Speaker 1: Creativity is an addiction, unplugged because we will always say
yes to creativity, totally uncut because we all make mistakes.
So let's turn it into a tool. This is arrow unplugged,
hey Sarow, And this is vocal defrag.
Speaker 2: Defragging is asking the questions and questioning the answers, not
other people, asking yourself the questions and then questioning the answers.
We all have mindsets, we have mood swings, doubt, fear, shame, guilt.
But are you asking the questions? How did you get
into this place? It doesn't just happen. You have to
learn how to study the mind, body, and soul and
get in touch with that inner core to find out, Hey,
why am I this way? Asking the questions, questioning the answers.
I defrag in two different forms. The first form is
in a journal, I stream think when I'm doing it.
That means no judger, no procrastinator, no perfectionist. It is
one hundred percent on the wall on that page. And
you go back and you study it and you learn
that why did I have such a bad day today?
Why did I have a victory today? All of the
things are sitting right there in front of you in
the way of better understanding the trails and the travels
that were all stepping onto each day. Another way that
I do the defragging is I do a vocal dfrag.
The reason why we do this right here is because
I talk with so many creative people, from authors, actors, musicians,
and we talk about d fragging and they go, how
come I didn't know anything about this? And I asked
myself that question in my journal in a d FRAG journal,
I was like, why doesn't anybody know about this? How
can we do this? And the one thing I didn't
want to do was create a vocal dfrag that had
something to do with my normal d FRAG journal. Putting
me in a place where it's like, Okay, I'm gonna
bear my all took you completely out of the picture.
What I try to do here is I try to
present an opportunity for you to say, I want to
try this defragging thing. I want to see how my
life can change in a way that is going to
be toward the positive or a better understanding of who
I am and why I am. This is vocal d fragging.
One of the things that men go through is the
grumpy man syndrome. I've been studying a lot about that
because my father was a very, very grumpy man. I
grew up disliking my father. I always thought that he
hated us. But as I grow into the shoes and
the age that he once wore, one of the things
that I don't want to do is to become that
grumpy old man with some sort of syndrome. I've been
doing some research on this, and what I've read is
that it really doesn't set in until a man is
seventy years old. Well, you know what, my dad was
ahead of his game. Then they say that it's about testosterone.
They say that it's about an aging man who looks
back at his life and kind of reviews what he did,
what he didn't do, what he didn't get to have,
and now, what the hell, what are we going to do?
So men tend to get grumpy, and that's the one
thing I don't want to do or become. I don't
want to become that man who holds onto his frowns,
or that man that's so easily torched because somebody walked
on your lawn. So in dealing with it, I'm asking
you the question, how do you present yourself to others
when you know that your mindset is not locked in
on how they are delivering their energy. Daily writing helps
me stay aware and stay ahead of where I want
to go in mental thinking. Listen, here's a thing. We
all have a lot on our mind and inside our heart.
Right now, I believe that we are COVID nineteen PTSD.
We went through some tough times and nobody. Nobody wants
to sit there and say, yeah, mentally, I got a
little injured. Yeah I got it, I got it. We
can recover without going to the mental doctor. Is that true?
Grumpy old man syndrome? Have thirty year olds become grumpy
old men? I talk to a lot of twenty five
year olds that I already call themselves. I'm just an
old guy, and they kind of shut up when I say, dude,
when you get up to where I am right now,
you know then you have a bitch. But even at
sixty one, I am bitching about being an old guy.
What I'm trying to do is prevent myself from wearing
the image of an old guy. And that starts with
how I present myself in public and how I present
myself in the mirror in the bathroom. How I feel
when I'm daily writing or when i'm defragging. So I ask,
how are you making your way through the stains through
those moments that you didn't find victory? You know, those
days where you knew you should have gotten that job,
but somebody else did. Those those moments when you got
into Amazon You're going to buy all of these things
and your credit card didn't go through, and all of
a sudden, for two days, you're so upset and disturbed.
How do you make your way through your storms so
that somebody doesn't call you a grumpy old man or
a grumpy woman? What do they call a resting bitch face?
Speaker 1: Ooh ooh.
Speaker 2: When I first learned about that, that didn't sit well
in my heart at all. It's like, well, yeah, I
can see why you call with that, but is that
how you feel? And if it's how you feel, are
you asking some questions and questioning answers. Taking walks like
I'm doing right now, I call this a transition walk.
A daily walk will help you with your mindset and
your mood swings. Doing something physical and not having to
spend money, not having to go out and eat, not
having to do something that basically becomes a situation that
you've become addicted to. Is how you get through those
moments where you're going to be labeled grumpy, pissed off.
I don't like hanging out with them because they're always
bitch about something. Sometimes it feels good to bitch. But
when people start walking away from you because they don't
like your energy or your source of conversation, now we
got a problem. How long do you think that's going
to take to heal when people start having a conversation
with you again. It takes a long time to retrust someone,
or has My wife once told me, I can forgive you,
but it doesn't mean I'll ever trust you again. Oh
oh man, right there, it's one of those grumpy old
man syndrome groans the grunts. Now I'm gonna have to
write about it in the d frag journal. How do
you deal with people who like you but they don't
trust you? Question would be why do they like you?
See if you can answer that on a page or
on a vocald frag ask the questions question the answers.
Are you headed toward grumpy old man's syndrome and resting
bitch face? I'm Marilyn that spoke of the c