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<v Speaker 1>Or everybody, and it's this James add Junior and this

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<v Speaker 1>is normally I do a well I do audio owner.

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<v Speaker 1>My rug got messed up is now so I am

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<v Speaker 1>a rug here and it's just I'm just Beard, rightyrd. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>give you a second, folks, this is real life going on.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't really do this. That's just an audio only

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<v Speaker 1>and the audio is still available if you're listening, Hi,

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<v Speaker 1>audio listeners. As I do a video, I want to

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<v Speaker 1>show my face for this conversation. The reason why I'm

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<v Speaker 1>doing it. Fifty plus is a series that I do

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<v Speaker 1>every week Every Tuesday, I talk about issues that it

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<v Speaker 1>happened for being my fifty plus. This time, I'm actually

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<v Speaker 1>gonna talk about age. I'm actually gonna talk about age.

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<v Speaker 1>So I've been seeing a couple of people online who

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<v Speaker 1>are younger criticizing people who are older, and there's and

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<v Speaker 1>they say, in their own words, aren't aging gracefully or

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<v Speaker 1>aren't aging the way they're supposed to. I say that

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<v Speaker 1>in air quotes, and it was just so weird to me.

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<v Speaker 1>Because Alisha Ray, who's an actress she may or may

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<v Speaker 1>not know who, came out recently saying how she she's

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<v Speaker 1>fifty seven and how she looks great and how she

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<v Speaker 1>looks amazing, but how she does need a man and

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<v Speaker 1>you know, and how she decides to date, she still

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<v Speaker 1>goes out, And there's a whole articy there's a whole

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<v Speaker 1>interview with that. Shirley Ralph, my buddy was talking about

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<v Speaker 1>how her husband lives on one coach lives on the other,

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<v Speaker 1>and she's in her saxty she looks and she looks amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>People are criticizing them for not looking their age and

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<v Speaker 1>quotes like remember what that means anymore? I thought, Wow,

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<v Speaker 1>there's some backlash that's like happening. You're teaching younger people

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<v Speaker 1>and real stuff, and I go and I just wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to talk about that little bit because people, as some

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<v Speaker 1>people will come on my shows and ask why do

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<v Speaker 1>I talk about age? What I talk about racial stuff?

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<v Speaker 1>What I talk about sexuality, what I talk about colorism?

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<v Speaker 1>And they get people will get mad at me. And

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<v Speaker 1>these are some of these are the folks that actually,

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<v Speaker 1>if they're black, and I'm I think math we talk

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<v Speaker 1>about black issue. I It's just it's I don't have

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<v Speaker 1>time for all that. So I always tell people that

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<v Speaker 1>I am another channel for you, I'm not the show for you.

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<v Speaker 1>Just scroll go somewhere else, because I'm not going to stop.

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<v Speaker 1>No matter what you say to me, I'm not going

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<v Speaker 1>to stop. I'm gonna continue talking about it because I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not a victim or anything like that. It's just that's

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<v Speaker 1>these are issues that we're talking about because there are

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<v Speaker 1>people out there who feel alone and aren't areas that

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<v Speaker 1>may be rural or just not as popular, or a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of friends who feel invisible. And and that's in

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<v Speaker 1>relation to age. In this episode, I can tell you

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<v Speaker 1>it's everywhere. Hello skincare products. Yeah, I use products too.

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<v Speaker 1>I love them. I got all my I got all

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<v Speaker 1>my lotions and names and face stuff, and I do

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<v Speaker 1>all my stuff. I do, I do take care of it.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a billion dollar industry and everybody's doing it. I'll

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<v Speaker 1>come and I got shaved with shade. They got shape.

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<v Speaker 1>So there's that also in Hollywood. He can so there's

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<v Speaker 1>ages of comparing. I mean it totally happens there about

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<v Speaker 1>that dating apps. I mean even the ones that like

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<v Speaker 1>just regular dating apps, like the ones that are for

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<v Speaker 1>all ages, were we are just sometimes forgot because then

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<v Speaker 1>public we go out, we're literally ignored in certain communities

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<v Speaker 1>just you just not looked at at all. And then

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<v Speaker 1>you also have people who are trying to stay who

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<v Speaker 1>are who are trying to stay so young, they're almost

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<v Speaker 1>killing themselves to stay young and keep up. Now, that

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<v Speaker 1>to me is a problem. Now, that's that's that's a

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<v Speaker 1>little too much. But the ones that are you know,

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<v Speaker 1>just naturally are just our aging. You know, some of

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<v Speaker 1>us have great genes. We just can't help it. We

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<v Speaker 1>take care of ourselves. And there are people out there

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<v Speaker 1>who are working with there's a whole industry of course

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<v Speaker 1>of that out there, people bodybuilders. The grandpa a friend

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<v Speaker 1>of mine, who's who's out there and his wife that

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<v Speaker 1>are trying to keep people healthy over fifty, we are

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<v Speaker 1>living longer just by the fault, I guess what I mean.

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<v Speaker 1>The one's dying at thirty like they used to or forty,

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<v Speaker 1>that's your full life. People living to one hundred, over

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<v Speaker 1>one hundred, they're living that way. And my grandmother was

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<v Speaker 1>ninety nine, lived with all her faculties until she was

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<v Speaker 1>nine nine. I remember, I remember, I remember when I was

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<v Speaker 1>a kid, and I told the story I think a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit on my grandparents show, which I have a

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<v Speaker 1>grandparent show called Really My Grandparent, which is about young

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<v Speaker 1>grandparents were becoming grandparents, younger were lasting longer. Andy, so

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<v Speaker 1>my grandmother a lot. She was a person when I

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<v Speaker 1>was a kid, she was and this was back in

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<v Speaker 1>the seventies. She was one of the few people like

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<v Speaker 1>could say, my grandmother still runs track, she still swims

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<v Speaker 1>every day. She was working out in the garden. She was.

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<v Speaker 1>She was a grandmother. But she wasn't in a rocking

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<v Speaker 1>chair making cookies. No, she made cookies too, but she

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<v Speaker 1>was to sit in a rocking chair. But she was

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<v Speaker 1>going to Dorsety High School and running that track at

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<v Speaker 1>four in the morning every morning, and swimming miles a day.

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<v Speaker 1>And she was in great shape. She always did that.

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<v Speaker 1>She did that. She wasn't one who just sat at

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<v Speaker 1>home and made his sweaters. She was out there doing stuff,

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<v Speaker 1>and she looked great for age. And I think people

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<v Speaker 1>maybe more so that thousand seventies and eighties. Now we're

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<v Speaker 1>talking now where people are living longer, and so now

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<v Speaker 1>age comes up. I have friends who are retiring now

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<v Speaker 1>I have friends who aren't retiring and are are either

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<v Speaker 1>re entering the workforce after years at one company or

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<v Speaker 1>we actually after kids have grown and they have people

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<v Speaker 1>who want to hire them because either know too much

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<v Speaker 1>or they're overqualified, they're afraid, or we know or we

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<v Speaker 1>know certain things. Now we live all a longer, we

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<v Speaker 1>know things that we're not as global as a younger employee.

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<v Speaker 1>Like it's it's a lot. So age always does come

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<v Speaker 1>up this show, I do. People listen to it. They

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<v Speaker 1>love it. We have a great time. I think dialogue

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<v Speaker 1>is fine and communication is fine. I think there's nothing

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<v Speaker 1>wrong with that. Talking about it helps be cathartic, helps

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes make you feel not alone out there. We're like

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<v Speaker 1>now it's a pandemic. We're like these little satellites out there.

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<v Speaker 1>People are feeling all kind of stuff, and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>old folks are having I always say old folks, and

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<v Speaker 1>I say that love it. I say that lovingly because

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<v Speaker 1>I'm one of those old folks. It's we're fine. We

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<v Speaker 1>have a good time. You know. I know what I know.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to be younger. I'm glad to be

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<v Speaker 1>fifty five years old in fifty six in May. I'll

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<v Speaker 1>take it. There are times when I feel no age,

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<v Speaker 1>and there are times I feel super old. And that's

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<v Speaker 1>just everybody, and that happens as you get older. It's

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<v Speaker 1>your body. Like my aunt always says, getting old, it's

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<v Speaker 1>not for sissies. It's like it's kind of like this

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<v Speaker 1>thing where it's it tumes you up. Things start happening

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<v Speaker 1>and your life does change on some level, but on

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<v Speaker 1>other levels it doesn't have to. It's like you said,

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<v Speaker 1>age is a number. In some cases that really is true.

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<v Speaker 1>We can work longer, we can live longer, we can

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<v Speaker 1>have kids longer. There's all kind of stuff happening. And

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<v Speaker 1>I don't use anything wrong with talking about age. It's

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<v Speaker 1>out there all the time. It's in ads, it's in advertising.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, they're eighteen or forty nine. You know, Like

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<v Speaker 1>like you said, I realized at one point the music

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<v Speaker 1>is not meant for me. Those ads are not meant

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<v Speaker 1>for me. They're meant for people younger than me. Got

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<v Speaker 1>it and if it heard at first, I'll tell you

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<v Speaker 1>it hurt a little bit. But that went on. But

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know what. I don't know what somebody we

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<v Speaker 1>were saying, what we're supposed to age, like, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know what that means, Like it I mean us to

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<v Speaker 1>just sit at home, and you know, like I don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>let every wrinkle come in. But I said, there's folks

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<v Speaker 1>out there who don't wrinkle. I have my girl other

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<v Speaker 1>had they had no white hair, and so she died.

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<v Speaker 1>So like the genetics, you just can't. I mean, it's

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<v Speaker 1>it is what it is, right, So I think it's

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<v Speaker 1>just weird. I think some of this stuff is just

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<v Speaker 1>so caird and I just I don't get it. But

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<v Speaker 1>I will always continue to speak out on it, and

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<v Speaker 1>no matter and when people said, people say, what do

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<v Speaker 1>you want to me, I'm always gonna talk about age.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think it's just it's fascinating. There are some

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<v Speaker 1>wonderful things about getting older, and we talked about there's

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<v Speaker 1>some very essential things we have talk about as we

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<v Speaker 1>get older. But I don't think we should hold anybody

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<v Speaker 1>to like you gotta look a certain way and be

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<v Speaker 1>as some way because you're And then also the folks

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<v Speaker 1>who are like Pamela Anderson and then who are fifty

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<v Speaker 1>seven fifty years old, who are not working makeup anymore

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<v Speaker 1>and being unnatural, I'm like, good, good for her. I

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<v Speaker 1>love ham Anderson, that's my girl anyway, But I love

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<v Speaker 1>I think so I have I have friends who are

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<v Speaker 1>just like they've they've decided I'm wearing the flat shoes.

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, I'm gonna wear a cute top and I

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<v Speaker 1>go out, or a cute blouse or a cute dress.

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<v Speaker 1>Why not, No matter what age you are, I have

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<v Speaker 1>certain haircut your hairstyles. Why not I wear hoodies and

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<v Speaker 1>things and walk around at tennis youth. I don't care.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I mean, I don't mean. I just think

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<v Speaker 1>they're I'm gonna all of a sudden pull my pants

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<v Speaker 1>up high and and you know, and wadle to cha

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<v Speaker 1>table or something, and just like, Hi, I'm I need

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<v Speaker 1>a senior met menu. You know, I do like to

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<v Speaker 1>see your menu. I do. I have no problem with that.

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<v Speaker 1>But I am glad that I'm older, I said. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't see that as a crutch or anything. I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's great. There are time times I wish I was

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<v Speaker 1>a little younger. But more that's just it's not about

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<v Speaker 1>mindset more. It's just body is your body. My body's

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<v Speaker 1>been training me no, But I can work on my

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<v Speaker 1>body and get that better too. That's the luxury of

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<v Speaker 1>every time, every time you wake up, there's a new chance.

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<v Speaker 1>And I just think that so But I think I think,

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<v Speaker 1>and I think the I think it's a backlashes fo

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<v Speaker 1>outrage anyway, it's just it's just it's something for clicks

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<v Speaker 1>and got my attention. Uh, it is what I'm talking about.

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<v Speaker 1>Because I do a show like this, I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>I should say something about it, gotta get my stance.

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<v Speaker 1>But I think it's just that's what's going on there.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's so some of it like they really

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<v Speaker 1>don't care, like what do you care? Like, what do

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<v Speaker 1>you care? Who cares? You know? But I do. I

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<v Speaker 1>do have concerns. If I do anything, I always have concerns.

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<v Speaker 1>I want it might be their authentic cell. So I

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<v Speaker 1>feel bad for some older people who feel like they

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<v Speaker 1>have to put on a persona try to stay young

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<v Speaker 1>and hip and get attention. I hope I don't do

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<v Speaker 1>that just to go. I mean, I just I think

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<v Speaker 1>that's not healthy for anybody, and for the person you're

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<v Speaker 1>trying to attract. In yourself. I just want to I

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<v Speaker 1>want to buy to be comfortable on who they are,

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<v Speaker 1>If you're young, they'll try to grow up too fast.

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