WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.240 --> 00:00:03.480 All right, let's get started on the Minnesota Goodbye. I'm 2 00:00:03.480 --> 00:00:06.879 going to start off with an email from Tristan, and 3 00:00:06.919 --> 00:00:10.080 Tristan says, what is y'all's favorite summer activity around the area. Dave, 4 00:00:10.160 --> 00:00:13.960 great job on Pike's Peak and Tristan, my favorite summer 5 00:00:13.960 --> 00:00:17.440 activity around the area. God, that's a really good question I. 6 00:00:17.480 --> 00:00:18.000 Answer for you. 7 00:00:18.160 --> 00:00:18.320 Yeah. 8 00:00:18.359 --> 00:00:20.920 Please, I would say, probably you going to walk in 9 00:00:20.960 --> 00:00:23.960 like Lake Minwasta or something. Isn't there a spot you 10 00:00:24.160 --> 00:00:24.800 like going there? 11 00:00:25.239 --> 00:00:27.879 You know? That is is my favorite spot to hike, 12 00:00:27.960 --> 00:00:30.519 because it's really it's not remote at all, but when 13 00:00:30.519 --> 00:00:33.799 you're on the back parts of Lake Minwashta, it feels 14 00:00:33.799 --> 00:00:35.799 like you're in the middle of nowhere. It really is 15 00:00:35.880 --> 00:00:37.560 like whoa first time was out there? I thought I 16 00:00:37.600 --> 00:00:39.840 got lost? Yeah, and I wasn't lost at all. I 17 00:00:39.880 --> 00:00:41.920 just kept following the trail in pretty soon, Oh there's 18 00:00:41.960 --> 00:00:43.840 my car, but I felt like it was lost. I 19 00:00:43.840 --> 00:00:46.560 would also say motorcycling. Oh yeah, I just love riding 20 00:00:46.640 --> 00:00:49.960 the motorcycle. You know, we don't do it as often 21 00:00:50.000 --> 00:00:53.159 as we should because we've been so busy this summer. 22 00:00:53.240 --> 00:00:56.600 Like today, you know, I got a couple of appointments today. 23 00:00:57.000 --> 00:00:59.280 I gotta get this thing chopped off. Well, they canceled 24 00:00:59.280 --> 00:00:59.799 that right. 25 00:01:00.039 --> 00:01:01.560 I think that you don't have that any I had 26 00:01:01.560 --> 00:01:02.840 a dermatology. 27 00:01:02.240 --> 00:01:04.159 Appointment again, a mole or something that grew on the 28 00:01:04.159 --> 00:01:05.560 side of my face, so I need to get that 29 00:01:05.599 --> 00:01:07.879 looked at. But I'm also going to Livia later today 30 00:01:07.920 --> 00:01:12.840 for the B twelve LIGHTO injection for energy and weight loss, 31 00:01:12.840 --> 00:01:15.040 and I think that's really cool. And then tomorrow I 32 00:01:15.120 --> 00:01:18.599 leave for San Diego for a morning show conference and 33 00:01:19.319 --> 00:01:22.200 I'm going to present an award to another DJ. I 34 00:01:22.239 --> 00:01:25.280 won the award last year. I presented to him this year. 35 00:01:25.799 --> 00:01:29.640 I get there tomorrow night, present the award at noon Friday, 36 00:01:30.640 --> 00:01:33.480 leave at three on Friday. I don't get home until 37 00:01:33.519 --> 00:01:35.920 eleven pm on Friday. 38 00:01:36.079 --> 00:01:39.959 You're flighting at three pm. You're making me nervous with 39 00:01:40.040 --> 00:01:42.159 the tightness of you having to present and then. 40 00:01:42.040 --> 00:01:42.680 Be on a flight. 41 00:01:42.799 --> 00:01:45.640 It is a little bit. Yeah. That's a good point, Jenny. Yeah, 42 00:01:45.680 --> 00:01:46.159 I work. 43 00:01:46.079 --> 00:01:47.719 With radio DJs. Do you think they're going to be 44 00:01:47.760 --> 00:01:48.159 on time? 45 00:01:48.760 --> 00:01:49.480 No, good point. 46 00:01:50.319 --> 00:01:52.159 They'll be on time for that. They do keep a 47 00:01:52.159 --> 00:01:53.560 pretty strict schedule for that stuff. 48 00:01:53.640 --> 00:01:56.079 Yeah, because you've been to this before. And then ABA's 49 00:01:56.120 --> 00:01:59.400 fifth birthday. Fourth birthday party is on Saturday, and then 50 00:01:59.519 --> 00:02:01.560 next week we're going to be at Mall of America 51 00:02:01.959 --> 00:02:03.879 and then after that we're going to be at a 52 00:02:03.920 --> 00:02:05.799 happy hour next price. So we're pretty busy. 53 00:02:05.840 --> 00:02:06.480 We're busy people. 54 00:02:06.680 --> 00:02:07.519 Yeah, yeah, what. 55 00:02:07.519 --> 00:02:09.560 About you summer activity, Jenny. 56 00:02:09.319 --> 00:02:12.800 Mine would be probably rollerblading and biking and sometimes running, 57 00:02:12.879 --> 00:02:14.560 but I can't run in like super hot heat. 58 00:02:14.840 --> 00:02:16.560 So yeah, you and pickleball right now? 59 00:02:16.639 --> 00:02:18.759 Oh yeah, and pickleball, but I just got into that, 60 00:02:18.840 --> 00:02:20.319 so I don't know if I could put that on 61 00:02:20.680 --> 00:02:21.360 their as favorite. 62 00:02:21.400 --> 00:02:22.680 I think that's going to be year round for me 63 00:02:22.759 --> 00:02:23.120 now too. 64 00:02:23.280 --> 00:02:26.719 So yeah, mine's just walking. I walk every day if 65 00:02:26.759 --> 00:02:27.000 I can. 66 00:02:27.080 --> 00:02:28.759 If the weather is nice, I could go on five 67 00:02:28.879 --> 00:02:32.360 six seven mile walks, and usually it's just around like 68 00:02:32.439 --> 00:02:34.919 the lakes and the cities, or I go up and 69 00:02:34.919 --> 00:02:37.639 down just streets of like Linden Hills and just look 70 00:02:37.680 --> 00:02:38.560 at people's houses. 71 00:02:38.840 --> 00:02:42.240 And that's impressive. I mean that's a long walk, it is. 72 00:02:42.280 --> 00:02:45.439 But when it's like seventy five degrees like yesterday, I've 73 00:02:45.759 --> 00:02:47.560 so it's been the Fringe festival, so I'm not getting 74 00:02:47.599 --> 00:02:49.319 a lot of sleep, which is my own choice. 75 00:02:49.479 --> 00:02:49.919 It's fine. 76 00:02:49.919 --> 00:02:52.639 It's once a year, but I've been trying to like 77 00:02:52.680 --> 00:02:55.479 prioritize going home and taking like a long nap to 78 00:02:55.560 --> 00:02:56.039 like get. 79 00:02:55.919 --> 00:02:56.759 Ahead of sleep. 80 00:02:57.120 --> 00:02:59.439 And yesterday it was just so beautiful out that I 81 00:02:59.479 --> 00:03:01.439 was just like, Wow, I guess I'm going to go 82 00:03:01.479 --> 00:03:03.919 on a walk instead and just sleep for twenty minutes. 83 00:03:04.000 --> 00:03:07.599 And yeah, but it's so nice out I can't not. Yeah, 84 00:03:07.680 --> 00:03:09.919 I have to, because why would I not go on 85 00:03:09.919 --> 00:03:12.840 a walk now when in four months I won't be 86 00:03:12.879 --> 00:03:14.400 going out for four months. 87 00:03:14.479 --> 00:03:17.120 Yeah, yeah, so we're taking it like September, October, November, 88 00:03:17.199 --> 00:03:19.879 so yeah, sure enough, Yep, you're right, all right, next 89 00:03:19.879 --> 00:03:22.759 one does don't say my name, but I only used 90 00:03:22.759 --> 00:03:26.280 a first name, so I hopefully it'll be okay. I 91 00:03:26.400 --> 00:03:28.280 was listening to the podcast and heard you guys talk 92 00:03:28.280 --> 00:03:32.879 about what a porn star does when they are forty. Well, 93 00:03:33.319 --> 00:03:35.400 my daughter's dad took off to another state in the 94 00:03:35.400 --> 00:03:37.759 two thousands and came back a handful of years later 95 00:03:38.199 --> 00:03:40.960 and had to admit that he had been doing porn. 96 00:03:41.840 --> 00:03:44.439 I will go back and bleep out the name of 97 00:03:44.560 --> 00:03:46.879 this person because there is a little bit more identification 98 00:03:46.960 --> 00:03:51.080 than I would want to pass along there. He had 99 00:03:51.199 --> 00:03:54.280 been recognized on the Internet and the news was starting 100 00:03:54.319 --> 00:03:57.319 to come out. Not that it matters, but it was 101 00:03:57.400 --> 00:04:01.719 gay porn and that added an extra more secretive element. Well, 102 00:04:02.319 --> 00:04:04.759 now he's forty two and he will not discuss it. 103 00:04:05.360 --> 00:04:07.919 I don't know him like that anymore, but it does 104 00:04:07.960 --> 00:04:10.680 feel like he's struggling with big regrets that affect his 105 00:04:10.759 --> 00:04:13.840 life even now. I'm sure it's not like that for everybody, 106 00:04:13.879 --> 00:04:16.519 but he can't be the only one. I love you, 107 00:04:17.519 --> 00:04:20.160 thank you, we love you back. Because this came up 108 00:04:20.160 --> 00:04:22.000 on the show. Was it on the show or on 109 00:04:22.000 --> 00:04:22.439 the podcast? 110 00:04:22.560 --> 00:04:24.360 It was on the actual show that we talked about it, 111 00:04:24.399 --> 00:04:27.360 because we talked about do you regret it when you're 112 00:04:27.399 --> 00:04:29.800 forty or something, and we just kind of said what 113 00:04:29.839 --> 00:04:31.639 we thought people might think. And I think that some 114 00:04:31.680 --> 00:04:34.439 people probably do. But I think some people might also 115 00:04:34.480 --> 00:04:36.680 have the mindset of, like, no, I'm proud of like 116 00:04:37.160 --> 00:04:40.079 doing that when I was young and hot and whatever. 117 00:04:41.199 --> 00:04:44.199 I think that my logic would tell me that you 118 00:04:44.279 --> 00:04:49.439 will regret it because you are porn as forever. So 119 00:04:49.519 --> 00:04:51.480 if you make a porn now and you're young and 120 00:04:51.519 --> 00:04:53.399 beautiful and you're twenty two and you got a smoking 121 00:04:53.480 --> 00:04:56.360 body and you've got nothing to be ashamed of at all, 122 00:04:56.879 --> 00:05:01.319 and it's not necessarily shameful, but it's something that it's 123 00:05:01.399 --> 00:05:03.639 kind of like a tattoo that you kind of regret, 124 00:05:03.759 --> 00:05:05.279 you know what I mean. If you get a tattoo of, like, 125 00:05:05.319 --> 00:05:08.959 I don't know, angels wings on your back, it's a 126 00:05:09.000 --> 00:05:12.439 bad example. But let's go with it. You might think 127 00:05:12.439 --> 00:05:14.759 this is really cool. I really like this. I'm twenty six, 128 00:05:14.839 --> 00:05:17.800 I look amazing with my you know, my big angel 129 00:05:17.839 --> 00:05:19.839 wing tattoo. But then you get a little bit older 130 00:05:19.879 --> 00:05:21.600 and now you're forty five, and you go, hm, I 131 00:05:21.680 --> 00:05:23.079 kind of wish I hadn't done that one. 132 00:05:23.240 --> 00:05:28.639 Maybe yeah, no, I mean for sure would you guys? Ever, Okay, 133 00:05:28.680 --> 00:05:31.720 so say you're single and you find someone you really 134 00:05:31.759 --> 00:05:34.959 like them. What if they had a previous like OnlyFans 135 00:05:35.040 --> 00:05:37.720 with their ex and they were doing like sexual things 136 00:05:37.720 --> 00:05:39.319 in it. Would you be able to get over that? 137 00:05:39.839 --> 00:05:41.319 Because I don't think I could question. 138 00:05:41.480 --> 00:05:43.639 Oh I think I could, because that's their past, Like 139 00:05:44.120 --> 00:05:45.959 I mean, they did what they wanted to do at 140 00:05:45.959 --> 00:05:47.639 the time, and it's like, okay, well, I'm not gonna 141 00:05:47.680 --> 00:05:48.800 poo poo on you for just. 142 00:05:49.120 --> 00:05:51.759 And I agree because I can get over like Andrew 143 00:05:51.759 --> 00:05:53.439 obviously has a pass. I have a pass, like I 144 00:05:53.439 --> 00:05:55.199 can get over things like that, but I feel like 145 00:05:55.319 --> 00:05:57.480 to put that on the internet, I don't know. I 146 00:05:57.519 --> 00:06:00.480 would probably be a tempted to see if she's better 147 00:06:00.519 --> 00:06:04.120 than me, and then it would like be scarred in 148 00:06:04.120 --> 00:06:06.160 my head and I'd probably think about that in moments 149 00:06:06.160 --> 00:06:08.759 I shouldn't be thinking about that, like, wait, she did 150 00:06:08.759 --> 00:06:09.319 this here. 151 00:06:09.319 --> 00:06:10.240 Don't go looking for it. 152 00:06:10.319 --> 00:06:12.199 But that's what I'm saying is I would be tempted 153 00:06:12.240 --> 00:06:14.240 to I would be so tempted. 154 00:06:14.399 --> 00:06:16.120 Yeah, I think I would too if I were just 155 00:06:16.199 --> 00:06:17.680 like you said, if I were single and I met 156 00:06:17.680 --> 00:06:21.000 somebody who's like, yeah, you know, back in the early nineties, 157 00:06:21.199 --> 00:06:26.000 I did porn, and I'd be like, well, I gotta 158 00:06:26.040 --> 00:06:28.839 go watch. And if she said no, don't watch, I'd 159 00:06:28.879 --> 00:06:32.759 be like, I'm sorry, I think I have to. But 160 00:06:32.800 --> 00:06:34.600 I think that might be kind of a deal breaker 161 00:06:34.639 --> 00:06:37.839 because to me, I really do because I'm human, and 162 00:06:37.879 --> 00:06:39.839 I would like to say, bow, it's in the past, 163 00:06:39.920 --> 00:06:42.360 it doesn't bother me. It'd be kind of like if 164 00:06:42.360 --> 00:06:48.480 somebody got a dui. I'm trying to think as I 165 00:06:48.519 --> 00:06:51.439 say this, if they got maybe a series of duys 166 00:06:51.480 --> 00:06:53.519 and now they're like, ah, you know what, I haven't 167 00:06:53.560 --> 00:06:56.439 drank in a long time. I'd still be like, I 168 00:06:56.839 --> 00:06:57.240 don't know. 169 00:06:57.439 --> 00:06:57.839 I don't know. 170 00:06:58.240 --> 00:07:00.959 There's a difference between porn and a dui. A porn 171 00:07:01.079 --> 00:07:03.800 is forever a dui. If you stop drinking and you 172 00:07:04.000 --> 00:07:06.759 have remorse and if you change your life, then I 173 00:07:06.759 --> 00:07:07.480 think it's a different thing. 174 00:07:07.680 --> 00:07:10.680 But I don't think you need remorse about doing porn, 175 00:07:10.759 --> 00:07:13.120 because like, what if they did porn because one they 176 00:07:13.160 --> 00:07:15.120 needed the money and they like, you know what, I've 177 00:07:15.120 --> 00:07:17.560 got a hot bot, I'm proud of it. I need money, 178 00:07:17.600 --> 00:07:18.800 and this is a good way to do it. I 179 00:07:18.879 --> 00:07:22.120 feel like it's more empowering than anything, unless they're doing 180 00:07:22.199 --> 00:07:27.519 like creepy, scary porn. Then I mean, I think, like, go, 181 00:07:27.680 --> 00:07:29.319 if someone said if I was dating someone and they 182 00:07:29.319 --> 00:07:31.600 were like, by the way I did porn, I'd be like, dope, 183 00:07:31.720 --> 00:07:34.480 can I see? And then I'd be like, Wow, this 184 00:07:34.560 --> 00:07:35.720 is great, look at you. 185 00:07:35.879 --> 00:07:38.319 And it could be a little sexism on my part 186 00:07:38.480 --> 00:07:41.560 because I think that guys don't want to feel like 187 00:07:41.680 --> 00:07:45.759 they were outperformed by another guy. Yeah, So if I'm 188 00:07:45.759 --> 00:07:48.040 watching porn and this guy's got a big old wang 189 00:07:48.120 --> 00:07:50.439 and he's like you know, and he's like just banging 190 00:07:50.519 --> 00:07:53.399 away and she's like screaming and going, oh my god. 191 00:07:54.240 --> 00:07:55.160 Yeah she's acting. 192 00:07:55.720 --> 00:07:59.040 Say that's super fake, stupid sex, and she's still. 193 00:07:58.879 --> 00:08:01.319 Choosing to be with you, even though she's had this 194 00:08:01.519 --> 00:08:02.680 giant wang before. 195 00:08:02.920 --> 00:08:03.319 Yeah. 196 00:08:03.399 --> 00:08:05.600 Yeah, I think it's cool, But I guess. 197 00:08:05.360 --> 00:08:08.600 I just also want to clarify that my example wasn't 198 00:08:08.600 --> 00:08:11.160 about just porn in general. Mine was about you being 199 00:08:11.160 --> 00:08:13.439 in a relationship prior with someone that you did like 200 00:08:13.439 --> 00:08:15.519 and only fans with. Like, I think there's a little 201 00:08:15.560 --> 00:08:17.680 bit of a difference between you going and banging and 202 00:08:17.720 --> 00:08:19.920 doing random like stuff with people you don't have a 203 00:08:19.959 --> 00:08:23.519 relationship with versus you had like an only fan that 204 00:08:23.639 --> 00:08:26.000 was successful or something with your previous partner. 205 00:08:26.120 --> 00:08:29.000 Yeah, but yeah, real, Will you remind me because I'll 206 00:08:29.040 --> 00:08:31.759 forget to go back and put a bleep through her name, 207 00:08:32.480 --> 00:08:34.039 Because I want to make sure that you know, if 208 00:08:34.080 --> 00:08:36.519 you send in an email to the show and you 209 00:08:36.519 --> 00:08:38.759 want to stay anonymous, I want you to feel confident 210 00:08:39.159 --> 00:08:43.759 that we will respect that. Okay, somebody sent in a 211 00:08:43.799 --> 00:08:50.279 picture of brief jerky. It is edible meat underwear. It 212 00:08:50.399 --> 00:08:54.080 is underwear made out of beef jerky. Now I don't 213 00:08:54.120 --> 00:08:55.320 know why they sent it in. 214 00:08:55.919 --> 00:08:58.759 I think it's because I was talking about swimmers this 215 00:08:58.879 --> 00:09:01.919 morning looking like beef jerky because they're so muscly. 216 00:09:02.039 --> 00:09:04.879 Okay, the Olympic swimmers. Yeah yeah, okay, gotcha. Well, thank 217 00:09:04.919 --> 00:09:06.600 you Kate for sending that in so much. 218 00:09:07.320 --> 00:09:09.519 And we're so sick because all I could think about 219 00:09:09.519 --> 00:09:12.240 when you said swimmers was sperm just now, because we 220 00:09:12.320 --> 00:09:15.879 also brought that up earlier, and I was like, Jenny, swimmers, I. 221 00:09:15.799 --> 00:09:17.360 Was thinking of the Olympic swimmer. 222 00:09:17.679 --> 00:09:20.039 I know, well, we talked about the Olympic swimmers, and 223 00:09:20.080 --> 00:09:21.960 you know, I'm not attracted to men, but I can 224 00:09:22.000 --> 00:09:24.600 definitely look at a guy and go, dang, he has 225 00:09:24.639 --> 00:09:27.679 got the look at the swimmers. They have the most muscular, 226 00:09:28.000 --> 00:09:32.799 almost fat free body, and they've got the V shaped torso, 227 00:09:32.919 --> 00:09:36.360 but they're not overly muscular. It's like, and I told Susan, 228 00:09:36.399 --> 00:09:38.360 I said, would you hook up with one of those guys? 229 00:09:38.759 --> 00:09:41.759 And Susan is just like, she just doesn't play that way. 230 00:09:41.919 --> 00:09:44.519 Whereas if I asked somebody may maybe you have asked Jenny, 231 00:09:44.919 --> 00:09:46.399 like would you hook up with one of those guys? 232 00:09:47.320 --> 00:09:50.840 Hell yeah? And Susan is like, no, what. 233 00:09:50.799 --> 00:09:52.759 Does she say she says no, or she's trying to 234 00:09:52.759 --> 00:09:54.879 be respectful, or she doesn't. 235 00:09:54.679 --> 00:09:58.399 Like when I ask things like that. She's just like no, 236 00:09:58.840 --> 00:10:00.440 why gross? Stop? 237 00:10:00.639 --> 00:10:03.960 See I think that's I think that's weird because it's like, 238 00:10:04.240 --> 00:10:06.559 are you Is she trying to come off as that 239 00:10:06.639 --> 00:10:09.399 she doesn't find anyone attractive because she's married to you? 240 00:10:09.919 --> 00:10:11.639 I don't know, because that's a bunch of bull of corn. 241 00:10:11.759 --> 00:10:13.879 I don't know. Oh, I I'm not really sure. I 242 00:10:13.919 --> 00:10:16.600 mean I sit there and I say, wow, that woman 243 00:10:16.799 --> 00:10:19.799 is beautiful, and I when you know, I mean, nobody 244 00:10:19.799 --> 00:10:21.320 wants to hear about who I want to hook up 245 00:10:21.320 --> 00:10:25.000 with because gross. But I don't have a problem expressing 246 00:10:25.039 --> 00:10:27.279 that to her. But she just doesn't vibe that way. 247 00:10:27.279 --> 00:10:30.399 So you know, all right? Next one, don't say my 248 00:10:30.519 --> 00:10:35.519 name Dave van Crue. How did you process life? Change? Well, 249 00:10:35.600 --> 00:10:39.559 let's move on. My now ex moved out months ago 250 00:10:40.279 --> 00:10:43.519 and we broke up a few months ago. It was 251 00:10:43.600 --> 00:10:45.960 not a health relationship. We started dating young and have 252 00:10:46.039 --> 00:10:49.639 been together for almost a decade. Another change, I'm moving 253 00:10:49.639 --> 00:10:51.960 in with a relative to save money, but leaving a 254 00:10:52.039 --> 00:10:54.399 town that I love and have lived in for ten years. 255 00:10:54.600 --> 00:10:57.320 I also might be losing my job at the end 256 00:10:57.360 --> 00:10:59.960 of the year and trying to navigate the dating feel. 257 00:11:00.960 --> 00:11:03.320 Needless to say, I got a lot of life changing, 258 00:11:03.519 --> 00:11:06.159 got changes going on right now, and I'm reaching out 259 00:11:06.200 --> 00:11:08.440 if you've got any advice on how to cope or 260 00:11:08.559 --> 00:11:11.240 do you have any stories of a lot of life 261 00:11:11.320 --> 00:11:14.279 change in one year to make mine feel more normal. 262 00:11:14.960 --> 00:11:17.200 I'm going to go ahead and just differentiate between a 263 00:11:17.279 --> 00:11:20.720 positive life change and a negative life change, and I 264 00:11:20.799 --> 00:11:22.360 think you've got a little bit of both in here. 265 00:11:22.440 --> 00:11:26.360 I think a positive life change is getting a promotion 266 00:11:27.080 --> 00:11:29.399 or a raise, or you marry somebody that you love. 267 00:11:29.480 --> 00:11:32.320 That's a positive. Losing your job and moving out of 268 00:11:32.320 --> 00:11:34.559 a town that you love is a negative life change. 269 00:11:35.080 --> 00:11:36.679 I would only say it kind of goes back to 270 00:11:36.679 --> 00:11:39.639 my thaying no hill goes up forever. So there's been 271 00:11:39.679 --> 00:11:42.279 a lot of shit happening in your life, and not 272 00:11:42.360 --> 00:11:45.759 all of it has been good, you know, leaving the 273 00:11:45.759 --> 00:11:49.159 town that you love and breaking up and whatever. But 274 00:11:49.519 --> 00:11:51.519 I think that things will be better. I think you 275 00:11:51.559 --> 00:11:54.320 always have to look forward to things get being better 276 00:11:54.840 --> 00:11:57.440 because eventually they will get better. But I want to 277 00:11:57.440 --> 00:12:00.279 turn it over to you, the two of you and 278 00:12:00.279 --> 00:12:03.000 Bailey and find out how do you cope when you 279 00:12:03.200 --> 00:12:05.799 have a lot of life change your stories from a 280 00:12:05.799 --> 00:12:07.200 big life change. 281 00:12:07.679 --> 00:12:09.480 For me, I would say that I try to keep 282 00:12:09.519 --> 00:12:14.559 myself very busy because once you start like making yourself busy, 283 00:12:15.000 --> 00:12:17.279 your mind at least gets off of any kind of 284 00:12:17.320 --> 00:12:19.600 stressor is that you you could be sitting at home 285 00:12:19.639 --> 00:12:21.440 thinking about because like I know people who have gone 286 00:12:21.480 --> 00:12:24.600 through really rough breakups and like I have two where 287 00:12:24.600 --> 00:12:26.960 you just like lay in bed, but then all you're 288 00:12:26.960 --> 00:12:29.720 doing is literally thinking about that. Whereas like at least 289 00:12:29.759 --> 00:12:32.279 if you get out on a walk or something, you 290 00:12:32.440 --> 00:12:34.799 might get your mind off of it for a couple minutes. 291 00:12:35.039 --> 00:12:36.200 It's probably not going to happen. 292 00:12:36.200 --> 00:12:37.879 You're probably still going to be thinking about it, but 293 00:12:37.960 --> 00:12:39.600 it's going to help you out a little bit more. 294 00:12:39.679 --> 00:12:40.960 And yeah, I don't know. 295 00:12:41.080 --> 00:12:43.399 Like when I've gone through really hard things, I usually 296 00:12:43.480 --> 00:12:46.559 was working like three jobs and just kept like trucking 297 00:12:46.559 --> 00:12:49.480 through life and stayed really busy, and it really did 298 00:12:49.519 --> 00:12:50.039 help me out. 299 00:12:50.200 --> 00:12:52.159 That's really good advice, Jinny. I remember I was going 300 00:12:52.200 --> 00:12:55.320 through some awful dark shit about ten years ago, and 301 00:12:56.080 --> 00:12:57.840 I thought about it all the time, all the time, 302 00:12:57.879 --> 00:12:59.759 all the time. But I went out to doing a 303 00:12:59.799 --> 00:13:02.960 p and sid a haunted house somewhere up north, like 304 00:13:03.000 --> 00:13:05.519 in Wyoming, And I walked back to my car and 305 00:13:05.559 --> 00:13:08.320 I thought, God, for the last three hours, I did 306 00:13:08.320 --> 00:13:11.840 not think about it even once because I was busy. 307 00:13:12.360 --> 00:13:15.440 So I think that that's some really good advice. Stay busy, 308 00:13:15.519 --> 00:13:18.399 preoccupied with other positive things. 309 00:13:18.480 --> 00:13:18.720 Yeah. 310 00:13:19.200 --> 00:13:22.159 I also so my last year was actually one that 311 00:13:22.240 --> 00:13:26.279 had a lot of changes. I ended a really long relationship, 312 00:13:26.759 --> 00:13:30.000 my best friend broke up with me. My job was 313 00:13:30.000 --> 00:13:33.000 really hard, and then I got this job, and so 314 00:13:33.039 --> 00:13:35.720 it's like good things bad things is very like roller Coastery, 315 00:13:36.639 --> 00:13:41.000 but like, in addition to staying busy, I kept a 316 00:13:41.120 --> 00:13:46.320 list of like blessings essentially, so like, yes, I lost 317 00:13:46.320 --> 00:13:49.519 out on my best friend of all time, but then 318 00:13:49.720 --> 00:13:52.799 I started taking notes about like the friends in my 319 00:13:52.840 --> 00:13:55.399 life who had really shown up for me, like since 320 00:13:55.960 --> 00:13:58.519 her departure from my life, and all of the time 321 00:13:58.519 --> 00:14:01.000 that I would have spent with her. How I started 322 00:14:01.080 --> 00:14:03.799 using that time and then I just started keeping notes 323 00:14:03.799 --> 00:14:05.559 of that where I'm like, Okay, now I've grown really 324 00:14:05.600 --> 00:14:08.440 close to this person and this person, and I've been 325 00:14:08.919 --> 00:14:11.600 my speech team is really like filling up my time 326 00:14:11.639 --> 00:14:14.120 and my energy. So that I'm not, you know, laying 327 00:14:14.120 --> 00:14:16.480 in bed and ruminating about it. But I just keep 328 00:14:16.480 --> 00:14:18.039 a list of things that I'm thankful for. 329 00:14:18.039 --> 00:14:20.200 That's a really good thing. I tried the positive journal, 330 00:14:20.240 --> 00:14:22.080 but every day was the same positive you know what 331 00:14:22.120 --> 00:14:25.480 I mean, like your daily positivity journal. And I'm like, well, 332 00:14:25.519 --> 00:14:27.960 I'm healthy and I got a great family and a 333 00:14:27.960 --> 00:14:30.320 great job. Next day, what are you thankful for today? Well, 334 00:14:30.399 --> 00:14:32.879 I'm healthy, got a great family, you get a great job, 335 00:14:32.960 --> 00:14:33.399 you get me. 336 00:14:33.360 --> 00:14:36.480 More specific like little bitty things like oh, I'm happy 337 00:14:36.559 --> 00:14:39.200 that I don't know the I can hear the breeze 338 00:14:39.200 --> 00:14:41.679 and the leaves today and that's like the best part 339 00:14:41.720 --> 00:14:43.759 of late spring eating blueberries. 340 00:14:43.919 --> 00:14:45.759 Andrew'll be like, how lucky are we that we get 341 00:14:45.759 --> 00:14:49.320 to eat blueberries. Andrew's a very grateful human. He lives 342 00:14:49.639 --> 00:14:53.840 pretty simple life of like happiness, and like, I don't 343 00:14:53.879 --> 00:14:55.799 know he it's just those little things that he'll bring 344 00:14:55.879 --> 00:14:57.080 up sometimes, you. 345 00:14:57.039 --> 00:14:58.639 Know, you think about it, and how lucky are we 346 00:14:58.720 --> 00:15:01.440 that we get to eat blueberries? They didn't grow around here. 347 00:15:01.799 --> 00:15:05.240 When somebody trucks him in from no Abilene, I think 348 00:15:05.240 --> 00:15:06.039 they grow an ample. 349 00:15:06.200 --> 00:15:07.919 Yeah, And I just get to sit here, look at 350 00:15:07.919 --> 00:15:10.720 you two, we do this little podcast and I just think, Wow, 351 00:15:10.879 --> 00:15:11.559 what a blessing. 352 00:15:12.200 --> 00:15:14.480 You know, what kind of is really? Seriously? All right? 353 00:15:14.519 --> 00:15:17.559 Next one, do not say my name. I do not 354 00:15:17.840 --> 00:15:20.559 want to be associated with the story that I am 355 00:15:20.600 --> 00:15:24.639 bringing up for discussion. Laugh emoji. First time writer, longtime listener. 356 00:15:25.240 --> 00:15:26.960 I told the story to a friend who said, you 357 00:15:27.000 --> 00:15:30.279 got to send it into the Dave Ryan Show. Last week, 358 00:15:30.600 --> 00:15:32.480 my neighbor had a story to share of something that 359 00:15:32.519 --> 00:15:36.559 happened in our typical, quiet, family friendly neighborhood. My neighbor 360 00:15:36.600 --> 00:15:38.559 started that at seven fifty in the morning, he was 361 00:15:38.600 --> 00:15:41.720 inside his house looking out toward the street and saw 362 00:15:43.759 --> 00:15:47.799 a naked man walking down the street. Masturbator. 363 00:15:48.480 --> 00:15:50.639 Absolutely, I'm really hoping it was just going to be 364 00:15:50.679 --> 00:15:51.240 a naked math. 365 00:15:51.360 --> 00:15:53.879 Nope, nope, nope, plain a day, Like what the fuck? 366 00:15:54.039 --> 00:15:57.039 My neighbor, being a taller, stronger guy, went out of 367 00:15:57.039 --> 00:15:59.279 the house, grabbed an iron rod from his truck, and 368 00:15:59.320 --> 00:16:02.480 confronted them. My neighbor also called the police in the 369 00:16:02.519 --> 00:16:05.799 process and asked and the naked man was arrested. My 370 00:16:05.840 --> 00:16:08.120 neighbor had video proof of said story and it was 371 00:16:08.159 --> 00:16:12.840 all captured on his ring camera. My discussion topic for 372 00:16:12.919 --> 00:16:15.080 you is. Have you ever had an encounter like this 373 00:16:15.200 --> 00:16:18.679 or had a ring camera capture something funny, embarrassing or shocking. 374 00:16:19.320 --> 00:16:22.559 I have no idea where this naked man walked in 375 00:16:22.679 --> 00:16:26.919 from or why, but seriously, dude, what the fuck? Sincerely, 376 00:16:27.360 --> 00:16:30.600 just an all right kind of dart liquor anonymous P 377 00:16:30.759 --> 00:16:34.360 one listener. I love that. Thank you. No, I caught 378 00:16:34.360 --> 00:16:36.519 a bear on my ring camera one time, and that's 379 00:16:36.559 --> 00:16:38.960 all I got. I got a bearing carade, No Colorado. 380 00:16:39.039 --> 00:16:41.759 I might have showed you a year or so ago. Yeah, No, 381 00:16:41.840 --> 00:16:44.159 nothing like that. I've always wondered what I would do 382 00:16:44.159 --> 00:16:45.919 if I was in McDonald's and somebody did one of 383 00:16:45.960 --> 00:16:48.279 those things where they jumped across the counter and started 384 00:16:48.279 --> 00:16:51.399 beating up on the cap. I always thought, because people go, 385 00:16:51.679 --> 00:16:54.399 I can't believe people are standing around recording this on 386 00:16:54.440 --> 00:16:57.200 their phone instead of breaking up the fight. I would 387 00:16:57.559 --> 00:17:00.799 neverver get because I'm not a big person. Yeah, I'm 388 00:17:00.840 --> 00:17:02.080 not going to get in the middle of it and 389 00:17:02.120 --> 00:17:05.599 then get charged with assault or be like, oh god, 390 00:17:05.680 --> 00:17:08.119 you pulled that woman off that other woman, you were 391 00:17:08.160 --> 00:17:11.000 abusive to that woman. I'd be like, no, I'm not 392 00:17:11.240 --> 00:17:13.920 I've never seen anything like that. If I do. I 393 00:17:13.960 --> 00:17:19.519 will record it, Jenny. I mean, have you seen anything weird? 394 00:17:19.880 --> 00:17:21.240 Gotten involved? Intervened? 395 00:17:21.880 --> 00:17:23.440 H The only thing I can think of was on 396 00:17:23.480 --> 00:17:26.240 a flight a few years ago Andrew got sat next 397 00:17:26.240 --> 00:17:27.799 to some guy who, like, I don't know if there 398 00:17:27.839 --> 00:17:29.799 was something mentally wrong with him, but he was just 399 00:17:29.839 --> 00:17:32.359 like talking to Andrew a bunch. He kept laying his 400 00:17:32.359 --> 00:17:35.440 head on and I remember that it was really really strange. 401 00:17:35.440 --> 00:17:37.839