Speaker 1: Welcome to Hanwy Tagalog Sermon Podcast, your daily dose of inspiring,
Speaker 1: heartfelt Tagalog sermons from different pastors and speakers all over
Speaker 1: the Philippines. We hope that this podcast finds you in
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Speaker 2: Our Bible. Hold it up. We're going to declare who
Speaker 2: we are. Are you ready?
Speaker 1: Let's do it. This is my Bible. It is the
Speaker 1: standard I live my life by. I am a spirit
Speaker 1: filled believer, sustained by my personal relationship with the Lord,
Speaker 1: empowered by my commitment to community and express throughout reach
Speaker 1: to others. Therefore, I can say and uh, all right, hey,
Speaker 1: turn your bulletin over. We're going to complete this segment
Speaker 1: of the Blessed Life. We've been looking at life in
Speaker 1: our home. We're going to complete that today. What have
Speaker 1: we talked about, Well, we started this about a month
Speaker 1: ago with aim for restoration, and we had different ones
Speaker 1: participate actually shooting their bows up here, and they did
Speaker 1: a great job hitting the target.
Speaker 2: So you've got to aim at it. Are you with me?
Speaker 1: It's not something you just stumble until you've got to aim.
Speaker 1: And then Pastor Mike where one of our overseers. He
Speaker 1: and his wife Jeannie were here and they did an
Speaker 1: excellent job.
Speaker 2: And Mike with his humor, they spoke.
Speaker 1: Then we looked at communication, we looked at commitment. So
Speaker 1: those are other subjects. The message from last week will
Speaker 1: be on the app later today. If you've been looking
Speaker 1: for that. Now where we headed. Let me give you
Speaker 1: some just direction of what's going on. On Wednesday nights,
Speaker 1: we have all our discipleship classes and it's a lot
Speaker 1: of fun. So if you're not here, have it. Come
Speaker 1: on Wednesday, come check out a class. There's options for you.
Speaker 1: Next week is Mother's Day and I know the ladies
Speaker 1: and the team. They've been working on all kinds of
Speaker 1: things to give out, from scripture to candy. How about that,
Speaker 1: ladies chocolate? Yeah, chocolate, Miss Charling and Skittles. So what
Speaker 1: did the guys get?
Speaker 2: Nothing? Okay, Father's Day. It's gonna be a fun day.
Speaker 1: So all the ladies, it doesn't matter if your mother not,
Speaker 1: Every lady, every little girl in the house is going
Speaker 1: to be honored. Now write this date down, the sixteenth,
Speaker 1: that's a week from this Wednesday. I'm going to bring
Speaker 1: some friends in from Ohio, some dear friends, Pat and
Speaker 1: Jackie Murray, We've been real good friends now for about
Speaker 1: twelve years I think, and we participate in significant church
Speaker 1: working on that. So we're together several times a year.
Speaker 1: Awesome family. Just they live the life. They're the real deal.
Speaker 1: And about seven eight years ago, they were in a
Speaker 1: really severe accident where they both should have been killed. Okay,
Speaker 1: he ended up with his back broken in this. He
Speaker 1: was supposed to never walk again. She had brain trauma
Speaker 1: and she's an argan donor, and they kept the coolers
Speaker 1: by her bed to harvest her argans because the doctor
Speaker 1: said she wouldn't live well. Jesus visited them both in
Speaker 1: separate rooms and healed her. Bam touched her. He visited her,
Speaker 1: and she'll share some of the things the Lord actually
Speaker 1: told her. Touched him, and I mean they put all
Speaker 1: these rods and stuff in his back to try to help.
Speaker 1: Touched him. We're going to go cycling together on Thursday. Okay,
Speaker 1: he stands straight. It's like when you look at him,
Speaker 1: the picture of health. So remember the scripture revelation. The
Speaker 1: testimony of Jesus is the spirit of prophecy. What Jesus
Speaker 1: did for them he wants to do again. So if
Speaker 1: you need a touch in your body. You know someone
Speaker 1: that does. Bring them here? Get over all the other stuff.
Speaker 1: Why don't someone to know of this, Get over all
Speaker 1: that phony baloney. I need touches from I'm come normally
Speaker 1: pray time I'm down here. I want someone to pray
Speaker 1: with me. We all have need.
Speaker 2: Are you with me?
Speaker 1: So come and they're gonna tell their story. We're gonna
Speaker 1: bring all the classes together. We're trying to do an
Speaker 1: awakening service every three months. They're gonna tell this story.
Speaker 1: Then I'm gonna let them lay hands on people and
Speaker 1: pray for people. They have great compassion, and so it's
Speaker 1: gonna be on the sixteenth. This is gonna be a fun,
Speaker 1: fun night.
Speaker 2: Amen.
Speaker 1: And then on the twentieth, two weeks from today. I've
Speaker 1: asked Angela Mentor and her husband Pornell to come and share.
Speaker 1: It just worked out that Sunday works for them. Angela
Speaker 1: runs the only pro life organization in our state that
Speaker 1: really ministers at the one abortion clinic that's left. Now,
Speaker 1: please hear my heart on this. Okay, If anyone has
Speaker 1: had an abortion, God's a healer and he heals you.
Speaker 1: And then but I'm telling you, listen to me. We
Speaker 1: can pray for revival. We can pray for awakening, but
Speaker 1: until the children are stopped being sacrificed on the altar
Speaker 1: of bail, it's not coming. Did you hear me, It's
Speaker 1: not coming. So we have to pray for this to stop.
Speaker 1: I know there's still illegal things that would take place,
Speaker 1: but if we're legally killing children, I don't know if
Speaker 1: you realize the awfulness of it. And I worked down
Speaker 1: there at this clinic last year for a week with
Speaker 1: Angeline different ones, so her testimony is powerful, very eloquent
Speaker 1: when she speaks, We participate in her banquets and so forth.
Speaker 1: I want you to watch this little video so you
Speaker 1: can kind of see what they do in the spirit
Speaker 1: of excellence that she does day with a team of
Speaker 1: ladies down at that abortion meal.
Speaker 3: And they don't wanna hear anything you have to say,
Speaker 3: and so we really have to be empathic listeners and
Speaker 3: enter into their world to really try to see what
Speaker 3: they are dealing with. The mission of Sisters for Life
Speaker 3: is to act as an advocate for the preborn babies
Speaker 3: and their mothers and fathers to find themselves faced with
Speaker 3: the crisis or unplanned pregnancy. We do side while counseling
Speaker 3: Tuesday through Saturday, and we make sure that women and
Speaker 3: men that come into that abortion mill at the MW
Speaker 3: understand that they do UH have another choice available to them,
Speaker 3: and that the Lord loves them, and that He's got
Speaker 3: a plan and purpose UH for their life and for
Speaker 3: their baby's life, and that there's much help available. And
Speaker 3: in addition to them that we are called by God
Speaker 3: to advocate for godly family values. We believe that God
Speaker 3: had it right and he said marriage he p is
Speaker 3: between a man and a woman, and UH that parents
Speaker 3: are to raise their children and the fear and the
Speaker 3: admonition of the Lord. And so our goal with Sisters
Speaker 3: for Life is to make sure that we do our
Speaker 3: part and sin that families are able to carry out
Speaker 3: that eternal plant. We are called to carry out our
Speaker 3: mission by raising the awareness of the effect that abortion
Speaker 3: is having UH on the community as a whole, on
Speaker 3: the country as a whole, but the African American community
Speaker 3: in particular. And so one of the ways that we
Speaker 3: do that is through our weekly radio broadcast. When you
Speaker 3: think of the UH over three thousand babies that are
Speaker 3: killed UH every day every day UH through abortion on
Speaker 3: the altar of choice and inconvenience, and how many people
Speaker 3: that are not talking about that particular issue and have
Speaker 3: no idea that that's even happening. So we have a
Speaker 3: responsibility to share that information. The African American community is
Speaker 3: being ravaged by abortion and people aren't talking about or
Speaker 3: we're being that voice. You know, somebody's got to say.
Speaker 3: You know, the truth of God's word has not changed.
Speaker 3: Laws have changed, but the truth of God's word has
Speaker 3: not changed. God has raised up Sisters for Life as
Speaker 3: the only organized black pro life organization in the Commonwealth
Speaker 3: of Kentucky, to be a voice to speak up for
Speaker 3: the pre one babies, to speak up for the mothers
Speaker 3: and the fathers, but to also speak up for the
Speaker 3: Black community, and to say we need to stop killing
Speaker 3: our babies. We have to stop killing our babies. Sisters
Speaker 3: for Life exist because God has called us to this work.
Speaker 3: He wants us to let these mothers know that He
Speaker 3: loves them. He loves their babies. That's why he gave
Speaker 3: the son Jesus, and we believe it. As we helped them,
Speaker 3: the mothers and their babies, we will see the glory
Speaker 3: of God manifest.
Speaker 1: And the saved is profound when you hear her testimony,
Speaker 1: she and her husband and how they got saved and
Speaker 1: the journey they had to go through because she's had
Speaker 1: two abortions. That was before she knew the Lord, even
Speaker 1: though it was wrong. And she is changing the complexion
Speaker 1: of Louisville by the stand she's making. Everybody wants to
Speaker 1: use the Lord. But I tell you what, this is
Speaker 1: a real battle. Now. I want you to know that's
Speaker 1: a hero of mine. Did you hear me? That is
Speaker 1: a hero. No, they're not throwing a ball or catching
Speaker 1: or this or that. But someone she sent me a
Speaker 1: text other she said, brother, Mark, we just saved two babies,
Speaker 1: you know, And it just brings tears to my eyes
Speaker 1: because this must be addressed. If we're going to have
Speaker 1: a move of God. Now we can do all the
Speaker 1: other things. Well, I wish this would happen, This would happen,
Speaker 1: this change wish. That's all fine, And we can use
Speaker 1: all our time just moving the chest pieces around of
Speaker 1: how we want God to do things or what she
Speaker 1: would do it this way. But until we get onto
Speaker 1: the heartbeat of God, do you hear me? Church?
Speaker 2: Please the heartbeat of God.
Speaker 1: He hates the shedding of innocent blood, the blessing of
Speaker 1: God will not fully fall now. The prayers of the
Speaker 1: saints and the sacrifices that people are making now is
Speaker 1: what's sustaining God's judgment.
Speaker 2: It really is.
Speaker 1: What if Kentucky would be the first abortion for his state,
Speaker 1: I think, yeah, come on, yeah, And I'm not making
Speaker 1: light of any of the circumstances that led to that
Speaker 1: pregnancy and all that we understand. It's complicated. But until
Speaker 1: they know there are other options, because that is a child,
Speaker 1: as a quote by Ronald Reagan said, he said, appears
Speaker 1: to me the only ones that are for abortioned have
Speaker 1: already been born. If you were in the womb, you
Speaker 1: would not before abortion. That's simple. And so God has
Speaker 1: a plan and he wants to do something great a Kentucky. Well,
Speaker 1: these are things. Look when I'm here on Monday morning,
Speaker 1: that's what I'm praying for. Yes, I'm praying for each
Speaker 1: one of our bobos and hiccups, but I'm praying for
Speaker 1: the things that would cause God to move in our state.
Speaker 1: Would you come pray with me on Mondays. It's a labor,
Speaker 1: it's not easy, but this is the stuff that's absolutely necessary.
Speaker 1: If we're going to see God move, Amen, So bring friends,
Speaker 1: bring people. It'll be a powerful testimony full of compassion
Speaker 1: and truth as she shares. I know it took time
Speaker 1: with that, but I wanted to see that. And then
Speaker 1: on the twenty seventh, which would be three weeks from today,
Speaker 1: we're gonna take the Blessed Life and I'm gonna take
Speaker 1: about four weeks, maybe a little bit more, but I'm
Speaker 1: going to share on I can hear, you can hear
Speaker 1: the voice of God, and you can't have a blessed
Speaker 1: life if you're not hearing on a consistent basis. And
Speaker 1: normally what you hear things He wants to do in
Speaker 1: you and change, Amen, are people to love or reach
Speaker 1: out to normally it's changed or he wants to move
Speaker 1: through you. Those two things. So we're gonna look at
Speaker 1: that and we're gonna take a month or more. All right,
Speaker 1: let's complete this by talking about the upcoming generation. Amen,
Speaker 1: talking about the home, which is anyone younger than you,
Speaker 1: that's the next generation, anyone younger than you. How do we.
Speaker 2: Build the upcoming generation?
Speaker 1: And I'm gonna share some things that we implemented in
Speaker 1: our home or with our children that we learned from
Speaker 1: our mentors who we still talk to. You know, even
Speaker 1: though you've got grown children, you're never finished, are you
Speaker 1: with me? So we still talk with them. What can
Speaker 1: we all of us do to raise a supernatural generation
Speaker 1: where you are impacting and giving life and hope and
Speaker 1: love and direction to the next generation and it causes
Speaker 1: them to meet Listen, more connected to Christ than the culture?
Speaker 2: That's good.
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, So we have to pass our test. Yes,
Speaker 1: where we're more connected to Christ than the culture. And
Speaker 1: sometimes the culture is offense, sometimes the culture is greed
Speaker 1: or selfishness. That we have to pass that test so
Speaker 1: we can help the next generation pass their test. Because
Speaker 1: it's never about you, It's always about the next generation.
Speaker 1: As we say, culture is strong, it's pull on children,
Speaker 1: the ones you want to impart life to. And it
Speaker 1: does that matter if it's your children, grandchildren, children you're mentoring, nieces, nephews, children,
Speaker 1: you work with a neighbor's kids. All of us have people.
Speaker 2: That we can connect to that are younger than us. Amen.
Speaker 2: And we're not helpless, we're not powerless.
Speaker 1: We have the spirit of God, we have the Word
Speaker 1: of God, We've got the wisdom of God. If any
Speaker 1: of you lack the wisdom, let him ask of God.
Speaker 1: He gives liberally. James tells us, So the goal today,
Speaker 1: let's build to culture in our home or workplace, or
Speaker 1: school or wherever you're able to connect and listen, connect intentionally. You,
Speaker 1: as the older generation, connect intentionally. I need help, folks,
Speaker 1: I said, you connect intentionally to them and let the
Speaker 1: culture in your life because of the walk you have
Speaker 1: be stronger than the culture of the world. Proverbs twenty
Speaker 1: two six. The NIV I love the way, it says,
Speaker 1: is st our children off on the way they should go,
Speaker 1: and even when they're old, they will not turn from
Speaker 1: it the way they should go. We know the Bible
Speaker 1: is true. So why is it then that the majority
Speaker 1: of children raised with God centered environment turn away as adults.
Speaker 1: We're going to a dress some of that today. My
Speaker 1: research shows this. Brother Greg has talked about it and
Speaker 1: so forth. But is listen this agrees me. As much
Speaker 1: as eighty eight percent of children raised in some form
Speaker 1: of godly environment turned from God in their young adulthood.
Speaker 2: Now that's staggering.
Speaker 1: Listen, if fear wants to grip my heart, that's what
Speaker 1: it is right there that your children, your grandchildren, your nieces,
Speaker 1: your nephews, the young people you work with as they
Speaker 1: grow up, would want to turn from God? Why is that?
Speaker 1: And I think we should do something about it? How
Speaker 1: many want to make sure that your kids, your grandkids,
Speaker 1: all of that group that you love is not part
Speaker 1: of that statistic?
Speaker 2: Amen?
Speaker 1: Okay, so don't give up. What can we do? How
Speaker 1: do we woo their heart back? Culture is sneak, sneaky, sneaky.
Speaker 1: Let's turn the light on this morning, because culture is
Speaker 1: like candy with poison in it.
Speaker 2: It really is.
Speaker 1: So I'm gonna ask five questions there. They are, don't
Speaker 1: go too far ahead, don't jump and run through it
Speaker 1: too fast. I have it all there for you. But
Speaker 1: let's look at this. If you're married, talk about it
Speaker 1: with your spouse and so forth. Okay, these questions will
Speaker 1: help you have a gauge on the culture and see
Speaker 1: which culture is stronger in your home, or in your workplace,
Speaker 1: or with grandkids or whatever the people you're wanting to influence.
Speaker 1: For Christ, you can't control necessarily the culture out there, right,
Speaker 1: You can't control everything at school and so forth, But
Speaker 1: you can control number one, how much of that culture
Speaker 1: affects you? First, and then how much of it is
Speaker 1: in the environment where you're affecting the younger generation. And again,
Speaker 1: the younger generation is anybody younger than you.
Speaker 2: Amen, All right, here we go. Number one.
Speaker 1: Am I parenting or if you want to use the
Speaker 1: word mentoring or sewing or impacting whatever? Am I parenting
Speaker 1: by convenience? Let's talk about it. I know all of
Speaker 1: the technology we have available is great. I meant two
Speaker 1: year olds know how to operate it.
Speaker 2: Yep, they really do.
Speaker 1: So what we can do is give them a device,
Speaker 1: a video and a lot of sugar and put them
Speaker 1: in a corner because we've got a lot to do.
Speaker 2: We've done it.
Speaker 1: Come on, let's all be honest. We have a lot
Speaker 1: to do and that will hold their attention and we
Speaker 1: can do all the things we need to do. Then
Speaker 1: we recharge the battery because the batteries go. Do it right,
Speaker 1: give them more sugar, and we go do more. It's
Speaker 1: convenient parenting. The problem is fast forward ten years or
Speaker 1: more and now it's gotten complicated. And because of all
Speaker 1: the devices, they spend hours upon hours upon hours with
Speaker 1: all that, and you want to visit with them and
Speaker 1: they're like, who in the world are.
Speaker 2: You what happened.
Speaker 1: Well, when they're young, it's really hard to have in
Speaker 1: depth conversations. It's just fun conversations you have with them.
Speaker 1: It's a who it's great. But now that they're older
Speaker 1: and you want to connect better, they don't want to talk. Then,
Speaker 1: have you noticed that, when they're young, for convenience, we
Speaker 1: plug their life flow merely into technology, And now that
Speaker 1: flow is so thick, it's their oxygen. Technology is their oxygen.
Speaker 1: They have to have it to survive, at least they
Speaker 1: think they have to have it. I may mention this,
Speaker 1: but it bears repeating right here, but I can't remember
Speaker 1: now for sure. Five years ago, seven years ago, I
Speaker 1: went back to Poland to do two camps one summer
Speaker 1: for churches that I administered at. And when I did
Speaker 1: the leader mandate with John Maxwell, so a couple of
Speaker 1: the Spearfield pastors we got real close and they asked
Speaker 1: me to come. They planned it back to back where
Speaker 1: I went to their camps, and it was so astonishing
Speaker 1: but yet alarming to come back here.
Speaker 2: What these churches do.
Speaker 1: They're smaller churches, but most of the people would try
Speaker 1: to plan their vacation together and they would go away
Speaker 1: to another city and rent a facility that would have
Speaker 1: swimming and outdoor activities in the meeting room and we
Speaker 1: would be together and do all the games and different
Speaker 1: teachings and worship times.
Speaker 2: And all that.
Speaker 1: And as I watched the families or watched the people,
Speaker 1: the teenagers are all helping with the little ones and
Speaker 1: the parents or grandparents, everybody was together. They were together.
Speaker 1: I guess that's proper English. Everybody they were having a blast.
Speaker 1: No one was on their phone. Maybe they had banned
Speaker 1: them for the time, I don't know. A couple of
Speaker 1: times some of the business guys at a certain point
Speaker 1: in afternoon had to leave go to their laptop to
Speaker 1: check things at the office, and they close it and
Speaker 1: put it all away, everybody. And I'm thinking, this is
Speaker 1: how it was when I grew up in the seventies.
Speaker 1: This is what we did. We would go to camps
Speaker 1: like this and here speakers and swim and I going,
Speaker 1: oh my now, Jeanette, and I'll be going back to
Speaker 1: Poland this summer to do something similar, and I'm very
Speaker 1: anxious to see what I'm going to find if more
Speaker 1: of the Western culture has invaded that whole environment. But
Speaker 1: it was a wonderful atmosphere. Yeah, very healthy. Now are
Speaker 1: all devices wrong? No, I just suggest moderation.
Speaker 2: Amen.
Speaker 1: Great tools out there, there's great teaching tools you can use.
Speaker 2: With the wonderful.
Speaker 1: When I were young, I listen, you know what I
Speaker 1: had to actually read to my kids?
Speaker 2: Try it parents.
Speaker 1: I remember a few times because of I'm multitask or
Speaker 1: at least you know, I try to be and I'm
Speaker 1: trying to do my multitask and be the parent at
Speaker 1: the same time. And they're young, and I remember them
Speaker 1: at different times grabbing my face with their little hands
Speaker 1: and pulling me to them, like, are you going to
Speaker 1: be a father right now? Am I really important to you?
Speaker 1: I don't know if you ever had one of yours
Speaker 1: to do that to you. I've had them do it
Speaker 1: to me. That's when I developed the saying and write
Speaker 1: it down if you want to run with it. This
Speaker 1: is my little saying. Wherever you are, be all there.
Speaker 1: Wherever you are, be all there. Issues can rob your tension, parents, grandparents,
Speaker 1: work related problems, stress. But convenient parenting does not work
Speaker 1: a child, no matter how young, they can read your
Speaker 1: heart focus. Am I parenting mentoring by convenience? Convenient parenting
Speaker 1: can brainwash kids and push them away. Number two, do
Speaker 1: I have a culture or a cultural dashboard from my home?
Speaker 2: Okay? What is that?
Speaker 1: Who would ever go driving down the interstate? Like if
Speaker 1: you try to go to Lexington right now in seventy five,
Speaker 1: it's pretty chaotic. How many have done that lately? I
Speaker 1: mean when you get up to Mount Vernon and all
Speaker 1: the construction. But if you're on the interstate, you're constantly
Speaker 1: monitoring your gauges, your fuel, if you have a leadfoot,
Speaker 1: you're constantly monitoring your speed. And everyone says, all right,
Speaker 1: so nurturing things with your dashboard? What if you had
Speaker 1: a dashboard for every way culture? Listen, culture could come
Speaker 1: into your home, are coming to the lives of the
Speaker 1: ones you're wanting to help, because listen, you never stop.
Speaker 1: It's not they're grown, they're gone. No, if you do that,
Speaker 1: you've just said I don't care. That's good, okay, everybody whatever,
Speaker 1: it's always there, always, I said, always, and remember it's
Speaker 1: back to us as adults seeing that responsibility for that
Speaker 1: next generation.
Speaker 2: Always it's good.
Speaker 1: But what if you had a gauge for TV and
Speaker 1: music and internet and friends. I'm talking about being a mentor,
Speaker 1: a parent, a grandparent to the younger generation in the
Speaker 1: twenty first century. We can't go through all the gauges,
Speaker 1: but here's just a few of them. Television. How many
Speaker 1: TV do you have in your house? Do you even know? Yeah?
Speaker 2: That work? Yeah, I meant. Pastor.
Speaker 1: Donna and I were talking. When we grew up in Louisiana,
Speaker 1: we only had two channels and we had an old
Speaker 1: black and white TV that you know, everything was scratchy
Speaker 1: on the screen. How many members though? You might still
Speaker 1: have that TV, you know. But and then when we're
Speaker 1: in high school, we got a third channel. Man, we
Speaker 1: thought we were big time. Three channels. Well, well, Pastor,
Speaker 1: we can afford a TV for their room. Well, there's
Speaker 1: a lot of things. Maybe you can afford. It doesn't
Speaker 1: mean you should do it. You can afford crack for
Speaker 1: the room, But you don't want to go get cracked
Speaker 1: for them, right just because you can afford it, is
Speaker 1: it a good reason? Do you know what's coming in?
Speaker 1: When you give them technology? You're not just giving them
Speaker 1: that technology, You're giving them a pipeline and it can
Speaker 1: be a cessful of problems. Not saying I'll technology is bad.
Speaker 1: You just need gauges years back when I was We're
Speaker 1: still all at home and our two oldest were teenagers.
Speaker 1: Still Michael would have been a lot younger. For a vacation.
Speaker 1: One summer, we went to this very remote spot on
Speaker 1: a lake, to a very rundown cabin. As far as
Speaker 1: I was concerned, Jeanette loved it. It was nice. She
Speaker 1: loved it. I mean there was no TV, and that's fine.
Speaker 1: There was just it was no sale service, but beautiful lake.
Speaker 1: And we had a boat, a paddle boat so we
Speaker 1: could go fishing. We had our bicycles and we'd hike
Speaker 1: and at night we put puzzles together and we play games.
Speaker 1: And my kids still talk about that as their favorite vacation,
Speaker 1: and so does my wife. It was fun. I'm just
Speaker 1: trying to say, we had no technology. How about gauge
Speaker 1: from music? What do they have downloaded on their devices?
Speaker 1: Do you even know? Now?
Speaker 2: Years ago, ten years ago whatever.
Speaker 1: You could see the CD, you could see the album,
Speaker 1: you could see the cassette or whatever. Now it's all
Speaker 1: on their devices. Most of us don't even know how
Speaker 1: to put it on our devices.
Speaker 2: Right.
Speaker 1: I tell you what, pay you kids, and they'll show you.
Speaker 1: Then you can see what they've got.
Speaker 2: All right.
Speaker 1: I know we were cruel parents, but you know, our
Speaker 1: two oldest didn't get a cell phone till they went
Speaker 1: to college.
Speaker 2: We do that on purpose and they survived.
Speaker 1: Now, our youngest, because he had his own business in
Speaker 1: the ninth grade, I was not going to be his
Speaker 1: business manager to you know, do all that for his lawnmowing,
Speaker 1: So he got a cell phone a little bit younger.
Speaker 1: When you're together I meant like together at the table
Speaker 1: or the card, do you allow to earbud?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 1: That's good. Make a decision. See, look, are you a
Speaker 1: media centered family or relationship centered family? Does everything we
Speaker 1: do revolve around some media? And that will decide what
Speaker 1: you invest in and spend time doing. Oh, brother, Mark,
Speaker 1: can one bad song really mess up my child? Yep,
Speaker 1: yes it can. I'm not against all secular music.
Speaker 2: I'm not.
Speaker 1: I'm at home on the range. Happy Birthday. Those are
Speaker 1: two really good ones. Okay, those are two good ones.
Speaker 1: What am I saying? Check the lyrics out? Check them out?
Speaker 1: Gauges computers. How many people have been listen hooked on
Speaker 1: pornography by pop ups that they weren't going there, but
Speaker 1: it popped up and all of a sudden, the iGATE.
Speaker 2: And before you know what, they're hooked.
Speaker 1: That sounds like a lot of work.
Speaker 2: Yep.
Speaker 1: That's what me entering is about. That's what being a
Speaker 1: grandparent is about. That's what being a parent is about.
Speaker 1: If you stepped up to it, do it in Jesus name,
Speaker 1: st when they're young, not when it's suddenly a huge
Speaker 1: issue when someone shows up and says, here's a kid,
Speaker 1: my team, can you fix them? Well, God can do anything,
Speaker 1: but if you start when you're little, it sure is
Speaker 1: a lot easier. That's why like vacation, Bible school, Wednesday
Speaker 1: nights for youth and the children listen, it's not just
Speaker 1: little busy handcraft activity of pouring into your kids so
Speaker 1: that it's reinforcing the values that you've established. Amen, here
Speaker 1: go number three very important. Who owns their heart? Now
Speaker 1: I'm talking about relationally. Now, when they're young, they never
Speaker 1: stop talking. Maybe you're in that stage with children and
Speaker 1: grandchildren right now. Suddenly, bamp, one day they stop talking.
Speaker 1: They just do and suddenly they stopped. But then they
Speaker 1: want to and you better be ready when they're wanting
Speaker 1: to talk. When they're young, you own their hearts. Listen,
Speaker 1: they think you have never sinned. They think you have
Speaker 1: eyes in the back of your head. Come on, isn't
Speaker 1: it right? Then you're around seven, eight nine whatever age
Speaker 1: Johnny gets to watch this on TV. Why can't I
Speaker 1: watch this? Votes that, miss Menda, You're not Johnny.
Speaker 2: That's good.
Speaker 1: Here, But okay, listen, get this. They're starting to care
Speaker 1: more about connecting with their peers. They care more about
Speaker 1: their peers liking them than you liking them. You have
Speaker 1: to like them. You're the parent, you're the grandparent, you're
Speaker 1: the aunt and uncle. They have to work hard to
Speaker 1: get their peers to like them. I'm just trying to
Speaker 1: show you what's going on. There's a lot you can do.
Speaker 1: So peers are pulling them away relationally, then ten eleven,
Speaker 1: twelve whatever they say, I saw this movie. How come
Speaker 1: I can't say that? How come I can't wear that?
Speaker 1: So now you have the culture pulling on them. So
Speaker 1: culture's pulling on them, friends are pulling on them. So
Speaker 1: we react and I've done it. As long as you're
Speaker 1: living this house, every way you're gonna do it. And
Speaker 1: that's not bad necessarily As for me and my house,
Speaker 1: we will serve the lore, but doing it in anger
Speaker 1: and just reactionary ways is not going to work.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: Then some parents go the other extreme and so shelter
Speaker 1: their children from everything that they're not progressing so that
Speaker 1: they learn how to be.
Speaker 2: Light in a dark world.
Speaker 1: Now, you've got to know the right maturity and the
Speaker 1: right steps on how to allow them to interact with
Speaker 1: the lost and the world and those things so that
Speaker 1: then they come home and talk about it. But if
Speaker 1: you don't begin to make some type of transition, you
Speaker 1: send them out and it's tough. It's tough on them,
Speaker 1: and many of them can fall away because they don't
Speaker 1: know how to stand. They do not know how to
Speaker 1: be Like bro Mark, there's a lot of work. Yep,
Speaker 1: it's a lot of it's a lot of faith, it's
Speaker 1: a lot of interaction, it's a lot of prayer. Okay,
Speaker 1: you're wanting them to be light. So here's the phrase
Speaker 1: we used, we use We've used it for years. Take it,
Speaker 1: run with it, adopt it, hold on to it.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: If you find friends are culture pulling that one you
Speaker 1: love that you care for a way, lean into the relationship.
Speaker 1: Everybody say lean into the relationship. Oh, Okay, that means
Speaker 1: spend more time with them and create listen, a non
Speaker 1: confrontational environment where you can begin to talk more and
Speaker 1: things come up. It's not shoving your finger in their
Speaker 1: face and using your authority to demand the type of
Speaker 1: response that you want. Isn't the goal of our parenting
Speaker 1: to somehow grab a hold of their heart and take
Speaker 1: the values that you find life giving and so rewarding
Speaker 1: because of your walk with the Lord Jesus Christ and
Speaker 1: help them see that so they say, that's the values
Speaker 1: I choose. Isn't part of our goal so that when
Speaker 1: they leave home and get this, they need to leave
Speaker 1: home one day? Okay, they are making listen wise decisions
Speaker 1: and you're not even telling them how to do it
Speaker 1: at that point. So lean in, spend more time one
Speaker 1: on one. It might be awkward for you. You don't
Speaker 1: know what to do with them or how to relate.
Speaker 1: You're out doing something with them, and do something.
Speaker 2: They want to do.
Speaker 1: Okay, don't take them to something you like that they
Speaker 1: can't stand. But I've seen that before. Brow I'm going
Speaker 1: to take my child to do this. I'm going your
Speaker 1: child doesn't want to do that, you want to do that,
Speaker 1: your grandkid doesn't want to do that. You want to
Speaker 1: do that something they want to do that they like.
Speaker 1: Help create an environment where you're just leaning in. Okay,
Speaker 1: Scripture James one, verse nineteen. And this is where it
Speaker 1: takes a lot of faith, a lot of wisdom and insight. Okay,
Speaker 1: are dear brothers and sisters take note of this everyone, everybody,
Speaker 1: especially if you want to affect the next generation. Everyone
Speaker 1: should be quick to listen, say the next thing with me,
Speaker 1: slow to speak, and slow to what. So lean in
Speaker 1: and listen. You know you're doing something, Hey, how you doing?
Speaker 1: They're gonna say, okay, it's not even okay, fine, okay
Speaker 1: are they texting the answer? Yeah? Everything good, everything all right?
Speaker 1: You know, just keep leaning. Eventually the real conversation will happen.
Speaker 1: It's an issue at school. A friend has betrayed them
Speaker 1: because people will portray you.
Speaker 2: They will. They'll do that too you as an adult.
Speaker 1: They'll do it too.
Speaker 2: Children.
Speaker 1: What is that when they start, they're now leaning back?
Speaker 1: See you lean in, extra time, extra fun, extra money. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you're right, and suddenly they lean back. When we spend
Speaker 1: time listening, it pulls down all the defense walls. And
Speaker 1: once they lean back, sharing their heart, you have a
Speaker 1: delicate moment to lean in more in a loving directive way.
Speaker 1: Don't jump to this. If you do that, listen, they
Speaker 1: might be nice and just smile at you and there
Speaker 1: thinking you are an idiot.
Speaker 2: It doesn't work, okay, But if.
Speaker 1: They lean in when you're leaning towards them, you now
Speaker 1: have the authority in their life. Well, I'm the parent,
Speaker 1: I've got the authority.
Speaker 2: Well you no, you don't. You might.
Speaker 1: Need that authority. You might declare you have that authority.
Speaker 1: Whoever owns their heart as the authority they're going to
Speaker 1: listen to somebody you a drug dealer, a rebellious friend.
Speaker 1: And you, as the older generation, the parent, the grandparent,
Speaker 1: the aunt, the uncle, the mentor, the friend, the cousin, whatever,
Speaker 1: have a much greater advantage because you have the power
Speaker 1: of the Holy Spirit. You have the truth of the
Speaker 1: Word of God. You have time, and God's going to
Speaker 1: give you wisdom. I said, He's going to give you wisdom.
Speaker 2: Amen.
Speaker 1: Time is investing with experiences. Just buying stuff is shallow. Remember,
Speaker 1: whoever owns their heart has the most authority in their life.
Speaker 1: And if you just react and yell and culture owns
Speaker 1: their heart or appeers on their heart. All your efforts
Speaker 1: are futile, and it just it's like water off a ducts.
Speaker 1: Back number four, am I going through the windows of
Speaker 1: the heart. Now this one you have to be just
Speaker 1: ready for. Okay, it happens so quickly. Sounds like Malachi.
Speaker 2: I love it.
Speaker 1: Last verse in the Old Testament there in your notes,
Speaker 1: he will turn the hearts of the parents of their children,
Speaker 1: and the hearts of the children to their parents.
Speaker 2: If not meant, the whole earth is going to be striked.
Speaker 1: With a curse. This part is very, very important. A
Speaker 1: window opens and you don't know when that window is
Speaker 1: going to open.
Speaker 2: Yeah, usually at night.
Speaker 1: Okay, the window opens and it closes. I'm talking about
Speaker 1: for their heart. It opens. And you've got Lord, help
Speaker 1: me to recognize when windows open. Help me recognize those moments.
Speaker 1: You've got to be ready once it closes. You're not
Speaker 1: going to pry open. I said, you're not going to open.
Speaker 1: So these windows open when you least expect it, and
Speaker 1: it is the most inconvenient always. Now, Jeanette and I'm
Speaker 1: thinking about a story now with Jonathan years ago.
Speaker 2: We hardly ever watch a movie. It just doesn't work.
Speaker 1: You know, something interrupts and it was this is years back,
Speaker 1: and so we're watching a movie. It was a good
Speaker 1: movie on television and this is before you you know,
Speaker 1: recorded things, what do you call it VVR? And it
Speaker 1: wasn't a DVD or anything. This was on TV. So
Speaker 1: if you missed it, you missed it, right. So, I
Speaker 1: mean it's the last five minutes of the movie. I
Speaker 1: mean the crescendo. You're getting ready to find out the
Speaker 1: whole outcome. And Jonathan walked in. He's probably about fourteen
Speaker 1: to fifteen years old, and he stood right in front
Speaker 1: of the TV.
Speaker 2: You're looking at us alone.
Speaker 1: What she never does? So I looked at Jeanette and
Speaker 1: she looked at me. We turned the TV off. We
Speaker 1: never found out how that movie ended. By the way,
Speaker 1: it had been easy to say, well, move that the
Speaker 1: way way way, wait just a minute. If we'd done that,
Speaker 1: guess what.
Speaker 2: It were closed.
Speaker 1: I don't even know what the issue was or whatever.
Speaker 1: It's just we had a moment and we knew we
Speaker 1: had to take advantage of it, so.
Speaker 2: Get ready.
Speaker 1: I would try to read age appropriate Bible studies every night.
Speaker 1: I mean from when they were a little bitty up,
Speaker 1: I mean when they're one years old. You just there's
Speaker 1: just some pictures and it's real fast. Are you're with me?
Speaker 1: But probably about five nights a week. Obviously sometimes you're
Speaker 1: going to miss it. Things come up, but I would
Speaker 1: cover that. And it was a workout. I said, it
Speaker 1: was a workout to get them still, get them quiet,
Speaker 1: or doing different ones with different ages, getting them up
Speaker 1: in our bed or they're bed and that, and then
Speaker 1: praying and Jeanette had a little prayers she did with them,
Speaker 1: just fun stuff that we would do. I said, it
Speaker 1: was a workout. But you do it and stay consistent.
Speaker 1: So then you're shutting the door to their room. And
Speaker 1: it's not all the time, but because you continue doing that,
Speaker 1: then you hear daddy, is there really a God? And
Speaker 1: you open the door, shutting the door. MoMA, I had
Speaker 1: a fight with a friend at school today.
Speaker 2: Go to bed.
Speaker 1: We'll talk about it in the morning. So the next
Speaker 1: morning at breakfast, okay, tell me about school. Oh it's fine.
Speaker 1: Well wait, you said they had a problem. It'still big deal.
Speaker 1: So it's fine. You missed it. I said, you missed it.
Speaker 1: The window closed and you can't open it. At different
Speaker 1: ages and stages they opening different ways. Look for the
Speaker 1: windows of their heart. Just go through them, because you
Speaker 1: can't pick them open, can't make them open later. Number five,
Speaker 1: how am I communicating my values? This is homework for
Speaker 1: all of this church, because everyone in here, if you're
Speaker 1: twenty or older, you're affecting the next generation.
Speaker 2: You need to be You need.
Speaker 1: To be praying for them. You need to work through
Speaker 1: things and continue. And even when suddenly they're not paying
Speaker 1: you any attention, you paid them attention anyway. Deal with
Speaker 1: different people. I had a pastor call me late yesterday
Speaker 1: from another state that I just befriended. I knew I
Speaker 1: needed to. He had had a rough time and he
Speaker 1: was calling me just like I'm his dad. He's younger
Speaker 1: than me. He's bringing me all up to date, so
Speaker 1: excited about what God is doing and pray for him
Speaker 1: for this. And I just cheered him on and I'm
Speaker 1: helping with some stuff because I've stayed in contact with
Speaker 1: him even when he wouldn't return a text or call.
Speaker 1: I knew he was hurting. I knew I needed to
Speaker 1: keep after him. And that whole family is going to
Speaker 1: have a home run. I said, they're going to have
Speaker 1: a home run. But I got well, he texts me,
Speaker 1: So I'm not gonna take No, it's not about me.
Speaker 1: It's about them. It's about them, It's about the It's
Speaker 1: always about the who's them, the next generation, maybe the
Speaker 1: one that's ignoring you. It's about them, that wayward child.
Speaker 1: It's about the So how am I communicating my values? Well,
Speaker 1: it's easy to think, well, they're just going to pick
Speaker 1: them up, and they do to a certain degree. A
Speaker 1: lot is caught rather than todd and are saying, it's
Speaker 1: not original with me this one. You teach what you know,
Speaker 1: but you impart who you are.
Speaker 2: Correct.
Speaker 1: One of the most thorough research studies on young people, children,
Speaker 1: teenagers and spirituality fine at the number one most important
Speaker 1: spiritual influence in a young person's life are the ones
Speaker 1: they look up to, whether it's the parent they and
Speaker 1: or uncle, the grandparent, the one that is pouring into
Speaker 1: them spiritually. That's who they look to. And it's not
Speaker 1: what you say, it's how you live. It's how you
Speaker 1: pass your test, and then you communicate that to them.
Speaker 1: That's what they pick up. So are you living values
Speaker 1: you want your kids to live? And if something you're
Speaker 1: doing is tripping you up and keeping you from doing it.
Speaker 1: It likely can trip your child up to So let's
Speaker 1: get victory. Adults. Come on, we got to get victory
Speaker 1: in our life because it's not about us, it's about them.
Speaker 2: So here's some things you can do. Okay.
Speaker 1: Number one, establish a family covenant.
Speaker 2: What in the world is that?
Speaker 1: Well, it's just something very loose, but a family covenant. Now,
Speaker 1: I did this in our home when my two oldest
Speaker 1: were teenagers. They were kind of young teenagers at that point,
Speaker 1: but I was trying for a season. I think we
Speaker 1: did it for about a year, but I think it
Speaker 1: was Thursday night. I would just work with them teaching.
Speaker 1: We went through a book or two, we did some stuff.
Speaker 1: We had different people live with us at different times
Speaker 1: during that season, other people. We just kind of would
Speaker 1: make it a study time on Thursday night, and in
Speaker 1: that time we wrote a family covenant. It's what's on
Speaker 1: the inside of us. Scripture says, talk about these.
Speaker 2: Things when you lie down and you get up, and
Speaker 2: when you're in.
Speaker 1: The city that's doing around the sixty seven. Don't haphazardly,
Speaker 1: just hope it goes well. So it actually took us
Speaker 1: about two months.
Speaker 2: To do this.
Speaker 1: Letting the boys add things Michael was still real young,
Speaker 1: so he didn't really participate with it, but I said,
Speaker 1: let's think of some words that communicate who we are
Speaker 1: as a family and what we want to be on
Speaker 1: the inside. Because they're getting to that age, that competitive
Speaker 1: age and brothers pushing one another and competing. Come on, families,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm talking about, all the stuff you
Speaker 1: deal with. So the words we came up with were love, support, protect, nurture, embrace, minister, sacrifice,
Speaker 1: and transfer. And then I said, okay, let's just make
Speaker 1: one sentence for each word. Okay, love, unconditionally love. So
Speaker 1: when they're fighting, wait wait wait, wait, wait wait wait,
Speaker 1: we love one another. Support, support each other and reaching
Speaker 1: their full potential. Just support maybe something they're doing in sports,
Speaker 1: Just support them. Protect, protect one another by prayer and serving.
Speaker 1: We're going to pray for one another.
Speaker 2: We're going to.
Speaker 1: Actually serve one another. Nurture, nurture an atmosphere of safety
Speaker 1: and rest. It's one thing I cannot stand in our
Speaker 1: home is if it's not rest. I want our home
Speaker 1: to be a place of rest and peace. Embrace. Not
Speaker 1: all of them are involved in ministry. I wasn't trying
Speaker 1: to call them, but I said, embrace the call of
Speaker 1: God on our family. I didn't want them to resent that.
Speaker 1: I wanted to embrace it, wanted them to be a
Speaker 1: part of it. And we always had them connected in something. Minister,
Speaker 1: minister the life of God to every person we touch.
Speaker 1: How can you be a minister? How can you encourage
Speaker 1: that friend, sacrifice, live sacrificially to influence in the home, church,
Speaker 1: community and world, and then transfer transfer principles of godly
Speaker 1: character and purpose to family and to those who will follow.
Speaker 1: So we did that, and we would talk about it
Speaker 1: that we haven't really talked about it now in years
Speaker 1: because they've grown and so forth. But I would pull
Speaker 1: that out, specially in a moment of conflict. You mean,
Speaker 1: your home has conflicts yet just like yours. It's just
Speaker 1: it's life. It's not you, oh, praise of Lard. It's
Speaker 1: not Jeanette. Okay, it's just a lot of testosterum and
Speaker 1: boys and all the things that go on. And you've
Speaker 1: had that will and you okay, So just do that
Speaker 1: number two and then be build covenant friends people. Our
Speaker 1: children can look up to find people that echo your values.
Speaker 1: So get them around to hear the echoes of others
Speaker 1: that have your values. Now, we did this way back
Speaker 1: when we lived in Louisiana. Just some couples that you
Speaker 1: know that are even presbyters of ours now in different ones.
Speaker 1: They were a little bit further in the journey, their
Speaker 1: children a little bit older, but they carried the same values.
Speaker 1: And so for when Mike and Genie ware we're here,
Speaker 1: all of our kids came in on a Saturday each
Speaker 1: to individually spend time with Mike and jenieware by themselves.
Speaker 1: Why that's their aunt uncle. Well that's not really what
Speaker 1: it is to them. It's their aunt uncle because that's
Speaker 1: who they call sometimes if they need encouragement. Mike and
Speaker 1: Jeanie contact them and text them and stay in touch
Speaker 1: with them. Different ones like that Rick Zachary that will
Speaker 1: be here in the fall, that does mission work all
Speaker 1: the Lord, It's going to be a wonderful time when
Speaker 1: Rick comes. I remember one time he planned a whole
Speaker 1: trip where he could go through Dallas and spend time
Speaker 1: with Andrew when Andrew was their Bible school, spent a
Speaker 1: whole day with him. I want to go see Andrew
Speaker 1: and spend time with him. These are people that still
Speaker 1: do those things, still speak into their life today, because
Speaker 1: you're never finished. So adults mentors people of concern purposely
Speaker 1: lean in. Lena close with a scenario. Let's say a
Speaker 1: relative's kid, teenager comes to live with you for a
Speaker 1: while because they're mad at their parents. They can't stand
Speaker 1: their home. They're a rebellion. I meant, they got the
Speaker 1: wrong music and the wrong speech, and they're yelling and
Speaker 1: fussing and cussing, and they hate you for now holding
Speaker 1: them captive and they're just nting, and Raven just let
Speaker 1: them rint for a little while. And when they finally hush,
Speaker 1: look at them and say, have you ever ridden a
Speaker 1: dirt bike before? You ever been water skiing? How about
Speaker 1: a jet ski? Have you ever tried that before?
Speaker 2: Well?
Speaker 1: No? And then take them to do that, and you
Speaker 1: start showing them the spirit filled life that it's fun.
Speaker 1: And I've seen kids transform by family helping in that way,
Speaker 1: lean in until they lean back. Can we be that
Speaker 1: type of adults? I heard three yeses. Can we be
Speaker 1: that type of adult? Listen? The world needs you. Yes,
Speaker 1: the family of God needs you. Some of you have
Speaker 1: helped with our children. We're so grateful. We need each other.
Speaker 1: Church is out something you come, do your little thing,
Speaker 1: and you leave. It's all week long. It's the things
Speaker 1: that go on behind the scenes. Let's pray.
Speaker 2: Thank you for listening.
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