WEBVTT 1 00:00:01.280 --> 00:00:21.559 Andogy cancel so high Ectasage Cansage it's not sorry Andogy. 2 00:00:19.280 --> 00:00:19.719 What's up? 3 00:00:19.719 --> 00:00:23.000 Positive bitches? How are we doing today? If you're hearing 4 00:00:23.039 --> 00:00:25.239 this episode, then you are meant to be here, So 5 00:00:25.440 --> 00:00:29.280 keep listening on that Bitch is Positive podcast. Sometimes we 6 00:00:29.320 --> 00:00:33.039 will laugh. Other times, baby Girl, We're gonna cry, but 7 00:00:33.159 --> 00:00:37.119 we will always walk away feeling our most empowered positive 8 00:00:37.280 --> 00:00:42.039 bitch self. That is Babe, but in true connection with herself. 9 00:00:42.439 --> 00:00:45.439 On this podcast, we unbecome who we are not so 10 00:00:45.479 --> 00:00:48.479 we can fully step into exactly who we came here 11 00:00:48.640 --> 00:00:54.759 to be. Today, I am answering your questions you submitted 12 00:00:54.880 --> 00:00:58.600 on my Instagram at vibein with CC. If you're not 13 00:00:58.759 --> 00:01:02.240 yet following me there, you want to make sure to 14 00:01:02.320 --> 00:01:05.920 follow me on Instagram at VIBINWOODCC. The link will be 15 00:01:05.920 --> 00:01:08.400 in the bio so you can stay up to date 16 00:01:08.840 --> 00:01:13.280 with all things magnetic energy. We are gonna be talking 17 00:01:13.400 --> 00:01:18.480 about dating, relationships, how to heal, and so much more 18 00:01:18.560 --> 00:01:21.959 in today's episode. I don't even know the questions I'm 19 00:01:21.959 --> 00:01:24.400 gonna be answering yet because I am doing it in 20 00:01:25.000 --> 00:01:29.120 real time. But before we get into it, a couple 21 00:01:29.200 --> 00:01:33.159 of announcements. If you've not yet joy in shadow alchemy. 22 00:01:33.640 --> 00:01:37.439 Be sure to join in shadow alchemy. Today's literally when 23 00:01:37.439 --> 00:01:41.519 you're listening to this on October seventeenth is a full moon. 24 00:01:41.920 --> 00:01:44.799 Full moons are all about releasing what no longer serves you. 25 00:01:45.200 --> 00:01:48.400 Shadow alchemy is about releasing what no longer serves you 26 00:01:48.599 --> 00:01:51.480 and bringing your shadow to the light. What is a 27 00:01:51.519 --> 00:01:56.079 full moon but fully lit? It is all of this 28 00:01:56.319 --> 00:02:01.560 energy that we can use to help us in the 29 00:02:01.680 --> 00:02:09.120 process of releasing, releasing shame, releasing doubt, releasing out dated programming, 30 00:02:09.520 --> 00:02:13.960 releasing that relationship, releasing feelings for another. This is the 31 00:02:14.039 --> 00:02:15.879 perfect time to do it. 32 00:02:15.919 --> 00:02:16.520 We've been so. 33 00:02:16.639 --> 00:02:19.639 Lucky with eclipse after eclipse. Now we have a full moon. 34 00:02:20.319 --> 00:02:25.240 This last half of twenty twenty four is really a 35 00:02:25.319 --> 00:02:29.280 moment to release everything before we get into next year. 36 00:02:30.280 --> 00:02:32.879 It's like they're serving us this energy on a silver platter. 37 00:02:32.960 --> 00:02:37.199 It could not be more phenomenal. Take this time, do 38 00:02:37.319 --> 00:02:40.280 the shadow work, and you want to get this done 39 00:02:40.319 --> 00:02:43.319 before I release my next course, which is all about 40 00:02:43.360 --> 00:02:46.400 the art of alchemy. We go even further into you 41 00:02:46.759 --> 00:02:49.919 taking your pain and turning it into power. But before 42 00:02:49.960 --> 00:02:52.719 you do that, you want to get the bones of 43 00:02:52.840 --> 00:02:56.039 shadow alchemy. The link will be in the show notes. 44 00:02:56.439 --> 00:03:00.400 Another system that could support you right now is twenty 45 00:03:00.400 --> 00:03:03.680 one Day Breakup Glow Up Challenge. If you are going 46 00:03:03.800 --> 00:03:06.800 through any sort of breakup, whether it's you just can't 47 00:03:06.800 --> 00:03:09.960 get over the guy from chemistry class, you are going 48 00:03:10.000 --> 00:03:13.080 through a breakup even though you were never even in 49 00:03:13.120 --> 00:03:15.800 a real relationship but it felt like one. The twenty 50 00:03:15.800 --> 00:03:18.159 one Day Breakup Glow Up course will really help you 51 00:03:18.240 --> 00:03:22.080 reclaim your power, your perception, your awareness, and your energy. 52 00:03:22.560 --> 00:03:25.319 Whatever you're going through, I probably have a workbook or 53 00:03:25.360 --> 00:03:27.800 a course that can help you through it. So look 54 00:03:27.800 --> 00:03:30.080 through the show notes, see what's there, see if anything 55 00:03:30.120 --> 00:03:33.360 resonates with you. If you're looking for one on one guidance, 56 00:03:33.479 --> 00:03:35.719 you can DM me on Instagram and I can tell 57 00:03:35.759 --> 00:03:39.080 you more how I can aid you in your process 58 00:03:39.199 --> 00:03:41.759 of unbecoming who you are not so you can fully 59 00:03:41.800 --> 00:03:44.599 step into exactly who you came here to be without 60 00:03:44.639 --> 00:03:47.719 further ado. Let's get into today's episode because I want 61 00:03:47.719 --> 00:03:48.719 to get to your questions. 62 00:03:49.919 --> 00:03:52.240 First question, where can I. 63 00:03:52.280 --> 00:03:55.240 Meet men other than dating apps or the gym apps? 64 00:03:55.280 --> 00:03:56.120 Can be draining? 65 00:03:57.080 --> 00:04:00.960 Okay, if you want to win, you have to place 66 00:04:01.000 --> 00:04:05.439 yourself in a position to do so. Certain positions will 67 00:04:05.479 --> 00:04:08.240 set you up for failure, and certain positions will set 68 00:04:08.280 --> 00:04:12.000 you up for success. If your current places that you're 69 00:04:12.039 --> 00:04:16.639 going to aren't conducive to meeting men, you need to 70 00:04:16.720 --> 00:04:20.839 change the environments in which you're going. I started doing 71 00:04:20.879 --> 00:04:25.560 golf for my mindset because I really missed having a sport. 72 00:04:25.759 --> 00:04:27.279 I used to be on a tennis team, and I 73 00:04:27.279 --> 00:04:30.480 don't have that anymore. So I started doing golf. Lo 74 00:04:30.680 --> 00:04:34.519 and behold, what am I doing? Meeting so many more men? 75 00:04:35.000 --> 00:04:38.839 Think about it. It's not that hard. That wasn't even 76 00:04:38.920 --> 00:04:42.920 necessarily my intention, But it is a side effect of 77 00:04:43.000 --> 00:04:45.360 just going to a new place. 78 00:04:45.680 --> 00:04:47.120 You meet new people. 79 00:04:47.519 --> 00:04:52.160 I started taking energy classes, new environments, I'm meeting new people. 80 00:04:52.800 --> 00:04:58.759 You want to look for environments, events, anything where it's 81 00:04:58.839 --> 00:05:02.079 going to be like minded people going to these events. 82 00:05:02.560 --> 00:05:05.720 Use event bright That is a website where you can 83 00:05:05.759 --> 00:05:09.000 look up local events in your area to see what's 84 00:05:09.040 --> 00:05:12.199 going on. Is there a festival, Is there some sort 85 00:05:12.279 --> 00:05:15.839 of like minded yoga group happening on the beach. When 86 00:05:15.879 --> 00:05:20.959 you set the intention I want to go to more 87 00:05:21.040 --> 00:05:24.839 events where like minded people are, that will start to 88 00:05:25.000 --> 00:05:29.399 manifest in your three D reality. Think about the observer effect. 89 00:05:30.319 --> 00:05:33.800 This was something in quantum physics that they have discovered. 90 00:05:35.120 --> 00:05:39.240 When an observer aka the scientist was looking at a wavelength, 91 00:05:39.800 --> 00:05:44.000 the wavelength collapsed into an electron. But when the scientist 92 00:05:44.399 --> 00:05:49.480 the observer looked away, that electron went back into the 93 00:05:49.519 --> 00:05:53.560 wavelength form. It went back into an energetic form. 94 00:05:53.959 --> 00:05:55.079 What is this tell us? 95 00:05:55.600 --> 00:06:00.480 This shows us that when you observe something, it changes 96 00:06:00.519 --> 00:06:03.240 the nature of it and it knows it's being observed. 97 00:06:03.560 --> 00:06:08.319 When you observe an idea, an intention, a desire, it 98 00:06:08.399 --> 00:06:13.240 collapses from just this energy, this vapor like thing out there. 99 00:06:13.399 --> 00:06:17.560 It collapses from an energy wavelength into three D physical matter. 100 00:06:17.920 --> 00:06:19.759 If you want a quantum leap, if you want to 101 00:06:19.800 --> 00:06:23.560 manifest something, you have to set an intention for it 102 00:06:23.680 --> 00:06:27.639 to come into your life. How do you start anything? 103 00:06:28.079 --> 00:06:30.399 How do you do anything? You have to set an 104 00:06:30.439 --> 00:06:32.879 intention first. How do I move my arm? I have 105 00:06:32.920 --> 00:06:35.720 to intend to do so. How do you pull in 106 00:06:35.759 --> 00:06:39.240 new experiences? You have to intend to do so. I 107 00:06:39.319 --> 00:06:43.759 want you literally commanding the energy around you. I am 108 00:06:43.839 --> 00:06:46.519 invited to new environments, and when you're invited, you have 109 00:06:46.600 --> 00:06:49.519 to go. You have to say yes. I am placed 110 00:06:49.800 --> 00:06:53.240 in a position to succeed in meeting new people. I'm 111 00:06:53.279 --> 00:06:55.879 always at the right place at the right time to 112 00:06:56.000 --> 00:06:59.959 meet the best people for me. When I'm out, people 113 00:07:00.000 --> 00:07:03.480 will naturally come up to me. They're naturally attracted to 114 00:07:03.560 --> 00:07:06.800 my energy. If you keep going to the same bars, 115 00:07:06.879 --> 00:07:09.759 the same restaurants, you're gonna keep getting the same results. 116 00:07:10.480 --> 00:07:14.279 So switch up your location, sign up for a new class, 117 00:07:14.319 --> 00:07:17.519 sign up for a sport, do something that you're actually 118 00:07:17.560 --> 00:07:20.639 interested in. Don't just go to meet people, because that's 119 00:07:20.639 --> 00:07:23.839 sending way too much energy. Go to things that you 120 00:07:23.879 --> 00:07:27.279 want to experience, and while you're there, you're going to 121 00:07:27.279 --> 00:07:31.120 meet people who are also like you. I also have 122 00:07:31.199 --> 00:07:36.560 to say we have to respect the law of rhythm, 123 00:07:36.920 --> 00:07:41.399 that everything has its ebb and flow. Everything is occurring 124 00:07:41.439 --> 00:07:45.879 in divine timing. Your higher self and your soulmates, high yourself, 125 00:07:46.439 --> 00:07:50.759 they're already connecting the dots on how they're gonna push 126 00:07:50.800 --> 00:07:51.399 you together. 127 00:07:52.959 --> 00:07:57.920 You don't have to do so much. And it's a 128 00:07:58.040 --> 00:07:59.160 delicate dance. 129 00:07:59.199 --> 00:08:01.720 It's a balance between I'm gonna put myself out there, 130 00:08:01.759 --> 00:08:04.120 I'm going to place myself in a position to succeed, 131 00:08:04.519 --> 00:08:07.439 but also not forcing it because it's frequency over force. 132 00:08:08.040 --> 00:08:11.040 What I mean by this is you don't have to 133 00:08:11.079 --> 00:08:14.879 tell yourself that it's all up to you. As much 134 00:08:14.920 --> 00:08:18.040 as you want this relationship, the relationship also wants you. 135 00:08:18.120 --> 00:08:20.759 As much as you're praying for your soulmate, they're also 136 00:08:20.920 --> 00:08:24.480 praying for you. Their higher self and your higher self 137 00:08:24.920 --> 00:08:29.199 are figuring out the details. You don't have to do everything, 138 00:08:29.560 --> 00:08:33.120 because then it puts you into a chaser energy, a 139 00:08:33.279 --> 00:08:35.320 masculine energy, and then you end. 140 00:08:35.279 --> 00:08:36.320 Up repelling people. 141 00:08:37.120 --> 00:08:39.919 So we want to respect the law of rhythm and 142 00:08:40.000 --> 00:08:42.679 respect the season that we're in. Well, maybe this is 143 00:08:42.759 --> 00:08:44.440 a season where I'm meant to fall in love with 144 00:08:44.480 --> 00:08:47.960 the process of creation. Maybe this is a season where 145 00:08:47.960 --> 00:08:51.120 I'm meant to learn more about myself. Maybe this is 146 00:08:51.159 --> 00:08:54.559 a season where I'm meant to dive deeper into this 147 00:08:54.639 --> 00:08:57.039 side hustle or this job because it's going to be 148 00:08:57.080 --> 00:09:02.279 part of my life's purpose. Infect the season you're in 149 00:09:02.879 --> 00:09:05.919 and squeeze it out like a towel. Get everything you 150 00:09:05.919 --> 00:09:07.679 can get from it, All of the juice you can 151 00:09:07.720 --> 00:09:10.919 possibly get, you're gonna want to get because you don't 152 00:09:10.960 --> 00:09:13.759 want to skip steps. You don't want to skip seasons here, 153 00:09:14.080 --> 00:09:16.919 because then you're not going to be able to hold 154 00:09:17.320 --> 00:09:20.240 what is divinely meant for you. A lot of us 155 00:09:20.279 --> 00:09:22.320 think I want my soulmate right now. But if they 156 00:09:22.360 --> 00:09:24.559 came in, would you be able to hold them in 157 00:09:24.600 --> 00:09:28.360 your life? Or would doubt, insecurity and fear overtake your 158 00:09:28.399 --> 00:09:31.679 system and you would self sabotage and then lose them. 159 00:09:32.080 --> 00:09:36.919 Respect the divine timing that's unfolding in your life, because 160 00:09:36.919 --> 00:09:41.399 divine timing is sent to help you, not to destroy you, 161 00:09:41.799 --> 00:09:44.080 but our ego and our fears, and if our systems 162 00:09:44.120 --> 00:09:49.080 are not ready, that will and can destroy us. Okay, 163 00:09:49.320 --> 00:09:53.480 let's get to the next question over here, breaking the 164 00:09:53.519 --> 00:09:58.480 cycle of male validation. If you want to break the 165 00:09:58.519 --> 00:10:02.200 cycle of needing an mail to validate you, you have 166 00:10:02.279 --> 00:10:05.960 to start validating yourself. You have to ask yourself, what 167 00:10:06.200 --> 00:10:12.399 is it about male validation that is so intriguing to me? 168 00:10:13.279 --> 00:10:19.159 What is it about male validation that I crave? We 169 00:10:19.279 --> 00:10:22.840 only starve for something outside of ourselves when we're not 170 00:10:22.960 --> 00:10:27.200 giving it to ourselves in the first place. If you're 171 00:10:27.279 --> 00:10:31.000 starving for male validation, let's start with the validation part. 172 00:10:31.360 --> 00:10:34.279 I was literally just talking about this with a client today. 173 00:10:35.120 --> 00:10:38.399 I want you at breakfast, lunch, and dinner, or whenever 174 00:10:38.440 --> 00:10:42.840 you eat to validate yourself. You'll remember to do so 175 00:10:43.120 --> 00:10:45.919 because you're gonna remember to eat, so then you'll remember 176 00:10:45.919 --> 00:10:49.519 to validate yourself too while you're eating. I'm so proud 177 00:10:49.559 --> 00:10:53.679 of myself for getting that job done at work. I'm 178 00:10:53.679 --> 00:10:56.399 so proud of myself for getting to that workout. I'm 179 00:10:56.399 --> 00:10:59.120 so proud of myself for finishing that book. I'm so 180 00:10:59.200 --> 00:11:01.039 proud of myself for doing the meditation. 181 00:11:01.840 --> 00:11:02.720 If you want to. 182 00:11:04.200 --> 00:11:10.399 Completely shift your self esteem, start using your voice to 183 00:11:10.519 --> 00:11:14.679 empower you rather than deplete you. Your voice no one 184 00:11:14.720 --> 00:11:18.360 else has it. You have a unique encoded frequency that's 185 00:11:18.399 --> 00:11:21.000 coming out of your body every single day. That is 186 00:11:21.039 --> 00:11:24.720 your voice. How are you using this divine instrument? Are 187 00:11:24.759 --> 00:11:28.799 you using it to disempower yourself? Because even if you're joking, 188 00:11:29.080 --> 00:11:33.080 your subconscious mind cannot take a joke, even self deprecating humor. 189 00:11:33.120 --> 00:11:36.639 Your subconscious mind thinks is real. And then it takes 190 00:11:37.000 --> 00:11:39.919 this joke and it prints it out into your reality 191 00:11:40.000 --> 00:11:45.080 and then you begin to experience it. Your voice is 192 00:11:45.200 --> 00:11:48.399 the voice you are going to hear the most over 193 00:11:48.440 --> 00:11:50.279 the course of your life. 194 00:11:50.399 --> 00:11:51.679 You have to wake up. 195 00:11:51.600 --> 00:11:53.720 With yourself, hear yourself all day, and go to bed 196 00:11:53.720 --> 00:11:58.039 with yourself why not use your voice, this god given instrument, 197 00:11:58.120 --> 00:12:02.120 this innate ability to speak to empower yourself. 198 00:12:02.879 --> 00:12:04.159 If we knew how. 199 00:12:04.120 --> 00:12:08.559 Powerful words were, we would not use them so willy nilly. 200 00:12:09.600 --> 00:12:14.720 Every time you're speaking, you're casting spells. We're taking vibration words, 201 00:12:15.039 --> 00:12:18.080 we're encoding it, we're putting it out into the universe. 202 00:12:18.200 --> 00:12:21.120 This is literally magic. This is casting spells, and then 203 00:12:21.320 --> 00:12:26.440 we're seeing it in our reality. Validate yourself breakfast, lunch, 204 00:12:26.519 --> 00:12:31.080 and dinner every single day of your life. I created 205 00:12:31.080 --> 00:12:35.159 something in my Pedestal Path course called Making Mind. And 206 00:12:35.200 --> 00:12:37.360 what you do is you listen to this ten minute 207 00:12:37.360 --> 00:12:41.919 audio every single day, and it's going to rewire your 208 00:12:42.000 --> 00:12:44.559 brain for you. It's going to give you new neurological 209 00:12:44.600 --> 00:12:48.480 pathways for you to exist within. So if you're not 210 00:12:48.519 --> 00:12:51.039 sure how to speak to yourself, what to say, if 211 00:12:51.039 --> 00:12:53.320 you want an audio to do the work for you, 212 00:12:53.720 --> 00:12:56.360 get the Pedestal Path course and you will get the 213 00:12:56.399 --> 00:12:59.039 Making Mind audio file and you can listen to it 214 00:12:59.080 --> 00:13:02.399 every night, every month warning and it will completely shift 215 00:13:02.720 --> 00:13:06.039 how you see yourself and how you feel about yourself. 216 00:13:06.240 --> 00:13:09.000 How to heal with a narcissistic girlfriend who doesn't learn 217 00:13:09.000 --> 00:13:13.919 from her mistakes and repeats her behavior patterns. This might 218 00:13:14.039 --> 00:13:16.960 be hard to hear, but just because you want to 219 00:13:16.960 --> 00:13:19.559 fix someone doesn't mean they want to be fixed. And 220 00:13:19.600 --> 00:13:21.799 by the way, the only person who can fix that 221 00:13:21.840 --> 00:13:23.039 person is themselves. 222 00:13:24.440 --> 00:13:27.799 A lot of us are not reading the writing on 223 00:13:27.960 --> 00:13:28.679 the wall. 224 00:13:29.519 --> 00:13:32.000 We may have grown up feeling like we had to 225 00:13:32.039 --> 00:13:34.960 fix mom and dad. We may have grown up feeling 226 00:13:35.039 --> 00:13:38.240 like we had to be the heart of the family, 227 00:13:38.320 --> 00:13:40.799 had to make sure that everyone is okay. And then 228 00:13:40.840 --> 00:13:44.200 what do we do in our intimate relationships. We copy 229 00:13:44.240 --> 00:13:47.480 and paste this dynamic and we think that if we 230 00:13:47.480 --> 00:13:50.559 can master it as an adult, that we're lovable and 231 00:13:50.600 --> 00:13:54.039 we're good enough and we're worthy. You have to understand 232 00:13:54.080 --> 00:14:00.679 that as energetically sick your girlfriend is, so are you. 233 00:14:00.679 --> 00:14:03.759 You are also part of this dynamic. You are also 234 00:14:03.960 --> 00:14:07.360 feeding this dynamic. As much as your narcissistic girlfriend is 235 00:14:07.360 --> 00:14:10.080 fulfilling a role for you, you're also fulfilling a role 236 00:14:10.120 --> 00:14:14.240 for her. You need to take a step back, and 237 00:14:14.279 --> 00:14:16.600 you need to remember that the only person you can 238 00:14:16.600 --> 00:14:19.639 fix and heal is you. And if you're so badly 239 00:14:19.679 --> 00:14:22.840 wanting to fix someone, you need to be working on yourself. 240 00:14:23.120 --> 00:14:24.120 That is not healthy. 241 00:14:25.240 --> 00:14:27.919 I had one client today tell me how do I 242 00:14:28.080 --> 00:14:31.840 change my partner? And I told her it's not about 243 00:14:31.919 --> 00:14:35.000 changing your partner, It's about you shifting and seeing your 244 00:14:35.039 --> 00:14:39.080 partner from a higher vibrational perception. The problem with so 245 00:14:39.279 --> 00:14:42.919 many of us is where re enacting dynamics we had 246 00:14:42.919 --> 00:14:47.360 with our caregivers instead of building healthy dynamics as adults. 247 00:14:48.360 --> 00:14:52.080 You cannot fix another person. It's not gonna do whatever 248 00:14:52.120 --> 00:14:55.120 you think it's going to do. It's so much easier 249 00:14:55.159 --> 00:14:58.159 to focus on someone outside of ourselves and say they're hurt, 250 00:14:58.240 --> 00:15:00.480 they need help, I need to heal them than it 251 00:15:00.519 --> 00:15:02.480 is to look at ourselves in the mirror and say, 252 00:15:02.559 --> 00:15:07.840 oh damn, it's me who needs to heal. It's me 253 00:15:08.000 --> 00:15:10.879 who's actually hurting. It's me who's still not over the 254 00:15:10.919 --> 00:15:13.279 fact that my dad was an alcoholic and I couldn't 255 00:15:13.279 --> 00:15:15.720 get him to change for me and therefore I feel unlovable. 256 00:15:16.320 --> 00:15:20.240 It's me who needs to take a step back. It's 257 00:15:20.320 --> 00:15:24.159 frequency over forced. You cannot force people to do what 258 00:15:24.200 --> 00:15:25.039 you want them to do. 259 00:15:25.440 --> 00:15:26.519 They have to want it. 260 00:15:26.759 --> 00:15:30.440 Can people change, yes, but when they want to, when 261 00:15:30.519 --> 00:15:34.840 they realize they have a problem. Narcissists are born out 262 00:15:34.879 --> 00:15:38.080 of severe neglect, so then they have to go around 263 00:15:38.639 --> 00:15:42.039 saying how great they are, how grand they are, because 264 00:15:42.039 --> 00:15:46.399 that's the only way they can get validation. And because 265 00:15:46.440 --> 00:15:50.159 they're so engrossed in the fact they were neglected, they 266 00:15:50.159 --> 00:15:53.879 don't even have room for anyone else's emotions. It's not 267 00:15:53.919 --> 00:15:58.120 that a narcissist is evil or demonic or whatever it is. 268 00:15:58.639 --> 00:16:04.000 The point is that's not your job, it's not your role, 269 00:16:04.720 --> 00:16:08.240 and you have to learn how to heal yourself so 270 00:16:08.279 --> 00:16:11.559 you're not attracted to this dynamic anymore. You have to 271 00:16:11.759 --> 00:16:17.120 learn how to say, you know what, I actually want 272 00:16:17.159 --> 00:16:20.320 more from myself. And I might love this person and 273 00:16:20.360 --> 00:16:24.600 they might be great, but I'm not here just to 274 00:16:24.639 --> 00:16:27.399 heal someone. I'm not here just to fix on I'm 275 00:16:27.440 --> 00:16:33.399 nobody's rehabilitation center. You can always speak up for yourself 276 00:16:33.440 --> 00:16:38.320 and say, look, I'm getting to my wits end. I'm 277 00:16:38.440 --> 00:16:42.320 really having trouble dealing with some of the patterns that 278 00:16:42.360 --> 00:16:46.279 I'm experiencing. I love you, I want us to work 279 00:16:46.320 --> 00:16:51.519 this out. Let's go to couple's therapy, put an olive 280 00:16:51.519 --> 00:16:59.279 branch out, communicate, be honest. If they can't respond, if 281 00:16:59.320 --> 00:17:02.480 they can't go forward with that, then I think you'll 282 00:17:02.480 --> 00:17:05.799 have your answer. If you are in love, give it 283 00:17:05.839 --> 00:17:09.839 a try, go out on a limb. Let's go to 284 00:17:09.960 --> 00:17:13.519 couple therapy together. Let's both learn about our own problems. 285 00:17:13.680 --> 00:17:17.359 But don't make it like it's just her that has 286 00:17:17.359 --> 00:17:19.720 something quote unquote wrong with. 287 00:17:19.680 --> 00:17:21.119 Them or has a certain pattern. 288 00:17:21.559 --> 00:17:25.640 You both have patterns, and you're both reaffirming one another's 289 00:17:26.240 --> 00:17:30.119 beliefs about themselves. Next question, what to do when someone 290 00:17:30.200 --> 00:17:34.119 pulls away from me? Celebrate, Scream on the top of 291 00:17:34.160 --> 00:17:37.799 your lungs that you're so grateful God is watching over you. 292 00:17:38.599 --> 00:17:42.200 Do not take it personal, take it vibrational. There is 293 00:17:42.279 --> 00:17:45.519 this universal rejection truth, and so many of us get 294 00:17:45.720 --> 00:17:49.039 so hurt when someone goes to us or doesn't respond. 295 00:17:49.519 --> 00:17:53.160 There could be a billion reasons why this isn't in 296 00:17:53.440 --> 00:17:55.359 energetic alignment with this other person. 297 00:17:55.720 --> 00:17:56.359 They could be. 298 00:17:58.000 --> 00:18:00.519 In a transition phase in their life and ready to 299 00:18:00.519 --> 00:18:02.880 have a relationship. That doesn't mean it's about you not 300 00:18:02.920 --> 00:18:05.200 being good enough. They could be dealing with their own 301 00:18:05.200 --> 00:18:08.440 emotional issues. That doesn't mean you're not good enough. They 302 00:18:08.440 --> 00:18:10.759 could not be ready for a relationship. That doesn't mean 303 00:18:10.799 --> 00:18:12.799 you're not good enough. They might just not be an 304 00:18:12.920 --> 00:18:15.640 energetic match, and that doesn't mean you're not good enough. 305 00:18:15.920 --> 00:18:19.039 They also might not be good for you, and your 306 00:18:19.079 --> 00:18:21.799 angels and the divine are trying to block them from 307 00:18:21.839 --> 00:18:27.039 you to really help you in your growth process. You 308 00:18:27.160 --> 00:18:29.640 have to remember that as much as we can see 309 00:18:29.680 --> 00:18:32.480 of this physical world, there's so much more that lives 310 00:18:32.480 --> 00:18:35.680 in the unseen, energetic world. You have a whole entire 311 00:18:35.720 --> 00:18:38.799 team that's watching out for you, that's protecting you. It's 312 00:18:38.839 --> 00:18:42.720 not rejection, it's divine protection and redirection. You are being 313 00:18:42.799 --> 00:18:46.880 rerouted to either focus on you, focus on something you're building, 314 00:18:47.119 --> 00:18:52.599 or focus on another individual. I don't ever second guess 315 00:18:52.640 --> 00:18:58.119 someone ghosting or it not working out. I celebrate, Oh yes, 316 00:18:58.240 --> 00:19:01.240 I'm so much closer to finding myself mate, Oh yes, 317 00:19:01.319 --> 00:19:03.440 I can focus on me instead of pouring into something 318 00:19:03.480 --> 00:19:06.480 that was gonna waste my time anyway. Honestly, it's kind 319 00:19:06.519 --> 00:19:10.440 of a green light to celebrate and refocus on yourself. 320 00:19:10.799 --> 00:19:13.000 If it's not them, it's gonna be someone better. 321 00:19:14.079 --> 00:19:16.799 What's the big to do if someone goests, if they 322 00:19:16.880 --> 00:19:20.680 leave your life, Okay, bye, thank you for not wasting 323 00:19:20.720 --> 00:19:24.359 my time. I personally do not ghost because I don't 324 00:19:24.400 --> 00:19:26.440 like to be ghosted. I think a lot of us 325 00:19:26.519 --> 00:19:28.880 are ghosting and getting mad when it happens to us. 326 00:19:29.160 --> 00:19:31.400 Don't embody what you don't want to receive, because the 327 00:19:31.480 --> 00:19:33.680 law of karma. When I know it's not an energetic 328 00:19:33.759 --> 00:19:36.160 match with someone, I send them a voice note, a 329 00:19:36.240 --> 00:19:39.400 dissertation if you will on why we're not in alignment? 330 00:19:40.480 --> 00:19:43.720 Yes, and that's fine. That is it. 331 00:19:43.920 --> 00:19:47.400 I will say we're at different life stages. I will 332 00:19:47.440 --> 00:19:50.720 tell them it feels more like a friendship level. I 333 00:19:50.759 --> 00:19:52.960 will tell them that, you know what, I just don't 334 00:19:53.000 --> 00:19:57.759 think we align morally, politically, or values, whatever it may be. 335 00:19:58.759 --> 00:20:03.359 It's not personal. It's vibrational. Everyone's just trying to figure 336 00:20:03.400 --> 00:20:07.039 out what's going to work for them. You can't be 337 00:20:07.119 --> 00:20:09.519 mad at them if they figure out that you're not 338 00:20:09.599 --> 00:20:12.640 in alignment with them. Celebrate the fact that you now 339 00:20:12.720 --> 00:20:15.960 have more room to let in someone who is going 340 00:20:16.039 --> 00:20:18.200 to be for you. Would you rather them play you 341 00:20:18.599 --> 00:20:20.759 and act like they want you when they don't know? 342 00:20:21.279 --> 00:20:24.480 So it's a blessing. Keep it moving and grooving. It's 343 00:20:24.519 --> 00:20:29.599 a celebration. Next question, how to be in a continuous 344 00:20:29.720 --> 00:20:34.039 highest energy for every day? Ooh, I'll give you something 345 00:20:34.039 --> 00:20:35.799 I talk about in my book Show Up as Her. 346 00:20:36.279 --> 00:20:39.960 It's called positive Bititude activate. When I want to prime 347 00:20:40.079 --> 00:20:44.359 myself for a meeting, for an energy session, for a client, 348 00:20:44.519 --> 00:20:45.400 for a date. 349 00:20:45.960 --> 00:20:47.680 Before I go, I say. 350 00:20:47.720 --> 00:20:54.720 Positive Bititude activate activate activate, positive Bititude activate activate activate, 351 00:20:55.000 --> 00:20:59.960 positive Bititude activate activate activate. I will imagine white light 352 00:21:00.160 --> 00:21:02.720 energy piercing through the top of my head all the 353 00:21:02.799 --> 00:21:06.119 way down through my legs. I will see all of 354 00:21:06.119 --> 00:21:11.079 my energy being cleansed and clapping is a shamanic technique 355 00:21:11.200 --> 00:21:14.400 to shake out older energy, making room for new energy. 356 00:21:14.799 --> 00:21:15.319 And when I. 357 00:21:15.279 --> 00:21:20.559 Say positive Bititude activate, I am activating my highest vibrational 358 00:21:20.680 --> 00:21:26.119 energies of love, joy, freedom, fun, expansion. I'm commanding these 359 00:21:26.240 --> 00:21:29.039 energies to turn on. So even if I had a 360 00:21:29.039 --> 00:21:31.960 lousy day or a lousy week, when I do positive 361 00:21:31.960 --> 00:21:36.480 bititude activate, all of my energies are commanded. The positive 362 00:21:36.480 --> 00:21:39.640 ones are commanded to turn on. I visualize the white light, 363 00:21:39.720 --> 00:21:42.559 so I'm being cleansed and I'm shaking out any energy 364 00:21:42.640 --> 00:21:43.359 that needs to go. 365 00:21:43.880 --> 00:21:44.920 Let's try it together. 366 00:21:45.440 --> 00:21:51.960 Positive Bititude activate activate, activate, positive Bititude activate activate activate, 367 00:21:52.240 --> 00:21:57.119 positive Bititude activate activate activate Who puts me in a 368 00:21:57.119 --> 00:21:59.720 little tail span girl? If you want to learn more 369 00:21:59.759 --> 00:22:01.640 about that, you can get the book show up as her. 370 00:22:02.079 --> 00:22:05.440 That is in my show notes how to not rush 371 00:22:05.480 --> 00:22:08.200 and put energy when I find someone who has potential 372 00:22:08.279 --> 00:22:09.359 to be my husband. 373 00:22:09.079 --> 00:22:09.559 Et cetera. 374 00:22:10.599 --> 00:22:17.319 Well, I understand the excitement there, but you just don't 375 00:22:17.319 --> 00:22:21.759 know what you don't know. And I'm not saying this 376 00:22:21.960 --> 00:22:25.960 is the best sentence I've ever said, but I will 377 00:22:26.000 --> 00:22:29.640 say it it. 378 00:22:28.039 --> 00:22:29.680 It's had a positive effect on me. 379 00:22:30.559 --> 00:22:33.839 A crush is just a lack of information. So in 380 00:22:33.920 --> 00:22:39.279 the beginning stage, to avoid limerens and to avoid beginning 381 00:22:39.279 --> 00:22:43.480 to energetically chase them and then repelling them, remind yourself, ooh, 382 00:22:43.519 --> 00:22:47.000 a crush is just a lack of information. I don't 383 00:22:47.039 --> 00:22:50.279 actually know this person, and the reason I like them 384 00:22:50.359 --> 00:22:52.720 so much, the reason I've fallen in love with them 385 00:22:52.720 --> 00:22:54.920 and I've known them for two days, is because I'm 386 00:22:54.960 --> 00:23:00.160 feeling in their silences with my desires and fantasies. As 387 00:23:00.359 --> 00:23:03.559 is just a lack of information. Let me refocus on 388 00:23:03.599 --> 00:23:06.640 what I do and do not know. I had a 389 00:23:06.720 --> 00:23:10.200 date recently, and when I came back home, I opened 390 00:23:10.240 --> 00:23:13.079 up my notebook and I wrote down everything I was 391 00:23:13.079 --> 00:23:16.039 feeling so that I could remember. Because I know myself, 392 00:23:16.119 --> 00:23:18.279 I am a lover girl. And if they're texting me 393 00:23:18.319 --> 00:23:21.400 and calling me during the week, and I tend to 394 00:23:21.519 --> 00:23:23.799 like people a lot over the phone for whatever reason. 395 00:23:24.559 --> 00:23:26.799 When they're doing that, I don't want to fall into 396 00:23:27.920 --> 00:23:30.480 I need to remind myself of the truth of the matter. 397 00:23:30.880 --> 00:23:34.160 When you're next to someone on a date, you get 398 00:23:34.160 --> 00:23:36.920 a lot more energetic information than just on the phone. 399 00:23:37.039 --> 00:23:40.039 Because you're in their orc field and they're in yours. 400 00:23:40.279 --> 00:23:44.519 There's a lot more room to exchange energetic files. So 401 00:23:44.680 --> 00:23:47.200