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Speaker 1: I'm the kind of person that's always asking questions. I

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mean the fun begins when you start researching for answers

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such as how does one practice patience inside a world

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that wants everything right now? Plus is it such a

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good idea when someone chooses to bend the rules? My

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name is Erro. I'm a daily writer, a silent wolf.

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That means I stand on the sidelines and do nothing

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but watch, listen, study, then activate. I call it the

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daily Mess, a chronological walk through an everyday world. Yep,

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it's my morning pages. As a receiver of thoughts and ideas,

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we as people tend to throw things to the side

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because we're going to deal with it later on. When

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a subject arrives inside of me, I know it's time

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to dig in. It's still keeping that daily journal, but

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by doing the research, the picture becomes clearer. This is

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the daily Mess. How does one practice patience? I mean,

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come on, we are the generation that wants everything right now,

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and we've all fallen witness to the unsettled ambitions of

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an emotional person that isn't getting their way. There are

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multiple things that we can do to get over our

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mindsets locked in on getting everything right now we've got

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to practice patients. But how well It begins with mindfulness.

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It teaches us to stay present while reducing the stress

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that comes with not getting things right now. When you

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feel a rise in your emotions, the goal is to

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put your focus on the moment of right now without

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any type of judgment. One of the things that we

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need to work on is learning how and what to

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do when we are triggered. Keeping a daily journal is

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a beautiful gift to yourself. I call it leaving breadcrumbs.

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You're measuring your growth as well as your stumbles. Practicing

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empathy is another great way toward practicing patients. Understanding what

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others are feeling gives you a greater view of all

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things around you. One great lesson to learn from is

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to find small things to practice your patients, such as

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getting stuck in traffic or sitting at the doctor's office

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where you know they're always running late. Remember, patience is

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a virtue. Hey, coming up next. We hear it all

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the time. Let's bend the rules. Is that really such

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a good idea? Hey, thanks for coming back to the

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daily mess. We hear it all the time. Let's bend

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the rules. Really you want to bend the rules. Is

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that such a good idea? Here's what the experts say.

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It's not advisable. The only time it should be accepted

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is if it achieves a positive outcome without causing harm.

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I still don't jump on that. I mean, look at

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NFL reps. They don't bin the rules during the four

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quarters of play, or do they. Gordon Ramsay doesn't hold

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back if the top chef beins the recipe rules. The

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people up on top remind us that rules are in

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forced for many reasons, including safety and legality. What are

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the intentions as to why we want to bin the rules?

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Will there be consequences? Bending the rules is acceptable during

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emergency situations. Here's one for you. Look at customer service

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at most businesses, they're always bending the rules. Bending the

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rules is also seen as being an act of exploration

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in the way of seeking an alternative approach. If your

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choice is to bend the rules, there are three things

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to always include. Transparency, seek approval, and always prioritize ethical

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conduct while avoiding moments of dishonesty. I'm Merril, and that's

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the daily mess