1 00:00:05,960 --> 00:00:14,080 Speaker 1: This is Corolla Digital made a decision. 2 00:00:15,599 --> 00:00:22,079 Speaker 2: Faced Sunny Sue on I had a vision night. 3 00:00:26,120 --> 00:00:28,320 Speaker 1: Hey everybody, welcome to for crying out loud. 4 00:00:28,640 --> 00:00:33,119 Speaker 3: Bonus bonus thanks to all you Patreon lovers out there. 5 00:00:33,640 --> 00:00:34,560 Speaker 1: We love you guys. 6 00:00:34,840 --> 00:00:39,439 Speaker 4: We uh love how this is going. Ah. 7 00:00:39,520 --> 00:00:42,200 Speaker 1: I mean we're very overwhelmed. We really are. 8 00:00:42,479 --> 00:00:44,640 Speaker 4: We are invigorated about the podcast. 9 00:00:44,640 --> 00:00:50,000 Speaker 3: I feel invigorated, genuinely invigorated, reinvigorated. Rein sounds like we 10 00:00:50,039 --> 00:00:53,560 were already having fun, but now I feel like, Wow, 11 00:00:53,640 --> 00:00:57,280 people are into this. I know it's so sweet and 12 00:00:57,320 --> 00:00:58,759 it really it really is. 13 00:00:58,880 --> 00:00:59,920 Speaker 1: I mean, thank you. 14 00:01:00,359 --> 00:01:01,920 Speaker 3: I don't we can't. I don't know what else to 15 00:01:01,960 --> 00:01:03,880 say as we're blown away. 16 00:01:03,640 --> 00:01:07,879 Speaker 2: Because sometimes I feel like when we do this podcast, 17 00:01:08,159 --> 00:01:11,040 you don't hear as much from the people that love 18 00:01:11,079 --> 00:01:14,239 it as you will sometimes. And this is I'm sure 19 00:01:14,319 --> 00:01:18,400 true for any job or endeavor, but you the people 20 00:01:18,439 --> 00:01:21,959 that sometimes take the time to comment are the people 21 00:01:22,000 --> 00:01:25,040 that have something negative to say, right right. So, at 22 00:01:25,079 --> 00:01:29,239 a certain point, especially if you're not really making the money, 23 00:01:29,439 --> 00:01:31,879 you start feeling like, oh what not. 24 00:01:32,159 --> 00:01:33,640 Speaker 4: I don't want to say why am I doing this? 25 00:01:33,640 --> 00:01:35,319 Speaker 2: Because we know we have a lot of fans we 26 00:01:35,400 --> 00:01:37,840 know it because we see the downloads, right. But at 27 00:01:37,840 --> 00:01:40,599 the same time, you're like, well, you're not hearing the 28 00:01:40,680 --> 00:01:42,680 love as much, and you're hearing people that just have 29 00:01:42,799 --> 00:01:46,319 something mean to say, or this is some complaint. 30 00:01:46,239 --> 00:01:49,079 Speaker 3: Or or it's specific like I heard you talking about 31 00:01:49,159 --> 00:01:51,359 Sonny's IPA and this is what you should do, you 32 00:01:51,439 --> 00:01:54,239 know what I mean, which is what we love and love. 33 00:01:54,680 --> 00:01:55,719 Speaker 1: But this is just like you. 34 00:01:55,719 --> 00:01:58,000 Speaker 2: Don't hear from people that are just like regular listeners, 35 00:01:58,000 --> 00:01:59,920 that just like your show. And all of a sudden 36 00:02:00,200 --> 00:02:03,840 that we're doing Patreon, all of you people that are 37 00:02:03,920 --> 00:02:07,439 fans of the podcast but don't necessarily comment or you're 38 00:02:07,439 --> 00:02:11,120 not active on Facebook, and we see that you're subscribing. 39 00:02:11,240 --> 00:02:13,680 Speaker 4: It makes you feel loved. It's like, oh, we. 40 00:02:13,599 --> 00:02:16,400 Speaker 2: Love your show enough to pay for the bonus content 41 00:02:16,520 --> 00:02:17,240 or for T shirts. 42 00:02:17,240 --> 00:02:19,840 Speaker 3: They are good. I mean, they just want to support 43 00:02:19,879 --> 00:02:21,919 really they did. I know a lot of people, like 44 00:02:21,960 --> 00:02:23,439 I've seen on Twitter, we didn't. I just want to 45 00:02:23,479 --> 00:02:25,479 support you guys, but I didn't know that was going 46 00:02:25,560 --> 00:02:26,280 to happen, I know. 47 00:02:26,879 --> 00:02:29,639 Speaker 4: Anyway, So this is the two shows this week. 48 00:02:30,639 --> 00:02:33,639 Speaker 2: For those of you who are hearing the bonus content 49 00:02:33,719 --> 00:02:36,400 early or who are have listened to the or who 50 00:02:36,479 --> 00:02:38,479 are maybe listening to it after you listen to Tuesday. 51 00:02:38,520 --> 00:02:40,439 Speaker 4: We had two guests this week and it was great. 52 00:02:40,680 --> 00:02:41,400 You're gonna love it. 53 00:02:41,800 --> 00:02:42,000 Speaker 1: Guys. 54 00:02:42,080 --> 00:02:44,360 Speaker 4: We didn't get our ketchup time, so we're going to 55 00:02:44,439 --> 00:02:47,840 catch up in the bonus stuff. So what do you 56 00:02:47,840 --> 00:02:49,919 have anything big this week? 57 00:02:50,199 --> 00:02:50,520 Speaker 5: Well? 58 00:02:50,680 --> 00:02:53,080 Speaker 3: I took the kids to say Springsteen, which we talked 59 00:02:53,120 --> 00:02:56,199 about in the other episode. Yeah, that usually a highlight 60 00:02:56,319 --> 00:03:00,360 of my life. I mean, so much fun. 61 00:03:00,479 --> 00:03:01,800 Speaker 4: But we're on spring break. 62 00:03:01,840 --> 00:03:04,479 Speaker 3: Now, we're on spring break the kids. The kids are 63 00:03:04,520 --> 00:03:07,159 kind of flying by the seat of their pants. We 64 00:03:07,240 --> 00:03:10,960 are in full mode construction at my house. 65 00:03:11,400 --> 00:03:12,280 Speaker 4: That sounds awful. 66 00:03:14,280 --> 00:03:15,520 Speaker 1: I don't want to be ungrateful. 67 00:03:16,400 --> 00:03:22,639 Speaker 4: No, but but and it must be nice. But but this. 68 00:03:22,520 --> 00:03:26,159 Speaker 3: Is something that he loves, loves, ultimately loves to do. 69 00:03:26,800 --> 00:03:30,759 And okay, you guys, don't tweet at him that I 70 00:03:30,800 --> 00:03:35,159 was talking with whatever. But Adam, he really enjoyed. I 71 00:03:35,199 --> 00:03:37,800 think he enjoys the I know he enjoys the outcome. 72 00:03:37,879 --> 00:03:40,919 He likes taking people around this warehouse. This warehouse that 73 00:03:40,960 --> 00:03:45,840 we're sitting in right now was dank, smelly, moldy, dirty, 74 00:03:45,919 --> 00:03:49,879 dusty shit everywhere, just just a disaster a couple of 75 00:03:49,960 --> 00:03:52,400 years ago. Right now, you could eat off the floor. 76 00:03:52,520 --> 00:03:54,439 I mean it's fills. 77 00:03:54,560 --> 00:03:55,159 Speaker 1: I have everything. 78 00:03:55,280 --> 00:04:01,000 Speaker 3: Yeah it is Christine say to say about there earlier today. 79 00:04:01,639 --> 00:04:02,039 Speaker 1: That's right. 80 00:04:02,439 --> 00:04:04,719 Speaker 3: I'll take a little quick video to put online and 81 00:04:04,719 --> 00:04:05,400 we'll show people. 82 00:04:05,439 --> 00:04:07,680 Speaker 1: I'll show you what it looks like. It is beautiful. 83 00:04:07,719 --> 00:04:11,879 Speaker 3: Okay, office space, there's offices. He's got his. Anyways, he 84 00:04:11,960 --> 00:04:15,199 loves to show that off Okay. He gets satisfaction from that. 85 00:04:15,759 --> 00:04:17,839 So in the beginning of this year, he said, you 86 00:04:17,879 --> 00:04:20,600 know what, I want to fix up the kitchen. I 87 00:04:20,680 --> 00:04:22,920 want to gut the kitchen and redo it. I want 88 00:04:22,920 --> 00:04:25,319 to do a backyard so by summer we can be 89 00:04:25,600 --> 00:04:26,639 enjoying the pool. 90 00:04:26,680 --> 00:04:27,839 Speaker 1: We don't have a pool right now. 91 00:04:28,160 --> 00:04:30,560 Speaker 3: You know, I really and I want you to be 92 00:04:30,600 --> 00:04:33,000 a part of it with me. I want you to 93 00:04:33,120 --> 00:04:35,560 feel I want you to be able to go when 94 00:04:35,800 --> 00:04:38,120 Jody or whoever comes over and goes, oh my god, 95 00:04:38,160 --> 00:04:38,920 look at this place. 96 00:04:38,959 --> 00:04:39,319 Speaker 4: I want you. 97 00:04:39,360 --> 00:04:41,199 Speaker 3: I want to be able to go. Lynette picked out 98 00:04:41,240 --> 00:04:44,839 the tie. Ohnette. That was her idea. You know, I 99 00:04:44,920 --> 00:04:49,600 understand and I appreciate that. So okay, so he's like said, 100 00:04:49,600 --> 00:04:50,279 I want you to do it. 101 00:04:50,279 --> 00:04:52,199 Speaker 1: With me. I know it's not your thing. I know 102 00:04:52,279 --> 00:04:54,800 it's not it's not your thing. So that's fine. 103 00:04:54,839 --> 00:04:56,800 Speaker 3: I'm going to do all the work and whatever, but 104 00:04:56,839 --> 00:04:59,360 I want you to do the you know, the decorating 105 00:04:59,439 --> 00:05:03,720 or Okay. So he tells me that he wants these 106 00:05:04,639 --> 00:05:08,639 vision boards that he does and I know, I don't know. 107 00:05:08,639 --> 00:05:10,480 Speaker 1: Why, but he's right. 108 00:05:10,560 --> 00:05:12,360 Speaker 3: So when he builds something, even when he was doing 109 00:05:12,439 --> 00:05:15,199 the Man Show, they had like he gets the phone core. 110 00:05:15,279 --> 00:05:17,319 Adam has to have a phone core board. He takes 111 00:05:17,319 --> 00:05:19,920 pictures of magazines. He puts it up and then he 112 00:05:20,000 --> 00:05:22,759 lives with it and he sees what just like pictures 113 00:05:22,800 --> 00:05:25,959 of plants or pictures of paint color whatever, puts it 114 00:05:26,040 --> 00:05:28,000 up at the house, lives with it to see if 115 00:05:28,040 --> 00:05:30,519 he likes it. And okay, so he keeps telling me 116 00:05:30,519 --> 00:05:32,199 where's the vision boards, where's the vision boards? 117 00:05:32,199 --> 00:05:33,439 Speaker 1: Where's okay? 118 00:05:33,519 --> 00:05:35,600 Speaker 3: So, honest to god, I went to like three stores 119 00:05:35,639 --> 00:05:37,600 and they didn't have those phone core. 120 00:05:37,519 --> 00:05:38,160 Speaker 1: That he wanted. 121 00:05:38,639 --> 00:05:43,160 Speaker 3: Anyways, I just recently got the boards, but I are 122 00:05:43,199 --> 00:05:46,920 we've been it's been demolition mode. 123 00:05:47,000 --> 00:05:47,279 Speaker 1: Okay. 124 00:05:47,319 --> 00:05:50,199 Speaker 3: So our house has just been one big cloud of dust, 125 00:05:51,160 --> 00:05:54,879 and the kitchen's gut it and his guys are doing it. 126 00:05:55,000 --> 00:05:57,160 I thought he was going to hire a team, but nope, our. 127 00:05:57,040 --> 00:05:59,720 Speaker 4: Guys learned from like the moving tobaccle. 128 00:06:00,160 --> 00:06:02,519 Speaker 1: No, No, he doesn't learn. He doesn't know. 129 00:06:02,759 --> 00:06:06,680 Speaker 3: So so then so he busts out the kitchen. Now, 130 00:06:07,120 --> 00:06:11,480 I've been cleaning and organizing. And when you bust out 131 00:06:11,519 --> 00:06:13,199 a kitchen, you got to not only you got to 132 00:06:13,199 --> 00:06:15,399 take the stuff out of the kitchen, but then where's 133 00:06:15,439 --> 00:06:18,160 it going You gotta clean out. Now it's like a 134 00:06:18,160 --> 00:06:20,360 domino effect. Oh it's going to go there, but we 135 00:06:20,399 --> 00:06:23,199 can't put it there because all the Christmas decorations are there, 136 00:06:23,319 --> 00:06:24,639 So where are we gonna put the kitschen? So we 137 00:06:24,680 --> 00:06:26,480 got to pack up the Christmas decorations and put them 138 00:06:26,519 --> 00:06:28,680 into the warehouse over here. That's got to make room 139 00:06:28,680 --> 00:06:31,680 for that over So I has been doing that, you know, 140 00:06:31,959 --> 00:06:34,959 I understand he said this at the beginning of the year, 141 00:06:35,120 --> 00:06:37,639 the vision board, current whatever, and he kind of been 142 00:06:37,639 --> 00:06:41,000 bringing it up lately. But and I did buy him. 143 00:06:41,160 --> 00:06:43,560 I did buy the magazines, right, and I did start 144 00:06:43,600 --> 00:06:47,639 on my vision board right. Okay, So he's like, okay, 145 00:06:47,680 --> 00:06:50,160 where the guys are coming on Monday to demolition in 146 00:06:50,160 --> 00:06:52,399 the backyard. Where's our board? I don't know what the 147 00:06:52,399 --> 00:06:55,839 backyard's going to look like? Where's the board? So Friday 148 00:06:55,920 --> 00:06:58,240 night after well, I'm just hearing the story already. My 149 00:06:58,319 --> 00:07:01,560 back is killing me after on my feet NonStop for 150 00:07:01,720 --> 00:07:04,519 day for a couple of days, and Bruce Springsteen in between. 151 00:07:04,720 --> 00:07:05,480 Speaker 1: I know, poor me? 152 00:07:06,439 --> 00:07:09,800 Speaker 4: Whysteen? Right, Mama? 153 00:07:09,879 --> 00:07:13,800 Speaker 2: So you gotta go down again when the kitchens and needing, needing, 154 00:07:14,120 --> 00:07:16,680 your focus non stop? 155 00:07:17,160 --> 00:07:20,160 Speaker 3: So okay, so wants the vision word. So I stay 156 00:07:20,199 --> 00:07:23,120 up until ten o'clock. I'm with Natalia because she likes 157 00:07:23,360 --> 00:07:25,160 and the magazines. 158 00:07:24,680 --> 00:07:27,519 Speaker 1: Don't have a ton of pictures of pools. It's just plants. 159 00:07:27,720 --> 00:07:30,560 Speaker 3: I put them on the board. It's kind of half done. 160 00:07:31,199 --> 00:07:33,560 It's a work in progress, the board I started making. 161 00:07:33,839 --> 00:07:35,759 Speaker 4: Can't you just google pools image? 162 00:07:37,240 --> 00:07:37,639 Speaker 1: I can. 163 00:07:38,000 --> 00:07:42,519 Speaker 3: However, my laptop is not working correctly, so I have 164 00:07:42,600 --> 00:07:44,560 to either do it on my phone or I have 165 00:07:44,639 --> 00:07:47,279 to use his computer, which is not the end of 166 00:07:47,319 --> 00:07:52,120 the world anyways, But to me, I priority. I prioritize. 167 00:07:52,199 --> 00:07:54,360 It's not time to decorate the backyard. 168 00:07:54,720 --> 00:07:58,040 Speaker 1: It's time to clean and get get rid of the 169 00:07:58,120 --> 00:07:59,160 dust and get ridden. 170 00:07:59,399 --> 00:07:59,879 Speaker 5: You know that. 171 00:08:00,199 --> 00:08:01,120 Speaker 1: That's what we're in right now. 172 00:08:01,120 --> 00:08:05,680 Speaker 3: It's demolition time, so I'm prioritizing here Monday morning. 173 00:08:05,680 --> 00:08:07,160 Speaker 1: Adam's always in a bad mood. 174 00:08:07,160 --> 00:08:10,319 Speaker 3: Come not a bad mood, but he's in like Dick 175 00:08:10,399 --> 00:08:13,639 move mondays not Mondays every morning kind of between the 176 00:08:13,680 --> 00:08:15,759 time you wake up and until the time you go 177 00:08:15,800 --> 00:08:20,439 to bed, basically, And he comes in this morning. I, 178 00:08:20,720 --> 00:08:22,720 you know, eight thirty in the morning, guys show up. 179 00:08:22,959 --> 00:08:25,279 I'm on spring break, so now I'm sleeping in a 180 00:08:25,360 --> 00:08:28,360 little bit. I got taken by surprise. I didn't realize 181 00:08:28,360 --> 00:08:30,399 what time it was. I inset my own alarm, and 182 00:08:30,480 --> 00:08:32,480 guys are showing up, and Adam's up. 183 00:08:32,320 --> 00:08:33,120 Speaker 1: So I get up. 184 00:08:33,159 --> 00:08:35,720 Speaker 3: I'm in my bathroom and trying to get ready to 185 00:08:35,759 --> 00:08:36,159 come here. 186 00:08:36,480 --> 00:08:39,440 Speaker 1: Natalia's following me around. Did you text Olga? Did you 187 00:08:39,480 --> 00:08:40,720 text my friend Dingle? 188 00:08:41,519 --> 00:08:46,039 Speaker 3: Anyways, so he comes in and he gives me the 189 00:08:46,200 --> 00:08:48,799 vision board that I half made with the plants, and 190 00:08:48,840 --> 00:08:52,879 he says, I have to tell you this hurts my feelings. 191 00:08:53,039 --> 00:08:57,120 Oh no, I gotta be honest, like it just symbolically, 192 00:08:57,200 --> 00:09:01,000 like I've been asking for these vision boards like I 193 00:09:01,039 --> 00:09:01,360 want to. 194 00:09:01,480 --> 00:09:03,840 Speaker 1: I can't you, Like I don't know why you can't. 195 00:09:04,519 --> 00:09:07,360 Speaker 3: Why can't you just I've been saying it since December, 196 00:09:07,639 --> 00:09:09,639 you know, so I can't say, oh, I've been so 197 00:09:09,759 --> 00:09:10,559 busy because he's like. 198 00:09:10,519 --> 00:09:14,639 Speaker 4: Because you're selling the fucking mangria, that aren't you. Listen. 199 00:09:14,759 --> 00:09:17,000 Speaker 2: He's not going to listen to this because it's subscriber 200 00:09:17,440 --> 00:09:20,320 and he's not a subscriber, right, so listen. He's not 201 00:09:20,360 --> 00:09:22,720 going to do this, and our subscribers are not gonna 202 00:09:23,000 --> 00:09:25,039 are not going to tweet him because there are fans, 203 00:09:25,279 --> 00:09:27,159 so we can talk about whatever we want. 204 00:09:27,279 --> 00:09:27,759 Speaker 1: Go for it. 205 00:09:27,799 --> 00:09:30,519 Speaker 4: No, it's just ridiculous. It's just like he doesn't. It's 206 00:09:30,559 --> 00:09:31,279 the same thing. 207 00:09:31,159 --> 00:09:33,200 Speaker 2: That I feel like I deal with sometimes where it's 208 00:09:33,200 --> 00:09:36,600 that feeling where we're we feel undervalued because like what 209 00:09:36,679 --> 00:09:38,399 about this stuff we are doing that? 210 00:09:38,720 --> 00:09:39,960 Speaker 4: Well, you know what, he says. 211 00:09:40,720 --> 00:09:42,879 Speaker 3: We could do a little role play if you want. Okay, 212 00:09:43,000 --> 00:09:46,799 I'll be okay at him, Okay, I'll be you. Okay, 213 00:09:47,000 --> 00:09:49,279 we're all doing stuff. I'm busy too. 214 00:09:49,399 --> 00:09:51,320 Speaker 1: I just went to the permit's office. I'm busy. 215 00:09:51,399 --> 00:09:54,320 Speaker 2: You're busy, I know, But Adam, but this is your 216 00:09:54,519 --> 00:09:56,480 this is what you love to do, this is what 217 00:09:56,519 --> 00:09:59,679 you wanted to do, and you're getting to do it. 218 00:10:00,000 --> 00:10:02,759 I didn't it's not like my dream to all mangria. 219 00:10:02,840 --> 00:10:04,960 But I'm doing it because I'm trying to contribute to 220 00:10:05,039 --> 00:10:07,720 our household. But I'm like, I'm also trying to take 221 00:10:07,759 --> 00:10:10,720 care of the kids and have any semblance of stuff. 222 00:10:10,519 --> 00:10:11,159 Speaker 4: That I enjoy. 223 00:10:11,720 --> 00:10:14,879 Speaker 3: Uh, you're gonna enjoy that pool in a couple months. 224 00:10:15,320 --> 00:10:17,240 You're going to enjoy that kitchen and a couple month. 225 00:10:17,279 --> 00:10:19,799 I don't enjoy the grunt work. I enjoy the outcome. 226 00:10:19,919 --> 00:10:21,480 I enjoy the payoff. 227 00:10:21,840 --> 00:10:23,559 Speaker 2: Yeah, but I would have been happy with the pool 228 00:10:23,559 --> 00:10:25,120 that just came with the house, Like I don't need 229 00:10:25,159 --> 00:10:26,600 to build a new pool. Uh. 230 00:10:27,000 --> 00:10:29,240 Speaker 3: Now you say that, you say that you don't need 231 00:10:29,320 --> 00:10:30,600 to drive a Tesla either. 232 00:10:30,639 --> 00:10:32,960 Speaker 1: Why didn't you get the mini van? Then? Why didn't you? 233 00:10:33,000 --> 00:10:34,039 Which I would have been. 234 00:10:33,879 --> 00:10:35,759 Speaker 4: Okay, I would have been fine. I didn't have to 235 00:10:35,840 --> 00:10:36,440 drive a Tesla. 236 00:10:36,639 --> 00:10:38,840 Speaker 2: You're the one who loves cars, and you wanted me 237 00:10:38,879 --> 00:10:40,799 to drive a car that's going to be amazing, And 238 00:10:40,840 --> 00:10:42,399 I do and I appreciate it. 239 00:10:42,440 --> 00:10:43,080 Speaker 4: I love it. 240 00:10:43,600 --> 00:10:47,480 Speaker 3: But now my blood is boiling because he can't. He 241 00:10:47,519 --> 00:10:50,200 can't handle that. For some reason, gets even more if 242 00:10:50,240 --> 00:10:51,639 I say any of those things. 243 00:10:51,679 --> 00:10:54,240 Speaker 1: He gets extra man now like. 244 00:10:54,320 --> 00:10:59,759 Speaker 3: He he he's got some asperg or something because he 245 00:11:00,039 --> 00:11:03,480 only sees the negative. He never it's I'll take take 246 00:11:03,519 --> 00:11:07,000 Bald Brian or take ball Brian. Bab Brian's been working 247 00:11:07,080 --> 00:11:10,039 for him, for him for years, right, Okay, he'll say 248 00:11:10,679 --> 00:11:13,440 bald Brian. You know he'll complain. He let's have his 249 00:11:13,559 --> 00:11:15,960 complains throughout the year. Bob Brian's always got to argue. 250 00:11:16,000 --> 00:11:17,679 He's got to argue with me. And it's like, yes, 251 00:11:17,720 --> 00:11:20,519 and you don't argue. If you have an argument, fine, 252 00:11:20,759 --> 00:11:24,000 but then you don't just say I disagree for the 253 00:11:24,080 --> 00:11:27,200 for the just to disagree. If you're gonna disagree, back 254 00:11:27,240 --> 00:11:29,480 it up. But you can't just say, in ray, you 255 00:11:29,480 --> 00:11:31,279 gotta do it yes and yes and yes, and so 256 00:11:31,320 --> 00:11:32,960 he gets keep complains, complaints, complaints. 257 00:11:33,120 --> 00:11:34,240 Speaker 1: However, I listened. 258 00:11:34,000 --> 00:11:38,960 Speaker 3: To the show and Bob Brian that week disagreed once. 259 00:11:39,440 --> 00:11:42,279 The rest of the time did the yes and and 260 00:11:42,279 --> 00:11:45,159 and Adam, that one disagreement turned into one argument. And 261 00:11:45,200 --> 00:11:47,799 it's like he he never does the yes and he 262 00:11:47,799 --> 00:11:49,600 he doesn't, And it's like, no, yes. 263 00:11:49,440 --> 00:11:52,240 Speaker 1: He does, he did it all week. How about he doesn't. 264 00:11:52,639 --> 00:11:54,039 He only sees. 265 00:11:54,440 --> 00:11:57,639 Speaker 3: He focuses on why I don't I think I think, 266 00:11:57,799 --> 00:11:59,879 is that what it is like? And then also every 267 00:12:00,600 --> 00:12:03,360 me at Christmas time, this is what I want to do. 268 00:12:03,600 --> 00:12:05,759 Speaker 1: I want to enjoy it with you. This is what 269 00:12:05,799 --> 00:12:07,759 I want to do. Me, me, me and his whole. 270 00:12:07,879 --> 00:12:09,759 Speaker 3: Every time we're at home, that's all he talks about 271 00:12:09,840 --> 00:12:12,240 is me, me, me, his racing, his this is that, 272 00:12:12,399 --> 00:12:14,879 is this and that. And then if I complain, he'll go, well, 273 00:12:14,879 --> 00:12:16,879 what are you doing going to Bruce Springsteen? What do 274 00:12:16,919 --> 00:12:19,480 you got going? Then talk about what you're doing. Then 275 00:12:20,000 --> 00:12:25,240 I'm like, I don't know, making sandwiches, cleaning kids. I 276 00:12:25,320 --> 00:12:26,200 just don't understand. 277 00:12:26,279 --> 00:12:28,720 Speaker 1: I don't know. I can't be the one to explain 278 00:12:28,759 --> 00:12:30,840 it to him anymore. I can't. 279 00:12:30,960 --> 00:12:33,879 Speaker 3: I just I can't be the one because he's not 280 00:12:33,919 --> 00:12:35,360 gonna hear it. He's not gonna listen to it. He's 281 00:12:35,360 --> 00:12:36,679 not gonna And every time. 282 00:12:36,519 --> 00:12:39,240 Speaker 2: You guys go and I have to a counselor just 283 00:12:39,399 --> 00:12:42,279 I'm not saying, yeah, I have to have a third person, yeah, 284 00:12:42,320 --> 00:12:44,360 because I feel excited that this morning. 285 00:12:44,480 --> 00:12:46,279 Speaker 1: Yeah, I was a thought person. 286 00:12:46,360 --> 00:12:49,240 Speaker 2: But lots of couples I mean, I'm not opposed to 287 00:12:49,320 --> 00:12:50,639 going to couples counseling either. 288 00:12:50,840 --> 00:12:51,919 Speaker 4: Lots of couples. 289 00:12:52,200 --> 00:12:54,399 Speaker 2: You guys have been married a long time, people get 290 00:12:54,519 --> 00:12:58,440 very set in their thinking, you know. I notice sometimes 291 00:12:58,440 --> 00:13:01,720 that when I have an argument with John, sometimes it 292 00:13:01,759 --> 00:13:04,320 takes stuff to like stuff will come up or he'll 293 00:13:04,320 --> 00:13:06,360 say something, and all of a sudden, I start tearing up, 294 00:13:06,480 --> 00:13:08,799 and I'm like, oh, he must have hit on something, 295 00:13:09,240 --> 00:13:12,759 like whether it's you know, I started we had an argument. 296 00:13:12,919 --> 00:13:15,000 I mean, I'm not gonna just totally make this about me, 297 00:13:15,000 --> 00:13:17,320 but I'm just now dating that we had a big 298 00:13:17,360 --> 00:13:20,399 thing where it kind of turned out. And I'm not 299 00:13:20,440 --> 00:13:22,039 saying this is the case for you, you have your 300 00:13:22,080 --> 00:13:24,480 own thing. But for me, sometimes I get a little 301 00:13:24,759 --> 00:13:28,679 focused on him because maybe I'm not like right now, 302 00:13:28,799 --> 00:13:30,919 I don't have a lot going on, and it doesn't 303 00:13:30,919 --> 00:13:34,279 feel good right and I don't want to admit that, 304 00:13:34,759 --> 00:13:36,600 you know, but right now, I had a talk show 305 00:13:36,879 --> 00:13:40,240 that was cool, it was amazing, got canceled, you know, 306 00:13:40,600 --> 00:13:43,200 and then like since then, I've like tried to get 307 00:13:43,240 --> 00:13:46,159 different things going. And then, you know, it's hard because 308 00:13:46,159 --> 00:13:49,759 I have three kids, so that keeps me very busy. 309 00:13:49,799 --> 00:13:51,600 So even when I do start to get the energy 310 00:13:51,600 --> 00:13:53,799 to start something, it's like a lot of times get 311 00:13:53,840 --> 00:13:56,759 waylaid by, like you know, then there's then the. 312 00:13:56,799 --> 00:13:59,159 Speaker 4: Kids are off whatever, so we're very busy doing that. 313 00:13:59,279 --> 00:14:02,320 Speaker 2: So you know, it's also weird because then time's taken 314 00:14:02,360 --> 00:14:04,360 away and you're like, how many years do I really 315 00:14:04,360 --> 00:14:06,759 have to like build? Now? I know I've written a 316 00:14:06,799 --> 00:14:09,080 lot of books and all that, and that's great, but 317 00:14:09,320 --> 00:14:12,600 I think I'm at this point. My point is when 318 00:14:12,679 --> 00:14:17,600 John's suddenly working all the time. Probably Adam works all 319 00:14:17,639 --> 00:14:22,159 the time. But then I get very like feel like 320 00:14:22,200 --> 00:14:25,639 I'm lonely, you know, like feel like, well, what's the 321 00:14:26,159 --> 00:14:26,879 what am I doing? 322 00:14:26,960 --> 00:14:27,639 Speaker 4: What's yeah? 323 00:14:27,639 --> 00:14:28,759 Speaker 1: What am I doing at me? 324 00:14:29,039 --> 00:14:29,600 Speaker 4: What about me? 325 00:14:30,120 --> 00:14:32,519 Speaker 2: What about what I'm thinking about or feeling about, our 326 00:14:32,559 --> 00:14:35,399 caring about? And he's so tired and depleted at the end. 327 00:14:35,360 --> 00:14:36,919 Speaker 4: Of the day, and I understand. 328 00:14:36,960 --> 00:14:39,679 Speaker 2: And then his attitude is like, well, I'm working eighty 329 00:14:39,679 --> 00:14:41,600 hours a week, right, like you know, and and John 330 00:14:41,639 --> 00:14:43,840 doesn't go like what are you doing? But when we 331 00:14:43,840 --> 00:14:47,240 were having this argument where I was like, I'm feeling 332 00:14:47,399 --> 00:14:51,879 lonely like a single mom, and like just what's this sucks? 333 00:14:52,240 --> 00:14:54,240 This is life, you know, and he was like, well, 334 00:14:54,279 --> 00:14:56,320 I don't like it either, but I'm working really hard. 335 00:14:56,360 --> 00:14:58,960 And then What it came down to is that he 336 00:14:59,080 --> 00:15:02,480 all of a sudden was like, well, you're not like 337 00:15:02,519 --> 00:15:04,600 feeling not good about yourself, you know. 338 00:15:05,120 --> 00:15:07,960 Speaker 4: So I think he kind of it's not that he 339 00:15:08,039 --> 00:15:08,519 was trying to. 340 00:15:08,440 --> 00:15:10,960 Speaker 2: Turn it around, but he was kind of trying to say, like, 341 00:15:11,360 --> 00:15:14,440 you're trying to get all you're filled up like from 342 00:15:14,759 --> 00:15:16,919 the marriage all of a sudden, you know, where it's 343 00:15:16,960 --> 00:15:20,320 like everything's really fine, That's what you're kind of trying 344 00:15:20,320 --> 00:15:20,759 to tell me. 345 00:15:20,919 --> 00:15:26,360 Speaker 4: You're just feeling like you can't equalize me to help 346 00:15:26,679 --> 00:15:27,639 you feel right. 347 00:15:27,679 --> 00:15:29,240 Speaker 2: And He's like, and right now, I would like to 348 00:15:29,279 --> 00:15:31,759 help you feel better and work on your stuff, but 349 00:15:31,840 --> 00:15:34,759 I'm so busy. I'm like, so we both go into 350 00:15:34,799 --> 00:15:36,639 the mode of just stress mode and we just do 351 00:15:36,720 --> 00:15:37,320 our own thing. 352 00:15:37,799 --> 00:15:39,480 Speaker 4: And when he said that, I was. 353 00:15:39,440 --> 00:15:42,799 Speaker 2: Like, like, you know, I got a little choked up, Like, yeah, 354 00:15:42,879 --> 00:15:45,120 I guess you're right. I'm not saying that solves it, 355 00:15:45,559 --> 00:15:48,759 but sometimes that kind of thing is hard to come 356 00:15:48,799 --> 00:15:50,600 to on your own, right. 357 00:15:51,279 --> 00:15:54,120 Speaker 4: Sometimes you need to like, hey, not. 358 00:15:54,000 --> 00:15:55,879 Speaker 2: That anybody has time for that, but I'm saying when 359 00:15:55,919 --> 00:15:58,519 you really get into a rut of like, you know, 360 00:15:58,559 --> 00:16:00,879 because then John was like, you're ile all the time, 361 00:16:01,039 --> 00:16:04,120 and then he says, when you get scared, you get mean. 362 00:16:04,440 --> 00:16:06,039 Speaker 4: He says that I get mean like that. 363 00:16:06,159 --> 00:16:08,159 Speaker 2: I get like when I'm unhappy about something that I 364 00:16:08,240 --> 00:16:10,120 just go, well, how come you're not okay? 365 00:16:10,120 --> 00:16:11,360 Speaker 4: We're okay. 366 00:16:11,919 --> 00:16:16,840 Speaker 2: So I get very controlling about time, like because I 367 00:16:16,879 --> 00:16:18,600 feel like it's all on me to make sure the 368 00:16:18,679 --> 00:16:20,080 kids get places on time. 369 00:16:19,919 --> 00:16:21,679 Speaker 4: Like it makes me uncomfortable to be late. 370 00:16:22,440 --> 00:16:24,840 Speaker 2: So if let's say Elbie had to get to a 371 00:16:24,879 --> 00:16:27,559 basketball evaluation, I was like, I was a little bit 372 00:16:27,639 --> 00:16:30,960 late bringing her home, but he really wanted to take her. Apparently, 373 00:16:31,240 --> 00:16:33,679 when I walked in the house and he was not ready, 374 00:16:34,200 --> 00:16:36,240 and I had called and said, I'm running a little 375 00:16:36,240 --> 00:16:36,600 bit late. 376 00:16:36,759 --> 00:16:38,799 Speaker 4: Can you be completely ready to go walk out the 377 00:16:38,840 --> 00:16:40,960 door and go take her? He was like yeah, yeah, yeah, 378 00:16:40,960 --> 00:16:41,480 no problem. 379 00:16:41,679 --> 00:16:44,799 Speaker 2: I got home and his shoes weren't on, so you know, 380 00:16:44,960 --> 00:16:49,080 I apparently was like, let's go, like what's going on 381 00:16:49,200 --> 00:16:51,960 your shoes? Like we gotta go, you gotta go. And 382 00:16:52,039 --> 00:16:54,960 he heard that as being very attacking, and you know, 383 00:16:55,200 --> 00:16:58,279 I mean and being He said that I can be 384 00:16:58,360 --> 00:17:01,279 like a little bit of a bully with anger like that, 385 00:17:01,360 --> 00:17:03,080 I go from zero to like that all of a sudden, 386 00:17:03,080 --> 00:17:05,480 I'm mad, and that he's like, what I was ready 387 00:17:05,480 --> 00:17:05,759 to go? 388 00:17:06,200 --> 00:17:08,119 Speaker 4: Like in his mind, he's ready. 389 00:17:07,920 --> 00:17:10,160 Speaker 2: Right in my mind, your fucking shoes are not. You're 390 00:17:10,160 --> 00:17:13,279 not ready to go, Like in my mind, that's five minutes. 391 00:17:13,279 --> 00:17:15,519 You just tacked on because you take your sweet time, 392 00:17:15,559 --> 00:17:18,000 your slow poke, right. 393 00:17:18,559 --> 00:17:23,160 Speaker 3: And if you were Adam, you would say to John, 394 00:17:23,240 --> 00:17:26,680 you would say, and just symbolically, how about you get 395 00:17:26,720 --> 00:17:29,200 ready because I am trying to get our daughter on time. 396 00:17:29,240 --> 00:17:30,759 Speaker 2: So that's what I said, and he told me it 397 00:17:30,799 --> 00:17:32,720 was my problem because I was the one who I 398 00:17:33,160 --> 00:17:35,079 created the problem in the first place. 399 00:17:35,759 --> 00:17:37,519 Speaker 4: I was took too long with the thing I was 400 00:17:37,519 --> 00:17:39,079 doing beforehand. 401 00:17:38,880 --> 00:17:41,640 Speaker 2: So I created a situation that I was tense about 402 00:17:41,640 --> 00:17:42,759 and he wasn't tense about it. 403 00:17:42,759 --> 00:17:43,400 Speaker 4: He was fine. 404 00:17:43,759 --> 00:17:46,119 Speaker 2: And then I said, through our entire time that I've 405 00:17:46,160 --> 00:17:48,039 known you, you've always been fine about being late, and 406 00:17:48,079 --> 00:17:48,559 I haven't. 407 00:17:48,880 --> 00:17:50,880 Speaker 4: So how about sometimes. 408 00:17:50,359 --> 00:17:52,440 Speaker 2: You respect the fact that I like get nervous about 409 00:17:52,480 --> 00:17:55,319 being late, and you like get your shit together right 410 00:17:55,480 --> 00:17:57,359 and like show me that you're like care that you 411 00:17:57,400 --> 00:17:59,119 know I'm not gonna like it if you're late, So 412 00:17:59,200 --> 00:18:01,319 get But do you know it's like becomes that. 413 00:18:01,279 --> 00:18:03,799 Speaker 4: Thing where you're just like, maybe you need a third 414 00:18:03,799 --> 00:18:06,079 party to go, like, you know, okay, so what do 415 00:18:06,160 --> 00:18:10,799 you do. I don't know. I'm saying we hate. 416 00:18:10,559 --> 00:18:13,160 Speaker 2: We should probably see somebody too. Like I'm just saying, 417 00:18:13,160 --> 00:18:15,759 it's not that it means that you don't love each 418 00:18:15,799 --> 00:18:16,559 other and you don't. 419 00:18:16,680 --> 00:18:20,200 Speaker 3: I think people get really ingrained, yes, and they have 420 00:18:20,240 --> 00:18:22,920 the same argument. Some people that have been in a 421 00:18:22,960 --> 00:18:26,200 relationship for a long time. Kids no kids, you get 422 00:18:26,240 --> 00:18:29,119 in that same it's the same. 423 00:18:29,039 --> 00:18:30,119 Speaker 1: Argument over and over. 424 00:18:30,279 --> 00:18:33,480 Speaker 3: I think, you know what I mean, just in general, 425 00:18:33,599 --> 00:18:36,799 and it's nice to have a third party. And we 426 00:18:37,000 --> 00:18:39,599 did that with Olga once. We brought Olga in the room, 427 00:18:39,759 --> 00:18:43,319 right because she can be diplomatic and it helped. 428 00:18:43,799 --> 00:18:47,000 Speaker 1: But Adam it doesn't really like it does. 429 00:18:47,000 --> 00:18:50,640 Speaker 2: Because for him, he's not paying Olga to be his therapist, right, 430 00:18:50,720 --> 00:18:53,480 so it's probably easier for him to discount the parts 431 00:18:53,519 --> 00:18:54,279 he doesn't agree with. 432 00:18:54,319 --> 00:18:57,039 Speaker 3: But he's it's worse with the therapist because he thinks 433 00:18:57,079 --> 00:19:00,279 therapists these days are all on the women's side or what. 434 00:19:00,359 --> 00:19:01,160 Speaker 1: He didn't say that. 435 00:19:01,160 --> 00:19:03,640 Speaker 3: But he's like they all say, well, maybe it's not 436 00:19:03,799 --> 00:19:06,240 her thing, and that's just you. You're not going to 437 00:19:06,359 --> 00:19:09,759 change somebody, and he's gonna say I disagree with that. 438 00:19:09,880 --> 00:19:12,279 I think you can change somebody. You know, when I'm 439 00:19:12,279 --> 00:19:14,880 at Lynnette, she blah blah blah, and now she blah 440 00:19:14,920 --> 00:19:16,839 blah blah, So you can change somebody. 441 00:19:16,880 --> 00:19:18,519 Speaker 2: And the way the way I see it with you 442 00:19:19,279 --> 00:19:23,079 is that it seems like there are times where you 443 00:19:23,240 --> 00:19:26,119 intellectually know that like, Okay, it's not a bad thing 444 00:19:26,160 --> 00:19:27,319 for me to have my own intrests. 445 00:19:27,359 --> 00:19:28,759 Speaker 4: I'm allowed to go to Bruce Springsteen. 446 00:19:29,000 --> 00:19:31,200 Speaker 2: But then I think there's a part of you because 447 00:19:31,200 --> 00:19:34,200 he has a powerful personality that you do want to 448 00:19:34,240 --> 00:19:36,039 please him, and you do want to kind of see 449 00:19:36,039 --> 00:19:38,640 your part, and you're trying to be an equal. So 450 00:19:38,680 --> 00:19:41,240 you're like, well, maybe if he really feels strongly about this, 451 00:19:41,319 --> 00:19:43,480 maybe he has a point, right, So like I don't 452 00:19:43,480 --> 00:19:45,319 want to be a taker and just be like, hey, 453 00:19:45,319 --> 00:19:47,039 I'm just gonna go to Bruce Springsteen every night. 454 00:19:47,400 --> 00:19:49,519 Speaker 4: But the thing is you're not, and you don't. 455 00:19:49,839 --> 00:19:52,160 Speaker 2: It's very hard for you to cut yourself any slack. 456 00:19:52,640 --> 00:19:55,200 And sometimes it's hard to see that from the inside 457 00:19:55,240 --> 00:19:57,880 of it because you're like, well, what am I doing. 458 00:19:57,920 --> 00:20:02,160 I'm not it's not my pos Yes, yes, yes, you know, 459 00:20:02,240 --> 00:20:04,880 you're like, well, he is kind of the breadwinner. 460 00:20:04,920 --> 00:20:07,519 Speaker 4: It is his pirate ship, right right, and I'm just 461 00:20:07,720 --> 00:20:10,960 along for the ride. And that's that's a sucky feeling. 462 00:20:11,000 --> 00:20:13,440 Speaker 2: And I understand that feeling, and you want to have 463 00:20:13,480 --> 00:20:16,960 a thing for yourself, but that's really hard if you're 464 00:20:17,039 --> 00:20:20,359 if your thing for yourself is always helping his thing, 465 00:20:20,440 --> 00:20:23,279 and then you feel guilty because if you're not interested, 466 00:20:24,200 --> 00:20:25,799 then oh, you're not trying. 467 00:20:25,559 --> 00:20:27,680 Speaker 4: To help out, like look at he's built this whole thing, 468 00:20:27,720 --> 00:20:28,119 and like. 469 00:20:28,160 --> 00:20:31,440 Speaker 2: You're getting the reward yours, right, yours, But it wasn't 470 00:20:31,440 --> 00:20:34,480 your dream, you know. And the thing is, it's like 471 00:20:34,799 --> 00:20:40,079 somehow you have to figure out that, like you, we 472 00:20:40,160 --> 00:20:42,799 only live once, you know, and you're allowed to figure 473 00:20:42,799 --> 00:20:46,640 out what you're interested in right too. And but that 474 00:20:46,799 --> 00:20:49,799 even is hard because we're also moms, right and you 475 00:20:49,839 --> 00:20:52,720 have twins and they have very big lives. 476 00:20:52,640 --> 00:20:53,480 Speaker 4: Kids these days. 477 00:20:53,640 --> 00:20:57,200 Speaker 3: That is that's the one thing that I wish somebody 478 00:20:57,200 --> 00:20:59,880 could smack him over the head with and understand that 479 00:21:00,519 --> 00:21:02,720 to him, neither here nor there are the kids. 480 00:21:02,880 --> 00:21:05,519 Speaker 2: The kids to him are they don't run themselves and 481 00:21:05,559 --> 00:21:08,440 they're not a self cleaning oven up that they we 482 00:21:08,480 --> 00:21:10,359 can just buy a thermometer for him, be done with it. 483 00:21:10,519 --> 00:21:13,200 Speaker 4: Right, You'll get that joke in a couple of days, 484 00:21:13,720 --> 00:21:18,519 that's right. Yeah, I agree. It takes a lot. 485 00:21:19,000 --> 00:21:19,599 Speaker 1: That's the thing. 486 00:21:19,680 --> 00:21:24,480 Speaker 3: Like when I want somebody else to explain it to him, 487 00:21:24,599 --> 00:21:28,440 I cannot explain it to him. Maybe doctor Drew, I 488 00:21:28,480 --> 00:21:31,759 don't know, he looks as Drew as you know, Pansy 489 00:21:31,920 --> 00:21:32,599 or whatever. 490 00:21:32,799 --> 00:21:35,160 Speaker 1: But I don't know. There's got to be some a 491 00:21:35,200 --> 00:21:35,759 third party. 492 00:21:35,759 --> 00:21:38,160 Speaker 3: Maybe it's Nate in the other room, his guy, Nate 493 00:21:38,200 --> 00:21:40,680 Adams that he does movies with somebody, just some level, 494 00:21:40,720 --> 00:21:41,759 because I don't you feel. 495 00:21:41,599 --> 00:21:44,359 Speaker 2: Like if somebody tries to say that then he'll he'll 496 00:21:44,400 --> 00:21:47,319 just cut them off, like be like, eh, that's ridiculous, 497 00:21:47,359 --> 00:21:47,759 you're wrong. 498 00:21:47,839 --> 00:21:51,759 Speaker 3: Well, what I've learned through therapy and through Adam and 499 00:21:52,079 --> 00:21:54,799 trial and error is you got you can't do it 500 00:21:54,839 --> 00:21:57,279 now now when we're arguing in a fight. You have 501 00:21:57,359 --> 00:21:59,559 to do it at a calm time, when there's when 502 00:21:59,599 --> 00:22:02,920 there's no are when we say, okay, Adam, you and 503 00:22:02,960 --> 00:22:05,480 I have the same issues all the time. Let's sit 504 00:22:05,480 --> 00:22:08,119 down with Nate and let's talk, you know, and talk 505 00:22:08,160 --> 00:22:09,079 it out and see what he's. 506 00:22:08,960 --> 00:22:09,759 Speaker 1: A level aeted guy. 507 00:22:09,839 --> 00:22:13,559 Speaker 3: You you you know, you appreciate, you value his. 508 00:22:13,599 --> 00:22:16,720 Speaker 2: Opinion, all right, But but Nate works for Adam. He does 509 00:22:17,319 --> 00:22:19,880 see that that causes a problem, right right there, you do. 510 00:22:20,079 --> 00:22:23,000 That's sometimes the therapist. It's not like that they're so 511 00:22:23,079 --> 00:22:25,480 great or so smart. It's just that you're both talking 512 00:22:25,519 --> 00:22:28,200 to somebody unequal. And maybe it's a therapist. It's not 513 00:22:28,279 --> 00:22:29,839 even that it's not even. 514 00:22:29,680 --> 00:22:31,880 Speaker 4: There to tell you who's right or who's wrong. That's 515 00:22:31,920 --> 00:22:33,000 not even a good therapist. 516 00:22:33,000 --> 00:22:35,599 Speaker 2: It's somebody to go like I think, you know, to 517 00:22:35,680 --> 00:22:38,359 help you listen to the other person and hear what 518 00:22:38,400 --> 00:22:41,279 their intent is. You know, I feel like I'm hearing 519 00:22:41,359 --> 00:22:44,839 Adam trying to almost be therapy with you, like this 520 00:22:44,960 --> 00:22:47,680 hurts my feelings because you're I'm feeling like it's not 521 00:22:47,720 --> 00:22:50,519 important to you, and I'm showing you instead of just 522 00:22:50,599 --> 00:22:53,240 getting mad, I'm telling you that I'm hurt. Right, But 523 00:22:53,319 --> 00:22:55,960 at the same time, it's still kind of bossing you 524 00:22:56,039 --> 00:22:58,960 around through like's all, you're hurting my feelings And then 525 00:22:59,000 --> 00:23:00,839 you're like, what am I sposed to do with that? Like? 526 00:23:00,880 --> 00:23:02,799 Speaker 4: How is it hurting your feelings to not be interested 527 00:23:02,839 --> 00:23:03,519 in wanting to. 528 00:23:03,880 --> 00:23:07,480 Speaker 3: Right redo the kitchen and by the way, like it's 529 00:23:07,519 --> 00:23:10,319 not like I'm sitting there filing my finger my nails, 530 00:23:10,359 --> 00:23:13,000 going hey, rob, get out of my way. I'm trying 531 00:23:13,000 --> 00:23:14,480 to sit here and watch Days of our. 532 00:23:14,400 --> 00:23:17,759 Speaker 1: Lives, like I fine, bust my ass. 533 00:23:17,759 --> 00:23:19,799 Speaker 3: Like you think I'm trying to upset you and hurt 534 00:23:19,799 --> 00:23:21,240 your feelings, can't come on. 535 00:23:21,559 --> 00:23:24,319 Speaker 2: But it's also like the thing that you and I 536 00:23:24,519 --> 00:23:27,720 and all women right and a lot of men have 537 00:23:27,799 --> 00:23:32,359 to realize is that we are allowed to sometimes watch 538 00:23:32,440 --> 00:23:34,480 days of our lives if that's what we choose. 539 00:23:34,440 --> 00:23:35,160 Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying. 540 00:23:35,160 --> 00:23:37,319 Speaker 2: Though, it's like we always feel like, oh, I got 541 00:23:37,359 --> 00:23:39,559 to earn it, Like I got to earn my time 542 00:23:39,599 --> 00:23:40,240 watching Dateline. 543 00:23:40,240 --> 00:23:41,079 Speaker 4: At the end of the day, I. 544 00:23:41,640 --> 00:23:44,200 Speaker 2: Feel really weird if I've had a day where I 545 00:23:44,200 --> 00:23:46,079 did nothing and then I'm just watching TV. 546 00:23:46,160 --> 00:23:47,599 Speaker 4: At the end of the day, I'm like, what am 547 00:23:47,640 --> 00:23:48,960 I doing? I should be doing something. 548 00:23:49,000 --> 00:23:51,039 Speaker 2: I should be I don't know, paying bills And it's 549 00:23:51,079 --> 00:23:53,200 almost like when you already paid the bills and your 550 00:23:53,240 --> 00:23:54,680 to do list is kind of done, then you feel 551 00:23:54,680 --> 00:23:56,920 guilty like, oh, my husband's stuff has never done, like 552 00:23:56,960 --> 00:23:58,359 he's had so much on his plate. 553 00:23:58,720 --> 00:24:00,839 Speaker 4: I should be helping him with his exactly, you know. 554 00:24:00,920 --> 00:24:03,880 Speaker 2: But but we have to have stuff that's ours we 555 00:24:04,000 --> 00:24:05,920 have to be working on right. 556 00:24:06,359 --> 00:24:09,799 Speaker 3: It's and it's hard when I know that the truth 557 00:24:09,839 --> 00:24:13,079 is on my side, when I've gone to two therapists 558 00:24:13,079 --> 00:24:16,720 that both said you're dealing with a difficult person and 559 00:24:17,160 --> 00:24:19,559 you've got to have to learn how to navigate the waters. 560 00:24:19,599 --> 00:24:22,519 Speaker 2: But what would happen if you were like, I don't 561 00:24:22,680 --> 00:24:23,680 I'm not interested. 562 00:24:23,880 --> 00:24:24,440 Speaker 4: I am. 563 00:24:24,759 --> 00:24:28,880 Speaker 2: I did not want to demolish, demolition, demo, demo this 564 00:24:29,000 --> 00:24:31,079 kitchen and come up with vision boards. 565 00:24:31,119 --> 00:24:33,400 Speaker 4: It was it's not what I want to be doing 566 00:24:33,400 --> 00:24:33,920 with my time. 567 00:24:34,640 --> 00:24:37,240 Speaker 2: I would like to be having a talk show at 568 00:24:37,279 --> 00:24:39,359 the YouTube space, or I would like to be whatever. 569 00:24:39,400 --> 00:24:41,839 And that's how I would like to contribute, and I 570 00:24:41,920 --> 00:24:43,759 will make it make money. 571 00:24:44,240 --> 00:24:45,720 Speaker 4: Like what if you just said that. 572 00:24:45,599 --> 00:24:47,599 Speaker 1: He would say, I would like to do that too. 573 00:24:47,759 --> 00:24:49,559 Speaker 3: I would like to just go you think I want 574 00:24:49,559 --> 00:24:51,359 to deal with and he does and blah blah blah. 575 00:24:51,400 --> 00:24:53,799 I go to work, I do my ten podcasts a week. 576 00:24:54,079 --> 00:24:55,920 I do what I want. I do what I got 577 00:24:55,920 --> 00:24:56,079 to do. 578 00:24:56,200 --> 00:24:58,200 Speaker 4: But you didn't want to move out of the lost House. 579 00:24:58,359 --> 00:25:00,960 Speaker 2: I know he did, So what if at that point 580 00:25:01,000 --> 00:25:04,079 you had said, I don't want to move. I don't 581 00:25:04,119 --> 00:25:06,279 want to take on a big project right now. And 582 00:25:06,319 --> 00:25:09,359 I know that, I know how busy you are, and 583 00:25:09,400 --> 00:25:12,000 I know that once we're in there, and that's gonna 584 00:25:12,039 --> 00:25:14,799 be kind of pressure on you, like, oh, I got 585 00:25:14,920 --> 00:25:16,319 this house is not where I want it to be. 586 00:25:16,400 --> 00:25:18,920 I really want to demo this house and make it 587 00:25:19,000 --> 00:25:20,000 the way we want it. 588 00:25:20,519 --> 00:25:23,880 Speaker 4: I'm feeling like this year, I really want to start. 589 00:25:23,680 --> 00:25:26,720 Speaker 2: Doing some more stuff, like figuring out what my path is, 590 00:25:26,759 --> 00:25:28,519 and I'm not ready to move. 591 00:25:28,640 --> 00:25:31,640 Speaker 4: What would have happened if you said that he. 592 00:25:31,640 --> 00:25:34,160 Speaker 3: Would do his Adam thing, he would do his Adam talk. 593 00:25:34,440 --> 00:25:37,319 Yeah you say that, but you're gonna want to listen 594 00:25:37,799 --> 00:25:40,279 where it's too tight. In a sudden, He's gonna want 595 00:25:40,279 --> 00:25:42,880 to basketball. It's a night and we can afford it. 596 00:25:43,200 --> 00:25:44,920 Speaker 1: Why not do it? I know what I'm doing. We 597 00:25:45,000 --> 00:25:48,160 got the guy, the kind of the trust me. 598 00:25:48,240 --> 00:25:52,240 Speaker 3: You're gonna that's what he does. I can't argue with him. 599 00:25:52,400 --> 00:25:54,880 First of all, he's the black belt of arguing. 600 00:25:55,640 --> 00:25:59,079 Speaker 4: And this is a problem. Yeah, I think, Well, what 601 00:25:59,240 --> 00:25:59,599 I have. 602 00:25:59,559 --> 00:26:02,720 Speaker 3: To do is I have to eventually, in an argument, 603 00:26:02,839 --> 00:26:04,519 I have to zip it and just sit there and 604 00:26:04,519 --> 00:26:05,839 go okay. 605 00:26:05,599 --> 00:26:09,839 Speaker 1: All right, m okay, all right, yeah, all right, you're right. 606 00:26:10,480 --> 00:26:14,200 Speaker 3: Otherwise it will go on four days. He'll get even 607 00:26:14,319 --> 00:26:16,960 more upset. Whenever I say I didn't want a tesla, 608 00:26:17,119 --> 00:26:19,960 I didn't want that. That makes him, That makes him ten 609 00:26:20,039 --> 00:26:20,920 times angrier. 610 00:26:21,119 --> 00:26:21,599 Speaker 1: I know that. 611 00:26:21,960 --> 00:26:26,400 Speaker 3: So I I just uh, and then he'll calm down 612 00:26:26,440 --> 00:26:28,960 and he'll go and then we could just relax. After 613 00:26:29,000 --> 00:26:31,359 we have the backyard, it's gonna be done. People are 614 00:26:31,400 --> 00:26:33,319 gonna come over and go, wow, this looks great. I 615 00:26:33,359 --> 00:26:35,720 want to be able to say my wife picked out 616 00:26:35,720 --> 00:26:36,480 that my wife. 617 00:26:36,519 --> 00:26:37,799 Speaker 4: Why does he want to be able to do that? 618 00:26:38,920 --> 00:26:39,079 Speaker 2: Uh? 619 00:26:39,680 --> 00:26:40,680 Speaker 1: But because he wants to. 620 00:26:40,960 --> 00:26:43,759 Speaker 3: He works hard and he wants to have the fruits 621 00:26:43,799 --> 00:26:46,359 of his labor. He wants a swimming pool, he wants 622 00:26:46,359 --> 00:26:48,160 a nice kitchen, he wants a whatever. 623 00:26:48,240 --> 00:26:50,000 Speaker 1: Even though we're selling that house in three years. 624 00:26:50,119 --> 00:26:52,440 Speaker 4: Here's the thing too, why are you selling the house in. 625 00:26:52,440 --> 00:26:55,240 Speaker 3: Three years because he's still building the envelope house that 626 00:26:55,279 --> 00:26:57,119 he start the envelope house. 627 00:26:57,240 --> 00:26:58,880 Speaker 1: No, this is the interim. 628 00:26:59,200 --> 00:27:02,160 Speaker 3: He's he's updating the kitchen in the backyard. So when 629 00:27:02,160 --> 00:27:04,279 we do sell it, he'll get more bang for his buck, 630 00:27:04,720 --> 00:27:05,559 that's what he's doing. 631 00:27:05,799 --> 00:27:12,680 Speaker 2: Oh, well, here's the thing. Can you say tell me? I. 632 00:27:12,680 --> 00:27:14,319 I mean it's a little late to go. I didn't 633 00:27:14,359 --> 00:27:16,799 want to move because, you know, because then you're gonna 634 00:27:16,799 --> 00:27:19,359 have that he's of course, and he'll be like, well, 635 00:27:19,400 --> 00:27:22,640 we did move, so you got to help. But I 636 00:27:22,680 --> 00:27:25,079 feel like you should be able to say, like, let's 637 00:27:25,359 --> 00:27:30,000 hire somebody to do it, because I don't want to 638 00:27:31,119 --> 00:27:33,359 he what's he gonna do. He's gonna be like, I'm 639 00:27:33,359 --> 00:27:36,119 gonna divorce you. Well, I want to redo figure out 640 00:27:36,160 --> 00:27:37,119 the pool in the backyard. 641 00:27:37,200 --> 00:27:41,599 Speaker 3: He does, he did, He's not he's even those guys 642 00:27:41,640 --> 00:27:44,440 are demoing it. He has, he did do that route. 643 00:27:44,519 --> 00:27:46,920 Usually he's the one doing everything. This time he's like, 644 00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:49,039 I'm not going to do that. It's not worth the aggravation. 645 00:27:49,680 --> 00:27:52,079 I'm going to hire the guys. But all I want 646 00:27:52,119 --> 00:27:54,119 you to do, he says this, All I want you 647 00:27:54,200 --> 00:27:57,279 to do is do the memory board with the you know, 648 00:27:57,319 --> 00:28:00,240 the pictures, pick off colors you like, picktu do the 649 00:28:00,279 --> 00:28:03,440 fun stuff, do the stuff most women would want to do. 650 00:28:03,480 --> 00:28:05,640 Speaker 4: Why but we're not most women. 651 00:28:05,759 --> 00:28:06,039 Speaker 1: I don't. 652 00:28:06,079 --> 00:28:07,240 Speaker 4: I'm not interested in that either. 653 00:28:07,279 --> 00:28:10,160 Speaker 3: I could give a ship, right, but most women are 654 00:28:10,279 --> 00:28:13,799 dragging the guy. And by the way, I said, but 655 00:28:14,039 --> 00:28:18,039 I adam, I I was working, like I put priority, 656 00:28:18,119 --> 00:28:21,359 Like the house is getting demoed. There's dust I had 657 00:28:21,359 --> 00:28:24,720 to clean. I spent three days organizing cleaning. My back 658 00:28:24,799 --> 00:28:28,480 is breaking the dust from here today. But yeah, that 659 00:28:28,640 --> 00:28:32,839 yours right, right, right right, because he said taking he 660 00:28:33,000 --> 00:28:39,720 said he but no, he'll say, you've had I told 661 00:28:39,759 --> 00:28:43,279 you in January. First, it's now April. I've asked you 662 00:28:43,319 --> 00:28:45,960 to blah blah blah this you've had and it's ten 663 00:28:46,039 --> 00:28:46,799 minutes a night. 664 00:28:46,960 --> 00:28:49,160 Speaker 1: Just go through the magazines and blah blah blah. You 665 00:28:49,200 --> 00:28:49,680 know what I mean. 666 00:28:49,759 --> 00:28:52,200 Speaker 3: That's that's what he already said, by the way, this morning. 667 00:28:52,799 --> 00:28:56,000 And then I said what he wants to hear. I'm sorry, 668 00:28:56,240 --> 00:28:58,440 I'm sorry, I hurt you. I screwed up. You're right, 669 00:28:58,559 --> 00:29:01,079 drop the ball on the memory board. Then I said, 670 00:29:01,480 --> 00:29:03,599 but I didn't fucking drop the ball on everything else. 671 00:29:04,039 --> 00:29:05,799 Why do you think, how do you think that? Well, 672 00:29:05,799 --> 00:29:07,720 look in our living room. You could eat off our. 673 00:29:07,599 --> 00:29:09,759 Speaker 1: Floor even though I had a dust. 674 00:29:09,920 --> 00:29:11,880 Speaker 4: No, that's the thing we want credit for. We want 675 00:29:11,880 --> 00:29:13,039 credit for the stuff we did do. 676 00:29:13,240 --> 00:29:16,240 Speaker 3: And then he says, I do the stuff too. I 677 00:29:16,359 --> 00:29:18,759 work hard too. Yeah, so you did that that needs 678 00:29:18,799 --> 00:29:21,000 to be done. I do I work, I work hard. 679 00:29:22,960 --> 00:29:23,400 Speaker 4: You can't. 680 00:29:23,519 --> 00:29:25,880 Speaker 1: You can't. It's like, what do you do? I don't 681 00:29:25,920 --> 00:29:27,119 know what to do. I don't know. 682 00:29:27,480 --> 00:29:29,640 Speaker 2: Somebody sent us a comment when we were talking on 683 00:29:29,920 --> 00:29:33,839 our last fight We're wrapping in one minute, producer Brandon 684 00:29:35,440 --> 00:29:39,000 that basically it was a guy, of course, who was like. 685 00:29:38,920 --> 00:29:41,079 Speaker 4: Well, you know, the women of the guy. 686 00:29:41,160 --> 00:29:43,400 Speaker 2: If the guy's working full time, then the woman that's like, 687 00:29:43,599 --> 00:29:45,599 that's how it just kind of works. You split it up, 688 00:29:45,640 --> 00:29:47,599 and you do all the childcare, and they do all 689 00:29:47,640 --> 00:29:50,799 this and nobody and yet you women, you expect the 690 00:29:50,799 --> 00:29:53,079 guys to come home and help with the childcare, but 691 00:29:53,200 --> 00:29:56,799 you're helping us at work, right, And I understand that 692 00:29:57,000 --> 00:30:01,559 argument to a degree, I except for the fact that 693 00:30:02,240 --> 00:30:05,079 most of the time, in these modern times, the women 694 00:30:05,200 --> 00:30:06,079 are trying. 695 00:30:05,839 --> 00:30:06,519 Speaker 4: To work too. 696 00:30:06,720 --> 00:30:10,480 Speaker 2: Like I know very few women who don't give a 697 00:30:10,519 --> 00:30:11,920 shit at all about earning money. 698 00:30:12,160 --> 00:30:12,920 Speaker 4: I don't know any. 699 00:30:13,160 --> 00:30:16,720 Speaker 2: I mean, I know a few the ladies who lunch. Ladies, yes, 700 00:30:16,759 --> 00:30:19,599 there are a few who like do nothing. But even 701 00:30:19,640 --> 00:30:23,000 if you watch the Real Housewives, though, the ladies are 702 00:30:23,079 --> 00:30:25,240 running on the treadmill like you're talking about, like they're 703 00:30:25,519 --> 00:30:29,319 doing a show and they're working and shooting and we're 704 00:30:29,359 --> 00:30:31,680 having a dress line and having a trying to come 705 00:30:31,720 --> 00:30:34,480 up with their businesses. Do you think Kyle really needs 706 00:30:34,480 --> 00:30:37,000 to work if Mauricio is like the top guy at 707 00:30:37,039 --> 00:30:41,759 the agency. No, But because these days we feel like 708 00:30:41,960 --> 00:30:43,559 we need to be contributing. 709 00:30:43,759 --> 00:30:48,119 Speaker 4: So now we're doing all of the childcare. And by 710 00:30:48,160 --> 00:30:48,839 the way, we don't. 711 00:30:48,880 --> 00:30:51,000 Speaker 2: It's not that we want the guy to do the 712 00:30:51,039 --> 00:30:54,480 work of it, but we want the guy. But it's different, 713 00:30:54,519 --> 00:30:56,440 like if they're saying, well, aren't you interested in picking 714 00:30:56,440 --> 00:30:59,319 the pool colors? It's a little bit different than going 715 00:30:59,319 --> 00:31:01,839 aren't you interested and going to the basketball evaluation? Because 716 00:31:01,839 --> 00:31:05,160 it's their children, right right, that's not a pool is 717 00:31:05,160 --> 00:31:07,440 not a child right, So like I think it's a 718 00:31:07,480 --> 00:31:12,039 false Like we already do do the heavy lifting of 719 00:31:12,079 --> 00:31:12,839 the child care. 720 00:31:12,839 --> 00:31:13,519 Speaker 4: We don't make them. 721 00:31:13,519 --> 00:31:16,440 Speaker 2: We don't just go like, hey, call the orthodontist because 722 00:31:16,440 --> 00:31:18,079 we got to get that check up in. 723 00:31:18,039 --> 00:31:18,759 Speaker 1: There right now. 724 00:31:18,759 --> 00:31:20,599 Speaker 4: We don't do that. We do all of that. 725 00:31:21,240 --> 00:31:24,799 Speaker 2: We just invite them to participate in the part, in 726 00:31:24,839 --> 00:31:27,200 the good part, just like just like they're talking about, 727 00:31:27,279 --> 00:31:28,640 but you're just getting to do the good part. 728 00:31:28,680 --> 00:31:30,279 Speaker 4: You're doing to do the fun part the pool. 729 00:31:30,720 --> 00:31:32,200 Speaker 1: But that's a good point. 730 00:31:32,279 --> 00:31:34,680 Speaker 2: But a pool is not a child, so you're not 731 00:31:34,799 --> 00:31:37,079 inviting them to do the fun part. You're saying, parent, 732 00:31:37,200 --> 00:31:39,279 this is you're also the dad. You want you should 733 00:31:39,319 --> 00:31:41,599 want to do this right, And we're doing it all. 734 00:31:42,119 --> 00:31:44,480 And on top of that, we're losing sleep at night 735 00:31:44,519 --> 00:31:46,839 because we're trying to figure out how to how to contribute, 736 00:31:47,359 --> 00:31:50,240 how to make money. So, like I think they they 737 00:31:50,720 --> 00:31:53,240 men out there need to understand most of the time 738 00:31:53,279 --> 00:31:56,480 that with women that we do do usually without a 739 00:31:56,480 --> 00:31:57,359 lot of complaining. 740 00:31:57,680 --> 00:32:01,640 Speaker 4: Almost all of the child care that you contribute. 741 00:32:01,119 --> 00:32:04,000 Speaker 2: Because you're a parent, not because it's a job that 742 00:32:04,039 --> 00:32:06,319 we just don't feel like doing. It's because, like you 743 00:32:06,359 --> 00:32:09,319 want to be bonded with your kids. And then we're 744 00:32:09,319 --> 00:32:13,640 also trying, most of us to like and and if 745 00:32:13,640 --> 00:32:15,759 we're not trying, we're stressing about the fact that we're not. 746 00:32:16,519 --> 00:32:18,559 We want to contribute because we don't want to feel 747 00:32:18,559 --> 00:32:21,119 guilty about going to get our botox, right. We want 748 00:32:21,160 --> 00:32:24,200 to be like, yeah, bitch, right, I made five hundred 749 00:32:24,240 --> 00:32:26,839 bucks this week. If I want to go get bowtok 750 00:32:27,160 --> 00:32:30,000 go do this, I know, and not have to ask permission. 751 00:32:31,079 --> 00:32:32,920 I think it's like, you know what you need to do. 752 00:32:32,960 --> 00:32:37,960 You need to like get your vagina upgraded from uh plasma. 753 00:32:37,960 --> 00:32:39,759 And you guys have probably already heard about this, like 754 00:32:40,160 --> 00:32:43,039 you know, like do some stuff for you. And then 755 00:32:43,079 --> 00:32:46,400 we have to try to like secretly empower ourselves so 756 00:32:46,440 --> 00:32:48,759 that we don't feel like yes people all the time 757 00:32:48,960 --> 00:32:51,559 or like we're even like with John, he doesn't even 758 00:32:51,599 --> 00:32:52,960 want me to be that way, but I feel like 759 00:32:53,039 --> 00:32:55,480 that in my head, like a pleaser. Right, Well, how 760 00:32:55,480 --> 00:32:58,599 can I make sure that I feel like I'm helping enough? 761 00:32:58,799 --> 00:32:59,759 Speaker 4: Right, and then we get. 762 00:32:59,640 --> 00:32:59,880 Speaker 6: Rid of it. 763 00:33:00,920 --> 00:33:04,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, and maybe with the pool thing, maybe just do 764 00:33:05,079 --> 00:33:08,000 as as little as you can get away with, like 765 00:33:08,200 --> 00:33:10,200 cut out some pictures even if you don't care about 766 00:33:10,200 --> 00:33:12,240 that well and just be like, yeah, I was looking 767 00:33:12,279 --> 00:33:12,720 at these. 768 00:33:13,400 --> 00:33:14,359 Speaker 4: I did, and. 769 00:33:14,319 --> 00:33:16,240 Speaker 2: Then zone out when he starts to analyze it, well, 770 00:33:16,279 --> 00:33:17,799 I did go pick one. 771 00:33:18,400 --> 00:33:20,559 Speaker 1: See, it's it's not about that. 772 00:33:20,720 --> 00:33:23,319 Speaker 3: It's because it's because I went and hid when all 773 00:33:23,359 --> 00:33:25,279 the when all the workers showed up this morning and 774 00:33:25,279 --> 00:33:27,319 I didn't come out, and he went and took Sonny 775 00:33:27,359 --> 00:33:28,920 at the dropped him off and then he went to 776 00:33:28,960 --> 00:33:30,960 the permit office, and then he came back and I 777 00:33:31,000 --> 00:33:34,160 was still in the room with Natalia planning her week 778 00:33:34,240 --> 00:33:36,880 out right right while I'm trying to go on the 779 00:33:37,480 --> 00:33:39,640 thing and read about our guests that's coming in, right. 780 00:33:40,079 --> 00:33:42,039 And then he comes in, going, she's still in the 781 00:33:42,240 --> 00:33:45,640 That's what it was. She's still in her bedroom hiding out. 782 00:33:45,680 --> 00:33:47,839 It's nine thirty. These guys showed up at eight thirty. 783 00:33:48,119 --> 00:33:50,039 And he grabs the board and he brings it in 784 00:33:50,079 --> 00:33:52,039 and he says, I gotta I got you should see 785 00:33:52,039 --> 00:33:52,839 the board is pretty. 786 00:33:53,119 --> 00:33:55,440 Speaker 1: And he says, I gotta tell you. This hurts my feelings. 787 00:33:55,519 --> 00:33:58,119 That's it. That's not what hurts his feelings. The feelings 788 00:33:58,160 --> 00:33:58,720 are hurt. 789 00:33:58,519 --> 00:34:01,680 Speaker 3: Because I'm not going out there going, wow, look at 790 00:34:01,680 --> 00:34:05,200 what my husband's doing. And let me tell that guy 791 00:34:05,240 --> 00:34:08,519 in the bobcat where to go in the backyard. I 792 00:34:08,559 --> 00:34:13,639 don't know whatever it is. I mean, he needs that, 793 00:34:13,719 --> 00:34:16,800 he needs that, he needs a validation because he didn't 794 00:34:16,840 --> 00:34:18,639 get it. That's his thing. That's why I was like, 795 00:34:18,679 --> 00:34:20,360 I want you to come to the office more. I 796 00:34:20,400 --> 00:34:22,000 want you to do this more. I want you to 797 00:34:22,079 --> 00:34:23,960 be involved in my life. I want you to do 798 00:34:24,039 --> 00:34:26,719 man griya. I want you to do me, me, me 799 00:34:26,880 --> 00:34:30,400 all stuff. Right, I'm doing because nobody paid attention to me. 800 00:34:31,320 --> 00:34:33,079 That's the problem. And that's what I. 801 00:34:33,079 --> 00:34:38,440 Speaker 2: Did in your childhood, trying to help you, like coming 802 00:34:38,440 --> 00:34:44,159 in and guesting on your podcast and right, no, I 803 00:34:44,199 --> 00:34:46,039 can't ex But how do you explain that. 804 00:34:46,320 --> 00:34:47,519 Speaker 1: You can't explain that to him? 805 00:34:47,559 --> 00:34:53,760 Speaker 2: You have doctor Drew explain it to him. Well, if 806 00:34:53,760 --> 00:34:56,800 you guys know, ye hit us on Facebook, Yeah, tell 807 00:34:56,880 --> 00:34:59,960 us this was a special show just for you guys. 808 00:35:00,320 --> 00:35:01,480 Speaker 4: It's like therapy for us. 809 00:35:01,679 --> 00:35:05,280 Speaker 1: I know. Oh my god, you get through it. Thank you, guys, Thank. 810 00:35:05,159 --> 00:35:10,480 Speaker 2: You our patriot, our Patreon listeners and subscribers. Brandy, honestly, 811 00:35:10,519 --> 00:35:12,400 we said it on both our shows this week, but 812 00:35:12,480 --> 00:35:18,320 we are so overwhelmed by having as many subscribers and 813 00:35:18,480 --> 00:35:21,119 how many of you guys are listening to this bonus 814 00:35:21,280 --> 00:35:23,840 content and hopefully more. 815 00:35:23,719 --> 00:35:26,639 Speaker 4: Well at the you know, at the lower level. 816 00:35:26,400 --> 00:35:27,360 Speaker 1: Of spread the word. 817 00:35:27,519 --> 00:35:29,639 Speaker 2: Yeah, spread the word and tell them how great this 818 00:35:29,760 --> 00:35:32,320 extra and how personal and fund this extra content is. 819 00:35:32,360 --> 00:35:34,000 Speaker 4: And we'll keep doing it every week. 820 00:35:34,199 --> 00:35:34,360 Speaker 2: Yeah. 821 00:35:34,360 --> 00:35:36,519 Speaker 1: If you like what you hear, say it, say it. 822 00:35:36,639 --> 00:35:39,320 Speaker 4: Yeah, thank you guys. 823 00:35:39,360 --> 00:36:03,119 Speaker 6: Your parents now don't have it up. 824 00:36:00,079 --> 00:36:15,400 Speaker 5: You love her, but she is as he loves nobody else. 825 00:36:16,119 --> 00:36:18,960 You just can't wait, and. 826 00:36:19,079 --> 00:36:23,079 Speaker 7: So I goes until the day Dad. 827 00:36:24,119 --> 00:36:25,760 Speaker 5: This thing name all love. 828 00:36:26,079 --> 00:36:29,599 Speaker 4: It's gonna make me cray. 829 00:36:31,039 --> 00:36:31,440 Speaker 7: Blues. 830 00:36:32,079 --> 00:36:36,880 Speaker 1: The medic face f was shown. 831 00:36:38,440 --> 00:37:07,800 Speaker 5: Love Love, Love, Save. 832 00:37:02,480 --> 00:37:06,039 Speaker 4: That too and sad sad. 833 00:37:07,159 --> 00:37:09,000 Speaker 1: Loss it is. 834 00:37:09,519 --> 00:37:16,639 Speaker 7: You just can't have you call your whole fall. 835 00:37:17,480 --> 00:37:19,119 Speaker 1: The love the flag. 836 00:37:20,159 --> 00:37:29,960 Speaker 7: It's going off. Care can bring you say. 837 00:37:31,840 --> 00:37:34,239 Speaker 5: Love, say. 838 00:38:12,760 --> 00:38:18,480 Speaker 7: Really human down. 839 00:38:25,320 --> 00:38:33,000 Speaker 5: Love do SI does say. 840 00:38:48,679 --> 00:39:22,480 Speaker 7: Ste do say thanks said sense same. 841 00:39:30,320 --> 00:39:32,039 Speaker 1: This is Corolla Digital 842 00:39:34,320 --> 00:39:34,360 Speaker 7: H