Speaker 1: Andogy cancel so high Ectasage Cansage it's not sorry Andogy.
Speaker 2: What's up?
Speaker 3: Positive bitches? How are we doing today? If you're hearing
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Speaker 3: keep listening on that Bitch is Positive podcast. Sometimes we
Speaker 3: will laugh. Other times, baby Girl, We're gonna cry, but
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Speaker 3: bitch self. That is Babe, but in true connection with herself.
Speaker 3: On this podcast, we unbecome who we are not so
Speaker 3: we can fully step into exactly who we came here
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Speaker 3: with all things magnetic energy. We are gonna be talking
Speaker 3: about dating, relationships, how to heal, and so much more
Speaker 3: in today's episode. I don't even know the questions I'm
Speaker 3: gonna be answering yet because I am doing it in
Speaker 3: real time. But before we get into it, a couple
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Speaker 3: you're listening to this on October seventeenth is a full moon.
Speaker 3: Full moons are all about releasing what no longer serves you.
Speaker 3: Shadow alchemy is about releasing what no longer serves you
Speaker 3: and bringing your shadow to the light. What is a
Speaker 3: full moon but fully lit? It is all of this
Speaker 3: energy that we can use to help us in the
Speaker 3: process of releasing, releasing shame, releasing doubt, releasing out dated programming,
Speaker 3: releasing that relationship, releasing feelings for another. This is the
Speaker 3: perfect time to do it.
Speaker 2: We've been so.
Speaker 3: Lucky with eclipse after eclipse. Now we have a full moon.
Speaker 3: This last half of twenty twenty four is really a
Speaker 3: moment to release everything before we get into next year.
Speaker 3: It's like they're serving us this energy on a silver platter.
Speaker 3: It could not be more phenomenal. Take this time, do
Speaker 3: the shadow work, and you want to get this done
Speaker 3: before I release my next course, which is all about
Speaker 3: the art of alchemy. We go even further into you
Speaker 3: taking your pain and turning it into power. But before
Speaker 3: you do that, you want to get the bones of
Speaker 3: shadow alchemy. The link will be in the show notes.
Speaker 3: Another system that could support you right now is twenty
Speaker 3: one Day Breakup Glow Up Challenge. If you are going
Speaker 3: through any sort of breakup, whether it's you just can't
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Speaker 3: a real relationship but it felt like one. The twenty
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Speaker 3: reclaim your power, your perception, your awareness, and your energy.
Speaker 3: Whatever you're going through, I probably have a workbook or
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Speaker 3: through the show notes, see what's there, see if anything
Speaker 3: resonates with you. If you're looking for one on one guidance,
Speaker 3: you can DM me on Instagram and I can tell
Speaker 3: you more how I can aid you in your process
Speaker 3: of unbecoming who you are not so you can fully
Speaker 3: step into exactly who you came here to be without
Speaker 3: further ado. Let's get into today's episode because I want
Speaker 3: to get to your questions.
Speaker 2: First question, where can I.
Speaker 3: Meet men other than dating apps or the gym apps?
Speaker 2: Can be draining?
Speaker 3: Okay, if you want to win, you have to place
Speaker 3: yourself in a position to do so. Certain positions will
Speaker 3: set you up for failure, and certain positions will set
Speaker 3: you up for success. If your current places that you're
Speaker 3: going to aren't conducive to meeting men, you need to
Speaker 3: change the environments in which you're going. I started doing
Speaker 3: golf for my mindset because I really missed having a sport.
Speaker 3: I used to be on a tennis team, and I
Speaker 3: don't have that anymore. So I started doing golf. Lo
Speaker 3: and behold, what am I doing? Meeting so many more men?
Speaker 3: Think about it. It's not that hard. That wasn't even
Speaker 3: necessarily my intention, But it is a side effect of
Speaker 3: just going to a new place.
Speaker 2: You meet new people.
Speaker 3: I started taking energy classes, new environments, I'm meeting new people.
Speaker 3: You want to look for environments, events, anything where it's
Speaker 3: going to be like minded people going to these events.
Speaker 3: Use event bright That is a website where you can
Speaker 3: look up local events in your area to see what's
Speaker 3: going on. Is there a festival, Is there some sort
Speaker 3: of like minded yoga group happening on the beach. When
Speaker 3: you set the intention I want to go to more
Speaker 3: events where like minded people are, that will start to
Speaker 3: manifest in your three D reality. Think about the observer effect.
Speaker 3: This was something in quantum physics that they have discovered.
Speaker 3: When an observer aka the scientist was looking at a wavelength,
Speaker 3: the wavelength collapsed into an electron. But when the scientist
Speaker 3: the observer looked away, that electron went back into the
Speaker 3: wavelength form. It went back into an energetic form.
Speaker 2: What is this tell us?
Speaker 3: This shows us that when you observe something, it changes
Speaker 3: the nature of it and it knows it's being observed.
Speaker 3: When you observe an idea, an intention, a desire, it
Speaker 3: collapses from just this energy, this vapor like thing out there.
Speaker 3: It collapses from an energy wavelength into three D physical matter.
Speaker 3: If you want a quantum leap, if you want to
Speaker 3: manifest something, you have to set an intention for it
Speaker 3: to come into your life. How do you start anything?
Speaker 3: How do you do anything? You have to set an
Speaker 3: intention first. How do I move my arm? I have
Speaker 3: to intend to do so. How do you pull in
Speaker 3: new experiences? You have to intend to do so. I
Speaker 3: want you literally commanding the energy around you. I am
Speaker 3: invited to new environments, and when you're invited, you have
Speaker 3: to go. You have to say yes. I am placed
Speaker 3: in a position to succeed in meeting new people. I'm
Speaker 3: always at the right place at the right time to
Speaker 3: meet the best people for me. When I'm out, people
Speaker 3: will naturally come up to me. They're naturally attracted to
Speaker 3: my energy. If you keep going to the same bars,
Speaker 3: the same restaurants, you're gonna keep getting the same results.
Speaker 3: So switch up your location, sign up for a new class,
Speaker 3: sign up for a sport, do something that you're actually
Speaker 3: interested in. Don't just go to meet people, because that's
Speaker 3: sending way too much energy. Go to things that you
Speaker 3: want to experience, and while you're there, you're going to
Speaker 3: meet people who are also like you. I also have
Speaker 3: to say we have to respect the law of rhythm,
Speaker 3: that everything has its ebb and flow. Everything is occurring
Speaker 3: in divine timing. Your higher self and your soulmates, high yourself,
Speaker 3: they're already connecting the dots on how they're gonna push
Speaker 3: you together.
Speaker 2: You don't have to do so much. And it's a
Speaker 2: delicate dance.
Speaker 3: It's a balance between I'm gonna put myself out there,
Speaker 3: I'm going to place myself in a position to succeed,
Speaker 3: but also not forcing it because it's frequency over force.
Speaker 3: What I mean by this is you don't have to
Speaker 3: tell yourself that it's all up to you. As much
Speaker 3: as you want this relationship, the relationship also wants you.
Speaker 3: As much as you're praying for your soulmate, they're also
Speaker 3: praying for you. Their higher self and your higher self
Speaker 3: are figuring out the details. You don't have to do everything,
Speaker 3: because then it puts you into a chaser energy, a
Speaker 3: masculine energy, and then you end.
Speaker 2: Up repelling people.
Speaker 3: So we want to respect the law of rhythm and
Speaker 3: respect the season that we're in. Well, maybe this is
Speaker 3: a season where I'm meant to fall in love with
Speaker 3: the process of creation. Maybe this is a season where
Speaker 3: I'm meant to learn more about myself. Maybe this is
Speaker 3: a season where I'm meant to dive deeper into this
Speaker 3: side hustle or this job because it's going to be
Speaker 3: part of my life's purpose. Infect the season you're in
Speaker 3: and squeeze it out like a towel. Get everything you
Speaker 3: can get from it, All of the juice you can
Speaker 3: possibly get, you're gonna want to get because you don't
Speaker 3: want to skip steps. You don't want to skip seasons here,
Speaker 3: because then you're not going to be able to hold
Speaker 3: what is divinely meant for you. A lot of us
Speaker 3: think I want my soulmate right now. But if they
Speaker 3: came in, would you be able to hold them in
Speaker 3: your life? Or would doubt, insecurity and fear overtake your
Speaker 3: system and you would self sabotage and then lose them.
Speaker 3: Respect the divine timing that's unfolding in your life, because
Speaker 3: divine timing is sent to help you, not to destroy you,
Speaker 3: but our ego and our fears, and if our systems
Speaker 3: are not ready, that will and can destroy us. Okay,
Speaker 3: let's get to the next question over here, breaking the
Speaker 3: cycle of male validation. If you want to break the
Speaker 3: cycle of needing an mail to validate you, you have
Speaker 3: to start validating yourself. You have to ask yourself, what
Speaker 3: is it about male validation that is so intriguing to me?
Speaker 3: What is it about male validation that I crave? We
Speaker 3: only starve for something outside of ourselves when we're not
Speaker 3: giving it to ourselves in the first place. If you're
Speaker 3: starving for male validation, let's start with the validation part.
Speaker 3: I was literally just talking about this with a client today.
Speaker 3: I want you at breakfast, lunch, and dinner, or whenever
Speaker 3: you eat to validate yourself. You'll remember to do so
Speaker 3: because you're gonna remember to eat, so then you'll remember
Speaker 3: to validate yourself too while you're eating. I'm so proud
Speaker 3: of myself for getting that job done at work. I'm
Speaker 3: so proud of myself for getting to that workout. I'm
Speaker 3: so proud of myself for finishing that book. I'm so
Speaker 3: proud of myself for doing the meditation.
Speaker 2: If you want to.
Speaker 3: Completely shift your self esteem, start using your voice to
Speaker 3: empower you rather than deplete you. Your voice no one
Speaker 3: else has it. You have a unique encoded frequency that's
Speaker 3: coming out of your body every single day. That is
Speaker 3: your voice. How are you using this divine instrument? Are
Speaker 3: you using it to disempower yourself? Because even if you're joking,
Speaker 3: your subconscious mind cannot take a joke, even self deprecating humor.
Speaker 3: Your subconscious mind thinks is real. And then it takes
Speaker 3: this joke and it prints it out into your reality
Speaker 3: and then you begin to experience it. Your voice is
Speaker 3: the voice you are going to hear the most over
Speaker 3: the course of your life.
Speaker 2: You have to wake up.
Speaker 3: With yourself, hear yourself all day, and go to bed
Speaker 3: with yourself why not use your voice, this god given instrument,
Speaker 3: this innate ability to speak to empower yourself.
Speaker 2: If we knew how.
Speaker 3: Powerful words were, we would not use them so willy nilly.
Speaker 3: Every time you're speaking, you're casting spells. We're taking vibration words,
Speaker 3: we're encoding it, we're putting it out into the universe.
Speaker 3: This is literally magic. This is casting spells, and then
Speaker 3: we're seeing it in our reality. Validate yourself breakfast, lunch,
Speaker 3: and dinner every single day of your life. I created
Speaker 3: something in my Pedestal Path course called Making Mind. And
Speaker 3: what you do is you listen to this ten minute
Speaker 3: audio every single day, and it's going to rewire your
Speaker 3: brain for you. It's going to give you new neurological
Speaker 3: pathways for you to exist within. So if you're not
Speaker 3: sure how to speak to yourself, what to say, if
Speaker 3: you want an audio to do the work for you,
Speaker 3: get the Pedestal Path course and you will get the
Speaker 3: Making Mind audio file and you can listen to it
Speaker 3: every night, every month warning and it will completely shift
Speaker 3: how you see yourself and how you feel about yourself.
Speaker 3: How to heal with a narcissistic girlfriend who doesn't learn
Speaker 3: from her mistakes and repeats her behavior patterns. This might
Speaker 3: be hard to hear, but just because you want to
Speaker 3: fix someone doesn't mean they want to be fixed. And
Speaker 3: by the way, the only person who can fix that
Speaker 3: person is themselves.
Speaker 2: A lot of us are not reading the writing on
Speaker 2: the wall.
Speaker 3: We may have grown up feeling like we had to
Speaker 3: fix mom and dad. We may have grown up feeling
Speaker 3: like we had to be the heart of the family,
Speaker 3: had to make sure that everyone is okay. And then
Speaker 3: what do we do in our intimate relationships. We copy
Speaker 3: and paste this dynamic and we think that if we
Speaker 3: can master it as an adult, that we're lovable and
Speaker 3: we're good enough and we're worthy. You have to understand
Speaker 3: that as energetically sick your girlfriend is, so are you.
Speaker 3: You are also part of this dynamic. You are also
Speaker 3: feeding this dynamic. As much as your narcissistic girlfriend is
Speaker 3: fulfilling a role for you, you're also fulfilling a role
Speaker 3: for her. You need to take a step back, and
Speaker 3: you need to remember that the only person you can
Speaker 3: fix and heal is you. And if you're so badly
Speaker 3: wanting to fix someone, you need to be working on yourself.
Speaker 2: That is not healthy.
Speaker 3: I had one client today tell me how do I
Speaker 3: change my partner? And I told her it's not about
Speaker 3: changing your partner, It's about you shifting and seeing your
Speaker 3: partner from a higher vibrational perception. The problem with so
Speaker 3: many of us is where re enacting dynamics we had
Speaker 3: with our caregivers instead of building healthy dynamics as adults.
Speaker 3: You cannot fix another person. It's not gonna do whatever
Speaker 3: you think it's going to do. It's so much easier
Speaker 3: to focus on someone outside of ourselves and say they're hurt,
Speaker 3: they need help, I need to heal them than it
Speaker 3: is to look at ourselves in the mirror and say,
Speaker 3: oh damn, it's me who needs to heal. It's me
Speaker 3: who's actually hurting. It's me who's still not over the
Speaker 3: fact that my dad was an alcoholic and I couldn't
Speaker 3: get him to change for me and therefore I feel unlovable.
Speaker 3: It's me who needs to take a step back. It's
Speaker 3: frequency over forced. You cannot force people to do what
Speaker 3: you want them to do.
Speaker 2: They have to want it.
Speaker 3: Can people change, yes, but when they want to, when
Speaker 3: they realize they have a problem. Narcissists are born out
Speaker 3: of severe neglect, so then they have to go around
Speaker 3: saying how great they are, how grand they are, because
Speaker 3: that's the only way they can get validation. And because
Speaker 3: they're so engrossed in the fact they were neglected, they
Speaker 3: don't even have room for anyone else's emotions. It's not
Speaker 3: that a narcissist is evil or demonic or whatever it is.
Speaker 3: The point is that's not your job, it's not your role,
Speaker 3: and you have to learn how to heal yourself so
Speaker 3: you're not attracted to this dynamic anymore. You have to
Speaker 3: learn how to say, you know what, I actually want
Speaker 3: more from myself. And I might love this person and
Speaker 3: they might be great, but I'm not here just to
Speaker 3: heal someone. I'm not here just to fix on I'm
Speaker 3: nobody's rehabilitation center. You can always speak up for yourself
Speaker 3: and say, look, I'm getting to my wits end. I'm
Speaker 3: really having trouble dealing with some of the patterns that
Speaker 3: I'm experiencing. I love you, I want us to work
Speaker 3: this out. Let's go to couple's therapy, put an olive
Speaker 3: branch out, communicate, be honest. If they can't respond, if
Speaker 3: they can't go forward with that, then I think you'll
Speaker 3: have your answer. If you are in love, give it
Speaker 3: a try, go out on a limb. Let's go to
Speaker 3: couple therapy together. Let's both learn about our own problems.
Speaker 3: But don't make it like it's just her that has
Speaker 3: something quote unquote wrong with.
Speaker 2: Them or has a certain pattern.
Speaker 3: You both have patterns, and you're both reaffirming one another's
Speaker 3: beliefs about themselves. Next question, what to do when someone
Speaker 3: pulls away from me? Celebrate, Scream on the top of
Speaker 3: your lungs that you're so grateful God is watching over you.
Speaker 3: Do not take it personal, take it vibrational. There is
Speaker 3: this universal rejection truth, and so many of us get
Speaker 3: so hurt when someone goes to us or doesn't respond.
Speaker 3: There could be a billion reasons why this isn't in
Speaker 3: energetic alignment with this other person.
Speaker 2: They could be.
Speaker 3: In a transition phase in their life and ready to
Speaker 3: have a relationship. That doesn't mean it's about you not
Speaker 3: being good enough. They could be dealing with their own
Speaker 3: emotional issues. That doesn't mean you're not good enough. They
Speaker 3: could not be ready for a relationship. That doesn't mean
Speaker 3: you're not good enough. They might just not be an
Speaker 3: energetic match, and that doesn't mean you're not good enough.
Speaker 3: They also might not be good for you, and your
Speaker 3: angels and the divine are trying to block them from
Speaker 3: you to really help you in your growth process. You
Speaker 3: have to remember that as much as we can see
Speaker 3: of this physical world, there's so much more that lives
Speaker 3: in the unseen, energetic world. You have a whole entire
Speaker 3: team that's watching out for you, that's protecting you. It's
Speaker 3: not rejection, it's divine protection and redirection. You are being
Speaker 3: rerouted to either focus on you, focus on something you're building,
Speaker 3: or focus on another individual. I don't ever second guess
Speaker 3: someone ghosting or it not working out. I celebrate, Oh yes,
Speaker 3: I'm so much closer to finding myself mate, Oh yes,
Speaker 3: I can focus on me instead of pouring into something
Speaker 3: that was gonna waste my time anyway. Honestly, it's kind
Speaker 3: of a green light to celebrate and refocus on yourself.
Speaker 2: If it's not them, it's gonna be someone better.
Speaker 3: What's the big to do if someone goests, if they
Speaker 3: leave your life, Okay, bye, thank you for not wasting
Speaker 3: my time. I personally do not ghost because I don't
Speaker 3: like to be ghosted. I think a lot of us
Speaker 3: are ghosting and getting mad when it happens to us.
Speaker 3: Don't embody what you don't want to receive, because the
Speaker 3: law of karma. When I know it's not an energetic
Speaker 3: match with someone, I send them a voice note, a
Speaker 3: dissertation if you will on why we're not in alignment?
Speaker 2: Yes, and that's fine. That is it.
Speaker 3: I will say we're at different life stages. I will
Speaker 3: tell them it feels more like a friendship level. I
Speaker 3: will tell them that, you know what, I just don't
Speaker 3: think we align morally, politically, or values, whatever it may be.
Speaker 3: It's not personal. It's vibrational. Everyone's just trying to figure
Speaker 3: out what's going to work for them. You can't be
Speaker 3: mad at them if they figure out that you're not
Speaker 3: in alignment with them. Celebrate the fact that you now
Speaker 3: have more room to let in someone who is going
Speaker 3: to be for you. Would you rather them play you
Speaker 3: and act like they want you when they don't know?
Speaker 3: So it's a blessing. Keep it moving and grooving. It's
Speaker 3: a celebration. Next question, how to be in a continuous
Speaker 3: highest energy for every day? Ooh, I'll give you something
Speaker 3: I talk about in my book Show Up as Her.
Speaker 3: It's called positive Bititude activate. When I want to prime
Speaker 3: myself for a meeting, for an energy session, for a client,
Speaker 3: for a date.
Speaker 2: Before I go, I say.
Speaker 3: Positive Bititude activate activate activate, positive Bititude activate activate activate,
Speaker 3: positive Bititude activate activate activate. I will imagine white light
Speaker 3: energy piercing through the top of my head all the
Speaker 3: way down through my legs. I will see all of
Speaker 3: my energy being cleansed and clapping is a shamanic technique
Speaker 3: to shake out older energy, making room for new energy.
Speaker 2: And when I.
Speaker 3: Say positive Bititude activate, I am activating my highest vibrational
Speaker 3: energies of love, joy, freedom, fun, expansion. I'm commanding these
Speaker 3: energies to turn on. So even if I had a
Speaker 3: lousy day or a lousy week, when I do positive
Speaker 3: bititude activate, all of my energies are commanded. The positive
Speaker 3: ones are commanded to turn on. I visualize the white light,
Speaker 3: so I'm being cleansed and I'm shaking out any energy
Speaker 3: that needs to go.
Speaker 2: Let's try it together.
Speaker 3: Positive Bititude activate activate, activate, positive Bititude activate activate activate,
Speaker 3: positive Bititude activate activate activate Who puts me in a
Speaker 3: little tail span girl? If you want to learn more
Speaker 3: about that, you can get the book show up as her.
Speaker 3: That is in my show notes how to not rush
Speaker 3: and put energy when I find someone who has potential
Speaker 3: to be my husband.
Speaker 2: Et cetera.
Speaker 3: Well, I understand the excitement there, but you just don't
Speaker 3: know what you don't know. And I'm not saying this
Speaker 3: is the best sentence I've ever said, but I will
Speaker 3: say it it.
Speaker 2: It's had a positive effect on me.
Speaker 3: A crush is just a lack of information. So in
Speaker 3: the beginning stage, to avoid limerens and to avoid beginning
Speaker 3: to energetically chase them and then repelling them, remind yourself, ooh,
Speaker 3: a crush is just a lack of information. I don't
Speaker 3: actually know this person, and the reason I like them
Speaker 3: so much, the reason I've fallen in love with them
Speaker 3: and I've known them for two days, is because I'm
Speaker 3: feeling in their silences with my desires and fantasies. As
Speaker 3: is just a lack of information. Let me refocus on
Speaker 3: what I do and do not know. I had a
Speaker 3: date recently, and when I came back home, I opened
Speaker 3: up my notebook and I wrote down everything I was
Speaker 3: feeling so that I could remember. Because I know myself,
Speaker 3: I am a lover girl. And if they're texting me
Speaker 3: and calling me during the week, and I tend to
Speaker 3: like people a lot over the phone for whatever reason.
Speaker 3: When they're doing that, I don't want to fall into
Speaker 3: I need to remind myself of the truth of the matter.
Speaker 3: When you're next to someone on a date, you get
Speaker 3: a lot more energetic information than just on the phone.
Speaker 3: Because you're in their orc field and they're in yours.
Speaker 3: There's a lot more room to exchange energetic files. So
Speaker 3: after my dates, I come home and I write down
Speaker 3: everything what I liked, what I didn't like, red flags,
Speaker 3: green flags, and I congratulate myself for getting closer to
Speaker 3: a vibrational match of what I truly want.
Speaker 2: I remind myself.
Speaker 3: If there are no red flags, or there's nothing that
Speaker 3: I'm seeing that might be off, although I have to
Speaker 3: say there usually is something. No one's perfect. If you're
Speaker 3: looking for perfect, don't look for a partner. But if
Speaker 3: I find myself romanticizing them to be above and beyond,
Speaker 3: I remind myself, wait, I might be missing information here,
Speaker 3: so let me not jump the gun. I also think
Speaker 3: as you get older, this naturally happens where you're so
Speaker 3: tired of going through the ups and the downs with
Speaker 3: other people that you no longer even want to romanticize
Speaker 3: them because you're tired of disappointment over time, You're tired
Speaker 3: of getting yourself so so high just to figure out, oh,
Speaker 3: that's not actually who you are, and then you have
Speaker 3: to go to this really low place. I think a
Speaker 3: lot of this just comes from experience, because pain is
Speaker 3: a great teacher. And when you realize it's really painful
Speaker 3: to get my hopes up for someone and then realize
Speaker 3: that was my own fantasy is not who they actually are,
Speaker 3: you tend to just learn you don't do that anymore.
Speaker 3: But I would recommend saying a crush maybe just a
Speaker 3: lack of information. So before I fill in the blanks,
Speaker 3: let me just get to know this person. And they
Speaker 3: might have potential. But potential is not enough. If they
Speaker 3: have a good job, a good mindset, good energy, okay, cool,
Speaker 3: they still have to make you feel loved and seen
Speaker 3: and valued. So let people show you who they are.
Speaker 3: Give it space and time. There really is not a rush.
Speaker 3: What is the rush? So you can rush into a marriage,
Speaker 3: figure out they're the wrong person, and then get divorced.
Speaker 3: I mean, sure, pick your avatar, do whatever it is
Speaker 3: you want to do. But wouldn't you rather just take
Speaker 3: your time getting to know someone and let things unfold.
Speaker 3: Imagine it's actually not this person and it's someone else,
Speaker 3: and then you just rushed into this. Give yourself space
Speaker 3: and time to learn who they are, to feel out
Speaker 3: what you even want from them, and if it's a
Speaker 3: good match for you. Next question, how to stay focused
Speaker 3: on your goals, stay unbothered and be more disciplined with
Speaker 3: what you want. If you want to work on fine
Speaker 3: tuning your energy and staying focused on you and building
Speaker 3: your life, I would recommend joining one of my courses
Speaker 3: because they're going to energetically tune you up to be
Speaker 3: more in alignment with your higher self rather than your
Speaker 3: programmed identity. I would recommend either the Shadow Alchemy course
Speaker 3: or the Pedestal Path. And then someone also asks how
Speaker 3: to remove the pain of a breakup from your heart.
Speaker 3: In that case, I would recommend the twenty one Day
Speaker 3: Breakup Low Up Challenge. These courses not only will they
Speaker 3: help you subconsciously and energetically shift onto a new timeline,
Speaker 3: but they're gonna get give you something.
Speaker 2: To do every day.
Speaker 3: So it's a reminder to stay focused on you and
Speaker 3: feed yourself your own energy instead of worrying about Tom
Speaker 3: and Brad. You're gonna think, oh right, I gotta get
Speaker 3: to my course today. I need to focus on me.
Speaker 3: I need to feed myself my own energy. The more
Speaker 3: you feed yourself and your own energy, the more you're
Speaker 3: gonna realize how much you love feeding yourself your own energy,
Speaker 3: because you're gonna feel better, better, better, better, more magnetic, lighter, happier,
Speaker 3: more joyful, expansive and free. But you don't know until
Speaker 3: you know, and you don't know what you don't know.
Speaker 3: So the thing is you have to just do sometimes
Speaker 3: and then you'll find out afterwards because you're gonna feel
Speaker 3: the energetic effect. I'm also gonna give you a mantra
Speaker 3: whether you want to stay focused, you're healing from a breakup,
Speaker 3: something you can start doing right now. Sign up for
Speaker 3: the course, but also ask the divine to help you.
Speaker 3: God take this sting out of my heart. God guide
Speaker 3: my ability to stay focused. God allow me to be
Speaker 3: disciplined in a way that honors you. Ask God to
Speaker 3: help you. Ask your spirit guides to help you, whoever
Speaker 3: you work with, Ask that loving divine energy to help
Speaker 3: you stay on top of your goals. God, help my
Speaker 3: brain focus today, Help me stay disciplined, Help me focus, God,
Speaker 3: remove this sting from my heart. You're not pleading, you're
Speaker 3: not begging.
Speaker 2: You're not well.
Speaker 3: Maybe you're crying, but you're not pleading or begging. You're commanding.
Speaker 3: You're commanding the energies around you to penetrate and help
Speaker 3: you along your process. Oh. I want to say thank you.
Speaker 3: When I watch your reels, I take an involuntary deep breath.
Speaker 2: Crazy. It makes sense you're releasing energy. I love that
Speaker 2: for you.
Speaker 3: How do you heal the sword guilt and shame and
Speaker 3: remove it from your body? Join the shadow Alchemy course.
Speaker 3: I'm telling you we do. It's like forty minutes some
Speaker 3: shamanic body healing. It will remove the feelings of shame
Speaker 3: and doubt and insecurity from your body like nothing else.
Speaker 3: How to be okay with being alone? Honestly, I was
Speaker 3: just saying this today to this woman of how.
Speaker 2: I am so.
Speaker 3: Stingy giving my energy now out to people I'm talking
Speaker 3: to or dating because I'm enjoying this season so much
Speaker 3: of me just being with me. How did I get here?
Speaker 3: I started to do more things that brought me joy. Oh,
Speaker 3: I just saw three three three on the clock as well.
Speaker 3: Your angels are with you, you are being divinely guided.
Speaker 3: You have to understand that it might not be that
Speaker 3: you're tired, or you're lazy, or you're deplete, whatever you
Speaker 3: think is going on. It might just be you're doing
Speaker 3: too many things that drain you and not enough things
Speaker 3: that make you FeelA.
Speaker 2: When I was overworking.
Speaker 3: Myself and I was burnt out, and I was in
Speaker 3: a relationship that just wasn't energy energetically right anymore, I
Speaker 3: felt like I was on the verge of burnout and
Speaker 3: a breakdown every single day. It wasn't until I removed
Speaker 3: myself from situations and scenarios that made me feel depleted
Speaker 3: and started to say yes to more things that brought
Speaker 3: me joy that I started to feel so different. Action
Speaker 3: is thought or energy reinforced. So if I wake up
Speaker 3: and I'm doing all of these things that I hate
Speaker 3: to do, I'm gonna feel tired, I'm gonna feel drained.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna feel depleted, not because that's who I am,
Speaker 3: but because I'm engaging with energy that takes from me
Speaker 3: rather than refills me. If you want to enjoy being alone,
Speaker 3: you have to do things that you enjoy.
Speaker 2: You have to do things that.
Speaker 3: Are energy fillers, going out in the sun, being near
Speaker 3: natural bodies of water, doing a trail.
Speaker 2: I can't really tell you what's.
Speaker 3: Gonna bring you enjoy. You have to figure that out
Speaker 3: for yourself, because I'm not you. But some things I
Speaker 3: started to do was create a physical community by going
Speaker 3: to energy classes. I started to take golf. I started
Speaker 3: to do some cooking lessons here and there. I started
Speaker 3: to do new things with my time, and that really
Speaker 3: allowed me to meet new people, be in new scenarios,
Speaker 3: and I feel good in my own space because I'm
Speaker 3: doing things that fill me rather than deplete me. I
Speaker 3: also say yes more if there is an event coming up.
Speaker 3: I also will look out for events too, if I
Speaker 3: see an event coming up, a festival or this, so
Speaker 3: that I will go out of my way, text a
Speaker 3: friend and say, hey, let's go to this. I take
Speaker 3: initiative in my own life. I'm an active participant in
Speaker 3: my own life. I don't just sit on the sidelines
Speaker 3: and wait for someone to invite me to do something.
Speaker 3: If I see something that's interesting to me, I'm texting someone, Hey,
Speaker 3: let's go let's do this. I'm interested in that, yes,
Speaker 3: because I know that it's up to me to make
Speaker 3: my life good. My happiness is my responsibility, that's my job.
Speaker 3: So if I'm not happy, if I'm not okay being alone,
Speaker 3: I have to look at the woman in the mirror
Speaker 3: and say, what are we doing wrong. We're giving too
Speaker 3: much time to things that deplete us and not enough
Speaker 3: time to things that are uplifting us and making us
Speaker 3: feel happy and amazing. So I need to shift around
Speaker 3: my schedule. That might mean adding more time to just
Speaker 3: read a book, to color, to paint. It might mean
Speaker 3: a wine night with your girls. Whatever makes you feel empowered.
Speaker 3: For me, it's also yoga, whatever lifts you up.
Speaker 2: Do more of that.
Speaker 3: It could even be getting your nails done. Every time
Speaker 3: I get my nails done, I feel so good afterwards.
Speaker 3: I feel like I just filled my cup up. I
Speaker 3: did something kind for myself. Do things that make you
Speaker 3: feel happy, and it's okay. If no one has told
Speaker 3: you to take yourself out on a date, it's okay
Speaker 3: to take yourself to that movie, to take yourself to
Speaker 3: that energy class, to take yourself to that restaurant, that
Speaker 3: nature trail, whatever it is, and just go do it,
Speaker 3: try new things. That's one of my favorite ways to
Speaker 3: get myself in a new state.
Speaker 2: Let's end with one more.
Speaker 3: Okay, let's end on this because this will help you
Speaker 3: in the future. But also it's really prevalent because literally
Speaker 3: today there's a full moon. How do I integrate the
Speaker 3: energy of the moon each month? Some eclipses are heavy? Yeah,
Speaker 3: full moons tend to be emotional and watery and heavy,
Speaker 3: but how can you integrate them?
Speaker 2: Rest? Nutrient dense food.
Speaker 3: For some reason, sweet potato is always what I need.
Speaker 3: Sweet potato, chickpeas, nutrient dense food, lentils, the goomes, if
Speaker 3: you will, a lot of rest, more sleep, more water
Speaker 3: about and making sure that you're taking time to slow down.
Speaker 3: Do the journal prompts reflect what do I want to release?
Speaker 3: What do I want more of?
Speaker 2: What do I want to release? What do I want
Speaker 2: more of?
Speaker 3: That's what you should be asking yourself because full moons
Speaker 3: are really times of release. But in releasing we can
Speaker 3: also think about and in releasing this, what am I
Speaker 3: making room for that I truly want? Okay, that is
Speaker 3: it for today's episode. I hope you enjoyed this episode
Speaker 3: and it brought light to you. The Sparkle and me
Speaker 3: as always honors of Sparkle in You be sure to
Speaker 3: follow me on Instagram at Vibe with CCS so you
Speaker 3: can ask a question next week possibly and get your
Speaker 3: question answered. If you are looking for one on one coaching,
Speaker 3: you can DM me on Instagram join one of my courses.
Speaker 3: Alleviate these pain bodies, release the negative energy. It's time
Speaker 3: you take radical responsibility over your life and I will
Speaker 3: see you in the next one.
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