Speaker 1: Taylor's an attractive guy, but he's no male model, neither
Speaker 1: of I. That's for sure. I could be a hand model,
Speaker 1: it could not be a real model. Welcome back to
Speaker 1: you how to Get a Girlfriend podcast. I'm your host
Speaker 1: dating coach, Connell Barrett. Think of me as your podcast
Speaker 1: dating coach. I'm here to help you know what to say,
Speaker 1: help you flirt, help you meet women, especially in real life,
Speaker 1: so you can get a great girlfriend, and do it
Speaker 1: all by being authentic. No creepy pickup tricks needed. Although
Speaker 1: today's episode is about pickup moves. Five pickup lines for
Speaker 1: guys who hate pickup lines. I hate cheesy, fake, weird
Speaker 1: pickup lines like you know, did you fall from the sky?
Speaker 1: That bullshit. What I love is to meet a woman
Speaker 1: out in the real world and connect with her and
Speaker 1: end up getting a date with her. We can call
Speaker 1: that a pickup line if you want, but I love
Speaker 1: doing that in a way that's authentic and genuine, really
Speaker 1: present and spontaneous.
Speaker 2: So I'm gonna give you.
Speaker 1: By the end of this episode, I'll have gone over
Speaker 1: at least five pickup lines that don't feel like pickup lines,
Speaker 1: that don't feel like you're doing some scripted weird thing.
Speaker 1: Here's a quick story from way over a decade ago.
Speaker 1: I dated a wonderful woman named Lane, and I remember,
Speaker 1: this is oh man, this is gosh, this is fifteen
Speaker 1: years ago. Over fifteen years ago. I met Barnes and
Speaker 1: Noble and I see a very pretty blonde, slender blonde
Speaker 1: woman standing next to some greeting cards. You know, they
Speaker 1: have those fancy greeting cards at Barnes and Nobles. And
Speaker 1: at the time, I was learning all about approaching women
Speaker 1: from my coaches, and one of my coaches said, early on,
Speaker 1: he just said, Connell, if you're not sure what to say,
Speaker 1: just say what you're thinking. Say something genuine and real,
Speaker 1: and as long as it's not, like, you know, vulgar,
Speaker 1: that's a great thing to do. Go with what you're
Speaker 1: thinking and feeling.
Speaker 2: I love that.
Speaker 1: So I see this woman, don't know her name yet,
Speaker 1: and I walk over and I'm just thinking, Okay, what
Speaker 1: am I honestly thinking about this person? She's really cute
Speaker 1: and I want to meet her.
Speaker 2: That's simple.
Speaker 1: So I walk over and I say, hey, excuse me,
Speaker 1: you're really cute.
Speaker 2: I had to meet you.
Speaker 1: And she looks at me and she smiles and tilts
Speaker 1: her head and says, wow, thanks, you're really cute too,
Speaker 1: And we had a really nice, fun, five maybe five
Speaker 1: six seven minute conversation names Lane and got her number.
Speaker 1: But the most memorable thing about her, other than the
Speaker 1: approach and that smile, that receptivity, is what she texted
Speaker 1: me later that day. It was a Saturday, and I
Speaker 1: remember I texted her, Hey, Lane, it was great running
Speaker 1: into you.
Speaker 2: You know, good luck.
Speaker 1: Shopping shopping for cards or greeting cards or getting your
Speaker 1: grandmother card, whatever she was shopping for, I wrote her
Speaker 1: or something like that, and she wrote back, it was
Speaker 1: great meeting you too, Thanks for picking me up. She
Speaker 1: literally said thank you for picking me up, as in
Speaker 1: picking up a girl. So there is nothing wrong with
Speaker 1: picking up a girl. And my pickup line is almost
Speaker 1: like an anti pickup line. It was just what's genuine,
Speaker 1: what's real? Hey, you're cute. I wanted to say hi
Speaker 1: to you. That's literally what I said to her. And
Speaker 1: that was more than enough for Lane. And then two
Speaker 1: nights later, wait, Saturday, Sunday, Monday too. Three nights later,
Speaker 1: I believe it was a Tuesday night, we had our
Speaker 1: first date at a bar in the West village, a dark,
Speaker 1: cool little wine bar, beer and wine and candlelight, moody
Speaker 1: and dark and cool but romantic by the way. Lane.
Speaker 1: Her hair was in a ponytail. She was very pretty.
Speaker 1: Don't get me wrong, but I don't usually use the
Speaker 1: number scale, but if I was going to go one
Speaker 1: to ten, the Lane that I met in Barnes and
Speaker 1: Noble was like a solid seven point five. And then
Speaker 1: on Tuesday night for our first date in Walks, a
Speaker 1: nine point nine, nine nine, hair down, wearing a cute
Speaker 1: little dress, semi low cut top, just stunning, just almost model, beautiful, effervescent. Huh,
Speaker 1: And I thought, wow, this is she looks absolutely dynamite.
Speaker 1: And something I realized that moment was if again, I'm
Speaker 1: sorry for sounding like a one ten guy. That just
Speaker 1: sounds so shallow, but it's just an understandable metric. A
Speaker 1: seven whose number you get at a bookstore or a
Speaker 1: coffee shop. She's going to be a nine and a
Speaker 1: half on the date because she'll be all dolled up,
Speaker 1: hair done, just looking cute, super super cute. So I
Speaker 1: met a seven and had a day with a ten,
Speaker 1: And it all started by having the right quote unquote
Speaker 1: pickup line which is really more of an anti pickup line,
Speaker 1: just basically speaking my thoughts. So today I want to
Speaker 1: talk to you about pickup lines and the art of
Speaker 1: what to say to a woman in those very first words.
Speaker 1: And the reason this has been on my mind today
Speaker 1: is that I just I'm recording this on Monday, and
Speaker 1: I just spent this last weekend with two amazing clients.
Speaker 1: Taylor flew in from Kansas City, thirty three year old
Speaker 1: gentleman who's a used car sorry, not used car, a
Speaker 1: car dealership manager, so really new cars. He's selling people
Speaker 1: in Kansas City. And a client named Kevin who's a veterinarian,
Speaker 1: and Kevin lives in Pennsylvania. So these two guys came
Speaker 1: in to work with me this weekend. I do this
Speaker 1: thing called the Wingman Weekend, where it's like, let's go
Speaker 1: out with Coach Connell approach women. Connell's your wingman, and
Speaker 1: I help them approach women. So I want to tell
Speaker 1: you a quick story about what to say for those
Speaker 1: first words and what an incredible, incredibly powerful.
Speaker 2: Thing it is for a woman when you do this
Speaker 2: the right way.
Speaker 1: So Taylor, Taylor and I were talking on Friday night.
Speaker 1: We sit down at the Standard Hotel at the bar,
Speaker 1: just doing a little pre brief conversation that I do
Speaker 1: with clients before we start approaching women. And I said,
Speaker 1: how many women have you been approaching in the last
Speaker 1: couple months? And Taylor said basically zero? And I said
Speaker 1: why why? I mean, I know he wants to approach women.
Speaker 1: I know that because he's been working with me, but
Speaker 1: he hasn't been doing it. And I said why. He said, well,
Speaker 1: I overthink. I'm an overthinker, and I just think I'm
Speaker 1: that overthinking type guy and who just can't do this.
Speaker 1: And I said, okay, what are you thinking about? He said, well,
Speaker 1: I want to say the right thing. I want to
Speaker 1: say the right thing that makes what makes it go well.
Speaker 1: Otherwise I don't want to get shot down and rejected.
Speaker 1: And I said, if you get shot down and rejected,
Speaker 1: how would that feel in the moment do you think?
Speaker 1: And he said, I would feel humiliated. That's what I
Speaker 1: don't want. I don't want to feel humiliated. It's a
Speaker 1: strong word, that's a strong emotion to want to avoid.
Speaker 1: And I said, Taylor, I have news for you. Your
Speaker 1: issue is not overthinking. Your issue is that you are
Speaker 1: afraid of humiliation and the fear of humiliation makes you overthink.
Speaker 1: So you're not an overthinker. He was tying his very
Speaker 1: identity to approaching women. I'm just not that guy who
Speaker 1: can do it. I don't know what to say. I'm
Speaker 1: an overthinker, I'm introverted. Blah blah blah blah blah. And
Speaker 1: I said, has nothing to do with your identity. This
Speaker 1: is just you telling yourself some bullshit story that an
Speaker 1: approach equals humiliation. He starts nodding his head saying, yeah,
Speaker 1: I get what you mean about that. And then I said,
Speaker 1: by the way, if you did approach a woman at
Speaker 1: the bar and she quote rejected you, what would you lose?
Speaker 1: What would you actually lose? And he started laughing and
Speaker 1: he said nothing. I have nothing to lose. He started
Speaker 1: realizing the absurdity of what his brain was talking him into,
Speaker 1: this idea that you can be humiliated. Can you be
Speaker 1: humiliated by saying hello to a woman at a bar
Speaker 1: and having her say, actually, I'm with somebody, no, thank you.
Speaker 1: Where's the humiliation there, the humiliation or lack thereof, it's
Speaker 1: between your ears. That's the only place where humiliation lives.
Speaker 1: But guess what between the ears is also where feelings
Speaker 1: and stories like confidence live and charisma lives there too.
Speaker 1: And being the man who goes for it and steps
Speaker 1: up and meets women that's between the ears as well.
Speaker 1: In other words, he has so much more to gain
Speaker 1: by approaching that woman at the bar than by not
Speaker 1: doing it. Bottom line, he said to me, as we're
Speaker 1: sitting there in this little pre brief conversation, he said,
Speaker 1: I rehearse over and over again, and then I said, okay,
Speaker 1: here's your rule for tonight. Taylor, and Kevin is sitting
Speaker 1: there with us, and Kevin is chiming in helping out.
Speaker 1: When I do these approaching weekends, it's like three men
Speaker 1: out in the town to conquer demons, charm beautiful women
Speaker 1: and just have these It's so fun. And I said,
Speaker 1: here's your mantra for tonight. No more rehearsing. Say the
Speaker 1: first thing that enters your mind, if you see it,
Speaker 1: say it, if you see it, say it whatever you see. Basically,
Speaker 1: approach and just say the first thing that comes into
Speaker 1: your mind, just like I did with Lane in the
Speaker 1: Barnes and Noble. He said, yeah, I'm in so fast
Speaker 1: forward About forty five minutes later, We're at the beer garden.
Speaker 1: There's a place called the beer Garden at the Standard Hotel.
Speaker 1: So we're at the beer garden this last weekend, and
Speaker 1: there's you know, fifty beautiful women in the place at least,
Speaker 1: And there are six women sitting at a six top
Speaker 1: at the beer garden.
Speaker 3: They're all pretty.
Speaker 1: Every one of them is pretty and stylish and just
Speaker 1: Friday night in New York City. And I point him
Speaker 1: over to approach those women, and he said, I can't.
Speaker 1: I can't approach those six women. I don't know what
Speaker 1: to say. I think I'm gonna puke. I didn't, not
Speaker 1: laughing at him, but I remember that feeling. And I said,
Speaker 1: remember our deal, Remember our deal. You're only feeling this
Speaker 1: way right now because you're afraid of humiliation, right. He's
Speaker 1: like yeah. And I said, Okay, I know exactly what
Speaker 1: you should say. I know exactly what you should say.
Speaker 1: I told him. And he's like, Okay, what should I say?
Speaker 1: And I said, and I had a little secret plan
Speaker 1: for Taylor.
Speaker 2: I gave him.
Speaker 1: I was going to give him the first half of
Speaker 1: an opener, an approach opener, but I didn't want him
Speaker 1: to know it was the first half because I wanted
Speaker 1: him to go out and start walking on the high
Speaker 1: wire without the net.
Speaker 3: So we're literally five feet away.
Speaker 1: From this six top of beautiful women at the beer
Speaker 1: garden and I say, oh, I got the perfect thing
Speaker 1: to say.
Speaker 3: Here you go, here's what you say?
Speaker 1: What I said, walk over and say, hey, ladies, I
Speaker 1: have something really important to tell you. And then I said,
Speaker 1: and I started to push him towards and I say,
Speaker 1: go say that, and he pushed back and he said, no, wait,
Speaker 1: but what is it? What's the important thing I have
Speaker 1: to tell them? And I said, I don't know. Your
Speaker 1: brain will figure it out. And I shoved him gently
Speaker 1: but firmly. I shoved him to the table and he
Speaker 1: turns toward women and he says, oh, hey, ladies, I
Speaker 1: have something really important to tell you. And they're like what.
Speaker 1: And he said, I'm thinking of becoming a male model.
Speaker 1: Do you think I should. I don't know where that
Speaker 1: came from. It came from the ether, it came from
Speaker 1: something in the wind. I think we were talking about
Speaker 1: mom a model or something modeling. And he just says
Speaker 1: that and half the women laugh. They're like, no way, really,
Speaker 1: you're going to be a model, And the other half
Speaker 1: are like, you're kidding with us. Really, By the way,
Speaker 1: Taylor's an attractive guy, but he's no male model.
Speaker 2: Neither am I.
Speaker 1: That's for sure. I could be a hand model, it
Speaker 1: could not be a real model. Bottom line is I
Speaker 1: wanted him to start the approach but not know what
Speaker 1: the finish line of the sentence was going to be.
Speaker 1: And they loved him. Not only did they love him,
Speaker 1: they said, hey, come sit with us. Before you know it,
Speaker 1: he's joined their table. They're now a seven top Taylor
Speaker 1: with six beautiful women, and one of the women he
Speaker 1: starts really clicking with. Her name is Cassie. And Cassie
Speaker 1: and Taylor start hitting it off, and all of a sudden,
Speaker 1: my job becomes much easier because I was going to
Speaker 1: spend the whole night having Taylor approach twenty five women.
Speaker 2: He didn't need to.
Speaker 1: He approached like four or five before this happened, and
Speaker 1: he spent the entire next three hours with Cassie and
Speaker 1: her friends. And then eventually Cassie and Taylor ended up
Speaker 1: going off into the night on an instant date, and
Speaker 1: he gave Taylor as he was saying good night to
Speaker 1: me and Cassie was saying good night to her friends.
Speaker 1: He came over and said, Conall, this was amazing, and
Speaker 1: he gave me a hug, and I said, don't rehearse it,
Speaker 1: just speak your true thoughts. Cassie already likes you. Women
Speaker 1: already like you. Do you get that now? He's like, yeah, so.
Speaker 1: And that's the main lesson here is that women, what
Speaker 1: makes an approach work is not some perfect line. The
Speaker 1: thing to say is something perfectly imperfect. What I said
Speaker 1: to Lane that day was perfectly imperfect. Hey, you're cute.
Speaker 1: I wanted to meet you. All Taylor said to those women.
Speaker 2: Was should I be a model?
Speaker 1: And that was just what he came up with in
Speaker 1: the moment because of something we had been talking and
Speaker 1: joking about earlier.
Speaker 2: And that was plenty.
Speaker 1: Women don't really care all that much about what you
Speaker 1: say when you approach.
Speaker 2: So the best pickup line.
Speaker 1: Is anything that you believe and feel or think in
Speaker 1: the moment, spontaneously, and you commit to it. He committed
Speaker 1: to that approach. It wasn't what he said, it was
Speaker 1: how he said it. He leaned over onto the table.
Speaker 1: I shouldn't say he leaned over, but he took a
Speaker 1: commanding stance. He said, Hey, ladies, I got an important
Speaker 1: question to ask you, and they leaned forward. If he
Speaker 1: had said, excuse me, guys, I don't want to bother you,
Speaker 1: but can I ask you a question please? Or am
Speaker 1: I creeping you out? They would have rejected him immediately.
Speaker 1: So it's that ownership. It's that ownership of committing to
Speaker 1: the approach that really makes it work. That's really what
Speaker 1: makes it work. And I'm just so proud of him.
Speaker 1: I'm just so proud of him. And you might be
Speaker 1: thinking the same thing about yourself, like, oh, I need
Speaker 1: to know what to say. I have to say the
Speaker 1: right thing or the perfect thing. You don't you do
Speaker 1: want to say something that makes sense to a woman
Speaker 1: when you approach. One of my favorite techniques for approaching
Speaker 1: is I call it the what to say framework. Here's
Speaker 1: what to say. If you want to know what to say,
Speaker 1: then look at a group of women or one woman,
Speaker 1: whatever the situation is, especially at a bar, and just
Speaker 1: say either a compliment, a question, or an observation compliment
Speaker 1: question observation, Hey I really like your tattoo. That's a
Speaker 1: great design boom compliment. A question might be hey, what
Speaker 1: are you ladies? Drinking tonight that those look really good
Speaker 1: or an observation, what do you observe about those women were?
Speaker 1: There was a four top of women at the beer
Speaker 1: garden on this Friday night a couple nights ago, and
Speaker 1: they were all like huddled closely together, like they were
Speaker 1: almost like they were sharing a secret. And my other client, Kevin,
Speaker 1: observed that and we use that as his opener his
Speaker 1: quote pickup line. His opener was, well, you ladies seem
Speaker 1: like you're talking about a super secret topic. And they
Speaker 1: responded and then it went pretty well. So I want
Speaker 1: you to think of pickup lines not as lines intended
Speaker 1: to pick her up and make her attracted to you.
Speaker 1: That's not going to happen most of the time. An
Speaker 1: opening line, or a pickup line, if you will, is
Speaker 1: just a line designed to start a conversation. And the
Speaker 1: best way to start a conversation is being present, being authentic,
Speaker 1: and spontaneous. Spontaneity is so important. I was spontaneous with
Speaker 1: Lane when I said, Hey, you're cute and I wanted
Speaker 1: to meet you now. That was flirtatious because I was
Speaker 1: being clear that I found her attractive, but it was
Speaker 1: also spontaneous and real Taylor was totally spontaneous in the
Speaker 1: should I be a model opener.
Speaker 3: He never would have thought of that.
Speaker 1: Had he been rehearsing, overthinking, trying to find the perfect line,
Speaker 1: he never would have stumbled on that. He actually would
Speaker 1: have come up with something overly orchestrated and robotic. Those
Speaker 1: typically don't go that well typically. Now let's talk about Kevin.
Speaker 1: Kevin had a really great second night out on We
Speaker 1: do two nights out when I do these wingman weekends. Oh,
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Speaker 1: you want to Dating transformation dot Com. So night two
Speaker 1: with Kevin, we're doing oh here, this is a great
Speaker 1: moment for Kevin.
Speaker 2: Funny.
Speaker 1: So night two We're at a place in New York City,
Speaker 1: a really cool fun lounge in the Lower East Side,
Speaker 1: and we're about to start approaching. But before we approach women,
Speaker 1: I like to do a little warm up exercise to
Speaker 1: get my clients in a fun, playful mood. Fun and playful.
Speaker 1: That's what women want in bars and clubs, fun and playful.
Speaker 1: They don't want long, elaborate, logical, analytical conversations. They don't
Speaker 1: want a ted talk. They want a fun talk. So
Speaker 1: we're doing an exercise that I call so my. It's
Speaker 1: the three of us right, we're standing in the corner
Speaker 1: about to go approach women. We're two minutes away from
Speaker 1: approaching women. But first I want to do this exercise
Speaker 1: with them. And I call this the playful Roast, the
Speaker 1: playful roast. Here's how it works, a really good thing
Speaker 1: to do. When you meet a woman in a bar,
Speaker 1: you're just making that bar small talk. Is you say, hey,
Speaker 1: where are you from? Where'd you grow up? And whatever
Speaker 1: state or city she mentions, or the state you make
Speaker 1: an association with that place, You think, what's the stereotype,
Speaker 1: and then you ask her a playful, playfe fully teasing
Speaker 1: question based on the stereotype. So imagine you approach a
Speaker 1: woman and you say, hey, where are you from? And
Speaker 1: she said, oh, I'm from Indiana. You might associate I
Speaker 1: don't know, corn or cows or farms with Indiana, and
Speaker 1: you could say, oh, you're from Indiana.
Speaker 2: Interesting, So did you.
Speaker 1: Like ride a cow to school every day? Or did
Speaker 1: you eat corn on the cob for breakfast? A very
Speaker 1: light tease, a light roast, And that's a good way
Speaker 1: to get practiced and somewhat versatile at flirting spontaneously. You
Speaker 1: associate a funny stereotype with wherever she's from. And anyway,
Speaker 1: So I'm doing this exercise with them called the Playful Roast.
Speaker 1: I'm pretending to be I'm role playing the part of
Speaker 1: a woman. And they're approaching me at the bar and
Speaker 1: we're doing like thirty second roleplay conversations. So Taylor comes
Speaker 1: up to me and says, hey, what's up. I wanted
Speaker 1: to meet you, and I'm like, oh, hi, nice to
Speaker 1: meet you. And then he says to me, pretend to
Speaker 1: be a woman. Taylor says, so where are you from?
Speaker 1: Where'd you grow up? And I say, oh, I grew
Speaker 1: up in Texas. He said, oh Texas. Wow, okay, So
Speaker 1: did you have like.
Speaker 3: Barbecue ribs in your cereal?
Speaker 1: Did you like ride a bull to school every day
Speaker 1: and that that's really good. That's pretty good, that's actually
Speaker 1: pretty funny. Taylor was doing great, no no surprise. The
Speaker 1: night before he had an instant date with a beautiful
Speaker 1: woman named Cassie. So Taylor's feeling the confidence and anyway,
Speaker 1: a plus, a plus job, I say to Taylor, and
Speaker 1: then Keith comes up to me. I'm sorry, Kevin, Keith
Speaker 1: was a different client. Kevin comes up to me. And
Speaker 1: by the way, Kevin is a doctor, very logical, very analytical.
Speaker 1: Playful flirting doesn't come naturally to him, and that's partially
Speaker 1: why he hired me. So Kevin comes up to me
Speaker 1: and says, hey, where are you from? And I said, oh, hi,
Speaker 1: Oh where am i from? I'm from Nevada. And Kevin said,
Speaker 1: oh you're from from Nevada? Okay, interesting?
Speaker 2: Are you a whore?
Speaker 1: And there's this like stunned silence from Taylor, who's listening,
Speaker 1: and me and I do time out. I make a
Speaker 1: timeout motion. I'm like, time out, time out. What where
Speaker 1: did you get?
Speaker 2: Are you a whore from?
Speaker 1: As your tease, that's not a playful roast. That is
Speaker 1: a harsh, terrible word to use with any woman ever,
Speaker 1: pretty much unless you're unless you know each other really
Speaker 1: well and you're both joking about it, and I say,
Speaker 1: where did you get that? And in a weird way
Speaker 1: it makes sense, he said, well, Nevada. Nevada has those
Speaker 1: legal brothels, and there's like escorts and stuff in Vegas.
Speaker 1: So I just went to whoror. So he actually did
Speaker 1: the game right, He just went from zero to nine
Speaker 1: nine ninety. So I said, okay, let's dial that down right.
Speaker 1: Connection he associated something with Nevada. But here's the flirting
Speaker 1: rule that he broke, which is that the secret to
Speaker 1: playful teasing is to only tease a woman about something
Speaker 1: that no reasonable woman would get upset about. No reasonable woman.
Speaker 1: The joke that Taylor cracked about riding a did you
Speaker 1: ride bulls to school every day?
Speaker 2: Perfect?
Speaker 1: No reasonable woman is going to get upset about that.
Speaker 1: Asking the woman if she's a whore, that's something you
Speaker 1: don't want to say right out of the gate.
Speaker 2: So what was the fix?
Speaker 1: It might be something like I said, so we redid it.
Speaker 1: We redid the exercise. He reapproached me role playing the woman,
Speaker 1: and I stayed with Nevada. I said, let's dial it
Speaker 1: down to something way more g rated right, and it
Speaker 1: was something like, oh, are you like a are you
Speaker 1: like a Vegas showgirl? Like that's way better? You know,
Speaker 1: are you a blackjack dealer?
Speaker 2: Great?
Speaker 1: Now we're playful, we're playfully associating fun stereotypes, but not
Speaker 1: in a way that a woman could get upset about.
Speaker 1: So but that's okay. It's good to make mistakes. It's
Speaker 1: good to make flirting mistakes because that's how we get better.
Speaker 2: That's how we get better.
Speaker 1: And so fast forward fifteen or twenty minutes. Now, Kevin
Speaker 1: didn't have like the amazing runaway instant date breakthrough that
Speaker 1: Taylor had the night before.
Speaker 2: But that's cool.
Speaker 1: Every guy gets better at a different rate and has
Speaker 1: different experiences when we're out approaching women. Fifteen twenty minutes later, though,
Speaker 1: he approached a woman, and he was really sincere and
Speaker 1: playful and fun, and he was teasing a woman, and
Speaker 1: these two female friends just right amount, just the right amount.
Speaker 2: I couldn't hear what he was saying.
Speaker 1: Because it's a loud bar, but I could tell that
Speaker 1: they were giggling and smiling. He was teasing them in
Speaker 1: that flirtatious way. All right, So if you do approach
Speaker 1: a woman, at a bar. This is something you can
Speaker 1: absolutely play around with. You can ask her some basic
Speaker 1: questions like, hey, where are you from? Where did you
Speaker 1: go to college? And look for playful teases, playful and
Speaker 1: if you can't think of something spontaneously in the moment,
Speaker 1: that's okay.
Speaker 2: Not everybody.
Speaker 3: Crushes at this exercise right away.
Speaker 1: Here's a back pocket tease you can say to any
Speaker 1: woman pretty much.
Speaker 2: This is this is this.
Speaker 1: Is copy and paste. You're at a bar, you ask her, Hey,
Speaker 1: where'd you go to college? And she says, oh, I
Speaker 1: went to blah blah blah, I went to Tulane University.
Speaker 1: And then you say, oh, you went to Tulane. Okay, well,
Speaker 1: I'll speak very slowly. Then the joke is a buddy
Speaker 1: who went to that university needs slow conversation to follow along.
Speaker 1: But it's not a very good school.
Speaker 3: That's a cop.
Speaker 1: You know where I got that joke? Of all places,
Speaker 1: I swear to god, I went and saw David Letterman
Speaker 1: million years ago when he was at NBC that long ago,
Speaker 1: and he came out and did crowd work before the
Speaker 1: Late Show started, and he.
Speaker 3: He said that to me.
Speaker 1: He takes questions from the audience and I asked a question,
Speaker 1: and I said, yeah, Dave, I don't have a question.
Speaker 2: I just want to say I went to Ball State.
Speaker 1: I went to ball State for two years for undergrad
Speaker 1: which is where David Letterman went to college. And I said, hey, Dave,
Speaker 1: I went to ball State just like you. And he said, oh,
Speaker 1: you went to ball State and I said yeah. He said,
Speaker 1: then I'll talk slowly. Crowd went crazy. So that's my
Speaker 1: David Letterman playfull roast. I got it from Dave and
Speaker 1: I repurposed it for women in dating, So feel free
Speaker 1: to play around with that, or whenever a woman says
Speaker 1: where she's from, just think, okay, what is a fun
Speaker 1: light stereotype about where she's from. If she's from Jersey,
Speaker 1: you can say, oh, you're from Jersey? Oh are you
Speaker 1: on the Jersey Shore? What's the situation?
Speaker 2: Like?
Speaker 1: Is he really cool in person? What's snookie like?
Speaker 2: You could do that.
Speaker 1: Is she from I don't know, pick a state. Is
Speaker 1: she from Florida? You could say, oh, if you ever
Speaker 1: went out with Florida man, what's Florida man like? Anyway,
Speaker 1: ask yourself, what's a fun, playful association you make with
Speaker 1: that state? Or like a stereotype, and you apply that
Speaker 1: stereotype to her, or you ask her if that stereotype
Speaker 1: applies to her. And that's a playful way to tease
Speaker 1: a woman. And many, not all, but many women love
Speaker 1: a man who can tease her because it shows confidence.
Speaker 1: It's one of the ways we flirt with women, and
Speaker 1: it shows confidence and it's fun. It's way more fun
Speaker 1: than lots lots of facts and figures. So I'm not
Speaker 1: a fan of pickup lines, but i am a fan
Speaker 1: of saying and flirting and communicating with women in a
Speaker 1: way that allows you to pick them up. So when
Speaker 1: in doubt, say something truthful, something genuine. If you are
Speaker 1: going to tease a woman, make it light and playful.
Speaker 1: And remember that Taylor left the bar that night two
Speaker 1: nights or three nights ago with Cassie, not because of
Speaker 1: what he said. He left with her because she likes
Speaker 1: him the person, the man. So pick up lines by
Speaker 1: themselves are not gonna make a woman instantly fall for you.
Speaker 1: But if you are authentic and genuine and playful and yourself,
Speaker 1: you're giving her something really wonderful. You're giving her a
Speaker 1: really fun, warm, enjoyable experience with a great guy. And
Speaker 1: that's all the women want, all right, until next time,
Speaker 1: Thank you for listening.
Speaker 2: Adios.