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<v Speaker 1>A title that I had to choose that would not

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<v Speaker 1>get me kicked off of YouTube out I'm like, how

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<v Speaker 1>can I tell this episode? I had some ideas like

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<v Speaker 1>childhood spankings, and I can't. It's like, no, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>get this off on YouTube, So I gotta be careful

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<v Speaker 1>to say being raised in nineteen seventies. Hi, I'm James

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<v Speaker 1>Lott Junior's jamt this evening, and this is something that

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<v Speaker 1>is not bumping raised in the seventies, not really, but

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<v Speaker 1>it's more about a type of being raised some of

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<v Speaker 1>us who were a children of a certain era. And

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<v Speaker 1>I found this. This was my great grandmother's it's a paddle,

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<v Speaker 1>it's it's my what my cousin's got it for. And

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<v Speaker 1>it's kind of like it's a joke thing like this

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<v Speaker 1>we got. He got this for after he grew up,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was just kind of like, look, got it funny?

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<v Speaker 1>Am I gonna ask? Okay, I'm showing now. But she

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<v Speaker 1>used to switch. She used to get the switch and

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<v Speaker 1>in spank us, we were bad. I can spankings various

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<v Speaker 1>adults when I was younger in the in the seventies,

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<v Speaker 1>and we had a corporal punishment at school because don't

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<v Speaker 1>know if we are that you can sign a paper,

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<v Speaker 1>but they can spank you. My mother never signed. She

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<v Speaker 1>was like, I'll come call me, I'll come down. I'll

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<v Speaker 1>be deserves so to speak. I mean, I mean, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>saying that that was the language, but not she didn't

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<v Speaker 1>beat our ass. Actually, my mother used to hit us.

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<v Speaker 1>It was always kind of comical, right, there's like, well,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, it's like you know my father, my father

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<v Speaker 1>did some stuff. There was like great, but my mother

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<v Speaker 1>was kind of comical when you thought about it. But

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<v Speaker 1>that whole thing about spanking, and with that it's been

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<v Speaker 1>shows made about it. Things are stuff now and how

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<v Speaker 1>it doesn't translate today for most people for the next

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<v Speaker 1>generations are like, no, we don't do spanking at all.

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<v Speaker 1>What are your thoughts on it? Folks. I can have

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<v Speaker 1>a wide range people who watched these shows and watch

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<v Speaker 1>my network. I have a huge demographic. So you tell

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<v Speaker 1>me what you think about, what your thoughts are on spanking. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>what's funny of me is yes, hide is never the answer.

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<v Speaker 1>As a parent, though, I do understand when a child

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<v Speaker 1>really gets you riled up. And yes, there are there

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<v Speaker 1>are parenting looks out there telling how not to get

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<v Speaker 1>riled up and how to you know, But we're talking

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<v Speaker 1>to humans, human nature, your personality, their personality. Are you

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<v Speaker 1>tired when they come at you a certain way? Are

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<v Speaker 1>you exhausted? They commandity collect you a certain way? Is

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<v Speaker 1>the way is to trigger you? And they say something

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<v Speaker 1>a certain way, You're like, wait a minute. But there's

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<v Speaker 1>a lot that we didn't consider back in the day.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's like they're just it was adults, kids, kids

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<v Speaker 1>have no feelings. Nothing. Then at some point some may

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<v Speaker 1>say we went too much into kids feelings. Some may

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<v Speaker 1>say I always will say it's a situation because because

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<v Speaker 1>kids are people too, which was a show back in

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<v Speaker 1>the day. So what does that mean now? I was like, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>well those of us who've got spanked, I mean my

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<v Speaker 1>girandther from South it was like get a switch, so

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<v Speaker 1>your little tree branch out there and and and you

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<v Speaker 1>couple of hits. I look back, and maybe maybe I'm romanticizing.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, but I feel like we were pretty

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<v Speaker 1>much good kids for the most part. Like dicuep us

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<v Speaker 1>in line, we had rules, we had regulations, the threat

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<v Speaker 1>of violence, the belt or whatever. It reallydiculous and many

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<v Speaker 1>of us in line, and and for many of us

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<v Speaker 1>it taught us not to do that again. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know we obviously I don't. I don't know. If we

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<v Speaker 1>hadn't gotten spanked, we still try the same way. There's

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<v Speaker 1>no way I no wing now. Now that's obviously too late.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know that. But it's one of those things, right,

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<v Speaker 1>It's like, well, if he hadn't done that, we get

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<v Speaker 1>the same results. It goes into when I was a

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<v Speaker 1>kid and the whole It takes a village mentality to

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<v Speaker 1>raise people. When I was a kid, any adult was

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<v Speaker 1>in charge, you're a man. If there was area you

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<v Speaker 1>couldn't say, you're not my mother, you used to get popped,

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<v Speaker 1>get popped by them, and then by your mother, who

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<v Speaker 1>said that person was in charge. I mean, it's like

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<v Speaker 1>I just I it was if any adult spoke to you,

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<v Speaker 1>you showed respect, do matter who you belong to. And

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<v Speaker 1>so I sometimes feel in some areas here in America

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<v Speaker 1>that's gone. I know there are some areas that still

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<v Speaker 1>have it. I say, miss Helen, Miss Susan, mister so

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<v Speaker 1>and so. Now I still say that with my elders,

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<v Speaker 1>or if I don't know their last name mister Sons

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<v Speaker 1>was to Collins this that if I don't know them,

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<v Speaker 1>it's a sign of respect. I just I've always been

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<v Speaker 1>taught to respect elders. And I wonder if those spankings,

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<v Speaker 1>those timeouts, those you know, did that help me become

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<v Speaker 1>this gentleman of sorts or is it all just hogwash?

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<v Speaker 1>We won't know because it's too lated me. It's already

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<v Speaker 1>happened to us. And yes, and I did. I've never

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<v Speaker 1>beat my daughters. Now. I have spanked with my daughters once.

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<v Speaker 1>Didn't feel good, and it was a long time. I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't feel good. She was little, she was she was

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<v Speaker 1>really being a pill. But I never had to spank

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<v Speaker 1>her again. Did it one time? That's it? Now? Was

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<v Speaker 1>that great? May not? It was the early nineties, so

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<v Speaker 1>that was still kind of happening. Then it was a

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<v Speaker 1>whole different culture. And but my grandkids don't think of

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<v Speaker 1>urban spinked the same. And I don't speak my guy.

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<v Speaker 1>I would never speak my grandkids. I mean, that'say, that's

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<v Speaker 1>not my They're not my children. So it's kind of funny.

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<v Speaker 1>Back in the day, I was raised by grandparents partially,

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<v Speaker 1>But now I would never touch my grandkids I mean

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<v Speaker 1>said that's I would say, here's your parents, deal with them. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>I may have a startin talking to you. And you see,

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<v Speaker 1>see a lot of times I just deep voice. So

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of times my deep voice scares people and

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<v Speaker 1>serious kids. So I could just just get serious for

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<v Speaker 1>my face and speak and my voice drops when I'm

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<v Speaker 1>even more upset it gae's it deeper. So a lot

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<v Speaker 1>oftimes it's all takes from me and then I'm done.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, We're there, good, We're good to go. I

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<v Speaker 1>was anything else. But for those of you guys don't

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<v Speaker 1>have deep voices or have that kind of thing, I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>you have to figure out something right. And our children

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<v Speaker 1>are so important, right they're they're they're the now. They're

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying in the future, they're the now how they ray

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<v Speaker 1>are raised and how they move up in life in

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<v Speaker 1>terms of kind of adults they're gonna be. I actually

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<v Speaker 1>feel like I probably coddled my my children too much

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit because I want them to have because

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<v Speaker 1>I want them not to have the childhood I am

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<v Speaker 1>anyways rights, I want them to have the opposite. That's funny.

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<v Speaker 1>So I was like, so there will be no It

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<v Speaker 1>was like we'll talk. But yes, you get time outs.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes you're to go in your room. Yes, I mean

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<v Speaker 1>it's that you're grounded. Oh that stuff happened all the time,

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<v Speaker 1>that's the thing all the time. But many stuff happened.

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<v Speaker 1>There's something wrong as a consequence, of course, share of course.

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<v Speaker 1>But I think that's one of those things where you're like, okay, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>so I don't know, it's just it's uh, most in

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<v Speaker 1>you think about a nighttime as we're sitting here gently

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<v Speaker 1>this evening, does I think that's one thing about things

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<v Speaker 1>like this, Like ohm, I think to myself, but this

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<v Speaker 1>is fifty plus. I was just like, jes this is

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<v Speaker 1>not yours. I was just doing my jail day this evening.

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<v Speaker 1>This is fifty plus, same difference, and they must have

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<v Speaker 1>at a nighttime. I think about my childhood sometimes, about

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<v Speaker 1>how I was raised, how I raised my kids, how

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<v Speaker 1>the grandkids are being raised. You're constantly watching that, and

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I have friends and siblings who are grandparents

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<v Speaker 1>also or parents are adult children, and we're like we're

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<v Speaker 1>all trying to navigate it right, We're all just like, wow,

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<v Speaker 1>does this work? How does this work? So you know,

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<v Speaker 1>those are all thoughts because times are different now and

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<v Speaker 1>I would never let anybody hit my kids in terms

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<v Speaker 1>of like corporal punishment. Oh my god, that's I'm kind

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<v Speaker 1>of glad they stopped that. And I was just like,

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<v Speaker 1>kind of I'm glad they stops that. That's like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>we're not doing all that. Let the parents come in

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<v Speaker 1>and take responsibility to parents that are involved. Let them

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<v Speaker 1>be involved in every level. That's what I say there.

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<v Speaker 1>I'll say that James is sifty plus. Of course, I

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<v Speaker 1>want to hear your ideas and your thoughts. I decided

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<v Speaker 1>to have a video because I want to show the paddle.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to show the paddle, but we're also audio.

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<v Speaker 1>Of course, we're out on Tuesdays, So every Tuesday and

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<v Speaker 1>new episode comes out, I'll talk to you next time.

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<v Speaker 1>What