Speaker 2: What's Up, Besties?
Speaker 1: Welcome back to another episode of Your Manifesting Bestie podcast.
I'm your host, Flora, and we are diving into all
things mindset and manifestation like we always do. I want
to apologize for last week. We had a missing episode
due to the storm that came to Florida, and I'm
really hoping and praying for everyone who was caught in
these storms. We've had hurricanes back to back recently, and
my heart really goes down to everybody because it is
tough out here. But we are finally back and this week,
I want to get into a very highly requested topic
that our listeners have asked for. A lot of people
within my academy have also asked for this, and it
is a very popular topic. If you look online, there's
a lot of conversation around this, more so in the
dating world, and we're going to touch a little bit
on it from every aspect and every avenue. But it's
how to embody your feminine energy. And the reason that
I get asked this question a lot is because I
am very business oriented, very goal oriented, and people ask
me how do I operate a multimillion dollar business in
my feminine energy? And how am I not overly masculine,
overly organized, overly planning everything right? How do I stay
and embody my feminine energy while still making a very
very generous income and overlooking so many different aspects within
my business that I pretty much do by myself, running
a podcast, running an entire manifestation platform which is the Academy,
coaching our members, creating new digital programs, staying on top
of content creation, staying on top of editing. There's so
much that goes into running a business by yourself, and
it can lean more into the masculine energy.
Speaker 2: And that's totally normal.
Speaker 1: I think people are afraid of like living in the
masculine energy. But there is a time and place for everything,
and that's what I want to talk about, because if
we shy away from doing the work that needs to
be done, especially if you're a business owner, or especially
if you're somebody who is, you know, running some type
of a career that requires their focus and energy, you're
going to be leaning into your masculine And that's not
a bad thing.
Speaker 2: It's not a negative thing.
Speaker 1: It's not bad to be organized, and it's not bad
to take action, and it's not bad to block out
time on your calendar to hustle and show up. These
are not bad things, and there's a way to do
all of that while still being in the feminine. So
the difference between these two energies, number one, the feminine
is receiving, the feminine is being. The feminine is full
on embodiment, whereas the masculine is more so planning, organizing
structure and physical effort and taking action. So there's a
time a place to utilize both of these different types
of energies. And each individual, whether you are a man
or you are a woman, you have a combined energy
of both sides because you have duality within you. Right,
You're not just one. You're not just feminine and you're
not just masculine. You embody both energies simultaneously. Now, what
you're more dominant of, of course, is going to create
different results in your life. And the way that you
can remain in your feminine energy while dominating a business
or while running something that requires a lot of energy
and focus is pretty simple, and it's beautiful to talk
about this because the art of manifesting, the art of
manifestation in itself is a very feminine creation. So manifestation
is being right, you be it until you become it.
It is the embodiment of something new. So when we
manifest and we work on our self concept and our
identity to transform our lils into a new being, that's
not action based necessarily, it's energetic.
Speaker 2: Right. So it's you being it.
Speaker 1: It's you thinking like it, feeling like it, behaving like it,
having the personality and characteristics of the new self that
already has those goals met. When you shift your identity
by being someone new, someone different, is very different than
taking a ton of action to try to change and
force change in your physical world, which is much more masculine. Okay,
So when we want to live in our feminine energy,
for all my ladies who are listening out there, we
can be feminine. We can live in that feminine energy
of receiving of embodiment, of working on our energy, right,
and then we can still take the necessary action to
move the puzzle pieces that are right in front of us. Right,
There's only so much like meditating and sitting around and
feeling we can do until it's time to take inspired action.
And inspired action is not a bad thing. It's a
very feminine way to operate. It's a very feminine way
to create something is through aligned action because you are
doing it through a new energy, through inspired energy. You're
not doing it through force, You're not doing it through
the lack mindset. You're not doing it because you think
something bad's going to happen if you don't take action,
so you have to force it into place. Right, that's
not what you're doing here. You are first aligning yourself energetically,
which is a very feminine quality. It's very feminine of
you to be like, hmm, I'm going to choose to
embody my most abundant self today. I'm going to appreciate
everything around me today. I'm going to choose to feel
good internally today. I'm going to choose to pour into
myself mentally, spiritually, physically, and emotionally today so I can
take care of me. That is all very feminine. And
when you're able to conjure up this new feelings state,
you are becoming someone new, not because you took action,
but because you're aligning yourself energetically to the desired outcome,
which is the act of manifestation. So you can see
now that manifestation is asking you and calling you to
live more in your feminine energy. It's asking you to
relax more, receive more, be more, rather than forcing and
taking action and planning everything ahead and having this whole
blueprint of what needs to get done. That's a very
masculine operation. But when you get aligned, when you get
when your energy is aligned. Let's say you're running a business,
like uh, what we spoke about at the beginning of
the episode. If you're running a business, you are going
to need to show up. That that is a requirement
of you. You do not start a business if you
think you can just not show up.
Speaker 2: Do not start a brand.
Speaker 1: If you think you're just gonna like you're not going
to be present, You're not going to need to take
action daily. You need to if you want a successful business.
That's where the masculine side kicks in. That's the part
that says, hey, I need to get organized. Okay, Now
that I'm fully aligned energetically, I feel good about it.
My belief system is aligned. My energy is showing me
that I am worthy and I am abundant. I feel
really fucking good in my own skin, and I have
a clear vision and I can feel it into being.
I can feel myself being that new version of myself.
Now I can dive into my masculine energy and take
inspired action that is going to propel me forward so
much higher, so much faster, so much further than forced
action would. Okay, so we think of masculine energy. Masculine
energy is the showing up and taking action. It's the
physical creation. It's the act of doing things. It's the
organizing and the planning and the counting and the putting
the physical puzzle pieces in the present tense together in
front of you. It's you know, you want to start
a business. It's cool, Go open up an LLC wonderful.
Start your social media accounts, create that content, press record,
organize it, edit it, film it, project it, write out
your captions, build out your programs, create that consulting blueprint,
whatever you need to do. That's all that masculine energy
that you need to conjure up to take action. So,
as you guys can see, you need a bit of both.
Speaker 2: You need a.
Speaker 1: Healthy balance of both energies. And what I'm seeing online
is like one or the other is being demonized. Like
if you're too masculine, you get demonized, if you're too feminine,
you get demonized right, like they'll I've seen people online
like make fun of women who take their business really seriously. Oh,
you're so hyper independent, you're too masculine. No one's gonna
want to And she's literally not doing anything other than
just showing up for herself, and like people are ridiculing
her time out that she's not in her feminine energy,
and like, what are these people talking about? They have
no idea what they're actually saying. Here, a person who
is running and operating something that they're passionate about is
so feminine. It's so exciting, it's thrilling, it's invigorating. To
have passion and to show up for it is how
you honor the depth of your feminine energy. Because the
feminine has so much duality and so many different dimensions.
The feminine is nurturing, it's calming, it's motherly. The feminine
is also sexual, powerful, extremely fiery and bold and speaks
their mind. Have you heard of the feminine rage? Like
it is powerful. There is so much power, and the
feminine people overlook it. They think it's about like wearing
pink bows and hopping around with fucking bunnies in the
field and picking flowers off the floor like that's all wonderful,
But that's not really the point of the feminine energy.
The feminine energy is being it's being so authentic, it's
being aligned, it's being energetically excited and in tune and
turned the fuck on. That is your feminine energy. It's powerful,
and people portray it like the super soft, delicate, dainty thing,
And that's cute, and there's a place for that, and
that's nice. That's like the childlike feminine that is still
in every single woman, no matter how old she is.
We all have that childlike quality in us. We like
the fun, the pretty, the glittery, the beautiful, the soft,
the decor, the colorful, the pink.
Speaker 2: We love those things. I love it.
Speaker 1: If I can roll around in cupcakes all day, I
fucking would, Okay, I would. I love cupcakes, and I
love the glitter, and I love the sprinkles, and I
love the pink bows, and I love getting my nails done.
I love all that shit. There's nothing wrong with it.
But we cannot demonize all the different aspects of the feminine.
The feminine is fire. There's so much passion in the feminine,
there's so much authenticity there's so much boldness. When you
hear a woman speak up and speak her mind, she
is feminine, They'll be like, oh, she's assertive, so she
must be masculine.
Speaker 2: You're so wrong.
Speaker 1: She's authentically herself and she's not afraid to open up
her fucking throat chakra and express herself full. A self
expression is a godlike frequency. So we cannot demonize people
or talk down on this girl for being different from
this other girl. And it creates all this competition and
I hate seeing it. I absolutely hate seeing it. It
blows my mind. I'm like, why are we turning women
against each other because they operate this way or they
operate that way. I'm like, what the fuck are we
really doing here? Like it's not helping anybody. So you
have all these different dimensions within you, You have so
many sides, see so many different aspects to you, and
to allow them to come to surface and to allow
them to be seen and to allow all these different
sides of you to be expressed fully, is you honoring
your feminine energy. It's you no longer shutting your mouth.
It's you choosing no longer to be small and put
into a box. It's you no longer, you know, shriveling
yourself up to make other people fucking comfortable around you.
It's you saying no to being a people pleaser moving forward,
that's you honoring your feminine energy. It's not about being
soft and submissive. There's a time and a place for that,
of course, But for you to hide parts of yourself
that are authentic to you because you fear what other
people might think, that's not how you're going to honor
your feminine That's not how you're going to embody your
most authentic self, your highest self. Okay, So when we
think of the feminine energy, we want to think of
embodiment and how do we achieve embodiment? Just like in manifestation,
when I want to manifest something, I have to create
full embodiment of the new identity. And there's three steps
to creating embodiment, which is going to be also three
steps to living in your feminine energy. Like it's so
crazy how manifestation goes so hand in hand with all
of this. So if I want to create embodiment of
a reality that I have not yet experienced or achieved, right,
the first step is changing my thought patterns. The second
step is changing my speech patterns out loud. And then
my third step is going to be changing my behavior,
how I respond, how I act right like my personality traits.
So those are the three steps to full aligned embodiment.
So let's say my goal is to achieve financial success.
How do I tap into that version of myself? I
create embodiment and I start to be it. So I
start to speak like her, I start to think like her,
and I start to behave like her. I start to
respond to circumstances the way that she would. I start
to change my perspective to everything is the unfolding, not
that I'm losing things the way that she would. So
if I was my most successful self, the highest version
of me, what does that feel like? And what does
that sound like? And what does that look like? And
how do I behave? What are my personality traits? That's embodiment,
that's being it so that you can manifest the desired outcome.
That's the formula to manifestation. And if I look at
the feminine, the feminine is all about embodiment and being
being in alignment, being in the highest energy, feeling all
the feelings right. It's and bold self expression and fluidity
allowing things to be right. It's not forcing its being
And I'm like, oh my god. That is how feminine
energy ties in to manifestation. If you're living in your
feminine energy, you are being it, you are in full alignment.
You are a master manifestor. And there's also this other
part that ties into it so well, it's the actual brain.
So the mind has two qualities to it, two sides
to it. There's the conscious mind and the subconscious mind.
Do you guys know what they refer to these things
as it's so crazy. The conscious mind is referred to
as the masculine mind, whereas the subconscious mind is referred
to as the feminine mind. Again another correlation to manifestation.
So how does that work? The conscious mind, which is
think of like that, that being the smaller part of
the mind in the front. It's conscious in you're waking hours,
and it's there to analyze data and take action. It's
there to collect data. Okay, what works for me? What
doesn't work for me? What direction do I need to go?
What do I need to wear today?
Speaker 2: Like?
Speaker 1: Those are the conscious masculine things that you have to
sort through in your brain throughout the day. And then
the bigger part of the mind is the subconscious. This
is known as the feminine mind. And why do we
call it the subconscious mind because it receives impressions. So
a big part of the manifestation formula that I teach
are sleep tracks, and I create customized sleep tracks for
all my clients based on their goals. Right, So when
a person is asleep, their conscious mind, which is the
masculine mind, it's turned off. It doesn't need to sort
through anything, it doesn't need to analyze any thing or
take data. It doesn't need to take action on anything.
It doesn't need to judge like the ego would. Right,
So the masculine mind is shut off, and then the
feminine mind, which is the subconscious mind, is open and
permeable when you're asleep. So why does this benefit the person?
Because if we're playing sleep tracks at nighttime, where these
new beliefs are being set in your brain, and the
subconscious is open and permeable because the conscious mind is
turned off, right, masculine versus feminine. The feminine mind takes
the impressions it receives, it receives and accepts because that
is what the feminine does. It's a receiver.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: So the subconscious mind is open and permeable while you sleep,
which is the feminine aspect of your brain, of your mind,
and it's taking all these new impressions so that when
you wake up in the morning, you have a new
set of beliefs already that the conscious mind can then
operate from. So that is how the masculine and the
feminine work together in the brain. So you guys can
see how feminine and masculine are necessary in every aspect
of what you're doing. It's necessary in dating, it's necessary
in finances, it's necessary with your health, it's necessary with everything.
So we cannot demonize and shut out either side of
ourselves because we have to have duality. Now, if we
can really get aligned with the feminine, which is the
feminine energy, which is the manifestation aspect, the energetics of
who we are, the being, it, the energy, the embodiment.
If we get that part of ourselves fully aligned, because
we represent our higher selves energetically through our daily personal
development practices, then the conscious mind, the masculine aspect of us,
can take the proper direction and no longer self sabotage itself.
By trying to keep it safe, because that's what the
mind does. It hits like a a wall, it hits
a ceiling. When your belief systems are out of whack.
When your belief system and your desire don't add up
your brain, your mind will sabotage you. It will compel
you to fuck up. It will compel you to not
take action. It will compel you to take the wrong action,
or take the wrong turn, or say the wrong things.
It will compel you to fuck up. It will compel
you to make mistakes because your subconscious beliefs. A feminine
mind is not fully aligned with your desire yet. Okay,
so this is why feminine energy is so important. Energetic
work is so important. We want to become embodiments of
who we are actually trying to be. Not just say
we're going to become her, but actually practice embodiment, which
starts as thought patterns to speech patterns to behavioral patterns.
That is embodiment because those three things added up create
a feeling state. Your feeling state is what you embody.
It's full on embodiment. And I just went over this
in my Manifestation Academy coaching call earlier, where we were
talking about. The feeling is the secret. Your feeling state,
your dominant feeling state, which is made up by your
dominating motions, is what you keep manifesting into the physical.
So if we can create new embodiment, a new feeling
state by tapping into our feminine energy and creating something
way more aligned with what we actually desire our actions
and where our masculine side kicks in to take action,
is it's gonna have a breeze. It's gonna have an
easy psy lemon squeezy fucking time. It's gonna be like, Oh,
life is easy reality, This is easy to operate. Everything
I do turns to gold. Everything I try and set
out to do I achieve like everything just gets better
and better. And the masculine side of you is gonna
be like, man, life is not that hard. I love
taking action. I love showing up. I enjoy waking up
early to get things done. I enjoy organization and planning ahead.
I enjoy looking at my finances, joy all these masculine things.
Speaker 2: I love it.
Speaker 1: It's easy for me because I have mastered my feminine energy.
I've mastered full embodiment, the energetics of myself right so
as you guys can see, these things have to work
hand in hand to create your desired reality. And it's
silly of us to be like, oh, this person's more feminine,
this person's more masculine.
Speaker 2: Why do we do that? Like what? I don't.
Speaker 1: I don't even know where those battles and debates on
fucking TikTok come from, but they drive me crazy when
I see them. I'm like, okay, next, I'm done listening
to it. So, if you are trying to tap into
your feminine energy, let's say when you're dating, because that's
a hot topic online, how can you embody your feminine
energy when dating and attract the right partner. Well, if
you look at the content online, it's going to tell
you to be quite, be submissive, be a smaller version
of yourself, Shrink yourself down to be more palatable to
a man, or to whoever you are choosing to date.
Will in my opinion, you are going to attract a
person who is not aligned for you. The more you
shrink yourself, the more you mute yourself, the more you
make yourself smaller to make another person comfortable. The more
you attract unaligned relationships with which end up in turmoil
because you are not fully expressing who you are. You're
not an embodiment of your highest self. You're not in
the self expression. And we don't need to fear that.
We need to embrace that so that we could attract
people who are fully fucking aligned with who we are. Right,
doesn't that make more sense? So say I'm out in
a dating pool and I'm looking for my lifelong partner.
Wouldn't it make way more sense for me to show
up in my fullest expression of myself to attract a
person who is aligned with that and magnetized to my authenticity?
Speaker 2: Right?
Speaker 1: Doesn't that make more sense than plain small and being
more quiet and submissive to cater to somebody else, Like
I'm just like using my brain here, Right? It makes
way more sense for you to be authentically yourself when
you're dating than to shrink yourself to appease to the masculine.
Speaker 2: Doesn't make sense. I don't like.
Speaker 1: I don't understand why people are teaching this stuff. Be
more childlike and soft and feminine. No, why, I'm just
myself and I need to be with someone who loves that,
who values.
Speaker 2: Me for who I am.
Speaker 1: But they're not going to value me if I lack authenticity,
if I lack embodiment of my true self. So express
your femininity through self expression, through being exactly who you are.
The way that you dress, the way that you style yourself,
the way that you speak, the way that you move,
the way that you feel it should be so authentic
to you. That's how you embody your most feminine aspects.
And there will be men and women who are magnetized
by your authenticity and they're just so in love and
like they have heart eyes for you. They can't look away.
They're like, Wow, this person is authentic, magnetic speaks, their mind,
is in tune with their emotions, does not shrink themselves
for the likes of others. Do you know how fucking
sexy that is? You know how attractive that is, how
beautiful that is? Like that in itself is going to
attract so many high value individuals into your life because
you're no longer hiding who.
Speaker 2: You actually are.
Speaker 1: And then when we look at it from a financial
and business aspect, if you want to make more money,
you need to tap into your feminine You need to
figure out your path of authenticity and your embodiment of
who you want to become. You need to start searching
for your most authentic path, that is your feminine expression
in an nutshell. The women who are able to tap
into this, who are embodying their true femininity by their
self expression and being bold in who they are, those
are the people who are making a fuck ton of money,
like a lot of money. I remember in the very
beginning of me starting out my business in twenty twenty two,
like two years ago, I was like, I don't care
what anyone is gonna say, what anyone is gonna think.
I have shut my mouth for way too long. I
played it safe for way too long. I cater to
everybody else's needs for way too long, and I shrunk
myself to be palatable, to be liked. And I was like,
I don't want to do that anymore. I'm like itching
to be my actual self. Right to take the mask
off and be my actual self and use my voice
and speak up and be bold. That was my version
of embodiment. That was me using my feminine energy to
be exactly who I want to become, and that blew
up My business. Magnetized a crowd. It attracted a crowd,
a client tele a community of people who love this
type of stuff, who don't find it embarrassing to talk
about this stuff, who enjoy it, who are plugged in right,
because I'm not pretending to be anything other than who
I am. That's me honoring my feminine energy. It's full embodiment.
And then that created a multimillion dollar business for me
because I was like, let me stop trying to be
like everyone else, Let me stop hiding right, let me
be okay with being seen, Let me use my voice,
let me feel good about it. Let me look beautiful
when I do it. Let me feel good about how
I show up and be bolden in my presence and
the way I show up and boom it blew up. Right,
that was me embodying my most feminine side. It's my
most authentic side. And then I use my masculine energy
to do the work, to do the inspired action, to
show up every single day, to do all the live streams,
to answer all the questions, to record twenty different videos
in two hour settings so I can have videos on
videos on videos being pushed out. To grow my audience,
I had to do all the masculine stuff that people
shy away from because they're like, oh, that's not me
embodying my feminine What do you mean you got to
do both? You have two sides to you, two aspects
to you.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: So, and it doesn't feel like hustle, and it doesn't
feel like hard work and blood, sweat and tears, it doesn't.
It feels fun, it feels exciting, it feels thrilling and invigorating.
I'm turned on for my business. That's how I know
my feminine energy is activated. My body is fully fucking
turned on like electricity, because I love this stuff. I
love doing it. And when you find something like that,
especially in business or in your career, that is you
embodying your femininity. It's just it's you being who you are.
It's allowing yourself to be who you want to be.
That is so bold, and that's so powerful, and it's
so authentic. I still online somebody said that the God
I say that the God frequency is love, but somebody
said online that the God frequency is actually your most
authentic self and your most authentic self expression is you
honoring God. It's you praising and worshiping God by allowing
yourself to be fully expressive and embodiment of who you
truly want to be and I was like, wow, I've
never heard of it put like that, but I feel that,
Like I feel that to my core, like that does
sound like the God frequency. If I can operate and
live like that every day, I am honoring and worshiping
the Creator because I'm not hiding myself. I'm not throwing
my life away. I'm present and I'm showing up in
the way that I want to. That's why I was
gifted this life. And when we get a hold of
these energies, guys, life becomes fun and thrilling and exciting
and fast paced and mood. Okay, So, for all my
beautiful women out there who see all this content online
about like how to embrace your feminine energy, throw it
all away, throw it all away, because a lot of
that content is telling you to be smaller than who
you are, and be lesser than who you are, and
be quieter than who you actually are, and it's putting
you back into that submissive role that you were not
meant to be in.
Speaker 2: You just weren't.
Speaker 1: You were meant for expression and boldness and power. And
if you feel rage and if you want to cry,
do it, express it, get it out like it be
who you are and even more show up in who
you want to become, which is even more powerful. Okay,
So there is duality in every person, and we can
use these energies simultaneously and harness them simultaneously to get
the most out of life, to get the most out
of our careers, success, our dating life, our health, our
self confidence. The feminine and the masculine when they're married, energetically,
they go hand in hand to support you, to allow
you to receive all that you want and to be
all that you are, and there's no reason to hide
or diminish either side of yourself. My only rule of
thumb that I recommend following is to first handle the
feminine aspect, the energetic aspect, the mental emotional aspect of
who you are and who you want to become, and
then tap into the masculine, the taking action, the organization
part of yourself. When you can do this cohesively and
show up authentically, you're solid, you are bold, You are
manifesting left and right the things that you want because
you're not hiding yourself anymore. You're operating at your highest
frequency of your highest self, which is the duality of
the feminine and the masculine in one. Thank you guys
so much for tuning in to this week's episode of
your Manifesting Bessy podcast, and we will be back again
next week with a brand new episode