Speaker 1: Or everybody, and it's this James add Junior and this
Speaker 1: is normally I do a well I do audio owner.
Speaker 1: My rug got messed up is now so I am
Speaker 1: a rug here and it's just I'm just Beard, rightyrd. Okay,
Speaker 1: give you a second, folks, this is real life going on.
Speaker 1: I don't really do this. That's just an audio only
Speaker 1: and the audio is still available if you're listening, Hi,
Speaker 1: audio listeners. As I do a video, I want to
Speaker 1: show my face for this conversation. The reason why I'm
Speaker 1: doing it. Fifty plus is a series that I do
Speaker 1: every week Every Tuesday, I talk about issues that it
Speaker 1: happened for being my fifty plus. This time, I'm actually
Speaker 1: gonna talk about age. I'm actually gonna talk about age.
Speaker 1: So I've been seeing a couple of people online who
Speaker 1: are younger criticizing people who are older, and there's and
Speaker 1: they say, in their own words, aren't aging gracefully or
Speaker 1: aren't aging the way they're supposed to. I say that
Speaker 1: in air quotes, and it was just so weird to me.
Speaker 1: Because Alisha Ray, who's an actress she may or may
Speaker 1: not know who, came out recently saying how she she's
Speaker 1: fifty seven and how she looks great and how she
Speaker 1: looks amazing, but how she does need a man and
Speaker 1: you know, and how she decides to date, she still
Speaker 1: goes out, And there's a whole articy there's a whole
Speaker 1: interview with that. Shirley Ralph, my buddy was talking about
Speaker 1: how her husband lives on one coach lives on the other,
Speaker 1: and she's in her saxty she looks and she looks amazing.
Speaker 1: People are criticizing them for not looking their age and
Speaker 1: quotes like remember what that means anymore? I thought, Wow,
Speaker 1: there's some backlash that's like happening. You're teaching younger people
Speaker 1: and real stuff, and I go and I just wanted
Speaker 1: to talk about that little bit because people, as some
Speaker 1: people will come on my shows and ask why do
Speaker 1: I talk about age? What I talk about racial stuff?
Speaker 1: What I talk about sexuality, what I talk about colorism?
Speaker 1: And they get people will get mad at me. And
Speaker 1: these are some of these are the folks that actually,
Speaker 1: if they're black, and I'm I think math we talk
Speaker 1: about black issue. I It's just it's I don't have
Speaker 1: time for all that. So I always tell people that
Speaker 1: I am another channel for you, I'm not the show for you.
Speaker 1: Just scroll go somewhere else, because I'm not going to stop.
Speaker 1: No matter what you say to me, I'm not going
Speaker 1: to stop. I'm gonna continue talking about it because I'm
Speaker 1: not a victim or anything like that. It's just that's
Speaker 1: these are issues that we're talking about because there are
Speaker 1: people out there who feel alone and aren't areas that
Speaker 1: may be rural or just not as popular, or a
Speaker 1: lot of friends who feel invisible. And and that's in
Speaker 1: relation to age. In this episode, I can tell you
Speaker 1: it's everywhere. Hello skincare products. Yeah, I use products too.
Speaker 1: I love them. I got all my I got all
Speaker 1: my lotions and names and face stuff, and I do
Speaker 1: all my stuff. I do, I do take care of it.
Speaker 1: It's a billion dollar industry and everybody's doing it. I'll
Speaker 1: come and I got shaved with shade. They got shape.
Speaker 1: So there's that also in Hollywood. He can so there's
Speaker 1: ages of comparing. I mean it totally happens there about
Speaker 1: that dating apps. I mean even the ones that like
Speaker 1: just regular dating apps, like the ones that are for
Speaker 1: all ages, were we are just sometimes forgot because then
Speaker 1: public we go out, we're literally ignored in certain communities
Speaker 1: just you just not looked at at all. And then
Speaker 1: you also have people who are trying to stay who
Speaker 1: are who are trying to stay so young, they're almost
Speaker 1: killing themselves to stay young and keep up. Now, that
Speaker 1: to me is a problem. Now, that's that's that's a
Speaker 1: little too much. But the ones that are you know,
Speaker 1: just naturally are just our aging. You know, some of
Speaker 1: us have great genes. We just can't help it. We
Speaker 1: take care of ourselves. And there are people out there
Speaker 1: who are working with there's a whole industry of course
Speaker 1: of that out there, people bodybuilders. The grandpa a friend
Speaker 1: of mine, who's who's out there and his wife that
Speaker 1: are trying to keep people healthy over fifty, we are
Speaker 1: living longer just by the fault, I guess what I mean.
Speaker 1: The one's dying at thirty like they used to or forty,
Speaker 1: that's your full life. People living to one hundred, over
Speaker 1: one hundred, they're living that way. And my grandmother was
Speaker 1: ninety nine, lived with all her faculties until she was
Speaker 1: nine nine. I remember, I remember, I remember when I was
Speaker 1: a kid, and I told the story I think a
Speaker 1: little bit on my grandparents show, which I have a
Speaker 1: grandparent show called Really My Grandparent, which is about young
Speaker 1: grandparents were becoming grandparents, younger were lasting longer. Andy, so
Speaker 1: my grandmother a lot. She was a person when I
Speaker 1: was a kid, she was and this was back in
Speaker 1: the seventies. She was one of the few people like
Speaker 1: could say, my grandmother still runs track, she still swims
Speaker 1: every day. She was working out in the garden. She was.
Speaker 1: She was a grandmother. But she wasn't in a rocking
Speaker 1: chair making cookies. No, she made cookies too, but she
Speaker 1: was to sit in a rocking chair. But she was
Speaker 1: going to Dorsety High School and running that track at
Speaker 1: four in the morning every morning, and swimming miles a day.
Speaker 1: And she was in great shape. She always did that.
Speaker 1: She did that. She wasn't one who just sat at
Speaker 1: home and made his sweaters. She was out there doing stuff,
Speaker 1: and she looked great for age. And I think people
Speaker 1: maybe more so that thousand seventies and eighties. Now we're
Speaker 1: talking now where people are living longer, and so now
Speaker 1: age comes up. I have friends who are retiring now
Speaker 1: I have friends who aren't retiring and are are either
Speaker 1: re entering the workforce after years at one company or
Speaker 1: we actually after kids have grown and they have people
Speaker 1: who want to hire them because either know too much
Speaker 1: or they're overqualified, they're afraid, or we know or we
Speaker 1: know certain things. Now we live all a longer, we
Speaker 1: know things that we're not as global as a younger employee.
Speaker 1: Like it's it's a lot. So age always does come
Speaker 1: up this show, I do. People listen to it. They
Speaker 1: love it. We have a great time. I think dialogue
Speaker 1: is fine and communication is fine. I think there's nothing
Speaker 1: wrong with that. Talking about it helps be cathartic, helps
Speaker 1: sometimes make you feel not alone out there. We're like
Speaker 1: now it's a pandemic. We're like these little satellites out there.
Speaker 1: People are feeling all kind of stuff, and you know,
Speaker 1: old folks are having I always say old folks, and
Speaker 1: I say that love it. I say that lovingly because
Speaker 1: I'm one of those old folks. It's we're fine. We
Speaker 1: have a good time. You know. I know what I know.
Speaker 1: I don't want to be younger. I'm glad to be
Speaker 1: fifty five years old in fifty six in May. I'll
Speaker 1: take it. There are times when I feel no age,
Speaker 1: and there are times I feel super old. And that's
Speaker 1: just everybody, and that happens as you get older. It's
Speaker 1: your body. Like my aunt always says, getting old, it's
Speaker 1: not for sissies. It's like it's kind of like this
Speaker 1: thing where it's it tumes you up. Things start happening
Speaker 1: and your life does change on some level, but on
Speaker 1: other levels it doesn't have to. It's like you said,
Speaker 1: age is a number. In some cases that really is true.
Speaker 1: We can work longer, we can live longer, we can
Speaker 1: have kids longer. There's all kind of stuff happening. And
Speaker 1: I don't use anything wrong with talking about age. It's
Speaker 1: out there all the time. It's in ads, it's in advertising.
Speaker 1: You know, they're eighteen or forty nine. You know, Like
Speaker 1: like you said, I realized at one point the music
Speaker 1: is not meant for me. Those ads are not meant
Speaker 1: for me. They're meant for people younger than me. Got
Speaker 1: it and if it heard at first, I'll tell you
Speaker 1: it hurt a little bit. But that went on. But
Speaker 1: I don't know what. I don't know what somebody we
Speaker 1: were saying, what we're supposed to age, like, I don't
Speaker 1: know what that means, Like it I mean us to
Speaker 1: just sit at home, and you know, like I don't know,
Speaker 1: let every wrinkle come in. But I said, there's folks
Speaker 1: out there who don't wrinkle. I have my girl other
Speaker 1: had they had no white hair, and so she died.
Speaker 1: So like the genetics, you just can't. I mean, it's
Speaker 1: it is what it is, right, So I think it's
Speaker 1: just weird. I think some of this stuff is just
Speaker 1: so caird and I just I don't get it. But
Speaker 1: I will always continue to speak out on it, and
Speaker 1: no matter and when people said, people say, what do
Speaker 1: you want to me, I'm always gonna talk about age.
Speaker 1: And I think it's just it's fascinating. There are some
Speaker 1: wonderful things about getting older, and we talked about there's
Speaker 1: some very essential things we have talk about as we
Speaker 1: get older. But I don't think we should hold anybody
Speaker 1: to like you gotta look a certain way and be
Speaker 1: as some way because you're And then also the folks
Speaker 1: who are like Pamela Anderson and then who are fifty
Speaker 1: seven fifty years old, who are not working makeup anymore
Speaker 1: and being unnatural, I'm like, good, good for her. I
Speaker 1: love ham Anderson, that's my girl anyway, But I love
Speaker 1: I think so I have I have friends who are
Speaker 1: just like they've they've decided I'm wearing the flat shoes.
Speaker 1: But yeah, I'm gonna wear a cute top and I
Speaker 1: go out, or a cute blouse or a cute dress.
Speaker 1: Why not, No matter what age you are, I have
Speaker 1: certain haircut your hairstyles. Why not I wear hoodies and
Speaker 1: things and walk around at tennis youth. I don't care.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I mean, I don't mean. I just think
Speaker 1: they're I'm gonna all of a sudden pull my pants
Speaker 1: up high and and you know, and wadle to cha
Speaker 1: table or something, and just like, Hi, I'm I need
Speaker 1: a senior met menu. You know, I do like to
Speaker 1: see your menu. I do. I have no problem with that.
Speaker 1: But I am glad that I'm older, I said. I
Speaker 1: don't see that as a crutch or anything. I think
Speaker 1: it's great. There are time times I wish I was
Speaker 1: a little younger. But more that's just it's not about
Speaker 1: mindset more. It's just body is your body. My body's
Speaker 1: been training me no, But I can work on my
Speaker 1: body and get that better too. That's the luxury of
Speaker 1: every time, every time you wake up, there's a new chance.
Speaker 1: And I just think that so But I think I think,
Speaker 1: and I think the I think it's a backlashes fo
Speaker 1: outrage anyway, it's just it's just it's something for clicks
Speaker 1: and got my attention. Uh, it is what I'm talking about.
Speaker 1: Because I do a show like this, I feel like
Speaker 1: I should say something about it, gotta get my stance.
Speaker 1: But I think it's just that's what's going on there.
Speaker 1: I think it's so some of it like they really
Speaker 1: don't care, like what do you care? Like, what do
Speaker 1: you care? Who cares? You know? But I do. I
Speaker 1: do have concerns. If I do anything, I always have concerns.
Speaker 1: I want it might be their authentic cell. So I
Speaker 1: feel bad for some older people who feel like they
Speaker 1: have to put on a persona try to stay young
Speaker 1: and hip and get attention. I hope I don't do
Speaker 1: that just to go. I mean, I just I think
Speaker 1: that's not healthy for anybody, and for the person you're
Speaker 1: trying to attract. In yourself. I just want to I
Speaker 1: want to buy to be comfortable on who they are,
Speaker 1: whatever age they are, it's all, that's all it should be.
Speaker 1: If you're young, they'll try to grow up too fast.
Speaker 1: Then if you, oh, don't just give up. So fast
Speaker 1: on both ends. Right, That's where all ended. Every Tuesday
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