Speaker 1: Creativity is an addiction unplugged because we will always say
yes to creativity, totally uncut because we all make mistakes.
So turn it into a tool. This is arrow unplugged.
Hey Sarah, this is pre vocal dfrag. This is where
you take from what has been written and you build
upon it. I'm sitting inside the house overlooking this force
in South Charlotte right now, before we take that transition walk,
I just want to kind of set us up a
little bit as to where we're going to be growing
and maybe asking different questions about things that move through us.
So while I was writing during my morning pages this morning,
this thought came to me. I've got what they've got,
everything but each other physically being in a blind ambition.
I'm gonna repeat that one more time. I've got what
they've got, everything but each other physically being in a
blind ambition. And right away I started questioning myself, wondering
why such a thought would even move through me. And
what I came up with with an answer on paper
was because I know the soul of the story. People
do come here to fit into everything that America is,
but those who were already here don't see it.
Speaker 2: So back to that original quote.
Speaker 1: Okay, I've got what they've got everything but each other physically.
Being in a blind ambition. People come here to get
what we've got, but those who are here really don't
see it. I'll find you out there in the forest
here in a couple of minutes. We're on our way
right now. All right, we're out in the forest taking
a transition walk. If this is the first time that
you've been a part of vocal d Frag, the transition walks.
We all go through different mindsets, mood swings, but you
know what we're not studying the patterns and the habits
of a transition. That is one of the greatest tools
you'll ever hold when you ask questions and question the answers.
And that's what vocal d frag is all about. I
do it not only on paper we talked about at
the very beginning, but we also do it out here
on the transition walk through this beautiful forest in South Charlotte,
North Carolina. It's about fifty degrees the sun is finally out.
We've had three days of raining. Hopefully you can hear
those birds in the background. There's a cold breeze out here,
so I'm reminded of the reality of what it's like
to be in a.
Speaker 2: Force this time of season. This is Easter Sunday, of
all things.
Speaker 1: So the thought has a lot to it, And right
away you might think that, oh, he's talking about what
life is like in America and other people come to
be Americanized, and that's not really what the thought is
all about. What the thought is about is your own
personal life. There are so many things that we want,
we think we have to have. We want to shape
our own walk and way by wearing what other people
are wearing. We want to use the same smartphones. We
want to have the same lawnmowers. We're doing everything we
can to basically humanize ourselves because it looks like they
over there are having a better life than I am.
So therefore, if I have what they have, does that
mean I'm going to be a better and a greater person.
That's not true. That's not true at all. Because the
interpretation of a song has so many meanings, and I'm
going to go in a route that really is way
the hell out there, But I think I'm gonna be
able to pull you back. In the interpretation of a song,
we could be listening to the same exact piece of music.
My guilt trip is is that I don't hear the
lyrics of a song. My ear hears drum beats, bass beats,
the full orchestration in the background. I don't hear lyrics.
So therefore my interpretation is, man, listen, listen to the
way that it was blended together, the harmonies of so
many different instruments, the harmonics and everything that was really
required to bring it forward. Whereas you might be going, man,
that's a love song. I mean, that had to be
the saddest love song that guy had ever written. So
in a way, it's like that in itself is kind
of like a judgment call in the way that I
would love to be able to sit down and listen
to a piece of music because of the lyrics. And
you might be saying, well, man, I didn't even know
that was taking place with that drum roll, or why
that symbol had to be hit and what happened? Why
did the engineer blend it there? Very deep questions. Maybe
you don't love music as much as I do. You
see what I'm saying, This is the division. This is
what starts to happen when I've got what you've got,
You've got what I've got. We have everything but each other.
Why aren't we talking about it? Why aren't we talking
about the indifferences? Why aren't we talking about how we
can help each other get into positions of security, certainty,
getting into a place of hey, aren't we in this together?
But I think that has to start with us as individuals.
You've got to be able to ask the question and
question the answers of yourself, to be able.
Speaker 2: To say, hey, I didn't know that about me.
Speaker 1: I you know, maybe I've thought about it once or twice,
but I just wrote it off as just being a mood. Yeah,
I was moody that day. But you know what, though,
the seed has already been planted. If that reaction to
something around you took place, you've already thought about it.
You've already put that in a position where it was
one day going to get a voice, and it happened
to be in this moment where you were in transition.
Did you ask the question and question the answers. Did
you build upon those answers to find out really, who
is it that you are and trying to become? I've
got what you've got, You've got what I've got, We've
got everything but each other, and then I put on
there it's a blind ambition. Sure, sure, I would love
to feel as happy as this person over here. I
would love to know how they get to that happy point. Now,
being an interviewer, a conversationalist, I'm gonna call you out.
I'm gonna ask you these questions that others are just
ignoring instead of assuming that you're naturally happy. The truth
of the matter is, you could be wearing a mask,
you could be putting on a candy coat and plastic
bathroom mere smile because you don't want to deal with
what's going on inside your heart. So therefore, if you
act happy and people feel happy, then you, yourself, are
living off their reflection how they're receiving you, only to
find yourself on the front seat of your car, in
the bathroom, maybe at home, in the living room with
no TV on, and you're wondering, what the hell's gotten
into me? Why can't I shake this feeling? Oh, I
must be depressed. Let me take a pill, let me
do something else, Let me go into Amazon and let
me go buy something, because they've got it.
Speaker 2: I've seen it got it. They're wearing it.
Speaker 1: They got those of their film must be making them
super happy.
Speaker 2: I got a half what they've got.
Speaker 1: And then when you get it blind ambition, yeah, you
didn't get what they've got the interpretation. We could say
the same thing about a piece of art. What you
see in that piece of art versus what I see
are two completely different things. I had to deal with
this with my own art because I would spend countless
hours on a canvas and I made a mistake.
Speaker 2: I would ask my wife.
Speaker 1: What do you think, hoping that she too would be
in love with it as much as I was and
still am. And there was really never an art piece
that she felt attached to like I did. In fact, Transparency,
one of my favorite pieces of art, I actually gave
away to a good friend because he loved the art.
Whereas in my house I was asked to remove the
piece of art from the wall, and I thought, well,
the best thing here is just to get rid of it. Okay,
what you think I'm alone here? You think this is
all about me.
Speaker 2: It's not. Because I know something has happened in.
Speaker 1: Your personal life and you've given away stuff because somebody
didn't like it. You've also purchased things, and you've done
things in your life. How about all these people that
spend thousands of dollars to build these careers and you
know what, it doesn't pan out. But yet the person
that inspired you, or the moment that brought you inspiration
and or the momentum to take a chance, it looked
like they were happy. It looked like they were making it,
and you just wanted a piece of that. I've got it,
You've got it, We've got everything but each other blind ambition?
What is it that you truly are looking for and
think you need in your life that you are not getting?
And yet you continue to spend time, energy, and money
on what they have because they look happy, because they
look like they are the definition of success. So how
do we break this habit? By asking the questions, questioning
the answers. When I think I've got to have something,
I take it to the page. I ask myself, do
I really see it the way that I'm feeling it?
Two completely different experiences? Am I feeling it the way
that I'm seeing it? Ask the questions, question the answers,
And when things don't pan out and you realize, oh hell,
I'm not getting that time back.
Speaker 2: What do you do? How do you feel? Where do
you grow from?
Speaker 1: Before entering this forest in South Charlotte, North Carolina on
this fifty degree easter Sunday, I really did question myself
harshly about even talking about that subjects and the subject
really is very heavy on my heart, heavy in the
way of what is your interpretation? Are you going to
think differently than what I do? In the way of saying, hey,
look he's got a deeper story here, he's just hiding it. Yeah,
he's one of those hiders when it comes to words.
He's not really expressing the way that he should. And
that's what you face. You face that every day when
you're a broadcaster, a podcaster, a communicator, an author, a musician,
that the interpretation on the other side is going to
be read a different way.
Speaker 2: But what I want to do is I want to
put it on your path.
Speaker 1: When you're sitting under a beautiful sun, no matter where
you are on this planet, the temperature is just right.
You might have a little drink in front of you,
maybe you had like a great Easter dinner, You're feeling
great in that moment, Where does your mind go when
all all of a sudden things change your mindset. What
did having a memory just do to your beautiful moments?
It no longer feels like that beautiful day. Nope, gone,
just like that. I've got it, They've got it. We've
got everything but each other. It starts with us. Do
you have you? Do you know who you are? What
sort of questions have you been asking all these years?
And you've been ignoring because you think it's weird that
you would ask yourself questions? How do you bring something
forward or do you set it aside? There is such
a thing that I truly believe in, and I talk
with more authors about it all the time, all the time.
Hier writerser writers are people who will be extremely creative
with their words on a page, and then they hide it.
They put it in a box, they hide it in
the attic, they put it underneath their beds, they put
it in the closet, and then one day they happen
to trip across it, or or the one day you're
no longer on the planet and your family.
Speaker 2: Has just found it. Oh jeez, yeah. Yeah. You can't
defend yourself now.
Speaker 1: You can't sit there and say, well, you know, I
was just trying to write a book, And what they're
going to do is they're going to have their own interpretation.
But if you were a little bit freer with your
thinking pattern and you shared your points of direction, there
would be fewer questions from the outside world because they
would have a better understanding of who you are. I've
got what they've got, They've got what I've got. We've
got everything but each other. Let's go ahead and take
the steering wheel here and turn to the left. Now,
what do you think you've got that they want? Honestly,
what are you caring that you think they want? Is
there something that you're projecting? What happens if you face
more of the I don't want that because I don't
want to look like that. Ask the questions, question the answers.
If you've got what they've got, and they've got what
you've got, what do you think they want from you?
What is it that they see in you that they
think will benefit their lives? That's the connection or the
disconnection ultimately through each and every one of us as individuals.
No team can take shape unless the collaboration is blessed
with people who are not afraid to share what they've got.
What do you think you've got that other people want?
That's the blind ambition. We're going through it every day.
This is the reason why I transition walk, This is
why I DFRAG. Asking the questions, questioning the answers, What
is your truth? What do you have that they want?
And what do they have that you want? And if
you had everything, would you have each other? Who ask
the questions, question the answers by maryl and that vocal
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