WEBVTT 1 00:00:03.480 --> 00:00:06.960 Welcome to Buns and Banter, a podcast buy work Busties 2 00:00:07.240 --> 00:00:11.240 for work Busties. Hey, I'm Lauren and I'm Ali. We're 3 00:00:11.279 --> 00:00:13.240 both morning show hosts for iHeartMedia. 4 00:00:13.560 --> 00:00:16.640 We're both millennials. 5 00:00:16.079 --> 00:00:18.199 And we're both trying to figure out how to build 6 00:00:18.239 --> 00:00:22.760 the lives. We dream about dating, marriage, career, career, and 7 00:00:22.960 --> 00:00:25.399 being a mom. How to get through a week without crying. 8 00:00:25.640 --> 00:00:28.399 Welcome to Buns and Banter. We're glad you're here. I 9 00:00:28.839 --> 00:00:32.880 wore terrible shoes. I can't kick them off today. They're fine, 10 00:00:33.079 --> 00:00:38.600 but I did my oh free feet pick opportunity. Ah No, 11 00:00:38.719 --> 00:00:40.679 we don't often do it for free. You have to vend. 12 00:00:40.679 --> 00:00:43.280 Moll me five dollars if you just screenshoted that her. 13 00:00:43.320 --> 00:00:47.799 She's my manager. I posted I boasted my ankles on 14 00:00:47.880 --> 00:00:52.359 TikTok because I saw this amazing millennial that was like listen, 15 00:00:52.439 --> 00:00:55.359 gen z. The ankles are the skinniest part of me, 16 00:00:55.520 --> 00:00:58.240 so I will be showing them off without your sock. 17 00:00:58.479 --> 00:01:02.000 I am not wearing what are they called tube sox, 18 00:01:02.079 --> 00:01:04.920 not tupsocks. There's tub socks is like ankle socks. They 19 00:01:04.920 --> 00:01:07.159 do all of them, don't they. Yeah, No, these bad 20 00:01:07.200 --> 00:01:09.319 boys are gonna breathe and make me still feel as 21 00:01:09.359 --> 00:01:12.000 youthful as I do in my mind. I know, so 22 00:01:12.120 --> 00:01:13.359 as Schmidt and the men. If you want to take 23 00:01:13.400 --> 00:01:17.120 a it's like a close up footshot. I'm doing anything 24 00:01:17.239 --> 00:01:18.000 I can to make it. 25 00:01:18.000 --> 00:01:20.959 And then you have to venmo her five dollars at 26 00:01:21.000 --> 00:01:24.159 the very least, the very least, And. 27 00:01:24.239 --> 00:01:26.640 That's that's like kind of where I'm at this week. 28 00:01:26.840 --> 00:01:29.719 Free free feet pick is the most kind of energy 29 00:01:29.760 --> 00:01:30.480 I have to give. 30 00:01:30.680 --> 00:01:33.239 They do say that's how you grow your following online 31 00:01:33.280 --> 00:01:37.879 is to offer people something for free. Yeah, a link 32 00:01:37.920 --> 00:01:39.959 in your bio, but it could be some free feet 33 00:01:40.000 --> 00:01:40.680 picks this week. 34 00:01:42.319 --> 00:01:46.159 Yeah, I just I stumbled down this rabbit hole of 35 00:01:46.480 --> 00:01:51.920 millennial TikTok that made me feel half old, half great. 36 00:01:52.519 --> 00:01:54.359 I mean, we've seen so many of the videos where 37 00:01:54.359 --> 00:01:58.439 they're talking about how millennials are aging gracefully beautifully. We 38 00:01:58.959 --> 00:02:02.760 everybody is marine fountain of youth. But there's this woman 39 00:02:02.879 --> 00:02:05.280 in the UK I follow She's hysterical and she was 40 00:02:05.319 --> 00:02:08.840 talking about going out with her coworkers. She said she's 41 00:02:08.960 --> 00:02:13.000 about to turn thirty eight. It was like not as 42 00:02:13.039 --> 00:02:16.000 old as I am at all. And she went out 43 00:02:16.039 --> 00:02:19.120 with twenty two to twenty five year olds. No, I would, 44 00:02:19.240 --> 00:02:22.599 I wouldn't. First problem, No, it's not gonna be nice. 45 00:02:22.719 --> 00:02:23.680 I'm not doing that. 46 00:02:24.000 --> 00:02:27.280 It's not gonna feel good. And she's like, it's just 47 00:02:27.439 --> 00:02:29.520 with her British accent. It was so perfect where she goes, 48 00:02:29.560 --> 00:02:31.639 obviously we're gonna get along great because I too, am 49 00:02:31.639 --> 00:02:34.039 like twenty two. I mean, you just still feel that way, 50 00:02:34.439 --> 00:02:36.400 and she goes. Things started to get a little sketchy 51 00:02:36.400 --> 00:02:38.240 when we were talking about songs that came out the 52 00:02:38.319 --> 00:02:40.439 year you were born, and I realized the songs that 53 00:02:40.439 --> 00:02:42.639 came out the year they were born. I was dancing too, 54 00:02:42.639 --> 00:02:44.879 and I was like twelve. And then we talked about 55 00:02:44.960 --> 00:02:47.120 middle age. And when I asked them what they thought 56 00:02:47.120 --> 00:02:49.960 middle age was and they said thirty eight, I fell 57 00:02:50.000 --> 00:02:52.120 out of my chair, grabbed my tab and ended that 58 00:02:52.159 --> 00:02:57.599 coworker dinner immediately, immediately, immediately, and I thought, I'm reading 59 00:02:57.599 --> 00:03:00.800 through the comments on here, and people are like, God, 60 00:03:01.000 --> 00:03:03.599 why are all millennials the same way, Like you all 61 00:03:03.680 --> 00:03:07.039 still think you're like eighteen and cool? And I was like, 62 00:03:08.120 --> 00:03:10.120 I don't know. Then I read and let the Internet 63 00:03:10.159 --> 00:03:11.960 take care of it. And this woman was like she 64 00:03:11.960 --> 00:03:14.159 summed it up perfectly. She goes, well, I feel like 65 00:03:14.199 --> 00:03:16.599 millennials are the first generation that are still very much 66 00:03:16.639 --> 00:03:19.800 struggling well into their thirties and early forties. So we 67 00:03:19.840 --> 00:03:22.319 don't want to consider ourselves adults because we're not able 68 00:03:22.319 --> 00:03:24.479 to do adult things, And it just makes more sense 69 00:03:24.560 --> 00:03:27.080 to trap ourselves in the mindset of an early twenties 70 00:03:27.080 --> 00:03:30.719 person because that's where we're still at financially and professionally. 71 00:03:31.319 --> 00:03:34.759 And just just you know, wait ten years and then 72 00:03:34.960 --> 00:03:37.360 we'll check back in with you and you can tell 73 00:03:37.439 --> 00:03:38.759 us what ag. 74 00:03:38.719 --> 00:03:44.360 You feel like you're at that smile, you know, perfect 75 00:03:44.400 --> 00:03:45.199 smile for it. 76 00:03:45.120 --> 00:03:49.360 Because it's so easy to be like so judgy of 77 00:03:49.439 --> 00:03:53.120 older generations, and like I see it right, like we're 78 00:03:53.319 --> 00:03:56.159 there's like all of this new technology and things are 79 00:03:56.159 --> 00:03:58.719 happening so fast, and like I try to be very 80 00:03:58.759 --> 00:04:02.879 patient with people who maybe are not as familiar as 81 00:04:02.879 --> 00:04:06.240 the technology I grew up using, because I know that 82 00:04:06.319 --> 00:04:09.199 at some point I'm going to be that person. Like 83 00:04:09.280 --> 00:04:11.719 my niece is taking coding in school. I don't know 84 00:04:11.719 --> 00:04:14.960 how to code anything. So if I'm gonna need their help, 85 00:04:15.080 --> 00:04:17.800 I need to be very nice about it, and I 86 00:04:17.839 --> 00:04:19.439 need to like make a little bit of. 87 00:04:19.399 --> 00:04:22.240 Effort respect your elders, and. 88 00:04:22.319 --> 00:04:24.240 I hope that they are nice to me back when 89 00:04:24.279 --> 00:04:26.800 I ask them so many questions. 90 00:04:27.360 --> 00:04:31.480 It's just so it's so crazy. Will came home with 91 00:04:31.560 --> 00:04:36.720 his first math assignment and I was like, oh, and 92 00:04:37.399 --> 00:04:41.120 I mean, we did it, but I didn't really fully 93 00:04:41.199 --> 00:04:43.600 understand it. He's in first grade, I'll be honest, And 94 00:04:43.639 --> 00:04:45.279 I was just like, is this because it's the new 95 00:04:45.360 --> 00:04:47.959 math and maybe I learned the old math? Or am 96 00:04:47.959 --> 00:04:49.800 I just still dumb? Yeah? 97 00:04:49.839 --> 00:04:52.279 You have to like relearn all of this stuff with them, 98 00:04:52.399 --> 00:04:52.800 all of it. 99 00:04:53.079 --> 00:04:55.759 Yeah? No, I did you know the alphabet change? Yeah? 100 00:04:55.800 --> 00:04:56.600 What I know? 101 00:04:57.160 --> 00:05:00.560 Like the alphabet song that's been since the of time 102 00:05:00.720 --> 00:05:02.160 the dinosaurs. 103 00:05:02.600 --> 00:05:04.639 I know, I'm telling you. I just I was like 104 00:05:04.720 --> 00:05:07.079 sucked down this hole, this black hole on TikTok, making 105 00:05:07.120 --> 00:05:12.519 me feel like I need my botox and my AARP card. 106 00:05:13.319 --> 00:05:16.920 Stat I am feeling very wrinkly and like all of 107 00:05:16.920 --> 00:05:20.000 a sudden because I read an article online not too 108 00:05:20.079 --> 00:05:25.120 long ago that basically said that there are two like 109 00:05:25.160 --> 00:05:28.360 women don't age a little bit every single year, there 110 00:05:28.360 --> 00:05:31.199 are two stages in your life where you age like 111 00:05:31.639 --> 00:05:34.439 drastically at one period and then it's like another decade 112 00:05:34.519 --> 00:05:37.240 or decade and a half, and then you age drastically again. 113 00:05:37.680 --> 00:05:40.279 Really it's like twenty one and like forty. 114 00:05:40.879 --> 00:05:44.199 Oh, and like those are the two times where like 115 00:05:44.279 --> 00:05:47.439 you'll just it's overnight and you just see it. And 116 00:05:47.480 --> 00:05:52.519 I was like, oh shit, I don't feel like, no, 117 00:05:53.120 --> 00:05:57.160 how about thirty three. I'm gonna be thirty three on Saturday. 118 00:05:57.240 --> 00:05:59.120 I say, one of us is closer to that forty 119 00:05:59.160 --> 00:06:02.040 age range when you are one of us is. 120 00:06:02.720 --> 00:06:04.600 But see that's the thing, is like I feel like 121 00:06:04.639 --> 00:06:09.560 I'm forty already. No, yeah, it's just because we never sleep. 122 00:06:10.079 --> 00:06:12.279 Yeah, I said that too. I was like I did 123 00:06:12.279 --> 00:06:14.399 this on the air. I said, who has like a 124 00:06:14.439 --> 00:06:17.879 great hack for looking and feeling younger? If like I 125 00:06:18.000 --> 00:06:22.560 don't get enough exercise, water, sleep, or vegetables. And I'm 126 00:06:22.600 --> 00:06:24.480 not going to change any of that, but I would 127 00:06:24.480 --> 00:06:29.040 still like the wonderful results. Yeah. Like I'm at the 128 00:06:29.040 --> 00:06:31.240 point where I understand none of those things can really 129 00:06:31.279 --> 00:06:34.000 be changed. I started walking and like, I am now 130 00:06:34.040 --> 00:06:38.160 my right hip hearts. Oh yeah, that's stupid, but it 131 00:06:38.360 --> 00:06:40.519 and so I'm like, this is dumb. My son came 132 00:06:40.560 --> 00:06:42.199 up to me the other day. He ran to give 133 00:06:42.199 --> 00:06:44.160 me a hug, and he said, Mom, you feel like 134 00:06:44.160 --> 00:06:49.079 a bed oh, meaning my body feels like a memory 135 00:06:49.120 --> 00:06:50.279 foam mattress to him. 136 00:06:50.639 --> 00:06:55.600 No, No, that's not what he meant. He meant you 137 00:06:55.720 --> 00:07:01.920 feel so go ahead safe like comforting. To me, it's 138 00:07:01.959 --> 00:07:04.079 so nice, that's what he meant. 139 00:07:04.120 --> 00:07:06.519 I think he meant that my belly could act as 140 00:07:06.560 --> 00:07:08.600 one of those weird jumpy things you see at the 141 00:07:08.600 --> 00:07:12.120 apple orchard. That's great. 142 00:07:12.480 --> 00:07:15.439 Yeah, And I do feel like I am officially at 143 00:07:15.439 --> 00:07:17.439 the age where like I'm gonna start getting into the 144 00:07:17.480 --> 00:07:18.240 weird fitness sh it. 145 00:07:19.000 --> 00:07:25.759 Yeah. Yeah, Like I scene trampolines, like mini trampolines. Love it, 146 00:07:25.839 --> 00:07:28.399 love it, yes, yes love. 147 00:07:29.079 --> 00:07:33.199 NASA said that rebounding on a mini trampoline for ten 148 00:07:33.240 --> 00:07:36.879 minutes was better for you than going for a thirty 149 00:07:36.920 --> 00:07:40.120 minute jog. Are you and you're sold as well? I'll 150 00:07:40.120 --> 00:07:42.160 buy you one too. We can do it together. Well 151 00:07:42.279 --> 00:07:45.399 ten minutes you had me at NASA. Ten minutes on 152 00:07:45.439 --> 00:07:49.079 a mini trampoline. Rebounding is better for your cardiovascular health 153 00:07:49.079 --> 00:07:50.480 than running for thirty minutes. 154 00:07:51.040 --> 00:07:53.199 You know one thing I'll say about TikTok. They're gonna 155 00:07:53.240 --> 00:07:56.000 somehow have real cute, freaking trampolines to buy in like 156 00:07:56.360 --> 00:07:59.759 a week one hundred percent are be like they already do. 157 00:08:00.399 --> 00:08:02.480 But I was at my parents' house over the weekend 158 00:08:02.680 --> 00:08:04.839 and we still have the one from when I was 159 00:08:04.839 --> 00:08:05.560 a child. 160 00:08:05.920 --> 00:08:09.600 Wait in the basement. Oh, like the tiny one. Yes, 161 00:08:10.040 --> 00:08:11.000 does it have the handlebar? 162 00:08:11.439 --> 00:08:11.519 No? 163 00:08:12.000 --> 00:08:14.040 Okay, my kids have the one with the handlebar. Yeah. 164 00:08:14.079 --> 00:08:16.120 I feel like that's the way to go, because you know, 165 00:08:17.560 --> 00:08:20.279 falls at this age, a fall girl. 166 00:08:20.319 --> 00:08:22.519 One of my hips is already after I can't spare 167 00:08:22.560 --> 00:08:23.160 the other one. 168 00:08:24.720 --> 00:08:28.680 And it's supposed to be really good for her lymphatic drainage. 169 00:08:29.279 --> 00:08:31.160 Oh my god, you know, which is like when you 170 00:08:31.199 --> 00:08:34.480 get puffy places and you just don't You've got the 171 00:08:34.519 --> 00:08:37.639 bouncing is supposed to be it's supposed to be good 172 00:08:37.639 --> 00:08:37.799 for that. 173 00:08:37.879 --> 00:08:41.039 You do that when you're pregnant. They got a ball. Oh, 174 00:08:41.159 --> 00:08:44.960 they say it's great for labor. We're supposed to get 175 00:08:44.960 --> 00:08:48.200 things moving. It didn't work for me. But there's so 176 00:08:48.279 --> 00:08:51.639 many things. My oldest sister is pregnant with her first baby. 177 00:08:51.759 --> 00:08:55.279 Oh I saw the pictures. Yes, so I'm super excited. 178 00:08:55.320 --> 00:08:58.960 I get to meet my next little Mini Mac Munchkin 179 00:08:59.240 --> 00:09:04.759 and Mini Man December. But you know, with each pregnancy, 180 00:09:04.799 --> 00:09:07.639 because my middle sister has three kids, So you know, 181 00:09:07.679 --> 00:09:09.399 I feel like I kind of know some stuff, but 182 00:09:09.440 --> 00:09:13.080 then there's just like there's other you just keep googling, 183 00:09:13.120 --> 00:09:19.679 and there's no shortage of information about pregnancy. Yeah, and 184 00:09:19.759 --> 00:09:23.720 like this stuff that some people know and some people 185 00:09:23.759 --> 00:09:26.879 don't know. And I'm like, what did people do before Google? 186 00:09:27.039 --> 00:09:29.799 Like this information was not just like available if you 187 00:09:29.840 --> 00:09:31.320 wanted to search these things. 188 00:09:32.840 --> 00:09:37.360 It's wild, it's insane. I don't know how I've I don't. 189 00:09:37.399 --> 00:09:40.279 I don't know how I did two of them and did. 190 00:09:41.320 --> 00:09:44.399 I'm good. We're so go ahead leave that out of 191 00:09:44.440 --> 00:09:47.080 the comments section. I got to ask that again last week, 192 00:09:47.440 --> 00:09:50.000 thinking about a third, I was like, my daughter pooped 193 00:09:50.000 --> 00:09:52.919 on a neighbor's fence. No, I'm not thinking about a third. 194 00:09:53.279 --> 00:09:56.080 As soon as I get my second one fully potty trained, 195 00:09:56.519 --> 00:10:00.320 i am done. I am retired for children. I will 196 00:10:00.320 --> 00:10:04.879 see them through to adulthood. But no, I'm not. Nope, 197 00:10:05.039 --> 00:10:09.600 couldn't go back. Love it, Love it for whoever wants that. 198 00:10:09.600 --> 00:10:13.039 That's fabulous. But when you have a visceral reaction to 199 00:10:13.080 --> 00:10:15.720 someone telling you that they're having another child. This happened 200 00:10:15.720 --> 00:10:18.240 to me on a party bus. Two years ago, we 201 00:10:18.679 --> 00:10:21.080 were taking a party bus around for a Pulaski Days, 202 00:10:21.080 --> 00:10:24.039 which is a local Polish festival in West Michigan. Yeah, 203 00:10:24.080 --> 00:10:27.360 and the guy was a representative from I think cors 204 00:10:27.399 --> 00:10:29.360 Light and he was kind of in charge of everything. 205 00:10:29.399 --> 00:10:32.480 They sponsored the bus with listeners whatever. So fun it was. 206 00:10:32.639 --> 00:10:34.720 And we got to talking and I said, you know, 207 00:10:34.759 --> 00:10:37.039 this is really cool. You're out here, like you working 208 00:10:37.039 --> 00:10:39.600 a fourteen sixteen hour day. That's intense. He goes, oh, 209 00:10:39.679 --> 00:10:41.679 I'm thrilled. This is my first time out of the 210 00:10:41.679 --> 00:10:44.600 house in like a month. My wife just had a baby. 211 00:10:44.639 --> 00:10:47.399 And I was like, oh my god, congratulations. He's like thanks, 212 00:10:47.399 --> 00:10:52.679 we're really excited. And he goes, we had three and 213 00:10:53.080 --> 00:10:57.360 she wanted more. She wanted five kids, and I said 214 00:10:57.360 --> 00:11:00.600 that's a lot. And he goes, may you will try 215 00:11:00.639 --> 00:11:04.440 for one more. And they had twins. And I was like, 216 00:11:05.519 --> 00:11:08.919 I mean I stumbled bahack, like physically stumbled on the bus. 217 00:11:08.919 --> 00:11:12.120 I'm like, oh, he goes, yeah, no, we feel really blessed. 218 00:11:12.159 --> 00:11:18.440 Five under nine. And I thought, you're never gonna have 219 00:11:18.960 --> 00:11:23.879 any money, money or sleep or like they'll put you 220 00:11:23.960 --> 00:11:26.720 in a nice home, hopefully, because I. 221 00:11:26.799 --> 00:11:28.799 Think so not the way this is. Then you're going, 222 00:11:28.960 --> 00:11:29.360 this is. 223 00:11:30.000 --> 00:11:32.240 So damn tired, I know. And that's when I realized. 224 00:11:32.279 --> 00:11:34.679 I'm like, there's the closure I needed. Like if that's 225 00:11:34.759 --> 00:11:39.279 my reaction because at that point, yeah, I had I 226 00:11:39.279 --> 00:11:41.120 would have had Sophia would have been like eight ten 227 00:11:41.159 --> 00:11:42.960 months old when he said that to me, and I 228 00:11:43.000 --> 00:11:48.320 was like, I know, is it rushtag blessed but ashtag 229 00:11:48.399 --> 00:11:51.679 bless Is it like rude to ask? 230 00:11:52.080 --> 00:11:54.360 Like I know these people who are pregnant with these 231 00:11:54.399 --> 00:11:58.279 babies that are very friends, but like, I can't lie. 232 00:11:58.320 --> 00:11:59.639 There's a part of me that wants to be like, 233 00:11:59.720 --> 00:12:01.200 so the money thing, like how are you going to 234 00:12:01.279 --> 00:12:02.080 make how do we. 235 00:12:02.039 --> 00:12:04.720 Make this work? I would love to know how do 236 00:12:04.759 --> 00:12:07.879 we do this? Because I never I never lied. I 237 00:12:07.919 --> 00:12:09.679 was just like, oh, I don't know. I expect to 238 00:12:09.720 --> 00:12:11.320 live in debt like I would. 239 00:12:11.360 --> 00:12:19.440 I would have no concept idea educated guests on what 240 00:12:19.600 --> 00:12:22.919 it might cost to bring a baby home from the 241 00:12:22.919 --> 00:12:27.480 hospital and like buy diapers and formula if you need it, 242 00:12:27.600 --> 00:12:29.840 and like all of the things that you have to 243 00:12:29.919 --> 00:12:33.879 keep a child. I would have no idea what any 244 00:12:33.919 --> 00:12:35.440 of that would cost. 245 00:12:36.120 --> 00:12:38.440 But you don't know, because you never I don't know. 246 00:12:38.480 --> 00:12:41.840 Maybe there's people that are better at financial planning show. 247 00:12:41.919 --> 00:12:44.480 I never know knew. I just know I did it. 248 00:12:44.519 --> 00:12:46.720 I bought it and like paid as much of the 249 00:12:46.759 --> 00:12:48.399 credit card as I could at the end of the month, 250 00:12:48.840 --> 00:12:51.519 right because I mean, you know, I can barely do 251 00:12:51.559 --> 00:12:53.840 those things for myself and then pay off the credit 252 00:12:53.879 --> 00:12:55.120 card at the end of the month. Oh my god. 253 00:12:55.120 --> 00:12:57.080 I don't know if this is major algorithm yet. Maybe 254 00:12:57.120 --> 00:12:59.759 it's just for the emotional moms. Have you seen the 255 00:13:00.080 --> 00:13:02.120 TikTok trend? She deserves the purse? 256 00:13:03.200 --> 00:13:03.279 No? 257 00:13:03.639 --> 00:13:07.159 Oh man, I literally just got served it like this morning, 258 00:13:07.480 --> 00:13:09.679 and it's this woman who is going around and I've 259 00:13:09.679 --> 00:13:12.799 seen stories like this and sticking twenty dollars bills in 260 00:13:12.960 --> 00:13:17.159 like the tops of formula and into diaper bags and 261 00:13:17.200 --> 00:13:19.799 into things that like new moms would buy, so they'd 262 00:13:19.799 --> 00:13:21.879 open it up and just find like a little bit 263 00:13:21.879 --> 00:13:24.679 of extra cash. And she got back in her car 264 00:13:24.720 --> 00:13:27.399 and all she said was she deserves the purse. And 265 00:13:27.440 --> 00:13:29.960 it's turned into this whole thing where like mom sacrifice 266 00:13:30.159 --> 00:13:32.720 so much. It's like they don't buy new things for themselves, 267 00:13:32.799 --> 00:13:35.399 they don't treat themselves. They're just so focused on trying 268 00:13:35.399 --> 00:13:37.679 to be a good mom and constantly feeling that they're 269 00:13:37.679 --> 00:13:40.879 never making the mark, that it's rare they take any 270 00:13:40.879 --> 00:13:43.919 time to really praise how well they're doing. Let me 271 00:13:44.000 --> 00:13:49.799 tell you sitting in my studio sabin, because it was 272 00:13:49.919 --> 00:13:54.240 just it was such a perfect example of I think 273 00:13:54.440 --> 00:13:57.679 what women especially do in being new moms. And this 274 00:13:57.720 --> 00:13:59.799 girl was just like she's probably in her early twenties, 275 00:14:00.240 --> 00:14:03.120 just like sticking just bills of money and different things 276 00:14:03.120 --> 00:14:05.120 around like a grocery store, and just said she deserves 277 00:14:05.120 --> 00:14:05.480 the purse. 278 00:14:05.759 --> 00:14:09.000 Let me ask you this coming from someone who does 279 00:14:09.039 --> 00:14:12.440 not have any children. If I were to go were 280 00:14:12.480 --> 00:14:15.000 to come to you a mom of two and be like, hey, 281 00:14:15.480 --> 00:14:16.639 you're doing a really great job. 282 00:14:17.320 --> 00:14:19.039 Oh, I would immediately tell you all the things I'm 283 00:14:19.039 --> 00:14:20.440 doing wrong and not accept the compliment. 284 00:14:20.639 --> 00:14:24.200 But like, what my question is doesn't mean less from 285 00:14:24.240 --> 00:14:27.399 someone who like doesn't have kids, like or like a stranger, like, 286 00:14:27.399 --> 00:14:28.960 how the fuck would you know how I'm doing as 287 00:14:29.000 --> 00:14:30.919 a mom. You're not my kids, like you're not my husband, 288 00:14:30.919 --> 00:14:33.399 like you don't get to see or you know. 289 00:14:33.399 --> 00:14:40.440 Because no, I think it does still fully mean it 290 00:14:40.559 --> 00:14:43.919 means a lot because I'm just assuming that maybe you 291 00:14:44.039 --> 00:14:46.919 watch like the things that I post on social media, 292 00:14:47.080 --> 00:14:50.320 or you hear me discuss it on my shows or 293 00:14:50.320 --> 00:14:53.200 on the podcast. It does still mean the same to 294 00:14:53.240 --> 00:14:55.799 me whether or not you have kids. 295 00:14:56.120 --> 00:14:58.320 Yeah, because that is something I think about with my 296 00:14:58.360 --> 00:15:02.080 friends who have kids, is that you lose your identity 297 00:15:02.240 --> 00:15:04.519 a lot when you have a child, because it's like 298 00:15:04.559 --> 00:15:09.960 you're not Ali anymore. Your so and so's mom now, right, 299 00:15:10.519 --> 00:15:12.960 and like that's and like people will be like, how 300 00:15:12.960 --> 00:15:17.399 are you doing, mama, and it's like, yeah, how are 301 00:15:17.440 --> 00:15:17.919 you doing? 302 00:15:18.759 --> 00:15:21.519 Lauren. Whenever I would go and visit friends that had 303 00:15:21.559 --> 00:15:24.960 just had babies, I would never ask about the baby first, right. 304 00:15:25.000 --> 00:15:27.159 I think a lot of new moms do, like know 305 00:15:27.279 --> 00:15:30.000 that they'll come in. I always had gifts that I 306 00:15:30.039 --> 00:15:33.840 gave her first, or I was wine, if it was food, 307 00:15:34.759 --> 00:15:38.399 and it was always like a hug to her eye contact, 308 00:15:38.679 --> 00:15:40.720 not picking the baby up yet, because I would really 309 00:15:40.759 --> 00:15:42.559 like to just check in first on how you're doing, 310 00:15:42.799 --> 00:15:45.159 because I bet like not a lot of people have 311 00:15:45.200 --> 00:15:47.759 asked that yet, Right, where's the baby? 312 00:15:47.840 --> 00:15:48.000 Oh? 313 00:15:48.000 --> 00:15:50.840 Look at shit, you're so hyper aware. That's amazing. 314 00:15:51.279 --> 00:15:54.399 Well, I mean, like I try, yeah. 315 00:15:54.039 --> 00:15:57.200 But that's that counts just as much too. Oh That's 316 00:15:57.200 --> 00:15:59.519 why I adore. This woman I follow named Lindsay Girk, 317 00:16:00.080 --> 00:16:02.320 and she started the company Get Your Pink Patch Your 318 00:16:02.320 --> 00:16:05.000 Pink Back. Yeah, I follow her too, I adore. I'm like, 319 00:16:05.240 --> 00:16:07.559 oh my gosh, she's got this whole brand she's built now. 320 00:16:07.639 --> 00:16:10.879 Because flamingos pretty much lose all of their pink when 321 00:16:10.879 --> 00:16:13.279 they have their kids because they're giving so much nutrients 322 00:16:13.279 --> 00:16:16.159 and energy to their baby flamingos, it's like two or 323 00:16:16.159 --> 00:16:19.039 three years before they get their pink back. Wow, I know. 324 00:16:19.240 --> 00:16:21.320 And I'm like, I mean, I do have my pink 325 00:16:21.360 --> 00:16:24.799 every day, but some days are pinker than others. 326 00:16:25.559 --> 00:16:31.000 What if you don't have it going in? Just gray flamingos. 327 00:16:31.039 --> 00:16:33.240 I also I also feel that. Let me tell you. 328 00:16:33.320 --> 00:16:35.559 The other day, I was like, hey, you guys, do 329 00:16:35.559 --> 00:16:37.960 you want to watch some Halloween movies? And Will goes 330 00:16:38.000 --> 00:16:42.639 how many? I go like twelve? I have nothing me today? 331 00:16:43.159 --> 00:16:45.279 You just want to put on them? He that lunch, 332 00:16:46.320 --> 00:16:48.159 I said, I will you get you get in that 333 00:16:48.159 --> 00:16:51.879 little movie room and I will just keep on streaming. Yeah, 334 00:16:51.919 --> 00:16:53.879 and sometimes there's days that I have to do that. 335 00:16:54.120 --> 00:16:56.279 It was my couch rot day. I felt so proud 336 00:16:56.639 --> 00:16:58.600 because you've taught me that couchrot. 337 00:16:58.919 --> 00:17:01.759 You've taught me the ways you need it. You need 338 00:17:01.799 --> 00:17:04.680 to rest like that, And honestly, I think your kids. 339 00:17:04.400 --> 00:17:06.680 Probably also do. I think so too. 340 00:17:07.039 --> 00:17:09.359 I think they also need a day where they just 341 00:17:09.440 --> 00:17:11.839 don't do anything. And I know, like the screen time 342 00:17:11.880 --> 00:17:15.400 and we're so worried about them watching TV and whatever. 343 00:17:14.880 --> 00:17:18.240 But like I grew up doing it. I'm okay. Look 344 00:17:18.759 --> 00:17:25.039 and driving, okay, use another example. But it does make 345 00:17:25.079 --> 00:17:27.599 me feel better when I read the articles though, that's like, hey, 346 00:17:27.680 --> 00:17:30.839 stop overscheduling your kids. It's cool if they're just sitting 347 00:17:30.839 --> 00:17:34.319 in the backyard for four hours with no actual structure. Yeah, 348 00:17:34.440 --> 00:17:35.480 I mean, oh thank god. 349 00:17:36.359 --> 00:17:39.240 Every second of my day was not planned out as 350 00:17:39.240 --> 00:17:43.359 a kid. Like my parents both worked full time year 351 00:17:43.440 --> 00:17:46.200 round because my dad was a teacher and a coach. 352 00:17:46.960 --> 00:17:49.319 My mom had a job. So like in the summer, 353 00:17:49.359 --> 00:17:52.559 they were like, hey, good luck, see you in the streets. 354 00:17:53.200 --> 00:17:55.440 You get hurt today doing whatever you get up to. 355 00:17:56.440 --> 00:17:58.279 I'm like, I'm not gonna lie. A lot of the 356 00:17:58.319 --> 00:18:03.640 times it was like Cereal and Disney Channel. Oh like, 357 00:18:03.799 --> 00:18:05.839 maybe walk outside to get the mail. That sounds like 358 00:18:05.880 --> 00:18:08.119 a dream of a day. Talk take the dog out 359 00:18:08.200 --> 00:18:11.079 on it, Like I was. Don't you feel like we 360 00:18:11.079 --> 00:18:16.720 were literally retired in the summers, especially middle school, because 361 00:18:16.759 --> 00:18:18.759 it was like you were a little more independent, you 362 00:18:18.759 --> 00:18:21.319 were a little more autonomous. You could do that, like 363 00:18:21.359 --> 00:18:24.759 you could ride your bike places and like see people, 364 00:18:25.119 --> 00:18:27.279 and that was the first time where you didn't need 365 00:18:27.319 --> 00:18:27.720 to like. 366 00:18:28.480 --> 00:18:30.359 Hey can I do this? Hey can I do this? 367 00:18:30.480 --> 00:18:32.200 Like you can just if you wanted to ride your 368 00:18:32.200 --> 00:18:33.960 bike to the kid in the neighborhood that you used 369 00:18:33.960 --> 00:18:36.160 to hang out with, you could do that, yeah, or 370 00:18:36.200 --> 00:18:37.920 to the pool or whatever and just be back for 371 00:18:38.039 --> 00:18:38.880 your parents got home. 372 00:18:39.039 --> 00:18:40.640 And it felt, oh, man, I don't know if you 373 00:18:40.640 --> 00:18:42.920 would have had this. Maybe we're far enough apart an 374 00:18:42.960 --> 00:18:45.640 age that you wouldn't have, but like we still had 375 00:18:45.640 --> 00:18:47.480 the privacy enough too. Once you could get to that 376 00:18:47.559 --> 00:18:49.319 point and like go do things on your own, you 377 00:18:49.359 --> 00:18:51.759 didn't have to call on the landline and like wait 378 00:18:51.799 --> 00:18:54.680 for the other person's parent like pick up, decide if 379 00:18:54.680 --> 00:18:57.599 you can talk, maybe your parents listening on the other line. 380 00:18:57.920 --> 00:18:59.960 I remember feeling like so many of my secrets were 381 00:19:00.119 --> 00:19:03.799 kept because this was a little before our cell phones. Yeah, 382 00:19:03.880 --> 00:19:05.319 that was oot. I didn't have a cell phone till 383 00:19:05.359 --> 00:19:08.559 the sixteen, and I just remember being like bike independence 384 00:19:08.920 --> 00:19:10.920 where I could go and like see what's up. Like 385 00:19:11.160 --> 00:19:12.799 I didn't even have to call before I came. 386 00:19:12.839 --> 00:19:16.400 And like once you leave the house, yeah i'll be 387 00:19:16.440 --> 00:19:19.759 back by seven or eight. There was no communication until 388 00:19:19.799 --> 00:19:21.440 you got back at seven or eight. 389 00:19:22.160 --> 00:19:24.319 And that is just miles west. 390 00:19:24.599 --> 00:19:28.359 That's got to be such a weird thing for a 391 00:19:28.480 --> 00:19:32.599 parent our age, Yeah, to like have grown up not 392 00:19:33.119 --> 00:19:36.079 having constant communication. But now it's ingrained in us, right, 393 00:19:36.160 --> 00:19:38.599 Like we get a hold of people immediately all the time. 394 00:19:38.680 --> 00:19:40.240 If I can't get a hold of you via text, 395 00:19:40.240 --> 00:19:42.200 I'm gonna call you, I'm gonna leave a message, I'm 396 00:19:42.200 --> 00:19:46.279 gonna email you, I'm gonna DM you, I'm gonna WhatsApp 397 00:19:46.359 --> 00:19:48.960 you like up And now our kids, it's like you 398 00:19:49.000 --> 00:19:50.000 can't escape anything. 399 00:19:50.559 --> 00:19:53.279 You cannot escape us. Well, it's crazy. Sometimes I feel 400 00:19:53.319 --> 00:19:57.640 like a lax shitty parent because like there's parents in 401 00:19:57.640 --> 00:20:01.000