WEBVTT 1 00:00:03.399 --> 00:00:06.960 Welcome to the Parenting Roundabout podcast. I'm Terry Morrow. 2 00:00:06.719 --> 00:00:07.960 And I'm Catherine Hileco. 3 00:00:08.279 --> 00:00:11.759 Every Thursday, we're bringing you a library find, a pick 4 00:00:11.800 --> 00:00:14.919 from our archives, and a parenting or pop culture tidbit 5 00:00:15.160 --> 00:00:19.920 or two. Let's start with Catherine's library find of the week. 6 00:00:21.160 --> 00:00:25.719 This week's library Fine, I bring you another parenting book 7 00:00:25.800 --> 00:00:33.240 to question the intentions of It is called Hunt, Gather Parent. 8 00:00:34.280 --> 00:00:37.640 What ancient cultures can teach us about the lost art 9 00:00:37.799 --> 00:00:40.799 of raising happy, helpful little humans? 10 00:00:41.960 --> 00:00:43.240 Oh my gosh. 11 00:00:43.280 --> 00:00:49.079 And for one thing, it says ancient cultures, but it 12 00:00:49.159 --> 00:00:53.759 really means like third world country, Like it's kind of 13 00:00:53.759 --> 00:01:02.119 a cringy, you know, just means non American European. 14 00:01:02.280 --> 00:01:03.039 Yes, you know. 15 00:01:03.320 --> 00:01:07.439 And I think it probably makes some good points about 16 00:01:07.560 --> 00:01:11.920 like community basically. I mean, I think the main argument 17 00:01:12.040 --> 00:01:17.879 is like in these cultures, you know, kids are fending 18 00:01:17.879 --> 00:01:21.040 for themselves a little bit more, but they have an 19 00:01:21.200 --> 00:01:23.719 entire community of people around them. 20 00:01:24.280 --> 00:01:26.640 Right, are looking out for. 21 00:01:26.599 --> 00:01:31.239 Them, right, Which was the case when I was growing 22 00:01:31.319 --> 00:01:36.599 up in suburban California. So it's not like this is 23 00:01:36.719 --> 00:01:43.599 an ancient culture. It's just recently we've maybe gotten away 24 00:01:43.599 --> 00:01:45.439 from it. Yeah, there's I'm looking at the picture on 25 00:01:45.480 --> 00:01:47.599 the front of this book that looks like a canvas 26 00:01:47.640 --> 00:01:50.040 tote bag with some stuffed animals in it and some 27 00:01:50.120 --> 00:01:53.959 little shoes. This doesn't look like hunters and gatherers were. 28 00:01:54.200 --> 00:01:55.879 Yeah, they were gathering. 29 00:01:59.319 --> 00:02:00.359 Under gathered days. 30 00:02:00.760 --> 00:02:04.359 Well, this author I know has is a reporter for 31 00:02:04.480 --> 00:02:05.840 NPR sop. 32 00:02:06.319 --> 00:02:09.960 Yeah, I guess so. 33 00:02:11.080 --> 00:02:14.120 But it's like you're kind of undercutting your your thesis 34 00:02:14.800 --> 00:02:18.800 immediately by having a little uh well Mary Jane's off 35 00:02:18.800 --> 00:02:22.800 to the side and you know, your little canvas thing. 36 00:02:23.199 --> 00:02:26.080 But okay, I don't know. You know how we feel 37 00:02:26.120 --> 00:02:30.719 about these things, right the first the first way to 38 00:02:30.800 --> 00:02:33.719 raise happy, helpful little humans is put down the parenting 39 00:02:33.759 --> 00:02:35.560 book and just. 40 00:02:37.199 --> 00:02:37.719 Go parent. 41 00:02:38.039 --> 00:02:43.840 Yeah. Well, and it just you can't. 42 00:02:44.280 --> 00:02:51.599 You can't separate the environment from the parenting practices. And 43 00:02:51.759 --> 00:02:54.240 that is where all of these kind of fall apart, 44 00:02:54.360 --> 00:02:58.319 you know, like why French kids are polite and why 45 00:02:59.240 --> 00:03:02.400 Norwegian kids are happy when it's. 46 00:03:02.280 --> 00:03:05.080 Cool whatever, Like French kids are poets. 47 00:03:05.080 --> 00:03:07.159 I don't know there there was you know, how French 48 00:03:07.199 --> 00:03:09.039 parents do it, how how. 49 00:03:09.240 --> 00:03:13.360 Well I see Viking everybody is better than American parents. 50 00:03:13.879 --> 00:03:18.520 And it's like, yeah, maybe if I were living in 51 00:03:18.560 --> 00:03:23.960 France or Norway or wherever, I would have different Yeah, 52 00:03:25.120 --> 00:03:27.240 I would have different methods. 53 00:03:28.840 --> 00:03:32.960 Yeah, you know, yeah, I'm not sure how universally applicable 54 00:03:33.000 --> 00:03:34.080 parenting methods are. 55 00:03:34.800 --> 00:03:38.159 It depends on so many things. 56 00:03:38.280 --> 00:03:42.960 Well, that's what I mean that there's just yeah, the environment. 57 00:03:43.039 --> 00:03:47.039 I mean we can say obviously there's. 58 00:03:46.800 --> 00:03:50.240 There's a variety in how every one does things. But 59 00:03:51.080 --> 00:03:56.680 you know, if you're living within a society, like there's 60 00:03:57.039 --> 00:03:59.280 some things that you can't control. 61 00:04:00.400 --> 00:04:05.560 Right, right, I mean we try ancient culture, yeah, yeah. 62 00:04:05.319 --> 00:04:08.199 You know, like if you can try like living off 63 00:04:08.240 --> 00:04:13.560 the grid and you know, homeschooling and everything else, but 64 00:04:14.479 --> 00:04:17.519 you know that only works for the first fifteen years 65 00:04:17.600 --> 00:04:18.040 or whatever. 66 00:04:18.800 --> 00:04:26.199 Yeah, yeah, yeah, this is just this is like clickbait parenting. 67 00:04:27.279 --> 00:04:27.720 Advice. 68 00:04:28.519 --> 00:04:32.360 Also the time about ancient cultures. What was the average 69 00:04:33.319 --> 00:04:36.319 life expectancy of a child in an ancient culture? 70 00:04:36.439 --> 00:04:36.839 Question? 71 00:04:37.360 --> 00:04:40.879 Yeah, and didn't they have like large numbers of children 72 00:04:40.959 --> 00:04:44.399 so that maybe a couple of them would live to to. 73 00:04:44.120 --> 00:04:45.480 Do the farm in the. 74 00:04:48.120 --> 00:04:50.079 So I mean if you only got to you only 75 00:04:50.079 --> 00:04:51.839 have to deal with them for about eight years and then. 76 00:04:52.000 --> 00:04:55.839 Yeah, maybe a little easier. Yeah, we don't have to. 77 00:04:55.800 --> 00:04:58.240 Deal with that teenage nonsense, because by the time they 78 00:04:58.240 --> 00:05:00.920 are teenagers, they're parents and themselves. 79 00:05:01.759 --> 00:05:02.360 That's right. 80 00:05:02.839 --> 00:05:08.639 Yeah, yeah, I don't seems like the sort of thing 81 00:05:08.800 --> 00:05:12.600 that hunt gather parent well, and I think are we 82 00:05:12.639 --> 00:05:13.399 hunting exactly? 83 00:05:13.399 --> 00:05:16.000 It does have some you know, like everything else, it 84 00:05:16.079 --> 00:05:21.519 has little kernels in terms of including your child in 85 00:05:22.360 --> 00:05:27.439 household tasks and you know, things like that, giving them choices, 86 00:05:27.560 --> 00:05:33.560 giving them, you know, whatever independence you can, which again 87 00:05:33.720 --> 00:05:35.560 is going to depend. 88 00:05:35.199 --> 00:05:38.240 A lot on the environment. But I mean those. 89 00:05:38.079 --> 00:05:44.040 Little little tiny nuggets, sure you can take from them. 90 00:05:43.759 --> 00:05:45.720 But also doesn't seem like we need to go back 91 00:05:45.759 --> 00:05:49.040 to ancient cultures to pick that advice. I feel like 92 00:05:49.079 --> 00:05:54.319 there are times within even the lifespan of NPR when. 93 00:05:54.120 --> 00:05:57.279 That was a thing that that people did. 94 00:05:58.680 --> 00:06:02.240 There's various reasons, but you know, I still want to 95 00:06:02.720 --> 00:06:04.720 I have to really have to work on this idea 96 00:06:05.199 --> 00:06:09.680 of a parenting book companion, where you could take notes 97 00:06:09.720 --> 00:06:13.399 on parenting advice and then change it so that it 98 00:06:13.439 --> 00:06:15.920 a works for you and b is not annoying. 99 00:06:17.439 --> 00:06:22.879 To rewrite every parenting book so that it exactly fine. 100 00:06:23.319 --> 00:06:29.040 Hunt and gather any tiny bit of information that you 101 00:06:29.079 --> 00:06:32.399 can see as workable, figure out how to make it work. There, 102 00:06:32.439 --> 00:06:35.279 you toss the rest in the garbage, keep your little 103 00:06:35.399 --> 00:06:43.240 notebook perfect, yes, Hunt, gather parenting informations, and discard the rest. 104 00:06:46.319 --> 00:06:48.879 Well, why don't you tell us what you've gathered? 105 00:06:49.199 --> 00:06:53.360 Oh yeah, I have gathered a few earworms over the 106 00:06:53.399 --> 00:06:59.120 past little bit. And they're not like current pop songs 107 00:06:59.160 --> 00:07:00.959 that it would make sense for me to just break 108 00:07:01.000 --> 00:07:03.800 out singing in the car. They're a little weird, but 109 00:07:03.959 --> 00:07:06.360 I'm gonna share them with you. You go listen to them, 110 00:07:06.439 --> 00:07:09.160 and then you will be singing them randomly in the 111 00:07:09.199 --> 00:07:11.800 car too, and I will not feel quite so alone. 112 00:07:12.439 --> 00:07:15.639 The first thing is a couple of a couple of 113 00:07:15.920 --> 00:07:20.920 episodes lost episodes ago, we were talking about Rob mcalhoney 114 00:07:21.040 --> 00:07:23.839 playing one of a young guard and you referred to 115 00:07:23.920 --> 00:07:26.199 him as a baby Rob mcalhoney, and you did in 116 00:07:26.199 --> 00:07:28.959 fact pronounce his name correct, right. But we did comment 117 00:07:29.000 --> 00:07:31.000 on the fact that that is quite a name to 118 00:07:31.040 --> 00:07:35.439 have to say without preparation. And I had heard somewhere 119 00:07:35.439 --> 00:07:38.000 that he was legally changing his name to Rob Mack 120 00:07:38.120 --> 00:07:41.040 for that very reason, and in the course of looking 121 00:07:41.120 --> 00:07:44.199 up information on that, and by the way, on IMDb, 122 00:07:44.360 --> 00:07:48.040 he is now, in fact Rob Mac Yeah. 123 00:07:48.759 --> 00:07:51.639 I just read a New York Times magazine article about 124 00:07:52.120 --> 00:07:56.519 It's Always Sunny and they referred to him as Mac through. 125 00:07:56.480 --> 00:07:59.759 Yes, and I read an article that said his wife 126 00:07:59.839 --> 00:08:03.120 came Linnelson and his kids are a little chagrined by 127 00:08:03.120 --> 00:08:12.079 this because it is still their legal last names. But anyway, 128 00:08:12.240 --> 00:08:16.240 on the subject of it being tricky to pronounce, uh, 129 00:08:16.839 --> 00:08:21.680 Ryan Reynolds made a video with a song with using 130 00:08:21.720 --> 00:08:24.399 I think people from this series they have Welcome to Wrexham. 131 00:08:24.439 --> 00:08:30.600 They own a British soccer team, right anyway, it's a song. Yeah, 132 00:08:30.680 --> 00:08:34.840 it's a song about how to pronounce his name, and 133 00:08:35.240 --> 00:08:39.200 the part that goes, MA call Henny mack coh Henny 134 00:08:39.679 --> 00:08:42.279 goes through my brain all the bleep and time. And 135 00:08:42.360 --> 00:08:44.639 I'm walking around singing that and people are looking at 136 00:08:44.639 --> 00:08:47.480 me funny, and I can't explain it's this this. 137 00:08:47.519 --> 00:08:48.840 Video about this guy's name. 138 00:08:49.080 --> 00:08:51.240 It's really not even his name anymore, so there's really 139 00:08:51.240 --> 00:08:53.759 no reason for me to care about this song, but 140 00:08:53.799 --> 00:08:57.000 it's just so catchy. It just stuck in my brain 141 00:08:57.600 --> 00:09:01.039 like a burr. So thanks a lot, Ryan Reynolds. I 142 00:09:01.159 --> 00:09:04.039 don't even need to know anymore how to pronounce it 143 00:09:04.120 --> 00:09:09.879 until his children are actors. And the second one was 144 00:09:09.960 --> 00:09:13.360 I was recently doing some work for a client of 145 00:09:13.399 --> 00:09:18.600 mine that involved a school lesson on Benjamin Franklin. Was 146 00:09:19.200 --> 00:09:21.399 actually it was I guess about the Revolutionary War, but 147 00:09:21.440 --> 00:09:23.559 there was a whole section of it on Benjamin Franklin, 148 00:09:24.039 --> 00:09:28.639 and I immediately had to go through my head, do 149 00:09:28.679 --> 00:09:29.279 you know. 150 00:09:29.279 --> 00:09:33.279 Who the bleep? Iye am? Do you know who the bleep? 151 00:09:33.279 --> 00:09:38.440 Bye am? Benjamin something something bleep in Franklin? And I 152 00:09:38.480 --> 00:09:41.120 had to then immediately go on YouTube and listen to 153 00:09:41.159 --> 00:09:44.320 Benjamin Franklin's song, which was an outtake from Hamilton I 154 00:09:44.440 --> 00:09:46.440 Do love that and sung by the December. 155 00:09:46.799 --> 00:09:47.200 I think it was. 156 00:09:49.639 --> 00:09:54.240 Incredibly delightfulness. And anytime I see anything about Benjamin Franklin 157 00:09:54.320 --> 00:09:56.480 and they're talking about how he was an ambassador and 158 00:09:56.480 --> 00:10:02.200 he did this, I'm just imagining him going, you know, yeah, exactly. 159 00:10:03.360 --> 00:10:06.840 The attitude in that song just bled right over into 160 00:10:06.879 --> 00:10:09.639 this school lesson, and I almost put a note for 161 00:10:10.039 --> 00:10:12.200 the people I work for saying, hey, you know, if 162 00:10:12.279 --> 00:10:14.200 y'all haven't ever heard this song, you used to go 163 00:10:14.360 --> 00:10:19.159 listen to it and then you feel better of that idea. 164 00:10:20.639 --> 00:10:25.000 And thirdly, under the category of how does our brain 165 00:10:25.360 --> 00:10:30.480 remember ridiculous, stupid songs that we knew when we were 166 00:10:30.840 --> 00:10:34.720 in school, but forgets everything else we learned in school. 167 00:10:36.000 --> 00:10:38.879 The other day, we were driving on a street in 168 00:10:38.879 --> 00:10:43.320 our town and we passed by a particularly pungent bit 169 00:10:43.360 --> 00:10:47.279 of roadkill, and I said, oh, it's like that song 170 00:10:47.320 --> 00:10:49.440 dead Skunk in the middle of the road. And my 171 00:10:49.559 --> 00:10:52.360 husband looked at me, like, what I said, there's a song? 172 00:10:52.600 --> 00:10:54.240 There was a song dead Skunk in the middle of 173 00:10:54.279 --> 00:10:56.799 the road. And he's like, sure there was, And so 174 00:10:56.919 --> 00:10:59.519 I looked it up and see, I said, right here, 175 00:11:00.279 --> 00:11:02.039 right the third In nineteen seventy two, I had a 176 00:11:02.080 --> 00:11:03.720 song called dead Skunk in the Middle of the Road 177 00:11:03.759 --> 00:11:05.639 and I found it online and I played it and 178 00:11:05.679 --> 00:11:06.840 I sang along to it. 179 00:11:07.399 --> 00:11:10.039 And why do I remember that, Catherine? 180 00:11:10.159 --> 00:11:10.399 Why? 181 00:11:11.440 --> 00:11:11.720 I mean? 182 00:11:11.879 --> 00:11:12.879 I was in eighth. 183 00:11:12.639 --> 00:11:16.039 Grade, probably a prime age to think that a folk 184 00:11:16.159 --> 00:11:17.960 song about dead skunk in the middle of the road 185 00:11:18.039 --> 00:11:23.320 is pretty cool, and we must have sang it at 186 00:11:23.360 --> 00:11:29.120 some point amongst us, and it just it It occupied 187 00:11:29.200 --> 00:11:31.960 a part of my brain and I remembered. 188 00:11:31.480 --> 00:11:32.240 It like that. 189 00:11:32.759 --> 00:11:35.480 It wasn't even isn't there a song or something about 190 00:11:35.519 --> 00:11:37.360 something like that? I know I'll know it's that song 191 00:11:37.399 --> 00:11:40.480 Dead Skunk in the middle of the Road. Yeah. My 192 00:11:40.559 --> 00:11:42.960 husband had never heard of it, has no idea what 193 00:11:43.000 --> 00:11:44.960 I'm talking about. Thought I was making it up until 194 00:11:44.960 --> 00:11:49.639 I played it. So now i'm you know, thinking about it. 195 00:11:49.840 --> 00:11:53.039 So every time, every time we passed, we passed that 196 00:11:53.080 --> 00:11:55.960 particular bit of roadkill quite a number of times during 197 00:11:56.000 --> 00:11:59.559 the day, and each time I was ready. 198 00:11:59.320 --> 00:12:00.000 You were ready, was. 199 00:12:02.559 --> 00:12:05.440 Because it was indeed a dead skunk in the middle 200 00:12:05.480 --> 00:12:11.759 of the road, stinking to high so perfect, perfect music. 201 00:12:12.159 --> 00:12:15.519 Music. It's it's what would we do without it? 202 00:12:15.759 --> 00:12:18.679 And the way that it embeds itself into our brains, 203 00:12:18.720 --> 00:12:20.559 and we'll not leave. 204 00:12:21.879 --> 00:12:22.080 There. 205 00:12:22.080 --> 00:12:27.879 It is. I went to a Hello, somebody's taking this Hello, 206 00:12:28.080 --> 00:12:30.960 can you turn that off or down or something? 207 00:12:32.600 --> 00:12:36.919 Okay, does it really work? 208 00:12:38.879 --> 00:12:41.320 I went, So we talked about music, and so now 209 00:12:41.320 --> 00:12:42.600 we have music in the background. 210 00:12:43.159 --> 00:12:48.679 I went to a karaoke birthday party pretty recently, and 211 00:12:49.559 --> 00:12:52.159 you know, if you asked me to sing every single 212 00:12:52.240 --> 00:12:58.320 word of you know, Chicken Fried or whatever, I certainly 213 00:12:58.320 --> 00:13:01.559 could not. But when it's playing and everyone's singing. 214 00:13:01.360 --> 00:13:05.360 Yeah, it just comes out, and it just comes right out. 215 00:13:05.960 --> 00:13:06.559 It's amazing. 216 00:13:08.399 --> 00:13:15.240 Brains are so weird the storage. The storage is something 217 00:13:15.240 --> 00:13:17.720 that maybe needs to be looked at. It's the way that. 218 00:13:17.600 --> 00:13:19.600 The efficiency is probably not. 219 00:13:19.480 --> 00:13:24.879 There, right, But the fact why is that there? What 220 00:13:24.919 --> 00:13:28.759 should those brain cells have instead? What did I learn 221 00:13:28.840 --> 00:13:32.679 in eighth grade science and math that's long gone? 222 00:13:32.679 --> 00:13:34.399 But dead skunk in the middle of the road has. 223 00:13:34.279 --> 00:13:42.279 A whole little little quartical cells? Yep, yeah, yep, came 224 00:13:42.360 --> 00:13:47.759 right out. Oh well, what do we have from the archive? 225 00:13:48.320 --> 00:13:53.200 This week we are going back to twenty twenty one 226 00:13:54.759 --> 00:14:00.000 when we were discussing a tweet that lamented societal press. 227 00:14:00.080 --> 00:14:03.600 Sure to sleep, eat, walk, meditate, care for our homes, 228 00:14:04.720 --> 00:14:08.679 all these things you know, work, don't forget that. Yeah, yeah, yeah, 229 00:14:08.679 --> 00:14:11.559 we're supposed to do every day. And you know, oh 230 00:14:11.639 --> 00:14:13.200 if you have children also. 231 00:14:13.000 --> 00:14:14.759 You have to take care of them. 232 00:14:15.240 --> 00:14:18.360 So in pets that was I don't know if that 233 00:14:18.480 --> 00:14:22.159 wasn't there, but yeah, it's like when when I whenever 234 00:14:22.200 --> 00:14:26.159 I see people even just with like their. 235 00:14:26.039 --> 00:14:29.320 Nails done, I'm like, but when did you do that? 236 00:14:30.519 --> 00:14:30.720 You know? 237 00:14:31.879 --> 00:14:36.600 Or like there's you know, somebody I follow on Instagram 238 00:14:36.600 --> 00:14:39.799 who's basically an influencer, and so like it's her job 239 00:14:39.879 --> 00:14:43.559 to like look good on camera, but when she shows 240 00:14:43.600 --> 00:14:48.080 like everything she does in the morning and in the evening, 241 00:14:48.200 --> 00:14:53.840 like the routine like this is like two hours of 242 00:14:53.879 --> 00:14:57.559 your day, Like how how does that happen? 243 00:14:57.799 --> 00:15:01.799 Like I did, I don't get it. 244 00:15:03.039 --> 00:15:07.279 I mean, my morning routine is maybe ten minutes, and 245 00:15:07.279 --> 00:15:10.000 that includes brushing my teeth and putting in my context. 246 00:15:10.360 --> 00:15:15.399 My evening routine is maybe like fifteen. 247 00:15:17.039 --> 00:15:17.720 To twenty. 248 00:15:18.120 --> 00:15:23.279 But I also like read a magazine while I'm brushing 249 00:15:23.279 --> 00:15:24.840 my teeth while. 250 00:15:24.600 --> 00:15:26.799 I'm yeah, you know, moisturizing. 251 00:15:26.879 --> 00:15:31.000 I'm also sort of multitasking but not really very well, 252 00:15:31.120 --> 00:15:32.399 so that makes it take longer. 253 00:15:32.440 --> 00:15:35.000 But still it could not take an hour. 254 00:15:36.679 --> 00:15:39.559 No, well, do you wear makeup? Still? 255 00:15:40.000 --> 00:15:41.840 I do when I go to work, but that's part 256 00:15:41.879 --> 00:15:47.399 of the ten minutes. Like opal face is five minutes. Yeah, 257 00:15:47.399 --> 00:15:50.000 absolutely can do it in five minutes, but I doubt 258 00:15:50.080 --> 00:15:52.000 that they do. I mean, I think people are doing 259 00:15:52.080 --> 00:15:54.240 the shading and the shape. Oh yeah, all of the 260 00:15:54.440 --> 00:15:59.360 contract all that different stuff, the contours and you know what, 261 00:15:59.519 --> 00:16:01.200 we can see that you did all that stuff and 262 00:16:01.240 --> 00:16:04.360 it looks ridiculous, But okay, if it makes you happy, 263 00:16:04.480 --> 00:16:06.240 if you look in the mirror and you like the 264 00:16:06.240 --> 00:16:08.080 way it looks, if you look at your videos and 265 00:16:08.120 --> 00:16:09.039 you like the way it looks. 266 00:16:09.120 --> 00:16:11.679 God bless, but I ain't doing it. 267 00:16:12.440 --> 00:16:17.000 I haven't warrant and warn makeup for years and years now, 268 00:16:18.240 --> 00:16:21.039 and I never did that much. It was like eyeshadow, 269 00:16:21.120 --> 00:16:25.440 blush and lip something and I was done. But my 270 00:16:25.559 --> 00:16:29.240 husband didn't like makeup that much, so he was always 271 00:16:29.240 --> 00:16:34.080 happy when I didn't wear it. And I'm like, well, okay, yeah, 272 00:16:34.240 --> 00:16:36.679 mostly wearing it to gotcha, guy, I gotcha. 273 00:16:36.919 --> 00:16:40.039 You don't want it? Fine with me? 274 00:16:40.399 --> 00:16:41.159 I do remember what. 275 00:16:41.399 --> 00:16:44.399 Yeah, I was watching it. My husband and I were 276 00:16:44.399 --> 00:16:49.399 watching TV, and I think a commercial for mes Gara 277 00:16:49.559 --> 00:16:53.360 came on and he is like, who tells that? 278 00:16:53.600 --> 00:16:59.600 I'm like, oh, why do He's like really, oh gosh. 279 00:16:59.679 --> 00:17:03.519 That is one of the one of the one of the. 280 00:17:03.480 --> 00:17:05.960 Things you still do things that I do. Do you 281 00:17:06.039 --> 00:17:08.400 use a lash curler or you just use the mascar. 282 00:17:08.559 --> 00:17:11.200 I don't use a curler usually, but I do use 283 00:17:11.359 --> 00:17:16.359 a primmer, so like something you ply for the mascara 284 00:17:16.519 --> 00:17:16.920 to make it. 285 00:17:16.920 --> 00:17:20.079 Stay on, which actually works really well. 286 00:17:20.440 --> 00:17:24.519 This was I was totally influenced by some article that 287 00:17:24.599 --> 00:17:27.799 I was editing, you know, because all I edit is 288 00:17:28.079 --> 00:17:33.039 shopping content all the time, So I have made some 289 00:17:33.079 --> 00:17:40.319 purchases based so yes, so it's too close, you know, 290 00:17:41.440 --> 00:17:43.920 But like I said, I can still do it in five. 291 00:17:43.720 --> 00:17:48.200 Minutes, as long as you can do it in five minutes. 292 00:17:49.359 --> 00:17:52.599 Yeah, but no false eyelashes. 293 00:17:53.039 --> 00:17:54.680 No, that seems ridiculous to me. 294 00:17:54.759 --> 00:17:58.319 No, my my daughter wears someone she skates or she did. 295 00:17:58.599 --> 00:18:00.680 Oh yeah, well that I can sell. But if that's 296 00:18:00.759 --> 00:18:01.920 part of the costume. 297 00:18:01.559 --> 00:18:04.160 It's part of the costume. But also, like you have 298 00:18:04.240 --> 00:18:07.799 to get used to wearing those things, you know, you, Yeah, 299 00:18:08.480 --> 00:18:09.880 they feel very weird. 300 00:18:10.519 --> 00:18:13.240 So yeah, did they ever fall off and land on 301 00:18:13.279 --> 00:18:15.119 the ice and then you have to skate around them? 302 00:18:15.400 --> 00:18:15.680 Yeah? 303 00:18:15.799 --> 00:18:17.680 Or do they glue them on with super glue? 304 00:18:17.720 --> 00:18:18.920 They well, they do glue. 305 00:18:18.759 --> 00:18:19.599 Them on, but. 306 00:18:21.359 --> 00:18:24.160 I'm sure they do fall off and then it could 307 00:18:24.200 --> 00:18:26.039 be a costume violation if. 308 00:18:25.880 --> 00:18:27.880 You yeah, loose one. 309 00:18:28.599 --> 00:18:32.160 Yikes, that's I don't think I ever did that. My 310 00:18:32.279 --> 00:18:36.119 eyes have always been super sensitive to stuff, so I 311 00:18:36.160 --> 00:18:38.160 did wear maskara, but probably most of the time it 312 00:18:38.200 --> 00:18:40.880 got all smudge because my eyes were watering from contacts 313 00:18:41.000 --> 00:18:45.599 or glasses or sweat or something. I'm I'm kind of 314 00:18:45.640 --> 00:18:48.279 a mess. So it's really nothing I wear is gonna 315 00:18:48.480 --> 00:18:53.319 make that much difference. But I give you, I give you, you 316 00:18:53.200 --> 00:18:55.720 got another ten years on the mescira and by. 317 00:18:55.559 --> 00:18:57.000 Then you need to be done with it. 318 00:18:57.279 --> 00:19:00.559 But yeah, I have definitely used being old to pretty 319 00:19:00.599 --> 00:19:04.079 much just ditch out every part of my routine. But 320 00:19:04.119 --> 00:19:08.400 then you get moisturizer's new routine of like taking your 321 00:19:08.440 --> 00:19:12.240 medicine and you got to eat when that's true, and 322 00:19:12.359 --> 00:19:14.640 you got to have this one out stomach and you 323 00:19:14.680 --> 00:19:17.920 got to take this one. Yes, oh my gosh, it's 324 00:19:17.960 --> 00:19:21.559 a nightmare. Yeah, that that is something I do feel 325 00:19:21.599 --> 00:19:24.000 pressure with. It's like, am I gonna remember to take it? 326 00:19:24.119 --> 00:19:27.880 My My husband fixes up my pill bottle, my pill 327 00:19:27.920 --> 00:19:32.640 box every day for me and generally reminds me, but 328 00:19:33.359 --> 00:19:37.200 sometimes I forget. And yes, it's like this one needs food, 329 00:19:37.240 --> 00:19:39.839 this one doesn't. But I want to space these apart. 330 00:19:39.839 --> 00:19:42.119 I want to space them out through the day. I 331 00:19:42.160 --> 00:19:44.440 know it doesn't really matter, and you could just take 332 00:19:44.480 --> 00:19:46.720 them all at once, but that seems wrong to me. 333 00:19:47.559 --> 00:19:50.279 I want to I want to like space them out. 334 00:19:50.400 --> 00:19:54.319 But it's just you know, recently I like increased the 335 00:19:54.400 --> 00:19:55.559 number of pills I was taking. 336 00:19:55.640 --> 00:19:57.279 It's like, where am I going to broad them? Which 337 00:19:57.319 --> 00:20:00.240 one goes with where or where does it go? Oh 338 00:20:00.279 --> 00:20:03.599 my gosh, I don't have enough slots. I'm gonna have 339 00:20:03.640 --> 00:20:05.640 to eat another meal just to be able to do this. 340 00:20:06.440 --> 00:20:10.920 I probably have tea. Probably wouldn't complain, like, well, yeah, 341 00:20:10.920 --> 00:20:11.359 that's true. 342 00:20:12.039 --> 00:20:14.960 Yeah right now, as we discussed the other day, now 343 00:20:14.960 --> 00:20:19.240 that I know my BMI increased, my allowance increases over 344 00:20:19.319 --> 00:20:21.359 sixty five, then they bring it on. 345 00:20:25.759 --> 00:20:26.920 Oh my gosh. 346 00:20:26.960 --> 00:20:30.599 But yes, there is the combination of taking a lot 347 00:20:30.640 --> 00:20:33.279 of medications and then seeing a lot of doctors. 348 00:20:33.359 --> 00:20:36.920 Yes, does sort of create. 349 00:20:37.000 --> 00:20:38.960 I mean, most of the time I feel just fine, 350 00:20:39.039 --> 00:20:41.359 but the pressure of having to remember to go do 351 00:20:41.440 --> 00:20:43.440 this and then this is the day. Okay, I'm getting 352 00:20:43.440 --> 00:20:44.799 a shot in my eye. That means the rest of 353 00:20:44.839 --> 00:20:50.599 the day is shot. And I have to have echo 354 00:20:50.640 --> 00:20:53.640 cardiograms for this one thing. It's like it's a lot. 355 00:20:53.759 --> 00:20:56.519 And I am I this sickly? Am I this elderly 356 00:20:56.599 --> 00:20:58.279 that I am now to just kind of go into 357 00:20:58.319 --> 00:21:00.279 the hospital all the time for this and then the 358 00:21:00.319 --> 00:21:01.880 other Yeah, and yes, I am. 359 00:21:02.079 --> 00:21:04.799 It's just a lot to cram into your schedule. 360 00:21:05.799 --> 00:21:07.240 Yeah. Yeah. 361 00:21:07.279 --> 00:21:10.079 And I'm also I mean it's making me think that 362 00:21:10.559 --> 00:21:14.880 I really need to get going on you know, updating 363 00:21:14.880 --> 00:21:17.880 our will and figuring out what my kids are going 364 00:21:17.960 --> 00:21:20.440 to do if we are not around. Now, my husband's 365 00:21:20.480 --> 00:21:22.839 grandmother lived to one hundred, so I figure he'll be 366 00:21:22.880 --> 00:21:28.519 around maybe longer than me. But you know, I already 367 00:21:28.519 --> 00:21:31.400 felt the pressure to do it, and then I mentioned 368 00:21:31.440 --> 00:21:33.839 it to my daughter's therapist and she said, oh, I 369 00:21:33.880 --> 00:21:36.359 know some good people, and she gave me some names. 370 00:21:37.200 --> 00:21:39.880 And so now it's like every time my daughter goes, 371 00:21:39.920 --> 00:21:41.000 she says, oh, did your mom. 372 00:21:40.880 --> 00:21:41.839 Call any of those people? 373 00:21:41.880 --> 00:21:45.920 So now there's really pressure cause she, you know, made 374 00:21:45.920 --> 00:21:48.559 sure to tell me how inconvenient, you know, how much 375 00:21:48.599 --> 00:21:50.240 time it took her to get all this stuff together 376 00:21:50.279 --> 00:21:50.559 for me. 377 00:21:51.119 --> 00:21:52.160 So now if I don't. 378 00:21:51.920 --> 00:21:56.119 Do anything, I'm that terrible person who put her to 379 00:21:56.200 --> 00:21:59.559 all this trouble for nothing. But it's like it's, you know, 380 00:21:59.720 --> 00:22:02.400 one of them is there there, Neither of them are 381 00:22:02.400 --> 00:22:05.119 in my town. One of them is up one way, 382 00:22:05.240 --> 00:22:06.599 one of them is the other way. Do we want 383 00:22:06.599 --> 00:22:08.240 to go south? Do we want to go north? There's 384 00:22:08.279 --> 00:22:10.519 this reason to do this, there's that reason. I'm like 385 00:22:10.559 --> 00:22:13.079 have paralysis before I even make a phone call, trying 386 00:22:13.079 --> 00:22:16.359 to figure out who I should call. And there's somebody 387 00:22:16.400 --> 00:22:19.759 in our neighborhood, I mean know that does our taxes. 388 00:22:19.759 --> 00:22:21.359 Maybe we should just talk to them. But then there's 389 00:22:21.400 --> 00:22:23.559 this other person, maybe we should just so I just 390 00:22:23.559 --> 00:22:26.759 don't do it. So pressure to plan for your death 391 00:22:26.839 --> 00:22:30.920 is a real but not something that you really want 392 00:22:30.920 --> 00:22:36.759 to do easily procrastinated. And I mean you could say, oh, well, 393 00:22:36.799 --> 00:22:38.920 I've got another few years. I'm in pretty good shape. 394 00:22:38.960 --> 00:22:39.440 I know it's not. 395 00:22:39.559 --> 00:22:43.400 But you know, one bad one bad move on the highway, 396 00:22:43.799 --> 00:22:45.240 so you can never know. 397 00:22:47.960 --> 00:22:49.160 There's a lot of pressure right now. 398 00:22:49.519 --> 00:22:52.480 Yeah, maybe we have to stop so you can go 399 00:22:52.559 --> 00:22:53.480 take care of some things. 400 00:22:53.720 --> 00:22:55.599 You need to go back and sing the Benjamin tradlines 401 00:22:55.640 --> 00:22:55.759