1: understand that she's only partiking in people, events, places, and
Speaker 1: things that get her closer to her goal. Ain't nobody
Speaker 1: trying to get married tomorrow? Shut up? Shut the fuck up? Okay?
Speaker 1: Third seventeen on one says yes, stormy scrap the film
Speaker 1: Groove says, because there is a new catchphrase every month,
Speaker 1: so we confuse the spuck on the churney phrases of
Speaker 1: the month. Listen, if intentionally dating is one of them,
Speaker 1: don't look at it as a catchy phrase. Look at
Speaker 1: it as women are actually starting to have better standards
Speaker 1: and make better decisions. And if that makes it a
Speaker 1: catchy phrase, good, This is the catchy phrase we need,
Speaker 1: my guy. Okay, hold on, wait, I'm scrolling, y'all scrolling.
Speaker 1: Hold on. Studying Improvement eight says, what's your ring? Side.
Speaker 1: I'm trying to see something. It's a size eight, okay,
Speaker 1: preferably princess cut invisible setting a double halo. I'm also
Speaker 1: open to like a pair of shape if that's cool
Speaker 1: with you. But yeah, that's it, thank you. In case
Speaker 1: a marriage minded nigga, I wanted to know, like, shut up,
Speaker 1: hold on, yo, I'm trying to scroll back down. Wait
Speaker 1: a second, Wait a second, wait a second. Apollo ten
Speaker 1: seventeen says, what's your goal story? I'm somebody, fine ass,
Speaker 1: fit ass wife, Okay, I just ain't found them yet.
Speaker 1: So like, if it's not getting me closer to that,
Speaker 1: it's probably not for me. And I'm okay with that.
Speaker 1: Like that's another thing you have to accept when you're
Speaker 1: intentionally dating. Everybody isn't going to be for you, and
Speaker 1: you have to really be okay with that. Like, yo,
Speaker 1: I understand the goals and the aspirations we have for
Speaker 1: our life right now might not fit. That doesn't mean
Speaker 1: you're a bad person, doesn't mean I'm a bad person.
Speaker 1: It just means we're not a good fit for one another.
Speaker 1: And I don't even trip on it no more because
Speaker 1: I don't expect people to understand my vision if God
Speaker 1: didn't give it to him. Okay, So it's like, if
Speaker 1: we aren't meant to be, we aren't meant to be.
Speaker 1: You're just not where I am right now, and I'm
Speaker 1: fine with that. Like I've made peace with that for real,
Speaker 1: real m. Thank you, Gordon H two two bord to bed,
Speaker 1: Thank you, Happy Thanksgiving, Gordon H. Deuce club says sound good,
Speaker 1: but women also misconstrue what that means. If I'm on
Speaker 1: a date with you, that is my intention to get
Speaker 1: to know you and identify more. Okay, So two things
Speaker 1: can be true, right, So a man can say, yeah,
Speaker 1: if I'm on a date with you, my intention is
Speaker 1: to get to know you. Cool, But what's your intention
Speaker 1: after we get to know each other? Right, Because my
Speaker 1: intention after we get to know each other is to
Speaker 1: see if we're a good fit to be in a
Speaker 1: relationship and eventually get married. If your intention is just
Speaker 1: to get to know me to see what I look
Speaker 1: like when the lights go off, okay, and honestly, I've
Speaker 1: been in the gym, so when the lights is on
Speaker 1: for real, for real, right, Like, if your intentions are
Speaker 1: not for a forever, we're still not a good fit, respectfully,
Speaker 1: Like I'm just not that's not my goal, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. So it's like two things can be true.
Speaker 1: Like I said, your intention can be to get to
Speaker 1: know me, But what happens, what's the intention after we
Speaker 1: get to know each other. That's what has to align, honestly,
Speaker 1: Mister Ready said, go bord a badge, Thank you so much, baby,
Speaker 1: thank you, thank you, thank you, go hand two one
Speaker 1: two six, or a badge? Thank you, freckles. Deuce club said,
Speaker 1: have you on the fine and fit go hand brought
Speaker 1: another badge? Thank you, freckles. My future wife right here? Well,
Speaker 1: thank you? Which choice? Thank you? Thank you, thank you.
Speaker 1: So yeah, those are things that, uh, we need to
Speaker 1: get to a better understanding about. Right, So all that aside,
Speaker 1: how do we get here? How do we make sure
Speaker 1: we're pouring into and our intentions are aligning with the
Speaker 1: right person? Right? I think that every person in this
Speaker 1: world has a good understanding and knows how to display discernment.
Speaker 1: But we like to act like we don't. We like
Speaker 1: to act like we don't. Every person on the world
Speaker 1: has a great understanding of discernment. We just like to
Speaker 1: pretend we don't. And it's fine, but I want you
Speaker 1: to be real with me, and I'm gonna be real
Speaker 1: with you when I say, yo, sometimes we like to
Speaker 1: play stupid. We do. Sometimes we just like to play stupid, right.
Speaker 1: And the reason I say that is because the same
Speaker 1: way you can't eat at everybody's house is the same
Speaker 1: way you can't date and give your time and attention
Speaker 1: to everybody. Okay, now, now hear me out when I
Speaker 1: say this, the same way you don't eat at everybody's
Speaker 1: house is the same way you can't give your time
Speaker 1: and attention to everybody. Okay, you understand, and you have discernment.
Speaker 1: You just becking jews when you want to use it,
Speaker 1: and it's the same space. So it's cool. I'm guilty
Speaker 1: of it. You guilty of it. We all knowhing before.
Speaker 1: It's fine, it's fine, it's a safe space. We're gonna
Speaker 1: be cool here. We're gonna be honest. We want to
Speaker 1: tap in and say yeah, sometimes we like to play stupid, right.
Speaker 1: And the reason I say that is because you know,
Speaker 1: you can't eat at everybody's house. Okay. Some people be
Speaker 1: letting a cat on the kitchen counter, Okay, some people
Speaker 1: watch their greens in the bathtub, Okay, some people got
Speaker 1: roaches rowchuys. Okay, you already know you can't eat at
Speaker 1: everybody's house, So stop acting like you can date everybody.
Speaker 1: Stop acting like everybody you run into is gonna be
Speaker 1: the person for you. You have discernment, Stop acting like
Speaker 1: you don't. Okay, you know how to make good choices.
Speaker 1: I know you know how to make good choices. Honestly,
Speaker 1: when y'all have a pot luck at work, you already
Speaker 1: know you ain't He and Susan food anybody that got
Speaker 1: up my kids have palls or any type of shit
Speaker 1: like that, or they work station cubicle. I'm not eating
Speaker 1: from your house. I'm not I'm not eating from your house, okay,
Speaker 1: because I already know you let your kids in the kitchen. Okay,
Speaker 1: I can't eat that. I don't want that. I don't
Speaker 1: want that. I don't want that and don't Okay, So
Speaker 1: I feel like the ac likeness says greens in the
Speaker 1: bathtub is crazy. And you know what, in the year
Speaker 1: twenty twenty four of our Love, in the year twenty
Speaker 1: twenty four of our Lord, some people are still washing
Speaker 1: their greens in the bathtub. Okay, slavery is over. Okay,
Speaker 1: you have to realize you can't wash all the greens
Speaker 1: at once. Okay, break them apart, and you better have
Speaker 1: a separate tub in that sink. Don't just wash them
Speaker 1: in the sink either, Okay, working apart, wash them separately.
Speaker 1: And if you don't have the patience to do that,
Speaker 1: I don't have the patiences to eat at your house.
Speaker 1: That's it. That's it, that's it. Deuce clubs say, ain't
Speaker 1: no way I need to see pictures of food being prepared.
Speaker 1: Ain't nobody's stopping to take pictures of their food. Okay,
Speaker 1: you just know some people got it and some people don't. Okay,
Speaker 1: my bugs Men five says, if you're the one with
Speaker 1: roaches or the bathtubs, then you can eat at everybody's house.
Speaker 1: Oh shit, hold on, hold on. You might be onto something.
Speaker 1: You might be onto something. If you're comfortable eating at
Speaker 1: everybody's house, you probably have roaches. Or you wash greens
Speaker 1: in the bathtub, or you let your cat on the counter,
Speaker 1: you let your dog in the kitchen getting up on
Speaker 1: the countertops. You do you do? That makes sense? That
Speaker 1: would make sense. Why you're okay with it? You might
Speaker 1: be on something. Hold on, hold on, Rolling Saint Clauds said,
Speaker 1: my kid, have pause. You know what I'm talking about.
Speaker 1: The ac lightness, says Greens in the bathtub is crazy,
Speaker 1: I rob ad on one, says roach Azz. Yeah, man,
Speaker 1: I think that we like to pretend that we don't
Speaker 1: have discernment when we really do. And depending on the situation,
Speaker 1: our discernment is immaculate, okay, top tier, Okay, we are
Speaker 1: better than rain Man when making decisions. Okay, depending on
Speaker 1: the situation, your discernment will change, right, And I'm telling
Speaker 1: you to apply that same discernment when you're eating at
Speaker 1: people house to when you're dating. I guarantee you have
Speaker 1: a better outcome. Guarantee it, Guarantee it. I want to say,
Speaker 1: like I said, the key is to apply that discernment
Speaker 1: to all of your life, not just when you're trying
Speaker 1: to decide if you want to eat at Miss Lorraine house. Okay,
Speaker 1: apply that discernment to your whole your whole life. But
Speaker 1: of that aside. Another part of having discernment. It's also
Speaker 1: realizing what triggers you, what works for you, and what doesn't,
Speaker 1: and being okay with that. Right. So, the more time
Speaker 1: that goes on, I told you I've been doing my
Speaker 1: manifesture husband booklet. Okay, you know it's gonna be so
Speaker 1: crazy if, like, you know, a year from now, like
Speaker 1: I got my husband and I'm like, yo, I told
Speaker 1: you I was made in messing my husband, like and
Speaker 1: if it don't guess what that's okay, and the kids
Speaker 1: to have both those perspectives, Okay, thank you and thank you?
Speaker 1: Right yeah, Like I said, it's important to realize what
Speaker 1: triggers you and things to look out for, right, And
Speaker 1: I realize certain phrases really get under my skin, like
Speaker 1: is it one thing that somebody says to you? And like, ah,
Speaker 1: fucking bitch, right, hold on because my piece of hair
Speaker 1: is sticking out, let me put it back in. Okay, great,
Speaker 1: there is there one phrase that really triggers the fuck
Speaker 1: out of you because it is for me. And honestly,
Speaker 1: I feel like maybe it's just me when I say this,
Speaker 1: but let me know if it's you too. Nobody wants
Speaker 1: to hear. I can have anybody, but I chose you. Okay,
Speaker 1: but why waiting' jue bruh. I swear nothing triggers the
Speaker 1: shit out of me more than I can show. I
Speaker 1: could have had anybody, but I choose you, and you
Speaker 1: up here yelling and blah blah blah blah blah, and
Speaker 1: you worried about so and so. I could have had anybody,
Speaker 1: but I chose you, uh by waiting you first of all. Like,
Speaker 1: I'm confused. Maybe I missed a part of this conversation,
Speaker 1: but I'm confused. Number one, why wouldn't you you like
Speaker 1: it here? Right? I thought you trust me because you
Speaker 1: like it here. I'm confused. If you don't, why the
Speaker 1: fuck are you here? What's happening? What's happening? What's fucking happening? Right?
Speaker 1: A nigga? Tell me I could have had anybody, but
Speaker 1: I choose you, Like, oh now I'm going to jail
Speaker 1: Like ah uh Blird seventeen on one says, typically those
Speaker 1: who say that actually could not have had anyone, but
Speaker 1: they want to boost their own ego. I agree. Like
Speaker 1: most of the times when people say that they actually
Speaker 1: can't have anyone, they want to It's like, ah, you're
Speaker 1: right where you're supposed to be, but go off, sis,
Speaker 1: let me know what you're mad about today, Like ah, like, huh,
Speaker 1: throw off, I'm gonna let you have your moment. But
Speaker 1: typically when people say that, they actually can't have who
Speaker 1: they want to. But I'm gonna let you have your moment. Right,
Speaker 1: you're right where you want it to be. But I'm
Speaker 1: gonna let you have your moment. Go off, go off.
Speaker 1: I'm here for it. I'm here for it. I'm here
Speaker 1: for it. Right. That's the first thing. First thing, first
Speaker 1: thing that automatically comes to my mind is okay, but
Speaker 1: why wouldn't you? But okay, go off, let's not have
Speaker 1: you a moment? Right. Secondly is nine times out oftend
Speaker 1: you're saying that because I have voiced my concerns or something. Right,
Speaker 1: nine times out oftend you're saying that because I voiced
Speaker 1: my concerns on something. And it's like, bro, don't tell me.
Speaker 1: You can have anybody, but you chose me. Show me,
Speaker 1: like show me all that means nothing to me. If
Speaker 1: I'm telling you and voicing my concerns on something, let
Speaker 1: me know my concerns are valid. Don't automatically shoot down
Speaker 1: with I can't have anybody, but I chose you. Okay,
Speaker 1: And Nigga, I'm telling you what I have a problem with.
Speaker 1: I'm asking how can we compromise to get to a
Speaker 1: situation where we're both comfortable and your first thought is
Speaker 1: I can have anybody, but I chose you. Same nigga
Speaker 1: the fuck Like I am confused, Like I hate when
Speaker 1: people try to be little your port of view or
Speaker 1: make it feel like your concerns aren't valid, Like I
Speaker 1: brought this to you because I'm trying to work through it.
Speaker 1: I didn't give you an ultimatum. I voiced my opinion.
Speaker 1: I voiced my concerns. Like as my partner, your duty,
Speaker 1: your job, your obligation number one is to make me
Speaker 1: feel like my concerns are valid. My concerns are heard. Baby,
Speaker 1: we really just want to be heard for real. And
Speaker 1: I don't care how minuscule, how minute, how unimportant it
Speaker 1: may seem. If I had the courage to bring it
Speaker 1: to you, it's bothering me address that shit. Like what
Speaker 1: what Like I am? I am confusus Like me bringing
Speaker 1: this to you is because I want you to put
Speaker 1: my spirit at ease. It doesn't matter that you feel
Speaker 1: like it's not important to you. I am your partner,
Speaker 1: like we supposed to have a companionship, a partnership, and
Speaker 1: it's not feeling like it, my guy, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. So it's like don't make me question the
Speaker 1: position I'm play in your life by downplaying my concerns.
Speaker 1: Don't like that. Don't like that at all. Right, It's like, yo,
Speaker 1: if I tell you I'm bothered out, something like made
Speaker 1: me you feel important. Now on the same token, I'm
Speaker 1: not gonna go od and be like, yo, unfollow that bitch. Now,
Speaker 1: those aren't the type of concerns that I'm bringing. Unless
Speaker 1: it's somebody used to deal with and she leaving wild
Speaker 1: shitowing your post. That's a little different. But it's like, yo,
Speaker 1: nine times out of ten, I'm telling you something that
Speaker 1: I feel like it's really getting under my skin, and
Speaker 1: I'm not giving you a ultimatum with it. I'm just saying, like, hey,
Speaker 1: real fast, I just want to happen because this is
Speaker 1: bothering me. Is there any way we can get to
Speaker 1: some type of compromise, like how can we move forward
Speaker 1: from this? But like you saying like, oh, BITCHA, ain't
Speaker 1: that deep. I can have anybody, but I showed you
Speaker 1: and now you have no one. That's it. That's it.
Speaker 1: Um hold on, let me scroll back up. Um oh,
Speaker 1: Roland Saint Cloud said, trying to shame you into submission,
Speaker 1: trying to shame me into submission. Crazy crazy. Oh no,
Speaker 1: I cooked the wrong button. Sorry, sorry, sorry, sorry, guys.
Speaker 1: My Booksman says, I think that phrase says that in
Speaker 1: your head, you think you settled for me. I agree,
Speaker 1: I agree, I agree one thousand percent. I think if
Speaker 1: you tell me, if you tell me like I can
Speaker 1: have anybody, but I chose you, you feel like you
Speaker 1: settled for me. Is that what it is, because that's
Speaker 1: what it's giving. I agree one thousand percent, one thousand percent.
Speaker 1: Hold on, y'all. Sorry, I'm trying to catch up my
Speaker 1: bad Everybody loves Mouth says, let me have you. Uh
Speaker 1: g Wegg says you're what I missed everything you late.
Speaker 1: Bru Nia Maya says he chose you like ud Yo
Speaker 1: Workman nine zero one zero says sounds like a narcissist.
Speaker 1: No other anthony says discernment exists within the capacity of
Speaker 1: one's own morality. This motherfucker spitting yes. Deuce Club said
Speaker 1: that's a wild statement, especially as a response it's given.
Speaker 1: I don't have to address your petty concerns. I agree,
Speaker 1: like not only is about titty Swington. Hold on, I
Speaker 1: put lotion on my chest. Shaw that's where I fucked
Speaker 1: up today. But no, I agree though, I feel like
Speaker 1: if you give me that response, it's kind of given,
Speaker 1: like it's not worth my attention. I don't have to
Speaker 1: address your pretty concerns like peon, like you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. I feel. I feel that I feel that
Speaker 1: legacy Magic says, not the city sweating, I put lotion
Speaker 1: on my chest show. That's where I fucked up at
Speaker 1: I'll be trying to be hydrated. She don't call me
Speaker 1: and she and sometimes I'll be overdoing it because I
Speaker 1: like to be like, if you're listening to audio, you
Speaker 1: probably didn't see what I did, but I'm gonna do
Speaker 1: it again, right and yeah, that's it. Blurred. Seventeen o
Speaker 1: one says, how have you been with going outside? So
Speaker 1: happy that you ask? I haven't next question? All right, guys,
Speaker 1: So now we're going to get into the edible portion
Speaker 1: of the show. So the edible portion is where I
Speaker 1: read questions and comments that you guys send in. And
Speaker 1: usually on the day we record, I put a prompt
Speaker 1: up saying ask me anything. But if you have a
Speaker 1: question or a story to share or tell on a
Speaker 1: day that I don't put the prompt up. You can
Speaker 1: always email me at inquiries at stormypea dot com. And
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie I fucked up, y'all. I forgot
Speaker 1: to put the prompt up today. So if you're on
Speaker 1: the live, feel free to type a question down into
Speaker 1: the chat or click the question mark right there and
Speaker 1: put your question in there and we will get into
Speaker 1: it all right. So, yeah, nobody asked this, But what's
Speaker 1: on my Christmas list? You say, I gotta get people
Speaker 1: in a lot of time to type questions. So my
Speaker 1: Christmas list this year, I just started making it. It
Speaker 1: is as follows. Number one, I want a fire pit. Okay.
Speaker 1: I recently bought some porch furniture and I feel like
Speaker 1: the best thing to have is a fire pit. So
Speaker 1: fire pit. A cast iron skillet fourteen inch so I
Speaker 1: can make that good corn bread. Okay. Yeah, some of
Speaker 1: y'all don't make your corn bread and any cast iron skillet,
Speaker 1: so you don't get what I'm saying. But yeah, that
Speaker 1: honey corn bread, the good kind. Okay, I need a
Speaker 1: new cast iron skillet. I have one, but I feel
Speaker 1: like it's too small. So yeah, I put a fourteen
Speaker 1: inch on my Christmas list this year, and I feel
Speaker 1: like I need some new gym headphones. Like right now,
Speaker 1: I'm using my aarpods and we be having issues. Like
Speaker 1: the left one right now currently is going out. Yeah,
Speaker 1: how many of y'all? Left AirPod just currently just dies
Speaker 1: whenever it wants to, Like you put both of them indicids,
Speaker 1: but the left one just isn't charging you know what
Speaker 1: I'm talking about yet? So maybe like some beats or
Speaker 1: like some over the head airphones headphones, you know, So
Speaker 1: that will be on my Christmas list. Maybe like a
Speaker 1: size four day trip to Seashells. Okay, that would definitely
Speaker 1: be on my Christmas list. If you haven't heard of Seashells, y'all,
Speaker 1: let me tell you. This is off the coast of Madagascar.
Speaker 1: It is so fucking pretty. Like this is definitely one
Speaker 1: of those things that I randomly stumbled upon on the
Speaker 1: internet and I want to go so bad, like it
Speaker 1: is so so so so so so so so beautiful.
Speaker 1: So yeah, a four day trip to Seahells is definitely
Speaker 1: on my list. And I'm not gonna lie something is
Speaker 1: wrong with me because I really just want to go
Speaker 1: and see the people, like I want to see the skin.
Speaker 1: I want to smell them like I want to experience
Speaker 1: these people. Okay, I know it's weird. Okay, I thought
Speaker 1: this was a safe space. First of all. Fuck y'all. Okay,
Speaker 1: I thought this was a safe space. But yeah, I
Speaker 1: really really really want to go to sea shells. Not
Speaker 1: lie if you've ever been to seashells automatically gained like
Speaker 1: four points in my book. All right, so let's uh
Speaker 1: go back up into some questions. Okay, first one, what
Speaker 1: are your thoughts on the friends to lovers trope? So
Speaker 1: this can be taking a few work a few different ways.
Speaker 1: So are you saying like people who are put in
Speaker 1: the friend zone who then become lovers or are you
Speaker 1: saying like people are platonic friends who eventually become lovers.
Speaker 1: Either way, I know me personally, all of my platonic
Speaker 1: friends of the opposite sex are platonic friends because they're
Speaker 1: fucking trash or they think I'm trash. Like all of
Speaker 1: my platonic friends that are all of the opposite sex.
Speaker 1: We automatically decided, yeah, I don't think this is gonna work.
Speaker 1: So like we can be friends because I'm not interested
Speaker 1: in you or you're not interested in me, Like my
Speaker 1: platonic friends that are male, My male platonic friends. I
Speaker 1: have seen the way they interacted with women. Maybe I
Speaker 1: would never. I would fucking never. Okay, So yeah, it
Speaker 1: depends on what you're talking about. But for me personally,
Speaker 1: I definitely think that men and women can be platonic
Speaker 1: friends because nine times out of ten, one of them
Speaker 1: is figured out that the other one is trash or
Speaker 1: not what they're looking for in a partner. So yeah,
Speaker 1: I think it's a thing. Can we switch into relationships
Speaker 1: after being Oh my god, do you hear Shot? I'm
Speaker 1: so happy. I'm so happy that Shot does not have
Speaker 1: a mic because his opinion is not valid in this
Speaker 1: one moment, because the fuck the fuck the fuck the
Speaker 1: fuck Shot? It's like, Wow, I'm a good dah. Hold on,
Speaker 1: let me go down to the next one. Uh, next one.
Speaker 1: Maulbe Lyons said, I seen that Tommy White Ranger swore
Speaker 1: for you. Oh yeah, baby, But did you get it though?
Speaker 1: Did you fucking get it right? You saw that Saba,
Speaker 1: You saw that Saba for me and you thought of
Speaker 1: the kid. Did you get it for me? Yes? Or no? Like?
Speaker 1: What next one? What are your goals or expectations for
Speaker 1: the New Year, y'all listen, I actually got some fireshit
Speaker 1: plan for the new year. Twenty twenty five. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: get heavier into my acting bag. Okay, I've been doing
Speaker 1: the lightsaber training. I want to give y'all more videos
Speaker 1: and more content on that. I also started combat training,
Speaker 1: like I want to take this shit to the next level.
Speaker 1: My whole thing is I've always tried to be ahead
Speaker 1: of what everyone else is doing and just doing what
Speaker 1: everyone else is doing, and because of my actual interests
Speaker 1: in the things that I like to do, it just
Speaker 1: worked out that way. So twenty twenty five, y'all gonna
Speaker 1: see more fight videos. You're gonna see more fight choreo,
Speaker 1: You're gonna see more acting. It's gonna be lit. It's up.
Speaker 1: And yeah, I also want to do more Date outside
Speaker 1: the Plate. So I'm not sure if y'all have tapped
Speaker 1: in or not, but on YouTube, I have a series
Speaker 1: called Date Outside the Plate. I also have an Instagram
Speaker 1: page called Date Outside the Plate where I give you
Speaker 1: date ideas that don't involve food. Now, don't get me wrong, baby,
Speaker 1: were gonna eat. Okay, we don't eat, but that's not
Speaker 1: gonna be the main center of the actual date. So
Speaker 1: so far, we've done like you know, Longwood Gardens, Eastern
Speaker 1: State Penitentiary, of Franklin's Mad Scientists Museum, of We've done
Speaker 1: walking Avan, Franklin, Bridget's Exotic Plant Farm, like a bunch
Speaker 1: of different like date ideas, and it's not just in Philly,
Speaker 1: like they're across the country. So yeah, you know, that's
Speaker 1: definitely something else I want to tap into more for
Speaker 1: twenty twenty five. Uh hold on, uh my Bugsman says,
Speaker 1: what's an acceptable Oh god, what's an acceptable budget for
Speaker 1: a first date? Social media? It has me feeling like
Speaker 1: I'm stingy less than two hundred and fifty dollars, baby, baby, baby. Okay, Now,
Speaker 1: everything ain't for everybody, but for me, I personally don't
Speaker 1: want you spending more than fifty dollars on our first date.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, jesz, I fucking pick me? I know,
Speaker 1: I know, I know, right, I'm actually not a pick me.
Speaker 1: I'm just courteous. Okay. My whole thing is if I
Speaker 1: want you to spend over two hundred and fifty dollars
Speaker 1: on my first date, that means I expect you to
Speaker 1: spend it on every woman that you fall or every
Speaker 1: woman that you encounter, right and realistically, in today's society
Speaker 1: and market, that's not feasible. Okay. I personally don't want
Speaker 1: a man who's willing to spend over two hundred and
Speaker 1: fifty dollars on every first date because in today's market,
Speaker 1: it's not feasible. Okay, unless you're talking about the top
Speaker 1: one percent of men. And I don't care who you are,
Speaker 1: A majority of your dating history cannot be the top
Speaker 1: one percent of man, right, Like, it doesn't exist, right.
Speaker 1: And this is coming from someone who dates the average man, right,
Speaker 1: And it's like, oh, you don't know because you settle
Speaker 1: for less and blah blah blah, girl, fuck you. Okay.
Speaker 1: I feel like, for me personally, I don't want you
Speaker 1: to spending more than fifty dollars on our first date
Speaker 1: simply because a it shows me you have discernment and
Speaker 1: good investing skills. Also, I don't want you to spend
Speaker 1: too much on me and feel like you're entitled to
Speaker 1: anything more than just a first date. I don't want
Speaker 1: you to spending more than fifty dollars. Let's get some coffee,
Speaker 1: Let's get some ice cream. Honestly, we only at twenty
Speaker 1: five for real, for real, I'd rather do that because
Speaker 1: I don't want you feeling like I owe you a
Speaker 1: second date, a text back, any fucking thing. If I
Speaker 1: decide this isn't the move for me, we're good and
Speaker 1: we can split admicably right. I don't want you to
Speaker 1: spend half your rent money on me. I don't want
Speaker 1: you to feel like you got to show up with
Speaker 1: a bag take me to a five star thing. Because
Speaker 1: now it's like, Bro, do I like you? Or do
Speaker 1: I like the things you're able to expose me to?
Speaker 1: Do I like you? Or do I like the gifts
Speaker 1: you bring me? Do I like you? Or do I
Speaker 1: like the spaces you're able to accompany in? Like? Nah?
Speaker 1: I want you to know I like you for you
Speaker 1: stink like. I like your company, I like your time,
Speaker 1: I like your conversation. I'm invested on the potential of
Speaker 1: what we can become. We can go to fancy dates anytime,
Speaker 1: we can go to a fancy dinner anytime. We'll go
Speaker 1: on a trip anytime. Maybe you don't even got to
Speaker 1: pay all the time. What I'm saying is I want
Speaker 1: to make sure I like you for you, so you
Speaker 1: spending over fifty dollars on me isn't necessary. And that's
Speaker 1: no shade to the girls who feel like it is.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying for me, as a woman who comes
Speaker 1: with her own I just want to like you, and
Speaker 1: that's it. That's it. Hold on, y'all, I'm trying to
Speaker 1: scroll up. Y'all was fucking go on a hand. Let
Speaker 1: me give me a second, Give me a second. The
Speaker 1: Godfather one six ' eight says, well, we all need
Speaker 1: to go shopping from Maagine Pj's and get some popcorns
Speaker 1: so we can watch these holiday movies and I can cook.
Speaker 1: So yeah, we're gonna eat the ac Likeness says thank you.
Speaker 1: Social media got people's expectations messed up. Deuce Club says
Speaker 1: Snap Snap Snap, preach. What's up, Chizzo? The Godfather one
Speaker 1: six eight says, And we're gonna go to the range
Speaker 1: and shoot and go to movies combat classes. Uh Exchen
Speaker 1: Hassani says this. Michael Jayden says, that's dope. J Mo
Speaker 1: Jam seven three zero says agreed, and going back to
Speaker 1: these rangers classes. Right. The crazy part is if we're
Speaker 1: in a first date, we're getting to know each other,
Speaker 1: we're trying to see if we vibe. We're trying to
Speaker 1: see if we want to take this further. Right, the
Speaker 1: things that you would do that or get to know
Speaker 1: that person in that aspect, In you don't really need
Speaker 1: money for a walk along a pond or a lake
Speaker 1: or a river, right the gym ice cream, like, bro,
Speaker 1: I can tell a lot about what you get on
Speaker 1: your Sunday, My nigga, you're getting Jimmy's or all you
Speaker 1: call them jimmies or sprinkles, like, It's so many things
Speaker 1: that go into this, right. So it's like, you don't
Speaker 1: need to spend a whole bunch of money to figure
Speaker 1: out if somebody likes you, because if they like you, you
Speaker 1: don't need a whole bunch of money, right. And I
Speaker 1: know that certain people are going to tell you like,
Speaker 1: oh well, I got my own standards and I got
Speaker 1: my own boundaries. Cool, that's on you. What I'm saying
Speaker 1: is for me, I want to make sure I like
Speaker 1: the partner and I don't like the things that they
Speaker 1: are able to bring, because if I can't provide that
Speaker 1: lifestyle of myself, I don't want it. Like it's a
Speaker 1: difference between having a lifestyle that the both of us,
Speaker 1: can you know, come together and create? And then there's
Speaker 1: a difference between the lifestyle that I'm genuinely happy with
Speaker 1: that I provide on my own. So it's like, at
Speaker 1: this point, I just need you come into my life
Speaker 1: and making that much greater by being you. I just
Speaker 1: need you to be you, Like your money is cool,
Speaker 1: but I just need you to be you. Like are
Speaker 1: you funny? Can you handle my family roasting and shit
Speaker 1: out you because they all think they're comedians, right? Like?
Speaker 1: Are you able to put in and partake all these things?
Speaker 1: Like these are things that are important to me. Mike
Speaker 1: x Ford says, you're not lying. Deuce Club says, what
Speaker 1: is it? Jimmy the fuck? You don't know what Jimmy's are?
Speaker 1: Rainbow or chocolate? My nigga, you don't know what Jimmy's are.
Speaker 1: What y'all don't Okay, okay, Sophy, y'all who don't know? Right,
Speaker 1: when you get ice cream, preferably at the ice cream
Speaker 1: truck or like an ice cream stand, right, they have
Speaker 1: sprinkles and Jimmy's they are the same thing. Sprinkles and Jimmy's.
Speaker 1: Do you want rainbow sprinkles? Do you want chocolate? Sprinkles,
Speaker 1: or do you want rainbow jimmies? Or do you want
Speaker 1: rainbow or chocolate jimmies? Like jimmies, I call them Jimmy's
Speaker 1: what you call them? Shy Jimmy? Yeah? The fuck exactly?
Speaker 1: Oh almost nder the live my bad y'all. Deuce Club says,
Speaker 1: got to ensure the basics are actually liking the person
Speaker 1: is a basic as it gets, but people skip this
Speaker 1: step all the time. Deuice Club says, I'm in the Midwest,
Speaker 1: No Jimmy's here our fast what's up, you lay dog?
Speaker 1: What's up? The fuck? I know? Right, we gotta start
Speaker 1: saying out of his name like Mustard our fans. This
Speaker 1: is why I miss Low, This is why I miss
Speaker 1: Tower Records, the Wall Sam Goodie Music Store days. Ice
Speaker 1: learned a fuck ton about the lady. I agree in Outfits.
Speaker 1: The next time you come over here a fucking hour
Speaker 1: into the segment, we're gonna beat your ass. Okay, whose
Speaker 1: side are you on? Shot? The fact that you are
Speaker 1: on out there side and not mine, that's good crazy.
Speaker 1: I hate it here, outfit said, niggas don't do prose
Speaker 1: no more? You know. Once again, I just want to say,
Speaker 1: this is now the questions portion of the show. If
Speaker 1: you have a question, please type it in the chat
Speaker 1: or click the question box and type it in the chat.
Speaker 1: Thank you. Outfit says that part hold on, let me
Speaker 1: go to the questions. What year did cash money Records
Speaker 1: take over? What is for the nine nine to two thousand? Alex, Yo,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. I really do think I can
Speaker 1: go on Jeopardy, Like this is probably one of my
Speaker 1: secret talents. I do think I can go on Jeopardy,
Speaker 1: And I think that if I'm not first, I'll definitely
Speaker 1: be second. I'm not coming in third. Do think I
Speaker 1: can go on Jeopardy. What is your take on dating
Speaker 1: multiple people at once or you give time and attention
Speaker 1: to one person at a time. If more than one,
Speaker 1: what's one thing that differentiates for you? Okay, So me personally,
Speaker 1: I don't have a problem of dating more than one
Speaker 1: person at a time. It's not for me, but I'm
Speaker 1: not against it. My only recommendation or suggestion is make
Speaker 1: sure you can handle dating more than one person at
Speaker 1: a time. Like sometimes you gotta sit back and check yourself, like, Yo,
Speaker 1: I can only text two bitches at once. Ladies, Sometimes
Speaker 1: you have to say to yourself, Like, yo, I can
Speaker 1: only tell two niggas how my day went every day consistently,
Speaker 1: so they feel like we're locked in. Like I'm not
Speaker 1: against dating multiple people at once, but you gotta know
Speaker 1: your limits. You have to know your limits. Like you're
Speaker 1: not able to give time and attention to everyone, baby,
Speaker 1: this ain't the life for you. And I'm also not
Speaker 1: against double texting. Okay, I'm gonna copy and paste the
Speaker 1: same text message and send it to two different niggas, Okay,
Speaker 1: I'm not against that. I'm not against that. Now. Once again,
Speaker 1: this isn't the life for me, but I'm not against it, okay,
Speaker 1: because as long as you're able to give everybody the
Speaker 1: same time and attention, I don't see a problem. Now,
Speaker 1: some people are not good at multitasking. The ADHD gene
Speaker 1: didn't bless them, so they don't have the qualifications to
Speaker 1: be able to multitask like that. And if that's not
Speaker 1: trum ministry, that's okay. Okay, just learn you need to
Speaker 1: scale back a bit because everything ain't for everybody, right,
Speaker 1: how long do you eat leftovers? I'm meil prep so
Speaker 1: a week. I can eat it for a week, all right.
Speaker 1: I'm not the one to ask that question too, because
Speaker 1: I'm mail prep if need be, I'm going to eat
Speaker 1: leftovers for a long ass time. What color are your
Speaker 1: tools right now? They're the soft pink that are on
Speaker 1: my nails. It's very odd question, but okay, here we are.
Speaker 1: We're getting the questions done. We're getting the questions done.
Speaker 1: Make sure you guys click the question box, click the
Speaker 1: question box, put your questions, and I'm reading the questions
Speaker 1: that are in the questions box right now. Baked mac
Speaker 1: and cheese or stovetop. I didn't even know Stovetop made
Speaker 1: bake maga cheese. I thought they only made stuffing. But
Speaker 1: if your question was stuffing or baked mac and cheese,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I ain't supposed to be eating either
Speaker 1: one of these. Really, it's cut in seasons, so I
Speaker 1: don't really fucking know. I'm not the right person to
Speaker 1: access What do I enjoy making? More? Though, I'd rather
Speaker 1: make stuffing. Stuffing is like I think me and my
Speaker 1: grandma used to make, So stuffing is definitely like something
Speaker 1: i'd rather make because it's like sentimental vibes. Right, says
Speaker 1: shout out to the feet gang. You can go, you
Speaker 1: can you can apology. Somebody just called me, but you
Speaker 1: can go. You can fucking go. I am Sarah l
Speaker 1: Rac says, I had a question for you like two
Speaker 1: weeks ago, but I forgot it. Boy. If you know
Speaker 1: Lulu nine by four said that what color your tools
Speaker 1: was too freaking turn your hardy down right? A Malbee
Speaker 1: Lion says, we're gonna have to break all that food
Speaker 1: off Friday. Who is we? Because I'm cooking. I'm cooking
Speaker 1: for the family, right but I also have my meal
Speaker 1: that I am going to eat. So like, I wasn't
Speaker 1: joking when I said cutting season starting today. So your
Speaker 1: girls one sixty five and I'm trying to get down
Speaker 1: to like a one sixty one fifty five, one hundred
Speaker 1: fty five pounds of twisted steel and sex appeal. Okay,
Speaker 1: So yeah, I'm cutting right now. I ain't finna pick
Speaker 1: out tomorrow. M hmmm, Cubag said, girl, don't you gotta
Speaker 1: go cook? First of all, I started before I came here.
Speaker 1: I ain't dumb, Okay, Like I said before, we're recording
Speaker 1: this before Thanksgiving, but it's gonna release after Thanksgiving. But
Speaker 1: I already got my potato salad done, Okay. I already
Speaker 1: got my greens cut. Okay, you just want a potato salad.
Speaker 1: First of all, potato salad was the only thing that's done.
Speaker 1: Oh my guide, Oh my guide, Oh my guide, Oh
Speaker 1: my god. Outfits as double texting equals energy conservation, thank you?
Speaker 1: I agree, I agree? Hold we outfits is. I ain't
Speaker 1: supposed to eat these things anymore? Big Vic got the
Speaker 1: Bruce Lee back. Now you think you better than us,
Speaker 1: shut the fuck up and do yeah. Man, all right,
Speaker 1: So what do we learn today, y'all? What do we learn?
Speaker 1: What do we discuss? Uh, let's tap in and recap. Okay, first,
Speaker 1: I don't think the dating pool has pissing it. I
Speaker 1: think it has entitlement. And once we get passed that,
Speaker 1: we're able to move on to bigger and better things. Okay,
Speaker 1: one of them being we have to acknowledge that it's
Speaker 1: not the peed that be getting us, it's the pool
Speaker 1: that be getting this. A lot of us be swimming
Speaker 1: in these community pools, and we gotta stop that. Okay,
Speaker 1: the pools that let the niggas wear socks. Okay, let
Speaker 1: the bitches have their tracks and band aids s floating
Speaker 1: all on the top of the pool. Service we got
Speaker 1: to stop it. We got to stop it. We need
Speaker 1: to start swimming in pools that have better standards, better boundaries,
Speaker 1: better qualifications. Go to the pools that have a risk band. Okay,
Speaker 1: do you go to a therapist? Ristband? Do you have
Speaker 1: a primary care physician? Ristband? Are you financially stable? Rispand
Speaker 1: these are the things we need to give our attention to.
Speaker 1: And back to this entitlement thing. You know, it doesn't
Speaker 1: matter if you do all the right things, say all
Speaker 1: the right things, purchase the right things, give the right
Speaker 1: amount of kucie. You are not entitled to anybody or anything,
Speaker 1: or anyone's wallet for that matter. Okay, as long as
Speaker 1: we understand that, we will have a better time dating. Okay.
Speaker 1: A lot of this has to do with discernment, and
Speaker 1: we all have discernment, no matter what we try to
Speaker 1: convince ourselves. We all possess a certain level of discernment.
Speaker 1: And the biggest example of that is, you know, you
Speaker 1: can't eat at everybody's house. Why because some people watch
Speaker 1: their greens in the tub. Some people let their cats
Speaker 1: on the kitchen counter. Okay, some people let their dogs
Speaker 1: lick the spoon. You know that, you know that you
Speaker 1: know you can't eat at everybody house. The same way
Speaker 1: you can't eat at everybody house is the same way
Speaker 1: you can't date everybody and give everyone your time and attention. Okay,
Speaker 1: And the next point I want to make is that
Speaker 1: don't you ever in your fucking life say I could
Speaker 1: have anybody, but I choose you. Why wouldn't you, bitch? Okay,
Speaker 1: let's start there. Why whatens you? Right? But that that
Speaker 1: phrase never really sits well with me because it's like
Speaker 1: it's given. You think you settle for me. I hate
Speaker 1: that for you. I hate that for you. It's given.
Speaker 1: You're not aware of all the blessings that I have
Speaker 1: and I'm able to give, and you're trying to downplay
Speaker 1: my concerns as if my emotions aren't valid. This is
Speaker 1: the partnership, baby. Let me know that I care and
Speaker 1: I matter. Don't tell me you gave anybody but you
Speaker 1: chose me. Show me, show me that's what I want
Speaker 1: and that's what I need. The last thing we talked
Speaker 1: about was, you know, my Christmas is I really want
Speaker 1: this fourteen inch cast iron skillet. I'm gonna start an
Speaker 1: Amazon wishless y'all. Y're gonna give me this cast stron
Speaker 1: skill it please, thank you and thank you. I also
Speaker 1: put a fire pit on there and a four nature
Speaker 1: and C shells. Y'all, it's s E Y C H
Speaker 1: E L L E S okay. And I'm only saying
Speaker 1: this because it's actually a really beautiful place. And I
Speaker 1: probably shouldn't tell y'all because like y'all like to burn
Speaker 1: it shit out. But it's okay. This is safe place
Speaker 1: and we're family. We're gonna share, all right. It's really
Speaker 1: a dope destination, okay. I also wanted to say this
Speaker 1: episode is going to drop after Thanksgiving, but I was
Speaker 1: on Live trying to swap my turkey wings for someone's
Speaker 1: fried turkey because I never had it before. So next
Speaker 1: week I'll let you know if I actually got it,
Speaker 1: and yet i's it. My message is always going to
Speaker 1: be the same. Follow me on the gram at Stormy
Speaker 1: p p e A at chocolate Chip and sip and
Speaker 1: if you don't remember anything else, please remember my toes
Speaker 1: are soft pink. I love you, guys, and I see
Speaker 1: you guys next week.