1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:03,600 Speaker 1: Creativity is an addiction unplugged because we will always say 2 00:00:03,680 --> 00:00:06,879 yes to creativity, totally uncut because we all make mistakes. 3 00:00:07,240 --> 00:00:10,359 So turn it into a tool. This is arrow unplugged. 4 00:00:10,480 --> 00:00:14,400 Hey Sarah, this is pre vocal dfrag. This is where 5 00:00:14,439 --> 00:00:16,640 you take from what has been written and you build 6 00:00:16,719 --> 00:00:19,079 upon it. I'm sitting inside the house overlooking this force 7 00:00:19,120 --> 00:00:21,960 in South Charlotte right now, before we take that transition walk, 8 00:00:22,399 --> 00:00:23,960 I just want to kind of set us up a 9 00:00:23,960 --> 00:00:26,519 little bit as to where we're going to be growing 10 00:00:26,920 --> 00:00:30,519 and maybe asking different questions about things that move through us. 11 00:00:30,839 --> 00:00:33,560 So while I was writing during my morning pages this morning, 12 00:00:33,600 --> 00:00:36,119 this thought came to me. I've got what they've got, 13 00:00:36,520 --> 00:00:41,280 everything but each other physically being in a blind ambition. 14 00:00:41,960 --> 00:00:44,000 I'm gonna repeat that one more time. I've got what 15 00:00:44,039 --> 00:00:48,479 they've got, everything but each other physically being in a 16 00:00:48,560 --> 00:00:52,920 blind ambition. And right away I started questioning myself, wondering 17 00:00:53,119 --> 00:00:56,079 why such a thought would even move through me. And 18 00:00:56,520 --> 00:00:58,560 what I came up with with an answer on paper 19 00:00:58,679 --> 00:01:01,439 was because I know the soul of the story. People 20 00:01:01,560 --> 00:01:05,159 do come here to fit into everything that America is, 21 00:01:05,799 --> 00:01:09,319 but those who were already here don't see it. 22 00:01:10,480 --> 00:01:11,840 Speaker 2: So back to that original quote. 23 00:01:11,879 --> 00:01:17,239 Speaker 1: Okay, I've got what they've got everything but each other physically. 24 00:01:17,280 --> 00:01:22,359 Being in a blind ambition. People come here to get 25 00:01:22,359 --> 00:01:27,040 what we've got, but those who are here really don't 26 00:01:27,040 --> 00:01:29,560 see it. I'll find you out there in the forest 27 00:01:29,560 --> 00:01:30,799 here in a couple of minutes. We're on our way 28 00:01:30,879 --> 00:01:34,959 right now. All right, we're out in the forest taking 29 00:01:34,959 --> 00:01:37,519 a transition walk. If this is the first time that 30 00:01:37,560 --> 00:01:41,840 you've been a part of vocal d Frag, the transition walks. 31 00:01:41,840 --> 00:01:45,319 We all go through different mindsets, mood swings, but you 32 00:01:45,359 --> 00:01:48,760 know what we're not studying the patterns and the habits 33 00:01:49,319 --> 00:01:51,560 of a transition. That is one of the greatest tools 34 00:01:51,599 --> 00:01:56,159 you'll ever hold when you ask questions and question the answers. 35 00:01:56,200 --> 00:01:58,560 And that's what vocal d frag is all about. I 36 00:01:58,640 --> 00:02:00,680 do it not only on paper we talked about at 37 00:02:00,719 --> 00:02:03,280 the very beginning, but we also do it out here 38 00:02:03,319 --> 00:02:06,480 on the transition walk through this beautiful forest in South Charlotte, 39 00:02:06,519 --> 00:02:09,159 North Carolina. It's about fifty degrees the sun is finally out. 40 00:02:09,199 --> 00:02:11,599 We've had three days of raining. Hopefully you can hear 41 00:02:11,599 --> 00:02:14,919 those birds in the background. There's a cold breeze out here, 42 00:02:15,000 --> 00:02:18,039 so I'm reminded of the reality of what it's like 43 00:02:18,120 --> 00:02:18,560 to be in a. 44 00:02:18,520 --> 00:02:21,280 Speaker 2: Force this time of season. This is Easter Sunday, of 45 00:02:21,319 --> 00:02:21,800 all things. 46 00:02:23,080 --> 00:02:26,520 Speaker 1: So the thought has a lot to it, And right 47 00:02:26,560 --> 00:02:29,639 away you might think that, oh, he's talking about what 48 00:02:29,680 --> 00:02:32,560 life is like in America and other people come to 49 00:02:32,599 --> 00:02:34,759 be Americanized, and that's not really what the thought is 50 00:02:34,800 --> 00:02:38,039 all about. What the thought is about is your own 51 00:02:38,080 --> 00:02:41,280 personal life. There are so many things that we want, 52 00:02:41,360 --> 00:02:43,800 we think we have to have. We want to shape 53 00:02:43,800 --> 00:02:46,879 our own walk and way by wearing what other people 54 00:02:46,879 --> 00:02:49,719 are wearing. We want to use the same smartphones. We 55 00:02:49,719 --> 00:02:52,120 want to have the same lawnmowers. We're doing everything we 56 00:02:52,240 --> 00:02:56,080 can to basically humanize ourselves because it looks like they 57 00:02:56,159 --> 00:02:58,520 over there are having a better life than I am. 58 00:02:58,680 --> 00:03:00,680 So therefore, if I have what they have, does that 59 00:03:00,759 --> 00:03:03,080 mean I'm going to be a better and a greater person. 60 00:03:03,800 --> 00:03:07,000 That's not true. That's not true at all. Because the 61 00:03:07,039 --> 00:03:10,759 interpretation of a song has so many meanings, and I'm 62 00:03:10,800 --> 00:03:12,879 going to go in a route that really is way 63 00:03:12,879 --> 00:03:14,159 the hell out there, But I think I'm gonna be 64 00:03:14,199 --> 00:03:17,280 able to pull you back. In the interpretation of a song, 65 00:03:17,960 --> 00:03:21,159 we could be listening to the same exact piece of music. 66 00:03:21,960 --> 00:03:24,759 My guilt trip is is that I don't hear the 67 00:03:24,879 --> 00:03:29,080 lyrics of a song. My ear hears drum beats, bass beats, 68 00:03:29,439 --> 00:03:33,319 the full orchestration in the background. I don't hear lyrics. 69 00:03:33,680 --> 00:03:36,719 So therefore my interpretation is, man, listen, listen to the 70 00:03:36,759 --> 00:03:40,199 way that it was blended together, the harmonies of so 71 00:03:40,240 --> 00:03:44,120 many different instruments, the harmonics and everything that was really 72 00:03:44,159 --> 00:03:47,800 required to bring it forward. Whereas you might be going, man, 73 00:03:48,319 --> 00:03:50,400 that's a love song. I mean, that had to be 74 00:03:50,439 --> 00:03:53,520 the saddest love song that guy had ever written. So 75 00:03:53,639 --> 00:03:57,199 in a way, it's like that in itself is kind 76 00:03:57,199 --> 00:04:00,159 of like a judgment call in the way that I 77 00:04:00,599 --> 00:04:02,479 would love to be able to sit down and listen 78 00:04:02,520 --> 00:04:05,159 to a piece of music because of the lyrics. And 79 00:04:05,199 --> 00:04:07,599 you might be saying, well, man, I didn't even know 80 00:04:07,680 --> 00:04:10,680 that was taking place with that drum roll, or why 81 00:04:10,759 --> 00:04:13,479 that symbol had to be hit and what happened? Why 82 00:04:13,479 --> 00:04:17,959 did the engineer blend it there? Very deep questions. Maybe 83 00:04:18,000 --> 00:04:19,639 you don't love music as much as I do. You 84 00:04:19,680 --> 00:04:22,560 see what I'm saying, This is the division. This is 85 00:04:22,600 --> 00:04:26,839 what starts to happen when I've got what you've got, 86 00:04:26,920 --> 00:04:29,399 You've got what I've got. We have everything but each other. 87 00:04:30,199 --> 00:04:32,639 Why aren't we talking about it? Why aren't we talking 88 00:04:32,680 --> 00:04:35,959 about the indifferences? Why aren't we talking about how we 89 00:04:36,040 --> 00:04:41,079 can help each other get into positions of security, certainty, 90 00:04:42,040 --> 00:04:46,000 getting into a place of hey, aren't we in this together? 91 00:04:46,759 --> 00:04:49,920 But I think that has to start with us as individuals. 92 00:04:50,480 --> 00:04:52,800 You've got to be able to ask the question and 93 00:04:52,920 --> 00:04:56,759 question the answers of yourself, to be able. 94 00:04:56,519 --> 00:04:59,600 Speaker 2: To say, hey, I didn't know that about me. 95 00:05:00,439 --> 00:05:03,920 Speaker 1: I you know, maybe I've thought about it once or twice, 96 00:05:03,959 --> 00:05:07,800 but I just wrote it off as just being a mood. Yeah, 97 00:05:07,839 --> 00:05:11,040 I was moody that day. But you know what, though, 98 00:05:11,879 --> 00:05:16,759 the seed has already been planted. If that reaction to 99 00:05:16,839 --> 00:05:20,600 something around you took place, you've already thought about it. 100 00:05:21,199 --> 00:05:24,639 You've already put that in a position where it was 101 00:05:24,680 --> 00:05:27,160 one day going to get a voice, and it happened 102 00:05:27,160 --> 00:05:30,240 to be in this moment where you were in transition. 103 00:05:31,240 --> 00:05:34,279 Did you ask the question and question the answers. Did 104 00:05:34,319 --> 00:05:38,600 you build upon those answers to find out really, who 105 00:05:38,680 --> 00:05:43,040 is it that you are and trying to become? I've 106 00:05:43,079 --> 00:05:46,079 got what you've got, You've got what I've got, We've 107 00:05:46,120 --> 00:05:49,199 got everything but each other, and then I put on 108 00:05:49,240 --> 00:05:54,920 there it's a blind ambition. Sure, sure, I would love 109 00:05:54,959 --> 00:05:57,240 to feel as happy as this person over here. I 110 00:05:57,240 --> 00:06:00,279 would love to know how they get to that happy point. Now, 111 00:06:00,319 --> 00:06:04,879 being an interviewer, a conversationalist, I'm gonna call you out. 112 00:06:05,399 --> 00:06:08,680 I'm gonna ask you these questions that others are just 113 00:06:08,759 --> 00:06:13,360 ignoring instead of assuming that you're naturally happy. The truth 114 00:06:13,360 --> 00:06:16,360 of the matter is, you could be wearing a mask, 115 00:06:17,279 --> 00:06:19,279 you could be putting on a candy coat and plastic 116 00:06:19,319 --> 00:06:22,600 bathroom mere smile because you don't want to deal with 117 00:06:22,639 --> 00:06:26,079 what's going on inside your heart. So therefore, if you 118 00:06:26,279 --> 00:06:31,519 act happy and people feel happy, then you, yourself, are 119 00:06:31,560 --> 00:06:35,759 living off their reflection how they're receiving you, only to 120 00:06:35,759 --> 00:06:38,519 find yourself on the front seat of your car, in 121 00:06:38,600 --> 00:06:41,600 the bathroom, maybe at home, in the living room with 122 00:06:42,240 --> 00:06:45,560 no TV on, and you're wondering, what the hell's gotten 123 00:06:45,560 --> 00:06:49,360 into me? Why can't I shake this feeling? Oh, I 124 00:06:49,439 --> 00:06:52,879 must be depressed. Let me take a pill, let me 125 00:06:52,920 --> 00:06:55,839 do something else, Let me go into Amazon and let 126 00:06:55,879 --> 00:06:58,759 me go buy something, because they've got it. 127 00:06:59,240 --> 00:07:00,920 Speaker 2: I've seen it got it. They're wearing it. 128 00:07:01,240 --> 00:07:04,120 Speaker 1: They got those of their film must be making them 129 00:07:04,160 --> 00:07:04,800 super happy. 130 00:07:05,399 --> 00:07:06,639 Speaker 2: I got a half what they've got. 131 00:07:07,600 --> 00:07:12,959 Speaker 1: And then when you get it blind ambition, yeah, you 132 00:07:13,000 --> 00:07:17,600 didn't get what they've got the interpretation. We could say 133 00:07:17,639 --> 00:07:21,759 the same thing about a piece of art. What you 134 00:07:21,800 --> 00:07:23,800 see in that piece of art versus what I see 135 00:07:23,800 --> 00:07:26,040 are two completely different things. I had to deal with 136 00:07:26,079 --> 00:07:28,879 this with my own art because I would spend countless 137 00:07:28,920 --> 00:07:32,720 hours on a canvas and I made a mistake. 138 00:07:33,639 --> 00:07:35,920 Speaker 2: I would ask my wife. 139 00:07:35,480 --> 00:07:38,360 Speaker 1: What do you think, hoping that she too would be 140 00:07:38,360 --> 00:07:40,439 in love with it as much as I was and 141 00:07:40,519 --> 00:07:44,079 still am. And there was really never an art piece 142 00:07:44,800 --> 00:07:51,360 that she felt attached to like I did. In fact, Transparency, 143 00:07:52,439 --> 00:07:55,040 one of my favorite pieces of art, I actually gave 144 00:07:55,079 --> 00:07:57,680 away to a good friend because he loved the art. 145 00:07:58,439 --> 00:08:01,000 Whereas in my house I was asked to remove the 146 00:08:01,040 --> 00:08:03,639 piece of art from the wall, and I thought, well, 147 00:08:03,959 --> 00:08:06,879 the best thing here is just to get rid of it. Okay, 148 00:08:06,920 --> 00:08:09,120 what you think I'm alone here? You think this is 149 00:08:09,160 --> 00:08:09,720 all about me. 150 00:08:09,959 --> 00:08:12,240 Speaker 2: It's not. Because I know something has happened in. 151 00:08:12,199 --> 00:08:16,600 Speaker 1: Your personal life and you've given away stuff because somebody 152 00:08:17,439 --> 00:08:21,759 didn't like it. You've also purchased things, and you've done 153 00:08:21,759 --> 00:08:24,399 things in your life. How about all these people that 154 00:08:24,480 --> 00:08:29,920 spend thousands of dollars to build these careers and you 155 00:08:29,920 --> 00:08:33,759 know what, it doesn't pan out. But yet the person 156 00:08:33,799 --> 00:08:36,279 that inspired you, or the moment that brought you inspiration 157 00:08:36,679 --> 00:08:40,200 and or the momentum to take a chance, it looked 158 00:08:40,240 --> 00:08:43,080 like they were happy. It looked like they were making it, 159 00:08:43,440 --> 00:08:47,279 and you just wanted a piece of that. I've got it, 160 00:08:48,200 --> 00:08:54,080 You've got it, We've got everything but each other blind ambition? 161 00:08:55,080 --> 00:08:58,200 What is it that you truly are looking for and 162 00:08:58,320 --> 00:09:01,720 think you need in your life that you are not getting? 163 00:09:02,279 --> 00:09:06,600 And yet you continue to spend time, energy, and money 164 00:09:07,279 --> 00:09:11,320 on what they have because they look happy, because they 165 00:09:11,320 --> 00:09:15,240 look like they are the definition of success. So how 166 00:09:15,240 --> 00:09:19,600 do we break this habit? By asking the questions, questioning 167 00:09:19,679 --> 00:09:22,559 the answers. When I think I've got to have something, 168 00:09:23,279 --> 00:09:26,039 I take it to the page. I ask myself, do 169 00:09:26,159 --> 00:09:29,639 I really see it the way that I'm feeling it? 170 00:09:30,159 --> 00:09:35,159 Two completely different experiences? Am I feeling it the way 171 00:09:35,159 --> 00:09:39,120 that I'm seeing it? Ask the questions, question the answers, 172 00:09:39,679 --> 00:09:44,360 And when things don't pan out and you realize, oh hell, 173 00:09:45,279 --> 00:09:46,759 I'm not getting that time back. 174 00:09:47,759 --> 00:09:50,759 Speaker 2: What do you do? How do you feel? Where do 175 00:09:50,799 --> 00:09:51,519 you grow from? 176 00:09:53,000 --> 00:09:55,799 Speaker 1: Before entering this forest in South Charlotte, North Carolina on 177 00:09:55,799 --> 00:09:59,519 this fifty degree easter Sunday, I really did question myself 178 00:09:59,559 --> 00:10:05,600 harshly about even talking about that subjects and the subject 179 00:10:05,600 --> 00:10:08,440 really is very heavy on my heart, heavy in the 180 00:10:08,480 --> 00:10:11,960 way of what is your interpretation? Are you going to 181 00:10:12,000 --> 00:10:16,039 think differently than what I do? In the way of saying, hey, 182 00:10:16,039 --> 00:10:20,080 look he's got a deeper story here, he's just hiding it. Yeah, 183 00:10:20,519 --> 00:10:23,240 he's one of those hiders when it comes to words. 184 00:10:23,720 --> 00:10:26,519 He's not really expressing the way that he should. And 185 00:10:26,519 --> 00:10:28,840 that's what you face. You face that every day when 186 00:10:28,840 --> 00:10:32,600 you're a broadcaster, a podcaster, a communicator, an author, a musician, 187 00:10:33,120 --> 00:10:35,919 that the interpretation on the other side is going to 188 00:10:35,919 --> 00:10:36,799 be read a different way. 189 00:10:37,759 --> 00:10:39,080 Speaker 2: But what I want to do is I want to 190 00:10:39,080 --> 00:10:40,679 put it on your path. 191 00:10:42,039 --> 00:10:44,960 Speaker 1: When you're sitting under a beautiful sun, no matter where 192 00:10:45,000 --> 00:10:48,200 you are on this planet, the temperature is just right. 193 00:10:48,960 --> 00:10:50,799 You might have a little drink in front of you, 194 00:10:51,720 --> 00:10:55,399 maybe you had like a great Easter dinner, You're feeling 195 00:10:55,480 --> 00:10:59,799 great in that moment, Where does your mind go when 196 00:10:59,799 --> 00:11:03,679 all all of a sudden things change your mindset. What 197 00:11:03,840 --> 00:11:08,279 did having a memory just do to your beautiful moments? 198 00:11:09,080 --> 00:11:13,440 It no longer feels like that beautiful day. Nope, gone, 199 00:11:13,600 --> 00:11:18,240 just like that. I've got it, They've got it. We've 200 00:11:18,279 --> 00:11:24,120 got everything but each other. It starts with us. Do 201 00:11:24,200 --> 00:11:29,480 you have you? Do you know who you are? What 202 00:11:29,600 --> 00:11:31,919 sort of questions have you been asking all these years? 203 00:11:32,039 --> 00:11:34,519 And you've been ignoring because you think it's weird that 204 00:11:34,600 --> 00:11:38,440 you would ask yourself questions? How do you bring something 205 00:11:38,480 --> 00:11:42,440 forward or do you set it aside? There is such 206 00:11:42,440 --> 00:11:44,279 a thing that I truly believe in, and I talk 207 00:11:44,360 --> 00:11:47,120 with more authors about it all the time, all the time. 208 00:11:48,240 --> 00:11:54,159 Hier writerser writers are people who will be extremely creative 209 00:11:54,200 --> 00:11:57,200 with their words on a page, and then they hide it. 210 00:11:57,240 --> 00:11:59,279 They put it in a box, they hide it in 211 00:11:59,279 --> 00:12:01,639 the attic, they put it underneath their beds, they put 212 00:12:01,679 --> 00:12:05,200 it in the closet, and then one day they happen 213 00:12:05,240 --> 00:12:10,759 to trip across it, or or the one day you're 214 00:12:10,759 --> 00:12:13,639 no longer on the planet and your family. 215 00:12:13,320 --> 00:12:16,840 Speaker 2: Has just found it. Oh jeez, yeah. Yeah. You can't 216 00:12:16,919 --> 00:12:17,879 defend yourself now. 217 00:12:18,519 --> 00:12:21,240 Speaker 1: You can't sit there and say, well, you know, I 218 00:12:21,279 --> 00:12:23,919 was just trying to write a book, And what they're 219 00:12:23,919 --> 00:12:25,799 going to do is they're going to have their own interpretation. 220 00:12:25,960 --> 00:12:28,320 But if you were a little bit freer with your 221 00:12:28,320 --> 00:12:33,120 thinking pattern and you shared your points of direction, there 222 00:12:33,120 --> 00:12:36,159 would be fewer questions from the outside world because they 223 00:12:36,200 --> 00:12:40,360 would have a better understanding of who you are. I've 224 00:12:40,360 --> 00:12:42,799 got what they've got, They've got what I've got. We've 225 00:12:42,799 --> 00:12:45,639 got everything but each other. Let's go ahead and take 226 00:12:45,639 --> 00:12:47,519 the steering wheel here and turn to the left. Now, 227 00:12:48,559 --> 00:12:51,240 what do you think you've got that they want? Honestly, 228 00:12:51,399 --> 00:12:55,320 what are you caring that you think they want? Is 229 00:12:55,360 --> 00:12:58,480 there something that you're projecting? What happens if you face 230 00:12:58,559 --> 00:13:02,320 more of the I don't want that because I don't 231 00:13:02,320 --> 00:13:06,960 want to look like that. Ask the questions, question the answers. 232 00:13:07,000 --> 00:13:08,519 If you've got what they've got, and they've got what 233 00:13:08,559 --> 00:13:10,480 you've got, what do you think they want from you? 234 00:13:11,440 --> 00:13:14,559 What is it that they see in you that they 235 00:13:14,600 --> 00:13:19,559 think will benefit their lives? That's the connection or the 236 00:13:19,600 --> 00:13:24,440 disconnection ultimately through each and every one of us as individuals. 237 00:13:25,559 --> 00:13:30,600 No team can take shape unless the collaboration is blessed 238 00:13:30,600 --> 00:13:34,799 with people who are not afraid to share what they've got. 239 00:13:35,799 --> 00:13:39,399 What do you think you've got that other people want? 240 00:13:41,000 --> 00:13:45,559 That's the blind ambition. We're going through it every day. 241 00:13:46,080 --> 00:13:49,000 This is the reason why I transition walk, This is 242 00:13:49,039 --> 00:13:54,000 why I DFRAG. Asking the questions, questioning the answers, What 243 00:13:54,279 --> 00:13:58,639 is your truth? What do you have that they want? 244 00:14:00,159 --> 00:14:04,559 And what do they have that you want? And if 245 00:14:04,600 --> 00:14:12,360 you had everything, would you have each other? Who ask 246 00:14:12,440 --> 00:14:16,360 the questions, question the answers by maryl and that vocal 247 00:14:16,399 --> 00:14:16,799 be Frank